The One Where They Were Supposed to Get Married

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Speaker 1: All right, everybody, we are back with give them Lala with rand.

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Speaker 2: We are here, We're here.

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Speaker 3: I'm in Saint George, Utah, quarantining at my mom's condo.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and I am still here in Los Angeles.

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Speaker 3: And today would be the day that we would be preparing to get married.

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Speaker 4: Today would be the day.

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Speaker 1: It's actually I think we'd be about four hours away from walking down the aisle.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, which you know, like I woke up this morning and I had a lot of, you know, really great text messages from friends and family just saying like we're going to be celebrating this day no matter what, like you know, just really sweet words. And I was really sad and you and I had our cry this morning, but then you showed me the weather outside.

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Speaker 1: Which is, by the way, I just want to say thank God, because if I woke up to a seventy five degree blue sky, I think we both need therapy for a long time. So the takeaway, the takeaway I agree with you is I sent you that picture because the minute I opened my eyes, I was sad, and I saw the sky and I saw this bear tree and it just cold and dark, and I went on on the balcony and I was like, Lala's going to be so happy, because I think we'd just be bummed.

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Speaker 4: You know that it was overcast, right cool, and like.

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Speaker 2: We're we are bummed. Obviously, it like.

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Speaker 1: Sucks, no, but we have to find the silver lining.

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Speaker 3: You have to And I looked up on my phone because again I'm in Utah, I'm doing this podcast with Rand via FaceTime, looking at that Sexy years.

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Speaker 2: And it was like a high.

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Speaker 3: So we were going to get married at sunset, which was like five thirty and it's a high of sixty four at that time, with like.

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Speaker 2: A little bit of peeking son, I was like, oh fuck this. Thank God.

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Speaker 1: I think that God always has the bigger plan. Yes, nobody wanted this COVID, but I will say, the only silver lining that we find today in the sadness and in this uh you know, not having our wedding day, is that the weather sucks and that at least when we push it and we pick our new date, when things are safe, it'll.

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Speaker 4: Be blue sky and hopefully eighty degrees.

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Speaker 3: Well, and so many other brides have reached out to me being like I really supposed to get married. Yes, I was supposed to get married today, like I'm I'm so sad, but you know, we're in this together, and I do I feel this like weird bond with brides that have had there.

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Speaker 2: Are you gonna cry?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, oh babe, don't do that. But like a bond with brides who have you know, set a date that it no longer is taking place and you have to find like our silver lining is the weather.

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Speaker 1: Is shot, right, There's not a lot you can say, like it's not like, oh you know that.

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Speaker 4: I mean, it just sucks and it's heartbreaking.

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Speaker 1: And we've known we've changed the state now for a solid month, but that doesn't make it any easier today.

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Speaker 4: But I will say that I.

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Speaker 1: Do feel a blessing that the weather sucks and that we are going to have a magical day coming up as soon as this thing is is over. And and I nothing changes between us. You know, you're my soulmate, and that doesn't whether we get married today, we get married in two months from now, or whatever day it is.

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Speaker 4: I just know I'm spending the rest of my life with you.

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Speaker 3: Well, I have so it was. I've been here for like three or four days. I was at the house in La with Rand and I was like I have.

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Speaker 2: To get the fuck out of here, Like.

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Speaker 3: I cannot wake up in this house for one more day because I'm ready to assassinate everybody.

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Speaker 1: I would like to use a better word for what you're trying to describe what we call it, like redlining. You know, the throttle was all the way at nine and the next thing is that the engine would blow.

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Speaker 4: So but I want to tell you something.

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Speaker 1: I've talked to a lot of people about this, and this is the truth. A lot of people are feeling the same way we're feeling, Like when I went down, you know, for a drive down to Laguna, like just getting out of the house and driving obviously, you know, we're lucky that you have another place to go, you know, and take a few days and just get away and see a change of scenery, just.

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Speaker 4: Like I did when I did the RV thing.

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Speaker 1: I think people don't realize, like peep, the stress levels that we're all under of you know, quarantining and same routine and we're.

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Speaker 4: Trying to be creative every day.

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Speaker 1: It's not easy, right.

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Speaker 4: It's not easy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'm sure like it is weird being like okay, well they were supposed to get married on April eighteenth, like they should be around each other.

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Speaker 2: For me, it was like when I decided to get in the cars my mom.

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Speaker 3: Come to Utah, I was like, you know what April eighteenth was going to be that day, But now like I can't hold that date as anything of significance because it.

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Speaker 2: Just is what it is. But it's you know, it's not significant anymore at all.

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Speaker 1: Our new day that we that as soon as we know it's safe to confirm our new day, like that's going to be the day we remember for the rest of our lives. And that's the day we're going to celebrate our anniversaries. And you know, I think, you know, getting out of the house. I'm giving people advice, like we like we are people that are best friends. We get along, you know, we we love being with each other. I think if you can take a drive, take a break, get away for a day or two, it's it's healthy, you know.

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Speaker 2: And I think that, oh yeah, and I'm here. I'm here in with.

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Speaker 3: Yes my little bff who we were quarantined together when this shit all hit, like all this stuff hit the fan. We were she flew out for my bridal shower with my mom and her mom and other and so then we quarantined together in Palm Springs and then things are getting weird. So it was like, let's head back to La quarantined together there and then things started getting intense. We were like fuck this, let's just hob in the car and quarantine in Saint Georg's Utah for a while.

