Living Boldly with Dr. Zee: EP 10 - Love & Faith: God’s Plan for Relationships & Marriage

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back family to another episode of Living Boldly with
<v Speaker 1>Doctor Ze.
<v Speaker 2>He mhm.
<v Speaker 1>I got a wonderful show for you all tonight. We're
<v Speaker 1>here where faith means purpose and truth sets us free. Yes,
<v Speaker 1>we're Living Boldly with Doctor z.
<v Speaker 2>Yes Boos.
<v Speaker 1>Today we're diving into one of the most sacred and
<v Speaker 1>misunderstood areas of life, love and faith. God's plan for
<v Speaker 1>relationships and marriage. Ooh. Whether you're single, waiting, dating, healing,
<v Speaker 1>or already married, this episode is for you because we're
<v Speaker 1>not just talking about love as the world gives it.
<v Speaker 1>We're talking about the covenant, love and the Kingdom, love
<v Speaker 1>and God or ordained relationships that grow in purpose, faith
<v Speaker 1>and fruitfulness. So I'm excited tonight, bo Ones. Let's get going.
<v Speaker 1>Relationships and love and having faith in God is just
<v Speaker 1>one of those things that I enjoy talking about. So
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to start off by getting to excuse me,
<v Speaker 1>getting into the origin of godly love, because I mean,
<v Speaker 1>God is first. So you know what better way to
<v Speaker 1>start with the godly love? Now, let's start at the
<v Speaker 1>beginning in Genesis chapter two, eighteen verse it says, it
<v Speaker 1>is not good for men to be alone. I will
<v Speaker 1>make him a helper suitable for him. God himself ordained relationships,
<v Speaker 1>you know. But he didn't create marriage for just romance,
<v Speaker 1>you know. He created it for reflection. And marriage is
<v Speaker 1>a mirror of Christ and the Church. So relationships are
<v Speaker 1>a tool for growth, purpose and glory. And let's see,
<v Speaker 1>So before we talk about finding the one, we need
<v Speaker 1>to ask ourselves. First off, am I becoming the one
<v Speaker 1>who reflects God's love? You know? Another thing for me is,
<v Speaker 1>you know, do you love yourself first? Because if you
<v Speaker 1>don't love yourself, then you're not gonna be able to
<v Speaker 1>love anyone else. So make sure you're loving yourself first off,
<v Speaker 1>and you have self love and you're treating yourself well.
<v Speaker 1>So when you do get in that relationship, your treat
<v Speaker 1>your partner, your husband, your wife, your relationship well. Also, secondly,
<v Speaker 1>I want to get into what real God's centered love
<v Speaker 1>looks like. You know that that's something that we need
<v Speaker 1>to know. How are we gonna know how to get
<v Speaker 1>into this God's centered relationship without even knowing what it
<v Speaker 1>even looks like? You know? So you know, the world
<v Speaker 1>tells us that, excuse me, love is about feelings, you know,
<v Speaker 1>the butterflies and your stomach, and you know that momentary
<v Speaker 1>connection that you're feeling, you know when you're all in
<v Speaker 1>love and you're all smitten. You know, and you know,
<v Speaker 1>you gotta know the difference between love and lust. Okay,
<v Speaker 1>us both when there's no bow. But in First Corinthians
<v Speaker 1>thirteenth chapter, it tells us love is patient, kind, not
<v Speaker 1>self seeking. It keeps no record of wrongs. It rejoices
<v Speaker 1>in the truth. This is my favorite Bible verse. So
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, ah, oh, I love it. It always protects
<v Speaker 1>and it always preserves. So that's what love is. And
<v Speaker 1>that's not just romantic its righteousness. You know. So if
<v Speaker 1>you're praying for a godly relationship, your prayer shouldn't just
<v Speaker 1>be for a king or for a queen. You know,
<v Speaker 1>it should be Lord, make me ready to love like
<v Speaker 1>you love. You know. I've heard different individuals sing that,
<v Speaker 1>you know, teach me how to love. But you shouldn't
