Brooklyn Opens Up

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Speaker 1: What is up? Welcome back to Happy Hour listeners. This is Michelle Young. I'm going to be your solo host today as Becca could not make it, so until she returns next week, I'm going to be holding down the fort. I'm so excited because we are having our guests Brooklyn on today. I have so many questions to ask her about her time in the rodeo, about this huge week that she spent in London while Zach had COVID. But before we bring her on today, I'm going to fill you in with some things that I've been up to. I've been so excited. I've been teasing a lot of the different activities, different organizations, different launches that I have coming up. And I'm so proud to officially announce that my website, Michelle Young Official dot com is actually launching and by the time it's come out comes out, it's actually going to be launched. But again that's Michelle Young Official dot Com. It's going to showcase all the different foundations orzations, nonprofits campaigns that I am running. In the next year. It's going to focus on showcasing all of those due diligences, all those giving back events that I've promised so much to my followers and that I've tried to involve fans and followers with becoming an impact alongside of me, and so please make sure to go check that out. But before we bring in Brooklyn, we have to recap last night's episode. There was so much that was happening, and as I was watching first, I have to start off by saying, I'm truly enjoying watching Gabby and Zach in their connection together. It seems like one of the most genuine connections on the screen. Honestly as a viewer, as somebody who has gone through it with all of the cameras around, I feel like I forget that this isn't even a TV show when I'm watching them together, and absolutely loved their whole royal perfume creation date. Gabby. I'll say one of my favorite piece parts about Gabby is just she's quirky. She seems down to earth. As they're trying out these different perfumes, you know, you're in a royal setting, it's like a high classy setting, and this girl is labeling these scents as sour Patch, Christmas Tree with a little bit of marijuana, body owner, whatever it is leave it to Gabby to bring everything back down to earth, regardless if we're in London, regardless if we are running around with the royal quirkies. But I will say that I truly, truly do love watching their connection. My only question and I'm so curious this is maybe something that I should ask on my social media story. But happy our listeners. Zabby the scent Zabby for Zach and Gabby. Nobody ever gave an description of what that's scent would be like. So I'm truly curious with you guys. Let me know as I post this on my store, give us some feedback. If you had to figure out or guess what the perfume scent of Zabby would be, what would it smell like? Let's be honest, but also let's be nice. Okay, moving forward, I will say this, Gabby, she was the one who got the fashion date. I'll say it's so so tricky to watch these dates. I feel like there's a fashion date every single every single season. And as a person who's been on that couch while somebody is you know, receiving the dresses and talking about all these different experiences and this glamorous like fashion show cutee date that we all really want and dream of as we were little girls. It's so uncomfortable to like put yourself back in that position to truly feel those so I did feel for the girls. There's also got to be some type of statistic and correct me if I'm wrong, But there's gonna be some kind of statistic that goes back to the person who gets the shopping date. Nearly always makes it to the final four, if not wins. Rachel Kirkconnell, Susie. I believe Susie and Clayton were on their date, right, Becca kou friend she was on the shopping date. So honestly, this might be a small little insight of who's taking home the final Rose of this season. That's just my guess. But anyways, I want to know. I want to know what you think. I want to know what you think about Zabby. I want to know what you think about this whole concept of flexing this fashion date in front of all these other women, but also doing it and also enjoying yourself as well. I will say that at the ends of the app episod, or actually at the end of the one on one, let's talk about that first at the end of the one on one Zach and Gabby, they truly look like I thought they were going to say I love you. They didn't, but I truly thought and felt everything that they were saying to each other moving into the rest of the episode. It was pretty obvious for me watching that at the start of the date, when Zach didn't show up, and he didn't show up and surprise the girls as they were exploring London, you could totally see that the weather just completely coordinated with how the women were feeling. I felt for them on this date. It's really hard because it's an experience that you want to be grateful for. You're traveling the world, you're falling in love, there's so many exciting things that are happening. But also on the flip side, to be in this position, you have to give up so many different aspects of your life. You have to give up talking to your friends and family, you have to give up work, you have to give up school. You would totally put your life on pause to be here for this person, and so to go through this to really have to have a sharp learning curve of what being on this show is like, to stay vulnerable to navigate drama, to figure out your own feelings, to overcome honestly, just the physical and emotional aspects of this environment is truly a difficult thing. And so to watch those girls today really get amped up to seeing Zach. They're in London, they're excited, they're finally on the road, they're traveling all these to new location, and Zach gets sick. But for these girls to then go throughout the whole day exploring overcoming it, lifting each other up, getting there, just attitude and overall morale backup to only then come back to a cocktail party that is not going to happen because tested positive for COVID. So I truly I feel for these women. It was a rough go. It was exhausting, and honestly, I can I can understand why just all these different women are having the feelings that they're having. And it's a mix of emotions of really being frustrated with putting your life on hold for this person, feeling worried for this person, but also feeling exhausted as we move in. I will say when Jesse came in and he mentioned that this is the first time in history that something happened, it's probably the first time that I believed this phrase. We've all heard it before historically, break in something that's never happened before. That's a common common phrase in this franchise. But I can attest that this truly is the first time that a roastory morning, or excuse me, a rose ceremony was taken place virtually, which I think we all thought was out of the question as we've somewhat navigated out of COVID, and for these women to have to get dressed up, for Zach to honestly kind of a sweetheart with the fact that he was willing to set up and put all of these different cameras, and I can only imagine all the coordination that coordinating that took place with having to have Zach do all of that set up himself. I do remember briefly speaking to some producers about that actually happened, like