Help Is On The Way with Kountry Wayne

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Speaker 1: Hello and welcome to this episode of Keep It Positive, Sweetie. Today, I have missus Jesus is bobbing himself. Yeah, Country Wayne, Ya, Wayne Coley, what do you want to be addressed as Dwayne?

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Speaker 2: People call me Wayne? Yeah, people just be like Wayne Wayne.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so Wayne, we got Wayne in the house for sure, better known as Country Wayne. You have a new book out called help Us on the Way. Yes, this is what we titled this episode.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's what I.

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Speaker 1: Think about, help Us on the Way. The first thing that comes to mind is that church song.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, help I can't. Yeah, Whitney Houston sounding on.

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Speaker 1: She did?

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I love her version so good, so good. Let me just tell people a little bit about you, in case you don't know, count Wayne. You're a comedian of social media personality who was formerly a rapper. I didn't even know that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I just spit. But it ain't work.

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Speaker 1: It didn't work.

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Speaker 2: Nah.

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Speaker 1: Okay. You're known for your comedy content, which is what how I was introduced to you on Instagram. But you had a video that went viral in twenty fourteen on Facebook. Is that when everything just.

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Speaker 2: Kind of went Yeah, that's when it well, they the video took off. But I didn't take off, but I took off with it like I kept working.

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Speaker 1: Saw something on to something here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I already knew for sure.

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Speaker 1: That's good. Okay. You made funny short videos about life's inconvenient and unfortunate moments, and then since twenty fifteen you've been doing stand up comedy, which is really taking off. I've noticed that you're on the road all the time now, and you've appeared in films such as Brazilian Wavy, The Turnaround, Holiday, Heartbreak, and then most recently the movie we did together, Praises Praise Ye. Yes, yes.

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Speaker 2: Some of the other movies you name, I don't even know where they know? Did you do this one of them? Oh? No, I ain't really do that, which was no. Nah, Now it was something you know how I beat you know how when you first thar, I ain't gonna kock the people moving?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I got you. I didn't do that.

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Speaker 2: Don't watch it.

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Speaker 1: That's what we're doing this. We're gonna find these movies and I'll let you know how it goes. Okay, So I remember I met you on the set of Praise This you were the DJ. Yeah, you had some really funny moments and that too funny. And you're very quiet on set.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a quiet person for real. I'm a I'm a great listener.

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Speaker 1: Mm gotcha. Okay, so you, I guess you are extroverted when it comes to work. Yeah, but like Wayne, in real life is just kind of chill.

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Speaker 2: I'm chill on real chill because that's how I soak up my content. Okay. I listened to people, so I'm a great listener. And in order to be a great talker, you got to be a great listener. So I just like to listen.

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Speaker 1: I love that. That's good. So tell me a little bit about you. I know you grew up in a small town in Georgia where at a young age you were exposed to criminal Like, yeah, get into I wanna know a little bit more.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, hey, it's a book. I was a dope boy, so you know, I was a dope boy at the time. My daddy was a dope boy. My uncle was a dope boy, so you know, uh uh. I hustled. As soon as I graduated high school two thousand and six, I started hustling. Immediately, I got caught. I got ten years probation. Then I tried to go working. Now to five, child' resport were kicking in so I had Uh it wasn't enough.

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Speaker 1: Wait, man, how many kids did you have by then?

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Speaker 2: By then I was twenty two with seven kids? M waye yeah wow, Now why everybody be thinking now they don't know I've been on it. I ain't been really you doing nothing. I ain't been like that since twenty two. I'm thirty five.

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Speaker 1: Now you've been like that.

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Speaker 2: I ain't been like that since I was out there, like from the age from the age of fourteen to twenty two. Tho was my you know, the my real women days.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Wow, So people be seeing me I got a lot of kids. They be thinking, like, but nah, I had seven of 'em by the time twenty two, since I was twenty two to thirty five on I had three kids.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: Okay, she slowed down a lot, slow down a lot.

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Speaker 1: Okay. M So get back to when you are child sport was kicking your ass.

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Speaker 2: Child sport was kicking man. Me and my daddy boy we would ride one day and I was like, bruh, I asked him, was I said, man, me get some money to go to work. I wouldn't pay you back and I get paid. Say, son, I was just about to ask you why I went to the bank. Got me along cause I always kept my card credit straight and I knew how to go to manuvered banks. Yeah, I got borrowed some money. When it brought me a four way four and a half miles was a cocaine. Uh. I ain't looked back every since. I was Damn it was Kevin flipping.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, that's right.

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Speaker 2: Wow, that's crazy. We had nightclubs all you.

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Speaker 1: Went and got alone to get some cocaine.

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Speaker 2: Yeah you were a business man for real.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, business mind like to think, i'm'a go get this loan and get this then I pay the loan back, paid the loan back and still have extra money, still had extra money, many child support, child support, and.

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Speaker 2: I was chasing my dreams. So this time when I went back, I ain't go just to sell drugs. I was like, man, i'm'a go be I'm pushing my career. So I was using the money, some of the money to form my ral career. Wow, you know, and uh but you know. So that's how it was. I was in small town big Miland.

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Speaker 1: Georgia mill how far is it from Atlanta?

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Speaker 2: About three hours? Okay? But then I went to Statesboro, Georgia, So that's about three that's what Georgia Southern University. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeap.

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Speaker 1: Did you go to that's where you went to school?

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Speaker 2: Nah, I ain't gonna I went to college. I went to community college just to get the student loan check. That was my first time buying. Okay, right, Oh my god. I got through the loan and pail grant.

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Speaker 1: Listen, Yeah, I didn't get I had my last year of college. I got to sit the loan. Other than that, I was. I had scholarships, but.

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Speaker 2: You turned them down. You turned them down.

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Speaker 1: My parents are really big on not coming out of college of debts.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so I had to get that one to get it that stood. The loan felt like free money.

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Speaker 1: Until you gotta pay it back that free listen. I know a lot of people right now, like, please forgive me for my student loans.

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Speaker 2: Black people don't forget theyself. I don't know why they worry about that. Man, I ain't worry about that stud loan bill like that. You gotta hit the lottery before we pay that bad like nobody ain't just pay no student loan back. Your career got to be set, and then you got to show me. You said again, it gott to be double crossed, like are you showing making this money? Then pay it back? Ain't worry about that man? Who No, Then they be like, it's gonna go in your credit for But I don't care about no credit for it, not for real life, right. We care about this stuff when we get up, like on the way up man.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, when you're down, you're not thinking about it.

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to survive right now. I don't care about no stood loan or hospital bills. You should have got me when I was at the hospital paying that stuff.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're getting a comedy show with the show this. I love this. This is so good, mkay. So you ended up going to Statesboro then, how like what was like the shifts where you started to see okay, you selling drugs? And what was the shift? Were you like, okay, let me did this your career start taking off for you? Like I don't have this anymore?

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Speaker 2: Or was I? Ah? I sold drug two thousand fourteen when I went viral with the comedy, I quit the rapping thing right then and I just started big assistant. But I was still I had over a million followers, people knowing me, and I still was hustling the whole time. I had a nightclub and then I got my second night club so I could finally quit selling dope cause I wasn't getting no, I wasn't getting shows like that. I was getting some shows, but uh, January two thousand sixteen, I finally quit for real and I started. I said, i'm'a do this comedy for real yea, And then I started touring. But I was making like thirty or forty a month. But I was like, man, this ain't nothing, cause you know the child's bot, you know.

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Speaker 1: Uh, but then this time you had how many kids were ut to?

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Speaker 2: I was at I was at eight eight Okay, I was at eight. But what happened was I went to a show one day and I made twenty comy club and I made like twenty grand in one week.

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Speaker 1: I oh, in a week, You're like, oh, I can.

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Speaker 2: Do this w W one weekend. Yeah, I said, Oh, I'm finla offenda make a million off. Yeah. I knew I was about to make it. So then I was like, but that was two thousand sixteen when I really felt that confidence was really quick and uh ever since then, you know, I just been grinding.

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Speaker 1: I love that.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 1: So I know a lot of comedians find humor in the inconvenience and their pain, as Kevin Hart has laughing my pain? What is that? What really started? And what was the thing? Like, I'm gonna talk about this. I wanna shed light on this and let's make fun of it.

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Speaker 2: Oh, because I I had, I had uh information on the streets, so I knew nobody couldn't tell my story because most people don't make it out the way I did. And I was sober through the whole thing cause I never did drugs, so the whole time, through my mama life, my uncle's life, in my life, I was able to capture these moments and the picture, you know. And and women, you know what I'm saying. So I learned women. My mama told me a lot about it. So me learning women, I knew a lot of people won't gonna be able to talk about it as detailed as me because I listened to women.

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Speaker 1: So you were sober through it?

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I'm sober. So I know what.

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Speaker 1: So you don't drink and nothing, don't do nothing. Nah, I don't do nothing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Wow, So you just a temple is just clean?

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Speaker 2: Well, it ain't nobody perfect for God. But I drink water.

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Speaker 1: If not your visits, Yeah, the business that fades for sure. I know that's right. So you have a new book called Help Is on the Way, Stand Up and Live your Truth, and you talk about a couple lessons in the book, and one of them was sometimes all you have is your pride, and that's often the only person who can help you push you forward is you. You mentioned in the book about being introduced to God at the age of six. Just tell me about your experiencing your face cause you're very vocal on Instagram one of and I'll be honest with you. One of the things that really made me say I want Wayne on this show was when you talked about forgiving your parents. That was I talked about on my Get to Know Me episode some things I went through my childhood and just the pressures of that and learning as adults to forgive our parents for whatever. You know what I'm saying, we have been holding or whatever. And when you said that, I was like, Wow, he held me. It was like the timing of that post was like precise, and I was like, wow, I just even your perspective and to be mature enough to be like, hey, Dad, I forgive you what How was that journey even being introduced to God? And how was he with you even when you were doing your young the things?

