Bachelorette Clare Crawley: Part 2

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Speaker 1: Welcome back. That's our happy our listeners. If you tuned in last week, you now know we had our next Bachelorette, Claire Crowley on the podcast, and she spoke so much truth you guys. We obviously had so much to talk to her about. So here is part two of that conversation. Right now, I feel like, Becca, this is the perfect time for us to give you advice Claire, because I don't know. I know that now you know some more details about your season, but I don't know if we're usually bachelorettes come on the season you know and give advice. I don't know if that's going to be able to happen. So I think now is a good time where we give you some advice. I would love you kidding me. I've been waiting for this moment. I would love it. Well, Claire, this wasn't planned in the podcast, but right before you hopped on, I did a little digging in a bunch of boxes in my apartment and I found the Bachelor Bible that Rachel, Caitlin and Joejoe made for me. I met them one before I met my guys, and they gave me the Batchelor, a bible they have some great things written in here, so we'll go through them. But I also I think we need to add our own and like write some more stuff and then I'll send it to you. But this was so good to carry on and pass down. Yeah, I don't know why we didn't give it to Hannah. I blame you because you had it and you didn't give it to Hannah. Hey, okay, I'm gonna blame it on my mom then, because it was in her basement for the past two years and she just send this to me. Claire's like, I'll take it. That's fine. I could just through Like it's fine. No, I mean, truth be told, it was an idea that started with your season. Becca. We didn't have it before, so it was an idea with you. We can make Hannah one so she has one too, and so she feels included. But we should get it, you know, pass it on down to Claire. If I don't remember what I wrote, and I hope it's not the same information that the advice that I'm about to give you off the top of my head now, Claire. But the thing, the thing that stands out to me the most is I thought, obviously never been the beast wrap. But I just thought I had this down, Like I was like, I know who I am. I got this, you know, I know what I want. I know the type of man I want. I know what I'm looking for. You know, I'll meet these guys, but whatever. And I remember the first night, which is Claire I was. I said the same thing to you, Becca. I was like, this night is so, it's so exciting, Claire, you have no I could cry talking about the first night because I know that joy, the joy you're gonna feel getting ready and knowing that however many men come, there are there for you, right reasons, wrong reasons, forget it. It's your season, you're in charge. They came to be a part of your journey. It is powerful, every emotions, it's all of it. But that first night I remember and they come up in the limo. You're standing there, Chris like leaves you and it's just you. And I remember meeting the guys and I had gone through all of the women, and I was like, this is it worth the rest? I was so it was, And honestly because not because they were bad guys, because I overall loved the group of men that I had it was just it happened so fast, and people are doing silly things when they come out of the limo that I wasn't overall impressed. And I remember a producer pulling me to the side. They were like, you know, you do you have some favorites. I couldn't name favorites. I wasn't. I just it just didn't hit me the way that I thought all that emotion I had coming in. So I remember a producer said to me, give it time and be open because there really are some great men. And that was the best advice I could get because after the limo interests and then I was talking to the men. It was amazing. After that, I was like, I like this one, this one, this one, this one and this one, and so if I could give you advices, it's like you think you know that you have no idea, So truly be open to everybody that comes through, because you will be beautifully surprised at the men that you meet on your season. M oh b, I am. I feel like that's amazing advice. Thank you, Thank you so much for saying that, because it is scary going what if my guy's not there? You know, like, what if there's so many things that go through your mind, you know, if like m damn, or what if I don't feel it right away or so I appreciate that. Oh, but the joy of the first night, I just can't put it into words for you, Claire. It's so much fun. It's so great it is, and as Rachel said, it goes by so incredibly fast, Like I like, because I think I had twenty eight guys maybe, And as Rachel said, you're like, that's it, like the arrivals are already done, and then you go into something else and you're being like pulled every which way. But it's that anticipation that like you have so much to look forward to. I think play on top of what Rachel said, too, is like there's no other time in your life where you will meet this many guys at once, like all vying for you and your attention. And I look at first felt awkward. I was like I don't deserve this, like I'm not worthy. Like it was very weird because it's like you want to be humble, you want to stay grounded. But then also too, it's like, damn, like these twenty eight men are here for me, so let me just say, especially night one. Don't like soak that in revel in that like appreciate the fact that, as Rachel said, all of these men, well, hopefully they've done their homework. If they haven't, I mean, by but all of these men should hopefully know by now who Claire Crawley is. They