Will Compton Recaps Eventful Halloween Weekend & The Importance of Family Core Values | For The Dads

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Speaker 2: I'm rocking with my co host Fat.

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Speaker 1: Stafford Sherman Young, who is a father of hol.

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Speaker 2: Month old four month old as of yesterday, four.

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Speaker 1: Month old as of yesterday, Scar Scars, Scarlett Scar. I'm a father of two, a three year old Rue and an eleven month old whose birthdays in a few days. One year old Scottie, scott Zilla, Joe Lee. Happy early birthday, Early birthday, Scotty. So we have a lot on the show to cover. We just got done with Halloween, Shure them had a solo had a solo trip on Saturday, solo mission on Saturday.

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Speaker 2: Jill ended up coming. I'll give the details. You'll give the details.

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Speaker 1: You also took Scarlett to daycare for the very first time, so first time daycare stories coming on.

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Speaker 2: Jill came to that I did have a solo mission on Saturday.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we'll get all those details right. Charlo and Rue had a trip to London. I might jump into a little bit. We had our boo at the zoo, which we cannot wait to talk about how awesome that was for all the PT sixers showing up. What else do we have? We have values homework at the end of the episode for our quote topic lesson a couple of weeks ago, we challenged the PT sixers are throwing some comments. Write some comments for values they want their child to know throughout life. Yes, some of their favorite values that they would like to instill. So that'll be fun. We have a hot line six and one of the dads if you want to be featured on the show. We will be playing voicemails towards the end of the episode where we feature PT sixers calling in for whether it's a win, a loss of story, whatever it is, encouragement doesn't matter. We will feature you on the on the show. Six on one. The dads. You can also go to bwtv dot com if you want to support and be a true Papa Team six or maybe you're a Seman Team six, or maybe you're not, maybe you're not having a kid yet, or you're not a father and you're just part of Semen Team six. St six Chef Jack, he is the leader of that of that army. But go shop in our merch store bwtv dot com. Am I missing anything?

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Speaker 1: Yes, like we enjoy reading everything on the show. Comments, engagement on social media, the comments under our YouTube channel under each episode, we love to dive into those. We are going to start moving some of those toward the back instead of taking up so much of the bulk of the front of the episode. So bear with us. We're always working through the kings here for the Dead's very small channel right now, but one day, boys, it'll be big, really big, all right, especially if it has any If there's any correlation to the PT sixers that showed up to Boo with the Zoo.

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Speaker 2: Dude, the Boo at the Zoo could not have gone any better, any better. And I'm driving over and I just a little bit of anxiety. Yeah, like anxiety. I'm like, you know, Will, what are your expectations here? You're doing a meetup. You're not doing like a meet and greet. It's not like a.

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Speaker 1: Signing photographs something that was very pre planned and and advertised all over the place. What are you expecting coming to this Boo with the Zoo while you get the families? I'm driving over it. I my expectations that I put in my head is we might have two families that show up. I know, and I know one of them and it was Alan the barber. Yeah, it was my guy Allan over at Culture Cuts. He already texted, Hey, we're coming. I'm like, hell you, I'm fired up. And that kind of gave me. It's like, no, no matter what, we'll have one. The boys at the shop are going, yep, we'll just have a good time if nobody shows up. But then show up, and there were quite a those are quite quite a bit.

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Speaker 2: Of people quite a bit of people. Derek, thank you so much. Yeah, I was really really pleasantly surprised. I told myself that, like the number, and I'm talking in total busting with the boys, everybody, if we need everybody. If we had fifty people there there, I was going to be blown away.

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Speaker 1: How many fifty?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I count the group picture, which was like minus the lul Wan family, there were.

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Speaker 1: A few there like I saw, I saw, I think I saw comments or two of like we just missed it because we were there early.

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Speaker 2: There were two different couples that got there just a little too early or not too early, but they got there a little early the group photos. So those two couples, the Luwan family, and then there were like four or five busting with the boys guys that were in the group photo either. If you count the group photo, it was like forty six forty seven, so we went above fifty blown away. I was blown away.

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Speaker 1: I don't anytime we kind of talked about it or spoke about it, I just I was always like expectations low low boys, ain't nobody show and it's kind of raining outside, it's cloud, it's a little kit it was.

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Speaker 2: It was an ugly night, ugly night that turned into a beautiful night.

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Speaker 1: PT sixers showed up, Bro.

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Speaker 2: Huge special shout out to And I can't remember everyone's names. I wish i'd have my notesap out and just had typed in names of families. But met Steve and his wife, met Alec and his wife. And what I was blown away in that conversation were the MT sixers. Yeah, that were sick of where's Jilly Bean? Yeah, we're starting.

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Speaker 1: We loved Jill.

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Speaker 2: We loved Jill. We want to meet Jill. Where's Jill?

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Speaker 1: Jill and I are just alike?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, I love that. And they were sickos for the show. Yeah, thank you so much for what you are doing. Buddy came about I forget his name, but.

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Speaker 1: Dressed as Willie one shelf Joe Siah, Joe Siah.

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Speaker 2: Get themedia.

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Speaker 3: It's comedian Discovery on social media.

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Speaker 1: Yes, go follow comedian Discovery on social media.

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Speaker 2: Yes, we need to pull up his official tag because it's like Nashville Comedian Discovery. He's in our comments all the time.

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Speaker 1: Oh, he's a pos, He's a Tier one. He had the four the deads At, he had a Papa Team six shared on he had a shelf around his waist with a form energy on it, a liquid IV packet.

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Speaker 2: Like, and as I'm walking up to the zoo, he's already in the will called I thought it was you. He has Comedian Discovery and then Comedian Discovery Live.

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Speaker 1: That seemed both to be We got a photo too, chefs. I'll send that to you so that way you can put it up on the episode.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they do have a good pick together, but it just blown away. Dude, and the little ones. There were two little ones that were born on July fourth, the day after Scarlet. I got to talk to those dats. That was incredible of like, bro, we're every step of the way together, Like every single thing that you're talking about each week is exactly what I'm going through. And it makes the show so much fun because it's like, oh my gosh, yes, yeah, Sherman, tell them what you're going through, because that's me trying to tell people what I'm going Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It was it was all time and kind of a balance too, because I could feel the like Rue wanting to go into the zoo. Yeah, I feel the family dynamic of like are we gonna get going into the zoo because I'm talking to everybody. Part of me is wanting to bring everybody in and give like a thank you speech, and then I'm nervous because it's like the whole public speaking thing. Yeah, so I'm all right, let me just try to talk to as many people as I can. Maybe that'll be good enough. Then as I'm talking to as many people as I can, my wife like, Hey, are we gonna go? Rus really wanting to go into.

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Speaker 2: The zoo and their kids like dad did, come on, we gotta go in y o our et siko friends like I see their kids are pulling their hands like YO were going or what? Yeah, Like if we're gonna shoot, we gotta shake them. Essentially, yes, and so it was all time.

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Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much who ever showed up, everybody who showed up to Boot the Zoo. We will do more meetups in the future. That was our very first one trying to embrace Pootober. The turnout was incredible and exceeded expectations and all the support from the boys uh here at the shop go was was awesome. But great time Boo with the Zoo, Great time booth the zoo. We had to we almost made it to the trigger treating part, and but that was one where I saw the trigger treating and I was like, if we enter into this, it's gonna it's gonna get bad very quickly, because you're starting to push around bedtime, dinner time. Kids hadn't really eaten Papa bet sixer right here, didn't pack a bob, So.

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Speaker 2: I wasn't like, been there, yeah, been there, yeah.

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Speaker 1: So you know, I didn't know, like because it's like, all right, we were gonna start five fifteen, five thirty five to forty five, so I will probably go around an hour and then we'll be on our way home. We'll get home by seven. Not realizing that booth the Zoo was like thirty five minutes away from my house. So getting over there, I'm like, sweetheart, we have to leave, like we're supposed to be taking the photo, Like I'm already behind five thirty, Like this is this is the event that we put on. We've got to get going. Ruse pissed off because she wore this fairy costume. This dress was like massive, and she's got this crown kind of like not like a heavy crown, but not the plastic crown. So it was a little bit more dense. So I'm trying to get her in the car seat. And as I get around the door to lift her up put her in. I pick her up, her head hits the ceiling in the car bro so the crown just like goes down on her head.

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Speaker 2: She's crying and Mom's not out there yet.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, sweetheart, we just got to get She's like, it hurts, it hurts something.

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Speaker 2: Do you want to take it off? Do you want to take off the ground?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 1: I want to leave it. Okay, then we gotta figure out what's what's step two here? We gotta get you in the car seat. It's too tight, sweetheart. You're wearing this dress. It's gonna be tight. This is what you you wanted this dress.

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Speaker 2: Charles like, what happened? What happened? I'll be stung her.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Don't take her danger.

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Speaker 2: Hey cause she got the stuff, the fluff coming up on the shoulders.

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Speaker 1: You're trying to strap her in the car seat, the costumes like my chim, I shouldn't you know how We're just everything's.

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Speaker 2: Got to be off of her face.

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Speaker 1: She's like her daddy, Yeah, yeah, yeah, everything's got to be off of her face, and it's this massive costume. I'm trying to get the bottom part of the buckle like I'm like squeezing to get strapped down. I'll loosen it up here in a second, Just give me a second. And it was a whole shebang, it Sweeter. We have to we have to go, We have to leave.

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Speaker 2: I wish that we had a camera on that. And the young household we were in the exact same shambles. Shambles. Jill gets the Academy Award like Legacy Academy Award for having the best attitude once we got there, but I too showed up. Hey are we ready? Well, when when do we need to get Well, we need to get there kind of early. Why aren't you texting me and tell me that we need to get there kind of early? You're just telling me right now, honey. I understand that my communication could have been better, But you need to get in the shower.

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Speaker 1: You need to get your She was probably get stuff to the other shere and probably slowly walks over to her. Hey, that was on me. She was probably just sitting there in her mind like I know what it was, Like, what else do you have to say. He's like, sorry, I'm.

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Speaker 2: On all fours. I'm already bowing. I'm already bowing, just saying we got a hurry and this is my fault and I'm so sorry and I love you.

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Speaker 1: Just wasting more time with your apologies.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but we we Hey, we got there, We got there.

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Speaker 1: How how long did you guys make it? Dude?

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Speaker 2: We bet we made it quite a long time. Because we were trying to keep Scarlet on a later sleep schedule going into daylight savings, so we're part we're moving her bedtime closer and closer to eight pm Central so that when the time flip happened, she's back to seven o'clock.

