Will Compton Tackles SOLO PARENTING 😤 & Importance of Communication with the Wifey | For The Dads

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Speaker 1: Papa Team six. Welcome to another episode of four the Dads. Look boys, we're we're yeah good. Look over at chirum shirt right now. Good wife left town five days. She's in Portland, Oregon, doing an owner's summit with Bar three and their entire headquarters, their national team.

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Speaker 2: All the owners are out there for like a five day event.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what they're doing. They're probably learning some stuff. But your boy, I know what your boy's doing. And your boys in the trenches right now. Back at home, I'm being a father. Back at home, solo dad rocking with two kiddos.

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Speaker 3: Good good. Nanny's out of town. Also goood. Rue doesn't want to sleep in her own bed.

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Speaker 2: If my mama's gone, good good.

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Speaker 3: Oh, Scotty's crying.

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Speaker 1: Rue's crying because she misses mama. I gotta soothe Rue. Scotty's in the crib crying because it's bottle time and she's ready for a bottle to go to bed.

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Speaker 2: But Rue doesn't want me to let her go to bed. Rue wants to go to bed first. Dad that you do bedtime first. Don't do Scottie good good.

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Speaker 3: Because Scotty can put herself down. But she's only wait eight months.

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Speaker 2: She's ten months. Tim can't put herself.

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Speaker 3: She can put herself down. I love for his logic.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, oh yeah, Roo, I'm pointing at Scotty in the crib.

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Speaker 3: Look at Scotty.

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Speaker 2: She's she's.

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Speaker 1: This kid is Michael Parson's on the third down. She's hanging on the rail and she's looking at me like, rou look at Scotty that that has to put it out. I promise I'm gonna put her down as fast as possible.

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Speaker 3: It's your three backs. Crosby over there, she got in the water bowl. She's destroyed the pantry.

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Speaker 1: But the pantry I've built it like the foundation I have in the pantry, solid water bowl, dog bowl, the matt and everything's on top of the on top of the counter. She's just rummaging through all the snacks of roof snacks. She's like, you know, she's gotta like throw everything out. Yeah, it's not like the play. It's not to open and try to eat. However, she did get her hands on some puffs and some figured out a way to open the top. I walk in, there's puffs all over the floor as she's eating them with a little grin.

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Speaker 3: On her face. I go, Scotty, pick her up.

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Speaker 2: She's like trying to grab She's trying to grabs me puffs as possible. Want picking her up.

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Speaker 1: But I hope everybody's doing well. I hope the dads out they are doing well. I hope other dads are moms. You guys are sitting there laughing, having a good old time. As Willie tells that story, Yep, we're in it right now. But it's the life. It's the life I have chosen. It's the life we live. I have an ambitious woman who is an owner of our three studios here in Nashville. Come on, who wants to She wants to be a grinder. There's times where I'm at home and I'm like, sweetheart, you know you ain't gotta you ain't gotta do nothing.

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Speaker 3: You don't laugh to you don't want to.

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Speaker 2: But I know she does and she loves it. And it's just it's a grind between between us trying to raise these two little demons.

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Speaker 3: Bro. Yeah, I have a story for you too.

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Speaker 1: As I continue to kick this off, everybody, we have a que cars, we have comments everywhere.

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Speaker 2: We actually we also have an update with Chuck.

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Speaker 1: You know, if you guys have been following this podcast, and a couple weeks ago, we've cried basically on every episode, but a couple episodes ago Chuck talked about his his wife rupturing and everything else. We actually have an update from Chuck that we will hit you guys with. But this show is for the intentional dads. If you're looking to be more intentional. We have a lot of fans, dude, that just enjoy the podcast. They're not even fathers yet. People tell me I can't wait to be a dad one day. Like I'm like a sitting duck. I was telling you this. I was at the nearby park the other day with the wife before she flew out, and we were hanging with the kiddos. She was hanging with Rue, Scotty was napping, and I'm sitting there on the bench as Scotty's napping and the PT.

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Speaker 2: Sixers are out, Bro, they're out.

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Speaker 3: I'm talking.

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Speaker 1: There's a Hawkeye fan talking to me about the you know where the program's at right now. They need to be expecting more wins for their football team. It's like, oh, here we go. We don't have much of a quarterback We're gonna be eight nine win team again. We're having a great conversation ended really well. Told him I loved him, you know what I mean, Like, Hey, I'm saying stuff about the Hawk, but I do like I respect you guys, and you guys have had our number Tennessee fan. Basically, Chef Jack this is in like, this is like thirty five forty year old Chef Jack girl.

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Speaker 2: Dad. He sits down next to me.

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Speaker 3: How are you.

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Speaker 1: Feeling about the balls in Georgia? I love the Dad podcast. He sits down next to me. Yeah, like we've just been friends for years and it felt that way. We had a great conversation. Fortunately Scotty didn't wake up. But the PT sixers are out there. So this love all the feedback from the show. Continue to leave comments, drop them on YouTube again. This is how you get the comments in our hands to be featured on the show. We love reading the comments. We love engaging with you guys. Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, the Amazon you tube, the Amazon one makes sure you're subscribed and following all channels. It is football season, so I know everybody's busy trying to consume as much football as possible. I try to consume as much football as possible until Ru's like, hey, let's go throw the frisbee outside, and I look at her and give it like a long five seconds stare like the game in my head. Will you're a dad, You're an intentional fother? You have a podcast for the dad. It's like, what would this dad do? Is he gonna say, sweetheart, let's finish this two minute drill? Or is he gonna get up and go play frisbee? And then just turn the game on on the phone and just play it on audio so I can hear it Walla playing frisbee. I'll get up, all right, let's go outside it. Let's go outside and play frisbee with a huge smile on my face.

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Speaker 2: Let's do it.

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Speaker 1: You're not gonna get this time back shirm. She's not gonna want to play frisbee. Listening all the time, I'll learn how to throw it. But nothing gets this more fired up than the comments. You guys subscribing if you really want to be a PT six or a real sicko buyer merchant rocking, I'm rocking the PT six merch right now. Bwtv dot com. We got hats, we got good church. We got onesies, we got hoodies, hats, we got the entire roller decks, we got the four of the dead Spin it which people are begging that you hang that up back there.

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Speaker 2: It's starting to drive people crazy. I've seen a couple of comments.

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Speaker 1: Sure can you can you or really one shelf hang that back up. I thought, I want to say, you guys put that project on me, and God knows that's why it's still hanging right there. But bwtv dot com, this is for the dads, man.

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Speaker 3: This is for the dads and for anybody that's like, man, Will's juiced up. I do want to remind you it is Busting Ball Week and where this isn't a football podcast, not a football it's a dad podcast. But it is Busting Ball Week. Please keep that in mind during this episode.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a lot of juice. There's a lot of juice, wife left ur in Busting Bowl Week.

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Speaker 3: Birthday Week. It's birthday week. It's Will Compton's birthday week.

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Speaker 2: And birthday Week's not gonna count if we lose this game.

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Speaker 3: And that's hey, that's okay, because we'll have a birthday next year that won't happen. But I'm just saying, there is a birthday next year.

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Speaker 1: The Huskers are in position to rewrite this last decade, decade and a half. Yeah, however long it's been since we've had success in a season. Last year we had our first winning season that just to taste, can't win the big games and one score games where it's the records.

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Speaker 2: Are not good.

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Speaker 1: We we gritted out a one score game against Cincinnati. Yeah, now you're going against a real football team. Yeah, Price Underwood superstar. He's going to be a superstar. He's going to be, in my opinion, a number one overall pick. If like the kids eighteen years old and he looks good, they can run the football.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So this is a fist fight this week.

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Speaker 1: This is a dad's podcast, But we got a fist fight in our hands this weekend, and there's an opportunity.

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Speaker 2: For Huskers, for the Huskers.

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Speaker 1: Matt Rule year three era, Like, there's an opportunity in front of us.

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Speaker 3: Talk about generational dad, by the way, Matt Rule, generational father, Matt Rule.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I'll be going on this podcast House Rules later today. Really Yeah, that I'll drop this week as well.

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Speaker 1: We'll be talking some fatherhood check that out. Yeah, the football journey of the old old Willie Husker back.

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Speaker 2: In the day, So check that out.

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Speaker 1: But we're in a position as a football team, as a fan base, as a state to start turning the page to greener pastures.

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Speaker 2: And it's this weekend.

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Speaker 1: This weekend also happens to be the bust and Bowl, a rivalry between myself and Taylor, So that's one. It's like, on a personal level, you want to win that game just for the bragging rights. Yeah, they've beat us the last four times we've played. We have a beat a top twenty five team in the last like twenty three twenty four consecutive times we've been in the game against a top twenty five opponent.

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Speaker 2: This game is huge, man, this is a That's podcast.

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Speaker 3: This and just a reminder, this isn't That's by the guys. We are not professionals. But this is a huge week for Nebraska. And if you want to send some love to our boy, willye see because look at him.

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Speaker 1: I recruited Mike Eckler from the University of Tennessee to take over special teams for the University of Nebraska. Yeah on pff, you know we're in Nebraska's ranked right now in special teams.

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Speaker 3: Oh gotta be top three one, come on one, like we're all in.

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Speaker 2: Man.

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Speaker 1: If I didn't have a mic in front of me, I'd have a whistle hanging for my neck and I'd be at the University of Nebraska.

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Speaker 3: That's God honest truth. Yeah, God, I believe that. So guys leave some gbrs down in the comments for all Willie C leave some gvrs down in the comments. The boy needs it, he needs the jews. It's a big week, coulda be tough game.

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Speaker 1: I like our ball club, Yeah, and it's all it's it's about not feeling the lights, not feeling the stage, yep. And Memorial Stadium being an electric factory all game, all game. I was there two years ago. They drive it down fourteen play drive put it in for seven. We come out, ball gets tipped, they pick it off. Place was dead after that. I was disappointed in Memorial Stadium because it was third and one in a red zone and you needed the juice because they had coorm they had a Joe more offensive line.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you needed the juice.

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Speaker 2: Juice was nowhere to be found.

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Speaker 1: They ended up beating her ass, you know, forty something to three or seven.

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Speaker 3: It was bad.

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Speaker 1: And I'm out there at the second quarter or whatever, We're down like three scores, maybe like, hey, will you want to do the T shirt? Cannon picked the stadium up a little. It ain't no saving. What's me and a T shirt cannon gonna do, mister Compton.

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Speaker 2: And I'm out there just faking until I make it, just you know, face going, T shirts flying, screaming, yelling, knowing we're getting mocked right now?

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Speaker 3: What do we got? We our first comment first comment concert Gabrielle dot Fobio from Instagram. Hey, y'all, daughter listener here? Can we get a name for the daughter listeners? Dof Team six, daughter of a father, Dad Team six, Daughter of a dad. I'm willing to workshop it. I just wanted to reach out and say I'm a Day one, Episode one listener. I started listening because I'm a longtime fan of Will Insure and from Bustin'. But I keep listening because it was truly giving me standards to look for and a husband and future father of my children. Besides my own dad, of course, he is amazing. You are both wonderful examples for me as a twenty one year old girl trying to figure out life and boys. I truly mean it when I say I look forward to this every week, and although I am not a dad, lol, I am taking lessons with me while laughing and joining the episode good as an adult daughter now who is best friends with her dad. I am so excited for your journeys as girl dads because it is truly an amazing bond. You are in for a treat all, miss rebel student Hotty Toddy.

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Speaker 2: Damn you are you starting to hear up?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 2: I think you know what the fuck?

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Speaker 3: No? It is.

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Speaker 2: Uh, that's special, dude.

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Speaker 1: It's really cool that that daughters are chiming in and letting us know how much.

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Speaker 2: Their dad rips.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, dude.

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Speaker 1: And if I get emotional, I'm emotional because there's just there's too much going on in my body, in my head right now, yeah, giving fatherhood, giving the huskers, Like, there's too much going on in my system right now to just be stable whatsoever.

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Speaker 3: We just talked about for a two quarter routing for Michigan, and I just read a comment from a twenty one year old girl and I started crying. Do we go? Uh?

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Speaker 2: D like daddy girl six Daddy girl sixers.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't see why not. I mean, I'm like running it through my head, like why wouldn't.

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Speaker 1: That We can work shop and we can let the audience like your daddy daughters out there. Yeah, you're a daddy's girl. Any daughter's out there, yeah, DG six And then just shoot it. Text your mom, Hey Mom, I love you too. I just this this pod rips.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: I love dad as well, but I want you to know you're you got a really special place in my heart.

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Speaker 3: That is sick. I do want to say. I don't know why I'm saying this, but Derek does pick out these comments. Derek picks out these comments and thank you for picking up that comment. You're welcome.

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Speaker 4: She had sent that and then I said, hey, this is great, like I planned on it, and she said, can you make sure Will and Churm see this comment? Was her next direct message, just yes, they throw it in there, so I definitely wanted to get in front of it. I don't know if the next thing you're about to say is good or bad.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't know what you know. I just Derek picked this comment. What does that mean? It's a great thing. I just admit that I didn't. I didn't read that and go, oh, I'm definitely reading that about me on the podcast. That's all I meant by it.

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Speaker 4: I picked it because of the impact that you guys have on people that writing off they're not your demographic.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, you're saying you're not picking that about you.

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Speaker 3: Yes, Oh, I just didn't want you.

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Speaker 2: You're in your own head.

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Speaker 3: I'm in my own head. Okay, Okay, I'm in my own head.

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Speaker 1: Even I sit there and like like slowly looked over Derek. I'm thinking, what, what's what's behind what?

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Speaker 3: He's crushing it? Yeah, And I love that he picked that comment because if I had seen, like, if this had been sent to me personally, I would not have read it on the podcast. And there are really nice things like what Gabrielle sin yeah, that we like get in the d MS.

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Speaker 1: Sure we can confidently tell you Shuram does not handpick these comments. This would be a good one for me to muster up some tears, some.

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Speaker 2: Moral highgro Yes, sum does not do that.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. Yeah. I don't even know why I needed to preface that, but I don't know. I'm so in my head and I'm so glad you picked that comment, dude, that was that was awesome.

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Speaker 2: Dude, you're you're you're a stud, Sir, you are a stud.

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Speaker 3: You're not You're not.

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Speaker 2: Yes, you're not doing that.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't.

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Speaker 2: Nobody thought that. I just want you to know.

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Speaker 3: Chef was thinking it. No, it's great. Other than that.

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Speaker 1: I got one from Ryan Delaney on Instagram. A O one Chef Papa Teams AO one Cheff Papa Team six here soon to be the soon as missus missus I'm assuming, he says, missus m I S s U S missus missus missus waters just broke. He yeah, the missus because there's no periods, there's no there's no grammar whatsoever. It's this is all basically one line. AO one, sheholl Papa Team six here, soon to be the Missus Water broke, Water just broke as she's induced sipping on a night nitrous oxide cocktail as she goes through hell Secure my girl, dad hat on thirty hours and no sleep. Good love you guys, keep killing it. Delaney, congrat or Ryan, congratulations. Bro The trenches are just starting and a new found love is just beginning as well.

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Speaker 3: Truly, I love that nitrous oxide cocktail. Yeah, maybe he was just ripping.

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Speaker 1: Like again, thirty hours, no sleep, you can't expect perfection.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, with sentence structure there.

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Speaker 3: That's incredible. Add Daniel six, I'm four to two zero dash. Oh what's up? Fellas? Shout out Derek and chef. My name is Daniel and one to say. I had a similar interaction with my son as Will had on Sunday Night football? Is that correct? Sunny night football? Last weekend was the first football game my boy Kayden two sat down and was engaged and watching the game with me. I think the best thing was we came up with our own touchdown dance and now every time I yell touchdown, we do it. Grip it and rip it. Fellas have a badass week.

