The One About What To Expect With Baby #2

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Speaker 1: Hello, baby Mama's and baby daddy. It is Lala.

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Speaker 2: I have one whole.

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Speaker 1: It is Lala can't welcome back to the Is this a bonus episode? No it's not. This is a fall episode. Welcome back to a full episode. Who give them Laala Podcast? Again? We are pre recording because mom is ready to pop in about three weeks. I'm super excited because I've been asking people that I run into that have two kids, like what should I expect? And their eyes get really big and I get terrified. And I've told you guys a million times. Even Stoss was on here where I said what should I be prepared for? And she doesn't really tell me. She just says, law having two kids is no fucking joke, and I'm like, oh.

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Speaker 3: God, it's a whole. One is one, two is twenty thing?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 4: I remember saying that when Stasi was on here, though, and she was like, it's not really like that.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think because obviously, when you have like a brand new baby and a toddler, I'm sure it can be very intense. But then the baby starts getting older and developing a personality and it's not so like alien and oh my gosh, one wrong move and the neck is snapping right. Oh no, but really, yeah, it's so intimidating to have a newborn baby. No.

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Speaker 4: I remember when Ocean couldn't hold her head up because I would look at you hold her and I'd be like, oh, this baby can't hold her head up, and like even watching you hold her and you were holding her beautifully terrified me so much that I was like, I want to hold that baby so bad, but I won't until she can hold her head up.

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Speaker 1: And were you like, what a rookie human that she can't even hold her head up?

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Speaker 3: I was like, can't this baby talk yet?

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Speaker 1: Why is she not walking around yet? But she was maybe even do like what does she do? She's three months old?

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Speaker 3: She just hangs out.

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Speaker 1: I guess could she did not keep her head up at three months? I can't remember.

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Speaker 3: Well, okay, she could keep her It was very like she was just a baby.

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Speaker 5: She was three months old and she is a peanut.

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Speaker 1: She was very very lismall. And you know that the baby when you first started working for me, Jess, Yeah, that's how old the baby baby s is gonna be. So three months when we go to Hawaii, that is wild and we started talking about what we were going to do, and Mom's like, I want to go on one of those rapture trucks. And I'm like, I cannot take baby s on a raptor truck.

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Speaker 3: No, lisaid, yesterday we're talking to you, We're like saying, let's go hang lie or whatever.

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Speaker 1: We were saying, what about like a zipline am I line?

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Speaker 2: You're gonna You're gonna listen to Lisa.

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Speaker 6: Lisa is the queen of we have a trip coming, let's plan and then when we're on the trip, let's just hang today.

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Speaker 3: Oh right, just hang not this time. Let me tell you.

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Speaker 4: I've been looking on No, I've been on freaking What the website via tour looking for all the activities.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna have a whole list, but will also chill.

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Speaker 5: But here's pend me them so I can.

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Speaker 2: Pick and choose.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Here's what's great about it, though, is that there are certain things that, like we could leave babys with mom and us, we could go do.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if Lisa's gonna love that.

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Speaker 4: Also, I had a smoothie right before this, and now I feel like berries are in my teeth.

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Speaker 1: No, I don't know if Lisa's good. Yeah, you're good. You have such good teeth. You guys, what do you do about my teeth? What's wrong with them?

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Speaker 4: The front two are longer, but your mom said not to shorten them because it might because of what happens.

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Speaker 7: I have a Yeah, I don't do that. The fact that you said I have good teeth, I hate my teeth. Really all you would need to do. You don't need to do anything. But I know what you're saying is just near like caps. Yeah, just a little cap and then it evens it out.

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Speaker 3: Teeth doctor, it's cosmetic tooth.

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Speaker 1: You'd like to sponsor me and East on the podcast.

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Speaker 5: I do need a new grill.

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Speaker 1: You know what, though, I second that because when I smile, it looks like I'm missing my back teeth because I go narrow through the back like my dad smiles. I've got broad and then a barrow, so it looks like I have no teeth right there.

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Speaker 4: I was gonna say, you're both of your teeth. I love your smiles.

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Speaker 5: Well, thank you.

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Speaker 1: After I have babys if someone wants to broaden my smile, then come on at it.

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Speaker 3: What do we Our list is growing, by the way, tits.

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Speaker 1: I'm on that last we need new boob, new boobs possible bbl. No, I'm not.

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Speaker 2: Teeth.

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking about maybe a little threading. Maybe a little threading.

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Speaker 2: You need to get pregnant again, so you don't do anything.

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Speaker 5: Oh, she's about to fuck up everything.

