When Motivation Runs Out, Discipline Has to Kick In: The Blueprint for Consistency

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[SPEAKER_00]: Today, we're going to talk about something that I've visited before.
[SPEAKER_00]: And oftentimes, in life, repetition deepens the impression.
[SPEAKER_00]: What do I mean by that?
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes we have to be reminded of things and go back to the drawing board or go back to square one as some call it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because sometimes we forget, we get off course.
[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, case and point the other day, I had to go ahead and check myself because I was completely off of my diet.
[SPEAKER_00]: No, not a little bit, not one cheap meal.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking about I was eating nothing according to plan.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right, so I had to pull up the note on my phone, had to pull up my meal plan, had to pull up my goals that I said, okay, all right.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, I know this already, but it's good to read it to hear it again.
[SPEAKER_00]: I know this already, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: It's cool.
[SPEAKER_00]: I wrote it down myself, right with the help of some other mentors and individuals who are assisting me alone the way, but it's good to kind of go back and revisit because this isn't even a part of the episode just yet.
[SPEAKER_00]: Check this out, it's a dangerous time of here right now.
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me tell you why, because motivation for many people has now left.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know how it is when we come out the gate, January 1, we've written down, we, we're fresh out of a vision party, vision board party, we're fresh off of writing out our goals.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, we are, I mean, hot off the press, we got all these things written down that we're going to do now, we're in the middle of February, and if you are just like me, if you're an entrepreneur, if you're a podcaster, if you're doing whatever you've got to do to move forward to get your message and you're gift out in the world, you've already
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you've already hit some things along the way.
[SPEAKER_00]: I got to put my book back up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It got to be back up y'all.
[SPEAKER_00]: You got to see it.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you've already hit some some pot holes in the road and the road along the way.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you've been living for the last six weeks on this earth, there have been times already what you've said to yourself, I'm done with this.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's too hard.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's too difficult.
[SPEAKER_00]: And also, check this out.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've already heard people try to doubt you.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've already heard people tell you, ah, today I'm gonna work.
[SPEAKER_00]: You've heard people, I mean, have you ever had a dream?
[SPEAKER_00]: You ever had a goal?
[SPEAKER_00]: You ever had a plan?
[SPEAKER_00]: And you told it to the wrong person?
[SPEAKER_00]: Remember one time I told who I thought was the wrong person about a dream that I had.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now the reason why, don't miss this, the reason why I thought they were the wrong person is because everything they said to me sounded as if it was negative.
[SPEAKER_00]: Every time I told him about the dream, the goal, the wish, the plan, the next step, ah, they had something negative to say, so I thought, but guess what?
[SPEAKER_00]: What I thought was negativity actually turned out to be something that I turned into constructive criticism.
[SPEAKER_00]: I used it as fuel to say, you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: Something that they're saying might be true.
[SPEAKER_00]: Something that they've shared with me, I may need to revisit.
[SPEAKER_00]: I may need to brush upon those things.
[SPEAKER_00]: I may need to say, oh, hey, you know what?
[SPEAKER_00]: Let me see if there's some truth and what they've just shared.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so sometimes as you think about it, as you think about this time of year where the gym, at least in my gym, I want to gym this morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not that packed, y'all.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, just three weeks ago, I couldn't find a parking spot if I went after a certain time, and I go pretty early in the morning.
[SPEAKER_00]: People are reverting back.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want that to be you.
[SPEAKER_00]: People are going back.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're saying, oh, it's too hard.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're saying, oh, I didn't.
[SPEAKER_00]: Worth it.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're saying, oh, I lost more minimum already, because what happens is motivation almost always leaves.
[SPEAKER_00]: Almost always.
[SPEAKER_00]: Commitment is the thing that keeps you going.
[SPEAKER_00]: I hope y'all are listening, please turn the volume up.
[SPEAKER_00]: Motivation will get you high, excited for a moment.
[SPEAKER_00]: But if you're not committed to what motivated you, then sometimes you lose momentum, you lose sight of the goal, you lose sight of that, which you, you out of your mouth said you were going to do this year and you'll find yourself back at square one.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is why it's important for us to build habits.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you listen to the last episode, I talked a little bit about making tiny changes and those things resulting in our or those things leading I should say to big results.
