How Will Compton Met His Wife & Our First Papa Team 6 Meet Up! | For The Dads

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Speaker 1: Good morning, Papa Team six. This is another episode afore the dads we're recording. It's Friday, October seventeenth. Huskers played at night.

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Speaker 2: So you see your boy Willy see rock in the Huskers gear.

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Speaker 1: Hopefully by the time you hear my voice, we are six in one right now, continuing to put out fires with Matt Ruhle. Happy's October. I hope your trash is taken out. You guys are just embracing the suck. We got some good hats. We got some merchandise BWTV dot com. That's where we can get all the PT six six, Oh merch Come on.

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Speaker 2: Hand up? What lead from the front? Papa Team six? Here, what happened?

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Speaker 1: I have failed to take out the trash two weeks in a row.

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Speaker 3: Hey, hand up, you have a redemption arc. It is trash Day on Fridays here at the office. And Derek brought up a great point that we could take the trash out today.

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Speaker 2: You and me, let's do it here to go all together.

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Speaker 1: Now the trash For those wondering the trash didn't still sit at the house. Got it out, whether it's a simple time stump sending away. Yeah, when I see people and shout up Papa Team sixers out there that do remind me it is trash, Yeah it is. But man, I feel like just an absolute fraud when I think of putting out the trash day tweet and I'm thinking to myself, I didn't take out the fucking trash. We enjoy having fun. We enjoy having some fun here. We have for the dads. This is for dads. We talk wins, losses, ups, downs, you know, our lives with our wives, the kiddos.

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Speaker 2: A lot of good stories.

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Speaker 1: We have a lot of fun comments that we read that fans leave us at the PT sikos, the PT sixers leave us on YouTube and social media continue to do so. We love seeing all the engagement. It is the utmost fun.

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Speaker 2: It is a lot of conversation starters, a.

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Speaker 1: Lot of conversation starters for this show. My wife was on my ass the other day. I had to hit up the group chat because we are If you are listening on Spotify, Apple, all the podcast platforms we are on YouTube, consider please and follow all of our channels. You might think you are subscribed and you might not be. Just double check for your boys. It's all we ask. Everything is free.

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Speaker 3: Try trying to figure out how to get the Spotify video because Spotify Video is partnering with Netflix and the podcasts are about to be on Netflix. So we could at the beginning of these episodes start saying, to make sure you check us out on Netflix.

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Speaker 2: And make sure to check us out.

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Speaker 1: Could you imagine if we're on Netflix, I'll be crazy And that's a big time.

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Speaker 2: Apparently it's a it's a thing.

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Speaker 3: It's going to become a thing, like it's a Spotify video for podcasts. Are they are partnering with Netflix and those are going to become available on Netflix O, which is kind of crazy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so make sure you check out Netflix. Make sure you check out Netflix.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, my wife, she's a fan of listening to us on Spotify. Yeah, she is somebody who likes to scroll her podcasts and then also look at chapters. And I want to say, the AI bullshit kind of was messing up the algorithm or messing up something with us last week to where we only had like five chapters out there and then auto generated. So I'm assuming it auto wrote out what the chapters were wasn't even close to what's being talked about. She's thinking Oh, this could be a fun topic to hear them talk about it. It's just us, you know, like partning the microphone or.

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Speaker 2: Did I want to brag?

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Speaker 3: I want to give flowers to Derek, and we did so in our PT six group message. But to all the listeners, both video and audio. Last week on Spotify, thirty minutes of our two hour and seventeen minute long episode got uploaded and only thirty minutes. Only thirty minutes, and we're sitting there and we're going, what in the world. I text Derek at like seven thirty ish whatever. It was, Hey, what's going on here? We had our back end team showboat looking at everything. It was like something with the website. They had never seen that happen before. Like the audio file was totally normal that we uploaded.

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Speaker 2: PT six ers pissed that we actually kept it under an hour.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think the most comments we got, just to bring it full circle war we actually don't want you guys to keep it on.

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Speaker 2: Your hour, Like what the hell is this situation?

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Speaker 4: But I think they're going to make a case study, no explanation, but shout out to everyone that's waited for it and been excited for the show. It is fully updated. People send us some dms this morning saying it wasn't. If you click play on that episode, it will update to the two hour or hit us up on social. I've been sending the link out and that link has been working so last episode.

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Speaker 2: Apologies. We're improving every day.

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Speaker 3: Derek owes no apology because of just how much on the front lines. If you guys go through the YouTube comments and the Spotify comments from last week's episode, Derek's in there replying to.

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Speaker 2: Every single one that fires me up.

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Speaker 3: We're on it. Here's the link. This is how we fix it. Make sure you refresh it. It actually does this. I'm watching him in real time. I'm like, Derek is so on it. So that fires me up. Shout out Derek, Shout out Derek. Shout out the community too.

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Speaker 1: I like to think more benefit of the doubt, Like everybody's optimistically trying to work together knowing that I know there's more meat on them.

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Speaker 2: There's some mess ups here.

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Speaker 1: That was probably the system that's hurting our show right now, and they're just wanting to let us know. Not in like a hey, did you have any negative comments?

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Speaker 2: Not too many negative ones.

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Speaker 4: A lot of people were Hey, I don't know if you guys saw or hey, just giving you an update.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 4: Really, the only negativity that came from it was people excited for the episode of like, man, my commute this morning sucked, and then after that got a.

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Speaker 1: Good Hey, you know how this mute sucked? Good podcast? It only gave us thirty minutes of it even better good?

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Speaker 3: You know how all this got caught though, like how I got put onto it. Our equipment manager, Legend Dalton with throw with a little DM to old Shirve Dog. I wake up and one of the first things that I do is I see a DM from Dalton. I go, oh more Arkansas gear. What's good you've had?

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Speaker 2: Hey? Sure?

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Speaker 3: Just want to let you know on Spotify and Apple podcasts it's only thirty minutes, but it's a full length on YouTube. Just wanted to make you aware of that.

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Speaker 2: What a stud. Stud.

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Speaker 3: That's teamwork, man, truly, that's teamwork makes the dream work six came through your clutch.

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Speaker 2: I love I love ollipop. It's good. I'm a massive ollipop fan. Grape is my favorite.

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Speaker 1: If you followed me, if you have followed me on X like, I want to say, a couple months ago, right when the season started.

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Speaker 1: Dads like to when they get out of the house, they might do bedtime any whatever it might be, and they want to take a trip to the guest. Okay, I just want to take a drive, some quiet time, solo dad time, maybe listen to some classic rock, maybe finish up on a podcast. I'm just gonna get a little quick fifteen minutes driving to the gas station driving home, because my wife knows I enjoy a little gas station trip.

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Speaker 2: Now they've your wife.

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Speaker 1: They're just so much smarter than you, and they just outthink you to where Now she just has my favorite drinks at the house. So I can't leave now as you can't leave. Hey, you said you like the hollypop grade got a twelve packfo you sitting at the house now you can't leave.

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Speaker 2: That's the most jill move I've ever heard. Oh my god, how.

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Speaker 1: Beg sweet on, I'm gonna hit the gas station. I'm gonna going with the boys. I'm gonna go stairs.

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Speaker 2: That's bad.

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Speaker 1: That's some When we haven't played, we haven't played. We haven't played for me in a while. But we caught it dub the last time.

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Speaker 2: We did catch it dub the last time we played.

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Speaker 1: But that was always kind of the formula the nights where it's like I'm gonna be upstairs, get in some video game time with my boys, with my PT sixer himself, Papa Shirm, and it was always that little gas station trip. But I would put out on Twitter, like you know, I did it a couple of times, like my favorite drinks, and I was like one that is skyrocketing up the charts that I didn't come across until I was just bored one night. Let me try some lollipop, Great, buddy, Ollipop great.

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Speaker 3: I just love the thought of Will in a gas station. I'm one of those guys I know exactly what I'm getting at a gas station. I just love the idea of you in front of those glass doors.

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Speaker 2: She's staying in there.

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Speaker 1: Same guy at the cast Jugester, he already knows like it's always good vibes when I walk in.

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Speaker 2: Good to see again, big dog now standing there, I'm like, I'm gonna switch it up tonight.

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Speaker 3: Switch it just hey, just go wide stance.

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Speaker 2: Let me try that olli pop. What they say is that lollipop puts it back now, No, I'll go back with what I mean A fine.

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Speaker 3: I think it finally landed on the It landed on grape too. I love that you landed on grape. Yeah, what a flavor. Yeah, I want to try allipop grape.

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Speaker 1: Now another sleeper. No, this isn't it's not the vintage coal. A vintage vintage coal is nice. Yeah, but the root beer. Ooh, I haven't had the root beer.

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Speaker 3: I've had this SpongeBob Pineapple flavor and I've had the vintage cola flavor.

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Speaker 2: Part of me I like both.

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Speaker 1: I haven't tried the the SpongeBob Pineapple Paradise yet.

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Speaker 2: Not a big pineapple guy.

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Speaker 1: As far as love me some pineapple love, just like tasting pineapple, as far as like sodas and drinks, I haven't big been a big pineapple guy. So I'm kind of scared to try the SpongeBob one because the can looks phenomenal, but I don't want to not like it, and then it kind of turns me off of the can in the in the you know, to display.

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Speaker 3: To be completely honest, the fact or the thing that I like most about this pineapple flavor is it does not taste like pineapple flavored soda. It's very juicy and like kind of healthy tasting. And that is not a plug to Ollipop. Like that's just my straight up. But look, no free shoutouts. They are they are a sponsor. They are they are a sponsor of the show. But I'm saying, like, take that out of the equation. This this is nice. Okay, buddy, Ollipop grape, I got it. We gotta get.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Ollipop, if you're listening, geta Are you they got a cream soada?

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Speaker 3: Oh dude, okay, really quick because we gotta keep it.

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Speaker 2: Your grandpa had that cream soda at the house. Bro get you one of them for a quarter. Jill.

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Speaker 3: How I got introduced to Ollipop is Jill would get the cream soda flavor and then she would get heavy cream and keep it in the fridge. And uh like get it really cold, and she would put it in the lollipop cream soda. She would just do like a little dash of heavy cream and then whip it.

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Speaker 2: It's like a milkshake, dude, milkshake. You were honest one with that. That to me, it's like your wife, Jill.

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Speaker 1: She knows what she likes, yeah, and she knows how to combine things to get her taste buds firing on all cylinds.

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Speaker 3: And she's not backing down. She's not backing down because she's trying to. She's doing something.

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Speaker 1: About looking at that heavy cream and thinking this is gonna go really well with this cream soda lollipop because.

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Speaker 3: She's trying to cut ice cream out of the equation, and she's like, what is a sweet treat that also, like I won't feel guilty about that. I can have like around nighttime, et cetera. Just a little dash of that, just something, Oh dude. I would take SIPs of it, and it truly was like a little milkshake.

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Speaker 2: It was.

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Speaker 5: I feel like that's an old Southern trick. Am I wronging on that? Or is this an invention? I feel like I've heard that. Maybe I'm thinking of like a root beer float. Oh maybe maybe Yeah, Oh dude.

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Speaker 1: That could be a Southern trigg. It sounds like a Southern heavy cream. It sounds like that. Yeah, the South that's got Texas.

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Speaker 2: Written all over.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, dude, it's good. It's good. So shout out Ollipop.

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Speaker 2: Or shout out Ollipop or new sponsor.

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Speaker 1: We spent a lot of time on big Ollipop fans, but now they are a sponsor of the show. It has to get your piss hot, gets you guy, the gentleman that reached out to me about connecting with the Ollipop and I was fired up, jumping off the screen back and email for him.

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Speaker 2: He hits back, he's a Nebraska cat, that's right. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: He's like, hey, gb R, I'm fired up or working something out here because I'm an Omaha boy.

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Speaker 2: And he said all that, say, so have you been here? Yeah? Yeah, it's blue ship. Yeah, coach rule ain't going nowhere. It ain't going nowhere. When do you call me? Shd we get into comments. I'm ready. We have some comments broken down. I know.

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Speaker 1: Last week Derek does an incredible job of handing us to stack comments every week.

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Speaker 2: Last week I pretty much read all of them.

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Speaker 1: Forgetting that, Hey, I can select a few of these, and you know, I don't know how everybody else feels in the audience and the fans, how often we read and how many of the fan comments and engagement. But it's like you look at look at shirm, he's got he's got a little fan over there. We gotta have a bunch of comments. We've kind of broken some up. So I have one to give you an example. We got dad hack And then there are a couple of emails. People are starting to send in a lot more to the to the emails, what's the email they can write to shrem.

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Speaker 3: At or sorry six oh onethdads at gmail dot.

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Speaker 1: Com, six O one the dads at gmail dot com. We are now taking those emails, the ones that might be longer, that have some storytelling, that have some questions on a subject they might want us to hit, who take their time to write us an email. We're going to take those email ones and funnel it behind the six to oh one. Dad's the hotline that people call into for the voicemail, So we're going to save some of the longer ones that we've read in the past. Those will now be behind six to one the Dad's the hotline that you can call into. Yeah, so more before the Dad's hotline.

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Speaker 2: And email that we're gonna hit.

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Speaker 1: Have a little bit more fun with the top, with the comments you guys write to us on social media and YouTube, and then if you have like hacks wins losses that we can share in some of those segments that we might talk about. We're doing a better job of tight end up the ship here here at the four of the Dad's brand. But yeah, let's get to let's have some fun. Let's answer some fan questions, some comments that have been out there. The first one I got is from Matt West ninety four to twenty one. This is on YouTube. What's up Sherman Willie one shehelf. I love the pot I've been watching since episode one. I have a question for y'all. When did you guys know your wife was the one? And did you guys ask the parents first? Keep the grind going, hashtag semen out.

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Speaker 2: What great question.

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Speaker 1: Oh let me continue to say how good of a question that was? So I can think about this answer.

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Speaker 2: I can't.

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Speaker 1: I can jump in really quick. I got a fun story. Okay, you go ahead. This is how I met my wife's.

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Speaker 2: Story settle in kids.

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Speaker 1: So I want to say and listen, sweetheart. I know you're listening right now. You probably gotta smile on your face, being like, oh, what's a Willie one shelf gonna say?

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Speaker 2: Butterflies going crazy in your tummy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but let me take you back to October against Sweetheart. Bear with me. I could get some dates wrong here. October twenty fourteen. Ooh, we were at Dallas. Maybe it was November again, twenty fourteen. We were at Dallas primetime game. My wife was a cheerleader on the Washington Redskins. When there's an away game, that happens, a few cheerleaders get to travel. Uh, they like send a few cheerleaders. They get to travel, but they're not in uniform or nothing else. They were in some yellow they were in some yellow cheer.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's sick.