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Speaker 2: Let's go.

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Speaker 3: And that came from YouTube. That came from you.

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Speaker 1: Shut out YouTube comments. And by the way, quick time out. That last comment is on me missus? Is that is the correct spelling for missus? I'm used to just seeing.

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Speaker 2: Mrs Yeah, you know what I mean, Mrs missus.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, And that's that's a very normal way to think of it. I think he probably thirty hours he was just ao one shelf.

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Speaker 3: We're letting it rip.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, he did spell it correctly.

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Speaker 1: M I SSUs es was in my head and then I'm thinking to myself, that's like missus, you missed the shot.

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Speaker 2: Let me type this in and figure it out. Figure it out. That one's on me, so I should have done a better I did.

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Speaker 3: I did not know that. That's truly. I love that, the spelling of missus.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I love it too.

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Speaker 1: Brittany Underwood sixteen Willie one shelf in Fat Stafford No kids, but I'm such a fan of this. These last few episodes have had my eyes feeling so spicy.

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Speaker 3: They're tearing up.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, I lost my dad at fourteen, but he was the absolute best girl dad and hearing your stories of being girl dads always makes me smile and sometimes cry and remind me of him. Shout out, no free, shout out to to the girl dad's keep the content coming.

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Speaker 2: It's not a good week for me. Man.

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Speaker 3: Hey, I just want to say this is a really cool podcast and those comments that's crazy and it is a joy to wake up and like know that we were going to record today, Like I feel it too, I do, and comments like that, Damn, dude.

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Speaker 2: I know and there's no laughing about any of that.

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Speaker 1: It's just thought the all of the emotions that are happening, the way we've started off this podcast, everything else, and how we've cried every week with these comments when I'm driving over here, because it's like, you know, you're in the trenches at the house, getting the kiddos up, which I got to talk about Ruth sleeping with Dad the last three nights, and I'm setting a bad I'm setting a bad habit right now. I'm sitting a bad tone because Dad is weak and I can't say no.

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Speaker 2: To my little girl. Oh but you're sitting there scrambling, get.

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Speaker 1: The kiddo's ready, to get Rue ready for school, get Scottie ready, make sure she's make sure she can't crawl around anywhere, so I make sure she is confined in a space, like I get her up on the on the island. I'm feeding her, I'm feeding the kiddos. We're getting lunches ready, getting myself ready. Trying to think about, Oh, we got for the dads today. We got the team meeting, we got the k Adams Show, we got the Rules podcast. We got to do the second part before the dads driving over here. What my point I was gonna make is driving over here. It's like, I get excited to do this podcast because I feel like it's such a break from everything else going on.

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Speaker 2: They you just get to talk about fatherhood.

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Speaker 1: I get to laugh with a good buddy of mine, you gentlemen in the back, as well as Chef and Derek. I feel like we have a good crew and it it always fires me up thinking like I wonder what the comments are going to be, Like, I wonder what we'll see today. I wonder how much you'll get the laugh of PT six, how much we might cry with PT six because they just send in comments like this that just tug on your heartstrings because of how real shit is, especially with stuff that happened last week. Just everything, man, everything is just very precious. And to see everybody taking their time, taking the time to write to us and tell us and be vulnerable with us, whether it's encouraging words, whether it's hey, I lost my dad at fourteen and he was incredible, whether you're talking about situations that are personal to you and your wife and you're going through something at the hospital, it's all it's I really do appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: I know, we both do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we do. They like it is a pleasure to read these comments. There's like no part of us that's sitting in a think corporate think tank. That's like, you'll get more listeners to your podcast if you read the comments at the beginning of it, like it. We truly just love reading these comments. Yeah, I also selfish shout out. Just want to shout out everybody in the comments, to everybody that is DM me about my dad loss. Last episode. That was the last episode.

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Speaker 1: I think it was a couple episodes ago. You're talking about the big one.

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Speaker 3: We're the big one.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, flying home the Baylor game, yes, or after the week off yes, yeah, just because you felt very uneasy after that after that episode.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I knew that it was going. The only thing I was uneasy about is I checked in with you and was like that I overshared there and you were like, I didn't think so at all. And then in my head I was like, did I overshare there with Jill? Told her everything I yeah, and she was like, yeah, no, not at all. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It's a weird game that doing the podcast, Like you have yeah in your head on stuff at home, like, am I oversharing?

00:21:53
Speaker 2: Reason I loved it? The reason I loved it so much, which I'm glad that you're getting a bunch of.

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Speaker 1: Feedback from, is because I feel like that it's like a real situation that you you break down.

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Speaker 2: And again, this is not some expert show.

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Speaker 1: This is like us talking about real life experiences in our lives that I feel like is relatable to everybody because everybody goes through situations that we've both gone through, especially with yours. In that situation where you're like, man, am I oversharing? Am I seeming like like a bad husband or a bad dad with that one? It's like, bro, all of us have bad moments, So that fires me up. That you've gotten a lot of feedback from that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. And I remember telling you because we both started laughing when I was telling you. The day after that episode dropped, I had a DM of some guy that was like, sure, I'm so glad you told that story because literally this last week, same thing happened. And hearing you say that made me feel so much better because I consider you a good dad and it makes me feel that much better. And I told Will, I'm so glad that guy DM because hearing that, he also, yeah, okay, I'm not the one that we're both feeling the same thing with the good and idea of that back, I was like, bro, I hate that that happened, but I'm you know, we're in this.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, in this. Hey, and Brittany, by the way, thank you for sharing this comment. Thank you for sharing this.

00:23:10
Speaker 3: Yes, thank you. Brittany from YouTube Hambonious, Rex Right's wife thirty three weeks pregnant, just screamed yes about the wives designing an MT six shirt. People are serious about it, will.

00:23:26
Speaker 1: I did see a couple of the ladies being like they love the idea of the wives designing a milk Team six just having something come to us.

00:23:34
Speaker 2: It's from the women that they would be yes fired up about.

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Speaker 3: I think that could be a fun little that's a fun little bonding thing for our wives too. That could be like a hey, you guys have fun, Yeah, leverage.

00:23:46
Speaker 2: Our podcasts and brand to do a bonding thing.

00:23:49
Speaker 3: Hope you'll hope you'll have some fun designing this ship.

00:23:51
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, Chef, can you turn the camera on while we do.

00:23:56
Speaker 3: And start rolling? Start rolling? Oh, y'all like each other? All right?

00:24:01
Speaker 2: Chef cut it, so you know, we gotta go.

00:24:02
Speaker 1: Huskers are kicking off here in ten minutes, we got the bonding moments.

00:24:06
Speaker 3: Do we get it perfect? Oh?

00:24:09
Speaker 1: I got one here from from Logan and I'm sitting at the top that this is a real one.

00:24:16
Speaker 2: I need this podcast today.

00:24:18
Speaker 1: I also took a huge dat l last night and got into a big fight with my fiance and listening to Shran be so vulnerable and open about the struggles of finding that balance between work, family and me time, I had to shut it off and take a take a minute to take my own accountability and let her know that I was being a fuck up to So shout out to Fat Stafford for being that example. That being that example that me, as a younger man needed today. Shout out Willy one Shelf Chef and Ball's Deep Derek. He put the hammer for Willy One's shelf, He put the little chef emoji for chef, and he put the cherries for balls Deep Derek, et six till I die Pepperoni's forever Logan, thank you for this comment, man hey, And just like just like that, we were just talking about you a couple of weeks ago, and they're.

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Speaker 3: Ye and shout out everybody that was commenting Peppinoni's YouTube that made me smile. Uh. This one comes from via email. This comes from Jonathan McMahon. Uh, that's six on one of the dads at gmail dot com. Correct, okay, excuse me. Jonathan McMahon writes, sure, Will and Chef three absolute goats. I would say four, with Derek veteran goon Bray captain checking in honorably discharge. After finding my own Jilly Bean slash Charro, I'm now proud girl dad to Ivy three and Ila five, and now a fully pledged Papa Team six member. This is huge. My name is Johnny and I'm from Dublin, Ireland, a rare college football NFL fan over here, and I've been riding the bet. I've been writing with Busting with the Boys since the beginning, which obviously deployed me over to your podcast without question. As I sit here listening to the latest episode, I'm buzzing that the international listeners can now interact. Just wanted to send some love. This podcast is the real deal. It's raw, it's relatable, and it's exactly the kind of authentic content Dad Slash Future Dad's need and goom berets. It sounds like no need for a reply. Just wanted to say you genuinely make my Wednesdays better. Keep doing what you're doing and I will rep the four the dad's merch over here and spread the word. Johnny you said, Johnny, Jonathan McMahon.

00:26:42
Speaker 2: Johnny, thank you for the comment. Bro.

00:26:44
Speaker 3: That's a great message. Ireland too and an NFLCFB sick though.

00:26:50
Speaker 2: Yeah. International for the dads is international, man, Oh that's congress to them. We see is a girl dad three and.

00:26:56
Speaker 3: Five three and five Ilah and Island Ivy also shout out Island Ivy.

00:27:03
Speaker 2: Shout out Island Ivy. I had that age right there too.

00:27:06
Speaker 1: Is one that again love stay present in the moments now because Scotty at ten months old is an absolute blast. I sit there and mess with Scottie and play with Scotty dude and her personality, her crawling all over the place, her like unbothered this and just happy. She's just a happy little girl. Oh yeah, Rue is too, but she's a three year olds.

00:27:28
Speaker 2: The emotions like, she's very intense with their emotions right now. Rue is an absolute sweetheart as well.

00:27:34
Speaker 1: But Scotty, like I play with her at ten months, I always think about you because I'm like, man, sure's really gonna love when he gets to these moments. And then I quickly I'm like, he's also, he's got it. He's gotta love, he's gotta love the ones that he's in right now. But at three and five, I'm excited for those ages for Scotty and Rue. Ru's three, so it'll be like six and three to where they can play with each other, they can teach each other. You know, ruill be teaching her a lot of stuff. They'll be getting any each other's way, pissing each other off. I'm very excited for that when Scotty gets to be three where Ru is right now, and you know.

00:28:08
Speaker 2: They'll be like best friends. That is truly. I'm so looking.

00:28:12
Speaker 1: Forward to that because Ru is so good with Scotty now, not now like she wasn't, but she's always been and it's always like a work in progress, right Like if Scotty's up on the couch and trying to pull the blanket or doing something that Rue doesn't want, you got to catch her and continue to remind her, Hey.

00:28:27
Speaker 2: She's just a baby. She does not know what you're saying, like, every time I say no to her, what does Scotty do?

00:28:31
Speaker 1: She continues to do what she's doing. She has no clue. She's just a baby. We have to learn to be sweet. We have to learn to be kind to her. If she's doing something you don't want to do either, you know how to disarm the situation, like if she's getting in something she knows, like grab her legs and pull her back if it's on a sliding surface.

00:28:46
Speaker 3: I gotta see a video of that.

00:28:48
Speaker 1: And she did it one time when Scotty was on the bottom stair and so Scotty kind of hit her face a little bit. It wasn't bad. Yeah, Scotty was crying, and that was like a teaching moment of Hey, if Scotty's on a step, you go up and just wrap your arms around her, like around her chest, and just hold her there. If she cries, that's okay, Dad, mom or Dada, I'll come over and help. But you just wrap your arms around there and hold her. Because unless you feel confident like picking her up and moving her, which I don't think she doesn't right now, yeah, you just sit there and hold her. And the other day she was literally, I hat Dad, Dad, Scotty's Scotty's on the stairs.

00:29:18
Speaker 2: I didn't have the barricade up.

00:29:19
Speaker 1: I didn't have jumbo package out there the goal line defense, or I barricaded the stairs. And for people are like, oh, why don't you just get a gate. We do have a gate, but it's at the top of the stairs because Rue, if you remember, in the first episode, she went crashing down the stairs, so we got a gate for the top of the stairs. Rue didn't have a whole lot of an issue with like always wanting to climb the stairs, the stairs. Scottie always wants.

00:29:39
Speaker 2: To climb the stairs.

00:29:40
Speaker 3: She's scott Zilla, true.

00:29:41
Speaker 2: She's scott Zilla. And Willie one shelf has him put a gate in on the bottom.

00:29:44
Speaker 3: So I have this.

00:29:45
Speaker 2: Barricade that I put up at the bottom of the stairs. But Rue's holding her.

00:29:48
Speaker 1: She's like dad a, Scotty's trying to climb the stairs and Scotty's crying and fuss and Rue's just sitting there holding her and kind of got like a smile on her face because she knows she's doing the right thing. But that's kind of the stage we're in now, and I'm really excited for and Scotty gets to be like Ru's age and they can actually play together.

00:30:03
Speaker 3: Yeah, I and I too, to like reiterate what you're saying about how excited I'll be. Uh, it goes into my dad win, so I don't want to spoil it, but I am very excited as well.

00:30:15
Speaker 1: Okay, we'll hold on that win. You can always tell your stories and just say, hey, this is the Dad win.

00:30:21
Speaker 3: That is true. But we'll hold it. We'll hold We already said it. I got got three minutes.

00:30:25
Speaker 1: Yeah, my wife has a dress like dad them day at work coming up, She'll be wearing my PT six shirt. No brainer. This is from Turtle nineteen xx. Thank you for the Thank you for the comment, Turtle, and I am fired up that she'll be rocking a PT six shirt.

00:30:38
Speaker 3: I got one from Kim Hickey for one six Kim Hickey Tier one.

00:30:43
Speaker 2: She Kim Hickey is a very much a Tier one. Shout out Kim.

00:30:46
Speaker 3: Hickey, shout he's been.

00:30:47
Speaker 1: She's been rocking with Bus with the boys for quite a long time, maybe since the beginning.

00:30:50
Speaker 3: Yes, and a Mama Team sixer. Yeah, well this episode had me from start to finish. I saved the pod to listen to it at work, and it had me bawling.

00:31:00
Speaker 2: Good.

00:31:01
Speaker 3: Everyone was asking me if I was okay, and I would tell them about the pod. Red eyes everywhere now, good. Keep up the great work, boys, and sure I felt everything you said. You were one step ahead of some You shared your experience and understood your part in it. Those days will happen as long as you learn from them, you will figure it out. Thank you, Kim. That's a really sweet comment.

00:31:23
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's an awesome comic, Kim, Thank you, m you Are you done?

00:31:27
Speaker 2: I'm done. I have two left that we can rip here.

00:31:30
Speaker 1: This one's from mister Highway zero forty morning, gentlemen, soon to be BET six or Team minus three weeks. It feels like DDA or Normandy Beach where heading up the shore on our boats. Don't worry, I'm not the one puking. I'm feeling good. I feel like Fat Stafford and really one shouff with me in these final weeks of life as I know it.

00:31:47
Speaker 2: Good.

00:31:48
Speaker 1: I have my PT six shir ready for the hospital and can't wait to share a pick with me in it with my baby boy leaving the hospital.

00:31:54
Speaker 3: Good.

00:31:55
Speaker 1: Thank you guys. So much for the weekly podcast. It has helped ease the jitters of becoming a father, and it's helped me prepare for wife on the pup list.

00:32:03
Speaker 2: Go Big Red, Go Big Red, and then this final one. Here's the update from Chuck.

00:32:09
Speaker 1: So if you guys remember Chuck sent in a comment a couple weeks ago talking about how his wife ruptured. There wasn't a whole lot of context. I assumed the worst that happened, but this is a great update from Chuck. It up zero four three days ago. Boys, I wanted to thank you for the advice about my fiance who ruptured. Mama and baby girl, Charlie are being strong as ever. Plan is to be admitted to the University of Michigan Shout out Taylor the hospital in two weeks to monitor for premature birth as they have the highest level nick you around. Going to be an absolute battle, but I know both my girls got it. Thanks for just being there means a ton. The community has been a life saving. Fatherhood is a blessing. Chuck Man, you are in our thoughts and prayers.

