221 | Staying True to the Model: Encouraging New Therapists to Trust CCPT
Play Therapy Podcast: A Master-Class in Child-Centered Play Therapy
In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to a question from Deidra in Virginia, a first-year supervised therapist whose supervisor isn't child-centered and often suggests teaching coping skills to young clients in play therapy sessions. I share my perspective on why child-centered play therapy (CCPT) doesn't involve directive instruction like teaching coping skills and how children naturally develop coping mechanisms through the CCPT therapeutic process itself. I offer encouragement to Deidra and other therapists in similar situations, emphasizing the importance of adhering to the CCPT model.
I also discuss how CCPT encourages therapists to trust the process, the model, and the child's ability to work through challenges in their own way. I remind listeners that it's natural to feel unsure in moments when others advocate for a different approach, but staying true to the CCPT model yields powerful, transformative outcomes over time.
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Common References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.
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0 00:00:00,409 --> 00:00:04,280 You're listening to the Play Therapy Podcast with Dr. Brenna Hicks. 1 00:00:04,289 --> 00:00:08,119 Your source for centered and focused play therapy coaching. 2 00:00:08,420 --> 00:00:10,550 Hi, I'm Dr. Brenna Hicks, The Kid Counselor. 3 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:14,060 This is the Play Therapy Podcast where you get a master class in child-centered, 4 00:00:14,069 --> 00:00:14,840 play therapy 5 00:00:15,039 --> 00:00:17,299 and practical support and application for your 6 00:00:17,309 --> 00:00:19,219 work with children and their families. 7 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:22,989 In today's episode. I am answering a question from Deidra in Virginia 8 00:00:23,450 --> 00:00:26,299 and her question is about a 9 00:00:26,579 --> 00:00:29,020 supervisor that is not child-centered 10 00:00:29,459 --> 00:00:30,309 and 11 00:00:30,479 --> 00:00:34,189 the supervisor recommending to teach coping skills 12 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:36,270 to children in play sessions. 13 00:00:36,759 --> 00:00:38,310 Perish the thought. 14 00:00:38,500 --> 00:00:39,150 All right. 15 00:00:39,340 --> 00:00:43,430 So let me read parts of Deidre's email and then we'll talk through this together, 16 00:00:43,439 --> 00:00:43,750 y'all. 17 00:00:43,759 --> 00:00:44,470 Y'all know. 18 00:00:44,500 --> 00:00:47,349 You know what I, I had this thought before I started recording this episode. 19 00:00:47,439 --> 00:00:51,709 I was like, as soon as I say, what this is about my vets are going to be like, 20 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:52,959 I know exactly what she's going to say. 21 00:00:52,970 --> 00:00:54,380 I don't even need to listen to this. 22 00:00:54,849 --> 00:01:00,180 So if you're predicting my response, you can email me and say how on track you were, 23 00:01:00,189 --> 00:01:04,629 you know what you give yourself as a grade for how, how much you knew I was going to say. 24 00:01:04,989 --> 00:01:07,139 All right. So Deidra, thank you so much for the email. 25 00:01:07,150 --> 00:01:10,099 Let me read parts of her email and we'll get into this. 26 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:11,709 I'm very humored by this. 27 00:01:11,980 --> 00:01:17,050 I'm a first year L CS W supervised working with children 4 to 12 in a private practice. 28 00:01:17,569 --> 00:01:20,589 I've been taking play therapy trainings since before I graduated 29 00:01:20,699 --> 00:01:22,309 and I'm working through your podcasts. 30 00:01:22,849 --> 00:01:25,529 My in-house supervisor is not AC CPT. 31 00:01:25,650 --> 00:01:27,720 When I go to her for supervision and guidance, 32 00:01:27,730 --> 00:01:30,230 she often recommends teaching coping skills. 