Friends Who Jump Together, Stay Together with Rachel Recchia! | ‘Golden Hour’

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Speaker 2: I'm so excited, so am I.

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Speaker 1: Today we have our beloved former bachelorette, Rachel Recya is here. Hey Rachel, thank you so much for joining us. We are so excited to have you. You look fabulous as always. And guys, if you can't see you can't see her. We can see her. She's absolutely drop dead gorgeous.

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Speaker 4: I am so excited to be here. I feel like we have not had a chat since like the wedding.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so catch us up. I want to hear about your life, your health. I know you've been traveling the world. I want to hear if you've had any international dates.

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Speaker 3: Come give Yes, that is good.

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Speaker 4: So many things to update. Well, starting off, I right now have a pick line in my arm. I've been sick for like two months. I had kidney.

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Speaker 2: Infection and kidney infection.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and it's spread like through my back like it's pretty messy.

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Speaker 3: So I'm painful.

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Speaker 4: It was like when I went to the hospital. But it's gotten so much better, but it's still not gone.

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Speaker 1: Okay, can I just be stupid for a minute. Is a pickline? How they give you the medication?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: So the.

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Speaker 4: I guess what is it? IV thing? It runs like through my up here, it's like all the way in my chest.

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Speaker 1: Somehow, I just don't get it. I know people can't see you. This girl is so beautiful. She is on a fabulous off the shoulder black dress and her pickline covering looks like, you know, some beautiful white glove that you just added.

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Speaker 2: That's what it looks like. It's just like you added something for the effect, so you are better.

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Speaker 3: Let me ask you this, what gave you an idea that you had some kind of infection? Was it something bothering you painful or just routine checkup? How did you find out?

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Speaker 4: I thought I had the flu, which is insane. I was like all the symptoms of the flu, fever. Yeah. She was like, I think you have a kidney infection. And I went in and I did, so they put me on antibiotics. I was on those for two weeks and then my fever spiked again and they were like, you could go to the er right now. And then I was in the hospital for nine days?

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Speaker 3: Are you?

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Speaker 4: And I was in a room with like twenty people the whole time.

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Speaker 2: I never had my own room.

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Speaker 4: Area.

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Speaker 1: I mean, Rachel, I'm just wait, I'm just gonna go with you. Are the first woman I've ever heard who's talks about a hospital like it should be a resort. I didn't have my own room, I didn't have room service. I mean, you were there to get well girlfriend, and I'm glad you are laying in my.

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Speaker 4: Bed like having to ask every time I had a p I had to ask, like getting like deconnected from my I.

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Speaker 3: It was I'm glad you're feeling thank you.

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Speaker 2: So wait, have you been traveling? Then? Are you traveling?

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Speaker 4: So? I was traveling a lot before this. I was in Asia. I did some sea turtle stuff, not with Blake, but because of Blake I've met people through him, so that was really fun that I got to do that. I've been in England with Jill Chin, who was on my season of the Bachelor. So I've been like traveling around a lot, which has been a lot of fun.

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Speaker 2: Are you dating?

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Speaker 4: See, I'm going through something right now. I'm just like, I don't want men to speak to me right now, like I'm you know, I did. I've been trying to put myself out there. They say, you know, you're supposed to give everyone a chance, and I'm like, I'm just no one talked to me right now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, It's okay, that's totally understand.

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Speaker 1: Listen, if you look that good, if you look that good with no one talking to you, you know, maybe you're onto something.

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Speaker 2: Here I know, and.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, you know, I'm going back to work. I started flying again. I flew over the Bachelor man right before Jones, like first day. I got to see all like the production set up. It was so cool.

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Speaker 3: Brings back a lot of memories.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I'm sorry I missed it. Why were you flying over the Bachelor mansion?

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Speaker 4: I so, I'm a pilot and I'm going back to work and I'm working in La So I got to fly over the mansion, which was it was so cool.

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Speaker 1: I know I've read this, but help me remember you fly private pilot, right or your private pilot.

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Speaker 4: So I'm an instructor, so I will like teach people to get their pilot's license their place.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so so i'd like to do that.