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Speaker 3: And they're like in the friends and family section.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're like on the game. They're like on the field pre game and stuff like that. As I'm giving you context after the fact of knowing this. Yeah, yeah, but I'm on the field pregame Willie at Dallas and we're doing pregame warm ups and everything.

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Speaker 2: Else, and I see these three.

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Speaker 1: I see these three ladies standing on the sideline, and you know, I'm gonna look in and you know, one catches my eye. Oops, and I did not know, you know, I got the helmet on. I see one looking at me, and I don't know if she's actually looking at me or not.

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Speaker 2: So I'm kind of looking, you know, I'm trying.

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Speaker 1: To like do whatever, pregame, warm up, everything else, get ready for the Dallas Cowboys. And so I'm thinking, like when I run byer to go back in the huddle, I'm gonna I'm gonna take a look, see and see.

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Speaker 2: If she's looking at me.

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Speaker 1: Sure enough, I run through the run back through the tunnel, catcher staring at me, and it's just it's one of the It's one of those moments as a young man where you're just like and mind you, I did have a girl friend at the time, but I'm you know what, I'm married, I got two kids now with her. Sue me, yeah, sue me. And it's like one of those times where you're just thinking, like, man, that girl was a smoke show, and it's like you fantasize, like what would life be like with that individual. All the men know what I'm talking about, and you just play this game in your head. That's all that happened that night on Washington at Dallas back in twenty fourteen. Fast forward the next year, it's the off season. Alfred Morris is having a kid's charity football camp for shout Out Alfred, Shout Out Alfred Morris for like kids with special needs. And I'm running one of these drills for him. I'm running one of the periods for him. This cheerleader, who I still did not know it at the time, was that one. U was at the camp with her boyfriend. Oh really yeah, And Chorro is with her boyfriend at the time, and they are.

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Speaker 3: Was he five to two five three hundre?

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Speaker 2: I kind of don't remember.

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Speaker 1: Charle had she had these these she had these shorts on, she had the little high ponytail going on, she had the cad the legs looking athletic, you know, I'm kind of looking.

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Speaker 2: And they're they're part of my drill. Like as I'm running this for this like four cone drill.

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Speaker 1: And so there's a pizza, there's a pizza lunch break, and I see her and she's got this pro Bowl hat on this again. That was this was the listen your boy has zero game? And so I see her during this peach of lunch break and she's kind of walking kind of close by me, and I'm like, oh, uh, I see you got a Pro Bowl hat on where'd you get the Where'd you get the.

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Speaker 2: Pro Bowl hat?

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Speaker 1: And her smart ass like she is, she said, uh, I got it at the Pro Bowl.

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Speaker 2: I was like, all right, yeah, did you like go to the game?

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Speaker 1: And she goes, I was in the Pro Bowl, like I'm a cheerleader for Washington.

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh sick.

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Speaker 1: I kind of don't remember the rest that honestly might have been it because I just don't have a whole lot of game. And I'm thinking her boyfriend's there, like I'm kind of hungover.

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Speaker 2: Did you tell her you kind of got cheated out of the Pro Bowl that one year? No?

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Speaker 1: No, I wasn't in that kind of.

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Speaker 2: Form around to the public or anything else. Yeah yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: But anyway, so I meet her at this at this charity camp. I wake up the next morning to a DM on Instagram and it's her DM and me like saying like, hey, it was nice to meet you yesterday. I see that you have a girlfriend. I have a boyfriend, But that doesn't mean we still can't be friends.

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Speaker 3: Damn.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So we start messaging back and forth, and man, I wish I still had them. I don't, but I come to the real we find the realization. I want to say, she might have mentioned something thing about the Dallas game of the year before, and I come to the fucking realization that she was the girl I was looking at and fantasizing about on the field.

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Speaker 3: And I love you know that he was in his fields Because this guy is a sicko before he watches a football game on TV. So I can only imagine what your mind is like before a football game, how black your heart has turned to prepare for this football game. And then you see the smoke and you're like, yo, damn, what would life kind.

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Speaker 2: Of be like if?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Bro?

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Speaker 1: And then even though she said that and that kind of means one thing to a guy, when that's being said to you in a DM, it's like, that doesn't mean we still can't be friends. She never hung out with me for like the next eight nine months.

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Speaker 2: Like I'm trying.

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Speaker 1: We're having we're having conversations, she's making me last she's one of the she was one of those girls where I would, uh, I'm like sitting in the parking lot before I go into my apartment. I'm like spending forty five extra minutes just sitting out there, messaging back and forth or not wanting.

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Speaker 2: To go inside.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, because I'm enjoying the conversation we're having, Like we're sending each other songs, like jokes, like all the different things. We eventually see each other, We eventually hang out, we eventually start dating.

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Speaker 2: Now we're married with two kids. Let's go.

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Speaker 1: And I say all that to know, it's hard for me to like pinpoint a moment where I'm like, this is my wife, because I will tell you, I feel like that thought continues to ascend, like as high seer as my wife and a mom. Yes, Like the love gets that much stronger when you witness them being a mom, when you witness them being like your partner. Like there's so many times where I'll just be driving home thinking like whenever we solve a problem, or she has my back with something, or one of us is stressed and we're helping each other out, to where when I do reflect and have that gratitude. I'm thinking it gets so much more badass when you are married and you have kids and you are being partners and you're being good partners and you both care about each other so much, so much like the way Charles thinks about everything in my world, and she's just a badass. Like it's a love like she There's nobody else who's loved me the way Charles has loved me. That's opened me up to like more love and more ideas and everything else. Like I'm a homebody. I hate vacations. And if I think of a core value of Charro, it is adventurous. She loves again. We'll get to it. She's going to London all next week. It's sad she's taken room with her.

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Speaker 2: So it's just gonna be me with.

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Speaker 1: Scottie, the easiest kid. We're gonna have a lot of free time. Okay, but she's going to London next week. She was wanting to go in the summertime. We couldn't make it happen. We're going to a Dermot Kennedy concert here on Sunday. Like she loves doing stuff that She's really pulled me out of my comfort zone. She's like introduced me to things that I didn't think that I would be doing, like as an adult. She's a very ambitious, like working, career oriented woman. So I didn't think that I would marry, you know, doing all the things that I was doing. I thought I would have more of like a stay at home mom, stay at hoole wife. I'm not saying that's good, bad and different. I'm just thinking, like how I grew up thinking about everything. Yes, she's very different than what I had imagined. And so I can't pinpoint an exact moment because we had a lot of fun when we were younger.

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Speaker 2: And that is a moment that sticks out.

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Speaker 1: It's like, Yo, that was the chick that I was so just laser, you know what?

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Speaker 2: You know what.

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Speaker 1: We was talking with the pep Riley last year and I was like, Yo, this this woman is stunning. And it turns out the way the universe worked to bring her back around for that day at that charity camp and then to have the DM and then to find out that she that that was the girl.

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Speaker 3: Oh. The only thing selfishly that I wish is that you had dead one of those hey body, think fast and just throw a football at her. Boyfriend that she was there at the camp with. He just boom off of his face. All right, right here, buddy, Yeah, you gotta.

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Speaker 1: Use your hands and then just stats one out of the are one handed?

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Speaker 4: Well, if I can ask as a guy that just genuinely doesn't know, is there no relationship between players and cheerleaders?

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Speaker 2: Like how you went there was nout.

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Speaker 1: A big reason she wouldn't like hang out with me is because she was still still on the cheerleading team, and that was like a massive no.

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Speaker 2: No for cheerleaders and players. It's kind of a.

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Speaker 1: What do they call it? It's like an unwritten rule, but it's very it's like a double standard. Like the cheerleaders were it was like hard press. They couldn't talk to full players before. We're never told the like hey you can't do anything with cheerleaders or you can't date cheerleaders.

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Speaker 2: Or anything like that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So that was the reason why, like the first time we did hang out is very sneaky, It was very under under the wraps. She was very like weary because she she was like a captain of the cheerleading squad and she took it. She she was that was when she was a tax accountant for was it PBC or p and C, p and C one of the big ones.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she was also a cheerleader, so yeah she was.

00:25:03
Speaker 3: She was crushing it. Yeah she was a captain as well. Yeah yeah, man, that really I love that. Yeah a captain, Willie c hang out with the cheer captain?

00:25:16
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, let's go.

00:25:19
Speaker 1: I think of so many things in my head just trying to answer my man's question too.

00:25:23
Speaker 2: It's hard to like knowing.

00:25:25
Speaker 1: It was more of like she just would make me uncomfortable in a way to where I would just always have a different perspective about how life was going towards like I'm adjusting on the fly in the discomfort, and to me, that's when I kind of identify, like this is the one I want to be with forever.

00:25:43
Speaker 3: I love your description of how she made you feel because that you're quite literally describing exactly how Jill.

00:25:51
Speaker 2: Made me feel.

00:25:52
Speaker 3: Uh, And I don't say that just agree with you is the exact same thing. Like I had never encountered a relate, I had never had a relationship where I was being challenged but in a good way.

00:26:04
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, like you will said, yes.

00:26:06
Speaker 3: It didn't feel like she was ever coming down on me or anything like that. But it was like, a, wait, you don't it's a Saturday. You don't want to go on a hike? And then we can, you know, do this and there's this art exhibit that I really want to go check out.

00:26:19
Speaker 2: I'm but I don't.

00:26:20
Speaker 3: I don't want to do that shit. And then I'm doing that shit and I'm like, man, there's a lot of fun. I want to keep on doing this, and you're talking about it.

00:26:27
Speaker 2: You're talking about the hikes too, like charl wanted to do hikes.

00:26:29
Speaker 1: I'm just thinking, like, bro, my legs, Like I'm just I play football, Like I don't want to do extra any extra exercise in what I already have to do. Yeah, but you're right, like the whole challenging thing is what it was like a slow process and then you just realize how good it is for you and how happy they make you to where that's when it's kind of like that's the formulated moment.

00:26:51
Speaker 3: I guess, yeah, I uh with Jill to answer this question, Jill and I met on a blind date. Kirk Cousin was dating my roommate.

00:27:02
Speaker 2: They would both.

00:27:03
Speaker 3: Tell you this their relationship was coming to it and very fast, and her cousin had tried to set us up multiple times, and she was like, sherman, I'm about to break up with your roommates, so if you want to meet my cousin, like, we need to make this happen asap. And I was trying to play cool, like I had seen pictures of Jill on Instagram that her cousin had shown me. I was like, oh, yeah, she's cute, Like, yeah, we should do something, and then by me, I was like, yeah, no, we need to do that double date. Yeah, buddy, And I ran out of contacts that week and I showed up to Wabbi House in Fort Worth shout out, no free shout out, and I saw Jilly Bean across the room and I said, fuck, I look like an idiot my glasses And I took my glasses off instantly and I put them on the back of my shirt because I was like, this girl's way cuter that then even her pictures lost my glasses. That night off to a hot start. But on that night I had never kissed a girl on a first date. And we kissed on a first date, and the conversation it was kind of funny, that like it was a blind slash double date, and her cousin and my roommate were just like chomping at the bit to break up with each other like that whole week and they're like arguing on their side of the booth. And it made Jill and I lock in like that much more and we had a great first date. But I do remember telling my mom after the first day, I said, I think I might be in trouble. I'm like, I'm feeling it with this girl. But the moment that I knew like, okay, I want Jill to be my girlfriend or I guess, like yo, like this might be something more was we went to a Rangers game together and the very first thing that she wanted to do is she wanted to go get a hot dog and beer. And when we were ordering, she goes, is he is it bad? Or like, is it okay if I get too hot dogs instead of just one hot dog? And I was like, yeah, you can definitely get too hot dogs, and she so fast turned and goes, I'll do a mickelbe and two hot dogs to the person. And just seeing her with like the little ketchup and mustard and the hot dogs and like the beer and just her not worried about like I need to look cute on this date, but more so just enjoying the moment and like what I love about baseball games is hot dogs and beer, and I'm getting to enjoy this. I just love that quality about her. I was like, she's so unabashedly herself and that I just opened up to her. I had a I was coming out two different relationships that in college were like on and off, on and off type stuff that I never felt confident in, if that makes sense, Like you kind of left those relationships going like who am I as a boyfriend?

00:29:58
Speaker 7: Like?

00:29:58
Speaker 2: Am I a good boyfriend? Do I have no clue?

00:30:01
Speaker 1: Like these women like really like taming these men is like taming a wild horse. Yeah, it's like taming a wild horse.

00:30:08
Speaker 2: Bro.

00:30:08
Speaker 3: And then Jill kind of showing me like, hey you yeah, you definitely suck, like like truly, like, hey yeah, you definitely suck in these areas.

00:30:18
Speaker 1: But like and it's man, you don't know it no, Like I remember when I didn't get Charles something on like Valentine's Day because it wasn't like maybe it was more of like the defining the relationship style thing, and I just remember her having some like thoughts about it. And that's when you know, too is a guy. Like when your girlfriend is upset over something and it bothers you, even though you might be upset with them in that moment, but when you walk away and you're actually kind of like I should have done X, Y and Z versus, Like when you know that there's no future with the girl, you're almost just staying mad about you, Like, God, this is fucking I'm gonna have to deal with this.

00:30:54
Speaker 2: Blah blah blah blah blah.

00:30:55
Speaker 1: Yeah, you find yourself kind of beating yourself up about it, like all right, I got do. I do have to kind of figure out a way to come around to whatever said thing is. Like the first time I went out and stayed with uh, like, stayed overnight with Charo, super nervous, like awkward, and you know how it is too, Like when you like, when you stay with a girl or you do, like they stay over at your place or something like that, and you kind of wake up the next morning you're kind of like, I need to get.

00:31:19
Speaker 2: Out of here.

00:31:19
Speaker 1: They kind of need to get out of here. But I was going out to spend the weekend or a day with her in DC, like around her friends. And I remember when I first went over to her house and again your boy, no games, super nervous.

00:31:31
Speaker 2: We're in the kitchen like making up a game. She like, we like made it go ahead pre post veneers. No, this is pre veneers.

00:31:38
Speaker 1: I didn't give veneers until I was until I was in Tennessee in twenty and eighteen, so I had the this is the this is the old Willie chicklets thick neck, come on, small teeth, looking like a zone dog through my mouth that Charles got to know.

00:31:53
Speaker 2: Twenty sixteen tenth toppest player in the NFL.

00:31:56
Speaker 1: Sir, my smile, Yeah, don't show them teeth, alright, show oh shit. But we like made up some game in the kitchen and we're like throwing bottle caps, like basically playing washers, but with like grocery bags and a bottle cap, like having a good time.

00:32:10
Speaker 2: We go out that night, have a lot of fun with her friends. She gets me dancing.

00:32:13
Speaker 1: I'm not a big dancing guy or PDA guy, but I'm sitting there, I'm belly rolling, I'm fucking you know.