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Speaker 1: And heady play all the young dads out there, all the young dads out there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a dad hack. That's you know, that comes from Jill. That was her game plan. But I couldn't give you an exact time. It was definitely past seven o'clock. You made the greatest play of all time. We saw the comptons leaving and we got to say bye to them, and I'm like, hey, should we head out too, because her you know, bedtime fee time, Scarlet needs to go down pretty soon, and Jill and I end up going, well, there's probably an exit through the trigger, treating like there's probably a faster way to the exit. We'll just go through there. Biggest mistake because you get it's like you walk through the zoo.

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Speaker 1: There were two crossroads. You go right or left coming out of the jont Yeah, Rue was dead set on going right. There's a monster down there. I gotta go see it. Yeah, sweetheart, the entire group is going left and we have to go left.

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Speaker 4: Can I just tell the myspect of it, because I think I have a good Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Chef was sitting there from afar seeing kind of the this intense negotiation going down, and it had to be fast because we're already trying to move. It's like, hey, we got to get going to the zoo.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So the way that the Boon Zoo works, it's a big loop and you split. You can go left or right. And I'm talking to Will. I forget what we're talking about. But we get to this cross and we're kind of deciding where we're going to go. Everyone in the group's kind of like consensus is we're going left, and Uh, all of a sudden, I see I see Rue looking down the right side, locked, I mean staring, and she's locked. I want to go, and then she's starting to say like I want to go that way and I can. I look up and I see Will going no. No.

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Speaker 3: When you go left and she goes. You could see that instantly.

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Speaker 2: That was not It was like Ru's dying on the hill.

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Speaker 4: It's like when the world leaders in the sixties were getting together and talking about nuclear disarmament, but neither one one to back down.

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Speaker 2: You can see them.

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Speaker 4: For the first time since working here, I saw panic on my boss's face.

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Speaker 3: Pure panic.

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Speaker 2: Was goings Cuba. The missiles are coming to our island.

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Speaker 4: You need to take years out of Turkey before we do anything in Cuba.

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Speaker 3: That was what was happening.

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Speaker 4: And then so I feel like I made a heavy play to get I was standing right in front of all of it, like maybe like three ft. I decided to walk around kind of do like a little let's let Will Will and Charo, you know, negotiate further. And then we ended up going into what's it called with all the reptiles and stuff.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I don't know the name of that exhibit, but it's one of their newer exhibits.

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Speaker 3: Reptile, Yeah, the spiders and the fun stuff.

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Speaker 4: I went in there with like Jack, Matt and Ge and then I come back out and I'm like, we're you know.

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Speaker 3: We meet up with everyone else and they're like, oh, the contents. They might have gotten out a little.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we should have followed suit.

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Speaker 1: Well it's not. There's an entire group. We were obviously in a pack for a minute. It's like, you know, how is the whole boot, how's the old zoo experience gonna work out for everybody? At the same time, you want everybody to stay in the group, have fun. We're laughing, we're finding different things. Kiddos are being hilarious. But Ru was lock step on going right. Finally get her to go left, eventually telling her, Hey, there's gonna be monsters around here, and I'm like, we're gonna see everything in this park. We're gonna see everything. You go left, you go right, doesn't matter, We're gonna see all of it. We'll go left and we'll get to see the monsters last. But there's a bunch of other monsters over here that we gotta go see.

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Speaker 2: Monsters, candy friends. Yeah, I'm team roue. Yeah, I'm here for you. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And then I was like, we were like, oh, look at that pumpkin up there, and it was just talking pumpkin. Some some some workers are just switching throughout the day and they're just sitting there's this pumpkin voice talking to kids that come up the entire day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So we finally get going left where we're catching up to the crew, but then there's this pumpkin that talks, so ru has to talk to the pumpkin, has to talk to the pumpkin. And I'm like, oh god, we gotta keep it moving. Is this on your way out? We stopped and talked to the pumpkin way out. Even on the way in, we're trying to catch everybody else.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know.

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Speaker 1: My wife's like, hey, you gotta we got to if we want to get through. And then you're gonna have to stop talking to so many people. And I'm like, sweetheart, I'm with you, But what am I supposed to do? Like they're pt sixers, Like people are being friendly saying hello to me. I want to just brush them off, like I want to engage, I want to talk to them. I'm trying to keep it together. And then we get to you know, we finally got to where it was the trick or Treat and then there was the reptile exhibit to where there was a bathroom in there. Rooue had to go potty. She wants Dad added to take her potty. So I walk her, walk her to this stall and I'm in this small stall bro with this massive dress on rue trying to figure it out, trying to pick her up. I'm my sweetheart, you just have to stand still for a second so I can get this entire dress up. I'm like picking it all up. And I'm picking her up. I'm setting her on the toilet.

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Speaker 2: It's like, no, you can't. The dress is gonna get what the just gonna get wet. I was like, I'm trying. You just gotta stay, but some guy's pooping in the next Oh boy, we survived. This survived. Came out of the stall. I was sweating. I'm washing my hands. She doesn't do anything. Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: She's like, I want to wash my hands too. I'm like, all right, you can wash your hands. I'm like, reach up there, she said, I I can't reach it. I'm like, all right, Dad's gonna have to pick you up. I don't want you to pick me up. I'm like, I don't know what. You're gonna have to grow along her arms. Rue, if you want to get up under the water, I'm gonna have to pick you up. How are you gonna get up.

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Speaker 3: There to help me?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? A fellow dad walks outway, Hey, how you doing?

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Speaker 2: Just say it makes you appreciate that beginning part of the PT six meetup, there was a single baby crying. There wasn't a single kid freaking out. Everybody's like in the best, dude, those those times are rare. It was like time just stood still for a second. We all got to mingle.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and she had said patience.

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Speaker 2: Chaos ensued. Yeah, chaos ensued, But that's that's life, that's parenting. Yeah, was like, are you sure you.

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Speaker 1: Don't want we don't want to go through the trigger treating thing. I was like, I think we need to get home because Scotty will go sideways at some point. Yeah, as long as we can get ahead start And also like, ru's gonna be trigger treating on Friday. Yeah, she's gonna get her. She doesn't need all the you know, she's gonna have enough candy. Dad is gonna have enough candy. I don't need all this candy. So we ended up believing. But it was a great time.

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Speaker 2: It was great and Scarlet to the same point. It took us forever to get out. We went through the trigger treating loop. Huge mistake. Scarlet dide sach a good job and the part she never cried. As soon as we got to the car, it was complete mounthdown. Yeah, whole car right home, just screaming and Jill's just sitting back there holding her hands on driving. She's going. I know that was not fair. Mom and Dad made you stay up too late.

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Speaker 1: To talking to your little one, like as you're driving home, shout out Ruge. She did a great job. As Scotty was screaming as well. Ru's just kind of sitting in the pocket.

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Speaker 2: She was helping.

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Speaker 1: Well, she'll like talk to her sometimes, but as far as just sitting there patiently, like sometimes like when one's going the other can start finding their lane to start losing their mind too. Yeah, and was just doing a she was doing a good job of just like staying patient with us. Wanted to talk to MoMA. You know, we're all talking back and forth we're trying to like coach threw up, Hey, Scotty wants you to do this, or Scotty would love if you saying to her, and she'll like lean over and try to do a couple of things, like it's not working. It's all right, sweet we're almost home. Yeah, like fifteen minutes, Like yeah, fifteen minutes actually on the dot. Oh now it's fourteen that's a long time. I know, sweetheart, you're doing an incredible job back there. She'll she'll get to that age.

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Speaker 2: I feel like four and five is where she's going to become like an attachment of you guys all met. Yeah, I'm seeing JJ really special. Shout out to JJ Klomp.

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Speaker 1: He shout out JJ Clump.

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Speaker 2: He is a son of one of our employees here, Jeremy Klomp, and some of the PT six Sicks may have met him at the meetup. I actually got invited by the Clumps to go trick or treating with them on Halloween night. Had to blast, But I think the main takeaway from that night was JJ Clump just being the ultimate big brother that I've ever seen truly as a was he five Yeah, just best attitude ever During the trick or treating. He's wanting to hold Jill's hand the whole time, or my hand the way he treats Jill and holds doors open, for the way he treats Scarlet. He was asking for extra kid. He didn't know that Scarlet was too young to have candy, but he was saying, Scarlet's back in the street while we're t treating. So these parents have no idea who Scarlet is. And JJKBS trick or treat for Scarlet too. They're like, oh for Scarlet, Yeah, I need one more candy for Scarlet. They're like, oh for Scarlett, just like Jail, I got it. For Scarlet, I got it. It's just like, dude, Halloween was so it was so special to get to share that night with the clumps because Scarlet's too young to trick or tree, although she came along.

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Speaker 1: How fun is it though, just as a parent now watching the little kid's trick or tree.

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Speaker 2: Dude, the magic is in the air. Halloween might be. It was already at the top of my list. I love Christmas, I love Fourth of July. But y'all know me, I'll dress up. Oh sure, we need you to dress up for this video? Oh, twist my arm. I love dress. Halloween's your favorite holiday? I think it might be now just seeing all the magic in the air. And maybe once I have my first Fourth of July with a bunch of kids, I'm gonna be like, all right, Fourth of July is back on top for.

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Speaker 1: Those I have my first Fourth of July and I'm giving a kid beer for the.

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Speaker 2: First I'm handing a bottle Rocket.

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Speaker 3: Don't tell your father.

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Speaker 4: We used to blow up Frau for reference for anyone that's curious. Sherman on like the third day of October came in and I guess, like a Yellowstone like Dutton outfit and brought a twenty two gage with unloaded of course unloaded unload. Yeah, Sherm's all in. He's bought in. And if you guys watched yesterday's intro busting with the Boys, if Taylor, I think if there ever was a guy to do a spook off to take supreme reign of October, and I don't think you would do it, but I wouldn't. Gam would be the guy that would be He's the He's the which Stark was it the.

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Speaker 3: King of the North?

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Speaker 4: John snow No Rob Yeah, he's sorry, he's not he doesn't want the throne, but he.

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Speaker 3: Could have it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yoh, Taylor is the king of Spooktober. I want to be his prince of darkness, if that makes sense. Like I I kneel, I kneel to Taylor and I give him my sword. My sword is his.

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Speaker 1: This is a I see it more as a collective. That's why you could be a prime you could be a prime cat in spooped Over.

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Speaker 2: That's why I'm his prince of dark Like I'm I'm a lord. Yeah, I'm a lord. Yeah, but I'm a house young not taking over spoop Chover, not taking home. I am joining. I'm a bannerman, thank you. I'm a bannerman of the Luan house Chef.

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Speaker 1: I love how you just brought up the example and immediately he's like, no, no, besinech you.

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Speaker 2: I could never but that. That was my Halloween, and I would love to hear about yours. And I can go into mind a bit more. But just seeing the clumps operate, getting to hang out with the family, getting a trick or treat. There was one trick or treat station that had fireball shots for the adults. That was a blast.