33 00:01:30,919 --> 00:01:33,580 I never know what to say. And sometimes I try, 34 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:36,660 but my kids would prefer to play like always 35 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:39,949 when kids bring me a problem and say they would like help. 36 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:44,379 I do use a cute checklist of coping strategies and we go through and mark them as yes, 37 00:01:44,389 --> 00:01:48,230 no or maybe to try even though that is not child-centered, 38 00:01:48,750 --> 00:01:50,610 I feel like I'm working in the shadows. 39 00:01:50,620 --> 00:01:53,129 Although your episodes about explaining play therapy 40 00:01:53,139 --> 00:01:55,389 to caregivers and teachers was very helpful. 41 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:56,309 Any advice? 42 00:01:57,349 --> 00:02:01,569 Well, Deidra, thank you. And yes, I do have advice. So let's dive in. 43 00:02:02,319 --> 00:02:05,620 All right. Vets see, see how, how effective you were at pre 44 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:06,980 at predicting this. 45 00:02:07,559 --> 00:02:07,949 Ok. 46 00:02:07,959 --> 00:02:10,910 So Deidre, let's start with, first of all, 47 00:02:10,919 --> 00:02:15,429 I'm so excited that you found play therapy before you even graduated. 48 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:17,050 I'm so excited that as a 49 00:02:17,220 --> 00:02:18,639 first year supervised, 50 00:02:18,740 --> 00:02:22,729 you are trying to implement C CP T in your practice. 51 00:02:23,039 --> 00:02:24,669 That's so exciting and 52 00:02:25,410 --> 00:02:28,970 early in your career to be able to do this, it's a Godsend. 53 00:02:28,979 --> 00:02:32,669 So I hope that you're very satisfied in the path that you're on. 54 00:02:33,210 --> 00:02:33,779 So 55 00:02:34,399 --> 00:02:38,250 many, many of my listeners, many of my coaching participants, 56 00:02:38,259 --> 00:02:39,869 many of my collective members 57 00:02:40,210 --> 00:02:43,929 lament the same exact thing that their supervisor is not C CP T. 58 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:47,029 So you and so many others are in the exact same position. 59 00:02:48,029 --> 00:02:51,529 And here's what I say to all of them and here's what I'm going to say to you, Deidre, 60 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:54,259 you are adherent to the model, 61 00:02:54,270 --> 00:02:57,690 no matter what you are told from anyone at any time for any reason. 62 00:02:58,679 --> 00:03:02,619 And I don't say that to be flippant. I don't say that to be 63 00:03:03,229 --> 00:03:06,020 angry or judgmental or critical or anything. 64 00:03:06,479 --> 00:03:11,139 I'm saying it to encourage you. I was talking to Eric the other day. 65 00:03:11,149 --> 00:03:13,110 Actually, I think this morning as a matter of fact 66 00:03:13,479 --> 00:03:15,580 that so many people have said to me, 67 00:03:15,929 --> 00:03:17,509 I borrow your courage 68 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:22,509 or the more I learn from you, you know, I absorb your confidence, 69 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,869 I, I take in your competence 70 00:03:26,220 --> 00:03:29,119 and we were talking about those phrases earlier today. 71 00:03:29,130 --> 00:03:32,070 So that's why I brought that up because 72 00:03:32,809 --> 00:03:36,149 if you don't feel confident and competent and courageous enough, 73 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:41,949 then borrow from me, borrow from those that have walked in this field for years. 74 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:42,869 You know, we're, 75 00:03:43,110 --> 00:03:45,110 we're standing on the shoulders of giants 76 00:03:45,970 --> 00:03:48,389 and we know that C CP T works. 77 00:03:48,669 --> 00:03:53,789 So I'm not saying it to be confrontational or argumentative or even combative 78 00:03:53,919 --> 00:03:57,869 against other clinicians that aren't C CP T. But what we know 79 00:03:58,369 --> 00:04:00,110 is that C CP T works. 80 00:04:00,570 --> 00:04:05,149 And if it is the model that most closely aligns with who you are, if it is congruent 81 00:04:05,539 --> 00:04:07,630 with who you want to be as a practitioner. 