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Speaker 2: Man? I just you know, when when I was young, I heard my grandma and my mama don't talk about Jesus. So I was I chose to believe it for real. They was talking about them. But I'm a little child like, okay, this is what we believe in. So I really was crazy enough to really believe in Jesus in that six years old I got put in my book. I was talking to a flower one day and I was like, I know you can talk. And I was like, I ain't gonna tell nobody if you just speak to me, it's between me and you. And that flower said, well, I went in the house, told my mama. The don came out there. I said, look the flower talk. I said, come and listen to the flower. I say, look, now, I know. I said, I won't gonna tell nobody, and that flower ain't say nothing to them. But I always had crazy faith and I seen it work I fell on the bicycle one time and I flipped and I told my mama. She came out and run and I said, no, God, he helped me down to let me slow. So I had this crazy faith, and I just seen it in life. Everything I got in, I was able to get out like I was able even when I sold drugs. I know Jesus were real because he cleaned my reputation. I got all these kids and all my past, but when people see me, they don't feel that energy off man, I'm like, but it was him. But I picked up the Bible to thy twelve while I was in the streets, cause you know, you lose 'em when y You know, you lose God on the way to life when you start want to be yourself. And I learned even though I wasn't with him, he was still with me. And I felt his word, cause he can't be in no mess. That's why he give you his word and coming sense. So I know it was the difference of having his word and having him. But twenty twelve, I was up, had money, had you know the call. I was like, I'm up in the wrong world. I say, I'm the man working at McDonald's is actually better than me right now, because if I got a one hundred thousand dollars, I'm in the streets. I'm on a negative end of the rule. Remember in school, you got zero, one, two, three, four, five, Yeah, a negative fifty ill got gain has no lasting bag. And it says that in the Bible. So I'm like, I don't really so far behind. So I picked up that Bible. It was my niece Bible. And I still got that Bible. It's in the truck right now, and I s nobody told me how to read it. I said, man, everybody was tellingim, go to this verse, go to that verse. I started from the beginning and I read it through. It to me about a year and to this day, I read it through seven times on my a trip now and I don't miss a day. But it was that word, wow, that was the origin of life and I and once I tapped into that, he started getting me out the streets. And then when the social media came, I always knew what it was. I had just read a verse. He said, try try try that, and he said perhaps all of them and could happen. And I seen it and I was like, so everything something something come oh this what I can you know? Preparation for it?

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Speaker 1: Wow? All right, A man after guy's on heard that's amazing. I love that. I love that you. It's very impressive that you've read the Bible seven times and you're on your eighth trip. That's crazy. A lot of people don't have that attention span. Like how long do you read?

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Speaker 2: Every day? I read? I read a page. I read a page to day when I first started, but I guess my spirit was so hungry. It was really like fifteen pages. But then I got to the point where it only have to be one.

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Speaker 1: Time a day, cause you know it now it's just more like a refresher.

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Speaker 2: Nah, it's just like y, it's so much if you read too much. M it's like it's like good food. Yeah, mmm, okay, it's real good. It's it's potent. So you got to take it in and that verse be that first be in you and everybody be trying to understand why they read. And I had to learn you don't supposed to understanding all the time. It's like if you take medicine for your foot, you don't know how I get to that you It go through your mouth. So the Bible when it comes in you, it comes out when needed. And it really helped me with business for real, I get mine, you do. I g every deal. I just can fit on. I just know what to nah And most of the time when by the time it come to me, it already because energy just no. You know. So that Bible is important for real, especially when it comes to this world, cause this world is wicked.

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Speaker 1: It is it is a wicked world. Did you ever go through a season of unbelief and staying away from God? Maybe because of what you were doing, or were you like always like tapped in? There was never Sometimes people try to run me away. Wow, people try to the church.

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Speaker 2: The church try to run away. I when I had the night club and then we have successful night, nobody got in a fight, nobody shoot. I'll put on Facebook, thank you God for letting us have a safe night at the club. And people from the church in the community were like, we don't like the way country Wayne putting God God and what he doing. I said, why would God go help something that's clean? Yeah, we in the club, we had a safe night. I don't care what they say. So even now when I did the Jesus Popping brand, people like you. You putting that in what you doing because you know I got the women in the skits and playing these roles. I'm like, bro man, Jesus and whatever I'm doing, hello, and and if I'm doing something wrong, help me get out. So I need them anyway. So no, I never I never lost my faith. I lost a lot of things money before. I don't lost people. But I always held on my faith. I ain't no, because that's all I got in there. Yeah, you know that's so good.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever like, how do you push? I know there's been dark moments in your journey and we don't have to go two deeps. Oh no, no, okay, what are some of those dark moments? And how did you like when nobody else is watching, nobody sees Wayne, what are the things that you do and how do you push yourself out of those dark places?

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Speaker 2: Man? I give it a god. Man. When I get a headache, I give up quick. I'm like, I'm dead, God help I die. I don't try to fight through nothing, So I give it a God daily. Like during the pandemic, I was broke because the pandemic hit. I had like one hundred grand, but I was about to go on to it. So I'm line for to gonna make that little self hunt real quick, you know what I'm saying. But pandemic hit. We can't work my bills for seventy grand a month. Mm. I like, I got down to thirteen thousand. Wow, Wow, I was. I was selling nutravers. I was about to sell it. I had to put the tea I had on a link tree. If you could, if you could have, if you could have screenshot my link tree, you would have seen nutrient bursts up there. I had got me, I had got me a box truck offen Do Amazon rocks. I started, Yeah, but I was, I was. That was a dark place because now I don't worry about my family because I know I got faith. Yes, yes, I got faith. I wasn't worried you were gonna be good. But they they faith is in my money. So I'm like, you know, so really I worked hard just for their cause I got him. But that was a dark place. I'm like, now they fein the word so much. But I was kind of happy that they got to see that moment because now they could realize it was never my money, it was my faith. While I got money and but they adn't believe it. They thought I had money. I'm like, bro, I ain't got it. I had to show ac counsel. But but that was a dark moment, man. But I remember the feeling. I'm like, here we go again. I did my head just like this. They went the counting the show. I did my head. I remember my head did just like this. Mm guy, here we go again.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And my brother over there he told me say, well we finished. See if all this help was on the way, stuff is real. It's alebrities was watching my stuff. Tell you this how I know? Br So everybody watching me screen Jesus off. So so they waiting on something. Sometimes people wait on something bad. It happened to me cause they were like, is he gonna keep that joy? Yes, Celiberies were watching my page. And there's one guy who got a podcast. He was like, man, the comedians look at messed up. Now it's one of 'em. I seen him trying to sell some tea. He was trying to but they were just wanting to see what I'm gonna do now, And I was. I was grateful for that moment because in that moment, but again, just like he did back in the day he turned my life around to the point where I don't even need the industry me. He gave me something that is so unique and so for me. So yeah, I'm in no dark moments. I just give it to him. Yeah, well, I ain't leave it. I ain't leaving. I don't give it because he ain't on in bash, you won't know at all. You know what I'm saying. I don't trust the world. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I remember during COVID, and that was a hard time for everybody. I was blessed enough to still be getting paid because I was on Tyler's payroll, so I was even through that time. I was, I was. I didn't miss anything. That was nothing but the grace, nothing but God.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I should have been over here.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't here yet, was at the townhouse. But I remember just it was just even like the isolation and like, okay, what come? Anytime something like that happens and I'm going through it again with the strike that's happening right now, I always find a way to how can I come out of this better? You know, this is the time that God has set me down. What can I do to hone in on different skills? And now I'm in the position. I feel like I'm in my own pandemic with the strike because we're not working and acting was my bread and butter. And I got two shows and that was like I'm like, I'm good, Like I can just enjoy work, literally, work up one month out of the year, and thus I book something else for those two shows. Can we shoot really fast? And then I have the rest of you to just enjoy my life. So now that we're not working, we had just worked in March or April for Sisters, and then I was like I was supposed to be working right now for as a team, which is my big check. So I'm like I'm good, you know, like thinking I'm good. And now it's like we don't know when we're going back to work. So it comes in like budgeting and like yourself, like overhead is like fifty k over saying for everything, and it's like cool, okay, like everything you see like my accounts, like all right, we can this is what you can do. We can live off of this for however long, but you have to stick this budget. So now Donor and I are like working on other things, and it's just this pandemic that we're going through right now, what we call it. The strike is forcing me to like look at other streams and things I'm passionate about and things that I love. So it's like a restructure phase all over again.

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Speaker 2: I think, ya, I think a lot of people. If somebody asks me about that. The other day, I was like, what this thing is gonna do for actors? I think a lot of actors are gonna be more creative, yes, and business savvy after this acts because it's gonna force them to. Cause that's what it did for me. Man, I wouldn't never if it if I would have had a bunch of money put up, MM, I wouldn't have never built this because it because sometime when p people got to know, like that song William Murphy got is working and it's your season. Oooh, when you know you got 'em, everything that go bad is in your faivor it is. So you got to just soak that in black mm no matter how and it get ugly cause the devil he sent tests. God don't test nobody. See, people don't know that the devil the only ones sent tests. Wow, you know he sent tests. But as long as people hold on to that faith, and I know that sounds like Grandma them and and and be like, ah, everybody been said that, but boy, that faith in him yeah every time, and and mm, that's what it is. And I think that's what it's gonna take. Uh, you know, that's what's that's what's happening now. Because the way they shut down the industry, I was like, hold up, brother, I understand they're trying to get more money, but they gonna get people, so money vote because right, I notice a union we need. But it's it's a crazy time. And on that way, I feel I feel for sometimes when I see people go through stuff, man, because I'm like, well, if they ain't got their faith, you know what I'm saying, But that faith is gonna get everybody through everything.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, absolutely no, for real. You also talk about living in your truth. Yeah, let me say, don't hide from where you came from, celebrated this is what makes you original. And a lot of people from the streets shy away from talking about their love for God and fear of making them look soft. We talked about you talked about it on social media all the time, like you're like Jesus been popping and that's what I love about you. It is like a man who does not mind like screaming from the mountaintop. Have you ever had people like why I know you said during the pandemic, people like we just looking to see, like if you're gonna lose your joy? Have you had people like come to you, like recently or doing your journey saying like why are you always like that? Jesus?