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Speaker 3: That's that's like a.

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Speaker 1: New thing that I've learned over the past couple of years. As we went out the last two years we went like the bell Meat area, there is the Bell Meat Lynx. And then this year we went to Nicol Lane. Nicole Lane or Nicol Lane where they block off the road and so you're parking outside the shree. Yeah, you're parking outside. It's like this is a full on like a like an OG spot. Apparently in Nashville. There's this instagram that posted like all these og spots that you can go to in Nashville. So we chose Nicole Lane or Nicol Lane, and uh, basically every house, bro every house embraces Halloween. So to our kids are out there running around, ripping around. We're in a family costume. We're inside out. I'm fear Charles bing Bong. You know. Lola is sadness, Opah is anger. Rue is discussed, and I'm so proud of her for painting her face. She was all decked out in green, wore the wig, didn't want to wear it first, ended up wearing the wig. Talked her into how cool it looked, and she's like kind of shy looking in the mirror kind of like what do I think of this? And we're all like, how cool she looks. She's get the scott the smile on her face. Scotty was joy. Even though she wouldn't wear anything on her head, like she would let us put the little like little baby wig on her. She's kept tearing it off. We bet all, let's get this famy photo. I'd be like holding it on. She'd just be scott Zilla would just be trying to rip it down. But also along the street too, it's like parents are outside, they're enjoying beverages that like everybody knows. It's like a tribal effort. So the kids are ripping around having fun. The older kids are running around. There's even a couple of houses to where there's just a note on the door, candies tipped over, and it's like we're out trigger treating right now. Please take two, you know, be kind all this stuff. You know, the the hoodlums are just out there ripping. They take ten piece of candy, they.

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Speaker 3: Taking it all.

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Speaker 1: Rue's a lot more shy this year going up to the doors and saying trick or treat. So it's like that process of getting her to embrace her like strong voice and like, hey, here's where you say trick or treat. You say trick or treat you pick out a piece of candy the back take two and we'll be standing there looking down at the looking down at the box of candy. I'm like, sweetheart, you got to pick a couple. Like I know, you see those m and ms, Go pick out some m and ms. She'll pick up the m and ms and she'll be like, I be like, sweetheart, you got to pick another one. There's kids behind you. You got a big one out, Like, why don't you go ahead and grab that snickers down there for your dad? She'll grab the snickers, throw it in. But uh yeah, Halloween, it's like a It is a hot It is a holiday that climbs the charts fast when you are a parent.

00:26:16
Speaker 2: Fast, dude.

00:26:17
Speaker 1: You'll get it too again when it comes Christmas time, especially once she gets like she you know, she's a few months now, but next year when she's like actually trying to understand the concept of opening up presence and this is yours and it's a It's magical.

00:26:32
Speaker 2: Bro, It is truly magical. And I already loved the holidays. But like Scarlett and her little costume, and we did a DIY cotton candy and she has no idea what's going on, but she thought it was hilarious that there was all this fluff around her and it was tickling her. She was in the best mood. Yeah, and she was ripping because we just hot glued or Jill hot glued the cotton on. There. She was ripping her costume apart the whole night, but like having fun with it. And she would just get these handfuls of cotton and be like ad smiling and laughing, and she'd put the cotton in her mouth and just lose it and just start going. It was like this mixture of loving her costume hating her costume, but it was a blast. Dude.

00:27:17
Speaker 1: Yeah, Halloween, Halloween's a great holiday. How was how was the explain the solo mission? You were on a solo mission on Saturday. I know you had first day of daycare. Yes, so we can talk through the anxieties a parent heads going and taking your kid to daycare for the first time, the experience of dropping them off at daycare for the first time.

00:27:35
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was okay, So solo mission Jill is back at work. She's a nurse. She's a pediatric nurse. She works on a step down unit, so when the kids are getting out surgery, they come down to her unit. She works six to six and so basically from first feed to like almost tuck in, Like Jill really walked in the door once I drew the bath, and it was the first time that I had Scarlet solo that I truly felt, like, really said like, there was no notes like last time, There was no somebody in the comments.

00:28:15
Speaker 1: Well remember last time that was more of a general These are general notes for anybody who walks in the door.

00:28:20
Speaker 2: True, so true, and there were I love that somebody was like yo, Jillie bean meal prepped outfits for sure, zip bags and zip block bags. That comment made me lose it. That was hilarious. But there was none of that. It was just like, Dad, what do you got? I have full trust in you And it was such a great day. Dude. She's starting to get more active. She needs a lot of playing. She needs to be moving from room to room. As she stays in one room, she starts losing it. Waking your kid up, dude, I think any parent can agree just the smile you get when you come and get them out of their crib, dude, and you're doing the good morning voice. Yeah oh hello, yeah hello.

00:29:08
Speaker 3: She's sweeker.

00:29:11
Speaker 2: Grinning, She's kicking full like both legs are just kicking in the air, and dude, it was an incredible day. The absolute money move that I made because I was like, I gotta support Will with this Nebraska stuff. I gotta support Jill with her first day at work because she's gonna want to come home and be with me. I'm just kind of like, how do I go about like bouncing these two things. And I was like, I can easily take Scarlet to the shop like nobody, nobody would have an issue with that, and she needs to be entertained, like she needs to have things going on. I feel like the guys would be cool with it. I bring Scarlet up for the blaackout Stream blackout Stream. Matt Malone and chef and Ryan Nolan, who are three employees here at the shop, are all sitting in there and when I walk in with Scarlet there elated, they're all talking to her playing PT. Sixers are in the chat and Scarlett had a ball, dude and It was the perfect way to keep Scarlet awake right before that bedtime tucking. And Jill was honestly kind of proud of me that I brought her up to the shop and like was gouda got out of the house, was comfortable to do it. I was sending her pigs of like uh, and you can use that one for the episode.

00:30:32
Speaker 4: I have a video too, I took without you were somewhere else and me pushing her on the shoulder.

00:30:37
Speaker 1: That's hilarious.

00:30:38
Speaker 3: She was so well behaved she is.

00:30:40
Speaker 4: And there was no sleeping in that stream because it was five guys screaming at the TV. There's two games, so Will when I went to commercial break and Will sat down and started tweeting from his phote, make the fucking fight to them.

00:30:59
Speaker 2: They they kept on looking over at me, and I was giving y'all like the thumbs up because I'm like, the dogs go ballistic at our house all the time.

00:31:07
Speaker 1: She she's just snoozing.

00:31:09
Speaker 2: She's still loud, noisy, like y'all, y'all, do you.

00:31:13
Speaker 1: So I sent your wife a text?

00:31:16
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, he sent my wife a text.

00:31:20
Speaker 1: Do you want to sure him? And just by the way, for everybody, like you know, I'm trying to figure out how do I balance supporting my friend in the blackout and supporting my wife for her first day of work. So Wednesday, last Wednesday happens, and the boys are like, Chef was there too, So Chef can chime in, like, hey, are you gonna stream the games? Are you gonna go to the game? Are you gonna stream the game? We've been We've had weddings the last two weekends, so we were gonna stay home, and I'm like, yeah, yeah, let's stream the game. We can go and stream the game, Like who's gonna be your Chef's kind of rattling down, Hey, so Jared's gonna be out, Derek's gonna be out like people that could be out. He's like, but I can run the stream. He was gonna go to the game, the Dark Mode game for Tennessee. He's like, but I will. We can go black out here at the shop and I'll get in the fox on we'll watch it. He's like, it's truly no big deal, a true dog. And I'm kind of sitting that. I'm like, I mean, if I was like, I'm down to just me and you watch the game together. If you really want to go to Tennessee. Then bro go to Tennessee, Like, I'll figure out. I mean, I'll be able to watch.

00:32:17
Speaker 2: The Huskers play.

00:32:18
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she s Sherm's standing there too, and he's like, hey, we need everybody, we need everything. I was like, oh, were you in town? Would you be? Would you would you come? And he's like, I'll be there. I was like, you're gonna come to the stream. I was like, dude, let's rip it. We'll rip the stream. So Wednesday, the expectation of SHRM coming to the stream was there, and then what was it? Friday when we were kind of having our for the dad's meeting and talking about weekend plans and everything else I want to say. STRM started to say he.

00:32:46
Speaker 2: Might was it?

00:32:46
Speaker 1: You might not make the stream. Sherman realized, Oh, you weren't gonna beat like I might come in the second half.

00:32:52
Speaker 2: Sherman realized that his wife was working that day. The schedule.

00:32:57
Speaker 1: I might come in the second half. What you you talk about we need everybody and you're gonna be there on Saturday, and now you're telling me you're not gonna be there. Maybe you'll show up for the second half. When Jill gets home, Oh, have you not talked about this at all with your wife?

00:33:11
Speaker 2: The planning of it all to that at that point zero, and I'm sitting there knees buckling because I'm like, damn it, I said I was gonna go to this thing. Yeah, but also have not consulted with my wife, not realizing that she was gonna be working. Yeah, I've put myself in a blender.

00:33:29
Speaker 1: Shirm's greatness and achilles heel is that Sherman's the people pleaser. And so even when Scarlet's there and I walk in and I see Sherm, I thought, I saw, like, I saw your Chevy sitting out there, and I'm like, I wonder if Shirm's in the shop. Walk in, He's got Scarlet in the shop. I'm fired up. I'm like, bro, let's go. And so I'm thinking, all right, he's probably My thought in my head was he's gonna have Scarlet here. Jill might come by and pick up Scarlet. He's gonna take Scarlett home and then come back to the shop. So we get close to halftime or something, Sherm's talking about going to pick up food. But I know in Sherm's mind and you can can correct me if I'm wrong. But here's what the game I'm playing in my head is. There hasn't been a conversation of if he's going to be here for the second half. I am still assuming he's going to be here for the second half. In his mind, he might think like Will still might be assuming that I'm coming back. Sharam says this thing out loud outside the stream where it's like I'm gonna go pick up dinner, get Scarlett home, and kind of leaves it vague. And so before he leaves, and I just yell out of the stream room, knowing that he's probably just in a blender, I'm like, surem, you're coming back for the second half. Yeah, And he's like.

00:34:34
Speaker 2: I said, most likely not. Yeah. It goes and Jill totally put the ball in my court. Like there was no part of Jill being like you can't go. She sends mess.

00:34:48
Speaker 1: Text says something a little different.

00:34:50
Speaker 2: Well, hold on, hold on, hold on, because that text.

00:34:53
Speaker 1: Because they're so you're not coming back.

00:34:55
Speaker 2: I said.

