Dating Apps 101 — Part 2 | Golden Hour

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. We are back for part two talking all things dating apps. Let's jump right back in here we go.

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Speaker 2: So now you get past.

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Speaker 1: The pictures, all right, then we're gonna write to.

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Speaker 2: Baby. I've had so many.

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Speaker 1: So what short? What are the top things you should include, Susan?

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Speaker 2: So first of all, don't be too worthy, some of them are so long. I like the wittier ones, if you will, so do I. I like to share what I'm looking for because that's what this is about. Yeah, you have to check off a box, whether you want long term, short term, just looking and having.

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Speaker 1: Those are the check boxes I'm talking about the bio. Just what you write about yourself? What kinds of things do you write?

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Speaker 2: The things that I enjoy and what I want in a person. I describe my personality a little bit happy by nature, you know, love to laugh. Want somebody that can enjoy a big personality, whether it's live music and dinner, a glass of wine.

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Speaker 1: Stop breaking at home. Everybody needs to hear what she just said, because in those couple of sentences, you said a lot about yourself. You like to cook, you like to laugh, You're happy, you like to be at home. You like to go out. That's the information you need to give to people, right, you need to tell them. So for example, if you're a homebody, Oh that's something. Be honest. By the way, don't say you love to go out and party and you don't and you don't, because what are you going to attract party guys? So be honest about what you are looking for. If you're looking to get married, say I'm looking for my permanent person, I'm looking for a spouse. Be honest about what yoking for. Don't make it too long because too much. Yeah, you want to leave a little yeah to question, So don't make it too long, But do give people enough to make them curious to want to know more about you. Oh, by the way, back to photos, make sure you're smiling in them. Just I know you'd think that would be obvious, wouldn't you. One would think, Okay, what about prompts? What do you think about prompts?

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Speaker 2: Prompts like.

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Speaker 1: What's your first what's your ideal first date?

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Speaker 2: Would be a problem. That could be a cup of coffee, It could be.

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Speaker 1: No, but what do you think? What should you answer?

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Speaker 2: Not? I never click those you never do Whatever makes you happy. I don't care. I'm trying to find one, Kathy that I copied this guy. It was years ago.

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Speaker 1: You copied his prompt.

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Speaker 2: Now I cop I just loved the words. He was so good. It was funny. He had such a good thing. He was not for me, but he had a great description of himself, and he had the humor in it, he had serious in it. It was just good.

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Speaker 1: Well, while you're while you're scrolling looking for it.

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Speaker 2: Wait, I love the long walks in the park or the sand or whatever there's water. I mean, come on, really, you know it's a lot.

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Speaker 1: I mean it's like, okay, what are some cringey like things that you see that you avoid in a in a bio or in a profile.

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Speaker 2: Well, I have to get past the picture to read. Some of them are nothing at all. They don't write anything.

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Speaker 1: Okay, But what is when I'm looking if the pictures are okay, and I start reading the bio and it starts saying, you know, I've been divorced and I'm lonely, and oh my god, I just want to cry. I don't want to see you. You know, you sound like anyone that sounds negative. I'm not interested in what about you.

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Speaker 2: I don't do cringey? What do you mean by that?

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Speaker 1: What? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Oh, I know the ones here you go? Well, and this is again you gotta pay respect where I respect the fact that he's honest. I am married, but have an open relationship. Are you serious right now? But I guess yes, you gets women that are okay with that. It's two each's own.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I mean that's that's I'm not interested in that. All right, you're you're on the app, you're ready to start swiping and chatting? What are you going to do? We're using the app now, Susan. What are the red flags to avoid when swiping? I'd say one picture where it looks like they copied it from somewhere else on the internet. What else.

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Speaker 2: A red flag?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Damn, no shirt and tight something that shows bolds like that's like disgusting to me. Oh, there's a lot of them, A lot of them.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I find red flags are when they there, they don't it doesn't match, like their pictures don't match what they say about themselves.

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Speaker 2: A lot of them don't say much though, I mean there's so many.

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Speaker 1: Well, for me, a red flag is when there's not a match between the verbiage and the pictures. Like you know, there's a guy out on a sailboat and he says, I'm a lay and lover. I've literally had those. I'm like, really, because did you see that picture you put out there?