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Speaker 2: You look beautiful.

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Speaker 5: Don't touch your face, just like you told her to not touch your teeth.

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Speaker 1: I got to touch. I have to look at her. For me, I just have to glance in the mirror, and if I don't like what I see, a bort mission, don't look in the mirror. But I have to look at her.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she does every day, which we can of looking at me. I realized yesterday I can't wink Scout.

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Speaker 1: And I love it and I'm so jealous.

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Speaker 5: Thank you Leethetics.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love it. You love it. Oh you're so lucky.

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Speaker 3: Are deep foreheadlines?

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Speaker 1: Because I was like, how are they going to fix those? And they're gone. They're gone. Oh, they're gone. That's what I need Lee to do when I'm after I drop babys which by the time this episode comes out, I will have hopefully I need it to her to make it so I can't lift my eyebrows this high, so I saw this mean you guys, someone else someone saw did this mean? But they put me and I know they were trying to be rude, but I was honestly so flattered because it was me next to Uncle Leo. I'm from Seinfeldt, busy of high eyebrows. He did something in that to make him really high, and I was like, no, he burns.

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Speaker 5: He burns his eyebrows off, so they cross.

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Speaker 1: Eyebrows. I was so battered.

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Speaker 5: I was like, God, died.

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Speaker 1: We look identical past the phone show, show, the audience, the phone.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna also send this photo to our producers and maybe they'll cut it in.

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Speaker 1: That's hilarious. But there are times where my eyebrows get stuck and I have to go like this to like anyway, moving on, so let's talk about what to expect with second baby versus the first. So I want to hear what our friends say about baby number two coming. I will say, as far as being pregnant with baby number two, completely different pregnancy. And I know that that sounds like, well, no, no it doesn't, but for me, I was thinking that, however, because people asked me, did you like being pregnant before I was pregnant with Babys. I loved being pregnant with Ocean. I just remember like eating a lot of good food, taking a load off this pregnancy. It's weird because I've had a lot of energy, but like yesterday when we were out and about and I was like, someone needs to unlock the car immediately because my legs are about to just like collapse.

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Speaker 3: You have been getting like the dizziness.

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Speaker 1: I don't.

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Speaker 4: I wasn't with you during pregnancy for Ocean, but you didn't have this like dizziness like I might pass out with Ocean, did you.

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Speaker 1: I'm so burpy? Me so sorry. No, it's like, really, I have zero control of my body.

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Speaker 2: You do.

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Speaker 1: Well. This is good to include both. By the way, love that I'm like, does I don't know what you is that your ass? I'm like, I don't know.

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Speaker 5: What to tell you. We're just making everybody feel comfortable.

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Speaker 1: No, I didn't have these waves of like, oh shit, like I'm really struggling breathing. Like at night, there are times where I have to lift my arms above my head and like turn on my side just to get into a position where I am not struggling. To breathe. The first time that happened, I spoke about it as my ache on the podcast because it was very terrifying. Apparently that's pretty common. It happened to me at my final anatomy. Every time I say anatomy or anonymity, it's I feel like Nemo being like anemone anatomy scan, which normally doesn't happen. Like you only have I think between one, maybe two of those doctor's appointments during pregnancy. Because of Ocean, they've been checking me pretty frequently. So I went to my final one. Baby looks great. But while I was laying there, I was like, I'm getting a little dizzy. I'm getting a little faint and I can't breathe. And the doctor was like so nonchalant. Do you remember Jess. He's like, okay, just turn on your right side. Yeah, And I started getting nervous.

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Speaker 4: But seeing how like cool and collected he was, I'm like, oh, he probably deals with this all the time.

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Speaker 2: Did you ever get the legs with Ocean?

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Speaker 1: No, and I certainly didn't have hot dog legs with Ocean a hot dog. I had beautiful inkles.

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Speaker 5: You've got cheese dog legs.

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Speaker 1: Oh, that sounds really good. A cheese dog.

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Speaker 3: Cheese dogs are vegan cheese dog.

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Speaker 6: Just a cheese dog, American, thank you.

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Speaker 1: So I would love to know what people are saying about their second babies. I also I dropped Ocean off at school today and people were talking about their second children and how intense it is. But also most people that were talking to me about their second babies today at school they had them within like nineteen months of each other. Oh wow, And I'm like, okay, that does sound like a lot. I was like, but so fun as time passes, and like they get into like that fun stage and even beyond, think about how close they're going to be when they like, I know, this is a very far far time away, but it's like when they have kids and it's like Christmas time where you're celebrating Hanukkah and like the kids come and they're only nineteen months apart. Like I originally wanted that. I wanted them that close. With Ocean.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I do have to say, as one of five and me and my brother are I think it's like, I don't know, very close, like seventeen months apart or something. We were close and we still are but it's very I'm I'm like way closer with my sister and my younger brother, and my little sister is I don't know, like five years younger, and my little brother is well he's twenty one and I'm thirty three. Oh okay, we're like besties, the three of us.