should want to have the opportunity and the privilege to have your time and your conversations and get to know you. And vice verst to two. As like, I'm playing off of everything that Rachel said, but I mean, for me, I'm like, pretty like I feel it. If I like you, I like you. If I don't, I don't. And so I for me, really had to take a step back and be like, maybe talk to these guys a little bit more. Maybe talk to somebody who you kind of just wrote off because you thought he was like the goofy, funny one. Because you will always be surprised. There's going to be one moment in time where your brain's going to click to somebody else and you're gonna be like, I didn't see that in this man in the beginning, and I'm really pleasantly surprised, and it's you know, and not to say he might not be the one, but there's something so powerful and special about exhausting each and every relationship to the very end. I mean, and you're you're going to exhaust a lot of them in a very short amount of time. One other thing too, that I I've heard this from a lot of the past, leads to is make time for yourself. You're going to be going like crazy. You are going to be constantly having conversations, You're gonna be constantly in interviews. You're gonna be bust from place to place and between men to men and in fittings and all of this. There's so much craziness in chaos that you really don't have a lot of time for yourself, especially in the beginning weeks. So even if it's fifteen minutes, like pretend you have to go to the bathroom you don't feel good, Take fifteen minutes, just hide away, keep a journal if you can. But you need that alone time to really sift and think on your own and so utilize that whenever you can. It's gonna be very important for your sammy be you know. You know what's funny is I'm very much. I always tell people I'm kind if I like, I'm an introvert in the way where I need my own time to recharge. So I think that is going to be key. And that's excellent advice because I already need that in life as it is right now, and I like my alone time and I appreciate that's where I recharge. So I definitely will be trying to fit in as much as I can of that. Yeah, now you have to like plane flights, car rides. I mean I pretended to, like I had to go poop like every hour just because I needed alone time. Okay, that might be t and I but I needed to just like sit, whatever it takes, whatever, saying her makeup like whenever you're doing that too. To add on to that, this is something Ali told me which I loved, was she said that she regretted not enjoying her season, not taking the time to its one thing, to take time for yourself and you need that, like Becca was saying, everything she said is true, but also taking the time to appreciate the moment of things, because like Becca said, you'll be pulled in so many different ways, and you go to bed late and you get up early, and you have to do all these itms, and then you're trying to remember names and stories and backgrounds, and then there's some guys you're just not interested in that. You get caught up in the present and then you don't appreciate what's actually happening. Like you're the bachelorette and it's a beautiful experience and you're having this chance to write your love story and remember that, remember those moments like when you're taking that time to reflect, remember that time to be grateful and to appreciate the present because it goes so fast. It's in the blink of an eye. It's so fast. You another one so excited for it. It literally hasn't, like I said, it hasn't felt real up until these last couple of days where I'm like, Okay, it's really happening, and it's happening soon. So I already was in the moment of like go go, go, go go before the quarantine happened. So you're right, You're absolutely right. I need to slow down and live in the moment, because when else do we get to experience this and live it. You know, you are one of now, well one of fifteen other women who get to be in this position, like that's such a small feel few. I cannot talk right now. That's such a small few. And just as we're just said, live in it, soak it in, appreciate it because it's gonna go by fast. Like I'm two years removed now, and I still like, look back. I kept a journal and I reread little moments for little details. It's just a word that I I kept in my journal, and I'm like, oh my gosh, it takes me back to that moment to kind of be there and remember it and embrace it and love it because you're in for a journey, Claire. One other thing that I think we have to say, which the producers are awesome at, always keeping on hand breath mints are key. Listening strips will be your best friend. You never know when someone's going to show up to your hotel room at like two in the morning to have a conversation. You never know when some guy's going to steal you away to kiss you behind the fireplace. I mean, you've been on the show, You've done a few seasons, so you know. I think I kept like listening and my brow at one point just to be like I have it on hand. Oh I swear to God. If a guy shows up that my place to two in the morning and I've only get four hours to sleep, you better turn around and go home because late I need my sleep. Yeah. Well, yeah, you're not going to get much of it, especially those first three weeks. Yeah. Function, How do you function through it? I'm coffee, coffee. I don't drink alcohol. I need will Claire, not even alcohol. Well, they don't really let you drink a lot of alcohol as a lead, but no coffee. Will you do a Red Bull? Nothing? No, I don't know. You know what I do get is green tea from Starbucks, or I get red Coca Classic Coca