82 00:04:08,119 --> 00:04:14,449 And if you are all in and you say I am C CP T notice that I said I am not, I'm going to do 83 00:04:15,059 --> 00:04:17,600 because it is a way of being not a skill set. 84 00:04:17,619 --> 00:04:19,980 That's something we always have to remember. 85 00:04:21,230 --> 00:04:23,619 If you say I am CPT 86 00:04:24,859 --> 00:04:28,529 your supervisor doesn't have the luxury of telling you to 87 00:04:28,540 --> 00:04:31,149 do something other than what you are trained to do. 88 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:31,910 Theoretically. 89 00:04:33,929 --> 00:04:35,429 That would be the equivalent 90 00:04:35,679 --> 00:04:36,500 of 91 00:04:37,109 --> 00:04:38,950 a doctor coming into a room 92 00:04:39,459 --> 00:04:40,350 and saying 93 00:04:40,829 --> 00:04:43,470 I know that you are a heart surgeon, 94 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:47,019 but I actually want you to 95 00:04:47,579 --> 00:04:49,769 do this G I thing 96 00:04:50,119 --> 00:04:52,049 because I think this is better 97 00:04:53,429 --> 00:04:55,399 if we have our lane, 98 00:04:55,570 --> 00:04:56,809 we have our training 99 00:04:57,549 --> 00:05:00,549 and we have what we know is our wheelhouse, 100 00:05:01,510 --> 00:05:04,230 someone else's advice, suggestion, 101 00:05:04,470 --> 00:05:05,739 hypothesis, 102 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:08,190 encouragement, support, whatever. 103 00:05:09,230 --> 00:05:12,220 If it doesn't align with what we know we want to do, 104 00:05:13,119 --> 00:05:15,029 we say thank you. And we dismiss it. 105 00:05:15,980 --> 00:05:17,829 And I know that's tricky as a supervisor 106 00:05:18,250 --> 00:05:20,920 because we feel a little bit beholden to 107 00:05:21,029 --> 00:05:23,570 our supervisor telling us what to do and we're kind 108 00:05:23,579 --> 00:05:26,929 of supposed to listen because that's the role of supervision 109 00:05:27,250 --> 00:05:28,989 and the dynamic in supervision. 110 00:05:29,089 --> 00:05:31,589 The supervisor tells the supervising what to do. 111 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:36,579 But your supervisor is providing you supervision for your hours. 112 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:41,140 If your supervisor is not theoretically aligned with you. You have two choices. 113 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:44,260 You either find a supervisor who is 114 00:05:45,260 --> 00:05:48,769 or you continue to receive supervision from this supervisor. 115 00:05:49,089 --> 00:05:51,920 But you say thank you and do your own thing. 116 00:05:53,049 --> 00:05:54,850 And that's again, that's not to 117 00:05:55,679 --> 00:06:00,799 create a huge stink. It's just to say if I'm CPT, I'm CPT, 118 00:06:01,559 --> 00:06:02,600 that's the end of the story. 119 00:06:03,250 --> 00:06:05,829 So Deidra, you are completely adherent 120 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:09,209 to C CPT no matter what, that's where we start 121 00:06:10,019 --> 00:06:10,489 next. 122 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:12,769 Kids learn 123 00:06:13,260 --> 00:06:14,369 what they need to, 124 00:06:14,570 --> 00:06:16,369 they work on what they need to, 125 00:06:16,649 --> 00:06:18,279 they address what they need to 126 00:06:19,109 --> 00:06:20,359 through C CPT. 127 00:06:22,140 --> 00:06:26,299 So the fact that your supervisor is saying you need to teach them coping skills. 128 00:06:26,579 --> 00:06:28,359 That's really ironic to me 129 00:06:29,010 --> 00:06:31,410 because they develop coping skills 130 00:06:31,559 --> 00:06:33,589 as a by-product of C CPT. 131 00:06:35,079 --> 00:06:39,779 We know that children learn how to cope more effectively 132 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:42,059 as a result of the child-centered model. 133 00:06:42,470 --> 00:06:46,339 We know they build resilience, we know they build problem solving, 134 00:06:46,350 --> 00:06:49,619 we know they build all of the things that they need 135 00:06:49,890 --> 00:06:52,410 to better manage and handle situations. 