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Speaker 2: I would too, but really teach both of you. Let's do it.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'll do it, Susan, I'm in. When we were on the Bachelor, I wanted I told the producers in one of my interviews, I wanted to jump out of an airplane.

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Speaker 2: I haven't done that yet.

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Speaker 1: So here's the thing, Rachel, fly you jump Yeah, I don't think I want you. You'll turn the engine back and whip me with a wing. Now I'm going to let Rachel do that.

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Speaker 4: All fly will record an episode. Yes, when you jump and do it?

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Speaker 1: Okay, wave wave, No, you're coming with me. We're doing down and land and pick you up.

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Speaker 2: Now we're doing jump. That's right, we're jumping together.

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Speaker 1: Those who jump to Susan, I want a big strong man behind me. Yeah, listen to me. Rule number one. Those who jump together stay together.

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Speaker 3: Oh God, here we go. All right, I have a question.

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Speaker 2: I have a question.

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Speaker 3: Obviously all three of us have had breast reductions.

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Speaker 2: Well it's not obvious.

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Speaker 3: Because I know you did, and she did and I did, So it's obvious you have yes, and I'm ready for my second. My second, I want to know the whole same reason.

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Speaker 1: Guys, I will up you one breast production and add in a breast lift. Yeah, I'm just saying. So, I had a breast reduction done in mind was about I don't know, thirty something, and I wore a bra that ended in H and people like in H. I was like, yes, huge, horrible, horrific, and then they took me down to a normal size and then God's cruel joke, they grew back.

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Speaker 2: So why are you doing it?

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Speaker 4: Same thing? And I told my doctor too, which no fault of his. I think it's just our bodies, like women who just are naturally larger chested. I was like, I want to go as small as I can, like take me down to like a B cup, because I know they're going to grow back.

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Speaker 2: How big were you, Rachel? How big were you?

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Speaker 4: I was probably a triple D and I'm a triple D.

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Speaker 2: That's what I am. Now, you were a triple D.

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Speaker 4: I was a triple D five foot two like they were just like, God, bring my back. I was in so much pain. I was like, I cannot do this anymore. Take me as small as I can. And when I got them done, they were like great. I think they were like.

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Speaker 2: A C How long ago?

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Speaker 4: It was a year ago on March of twenty three.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, wait a minute. They can't grow back that fast. You got to start taking vitamins. No, they're doing something, because.

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Speaker 4: I'm a musing weight. I've lost like fifteen pounds since I got them done, and I've seen pictures. Not only have they grown back to the point that like my bras don't fit, they're uneven ones.

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Speaker 1: Like the way Oh no, wait, listen, this is a whole different conversation, Rachel. You can sell this story like this is Ripley's believe it or not material.

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Speaker 4: I don't know how it happened because they say you gain weight hormones, which I'm like, okay, but I lost a.

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Speaker 2: And they no, I did too, Rachel.

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Speaker 1: When I had my breast production done, I was probably thirty pounds heavier than I am now. And when I lost weight mine, I mean, they just but sus not about you, but at my age. Like you know, when you're kid, your boobs begin where they're supposed to, but when you're our age, they begin up under your chin.

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Speaker 2: It just all starts falling into your brack up.

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Speaker 3: So let me let me tell you a short story. When I went to the plastic surgeon and he said, well, what is it you want? I said, well, I don't mind if I failed the pencil test. I don't want to hold the remote control anymore. He told to me, like, I have two heads, I lift them up, shrink them and lift them, so what do you do?

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Speaker 2: That's that was I like that.

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Speaker 3: I hate brals. They cut me in my shoulder, they're annoying around my I just hate.

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Speaker 2: Them, so, yeah, what are you doing with, Rachel?

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Speaker 4: Well, so I have it scheduled for next month. I was supposed to do it this last in June, but then I got sick and I was on antibiotics, so we had a like schedule. But my surgeon telling me like, yeah, like you could use the revision. I was like, they really did grow back, which is freaking Yeah, my hormones must just be like very I'm getting those checks.

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say, yeah, it's.

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Speaker 4: Been insane, but hopefully this will be.