Cola. That'll hop me up. That's perfect. They'll keep you stocked up with Coca Cola on your off days to try to get an ivy with just extra vitamins that will hopefully help nice. Okay, good call CoA call. But but honestly too, I don't even remember drinking a lot of coffee. The adrenaline, the excitement of especially when you're going to see that one guy you're really interested in, or a few whatever. Um, that's gonna keep you going to like you're excited. Oh I'm putting on this outfit. This is super cute. Oh I love my makeup in my hair today. Oh I'm in this place. This date's gonna be really exciting. It'll be little things like that that'll get you going, that will make you excited. Yeah yeah, and oh my god, I'm gonna stop with the advice, but another thing that would help me with as far as energy, and you'll get this right. I remember what it was like, and I know you guys too, did too, when we were on the Bachelor and you're waiting for those ten minutes at a cocktail party you could spend with the lead, or you're on a group date and you just want that alone time for ten to fifteen minutes, and you remember that feeling. I remember thinking when I was the lead, whenever I'm with somebody, I have to be present and give them my full attention because I remember what it was like to be waiting all day just to get ten minutes with Nick in my case, So that also kept me going because I want I never wanted to forget. I never wanted to feel like I was too big. Oh I'm the lead now, No, I was just like you, and I want to honor that you're here for me for whatever reason. Staying present. That's so key, that's so key. I hear you on that. I'm definitely gonna work on that because it can't be overwhelming, right like you and it will for directions, will so be overwhelming. It will be, yeah, so overwhelming. But you have a great team that will be on your side too, who's always there to kind of especially when at first, like I'm terrible with names to begin with, and we all saw I forgot Jason same at one point. But the team really is there to help you. Then another thing that really helps is of course Chris Harrison. Lean on him when you can. I mean, he has seen it all. He has had every type of conversation in the book. So lean on him when you can. And also like the dream Team, I mean we talked to Carrie and Gina on the podcast. For those of you who didn't tune in, we had the stylists and the makeup artist from the show who really are there to just like they became such friends, such confidence. They're there there to like make you look gorgeous and flawless, but there's so much more than that. So lean on them too, because they kept me. Saying kept me grounded, especially in the moments when I needed it, when I felt like I didn't want to talk about anything in an interview or in front of the guys. So they're going to be good to help you too. I already love them so incredibly much. Yeah, I've known them the whole time, but just now in this space even doing like the fittings and the makeup for all the shoots and stuff. Already, like, I've just adore them, and they you can tell, like you said, they're such an a friend role and that dream team of like we got you. You know that they're not trying to produce anything that I'm trying to do it anything more than to just be there for you. And so I think that's amazing. If you could have one date on your season, or one group date, what would it be? One group dates the one I've always keep trying to commence them of. I hope they do this so bad, but I want so. I do snnet and cold plunge. I don't know if you've heard of Oh gosh, I've done it, Okay, So I do cold plunges every single day, um, and it is the thing that I just live for and I joke as my friend because he's always like the guy who I do it with, he's his studio. He's always like, guys get in here and just jump right out. And I the best thing I want from like, I want them to do this. I want to put him in speedos. I basically want to see because you know, you know, if you've done it before. Those ice bafts are not about the water being cold. It's about sitting in the uncomfortable and how you handle uncomfortableness. So I want to know what guys will sit in there and stay in the uncomfortable, or what guys will jump out. I want to see because I can stay in it and it's built me a minute. It's taken me a minute to build that up. But I want to see if they will or can't. That's so funny, that's good, step it up, that's good TV. Clear this is you got to add on an extra layer to that. So when they're in the cold water, in the uncomfortable, you have to have whoever stays in it, who chooses to make them share something uncomfortable with you. Oh I like that. Oh that's something deep down dirty love this. That's really good Okay, So I know this is our podcast and we usually do the questioning, but while we're here and we're just in this space of sharing advice and you know, like just lifting each other up, Claire, what advice do you? Not advice? But is there anything that you want to ask us, Like maybe that's been on your mind. I know we have a sisterhood and we have our own group chat with the bachelorettes, but maybe there's something that you know it's been on your mind that you want to take this chance to ask us. You guys have actually covered a lot of it. This is more than I've talked to any prayer bachelottes about kind of doing the season and being honest, and you guys have been given amazing advice. So for me, I'm more so actually just want to thank you guys for doing that and kind of being here for me because I think it's an important thing that, like you guys have said before, and we know that there's