136 00:06:53,209 --> 00:06:58,029 So we don't need to quote, teach them anything, they teach it to themselves, 137 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:01,420 they figure it out themselves, they learn it themselves. 138 00:07:01,609 --> 00:07:03,660 Why would we want to take over 139 00:07:03,899 --> 00:07:07,440 and try to instruct something that they're going to naturally work through 140 00:07:07,450 --> 00:07:09,950 on their own if we just get out of their way. 141 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,200 So they're naturally going to develop coping skills. 142 00:07:14,209 --> 00:07:16,299 We don't need to do anything to get them there 143 00:07:17,690 --> 00:07:19,470 and then my next thought is 144 00:07:19,890 --> 00:07:21,019 you mentioned 145 00:07:21,609 --> 00:07:25,089 when kids bring me a problem and say they would like help. 146 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:28,429 Ok. That's a huge red flag to me. 147 00:07:28,929 --> 00:07:30,160 Here are my thoughts on that. 148 00:07:31,489 --> 00:07:32,660 A child would 149 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:34,410 rarely, if ever, 150 00:07:35,209 --> 00:07:39,529 rarely if ever I, I can think of a handful in 20 years 151 00:07:40,399 --> 00:07:44,239 that it was genuinely from the child's mouth, genuinely. 152 00:07:44,250 --> 00:07:46,540 The child's desire and request 153 00:07:47,500 --> 00:07:52,940 a child is usually not going to quote, bring you a problem and, or say, quote, 154 00:07:52,950 --> 00:07:54,100 I want some help. 155 00:07:54,450 --> 00:07:55,709 You wanna know what that tells me. 156 00:07:56,679 --> 00:07:59,839 They have pressure from an adult in their life. 157 00:08:00,859 --> 00:08:02,170 Well, when you go see MS Brenna, 158 00:08:02,179 --> 00:08:05,279 you better tell her that you have problems sleeping and then she can help you. 159 00:08:05,980 --> 00:08:07,320 Well, when you go see Miss Brenna, 160 00:08:07,329 --> 00:08:10,010 you better talk to her about you getting in fights about in school. 161 00:08:10,450 --> 00:08:12,239 Well, when you go see Miss Brenna, her whole, 162 00:08:12,250 --> 00:08:14,760 the whole reason you go to her is so that she can help you. 163 00:08:14,820 --> 00:08:18,480 So you need to ask for help about this because Miss Brenna will help you. 164 00:08:18,929 --> 00:08:20,380 Do you see the, 165 00:08:20,390 --> 00:08:24,010 the lead in to a child coming in and saying or doing something like that? 166 00:08:24,459 --> 00:08:26,489 It's almost always pressure from an adult 167 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:27,720 and or 168 00:08:28,130 --> 00:08:31,700 if you have not been fully aligned theoretically to C CPT, 169 00:08:32,469 --> 00:08:37,020 they have an expectation that they're supposed to talk to you about their problems. 170 00:08:38,058 --> 00:08:40,169 So if you've done any directive activities, 171 00:08:40,179 --> 00:08:42,830 if you've given them any indication that you're going to quote, 172 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:44,549 help them with their problems, 173 00:08:45,099 --> 00:08:47,799 then they might feel compelled to bring it up 174 00:08:47,809 --> 00:08:49,940 because they think that that's expected of them. 175 00:08:50,539 --> 00:08:55,630 But in either scenario, that's not C CP T adherent and it's not CCT aligned. 176 00:08:55,830 --> 00:08:56,409 So if a, 177 00:08:56,419 --> 00:09:01,400 if a parent is putting pressure or if they feel that it's an expectation clinically, 178 00:09:02,559 --> 00:09:05,299 that is not something that they would naturally do 179 00:09:05,599 --> 00:09:06,840 unless that's the case. 180 00:09:07,380 --> 00:09:09,020 So I wanna make that really clear 181 00:09:09,419 --> 00:09:10,020 and 182 00:09:10,890 --> 00:09:12,469 you your checklist, 183 00:09:12,799 --> 00:09:16,229 I appreciate that. You said it's cute, but please throw it away 184 00:09:17,289 --> 00:09:21,390 and I say that with all the love and grace that I really truly have for you. 185 00:09:21,739 --> 00:09:22,299 But 186 00:09:22,580 --> 00:09:26,609 we do not do activities with kids in AC CPT playroom. 