00:34:55
Speaker 1: He's like, Jill's going to be excited to spend time with me, and so her first day work and again I'm pressing my man I'm busting his balls. I'm like, give me Joe's number, I'll shoot her a message.

00:35:05
Speaker 2: Wait wait before, okay, before you read this, because oh my gosh, my wife had no idea what she did when she sent that text. Because I read the text later. Oh really, and I was like, oh no, because of the result of the game, and she didn't mean anything by it. It was contemplating if she should follow up with the follow up text, now go ahead.

00:35:28
Speaker 1: So I text Jill it's about eight thirty and I said, honestly, it's crazy. You won't let me have one of my best guys when Nebraska is in an absolute dog fight all caps. She responded to me about ten minutes later, Haha, Willie see my most sincere apologies. I'm pulling the wifey card. Nebraska's in her thoughts and prayers. I mean, how do you lose a blackout game at home? Don't ask Baylor? Oops, go big Red.

00:35:59
Speaker 2: So she is taking a shot at Baylor. But in that text, Nebraska ends up losing, not like oh no, Red was internally in my eyeballs. But she sent it before they lost, correct, she said it.

00:36:19
Speaker 1: But maybe I don't know.

00:36:20
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure she sent it before.

00:36:22
Speaker 1: I remember seeing it, and when I saw I had to pull the wifey card, I'm like, yeah you did, because she had to clip my man's balls right here in front of all them.

00:36:29
Speaker 2: She she took a shot at Baylor, and unbeknownst, took a shot at Nebraska. She wanted to follow up with an apology text, she's still she still might because she knows how much he left.

00:36:41
Speaker 1: I should shoot her a text. Now looking back at this text, Uh.

00:36:50
Speaker 3: Yeah, FaceTime would work?

00:36:51
Speaker 2: All right?

00:36:55
Speaker 1: Is she work and you think she'll answer?

00:36:57
Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, she'll answer. I hope she answers, and if not, I can I can face.

00:37:11
Speaker 1: If not, tough look for all of us. She doesn't answer, I'm just gonna text, all right, bet.

00:37:27
Speaker 2: Oh, Jilly ban please.

00:37:31
Speaker 1: No answer?

00:37:32
Speaker 2: Will?

00:37:32
Speaker 1: Can I all right?

00:37:34
Speaker 3: Bet On?

00:37:37
Speaker 2: Will's playing mind drinks on Jill and me a sorry, what were you gonna say, chef?

00:37:45
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll make you quick. Not a football podcast, but on the stream. I do want to make a confession because I felt like Matt took a bullet and in the moment while Tennessee was losing, I was not in the headspace to go, hey, I probably need to clarify something you.

00:37:59
Speaker 1: Don't need to say. You don't need to say it. I already know, but you don't need to say it.

00:38:04
Speaker 3: I pulled the trigger.

00:38:05
Speaker 1: I know he threw under the bus right after.

00:38:07
Speaker 3: The he did.

00:38:08
Speaker 1: Yeah, he said, By the way, I didn't. I wasn't the one recording. Your chef kind of said, hey, you should record Will during this fourty one style.

00:38:14
Speaker 4: You're kidding, no, get a very Will. Yeah, He's like, hey, get your phone on you. I was like, yeah, I just wanted to.

00:38:22
Speaker 1: Bust his balls like that. Obviously is a moment you want to go.

00:38:25
Speaker 3: I was feeling bad about it too, motherfucker.

00:38:28
Speaker 1: Yeah no, I yeah, I knew. I knew that part. But tough loss, tough love. I went home and I kind of said the whole spiel on bus and like I stood outside, rain hit my face. I walked inside. Face was still painted, battered and bruised from that game emotionally, because I felt like the way we looked in that first half. I know this is in the football podcast and I'm not sitting here trying to talk about Nebraska, but God's kind of calling me to right now. Yeah, yeah, listen to it. Listen to the that first half. We looked like a playoff team, y'all. Did I mean the way we were taking it to USC that offense, I'm thinking, all right, you got u c l A. We'll whoop them Penn State, we got them now, and then you got to finish up with a hard fall game at Iowa. But at that point we'll be playing to get in the College for wall playoff because we'll be contending too. Yeah. But I walk inside after the loss and quietly shut the door. My wife's laying laying in bed reading the book, and I quietly shut the door, door locks, and she looks up at me, and she's like, I'm sorry, baby, like me too. I go and wash my face off, go lay down in bed next to her. She's like, how you feeling? Like, I'm just sad and uh, and I go, you know, there is one thing that makes me feel better.

00:39:42
Speaker 2: Though.

00:39:44
Speaker 1: She started giggling. She said, you know it was it was that time. Yeah, you know, all right, I got you, I got you. Hey, Maybe in the next couple of days, for sure, maybe I'll get on that shock wave some the next couple of days, I will say, six am this morning.

00:40:09
Speaker 2: Rizzo's listening just gone down and Willie, yeah, probably sitting here.

00:40:13
Speaker 1: Listen, they're in there listening right now, Like, gosh, damn it. Who knows who listens to this podcast? And you were talking about the shock wave at six am. Only the inside pt sikos know what we're talking about, but everybody kind of knows what we're talking about. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, tough, tough. You know that was the weekend. Oh we had a matter of fact, do you have anything else, chef?

00:40:35
Speaker 2: No.

00:40:35
Speaker 4: But by the way, Rizzo commoning was really cool. I've been trying to play really cool and not talk about it because it's just at this point it's it's run its course. But I do feel like that was pretty cool because he reached out and we talked about it like this is a niche or podcast, not for long, but to have someone like that, especially childhood hero of mine, that was super cool.

00:40:57
Speaker 3: So shout out, riz.

00:40:58
Speaker 1: We'll get him on this show one day.

00:40:59
Speaker 3: Be sick.

00:41:00
Speaker 2: It legitimized what Logan had texted us.

00:41:04
Speaker 1: Yes, thank god, because you kind of don't know.

00:41:06
Speaker 2: There is a part of you that's like, oh, maybe he just set a one off comment to Logan. Logan got excited. He texted us, Yeah, maybe fluffed it up a little bit more. Could still be the case. He could still be the case. But then you see the comment. Yeah, and we didn't even tag him in the video.

00:41:23
Speaker 1: Both followed each other.

00:41:25
Speaker 2: That's huge.

00:41:26
Speaker 1: I think we might have tagged him. I posted it on X.

00:41:29
Speaker 5: We didn't tag him on Instagram, where he commented. We tagged him on the X of it, but the Instagram he was untaggable. He just saw it.

00:41:36
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, that is cool. There was one other thing about Saturday, Black guy. Oh, very fun being with the boys with the baby, and I want to do more of that, Like, yeah, just opportunities.

00:41:54
Speaker 1: We just we got to get the crews together, got get the cruise together. We gotta do it number one. We also got to do like a game night. Oh just the parents. We got around here.

00:42:01
Speaker 2: And we got to Jill is working this Saturday and the Dowas Stars. The Coop and I are big fans of the dows Stars. They're playing the Preds this Saturday. Coop invites me to go with him and his girlfriend, and uh, he's like, you should bring Jill and Scarlet. Jill can't go because she's working. But since it's a two thirty tip off. She was like, hey, you should, uh just take Scarlet. And so I'm taking Scarlet to that Stars game. It's gonna be fun.

00:42:31
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's gonna be a good time. It'll be a good time. And all parents out there know, like, if we're gonna do a game night, we have to intentionally plan we have because we sound like every friend group right now that says we gotta get together, we gotta do something, and it just doesn't happen. You know why, because life happened. Life happens. Then you're there the next year or then you're we're sitting here at New Year's and it's gonna be a New Year's resolution. It's been one of mine before, like a quarterly game night. But it has to get like intentionally planned out for and everybody's got to be just lockstep, arms locked. Hey this childcare, we're all on deck. Bro.

00:43:09
Speaker 2: Night for the parents, Night for them. Oh we're doing night for the parents.

00:43:12
Speaker 1: I think so, yes, because your parents need their time, they need their social time. We need our community outside of kids. We need to do stuff with kids. Yeah, like bringing the families together, but also like community for the parents and socializing, just getting out of the house feeling young.

00:43:26
Speaker 2: This is a good step forward too with Jill and I because we've yet to do a babysitter night. We have not done one. We need to, we need to make an ash.

00:43:36
Speaker 1: So I was I would say too, like just get a rep as soon as you can, like start getting reps before the actual separation anxiety sinks in for the little one, like when rue forget when it is, but probably like in the one year old time, or maybe around two, but the moment they realized you were leaving and they're very sad, yeah, and like scared or they don't want to be with the babysitter. You just you feel so bad as a parent leaving and going to dinner. And so I would just I would just tell you or advise or encourage you just to get in some kind of rhythm or at least have an experience or two of it before it gets to a point where separation anxiety kicks in. Yeah, because it's gonna hit you hard no matter what. But if your first one comes when they're already very aware and it's a babysitter coming over for like the first time, or somebody that could be unfamiliar with or not as familiar with. It just hits you hard.

00:44:31
Speaker 2: Bro.

00:44:32
Speaker 1: You kind of don't even enjoy the date night because you're, like you you feel like you got to get home because your little one feels like they're in prison right now.

00:44:37
Speaker 2: You should have seen me yesterday dropping off Scarlet at daycare that that separation anxiety hit hard, hard for you. Oh yeah, it was I fully expect. So Jill ended up moving a shift around to be able to come to the very first drop buff as well, which I'm very thankful for because there were a ton of moving parts. I'm ready now, like I can do the drop offs super easy, getting her bottles ready in the morning, having the bagpack the extra diapers, extra outfits, like you give it to the daycare so now they have all the extra stuff. But dude, I was not expecting the emotions that hit me when I dropped off Scarlet.

00:45:27
Speaker 4: It was like.

00:45:29
Speaker 2: She's never been with without me or Jill before. She's been with our parents before, which that's a little different. But I'm just sitting there in that classroom and the teachers are so sweet, the daycare workers are so sweet.

00:45:45
Speaker 1: There's a completely new environment. Was zero history with anybody in the building.

00:45:49
Speaker 2: Anyone in the building. And there's these like five little precious baby girls in this So the class is five girls and two boys, and all the they have all the girls like in this little with each other, and they're all four to like seven months old. And I'm looking at the little group, I'm like, those are gonna be her friends. Like look how excited they are sitting in their little thing, Like that's the rug rats, right, those are the rug Rats. Like She's gonna be one of the girls. And then I look up and there's a little apple with scarlet y and that has like a little hanger under it, and I'm like, I'm like, she's going to school. She's going to school.

00:46:25
Speaker 1: Four months old.