00:32:18
Speaker 2: It's kind of.

00:32:19
Speaker 1: I was liquored up pretty good. Then you come back home and read like I was like housing some oreos late at night, kind of wake up the next morning, she had to like go she had to go do something for bar three. She was managing a studio out there at the time in DC. And then that's where I kind of slipping up. When she leaves and walks that door, I'm kind of like leaning out of the bed, kind of like wait a minute, and then I go hit the bathroom.

00:32:42
Speaker 2: And just drop a monster, you know what I mean, Because you're nervous.

00:32:46
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, I gotta fucking do something here, but I can't do it in this apartment right now, which her I gotta wait till she leaves. But it wasn't awkward the next morning, like the next day, any of that stuff to where she came back, We're watching Dead pull together on the couch ordering Chinese food. So you kind of know that something's there, like when you're talking to the parents about it, when you're talking to your boys about and everything else. But it gets even better, in my opinion, like when you do get married and you have kids and you're in you're in an actual partnership, worrying about everything else. And don't get me wrong, I still get fucking annoyed when I am getting challenged at certain times or getting uncomfortable to do things to where I'm just like.

00:33:22
Speaker 2: Sweetheart, come on, we can't just kick it at the house. Yes, Like, well you want, you go? You go?

00:33:27
Speaker 1: Do you guys go have a great time. I hope you have the greatest time in the world. I kind of want to just stay home. The huskers are on about us, are on. We spent a lot of time on this, And yes, I did ask her.

00:33:39
Speaker 2: I asked her. I called her dad and asked him first before I propose.

00:33:43
Speaker 3: Yes, And I took her mod She has a stepdad, but I took her mom and her stepdad to dinner, and I asked her permission. Uncle Julia's and.

00:33:53
Speaker 1: Fort we love Uncle Julio's bro that table side, guawk so in the Pineapple and an Albania's.

00:34:00
Speaker 3: I got it. I got a whole thing. Keep the show under an hour. But they're not doing the Yellow Caso anymore at the Nashville location here, and it's just a whole thing. Heart's broken, honestly, Like I've been wanting to tweet about it a lot. I love Uncle Julio's too much. I've cut my mouth shut. No more caso, no more yellow caso. They're only doing caso blanco and no offense at caso blanco. But the yellow caso Uncle Julio's is what put you on the map. Sorry you go ahead, Cody Priest.

00:34:28
Speaker 2: This is on Instagram.

00:34:29
Speaker 1: Our baby boy, Cooper James, was born on October second, twenty twenty five. Thank you so much for the podcast every weekend Sure and what It's like to be a great dead bullshream and will It was also a pleasure to meet you Willie one showf at Benji's Bagels the other weekend shout out Cody, thank you for writing in reporting for Dudy PT. Sico Priest, what a legend. Let's go, Cody, Let's go Cooper. Congratulations to you guys too. I know you guys are in it right now.

00:34:54
Speaker 3: I have JT.

00:34:56
Speaker 2: Clifton.

00:34:57
Speaker 3: This is from Youtubov said seven am. I phoned a new episode for the Dads the boys talking me. Oh shit, I forgot to take the trash to the curb full sprint can to the curb within five minutes to spare w Ride Together, Die Together, PT. Six for life.

00:35:16
Speaker 2: Great sign on.

00:35:17
Speaker 3: So you may have missed your trash day, but guess what you doing? This pod made him remember his trash day.

00:35:24
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he's in there like damn it, willy See.

00:35:27
Speaker 3: Yeah, he probably heard this episode. He's like the urgency he felt. Can't let the bet Sikos down. I've been listening to this podcast week for the last three months, down not realizing that Willy See is a fake trash day guy.

00:35:39
Speaker 2: This will be the last episode I will listened to. Can't hang a shelf, can't take out the trash? What do you fucking do? Willy one show? I saw a.

00:35:49
Speaker 3: Great comment of Willie one shelf. I saw one that said Willie no Fox. I kind of like that. We'll alster that one. Well, that's a good one. That's a good clue.

00:36:03
Speaker 1: This one's from Brandon Davis one nineteen on YouTube. What up et six brothers got a five and three year old currently going through the food regression stage. They both love popsicles, Gonna try and gonna try the tickle monster and see how that goes. They don't want to eat good. That means Dad gets to bring out the tickle monster. It's tough man. Five and three rules three. Right now, I do feel like we have the dinner time routine kind of down. Yeah, she starts to get a little sassy about I don't want to eat this. I don't want to eat that. Great, you don't have to That's the great thing about this, sweetheart. You can make your own decision. You don't want to eat, that's fine, Mom and dad is gonna finish up here. But when we get done eating, we're just gonna go straight up to bed because it seems like you're tired, and you know, if you don't eat, you're not gonna get all the things that you're thinking about.

00:36:48
Speaker 2: In your head. Yep. I won't even say that at first. I should be like, great, you don't have to eat.

00:36:51
Speaker 1: Then I'll just you'll just hear the play going. Mom and I eating, and she'll be like, I get a cookie. You know the game, and the cookie in this world can be the popsicle. Hey, you know the game. You're not gonna get a cookie. You're not gonna get a popsicle. We've done this now, day in and day out. She's like, but I'm tired. Hey, that's awesome, you don't have to eat. Well, wait, for me to get done, and we'll go upstairs right after this and we'll go to bed. Do you want to go to bed now?

00:37:21
Speaker 5: No?

00:37:22
Speaker 2: All right, I figure it out.

00:37:25
Speaker 3: Quit asking, Quit asking your volume of eating, by the way, I enjoy it, like you make some noise when you eat, especially when you're hungry. And bro I am just laughing, just hearing that fork and the plate and your bites and stuff.

00:37:40
Speaker 1: And she's thinking about what else she can do, because we might make like Scotty might be doing like you know, she might be doing a thing where we're laughing.

00:37:51
Speaker 2: We think it's cute and adorable.

00:37:52
Speaker 1: And then Ruth tries to play with Scotty, And in my brain, I'm thinking she's just playing with Scotty right now to put off the fact that she doesn't.

00:37:58
Speaker 2: Have to eat her food. Uh huh.

00:38:00
Speaker 1: Then Mom and I are both done. Scott, he's done. She's starting to you know, hit the dang knock food off. You get me sweet potatoes all Scotty, we can't get out. Ru's got to eat her chicken. Really, gotta eat your chicken.

00:38:14
Speaker 2: I don't want to.

00:38:14
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, let's get up, let's go, let's go to bed. I don't want to go to bed, eat your chicken.

00:38:20
Speaker 2: Dad that doesn't love me.

00:38:22
Speaker 3: I guess I got one from Cody Wilkerson on TikTok Boys. I'm in the middle of chaos. My wife and I are both middle school teachers in Alabama. She's at a conference for until Saturday. I'm holding down the fort with my two boys, ages two and four, until then. While I was at work today, got the call from the daycare that the youngest has handfoot mouth. I'm just gonna say that I'm supposed to count to the oldest in his soccer game tomorrow night.

00:38:50
Speaker 2: My wife.

00:38:50
Speaker 3: My wife called and asked, Hey, how's everything going, And I hit her with a.

00:38:54
Speaker 1: Good handfoot mouth. We just got over both. We just got over there with both the kiddos.

00:39:00
Speaker 3: Yeah, best of Cody, best of luck to you, dude. Just keep on washing those hands, dude.

00:39:04
Speaker 1: Yeah, keep washing the hands. Keep being sad when you just see the bumps that they get. It's just the saddest thing in the world.

00:39:11
Speaker 2: And they can't eat right, like it hurts their mouths right. Fortunately, Yeah, that's how it was with Scotty.

00:39:16
Speaker 1: Fortunately for Rue, like it was more of just she had like the the bumps, the rash stuff like on her feet and hands and and her butt that bothered her. The stuff on the butt bothered It was in the crease. It was in the crease right below her cheek to where like bothered her the bathroom and that stuck because she was like sad because it was painful for ya. But she didn't have a fever, she didn't have the sowords in the mouth. She wasn't getting like those symptoms to where it was it was like you felt like you had to keep her from doing everything, yeah, because she was like actually sick, Scottie was she had the sores in the mouth, wouldn't really drink her milk. She had to drink like cold milk if she was going to have her milk, which kids hate. I found that out the hard way when Jill was out of town.

00:39:59
Speaker 2: Cold milk.

00:40:00
Speaker 3: Yeah, just let the milk sit there for too long, and Scarlet's crying and crying as soon as like she takes like two pools from it. She just I'm like, this is your favorite thing in the world. I know you're starving, Like why are you screaming? And then it finally clicked after like the eighth time. Yeah, heated that bottle up and after I and she's screaming the whole time that I'm eating the bottle up. She's just sitting there in my ear and I'm like, I know, I know as soon as I got that hot bottle end.

00:40:30
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll tell you what, you hit a good one. Like I want to say, Rue.

00:40:36
Speaker 2: It needed to be it needed to be hot.

00:40:39
Speaker 1: And I want to say Scottie at times will take it when it's cool down like some of them kids are just sick os, bro. They don't care how they just want it.

00:40:48
Speaker 2: And we've done cold milk. I've told me one.

00:40:53
Speaker 3: Easy. We've done cold milk before, like at the park. We took Scarlet to the park and we forgot are the heat the portable heater? Yeah, and so we just did it straight from a you know, distilled water bottle or whatever, and she yugged it.

00:41:09
Speaker 2: She had no problem, which is a massive win. Yeah. I'm good on my comments.

00:41:15
Speaker 3: You're good on your comments. I have one more boys, PT. Sixer and Tier one.

00:41:20
Speaker 2: Sticko, father of.

00:41:21
Speaker 3: Three boys twelve thirteen months in seven months, also flag football coach of the Red Wolves for the past few years. Love it had to share a juiced up moment. We're up twelve to six. Nearing the end of the game, they go for one watch a kid moss my boy and they take a one point lead with little time left. Defense holds and with proper clock management, we got one more shot. First play, small game, second small game. Now was seconds left and only one play to go to the house for the win. Can't stop watching the clip and I'm so amped for the rest of the season.

00:42:07
Speaker 1: Let's go big win at the end of the game. Watching your boy get lost. It's tough for the pop. Yeah, tough for the pop. Yeah, you know what I mean.

00:42:18
Speaker 2: Oh I do that is tough for the pop. Yeah.

00:42:23
Speaker 3: I don't know how I would handle that as far as with Scarlett, and I've talked with Jill about that. Of like sporting events, I kind of understand now why sometimes my dad would like watch my sporting events from the car. I think it was nerves for him and to me, I always thought, why is my dad not in the stands for these track meets, Like he goes and he gets in the car, and like I wish he was in the stands, And now me as a parent, I'm like imagining myself watching Scarlet and I'm.

00:42:53
Speaker 2: Like, I get why Dad was in the car. He nervous, a little nervous.

00:42:58
Speaker 1: Yeah, you feel like he would have been somebody that's gotta be yelling, might have just put him stuff in the car.

00:43:05
Speaker 3: I think he was one of those that he he had nervous energy and didn't want to give that off to me, especially for especially for track meets. I think he was just trying to be like, hey, Sherman does a really good job of saying positive and clear mind, Like, uh, track was a sport that like I excel at, and I think that he.

00:43:26
Speaker 2: We're talking shot put, but now now.

00:43:32
Speaker 3: Hey we're talking, Uh what were you on the training stuff?

00:43:36
Speaker 2: You talking about track and field? You putting on people? What are we doing?

00:43:43
Speaker 3: But yeah, he was just like, what was your what were your events? Eight hundred four by four and four hundred? Oh dude, that's a tough day. It was a tough day at you. Yeah, it was a tough day. But uh, back in the day, what was eight hundred? Pod was not my race? I think I only broke I got very close to like a minute flat. We meet on the Utah in the four hundred we're talking two minutes. You got closer to two minutes. Okay, sorry, I got very close to two minutes because I would go out in the eight hundred and run my first leg like a fifty six, and then I would.

00:44:24
Speaker 2: Kind of die out. So you were a stud at the four hundred.

00:44:27
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I was more of a four hundred runner. Fifty three, fifty two. That's a strong that's a strong time, white boy for a five seven white boy, five.

00:44:35
Speaker 2: Seven white boy. Come on now, yeah, yeah, back in the back in the back, day in the day, back in the day.

00:44:41
Speaker 3: But yeah, my dad even always well and he would sorry to my dad. He would be in the stands too. But I could just tell on some of those days he was. He talked, you've met my dad, he looked. He talks a lot, very friendly, very open.

00:44:55
Speaker 2: But he's in town.

00:44:56
Speaker 3: He's in town. They're coming today. I can't wait to hug them. Yeah, they're coming today. They're very excited to see Yeah. But uh yeah, he would claim up, he claim up and track me so you.

00:45:05
Speaker 2: Can get real you like this, that's good. He wanted it.

00:45:10
Speaker 5: Any sports competition, but Dad would sit there. If I had a bad game.

00:45:13
Speaker 2: I would see my dad, like pacing on the sideline. I'll come and go. Where's Dad?

00:45:18
Speaker 5: He goes, She's he's in the car. Sorry, dad, I'm totally outing.

00:45:22
Speaker 2: But it was also he'd go to the car if you're having a bad game.

00:45:24
Speaker 5: Really, I mean, this is like no, and he was never mean, he never yelled or anything, but he couldn't. He's probably listening through it now.

00:45:33
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, now that I think about it, he's going to the car if I'm bad game. I kind of when I needed him the most, he kind of he shilled up once in the car.

00:45:43
Speaker 3: I think about I kind of need to talk to you.

00:45:49
Speaker 2: I want to share this.

00:45:50
Speaker 3: Hey, I know on a real sense, I think I know where your dad's coming from. That he didn't want you.

00:45:56
Speaker 2: To see that he was crushed for you.

00:45:59
Speaker 5: Yeah, I feel I never got the like, I never got the like getting yelled at in the car going we love we love quiet.

00:46:08
Speaker 2: Right, how do you feel about that game? Yeah?

00:46:11
Speaker 5: Just there, Like I don't think i'll play that good? All right, we'll get it next time.

00:46:15
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00:48:50
Speaker 3: I also before we move on, because I know we need to move on by You've got to move on because comment I have to read this cop because it's teasing something big. Okay, I just farted when I said teasing. That's how big it is. Connor Wonderley on YouTube said PT six are here, new to the area. Wife is asking for the best pumpkin patch slash fall festival place to take her and our eight month old Anny Rex in the Nashville Franklin area. Willie one shelf, would you like to take this question? Boo with the zoo, Boo with the zoo? What is that?

00:49:29
Speaker 2: That's where you're leading me? Right, yes, sir?