00:32:50
Speaker 3: Bro. I would love if you update us.

00:32:54
Speaker 1: I completely understand if you don't want to update us, like again, I know I rus in the nick you for seven days, but it wasn't premature. Like that's a world that I'm not as familiar with. I know it can be I know it can be dangerous. I know that it's it's a weird pocket to be in of optimism and hope trying to you know, not think about what the downside could be.

00:33:19
Speaker 3: I hope everything goes well.

00:33:20
Speaker 2: Man. Again, the rougher thing a couple of weeks ago, my brain saw that and.

00:33:25
Speaker 3: Just assumed the worst.

00:33:26
Speaker 1: So so my fault for misleading that comment. And I am very fired up to hear that you guys are are being strong right now, and that you guys are good right now, and that you guys will be at the hospital here to monitor for premature birth. Hopefully all goes well.

00:33:40
Speaker 2: Man. Please update us if you want to, but thank you for the update.

00:33:45
Speaker 3: I'm sorry I fell silent. I connected the dots that the daughter's name was Charlie and his name's Chuck, so she's named after him. I just think that's really cool. So sorry, I'm so sorry, but like, oh my god, you know you're right.

00:34:06
Speaker 2: I'm more so laughing just here in German.

00:34:10
Speaker 3: That's so cool. You're right. That is a.

00:34:18
Speaker 2: Yeah man. Shout out Charles and shout out Charlie.

00:34:23
Speaker 3: They got this.

00:34:23
Speaker 2: They got this. Prayer prayers up for Chuck in the in the chat. Okay, buddy, what the heck? I know these comments wreck us man.

00:34:39
Speaker 3: It's it was the Collins that used to wreca and now it's the it's the comments. Se what in the world I need Kleenex. Cleenex, please shout out there, we shout out. We can get guys.

00:34:55
Speaker 1: Thank you for sending in comments sincerely like it is really it is really cool to be part of this community.

00:35:01
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you guys are amazing.

00:35:03
Speaker 3: Yes, and Chuck, thank you, Terry, thank you, Uh, Chuck so stoked, so excited and wishing the best for y'all. Yeah, and thank you for sharing.

00:35:18
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know we can uh number one, so you can get yourself together. We do have a team meeting on the bus and with the boys side in the shop. We'll take a quick break and we will be back to talk about talk about our weekends, talk about our last week in fatherhood. I guess so quick, potty break, quick body break, and we will be we will be back.

00:35:38
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00:38:36
Speaker 3: PT. Sixers, welcome back. We just got done with the ad Reids. However, I did want to do an additional shout out to Wayfair. You see the Memorial Stadium plaque behind will Compton that came from our friends at Wayfair. They give us a two hundred and fifty dollars gift card.

00:38:57
Speaker 2: Will that's juicy.

00:38:59
Speaker 1: That was one of our some interesting facts of the Nebraska cornerscer industry.

00:39:02
Speaker 3: I won't again.

00:39:03
Speaker 2: This is a Dad Chow Dad show, so I won't bore you with those. But some good bullet points up there.

00:39:07
Speaker 3: They're great bullet points. I bought a sign that I thought was much smaller, but it's actually a really uh pretty good sized sign of Baylor. It's like weathered wood. It's fun, dude. They got all types of things. That's from that's from Wayfair. Aung that up? I hung that up. I'll teach you a thing or two, a thing or two. I'm no expert, but I'll teach you pretty good. Ah, thank you. We We do have our Wayfair giveaway winner that we will do at the end of the episode. I'm sorry to tease it, that's on me to tease it, but we will read out our winner of the Wayfair giveaway at the end of the episode. And Derek said, a pretty fire video submission from this guy. Do we even want to play it at the end as well? Derek, is it worth putting on the pod? A potential A potential, A potential. A we'll see.

00:40:05
Speaker 2: Let's get into our let's get into our highs and lows of the week.

00:40:09
Speaker 3: Love it.

00:40:10
Speaker 2: We got our hot line six on one.

00:40:11
Speaker 1: The dads come on, we'll talk voicemails. We'll round it off with a lesson quote coming from you.

00:40:17
Speaker 3: I have a quote, real, Yeah, it's hard to kick to kind.

00:40:21
Speaker 1: Of find quotes with the the chaos over the weekend.

00:40:25
Speaker 3: Oh I know, dude, my quote actually came from a like in person conversation. Didn't hang out with the Jill step dat. It's on there in town for Jill's birthday, and he's just he's full of one liners.

00:40:38
Speaker 1: Dude, Like, I got to write him down, Dad, one liners. You got to put it in the notes app and you gotta start jotting him down whenever you hear from the generation above us, because they have some gold.

00:40:46
Speaker 3: He was telling me about a fight he got in way back in the day. He is down because we're watching the Monday night football game. We're talking about Houston. He said, Man, last time I was in Houston, this big old guys walked through the parking garage. Somebody's cat calling and his wife. He thinks it's me and our group of guys and he comes barreling over. I just looked at my friend. I said, this is gonna fucking hurt. Incredible. But the guy missed the punch and hit the car like uh, the actual car, Fraim and broke his hand. So Cody got out unscathed. Oh, I know they do. He's a legend, blue collar type. He's owned towing businesses, butcher shops, like all different types of stuff. He's a cool cat. I'll talk about it more later.

00:41:31
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, getting into my weekend with the girls. So my dad loss is more of a dad heartbreaker than anything else. So, as I've already told you, I've been solo with the kiddos. We're solo with the kiddos until you're listening to this on Wednesday, So tonight the wife gets home tonight, okay, but been sold with the kiddos on Saturday. And dude, nothing breaks your heart more than your little girl or you're I always assuming the little boys are like this too, especially if mama's gone being little Mama's boys. But seeing your little girl, miss Mama being gone, and that happened over the weekend.

00:42:09
Speaker 2: It was night too.

00:42:10
Speaker 1: So the first night Rue and I had a sleepover. We had a little slumber party where she slept in my bed. We usually do it like once every now and then, maybe once a weekend, maybe every other weekend.

00:42:19
Speaker 2: Just every now and then we hit a little sleepover where we can sleep with mama and dead dead.

00:42:23
Speaker 1: So we did a sleepover on night one on Saturday to just to keep her hype about something because mom was leaving.

00:42:28
Speaker 2: We're dropping her off at the airport. You could see the her thinging like how many sleeps until you get home?

00:42:33
Speaker 1: And like oh dang, like Mama's leaving. We're dropping her off at the airport. It's like, oh, we get to do is sleepover tonight? We could do this and that and getting her excited to hers she's not fully going down that emotional rabbit hole of mom being gone. Yeah, night too comes. So it's Sunday night and it was a it was a great afternoon. Called over reinforcements, talk about operation in laws, had them over to help with the kiddos and Lola open Lola. They're playing with Rue, keeping her busy. Lola's holding Scottie. Daddy gets to watch a little bit of ball. I'm watching ball with my father in law, and we're having a good time. It was a great afternoon. They leave around five. Rue's so tired she ends up sleeping a little bit on the couch. I wake her up because it's like, hey, I don't want you to sleep too long, you know, we need you tire for bedtime. And we're gonna eat dinner, and she's having a hard time like getting over to the dinner table, yeah, and eating dinner.

00:43:27
Speaker 2: And I just end up like, sweetheart, like what's going on? Like why is this? Why is this? You've been so good today, You've been you've been so patient, you've listened really well, You've had a lot of fun with Lola and Opa.

00:43:37
Speaker 1: And she just says, I miss mama and starts kind of crying, and I'm like, oh man, and so I'm hugging her, and so we get through the dinner and where I have to you know, I'm just like talking her through the dinner and everything else, and then we get to bedtime, and this.

00:43:51
Speaker 2: Is where it really goes.

00:43:52
Speaker 3: This is the.

00:43:52
Speaker 2: Real heartbreak moment.

00:43:54
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I'm trying. So my operation when I'm in my two minute drill with bedtime is seven o'clock rolls around. I get Scottie down, hopefully within thirty minutes feet of the bottle rocker, read reader a little nighttime book and get her down, and then I usually, like Rui'll just be hanging out. She might get a TV coupon, depends on where she's at with the TV coupons, but.

00:44:20
Speaker 3: She'll hang out.

00:44:20
Speaker 1: She'll play for ten She'll do things like either in her room or hang out downstairs while I'm putting Scotty down, And Rude does a great job, like, hey, you want to help that out?

00:44:28
Speaker 2: Can you get in your pjs while I'm putting Scottie down and kind of challenge her on like being a big girl. And I can I know I can trust you, Like I can trust that when I walk out of this room, you're gonna be in your pj's, You're going to be in your pull up.

00:44:40
Speaker 1: She does that. Yeah, And I'm trying to get Scottie ready for bed. I'm putting her PJS on, I'm getting in her sleepsack. I'm like set in the.

00:44:47
Speaker 2: Room, set in the mood, the same operation we have every night.

00:44:51
Speaker 1: And as I get Scotty in the sleepsack, Ruth's just crying like really starting to pick up, like a tantrum, like breaking down.

00:44:59
Speaker 3: And I got there, sweetheart, what's going on?

00:45:00
Speaker 1: I put Scotty in the crib and then I walk out into the hallway and I'm like, hey, sweetheart, what's going on? And she's just crying. She's like, I miss mama, I miss mamma. Can you put me to bed first? Like I don't want you to put Scotty to bed first?

00:45:11
Speaker 2: Can you put me to bed first?

00:45:13
Speaker 1: And I'm like, sweetheart, like I have to get Scotty needs it's her bottle time.

00:45:17
Speaker 2: I gotta put Scotty down. I gotta get her to bed. I promise, I'm gonna go as fast as I can so then I can spend it. It's just gonna be me and you tonight and I'll spend time with you.

00:45:25
Speaker 1: I'll read you three books, I'll read you the story. We'll do all the stuff, like we'll do all the things. And she's struggling, like she's breaking down, having a tantwer. I'm just like I'm starting to get stressed. I'm just like, gosh, damn it, man, like I need please, like get a hold of your emotions. I'm like saying this in my head as I'm trying to soothe rough Scottie. Micah Parson's on third down Demon's that's when she's on top of the crib like and she's crying, and I'm like, sweetheart, look at Scotty, like I just just please let me put Scotty.

00:45:54
Speaker 2: I promise I'm gonna go fast. She's say, no, you're not. You're not gonna go fast. You're not gonna put Scotty.

00:45:58
Speaker 1: Down, like I want you to put me down first, and a whole thing's going on. I'm like, hey, Sweeter, I know you miss Mama. I miss Mama too, Like Mama's the best person in the world. Mama is Dadad's favorite person.

00:46:07
Speaker 2: I love her. I love her and miss her as much as you do right now. And I know it's hard. I know it's hard. I'm like, but if you can just help me for a moment, like just you can go lay anywhere you want to. You can go lay in your bed, you can go lay down on the couch if you want to, because I know she's tired. She was like trying to take that nap and everything else.

00:46:24
Speaker 1: You can go lay in our bed if you miss mama. Lay on her side. Go lay it anywhere you want to. I promise, I'm gonna get this done as fast as I can. Just you look at Scotty, Jojo. I gotta go help the little one out right now. And so she's sobbing and she ends up like walking away and her shoulders are down. I just feel bad because I'm like, I don't know how else do. I'm like, you can come sit in the room with me and Scotty, but you can't. You can't be making loud noises because it'll keep Scotty awake. Yeah, but whatever you want to do, sweetheart, go lay with anywhere you want to. So I go in to put Scotty down feet of the bottle, and Scotty was pretty smooth. I get her down like within thirty minutes. And as I'm feeding her the bottle, I'm just hearing rue the echoes of her cries from downstairs, and the cries are like, I miss you so much, I love you so much, Mama, like she's talking to mom and it was just a heartbreaker, bro. And I'm just like checking the bottle and I'm like, she's dozing off. I hope she goes asleep because I need to put her down. I need to go down and really get with Rue. Yeah, so I get Scottie down. Dude, I go downstairs because I'm hearing the cries. I'm like, I gotta go get to her. And I walk downstairs. She's not on the couch. So I walk into my room. I'm like, Okay, she's probably laying on the bed. I walk in my room, bro, make a left and look down on the floor. Rue is laying down on the floor and she's holding our family photo just yelling that I miss you so much.

00:47:38
Speaker 2: I love you so much, Mama. I love you so much, mama. And it was the saddest thing in the world.

00:47:44
Speaker 3: B dude, it was so sad.

00:47:47
Speaker 1: It was like a it's just a heartbreaker, man. And Charles checking in, how's everything going on? My g It ain't like Rue struggling right now. And she's like, oh, does she miss me? And I'm like, she misses you badly, Like she's like she's like hurting, she missed you so much. So orre like you know, I get on face that we're getting on FaceTime with her and we're talking to her. You can just tell Rue sad. And then I'm like Hey, do you want to sleep with dad ad tonight again? Like, you can sleep in the bed, you can sleep in mama's spot. I'll put the photo right here by you. We'll FaceTime with mom. I'll read you some stories. I'll show her some Mama videos on Instagram. Oh yeah, and that calmed her down.

00:48:19
Speaker 2: We get her to sleep. But that's kind of like my dad heartbreaker.

00:48:22
Speaker 1: Like not it's not a loss, but it's like my heartbreaker of the week, Like that was so sad.

00:48:26
Speaker 3: Such a heartbreaker and such a dad win too though of like God, she loves y'all. That's yeah, awesome.

00:48:34
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like I know, like as I'm telling Charles how everything's going down there, it's breaking her heart that I'm telling her the story. And I know as a dad on the receiving end of some of the Hey, she's missing you. She wants you to call back, this, that the other. Just like when you're removed and far away and you can't be there, it just makes you sad because you know you're going to be coming home and they just can't wrap their mind like everything's okay.

00:48:54
Speaker 2: Now, Mama's right here.

00:48:55
Speaker 1: Look, you're talking to her like she's just she's just somewhere else right now. Yeah, but anytime we want to call her, we can. I can show you videos. I know you miss her and like, you know, you're giving them hugs. But you know, the mom guilt for my wife is kicking in, like as all this stuff's going on, because it's just a heartbreaker to be away from the kiddos, especially when they're struggling.

00:49:12
Speaker 2: They just don't they just don't like get it.

00:49:14
Speaker 3: And what a cheet code face time is. Yeah, thank god for face what a cheek code. Jill has a little nephew that I mean, she's face timed with maybe five thousand times, has hung out in person over the last year with maybe twice. But Jill is still one of his favorite people that he instantly like sparks up when she walks in the room because he's face timing.

00:49:40
Speaker 2: Her every night.

00:49:41
Speaker 3: Yeah gg I'm like, that's crazy that even over face time they can like make those connections.

00:49:47
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, but that was a heartbreaker, man.

00:49:50
Speaker 1: And the bad the habit that I've that I was alluding to is last night, some Monday night. Yeah, I'm sitting there and I'm like, Okay, I can't do three days in a row with her in the bed with me. Because you're just starting to create, you're getting in a different you're you're starting to starting to dip your toe in different waters that you don't want to set.

00:50:08
Speaker 2: This standard fee.

00:50:09
Speaker 1: Yeah, hey, you need to sleep in your bed. Roose upstairs. She crushes it with bedtime. I put Scottie down. I walk in her room. She's got all the peach she got to pull up on, the pj's on, she's playing for tend. She's got her little princess crown on. She's got her purse strap over her shoulder. She's got all this stuff on her body. And she's like, you know, plaining imagination. And I walk in the room and I have all I brought up her stuffed animals and sound machine and toothbrush and toothpaste, hair brush, brought all that.