<v Speaker 1>be asking your king or your queen teach me how
<v Speaker 1>to love. You should be asking God teach me how
<v Speaker 1>to love, you know. Now. Thirdly, I just want to
<v Speaker 1>get into dating with discernment, not just desire. Now, let's
<v Speaker 1>talk real for a moment here. Okay, Now, desire is
<v Speaker 1>not discernment. Okay, just because you want or desire you know, No,
<v Speaker 1>that's not it. Just because you feel drawn magnetically to
<v Speaker 1>someone or they're attractive, you know, or you feel something
<v Speaker 1>those butterflies or you feel us certain way they make
<v Speaker 1>you smile and laugh and feel good every single time
<v Speaker 1>you see them. That doesn't mean that they're your destiny. Okay,
<v Speaker 1>don't get it twisted now. See, that's what people have
<v Speaker 1>to learn about the difference between the soul made and
<v Speaker 1>a karmic and twin flames and all of that. There's
<v Speaker 1>you know, there's a whole science to that where God
<v Speaker 1>created that, and you have to actually do your research
<v Speaker 1>and dig more into that. I actually wrote a book
<v Speaker 1>about the soulmates and twin flames and all that stuff
<v Speaker 1>and karmick and all that. So for people that don't
<v Speaker 1>understand that aspect of relationships, So you should check that out.
<v Speaker 1>It's by me, doctors and o'r. Brind right you're finding
<v Speaker 1>with my other books. But back on subject, let me
<v Speaker 1>get back on topic. In Proverbs four, chapter twenty third verse.
<v Speaker 1>It says, guard your heart, for everything you do flows
<v Speaker 1>from it. That is so important. Your heart, your soul,
<v Speaker 1>your temple, your mind, your spirit has to be protected.
<v Speaker 1>Guard your heart once again, for everything you do flows
<v Speaker 1>from it. You need discernment to know if a relationship
<v Speaker 1>is God sent, you know, self made, or adjust a
<v Speaker 1>distraction in disguise, because sometimes that's what it is. It's
<v Speaker 1>not even for your highest good. So you have to
<v Speaker 1>have discernment. Like Proverbs fourth chapter twenty third verse says,
<v Speaker 1>guard your heart. Make sure you're doing that. And I
<v Speaker 1>just want to give three quick questions. You have to
<v Speaker 1>ask yourself for discernment, and it's like a checklist you
<v Speaker 1>can use. Also, I'm like so ready to get into
<v Speaker 1>it because it's like, oh my god, it's it's gonna
<v Speaker 1>help you, you know. And I think people should have
<v Speaker 1>discernment in dating and just not be just desiring and
<v Speaker 1>lusting and all smitten and love and well that's all fun,
<v Speaker 1>but it doesn't last. You need to have discernment and
<v Speaker 1>be real. You know, you have to protect your heart.
<v Speaker 1>You know it's important. So here's a few quick questions.
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna give you three quick questions. Most likely there's
<v Speaker 1>more out there, but I'm just gonna give three quick
<v Speaker 1>ones for this episode. Number one, do they feed my
<v Speaker 1>faith or drain it? Mm hmm. If this person isn't
<v Speaker 1>feeding or reciprocating, or you're pouring out your cup and
<v Speaker 1>they're not pouring back into it, mm hm, there's a
<v Speaker 1>problem there. Number two, is this relationship built on purpose
<v Speaker 1>or pressure? Hmm? You have to think about that. Number three,
<v Speaker 1>Are we both submitted to God's plan not just our
<v Speaker 1>own preferences? You gotta be equally yo God first. I'm
<v Speaker 1>telling you, if you keep God first, then you'll be
<v Speaker 1>going in the right direction. Okay, And like I said,
<v Speaker 1>number two, is it built on purpose or pressure? If
<v Speaker 1>you're feeling pressured or feeling rushed or manipulated, you know
<v Speaker 1>there's a problem. And I just want to say, don't
<v Speaker 1>settle for a connection, any connection, regardless of how you're feeling.