only fifteen women or sixteen now women that have done this. It's not of people. And I'm the one that share and the ones that reach out and say this helped me or this is a piece of advice I have appreciated that, and I appreciate it that more than anything in the entire world, because it's kind of a weird space where not a lot of people can understand it and relate to it. So thank you at least even reaching out and talking to me and messaging me. It's it's kind of lifted me up and made me feel encouraged. So oh so I just want to say thank you for this stuff. And I'm sure you'll be getting texted me and being like, what about this? What do I That's what we're here for. That's what this is about. When you were saying when you were when you were just talking, and thank you for saying that, Like it's our pleasure, Like this is what this is about. I feel bad for people listening because I'm like, we're just having our own love fest. Sorry you guys, but this is also just like I don't know for anybody who needs this type of encouragement, who needs to be lifted up. One thing I was thinking when you were just talking now is you won't because you won't get a chance to talk to us while you're in your season. It's it's a different world when it's just you as the lead, no family, no friends, no former bachelorrettes. It's just you and the producers and your gut, which is what you have to go by. You know, Becca and I are both with our first impression Rose guys. We trusted our gut. But when it got down to the final few, it's a really hard decision. And for various reasons. It's not even because you don't know what you're gonna do. It's just so hard. You've got you've grown close with these people at this point, You've shared things, you've exerted certain emotions with them, and so it's hard to cut it off, to let it go, to break someone's heart and send them home. And so when you get to those moments, I remember, like, I'm asking what did Jojo do? Because Jojo was before me? And I remember Becca being like, what did Rachel do? And I'm sure Hannah asked what a Becca do? And you'll ask the same thing. And so the best thing I can tell you is because you will be so alone and it is your decision, and you have to be comfortable with what you're doing, and you can get all all the advice in the world, but you have to know, you know what your what decision you're going to make and live with that. So trust your gut. Don't at the end of the day when it comes down to whatever, because it will come down to the one and you will have a ring on your finger and you will be engaged. Is that what it says, just follow your gut, Just follow your gut. Advice Peace number two is just follow your guts, and that is so true. It will not lead you astray. But you know what, rich I feel like, Claire, I'm not worried about you. I mean, you sure you're gonna go through the ups and the downs, and you're going to have really sad moments and days and your heart is going to feel like it's being torn out of your chest. But out of anyone who has probably been in this position, I am not worried about you. I think that you, at the end of the day, will whatever is meant to happen will happen for you. And you just seem to attract such You just have this positive energy and I feel like you'll attract that and at the end of the day, you, if I have faith in anyone, you will follow your gut. You will listen to your heart, and you will hopefully find the right man for you that I can promise I'll definitely follow my gut. Like we were talking out in the very beginning of this podcast, Rachel, you had said that everything happens for a reason, and one of the blessings I would say that I took from my season being on one Pablo season and from how I was treated was not discounting somebody for even just showing up and being there and letting them know the gratitude for them even doing that and being there. And I can only imagine for the people that make it to the end. I can't imagine how hard it's going to be, and it's gonna be crazy hard, right, But one thing that I really will and I try to practice every day in life as it is, but just to those men just knowing that they're there and they've put their life on hold, everything, their jobs on hold, their families on hold, they put everything on hold to be there for this, and to have a sense of gratitude to let them know even just how much I appreciate them doing this, I think goes a long way. Even if it's not the person for me or I'm not the person for them, knowing that I appreciate them even being there, because that was something that I wasn't told and didn't feel like that I had given up my whole life and my job. I had given up my job to be there, and I wasn't getting paid. I didn't get paid leave for being a hairstylist and going on the show. There's a choice I made, but it was also there wasn't even like a thank you or anything of like thank you for opening up your heart, thank you for being here, or just thank you for being open thing that I want to even just be if things don't work out with certain people, that that gratitude and let it. I hope they know, and I hope they feel from my heart as hard as it is, but also just my appreciation for appreciation for them even being there, and I hope that comes well. And that's the beauty of you now being the lead is you have that opportunity and you know, maybe leads have failed in the past, like he who must not be named who season you started on, but you have that ability and that power to show that graciousness and to show that thankfulness. You know, we're lucky because at the top of each cocktail party or at the top of each row ceremony, you