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Speaker 2: And it's been great.

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Speaker 3: It has like I miss you, but you know, it's it's a different vibe in Utah, like this is my home state. I grew up coming to Saint George like every other weekend, and it's just like I get back. It's really weird to think about because you know, the other day and you know that this happened to me. I was looking online and I saw this article that came out like this another Dalist block and it was about like the things that I had said in the on the after show about Shina.

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Speaker 2: And my heart just sank and I went through.

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Speaker 3: You know, quarantine has offered me a lot of time to reflect on who I am and the person that I want to be. And I was reading it and I'm like, who is this person that's like, you know, I thought back to how I treated Raquel and you know, I'm always going to be a firecracker, that's just in my DNA. But there were things that you know, I had been doing the past two years, and I feel like the passing of my dad, like sobriety or not, I got sober for myself and my relationship. But I think the hardening of just my soul and my spirit happened after my dad where I looked at life and I was like, people need a tough in the fuck up. Shit's gonna happen to you. And I just got very like hardened, there's no other way to put that.

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Speaker 1: So that two a few nights ago, when we were in bed and you were, you know, in tears for a long time, I felt like for the first time.

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Speaker 3: After I had seen what I the article that was written about things that I said, but.

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Speaker 1: Also you had you had kind of like it was just like a cleansing, like you were like, look the last two years losing my dad and and and remember the anniversary of that is in a couple of days. So I think two years now into the passing of your dad, for the first time I felt in this relationship since that's happened, that you were free like you now know that the walls have come up, because that's just what somebody who has the loss that you've experienced had had to do to survive. Because remember, I picked you up off the floor when this happened. And now people, you know, move on with their lives, but they don't. They don't say Sometimes people who don't experience that kind of loss forget that you're still dealing with it daily, if not hourly. And I feel like you built this wall and you had a lot of resentment in life because your dad was taken from you and I and I told you that night when you were in tears, I said, I'm so proud of you that you can acknowledge, you know all of this, and that you now want to just move forward and go back. Because the Lalla that I know that I get to see every day, I'm very lucky, is the softest, mushiest love bug I've ever met. And I think that sometimes you get a bad rap right only because right, you know. But but at the same time, it doesn't mean you're It doesn't let me try to phrase l like this. It doesn't mean that you're gonna let anybody walk all over you. Because we know that's not gonna happen now, but I think you're ready to like be okay and accepting over the loss, meaning you're just gonna honor it the way that your dad would want you to honor it. And I think you had you just went into a full protective, you know, hardened part of you that you never experienced. What it is.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you know some people I will say, it's like you're gonna get a hardened version of me because I just don't fuck with you like that, you know, like.

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Speaker 2: That's just what it is.

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Speaker 3: That's not because it's not because of your day like drunk sober, my dad here are gone, Like you're an asshole and I'm going to be an asshole to you, but like looking at it and being like like the Raquels of the world and the Shena's of the world who are.

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Speaker 2: Like just so sweet. Oh you know, and we all.

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Speaker 1: What No I want to say. I just want to say something about Sheena. And I was telling somebody this the other day. I forgot who because I'm old and forgot, but Sheena. I want to tell you something. Sheena has been our friend. I know she's been your friend for way longer than me. But since the day I met you, that first couple of weeks, Sina was going to dinners with us. She was always respectful of the relationship. She always loved us together. And I just want to give that shout out to Sheena because I know you feel the same way. Sheena was a ride or died from day one since I I met her, when you introduced me. And I just know the love you have for Shena is strong, and I don't think it's conveyed, you know, in some of that press that came out. So I just want to yeah, well.

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Speaker 2: And here's pull it together for a second.

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Speaker 4: Why are you upset?

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Speaker 3: Because I feel like in this time of being, you know, stuck with yourself, there's a lot of time to just like sit and think, and I think this is you know, I'll this is a part of me that I'll I'll always.

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Speaker 2: Be very grateful for.

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Speaker 3: Is where I can sit there and say, you know, why you have been fucked up.

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Speaker 2: There are changes that you need to make. And I just when I was reading.

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Speaker 3: That blog of just listing these things that I had said during the after show for vander Pump and I just imagined Shena reading that shit and like the way she would feel, and I.

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Speaker 2: Just like sat there and I'm like, what is wrong with you? Like what are you doing?

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Speaker 3: And you know, I felt so compelled to just like reach out to her and apologize. And I feel like I know, and I feel like I'm on this like apology tour and I don't want that. Like, I know there's gonna be many other times that I say I'm sorry, but like, I just need to get to a place with the passing of my dad where I'm still a sensitive person and.

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Speaker 2: I'm not like that right now.

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Speaker 3: You know, I got very hardened by his passing because it just like it was like someone pulled the rug out from under me. Like my wife, I had my issues, but I felt like my life was really great, you know, unless.

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Speaker 1: Babe, I love you. Listen, You're you're bringing me to tears again. So I'm gonna try to say this because then crying.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry. It's just like this everything is very emotional for me right now.

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Speaker 1: But here's the thing. It's your wedding day. It was going to be our wedding day, and we're going to have a better wedding day, and your dad's passing the anniversaries in a few days.

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Speaker 4: But let me say this.