[SPEAKER_00]: We talked about the fact that sometimes you can make small tweaks, whether it be in your diet, whether it be in your routine, whether it be in your activity for the day, you can make small tweaks sometime.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because every one time I, I think I told you this before, if not, I'll, I'll share more about it later on.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I, one time in my life, I lost like a bunch of weight.
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, no old Zimpick, hey, hey, hey, don't nobody.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's, there's doing whatever you gotta do.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I didn't have any surgery.
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't have any diet pills.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just went hardcore in the gym and strict on my diet.
[SPEAKER_00]: And remember one time, I hit a wall though, I think I lost about 50 pounds.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I stayed there for, I don't know, longer than I had been, you know, staying at a certain weight doing that journey.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because if you know anything about losing weight, of course, at first it seems like it comes off like water.
[SPEAKER_00]: He goes in like five pounds a week.
[SPEAKER_00]: And remember one week, I lost, I got scared to be honest with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had to call my doctor, because I was like, yo, I lost 11 pounds this week.
[SPEAKER_00]: But of course I was working out twice a day, doing the sauna, eating nothing but protein and veggies.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's pretty much all I was eating.
[SPEAKER_00]: No sugar, no carbs, or very low carbs.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I did some carbs, it was probably like sweet potato, like once a week, and that was pretty much it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But nonetheless, when I got about 252.255, keep in mind, I started at 3.15 at that point.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not the time of day, two in a three hundred and 15 pounds.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I got it down, I lost about, man, I got another about 252.255.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I couldn't get below 245.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I had to go back to my diet, talking about tiny changes.
[SPEAKER_00]: And can you guess what I did?
[SPEAKER_00]: I made one tweak in my diet, instead of eating a whole sweet potato, sweet potato, I cut it in half.
[SPEAKER_00]: One tweak, one one small little tweak, all I did was tweak my diet just a little bit.
[SPEAKER_00]: I increased my protein intake.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think I ate like another can of tuna as part of that when I was doing that at that time.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I stopped eating, I cut the potato in half and I didn't eat the entire potato.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when I tell you that little tweak resulted in me getting renewed vigor, I start losing weight again.
[SPEAKER_00]: What?
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it's one tweak.
[SPEAKER_00]: Some of y'all tripping.
[SPEAKER_00]: You think you got to go and do this complete makeover, do this complete remodel, and you miss it it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Some of us are the reason why we're getting burnt out.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're getting discouraged because you're biting off more than you actually can chew.
[SPEAKER_00]: And here's why I, people that I coach, people that I talk to, young people that I train and mentor, I should say, they're oftentimes looking at finishing college.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, you in the 10th grade.
[SPEAKER_00]: What's the plan to get to the 11th grade?
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's start here, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm glad you have foresight.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm glad you have forethought.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm glad you're thinking down the road.
[SPEAKER_00]: Kudos you, I appreciate that.
[SPEAKER_00]: But what's the plan to get from 10th grade to the level of the grade?
[SPEAKER_00]: What are some small tweaks we can make to ensure that you stop missing your homework assignment?
[SPEAKER_00]: What are we going to do to make sure that you're not skipping school and on probation and all that's kind of, what are we going to do to get from here to the next step?
[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes in life when you look at all the goals and dreams that you have.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, let's be honest, you get overwhelmed by your own list.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you look at, and hit me, hit me up, please, listen to me real closely.
[SPEAKER_00]: You should have a list.
[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, if you are a part of the Christian community, you already know that the Word of God says, we've got a right division and make it plain.
[SPEAKER_00]: So it is divine, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: It is a part of God's orders, marching orders for us to write down our goals and dreams and our vision.
[SPEAKER_00]: But sometimes it would do us good to make a list as long as you can make it and then break that bad boy down.
[SPEAKER_00]: what on this list can I tackle this week?
[SPEAKER_00]: What on this list can I tackle this morning?
[SPEAKER_00]: What on this list can I tackle today?
[SPEAKER_00]: What on this list?
[SPEAKER_00]: What steps can I make?
[SPEAKER_00]: How can I break this big chunk down into baby steps?
[SPEAKER_00]: My son will be four on Sunday.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, if you listen to this podcast episode with a drops in real time, as I'm recording it, he's Sunday coming, but by the time you hear this, it would have been this past Sunday.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, he'll be four.