00:50:38
Speaker 2: Back upstairs, like into her room.

00:50:39
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I set it all down, and I go downstairs to get the monitor for Scottie. And as I go downstairs, grab the monitor for Scotty, go back upstairs and put Rude out for bedtime.

00:50:48
Speaker 2: I walk in the room. Ruse got all the stuffed animals in her arms, and the hair brush and the toothpaste and the toothbrush, and I was like, sweetheart, let's get to bed.

00:50:57
Speaker 3: What are we doing?

00:50:58
Speaker 1: And she was like, I want sleep upstairs with you? And I'm like, baby, this is this bed is for you to sleep in, like we got to start doing We don't want to create a bad habit like that. We don't get to do this all the time, like you got to sleep in your bed and dad sleeps in his bed.

00:51:12
Speaker 2: And she's like, but I want to sleep with you.

00:51:16
Speaker 1: And I just looked down at her and she's looking up at me, and I'm just like, okay, let's go downstairs.

00:51:23
Speaker 3: Dude. How do you say no to that?

00:51:25
Speaker 2: You can't? You can't we go downstairs?

00:51:28
Speaker 3: She gets them.

00:51:29
Speaker 2: I'm like, hey, do you need me to help you.

00:51:30
Speaker 1: I'm like carrying all this stuff back downstairs, plugging it in in my room, setting up shopping my room because I'm thinking to myself, like I tell my wife and she's like, babe, you're going to create a bad habit. And I'm like, I know, I know, but I did tell her. I said, hey, when Mama comes home, you sleep in your bed, like this bed is for rude to sleep in. Yeah, the bed downstairs for mom and dadad as sleeping when mom comes home. You can't sleep with us, do you understand? And she says yes, But dude, I'm a I can't say no. And I love it too, Like, yeah, I love little Ruthe sleeping with me when I when I go out, because I'm like, all right, Dad is gonna go out and sit in the living room watch him like study up for tomorrow, watching TV show.

00:52:10
Speaker 2: You're gonna watch football on yet Dad is gonna watch some football.

00:52:12
Speaker 1: But Dad's gonna be here in the cuddle you whenever, you know, whenever I get done.

00:52:15
Speaker 2: Yeah, and just to come in and snuggle up next to Rue, Like it's so awesome. I love it more than she does.

00:52:23
Speaker 1: And so when my wife is like, you're kind of I'm like, sweetheart, I know, but I also.

00:52:27
Speaker 2: Enjoy it too.

00:52:28
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, oh yeah, So.

00:52:31
Speaker 1: We got one brew and I think it'll be I think we'll be sleeping together. I think she'll be in my bed every night until mom comes home.

00:52:36
Speaker 3: Hey, if that, if that's what it turns into, Like, let's say worst case scenario is that when Mom's out of town and you know, Scotty, whenever she gets that yeah, whatever, sleep with dad. I don't think that's that big of a deal. And maybe not. Maybe some people. Are you sure you gotta hold your boy accountable. He's doing bad habits that's going on. If I saw little Rue holding Teddy Bears, bro, I'm telling you stuff.

00:53:08
Speaker 2: Her arms were like this fool with the She had the hairbrush in her hands, she had her like five stuffed animals that she wanted to bring down. She didn't have the sound machine.

00:53:16
Speaker 3: And then she was like.

00:53:16
Speaker 2: Holding her toothbrush and no toothpaste. And I was like, what's what's going on here?

00:53:20
Speaker 3: And she was like, we'll go downstairs, no shot.

00:53:25
Speaker 2: Sleep in your bed. I want to sleep downstairs with you, no shot, no shot.

00:53:29
Speaker 3: Answer is yes, immedia.

00:53:31
Speaker 1: And there's just you know, we talk about being in this timeframe, she's gonna get bigger. There's gonna be you know, there's gonna come a time to where she doesn't want anything to do with sleeping next to.

00:53:41
Speaker 2: Dad ad or being around dad ad. Oh yeah, and I love it. But I am just a sucker, bro, I said, but what.

00:53:49
Speaker 3: Can you do? Man? I don't blame you. What can you do? I don't blame you.

00:53:53
Speaker 2: So that's going on that's happening.

00:53:56
Speaker 3: Uh, that's a really good dad loss. Like I know, we joke around, we say good a lot, but like that is a good dad loss. Or you know, whatever your low was of the week, Like.

00:54:07
Speaker 1: The importance will be when Mom saw them or we're both of them because whenever mom gets home, I gotta fly out Wednesday night to New York for ESPN.

00:54:14
Speaker 3: Oh and then.

00:54:15
Speaker 1: I'll be out Thursday night for the Thursday night football stream whenever bedtime's happening.

00:54:20
Speaker 2: So I think the big thing is like she might want to sleep with.

00:54:26
Speaker 3: Sleep with Mama's on Wednesday.

00:54:28
Speaker 2: Night, but it's when bod chairs are there.

00:54:30
Speaker 1: It's like we gotta hey, hey, no, no, no, you gotta sleep in your bed.

00:54:34
Speaker 3: Uh huh, Well you can do some kind of incentivizing of that. You'll come up with something.

00:54:40
Speaker 1: I had to come up with something on Spot last night. I was like, hey, sweet Art, let's brush your hair. And she's gotten into this new I want to read a book before I brush my hair, and it's like, you don't want to sit down and turn the lights off read a book. Then you going to brushing their hair. Then she wants to read another book. Then you do brushing your teeth. It's like, I want to brush your hair. We read the books while you're drinking your milk, then we go in and brush your teeth. Yeah, And and she was down in the in my room.

00:55:02
Speaker 2: She's like, no, I want to read a book first, I said, sweetheart, you're in Dadad's room.

00:55:05
Speaker 1: That means you you go by Dadad's rules. Oh, Dadd wants to we can brush your after a book. But if we brush your hair after a book, we're going to do it up in your room. So we can brush your hair now and you can sleep with Dadad, or we can go upstairs read a book and brush your hair. And then she just sat there and like stared at me and kind of was saying about it for a second.

00:55:19
Speaker 2: Then she just walked over handed me the brush. Yeah. Yeah, this is one win.

00:55:22
Speaker 3: I can like, hey, there you go. You chalked it up. I dude, there's not a chance. I'm just trying to like run any situation through my head of just where I could sit there and be like no, no, no, especially at that age, at that age.

00:55:38
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's all right, especially uh see, especially at that age.

00:55:42
Speaker 1: But when they're just in a really good mood or when they're very much cooperative, because again, three years old, the three year old era, they're very intense with their emotions, which I think is ultimately a good thing. You want them to feel their emotions. You want them like working through their emotions and anything else and kind of guide them through their emotions.

00:55:59
Speaker 2: But the three year three year old era is very much like very intense emotions.

00:56:03
Speaker 1: If something kind of goes sideways, I hang on a second, what are we doing here?

00:56:08
Speaker 2: Here? Is all you have to say.

00:56:09
Speaker 1: I gotta catch myself arguing with her, you know what I mean, because she might like lose it or get into the whiny voice or something, and I'll just basically say out loud how she should be talking to me.

00:56:21
Speaker 2: Like let's just say, for example, she did I want to I want to pouch?

00:56:25
Speaker 1: I wanna I want She's whining about a pouch, and like, hey, sweet, that DA doesn't accept the way you're talking to me. And then she might she might keep let's just say she keeps whinding, but I'll go and get the pouch. If it's like snack time er, like, hey, yes, she should have a pouch right now, I'll go hand to the pouch. Hey, hey, dad, d could I have a pouch right now for a snack? And then when I hand you the pouch, you say thank you, Like that's all you need to say. I were on the same team. You don't need to whine. You don't need to get in all this like emotional state of like not getting something. All you gotta say is, hey dad, hey, dadda, can I have a pouch please? And then I might say yes, I might say no, but either way that's how you need to be talking to dead and like show you know, their minds are kind of like going and thinking about it because sometimes, bro, when they get in that whining phase, it's like I just boil, Like, bro, what are you doing?

00:57:13
Speaker 2: What are you doing right now? You don't have to sit here and whine, but you gotta try. I'm like, okay, she's three, the emotions, the brain, that development happening right now. Something just you know, she lost her sticker.

00:57:24
Speaker 3: It's almost like what you said earlier about like how you have to tell rue sometimes, like hey, you can't you can't be talking to Scotti like that because Scotti's just a baby. Yeah, Like you're having to tell yourself, you know, you know, I gotta teach Rue how to how to talk like an adult because the Roue isn't.

00:57:42
Speaker 1: There yet, right, they don't understand. Yeah, and you're kind of showing them. They're very very observant, like they are smart. Yeah, they're thinking through a lot of things. They just need to know what it looks like and how it's done. Because a lot of times, like where I connect with Rue on a lot of levels is I just always bring up a past experience to match where whatever experience she's having. Like again, I brought up like losing a sticker. If she lost a sticker, it's like me just making up a story about me losing stickers all the time.

00:58:07
Speaker 3: Yeah.

00:58:08
Speaker 1: So that way you can like get on their level and they start listening to you, like, oh that it goes through stuff like this, or like Scotty and I gotta tell her, dude, how many times I gotta tell Scotty not to go do that, not to go do this?

00:58:17
Speaker 2: Oh, Scotty, jojo, don't do that.

00:58:19
Speaker 1: Or you know when we get frustrated when Scotty gets into X, Y and Z.

00:58:23
Speaker 2: But what do we gotta do?

00:58:23
Speaker 1: We just go over there, Hey, Scotty, know we don't do that, and we we just bring her back over to.

00:58:27
Speaker 2: The mat, like you have to be patient with their sweetheart. Yeah, and she they're listening.

00:58:31
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just getting through that barrier of those like reactive moments as a parent on like wanting to immediately correct them because you're upset by the way they're talking to you.

00:58:43
Speaker 3: Oh, big time, big time. I'll I'll have to bite my lip or bite my tongue on that for sure, because I and very quick to you know, jump on something that I don't like, especially with the dogs. Like I'm very big on like the I you know, real loud and like kind of nip it. Yeah, dude, And I just the patience will be some you know, something that I'll have to dive into. But I love the story aspect of it because just thinking of like my dad was big on that as you were telling that story, I was just thinking of myself of like my dad did that a lot now that I think about it, and it does work. Did what a lot?

00:59:19
Speaker 2: Just just like leveling with you with.

00:59:22
Speaker 3: You or like hey, like I wouldn't do that. Here's why when I was, you know, fourteen, I did that. It turned out like this just want to let you know. And then I'm sitting there going okay, like that awesome that one like Dad, you know, kind of told me something personal or whatever. But two, yeah, that does sound like something I wouldn't want to do, so I'll take his word for it. Yeah, I was.

00:59:47
Speaker 2: One thing you'll learn too is how you are with the dog in front of your kid. Oh really, yeah, because like you know, Waffle, she's a bulldog, English bulldog, lover her Yeah, stubborn.

01:00:00
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I got my taste when I was on the beanback chair. Yeah.

01:00:04
Speaker 1: Yeah, to you know, I can like lose my cool with Waffle. She's not like listening to me. Well, whether it's get her off the couch, there's like a challenge moment going on with the dog. And to where pre rue, it's like I'm you know, more reactive with Waffle, yeah, or like pushing her off the couch or like doing something to get her off. And then if she snaps at me, it's like we're both kind of posturing over and I'm like standing over with my fists.

01:00:28
Speaker 3: He does that. He that is not to be funny on the show. I have seen it with Woffle was like getting on me and was like man handling me. Yeah, yeah, pulled her off and he started just standing over and Waffle's looking up and going, yeah, Wills, what are you gonna do? What are you gonna do?

01:00:52
Speaker 1: Man?

01:00:52
Speaker 3: Waffle?

01:00:53
Speaker 1: Waffle, get off the couch, move and to where I'll see Rue start trying to be snappy at times with Water. I'm just thinking, oh, no, no, no, this is this is because of me. This is because I've been the example for it in front of Waffle. She thinks this is how you have to handle the dog. And I've been a very poor example in front of my daughter. But that's one thing you like, learn to balance however you you are with uh.

01:01:14
Speaker 3: You know, your animals.

01:01:14
Speaker 1: I'm not saying like if you're like an abusive person, but I'm saying, like, the times that you do react to the dog because patience is low and it's just you guys at the house when you do have kids, then you see it coming out, you know, flashes and the kids, and I'm thinking, Okay, I have to change my style with my dog in front of Rue, because Ruth's just mimicking the way that I will be with Waffle.

01:01:35
Speaker 2: Because Waffle is stubborn. Bro like Waffle. It's like she'll be on the couch and she tries to get to the highest point. She thinks she's the alpha. So what these dogs try to do?

01:01:43
Speaker 1: Yeah, it gets the highest point, lay on the highest coashin and she just looks like a beanbag sitting on top of the on top of the cushions.

01:01:49
Speaker 3: I love it.

01:01:50
Speaker 1: And yeah, dude, I love she's She's an awesome dog. She loves love. She wants to cut on. Oh yes, And I'll be like, Waffle, can you get off the couch? And like, as I'm walking over to Waffle, you just kind of see the you know, the growling start happening because they're very again, they're just stubborn, bro.

01:02:07
Speaker 2: And if Ru's sitting there, I have to completely like rewire my thinking because if Ruth's not there, I'm thinking, Okay, you want to you want to shot at the title right now?

01:02:16
Speaker 3: Yeah? Here here we go again.

01:02:17
Speaker 1: What do you owe for? Who's undefeated in this match? But Waffle like won't move, you know what I mean? Where you gotta now? I just go out, like walk in the pantry bag, Waffle want to treat and then shake the tree.

01:02:29
Speaker 2: She comes running. I'm like, all right, I got you, Yeah, who who's the dumb one now?

01:02:33
Speaker 3: By big one? And I was gonna ask you too, what Waffle thinks about scott Zilla just tearing up her water bowl. But my big one right now is when guests come over. Uh, we've really implemented, especially with Scarlett now in the house, and it's funny you bring up dogs. That's actually my dad loss. We have a baby gate. They stay downstairs whenever we have guests over, and they're really yippie behind the baby gate, but they do a good job of listening to Dad. I just got to show a little bit of force, and so I will literally to my house guests. I'll go, guys, I'm so sorry. I'm just gonna be laded just one time. But they will not bark for you know, the foreseeable future. If I do this walk over to the baby gate away in the house guests, I just go hi, and they sit and they're silent for the rest of the night. Not bad, I.

01:03:29
Speaker 2: Don't know, I don't think so.

01:03:30
Speaker 5: The same issue we're all yell when I go to Knoxville to see Alex, We're all got she don't yell at them, And I'm like, look, she's not moving anymore.

01:03:43
Speaker 3: She stopped. He can't wait for him to be a dad, by the way, cannot wait in a good way, like I'm preparing such a good dad, dude, he is. I I just love the impersonation of Alex.

01:04:03
Speaker 5: You don't yell at us, Oh, she'll get at me, And I'm just something about it bubbles in me where I'm like, it's an immediate but it works where you get it. It's like a snap gets their attention because if you go, hey, Scottie, Scott but Alex's dogs named Scotti and hey, come over here, and she she'll nicest dog ever, but she'll kind of wander over or maybe won't listen to you, but then you know, eventually it'll be a Scotty works like a charm Yeah every time.

01:04:30
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, those.

01:04:31
Speaker 1: Are like it's like, it's like two things that I've changed with Waffle is one, instead of diving into that altercation with her on the couch, it's going like, hey, Waffle, do you want to treat and she comes back. And the second one is you know, when you have you have your kids, it's like people say, hey, you love your dog. I'm taking photos of Waffle. I'm doing all these things with Waffle before the kids come, and I'm telling Waffle like you'll never beat my number two.

01:04:54
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah.