187 00:09:26,849 --> 00:09:29,469 Whether your supervisor is pressuring you to do it or not, 188 00:09:29,780 --> 00:09:31,989 whether a child asks you for help or not, 189 00:09:32,869 --> 00:09:34,570 you don't do a checklist 190 00:09:35,010 --> 00:09:37,150 to talk about coping strategies with kids. 191 00:09:37,869 --> 00:09:41,539 They're not developmentally capable of it. They don't have abstract reasoning, 192 00:09:41,729 --> 00:09:45,090 they don't want to think about it, they want to experience and feel it. 193 00:09:45,210 --> 00:09:46,809 So guess what? Let them play, 194 00:09:47,719 --> 00:09:49,440 let them work on their junk 195 00:09:49,729 --> 00:09:52,609 and they'll naturally develop coping strategies. 196 00:09:53,599 --> 00:09:56,309 You don't have to do a checklist with them, they'll figure it out. 197 00:09:56,989 --> 00:10:00,820 So trust the child, trust the model, trust the process. 198 00:10:01,369 --> 00:10:04,640 And if you follow it, if you are fully adherent, 199 00:10:04,750 --> 00:10:06,559 you will see the transformation 200 00:10:06,989 --> 00:10:08,580 Eric and I were walking this morning 201 00:10:08,950 --> 00:10:11,989 and I'm telling you all kinds of stories today. That's not on purpose. 202 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:13,140 It's just coming out of my brain. 203 00:10:13,630 --> 00:10:15,640 We were on a walk this morning and 204 00:10:16,049 --> 00:10:16,989 I said, 205 00:10:17,010 --> 00:10:20,669 you would not believe how many people I just started a coaching group yesterday. 206 00:10:20,679 --> 00:10:22,549 So they were all introducing themselves. 207 00:10:22,940 --> 00:10:25,289 And one of the questions was why they love play therapy. 208 00:10:25,929 --> 00:10:30,020 And so many of them responded in their own way of saying 209 00:10:30,469 --> 00:10:32,030 because I've watched it work 210 00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:35,140 because I've seen it work because I've been in 211 00:10:35,150 --> 00:10:37,309 the playroom and I've had a front row seat 212 00:10:37,460 --> 00:10:41,030 to the transformation that takes place because I've watched 213 00:10:41,039 --> 00:10:43,599 the magic unfold right before my very eyes. 214 00:10:43,609 --> 00:10:45,989 I, I heard all kinds of variations of that phrase. 215 00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:47,640 So Eric and I were talking about that 216 00:10:48,030 --> 00:10:48,989 and he said, 217 00:10:49,340 --> 00:10:50,700 I'm gonna create a meme 218 00:10:50,940 --> 00:10:52,590 such a tech guy, right? 219 00:10:53,080 --> 00:10:56,039 So I'm like, hm, I wonder what your meme is going to be about. 220 00:10:56,419 --> 00:10:57,340 And he says, 221 00:10:59,409 --> 00:11:02,630 I, I'm paraphrasing, I'm probably gonna butcher what he said. 222 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:04,169 But something along the lines of 223 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:06,380 I, 224 00:11:06,700 --> 00:11:09,830 as soon as I became fully adherent to C CPT, 225 00:11:10,669 --> 00:11:14,820 I realized how much more favorable the outcomes 226 00:11:14,929 --> 00:11:16,770 are with kids in the playroom. 227 00:11:16,979 --> 00:11:17,760 Dash 228 00:11:18,380 --> 00:11:19,409 Every 229 00:11:19,750 --> 00:11:23,090 reformed Eclectic Play therapist or something like that. 230 00:11:23,500 --> 00:11:25,890 And I got to thinking about that and I was like, 231 00:11:26,090 --> 00:11:30,739 it's true when we are fully adherent, when we trust kids, when we trust the model, 232 00:11:30,750 --> 00:11:33,590 when we trust the process, when we get out of the way, 233 00:11:33,599 --> 00:11:36,440 when we stop doing all these other things and we just 234 00:11:36,450 --> 00:11:39,200 let the child do what the child needs to do. 235 00:11:39,700 --> 00:11:44,479 We see the outcomes, we see the growth, we see the change, we see the progress 236 00:11:44,780 --> 00:11:47,000 and guess what C CP works. 