[SPEAKER_00]: He would have turned four already.
[SPEAKER_00]: And one of the things as I'm reflecting on his life, when he was born, yes, oh man, in my mind, I envision him being four.
[SPEAKER_00]: I had a plan, my wife and I had a plan for, this is what we're going to do the first year.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is what we're going to do the second year, third year, so forth and so on.
[SPEAKER_00]: But when he was born, the goal was to get him strong enough just to get home.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right.
[SPEAKER_00]: Many of you know my story.
[SPEAKER_00]: My son was born a little bit before the due date, and so he was a little small fella.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right fit right and almost in the palm of my hand almost this is a bigger than that, but he was just a small fella So I wasn't thinking about four years old at that time.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, okay, what can we do to ensure that he he he develops so that he can be alive and stronger tomorrow?
[SPEAKER_00]: What do we need doc?
[SPEAKER_00]: What kind of milk do we need?
[SPEAKER_00]: What kind of whatever assistance does he need to get from from from this week to next week?
[SPEAKER_00]: Now it's great, great, you got to plan it.
[SPEAKER_00]: He will get a passport when he's foreign.
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, that's great, you got all those great grand plans.
[SPEAKER_00]: But what are you going to do to get from today to tomorrow?
[SPEAKER_00]: So there's six habits real quickly that I want to give you again.
[SPEAKER_00]: But I think we'll be of benefit to your life for the person you share this episode with there.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think they would.
[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, I'm confident that they'll glean something from this number one.
[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, I wrote it down to make sure I did not miss a step.
[SPEAKER_00]: according to the American Psychological Association, they say that having a morning routine can lead to improve mental health and better focus throughout the day.
[SPEAKER_00]: So developing an effective morning routine is of benefit.
[SPEAKER_00]: Most of the people that I know that are Uber successful.
[SPEAKER_00]: The people that I know that are,
[SPEAKER_00]: They don't just get up and let the day happen.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, their days like that.
[SPEAKER_00]: Trust me, trust me, there are days where I wake up.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have no plans.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have nothing that I have on my calendar or to do list.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I say to myself, hey, listen, today is a free day.
[SPEAKER_00]: Haha, maybe what you want to do, maybe I'm talking about my wife, what you want to do?
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, let's just lounge around or see what happens or whatever, so some days right, but for the by-large.
[SPEAKER_00]: have an ineffective morning routine, whether that's getting up and engaging in some kind of meditation, whether you get up and engage in some kind of prayer, whatever you've got to do to get yourself centered for the day to move forward and be the most efficient and effective person that you can be, you ought to make that a part of your routine.
[SPEAKER_00]: Here are some ideas, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: With regard to that morning routine, do you exercise?
[SPEAKER_00]: That's another habit that you can view.
[SPEAKER_00]: That can be habit number two.
[SPEAKER_00]: Number one, develop a net morning routine, and then within that habit, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Within that morning routine, I'm developing additional habits.
[SPEAKER_00]: Habit number two, an exercise routine.
[SPEAKER_00]: get them endorphins going, getting myself to a place where, in fact, one of the things that I think about that I have developed as a result of going to the gym and doing what I don't want to do every single day, pushing myself to say, you know what, you're tired, you don't feel
[SPEAKER_00]: has the passability of bleeding over.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's possible, I should say, that developing that kind of mindset within your morning routine, particularly in your exercise routine.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're just going for a three mile walk and you get to the mile number two and you say to yourself, wow, I'm not bleeding.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not about to die.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just, my body just hurts.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can push it.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you have to do hard things, when it comes to your livelihood, when it comes to your family life, when it comes to your business life, if you've already developed that muscle, you can then find yourself in position where you're pulling from what I've developed in the gym and that now applies to my life.
[SPEAKER_00]: The daily gratitude routine, that's powerful.
[SPEAKER_00]: Again, these are some of the things that you've heard me share with you before, but again, I think some of you are falling off, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because I mean, let's, I mean, let me, let me, can I be transparent?
[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
[SPEAKER_00]: Motivation is gone.
[SPEAKER_00]: What has kicked in for me right now in this moment is commitment.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm committed to, I mean, there are some days I get up, I don't feel like exercise.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't feel like doing daily gratitude.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't feel like journaling.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't feel like doing any of that.