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Speaker 2: Like this will be the one.

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Speaker 3: Well as they can go and then for ten years, nine years at least.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm like, I will do this as many times as I have to. If I never have to feel that pain.

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Speaker 1: Again, I want Well, Rachel, I think we need to discuss this because now that you know we're all three in this together, I think we needed to do for one, well three for one. I think here's what I've got a planned. What do you think, Rachel, all three of us get it done. We hire a nurse to take care of all of us, we all heal together, then we go up and fly and jump out of the plane.

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Speaker 4: Good plan perfect. I think we also shake it af patient when we're healing. Yeah, like we should.

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Speaker 3: We're going to go somewhere cool.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, Yeah, somewhere where you don't need to wear a bikini.

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Speaker 2: I'll be topless.

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Speaker 1: Can I just can I just tell you we were in Saint Martin and Susan every week. It was Nancy, Susan and I. We were in St. Martin last year.

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Speaker 2: We're going back the French side. Let me just tell you.

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Speaker 1: I'm a go along to get along girl on vacation because I feel so grateful to be on vacation. I don't care where I am. Susan is, well, it's got to be topless. I'm like, really, Susan, do they.

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Speaker 3: Really to beat the French side because you're I'm topless.

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, it's not that nice to look.

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Speaker 3: Want to go on the Dutch side. Nobody's stopless.

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Speaker 1: Really listen, I could go on the Hebrew side and I'm not going topless.

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Speaker 2: Okay, it doesn't matter.

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Speaker 3: After Rachel brings you to her doctor, you made just yeah.

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Speaker 4: We all three listed and up, We're going to the topless side.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to change the subject completely. I have a really serious question.

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Speaker 2: Are you ready do you.

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Speaker 3: Believe in second chances in relationships.

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Speaker 1: Well, she believes in second breast production, so I'm guessing she believes in second chances. I do.

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Speaker 4: I do.

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Speaker 1: It depends though, when when is it acceptable? Tell us when is it? When is it possible? When is it not possible?

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Speaker 4: I think there is. I think the right person wrong time is a thing. I think there are a lot of people I dated that at the time they might have not been ready. I might have not been ready, but later in life we could have been very compatible. But I think if something went really wrong, or if there was a big red flag, then maybe no second chance.

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Speaker 2: Right. Have you ever given a guy a second chance.

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Speaker 4: I've never dated someone twice, but I've.

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Speaker 2: Been rachel that's called a second chance. I've been.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I thought people where I would have dated them again, Like even like Jordan in Paradise, Like we went on a second date and that really was like a wrong timing type thing. We ended up obviously not being right for each other. But I think there is beauty and like realizing that that wasn't the right time.

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Speaker 1: All right, So we've got we've got a few questions here, and you know we're going to get into it, and Susan and I are known for digging deep, So buckle up, Okay.

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Speaker 4: I'm ready.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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Speaker 1: What was it like to start dating again after getting engaged in not working out?

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Speaker 4: I think I've been thinking about this one a lot recently because I'm not dating. I haven't really seriously dated since my engagement, and I think being on the show it taught me how to date different people and give different people chances. But I realized that, like, I can have very intense feelings, and I think when I don't feel that on the outside, I'm kind of just like, I know you're not the one because I know what it feels like to really love someone from the show. So it definitely has hindered dating a little, just because I know I'm capable of feeling a certain way.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, Wait a minute, I'm confused. I'm a little confused. Or call it digging deeper? Pick your boys in here? Is that because of meeting the concept of the show, the intensity of meeting someone you know so quickly and getting into it, if you will, so deeply and quickly on the show, that you get those feelings at quickly.

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Speaker 4: I think, yeah, it's just getting to know someone and then realizing you really like them, you feel strongly for them quickly. I know that that's possible for me to feel those feelings. And if I'm dating in the real world, like and we've been dating for three months and I'm not getting a feeling that I've gotten like on a second date with someone, I'm kind of like, Okay, I know you're not the one because I know I can feel those feelings.

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Speaker 2: You know. You know what? She says, Yeah, rag, you know what? Right, she says.