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Speaker 2: That's the question I get, Really, that's the question I get the most. But now I used to talk about it online, but God told me to hush. And now as they see my life going up, they don't really question no more. They start to believe because the way my career being is being, it's just been a different ride. And it's just like and I went on Good Morning America, and I remember, you know, because you can't for real, they don't let you say Jesus in these places. It's just like it's just bad for business. We're not against it. But I went on Good Morning America. The first thing they did was zooming on my chain. My publicers was looking like wow because she couldn't believe because they were kind of like, you know, you know how they are. But it's what I learned it's people out there, even in them evil places, that real pim. They're just not bold enough to say his name.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, absolutely.

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Speaker 2: What I learned people who say is naw, he ain't strown people out there that that are really in their industry. But because I got some people out there in my favor that be pushing for me, like yeah, and it's like, but people are that's the question they give me, like that Jesus thing everybody want to know, cause everybody down I know our grandma told her that hello, and we got we got a people don't got away from it. And it's like that's the universe now, it's yeah, now universe. Man. I hate people come talking about when your birthday, oh sanity, Well what happened to Leo? You ain't know he was gonna break your heart? I be like, man, come on, man, I'm not They mean everybody people don't know how to put the batteries right in their remote, but all sud they know about the start. Yeah, I'm like, bro, come on, man, we just the same thing Grandma and them talking about yeah he been around that long for a reason, he.

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Speaker 1: Has he as and it is. Our industry is very, very funny about that. I love it when people get on stage at award shows and say thank you Jesus, thank you. You know what I'm saying. They like give not just thank you God, cause there's so many guys in this world exactly like there's different guys, but there's only one Jesus.

00:25:03
Speaker 2: There's only one Jesus. But and and and people scared. But if you pay attention the people I've seen really standing on it. The industry can't stop him.

00:25:11
Speaker 1: They can't.

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Speaker 2: It's a dude in Marvel Chris Press, Yeah, and him be DM and and like I told him, I say, I seen him going there one day because deep down that's what only thing they said, I have seen a god say, He say, Man, the devil is not scared of your good deeds. M only thing he feared is Jesus name.

00:25:31
Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: That's why they try to shut it up. They trying to share it, cause it's power. It's power just in that man name. If Siri got this much power, and I could say, a Siri, what's mart Luther King birthday? And she answered, imagine how much more power? Jesus God, I've seen it and I've used it. I used it. He he he he tied. He probably tied me cause cause some of this stuff. He'd be like, you know what I'm saying, some of this stuff, Oh got good at all? SI See.

00:25:59
Speaker 1: He tried to. He just tried it.

00:26:02
Speaker 2: He was like, we're gonna.

00:26:02
Speaker 1: Stop this right now.

00:26:04
Speaker 2: But Jesus react faster than Syria.

00:26:06
Speaker 1: Man.

00:26:06
Speaker 2: And it just cause people can't see. I know, for me bro it than him.

00:26:12
Speaker 1: I met Chris Pratt when I was going to when John Gray had his church here in Atlanta, and he was filming something and he came to the back and told us a story about when he was running one day here in Atlanta through the woods and just really heavy. It was a heavy day for him and I need to go for a run. So he goes to a running he sees this random bench in the woods. He was like, why is this bench there? And something just said sit down. And as he sat down, he looked down and he knows like a stone on the ground and he moved the leaves and it said be still and know that I'm God. And he was like, wow, like it's funny, like God found me as I'm running. You know what I'm saying, trying to clear my mind and set me down.

00:26:52
Speaker 2: And I saw that and I was like, that's powerful.

00:26:54
Speaker 1: So I just love I appreciate artists like Chris, like you and myself who liked who aren't afraid to talk about it.

00:27:01
Speaker 2: You can see it on you though, you can see it on you like. But when I first met you, I was like, because I've seen you on TV. I'm like, Man, ain't no way this person looks this. Nobody don't see this. It's just like this. You got a walking filter.

00:27:17
Speaker 1: Filter.

00:27:20
Speaker 2: It's like it's like this globe. Man, man, thank you, like for real, I.

00:27:25
Speaker 1: Just had on here and she was like it was you. It was your light. And I'm just like we were in a bawling crime. But that's wake up.

00:27:31
Speaker 2: Your ear even looking angelic, Like your ear looks so healthy. You know you seen you're a you got they're brand news like ye'all here right, had getting here surgery.

00:27:55
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a new thing. You're amn not, that's not that's man.

00:28:02
Speaker 2: She definitely is.

00:28:04
Speaker 1: I want people to see that. Like my prayer every morning when I wake up is God, Like when I walk out these doors, I want people to see you through me and just let your light shine through me. Yeah. So that's what I ask God for every day, is that he is that people see him through me. So that's really good. I know that Also in living in your truth as you are seen in your career, A lot of men struggle with leaving the street tough god persona behind and feel like they still are kind of tapped into the hood just to keep their credibility. Is that something you struggle with at all?

00:28:36
Speaker 2: Nah? Because see, I know women for real, So most men do that because they think women they perceive through hip hop, they think women like, but they don't know what women like or sometimes women don't know what they like. Everybody like everybody like one thing, but everybody love another.

00:28:55
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I learned man.

00:28:56
Speaker 2: You know, people love you for the you to be you ever who you are, and ain't nobody We wasn't born us and killers. That's true, you know what I'm saying. Even when I was in the street, I ain't never have no gun. I got me some money and you know I love a pretty woman, point plain period. But I ain't struggle with that hard stuff because I don't. I know on me and I know I fight in real life, so I ain't gonna walk around all, they proven it. But everybody can touch me, but I get touched back. So nah, man, that street, that street life or something that I would I was born in. If I was born another way, I would have did it another way. But that ain't nothing I was wanting to even glorify. You know. That's why I don't even talk about it like that. They had to make me write that book.

00:29:37
Speaker 1: Wow.

00:29:38
Speaker 2: I didn't even want to talk about it cause I was like, man, I don't made it out and that stuff just happened. A lot of the stuff in that book. Wow, we wrote that book twenty twenty one. I just got a streets, I said, team. But they got lawyers involved, and I said, you sure. I was recording them on the phone and everything. When I was on the phone with them, I would messing record but it was like, nah, I can't get in trouble. But nah, that tough guy personally yuydsk know what women? They really paid attention to women. They'll learn how to be. But they think women because women go through a stage. What they think, that's what they want.

00:30:08
Speaker 1: You are so right, I went through that. I love my mom always say you like them really nice and sweet but rough on the edges like I wanted the little I need something like a little eye.

00:30:17
Speaker 2: Y'all break them guys heart. Yep, see what happened. Y'all break their heart. Then they get mad, then want to call y'all to be word and what's name. Then they stay in this state because they thought that's what y'all wanted.

00:30:27
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's not that's not what we do.

00:30:28
Speaker 2: Then when y'all leaving for they got it. They like, you know, but you gotta be a mister Solomon said in the Bible. You can't be too holy, you can't be too wicked. M I tell people, I say, man, he say, stay somewhere in the middle. I say so. I ain't Kurt Frankly, but I ain't Little Boost either, you know what I'm saying. So I'm like Russell Wilson in Future Miss Together.

00:30:50
Speaker 1: It's a good bath.

00:30:51
Speaker 2: We're gonna sleep in peace and all that. But I'm telling anyone has some fun too. Now he's yeah, I love it.

00:30:58
Speaker 1: I love it. You also talked about it. Don't get mad getting money, Ya get money, Ignore people who want to tear you down, and provide the for the ones who love you. How have you navigated changing your friendships as you succeeded when it comes with like.

00:31:16
Speaker 2: Man, somebody ain't really trying to get no money, We better be talking about something.

00:31:20
Speaker 1: Is that friends and relationships? Like with your significant what your woman too?

00:31:24
Speaker 2: Well? W I ain't got no woman.

00:31:26
Speaker 1: I know, but like if what if you were if you had one, like what was you? What would she need to do? She need to be getting.

00:31:31
Speaker 2: Money to or getting Nah, not really, she just need to be. Yeah, she need to be getting a real money. And that's that's taking care of herself. Drinking water, you know, cause that's main step before we do anything. We gotta drink water. Cause you got a billion dollars and and and uh you're in there tracking fish and they don't go together. So we gotta we gotta drink this water.

00:31:51
Speaker 1: Uh, I've done okay.

00:31:53
Speaker 2: So I really just want a woman. When I say, I want her to love herself. That's the main thing. Man, put that energy to her, because you can't love somebody more than you love yourself.

00:32:03
Speaker 1: So and do you practice the same thing? Were you?

00:32:05
Speaker 2: Yeah? I love me? So when I give mine off, I ain't never been in a relationship where a woman wasn't happen Okay, she always had it because i'm'a love me. So whatever I give off, yeah, you're not from it like production. Yeah, the better this post gonna be is gonna be the better of the the the pre production.

00:32:21
Speaker 1: Absolutely.

00:32:22
Speaker 2: So if I put my time in this pre production, by the time this piece come out, I ain't gonna have to say nothing about it. You gonna feel it. Yeah, you gonna feel Ooh did the director make that person turn they head and do this? Did they take the time and do a whole nother scene?

00:32:37
Speaker 1: Mm?

00:32:37
Speaker 2: Because it was the energy they put in the pre production. So I put that in me every day behind closed doors. So when I you know, when I give it out, they gonna feel it.

00:32:47
Speaker 1: That's good. Have you had any old friends call you like a sell out or cheat? You definitely as a real results of your success or had to let people go cause I know for me, I went through recently what I call a pursing season where like I saw that I was ascending and certain people weren't happy for me or supportive, and I'm like, okay, what do you know what I'm saying? Where is this really going? Have there been people where it's like, oh, you doesnet change.

00:33:08
Speaker 2: Or yeah, for sure do you do with that? I don't really care. I don't care about nothing, but I'll be I can't even try to care. M I. That's always been one of my flaws in my stress. My sister say, I never care for nobody else. I don't. I just don't care. Yeah, and I think that's how I'm able to be creative. Yeah cause I don't even care what my fans think? Why about my content?

00:33:31
Speaker 1: Really? You just that's good cause you you're doing it for, like this is what you enjoyed doing.

00:33:35
Speaker 2: This will come gave you that. I don't care what the industry say. Yeah, I just don't care. Mm cause how long if he loved me, man, he ain't finish. I ain't gonna give you the power control of my life. Use sometime the Double he know he can't get you, but as long as he get a moment out of you. M so like the devil would be like like, yeah, I don't say now the Double I got sixty five years out of you though, it's like that God told him my life when when when when they were about to shoot the guy here like the state of Mississippy got forty years out of you know, so, Uh, I don't care. I don't give people that power. Man.