[SPEAKER_00]: commitment has kicked in.
[SPEAKER_00]: Some of the things I want to share with you, a couple more habits, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Learning and I share with you before that that most successful people crack open a book, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And they read, they learn that they're not in class at university or college or high
[SPEAKER_00]: So being a lifelong learner is important for us.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's important for you, it's important for me.
[SPEAKER_00]: Listen, and I'll share with you this with you before it's well.
[SPEAKER_00]: I travel in my mind through books.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're places I've never been, but I think I've been because I've read about that place or those places in a book.
[SPEAKER_00]: to be a lifelong learner and then ensure make sure that your social connections are improving your life.
[SPEAKER_00]: Some people have a bunch of friends just to have a bunch of friends and I want iron to sharpen iron.
[SPEAKER_00]: those people that I hang out with, those people that I'm connected to, those people that I roll with, man, listen, I get it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not going to be on 24-7, but at some point along the way, if we are in community together, I need to learn something from you, I don't need to be sharpening my own tools, so you can learn something from me as well.
[SPEAKER_00]: So make sure your social connections are feeding you, are benefiting you, or helping you to grow, helping you to uncover hidden gems and talents and jewels in your life, and also stressing you to think.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because sometimes our social connections do old people that are close to us, get us to a place where they're not rude about it, but they really tell us about ourselves.
[SPEAKER_00]: They really help us to dig deep.
[SPEAKER_00]: They help us to really, really, really, really be truthful.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do this training and I'll get a chance to do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Having done it on a while with the corporate group in a couple of months here in Northern California or in Northern California, I live in Southern, but in Northern California, where I help leaders, I help team members become more self-aware.
[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes it's interesting because we have friends that try to help us become more self-aware and sometimes we don't want to hear it.
[SPEAKER_00]: You ever had somebody to tell you, you got a bad attitude and you argue with them all day long?
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's like, well, you're not giving yourself the attitude so you don't feel it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, you don't give it yourself, a snobby, whatever, you can't feel it.
[SPEAKER_00]: But other people around you can feel it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes you are blindly moving forward, not being real about your present state.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you find yourself going into rooms.
[SPEAKER_00]: The people are like, hmm, the room changed when you walk in and not for it, and it wasn't a good thing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes being self-aware.
[SPEAKER_00]: not only helps us, but helps those around us, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And helping those around us, the entire team wins.
[SPEAKER_00]: So make sure, as you think about revisiting the habits that you want to feed your goals this year.
[SPEAKER_00]: Make sure that you are
[SPEAKER_00]: passionate and adamant about your morning routine make sure that you have some kind of movement everybody in the lift weights everybody doesn't run everybody doesn't do so whatever whatever will help you in the morning to get moving make sure you are practicing daily gratitude
[SPEAKER_00]: Make sure you're journaling and getting those thoughts out.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll tell you before about this brain dump that I've adopted now.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I got it from, I forgot the guy's name, but writing out stuff so he doesn't take it to bed.
[SPEAKER_00]: See a brain can actually turn off at night.
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, make that a part of your routine.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you've constantly laying in bed with these thoughts, whether it be positive thoughts about, you know, your future about you, but whatever it is, do a brain dump before you go to bed.
[SPEAKER_00]: Write them out, get them out of your mind.
[SPEAKER_00]: Get, I mean, write it right out, hey, tomorrow, I want to do X, Y, and Z, or here's what's on my mind and to call this personal, right get, do a brain dump.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you can rest and be a peace throughout the night.
[SPEAKER_00]: Listen, I hope that you all got something from our time together today.
[SPEAKER_00]: Our goal is always to go, to grow and to glow every single day.
[SPEAKER_00]: So as you're moving forward, as you're tapping into commitment, even if motivation has left, I hope it has.
[SPEAKER_00]: But if it has, that's the reality.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's real life.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hope that you can tap into your commitment to yourself, to your family, to your future.
[SPEAKER_00]: And out of that, I'm hoping and I'm believing that you'll revisit your habits, your bill newer habits, a better habits, you will build on the habits that you've already created and don't forget that tiny changes can oftentimes lead to humongous, to big results that were cataportial life.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll be great.
[SPEAKER_00]: Have a good rest of it.
[SPEAKER_00]: They don't forget to go to grow and to grow peace.