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Speaker 1: She says, I've had two dates with this guy. He's boring me, calls her he doctor and says it's time to schedule the surgery.

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Speaker 3: No, seriously, it's called chemistry. Sometimes you're really attracted to somebody and you want to know everything. You can't wait for that first kiss right right, right.

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Speaker 4: And sometimes I feel like you're just dating because it's like, oh, I need to give them a chance and let's see where it goes. But when you let it go for so long, you're like, Okay, I know I'm capable of feeling more, and I'm not feeling here.

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Speaker 1: So where's your ideal to meet a guy? Where's where's your ideal place to meet a guy or the Yeah, where you've did a lot, So what's what's the best place to meet somebody?

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Speaker 4: I mean, it has to be in person at this point.

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Speaker 2: So no online.

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Speaker 4: I'm not on any of the apps. I'm not online. I love like meeting friends of friends, like people who they could vouch for, like, oh, I have a friend that you would love. I've loved dating that way, but mostly I think just in person.

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Speaker 3: About on reality TV? Would you ever do that again? Not even just Bachelor, any kind of reality TV dating show.

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Speaker 4: I am the expert dating. See, okay, I've done all three?

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Speaker 3: Maybe that's right? Cat, we are trailing here.

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Speaker 1: We needed what about Golden Paradise is what I'm talking about. I mean, listen, I have got two orange shoes, cans and string, and I'm trying to contact Joan. I'm really working hard at it.

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Speaker 2: Send.

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Speaker 4: Having the best time.

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Speaker 2: I'm Can you not see how Susan and I are green with them?

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Speaker 3: They?

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Speaker 2: Can you not see it?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 3: I just want to meet all the people that were on the show.

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Speaker 4: So I know you guys will be able to date all the other guys. You can only have one, that's right.

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Speaker 2: That's yeah, Well, theoretically so everybody.

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Speaker 3: Out there, we all would do another reality dating show.

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Speaker 2: I would do another one. I would.

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Speaker 4: I need to see you guys on Golden Paradise.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I like it.

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Speaker 1: Wait, wait a second, I'm not wearing a bikini, Rachel. It's not happening breast production or not. Unless you know what I want to do at my age. I want to go to a doctor and say it's got to be in LA because that's where they are. I need a doctor that starts at my kneecaps, pulls everything up like pantyhose to the top of my head, ties a knot, cuts it, stitches it down.

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Speaker 2: We're good.

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Speaker 4: Okay, First of all, absolutely not. You guys look amazing and question for compliments. Here idea, what if we do something like maybe not tropical Paradise, but it's like you guys go somewhere coolick Alaska and then you can do really nice like furst.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I like that.

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Speaker 1: You could hike it, Susan in our mucklucks and our fur coats and we'll go hiking and we'll twist an ankle and help help.

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Speaker 3: You guys can puddle up and little like they could go out to Yellowstone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we could look for polar bears. We could, you know, Susan, our luck grizzlies would come after us.

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Speaker 2: We'd be dead and in paradise.

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Speaker 4: We're sweating, and what wouldn't be there?

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: We're not doing that.

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Speaker 3: They couldn't do that.

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Speaker 2: To the golden.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I agree. All right, here's another one. What's the hardest part and the best part about being single? Right now?

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Speaker 4: For me? Yes, I'm really excited that I'm able to go back to work, kind of refocus. I feel like my entire life for the past three years has been like dating.

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Speaker 2: Do you want some of the air? Really, Susan, is your heart bleeding for the poor thing? All she's had to do is date for three just dating?

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Speaker 4: Can you believe it?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I was on the show and didn't even have a date. Yeah, oh wait, I am datable. Wait a second, Susan, at least got a piece of quartz. You know what I got. Here's the door, here's the curb. It's been nice knowing you. So I don't want to go there.

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Speaker 2: We want to redo you hear.

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Speaker 4: But literally, yes, redo for all of us, Thank you. Just excited to go back to work and kind of like normal life.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so that's a good part.

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Speaker 4: But that's good part, bad part, the bad part of not dating.

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Speaker 3: Of being single, the hardest, hardest part, I should say, of being single.