can pick and choose how you want to address the men and how you want to start each night and each date. And that's something that for me personally, I was really kind of nervous about. I kept thinking about, like, what am I going to say? I'm I ever going to find the right words for these guys, and you just have to feel it out. But but I think that sentiment will go a long way to them. It just shows your heart and where it is. It's in the right place with these men, and I think that they'll appreciate it. I hope. So it's one of the perks I think of being older is that our life experiences and things we've been through, even though it might not be a good experience, have all taught us something. And this is one of those lessons for me, is that graduate and I hope it does convey properly to them that they see that I'm grateful for them even be in there. Yeah, so I want to ask. Obviously, especially in this day and age, life is so unpredictable. Obviously, we don't know who you're gonna meet, who's gonna step out of the limo. I mean, we know some of the guys, but we don't know who you'll end up with ultimately at the end. So in your perfect world, envisioning a couple months down the road, you're with the man of your dreams, what does that look like, and what's your hopeful happy ending here? A happy ending to me, obviously, would be staying true to myself. And I think that's key to say, because I think a lot of people have said in the past, like how many shows have you been on or how many times are you going to do this? And you, oh, this is You've already had four tries at this. And when I say being true to myself, that means loving myself for first. And if that means there's no man at the end for me, that means there's no man at the end for me. But if they're hopefully in my best ideal situation would be the man of my dreams is there, and we can walk away and not be We can honestly just go back into normal life. I've always said, and I told I told Mike Swie in them this in the very beginning. I'm not here to be famous as weird as this is because it is a TV show. I love my job and I love my life here and I wouldn't change it for the world. I want a man that I can bring back into that life, that will go on a Friday night to the nursing home with me to visit my mom, and that will be after dinner going on the walks with my dog and not care about anything other than finding that happiness like that I'm looking for. That's so important and it's so refreshing to hear. I mean, you never know how this is going to take, where this is going to take you, and who you're going to end up with, and where you may move or where you may stay, or how your career path may end. But it's so nice to hear you say. I just want a man who is going to fit into my life. And I'm not trying to do this for whatever now Claire. Should an opportunity present itself, take it, Daanan, But I'm not taking away from what you're saying. I totally know what you mean by that, and I love that you said that, and the people need to hear that, and that is why, like you guys, I don't I feel like people have such short term memory Claire, they were asking for you without even calling you by name, like Beca and I were doing podcasting in these other seasons before, and the audiences has been so frustrated with what we've seen and the type of lead that they have been requesting, all the things they say that they want you have. So I know we're excited to watch your season and they are too. I feel like, Okay, I feel like we just completed the first thirty minutes of your season, because you know how it's like the Bachelorette talk and it's giving advice. Like I feel like I should be like and that's a rap, no, But I do want to ask you because I feel like we, you know, we just had our moment. But I want to turn this back to the people who are also listening to us right now. And Claire, you're a role model, even though your season hasn't started. Just listening to the things that you're saying, the life that you live, the experiences that you've gone through, you have a lot to say. I mean, we've written chapters three, four, and five in this podcast of your story, but there will be a lot of women who come to you, and it's it's such a beautiful thing, Claire. They will come to you and they're probably already in your DMS asking you for advice about life and what is it like to be a single woman in their thirties who has their career, who maybe hasn't found the man of their life or the one for them. What advice do you have for those women? Because you are you are wearing so many hats as the lead. Yeah, I think for me, the best thing I could say for being somebody who is thirty nine the piece of advice that I would give that I kind of laugh people when they're like, I can't belave it thirty nine and single, you're desperate, or this or that. My best best piece of advice I could say is, I personally would rather be spending twenty years with the man of my dreams being wholly loved for who I am, rather than fifty sixty years with the wrong man and takes that much extra time, or if it takes an extra month or an extra year, no matter what age, let yourself be loved by the right person and find that right person for you and don't settle a lot of people have said that you're so picky or just you need to learn. I've been told so many times to settle. I can't, even by my friends and by other people too. It's and it's I would rather love myself enough by myself than to be with the wrong person, because trust me, I have been with the wrong person. I have been in those relationships and they are exhausting, and they are draining, and they deplete and kind