00:46:26
Speaker 2: I'm like, she's she's gonna be great, she's gonna do a good job. And now the teachers holding teachers holding there, and I'm just I'm restraining so much. I'm over here because i want to like go up and give her one more kiss. But then I'm like, I'm gonna kiss my baby while somebody else is like holding her. Is that weird? I don't want to, But now I like, really I won her back, like give her back to me so I can kiss her. Dude.

00:46:54
Speaker 1: That's so funny, dude, because I'll think about it, even with her nanny, and still it comes to my mind when I'm even like hugs and kisses and three squeezes. She might be holding Scotty and I'm giving her hug kissing three squeezes, and while Audrey's holding in her give her a hug, kissing three squeezes. And part of Me's like, do I tell Audrey I love her.

00:47:12
Speaker 4: Too?

00:47:14
Speaker 2: Hey, do you want to hug too?

00:47:15
Speaker 1: I just.

00:47:18
Speaker 2: I'm like, this lady doesn't know me. She's gonna think I'm a freak. And then they put scarlet down on the little pillow, like the little U shaped pillow, and we're like walking out of the classroom and it's very obvious. Now it's like, okay, now, y'all go check out because we got to do some paperwork and get the app downloaded, get our fingerprints scanned, all that fun stuff. And they have one of those like real long horizontal windows to like look into the classroom. And as we're walking out, dude, I stopped and I stood there for five minutes. While Jill was talking to the people. I was just watching there every with scarlet as they're like laying her down on the pillow. She's smiling, she's loving it. She's like taking in the new environment and kind of looking around, has a smile the entire time. Yeah, it starts hitting the eyes. So I'm like, I gotta go back to the to the front desk. I got and I'm standing there at the front desk, and the entire time, I'm like, I gotta go back. I gotta go back and look at her in the classroom. I looked at her again, and then do when I walked out that building, I lost it. I was not I thought Jill was gonna be losing it. It was gonna be crying. She didn't cry once. It was me. The whole time she drove back from the daycare, I just sat in the passenger seat, not like sobbing, but just like so quiet. And she was like, what's hitting you right now? Like why are you? And I was like, life is just gonna be a bunch of those It's just gonna be a bunch of moments of like her getting older and older and older and doing all these steps, and I'm just gonna be like imagining her under this little billy lights in the hospital room and like holding her hand and she's always going to be that small to me, and it just, dude, it chattered me. I was like, oh my gosh, I know she's only four months old, but like it felt like she was going off to college in a way, like and I know that's so different those these things.

00:49:19
Speaker 1: I truly, I really enjoy hearing about you embracing the moment because it's funny to think about knowing she's four months picking her up and like, hey, did you learn anything to day and.

00:49:31
Speaker 3: She knows it.

00:49:32
Speaker 2: She knows nothing of her environment other than these people are nice and give me a baba too. They let me not to these guys are sick. You know, she knows dad is struggling right now. Oh struggling. Oh dude. But I mean, daycare is what it is, and people you know, aren't like against it or like maybe they just don't do daycare, maybe they do a different style of daycare with people coming to their house, but just like that true daycare of like dropping off your kid. It is like, I'm excited to see how that helps develop Scarlet. Because when we were dropping by for the very first time, for like the pre drop off, This little one year old. As soon as the classroom door, the daycare door, you know, opened up, this one year old just crawls up to us and is just talking and she's not making any sense, but she's just so excited to see a new face is and we're like, yeah, I was like, that's gonna be scarlet, Like she's gonna be okay with like hanging out with new people and excited to talk to people, and I don't know, it just got me excited for her development. It got me excited for her growing up. But it also made me really sad. It made me really really sad in a good way. Pt. Sichos Chef just got shocked. He's been getting shocked. And we're not talking static electricity. We're talking full on voltage coming from a power strip. What else is shocking? What else is shocking? Stock market? Maybe true classic? The way it makes men look true classic, the way it makes men feel comfy. It looks sharp, it's great for any outing guys, and hey, look at me, I'm dressed with these guys that will be hitting BWTV dot com very soon. I'm also dressed in a true classic hoodie. True Classic not only has great shirts, guys, it also has hoodies. True Classic has pants. They will get you ready for the fall, winter, spring, summer having you look good no matter what, guys. And here's the cool part about True Classic. They just launched a boys line boy Dad's you can match, and honestly, it looks way better than those awkward family photo outfits or cheesy pajamas. Imagine a Christmas card in True Classic outfits that might hit home, That might make that one aunt that's always putting out the best Christmas cards look bad this year. Because you outdit her. You get to show up together, you get to feel comfortable and actually look good doing it. The crazy thing is True Classic has already sold over twenty five million shirts to more than five million customers with over two hundred thousand five star reviews, So I'm definitely not the only dad who has figured this out.

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00:53:09
Speaker 1: I ever told you my daycare story.

00:53:12
Speaker 2: I've heard I've heard you. Yeah, I've heard Tail you sent via text message what had happened, but I've never heard you verbally tell it.

00:53:23
Speaker 1: We might have to save it for next week because it's a wild one. Because it's a very wild it's a very wild story. It's the reason we have you know, we had to big thing happened. Yeah, we had to transition very quickly in the middle of like you know, work schedules and everything else to where we ended up going the nandy route. But I'll talk to my wife see if I can tell the story. Yeah, because it is a crazy story. It is one of those types of stories. And for listeners at home, I know you've touched on this, but Charloe like is full time working as well. You both of you guys are very very busy, so childcare is a necessity. Absolutely, Yeah, But it is a We joke around on this pod a lot. We get serious on this pod, but I do not say this lightly. This story is insane.

00:54:12
Speaker 2: It's insane, and I think that that's also what was hitting me in the moment, was like having to release like the fear that I had of like somebody else caring for my child. And it really was almost like I was having to purge myself of worrying fear in that the.

00:54:31
Speaker 1: Fear is justified. I mean, again, you're giving your entire world to people that they're not your parents, they're not your family, you have zero relationship with them. You're just trusting you know, the building, the reviews, stuff you've heard.

00:54:48
Speaker 2: I'm on a first name basis with this Miss Christie, yeah, yeah, Miss Angela. Yeah, and they seemed like sweethearts. I trust them, but I'm also like, oh my god, oh my god.

00:54:59
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, but I'll see if I can. I can tell the story next week or something. Ye, yeah, because it's a wild story and I don't want to say anything that I'm not supposed to say, or maybe I don't be some things being shared.

00:55:11
Speaker 2: Yeah.

00:55:11
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's cool to hear you say that, Schrum, because we had this old coach back in the day that would talk about the transfer of moments like every day in high school soccer, like each Friday, you get to play a game in front of people. And as you get older, the moments are far and few between and they're no longer about you and your day, but they become about your kids and become about that. So for hearing you say, like, my life is just going to be a bunch of little scar scar moments of her growing up and stuff, is the first time I've heard somebody talk about that transition of moments, like it's no longer about what sherm gets to do Friday, it's like the daughter she's at daycare for the first time.

00:55:42
Speaker 2: Like, that's a cool thing to hear you say, dude, thank you. It was. It was a cool moment. It needed to happen. It was a good thing. It's also helping in jill and ize development. It is a great precursor to the babysitter stuff and the like yeah, you know, just being able to like let go get trust others.

00:56:03
Speaker 1: Yeah, and also just feeling, like Derek was saying, just feeling the depth of the moment, Like as funny as it is, like she's four months all that stuff, but just being able to truly be where your feet are is a you know, is like a skill, and you doing that and feeling the way of the moment and kind of foreseeing everything else in the future and knowing that this is, this moment is as special as any other moment that will come, even when she's talking or does understand stuff. Yeah, so it is. It's it's It was cool to see it on your face. Almost came out of your eyes. I was waiting, I was waiting for I'm always waiting for some tears going.

00:56:38
Speaker 2: I'm getting a bit better at holding back the tears.

00:56:40
Speaker 1: Are you You just said you were You just said Jill didn't cry, hold on tear, and you hold holding back the tears on the show. This is twenty four hours ago when you just dropped Scarlet off.

00:56:54
Speaker 2: I have no tears to get because guys, I was parked once once wet to the house. I needed to get back here because we had interviews and stuff up. Yeah, I'm about to walk in looking like a psychopath. I need to get it together. And I'm driving to the shop and I have a Spotify playlist and the Lahla by that I seeing the Scarlett is adel VISs. I'm seeing it to her all the time when I'm putting her down and Spotify is just going off random songs. And right before I pull out the shop, adel Vice starts playing like what are we doing? I walk in very first seeing Chef says it you good? Yeah, I'm great. I'm really good. Are you sure?

00:57:40
Speaker 1: Yeah? I'm good?

00:57:42
Speaker 2: And then like ten minutes later, I fessed up and said that I was crying from daycare and Chef was like, yeah, I could tell, Like damn it.

00:57:51
Speaker 1: You gotta love chef. Chef is, do we have outside of the core value stuff that will be going over that people uh sent to us? Do we have other comments that we'll be reading? We do?

00:58:03
Speaker 2: What piles?

00:58:03
Speaker 1: Do you do you have any piles?

00:58:05
Speaker 2: I do have a pile. And right before we go into that, uh, let's hit him with a nice little crack of cold one from our friends at Liquid IV.

00:58:15
Speaker 1: Let's hit him with a crack of cold one. I have water, I got some mixing. I got some mixing right here. Oh yeah, absolutely, buddy, you already got me one. Thank you.

00:58:23
Speaker 2: That was actually our boy Derek uh dee Deek, who was absolutely killing it.

00:58:30
Speaker 6: Uh.

00:58:31
Speaker 2: Not to revisit stuff that we've already talked about, but it's got to be the trigger treating for me. Uh this past week, my cracker cold one was just getting to watch the little kids absolutely slay it. It was just a blast to get to see all the like laughs, all the magic at Halloween Night, all the costumes. By the way, dude, a costume that we very much missed out on was seventh themed costumes. I saw Helena and Mark costume and was like, oh my god, did I strike out this year?

00:59:08
Speaker 3: You just gave me the opportunity to say it.

00:59:10
Speaker 4: The costume that I saw online that I thought was the coolest thing ever was a couple's costume. The guy was dressed as Randy Johnson in a diamondback uniform and the girl was dressed as a bird.

00:59:21
Speaker 1: No, that's all.

00:59:22
Speaker 3: Yeah, a little fucked up, but I mean, I mean.

00:59:26
Speaker 1: That moment is one of the craziest moments in sports issues.

00:59:30
Speaker 3: Doesn't make sense.

00:59:31
Speaker 1: Randy Johnson is just throwing a heater and the bird perfectly flying in at the right moment, just getting disintegrated. He's and piece of that bird in their family.

00:59:38
Speaker 2: Control deleted the bird.

00:59:40
Speaker 1: Control deleted the bird.