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Speaker 4: Honestly, I feel like right now I'm I'm really preferring it, which.

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Speaker 3: Is bad at all.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm loving it.

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Speaker 2: Cooking cooking for one or not cooking.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, not having to update someone all day on what I'm.

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Speaker 3: Doing, like I'm an answered to them.

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Speaker 4: Yes, no one speaking.

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Speaker 1: I'm in bed at four pm because I want to be I shall we love you, we want to be you.

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Speaker 4: I'm just I'm over it at this point.

00:20:05
Speaker 2: So it's oh, trust me, honey, don't be over you got a long way to go.

00:20:10
Speaker 4: Maybe not, maybe not. We'll see.

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Speaker 2: Well.

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Speaker 3: Wait, so we have a bunch of fan questions.

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Speaker 2: Wait, wait, I want Susan. Can I ask one more question?

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Speaker 1: I realize you haven't found the one, but I'm always interested in dating advice. What's the best dating device, uh that you have ever received? I'm just curious.

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Speaker 4: People ask me this all the time, and I'm like, I am the last person anyone should ask for dating advice. I've tried this show three times and not once has it been successful. So I have no dating advice or anyone.

00:20:43
Speaker 1: But what but what dating advice did you receive? Has anyone ever given you good dating advice?

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Speaker 4: Clearly not or I might have used it.

00:20:50
Speaker 3: No, you probably use this one when you see the red flag, it's really red.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, Susan, you and I can't answer this, like, you know, how do you? And I? I mean, Rachel's gorgeous and she's young. And when she was talking about dating and she said, I have all these friends, you know, and I meet friends of friends. I sit here on airplanes saying to this flight attendant, you know, is your father married? I mean, how do how do you date? I mean how do you meet people? Because I know in Marshalls, but how else you? Because I am struggling. I'm not on the dating apps either, and Susan you're not either, right, So, but we'd like to be dating. So I don't know, Susan, you got any good advice from me?

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Speaker 3: I mean the newspaper. I don't know they even have newspapers anymore.

00:21:37
Speaker 1: Did you see put an ad in the newspaper available?

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Speaker 3: No, I'm not doing that. I got tried all the dating sites. I'm just burnt spent.

00:21:47
Speaker 2: I don't know, Rachel.

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Speaker 1: I think I'm going to start like going coffee house hopping, because you know. I mean, I was in a bar with some friends last week and this guy went his wife was sitting next one. He went off. It's on my Instagram. You can see it. Like, I didn't put this guy up to it. I had a video though. He was like, she's so fabulous. Why what's wrong with guys?

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Speaker 4: Why?

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Speaker 2: You know? And I'm like, I mean, it's hard.

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Speaker 4: It's hard hard out here.

00:22:14
Speaker 2: Oh no, Rachel, it's not hard for you. You just told us you like not dating.

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Speaker 4: But it's hard in general. I think dating now, because of the apps and because everything is so available to men, I think it is just hard in general.

00:22:30
Speaker 2: Rachel, tell me again, how old you are?

00:22:32
Speaker 4: I'm twenty eight.

00:22:34
Speaker 2: What's the oldest guy you'll date?

00:22:35
Speaker 1: Twenty eight? I had my first kid when it's twenty eight. How what's your max dating age?

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Speaker 4: I would say, probably like forty five.

00:22:44
Speaker 1: Wait did you hear that? Susan twenty eight? And she no, forty five?

00:22:48
Speaker 3: I heard her?

00:22:49
Speaker 2: Okay, Rachel, what's the youngest you'll go?

00:22:53
Speaker 4: I maybe like twenty five, Susan.

00:22:58
Speaker 2: What about you?

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Speaker 3: You already know my story can still ten years. I could go a little more. It depends on the person.

00:23:06
Speaker 1: Well, I'm just going to say. You know, I'm a New England Patriots fan and Bill Belichick, who was the general manager. He is seventy two and he is dating a twenty four year old and I was, and I'm just gonna do the math for you. He is three times as old as she, and I was like, pick her. He would pick her, but of course he would. And I'm like, all right, Kathy, give it up. Dad older, day older. And then I started thinking, wait, if I date a guy three times my age, first of all, I'm going to have to dig him up. He's going to be very dusty and brittle, and he's not gonna be able to talk, and you know he's probably not walking well either.