that he was actually in charge of setting up all of his camera work, because what they didn't want to happen is they didn't want him to spread COVID to any of the other camera people, to any of the other producers, and so they truly were like talking to him through zoom to be able to get him to set up all of the mics, all of the cameras, all the different footage, all the different tech pieces that go on behind the camera, so that they could take part in this virtual rose ceremony. So as these women, I could see it on their faces, as these women were notified that this is going to be a virtual rose ceremony, I feel like some of them, actually, no, I'm not going to say some of them. I feel like most of them put a smile on. But also I think a lot of them really felt the fact that not only might you not receive a rose, you might now actually get sent home virtually. And as if earning a rose or not sorry, as if not earning a rose is bad enough to get dumped, take it from somebody knows, get dumped over the phone or over FaceTime or over zoom sucks. And especially I can't remember who said this, but I do remember one of the girls saying that as these decisions were made, you don't receive that piece of closure of like hugging somebody goodbye, like that physical touch. I don't know about you, guys, but I'm very much like talking something through like after a breakup or having that piece of closure is something that's already really tough to gain in this situation because you don't get to have a conversation, you don't get to be able to like sit and sort things out when you're at like this early in the journey, and so that in itself it was already difficult. But to now get sent home through a man speaking to you or on a screen who you put your life on pause for, to not hug him, to not do any of that, and to just get sent home across the country, that's pretty tough. That's pretty tough. So I do feel for the girls who didn't receive that closure. But what can I say is showbiz and props to Zach for pushing through because not feeling well having COVID, having to actually navigate that situation when you truly can't be in the same room as anybody else because you don't want get anyone sick, it's the best that you can do. So it definitely gave a plot twist. There was a lot of different interesting events that took place in last night's episode, But what is even more interesting moving forward, or what I'm even more excited about, is not so much what took place in the episode, but who we're having on our episode today, and so we are going to bring in Brooklyn. I have all the questions for her. There's been so much that she's been outspoken for, and I'm so excited to get down to the bottom of it. Let's bring her in. Welcome. Brooklyn Beckett is so sad that she couldn't be here today. She's really looking forward to talking to So you're stuck with me, but we're still going to get down to the bottom of everything and completely just talk about everything that got to you to this point, everything that has happened so far on the episodes, and also have you give us a teaser? But first, how are you? I'm doing great. I'm just so excited to be here. I'm this is just awesome. It's this realis is really happening, It's real. Where are you located right now? I'm in Dallas right now. My grandma just had a knee replacement, so I came down to help out as best I could. But she's doing good. So oh that's so. That's so nice of you to help out family with everything. So we're going to dive into everything, okay, because I have so many questions for you. But first off, how did you come about to being on this show? So I have been a huge fan of the show. I mean since I was young. I know, growing up my mom watched the show, and I've always watched it. And then in college, like we have a bunch of girls' nights together and we'd all watch it. It's actually funny. We you know, always joked, oh Brooklyn, like you should do it, you should do it, and I'm like, okay, whatever, like you know, just kind of blowing it off. And I want to say it was Peter's season. We were watching the finale and I was at a friend's house, my friend's summer and we all were in like prom dresses, old prom dresses, we like, dressed up like a rose ceremony. And I posted it on Instagram and I was like, catch us on the next season of The Bachelor, like just joking, no, and it was I mean, it went all over my hometown. Everyone's like, oh my god, Brooklyn's gonna be on the Bachelor. And it was like, guys, no, it's just a joke. It's just a joke. And then and four years later, here I am um, but you know, like I said, we'd always joked about it, and I had some friends that nominated me, and then UM, They're like, you should just go ahead and apply yourself. And I was like, okay, fine, like, well, we'll see what happens. And I did, and then um, almost a year later, I think, UM casting reached out to me and it's just been fusined ahead ever since. Okay, wait, so one, I love the fact that you and your friends got so into it that you wore your prom dresses. Two, I kind of wish that you would have. Did you bring the dress on the show? I did? So you did? Are the second road ceremony? What color was it? It was like the black one that was cut out like with sheer, kind of like on the sides. Oh my god, that's so symbolic. I know. That's so symbolic. What a turning of event. That's amazing, totally meant to be. Okay, wait, so you applied, you said over a year ago, so like this was a process, like this actually took some time. Yeah. Yeah. When I got the call, it was like an LA number and I was like, I didn't answer. I was actually in California to work training and I didn't answer. It's like, Okay, this is a scam phone call or something. And then I got a text and I was like, maybe I'll call back and see what this is about. So I was like, I'm not a scam. Interesting whoa Okay, wait, so you applied and then a year's a long time, so like they reached out. A year later is when they reached out. You said, right, yeah, so did you during that time at what point where You're like, okay, I'm not getting a call back or I'm like do you start dating in between that? Do you how do you deal with that? And then all of a sudden, twelve months later they're like, hey, wait, we want to interview with you with about coming on the show. Yeah, I actually, I mean honestly, I kind of had forgot that I applied because I was just like, oh, like it'll never happen, like whatever, you know, just doing it kind of to make my friends happy, even though like I wanted it. I sort of dating around here and there, but you know, nothing was really working for me, and I just wasn't really into anything or anyone or didn't really want to try the apps either. So it was honestly just like using that time as kind of getting to know myself again and basically healing and just kind of spending time to myself selfishly. So I didn't think too much about not getting a call back, and then when I did, I was like this, I was at a good place. It was like this, I think this is it. This is for me. So I was all in, oh my god, Okay, wait, so when you get this call, you are brought out to La on a far so, like to jog everybody's memory, Brooklyn was one of the women who was basically got to come on the Afar show and meet Zach ahead of everybody else. One like, did you know that it was going to be Zach? And how much ahead of time? I how much time as you have to prepare