<v Speaker 1>When God's trying to build you a covenant. Okay, you
<v Speaker 1>might have to be patient and wait on God, but
<v Speaker 1>that's what you should be doing, is being patient and
<v Speaker 1>waiting on God and not being rushed or deceived or
<v Speaker 1>tricked or coursed into getting into something that you shouldn't
<v Speaker 1>be getting in for someone else's personal reasons or gains.
<v Speaker 1>Bow y'all already know. Now I'm gonna actually get into
<v Speaker 1>marriage as ministry. And I just want to say that
<v Speaker 1>marriage is not just a companionship. It's an assignment. It's
<v Speaker 1>a job. It's a business. It's hard work. I have
<v Speaker 1>to tell people that I don't know. Some people just
<v Speaker 1>don't understand that it's like a business. It's you know,
<v Speaker 1>having a family and a relationship is hard work. It's
<v Speaker 1>not easy. It's gonna be a lot of work. It's
<v Speaker 1>two people dying to self so they can live for
<v Speaker 1>something greater. Togather Ephesians five tells us that husbands to
<v Speaker 1>love their wives as Christ love the Church. And you
<v Speaker 1>know that's a sacrificial love. And then wives are called
<v Speaker 1>to honor and partner, not to shrink or be signed,
<v Speaker 1>but to rise to unity well in unity. And marriage
<v Speaker 1>is not about perfection, you know, it's about partnership and purpose.
<v Speaker 1>There's no perfect people and no perfect relationships out there,
<v Speaker 1>and it's not always easy. But when it's God or dain,
<v Speaker 1>it's worth it. And I can I'll tell you that
<v Speaker 1>for sure, no doubt about that. And I want you
<v Speaker 1>to hear this clearly that you know, if you're a
<v Speaker 1>single person in your single season, it's not a waiting room. Okay,
<v Speaker 1>it's preparation. So you have to work on yourself when
<v Speaker 1>you are not with someone. Don't allow anyone else to
<v Speaker 1>distract you and deter you into doing something that is
<v Speaker 1>preventing you from working on yourself from when you do
<v Speaker 1>have that God or dain partnership. Okay, let God bill
<v Speaker 1>you so he can trust you with someone he's also
<v Speaker 1>building up so when you guys get together, you will
<v Speaker 1>be equally yoke. Okay, bow, equally yoked. You know what
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying.
<v Speaker 2>Boom.
<v Speaker 1>Now, before I get out of here, I'm going to
<v Speaker 1>say a prayer for love, alignment and hopeness. So one moment,
<v Speaker 1>let me prepare myself.
<v Speaker 3>Here we go, Father, I lift up every listener right now,
<v Speaker 3>those waiting, those dating, those married, and those healing.
<v Speaker 1>Bring clarity to their hearts. Remove every counterfeit, restore every
<v Speaker 1>broken place, Prepare them for real love. Your love God
<v Speaker 1>reflect through Kingdom relationships. Let every connection be rooted in faith,
<v Speaker 1>purpose and divine lightenment. In Jesus name. I pray Amen,
<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much everyone, for tuning in again. And
<v Speaker 1>if this episode bless you, share it with someone you
<v Speaker 1>love okay, or someone who's waiting for love. And remember
<v Speaker 1>God's plan for your relationships is bigger than romance. It's
<v Speaker 1>kingdom purpose. You are worthy of a love that honors
<v Speaker 1>God and honors you. So stay bold in your standards,
<v Speaker 1>stay faithful in your waiting, and as always, live bowdie.
<v Speaker 1>This is doctor Z and I'll see you in the
<v Speaker 1>next episode.
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