00:34:09
Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, you around me your Tyler when you say that, Yeah, cause that's how I feel like. That's why he is so successful.

00:34:14
Speaker 2: He does not listen to any of the nay say nah taler, but and real people like great people recognize great people. Cause man, I remember when Tyler period had on DVD. I mean it was a DV was a DVD or the tape. I know it's DVD. I remember going to my friends and be like, man, this me deal. Person's so funny. I slid it in. I say, well, y'allf in a laugh. Uh. So they watching it, but this one, I know sometimes the world is stuck on trends. He wasn't trending yet to them. Mm they watching it, and they watching it, they don't see what I see. I wasn't stuck they talking about. I'm like, man, this funny. Seven weeks later, the buzzs going around by Tyler Perry. They were watching it one day they bust out laught. I say, man, y'all so fake. Wow, y'all not even controlling y'all own emotions.

00:34:55
Speaker 1: Mine control literally the media has.

00:34:57
Speaker 2: But the world got you yes, and the world is saying so you don't even know what's m good. Yeah, when I look at you, I'm like, man, like I told you today, I was that girl or a beautiful woman in health. You know what I'm saying. But they might they might have got you ranked, but they probably like this, but this person got moved, I'm like, no, And so I never cared, so I could see. I just never cared. So I handle what people don't like me or mad about something I move, or they wasting their time. Cause yeah, that's good.

00:35:26
Speaker 1: And you'll go far with that too, because a lot of times, I know, as a woman in the industry, I have got caught caught up in that, like what people think and how I'm perceived, and I feel like I'm I'm in the most free space of my life where I don't care anymore, and I'm allowing people just to see Crystal. You know, I used to try to like hide certain things, or I always say I'm giving so much my life through acting. I just want to have everything else be private. But like nobody knows why I'm not sharing the blessings. I'm not like allowing people to see all that guy.

00:35:57
Speaker 2: Got you girl. Yeah, you gotta let them see you cause you get you walk around with a filter. You got a natural human old gain that filter. You gotta let him see you cause you as they need to see that.

00:36:10
Speaker 1: I'm working on it. I'm I'm I denorhere has helped me.

00:36:13
Speaker 2: You can't remember what uh Jesus homeboy peter On told them. They say, man, you got to go ahead and show people who you is, cause the world ain't gonna know you, ye until you yeah to pull up side He put up sideways on the donkey. Yeah, yep, Yeah, he had to show Jesus see people throw Jesus. That's why I name my brand Jesus Poppa, because people think Jesus is born. Mm So the world that made it seem like Jesus are all people gonna corride and preaching. Judge, that ain't Jesus. That's people using his name. Yep, but instead of let him use them and Jesus is the coolest the flies. I tell I tell my son, that's why I fight with the world and my sons because you know, it's rappers and a lot of people out there. If my sons didn't see that women like me the way they like me. That's why I let them see how women act around because I'm letting him know you can still be this. Yes, this whey ain't gonna look now. They gonna like him for a moment. But Jesus was the coolest. His name still buzz ate, no brand niked. Nobody is outlasting Jesus. And we ain't even seen him, isn't it.

00:37:20
Speaker 1: Wow?

00:37:20
Speaker 2: We ain't had no pictures now that man either, he either he real good, he was a camel because we ain't seen nothing. And this joker's brand is going.

00:37:31
Speaker 1: I love it.

00:37:32
Speaker 2: So you got when people believe in Jesus, the church will be like, we gonna sit back and we're gonna wait. No, man, Jesus nad because nobody don't want to follow that big soup. Yeah, and that had you go to yo, put that drip on it and shine because when you step out there, he gonna help you. Step out there, caulse God now cut yeah, and the god him out here walking on his water. You better help me cause I fall off. You know, they gonna say nothing. I said a pandemic Lord, and I've been feeling your name and I'm on social media, so something I'm just saying you know, I'm right with you reguardless, but for your name and what yeah walking on the water man the water again and my and my knees wet the shoot Jesus keep working for me. Hey, get me out of here now.

00:38:31
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.

00:38:33
Speaker 2: I give man Frid they brought this strike. I'm like, oh what. I already a trust the industry the first time you hit me when it shut down, So then I'm a comforting build if I got some projects, Say God, did he hit again? I said, oh hell no, they never get me again. To believe maybe you got me here. I remember we have projects coming out. What right, I'm just stopping. Yes, you should have called me a year ago. I would have played my life a quarteringly right. Let me know, don't stop nothing like this. Ain't no people be coming. No, I'm staying over here. I don't want to help my agent. They can't get me comfort in no more. There's nothing until them. Don't sit with chick.

00:39:18
Speaker 1: Hello, that's right, No Manhess, I'm sure you like that probably helped you build your own table. As Tyler said, it's like I'm not going to depend on anymore.

00:39:27
Speaker 2: Well, I don't trust Nah, that's what made do it during the pandem I was forced to but not even doing this because you know, I got Nicholas specially coming out and they was like and this I know God where they say the only thing you allowed to promote is coming special, So you know my Nittles has to come out. I said, tell me, man, that was good.

00:39:45
Speaker 1: Even this was saved by that.

00:39:47
Speaker 2: But you know what I runed though, People got to stop praying start praying because I said, I said my brother over. I realized wronging the word everybody praying and one person blessed could be another person's demise. Cause I'm like, I can't say thank you God. He shut the intererestry down from me right because I'm like, but what about all the other people? So now I realize that's why I don't pray. That's why the only thing I asked God, let God's will be done? A man, yes, because we pray for storms. I worked for this pole company one time. We used to pray for storms when storm coming and who we hope he hit? Could we get some overtime?

00:40:27
Speaker 1: Mm?

00:40:29
Speaker 2: And when it hit, we say thank you God for the overtime. But it is so many people don't got hurt. So what I learned, Man, let Gods, that's the only prayer everybody should be praying. That's it.

00:40:39
Speaker 1: I need. I say that too. I used to be like, Lord, please see this, Lord, I want this. The Lord God, please change this person, please help me with this. And it was like this long list of things that I'll be praying about. And then I read the scripture where it says, don't go in your closet babbling, just say the Lord's prayer. That what we've done, and that's it. And literally, when I took that on, I realized that the things I was praying for one too small, and what God had for me and what he was showing for me that he had was way bigger than I even imagine.

00:41:07
Speaker 2: That's real.

00:41:08
Speaker 1: So that's speaking you preaching that girl.

00:41:11
Speaker 2: You don't know what you just said. You think you just said something normal. Most times people say something big, they think you are big. When that big what you just said something, girl, Because that is so true. That's so cause we don't know what to ask for, because we so we're a piece of saying to a thousand beaches to God, yes my baby, mamas trying to give me a child support. They can't get me because they don't even know how to ask for enough. I had to help them to your Lord, you wasn't good enough. Let me give you double that. They can't hit me because what your brain can't even not even fathoming one. Yes, and that's what you don't really they need to let God will just trust his will because what we because what because the dangerous thing, whatever you pray for, you eventually gonna get. That's why old girl the Lillah got it from Sampson, Yes, cause she kept aggravating. And God, he's a father of all things. He asking me, i'm'a open that door for you, and you gonna say thank you? But he all right, knowledge, no right now, wisdom, no, in time, Yes, that's only one prayer. God will be double. He can't stand and here baby cry mm he gonna give you that passify. And sometimes in life, very very seldom, you have somebody in your life who who who uh, grandparents or something who's stopping you from getting your blessing too early. If I would have been this popular at twenty two out at all kind of women, God knew, Yeah it's time. It was not yeah, because now I'm too sleepy. I ain't got the energy. I'm like, well, I'm tired, right, but nah, it it it. That's what it is, man, It's it's God's will man to be done. And that's what people got the h And when you when you live like that, you really see it's enough for everybody. It is I supposed to be. There's too many rich people out here for everybody not to be feeling it. Somebody be agreeing God, I don't make it. I give away by give to my family of my business. You know what I'm saying about three hundred or four hundred a month, But that four hundred month touched so many people. But when I.

00:43:25
Speaker 1: Say we need in the family.

00:43:29
Speaker 2: It touched so many people. But it's people that's making triple what I'm making. I'm like that why because people don't believe in God's will. Everybody's nowadays online they teach you how to keep your money for the future. That's all they're trying to do. I'm gonna be dead what you're talking about? All right?

00:43:48
Speaker 1: Man?

00:43:48
Speaker 2: This I ain't starting that. I'm trying to hey, so, but what it is that's people who he told you, man, money gonna beat the love of money. You know, money is a loafer people. See, I told a god one time, I take care of my baby. Mom. Don't call a man. They were like, man, you simping. No, you simple, because you're giving up energy, my energy reserved. I give away federal reserve. They have no.

00:44:20
Speaker 1: You better start you a little preacher over here to that.

00:44:23
Speaker 2: No preacher, I'm preaching. I ain't. I ain't trying to preach.

00:44:28
Speaker 1: He said, I'm getting away federal reserve.

00:44:31
Speaker 2: Not my energy, but God's will. They trying to put together. Everybody trying to prepare their own wheel. They set in their own wheel up. But we ain't good. And the devil, the devil. People don't know the devil don't come in your life to horm on purpose. He tries to be God. He's so bad a blessing because this low the energy turned out, this ain't God. Now, because even if people make it through the stress of what am I nagas through, see, they would let God handle it. It'd be different. Yeah, because what happens in the industry now, so many projects, you know what I'm saying, so many projects, what happen It's a lot of selfish people and in ages in the in the it's in the studios and the people. If you know this project ain't gonna work in your hard people are hire people just because they like 'em. And you playing with other people money. You playing with other people money. Now if this don't come back, and we got to stop it in a minute, because I'm not about to keep losing exactly. But it's people. It's people that'll be like, put this person's project because you putting your own wheel together cause it's gonna benefit you, but not knowing that they will keep turning. Everybody got but you know, so.