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Speaker 1: You know, I cried with you the night because I saw for the first time you wanting to make change. And you know, people can't understand unless they've lost a parent as early as you have. Now, people can understand the loss because we've all gone through loss, But you were twenty seven years old and your dad was taken from you and he was your best friend, so right, And I just want to say, I'm not excusing the behavior. What I'm what I'm saying to you, because I love you and you're my partner, is I'm giving you. I want you to give yourself more credit and be kinder to yourself because part of life is we all fuck up and we all make mistakes. And this was something that you couldn't control. I mean, I saw, I was there the first three months, and I don't think anybody can grasp that. In my entire life, and I'm forty nine years old, I have never seen pain. I just was lucky, I guess right to not see the pain that I saw you endure, and it did harden you and it has made you, you know the exterior and a little tougher and a little more edgier, and you know, maybe your patience is shorter. But the fact that you're cleansing to this point and that you've been talking about this for days now, I mean, be kinder yourself because it's okay, like we all fuck up. Sena loves you and Raquel and you just had a podcast where you guys you know, know your friends now and instead of always looking backwards, I want you to look forward because because life is beautiful and you're we're going to have a beautiful life and beautiful things. And everybody in the world through tragedy, and I've had my own and you've had your. We have to kind of pick ourselves up and say, Okay, I made some mistakes and how am I going to do better? And just the fact that you're able to talk about this on the podcast and sit in the bedroom the other night and cry to me and say, babe, I become hard. Need I need to go back a little bit to where I was a few years ago. I give you mad props because you your self awareness these days law is like tenfold. I have never seen you so dialed in, and that's.

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Speaker 4: You've come along.

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Speaker 1: I mean you forget a year and a half ago, two years ago, you know where you were in that kind of thing. Yeah, I think I think you're in your greatest self right now.

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Speaker 4: I do.

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Speaker 1: I think you're in your most beautiful self I've ever seen you to want you know that.

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Speaker 2: Well, thank you, babe.

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Speaker 3: And you know, I tell this to people a lot, like even people who have lost a dad. It's always going to be a different situation because we all have different, you know, relationships with our parents.

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Speaker 2: We all have different.

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Speaker 3: Upbringings where like, you know, I opened up to you a lot about what I saw as far as my dad's health when I was very young, and why I babied my dad so much, Yeah, and why I had the relationship because you said when you first met me, you were like, she.

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Speaker 2: Talks to her dad like four times a day, Like this is so weird.

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Speaker 4: No, I said, I was worse than that. The first three weeks.

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Speaker 1: I was like, I was telling my buddy, I never forgot.

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Speaker 4: I was like, this is a weird thing.

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Speaker 1: She calls her dad literally three or four times day, And I said, I maybe I'm missing something. I never see anything like that. And on top of it, within like two months, you said, oh, you're coming to Utah, you have to be my dad. I'm like, what. But when I met him that first dinner in Utah, I realize the bond you had with your dad is very unique and very special. So I was very blessed in those you know, two years that I was. You know, I got to know your dad the way I did. Well.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes people will be like Lahla with Randall because she has like she's seeking a father figure, likes daddy issues, and I'm like, I do have daddy issues. I have issues with daddies who weren't like mine. I think it's sucked up, Like, you know, oh my.

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Speaker 1: God, that people don't understand that you had the greatest father and your relationship with him was was second to none.

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Speaker 4: So like the last thing you have.

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Speaker 1: Are those issues because you just were blessed to have a dad at that time.

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Speaker 3: He had such traumatic health issues that I watched from the time I was eight years old, like.

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Speaker 2: Any little thing.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I told you the time that he ate a ginger cookie and it was it cut his tongue, and because he was on blood thinners because of his heart, it turned into a life or death situation.

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Speaker 2: They could not get the bleeding to stop. So every single day that I woke up as a child up until he passed away, it was.

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Speaker 4: Like everything every moment.

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Speaker 3: Yes, you know, I just have to like baby him so so much.

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Speaker 4: I just want to say one thing.

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Speaker 1: I don't think people realize, and I knew a certain extent, but I think lately we've been talking about it a lot, and I had no idea. I mean, I cannot imagine as a child from eight years old to twenty seven years old, anytime you know your dad had some issue. I mean you were thinking, maybe this is the last time'm gonna see my dad. So growing up that way, the relationship obviously is even more intensified because you cherished every day with your dad. And I think I look back down and understand why now, because you and your heart of hearts knew that it was borrowed time basically right because of that youth issues. So I think that's why your relationship was so beautiful and so you know, connected, because you just you cherished it like every day was the last day.

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Speaker 4: So I love you for that.

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Speaker 3: And you know, I got sober exactly six months after my dad's passing, and for me, that was my dad being like, I've given you enough time, took.

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Speaker 1: It, It's okay.

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Speaker 5: And now we're approaching to your anniversary of his death, and I'm feeling him again, being like you're nicer than this lat like, so I need to do him proud, and I need to go toes with people who deserve for me to, you.

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Speaker 2: Know, like.

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Speaker 3: And and cherish the people who have really been sweet.

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Speaker 2: And I have to share this before we.

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Speaker 1: Go to a break, but not in the middle of you crying and sharing about your dad. So we'll we'll hold off.