01:04:55
Speaker 1: But the moment your kids come, it's a different story. They go down the totem pole, they do. They feel it as well. The dog feels as well. And what I had to switch with Waffle on the second note is like, say she's over in the area around the kids or with the kids, or potentially bothering the kids, instead of like getting on Waffle and moving her out of the situation, because they're going through there the little dog goes.

01:05:15
Speaker 3: They're going through their.

01:05:16
Speaker 1: Own little process too of just being sad that they're not the thing anymore. But instead of like removing Waffle from the situation or getting on Waffle for kind of being in that being in their space, it's been more so teaching the kids how to be sweet to Waffle and be kind and hey, she just sniff and she just wants she's just curious, she wants to play. She sees you playing with the thing, You're having a lot of fun. And the way she senses everything she uses her nose. So you just got a pattern. If you don't wonder there just mom or Dad, can you please? Can you please move Waffle? And then in a sweet way, it's like we'll get Waffle away. But those have been the two things that I've had to kind of check myself on as a dog owner, being an example in front of my kids is the altercation moment on the couch, like getting her off the couch, and then when they're in when Waffle just kind of mosy's over and she's kind of in their space and they start like when r will start like snapping and yelling, and I think to myself, she's just she's mimicking Dad right now, and I've got to change something up because she's got to like learn that, hey, Waffle doesn't know either, you know how Scotty doesn't know. Waffle doesn't know she's a dumb little dog. Oh, she doesn't get it, and you kind of like softly remove them. It's kind of rekindled something between me and Waffle as well, because there's been moments where I've had to like look in the mirror and be like, yeah, she does.

01:06:21
Speaker 2: She's not getting a lot of love from Dad right now.

01:06:23
Speaker 5: I also kind of just reiterate just to clarify too, I don't scream at my dogs a lot.

01:06:28
Speaker 3: It's just more to get their attention. Gotta be careful with the parent that dog parents because as soon as Scotty comes up, Hey, come here, girl, come here. Oh, it's so.

01:06:37
Speaker 5: Cute, positive reinforcement immediately. It's more just to get their attention. Yeah, before people just come in, I promise you.

01:06:42
Speaker 1: We got we got PT sixers sixers and you got some some dog team sixers in here.

01:06:47
Speaker 3: You got some dog parents.

01:06:48
Speaker 1: In here like this will kind of just challenge Waffle at all times and swing on her. I've had to check myself in some situations, but those have been the learning curves in parenthood with your animal.

01:06:58
Speaker 3: Couldn't have asked for a better segue into my dad loss this week. And also for any PT sickos, I'm seeing the PT six echoes on the internet. By the way, I'm loving it so the PT sickos that are also Chef sichos. Look out on socials for our USF unboxing video. Chef absolutely killed this unboxing video. I can't wait for you to see it.

01:07:24
Speaker 2: I'm excited to see it too. We got another box from USF.

01:07:27
Speaker 3: We did We got a whole package from USF. Shout out bulls, Shout out the bulls from their equipment manager for.

01:07:34
Speaker 1: The Dad's POD's gonna it's the unboxing. So we're gonna be like Coach Cruden over here in the dad work. Truly, people just teams are just gonna start sending in boxes for for dad culture.

01:07:43
Speaker 3: I'll sport it. I picked up one of those USF shirts so fast, it was so soft.

01:07:49
Speaker 1: Don't do it the some of the siccos in that audience, they'll say, you're copying.

01:07:54
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh love to be careful already still agree? Yeah, yeah do we not? What are we supposed to just throw the box away? Yeah? Yoh free close, damn got throw it away? Uh no, go ahead, chep oh.

01:08:10
Speaker 5: I was just gonna say, shout out to USEF and yeah, we don't want to copy Coach Gruden, but this is we did shout out all the equipment managers out. Yeah, and they want to show love, so we want to reiterate that. But yeah, shout out USF and Arkansas for sending.

01:08:24
Speaker 2: Us inspired by coach Yes, inspired by inspired by Gruden?

01:08:29
Speaker 3: Yeah, which is that such a cry?

01:08:31
Speaker 1: I don't forget where he was before Barcelon that was coaching your boy. Hey, come on ouh, my dad who's got the Grooden grinder shirt hanging in his closet. Week won twenty sixteen season.

01:08:43
Speaker 3: People forget about that. People forget and you were You were like top twenty five hottest player in twenty sixteen. I think I was number seven. Some are saying I summer saying, Derek, if you google it, it's the best Google of all time, it's the best google.

01:08:57
Speaker 2: Like the most attractive players I was like on the list was just pre veneers.

01:09:01
Speaker 1: Yes, oh yeah, but that's I don't have a smile going on in the photo, Like I'm just kind of sitting there. And then, you know, whenever I was promoting, whenever I was like having fun with it back in twenty fifteen or sixteen, whenever that was people are talking about, you know, the teeth.

01:09:15
Speaker 2: And everything else.

01:09:16
Speaker 1: Because Julian Ellman's on it, I might have been higher than Julian.

01:09:19
Speaker 3: You were.

01:09:20
Speaker 2: Joe Flacco was number one.

01:09:21
Speaker 3: You were higher than some some NFL some times hotties, some hotties. Yeah, you were up there.

01:09:29
Speaker 4: Uh, there's not an article that says we're referring to actual looks fanatics dock Coomas Compotle list of the most attractive teams, The Redskins ranked third, and then the very next paragraph, linebacker Will Coompton was voted the most attractive player on the Skins and the fifth best looking in the league.

01:09:45
Speaker 3: Top five. I didn't know your top five.

01:09:48
Speaker 1: Buddy, and I shared a locker room with U, with Ryan Kerrigan, who's a specimen of a human being.

01:09:55
Speaker 3: A piece of meat. You will a piece of meat into a human meat missile. Yeah, as they say, Compton, look at Derek holding up. I love that we have the producer camp fifth in the league, fifth in the league away from me. That's what the five and then take your tenth year. But they can't take fifth best looking in the NFL. The five and fifty one. They don't know it does mean top.

01:10:20
Speaker 2: Five to top five type shit?

01:10:22
Speaker 3: Tight shit?

01:10:24
Speaker 2: Uh my dad lost kicking your dog?

01:10:26
Speaker 3: Go ahead, I can't go again. No, Dad loss was forgetting the dogs, is exactly what you were talking about. We had a great night on that would have been Sunday night where we did or no, it was Saturday. I'm so sorry because college football was going on and I was grilling up a bunch of steaks. I was grilling up chicken. We had some Halipino poppers. Fantastic night, And honestly I was in my dad uh as far as like spending a ton of time with Scarlett pouring into Jill. We're coming off of a bad weekend. This is like a makeup game. This is like a week gotta lock in, This is a we know what this program was built on, and I'm just hitting everything full force, killing it as a dad in my own brain got too cocky, got way too cocky, because what did I forget to do walk the dogs? What did I also forget to do that night? Put that new baby gate up that we've implemented. So Goose, who Goose is very attached to me. He was a rescue, he was tied to a pole behind a liquor store during COVID. Yes, he's our little schnauzerdoodle. He's a little schnoodle. He got very attached to me because Mom's favorite is Wriggly and it's very well known in the house. Jill loves Goose. Jill loves Goose.

01:11:55
Speaker 2: Like Goose is what? Like Goose and Wriggly are watching the episode right now.

01:11:58
Speaker 3: Yeh yah, yeah, yeah yeah. Jill loves Goosey, Goosey. Mom loves you, Mama loves you. But Dad kind of has to step in there and be a surrogate love factory for Goose because he doesn't always get it from Mom. So anyways, I digress. He's a little jealous of Scarlet, and Dad does in Scarlet, And uh, do you want to tell the listeners what gift you got Jill and I or y'all's family got Jill and I for Scarlet?

01:12:29
Speaker 2: Do you remember I've got you a couple? You have got it?

01:12:32
Speaker 3: This one's in our nursery. Oh the rocking chair. The rocking chair. It's a good chair, isn't it.

01:12:38
Speaker 1: I think about it every night when I'm sitting her rocking and I hear, you know, maybe a squeak at the end or at the far back, and I just think to myself, I wonder if sure he's rocking right now too.

01:12:47
Speaker 3: Every freaking night Jill and I are in that chair. We love that chair. And Goose knows that that's the chair that Dada sits with Scarlet and tells him no whenever he's trying to get up and get his pets. And there was a massive mark on top of the He jumped on the chair and just gave it up. Mark the top of it like where your back would go as like a fu. You forgot to walk me, You didn't put the gate up. So I'm gonna show you. This is goose territory. This is a goose house.

01:13:24
Speaker 2: Do we have a standoff?

01:13:27
Speaker 3: I was livid, pissed. I swallowed it because I was like the right thing to because they forget after they do it, like I you know, I've heard with dogs like if you catch them in the act of something. Yeah, if you catch them in the act, you can, you know, correct the behavior. But I mean, I'm waking up the next morning and we're finding the huge piece staying on the rocky chair. Oh you didn't see until the next morning. Yes, this was at night because we had gone to bed and I forgot to walk the because we stayed up late grilling and we're doing scarscar tuckns and ep on the chair.

01:14:01
Speaker 1: Yes, dude, he went in there. That's the one thing I was scared of when I got that color.

01:14:07
Speaker 3: I know, in the middle of the night.

01:14:09
Speaker 1: That's the one thing I was scared of when it's a white white jumped up on. It was the one that had to get ordered too, and there was you know, it didn't get there right in time for.

01:14:16
Speaker 3: This ordered this very nice chair. Now, however, I was thinking, do you want the white get dicey just so you feel good and everybody at home, if you're on you know the edge of your seat. Stain did come out. We got some think God, yes, stan did come out. We do have some utensils and stuff and steamers and whatever that like, we're good. But it was a good reminder of don't don't forget about the dogs. We got a love on the dogs.

01:14:46
Speaker 2: It's a hard reminder, bro a hard one.

01:14:49
Speaker 3: And I was so mad at goose, but I understood. And it's also hilarious how the dog brain works. If he's like Dad has totally forgotten about me, this little crying thing all the time. He's obsessed with it.

01:15:00
Speaker 2: Yeah, this dog, this this still thing. Can't sit, he sits spin, can't do it, can't stand and dance for retreat and.

01:15:06
Speaker 3: He's getting this thing's getting treats every three hours.

01:15:09
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't let this thing. How you got to change them all the time. You just let me outside and he.

01:15:13
Speaker 3: Sits in that chair all proud with his new little thing. He's given it treats all the time in that chair. I'll fucking show him.

01:15:19
Speaker 2: Yeah, where's that thing's dog collar?

01:15:21
Speaker 3: Just imagine, imagine just him going directly to that chair in the middle of the night. Showed him and then went back and crawled underneath our bed because they sleep underneath our bed. Yeah, but that was my dad loss.

01:15:37
Speaker 2: It's a it's a quick Did you lose it on him the next morning?

01:15:39
Speaker 3: Is if it just happened? No, just because like with they are doing a really good job with the new system that we set up of like the baby gate. You guys sleep here, you eat it, these times, you do walks it, these times. The accidents in the house are completely gone pretty much. I mean, like we've really cracked down on the dogs and they've been doing a great job. So I really didn't want to hold it against him, to be honest. Also, another dad loss, this goes with forgetting about the dogs. We hadn't given him a haircut in decades, and he's a shnoodle, so he's all matted up and after the accident, then the next morning, I'm you know, kind of rubbing on him and stuff. I'm looking at his matts. I'm like, I've completely forgotten about it, you dude. I spent four hours on Sunday. Remember when we were trying to connect and get together. I was like, Hey, I don't think it's gonna work well. We have this.

01:16:33
Speaker 1: We were trying to put together a little dad day. It's like, hey, bring Scarlett over, let's do something the words to the dad's watching the kids.

01:16:40
Speaker 3: It didn't work out, and it would have been epic, dude, And I've gotten two separate dms of people saying, Sherman, is Scarlet potentially gonna become Scarzilla if she becomes friends with scott Zilla, And I'm like, I would love I would love it too, bro. If she matched that energy and they became two little peas in a pod, I wouldn't hate it.

01:17:02
Speaker 1: Scarzvilla, we're just both there, like making him play fetch with stuff.

01:17:06
Speaker 3: You see.

01:17:06
Speaker 2: You saw the videos with the marker over the weekend.

01:17:08
Speaker 3: Go get it, go on Scarlet and she just Scarlet beats out. Scotty will just leaves the room.

01:17:16
Speaker 1: You can't snap on him. They're young, They're not gonna get it. So yeah, you got to remove yourself from the room.

01:17:20
Speaker 3: Scotty, you're eight months older than What are you doing? What are you doing? That would break me? Oh? Yeah, yeah, but yeah that was that was my dad loss.

01:17:32
Speaker 2: Do Where were even at right now?

01:17:36
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01:17:59
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01:18:02
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01:18:15
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01:18:29
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01:19:24
Speaker 2: Great read.

01:19:25
Speaker 3: I wanted that fly so bad, dude.

01:19:27
Speaker 2: I know it's rough. By the way, we didn't even talk about.

01:19:30
Speaker 3: These Let's talk about it.

01:19:33
Speaker 2: Let's talk about I was gonna say the fly landed on this good one or the four of the dads when I wanted to pop it but I couldn't get it. But we had gifts come in.

01:19:39
Speaker 3: We had some major gifts come in. And if people remember from one episode, I thought this was just next level performance. I quoted King Thaden of Rohan from Lord of the Rings, Return of the King. You did and he printed out this mug you printed on a lot, printed it out. Is it Justin? This is this is uh? This is Justin Klarner.

01:20:04
Speaker 2: Justin Clarner. Thank you for the gifts.

01:20:06
Speaker 1: Thank you for the little gift package, bro, with all of these different little.

01:20:09
Speaker 3: I don't even know what you call these little diss Yeah, they're drink coasters. There we go, this coasters. There were six.

01:20:17
Speaker 1: Got to keep it under an hour, which, by the way, we do need to keep this episode under an hour.

01:20:20
Speaker 3: Look at the Nebraska one day you've printed out for you.

01:20:23
Speaker 2: That's why that one's propped up. That's hard bussing week.

01:20:26
Speaker 3: Hard a big week for house, not a football podcast, not a fool, big week for ness, big week for Nebraska. Also, Justin wrote us a letter. Do we want to read that very quickly sure read the letter two before the Dad's podcast. Hope you enjoyed these coasters I made for you guys during my paternity leave. Congratulations. Justin apologies if I went overboard, but my quality control and R and D team my wife have me create multiple variations of the designs. They are all three D printed and I designed all of them, except for the college plaques I found online. I found you guys shortly before the birth of my daughter and was instantly hooked. The first episode I listened to was episode four. I had it on while I was out doing yard work, and I kept stopping inside to replay bits for my wife. We both love the show. So now every Wednesday, my wife, my one month old daughter, and I watch it together. I love it that I get to follow Scherm as he goes through his journey through the PT six ranks a couple of weeks ahead of me. Love the show. Please do not keep it under an hour. All the best from Justin, Michelle and Little Emerson Klarner. Let's go Shout out the fam. Shout out the Fam. He's good.

01:21:35
Speaker 1: PT six unit over there, good PT six one one? Con I heard in that note.

01:21:41
Speaker 3: What's going on.

01:21:41
Speaker 2: He started with episode four. I want to know if he's went back and went one through three.

01:21:45
Speaker 3: Printing off these many drink coasters.

01:21:48
Speaker 2: I guarantee it because I know that there are new PT.

01:21:51
Speaker 3: Six.

01:21:51
Speaker 2: It ohs like you'll be seeing people. I went all the way back and I'm called all the way up from episode one.

01:21:58
Speaker 3: I had some body dmy just the other night about that. I sent him a little voice message back.