00:45:42
Speaker 1: It's good you talked about giving. And one thing that Andy Norman, who works at this he's one of the vice presidents at Tyler Perry Studios. He leaves it work and goes to Bible study every week. And when I was still costuming, before I even became a costume designer, even started styling Tyler, he called me one day he said, I don't know why God put you on my heart during Bible study, but he told me to tell you this, and I was like, what do he tell you? He told me to tell you that your living is in your giving. And I was like, okay. He's like just remember that. And I was like, Okay, I got it. So I've always been like a tiler, like I always make sure I give God his and help people as I can. But as I began to send and like gang wealth, I was like, wow, like I knew exactly he didn't even He's like, Chris, I had no idea why God put that, But he knew where you were going, and he knew where he was taking you, and he didn't want you to forget that. So I always tell you. I want to tell you that as well, like your living is and you're giving and you're doing the right thing.

00:46:36
Speaker 2: I appreciate it. Man. Yeah I ain't. No, I ain't got no woman in my life to tell me I'm doing the right thing. Ain't that great? Is that crazy?

00:46:46
Speaker 1: But oh again, so let's talk about women since we're on the subject. You are a father of ten.

00:46:56
Speaker 2: How did you end up with so many kids and pull out?

00:47:04
Speaker 1: Were these like relationships or were these just.

00:47:09
Speaker 2: My first baby? Mom was my high school seeard. So we was together from eighth grade all the way to like for years. So we had three kids.

00:47:18
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, nah.

00:47:21
Speaker 2: I chs on her one time got a girl pregnant just all through. It was right after high school and then my three kids in between her was women I deal with one time. Wow, and cousin that. God did me like that because you know better? You know better? My these girl got pregnant. Man. I was like, oh my god, you know what I'm saying. So I was at I'm at six children out of know, you know what I'm saying. And then uh, and then my ex wife, me and her, me and her, I had three You were married okay for seven months, lady said, Nah, it was a year. Yeah, changed, but I was with her for ten years.

00:48:07
Speaker 1: Wait wait, together with her for teen years. Yep, yeah, married for seven months to a year. It was a year year.

00:48:19
Speaker 2: Yeah, sure what happened?

00:48:21
Speaker 1: Was it just like.

00:48:23
Speaker 2: Now? I married her? Because like, first of all, we had got custoded at one of my daughters. I had to go to court for us so and then I had just started doing the touring thing. I'm like, man, I've been with this girl. Man, I sold dope by her projects. Man. I was like, man, I got I'm going to marry bro. This's life cause I ain't study any women. I'm gonna get the money. When I got in industry. I tell everybody, a lot of men focus on these women because ain't never had them. See I didn't have them, so my focus now, Hey, Yeah, so I married her. I'm like, man, I used, I'm finna do this. I'm finna change my family life for real. So I married her, man and and then you know, a year later, I'm like, Noah, God to leave behind. I ain't gonna leave her up my first baby, mama. You know what I'm saying. But I found a way I could bring him up financially, and yeah, be there for them.

00:49:07
Speaker 1: But was that a hard decision.

00:49:09
Speaker 2: Yeah, that hard decision because you like, you know, you leaving the women like we grew up together. So like, damn, finna take off. But see y'all ain't with it the nah, they just on different lane. Man. You know, I'm I I started growing fast, Like I started worrying about my diet. I started cause you know, I s I picked up that Bible while me and he was in the project. Mm. I was like, man, I told her you should have picked it up with me. But she asked me one day, she said, what you read, you ain't gonna share what you read? I mean, I say, man, you got it. You should read the women. But I was growing so fast once I picked up that Bible, I was out growing a lot of stuff. Wow. So by the time I'm like, hey, man, I'm a changed person. That's so powerful cause you can't scream his name too long? Would I changed your capter? And how my character was changing? And I was like, damn, they can't. They had first chance. They had first they had these.

00:50:03
Speaker 1: Now do they do they have? Have they expressed any regret?

00:50:05
Speaker 2: Every woman I've been with regret. Ever, they ain't gonna find no Wayne. You ain't gonna find no way. You ain't gonna find no Wayne that when Wayne you your grandma gonna be excited in the world. See, it's hard to find that, cause your grandma would be excited about your friend Black but he like m But but the world could be excited, but your grandma like, he ain't the one for you. La, Man, I got the one t in the streets. So they gonna you blessed and you covered. But at the same time, you please mm cause you were in the flesh, your spear runing life. But the fletch got to be pleased. So the women were the women, Yeah, they regretted. Yeah, and a lot of a lot of women out there we think it's still a chain cause I'm free like al readyly I'm not in the relayship for real, right.

00:50:48
Speaker 1: But now do you lead them on to Makenah if they think they thatay like that?

00:50:54
Speaker 2: Okay, you know, I don't play. I don't pl I don't play with people. I don't play no game, don't play the radio. I'm direct. M. But nah, but nah, they definitely r They definitely regret it. M. But I'm petty like that. I made sure they were gonna regret it. I work hard to make people regret. Oh my god, I'm a competitive So I work on myself to be mm yeah, to grow, Cause like I put in my book, man, stay up. That's the only way a woman gonna really ever want you and keep loving you. You have to stay up.

00:51:29
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's real. That's real. So about your children, I see you're very active in all your children's lives. How do you manage and like with between business and cause you're always feel like you're always working and creating something. How do you like manage the time even to be here today? How do you imagine time for your children and your business.

00:51:48
Speaker 2: Well, I had to. I had to cre I had to retire a lot of people. Like my daddy. He I retire him. So he take my sons to basketball practice, He handled them like he took the kid the girls wanted to go to be on ste concert. He put him in the sprinter, took them in the baby mamas. And so basically I had to kind of like build a village around my kid, and they all helped me. And then I just make my and God made away with my schedule. I controlled my career so much like I shut something down like this summer. I shut the whole summer down. I told him I ain't working mm and I ain't even know the strike was coming right like that, and it was the right oft stripe. But I'm like, this be open, yeah, right, But then the abstract came. I'm like, oh, yeah, yeah, this is different. So I just I put them first. And I feel like whatever you put first, God to make a way for you to miss for the balance if you put the right thing first. I love that.

00:52:36
Speaker 1: Speaking of parenthood, you recently did a post about we talked about forgiving parents. What did you actually forgive your dad for?

00:52:44
Speaker 2: Uh? He wasn't there, you know, the times in need and he had it. He was in the streets hustling and had money, but he won't really bless my mama unless they was on good turn and so it was it was under condition and now unconditional love.

00:52:58
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's different.

00:52:59
Speaker 2: Yeah, So, m I went through things that I didn't have to go through if he would just brought him some money around now mm. So I'm like, yeah, he wasn't there when he could have been right, and so I forgive him for that though.

00:53:13
Speaker 1: Does that help you see what he did and the wa where he went wrong? Be the father that you are today.

00:53:19
Speaker 2: Yeah? Know why I take care of my baby mamas cause at the end of the day, that's a hard job. And I learned that they set me free, Yeah, cause me trying to control they life. Lo Look, the kids stay there even though they do got a man, still got to pay the bill. Yes, I can't let the kids sit outside cause your mama, whatever your mama doing or whoever they talking to and got nothing to do with this decision we made together to have this child. So it helped me understand that cause I know if their household ain't right it's not good for the kids for sure.

00:53:47
Speaker 1: Yeah, do your kids live with you or they live all with.

00:53:49
Speaker 2: Their But my son lived with me, Teman, I live with me. But all the restaurant, they all got rooms in there, but they don't be there. They be with their mama. But they got a room there and they mama stay five or ten minutes away. But it to just be me and Tamar. Okay, come, my other sons just went to college.

00:54:03
Speaker 1: Got you what were the steps that led you to saying I need to forgive my dad.

00:54:09
Speaker 2: Man, I just don't like to waste time. I ain't holding nothing. Then, yeah, because that was yesterday.

00:54:15
Speaker 1: Was how was that conversation? Like? Was it hard? Because I know sometimes parents our generation is really big on like mental health and not wasting time, and we know the importance of certain things where our parents may kind of be stuck in their waist. Is your dad one of people that's kind of like second ways? Was it hard to even get through to him?

00:54:33
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was hard to get to to him. But the thing was, when you believe in yourself and you look at yourself a lot, you see that they went through things. So it's a change that we know we're coming out of slavery. Now, yeah, you feel what I'm saying. So what we expect our parents? Yeah, it's me real you you're right.

00:54:54
Speaker 1: I say the same thing. I was telling my dad this recently. I said, you know, I think about the generational curses and how like our parents just repeat what they saw, and you think about our grandparents who were the children of slaves, you know, like, or you're not as old, saying.

00:55:12
Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm older than you in spirit.

00:55:15
Speaker 1: If you are, you are and old you literally are. Yeah, I would give you that, you know. So yeah, but our parents, like it's like we're not that far. Like we're just getting out of that, you know, and we're the ones that are starting to break the cycles those patterns. That's so true. I literally just talked to my.

00:55:33
Speaker 2: Dad about that. So we're just getting out of slavery. So we expecting our parents and be like, Mama didn't do this, Mama didn't listen here, man, listen my dad. My dad ain't take my helps and throw it to them, got their women and have them bab Yeah I could have made that decision. I'll do that. So when you believe in yourself, I got two kids that believe in theirself and they never reflect their problems on their parents sometimes, so my kids are getting mad when they go through stuff they make their mama feel like. I just feel like, like, mmm, what's my two kids that believe in themselves. They internalized and they work on something. They don't take it and throwing on the parents. And I was always that child because deep down, man, kids will lie, people will be lit. I remember one time being bad at school. My mama don't about to beat me, Like, what's been your problem? Say my uncle Chunk. Come, my uncle Chunk had died. Man, he had died to you. I want to stand that man. But I needed something for them to feel sensley for me. I'm like my uncle Chuk. They were like, she was like, what's wrong with uncle? She was like she had that built to that building.

00:56:38
Speaker 3: And she said, what I said, he been coming to see me at night? She said, what did he say? I'll like, so I know how kids and people are.