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Speaker 3: And the thing that I love about our podcast, rand is I feel like it's raw and we can be ourselves and you know, be entertaining, but have fun. And so she and Ha's mom, Erica, who I love and adore, sent me a text today that was just like I'm thinking about you guys today, and you know, like when she sent that to me, I thanked her and and then I've just felt like I needed to apologize for the way that I spoke about her, sweet kid, and her response was like so beautiful and kind, like it made my heart warm, Like okay, like you don't need to beat yourself up over this anymore. Just do better and be better And that's all I can ask for from And that's what I want people who listen to this, I want that to be their takeaway. Like I know my following, if they're my fan, they're kind of like me a little bit pot heeaded, like they jumped it down a little bit. But like we're people and we have to just like love ourselves, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And by the way, I think that's a great thing to take away is forgiveness and not being so harsh on ourselves. And I tell you that, how much do I tell you beat yourself up? And it's not worth it lot? You know what I mean, because we have to be kind to ourselves, especially right now in the world that we're walking around it.

00:20:57
Speaker 2: Wow, this episode is like therapy for me.

00:21:03
Speaker 4: I'll send you my invoice. No, I'm kidding.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, babe, let's take a quick break because we have a lot more to talk about.

00:21:12
Speaker 2: Kay, Babes, We're back to give them laala with Randall.

00:21:15
Speaker 1: All right, we're.

00:21:17
Speaker 2: Doing this podcast via FaceTime. Randall is like looking heavy duty podcast.

00:21:24
Speaker 3: Looking boy, and I am you know, I feel like I'm your guest today.

00:21:30
Speaker 1: I know, you know, what I'm gonna interview you. Let you know what, Let's do this. You're gonna be my guest for the next ten minutes. I want to Yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna interview you about it.

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Speaker 2: Make it fun, make it fun though and light.

00:21:41
Speaker 1: Okay, of course, we just we just did twenty minutes of cleansing of our you know, of our wedding and all that stuff. So here we go.

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Speaker 4: We're gonna.

00:21:49
Speaker 1: I'm gonna interview you.

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Speaker 4: Here we go.

00:21:51
Speaker 1: So my guest, ladies and gentlemen, is the one and only fire Cracker, sexy, beautiful stunner my partner, La La Cad.

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Speaker 4: Welcome to the show.

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Speaker 2: Hi babe, thanks for having me.

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Speaker 1: Well, Lala, I love for you to share with us. There was a new episode of vander Pump Rules this week. I'd love for you to just take us through it a little bit and uh and share your feelings on it.

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Speaker 2: So this episode on Fanda Pump Rules.

00:22:21
Speaker 3: So Randall and I got to attend Tom and Katie Schwartz's.

00:22:27
Speaker 2: Wedding Bay wedding.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes.

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Speaker 3: And like I remember that day because in my mind and I even said this to Katie, I was like, this is your karma bitch for.

00:22:41
Speaker 2: You bang man Timmy calling me a whore. Oh my god, because she laughed. I was like, you gotta redo and now I get.

00:22:47
Speaker 1: To be there, and she's so amazing. That's amazing, Like it was.

00:22:52
Speaker 2: So much fun and it was like sort of like gimmicky.

00:22:55
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I.

00:22:56
Speaker 2: Thought it was so beautiful.

00:22:58
Speaker 4: I did too.

00:22:58
Speaker 2: I was like just the whole.

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Speaker 3: Thing of like getting to redo it, like you had your beautiful, stunning, actual wedding and now you get to do it, like everybody wants to really.

00:23:11
Speaker 2: Do it, you know.

00:23:12
Speaker 4: I agree.

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Speaker 1: I thought I thought there was you know, because they're already married sort of speak right, and it was like going there, it was just like have fun, no pressure. But then then when the actual moment happened, I was sitting there, I was so moved because I'm like, oh my god, I'm getting to be here. Well what become their actual real wedding certificate. So I got emotional because you know, it was fun going and then it was like it was like moving.

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Speaker 4: So I really like it.

00:23:38
Speaker 2: But you and I are such pussies. We're like such suckers for everything.

00:23:43
Speaker 3: It's like we managed to turn anything fun into being like, oh.

00:23:48
Speaker 2: It's so beautiful.

00:23:50
Speaker 3: I know we're definitely we're definitely theater geeks.

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Speaker 1: You can talk. You know, I agree, I agree with you and I own that. And uh, I mean you you love to torture me. When I'm watching commercials and I get emotional. You're like, are you crying? Like leave me alone?

00:24:05
Speaker 6: Oh?

00:24:05
Speaker 3: No, you cry more than I do. Yeah, okay, So I have a question for you. Yes, now you know, Dana and Max have.

00:24:13
Speaker 2: Like parted ways and now she's starting to date. Okay, Brett, Oh she is okay, yes, Oh?

00:24:21
Speaker 3: Is there a bro code when it comes to that, because this is the thing, Like Dana and Max they were exclusive. However, Max doesn't know what exclusive means. She's like, yeah, we're exclusive, but we're not like boyfriend and girlfriend.

00:24:35
Speaker 2: It's like, okay, well that means exclusive.

00:24:40
Speaker 3: And so if you are with a chick and you're not treating her correctly and someone else swoops in, who happens to be your friend? Like is there a bro code or is it like, dude, you fucked up?

00:24:52
Speaker 1: They're good friends, the two of them, like they're.

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Speaker 3: Brett, Yeah, I mean from what I've seen, I don't Again, I don't know them super well, but they they're like.