01:22:03
Speaker 2: I love that you sent Yeah, you sent them. Oh my gosh, what happened.

01:22:07
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of a voice message I had to send for this dude's birthday on September third. Oh no, I responded to the gallon everything and said, I'll have this video cooked up for you.

01:22:17
Speaker 3: Oh.

01:22:17
Speaker 1: It was like late at night when I was like, uh, it was like when I was putting the kid, when I was putt skytie down. I kind of going through some dms because you're trying to keep up with everything, everything, and I'll try and click on the ones that seem longer to where like, you know, if they're sharing something with you, try to hit him back with a message, and gosh, dang.

01:22:34
Speaker 3: It is he GBR? If he's GBR, I think the make good is on House Rules give a little belated birthday shout out.

01:22:44
Speaker 2: I'm scared I won't be able to find.

01:22:46
Speaker 3: It because if I was GBR and Will Compton is on Matt Rules podcast and he goes, oh, by the way, happy belated Cameron, I would lose my mind. I don't even care if it's four months after my birthday. I'm going nuts. But Yeah, the DM that I got was a guy basically saying, Hey, I'm so glad that I found you guys at like episode eight, because I'm still to the point where I don't have to wait till the next week for like a new episode. And I hit him back in the voice message. I said, that's crazy that you say that, because I got onto Game of Thrones in like season four, season five, and that's how I felt about Game of Thrones. So the fact that you feel that way about the show that we're doing tells me everything I need to know about.

01:23:34
Speaker 2: How nice reference too with the Game of Thrones.

01:23:36
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, And I was like, what an honor to like be that for some listener that they're like, yes, I don't have to wait another week, Because that's a good feeling.

01:23:44
Speaker 1: To the gal I'm supposed to send a video note to please for the love of God, DM me back so it gets to the top of the inbox.

01:23:51
Speaker 2: I was just trying to scroll through to find it.

01:23:52
Speaker 1: I'm on mic, I got anxiety right now that I didn't get back to her and did' send that video.

01:23:56
Speaker 3: That's okay, ugh damn to make him feel better. I will also brag on Will over the weekend. I think I shared this with you briefly. Somebody came to our table at Jill's birthday dinner and UH basically just said, Hey, I just want to let you know Love Busting Love the brand. UH just want to shout out Will really quick because I reached out to him when I was going through a rough time and the words they had for me via DM we're going back and forth. It really helped me out a lot. I was like, dude, what a cool thing to like hear about your boss makes you really happy of the place that you work at.

01:24:35
Speaker 2: I appreciate the words of information in a time of need. Right now, Yeah, I feel like I let I let this, I let this couple down right here.

01:24:42
Speaker 3: Dude, you have so many of those types of things come in your way that if you missed one. Nobody's perfect, dude. Yeah, and maybe I'm going too easy on will you might be ru can sleep in the bed. It's okay to miss the birthday shout outs. But I feel that way. Yeah, I feel that way.

01:24:59
Speaker 2: I gotta find it. I gotta I gotta make that right. I gotta make that right.

01:25:02
Speaker 1: Crack a cold one, crack a segment, my crack a cold one, and will you give.

01:25:07
Speaker 3: Me a liquid? IV? I would actually love to make a little liquid.

01:25:10
Speaker 2: Would you like, uh, firecracker, the popsicle or would you like the I'll do the popsicle, the mango passion fruit.

01:25:18
Speaker 3: I do like mango passion fruit, but I'll do popsicle.

01:25:22
Speaker 2: Nope, And it's my shot. And somebody giving a little honk to the little pt Sico.

01:25:28
Speaker 3: This one is firecracker. They're like the bottle.

01:25:31
Speaker 1: So my crack a cold one. This week is going to be getting that alone time with your kids. As a parent, I think it's it's always like you're you're in the trenches when your partner is not with you and they're doing their thing, you know, out for a work thing, like I'm out a lot of the times, like at least once a week to where Charles handling bedtime duty and you're doing the d You're doing all things with the kids.

01:25:57
Speaker 2: I get the kiddos there.

01:25:58
Speaker 1: It's a it's a full time gig, but it's like having those solo times that you do with the kids because you just build your relations your personal relationship with them a lot more. I feel like with Rue, there's a lot more of those one on one teaching moments that happen because it is just you there. So when chaos is kind of breaking out or something's happening, and you know, it's just you, like nobody's coming to save you. It's it's been a favorite quote of mine forever. Nobody's coming to save you. Nobody cares, work harder. It's like stuff like that that you get reminded of in those moments to where you have more intentional time getting to sleep with there, to do the sleepovers at nighttime, her feeling like, you know, calling her, I'm just saying little things like you you're my best friend, You're like my my favorite little heart beat in the world right now, And just like stuff like that, to where you're connecting with them a lot and they're like, you know, you're just you're you're giving them words of information, like when they're being a good teammate and telling her, hey, we're on the same team.

01:26:51
Speaker 2: It's just me and you here, Like we got to do a good job with Scotty. We gotta do a good job of waffle. We gotta do a good job of picking up stuff, picking up after ourselves. But so, Mike, crack of cold one is like having those solo times with the kiddos, because it is it's like, Oh, I'm.

01:27:03
Speaker 1: In the trenches right now. I really wish wife, he was home. I wish there was some help here. But when you grab that perspective of hey, nobody's here, nobody, this is you, or those moments where it's like I would rather wat, but my three year old wants to play right now, I need to go. I need to play with her because there's gonna be a data where she doesn't want to play.

01:27:19
Speaker 2: With me anymore.

01:27:19
Speaker 1: Yeah, moments like that, And I'll also say another crack of cold one is operating while your wife is out of town, like being I take pride in like being the partner for my wife to where I'm not hitting her up about stuff I know, like she she probably doesn't like consciously think about that, but I'm sure I know she has perspective on you know, if she talks to her friends or when their husband's hitting them, hitting them up all the time about needing someone or where's this or where's that? Or how do I do X, Y and Z, Like you kind of leave them on an island and they need help, like while the mom and while the wife is gone. I take a lot of pride in not being that to Charro, like, hey, I trust me. I know you're gonna have a lot of guilt. I know you're gonna miss the kiddh. She doesn't travel near as much as I do. She has a lot of that mom guilt. But I'm like, dude, you need to go have your own time. You need to go sleep in the hotel room and know like, oh it's ten o'clock and I can go to bed and I don't have any responsibility, like we'll do the face times and everything else. But dude, you go take like whatever time you need. I will handle this at home. I will operate at home. I know everything to do. Yep, you to wur you don't have to worry about that. I feel like that's a big crachnical one. And to the PT sixers out there, And if your wife is sitting there watching this episode and thinking, hey, Mama needs to take a trip, needs it, Mama needs the Vegas. I forget the call in or whatever the wind was like episodes ago. Yeah, the Robin like where you might need a Rodman trip, like the wife, he needs a Rodman trip too, or they need to go do things. Your boy has been able to operate. There's a nine day Italy trip, yep, Dad had it on lock. A few day Arizona trip, and Phoenix for another work thing. They'll with their friends. The Arizona work thing. Daddy had it on lock. And this one too is another one to where it's like, yes, it is stressful. I do get tired at times because we have all the shows that we got to do in the week, and like you're just again when you're at home, you're solo with the kiddos. But another krackical one to the to the Papa team sixers out there, that man the ship whenever mom or wife he's out of town to where you don't Mom doesn't have to worry. They might worry on their own because that's just the nature of the beast. But to where they know, like, oh, Dad, Pete Siko, he's got it. Back home, he's got he's dial he's dial right now, back home.

01:29:35
Speaker 3: And to your success, you have a chance to as a mentor to help a boy out. Because there is a Bachelor Rat party that Jill will be attending first weekend of October that we we can talk about it. You know, we going into that episode to make it a big thing. But there's already some talks and Jill's probably going here this, so I'm glad she she's hearing this as well. We do we need to get a night nurse on Saturday for you. Do you think you'll be able to wake up and you'll be able to, you know, do all this stuff because Scarlet's make it and you.

01:30:11
Speaker 1: Look her in the eyes and say, don't ever disrespect me like that again.

01:30:14
Speaker 3: I stood I Jill, Jill Anne Young? Did I not? And I went now now her mom her mom was there, so I was very sweet about it. So well, maybe, well we'll talk about it when we get closer to the Yeah, we could talk about maybe that is a good idea, but I'm in my head I got this.

01:30:33
Speaker 2: You got this, bro, You're built for this.

01:30:35
Speaker 1: Let me don't and selfishly, these are opportunities for the dads to get on the scoreboard when those opportunities come up, like I don't say the nine day Italy trip, the three day Arizona trip, the five day Portland, Oregon trip to like you know, flex my stats and run up the score a little bit. But all to say is like, these are opportunities to where if you stay downed and you do it right and you handle the correct way. There's also some some scoreboards from pet six and start to back up.

01:31:00
Speaker 3: I'm going to six flags.

01:31:02
Speaker 1: Yeah, guarantee, guaranteed seasons past season, season past. It's the fast pass too, baby, Yes, sir, I'm right up the front of the line.

01:31:13
Speaker 3: Come on taking me through the back door. Maybe you know you do it? Wait, didn't we just see you? What are you doing back up here? Fast past? Yeah? Sorry, sorry, but no, I want to want to prove myself. I'm like a part of me is sitting there and I appreciate them with the night Urs stuff because we're talking about Scarlet. I mean, this is precious cargo. But in the same breath, I'm like man. I want it to be synonymous when you talk about, you know, Sherman being home alone with Scarlet, that that also in your brain, he's got it, he's got it.

01:31:44
Speaker 1: When you get those opportunities, this is no different than an opportunity that the Huskers have this weekend, Like this is a big game opportunity when the PT sixers have the chance to man the ship for the weekend, for a few days, whatever it is. And you almost challenge your wife back to where, Hey, I don't want to hear from you if you're if you have anxiety and your stresses high, like I just want you to know that's gonna be on you because I'm gonna take care of business back home.

01:32:07
Speaker 3: And the line for this Nebraska Lot of Football podcast, But the line for this Nebraska game is plus one and a half. And what'd your boy do?

01:32:15
Speaker 1: You move the line minus thirteen and a half Nebraska Cornhers Bekers and you put a bomb on it.

01:32:20
Speaker 3: Responsibly, responsibly, And that's what I want to do with this. I note that the lines are right here, and that if you know, if I just do the bare minimum and we do yes, Hey, that's what they expect. Yes and night nurse comes in and night nurse, you know, leaves great notes and all that, and Sherman did great during the day. Blah blah blah. Yeah, I'm gonna get Pats on the back. I'm get you won the game. You did great, Sherman, but if I solo it, and yeah, honey, I did get you know, a total of nine hours of sleep over the weekend. But you know what, I loved every fucking second of it. And I'm ready to go into the work week. I feel juiced.

01:32:58
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't let her like, hey, put me on an island. I don't need chip or help. I know this past roaster is nice. Yeah, but slide away from me. I'll handle them one on one. You don't need to put a tight end there. You don't need a running back to chip them coming out of the backfield.

01:33:12
Speaker 3: I want when when they're running a crossing route. I want her to be able to switch and know I got it.

01:33:18
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I got trust your guy in that zone defense.

01:33:20
Speaker 3: She doesn't even have to yell switch because she already knows Griven's got it. Yeah, we're switching here.

01:33:25
Speaker 1: And what an opportunity to because your wife, it's like, I know when Wednesday comes, she's gonna come in and this house is gonna be the way.

01:33:33
Speaker 3: She left it. Probably better.

01:33:35
Speaker 1: Oh, it's gonna be better to where they come in in the house because women, they hate clutter in the house. They hate clutter like men can kind of live a dorm room life at times, like Okay, that's kind of organized chaos that I got going on around the house. They come in and the clutter's gone. That's what that's what the wife you really want, Hey, you handled your business back home. They walk into a decluttered house, a clean house, yep, to where when they put their luggage in, it's just on them getting their laundry out and everything else. But they're not worried about the boxes sitting over there, and not worried about dish's sitting on the counter. They're not worried about whatever male stacks are saying. Kind of, I do still have some mail stax up on the count, bro, those will be gone.

01:34:11
Speaker 3: You you came over to our house one time when she was out of town, but I'm pretty sure the house was like neatly put together. But Jill runs a tight ship. And what an opportunity, What an opportunity every Saturday and Sunday, we're cleaning the house. On top of she hires cleaners to come on once a month for the deep clean, deep clean, because a clean house is like that is it for Jill if she can have.

01:34:35
Speaker 2: I think that's it for women out there.

01:34:38
Speaker 3: And dude, if she if I rock that weekend and she comes home and the hardwoods just wreek a fabuloso and the counters.

01:34:46
Speaker 2: Are clean, Daddy's gonna mount you tonight.

01:34:51
Speaker 1: That's when they can walk in the house and you're just at the top stair, no clothes on. I just picked Jill, and you're just standing in the stair naked, looking down. It's Daddy's time.

01:35:08
Speaker 3: Riding shockwave. Hands up the whole road. Right.

01:35:13
Speaker 2: Oh okay, where were we?

01:35:15
Speaker 3: Yeah? Where were we? Crack a cold one. I'll go quick. We have a couple of friends here. He was the best man at my wedding, Brian Cox. He's also one of my best friends from high school. And I'm so lucky that he lives here in Nashville with his wife Hillary. Brian and Hillary came over not the last Wednesday, and dude, it was just awesome. We had Scarlet fully operating, had her in bed, fed by like seven point thirty. They come rolling in at seven thirty. I smoked like four chickens on the Rectex smoker and we had a dinner and we were kind of holding Scarlet at the table and she's doing great, and she falls asleep and then Jill ghost puts her in the crib. She doesn't make up peep, and it's like we're living life. We're talking with Brian and Hillary and we got the little monitor going and we're laughing and Jill like it's just beaming the whole dinner. The dinner setup was beautiful. We're just making fun of shirm, off of his dad loss, of that week, of how what a shit show I was to my wife Jill and Hillary. Brian's wife is just dying laughing at the story because she knows she's known me for a while and she's like, I'm shocked. We were too, We were too. And we're like laughing and there's great banter. They're telling a couple stories of oh, well Sherman, you think that's bad, Brian did this? You know. Me and Brian are sitting over there at the table just taking it, taking it, and they're they're laughing. I mean it was so much fun, dude. It was just a great reminder of like, yes, we are in the trenches. Yes it's hard, but God, you can still live life and you can still do the things that you want to do. You can still have those friendships. And it was sick, dude. I love that. Man, a good ketch up. It was a great catch up.

01:37:03
Speaker 1: And it also reminds you of a couple two to where it's like, we have to be intentional with our social life.

01:37:08
Speaker 3: I have to dude. Getting to talk with Brian is truly, like I'm sure it's like with you and Nick, like when you got on the phone with him for his birthday. Yeah, waltzed off for fifteen minutes with my phone. That's how it is. Every single time I talked to Brian. We're speaking our own language almost, We're not even like and it's dude, that is so cathartic in itself and kind of what I've been talking with with my therapist of just like, you gotta hit all those poles, man, You got to you gotta hit every single one of them, all those pillars, because they're important. And that was just a great reminder of that.

01:37:44
Speaker 1: Yeah, and if something's going on, it's like you checking in on what these pillars are?

01:37:47
Speaker 2: Like, where have I not filled the cup up?

01:37:49
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I love that.

01:37:51
Speaker 2: Man. That's a good crack, A cold one.