00:56:55
Speaker 2: Man, they met other stuff the all like if if somebody, if you come in here and you slap somebody, they'd be like, it's because you said this. No, it's whatever happened before that that happened to happen. You just happen to be the one that get over to God during talk. So people in no, deep down bro, people be having all I like, man, people just ain't real. So I don't deal with a lot of that stuff coming in. People don't want to hit the real They only talking to me and people be going through other stuff, and most time it's relationships. Somebody that has gone through something like Brud. Nobody shouldn't be able to have a power in your life to text you on the phone and change your date for you to call somebody to talk an hour about that. That means that we're not letting God's being accounting nobody energy. Because we let God be the counting of our energy. He gonna know how much to put in there, and then when it do happen, it ain't gonna fix you at all. Yes, So my mom and daddy life, I wasn't that tied into them because the reason why everybody's heart was hurt my other siblings because you had too much faith in your mama and your daddy. That's only God. And as a child, we have time to learn that.

00:58:00
Speaker 1: Did we know?

00:58:01
Speaker 2: I don't know? Well, I I was My family was gone. They was drinking the smoke. So I guess I was one of them kids grew up there. But they have an option. My kids see me read that Bible, their friends see me reading. So somehow in our life.

00:58:14
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're giving them a different example.

00:58:16
Speaker 2: Though, God, we don't see this. I don't know like you say. I can't say that cause my sisters. I think some children judge their parents because my whole family did drug and my aunt tiv Wonda, she like she my cousin, but she my mom. My mom was like this friend and she always told us never try weed cause it was a gateway drug. But my sisters, my family always judged them, like y'all just a bunch of week is different. But what happened is they they told us never to try alcoholic. We they tried it. So now they fighting not to be an alcoholic. So instead of calling themself alcoholics, long as they keep them some money and have a party, we just having a know it hits you too. You judge our tea you were functioning alcoholic, But I didn't judge them. So I was like, m that's gonna get me. If I get in that, that's gonna get me. So I stay out of it. I'm not one of them people who think I'm better than something. But when you don't judge your parents, I knew. I said, man, that cocain't get me too. If I ever tried cocaine, it gonna get me if I ever good cause that cootcha got men sometime, Like I see how my daddy had out. Somethings just ain't but you have.

00:59:27
Speaker 1: You got a lot of kid.

00:59:28
Speaker 2: Yeah, my daddy got nine eight kids and my mama had three. So I was the oldest on my daddy's side and the youngest on my mama's side. I got two older sisters and all then I just I ain't never my mama. I cut my mama doing cocaine one day, mm, and I said, Mama. So the next morning asked, I said, why you put that white stuff over your nose? But I was so real as a child. The one thing I appreciate about this woman. She didn't give me n you ain't see that, you ain't this and that and this and that. I tell everybody, man, my warm my mama's prayers allowed me to be real. And she said, so, I just like the way it made me feel. M My sister them would have been like, yeah, you know what I'm saying. It's like, man, you know when you look at life, when you be still and look at life for what it really is, you could be real and make real judgements. Like m man, come on, man, so it you know. It's just you look at life for what it really is and stuff for how you want it to look.

01:00:22
Speaker 1: That's real, that's real. You recently said on our differend Be Small and Meghan's podcasts Not for Sure podcast, you said that you believe that the only way to properly love a woman is to give her what God wants for her.

01:00:35
Speaker 2: Give what God wants.

01:00:36
Speaker 1: Mm. Can you that really? Me and dor were like, oh, okay, we've never really heard a man say that. The way you broke that down, can you break that down for me?

01:00:43
Speaker 2: You gotta give what God wants for her? And what that is She gonna complain the whole time.

01:00:47
Speaker 1: Mm.

01:00:48
Speaker 2: My his wife, she complained the whole time. And she's happier now as a person cause I never copplied to the world when I was in the streets selling dope. She wanted us to be the lit couple, but I do that. I want good ud. It's certain things she wanted, but now she's a great mother and everything like, because in the end, that's who they gonna love, the one who kept it real with them.

01:01:12
Speaker 1: Man, he means she wanted y' what does that mean?

01:01:15
Speaker 2: Be gout? Like certain things I wouldn't do in the street, Like we ain't taking no trips, mama dope, but and posting no pictures, I'm living a wrong life. God gonna be like, oh, so you trying to get out, but you out here showing that. So it's just like that would have made her so happy. If I would have took her on one trip while we was selling drug that would have made her so happy. It was a lot of things that you wouldn't take.

01:01:36
Speaker 1: What if you just took her on shiping, doesn't.

01:01:38
Speaker 2: Taking pictures cause I'm selling drugs, So that ain't fair. If I'm telling God I want to get out, that's throwing it in God's face. If I was legit, Okay, now I'm taking trips. Yeah, But it was a lot of things that would have made her happy in the moment. But she would have been with her friends at right now. You know what I'm saying. So a woman, it's like a child. You know what I'm saying. We got a gift. People. It ain't even a woman just people. But a woman, if you give her what God won't for her, her soul gonna love you, even when her flesh mad at you. Mm. See, what happens is a lot of women flesh like a man, but they soul ain't feeling it. So that's why depression come anxiety. But what happens is when your soul, when you talk to her soul instead of her flesh, her flesh gonna be mad, but it's even gonna comply. It's time. It's just gonna complain in the daytime. And eventually, when that flesch catch up, it's gonna be thank you because in the end she gonna glow. Yeah, her better days are front front of her, still behind her. And a woman when you give a woman that man, she give you her prayers. The name my netflix. Specially if a woman prayers. I'm up right now because even when the women I dealt with deal with other men, they prayers are with me. Because He's every woman has a spiritual vagina and they and that spiritual vagina is a virgin. That's why mayor is still a version because they say this is the vagina that could be washed out and bush day, Yeah that may be so happy about Yeah, I got that. The reason why it's so accessible because obviously it's not. It's a lord's frequency mm mm's frequency, that spiritual vagina, and God is only gonna let a man, a god touch that. Some women die a virtue. But if you ever find a man who touched that spiritual vagina, your life gonna be changed forever.

01:03:29
Speaker 1: I've never heard this in my life.

01:03:31
Speaker 2: Yea, and that spirit gonna be that's real. So now your spirit finally get to feel those moments and it's different. Open her legs cause she got her leg closed. She don't get a damn. She be like, you can do what you want to with yours. So while you giving it to them, you try to be like you try to trick each hurt your spiritual pla. It was good, like we connected for real and it's like girl, oh my God, like this the one then and it was spirit like, I don't know what you talking about. Then by seven months later, it just didn't work because it cause he applied to you. He did everything he can to get to that part of you and that spiritual person, like, you know, gotta think about it the way I run. I could easily seduce women, yeah now, but I could touch his head. It seemed more fun. But I'm like, no, man, this what this what they needed? I don't care, yes, because I know this works.

01:04:26
Speaker 1: Now what does a man of God determine what God wants for her?

01:04:31
Speaker 2: Like?

01:04:31
Speaker 1: How do you know? Like this?

01:04:32
Speaker 2: I know what he want her for? Feel man? And and he want her to get back on that journey. Cause when you get fulfilled, you gotta think about it. Peter of them was getting whilted and everything. It was so fulfilling just to talk about Jesus. Yeah, you gotta think how happy was they to walk around them dirty sandals and speak about Jesus And they found something that was so It's like a crackhead that cracks so good. They don't care that they Yeah, they don't care what you say about them. They like, just give me the fifty dollars to watch this car. Right, I'm finna go back and get this crack. So man, you find that, you find you activate that back in women because she influenced the world. Because once you see women talking about that and want that, like even even Sierra, just going to a man that talk about God, people women start shipping their head a little bit. Yeah, you get what I'm saying. So it gets them back on the journey and started feeling good to walk, eat good food, and live life. So once you get on that and once you get happy. Now, if y'all ever decide to get the relationship is supposed to be the last thing. It's a holy matrimony, is really your flesh and your spirit coming too agreements because they got to live with each other. So you got to come and hold a matrimony with yourself first. Because right now it's four people right here on this couch, my flesh with your flesh, my spirit, your spirit. So once you become hold, then you talk to that person's soul and that soul gonna tell you what to tell her to get her f that's back in line. Wow. Man, Now when you finally get to that moment, and that's why I'm waiting on for a woman to get to that moment so we could be hold together. But that's that's what it is. And and it's hard to do that because most men want to stay in good cahooks to get what they want, cause they gonna say and they and when they do say something triggering, it's out. It's malicious.

01:06:23
Speaker 1: Mm.

01:06:26
Speaker 2: It's the timing. They ain't really like my baby mama. But when I told her I married, I knew my attention was for her. When I met her, I said, oh, make sure this girl straight, even if we don't end up together. She got something in her. Yeah. I went over there and we talked. We finally talked for a little men couple mon. I finally got that cuture. I played like the cool guy. I bought her some weed and everything. See the devil act like God. Sometimes Dodd pretends like he'll devil to get your attention, cause you know that's what they like. I bought her weed. I bought her and her friend we were like, yeah, I'm acting like man. As soon as I got that cuchure, and I know I put that thing. Ever, then this morning I was aid, we gotta wash your dishes and stuff. Now she was like what cause I switched at like I was the turn up guy. Yes, as soon as I then she started this and that girl started glowing, glowing, glowing, and the whole hood seen it, and and women around there was trying to find ways that I seen the town change. So I learned that you know, you get you get women back on the right track. God to bless you. He'll take care of you, cause he ain't playing about y'all. Y'all prayers, y'all women n men don't understand that bro like y'all control the world. Y'all prayers are strong, y'all. That I wanted. Why women that I worked with, I paid them to do their job and the ain't know me an get paid more than women. It's because I know they keeping this up. It's day prayers. Yeah, that's good, you know, So that's what it is. Man just got to get that spiritual a drona, that spiritual drowna. Ain't they ain't still no live. They don't care about some smooth talk because it been here before. The ancestors see that flesh don't get no. We're gonna get tricked every time. And sometimes you got to drink a little alcohol to tell the spirit to shut up, so that so the flesh feel comfortable giving up what it beat. That's why most people before they cross the line, they because that's the only way that's flesh drink up like you talk to them too much. You're making me feel too conscious, So let me unconscious, do something to take my mind off. So now for this, for this moment, and then sometimes I still like I need another one shots shot yes, hush you know, and then all of a sudden, the hus Then you wake up in his back. See how you feel this morning? And then people try. Now you fight and trying to prove wrong, like I made the right decisions. So what people do that end up staying with that person long term just so they could prove to the spirit I was good. Then after a year later, uh, two years and if you you blessed if it's that early, cause sometime a person to take ten years of your life. You right, oof and get what the spirit do every time? Come here baby? Mm I told you I don't be telling you that, yeah, to stop you from having fun. Yeah, but trust me, I know I'm connected to the one.