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Speaker 1: So I think it just all depends. It just all depends nine and a half years, because it's literally gonna be three and a half years apart, like exactly. Well, I mean September is six months away from March.

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Speaker 5: Right, they do get to go to school together for a while.

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Speaker 1: They do get to go to school together for a year, right, I don't know. Yeah, it is six months, so they're still going to be close in age. I think they'll have a lot of fun. Ocean's super excited about it, and I think I'm doing myself a service by not really preparing for it to be one way or the other. Okay, I'm just welcoming it however it comes. Yeah, I'm not planning on a second baby being any certain type of way. If that makes sense, that's good.

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Speaker 4: Well, I mean, did anyone tell you to do that? Or you just feel like I just it's.

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Speaker 1: So strange, Jess. I have the hardest time finding the gray in life. I'm so black and white. Easton knows this. It's like it's this way or that way with motherhood. It is the only place in life where I find the gray when I don't even try.

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Speaker 2: Really.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Oh that's interesting.

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Speaker 4: That's very interesting because it's almost like when the stress and anxiety is gone, that's when you can easily find the gray, like you just naturally find it when the stress and I don't know, or.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I don't, I don't know. I just know it is completely when I think about every aspect of my life where I'm like I have to control this, this needs to go that way, and if it doesn't, you know, the wind blows the wrong way, I'm gonna be thrown right with being a mom.

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Speaker 5: It is like I'm thinking of that.

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Speaker 1: I don't find it now.

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Speaker 6: And it's the video that I showed you of the girl who's like in the morning where it's like if you put your clothes on, we'll do this all right.

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Speaker 2: You can just wear your pajamas.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's maybe the kid makes you fine with the gray.

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Speaker 1: That's that could be very true. There's a really funny clip of this woman. She's a comedian. It's a TikTok, right, I think it's a TikTok. And this was a while ago, but of course I see everything. I think the two decades late. Yeah, we did bring it up already where she said being a parent to a toddler is like going through the five.

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Speaker 2: Stages of grief.

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Speaker 1: We need to that's a single day.

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Speaker 6: If you put on your clothes, this or that, all right, Just fucking wear your pajamas, anger.

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Speaker 1: Put your all right, just wear those closes to school. I don't give a fuck. Just get in the car. Acceptance it is.

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Speaker 6: I think that's what because it's not up to you, because in your life you choose black and white.

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Speaker 2: It's not up to you.

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Speaker 6: It's the kid putting you, and you can only make the kid do so much, so fuck it.

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Speaker 2: We find the gray.

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Speaker 1: But that's why I say that, Like when people talk about like you have to teach them to do this, that and the other, and I'm like, okay, I do understand that, But there are kids like my kid, who is so defiant and she doesn't give a shit about anything that I say. On certain days, and if she doesn't want to clean something up. Or she doesn't want to sleep in her own bed truly, unless I chain her to the bed, she's not staying there. So what would you like me to do? You have to do this. I'm like, okay, I I would welcome, come, come, welcome. Try go do it, Go fucking do it.

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Speaker 4: By the way, her name is Sarah Tiana. If you just go to TikTok and look at real s A R A h t I A.

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Speaker 1: N A, it's so funny.

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Speaker 3: It's so she's.

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Speaker 1: So funny, and it resonated with me, and I was like, that's it. So maybe I haven't found the gray Maybe she's just kicked my ass so hard that this is just called.

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Speaker 5: Defeat and that's great.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Like she'll ask me for a popsicle so many times and I say no to the point where I'm like, just fucking eat it.

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Speaker 6: I don't care, I don't care, or it's not instead of the popsicle, you give her a sucker, and it's saying, here's the gray area.

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Speaker 2: Didn't you know what she wanted? But we found something.

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Speaker 1: We found something that's absolutely correct. She wants a million chocolate kisses. Here's a chocolate covered offsieberry compromise.

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Speaker 3: Compromise though, that's teaching compromise.

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Speaker 1: That's so important, you guys. Today she went to school and she wanted gel in her hair, so she had the most slicked back Ballerina Bun I kissed her ever seen, and I was like, did she have gel gel on her whole head? I know because she was trying to also do it, so she had like gel marks on her forehead and I was like, I need to get it off, and she wouldn't let me. So she has I'm sure gel. It's just a slash.