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Speaker 2: I mean, this is it's like I can't win.

00:23:48
Speaker 1: Okay, we found each other. We got travel buddies. I mean, we could travel, we could do everything. Except it is true, Rachel for us, for us on the Golden it's true. I don't know, you've made a lot of good friends too. I know you have, uh and for us. To me, that's the you know, the joy of doing the Golden Bachelor's the friends it.

00:24:09
Speaker 4: Really is, and the friends that you make. Everyone is always like, oh, it's just because like of the TV show, But you truly form those bonds when you're in the house together and you don't have any outside influence and you like make friends for life, and it really is like the best part.

00:24:25
Speaker 2: It is, it is.

00:24:27
Speaker 3: And the other best part for us, Kathy, and I'm sure you agree is letting the other women in the world know at our age, life's not over. There's so much more.

00:24:37
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, like the age of possibilities, like don't give it up, don't give up, keep on living. Of course, Rachel is allowed to give up right now because she's twenty eight.

00:24:48
Speaker 2: Time, she's got.

00:24:50
Speaker 1: Times on that girl's side. We do a thing, Rachel. We get questions from fans and then we answer them and we want we give advice to them. Sometimes we give good advice, sometimes bad advice. Sometimes we just don't know what to say. But we're hoping that you'll join in with us when you do it.

00:25:16
Speaker 4: Yes, I'm excited to hear what you guys have to say.

00:25:18
Speaker 3: First, Okay, This is from anonymous, age forty two from Nevada, Hi Golden Hour podcast. I'm staying anonymous for this one because I don't know who to talk to and I just need some advice. My husband and I have been together for twelve years and have two little kids. Last week, my three year old, who loves opening and closing every drawer and throwing things on the floor, pull down condoms from the back of my husband's closet drawer while he wasn't home. My husband and I don't use condoms and haven't in many, many years. Oh, this is also a newer home for us, so he would have had to put them there within the last year.

00:26:07
Speaker 2: Yikes.

00:26:08
Speaker 3: I want to know if you think I should confront him about why he has condoms, and if you think it could mean anything suspicious is going on. I didn't have any suspicions he could be cheating on me before, but now that I've seen hidden condoms, I can't get it out of my head. Any advice is appreciated. Love you, ladies, and if you read this, thank you.

00:26:33
Speaker 1: Wait wait, can I just say I want to know what the three year old did fetch twenty bucks?

00:26:38
Speaker 2: The three ill was trying to blow him up like balloons.

00:26:41
Speaker 1: I didn't know that they opened it ouch. Okay out, all right, you're going first, babe me No, Rachel, go.

00:26:55
Speaker 4: I've had friends who this has happened to you, who have been in relationships cheating. I mean they're married, so this is different. But when this has happened to my friends who were just dating, they were cheating. Because if you're not using them, there's no reason he should have them. I would get if it's an old house.

00:27:15
Speaker 3: And yes, she specifically said he would have had to put them there within the last year. Pack his freaking bags.

00:27:23
Speaker 2: Susan, you're not serious.

00:27:25
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no.

00:27:27
Speaker 2: You know what.

00:27:27
Speaker 1: No, you know what Susan really meant. She will pack his freaking bags for him. That's what she meant to say.

00:27:34
Speaker 4: Could there be another reason?

00:27:36
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, honey, my buddy and he gave him to me and I didn't know what to do with them, so I just stuck him in the.

00:27:43
Speaker 3: Back of the closet. You are dead to me.

00:27:46
Speaker 1: No, guys, wait a minute, this could easily have come from an old packing box. You know, I'm just bullshitting you here, Kathy, I said, I'm bullshitting here's the thing. If they just moved into the house and the cons are there, you know what I would do, because I'm this person, I would take them out and put them next to a sink.

00:28:05
Speaker 2: I wouldn't say word. I would just take them out. And that's what I would do.