it to actually once you got on the stage physically got on the stage. Yeah, So I did not know for sure if it was going to be Zach. But beforehand, you know, my mom's googling everything, she's looking up spoilers as much as she can, and she's sending me all this stuff and she's like, I really think it's going to be Zach. And he was definitely who I wanted it to be. And I was like okay, like, don't get my hopes up, mom, Like, I love the enthusiasm, but let's not get our hopes up. But it was definitely in the back of my mind the whole time until they finally told me. So then I was super excited to find out was him because I watched the previous season and really just felt drawn to him and really liked what I saw on top of him just being good looking. And then as far as getting ready, we had a quick walk through. It was kind of like surprised, here we go, and I was like, oh my god. I mean, if you remember watching, because I was a little nervous, but so worth it, so glad it happened, and I feel really special that I was chosen, that it was incredible. How would you say what you like the characteristics that you knew about Zach before stepping on that stage, like the things that drew you to him. How would you say that, like he was different than the men in the rodeo dating scene? Oh, tricky question. I feel like with Zach, he definitely knows what he wants. He doesn't really question himself or you know what he wants. He's very emotionally intelligent and is able to have, you know, those harder conversations, so serious conversations that not a lot of men have that emotional capacity. I guess you could say. So I really liked that about him, and I really liked how sure he was with what he wanted and who he was. It says a lot about a person, and I really admired that. I love that. Actually, that seems to be a very common answer, just perception of Zach that he truly like came into this we didn't know a lot about him necessarily, but that he really actually knew what he wanted in a partner and have the confidence or intention with that. So that's one thing that I can admire. But how is there is there a rodeo dating scene? Because I know that our listeners are going to want to know that has been like one of the biggest like focus is what all the buzz is about? Everybody's so curious about your rodeo life. And do you get really sick of people asking questions about it? No? No, I don't asking questions about it. I love it. It's it's you know who I am. It's a lifestyle. I love everything about it. I would definitely say yes, there is a dating scene in the Rodeo world. It's a small world, so pretty much everyone knows each other. A majority of us all grew up together. I've actually really never dated anyone that's Rodeo, just because then I'd have to go with them to the road and oh I never thought about that. It's like dating in a small town. Oh for sure. Yea, everybody does everybody did each other? Hey, that's how I was gonna say, does everyone did each other? I'm like, this sounds like yeah. I was like, sounds like Bachelor exactly. Yeah. Well, did you get any advice from any of your friends? I know that you said that you guys really we're like true Bachelor Nation fans. Before you were on the show, did you have any advice or did you come into it with like any strategies just because you did know a little bit about how things work. So I was pretty quiet about actually coming on the show. I didn't really tell many of my friends. I told some of them, like as in two and then my family. So as far as advice, I mean, it was kind of you know, your typical just be yourself, But like that one is a big one to me. I think you know, especially with such a short time to get to know someone, you have to truly be yourself, like right out of the gate for someone to get to know you. So I really took that one and ran with it. I feel like. But as far as like my big like Bachelor fan friends, they had no idea. Okay, they saw me on the live show and when I finally got my phone back, they were like, oh my god. I was like, Oh, I'm not gonna bother texting back now. It's been too long. So you went straight from the live show to filming? Yes? Is that right? Wow? What a turnament. That's crazy? So how much time passed? Were like, you have your first night and you meet this man, the man that you actually wanted to be the Bachelor, and you have this interaction. Did you feel spark like? I'm sure you were nervous, but what did you feel like when you were stepping up on that stage. I was definitely nervous. I it was a blur, Honestly, I feel like I almost like blacked out and barely remember it. I had to go back and rewatch it. But like, once the dust settled and I like caught my breath, took deep breaths and thought about everything. I did definitely feel a spark. I mean I was terrified. I was the first to go up there, and it was almost like a surprise. But once, like I said, once I kind of let the dust settle and everything calmed down. I just I definitely felt drawn to him and I felt a connection. So I mean, you know, you can tell when you first meet someone if you think there's potential or not, and I definitely felt there was. I felt safe and secure and comfortable talking to him, even though I was absolutely terrified. So I think that was important that I felt that moving forward. Yeah, and then first night, was it a little bit easier to step out of that limo just because you had met him before? Or was it even more nerve racking, because I mean you could have this fear of like what if he doesn't remember me, or you know, what if our interaction goes differently? What were your like actual internal emotions or thoughts before stepping out of that limo. I was definitely still nervous. How Ever, I kind of felt a calming sense just because you know, to me, seeing a familiar face helps me, and I was hoping like him, seeing a familiar face, even if he didn't remember my name, would be calming to him. And because I know he's going through all the emotions too, I wasn't too worried about if he remembered who I was or not, which he did, so that made me feel a little better. I was. I was a lot more relaxed than the first night, I think, but I'm still crazy nervous because it is there, iconic they were, and it's back at the mansion, like it's right that I can't even imagine. I cannot even imagine, but kind of nice to have, like a little bit of the first type of nerves, like the blackout nerves that we all don't think we're gonna get, and then we get. No matter how comfortable you are in front of like camera's lights, anything, there's no way to avoid that. I don't know anybody who remembers their entrance. Yeah, I got to remember my Internet heart because I already black down on stage exactly perfect. I love that. So Okay, so we really do get to see you and Zach's connection take like form right off the bat, and you get to go on this one on one with him and the Bahamas, and there's all this like building up, and then I would say that it kind of that doesn't take like a backseat, but we just don't really see the connection as much there after that. How would you describe your connection with Zach during that time. I definitely feel like our connection, you know, building up to the one on one was steady, and then I feel like once we had our one on one, I felt so comfortable with him, being able to share and be so vulnerable with him, that it took a complete like skyrocket, you