00:49:31
Speaker 1: What is b Boo with the Zoo our first PT six meetup, Papa Team six meetup for for the dads. It'll be at Boo at the Zoo here in Nashville on October twenty eighth, at five thirty pm from five thirty to seven. For the dads, the PT sixers right here, Derek Chef, your boys, best staff, really one shelf.

00:49:56
Speaker 2: We will be at Boo at the Zoo.

00:49:57
Speaker 1: We're bringing the kids, bringing the kiddos. The families will be there first pop a Team six meetup. You might be thinking what to expect. I personally don't know, because part of me is like, you know, this isn't this isn't gonna be like a.

00:50:16
Speaker 2: Like what like a like a meet and greet? Yeah, not so much meet and greet.

00:50:20
Speaker 1: We might bring like the meetings of the minds, meeting of the PT sixers. Here's what the vibe is gonna be. Here's what it has to be because we got the kids there. Ru's gonna wear her fairy costume, she's gonna dress, she's gonna wear, She's gonna be in astume.

00:50:32
Speaker 2: Yea we might we might as well.

00:50:35
Speaker 3: I might be intume.

00:50:36
Speaker 2: Well, we're there to.

00:50:37
Speaker 1: Have good family time at the zoo, whether we do it with a crew or we all meet up at first, say a few words, some dads, maybe some quick selfies. But the thing it can't turn into is a full on like a meet and Greek thing. While our wives and kids are standing there, just the dads are talking shop, talking stories and we just some dads. Yeah, we just some dads were I have the same anxiety, like kind of you know, I know, my wife's like, hey, so what are we doing here?

00:51:05
Speaker 2: Is this just? Is this just a photo shoot?

00:51:07
Speaker 1: Are we gonna have some fun at the zoo with the kiddos, with the fam We going to the girafts or what?

00:51:11
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, wish to see the line Oh Willie one pick maybe two and that's it. Yeah.

00:51:18
Speaker 3: But I will say the Nashville Zoo has done a really good job with the boot the Zoo. It's decked to the nine with pumpkins, skeletons, all kinds of spooky stuff. They encourage Halloween outfits. You do have to buy a ticket. Those are available at Nashville Zoo dot org. That's Nashville Zoo dot org. There are a thousand tickets available for this event. That's outside of the PT six meetup. That's just in general. For the five thirty slot, there are a thousand tickets so ptsikos in the area make sure to go to Nashville dot org and get your tikies, get your tikies.

00:52:02
Speaker 1: What I'm envisioning is we all get there toy around five point thirty, might give it to five forty five to where you'll see where we are.

00:52:13
Speaker 2: We'll have a little table. Will there be merch, Yes.

00:52:17
Speaker 3: There will be merch, and we're looking to have a little game of uh what is it called scavenger hunt. We're gonna hide some little things throughout and we'll put out a social media promo, but we're gonna hide some little things in the park that if Papa or Mama Team six find these little tokens and bring it back to the Papa Team six table, they will get a free merch and a king sized candy bar.

00:52:44
Speaker 5: PT six Nation. Sorry for the interruption. This is your producer Jack coming in here. As I'm ending the episode. We have some changes to the bood at the Zoo that I want to make aware to all of you. We will not have a table. I'm so sorry. Don't blame me. Will ensure them like to run their mouths about stuff they don't know. But that's okay. We will not have a table and then also scavenger hunt. Wise schirm chairman Sherman, I'm talking to PT six nation right now.

00:53:14
Speaker 2: Are we gonna have a scavenger hunt? Oh? Yes, we're going to have a scavenger Oh we're not.

00:53:20
Speaker 5: Having Wait we're not, see sherm and will love to run their mouth. They don't know what they're talking about. Are we are?

00:53:29
Speaker 2: We aren't? Okay, we aren't. Is that correct, dude? I have no clue. I think that's it that we are not. I don't think we are either.

00:53:37
Speaker 3: And it's the first twenty people that show up.

00:53:42
Speaker 2: Get we're handing out hat some shirts. Uh, first twenty you hear that. PG six nation. First twenty people who.

00:53:50
Speaker 8: Show up, will we'll get a shirt also or hat or hat whatever you like. But yes, that's all back to your regular schedule programming.

00:54:04
Speaker 2: King size only the King size candy bar. Oh buddy, one.

00:54:08
Speaker 4: Thing I'll say is probably reshape the brain. You're right, it's not a meet and greet. This is a group dad brownie point event when we are setting something up. So you can come, you can meet Lilli and Shurm, but you are your honey. We're going to boot. You always want to go to Booth the Zoo. We're going to Booth the Zoo. We're going to boot the Browny Point meetup.

00:54:25
Speaker 1: And in between that five thirty five forty five, when we're all there, like at the table, I think the best thing would just be get a group get a squad photo. Yeah of the PT sixers. Ooh, we get Damily's sick, and we just do a matt. We just do a big group photo. From that group photo, you can get merch. You can go on the scavenger and find tokens if you want to just enjoy the evening, enjoy at the zoo.

00:54:50
Speaker 2: Yes, and we'll see each other.

00:54:53
Speaker 3: PT six Hey, and the goal is wife goes, hey, isn't that the two assholes that you listen to on YouTube over there? Center there and you go, oh, yeah, that's weird. They're here too. I don't even know that's so weird.

00:55:04
Speaker 2: You can't. I don't think you can say that about the Milk Team sixers. Bro Oh.

00:55:08
Speaker 3: I think Milk Tea sixers are brought in, They are bought in. They are bought in. That was a low blow.

00:55:14
Speaker 1: Like you could see like whenever people will talk about for the dads, Like I'll get dads that come up to me, families that'll come up and say, the wife might be like my husband, he loves listening to you on for the dads And as he said there, he's like, we watch you every week and stuff, and you just kind of see that little smile from.

00:55:28
Speaker 2: The muff from mom. You know what I mean.

00:55:30
Speaker 1: Oh, for dad loves watching them come on now, hey for sure, Hey nobody Milk Team sixture.

00:55:35
Speaker 2: Yeah.

00:55:36
Speaker 3: And the pictures that I get of I love the dms from Mama Team six of their husband on the couch, you know, with baby like they're watching they're all watching together. Yeah, dude, they are the yeah Mama Team.

00:55:51
Speaker 2: That was a low blow. And I do apologize to Mama Team six.

00:55:54
Speaker 1: Yeah there there probably ain't many out there, but those are the two assholes you listen to.

00:55:59
Speaker 3: But that was that.

00:56:00
Speaker 2: We giggled. We did gig, We did giggle.

00:56:02
Speaker 3: It was a giggle and we just have fun on it.

00:56:04
Speaker 1: The only time moments I would envision is if like say, say you're new listening to the show and let's say it was last week's episode or the week before that, and the first thing it's gonna said, Papadine's thinks, I hope your belly is full and your balls are empty.

00:56:17
Speaker 2: And then the wife's like, this is what you've been hearing about. This is your exemplement exemplament. You got it, you got it.

00:56:30
Speaker 5: Jeff, I can't say the word I'm getting blinked, but I was gonna imitate and go, this is your father podcast he listened to about being a good dad.

00:56:40
Speaker 2: These guys, these guys, this dude calls himself to captain a seaman team.

00:56:48
Speaker 3: What is they just read the definition of boofing off Urban Dictionary.

00:56:54
Speaker 2: Oh, and that we call it. And here's adad hack. Make sure you love your daughter. Oh, here's your survival kit.

00:57:02
Speaker 3: Make sure you have an extra passe.

00:57:05
Speaker 1: Let's get into some dad talk. Let's get into some dad talk. I've been going through a few different things. We'll go through again, wins and losses. We will crack a collet, some survival kid dad act, some things that I've been experiencing over the last over the last week or so, we have our Halloween costumes dialed in.

00:57:22
Speaker 2: M I'm jealous.

00:57:23
Speaker 3: I need to.

00:57:24
Speaker 1: I was hoping that we could be like a Star Wars crew like Roue could be Ray Skywalker.

00:57:31
Speaker 2: We found this.

00:57:31
Speaker 1: I found this like dress, Uh, why am I blinking?

00:57:36
Speaker 2: Jed Jedi robe.

00:57:38
Speaker 1: There is this like robe that was like a dress Jedi for Ray Skywalker to where she's got like the bubble the triple pony the little bubble ponytail going on. Loves the bubble ponytail like yo if she rips Ray Skywalker. I'm looking into full on Darth Vader costumes. You could put a great Vader, we could put We could put Charro beautiful hair, will get her as why am I ring a b Princess Leiah with the side buns.

00:58:09
Speaker 2: You get a little Scottie as Yoda.

00:58:11
Speaker 1: Find a little adorable Yoda costume with the little you know, the little netted or you'll see it on Etsy, the little netted with the Yoda ears.

00:58:21
Speaker 2: That what we are doing. We were going to and I'm juiced up about it.

00:58:26
Speaker 3: I was about to say, if y'all did do that, then we could also do Star Wars as well and be other characters, but also do so.

00:58:35
Speaker 2: For Halloween, We're gonna be the inside out crew.

00:58:39
Speaker 3: That's a massive win.

00:58:42
Speaker 2: Love it? Oh you don't like it? I'd ask who I am?

00:58:45
Speaker 8: Oh?

00:58:46
Speaker 1: No, no, no, I would have loved to have been Anger.

00:58:54
Speaker 2: I'm fear.

00:58:59
Speaker 3: That's funny. Was that Charles's idea? Yeah, Charo, way, that's off to Charo. That is funny. You got the glasses and the little wig and everything.

00:59:10
Speaker 1: Broa type in fear costume, fear costume inside out.

00:59:15
Speaker 2: And charge is to be a what is it? A bingo? I'm sorry, I was thinking of sadness. I was. I thought Chari was having you dress up as the blue One.

00:59:27
Speaker 1: No, I think that's gonna be I think that's gonna be scotty because her parents are also like, we're rounding out the six.

00:59:32
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, yes, you're Fear with the bow tie and yeah.

00:59:37
Speaker 1: Got this long headed costume thing that I'm just gonna be working.

00:59:42
Speaker 2: I'm trying to be Darth Vader. I'm trying to force show people.

00:59:47
Speaker 1: I was like, hey, we should do some like where it's like DC Superheroes. I was gonna be Bane PUSCOTTI is Wolverine, but no, I gotta be Fear from inside out.

01:00:01
Speaker 2: You look it up. We haven't pulled up. Well, I think this is gonna look great on You're gonna look great.

01:00:09
Speaker 3: And he's got a little hounds tooth going in his vest. That looks awesome, Darth Vader bro would it? Would it be salting the wound if then I did Star Wars?

01:00:20
Speaker 2: Yeah? But that you guys just come decked out six Star Wars?

01:00:26
Speaker 3: Is that what you are wearing to Boo at the Zoo?

01:00:28
Speaker 2: No, boot the Zoo. So Rue wants to be a fairy. She saw this dress. She wants to dress.

01:00:33
Speaker 1: She's all about princesses and dresses, and she wants to be a fairy. So Charro is we're thinking, like, all right, for Halloween, we want this, you know, we want to squad fit all inside out. Ruth's either gonna be like Joy or's gonna be one of them, okay, okay, one of the good ones. Yeah yeah, And she's like, here's how we knock out the fairy costume. We'll let wear the fairy costume at Boo at the Zoo. So that way when it's allween time, Hey, you're gonna two costumes. We got Halloween boota Zoo. You're gonna wear the ferry and then for Halloween, you'll get to be one of the characters of Inside Out. Yeah, Charles gets to be uh, what is it? Bing Bong? Charles bing Bong? That's the inflated one. I wanted to be being bo. I was like, I'd be bing Bong. She's like, oh, you know the.

01:01:21
Speaker 2: Sizes I ordered it sizes. You would have been a great I gotta be out of your fear.

01:01:31
Speaker 3: So y'all don't have anything playing for Bed at the Zoo, Not yet. I was getting too not yet, not yet, not yet, come up with something. Yeah, I'm trying to throw something together.

01:01:40
Speaker 2: Yeah, we get something going.

01:01:42
Speaker 1: Yeah, but Boot the Zoo October twenty eighth, Tuesday, five thirty, be there, be there.

01:01:50
Speaker 3: I think I might do Fat Stafford. That might be my my dress up. Get some shoulder pads going, little Matt Stafford jersey.

01:01:59
Speaker 2: That could be good. That could be good. Maybe I could hit the world. Willie one shelf. You should be willy. What do we think of? What are we talking about? Here? Kind of got the costume we do?

01:02:11
Speaker 1: I have a question for the audience, please, I have a question for the parents out there. Rus three her personalities as big as ever. I see a lot of great signs of confidence and leadership, but she's also very sassy m And as a parent you're always trying to figure out the balance between. Like, all right, they're kind of talking crazy to me, right now? Do I stay poised in the pocket like Baker Mayfield without any of his big targets?

01:02:38
Speaker 2: What do I kind of snap back? Yeah? Her right?

01:02:41
Speaker 1: So my question is, are sassy moments a sign of confidence?

01:02:47
Speaker 2: Sorry? If you guys hear these honks there's outside, well we might have to go full pet Siko.

01:02:52
Speaker 1: I think that you might just go out there and yell sorry if you guys heard the honks out there?

01:02:58
Speaker 2: Are sassy moments a sign of the podcast? Who we do it? Go check on it? Go check on it? Derek?

01:03:10
Speaker 3: So is sassiness a hey we've done to fell money?

01:03:19
Speaker 2: Yeah?

01:03:19
Speaker 1: Our sassy moments a sign of confidence? Our sassy moments a sign of confidence? Or they to test boundaries. I think that's a great question. I'm running through that in my mind.

01:03:38
Speaker 2: Slash. I know what you're saying because I've seen you deal with.

01:03:45
Speaker 3: Sassin with sassiness and attitude pretty like I think really, well.

01:03:50
Speaker 1: Okay, I was doing some like I was doing some research on this. I did come across like a parent sour. It's like a blog, it's like ways of spot of sassy little personality. And this this source describes sas as part of early experiments with identity, independence, autonomy, boldness, and it frames sas as a superpower. In a way, being sassy can mean that a child is learning to stand up, testing what works socially, and seeing their voice as meaningful. Then I came across. I came across this metaphor like boundary railings. If the bridge has no railing, the toddler crosses slowly, hesitantly, and insecurely. With boundaries, they cross with more confidence. SaaS may emerge as part of the testing phase until those.

01:04:31
Speaker 2: Rails are in place.

01:04:33
Speaker 1: So then I'm just thinking to myself, all right, what are examples that I can hang on to where it's like, all right, this is good, this is confidence here testing about it. It's all encompassing, right, because it's always happening, like when their brains are developed and they kind of like lose their minds. Yeah, and you're kind of in the pocket trying to figure out what to do. But when I'm thinking back on examples that we might have been trying to experiment with.