00:28:10
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, the older I get the confrontation, the smarter we are. You know, he's going to say something like you know my friend Joe Ga. He's going to say what Susan said. So just put him by a sink and watch his reaction.

00:28:24
Speaker 3: And Anonymous forty two from the Bata I'm sorry. I'm really sorry for you. That sucks.

00:28:30
Speaker 1: Well wait a minute, guys, were you still in the US where you're innoc until proven guilty.

00:28:35
Speaker 2: Do you think he's cheating Rachel?

00:28:36
Speaker 3: Yes, oh, or he plans to.

00:28:41
Speaker 4: There's no reason that he should still have them if it was an old house. Again, that's a separate, separate argument. I don't see anyway.

00:28:52
Speaker 1: So I'm a writer by training, and she very clearly here says the back of my husband's they were hidden. So I think Anonymous age forty two from Nevada, you may be joining us for breast productions drinking and bar hopping when you're forty.

00:29:13
Speaker 3: Jumping out of airplanes. Thank you so much for writing us. We got to move on to the next time. I feel bad. I couldn't even help.

00:29:19
Speaker 2: I know, I'm sorry. I don't you know.

00:29:22
Speaker 1: I do feel sorry for you, and I hope it's not true, but the three of us think it's probably likely.

00:29:26
Speaker 3: Rachel's an agreement.

00:29:27
Speaker 1: Okay, all right. This one is from Sienna. She's twenty nine from dan Berry, Connecticut. Hello, ladies, I need you to tell me if my boyfriend's mom is crossing a line. I think so, but he doesn't. My boyfriend and I started dating six ish months ago, and we have been spending time at his family's lake house a lot this summer. I'm just getting to know his parents, and I'm very grateful they are letting us stay with them. His mom is so happy her son found love and loves taking fun what of us together. I don't mind the candidates and posing here and there, But what I don't like is that she keeps taking photo of us, photos of us while we're sleeping, Sorry, while we're sleeping. She'll sneak sneak into our room that doesn't have a lock at like six am before we wake up, snap a pick and then send it to the family group chat saying like, oh how cute. I feel like this is a strange invasion of privacy and I literally don't know what to do about it. Any thoughts on this would be helpful. How would you handle the situation? Love the pod and love you both. Thank you, Sianna. What do you think, Rachel?

00:30:45
Speaker 4: Well, I think, first of all, it's crossing a line. Yes for sure, Yes, yes, she's letting them stay at the lake house. Amazing, they're getting to know each other. But there has to be a certain level of privacy which I think is being invaded in this situation. And I think going to the boyfriend and telling him how uncomfortable you are. I think it's his place to probably talk to.

00:31:09
Speaker 3: Mom like seriously. Or or one you could put a chair up against the door so she can't get in. Or two, have no covers, be totally naked and say.

00:31:20
Speaker 1: That you know mom, Oh god, Susan, no, get mom. You know what I'd see, That's the thing. Susan would be naked. I'd be at home depot getting a dead bolt. I mean, there's one difference between us right there. But here's what is bizarre to me, shock value his boyfriend. What'd you say, shock value?

00:31:41
Speaker 2: Yeah?

00:31:41
Speaker 1: Really, her boyfriend doesn't think it's strange, Sienna. I don't like saying this, but I think you better reconsider your boyfriend if he doesn't think that's strange. All three of us here, you know, from twenty eight to whatever, I think that's really strange.

00:32:01
Speaker 4: Right.

00:32:02
Speaker 3: Also, it was like, aw, like she might be that real.

00:32:06
Speaker 1: Old fashioned mommy and she just I swear to God, if you defend this, I'm throwing out of the airplane without a parachute.

00:32:13
Speaker 2: I swear to god.

00:32:14
Speaker 4: If they were taking a nap on the couch and she took the picture and they were like in the family area, fine, uncomfortable, but whatever going into the room is crossing the line, Like what if you were changing or it's like you have no privacy.

00:32:31
Speaker 1: I would say something to the boyfriend, not like honey, what do you think it'd be? Like is there something wrong with you? Like I'd be single in ten minutes because the fact that he doesn't think there's something wrong with that.