know, being so vulnerable with someone like that and it being received so well is very important in any connection, but especially in a romantic relationship. So feeling that I did feel the connection of a lot faster, a lot further, but in a good way and definitely in the right direction. Yeah, I want to definitely give you some time to kind of like dive into just the conversation that you had with Zach as much in detail or little as detail as you are comfortable and you would like to, you know, going on that one on one day, everyone kind of knows like the day portion is for like this adventure and this fun piece, and then you know that the night portion is kind of where you have the more serious conversations. Was that something that like waking up that morning or just or I guess after figuring out that you're going on that one on one? Is that something that was in the forefront of your mind of this is something I really want him to know about me right off the bat. Yes, absolutely, you know, I was super excited to have a one on one, But like he said, like in the back of my mind, was am I ready to share this with him? Is he ready to hear this? Like I didn't want him to feel like I was trauma dumping on him or anything like. But I feel sharing about my past relationship with any new relationship is very important and it's not something I've really been able to do in past relationships, just because it's shaped me to who I am and it gives him just a little bit more information on why I am the way that I am and how I handle things, how I see things in my perception of, you know, relationships moving forward. So it was on my mind. It was you know, that's a lot of what I thought about was like, Okay, the day is so much fun, I'm having a great time. But then it was like lingering cloud I was like, oh my god, Like I knew it was I felt comfortable and I felt safe doing it, but I was like, is this going to be too much? Is this you know, is this really what I should do at this point? But you know, it floats so naturally that I was happy everything happened the way that it did, but it was definitely on my mind of is now a time? Yeah, I will say that I really do applaud with how you handle that entire situation. And you use the words trauma dumping, right, and like that's a huge phrase. I guess you can call it that. It's not even so much the contestants use it, but like the viewers use it. That's somebody who's watched the show, like you said, you have. It's like you really do hear these stories, and it kind of it can seem to viewers that it's trauma dumping. But what's so hard is that for us walking in and having these conversations, for somebody like you was having these conversations, you almost have to like your relationship moves so fast and so serious and it's so real and it's for an engagement, and so it's like it really does puts you in a position where you have to be confident or courageous I guess, and brave enough to have these conversations because you are doing it in front of the camera, which one incredibly vulnerable. It's an incredibly strong thing to do and to talk about and to kind of just really put your life out there and the struggles that you've had and really like connect with not only Zach but a lot of other people who are watching the show and who have been through similar things. And to not even just like watch you speak about it and to watch you connect with Zac about it, and to see Zach respond to you, and just to see a healthy conversation around past trauma was something that was really just even impactful for me to watch so truly, like, I really do applaud you for how you handle the situation, how you spoke about that. I know that's not easy. I know it's always kind of trying to navigate when the right time is to have those conversations. But in my book, if if it's something that you need to talk about, it's the right time, and like it's right if it's something that's important to you, it's the right time. Shit, regardless if you're jumping out of a plane, regardless if you're whatever you're doing, whatever you're doing on an adventurous date in the Bahamas, Like, if it's something that's weighing on you, especially in the situation where it's a serious relationship engagement, commitment, like talk about it. Yeah, so yeah, very much, very much. Start, So you guys have this conversation, and how did you feel about how Zach responded because I kind of give my opinion with how he handled it, But what did you have worries about talking about this? Did you have worries about how it was received and like has it been received differently maybe in the past and other relationships. Yeah, I definitely did have worries and reservations going into it sharing that with him, you know, I didn't want me telling him that to make him think, Oh, I mean like she's she's still dealing with this or she's not healed. Like that's not the case. Like I'm I definitely feel like I'm healing every day. It's kind of like you have to choose to continue to heal every day after situations like that and with other situations as well. So I was concerned that he would be like, oh, maybe like she still needs to like work some stuff out. But that was the complete opposite of how he handled and how he reacted. He was very receptive. He was I mean, you know, not just like oh okay, gotcha. Yeah, he was. You know, I could feel that, not that I wanted to hurt him, but that he hurt with me. Not like I said, I don't want anyone to hurt or anything, and I didn't want him to hurt too. But it just showed that he cared, and he was listening intently and that he was hearing everything I had to say and taking it seriously. He didn't ever take it the way I thought where he was like, oh gosh, she's still healing. He understood that I went through something that is really hard and that I have made an effort to heal from that and I am continuing to make that effort. So he handled it with such grace and it was so receptive that all of my worries at the time I completely forgot about them at the end of the night. That's really I'm very very happy to see that. And honestly, that came through the screen just you would kind of almost just see your body language take like a deep breath after you had taught like spoken about it, even like regardless of how it went, just a deep breath of like, this is something that I've been having, like weighing on you, not even dealing with or holding onto, but it's like something that's been winging on you that you've kind of had to like navigate through. And it seems like your level of trust kind of skyrocketed. Would you say that, like the relationship, what was like the feeling I guess at the end of that night or after that conversation and how it went, How do you feel like your connection changed after that? Like you said, it truly was a weight lifted off my shoulders, and even still like it's just a complete weight lifted off my shoulders because like I said, it was a cloud just lingering over me. But I feel like after that, like I said, our connection to skyrocketed. I felt so heard and secure and just safe and where I was, you know, sharing something like that. You have to feel safe to share that information, and I did. And then I really feel like our relationship blossomed a lot more than I was expecting, because, like I said, I didn't know what to expect going in but very I continued to feel very safe in the relationship