01:04:53
Speaker 2: Or might have done.

01:04:55
Speaker 1: I see, like it's like dinner time, she'll get she's been sassy around dinner time. But now that I feel like she understands these boundaries of clean plate club, or you don't get what you're actually thinking about until this happens, it almost.

01:05:09
Speaker 2: Takes away the.

01:05:11
Speaker 1: I don't know, I guess the reaction on my part because now we know what the said boundaries are to where I'm like, hey, yeah, you don't have to you don't have to eat your food. You kind of know what consequences come with that because I know what your little brain's thinking about. You're thinking, how can I get out of eating dinner right now and still get the cookie at the same time, or how can I press I'll eat two bites. Two bites don't really work anymore, Like you need to eat your food.

01:05:33
Speaker 2: I need to.

01:05:33
Speaker 1: Show that you had in a very respectable effort with your plate. In my brain, I'm thinking, it doesn't have to be clean, but I need to know you're you're eating at your chicken, you're eating at your vegetables, You're eating at whether it's potatoes, rice, whatever, it is like if I know you're putting an effort and you'll you'll get your little half cookie here at the end of dinner. Like I know what that looks like, but I feel like that's a that's been something I think too about. All right, there's something that's like clear boundaries that are set there now, like learning when I was doing when I was kind of breaking down the morning routine, like rude gets really sassy or whiny, you know what I mean, to where it's like, well, do why does why does.

01:06:12
Speaker 2: The morning have to be such an issue right now? Bro?

01:06:15
Speaker 1: Like we do this every morning, But I've identified to where it's like she does love her independence, she does love to where she feels like she's in control, to where like one morning or a couple of mornings now where it's like, hey, I got a challenge for you, and I've kind of laid out a couple outfits because like, we're not going to go through this whole I don't want.

01:06:35
Speaker 2: To wear this outfit.

01:06:36
Speaker 1: I'm wearing this one, and then it just becomes an entire argument in negotiation. It's like, all right, I've laid out a couple options. Hey, here's your challenge you pick out your outfit, you can put it on. First thing you gotta do is you gotta go body. We gotta clean you up. You go body first.

01:06:48
Speaker 2: But then I challenge you.

01:06:49
Speaker 1: Dad is going to leave the room. I know you yell at mean, go downstairs. You want to do it by yourself. I recognize that you want to be independent in this situation. Yeah, so it's like, all right, I trust you. You got to make you bet. You gotta pick out your outfit. Here's a couple I let out for you. You gotta make your bed, makes your room's tidied up. Like she loves to slide the door shut. She likes to do all the things. And then that mama come upstairs and see what I've done.

01:07:12
Speaker 2: Yea thing.

01:07:13
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm gonna go downstairs and start making breakfast whenever you come downstairs, because I know you like to think about what you want for breakfast. Now, I'm not if I give her a couple officer, I don't know yet. It's like, all right, you think about it and you tell me yeah, But then when you come downstairs, you have you've thought about it. You let me know what you want for breakfast. Now that we kind of had some of those boundaries in place. When I'm rocking solo mission doing the morning routine. That's kind of the way I approach it because I'll get Scotti going. She's just a minute, she just wants to be down on the floor playing. I'll start making breakfast, get up the barricade at the stairs. Rue, you can hang out by yourself upstairs, do your morning routine by yourself, however you see fit. These are the things you gotta do. I've now seen that that has that that has been there has been fruits that have came from that because she has grown and understanding what the boundaries are dealing with her her sassiness. Yeah, and then another one. I think that where I'm going through all this, I'm like, that is a good question or sassy moments the confidence or do they are they testing boundaries? And it's like it's probably the whole mix of both things, and am I getting do I again? Do I let her walk all over me? Or it's like, hey, you're whining. You're not using your strong voice. You know, Dada doesn't like to be talked to like that. Yeah, change your tone, or when I hear your strong voice, I will do what you are asking. Then I'm thinking, is she still getting her way by being sassy? I'm telling her the answer. If she gives me the answer, she still gets it. Am I am? I kind of being the am I being a push over there? Like these I'm always like asking myself these things like as I'm trying to parent and trying to figure out ways for her to like develop and grow and be strong, and how she's like asking questions or like, hey, use your confident voice?

01:08:47
Speaker 3: Can I can I as a not a co host but more of a friend kind of just say my two cents on what I think of you as a dad in those situations.

01:08:58
Speaker 2: Not yet hold it? I have one more. The coupons we had the dad hack of using TV coupons.

01:09:04
Speaker 1: RU would always rue is always kind of in that you know, you're just in that spot.

01:09:09
Speaker 2: I want to watch this scene. I want to watch No, I don't want it to be over.

01:09:12
Speaker 1: And then she's crying and it's like you're sitting down with her on the couch. And then when we came across the TV coupons, once thirty minutes goes up, now she kind of knows that it's done. Yeah, that was my third example, Like, when I'm reading through all this stuff and trying to figure out am I doing this correctly? Am I going about this the right way? Here are some evidence that I can now pull from the word say, okay, these are boundaries that are in place whenever it's happening in other moments, find other boundaries to kind of put around there, to kind of like allow her to be her if she's having a moment. But then she also knows in the back of her mind these are what the boundaries are. Yeah, okay, now you can, now you can, Now you can go. I just wanted to get that third one out there.

01:09:51
Speaker 2: No, I love that. I love that. Do you have more on it?

01:09:54
Speaker 3: I don't want to cut you off of any type of brain, like where where else is your mind going?

01:10:00
Speaker 5: With?

01:10:00
Speaker 1: My mind like goes through there because as I like, as I like pose that question to parents that might be like wondering the same stuff here have been my like highs and lows and how I've tried to like navigate those things on the whole boundaries issue. Yes, am I being a pushover? Do I need to be a little bit more snappy with her? It's hard to because it's my daughter, and I'm softer with my daughter, but also I want to, you know, mold a human being that I see is fit within, like resilience and leadership and humility and like, hey, here's how you need to be talking to people. Am I allowing it a little too much? Am I doing a better job here? I'm more so communicating things that I look to that I've done that are now I feel like evidence in my eyes, and things that kind of help me think about what that next.

01:10:42
Speaker 2: Thing might be.

01:10:43
Speaker 1: To put boundaries around so I don't allow her to be out of hand in certain situations. So I'm more of like talking through this with the parents at home, through this out loud on Hey, here's some things this works for me. Here's some things that I'm thinking about now where I can do better. Yeah.

01:10:58
Speaker 3: So that to I think it's the same thing as me being worried about being a good dad of before Scarlett was ever here. And you said the fact that you're worried about it and asking questions is a great sign. I would say that about this of the sassiness issue, the fact that you're worried about it, you're thinking about it, you're adapting you're trying new techniques. Would this work? What if I gave her some more responsibility? What if I gave her some more places where Rue can make the right decision and put the ball on her court instead of reacting emotionally and trying to take the power from her in that situation. Like, I think you're doing a great job of just confronting the issue. Rather or not sassiness is the sad Yeah, they're gonna be sassy, and rather or not that's going to turn into a good character trait or a negative one where she's given attitude you know people at school or teachers or whatever. Like that's besides the point. I think you're doing a good job of identifying it, navigating it, and trying to find a solution or a way to make this a good thing, make this a character trait, and to.

01:12:17
Speaker 2: Brag on Rue.

01:12:18
Speaker 3: At the fall Fest, we're doing drawings, and Rue sat there and did not say a word the entire time, but was very like peaceful as she's like coloring.

01:12:31
Speaker 2: She loves coloring love.

01:12:33
Speaker 3: She was locked in and JJ Jeremy's son is sitting there with me drawing.

01:12:38
Speaker 2: Shreman, Hey, Hey, Sherman Sherman. Sherman, Hey Rue, Rue, Hey Rue, look Rue, Look look.

01:12:44
Speaker 3: Rue, And Rue is wanting no part of what's going on with Sherman and JJ. Yeah, but she was not rude about it at all. She was very quiet, and she would slowly look up from her drawing and look at JJ's drawing and go and look back down and keep.

01:13:01
Speaker 2: Coloring, and like you could tell that in that moment she was setting.

01:13:06
Speaker 3: A boundary for JJ and saying like, Hey, I'm not matching your energy right now. I'm locked in. I'm doing my thing, and like the most I'm gonna say is charm. Will you get me purple? And I gave her a purple and she said thank you and started doing her brother. That's so funny, Like she's doing a good job of setting You could tell she wasn't annoyed by JJ, but she was like JJ.

01:13:31
Speaker 2: Got done with one because he was coloring the bats.

01:13:33
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, and he was having like I want Rue to see the bass because Rue was going to color like her and Mom went to go color a Halloween bag or something like that.

01:13:42
Speaker 2: Yeah. I just remember walking over to the room and I'm like, hey, Rue, JJ really wants you.

01:13:46
Speaker 3: To see yeah, to see his color back going over to him. Yeah, yeah, which I love.

01:13:52
Speaker 1: That was all about it. JJ is a great ball of energy, bro. Yeah, his enthusiasm is off the charts.

01:13:57
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:13:58
Speaker 1: And I'm like laughing because I and I'm like seeing Rue and Rue clearly hears him r and Clump's trying to, like, you know, tone him down, and I'm like, hey, I'll go try and get Rud in my head start like go, he wants to show you this color. It's just like when you run up to us and you're like, hey, you just look at my drawing and we're like, oh my god. Like he wants to like go give him a little something. She goes over and she's like that's good.

01:14:22
Speaker 3: And I dude, I loved that moment of real I felt like I saw a lot of Rue's personality in that moment. I love that even though she wasn't matching his energy, like she was not mean to him. She didn't say leave me alone, da da dah, I'm doing that Like she was very calm and poised and so just wanted to brag on your daughter in that moment.

01:14:46
Speaker 2: I appreciate it. She could have lost her cool.

01:14:48
Speaker 1: Here's another one this morning, like this morning on Friday, She's like, hey, or one sleep until we go to the fan. You know, she's rattling off because we're like, oh, great job, and she's like she wants to tell everybody. One sleep until we go to the Vanderbilt game. Two sleeps until we do until we go to uh uh, until we go to Grandpa's uh.

01:15:08
Speaker 2: Three sleeps until we go to London. I'm like, hey, sweetheart, bro, she got a weekend coming out.

01:15:13
Speaker 1: I'm my, hey, sweetheart, no sleeps? You know who plays football tonight? And she's like ooh, and I'm like the Nebraska corner.

01:15:21
Speaker 2: And she like kind I'm like holding her ind she kind of like and leans back and she's like she's like dead, you know who plays football tonight?

01:15:27
Speaker 1: And I'm like the Huskers And she's like no, She's like no, and she starts kind of getting sassy with me. She's like, no, I say who plays the night you you don't say Huskers, you don't say you don't say nothing, I tell you Huskers. Like all right, I'm on a knee down on her level and I'm like and again I'm having one of those ones.

01:15:46
Speaker 2: I'm like, you little girl.

01:15:49
Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, let's do that. She's like and then she tells her voice. She's like dad who plays the night? And I'm like, and she's.

01:15:54
Speaker 2: Like the scers. I was like, oh, the Huskers. And I'm thinking of that moment, Like am I just letting her walk all over me? You know, I think she has Uh. I don't know, you're not all that well, but you're gonna go through it.

01:16:09
Speaker 1: I'm just saying three is a different three is a different vibe.

01:16:12
Speaker 3: Bro. She she's wanting that independence in that uh control control and and uh yeah, dude, I think that's a cool thing that she wants that.

01:16:23
Speaker 1: She knows she's very much. She's like, she's like a boss. She's like, yeah, we went, uh this is I'll just go ahead and say this is a survival kit. And I apologize, like, I know, I'm sure you have some stories as well. We had to go to uhur Charlo takes her after swimming lesson on Tuesday, took her to Dick Sporting goes to get cones for soccer. She's got a soccer ball at home, you know. She goes, but she gets the cones and brings them home. She's got Charro out in the front yard running drills. She doesn't want to play soccer. She wants to be the coach that she's observed every time a soccer practice. And she's putting Charro through the drills. She's not the one doing soccer. Yeah, like dad, I can get my apple juice. She comes in Cyrol quick gets her apple juice, and I look out there and Charles, the one doing the drills while we're just we're just backing, watches her.

01:17:12
Speaker 3: No my my, no around around.

01:17:14
Speaker 2: Yeah, do it this way.

01:17:15
Speaker 1: No, the cone goes here the bible, kid, go get some cones. Kids love cones.

01:17:22
Speaker 3: Dude, I love that. It sounds like you got a commander in cheap, got a little commander in cheap.

01:17:28
Speaker 2: You got a little Mike linebacker, is what it sounds like? Green dot? You got a little green dot.

01:17:34
Speaker 3: Dude. I think it's cool. I think Real is setting herself up to be a very competent, independent, sure of herself and her decisions, and it will come out sideways. Dude, she's three. I'm not giving you advice. I'm just talking three. I feel you, I feel you, But I think I think that's badass.

01:17:54
Speaker 1: Someone like leaning on the parents out there that have had their three year older they're currently three, or maybe they're two, they can like, oh, what's the age of three, like like just buckle up. Oh we were at Italy's last night. Mac and cheese was too hot and it really wasn't that hot. Like shoot her, you gotta blow on and she's yelling, I mean no, don't blow on. I'm like, dude, I'm trying to make your life easier and she doesn't want to. Where like you gotta sit and let it wait, like eat your chicken tenders or eat your chicken fingers until your mac and cheese cools down.

01:18:24
Speaker 2: She doesn't want to.

01:18:25
Speaker 1: She's crying, and you're like, you know, you're there as a parent, you're in public. They're having a moment, and you're like, you know, I'm like, fuck, like please stop being so loud and like yelling and crying and everything else.

01:18:36
Speaker 2: Do you feel like is it good for you though? Like do you feel like.

01:18:40
Speaker 3: There's a part of you that maybe needed some softening that like you feel like you're also kind of growing in this moment self control.

01:18:48
Speaker 1: Absolutely, because I know, like parents don't sit there and tell you like don't dude, don't stress about that stuff. Like we've all had kids and people who are like their assholes they don't have kids.

01:18:55
Speaker 2: Whatever. Yeah, something in that moment. I just gotta I gotta be cool having a moment.

01:19:01
Speaker 1: I really wish you would just listen because it's like, bro, I'm telling you number one, it's not that hot, Like let that dad blow on it, mix it around, blow on it, or hey, if you want to do yourself, you blow three on yourself. I show you all the time, Like get a fork, not a spoon, then try it. If it's too hot, just eat the other.

01:19:16
Speaker 2: Thing on your plate.

01:19:17
Speaker 1: But she's having a moment to where it's happening for several minutes orre she's crying.