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Speaker 2: Here's one of the ones I used to have. Looking for a relationship in all phases. I know what I want and what I'm looking for. I like the instant mutual spark from the moment we met, not into games. I'm affectionate, not afraid to show it, where my heart on my sleeve, easy to talk to, and I warm up quickly. That's enough, young attitude and spirit looking for the same.

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Speaker 1: It's good.

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Speaker 2: That's a lot about oneself though, right.

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Speaker 1: That's well, he just said what he or show you whoever it is what they're looking for.

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Speaker 2: That's music, dancing, beach and goth movies and culture. Let's meet and see if we click.

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Speaker 1: I love it, and that's why I was That was one of my gusts. I like it what I thought it was you, But I didn't want to ask what to look for in profiles like I want to look for someone that has energy. I don't want I'll tell the ones I avoid when they say they prefer texting to calling or to you know, facetiming or whatever. Ye like, I want to meet you. We'll chat for a little bit on the on the app, and then we're done. We're either going to meet or we're not going to meet. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Do you ever send dms?

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Speaker 2: I don't have it anymore, But that guy's was so humorous.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, do you ever DM Susan? Once you've matched? Do you do it? Or do you wait for them?

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Speaker 2: Oh? I speak right out? No? Are you just like you know, you reach out to the message. I'll send the message if and it's a match, I usually say hi, Hi, I'm Susan something like that.

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Speaker 1: So I don't so if I match with someone like if I click like, and then I'll go you're a match. I wait for them to reach out. You don't why No, I don't know. Just do I'm old fashioned.

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Speaker 2: I'll go high or I'll wave, you know, whatever one of those symbols are. It's just like a start, like he obviously chose you, and you just swiped and you chose him.

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Speaker 1: I mean say hello, I'm obviously doing something wrong on the apps because the guys that I meet on the apps sound tips. Usually they sound interesting, and then I talked to them on the phone, I'm like maybe, and then I meet them and it's like, so it's either me, I'm not sure what it is. That's why I'm not. I think that's why I'm not very successful on apps, because I'm I'm.

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Speaker 2: I don't like to talk all that talk on the field. Let's go meet. Whether it's just ten minutes and a cup of coffee, do it. I don't care if it's a drive by. I need eye contact and I could know immediately if there's chemistry. I don't want to waste your evening, nor do you want to waste yours own mind. So I like to meet for a short thing. And that's such a.

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Speaker 1: What's your typical date?

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Speaker 2: I haven't had one of quite some thought.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, seriously, when you met agone an app? What's your typical date?

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Speaker 2: Meet for a glass of wine or a cup of coffee. I've met like when I lived in the city, strolled down on Penn's landing, you know, just a few minutes and then we take it from there. Do you want to take it and go on a date? Okay, but this is not a date. That first meet is not a date to me, It's just a quick half hour you just meet.

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Speaker 1: I've never done that. I've always they've always asked me for dinner or a drink, and then let's say, oh, I'm really enjoying you, do you want to stay for dinner. I've never had a that's lovely.

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Speaker 2: That's lovely and if I'm not enjoying them, do you stay for dinner?

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's nothing about it, I think, if I'm being honest, it's not. The guys that I've met on the dating apps are with very few exceptions, have been guys that are interesting and nice, and I've dated a couple of them for a while, but I'm not really interested in them in long term.

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Speaker 2: In other words, there's no chemistry.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess that's what I know.

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Speaker 2: When there's chemistry, I know within the first five minutes something about his smile or his eyes or whatever it is, without even knowing who they are. Yet another thing for me is I do not want to be questioned to death, but I need you to ask something, show some interest that you're interested in who I am, or where I come from, or what I do or what I like when they sit there and only talk about themselves.

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Speaker 1: I mean, so that's the whole thing about dating apps. You know, we talk about doing the right pictures, having the right bio, having it be witty, having it be fun, having it be cute, not having it be too long, not too short, good pick. You know, all of that a start.

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Speaker 2: It is why we need a business on helping people.