and just felt safer and safer, like I could share anything with him. I mean, if I can share that, I can share just about anything. Yeah, did you after like sharing that? Just I'm curious of just social media and just you know, having a platform or just putting yourself out there in that vulnerable, vulnerable position in the public eye. Did you receive support? Did you have people who really like either reached out to you or just related to what you had gone through? Yes? Absolutely, the support and the love has been overwhelming in the best way possible. I have had a lot of people reach out to me, and you know, even if they didn't relate to saying thank you for sharing, like you could help someone, and then other women that have been through similar things just sharing and saying thank you. You know, you have showed me that you things do get better, you can heal, you can't be brave, just stuff like that. And it's so hard to respond to everyone because I'm serious. I've probably had at least a thousand messages that I've seen. Yeah, and it's been you know, just incredible that they feel that they can share with me, which of course, anytime anyone ever can, but that you know, like I said, I if I can help just one person, If me sharing my story can benefit at least one person somehow, some way, then maybe that's the reason God had me go through it. I don't know, but that's what I'm going to tell myself. So if they could help one person, I'm thankful. And I'm so thankful for just the outpouring of love and support I've received since doing that, because that was big, it really it was. Yeah, it scared enough. I'm going to get I will get emotional right there with you, as I can see you're getting emotional now just talking about it. But it's in such a such an empowering way, and I really am, like, I know, we don't haven't known each other for all of what thirty minutes we've been talking, right, I really am, though, proud of you, just from woman to woman to to doing that. And there's a lot of people who've been through different things, you know that that they haven't been able to share that, and for you to kind of set that open that door, just give that reminder of people that it's okay to have those conversations is so powerful and I know that Charity. You and Charity are really closed. We had her on last week and we spoke a little bit about your friendship with everything, because you can just see that y'all connect, you get each other, and she told you just how proud she was of you for telling your story. Were the like, how was the support with the other women in the house once you had opened up, because you know, yeah, the support with all the women was incredible. I mean, we had a great group of girls. Everyone there was just incredibly supportive in all aspects. But opening up about that, you know, I think I've heard from every single woman in the house just telling me they're proud of me, thanking me for doing that for other women, and just being there, you know, just saying like I'm proud of you, or just being a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, anything like that. So that support during filming and after from all the women has been incredible. Definitely, like you said, Charity's my rock, Like she was engraced through the whole thing. So I was super thankful to be able to really confide in her and dive a lot deeper with her in a lot of these conversations but especially that one. And I mean not just because of her profession, but just her how incredible she is. She really helped me, you know, walk it, walk through it, talk through it, and it was wonderful, it was amazing, And I'm beyond thankful for everyone, but certainly beyond thankful for charity and our friendship. Yeah. Absolutely, what would you say to other I'm not gonna even say women. I'm gonna just say other people in general who might be going through a healing process similar to yours or might be going through a similar situation. Yeah. Something I would tell anyone in this situation or in my past situation healing anything like that is you are strong, your courageous, and you're worthy of love, first of all, first and foremost. But that to remember, healing is not a linear journey. You'll have good days, you'll have bad days, and you can't dwell on the bad days. Every day is an active choice, even you know, the hardest part is leaving. Truthfully, even after that, even after you've left, the hardest part, after you've done the worst of it, is leaving is just choosing to love yourself every day, know your worth and to keep moving forward. It is possible and it is so worth it. But I would just encourage everyone too, in my situation or a previous situation or healing, to just keep the strength and keep being strong and choose yourself and not to dwell, not to dwell on any of the bad days. There is life cool. Healing is not linear. I absolutely love the way that you put that. And we are going to switch gears into our group day. But before we switch gears, just because I know that these situations are so important and the conversations are so important to have. Is there anything else just that you want to get off your chest about this conversation or advice or anything related to this journey that you this healing journey that you've gone on before. Before we do that, I mean, I think we've covered you know, the meat of it all. You know that it does get better. You can't get out of it. Healing snot linear. Those are the most important parts, but that you don't have to do it alone. You know it's hard reaching out for help. It's you know, I like I said, I was embarrassed, but you shouldn't be embarrassed. Reaching out for help is the best thing you can do. So just get straight to it. Truly an inspiration. Thank you for sharing that, Brooklyn. So we aren't switch hears on to a little bit of this group date, experiencing this magical city with Zach right in London, all these other things that are going on. But before we go into the group date, what are your thoughts on you're sitting on the couch with all these women right the infamous couches that happen and take place, and the anxiety and stressors of sitting on the couches as we wait for the dick cards. What were your thoughts or what are your thoughts at this point with the other women shedding tears over not getting that week's one on one, Totally understandable. You know, I had my one on one, so I knew I probably wouldn't be getting another one that week. But I understand because it's so easy to compare your journey to someone else's, and it's so easy to get in your head and think, Okay, well there's so much further ahead me because they've already had a one on one and I'm getting left behind. What if he's not into me. It's just so easy to spiral, So I totally understand other women being concerned, being upset that they haven't got that one on one yet. But it's valid, totally valid to feel that way. I think it's such an important reminder with what you just said just to yours in general, of it is so easy to spiral. You could be walking into this environment as the most confident, level headed person and it's just like you're in a room full of emotions constantly, and whether you're not necessarily putting that out, like you're still absorbing other people's anxiety and stress and you don't have your normal support system near you. You're still trying to figure out what this hold is, like, what