01:19:21
Speaker 2: She's like, no, don't talk to me. Don't talk to me, Mama, don't talk to me, like dad, ed, don't talk to me.

01:19:26
Speaker 1: John and I are both just kind of sitting there quality to the point to where it's like we can't even say, all right, we're not gonna talk to you.

01:19:30
Speaker 2: She's like no, no, and she's crying.

01:19:32
Speaker 1: She's got the mac and cheese, she's got it on a fork just in her hand, like she's like, you know, red crying doing things Tron and I just kind of sitting there. I'm kind of just looking over he Scotty. I'm like, Scott, to eat your eat your turkey.

01:19:44
Speaker 2: And then I hear Rue like she's not you know, she doesn't want us to tell her what to do. Uh huh. She doesn't want us to talk to her. Eventually it's gonna swing the other way.

01:19:55
Speaker 1: She's sitting there, she's trying to figure it out in her head as she's screaming. And then I just hear like, as I'm like, look at Scotty out here, she's like.

01:20:04
Speaker 7: Starting to blow on it, and I'm dude, I know she's looking at me, and I'm laughing, and you know, I got the quiet left going on to where.

01:20:15
Speaker 3: My shoulders are going on. I can't look at Jarrow like look up her. She sees me laughing through my get a little more more. I'm like, Scott, you, oh, you're so funny. Scott trying not look at room. But she's mid cry, trying to blow on the mac and cheese.

01:20:31
Speaker 2: Just the shakiest hands of all time. I I love it. Go ahead, Jim, I was gonna ask a question to Will.

01:20:40
Speaker 5: Listening this to someone who doesn't have kids at twenty three, if you, I guess the better way to put this like three years ago, will how would he have reacted to this situation compared to now?

01:20:52
Speaker 2: Do you think?

01:20:53
Speaker 5: Can you see that where you're like, oh, I've definitely grown because I'm sitting here going.

01:20:58
Speaker 2: I'm feeling for you. I don't have it they can.

01:21:01
Speaker 1: The way you're feeling me younger, or I'm just assuming because obviously being a parent kind of like hey, you have to grow and develop and kind of force yourself to like patients all these things that you learn when you do become a parent. But I fully think back to your question, I was feeling what you were thinking, like as you're listening, like you kind of just want to brow Hey, cut the shit. We can leave, Like get up, we can leave right now. And you're kind of making a scene as a parent, and really it's not the way to handle You're kind of.

01:21:36
Speaker 2: Just reacting and everything else.

01:21:37
Speaker 1: They're brain has so many things that's going on in their head that they're trying to like learn and develop. They wish they were in control, like little toddlers. They're always being told what to do, how to handle stuff. Hey, you need to blow on it, like use this, not that, wear this, not that, Go do x y and z. Here's the routine. Hey, we have to get going. No, we can't play right now, we have to do X y and z.

01:21:59
Speaker 2: Blah blah blah.

01:21:59
Speaker 1: They're always being told what to do, and they want their own independence and feel like when I'm reading about there learning to stand up, testing what works socially, seeing if their voice, they feel like they have a meaningful voice. They wanted to be heard. So you're like hearing, You're like all this stuff is happening in real time to where the development. As a parent, you're kind of challenging yourself for to kick in and stay poised, stay in the pocket, to not like lose yourself or lose control, because you have to empathize with what their little brain is going through all these big emotions and they want to be in control of their life too and not be told what to do from mom and dad all the time. So as you're listening, it's like, I very much have that young will like in my head as.

01:22:44
Speaker 2: It's going on.

01:22:45
Speaker 1: If I wasn't a parent, I would fully be what you were feeling because you think like this is how my old man would have handled it, And that's how my parents would have done it, right, Yes, And like as you were growing as parents and trying to challenge ourselves to like learn new things on how to be intentional and present and are we doing our best right now?

01:23:05
Speaker 2: We're trying to do our best.

01:23:06
Speaker 1: And it also makes you reflect on all the stuff that you had when you were a child and what your parents did.

01:23:12
Speaker 2: Well, what now you feel like you're learning as a parent.

01:23:15
Speaker 1: Like, man, my dad or my mom wasn't equipped in this way, I feel like now because I'm sure the generation before them handled them in a much different way. We have so many more resources and literature and things that we can source now and look to for guidance, advice, things to try that I don't feel like our parents had back then to where it was different for us. So it's like, you know, all those old ways of how we were. My dad would tan my ass if I'm making a scene in public and I might be older, maybe that's how I go when she's older. I'm just kidding, but you know what I'm saying.

01:23:51
Speaker 2: Does that make sense? One hundred percent? It's very profound.

01:23:53
Speaker 5: I'm going to make an edit of the The complete sides of will Compton from like he's talking about like the most mature and philosophical way of parenting, like these things that I'm like, man, that is so smart and I'm going to find you just farting.

01:24:12
Speaker 2: That will be in the pipeline, just all the guy humor that I love.

01:24:15
Speaker 3: The mini sides of William Coompton, William Earl, the third and two Chefs. I loved Chef's question because I was going to ask something similar and what I was going to say earlier that I forgot to say is knowing you and knowing that pool story where you ripped, where it got to a point where it was like, Okay, Rue, we're going home and you're not talking to your mom like that and blah blah blah, like in your brain with your upbringing and everything that's important to you morally, all that stuff.

01:24:47
Speaker 2: You are not going to raise a brat. You won't.

01:24:51
Speaker 3: You are not trying to raise a brat. You're not trying to raise a kid that's going to be off the rails like you are going to do a good job of trying to create those guardrails and aim Rue in the right direction.

01:25:05
Speaker 2: Of where she needs to head growing up.

01:25:08
Speaker 3: And I love where your head is at and your instincts and the strategy that you're taking on this situation. I just wanted you to hear it.

01:25:19
Speaker 1: I appreciate that, bro, that is ultimately the goal. I think every parent's like, man, you don't want to raise a brat. You don't want to raise you know, a sassy as kid. You don't want to raise an asshole.

01:25:29
Speaker 2: And you're not You're not being There's probably times that you are being too self whatever, like like your boy is soft. Now.

01:25:37
Speaker 3: We all make mistakes and we don't do the right thing and right situations. But it is good to know that you do have that place in your head of like, you know the limit of where it goes to you and you have the ability to nip it in the butt and be like, unacceptable, that's not happening. So what I'm not worried for you, I guess is what I'm trying to say.

01:26:00
Speaker 1: Yeah, more like more like creating a conversations, creating a dialogue. It's yeah, creating a dialogue with the with the PT sick, with the PT sick goes out there with the parents out there that could be going through the same stuff and thinking all the same things that could absolutely have all the same goals and same like practices and doubt in those moments to where we're sharing, we're sharing experiences. Yeah, you're giving feedback, you.

01:26:22
Speaker 2: Know what I mean?

01:26:23
Speaker 5: I would say that what the reason you raise that question and the reason you do this podcast is like the ultimate side of there's a true intentionality there, and that's something that I think probably that's the first step of like you're already probably beaten out a lot of people. I'm not saying it's a competition, but like the idea that it matters enough to you that you put that much thought into it and to really take time to think about it and take a big step back.

01:26:49
Speaker 2: Yeah, says a Ton. I hope it's all PT sixers out there, baby.

01:26:52
Speaker 3: Hey, and I I'm very excited to bring up my in the trenches Okay, I'm very excited to see the PT sixers in the comments and what they say about that question that you propose, because I put on Twitter my end the trenches is scar scars diaper situation. The size ones are too small, the size did so you put that out there, the size twos are too big. And I put out this tweet and it was one of my very first tweets that I went past the restricted amount of text. I wrote a book, and I was legitimately like, this is not for likes or comments, like, please tell me what people have done.

01:27:36
Speaker 2: And dude.

01:27:37
Speaker 3: PT six came in clunch there was like thirty replies, and so, first off, a huge shout out to PT six, And secondly, I came to Jill because of course Jill and I are having this conversation. That's why I put it on Twitter, because I'm like, Jill, we can't be we use codery. I was like, we can't be doubling up CODERI because one those diapers are all expensive and two now they're going twice as fast because we're doubling up coderies at nighttime. That can't be the solve, Like, there's got to be something else. Put out that question resounding, Hey, nighttime diapers, overnight diapers, overnight diapers, nighttime diapers, gotta do a m surm use this company, blah blah blah. I read those to Jill and it's already opening her mind a little bit of like, yeah, we could do that, huh. Blah blah blah. And I didn't say anything, but I saw on her story this morning, on her Instagram story, she had a looking to get some nighttime diapers? Does anyone have brand recommendation? So Empty six and PT six in my replies, thank you because you helped us like move in a direction. I can't wait to see it fixed, because I mean, Scarscar is sleeping great, but we're having to wash these merlins every single morning because they're just covered in bed. Yeah, she's wearing a diaper. How's this happening?

01:29:02
Speaker 1: Shoutout PAT six And by the way, BT six was ready last week after we talked about the hater coming after you? Yeah, yeah, yeah, honestly with the end within an hour or two the episode dropping, people like, hey, reporting for duty, where's he at?

01:29:14
Speaker 3: I found the comment. The guy's name was like David Wee or David Way. I found the comment and I wanted to do like a meme at it and stuff for it.

01:29:24
Speaker 2: I can't find it. Did he delete it? I looked at it. He deleted it. Oh, he deleted it. He deleted it before I could screenshot it. He backed off. Damn. You know what that says? Though? I don't know. I don't know.

01:29:41
Speaker 1: Were you guys able to go back to that comment whenever the podcast came out. My thought is people when they listened to the episode or watched the episode, was his comment?

01:29:51
Speaker 5: This is before the episode dropped? He deted, real, I remember I found the post. I'm like, this has the post to look through gone?

01:30:01
Speaker 4: Your comment's gone, his comments gone. And it happened before the episode dropped. So even after our conversation, oh mind it for the show gone either, he had a change of heart.

01:30:15
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I'm thinking if I responded to him, eventually other people would probably see it and go in and maybe he's going back and forth with a couple people to the point where it's like, I'm deleting this.

01:30:25
Speaker 2: I found it.

01:30:26
Speaker 3: I clicked on his profile and I too laughed because this was right after we recorded Chef Nailed on the Head. His bio was legit like, hey, spread positivity because you never know when your friend needs it the most, like something like that. And we had a mutual on Instagram. We had a mutual And it's a guy that I know pretty well, and I kind of want to reach out to him and be like, Yo, you know this guy.

01:30:50
Speaker 2: We need to put them on notice for he's sick salivating for a mission right now. This is your boy.

01:30:56
Speaker 3: Yeah, and he would tell me too because I'm buddies with them. It'd be funny. Yeah, I have a so it wasn't a burner is the actual guy?

01:31:05
Speaker 2: A I have a dad loss? My dad loss?

01:31:08
Speaker 1: Is this sitting in the pocket as a dad and your toddler. It's just all about want to know if it's mom's turn to put her to bed?

01:31:21
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.

01:31:22
Speaker 1: You just take these hits, bro, where it's like, hey, in front of me, Mama, is you're turn to do bedtime tonight?

01:31:28
Speaker 2: It's dad sair night, but I want you to do bedtime. I'm just thinking, Yo, I'm standing right here.

01:31:33
Speaker 1: Bro, and to where it's like she has a couple more things that goes beyond dad Dad, Like no, I want Mama to do that.

01:31:41
Speaker 2: No, I want mama to do this.

01:31:42
Speaker 1: And I'm just like all right, and Charles sees it on my face like I'm not like wrecked in a certain way. I'm just like she knows. I'm thinking like, dude, come on, like give the old man some.

01:31:52
Speaker 3: Love, like your dad, like we're homees Bro, have you ever seen like I don't just don't just come home, you know.

01:32:02
Speaker 5: I actually because I this is the one thing I might have experience, And so I'm gonna jump in here.

01:32:07
Speaker 2: Little kids and toddlers say some mean stuff they did in front of you.

01:32:11
Speaker 5: I was a I worked an after school program through ymc A in Knoxville when I was in college, and so I went to Rocky Hill Elementary every year or every day when kids got out, for kids that parents couldn't pick them up, or bus bus routes didn't get to them, and man, not intentional, I would get little eleanor sitting there, she goes, have you always had a gap in your teeth?

01:32:34
Speaker 2: Well? Retainer? Thank you? Parents told me the same thing in seventh grade.

01:32:40
Speaker 5: But anyway, I want too bad.

01:32:43
Speaker 2: Well, I think it's just they don't even know it's a loss that a.

01:32:46
Speaker 1: Dad feels in their body when there, when they're when they're a little one, like you know, they have a strong relationship with them, and it's like, yo, is it Mom's turned to bed?

01:32:52
Speaker 2: They like I did.

01:32:54
Speaker 1: Yeah, Bro, it's you know, I'm sitting here, I'm looking at dad lost mom versus dad bedtime routines. Does your child spawn differently when dad puts them down or versus mom puts them down?

01:33:04
Speaker 2: Like this, mom and dad have different bedtime.

01:33:05
Speaker 1: Because I'm thinking, Bro, we rip at bedtime, like we have fun at bedtime Dad. Dad kind of sick with it with the bedtime. Yeah, that is nasty with bedtime routine. Like we'll play games. I mixed up games.

01:33:20
Speaker 3: Hey, let's race to the bathroom to brush our teeth sometimes, daddad lets you skip a couple things.

01:33:27
Speaker 2: Mom's out there listening right now, like what the oh this is.

01:33:30
Speaker 1: Why she brings up. Can I brush my teeth and brush my hair in the morning? Yeah, because Dad's like, oh, you want to go to you want to fall asleep, Like, hey, we gotta brush your hair and brush your teeth in the morning.

01:33:38
Speaker 3: Now, we're's been asking me to read eight books at night.

01:33:42
Speaker 2: H Yeah, this is something new we've been doing. I've been reading eight you know, I do.

01:33:48
Speaker 1: See I'll lock her into two. She got me on three the other night. But also, Bro, I get in and lay in bed with her every night, like when it's time, like when we hit the books on a regular where it's you know, we'll read one book, then brush your hair, brush your teeth. We'll get back in bed. We'll read another book. And then when it's time to come off.

01:34:06
Speaker 3: She knows this dadd dead as scratch my back, dadad give me a massage.

01:34:09
Speaker 1: Like I lay in bed with her every time I do bedtime. We switch every night and every time I'm in bed with her and I'm scratching her back and like rubbing her arm or giving her a massage every night until it's like, you know, she's like tired. I can tell, like rub her face and hair to her, she's like fall asleep, and I'm kind of like you know, giving her giving her the handstroke on the.

01:34:29
Speaker 2: Side of the head, and I'm like, all right, bedtime.