00:59:41
Speaker 2: There was no carcass, there was just feathers.

00:59:43
Speaker 1: Yeah, my crack of cole One's going to go to And this was honestly a very subtle surprise, and I think I'll be able to try and use a couple broken things as we do the core values thing. Because Charle and I went to this positive discipline kind of class workshop, seminar or whatever it is for a couple hours on Saturday morning and it was cool out. Your boy was locked in, engaged the entire two hours and trying. I went to do at the school that Rugoes Too offered it, and so there were several parents and you're kind of sitting in a circle, kind of sitting in a circle. They have a couple speakers, a couple like people who are leading the entire thing talking about positive discipline and going over goals and challenges and what positive discipline looks like, like being kind and firm. Kind is a nice, firm, isn't mean? Like all these different scenarios to where I'm up there. They're given roles. So I'm up there as the kid like hearing parents say, like you know, they had scripts to read on what parents would say, and then I would react to where how it would make me feel for what they're saying. So we did all these different like skits and learned a lot of cool things. So my correct could one goes to my wife getting me out and going to this positive discipline workshop because it was Saturday, huskers were about to play that night. Wasn't like fully aware what we're going to be doing, and it turned out to be really cool. Yeah, there's apparently a positive discipline app. I'll say that for my survival kit. I haven't put it on my phone yet, but apparently there's this positive Discipline app that you can download and it's got like, you know, some teachings or learns that they give you kind of daily. But I would encourage, Yeah, I would encourage parents if there's like a positive discipline workshop or just like parent workshops for you and your wife to go to. Highly encourage, highly recommend. It was kind of one of those things like looking back on it, I thought is really cool because it's like we're all very intentional for how we want to be better in our career with ourself, whether it's diet and working out structure for our own self, our own individual sanity for our career. We have ambitions in our career to where hey, this is what our vision is what does our process look like? What are things and places that I'm going to to learn and get better at my craft? For work? You have the same thing with parenting your relationships. You want to tap in and figure out, you know, if you feel like you're in a rupt relationship wise or in a marriage relationship wise, and people who are very intentional about whether it's getting it back on track doing some like continued education or learning on having a better marriage, or just like checking in. Yeah, couples go and do that. And I as I'm leaving and thinking about it, I'm thinking, this is no different. It's like we should be doing something like this a few different times a year at least on us challenging ourselves to learn something new, and then as we're driving home kind of challenging ourselves like, here's what I'm thinking that my blind spots where here's one area where I want to get better in based on what I learned from the positive discipline workshop that we just did. Is there anything that you were hearing that I wasn't. I haven't said out loud yet because I would love to hear if you have any feedback from myself and we're doing that kind of vice versa. So I just thought it was very cool in general, and now we've already identified a couple of things. I know me for myself. It's like the way I talk to Rue when she has a dress on it. She looks super pretty, and all I do, kind of as a dadd is give her praise because I don't know necessarily know what else to kind of give her other bag, Oh my gosh, you look so beautiful, And I'm just telling her all these praise things versus like I could be asking her questions on why did you pick out that dress? Or I love those colors? What made you like you know the color blue? In this one, I let them kind of tap around and think about it as to where you're not fully giving them their identity. And they're just coming to dad because ru Love's walking downstairs. She loves seeing the look on Dad's face. And I'm calling her pretty and beautiful all the time, And how can I because I want to say, I even brought papers over from the notes. I took your boy over here taking notes. Look at that, but changing my like praise to encouragement, Yeah, to get them opening their minds and thinking to where they're not seeing they're tying their identity off of what Dad has telling me. Anytime I think I look pretty, I want to go get Dad as words of affirmation. Yeah, so really cool. That's where my Craik of cole One goes to, We'll be able to dive into it more because there's like stuff that I'm leaving. I'm like, oh, we're doing a core values You're doing it more like a core values thing for quote lessoner topic. And I would just love to share some of the things I was learning in this class that helped give me a lot of like correlation and breaking things down to just kind of keep things simple because you think about values and the core values and all that, and it's like, how can we cover all this other than reading what people's values are being like yeah, I love that, I love that value. Here's what mine would be, and then kind of just stopping there. But it'll be fun, it'll be fun to jump.

01:04:26
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01:05:01
Speaker 1: And just for clarity, you have comments or values.

01:05:05
Speaker 2: I have comments.

01:05:07
Speaker 1: It's only value. Only have comments on value. So let do what we want to do.

01:05:12
Speaker 4: The hotline we got thirty five minutes, so I think we have time for one hotline and then we'll go into the values and now winter our show.

01:05:20
Speaker 1: Okay, sounds good, let's park And the only reason we're on a time crunch is we have an awesome guest coming into the shop that we're going to be doing an interview on busting with the boys. So that's the reason we're kind of in a structured like a time zone.

01:05:36
Speaker 6: Really see really one shelf shift cooking it up.

01:05:42
Speaker 2: Sure we got met fast stafford.

01:05:45
Speaker 6: I got a little dad hacked for you guys that I actually picked up from my mom when I was a kid.

01:05:52
Speaker 2: I'm hacked.

01:05:54
Speaker 6: So where you get a you have a bunch of kids, or even just one kid. You're trying to save a little money, your son, your daughter, two, three, four years old, you're going out to eat. You don't want to spend that extra money. Ten dollars for a buffet, fifteen dollars for this buffet, No, sir, let him know how old your kid is. Yep, he's three and under. How old is he actually four or five?

01:06:24
Speaker 3: But he looks three.

01:06:25
Speaker 1: They can't tell. They don't check IDs.

01:06:26
Speaker 6: They don't have IDs yet.

01:06:28
Speaker 1: Let him know.

01:06:30
Speaker 6: We used to go to see these pizza Chinese buffets all the time.

01:06:33
Speaker 2: As a kid.

01:06:35
Speaker 6: I was about three years old till till I was six.

01:06:39
Speaker 3: So they save a few hundred a year that way, maybe even thousand.

01:06:45
Speaker 2: You have just a little dad hack out there.

01:06:47
Speaker 6: Might not be the most ethical one, but it'll keep your pockets a little fatter.

01:06:52
Speaker 3: It's six out fellas.

01:06:54
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a great dad act. That's all time. That might be number one right now.

01:06:59
Speaker 2: They don't check. Yeah, they don't have IDs.

01:07:03
Speaker 3: Bro.

01:07:04
Speaker 2: That made me laugh to where I had tears in the side of my eyes. That was really funny.

01:07:08
Speaker 1: Dude, he's three, he's got a mustache.

01:07:13
Speaker 4: Imagine CCS gets a child bouncer sitting at the front.

01:07:18
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love this, doesn't got it. I have a great video that I'll send you. You have to remind me of a guy doing the outside of a Toys r us. It's one of the funniest videos I've ever seen of a kid bouncer.

01:07:31
Speaker 1: But yeah, dude, and shout out CCS. Shout out CC's Pizza.

01:07:36
Speaker 2: Man, Oh my god, I wish I could go back to lill League days and see a young Willie c just tearing apart of meats Budy, I bet you were a demon demon the Creative Pizzas.

01:07:51
Speaker 1: Oh that's a mac and cheese pizza. Let me get that.

01:07:54
Speaker 2: And I know you're just fist full of pizza with one end and you're in the arcades.

01:08:02
Speaker 1: At our CC's had the little hockey game, you know how, it's kind of like, what what's the what's the game?

01:08:08
Speaker 2: Yeah, like foosball.

01:08:09
Speaker 1: We're moving or you're kind of moving the hockey players around.

01:08:13
Speaker 2: That that is a good game. Shout out that caller to you.

01:08:17
Speaker 1: I think what is it the cinnamon rolls at CC's Pizza. Come on, man, Oh.

01:08:23
Speaker 2: Yeah, we might Hey, that might be our next Pizza six meet up, just saying.

01:08:28
Speaker 4: Say, pizza is still alive. Oh, it's got Yeah, it's gott revamped. Oh really we're talking about CC's pizza. We're talking about all you can staple. What's the price of it now?

01:08:40
Speaker 2: Probably sad?

01:08:41
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know back in my day, I want to say maybe six bucks, seven bucks. That's crazy. All you can eat pizza moment.

01:08:51
Speaker 2: Can order.

01:08:52
Speaker 1: I mean, that's not that. Ain't the experience?

01:08:55
Speaker 3: Yeah, it doesn't look like they do all you can eat anymore.

01:08:59
Speaker 1: Okay, we'll we'll figure Yeah, we'll get into we'll do some detective.

01:09:04
Speaker 7: Work with with our fast ones. Will wow, how much for adults? Ain't bad in this economy?

01:09:14
Speaker 2: PT six meet up? Yeah, future PT six meet up, ccsp that we will shut it down. We will shut it.

01:09:22
Speaker 1: We will shut it down. We welcome all.

01:09:24
Speaker 2: We have our fast ones. I was thinking for the fast ones, we can read names and then just kind of find in the comment like what that value is like.

01:09:38
Speaker 1: N M.

01:09:38
Speaker 2: Cola fifty six hundred says dreaming big, working hard, and staying humble g L three as nine and just.

01:09:46
Speaker 1: For just for context, two people that are tapped in a couple of weeks ago, we talked about what is a core value you would love to instill on your kid for the rest of time? Yes, and not to get overwhelmed. I know there's a bunch out there that everybody wants to do, but just to give us some some thought topics, some stuff to give the audience.

01:10:06
Speaker 2: Absolutely from you guys. Absolutely. Do you want me to go into mine and then we can go boom boom boom on the fast ones.

01:10:14
Speaker 1: Sure?

01:10:15
Speaker 2: Yeah so, I said. Nm Cola fifty six hundred on YouTube said dreaming big, working hard, and staying humble are the values they would want.

01:10:24
Speaker 1: I got one here from Uncle Tony two on Instagram. Be the hardest worker in the room. With whatever it is you're doing. It's very difficult to outperform hard work. Am into that, amen?

01:10:36
Speaker 2: Amen. Gl three as nine to one on YouTube said determination with a flex emoji.

01:10:46
Speaker 1: Got one here from a Drew oh ninety on Instagram. Above all else, be kind.

01:10:52
Speaker 2: Peyton Headwald three two zero six on YouTube said gratitude.

01:10:58
Speaker 1: Gratitude, and then I'm going to write the down as well.

01:11:00
Speaker 2: Oh I like that.

01:11:01
Speaker 1: Gratitude, hard work, kind, humble.

01:11:07
Speaker 2: The Turning Company on Instagram said resilience.

01:11:12
Speaker 1: Resilience. That's yes, that's my favorite resilience. Oh, I got one here from from Weber Leaf of value strength emotionally, physically, in brain power and brain power or whatever. I guess, just value themselves.