00:25:01
Speaker 2: Boys, you know.

00:25:02
Speaker 1: Okay, here's a thing. I mean, at least when I was younger and all my buddies were all single, there is definitely a bro code, like you would never go out with the girl that one of your best friends or buddies went out with, no matter what the situation was. So but again, I don't know if they're like really good friends or they're just work acquaintances. So I kind of like i'd have to know.

00:25:28
Speaker 3: More, let's say middle of the ground, like they're friends, Like they're not best friends, but they're more than just like work buddies.

00:25:35
Speaker 1: Oh if they're more than work buddies. And he didn't ask, that's a violation. Really yeah, that's a violation.

00:25:40
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, okay, well.

00:25:43
Speaker 4: Most guys will tell you that.

00:25:44
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't. I mean, at least all my friends, like you know, we we over the years back in the day, you know, we all cross paths with each other and stuff, and there were moments where somebody would come to me or I would go to them and I'd say, hey, you know, what was the situation, And so I definitely think it's a viol if they're more than just coworkers.

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Speaker 4: Yes, that's a violation.

00:26:07
Speaker 3: And this whole time that all of this stuff was going down with so at the pool little get together with just myself, Arianna and Dana, Dana had said like, I'm not Brett's type, and I was like, you have to get that out of your head, Like you have a vagina, You're everyone's type, all right.

00:26:27
Speaker 2: I was like, you're hot and have a badge. You're everyone's type, bench whether you like it or not.

00:26:32
Speaker 3: And I think that like people saying he's not my type or she's not my type is so stupid because in all honesty, if we're just going off types, like I was not your type when we met, you were not my type, correct, I had tattoos, I was like craziness, and you were usually dating more of like submissive people. And we looked through more than just like what our norm was, because obviously what we were used to wasn't fucking working.

00:27:05
Speaker 2: You know, like, where is your type now?

00:27:09
Speaker 1: But that's I think that's the point in this, is that when you fall for somebody, there's no such thing as a type.

00:27:15
Speaker 4: I used to think it, I think probably.

00:27:17
Speaker 1: Like you did. But yeah, the reality is you're right that the right person is the right person and whether their personality and physical is completely different than what you think is your type.

00:27:28
Speaker 4: It's the soul with any you know.

00:27:31
Speaker 1: And I think, like you and I on paper, of what we think our type was, probably exactly wasn't, like you said, And here we are, you know, getting married. So I agree with you that people should just get out of that whole type bullshit because until you know somebody and until you spend time with them, like I've had more fun with you than I've had with anybody in my entire life, right, And and what if my mom always tell you, she tells you my son has never I've never seen him more attentive ever in his life life. And I call it more at attention because you're like a military sergeant. So I would just say that that, But that's because I love you and I and I and I care about everything that you you know, feel and think, and I know you feel the same. So I just think people should stop with the type thing because you can miss out on something really magical.

00:28:21
Speaker 2: And I want to say this as well, Actually two things.

00:28:25
Speaker 3: Number one, everyone and I remember being this way like before I met you, I was like, oh, like, Katie doesn't have sex with her man, Like I am totally out there and sexual. And so when I hear people talk like that, now, I'm like, you have no idea, Like, you have to go beyond that, because that shit does fade. Life gets in the way, people get stressed, you have kids in the mix, Like, you have to have all your boxes checked, not just you have to.

00:28:52
Speaker 1: Know you know what it is.

00:28:53
Speaker 4: You have to know that the person you're with.

00:28:56
Speaker 1: Yeah, the sex is always awesome and it's great, but you can can't drive a relationship out of sex because people of people who do that, they end up either divorced or broken up in a relationship within.

00:29:08
Speaker 3: And when you and I first got together, we were like little jack rabbit up.

00:29:14
Speaker 1: All right, Well here's the thing. We're all so busy. You travel, you work, you got kids, blah blah blah blah blah, and you gotta find time. Look at us. We actually pick days. You and I.

00:29:25
Speaker 2: Yeah, I look at my book. I'm like, hey, are you free Saturday at seven pm?

00:29:29
Speaker 4: Oh?

00:29:29
Speaker 1: By the way, Oh my god, I have to tell you something exciting when you come home this week. Oh, you're going to be so excited. This will play into helping us continue our focus. I put a new door in the master with a lock. Yes, we want to have so we want to have date night. Now we just lock that bitch and we.

00:29:49
Speaker 2: Go lock that bitch. I love it.

00:29:54
Speaker 3: The second thing I want to say, because before we go to our voicemails, I always talk about the new cast, like our new cast members.

00:30:02
Speaker 2: I put cast in quotes because they still.

00:30:03
Speaker 3: Haven't earned their place as a commercial because that's what they are. Except Dana, Max and Brett I think are a graded audition, like Dana and Max five star.

00:30:16
Speaker 2: Throw them on the squad, like, let's do the damn thing amazing. So whenever I refer to the new.

00:30:22
Speaker 4: Cast, you're not referring to them anymore.

00:30:24
Speaker 2: I'm not Dana is my rider dyed dog.

00:30:26
Speaker 4: Because I want to I want to add to that.

00:30:28
Speaker 1: I always wonder that when you would just terrorize, you know, these general new casts.

00:30:33
Speaker 4: And you and demolish them.

00:30:35
Speaker 3: Yeah.