01:34:31
Speaker 1: She gives me a hug, kiss, three squeezes, one two, three, I love you, and she'll like keep her eyes closed through it, and she knows it's bedtime. She's asleep, she's passed out. And then when Mom does bedtime. At the end of every time Mom does bed it's like Dad has it's Dad has got to come upstairs and do the final put in the the last and fifter. I'm the closer, Yeah, I'm the scratch the back closer, like I'm scratching back every Now, I'm like, bro, we rip at bedtime? Why is it always like you act like I'm torturing you when I do bedtime?

01:34:58
Speaker 3: Now I know the answer. She wants both of y'all to do it. That's it. If you're going in there every night, no matter what. She likes it when Charle does it, because she's getting both parents. That's all it is.

01:35:14
Speaker 2: You might be right.

01:35:16
Speaker 3: It's not that you're she's not as good like because she does.

01:35:20
Speaker 2: That's the time.

01:35:20
Speaker 1: I'm like, I think in my head, like, bro, we have fun at bedtime? Why is it always gonna be Mama and you?

01:35:26
Speaker 2: Kind of her her mom have.

01:35:28
Speaker 1: Such a unique relationship to where it'll be like the whining and argue to where Charles like, I don't see why she's always wanting me to do bedtime all the time. She certain wines with me, and she makes it hard on me. All right, we might got it. We might have don't know, might have gotten cut off there for a second, soundboard crashed on us for a moment. All good, though, We're getting into our hot We're getting into our our hotline. Our voicemails this week six and one of the dads if you want to call in and be featured on the show. Yes, we do have a couple this week. We're gonna hit the We're gonna hit a couple of voicemails. Maybe read you an email and get on way. We gotta keep it under an hour. I think we're over now. We gotta figure out a way to get it going back under and we gotta yeah, we gotta get we gotta get it going.

01:36:07
Speaker 3: Gotta get it going six on one of the dad's at gmail dot com too for our international listeners. Uh, first comment or first sorry, call in.

01:36:18
Speaker 6: What a gentleman from Meansfield, Texas, Busfield, Texas.

01:36:28
Speaker 2: Uh not only eight months old?

01:36:32
Speaker 7: Are calling this week?

01:36:35
Speaker 6: But right before I'm making this, as I'm walking out the door to go to work, open the door, take a step outside, I hear the most beautiful thing olla.

01:36:55
Speaker 5: That was?

01:36:59
Speaker 2: And I was like, what like that?

01:37:02
Speaker 6: As I'm walking out the floor, first words and hunt.

01:37:09
Speaker 2: That gasses me up. Thank you guys and just for all all, oh.

01:37:16
Speaker 6: Ho uh and just all have a ton of success in doing this, and uh man, I'm forever grateful.

01:37:27
Speaker 2: They shut out Isaiah from Texas.

01:37:29
Speaker 3: Isaiah from Mansfield, Texas, Maysfield, Texas at that.

01:37:34
Speaker 2: Very close sol does Texas.

01:37:36
Speaker 3: Yeah, y'all ever play them? You to beat dead ass just a little bit, just a little bit.

01:37:41
Speaker 2: We like to have fun on the show. We like have fun on the show. We beat your ass. But we're just kidding.

01:37:45
Speaker 3: We're hey, Isaiah, listen, I'm excited for the first words. But we did back in the day.

01:37:51
Speaker 2: I personally never played Mansfield, so I can't say I did.

01:37:54
Speaker 1: But Sherman, listen, did we go through this all the time? Stay patient, stay in it, stay present. But the moment you get the crawls, the moment you hear dead ad for the first time, it is a joy and love that is experienced where the whole parent's just telling people who don't have parents. It's like, man, just wait till you become a dad, or wait till you become a parent, or it's like indescribable the feeling that you have because you feel like you've you've you've tapped into like a new feeling, a new like a secret soft sauce that people can't experience until you experience it. Yeah, Like what makes parenthood great because people see the chaos and everything else and get the turn away from it, and it's just like, man, it's moments like that that just feel you with something different. They just can't describe. Shut Isaiah, thank you for the phone call, Bro, Thank.

01:38:50
Speaker 2: You for the phone call.

01:38:50
Speaker 3: Isaiah very excited for Scarlet's first words. That's going to be epic.

01:38:56
Speaker 2: Ask me Ruth's first words. What were Ru's first words? Dad? They asked me Scotty's first What were Scotty's first words? Dadda? As Scarlet's first words, what's Scarlet's first words? Yeah?

01:39:09
Speaker 1: Hopefully, yeah, hopeful, Hopefully it'll come. They say, the hard consonants are better or easier than the soft one.

01:39:15
Speaker 2: The tongue and the teeth come before the mama. Yeah. So, and then you're sitting there hitting a.

01:39:22
Speaker 3: Well, she's already kind of there because she spends most of the day with her, and then when dad comes home from word scarlets and that's it's a trust me. It's a tough gotta have the empathy. It's a tough l for mom. It's a tough l. Shells like she didn't do that all day for me because.

01:39:39
Speaker 2: They like we just we know that moms they go through it. They're in it a lot more than that.

01:39:45
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean the dads don't have their own gritty work, their own intention presence in the entire scheme of things.

01:39:51
Speaker 2: But it's a tough l for mom swallowing when dad, when dad, Dad gets the love.

01:39:57
Speaker 3: And so I'm soft on it. I know I'm not sitting there showboating doing anything when you know, I get the smile. Scarlett had her first laugh yesterday, by the way, Start.

01:40:07
Speaker 1: Getting on that changing table, start giving them the noises they're telling me the tickle's going on. Oh yeah, bro, yeah yeah, oh yeah, dude. The anticipation you create in those moments when you start kind of tossing up a little bit oh one, a two, just to kind of see their smile because they know three is coming.

01:40:28
Speaker 2: They're about to get tossed in the air.

01:40:31
Speaker 3: Scar and Jill. I will never toss Scarlet ever. No, never tossed the babies around.

01:40:37
Speaker 2: You tossed that little she already, Like when I lift here, yeah, we're getting there.

01:40:43
Speaker 1: Baby steps I tested out by instead of like throwing them in the air. It's just like I'll go a little faster, ascending in the air. Yeah yeah, But Scotty Versabik. All right, you're not ready for the show yet, You're not ready for prime time.

01:40:59
Speaker 3: Okay, you can't handle this yet. Oh my god, we have our second call in. Here we go.

01:41:08
Speaker 5: What's up, boys, I'm currently on the way to the hospital with my wife.

01:41:13
Speaker 2: Say hey, why, I think she's in the middle of a contraction right now.

01:41:18
Speaker 1: Thank you has prepared me for the trenches.

01:41:24
Speaker 3: I'm looking forward either way?

01:41:28
Speaker 2: Then from Alabama? Did from Alabama? I love? It's like, hey, she's going. I think she's.

01:41:36
Speaker 3: Having like something that they call like childbirth contractions. But I just like y'all to know I'm ready for my dad.

01:41:44
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, run away to the hospital right now, she said, we gotta go. I don't even know what to call it.

01:41:51
Speaker 1: She's having something, she's feeling something in her stomach called contractions or something like that.

01:41:56
Speaker 2: I'm built for these trenches. I'm waiting. You guys are the best dads ever.

01:42:01
Speaker 3: You gotta make me the best, Hey, honey, say hey, like truly, bro. The fact that she had a good attitude about that is electric. Yeah, we got a high from a mom in contractions.

01:42:14
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't sleep on that. Don't sleep on that been from Alabama. Role Tide, roll Tide. Maybe maybe it's.

01:42:21
Speaker 3: All wardamn war damn yeah, or a little rtr and I mean that as a compliment. But if he's not, then he's gonna be pissed. Yeah, but he just he seems like a little roll tide roll to me. I don't know.

01:42:37
Speaker 1: You keep saying, you keep doubling down, tripling down, you keep you could be insulting him.

01:42:43
Speaker 2: He seems like.

01:42:43
Speaker 3: A war even we'll cut this once he comments, but he seems like a wardamn Eagle guy. Yeah, that's what he seems like to me.

01:42:49
Speaker 1: Hey, I am roll damn sweet you want to say, Oh, dude, boys, just listening to the episode. We're still at the hospital. Wife, he's pushing right now. Sweet, are you want to say, Hey, it.

01:43:02
Speaker 9: Is off and she's screaming the road time, road time. She's screaming in the background. It is wrong, by the fucking.

01:43:19
Speaker 2: Brett. Sweetheart.

01:43:20
Speaker 3: Please please called that kid with the update. Let us know if you are for the Crimson Tide or you want to throw like a U A B and just run through the elevations. Yeah, yeah, go dragons, I mean whatever, dude, Wait, who's your team?

01:43:35
Speaker 2: We gotta know.

01:43:36
Speaker 3: Did we get a name in that one at the end. Oh, that's right, Ben from Alabama. That's right, Ben from Alabama.

01:43:44
Speaker 1: All right, Yeah, a few emails yes at six or not at six on one for the dads at gmail dot com and dads the dads. We threw a couple of emails hits a quote lesson topic. Get we're out of here under an hour.

01:43:59
Speaker 2: We're out. Sorry chef, Sorry chef, Sorry chef, sorry, chef.

01:44:03
Speaker 3: I got a first one real quick. This comes from Lexi Morris, hey will and sure and proud member of Milk Team six here. I just wanted to reach out and thank you for being a bright spot and mine and my husband's week every week.

01:44:17
Speaker 2: We found out in.

01:44:18
Speaker 3: June when our daughter was four months old that his cancer had transformed and he was going to need stem cell transplant. You guys have made us laugh and cry, were sensitive and cinem l two during his hospital stays for chemotherapy and on the drives to and from the appointments. He's been admitted for his stem cell transplant. So just have to shout out my husband, Michael. He's the proudest member of Papa Team six. A fellow girl dad, and he's our hero and human form. Time for him to kick cancer's ass. Good Purple heart, thanks again and can't wait to see the merch that Jill and Charro come up with.

01:44:56
Speaker 2: Winki face Lexi, M Lexi, thank you you. That's heavy.

01:45:01
Speaker 3: That's heavy.

01:45:02
Speaker 2: That's heavy. I'm sorry you guys are going through that.

01:45:04
Speaker 1: Seems like you guys are trying to handle it as well as you possibly can. Very much appreciate you taking the time to write that. Shutting out your husband. Oh yeah, sounds like your husband's trying to keep as good of an attitude as he possibly can, the whole good mentality.

01:45:20
Speaker 2: I can't imagine.

01:45:21
Speaker 3: Honored that we're even a small little sivil sliver semblance of y'all's experience of, you know, fighting cancer and coming together as a family. And it's we're honored that we even get to be a small little sliver of that.

01:45:36
Speaker 2: Thank you.

01:45:36
Speaker 1: That would be so hard to go through. Yeah, that'd be so hard to go through for the dads, the boys. We are all thinking about you guys. Absolutely, our heart goes out to you both. Keep fighting. I'm hoping it's all uphill. It's all optimism from here, but that is it is tough.

01:45:54
Speaker 3: They had it in quotations of time to kick cancer's ass. So maybe that's a little mantra that I got going.

01:46:00
Speaker 1: I'll time the kick cancers as come on, time the kick cancers as I got one to hear from Ben Warring, Ben Wearing Boys, longtime UK listener of Busting and day one for the dads over in Liverpool, England.

01:46:16
Speaker 2: Come on Liverpool, How sick is that?

01:46:19
Speaker 3: Bro?

01:46:20
Speaker 1: Liverpool, England? Day one for the Dads longtime listener Busting with the Boys where the batoos are from the bay Oos. Me and my wife have been trying to start a family for a while now without success. We got checked out a few years ago and realized that IVF was our path.

01:46:37
Speaker 2: To becoming a family.

01:46:39
Speaker 1: Our first round didn't work out, which left us at the lowest point in both of our lives. Our second round started the week before you released the IVF episode with Will and Charrow And for those wondering listening who might be taking that same route, My wife and I did a Busting with the Boys podcast around Mother's Day of this year. If you want to go back and listen to that, I made my wife listen to it and we both cried along together. Fast forward to now and we are currently expecting our little girl do on Super Bowls Sunday. My wife has taken the podcast as our lucky charm and we can't wait for Wednesday to roll around and we have another episode to listen.

01:47:14
Speaker 2: To keep up.

01:47:15
Speaker 1: The great work, keep crying, and keep taking out the trash. Trash cheers Ben dude. It fires me up that round two worked out. And then for those that do struggle with infertility and have used the the IVF method and it doesn't work out, there are you know you think about your story at times and how hard some of these moments are that you go through Because at the end of the day, all of our individual worst moments is are are? They are our worst moments. They what we have experienced the worst. When you begin to find perspective and hear other people's stories, there are friends in our circles, a friend in particular, who went through I want to stay around five rounds of IVF before they finally you know, struck lightning in a bottle and got lucky. But you know, I know Charo and I story in our journey and how challenging it was in our world and we were lucky enough to be successful on our first try after trying for a while on baby number two. But it fires me up the round two worked. I can't imagine, you know, trying to start a family for a while now to quote you without success. Got checked out a few years ago going the path of IVF. First round didn't work, which also at the lowest point of both of our lives mentally, I can only imagine how hard that was. But to see you guys, you know, strike on round two and have baby girl coming on Super Bowl Sunday, come on. Shout out to you both, Ben and thank you for being a Tier one on busting and being a Day one for the Dad's Listener.

01:48:47
Speaker 3: Thank you for writing in and thank you for sharing. I know that that's hard in five rounds let alone one. That's awesome, dude.

01:48:56
Speaker 1: It's so hard to when you think about it and you hear all the stories and have perspectives of everybody else, all the challenging things that people go through to have a child, and then you think, like man, because rue, it was like it was the first time and you don't know, you don't It's like you take it for granted, because then we try and having Scott and then we had to go through the IVF process and everything else. You kind of take for granted how lucky you are, because when you're growing up, you just think, oh, it's quite simple, how this process works. Yeah, one lear about equals one plus one equals to and then you hear all the stories and your friends going through stuff and everything else, and then you just realize, like, oh damn, like it is. It is tough to have a child these days. It's a miracle when you do have a when you do have a kid.

01:49:37
Speaker 2: Yeah, I got another one.