of take away from who you are. And I would rather spend a shorter amount of time with the right man who lifts me up and matches me in my energy, rather than a longer time the wrong person. Well said. And this, ladies and gentlemen, is why Claire deserves to be our next patchirette. I know, I feel like we should we snap him right now. So good. I always question. I questioned the people who are like, I can't believe you're thirty nine in single, And it's like, do you understand the perks that come with being thirty nine in single? Like I can sleep as late as I bob, no kids bothering me, I can travel wherever I want to go. I mean, there are perks to all different situations. But yeah, it's not just I'm not sitting here on a Friday night going what can I do with myself? And I'm not having pity parties by any Yeah. Yeah, you're living your best life and you will do that with or without a man. And that's the advice that you're given to these ladies. Absolutely. Man does not define you all right. So looking back, if you could sit with twenty year old Claire face to face, what advice would you give to her? This is the question that makes me cry every time. How don't I get so emotional about it? But I don't even know where I would start with that. But if I could speak to twenty year old Claire, I would say, it's gonna be okay. And all the hard work that you're gonna put in and that you're going to be going through it's goodna sep. And it's gonna challenge you to your clore, but it's all for the greater good for yourself and for your life, and you you're worth it. You're worth fighting for it, and you're worth fighting for yourself, you know, fighting for your own happiness. It is worth it, and it's gonna suck and it's gonna be hard, but fight for yourself because at the end of the day. There are going to be times when you feel like you're the only one fighting for yourself and nobody fights for you, and you're all alone. But as long as you don't give up on yourself, it's worth it. It's so worth it. And I mean I say that and it gets me emotional because I've had so many moments of feeling so alone I just want to give up. But seeing where I'm at now in life and seeing how I feel about everything in life now, it is so incredibly worth it to just when nobody else is there for you, be there for yourself. Claire. I don't have anything else to say. I mean, it's that the okay I can't speak, that's like, clearly do you have you have rendered racial speechless and not to cry. I don't know how often that happens. True, It's true. I literally I was sitting here a couple like last month, reflecting on it, and I was just sitting there, going, God, if I could even just tell younger Claire, it's gonna be okay, It's gonna be okay. Be yourself, be authentic. There will be somebody out there that will love you for every piece of your being, regardless of how dirty or ugly or bad or hard it's been. There is somebody out there along with yourself that would love you for that. I think it's so somebody needed. Apparently I needed to hear that because I'm over here getting emotional. I think that is the perfect way to end this podcast because what you said was so passionate, it was so hard felt, it was so rich, and I felt it. I felt like I needed to hear that at twenty. I needed to hear that at thirty. But I'm saying, you know, and I just I it was. It was beautiful, It was so well put. I becca place because well, I don't even want to top that. I mean, you like, out of any season that we've known who the lead's going to be, I think this is the one that I am most looking forward to. It's so deserving to go to you. And I'm glad that we had you on before you left from filming. I think when we had Peter on, he had just rapped filming, so he was in a different mindset. But to be able to have you on and give our audience a chance to get to know you a little bit more and to get to know your background and your story and where your heart is and what you're hopefully wanting to get from this journey. I think it's just going to make our listeners fall in love with you a little bit more. And I just feel really grateful and Rachel, I hope I can speak for both of us, but I just feel grateful that we've had this opportunity to talk with you. And I truly cannot wait to see where this goes for you, because I really think it's going to be the best, the best experience of your entire life, and good things are going to come, and I cannot wait for you. Thank you so much. I literally can't wait. It's been a long time coming for me and I'm ready. I'm ready to show the hard parts and the ugly parts, and I don't I guess in the past, I haven't shared with it because, like I said, I looked at it as a weakness or I don't want to people. I still don't want people to feel sorry for me or to go like she's playing the victim here, because it's not that I want other people to see that. Like I'm proud of how far I've come from what I've gone through, and I'm a survivor instead of a victim. And I want people to see and to feel that into gaining that mentality for themselves too, that you can overcome stuff and it's so no matter how long it takes, it's so worth it. So I feel like this is all that that goal for me that I've been working so hard and I'm still working at that I can finally be ready for this. I think it's your time, Claire, and we are so excited for you, happy to sit back and watch it all unfold. Yes, me too, me too. We say that now, but we shall see. Yeah, I mean, Clai, we gotta talk about you on the podcast. But it's all up. It's all up, no well, and regardless if you come back with a big old rock on your hand or not, you have fifteen