00:30:36
Speaker 1: I always thought that you had Dana and Max sever because I know you're friends with both of them, and you spend a lot of time with them. Yeah not a lot, I mean not a lot, but you you respect them like I know when you're with them, you really like it.

00:30:47
Speaker 2: I feel like they're a part of vander Pump rules.

00:30:49
Speaker 4: That's cool.

00:30:49
Speaker 2: I don't fast forward through their shit.

00:30:50
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that's cool.

00:30:52
Speaker 1: I like that because I know that you have respect for both of them, and that's really kind coming from an ERG, coming from an OG.

00:30:58
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm an OG. And then they're o gs and then O O g's.

00:31:01
Speaker 1: Here's here's a question. Before we go to break. We gotta go one more break and then we'll come back with questions. Am I considered new cast or am I considered special edition because I'm your fiance?

00:31:11
Speaker 3: No, You're like on the sitcoms when they have and a special guest featured, you know, and everyone when they walk on the screen, they're like, yeah, you know, I'll take that.

00:31:21
Speaker 4: I'll take that.

00:31:22
Speaker 1: I'll take that. All right, we're gonna run. We're gonna go to break real quick. We're gonna come back. We're gonna answer a lot of questions.

00:31:26
Speaker 3: All right, Okay, hello, everybody, It is yours truly.

00:31:33
Speaker 4: La La kent with Ran and we are back.

00:31:36
Speaker 3: It's weird because today I would officially be able to call you my husband, but I'm still going to call you my fiance.

00:31:44
Speaker 1: We were boy for a girl for a long time and they're holding us down on the fiance trip. But they will get them in the end. We'll get them in the end.

00:31:51
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree.

00:31:52
Speaker 3: So we have some fun questions, yep, okay, and I'm gonna start us off with one of someone slit in my DMS.

00:32:00
Speaker 2: Actually with this epic question.

00:32:02
Speaker 3: Okay, let's here, Okay, okay, girl. This question is for your podcast. It's a little personal and it's not for everyone, which is why I'm writing you. You have talked a little bit about your relationship with Rand and your life outside of vander Pump. Do y'all have a dom slash sub relationship or daddy slash little relationship? I have a very amazing relationship with my husband, who is sixteen years older than me, and when y'all talk, it reminds me of a similar thing. I love that you have a podcast, Keep on Keeping On, girl, So we won't be able to play this because it's not a recording, this is a DM.

00:32:36
Speaker 2: But I loved the question.

00:32:38
Speaker 4: Oh, I love that question.

00:32:39
Speaker 2: Do we have a daddy slash little relationship?

00:32:42
Speaker 4: No?

00:32:43
Speaker 1: No, no, absolutely not.

00:32:46
Speaker 2: Now I don't knock it. I don't knock anyone who does have a daddy.

00:32:49
Speaker 1: No no, no, no, no, no no, But I'm not knocking no, hold on. I want to be clear, I'm not knocking anybody's relationship. I just feel that you, honestly, and I'm gonna really I say this with sincerity. You are way too tough for this to be any kind of other relationship than equal we are. I just feel like we're partners, you know, through and through, and you know that's I don't know.

00:33:12
Speaker 4: I don't see that.

00:33:13
Speaker 2: I don't see that either.

00:33:14
Speaker 3: And also, I feel like Randall is very immature or forty nine year old, and I'm I don't want to say I'm mature for a twenty nine year old, I kind of act act twenty nine.

00:33:29
Speaker 1: Here's how I like to I like to classify you. I think you're immature in all the best ways, like life and fun, but when it comes to taking care of our house, make sure the kids do their school work, making sure we eat good, you are very mature when it comes to real life issues, and that's great for me, and I consider myself more of a passionate person.

00:33:53
Speaker 2: Yeah, we meet each other in the middle yeah, but you are.

00:33:56
Speaker 1: You are very mature and the important things in life, and you're still very playful and immature in the fun part of life.

00:34:02
Speaker 4: So I think you have a great balance.

00:34:04
Speaker 1: But I think you and I are really teammates and very equal. I told you the day I met you that I always look at you as my partner, and that's how I'm always gonna look at you.

00:34:14
Speaker 3: Yeah, we could never have a dom sub relationship because I am everything but submissive like that. I remember my mom as a kid talking about submissive women and I remember just being like, oh, I can never be that unless it's I'm like role playing.

00:34:35
Speaker 4: No, if you're a role playing that's one thing.

00:34:36
Speaker 1: But let me just tell you in your list of qualities, yeah, you don't even know how to spell the words submissive. So we'll just move on from that work because that's not who you.

00:34:45
Speaker 2: Are, right.

00:34:46
Speaker 1: But I love the strong woman that you are and what you stand for, so I would not want to change one thing.

00:34:54
Speaker 2: Okay, next voicemail, Hi Lala and Randall.

00:34:58
Speaker 7: My name is Jordans. I'm from Vancouver, British Columbia. My question is for La La. I've been watching Vanderpump Rules since I was probably in grade ten, and you've always been my favorite. My question is a lot of the newbies as you call them this season, seem to be talking a lot of smack in their personal little diary room stories, and I'm wondering does that affect any relationship you or your other castmates have with them in real life or is it all good? Once again, I love watching you on the show, and I love how Randall's in it as well, and I get fear relationship, and I also love the podcast.