00:32:44
Speaker 3: But really, she should have the conversation with that woman and say exactly what Rachel just said, I don't mind if we're taking a nap or something, but really I have mourning hair or whatever. Don't do it when we're sleeping, like napping, you know what. Ever you don't that's crossing the line. But be kind about it because maybe the mother is so excited.

00:33:06
Speaker 2: They've been dating six months.

00:33:09
Speaker 1: Sienna, you got only freak out of the road out, You've got six months invested in this relationship.

00:33:15
Speaker 2: Move along, move along. I think it's bizarre.

00:33:18
Speaker 4: Yeah, to be that comfortable to go into the room that early into the relationship. If she's excited, she should want to like preserve this.

00:33:26
Speaker 2: No, she's probably trying to get rid of the girl.

00:33:29
Speaker 4: Maybe that actually is a good point.

00:33:33
Speaker 1: I think she is definitely trying to get rid of the girl, because that is the moms meddling moms.

00:33:39
Speaker 2: I would Susan, would you ever do? Well?

00:33:42
Speaker 1: Okay, Rachel, you and your boyfriend, Susan and I are your mothers because you know, we come in a pair and we're in there snapping pics.

00:33:48
Speaker 2: Are you come on?

00:33:51
Speaker 3: Well, if it was you two, I'd be I jump in the bed with.

00:33:54
Speaker 1: Them and see, but I'd be like we start singing there we're four in the bed and the little and said roll all over.

00:34:03
Speaker 4: It seems too early like for this bizarre behavior. I'm sorry.

00:34:07
Speaker 3: I didn't realize the six month part.

00:34:09
Speaker 1: You're right, okay, I think well, Sana, good luck. Yeah, Sienna, we wish you all the best. And I would say to you there are many more fish in the sea. You're twenty nine. I would cast your net far and wide and move along.

00:34:24
Speaker 2: That's what I do. Or you do that.

00:34:26
Speaker 3: Before you do that, have a serious conversation with your boyfriend.

00:34:29
Speaker 1: And then moving a jump ship. All right, well that does it. Unfortunately, that doesn't I know.

00:34:38
Speaker 4: For this episode one.

00:34:40
Speaker 2: I know.

00:34:42
Speaker 1: So Rachel, have you've got to promise us you have to come back next time. We want to see you with boobs coming out of your throat. We can all compare, Yeah, we'll all compare. We'll all you know, maybe we can. We'll do a topless one, Susan.

00:34:54
Speaker 4: We'll do a topless one. She agreed.

00:34:57
Speaker 2: I'll do it anyhow, Rachel. Rachel, So, if you heard of dry humor, I was kidding.

00:35:03
Speaker 1: Not Yeah, Susan, O be and you know what's gonna happen, Susan, They're gonna go Jesus, she did that next to Rachel.

00:35:11
Speaker 2: What was she thinking? You you got to know where to just gat some life?

00:35:16
Speaker 3: Bow am I tell me with it?

00:35:17
Speaker 4: So I look the same surgeon.

00:35:21
Speaker 2: Oh that poor guy. He'll retire after he does us.

00:35:23
Speaker 1: Hey, hey, all right, well listen, it is so Rachel, thank you all so much for joining us. It's just and Rachel, thank you for joining us. And you're a wise woman beyond your years. And we love you and we hope your health continues to improve.

00:35:40
Speaker 2: Truly, thank you for having me.

00:35:42
Speaker 4: I love you both.

00:35:44
Speaker 1: We love getting the chat to you with you, and we'd like to hear all this good stuff about you going back to flying, your surgeries that we all want. And I really really love the fact that you're just doing you right now.

00:35:57
Speaker 3: You don't have to date to be happy. And I hope the best one of all comes along for you for all of us too.

00:36:04
Speaker 2: Season I know, I know, and be ducha, we'll take second best.

00:36:09
Speaker 3: And you guys listening out there, thanks so much for joining us and enjoying her like we did. Make sure you follow us at Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new episodes and new guests every single.

00:36:21
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00:36:45
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00:36:55
Speaker 2: Thank you, that's Rachel.

00:36:57
Speaker 1: Take care, guys, See you next week.