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Speaker 1: It is, it is. But once you've done all that, the dating apps are just I hate the word, but it's true. They're sort of conduits, right. They help us date. But when you get on that first day people, that's where I want. That's the next step. You know, that's like step foot whatever, step on, step four, step five, the first date with a person on the dating app, because that can be a make or break. If you you and I talked about this, this guy that you met on a dating app. I mean, you've met several guys, so have I. All they want to do is talk about themselves. They don't do you remember? So okay, here remember in Florida. Let me tell you we were in Florida. Met a guy on a dating app. She met him, she forced my hand to go with her. I met this great couple who recognized me in the bar. So while Susan's talking to this guy, I'm chatting with this fabulous couple. He comes back to our hotel, sits in the lobby. Susan still demands that I stay with her. Yeah, guy, yeah, This guy did not stop talking about himself, did not stop. And finally I looked at him, and because I knew Susan was never going to see him again and I was flying out the next morning, what could he do to me? I said, can I give you a little dating advice?

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Speaker 2: Here?

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Speaker 1: He goes sure, And I said, all you've done is talk about yourself. You have not asked Susan anything about herself.

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Speaker 2: And I turned and said what do you know about me?

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Speaker 1: And what did he say?

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Speaker 2: He couldn't.

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Speaker 1: Well, he said, he goes, well, her pictures, she kind of looks fun. I remember I.

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Speaker 2: Would look great on my arm walking down.

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Speaker 1: And what do you know about her? And he said, well, I guess wait, do you guys want to come over here and see my Facebook page? With that, I got, but said Susan, I'm going to bed goodnight. I mean trying to help the guy. So when you're on her first date, that's one list about the ones that talk incessively about their exes.

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Speaker 2: You don't do that.

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Speaker 1: You never talk about you do not do not talk about your ex. Whether it's an ex husband or an escape friend. I don't care what is, just do not talk about it.

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Speaker 2: And then some of them trashed them because they're anger. They're bitter still, and that's direct thing to be out there until you're ready to meet someone new. You don't come, don't waste people's time.

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Speaker 1: I told you the date that I went on. He was a lawyer, he had retired and he lived here in Austin, and all he did was talk about is deceased wife. That's it the entire day, right. I finally said, you know, I really have to go. I did go pray about my deceased husband.

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Speaker 2: I mean I have counseled people. I mean just that they're like a therapy session. He was like, thank you so much. I mean, I wasn't interested, but he was a nice person and he was struggling. I said, can I just give you some advice?

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Speaker 1: I felt like, but you do you think they took it? So, So when you're on that first date, make sure you're a good listener. Ask the other person some questions.

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Speaker 2: But don't question them to death.

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Speaker 1: Yeah no, no, no, passion, yeah fine, balance, don't order the most expensive thing off the menu.

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Speaker 2: I never look at the price.

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Speaker 1: Well you should? Why because are you.

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Speaker 2: Paying for that? Noll? See I'm different than most because I'll pay.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, But if if he's not allowing you to pay, and you don't know when you're or so I never ordered the most expensive thing.

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Speaker 2: When I am on a meat and we're having a cocktail, maybe some appetizers, and I know I don't feel a connection, then I'm going to insist on paying hit the bill because why should he waste it? A lot of people date for dinners, date for jims face.

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Speaker 1: Well, see that's another point you took. That That was step number six. Decide what it is that you want out once you've been on the dating apps, be honest with yourself. Are you looking for a short term for a hook up? Are you looking for a short term partner, a long term partner? Are you looking for a spouse? What are you looking for? Because if you're dishonest, it's just like you know you say you're five ten, one hundred and thirty pounds and you walk in and you're actually, you know, six feet and eighty What for me about your height and weight? Right? Be honest about what you're looking for in a partner. Why waste anyone's time? Why?

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Speaker 2: Why including your own? Because it's a waste. You'll probably be sad because he's not gonna like it.

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Speaker 1: And then I think, what do you think about deciding if you want a second date? What makes you decide if you want a second date?

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Speaker 2: Chemistry? And do it lefter like I'm having fun, I'd like to get to know you, and most of them will say would you like to do this again?

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Speaker 1: And what do you say to most of them? If I like them, I'm saying to most of them you want a second date with no?

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Speaker 2: Definitely not.

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Speaker 1: I'm so afraid you would ask me that I had to ask you first.

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Speaker 2: But then again, Kathy, I haven't really been out there in the feud.

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Speaker 1: I haven't, but I will tell you. You know, getting to know someone is not easy. I mean really, it's because you know people.