01:11:31
Speaker 2: That's a pt sixer right there. That's not an empty six The Big Veldt on Instagram said curiosity tempered with kindness curiosity.

01:11:45
Speaker 1: Oh, we.

01:11:47
Speaker 2: Just value yours to themselves.

01:11:49
Speaker 1: I guess, just value themselves respect or respect for themselves others in the journey for life.

01:11:54
Speaker 2: Ooh respect and who did that?

01:11:57
Speaker 1: That one came from Roddy thirty one on Instagram.

01:12:00
Speaker 2: Aj Jacobson eighteen on Instagram said courage and authenticity. I freaking I love those. Yes, courage and authenticity, especially the authenticity. Great job, ajam My.

01:12:13
Speaker 1: Here for one from erect d erect d erect d on Instagram sick work ethic, talent and likability only get you so far. Those who put their head down and grind will always rise to the top. Both my parents had excellent work ethic and were amazing examples to me. My wife's work ethic is impeccable. I hope I am upholding my part. Oh shut out Eric, especially giving credit everywhere else.

01:12:37
Speaker 2: Steven Barrera forty nine on Instagram said accountability own everything you do or don't do.

01:12:44
Speaker 1: Accountability. Every day I asked my girls, what are you? This is the this is values homework from hollow hollow point hollow point forty five on YouTube.

01:12:59
Speaker 2: Here's the values homework.

01:13:01
Speaker 1: He even timestamped it the two hour ten mark from a couple episodes ago.

01:13:04
Speaker 2: Every day I asked my girls, what are you? Smart? Strong, beautiful?

01:13:09
Speaker 1: Flex muscles, point to the head, hand on cheeks to teach them when they're toddlers. What do you do? They respond? They respond, pay attention, work hard, do the right thing. We've recently added, how do we eat good, eat effort, attitude, toughness. That is fire one hollow point.

01:13:28
Speaker 2: Yeah, keep that one.

01:13:29
Speaker 1: That's a that's a dad hack for everybody too. What are you strong? Smart, beautiful? What do you do? Pay attention, work hard, do the right thing? How do we eat? Effort, attitude, toughness? Dude?

01:13:40
Speaker 2: Those girls are so lucky they got they got some parents like that.

01:13:44
Speaker 5: I love that He comments on almost everything we post, too, especially so big siko hollow point.

01:13:50
Speaker 2: Thank you for being a siko dude, it sounds like you're incredible dad as well. H grees on Instagram set persistence. If I had to pick one, I want her to be a dog fight for whatever she wants, needs and finds a way to make it happen.

01:14:05
Speaker 1: So we have Mets Camfield here. Value the process more than the results. If you work hard and treat people well, that's a great process and should be all you need to focus on. You can only control your controllables and you can't control the results. But having a sound process such as treating people well and working hard will put you in a great position to be successful. So I'm going to write down process over results what I'm going to try and do here if I can regurgitate or broken Lee put together some of the things I was learning in this positive discipline class. So one thing we went over at the very start was like everybody like the class had to answer like what are challenges that you're currently going through as a parent? And so you have people like sure, if I were to ask you, what is a challenge right now as a parent that your kiddo is giving you a challenge with? You have a four month old, so that's kind of hard. But if there was one like, let's brainstorm challenges that are out there for me. I stood up there like if you could, if you can break it down and not give us a few sentences, but if it was a headline in a newspaper, what would it be?

01:15:07
Speaker 2: And I was, like.

01:15:10
Speaker 1: I said, whining the epidemic that's taking us all down as parents and using it. So whining and using your strong voice was one for Reu. Okay, so like we had whining, you had, we had like breakdowns at the grocery store. Breakdown like breakdowns, tantrums.

01:15:32
Speaker 2: Give me some more sure mine is during feeds, just not wanting to feed, like fighting the feed back.

01:15:39
Speaker 1: I guess. So we can say generally if we're if we're grouping it together with like toddlers or older kids, like.

01:15:46
Speaker 2: Yeah, dinner time, oh, dinner time. Yeah yeah, yeah, I like that bedtime. I would say, is has it hasn't been a full challenge, but there are It's difficult.

01:15:58
Speaker 1: And that one is one that will very much spike up when they you know, when they're like getting more aware and they're becoming toddlers and everything else. Yeah, not getting what they want. Yes, dude, moms are speaking up and it was like, uh a, mom was just saying the challenge that she was having, which I think all parents go through. But it's like mom is the comfort zone. So they cling to mom a lot. Oh dude, during times where they're breaking down and everything else. It's like Mom is the one that gets drained because Mom is like seen as a safe space. Dude.

01:16:31
Speaker 2: I'm going through that big right now, we're Scarlet. When Scarlet's in a temper tantrum type thing, she does not want Dad. She wants chili band. Yeah.

01:16:41
Speaker 1: Yeah, bro, it's uh we yeah, we battle. We battle that too. It's like Rue, I'll be in the bedroom, like, say, we just got done eating dinner. I came across this, like this water flosser hire just shoots through your uho, shoots through your teeth. Yeah, I love it. So when I get done eating dinner, we had some beef last night, so I had some some be stuck in the molars back there, so I'm going in and using the flosster.

01:17:02
Speaker 2: Yeap.

01:17:03
Speaker 1: She was around seven o'clock. We're about to start prepping for bedtime. Rue walks her little ass in to the bathroom and she's like, uh, Dad, there are you doing bedtime tonight. And I was like, you know, as I'm going, I know she asks us every night because she wants mom, and do you want that to do bedtime tonight?

01:17:20
Speaker 4: No?

01:17:21
Speaker 1: Why don't you want that to do bedtime? I want mom to do bedtime? All right, go tell mom. But as a small example, it was mom's turn to do bedtime. Yeah, but just as a small example of like this clinging to mom as just always Mom is what they want at all, Like I'll go up to wake her up in the morning. They're like, where's Mama? I want to see mom, And I'll beg moms at work right now. It's you know, dad has getting out of bed and getting you go in this morning? Did you sleep well?

01:17:45
Speaker 2: I want mama.

01:17:46
Speaker 1: I don't want to get out of bed. And it's just it's just a fight all the time, not like a fight all the time, but just a lot of whining, a lot of things that's like I want mom in this situation. I see on mom too. It's draining because Mom's always got to be got. The one that's like that's like their self soon is going to mom.

01:18:01
Speaker 2: Yeah. Okay, So.

01:18:06
Speaker 1: What I gathered from this is first we talked about what challenges we went across, and then it was all about all right, now that we have our challenges lists that they're writing on the board, doing some white board work and some notework. Then it was they were going around the classroom and saying, what are goals that you have for your kid? Like, imagine talking to your kid in thirty years they're thirty five years old, what goals or what would you want them to represent? What characteristics? So essentially the values and the goals that we've been sitting here talking about. So people are going around the room and my one was resilience because I love resilience above most. I love a lot of core values, but resilience always stands out to me because life is always going to be unfair to you, and it's always about you, know how you respond to when life hits you in the mouth. So if I could teach anything to my daughters, it would be mine was resilience that I gave.

01:18:56
Speaker 2: And so we just use our.

01:18:57
Speaker 1: List from breaking it down into one word by everybody that chimed in, we have on our list kind, gratitude, hard work, humble, dream big, resilience, curiosity, respect, courage, authenticity, accountability, eat, effort, attitude, toughness, process over results.

01:19:16
Speaker 2: So we have our listening.

01:19:17
Speaker 1: Here where we have our challenges list things you're kind of going through as a parent, and I would encourage you and your wife to kind of talk about what challenges you might be going through to where it's like things that you can tap into, because this is going to be a full circle reminder on how you can go about handling like those next situations together as a team lock an arm. But we have the challenges whining, breakdowns and tantrums, dinner time, not getting what they want, bedtime, and clinging to mom. So as there's a quote that I said a while back that a gentleman gave me somebody that was associated with the school, and I was kind of meeting him for the first time at the park when us going around and playing with the kids, and he gave me those quotes where it's like, it's those moments where whether you're trying to get their shoes on, they're pissed about what clothes they want to wear, shoes, YadA, YadA, YadA, talking to them in the next thirty seconds the way you want to see them thirty years down the road instead of the short term animal brain. We all get resistant, we all get upset about things. It's like when I'm sitting there trying to put rou in the car seat and everything else, a moment is happening, and it's it's how you grab to the goals and the values that we have, connecting with the goals versus correcting the challenges. So connection over correction. So in those thirty in that thirty second spanner, it could be a few minutes long as you're sitting there with your child, breaking it down and trying to mold them into these human beings they want, we want them to be based on all these values. It's how can you connect with them away in those thirty seconds or in those tough moments that isn't going to correct the next thirty seconds, but mold them into what you want them to be in the next thirty years. So I thought that was like a good full circle thing. And the way I broke it down on my mind before the dads is that space right here is good. Yeah, whining, good breakdowns, tantrums, good dinner time. They don't want to eat their food, they're negotiating with you. They want a cookie, They're not gonna eat, You're gonna have to sit there at dinner table with them for a while, and they're giving you a hard time good not getting what they want. You're going to the grocery store, they want a toy. You're trying to teach them the value of a dollar. Just teach them anytime you walk in somewhere you're not going to pick out something, and they're giving you a lot of trouble about that in front of everybody. You feel embarrassed. Good, are you going to snap and try and correct the behavior for just thirty seconds and just be very like disconnected, or are you going to connect with them about, Hey, I know you really want this, and right now we're not buying anything, so you know then like me, I would think, I know you really want this right now and we're not here to buy anything. So help that really needs your help picking out X, Y and Z. Can you help me go find that, try and redirect their brain a little bit, and then I'll follow up in the car. Hey, the reason why we don't things at the grocery store is YadA, YadA, YadA, YadA. Whatever value you're wanting to instill and connect with them when their brain is ready to go because they're also teaching you. Like the brain like with the hand, when everything gets when everything gets heightened, your brain is like this, like the emotional part of the brain is firing. Nobody's learning, nobody's connecting, nobody wants to hear what you have to say or talk. It's just about how do you not match that energy as a parent, keep poised and keep controlled here and get them to where it Now they're in a calm state and you can talk to them about what happened and what a moment and an opportunity. We now have to teach them a good value or start instilling those values and start molding them into the adults we hope that they become one day. So I thought it was very good and just to go out this giving you a hard time of bedtime, good clinging to mom, you see your daughter, your son cleaning to mom. And moments where it's like it kind of pisses me off right now as a dad that it's almost like you're taking it as a sign of disrespect to where at times I've been more of like state and officers like fine, go to mom, or I just act mad in front of herr to let her know she hurt my feelings, which is what am I trying to accomplish right there as a grown ass adult when my kid is losing her mind or she's wanting mom and just not me in that moment. Yeah, yeah, I'm not doing anything conducive to either of us. I'm just I'm being as petty as she is, so I'm like removing myself. I'm removing myself from it versus just staying in the pocket, staying present, letting her know. Heysweetart. I know you really want mom right now. Whenever the time calls for you to want to hug from dad, I would really love to read your story. If you want dad at a Regia story, I will come back upstairs and Regio story. I know you don't want me to right now, and that's okay, but just I'm going to be right outside, so you just let that Dad know that usually comes full circle to you at some point they might use mom up and then they I'm going to get the second parent dad in right now, But you just start bridging that gap of those moments of frustration instead of leaning into the correction of every challenge that parents go through.