01:49:39
Speaker 3: Christian Mark Marquez wrote in Uh so, Christian said, I want to preface this by letting you know that, well, essentially he got the idea from the pod that he'll be sending emails to himself as like a journal. Yeah, it's a little bit. And so he to say thank you guys for the idea. And then this is one of his journal entries that he wanted to share with us. Oh yeah, I want to preface this by letting you know that I got this Google account idea from a podcast I started listening to. Ironically a week before that I found out I was going to be a dad. The podcast is called for the dads, and they gave this dad hack to leave you emails and messages about the milestones you're going to experience in life. Shout out to Fat Stafford and Willie Wanshelf in parentheses. You won't get these references yet, but you will someday. Your mom was so very excited to tell me that you were coming into this world. I was coming home in the evening from running extra track practices for some extra money. She was sitting on the couch with a smile that filled the whole room, and I went in to kiss her and give her a hug. After a long day. I noticed a basket filled with a positive pregnancy test, a onesie that said newest recruit for Team Marquez, and an I Love You Dad children's book, as well as a dad hat. I was immediately excited. I knew from that moment on that this life I live is much bigger than myself. It opened my eyes to what truly matters, faith and family. I now realize that everything I do is for the greater good of our new found family. I promise to always do right by your mom and you. I have the privilege of being a father thanks to you. This is an honor I will not take lightly. I will raise you to withstand anything life throws your way with your chest out, head held high, and feet anchored in your disciplines. At that point, I didn't know you were going to be a boy or a girl, but I did note that you were going to be loved. The world is changing rapidly and will continue to do so. By the time you read this, in a world of constant changes, I know you will be sure of one thing. Mom and Dad love you. I can't wait until I see your face and hold your little hands. You were already are the biggest blessing in my life, second only to your beautiful mother.

01:52:03
Speaker 2: Love Dad. That's a teary eyed one. Yeah dude, that's good. Bro, that's good. Who is that? Who wrote that? That was from Christian Marquees Christian.

01:52:14
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, that's a good dad.

01:52:15
Speaker 2: That uses me up.

01:52:16
Speaker 3: I will not lie. I I read this before so I would not cry on the podcast.

01:52:22
Speaker 2: That phenomenal I turned up the first time I read it. That's really good.

01:52:27
Speaker 3: Fire shout out Christian, and I know that like it's fun for the new dads because there's a lot of stuff that I'm sure I tell stories and you're like, I've been there. I know what Sherman's feeling. But the thought of like holding the hands for the first time, and oh my god, it's just as good as like you think it's gonna be. Just Scarlet this morning we put her in her little king sized bed and she's just gripping my finger. Yeah, sitting there going you're real like you're here. Yeah, shout out you Christian, shout.

01:52:57
Speaker 2: Out you Christian. Just imagine one day when.

01:53:01
Speaker 1: The inevitable happens and they're an adult and they're reading.

01:53:06
Speaker 2: That, Oh, that's gonna be so sick. Yeah, that is really cool, man.

01:53:12
Speaker 1: I have one here from Logan Sullivan, Will Shurham chef Derek Logan from Texas Here. I've been at Tier one with Bust within the Boys for years now. Will and I's fatherhood journey has always followed the same timeline, and in April twenty twenty two.

01:53:26
Speaker 2: We had our first child, a perfect baby girl.

01:53:29
Speaker 1: Then two years later, my wife and I were expecting our second child in August of twenty twenty four, which I think is around the same time A Scottie sadly tragedy struck and our second beautiful daughter was still born. Oh fuck, it is a pain like I never thought was imaginable, leaving a gaping hole in our hearts that will.

01:53:59
Speaker 2: Buckle up.

01:53:59
Speaker 1: Fell listen, leap it a gaping hole in our hearts that will never be filled. And now, as I was listening to an episode a while back, Will brought up Will brought up ruse imaginary friend Nelly, which is the name of our second daughter who is now an angel.

01:54:31
Speaker 2: Man, and it broke me to the core.

01:54:35
Speaker 1: I'm a man of faith, and I think that God brings people into your life for a reason if they are at a distance and you watch them through a screen or listen to them on a podcast. Man, but we'll just know your daughter has our angel watching over. It's been along hard road, but my wife and I were just blessed with our third child in July this year. So I'm now dead of two girls and one boy. One just got to having a little sooner than we did.

01:55:14
Speaker 2: Boys.

01:55:15
Speaker 1: Don't ever let them moment slip by. In love with everything you have. I thank you so much for what you were doing with for the dads, and don't worry.

01:55:22
Speaker 2: I cry with you guys every week. Hashtag PD six Fuck man Logan. Thank you. That's a really sweet note from Logan.

01:55:37
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's uh, it's fascinating how the world works and just how the universe.

01:55:47
Speaker 2: It's like, you know, when he talks about being on a similar journey and.

01:55:50
Speaker 1: Having kids, who are you know, around the same age, And the second one came around when Scotty did, and I a pain like I never thought was imaginable. Yeah, I can't even you know, obviously we've experienced pain like visually on this pot before when I talk about my mom, and I know what that's like. And so it's like I sit here and empathize and try to put myselves in the shoes of a family that goes through something like that, Like I'm just imagining that with my wife, and.

01:56:31
Speaker 2: To think like you came.

01:56:31
Speaker 1: Across this podcast and just a story of the imaginary friend of Nelly and no matter what, no matter, it doesn't matter. But think in the universe is telling you something that it's that it brings that thought to you. Yeah, it is incredible, And I don't know, man, Logan, I love you, brother, and thank you for sending that email in and that was that was I was like reading ahead when I was getting to the moments where I was getting emotional, I'm like, god, I rarely read.

01:57:10
Speaker 3: The the stuff before the episodes, but Derek showed me that email and then that one before the episode, and so as you're reading it, my heart was just gripping because I was like, dude, that note from Logan was like truly just a such a sweet, sweet note, Dude, so much.

01:57:32
Speaker 2: Like love to them and their family because moments like that are special.

01:57:39
Speaker 3: And Jill had a friend pass away that she was very close with, and I forget the story with ladybugs, but there was some kind of moment with her and her friends with a ladybug and forever ladybugs are. Now that's in Jay, you know. And I'll even say it to Jill when like a late ladybug literally landed on our windshield earlier this week and I made that.

01:58:07
Speaker 2: I made that comment. And you know, it's like when you experience like pain and loss, like.

01:58:18
Speaker 1: You just feel like you look around for anything, yeah, that can help give you some closure, absolutely anything. Your faith gets challenged, your faith maybe gets better, maybe your faith gets worse.

01:58:30
Speaker 2: No matter what, you feel lost.

01:58:32
Speaker 1: And you're just looking for something and to think that just an episode of Imaginary Friend Nelly is something that we can latch onto for pretty much ever, Right, Yeah, I don't know. That's thank you for sharing, Logan. I'm sure it was probably hard just typing that stuff up.

01:58:53
Speaker 3: Man, We're very lucky the comments that we receive the show, or the dms that we receive, whatever the case may be. Just want to again, I know I've said this a thousand times, thank you for sharing everyone that has ever shared anything like that that hasn't been on the show. It just means the world that people are opening up like that and are sharing their deepest, you know, closest to the vest like emotions.

01:59:25
Speaker 2: It's it's probably therapeutic. It's probably therapeutic.

01:59:29
Speaker 3: I know, I myself, I don't feel worthy of it, but like I feel so blessed to read notes like that, and it's just it's crazy. Yeah, it's crazy cool. Sorry, Yeah, but love you guys. And also shout out Texas, Texas kind of representing this week on the Collins and the Ride ends.

01:59:52
Speaker 1: Yeah, man, quote topic lesson Yes, what mine was this week was essentially okay question for the audience, not necessarily a lesson or anything of that nature.

02:00:06
Speaker 2: Essentially a question something that I think about a lot. But what is a value as a parent?

02:00:14
Speaker 1: And if this is a clip right now, just know my eyes are red because we cried on this episode. What is a value that you What is a value that you would love your child to carry with them throughout their life?

02:00:30
Speaker 2: That would be my question for everybody.

02:00:35
Speaker 1: More more more of a I'll re see the question, what is a value that you would love your child to carry with them throughout their life? Uh? Because essentially it's like we have we we go through like core values with any team, any organization, any business. I know, my wife and I we've sat down and done core values with the family that I know we need to.

02:00:56
Speaker 2: We we've made them. We made the core values.

02:00:59
Speaker 1: Charle made them into the awesome like photos that we can hang on the wall and stuff like that. But it's nothing that we sit there and revisit and we both know that you know, she'll she'll throw it on me. And at the end of the day, there are things that you need to revisit because values are basically the foundation for how you show up to the world.

02:01:16
Speaker 2: And so I think about that all the time with like rue and like being a dad, And what.

02:01:19
Speaker 1: Values do I want to instill in my kids and how can I harness them in such a way to where it's like repeatable, Not like I'm always looking for new values. I'm always going to be and be curious of everything else. But what are a couple of values that I truly hope my kids represent throughout their life? So I wanted to share that as a question so that way we can all think on it. You guys can chime in the comments, write up something if you like. We'll read them on the episode. I would like to marinate on a couple and then we can go through them. We can go through them next week.

02:01:47
Speaker 2: Absolutely.

02:01:48
Speaker 3: I just wrote it down on a card because I I cannot wait for that.

02:01:53
Speaker 2: Yeah, just come with one or two.

02:01:54
Speaker 1: Obviously, there's there's gonna be a bunch that we hope our kids represent.

02:01:57
Speaker 3: Dude, that's gonna be sick because there's gonna be a lot of submissions on that. Like, that's gonna be a lot of fun to go through. I'm excited. I also have a lesson of the week that's quick. I can do it quick, bro. I wrote it in narrative form. I'll go ahead and just punch it out. This week's lesson of the Week from Sherman is block out the noise. I have two dogs at home. Wriggly ar CHIWEENI a wah wah wiener dog, and he is all but two inches off the ground. Our second is a little schnauzerdoodle named Goose. Wriggly needs a ramp in our house to go up and down our stairs to our master bedroom and then. Goose, on the other hand, has the speed of an Italian greyhound and the buddy the bunnies of Mac McClung. Shout out Mac McClung. He's one of the most athletic dogs I've ever seen, and I grew up around a lot of bird dogs, so I've seen some athletic dogs in my day. On walks when I let the dogs off their leash and a big grassy field, Wriggly loves to go into bully alpha mode on Goose. He goes up and barks right in his face, making Goose wither up and fold. To Wriggly's assertive dominance, Goose will try to run and have fun in the field and show off his speed and his quick turns, but slow little Wriggly will cut off goose Goose's tight turns and angrily barking Goose's face. Jealous of Goose's speed, Goose will immediately slow down again and hide and obey wriggly sparks. But after two or three times of this happening, Goose will suddenly remember that Wriggly is half his size and needs a ramp to go up three measly steps of stairs, and has triceratops elbows that don't allow him to go above the speed of five miles per hour. When that clicks in Goose's brain, he suddenly catches the second gear to his already cheetah like speeds, and he will take off like a bullet, running full speed for hundreds of yards, rolling in the grass, cutting tight turns, and coming up to his mom and dad, jumping almost to our shoulders just to say hello with a big smile. All the while Wrigley is left in the dust, barking and barking and barking from further and further and further away, his bark's growing more and more quiet. As the wind is ripping through Goose's ears, the sun is shining on his face and his mom and dad are shouting in the distance, good boy, goosey. So just a reminder of I know we brought up the comment the other day, which I didn't take offense to it, but I did think to myself, like that is a good reminder of like all the positive stuff on this show that we talked through and how much fun we have. A comment really doesn't like that doesn't affect me because I'm so in this moment and this isn't me defending myself. This is more of like I kind of want other people to feel this way, Like I just feel so in this moment and this off unity that was presented to me, and like what incredible thing the show is that Like that comment doesn't really like stick, And I feel like there's so much power in like not letting the noise get to you and like being able to press on and press forward you and continue to be you.

02:05:21
Speaker 1: So much power in having your own power, yeah power, and like taking your power yes, or so you are caught up and it's just you know, hey, take back, take back the power you have to block out, block out the noise, yes.

02:05:37
Speaker 3: Or allowing like just being in the mindset of like even the like Fat Stafford comments, like I genuinely enjoy those and like what a funny like fun thing that has become. And I'm literally going to order a Rams jersey probably later today and dress up as Fat Stafford at this Zoot thing.

02:05:57
Speaker 1: Like you're right, though, there's such a there's such a power in feeling comfortable in moments where you can easily feel embarrassed.

02:06:06
Speaker 3: Yeah, and just lean into what you excel at too, Like there's no better thing than why I know, I use the metaphor of my dogs, but like watching Goose rip like that is truly a sight to see.

02:06:19
Speaker 2: It's like, what do you do?

02:06:20
Speaker 3: Like this little JOWEENI yap and he can't even touch you, Goose when you get to your full speed, he's nothing.

02:06:28
Speaker 2: Go rib dog like you got it.

02:06:31
Speaker 3: So I just wanted the viewers to hear that and like whatever noise is got you feeling like this, dude, just shut it out and move forward and be you and excel and have your moment in a big grassy, open field with embrace the fun.

02:06:49
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, embrace the fun for sure. Bro, Thank you. I don't know how dad centric that is, but it just kind of hit me, how could it be dad centric? You are you writing that?

02:07:04
Speaker 1: It shows how much you were in this certain moment and how much it's like everything else didn't matter, but you like watching your dogs and kind of writing that stuff out. Or I feel like for dads or for parents, there's so many stressors and things that go.

02:07:18
Speaker 2: On outside of the house, and when you are.

02:07:20
Speaker 1: At home, it's like being so present and in tune that you have some descriptive kind of write up like you just had, because you know, it kind of shows that you are you are in that moment and whatever the noise is was is not there. It doesn't matter. Yeah, Like you being present in that moment is what it's about.

02:07:38
Speaker 3: Dude, that's really good to you because I was not coming from that either. Of like being able to shut off other little parts of your life that might be affecting you, but they're not there in that moment. That's a dude, that's really good too, because I have struggled with anxiety plenty of times. I mean that was a crippling thing, like twenty seventeen, twenty eighteen, and yeah, just being able to like tell yourself, like, hey that is that's not what is pertinent right now, it's not important. And ninety percent of the time that anxiety or thought that you're having isn't even true.

02:08:18
Speaker 2: It's like an imagination. It's fake. You're making it up.

02:08:21
Speaker 3: It's an assumption, and you're stealing on it and reumigating on it, and like.

02:08:25
Speaker 2: Just let it go.

02:08:27
Speaker 3: It's okay, Like you don't. That's a good job on that, dude. Look around and embrace the beautiful. Whether we were having a Nashville, Tennessee.

02:08:35
Speaker 1: Right, god, I hope everybody else experience is experiencing some good foliage.

02:08:39
Speaker 2: Yes, I know Nashville, Tennessee is at the moment. Oh yeah, oh yeah.

02:08:43
Speaker 1: Hey, take out your trash. We love you, We appreciate you. Continue to engage and make sure you are subscribed. Just double check for your boys. Consider subscribing if you are not PT six homework for revement.

02:08:56
Speaker 3: Don't forget your homework assignment value you want.

02:08:59
Speaker 2: Yes value, come with some values in the comments. Yes, love you guys. Take out the trash.