01:37:52
Speaker 3: It was a good one. It was a good one. I have a great what are the odds this week? If you want me to jump into that, go ahead, Okay, what are the odds? Now? This one is a more serious one, and I don't mean that in a bad way. I just mean that it carries like a heavier topic. But this one came in from Instagram. He did say that we could use his name. His name's Ethan Lawn. So, first off, thank you for dming me Ethan. Secondly, he said, sure, I need some help. I'm already the loving father to a beautiful four year old girl and a two year old boy. Congrats, Ethan. Both of my children have been born by sea section, the first medically required and the second nine. My wife and I have been struggling to conceive our third child for the past year, and we recently discovered that we are pregnant with our third Let's go, come on. We are still very early in what I consider the anxious phase. However, for this third kiddo, my wife wants to undergo a vaginal birth. So and this is after two SEA sections, So after two C sections, I need some help from you guys and the community. How do I best support her? What do I need to know? What do I need to ask our provider? I'll admit thus far I have not done a great job supporting her wishes because he's probably a little nervous, and I get that, but I want to do better. If you could shoot this out to Papa Team six and MIL Team six community, I would greatly appreciate it. Cannot wait for the next episode to drop, so to get bring this into what are the odds? Shout out FanDuel and I'll start with this and then we can break down however we want to answer this. There are sixty to seventy five percent successful vaginal verse And when I mean successful, I don't mean unsuccessful like the bad unsuccessful. I just mean that they had to go to a C section. But they're sixty to seventy five percent of females that have had two C sections that their third one is a vaginal birth, So the chances are are high. It's something that can be done. So I just want to start with that and lay that out and then we can answer this question. However, so will what what would we say to to our friend Ethan as far as just like that support side of things, because we are no medical experts at all on this matter.

01:40:19
Speaker 2: Where did you find the data and the research? You just kind of google and.

01:40:24
Speaker 3: Through chat GBT and they cited.

01:40:27
Speaker 2: Right the links that you can click onus.

01:40:30
Speaker 3: Number one.

01:40:30
Speaker 1: I think that's a good pool. It's like if that was going on with me and I was nervous and I was worried, I would very much be diving into those WebMD rabbit holes on what this could look like. I would say number one, again, express your concern to your wife. Not concerned in a way to where you're resistive to it, but just say, hey, I'm down to support you. I'm down to do whatever you want to do.

01:40:52
Speaker 2: Sweetheart.

01:40:53
Speaker 1: If a vaginal birth is what is something that you want to do, Listen, I'm on board. Here's where I get nervous. But again, maybe it's my ignorance. I don't know a whole lot of data on it. I'm just nervous that since we had to do a medical one first, we did it the second we did a C section. The second time, I'm just nervous about what that looks like. And maybe I just need to do a better job of diving in the information. Maybe wife already has right to where she feels comfortable enough to do it, And I think what the stuff that you pulled to is is good data as well. To me, it's always going to come down fellas every couple and everybody knows this, but it's always going to come down to communication.

01:41:30
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know.

01:41:31
Speaker 1: How to support, Like, if you're on board, you're going to know how to support what you get on board. The thing that you don't want to do is you're just figuring out a way to support get on board by suppressing whatever your worries and concerns are in anxiety. So the first big thing for me would be like, hey, you feel comfortable to express in a very in a very like constructive way, like how you're feeling about the whole thing because you're you know, the men if you listen, if you have a good marriage going on, Dad's men, you guys are part of the equation too.

01:42:04
Speaker 3: It's coming from a place of love. Is coming from.

01:42:08
Speaker 1: Love, Yeah, absolutely, So that would be more so if I had, like, you know, non expert advice. Is I love that you're on board, get fully on board, you know how to support it. Sounds like you know how to support how to get on board, but don't do it at the expense of suppressing whatever your worries and anxieties are, because I would say, Hey, whatever you're feeling like, bro, share it with your wife.

01:42:28
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sure she'd love to have.

01:42:29
Speaker 1: A conversation with She might be nervous too. Maybe she in her mind's thinking I've done a couple of C sections in a row.

01:42:35
Speaker 2: Who knows whatever outside noise or outside.

01:42:37
Speaker 1: Influences that she could be subconsciously putting on herself to feel like she has to do a vaginal birth. Yeah, maybe it's something she fully wants to do and is on board about it and doesn't have to think twice. But maybe she's also nervous and just feels like this is the route she has to do. You have no clue unless you communicate with your wife.

01:42:56
Speaker 3: It's a great point, and to speak on it because we are not professionals. We're not telling the wife or Ethan either way to go on this right with like they are doing whatever they're gonna do. What we can say to Ethan because he did say in the DM recently, I've done a poor job of supporting her in this. If you have done a poor job, Ethan, and maybe there were some hurt feelings on wife's end of things of he's not supportive, I would also with the communication try to show her that, hey, maybe I didn't communicate it well, but just to know that those words were coming from a place of love and worry for my wife's health and safety, my baby's health and safety. I love you to death, and I'm team wife, I'm team baby, and let's let's get this thing whatever.

01:43:46
Speaker 1: Yeah, to do absolutely no, that's a great that's a great opinion on it. That's great perspective on it too, because if it's like I've done a poor job, all we can do is assume yes, on what this conversation is. Yes, if you assume that there's been a poor job, how do I sup poor? Then my assumption would be the conversation probably came up and you guys got into a conversation or debate or whatever it was, to where it feels like you're sitting on opposite sides of the table, whereas yeah, kerfuffle to where you want her to know this is coming from a place of love to do that. It's like, how do you go from sitting on opposite sides of the table to sitting next to her on the table and hurt with you as well? Yeah, cause again I I don't know. All I can do is assume like she could have fears as well. I don't know that she's not communicating.

01:44:31
Speaker 3: And dude, after you're done having that conversation, slipper, slipper some cold hard cash. Enough with the venmos slipper, some cold hard cash, and say, hey, the two little guys, I got him for the next how many ever hours? Have fun? Yeah, go get your go, get your nails done, go get your hair done, do whatever. And just in that conversation with that and just be like, I love you, I support you, and if I hurt you, wasn't my attention. And also treat yourself.

01:45:03
Speaker 2: Yeah, not if I hurt you.

01:45:06
Speaker 3: Not if I hurt you, that's a good call.

01:45:09
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can see I hurt you and that was not my intention at all. The best thing you can do leading into a conversation like that is completely anchor where you were wrong and like exactly like you can even go into an exaggeration mode of I've truly I've done a very poor job of communicating this topic and conversation. Thank you for saying like I've done brutal. My egos got in the way when you brought this up. My worried side came out and I more so lashed out at you on why it shouldn't be happening, but we need to be sitting next to each other. And I honestly I did a very bad job because I can see that how I came off it could have hurt your feelings. Again, I don't know what their conversation was, I can see that it hurt your feelings. And then I did an even poor job because I'm getting my heels in the sand even more in the ground, even more on defending like what I want to see when I need to this needs to be we're on the same team.

01:45:56
Speaker 3: We're on the same team. And that is a good reminder too, because we talked about like what a full hearted apology looks like, and it's so true.

01:46:05
Speaker 2: Don't ruin an apology with an excuse.

01:46:07
Speaker 3: Don't and the I'm sorry I made you feel. I know we're rehashing something, but oh man, it sucks to hear that. I'm sorry if I made you.

01:46:18
Speaker 1: Yeah, yikes, Yeah, you just completely own it. Go into full accountability mode.

01:46:22
Speaker 3: Yeah.

01:46:23
Speaker 1: Uh, should we get to should we get to the call ins? We do have a survival Kitten Dad Dad hack. But I'm gonna say the Survival Kitten Dad hag needs to go to uh Kwiko.

01:46:32
Speaker 3: Yeah, it does need to go to Kiwik. Yeah, we got it.

01:46:37
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01:47:05
Speaker 3: The shei Wei. It's a little she wee bird.

01:47:07
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01:47:16
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01:48:38
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01:48:45
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01:48:46
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01:48:58
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01:49:06
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01:49:06
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01:49:12
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01:49:15
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01:49:19
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01:49:22
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01:49:26
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01:49:34
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01:49:37
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01:49:44
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01:49:44
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01:49:45
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01:49:51
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01:50:24
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01:50:37
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01:50:46
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01:50:50
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01:51:00
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01:51:05
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01:52:11
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01:52:35
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01:52:40
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01:52:55
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01:53:03
Speaker 3: That's gonna be. It's gonna be problems. This was all for real. And this one looks really sick. The one that they sent Jeremy for his older kids. This is three to six year olds. It's like a full on science project in there. See that's cool. We're talking like test tube speaker. I mean it looks sick. Yeah, this is a Kiwiko bombs.

01:53:23
Speaker 1: Let's get back to the episode. Go shop kiwik Let's get into the hotline.

01:53:29
Speaker 3: Let's get into the hot How many we got this week?

01:53:31
Speaker 1: We have two to this week we won this week one This week time, we're pushing an hour time, we're pushing it out, we're pushing an hour.

01:53:41
Speaker 2: Gotta keep it under Uh.

01:53:43
Speaker 3: I went to one and I think one. I think chocolate.

01:53:47
Speaker 2: Obviously we want to get into doing more.

01:53:49
Speaker 1: But I think we had a lot of comments at the top of the episode two that we touched on.

01:53:52
Speaker 3: We did, Yeah, yeah, let's hit this caller, let's hit this six on one.

01:53:56
Speaker 1: The dads, you want to be featured on the show, obviously, you can write to us, you can comment to us. You can call in and leave a voicemail if you're feeling frustrated, if you got a dad win a crack of coal, when a dad lost something you need to get off your chest. Six and when the dad's leave a voicemail. Chance to be featured on the show. This one comes in.

01:54:12
Speaker 3: From This one comes from mister white Chocolate.

01:54:15
Speaker 6: Okay, mister white Chocolate, Will Sarm. This is Tier one, mister white Chocolate speaking. Today is my daughter's birthday. She is now a teenager. It's gonna be some rough and tough years coming for you boys, coming up soon, so please pray for me. My question for you, guys is what are you two looking forward to most when your daughters become teenagers. Love you guys, can't wait to see this.

01:54:47
Speaker 1: White mister white Chocolate. Thank you for calling in. Man, what a question, Ruse three. Right now, I feel like I don't have to think about it for another ten years, cause those are like it's like, those are scary. I think of all the moments that I'm having with my little girls right now, and it's.

01:55:03
Speaker 3: Like, what if.

01:55:05
Speaker 1: What if this is just the relationship for the rest of time and there won't be those tough teenager moments of where they don't want that anymore? But I don't know.

01:55:15
Speaker 3: Maybe I am number one.

01:55:17
Speaker 1: Maybe I will be number one her entire life, over her friends, over the you know, her love interests that are out there.

01:55:24
Speaker 3: I have my answer, what is if you? Like Jill and I were joking about this that I was saying, I'm actually looking forward to you those days where I picked Scarlett up from school and there's some friend group drama and there's no advice that dad can give her other than just listen. Emily said, what, Oh my gosh, And how did Rebecca respond to that? Oh? Okay, yeah, yeah, well that makes sense because Rebecca doesn't like that. Yeah, you can't have that no, can't have that. Oh good, you hugged her and you told her that you loved her and you want to be your best friend, Scarlett. I think you can nailed that.

01:56:01
Speaker 1: Just like matter of fact, you should invite them over for Pizza Friday. They can do a sleepover.

01:56:05
Speaker 2: You guys can stay in the room, will lock the doors. You don't have to go anywhere at nighttime Pizza Friday.

01:56:11
Speaker 3: I'm thirteen. I break my heart, dude, I know we don't. No, she will, and I'm sorry, I'm sorry I even joked about it. Way they could come. I am looking forward to those little like teenage girls scuffles and just trying to trying to navigate it. And I won't know what to do other than just listen, just listen to her and make her feel heard and like, those are very important stories that I need to and just learning all the nuances of her friends so that I can be a good wall for her to just bounce her thoughts and emotions and stuff off of. And Jill and I were just kind of joking about that, of like, and Jill has no drama queen at all. She you know, she'll tell you that, like any friend group just like, guys have an equal amount of drama, but we're both pretty drama free. So whenever it does come down the pipe where I was like, oh, it's kind of some juicya what's going on, I can get on board with that.

01:57:11
Speaker 1: I feel like, as you're saying that, I feel like I'm looking forward to the debriefs in the breakdowns with my wife, like when you know the kiddos are, you know, when the girls are in bed and you're kind of talking about what you might have heard and what advice you were given, how should we do this. I'm hearing there's some stuff going on at school, like the debriefs in the preparation with your wife of how you might handle these situations. Cause it's gonna be like I feel like, in the parents out there with teenagers or adults that live through the teenage years, I'm sure that they'll have some good comments about this, but I feel like it's going to be like it's an art form in motion when trying to prepare for whatever these conversations are, because I'm I'm weirdly, you know, when my daughter starts to have crushes and relationships, I'm like, you know, what what could be knocking on my door on some of these evenings coming up.

01:58:01
Speaker 2: Oh, what young boys are gonna be asking?

01:58:04
Speaker 1: Oh you'll be asking permission to take my daughter on a date, Yes, sir, and keeping that standard tour, it doesn't create the friction with your girl, with your daughter.

01:58:13
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like a song and dance.

01:58:15
Speaker 1: I'm like, uh, weirdly like looking forward to like which one of these? Well, and our dad which one of these slappies?

01:58:23
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, our dad brains. It's gonna be like you're gonna go up to Charlie, you know, how's blah blah blah. She seemed upset. Well, Lindsay borrowed another one of Ruth's tops and she hasn't given it back yet. Oh, well, is she gonna call Lindsay and get it back?

01:58:38
Speaker 2: No?

01:58:38
Speaker 3: Will, She can't do that because Ruth got cheer Captain Lindsay Dinnitt. She's upset about that. Oh okay, yeah, you're right. Yeah, that's a good I'll call Steve right now. Don't get that popped up back. No you can't.

01:58:52
Speaker 2: You can't go over her, you can't go around her.

01:58:55
Speaker 3: Yeah, you can't do that because then Lindsay's gonna do this because Lindsay has a crush on Brian. You know, Brian has a crush on Rue, And it's just the whole thing.

01:59:02
Speaker 2: Does Ru have a crush on Brian?

01:59:04
Speaker 3: Well, you know whenever I bring up Brian, she gets a little bashroom and gets a little red in the cheeks.

01:59:09
Speaker 2: But I don't know, that's it, sticky, That's what I don't feel prepared for stuff like that.

01:59:16
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. I'm gonna have zero click. That's just where Dad shuts up and just sits back and watches gold.

01:59:23
Speaker 1: Number one needs to be how do we how do we get this friendship aligned? Because that's potential problems just waiting and stewing, and.

01:59:29
Speaker 3: My brain goes exactly where you are of like have her over for pizza Friday. But they used to love that when they were kids.

01:59:38
Speaker 5: Will you need to start working on your dad?

01:59:41
Speaker 3: You know?

01:59:42
Speaker 2: Yeah?

01:59:42
Speaker 5: When you don't and you know, it's like this is gone out of your wheelhouse, you go.

01:59:47
Speaker 2: Huh, it's gonna be a good looks.

01:59:53
Speaker 3: And you let me know because I want to help, honey, you just let me know what I need to do. I'm on standbio.

01:59:58
Speaker 1: So you're telling me Rue who is upset because she didn't get invited to the movies.

02:00:03
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, so it's Lindsay, it's Rachel, it's Chelsea, it's that all that group of girls that she went to summer camp with and they've just been hanging out a whole lot and they, I don't know, real didn't get the invite.

02:00:15
Speaker 2: We could do pizza Friday at the house.

02:00:18
Speaker 3: Well it doesn't work like that.

02:00:21
Speaker 2: You're telling me she's upset that Charlie won't go with her to the dance and she's torb about that. Is she seeing the status that Charlie's putting up on Friday nights? He's the backup, running.

02:00:32
Speaker 3: Back pulled this Charlie kid up. Does he have one of those Facebook? No, they don't have Facebook. He has TikTok bro he has eighty thousand followers. Well he's kind of viral.