the hell is actually going on in this entire world, Like there's so much that is taking place that it's like, I think a lot of people at home are like, well, she's crying over nothing, like you just met him and all these other things, but it's such an intense moment. It's like it's constantly such an intense moment. Like you said, comparing, there's constant comparisons. How did you handle that mentally for yourself with not letting your mind spiral or what did you do to kind of like reel yourself back in when you really felt yourself, like feeling the weight of everything. You know, it was hard. There was some days that I would spiral more than others. But in order to just kind of keep myself sane and grounded, honestly, a lot of it was me and Charity talked it out a lot, but a lot of it, like with myself, I had to just continue to remind myself that comparison is the thief of joy and that my walk is different than everyone else's. I can't continue to compare myself in any way relationship wise. I mean, we're in a room full of beautiful, smart women. I can't compare myself there either. So it was a constant reminder and beg on like affirmations, So constantly reminding myself, affirming myself and just trying to kind of take myself out of the stress and you know, find a happy place and remind myself that me and Zact do have a good connection and be confident in what we do have and what I know. Because what one person says, you could take it completely out of context of like what they're actually saying. They could actually be saying, Oh, it's kind of on the rocks but it comes across to you like, oh my god, like I already know I'm the one, so like, I think, just reminding myself that my journey is not theirs was the biggest grounding technique I used. Yeah, okay, wait, I'm big on an affirmations. It's like one of your go to affirmations. I think definitely. It's like I'm strong. You know. It's so simple, but yeah, simple, but you know, thinking however you need it, apply it wherever you need. That's why I like that one, right right. Okay, So we know that the group date obviously didn't go quite to plant, but it seems like you ended up having like at least a little bit of fun. Can you tell us about how the day went. Yeah, we have. We had a great time. We had a lot of fun. It was really disappointing, you know, the way things played out, but knowing that Zack still wanted us to have a good time was really refreshing and kind. You know, he could easily have been like sorry, like y'all just chill just hanging out at the hotel, but no, he wanted us to have a good time, so that was refreshing. But we had a great time. You know, it was a lot of fun to get to bond with all the women even more than you know we already had, but also kind of taking the pressure and like the awkward part out of a group date, because you know, on group dates it's it's so strange because like we're all friends and we're rooting for each other, but also we're like, okay, she just talked to him twice, like come on, like get you can't help but to get jealous. So that we got to take that out and just really have fun with each other without the clause. There are so many like implied rules of respect, I think amongst the cast of just how to handle like fight for what you want, but also like handle it respectfully as possible. I know that the girls. I can't remember who said it, but someone was like I was constantly waiting for Zac to pop up at what going did you realize like this man's not showing up on the stage. I was skeptical from the get go when we first got the note everyone, I mean, I was like, there's I mean, it sounds like he's not feeling well. There's no way if I'm not feeling good, I count me out of the rest of the day because I'm gonna milk it. Honestly, I don't do love when I'm not feeling good. But We're sitting at the cocktail party and it had been long enough, and I was like, okay, we're getting stood up on national television. Not that it was his fault, but I was like, oh, yeah, this isn't happening. So it was probably it was during the cocktail party that I was like, this is definitely not happening. So a little disappointing, but you know, what can you do? It? Also does it necessarily like look good on his part at that point, So it's like you can like, yes, you guys are feeling stood up, But at the same time, I was like, this looks bad on him, not y'all. Yeah, yeah, but I mean, I know there's so many factors that go into it, but I was kind of like, okay, come on, like you could have told us something sooner. But I also understand there's so many factors that play into it, and I know he'd probably tried his best to make it. Um yeah, just didn't go in his direction, didn't fall in his favor this time, or okay, so I have to ask did anyone get the beef eater to flinch? Yeah? We did. Um, I'm not exactly sure who or how, but finally we cracked him. He was probably just sick of us and like, okay, get him out of here, Like if I move and if I flinch, will they leave me alone? Oh my gosh. I was so surprised, like was it was it an actor or like legitimately no, I mean you guys, I'm here watching it, like he's gonna get scolded? Can you get fired? Like yeah, by the thing? He was like, did you just make this poorman listen his job? Did we just get him? Fine? Is he going to jail? Like? Right? So, who was someone's like torking in this porn man? Yeah? We I mean we tried everything. We pulled all the tricks out, and then I'm gonna hope he's an actor. But if he's an actor, I mean, like made your skills of not fluinching, Like honestly, he did a good job, like he oh yeah, he's shown a little bit of personality, which like that's not the worst thing. Okay, so don't I hope he doesn't get in trouble for this. Of course, we just like draw more attention to him. But okay, so you guys do end up making like the best of the day, Like you do turn it around, You do like take a moment to pause and realize where you're at, and you know, like make the best of the opportunity, end up laughing, enjoying each other's company. But then that night, going into that night now knowing how it played out and like unfortunately Zack's not able to make it that evening. Did you feel like between that period, like there's a weird period of time where you like go on a group jay and then you like run back and you're like eating and getting ready and like figure out what you're going to talk about that night. Did you have any the idea or feeling that he was not going to be making it to the cocktail party or the after party. Yeah. I kind of had a guess that he might not be coming, just because, like I said, he wasn't feeling good and if I'm not feeling good, I'm not coming either. But I looking at like surely he's coming, because he wouldn't have a skit ready. I mean, I'm sure he knows how long it takes women to get ready. He probably wouldn't have it ready for him not to come, So I'm sure with that in mind, he tried his very best to make an appearance. It just couldn't happen. But I did kind of have a rough idea, maybe this isn't happening, but I was gonna go find out anyways, because I was hoping it would. I love that. I love that energy. What was the energy though in the room after hearing the news, just the news that he was not going to be there, he went the full day hoping to be able to see him, like kind of mustering up more energy than you had, like whatever energy you had left