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Speaker 2: If there's a connection, it's so easy.

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Speaker 1: Are they nervous?

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Speaker 2: Me? Nervous?

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Speaker 1: Anybody? Do you think people could be nervous on a first date?

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Speaker 2: I mean you can't. But I don't know how to answer that because it's been around for so long.

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying, if you go out on a date with something that you're really attracted to and then you meet them and you're all, like, you know, hyped up. I don't know. I just I just think the dating people think. You get on a dating app and you have all these guys. To me, the dating app is just it's I hate the expression, the tip of the iceberg. It's like, Okay, now you're on there, and now you have to you have to call through all these guys and the ones.

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Speaker 2: That don't you feel bad. It is like a job. Like you said earlier, you get home and you have all these messages and you don't want to be rude, and you got to add, and then you get the ones that it's like you're a pen pal for a moth like ye, dude, I don't want to be your pen pal.

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Speaker 1: I've got another PSA for you. Now. I think you're going to describe me on the dating apps. I get this all the time, and it just makes me want to just go goodbye. X. You know, hi, Kathy, how are you doing this evening? That's Okay, it's boring, but okay, the next question, how long have you been on this site? And what are you looking for? And I want to write back, be the smartest, go what's it to you?

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Speaker 2: I mean, why, how long you've been on here?

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Speaker 1: That's what I wrote that to one guy.

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Speaker 2: Well, I get asked, what do you think of this dating app?

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Speaker 1: I've never had that.

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Speaker 2: I would kill to get off of it, get me on here.

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Speaker 1: I'm just like, I don't know what the right answer is. I've been on ten years, I've been on ten minutes. Like, what do you want? Off?

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Speaker 2: And on?

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Speaker 1: That's what I say, the truth on and off? And then what you looking for? I want to say, I'm looking for free tickets to the Ice Capades. Why do you think I thought this app?

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Speaker 2: I'm looking for my best friend? Yeah exactly, I'm I mean, see, I want to be looking at their connection somebody.

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Speaker 1: I write that, but then I think they think it's like, oh, she wants sex a sexual I don't know these people.

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Speaker 2: I don't connection of sex.

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Speaker 1: No, I don't think it is. But I'm always trying to think what are they thinking?

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Speaker 2: You overthink? Who cares what they're thinking? Just do you it's enough. It is enough. It's like, then me get wait, let's go down to now there's e harmony. You don't get to see the picture. You fill out a form that is like nine million questions long, and some of them I can't even answer because it's like I just but they match up personality Okay, and then they they.

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Speaker 1: Don't know what my personality Well, it's.

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Speaker 2: From seventeen hundred question questions. That's where they go.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm telling you. You know what I would write on that. I was really young when I started this application, but you've aged me with the ten thousand questions, so now I'm too old to date.

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Speaker 2: And that Okay. Hell now let's go down to the paying ones. I've been on very expensive ones. They have background checks, you you list your what you want. Okay, yeah it was in the thousands. Okay, wait the first date they have me go go on, did you finally get the picture right before?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: And I go, are you excuse my friend? Don't kidding me? I met that guy already on a free site. I just paid three thousand dollars and that's the guys. Are you fucking kidding me?

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Speaker 1: I was so mad?

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Speaker 2: Did you meet him now, I had already met him two.

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Speaker 1: Years prior, so then let me finish the That was it three thousand dollars the second one.

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Speaker 2: At that time, I wouldn't go out with anyone under six foot. Now I'm shrinking, so it doesn't matter. But I wanted six foot definitely, no children at home or in school. I don't want to raise anybody's kids. I don't want to help, like you know, if they're in college or something. Okay, my next day and we went to meet Okay, yeah, you're not ready. He had seven children, the youngest being six, all at home, lived on a farm in New Jersey, and was five foot nine. What how did you did I pay you for this guy? In the world. I didn't match they they did it.

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Speaker 1: Oh it's one of those ideas. Yeah no, so let me tell you I was. I can't.

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Speaker 2: Was a nice, nice person. I stayed, I hung out with them, and all you know, I shared. I was oos.

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Speaker 1: I hope you didn't need all your meal because he needed the leftovers for the seven kids.