00:35:41
Speaker 3: Oh Jordan, Jordan from Vancouver, No, you know what I've noticed too, Like all of these little newbies talk mad shit, like I think Danica like slammed me for something and slammed stassy and I I didn't have been more not interested. It was like, okay, well this is like she I know, Like I'm so unaffected. Here's when I get affected when I have a Jennifer Lawrence coming for me.

00:36:15
Speaker 2: Affected Dana Cadeau.

00:36:18
Speaker 3: Fucking walk in the park like no need Like it doesn't affect me at all. I just look at it as like, okay, like she needs more than sixteen thousand followers. I get it, Like so she tags me, let her get amazingly twenty more and.

00:36:34
Speaker 1: I move on.

00:36:35
Speaker 3: Wow, okay, like Stassy, I would say I'm more sensitive than Stacy Stacy sometimes, like if I see a DM from someone that's me and she's like, law, please let it go, Like who is this person from Bump fuck Wisconsin? Not that there's anything wrong. I love cheese, I actually love Wisconsin, but you know what I mean, she's just saying, like this person who like doesn't you're no, I don't know.

00:37:01
Speaker 1: You, but what have I said to you? Always? I've watched you over fourty years where some days you just wake up and you're you know, you're you're a sensitive person. And some days you wake up and and you're more effective than others. And I see you going I said, what are you reading, babe? And you're like this mother fucker, this person talking shit and insulting us or blah blah blah, and and and I'll say, well, babe, let it go. But I'm the same way. I call you some days and you're like, han, what are you doing? I'm like, this person has the dacy to insult my physical occurrence.

00:37:32
Speaker 3: And you're like, well, because Randall, but we're people, we're people.

00:37:37
Speaker 1: But they think like we're robots or something. It's like, dude, we also are human beings. Like why, like, if you don't like it, here's my thing about social media. If you don't like us and follow us, why do you have to be insulting and mean? It's so disgusting? I don't know, so I attack.

00:37:53
Speaker 4: Back sometimes I do. I'm guilty.

00:37:55
Speaker 3: Yeah, there was this girl who slid in my DM and I read it to Madison last night and she was just berating me, like my sobriety, calling me a dry drunk, like the way you treat people, blah blah blah.

00:38:05
Speaker 2: And so I responded, I was like, babe, could you please fuck off?

00:38:09
Speaker 4: Wow?

00:38:09
Speaker 3: And she responded, she goes mature response and in my head, in my head, I didn't I didn't even need to respond because it's like, what kind of response were you looking for? Just like just like an explanation, who are you? I will never meet you. I've already deleted the DM. I couldn't even tell you her name or what she looked like. Like, the only response you deserve for an email or a DM like that to someone you don't know is like fuck off.

00:38:36
Speaker 1: Yeah, I listen, I get it. Too, and I never but I never got it till I till I.

00:38:41
Speaker 4: Started dating you.

00:38:43
Speaker 1: And I'm sorry, no, it's okay. But when I see it, and I'm like, why are you talking? Like why if you don't like me or you don't like something about me, why do you feel the need to like if you don't have something nice to say, don't text at all?

00:38:58
Speaker 3: You know what, Like back in the day, Italian men were super fat, and that's how you knew they were loaded, like super rich, because you knew like, oh, they're eaten good.

00:39:09
Speaker 4: So like you know, yeah, there we go. So I'm an Italian fat man.

00:39:14
Speaker 3: Well well, I'm just saying, like, when did this become like something where it was like we all sit here and it's projected all the time, like don't body shame, don't do this, and then all of these people do exactly that.

00:39:26
Speaker 1: But that's what I understand it. It's like insulting somebody. Thank God, I'm a confident, successful man and I really don't give a shit what somebody says. At the end of the day, I just like to give it back so they feel but and two wrongs don't make it right. But at the end of the day, like who gives you the authority on what is okay and what's not? And I just think people have really lost their way. I will say one thing during this quarantine time, I have found less of the negative. Do you notice that? Yeah, I feel like people have really rechecked themselves. And I really hope we come out of this quarantine that people have more appreciation or kinder because we you know, hopefully people got a little smacked down the ones that were out of line, you know, and hopefully they change it to Let's hear another.

00:40:10
Speaker 3: Question though, Okay, let me give another question, let me find.

00:40:14
Speaker 7: One hilt with rand. I'm Marilynn.

00:40:17
Speaker 8: I just wanted to call in and say I'm loving the podcast and getting to know you guys as a couple. It's really really cool.

00:40:26
Speaker 1: Rand.

00:40:26
Speaker 8: Yes, you have a great voice. I love it, and I just wanted to call because to say I love you guys, I love the podcast, and ask you a quick question. So I was just wondering, Randall, what are your top five must watch films? Some that you've showed to La lat or not, and some that you think everyone should watch. So hope to hear from you guys, and can't wait to keep listening.

00:40:51
Speaker 2: Ooh, this is a good question. I want to know too.

00:40:53
Speaker 4: That's a really good question.

00:40:55
Speaker 2: Top five movies.

00:40:56
Speaker 1: That's tough for me because I'm such a movie geek, but I will I will try to pick five that I think are diverse because I have so many. Number one for me is always going to be Scarface al Pacino. I think that Gladiator is one of the greatest movies of all time. Okay, I think Goodfellas is one of the greatest movies of all time. On a lighter note, I would pick well, I would say Casta Blanca that everybody should see. That's four, okay, and then five the Notebook. I think those are five of the really, you know, those are very Those are five different kinds of movies. And I, you know, I want to be diverse because I lean towards more action, tough guy films.