01:09:20
Speaker 1: Yeah.

01:09:20
Speaker 2: Wow, and that's what it is.

01:09:23
Speaker 1: Mmm mmm. So they talking about the spiritual vagina? Yeah right now in your life, are you're single, but are you like ubstaining from sex? Are you open to sex cause you're very spiritual? Do are you feeding the flesh or you like I'm good on it.

01:09:36
Speaker 2: Well right now I'm fleshing there hungry, but it's still got appetite.

01:09:39
Speaker 1: MM.

01:09:39
Speaker 2: So it's gonna eat. My flesh's gonna eat. It ain't finna die. I don't know to hell doing that, but uh, it just ain't got appetite that used to have.

01:09:49
Speaker 1: MM. Can you sleep? You tired?

01:09:50
Speaker 2: Tired? It is that I can't God to set you up. I'm so busy, I literally can't.

01:09:54
Speaker 1: Mm.

01:09:56
Speaker 2: You know my lifestyle don't bump into people. Mm no, because I'm vegan, so most people go out to eat. He can take you awaste so much from stuff because man, no bad women in the restaurants they trying to figure. They just buy it back out, you know. So it's like, you know, I'm so disconnected. Yeah, I'm going like I'm always have said I'm never stopping that. God have to drive it out before I stopt. Like, I'm not gonna like, I'm not gonna never stop. But it's just organically, even if I try my heart to eat to my appetite, my appetite is and it. Yeah, it's just it's way way, way less than it would be. It don't matter.

01:10:38
Speaker 1: Do you feel like you said somebody because you're busier now, like you don't. I've heard men say that, like when they're focused on things, sometimes sex because a lot of people think like sex is always on y'all's mind.

01:10:49
Speaker 2: But it is most of the time until you hit you a certain level. Now I just don't have the appetite. Like it's like vegan. I didn't try to go vegan. He took the appetite away. And this appetite taking away from me now scared because I'm like, hey, god, I don't. I don't fight them on that. I want this, but now it just don't. It just don't. That ain't my main That just ain't. It just ain't the main course. Because I used to be man, I was born with a loss of spirit, cause I'd be like when I was young, like, man, God, you know I want this. I won't. I won't. I'm like, what is that? You know what I'm saying? And then that lost of spirit lasted for a while. But I noticed when I started getting that word and when I started getting off that food, I noticed, man, I ain't have the inter and I think sometimes the hormones and that food. Do you having you anal like and whatever your animal spirit is. Some people it make them eat more. Some people make it more angry. At me, it was like I want to scoocha. You know what I'm saying. So most women and this is how it's going. But now I'm just more I moved, I walked like I walked like. So that ain't the main thing. I like to get to know people now.

01:11:57
Speaker 1: So like speaking of that, like as your single, like how do you even like approach relationships? Like if Wayne was supposed to to see somebody, like how w what would you do?

01:12:04
Speaker 2: I'm'a tell you straight up, h If I like a person, listen, I wanna be with you for real. Mm I I'm seriou about everything I say, Like I'm already thinking about marriage. I ain't got time to be wow. But most time they set up that they ain't gonna believe me.

01:12:18
Speaker 1: M yeah, they be like what.

01:12:19
Speaker 2: But I'll be serious. I go straight at it. I ain't got time to play right wow. I'm like, if I like somebody I already know, went through my mind? First, I write my country in my mind. I never use paper, so everything is in my mind.

01:12:33
Speaker 1: MM.

01:12:33
Speaker 2: So I look at a person and I be like so by the time I stepped to somebody, I'm like, hey man, this is what it is. But mostly black they kind of believe it. First they they gonna talk to one of they friends MM that they friends will google you they're black. A you gotta check this first. Yeah, you got look at this, look at this, and then they gonna come back with that. I'm like, well, alright, they gonna see and where they gonna be. They gonna look up and be like, damn God, damn I should So i'm'a go. But I really like I I like relationship. I do like relationship, but it just got to be somebody who really trusts and believe that this is it for real.

01:13:16
Speaker 1: Yeah do you feel like, I know, you balance your family, well, do you thought you could also balance a relationship?

01:13:22
Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, okay, yeah I could balance a relationship. Is it's easier now because you ain't got time for a bunch of women?

01:13:30
Speaker 1: Mm?

01:13:31
Speaker 2: Sue, So a relationship is like cause.

01:13:32
Speaker 1: I feel like sometimes it's the opposite. I feel like a lot of times when men get success, it opens the door for more women. What do you mean you don't have a time for a lot of women?

01:13:40
Speaker 2: The door opened? Uh? They could go. They could stand at the door all they want. They've been getting on real energy out of me. If you want somebody taking naps, cause I don't. I'm not. Nah. I just ain't got time, especially when you in the land. I mean cause I ain't getting chicks. I ain't never got a check yet.

01:13:57
Speaker 1: Mm.

01:13:57
Speaker 2: All these chicks don't getting no creating.

01:13:59
Speaker 1: Wow.

01:14:00
Speaker 2: Like even in this movie, I got to go put together the agency had to do this. I had to go get the producer then to do so often to do this movie. You know what I'm saying, I gotta go raise ze ems. I'm in a I'm not in the state. I still haven't got a check m. Yeah. So I don't got time. Yeah, cause every piece of my business I never got a check M yeah. Uh. First check I got was that book, you know what I'm saying. And every other check I create, yeah, it to come every month. So I'm in that state of mind. I stay in a hustle. Yeah. And once I don't got this far with it, I put that before everything because this my freedom. Yes, that's my leverage, be able to walk into meetings and be like no, and I knitche it. If you I ain't tryna be mean. If y'all want a black botherby, go ahead, cause Jesus je turning the whole got you know what I'm saying, You got no woman? But nah, So relationship wise, man, it's easier to be in a relationship right now because if I had a woman who really on that journey with me, Bruhu, I ain't getting.

01:15:00
Speaker 1: Out Jesus absolutely yeah saying, so we.

01:15:04
Speaker 2: Ain't gotta talk about him all the time, but we better know that's the head cut. I'm not been getting no long conversation about them blinds. Then the like I even to be h have no woman talking to me about all day, no two hours. I'm like, we coulda talked about it, you know what I'm saying. So I just wanna live and I wanna have fun. I'm at that stay not I don't. I don't walk like I said, I don't walk across the path. So I ain't got no trouble. I wanna enjoy. Let's go eat together, let's travel together, and that just make love and let's work together. Let's let's okay. But you got going on? What's the business babe? What you think?

01:15:38
Speaker 1: Uh?

01:15:39
Speaker 2: I don't know, Okay, it is me. I think I wanna be in those conversations, uh prosperity, and I wanna be so in love that we don't even know we in love. Mm that we wake up. Then you see this person every day? Ay you good man? I guess what happened? Man, I just see this. You know what I'm saying, short conversations and and man, my goddamned hurt. I want to say something like that, not even hurt too. I don't want it to be act every day. Yes, they like, I'm gonna say it.

01:16:09
Speaker 1: Act the director is here.

01:16:13
Speaker 2: Yeah, like you know, even when people try to act like that, to see it CRIDs when people on TV. Yes, I'm not doing that to day, even even an acting world that scene. Yes, were like, hey man, I want to wake up last night, Ma, I sleep on the sofa, ca my neighbors hurt and I know it's just I want that organic natural and I don't want to be talking some note what we read. Yeah, to make our relationship better, man, let's figure this out.

01:16:35
Speaker 1: Yeah. I love that I saw on your Instagram that you bought a g Wagon for your future wife.

01:16:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, what made you do that? Make out my mad.

01:16:46
Speaker 1: Patty?

01:16:49
Speaker 2: I did that. I did this marketing because the name my specially as a woman's prayer. So I'm gonna start doing things up to that point.

01:16:55
Speaker 1: Condor Drake, he has like a closet of Erma's burking bags.

01:16:59
Speaker 2: For his your wife. But that's what I drove here, Oh you did. I was gonna leave it. Guess what I got? What damn?

01:17:14
Speaker 1: He said? I drove here?

01:17:19
Speaker 2: Well, as you spending your money, what you say, As you spending your money, you're supposed to keep yours. See women out day you don't, guys so independent, talk about it and tell you something. I'm gonna tell you. I say this on stage ear the week women got. They say that the laziest women got the basch. Let me tell you why. They say, because, ambitious woman, you use all her creative juices up here. Lazy woman, you goting here? I said that. Why I like a woman that scrubs. I like seeing cause it was too lazy to go to the school for a few years to get there. Sometimes you gotta keep your you gotta keep your money, But you gotta keep your money. She's somewhere that scared to be a scammel. Y'all was meant to be that you'l want to be spending your money if you want to spend your money because I want to be independent, No spend money and he be mad. I gave you yep, you show me and what ye can't be spent your all money too much? Okay, because that'll cost stress because now you're a man like you supposed to do it.

01:18:27
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's off like we were talking about.

01:18:29
Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't want to do that because you want to keep your money. Cause a woman got money, she keep her money. She feel good every day, no matter what time. A woman cannot handle seeing money going out her.

01:18:44
Speaker 1: Now.