to get ready for this after party, and then he doesn't show up again. Yeah, at this point, you guys don't know that it's COVID, right, But we didn't know at that point. You know, we kind of took our guests just because, like if it was a cold or something, we were like, oh, he would just be like don't kiss me or something like that. But we kind of guessed it was something more serious because he wouldn't just not show up for something small. The energy in the room though, was very a little mixed. It was like part like you could tell people were just like really bummed and super sad, but you could also tell some girls were like genuinely pissed off, which is understandable, and I felt both ways. I was super sad. I was. We were all concerned for him. We were like, Okay, well, this obviously has to be something big. I hope he's doing Okay, I hope you know it's nothing serious. But we were also just really just let down. Yeah. No, I totally get that. And it's like it's souch a different dating situation because if you were just normally dating at home, you can see them whenever you want, you can text, Like normally, if somebody cancels a date and they're not feeling well, like you're either talking over texting still or like you know, okay, you can reschedule for the next day. But this is a situation where you don't know the next time you're going to see him, absolutely yeah, and then the relationship can just abruptly end. So like there's a lot that's on the line here. Definitely, Yeah, that was I think that's also something that went through all of our minds. It's like we can't really check on him, you know, we can't call him be like are you okay? Or he could have you know, in a normal situation, he would have been able to text us or call us and be like, oh hey sorry, like I'm not going to make it and here's why instead of a note, like a message in a bottle kind of thing. Okay, so you're you have charity. Then who's in this position where she this girl, this poor girl already knows that she's going to get her one on one date the next day. She's been so excited, like her name wasn't on the group A card, that feeling like I finally got to have this time. And then what was going through her mind? Like what did she did she talk to you about? Or how did you feel for her? Just with her not knowing what the one on one was gonna look like, is it gonna even take place? Yeah? It was. I mean she was visibly upset, rightfully, So I was upset for her. You know, it's still that weird situation like that's my very best friend and I want, you know, to see her go on her date. But it's like we're still digging the same man. But I really didn't even focus on that at moment. Honestly, I felt so bad for her because she'd already had one moment snatched away from her previously covided this moment away from her, and I was like, Okay, well, I hope she gets everything and more, because I mean, she's had a rough go. You know, like I said, she was upset. We were all upset for her. She didn't know, you know, if she was going to get the next one on one that she didn't know I was gonna be guaranteed, or if how things were gonna work, you know, if she was gonna get skipped over. None of us had any idea. But like I said, she had moments snatched. So it's really sucked to see it happened two times in a row, only because you run up the words snatched, and I've been wanting you to ask. I've been wanting to ask this because you're blood. I love, I love how blood you are. You just speak it, you say it with like unapologetically yourself. Okay, this moment where her moment gets snatched, right where she gets the group day, Rose, can you enlighten us on your perspective of what happened during that. We're gonna go a little bit back in time. Yes, yeah, it was just kind of one of those moments. I don't I mean, looking back on it, it's just one of those like what are what are you thinking? Like what is going on? Um? You know, she was anyone who ever gets throws is deserving of that moment, but like especially her, she's been Honestly, she was everyone's rock there. She kept everyone grounded. Literally, Um, you know, she was a voice of reason and then to just have that disrespect thrown at her, I was like, that's not gonna work. We're not gonna have this. So you know, like you said, I am pretty blunt. I'll just say what I'm thinking. There it is. I'm not gonna, you know, keep I mean I kind of didn't want to keep, just like driving home the point, but I could see she was visibly upset, and I was like, now it's not the time. Let's read the room. I said what I said there it is. Let's move on and let's support charity as best we can, because that was not right when you're laughing so hard. Okay, wait, did you do typically costs? Yeah? Okay, I honestly you said what we all were thinking. So thank you for that and you said it very bluntly, boldly with dictation, and that's that amazing. Well, okay, so you're going into this rose ceremony now. Jesse tells you that it's your break in history. It's going to be the first virtual don't you love anytime he says that this has never happened before, you're either You're like, oh shit, what's coming? Like does it? It's so it's so anxiety provoking, like I'm like, oh god, what what what are we doing now? But you learned that the cocktail party is going to be virtual? At this point, what were your thoughts on talking to Zach through a screen? Honestly, my first thought was social media's gonna have a heyday with this. They're gonna have a lot of fun. True. I was excited that, you know, we were able to make it work somehow and get to talk to him. Um, I was a little curious on how how it was going to work as far as like stealing, like, um, what you am I supposed to like get in an argument with an iPad? Like it was just oh my god, wait, how did that work? Um? Basically we just sort of like can I steal the atad? I mean Zach, like you know, I mean it was like stealing like normal. Um, you would interduct it as you normally would. And it was just on an iPad and just a little awkward, but worth it because, like I said, at least get to talk to him. UM. So honestly, goodies. Yeah, we we loved it. It was it was a little spice up. I did love I did love that. But of course you got a rose. We'll be heading into next week with hopefully an in person's act this time, but we aren't sure where you all are headed next. But can you tease a little bit of what is to come? Um, I will say, expect the unexpected. Oh okay, I like that. I think okay, I like that. I heay. Honestly, there's always plot twists here. Can't expect anything less. But we're going to move into a game, Brooklyn. It's called rapid fire Questions. I've truly enjoyed getting to know you. This game is to allow our listeners to get to know you even more. So I'm going to throw a quick question your way. You're going to give like a one word response or a phrase. It's rapid fire back and forth. You don't have to give any explanation and we'll rattle through them. Are you ready? I'm ready? Okay. Are you an early riser or a night owl? A night owl early riser? Okay. What is the best dating advice you've ever received? As cliche as it is, just be yourself? Absolutely? What is your go to pizza order? Pineapple pepperoni. Oh, you're a pineapple on the pizza girl. Okay, I wouldn't have guessed that. What is one word your best friends would use to describe you, um? Loyal? Okay. What is your favorite curse