00:41:41
Speaker 3: But the movies like Randal and I always have the hardest time picking a movie because I like comedy and light and fun, and he's always like, let's watch this really depressing movie.

00:41:53
Speaker 4: I like, you like Will Ferrell Adams.

00:41:59
Speaker 1: I mean, I I love comedy too, but I don't love it as much as I like the more dramatic stuff.

00:42:04
Speaker 3: Yeah, like I I fall asleep to with my EarPods in to Seinfeld, Like that's what makes me calm and go to sleep.

00:42:13
Speaker 1: Well, you actually made me walk out of one of the greatest American Broadway plays with the biggest movie star in the world because you're you couldn't take it the heavy how dark and heavy it was.

00:42:24
Speaker 4: Do you remember that?

00:42:25
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

00:42:26
Speaker 3: I was like, and that was during my time that I was trying not to drink, and I was like trying to like make you think I wasn't liking to drink, and all I wanted was to like sneak a fucking cocktail.

00:42:38
Speaker 1: You know.

00:42:38
Speaker 2: I was like, this is not good.

00:42:41
Speaker 3: Get me to a place where I can sneak an alcoholic beverage.

00:42:44
Speaker 1: Oh my Okay, that's not where I was going with this, But thank you for that for me.

00:42:49
Speaker 2: Well, I'm just sharing.

00:42:50
Speaker 1: Sharing is caring, okay anyway, But I do agree that you're not good with the heavier stuff. That's why you binge watch every night Friends and Seinfeld, which, by the way, you got me enthusiasm. Can I tell you I bought you a gift today. It's not an emotional gifts it's not a heavy gift. It's actually light. So I just I can't keep a secret, you know, I suck at that.

00:43:15
Speaker 2: Tell me, tell me what my gift is.

00:43:16
Speaker 1: I bought the turkey on the stick? What from Friends?

00:43:20
Speaker 2: Are you fucking serious?

00:43:21
Speaker 1: Yeah?

00:43:21
Speaker 4: It comes in four days.

00:43:23
Speaker 2: Wait, the turkey on the stick.

00:43:24
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like a big turkey, fake turkey on a stick from Friends and and uh and.

00:43:30
Speaker 2: It says wait, the one that he put on his head.

00:43:33
Speaker 1: I don't know where he put it, but and it says property a Warner Brothers on it like one of three. No, wait, yesterday.

00:43:42
Speaker 3: That is the best gift out of everything I've ever gone Chanelle's Burgin's cars, that is what.

00:43:49
Speaker 4: That's the best.

00:43:51
Speaker 3: Yeah.

00:43:52
Speaker 4: Oh shit, I have to keep going in the future with this. Now, I've always known this.

00:43:56
Speaker 2: I'm easy to please.

00:43:57
Speaker 3: I come off as being very difficult and boots, but I'm like easy peasy.

00:44:02
Speaker 1: No. I thought you'd like this, and I thought it would be a fun, lighthearted thing during these times.

00:44:06
Speaker 4: So yes, it'll be here this week.

00:44:08
Speaker 2: That is gangster.

00:44:10
Speaker 3: So, since you are looking like the podcast king and I'm just doing this via FaceTime, would you like to do the honors of signing.

00:44:18
Speaker 2: Us out La La Kent style.

00:44:20
Speaker 4: Of course, let's see if you know how hold on? I have to try. Here we go.

00:44:24
Speaker 1: Well, we are so grateful for to have you guys on our podcast this week. Stay safe, stay healthy, sexy babies.

00:44:32
Speaker 4: It's get them La la with Rent. I don't know that sounded they.

00:44:36
Speaker 2: All signed us out.

00:44:39
Speaker 3: I want to thank y'all so much for tuning into this episode. I hope that you slay the inside of your homes, stay healthy and safe, and we will catch you next week.

00:44:50
Speaker 9: Hi, guys, my name and I just wanted to say I don't even have a question. I just wanted to say that through the crazy times, you guys are what's getting me through, you know, working out, I go for like a four mile side mile walk and I get to listen to you guys, and for that short period of time, it just makes me forget about everything.

00:45:15
Speaker 7: That's going on right now in this crazy world.

00:45:18
Speaker 6: I think you guys are that shit crazy and hilarious, and I just want to let you know that you guys are awesome and keep at it. You're doing a great job and you're getting all of us through it, So kudos.

00:45:32
Speaker 7: Good job.

00:45:33
Speaker 6: And especially me being to stay at home mom. Randall, you know how that is with kids, La, La, you know how that.

00:45:39
Speaker 7: Is with kids.

00:45:41
Speaker 1: It's crazy. Anyway, I love you both.

00:45:45
Speaker 6: You're awesome, and keep up the good words.

00:45:48
Speaker 1: Thanks to everyone who has already left us so many great messages. Keep them coming because we love hearing from all of you.

00:45:53
Speaker 4: Guys.

00:45:53
Speaker 1: Call us anytime at eight six y six Lalla pot. That's eight six six, Lalla pot.

00:46:00
Speaker 4: Thanks so much for listening to everyone,