01:18:44
Speaker 2: I tell most men you can't even get a woman attention till you take care of her life. She halfway talking to you is this person, but it's this person in the back of her mind. She's thinking about where she got to pay me as much, so she's there, but she's never really there. If you go and just figure out the way, don't even tell us, just pay it all. Sent a check every month guaranteed you. No it ain't. This ain't for nothing. You don't gotta give me nothing, but then go fifteen thous a month. Just we can sign a contract for five years. At first she's like that and You're like, then you got her a teencher, so what so what was you saying about all that stuff that you like? My eyes, she don't hear all that. Yeah, because but women can't handle money coming out there the count my daughter's bruh. I get them with lowndes every month. I give them two thousand dollars my daughter every month. But live we give him the nuch. He has shades on when she give a check. Oh my god, every month ride after the fourteen she be depressed. A mama like, what's wrong with I say, it's that money, and they be broke by by the other half of the month. I see they depression and I'll be laughing so hard. But women cannot handle money going out. It's not good for they psyche that joke. When a woman see that money, they want to turn their card. I'm like, what is this right? And I ordered, but they can't start ordering stuff. So man, I be telling women every woman I know. I know some women in the industry, bro I know some comedians. I know some women who don't spend their own money, and they is the press right now, and I feel sorry for them. They still got money, but I would pray for them because they tried that. And I'm like, y'all, ain't a man built for certain thing. I won't build a certain things. I go a man go down now because you know, but a woman that ain't good for her meals because even if she do bounce back, she don't lost some of her health on the way to that joannety mm. So I'll be like man only that why I take that press off my baby mama, because even now, because they don't got no big stash that I take them, but I have to give them a stash because I could see it on them. They walk different. Yes, I'm like, what wrong do they look dark? As soon as their money hit they all count. I promise you it's a light. They come, They speak different, they bones move different. Yeah, they even glow and they connected. That's just weed. That's how the weed man. The woman can't spend a whole money all the time. It's the they can't take it.

01:21:09
Speaker 1: So when we were talking, you said something about you went to this woman, and you the girl that you went to, and you brought the weed for the friends, and then you got the coach. Then the next morning you lookuse you know, you gotta wash some dishes. So when we talk about dishes, we all in society we talk about gender roles. Are there things that you feel like a woman has to do in the household and that it's some things are just for a man to do?

01:21:32
Speaker 2: No, you know, it's different situations. You know what I'm saying, that woman working, that man may be watching the dishes. You know what I'm saying. You got to work with each other. So it ain't no set it ain't no set life. It's just that for a set kind of person, like some women gonna make sure they ain't planning that you gotta take you gotta help take care of me because I'm gonna do this. So me, I just stayed the journey. I won the whole time. So if I want the whole time, at this point, we ain't gotta clean up cause we'll pay. But at that point we couldn't pay no maid, right, Okay, So who gonna watch your dish? Now I'll wash them. Yeah, I'm cool, I'll watch it. But you know when I go to keysh eyes and saying, you know what I'm saying. So it's like in each situation, I think each General Ros, it ain't no set what a man got to do, what a woman gotta do. Man, Cause at the end of the day, when it's time to fight, when y'all fighting life together, y'all just got to look out for each other. Man. If you tied, I gotta do this or this, call somebody, let me figure this out. But at the end of the day, it depends on where you add in life. It depends on who you are. Because some women are gonna make you be a man. You can't be nothing but a man, yeah, because you cain't fee let you be no woman. You gonna run across some men. Yeah, all that man stuff in you might well just be a woman. Yeah, cause that happened my past relationship to I ain't I ain't them whoever you talk to. Melissa Conan raided me and she taught me how to be a man. You ain't finna be nothing but a woman. And I'm not gonna put my hands on you. I ain't gonna raise my boys and I'm not malicious, but I am one hundred per cent there. So you can't beat nothing but a woman. Yeah, cause that roll over filled. But General Rod, we ain't got to watch no disgers a man or go in there watching I clean my house. My house is exactlate. I'm a clean person. Yeah, but ain't no woman to know.

01:23:13
Speaker 1: M that's right, so you know love it? So what is du Wayne looking for? Any woman?

01:23:21
Speaker 2: If you were to tell the ladies, tell the ladies what camera we're looking at, you.

01:23:25
Speaker 1: Can look at this and her that's shirt.

01:23:28
Speaker 2: And be honest, and it's gonna sound oh cliche. I'm looking for a woman who really believe in God for real and not the world. Mm cause I never had a woman cheat on me with the with a man, far as I know, but I had a cheat on me with the world.

01:23:45
Speaker 1: MM.

01:23:46
Speaker 2: So I just want a woman who really believe in God for real, for real, that crazy faith. Cause if if if she believe in that, everything else gonna fallow in order. Anyway, I don't need no woman who gonna clean up, even though I love a wan wanna cause we could pay somebody to do that. I don't need no woman who makes no money to get some money. I don't need no woman who. I don't care if you bruh, I don't care what it is. But if you just believe, you could come as you walk because that's gonna work in order, and we gonna live in our own world and people gonna pay attention to us. Mm if like, why they so happy? You know, don't be picking stuff out from the world bringing it back home. Mm cause he told us not to eat the apple. But we still on the iPhone with the app on the back bit off w l steal in the tree, picking up everything and bringing it back home. And God said, don't bring it back. Wow, I just w woma believe in Jesus for real? Did y'all hear what he just said? We still.

01:24:47
Speaker 1: Got that iPhone with the apple in the bag.

01:24:52
Speaker 2: Bringing it home.

01:24:53
Speaker 1: Wooh mm mmm.

01:24:56
Speaker 2: We gonna we gonna just.

01:24:57
Speaker 1: Leave it right there. Oh my gosh, I'm blown away. That was the whole op study. So good, so good, no, so good. Wow, thank you so much.

01:25:08
Speaker 2: I appreciate you all, men. I appreciate this so far in the whole morale. This is great what y'all got going on. And this is right on time.

01:25:15
Speaker 1: It is right on time. We're almost done. We're gonna we have a listener letter where people write into us and give them advice. Some'ma read letter. It's called Positive outcomes, and this generally says Hi, Crystal. I'm a forty four year old woman who just ended a six month relationship with a thirty nine year old man who I've actually known for years. We finally decided to link up one day and had great conversations about life and past relationships. Come to find out, he made all the qualities that I was looking for in a man. The only problem was he was broken, jobless. I stayed in it for six months and fell in love with the potential of him being, of him becoming the man that I wanted him to be. Things got ugly within the sixth month. I knew that it was God releasing him from me. I experienced a great dealer truma in the past three years and actually felt secure in the moment for all the wrong reasons. Although we don't talk and everything is still fresh, he still talks to my sister, who was in a relationship with one of his family members, as if he and I never happened. I keep trying to figure out what is it about me that keeps following for men who don't meet my requirements When it comes to job, money, and faith. I work two full time jobs and I take care of myself and my children. I will continue to have faith that my equal is on the way. Can you please give me some advice to strengthen my self confidence and put boundaries between my ex and I, who I still love with friendship.

01:26:39
Speaker 2: What's that last part? She said? Oh? Look, he said, can you please get me some of the bite. This was strengthen myself confidence and put boundaries. That's the answer. She got the answer right there, strengthened her. She just needs to work on her, work on her. You can't work on nobody else. You can't change men. You can't change the people that come in your life. The devil gonna send them, and and you just got to change you life. Getting life is like from kindergarten to twelfth grade. People think it's from twelve grade to kindergarten. The lesson getting harder. You go from one plus one to three EDGs times fifty eggs and then that, but you get stronger along the way that it feels like kindergarten. Wow, So you got to strengthen you so when that stuff come you know how to handle that. You're gonna be different. Okay, Nah, I ain't gonna lie because what it is sometimes the broke man got the best d so it's hard to leave me long because they gonna they focus on that.

01:27:37
Speaker 1: Like the lazy woman got the best the broken.

01:27:41
Speaker 2: A lazy way, but you come home, she just laying on that sofa for you got you got invite about you? Like if you like that, I'm lazy, You're gonna hard work. But yeah, I'm lazy.

01:27:58
Speaker 1: I never have a balance.

01:28:00
Speaker 2: Well you got that, like Joe, come on, then you be avery here. Well I hate to be on y'all day, but good lord, Okay.

01:28:12
Speaker 1: I would tell you definitely work on yourself, do some self work, do therapy, because it sounds like you've been through some things. You said you had trauma from past relationships in the past three years. I would work on yourself before hopping into a relationship. I do know that it is hard to deal with someone who is still friends with your family and still be kind of lingering. It's hard to get over somebody when they're still so close, Like you know, it's like, dang, can you just can I have my people? You know what I'm saying? Can you just go on so that I can have my life back and not think about you or constantly have to hear about what's going on with you. So I know that's hard as well. But you can't control the fact that your sister's in a relationship with one of his family members. I would just do my best to just let let your sister know. Hey, I don't want to hear anything about him. I'm trying to get over it. I know you love him, but I think it. What Country says is right.

01:29:02
Speaker 2: You have to start with yourself. That's real, all right.

01:29:09
Speaker 1: So we do something called what I'm going through and what I'm growing through? Is there anything that you're going through and growing through.

01:29:16
Speaker 2: Him going through.

01:29:19
Speaker 1: In life?

01:29:20
Speaker 2: Shoot? Really?

01:29:22
Speaker 1: Just great.

01:29:25
Speaker 2: I might be going through it, but he won't let me feel it. I don't know.

01:29:29
Speaker 1: That's good. So this hard of the show we feel in the blank. It's called keep it blank, sweetie. Oh from this episode, I would say, keep it.

01:29:46
Speaker 3: Mm hmmm.

01:29:48
Speaker 1: Creative, sweetie, never like get complacent. Always stay creative and think of new ideas and things to do.

01:29:55
Speaker 2: That's real.

01:29:56
Speaker 1: Yeah, what would you say?

01:29:58
Speaker 2: I like that?

01:29:59
Speaker 1: Like that you're going you can go with us.

01:30:00
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go with what you say, all right.

01:30:01
Speaker 1: Purple were saying keep it creative sweetie.

01:30:05
Speaker 2: Thank you Wayne, Nah, thank you, No.

01:30:07
Speaker 1: I appreciate you. You have such great insight and the way you break things down is like no one else. I appreciate your funny You had us all laughing in here. I hope you guys enjoy this episode of Keep It Positive, Sweety. If you want to be featured on our positive outcomes, listen to letter write into Keep It Positive Sweetie at gmail dot com and that's Sweetie with an ie. You can follow Keep It Positive Sweety on all platforms, and you can follow me on all platforms at luv Chris sa Reine and wait until where they can find you.

01:30:37
Speaker 2: Oh it's Country Wayne with a K kou in t R y Wayne.

01:30:41
Speaker 1: That's right, all right, stay tuned. Make sure you guys get his book. His book is entitled help Us on the Way, Stay up and Live your Truth. It's out. Get it and remember Jesus is popping and in the meantime, until next time, keep it positive, Sweetie. Love you guys can