word? Probably the F word. I love how you don't say it now, perfective, We know what you're talking about. What is the most played at song or artists in your library? Probably Morgan Wallen. Oh favorite song? It depends on the day. But Broadway Girls, that's just like gets you pumped up? Okay? Favorite cocktail? Fringe seventy five? Oh okay. If you could be any animal, what would you be? I would be a unicorn? It's not unique fairy two. What is the current screensaver on your phone? I always getting nervous asking this one right now? It is me and a friend from like four years ago going to music festival and it's like overly edited. There's like unicorns and purple clouds and everything everywhere. So oh, I love that. If you could visit one place in the world, where would you go? Okay, and last one, if you had to describe this season of a Bachelor in one word or phrase, what would it be? Oh, that's a good one. Um oh, I know you can take a minute. This one. This one trips people that. I mean, it's a good one. But um, I would say like supportive, you know, like the women support each other, then Zach supports us. Um, it's very supporting. Supportive. Wow, I will say that's been like a common theme throughout this from Zach and from the other women of just like everybody's support now for each other. Yeah, all right, Well, next we're gonna move into our resources segment. I cannot speak today resources segment. So basically what we've been doing is we've been providing resources at the end of every EPI so to really challenge our listeners to taking steps forward, doing our education, doing our unlearning of different anti racist behaviors, just after everything that has taken place. And so I'm going to start with the resource that I'm just going to talk about I'll tag on my highlights my story on Instagram, and then I'll hand it off to you to do the same. Sound good, all right, So I'm gonna go with I recently listen to a podcast it's called Speak Up, and it's basically this podcast platform that really focuses on handing like the mic to different groups of people, and it goes off of the theme of not being afraid to take up space and making sure that you are being your one hundred percent self, whether that's the LGP lg BTQ community, whether that's women advocacy, whether that's a person of color. It really does just emphasize is like an unfiltered conversation every single week that challenges different social norms and challenges different thought patterns. And I don't want I'm trying to think of like how to how to fully describe it. Unfiltered and raw and uncut is what I will say. And so it's different. And what I really appreciated about it is that sometimes like we see being uncomfortable as a very like bad thing. I think it's bad to be uncomfortable, but there are some situations, especially like when you're on learning behaviors. When you're challenging yourself to be a better person, you should you should be uncomfortable and to really like push getting comfortable with being uncomfortable, and this is the podcast to do that. I will tag it. It's on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, um, I think it's on a lot of other podcasts platforms as well. And it's called spe Up. So I do want the ticket away? Yes, So I have followed. Her name is Morgan Harper Nichols on Instagram for a long time. She is a woman of color. She posts a lot of self love, self help poems and like with her art on there. She's also very open about her ADHD and her autism and also being a woman of color. She has books, she has TikTok wife, I believe she has TikTok. She has her books, TikTok's her Instagram. I'm a huge fan of hers because all of her it's just very shortened to the point, but also gives you a good point, you know what I mean. Like it's very authentic from her, from her heart, and I love everything she has to say. I just ordered her book. It came out on I don't have Friday, No Tuesday it came out. She's her book, so I'm really excited to read about that, and I just really like what she stands for and how she's very open about everything, because I think that's important. It's to be open, vulnerable, and like you said, have the conversations and say the things that need to be said even if it makes something uncomfortable. Yeah, what is the book title called? If you don't mind, I'm sure our listeners will want to know. Yes, let me remember top of your head. You're only just beginning and it came out Valentine's Day, so I just ordered that, so you can't wait to get it. She's my follow her on TikTok and she is just like radiates positive energy, like she really yeah, really authentic as well, does it in a very authentic, like unapologetic way. So thank you for that resource. And lastly, one of the best parts of the podcast are Rose and Thorn, and so really, what you're gonna do is just kind of tell us or share a rose and thorn from everything that has taken place up until this point. And it can be um doesn't have to be like last episode, but rose something positive or like some of you hold close to your heart and the thorn it can be something awkward, uncomfortable downfall throughout the episodes, still till we're in London here. Okay, Um, a rose, I mean it goes without saying. A one on one would definitely be a rose. But um, I definitely my relationship with Charity just blossoming from the beginning is definitely another rose in my book, a thorn. A thorn would probably be when I fist bumped Zach after he said you're a good kisser and I fist bumped the poor man. I'm still am like, oh my god, I did that. That's my thorn. Dang Okay, But honestly it was so genuine. I've just like always dunce, I'm awkward, Okay, Like I've always done goofy stuff like that, and like I didn't mean it bad, like friend zoning or anything like. That's my way of showing affection, right, But it's like, okay, you know, you're you know those cute moments when you're watching like rom Columns, and it's like these quirky moments that either like the girl or the guy has or just like whoever is in the show that was like that moment and it's like when you're sitting and watching it, it's like, oh, it's like to feel good, like genuine relatable, like it's not all perfect, you don't have you know, it's just awkward. Yeah. I just remember when that, Like when I did, I was like, oh my god, it's like, well, maybe it won't make it in and then define it. There it is, And my family and friends that were watching with me were rolling. I was like, here we go. Were there any memes? Guess I haven't seen any. I mean I've seen a couple or I guess I've seen a couple. Um. Someone said like awkward turtles unite or whatever, and I was like, yeah, there is, but it lives on, it lives forever. Well, Brooklyn, it's been such a joy talking with you. I can totally see why you and Charity are so close, really positive vibes, great energy, such great loyalty, and just with you and everything that you stand for, everything that you've been through and everything that you're advocating for. Thank you so much for continuing to do that and kind of being that spokesperson or being that person that people back at home on the couch or people who are watching or listening can kind of look to for guidance or to feel understood when they might not. So thank you for everything you're doing, and thank you for being blunt anytime saying how it is. 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