02:00:41
Speaker 2: He might have an eight thousand followers.

02:00:43
Speaker 3: But he can't. He can't.

02:00:44
Speaker 1: He can't have a four yard run to save his life. She'll just have her.

02:00:50
Speaker 2: We're just watching film a so you're in love with this Charlie guy.

02:00:54
Speaker 3: You're breaking down film with the love interest. Let's see how Let's see how you think Charlie's a tough guy.

02:00:59
Speaker 1: Let's see how he responds in the A gap here. This is the guy you want to you want to attach your attached the wagon to.

02:01:07
Speaker 3: You see the third and long blitz there, Honey, you see how he looks like he's in a blender. He's bouncing around.

02:01:13
Speaker 1: Let me talk to you about Tony over here, the quarterback. I mean, he's get some looks from from D one schools. He's only a sophomore.

02:01:19
Speaker 3: Oh, dad, Tony's not hot. He may not be hot, by honey. It's about the heart. Yeah, it's about the heart. But dude, I'm stoked for that type of stuff once they're like developing that socio you know, like uh whatever, like just those friend groups and navigating it and.

02:01:40
Speaker 1: The One Tree Hill drama. Yes, dude, the One Tree Hills, Smallville.

02:01:45
Speaker 3: I rock them all.

02:01:46
Speaker 2: Dude.

02:01:47
Speaker 3: The drama in those TV shows. And I'm not saying every girl is girl live teenage girl thing is drama filled. I hope it doesn't sound that way, but I just know that like in their world it is though, yeah, and it is important and it's like a big deal to them. And I remember when my dad would get a friend's name wrong, dude. Oh, that used to bug me, Like I have this best friend named James, and I couldn't tell if he was like doing it to me on purpose to like mess with Meania, when's Josh coming over? Dad, James, James is coming over.

02:02:23
Speaker 6: I know that.

02:02:24
Speaker 3: I know that there's a guy at our high school named Cole Lofton and he always called them Cole Laughlin. Drove me nuts, drove me nuts, And so I'm like in my brain, you got name right. I gotta get all of her girlfriend's names right, I got you.

02:02:40
Speaker 2: Know, I'm ready to do like the.

02:02:44
Speaker 1: Like the dumb dad step over the line stuff like, Hey, what's going on?

02:02:49
Speaker 2: Is it something? Are you doing? The is this? You get the period now?

02:03:03
Speaker 3: Mom told me something's going on this. Mom told me something's going on this week. I just want you to it's just making no eye contact. Yeah, just once. You know, if you need ice cream, if you need extra movie time, you can do that. Actually, I gotta go downstairs in their privacy. Doctor.

02:03:25
Speaker 1: Mama, you kind of have one of the milestone deals in your life. You know, I'm not too familiar with that stuff. I'm sure Mom tells you a lot of good things. You know, whatever you need from me, just let me know.

02:03:35
Speaker 3: I'm here for you, you beautiful young lady, just like your mom. I don't know if that's what you want to I don't know, honey. I love you, I love you. I'll see you tomorrow.

02:03:46
Speaker 1: Yeah. I can tell I'm saying a little too much right now. I feel stupid, like just forget everything.

02:03:49
Speaker 2: We just said right there.

02:03:50
Speaker 3: Okay, what are we gonna do? I don't know. Man, Oh the great question by mister white Chocolate.

02:03:59
Speaker 2: You already know that's gonna be a reaction when we're frustrated.

02:04:01
Speaker 3: Is this that time of the month for you right now? Silent treatment for a week? Y oh yeah, Ruth's gonna be like you're done, You're done. Yeah, man, scary hours, dude.

02:04:20
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's all like coming through my head right now, like shit, and we.

02:04:25
Speaker 3: Got that coming down the pipe. But the good news is, and you you've kind of been talking about this like all podcasts. I feel like a good lesson for us dads is we are learning too as they are learning, and as Rue is learning to communicate, as with Scotti or Ruth's learning how to deal with like mom being out of town, like Will is also learning how to deal with Ru while mom's out of town and also dealing how to tell Ru how to communicate with the dog in Scotty. And same with me. I'm learning how to show Jill that I am capable of her being out of town. Yeah, and so yes, that stuff scares the shit out of me. But I'm also like this old dog can learn new tricks. I'm learning and maybe, hey, it does, you know, take me to go crazy and you know, make a mistake here or whatever and like to learn a lesson. But we're gonna be fine because you care. Because you care, and you want to be intentional.

02:05:26
Speaker 1: You don't want to be the guy who kind of steps off, you know, fades into the fades into.

02:05:31
Speaker 2: The shadows, falls back. You want to be on the front lines with your wife.

02:05:34
Speaker 1: Yeah, learning and immersing yourself into stuff, because I can only hope we're sitting here ten years later, and I'm like, boys, pop a Team six My daughter just turned thirteen, and here's the situation, and I gotta be careful because my roo could listen to this stuff. Oh yeah, but I gotta tell you I got a relationship with the PT sixers out there community, and I'm gonna.

02:06:01
Speaker 2: Need some help.

02:06:02
Speaker 3: Yeah, honey, you don't. You don't want me talking about you making the cheer team. I won't talk about making the cheer team. I'm brody. I just love you and your mama was a cheerleader. You're a cheerleader. I love it. You start crying. Yeah, you're always crying, Dad quick crying on the podcast. My friends keep pulling it up. Yeah, gole, Yeah, I know it's gonna be interesting.

02:06:28
Speaker 2: All these moments on the Internet that they will have access to.

02:06:33
Speaker 3: He's just gonna make you a legend. If anything.

02:06:37
Speaker 1: Should imagine the first time my daughter comes across me with my pants off doing a case race.

02:06:45
Speaker 3: As Darth mauls with Darth Maul face paint, and honey, there's this great talking about I just want to shake the uber guy's hand. I just want to shake his hand. Honey. There's this burner account on Twitter. It's called Will Compton's Bowl gen It's actually in reference to that moment. Yeah, he's a great fault.

02:07:04
Speaker 2: You know it's not your father, but you were going to see some stuff on the internet.

02:07:10
Speaker 3: By then, AI will be so crazy you can kind of might spins on it. Are they making those with something? Are they making those about your dad again? I can't believe. Yeah was a real honey, Yeah, hey die like yeah, hey, that touchdown the ice scord as a wide receiver in the NFL. That's real.

02:07:31
Speaker 2: That's yeah.

02:07:34
Speaker 3: Great call in. Did you have a lesson or a quote? I do?

02:07:39
Speaker 1: If not, go ahead, okay, cool, Like I could muster one up, I can, I could find one. But dude, take the floor. Bro, this is We've been going for.

02:07:47
Speaker 3: A good amount.

02:07:48
Speaker 2: Yeah, a good amount.

02:07:49
Speaker 3: Okay, So going into this quote, I've always had a good relationship with Will's stepdad Cody, but him coming in town for Jill's birthday, it has been incredible. The girls went out and left the house last night, her mom and Jill to go to Home Goods, Shout out Home Goods, and baby scarscar was by herself with the boys, Me and Cody. We got to watch Baker Mayfield perform a miraculous comeback on Monday night football, and Cody and I are jumping up, we're standing up, we're clapping, We're like we browed out. It was really kind of the first time of us browing out so much fun to brag on him. Super interesting guy, very interesting guy, doesn't have like the college education that most have of like, you're no business savvy entrepreneurs, but he's a self made man, blue collar man, owns a ton of companies, have sold a ton of companies. And I feel like every single time I'm around him, I'm learning something new, but he's never trying to teach me anything. Jill has his surprise birthday part or not surprise birthday, has a thirtieth birthday party coming up, and it's kind of last second. We're throwing stuff together. We're trying to figure out how to do it in the front yard, and Cody's like, oh, sureman, I'll go to home depot and get a couple two by tens and some two by fours. I'll set up two pillars. We'll get the twinkle lights going from that oak tree y'all got in the front yard, throw some duct tape on it, kind of get it right there. It's just all those little, like nuanced moments. I'm like, dude, you're such a legend. So just getting to know him better and getting to learn stuff from him has been fun. This was my favorite quote that came from dinner. We were talking about things that we wanted to instill in Scarlet. And I'm sitting there going, oh, I want her to have a part time job in high school. My parents were big on that. I want her to have that, and I want, you know, really want to try to do this, try to do that. And he came in with this and said, it took me a while to learn this as a parent, but it ain't about fixing the shit that was wrong with you and your childhood. That's a different human or sorry, it ain't about fixing the shit that was wrong with you and your kid. That's a different human, that's a different story. Be better than what came before you, like your parenting and right whatever parenting wrongs were done to you, but don't try and force your kid to be someone that they're not. And I just thought that that was a banger little lesson from Cody of like, tell me the first ten years he was just everything that he saw wrong in himself and didn't want his son to you know, do he just riding them, riding them, riding them. And he was like, yes, he's my son, he's my namesake, but he's not me, and he's not gonna automatically want to lean towards these mistakes and blah blah blah. I just thought that that was a cool message. Yeah, I love that.

02:10:52
Speaker 1: I feel like I come across quotes like that on Instagram where it's like the fears and the insecurities that you have will show up in your kids' life if you're not, you know, looking at yourself and fixing yourself.

02:11:03
Speaker 3: But you're right.

02:11:03
Speaker 2: I love that quote. Yeah, I love that quote.

02:11:06
Speaker 1: I feel like it's going to be that's such a song and dance for parents, because again, it's like all you know is your experiences and what you have done in the past and things that you might have hated that you might be lashing You might not know it, but you might be lashing out and doing certain things and setting certain examples to where Yeah, I feel like if you don't check yourself and ask like, what's the principle behind this? Like, what's the actual goal is it? No matter what I'm going to they're going to have a responsibility, like a part time job in high school. I feel like on paper that sounds amazing. It's like, but I have no clue what life is going to look like when she is a teenager when she is at that age. Yes, because you feel like it's a good responsibility and it's a great principle to teach at a young age, but making sure you're doing it through the right lessons and teaching the right things and guiding them that way to put that responsibility on them instead of like, you know, you're just saying, this is how it's going to be, and as long as you're under my roof, you go by my rules, you have a job because you're it's like you're just saying that because there's not a lot of context or teaching or lessons that you're trying to give them through what you learned by addressing whatever your insecurities or fears.

02:12:12
Speaker 3: Are and whatever learning lesson you're trying to instill in them with the part that just for example, that's example, will hang on, Yeah it is. Maybe Scarlett is a thespian and takes theater super serious. An actress in stage theater, it's like musicals and stuff, and she's taking that super serious, and she's traveling and doing these shows and like the hard work and dedication that she's doing to like memorizing her lines, showing up early to rehearsals, being the last one to leave from rehearsals. Like, that's the same thing as what the part time job would instill, right, yeah, Like, hey, you are being held accountable. People are relying on you to perform at a high level, and you're doing everything to prepare for it. And I'm so proud of you. You're doing such a great job with like and yes, it's not a part time job. She's in you know, the musical whatever. Yeah, but it's the same thing.

02:13:10
Speaker 1: I feel like that's really good man, yestly, I think that's really good because to me, like what it comes down to is uh commitment, Like what are you going to be committed to beyond going to school from eight in the morning to three in the afternoon. Yeah, and whatever that is, I don't that's again as you observe and see your kid and see your teenage or whatever that is. I know, like in my mind, it's just like, uh, you're gonna have a commitment to to excellence somewhere whatever that might be.

02:13:42
Speaker 2: Maybe it's in the arts, maybe it's in.

02:13:43
Speaker 3: Athletics, it's video games, yeah, yeah, streaming. Imagine with this day and age, I'm like it could it could truly be anything.

02:13:54
Speaker 2: Yeah if you look at.

02:13:55
Speaker 1: Yeah, you look at when you listen to Nick Merch's story, I'm busting with the boys. Yeah, because that it's like a wrestling family. So I see like whit dad was the way he was. My dad was kind of the same way with me, And I can imagine the friction that'd come up if like, hey, I want to be a video gamer and everything else. But to me, it's like, yeah, what is your what's the commitment looking like.

02:14:15
Speaker 2: For your kid?

02:14:16
Speaker 1: Because again, you want them committed to something because at one point or another, man it's like mom and Dad's not going to be there forever. Yep, Mom and Dad's not going to be there. If you go to college, Mom, dad's.

02:14:26
Speaker 3: Not going to be there.

02:14:27
Speaker 1: When you're in the real world and making your own decisions, and it's like, what fundamentals and what principles and lessons are you leaning on that we taught you at a young age, whether it's a part time job, whether it's you taking theater very seriously like you, I want my kid to understand what commitment looks like so that way you're not surprised and caught off guard when life doesn't go your way one day, because it's not going to life's not going to go your way.

02:14:49
Speaker 3: And what powerful lessons on the theater example of not memorizing your lines. You're on stage in front of hundreds of people and you don't know your lines. You froze in front of everybody. You'll never want to feel that again. And like being able to then in those moments in their world who they are be able to find those learning lessons of Hey, we'll get it right. We're gonna go through your lines again. Let's practice your lines here at home. We're gonna get this thing straightened out.

02:15:19
Speaker 2: In the personal story, hey you don't think your old man was embarrassed, Like, let me show you Thanksgiving game.

02:15:23
Speaker 1: Dallas Cowboys twenty and sixteen two misstackles on Ezekiel Elliott.

02:15:28
Speaker 3: They go down to.

02:15:28
Speaker 1: School right in my face, like sweet, I, yeah, we know what embarrassment looks like. And it's like pulling those stories to level with them and just you know, let them know, Hey, this isn't gonna be the first time you're embarrassed. It's not gonna be the last time you're embarrassed. What matters is how you respond to how you're feeling right now.

02:15:43
Speaker 3: Yes, that's so great. And I showed them the uh for listeners from last week. I showed them the bar soap clip and he goes, yeah, man, hell yeah, man. Only way to teach them that fire hurts is let them put their hand in there. Yeah, I've told you not put your damn hand in there.

02:16:02
Speaker 1: And so we ran the We ran the campfire clip. Yeah, oh I love that. Yeah, it's a good clip.

02:16:07
Speaker 3: Yeah, we played the clip. I'm pretty sure love it or we if it hasn't gone out yet, it will, you know how the brain's fleeting.

02:16:14
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, great episode. Hope you guys all enjoyed it. Pop a team six. Keep doing your thing, man, keep leading from the front, keep asking question, just keep engaging with us. This community is incredible. We truly love it and we are We're grateful. Man, this has been awesome. Bet six out, make sure the trash is taken out, and let's have a hell of a weekend.

02:16:32
Speaker 2: Go big Red, Go big Red.

02:16:34
Speaker 1: Before we go, I'm sorry, we're not We're not gone yet, Durem. I'm so sorry, so sorry.

02:16:39
Speaker 3: No, and you're totally fine. I apologize because this has been sitting by me. I teased it earlier. This is our Wayfair giveaway. Derek did a great job going through all the submissions that we have for the two hundred and fifty dollars gift card from Wayfair. If I could get a quick drum roll, please, it will be going to Gauge. Shot out Gauge, Gauge bombing dude. Tons of cool stuff on Wayfair. We already talked about the memorial plaque over there. We got the Baylor thing hanging up above me. A ton of tailgate of Central guys. We're talking full on grills on wayfair dot com. They have everything from grills, memorabilia, anything for game day. They got sofas, they got lamps, they got all types of stuff.

02:17:28
Speaker 2: Wayfair's got it, baby, Wayfairs got it. Shout out Gauge.

02:17:30
Speaker 1: Congratulations brother, they're a great job going through, sort through everybody.

02:17:34
Speaker 2: We'll have more giveaways in the future.

02:17:36
Speaker 3: That's for the dads, for you. Take out the trash.