01:23:54
Speaker 2: All of this stuff right here.

01:23:56
Speaker 1: It's good in your brain and you we have to think, how can we connect with our kids to find these moments of opportunity to teach them what we want them to be in the future.

01:24:06
Speaker 2: Yes, and having the values. I love this strategy from the standpoint of having those values that right call them if you want to show them again, will of let's say, with dinner time and she's not eating. Not only the not eating part, I'm sure is frustrating, but if you're wanting them to have curiosity and trying new foods, like what is the end goal? And being able to identify a value that you want them to exhibit, it's not only how can I get them to eat? But how can I have them be more you know, have a more curious palette. And I know that that's like a weird example.

01:24:45
Speaker 1: But also like it's like, you know, the whole thing of positive discipline, and it's like, you know, it's like one of those things like when you were in the army back in the day, there were hard skills and soft skills. Back in the day, the hard skills is what men wanted to do. It was you know, the gun, it was the flying the helicopters. It was the shit that sounded manly. Now that we know, over time, with a lot of data and everything else, we've realized that the soft skills are where the success comes from for people. When those hard skills are done and gone and you can't do them anymore, do you have those soft skills developed, Whether it's with people, whether it's with communicating, whether it's understanding what empathy looks like, the whole just being kind thing, being kind and firm. But so I say that to say, like, I don't know how positive discipline comes off the lips to some parents, because there's a lot of old school parents that might hear positive discipline. What a weird way to just be like, you know, to not try and discipline your kids. You want to be in a really kind Hey, here's a ribbon way. It's not that at all. It's like when you're learning to be kind and firm in a dinner example, it's like, hey, I can sit here and talk kindly to my child and be very firm about what the boundary is, sweetheart. There is no piece of a cookie if you don't eat your dinner. And how the can be nutritious to your body like you're trying to teach them, like why it's important to eat your food, Why we sit down as a family and we eat dinner together. Why there's no options of a buffet that you get to choose from, or you get to eat pasta or chicken nuggets every night. You're going to eat what is being served. There's going to be values that you learn in that. And if you want to give us a very hard time about it, instead of lashing back at them or being very corrective in the state just because you're frustrated, you're trying to teach them what those lessons are and teach them that, hey, your opportunity to eat is now, and if you do want this dangly carrot at the end of the tunnel, like that doesn't happen unless you're part of the clean play club, or unless you do eat. If they give you a very hard time and they don't want to eat, they're not going to starve. Going in the nighttime. That was one that my wife and I were going back and forth, and I was like, I was kind of glad to hear the lady talk about your kid's not gonna starve, because char would think like she needs to get something in her stomach at some point, because what we'll do is she'll manipulate. She'll choose, all right, I'll go to bed and not eat dinner. Should go up to bed, and then all of a sudden, after a Harri's brushed on her teeth brush, it's I'm hungry. I want to snack. So then you feel like you've got to give them something because they didn't eat dinner. Where it's now we understand that there's even an extra layer of the boundary there to like, hey, sweetheart, you missed out on your opportunity. There are natural consequences in life. There are a logical consequences in life, and you kind of gave them a logical consequence. We explained what had to be done or what you needed to do. You failed to do. So, you say, in any way you want to you failed to do so tomorrow we'll have another opportunity to eat in the morning for breakfast. You have the other opportunity. That's why we pack your lunch to go to school. We know you eat your lunch when it's time that you get that thirty twenty thirty minute window at school. And then it's the same thing for dinner, but it's a way to be the whole positive discipline, learning how to be kind and firm. Those words that come off your lips as a man doesn't feel tough, it doesn't feel masculine. This make you feel like a man. It's like, oh, this is a way to coddle this next generation. So where I'm sitting there, open minded, learning as much as our pos possibly can, taking notes and everything, and I'm walking away like, man, that is some really good shit to understand, because even psychologically, they're teaching you to use the as soon as not if then if you eat your food, then you'll get your cookie. Hey, as soon as you eat your food, you will get your cookie. And getting away from adding and and not butt like saying all the things and then saying, but you didn't do X, Y and Z therefore blah blah blah blah blah. Because even psychologically, as humans, if you read any negotiation book, they teach a skill, a soft skill of using and and not butt. Because most adults, when you hear, whether it's an apology or a conversation, you hear everything up to the butt, but then when the butt comes everything before the butt you forget about whatever the compliment was because now you're focused on the negative outcome. Yep versus Hey, this happened, and here's what we do. They kind of like weirdly like we rewires your brain. So I'm walking away from this workshop being like, Yo, this shit is all I'm all about it, So I hope you guys got something out of that. I love sitting there for two hours kind of breaking all this stuff down, figuring like, Hey, how can I come into for the dads and give whatever I can what I learned again. I would highly encourage any couple, any parent out there, to go to a positive discipline course or any type of workshop in the world of parenting because I was fired up trying. I kind of walked away, kind of fired up together a couple of fist pounds on things that we feel like we do well, Hey, here are things that we can get better at. I'm immediately my brain immediately went to my dad was like, you know, people like I hate to say I'm proud of you because they have, you know, their own background or own upbringing. Something like I'm proud of you like kind of triggers them and like I know, I say it to my kid, and I kind of hate that I say to my kid, you do no. This was another, this is another bringing it up, and so that got into the conversation of praise versus encouragement. And I'm sitting there, I'm like, you know, they're sitting there wearing dresses. Dad's not a big dress guy. There's kind of this battle back and forth at home that Dad doesn't want her to wear dresses. She loves to wear dresses, so he kind of doesn't know what to say or how to handle it. So it kind of opened up that conversation on praise and encouragement to where I'm sitting there. I'm like, I do this all the time because I almost don't know. I know Ruth feels pretty. I'm glad she feels pretty. She loves she's a lady. When she sees the look on dad has face of being beautiful and oh my gosh, you're so beautiful. But I'm sitting there and I'm like, I know that in the long run, that's not I'm not wanting her Just to know that you show up and somebody tells you that you're beautiful, that's what makes you feel beautiful is an external being or another person or something else telling you that you're beautiful. So I'm like getting equipped with some of these tools of like, you know, oh my gosh, look at that dress? Does that how does the dress make you feel? Or like why did you pick out those colors? Of just asking her questions to encourage her to speak on what makes her feel so good in the outfit that she's wearing. Long rant, long spill.

01:30:56
Speaker 2: No, that's a great it's a great rant. And if anything, it's just an example of communication. The communication with your child, the communication with your partner. Got to have an open line of communication in order to succeed as a team. And I love this strategy from the standpoint of all it is doing is opening that line of communications that what do we want, what values do we want our child to have? How are we going to go about having them exhibit those values? How are we going to go about fixing these things? What are some things that I don't do very well? What are some things that I have been doing well? You have to be communicating at all times because when you are in the trenches, you get stuck in the same routine, same routine. If I check these things off if they eat shit, piss and go to bed. I did it, you know, and hey it may have been hell and I had a terrible day, but we're going to wake up and we're just going to do it again. Whatever, And you get stuck in those cycles. I love that it's getting broken up by annow you know, analysis of how did I do today? What could I get better? Yeah?

01:32:12
Speaker 1: Yeah, to go off the communication and having that open mind in like welcoming blind spots that you could have there. You know, they're definitely parents. I can I can be one of those at times to where there might be a judgment that I'm feeling, to where it's like all parent, how I want a parent versus actually sitting with myself. Is anything they're saying of substance to where I can check myself or look into a different formula or a concept. But yeah, that's the thing. The biggest takeaway is in those moments of challenge, how do you keep yourself from correcting the next thirty seconds and connecting to a value you want to instill over the next thirty years. That was the biggest takeaway from this workshop for myself, and yeah, of everybody, hope everybody enjoyed.

01:33:00
Speaker 2: The episode Good sewed great, so, good sowed good? So and so yours was resilience correct?

01:33:06
Speaker 1: Mine was resilience? Okay? Cool?

01:33:07
Speaker 2: What was yours? Confidence? But like with coupled with humility and strength coupled with kindness.

01:33:15
Speaker 1: I love that and I'm totally sorry for not having that and like writing it down on the list or just checking in on my boy of like hey, what was your value?

01:33:22
Speaker 2: No, You're fine.

01:33:24
Speaker 1: I kind of just it kind of got away from me and it kind of just got going. I'm sitting here, I'm like, this is all very broken. I'm also very excited to talk about it. I didn't prep for how to talk about it.

01:33:32
Speaker 2: Okay, I thought you I thought you one nailed it. I thought too, this developed into something totally like the higher tiered than what we were even going to do. And I learned something today, Like I truly was sitting here just listening to you talking was like this is we would.

01:33:49
Speaker 1: Have been in there doing the skits together. Man, it was cool. It was cool. We will have to find We'll have to find something where it's like hey, another PT six meetups, we're going here to learn it.

01:34:00
Speaker 2: This workshop you guys, and maybe you can test me on or not test me, but you can run me through some of those here on the pod too.

01:34:10
Speaker 1: Yeah, we all will have to get out try and figure out some some of the scripts.

01:34:14
Speaker 2: Yeah, sounds like we should host one that was that was really well done.

01:34:16
Speaker 1: Well, yeah that could Yeah, that could be fun. That could be fun, Professor Compton. That's the thing too, it's like I'm going through that and we say it all the time. We never want to come off as like experts. It's more like I'm taking in all this information. I'm very excited to share with everybody. I you know, you hope you do a great job at the same time not coming off as like this is the authority. Yeah, but yeah, that'd be a lot of fun. Make sure you take out your trash, big hugs, tiny kisses, and uh yeah.

01:34:46
Speaker 2: Quick episode. We brought it up at the top, but we aren't getting away from reading comments, we aren't getting away from reading emails. This was just it was going to be a quick sode because of the schedule, and we can't wait to read y'all's comments and emails and call ins, et cetera.

01:35:03
Speaker 1: And we read a bunch and we right, We yeah, we still ride and we still run. But yeah, make sure you take out your trash. We love you, we appreciate you. Papa team sticks out. See you next week.