other women who have been where you have been, who are here to support you no matter what happens throughout the entire season. You know, you can always call on us once once you get your phone back, but um, this is your time, so soak it and live it up, balls to the walls. I mean, I don't even know what other inspirational things to say, but it's right, that's right. Somebody said, um, why don't are you? Were you for a dancer? I was never a dancer. I've tried okay times, but I'm not a dancer. Hey, producers, listen to this dancing date. That's Claire. It's already, it's already happened to Claire. You know what's gonna happen, say your weakness is to the producers, Claire, we love you. We're so happy we had you on today. Thank you for talking with us, to just opening up a little bit more and to sharing your beautiful soul. And I cannot wait to see where this I hate seeing journey, but where this journey is gonna take you? Nothing but love for you, guys and Becca, we need to talk about Dexter. I'm gonna message you right after this. I'm gonna see if we can get a Dexter date on the line. Oh shoot, my god, trying to wrap people up in plastic I can't. I can't. I think we gotta fine tune it a little bit. But um, it's that's a that's a coronavirus appropriate date though not what I mean. Just see how bad you can scare the men like thinking that their lives are on the line. Here, Oh, just nothing. When it comes down to the line, fight or flight, Let's see what you got. Let's see fight or Flight chapter six? All right, because been so much fun, Claire. We love you. We will let you get back to it, and we can't wait to watch you do it all. Thank you guys for everything, and opefully love this so much, so thank you so much, Thank you, bye girl. Becca. There aren't many times where I can't speak. She rendered you speechless. I got it on one hand. I mean, I mean it was a deep question, but I didn't know that. That's I mean, you can tell somebody who's really been through some things and then taken the time to reflect on where they are now. When they give that kind of answer, they've definitely done the work. Like she's not just saying I've done the work. No, no, no no, no. Her last answer means she's done the work. And if you are out there listening and you're one of these men on her season, you're welcome because we just gave you a whole guy to understand Claire and the gift that she is. Yes, well, and so one thing, And I know I lost my train of thought earlier when we were talking to her at the beginning. But you know, we're in this day and age where we keep pushing for change. You know, we've talked about it a lot in diversity on the franchise. But one thing, and which is why I'm so happy that we're changing it up a little bit and bringing on Claire, is because she's done this before. She's been on a few seasons. She is a little bit older, She's dated all types of men, has been in all sorts of relationships, and I'm glad that we're steering away from just like the young you know, super like just hopeful. Oh yeah, I'm here to find love like. She is the real deal. As you said, She's put in the work, she has really grown in herself and she owns it and so I cannot wait for her season. She was one when before she was even announced, when they were throwing out different bachelorettes out there, at first, she didn't even cross my mind, you know, I assumed it would maybe be Tia, somebody from Peter's season. But she, I think is well and beyond just like the best choice at this time to really bring us back to the roots of what the show is, and that is to find a solid partnership and I cannot wait. I told her this too. I'm like, I feel like you're really like okay with putting the guys through the ringer for your heart. And it's gonna be such a balanced season, full of drama, full of fun, full of love, full of heartfelt conversations, full of depth, and she's going to deliver all of that and more. I have no doubt. Absolutely. And I was thinking the whole time we were doing the interview with her, what would be her tagline? That's what I kept thinking. I thought, what is it going to be? And I feel like it has to after this whole time we've been talking to her, I'm like, it has to be something with clarity, right because that's where she is right now. And if y'all take it, I'm suing and withis. I love that? Yeah, I love And this is one podcast that I think multiple times listening to her speak, I have gotten full body chills with things that she has said. You know, as women, we have all been through tough breakups, we have all been through hard times, like we can all relate in that way. We're all human, and she does a great job of putting that into words where we can all understand. And I hope that viewers can watch her and listen to her and not just look at her as the Bachelorette, but like as just Claire, this amazing human being who has grown so much since we've seen her six years ago. Yeah, I'm excited, you're excited. I just with Claire. What you see is what you get, and I can't wait for it to all unfold. You guys, if you did know about Claire before, now you know. And we thank you so much for hanging out with us because we're so excited for Claire's season and we hope that you guys are too. Can't wait for it to air. But in the meantime, if you need your Bachelor fixed, keep tuning in to Bachelor Greatest Seasons Ever every Monday night, eight seven pm Central on ABC. But please, I know that there's a lot going on in the world. I know there's a lot happening, but sometimes you just need a good release, and we hope that that's what we can provide you. 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