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Speaker 2: I couldn't believe you that many kids had lived on a farm in Jersey and it was five. Why am I paying?

00:21:17
Speaker 1: He's probably a shaker, you know what you know, no no electricity kind of people. Friday night, the kid, get out the candles. You don't drive a car till Monday. Oh fabulous, Just.

00:21:28
Speaker 2: Like I want my money back.

00:21:37
Speaker 1: I got approached. I'm not going to say the name of a of a company now feature this. The guy knew I was on the Golden Bachelor.

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Speaker 2: That's why I don't want to go on.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, no, no, I didn't go on. It was they. They called me and said, you know, it's a pay, it's a pay, and it's a Let me just say I enjoined their website, or I can buy myself a nice diamond ring. I mean it's one or the other. He said, uh. She said, he really wants to meet you, and but you know, one of you has to pay our very steep fee. And I basically said, well, I'm not a cooker, so I'm not paying. You know, if he wants to meet me, you can pay. But then I started thinking, Susan on these websites. If he knew I was on the Golden Bachelor, and he knew I was from Texas, there's only one of me, right, there's only one person from Texas. So what he couldn't find me. I was like, maybe not smart. Yeah, no, I don't know. I think those expensive websites are I think if you're very high profile and you're you know, a Hollywood level person, you don't want Tom Dick and Harry or Felman Louise, you know, chasing you down. Then yeah, you can pay for it, but I'm not going to do that.

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Speaker 2: I went on National TV to find love and still going.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's coming all right, So all in.

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Speaker 2: All, once again I rejoined and I had just recently in the last week, actually deleted the tender thing again. It was like, what am I doing? What am I doing? I did like it when I was away, because you meet people where you're at that, Yeah, that workes. They met a very interesting person in Saint Martin. As you know, you don't speak the same language. That was difficult but very charming.

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Speaker 1: Uh, and you met him on a dating Now listen, folks, that'll be interesting to see where this one goes, because you know, this guy Parley moved Francis and Susan struggles with English. So it's gonna it's gonna be it's gonna be a thing. But anyway, I think that The summary of the apps for me is, you know, can't expect miracles. You put your best foot out there if you decide to join them. Don't do three or four. Pick one or two. Take your time right, pick.

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Speaker 2: One or two apps? Oh apps, I thought you meant people.

00:24:05
Speaker 1: No, pick rue or two apps. Take the best pictures you can. Oh. The other thing is change your pictures frequently. Do as I say, not as I going.

00:24:14
Speaker 2: To look stale from three years ago. You still have the same pictures though, exactly.

00:24:18
Speaker 1: Change your clothes, change your hair, change your pictures, and then write the best bio you can. And then I really do think you have to trust your gut, you know, get to know them. Do we really have to talk about safety dating? I guess we do, because all the apps on there talk about, you know, don't get Oh here's another little tidbit of advice.

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Speaker 2: What's a red flag for you? Ken?

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Speaker 1: Hold on? Wait, let me just say, get a Google phone number. I did that when I got on the apps. You know why, friends, If you someone has your cell number, they can find out anything about you, where you live, everything. If you have a Google phone number, it's untraceable. And you know what I give guys my Google phone number when I first talked to them, And I always know if it's a bad guy because he'll say, why didn't you give me your real number? Why did you give me a Google number? And I'll say, because I don't know you and I want to be safe, and you can't trace this number. So if I decide you're safe and we go down the road. But I would recommend that to everybody, especially but I didn't do it because Susan likes to live on the edge. Yeah, yeah, too bad. They have all your information, they know where you live. They're knocking on your door. Can you hear them knock knock? It's not that easy, is it that?

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Speaker 2: Today? Guess what? The whole world knows where we are?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I think then why do you think they's.

00:25:38
Speaker 2: The first red flag? Like if you like, my red flag was somebody that doesn't ask me anything about me?

00:25:44
Speaker 1: And do mean on a date or on the on an app?

00:25:47
Speaker 2: What would be a red flag on an app? That would be the picture that's where you go wrong.

00:25:53
Speaker 1: The pictures are the red flags for me.

00:25:55
Speaker 2: I mean, I am say, you're going to meet somebody's what's.

00:25:59
Speaker 1: If they come to the house if they come to the restaurant or whatever and they're they're not gentlemen. I'm telling you, I'm old fashioned.