237 00:11:47,789 --> 00:11:48,469 So 238 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:52,369 that's the moral of the story, Deidra, regardless of your supervisor, 239 00:11:52,750 --> 00:11:54,609 you now have your pep talk, 240 00:11:54,619 --> 00:11:56,859 you have your encouragement and your support and your 241 00:11:56,869 --> 00:11:59,210 courage and your confidence and all of those things 242 00:11:59,590 --> 00:12:04,299 to say, no matter what, I'm going to be fully adherent to C CPT 243 00:12:04,460 --> 00:12:07,330 because that's what's best for kids and I know it will work. 244 00:12:07,890 --> 00:12:11,010 And when you don't deviate, you watch that it works. 245 00:12:11,359 --> 00:12:14,349 So I hope that's encouraging to you. I hope that's encouraging to all of you 246 00:12:14,809 --> 00:12:16,099 for those of you that 247 00:12:16,210 --> 00:12:19,419 are struggling with a supervisor that is not C CP T 248 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,500 we all understand the frustration of that, 249 00:12:22,849 --> 00:12:26,070 but you can still be C CP T in the midst of it. 250 00:12:26,770 --> 00:12:27,989 You can still do it. 251 00:12:28,119 --> 00:12:29,599 It's a willful decision 252 00:12:29,770 --> 00:12:33,309 and it's an everyday choice. It's an every session choice. 253 00:12:33,780 --> 00:12:35,989 It's in every moment in the playroom choice. 254 00:12:36,270 --> 00:12:37,510 I will not deviate, 255 00:12:37,929 --> 00:12:39,090 I will not deviate. 256 00:12:39,210 --> 00:12:40,489 And I know you think that 257 00:12:40,650 --> 00:12:46,210 I am C CP T extraordinaire. And thank you for all of the, the faith that you have in me, 258 00:12:46,650 --> 00:12:50,260 but I'll be really truthful with you. There were plenty of sessions 259 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:52,429 early in my career 260 00:12:52,739 --> 00:12:57,909 where I was internally battling with myself in real time in a session. 261 00:12:58,250 --> 00:13:02,090 Should I say something. Should I bring that up? Should I suggest that? 262 00:13:02,130 --> 00:13:04,830 Should I introduce this? Should I, 263 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:09,359 if you're saying should to yourself? 264 00:13:09,979 --> 00:13:11,289 A, the answer is no, 265 00:13:12,150 --> 00:13:12,590 b 266 00:13:14,090 --> 00:13:14,909 you're not 267 00:13:15,109 --> 00:13:16,500 adherent to the model. 268 00:13:19,510 --> 00:13:22,820 And my professor in grad school. No, in undergrad. 269 00:13:23,469 --> 00:13:24,869 One of our very first, 270 00:13:25,130 --> 00:13:28,369 the, the head of the psychology department, one of our very first 271 00:13:28,669 --> 00:13:30,090 class sessions said 272 00:13:30,619 --> 00:13:34,130 as a really helpful rule, you need to stop shooting all over yourself. 273 00:13:34,140 --> 00:13:35,330 I will never forget that. 274 00:13:36,179 --> 00:13:36,919 So 275 00:13:37,219 --> 00:13:39,090 if you're thinking, 276 00:13:39,250 --> 00:13:41,780 wow, I'm not sure if I should fill in the blank, 277 00:13:42,700 --> 00:13:43,549 you shouldn't 278 00:13:44,020 --> 00:13:44,739 and 279 00:13:45,140 --> 00:13:46,280 you're not adherent 280 00:13:46,780 --> 00:13:50,559 because the only thing you quote should do, actually, I'm going to change that. 281 00:13:50,570 --> 00:13:52,130 The only thing you must do 282 00:13:52,869 --> 00:13:55,710 is remain adherent to the framework and the model 283 00:13:56,479 --> 00:13:57,070 that's it. 284 00:13:58,090 --> 00:14:01,010 Use the reflective responses, use the pillars, 285 00:14:01,330 --> 00:14:02,750 act out the tenants 286 00:14:03,059 --> 00:14:04,549 be with attitudes, 287 00:14:05,049 --> 00:14:06,989 all of the principles that we understand that 288 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:09,380 are the grounding and foundation of this model. 289 00:14:09,989 --> 00:14:11,390 That's all you must do 290 00:14:11,549 --> 00:14:13,520 and everything else will work itself out. 291 00:14:14,400 --> 00:14:16,549 All right, Deidra, thanks so much again 292 00:14:17,030 --> 00:14:20,659 for the rest of y'all. I love you. Hope this was helpful. We'll talk again soon. Bye. 293 00:14:21,510 --> 00:14:24,429 Thank you for listening to the Play Therapy Podcast with Dr 294 00:14:24,559 --> 00:14:27,690 brenna Hicks. For more episodes and resources. 295 00:14:27,700 --> 00:14:32,609 Please go to www dot Play Therapy Podcast dot com.