00:26:08
Speaker 2: If that somebody that doesn't treat the waitress, if you.

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Speaker 1: Do not teach as, if you treat a server, well you're done. So I'm looking for that. I'm looking for polite. I'm looking for fun. I'm looking for someone who enjoys life laughing. But a red flag is somebody who just talks about themselves or a deceased spouse, or criticizes people or complains about their life. I mean, I want like you. I'm basically a happy person. I want a happy person.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, so similar and like the things that I like. Yeah, well, but it is difficult. I mean it's a first date or first meet if you will, and you're trying to share who you are and get to know who they are an awe. For me, it all boils down to is their chemistry. Chemistry speaks volumes, because there if there isn't.

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Speaker 1: Does that mean if they're what do you mean? Does that mean? If they're if they're good kissers, what does that mean? No?

00:27:13
Speaker 2: Before the kiss? If you're enjoying them, you like something about them, You want more. I usually know that within a few minutes. Something charming about them that's good to me, you know.

00:27:24
Speaker 1: And I cannot believe you said that. I'm not. I can't believe you said that because for me, I hate to admit that. Susan, I I suss it out pretty quickly whether or not I'm interested. I feel bad.

00:27:35
Speaker 2: I told you, I know in two minutes.

00:27:38
Speaker 1: Do you really though?

00:27:39
Speaker 2: Yes?

00:27:41
Speaker 1: Can I call you on that?

00:27:42
Speaker 2: Yeah?

00:27:43
Speaker 1: The guy you met in Saint Martin that when I went with you, you turned around and said, I said you he's cute. You went, I don't know. I don't think I'm feeling it. That's what you said. Well you're feeling it now.

00:27:55
Speaker 2: That was the first two minutes. I didn't know. I couldn't understand it.

00:27:58
Speaker 1: Wor he said, all right, listen, guys, this has been feeling so much fun. Oh, she definitely films me.

00:28:07
Speaker 2: He's a great guy.

00:28:08
Speaker 1: He's a great gule. Susan is going to a prong Francis learn from. I'm sure that she was Spanish to be a little easier. It's they're both the same.

00:28:18
Speaker 2: But they had answer like you saw, we had ear pods in we're trying to communicate my phone, and I remember like twenty five minutes thirty minutes in, I said, you know where I come from. When you go to meet somebody, you make eye contact. I couldn't even tell you what color your eyes were. You started to live.

00:28:35
Speaker 1: Let me just say to you guys out there, we can't give up. We have to be positive. Go on the apps, get out, get off the sofa. Try to meet people organically. If you if you're dating on apps, be yourself, because you know what when you meet the person, they're going to see who you are anyway, So get on the apps.

00:28:55
Speaker 2: Ghost people. I got ghosted last year. I guess it was that was like and ghost It meanings stood up in my.

00:29:04
Speaker 1: Light. If you make a date, show up.

00:29:08
Speaker 2: Us know.

00:29:09
Speaker 1: We hope that this has helped you.

00:29:11
Speaker 2: Somewhat in dating apps, especially Kathy. How about people that have never gone on, like you know, the older generation.

00:29:20
Speaker 1: We gave them step by step how to.

00:29:22
Speaker 2: Do it to Just call us. We'll walk you through it.

00:29:25
Speaker 1: I thought we just did spend the last hour walking them through. Where were you? They're scared? Don't be scared. Everybody listen, it's everyone is afraid going on a dating app. Be safe, don't go to a private pace, go to a public place, meet them for a drink. If nothing else, you got out of the house for half an hour.

00:29:45
Speaker 2: Don't let the house first time.

00:29:47
Speaker 1: Oh Jesus, what Susan.

00:29:49
Speaker 2: Don't let him in your heart, don't bring him over your home. And for the first day.

00:29:52
Speaker 1: Did you really have to say that?

00:29:53
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, you don't pick up you know. But we can go on for ever and ever on the subject. And if you do want questions or advice about our comments, please yeah, please let us know.

00:30:07
Speaker 1: Let's see, because we are still Susan half asked, but we're still on the search, and we're just hoping that everyone finds love because you know what, don't ever forget every one of us deserves loves.

00:30:22
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00:30:36
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