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Speaker 4: When she has the slicked hair and the freaking little tuft or something on the top, it's the cutest things.

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Speaker 1: I love her with you, I just am so obsessed. I just look at her and I'm like, you're just fucking light dude, so cute, And how will I ever love anything more than you?

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Speaker 7: You know?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So I would love to know if people are like my second kid was kind of a buzzkilled.

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Speaker 4: Many things that so many amazing things people row and this is where our friends, I think, thrive because just amazing, amazing things.

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Speaker 1: Okay, are you ready? I'm ready.

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Speaker 4: So the first thing Rachel said, baby will be so easy compared to oh, crying laughing faces.

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Speaker 1: But why I would.

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Speaker 3: Assume at least newborn baby. I would assume she means ocean.

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Speaker 1: Now I don't know.

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Speaker 6: Okay, I feel she's in the realm of all of it, because you've done it. You know, like when she if new baby starts burping or something like that, and you're when it was ocean, there were so many Now you kind of know, Okay, let's try flipping her and just patting her. Let's do this, let's do that. You kind of know so you don't get as flustered.

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Speaker 3: I'd feel that's a great point. That's probably what they mean.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I forgot. I've forgotten everything.

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Speaker 5: I think that until she's in your arms, you'll remember it all.

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Speaker 2: It's like riding a bike.

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Speaker 5: Pick the bike back up?

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Speaker 3: How to ride a b got on one right now, But we should do that in Hawaiian.

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Speaker 1: Ride bike ride would be fun. Hold on, I do have a follow up to what she said, though, Yes, at my doctor's appointment, he said, what did ocean come out as? And like, how many pounds announces? And I said she she arrived at five tens five pounds ten ounces, And he said, well, that's what this kid is at right now, so you'll probably babys will probably be like a seven pound baby. I also the way that she's moving in my stomach, she feels lanky. Okay, she got limbs.

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Speaker 5: Okay, come out like.

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Speaker 4: Sweet and it's so cute, just shoved up into Lalla's lungs.

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Speaker 1: I go, oh, this makes well. I've been wondering what it is that keeps going back and forth. Yeah, and it's her foot. She's got her heel there and she's just like, no, this is a runner. She's a runner.

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Speaker 3: She's a track star for sure inside of their Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So that is also going to be very different because Easton, don't get freaked out by this. I know it's weird, but I have pictures of me nursing ocean and my boob is like triple the size of her head because she's so so tiny, Like her hand, her head fit in my hand and I just have like a watermelon.

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Speaker 2: It was like you were just putting a p on her head.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, her head was like the size of Lawless area. So it will also be different because when this baby comes, it's like, oh, all right, we got some solidness. Happened like Ocean's like a bird. You pick up summer Moon and pick up Ocean. There they look the same size, same height. Ocean has hollow she's dense. Yeah, but so are the rest of the kids. Ocean has like hollow bird books. Yes, so it's gonna be different with this kid, because I think she's also gonna hat like she's gonna be like dance. This is just come out jitsu talk. You're like, mom, what's up?

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Speaker 2: Like my girl?

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Speaker 1: Oh like mother like daughter, you know, Mama loves I do. Okay, okay, this is so this might make you emotional.

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Speaker 4: But this person said, oh, well, look like an entirely different kid. After you lay eyes on baby s, they grow instantly.

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Speaker 1: Oh like when I see I know because someone said this to me. They were like, you you'll look at Ocean like she's a grown up, self sufficient because I'm like, she's my forever baby, right, And they're like no, it's so weird that it changes where you're like, oh, you're not mommy's like baby anymore. Like I'm looking at you like a big kid, like you're my little partner in crime.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she's trotting around going off to school, backpack.

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Speaker 1: She's so cute. I can't even sad, but you know what, and I do think I'll look at her differently because I'm going to see her in a position of like big sister Bottle. I would never speak that way.

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Speaker 2: I will I'll be freaking out.

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Speaker 1: But Ocean just we've spoken about it, and you know, someone brought this up. They said, Actually it was Amber, who also shares kids with that person. She said, I think what you and Ocean have, or what you have with Ocean because Ocean was too young to remember, but you have a trauma bond with her. And I was like, that's so interesting. Maybe that is why I look at her a certain way because it's a trauma bond, which I don't know much about those bonds, like meaning children. I've had trauma bonds with friends, but not my baby. So I think I will look at Ocean differently because she's gonna be in a completely different role.

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Speaker 4: It's a completely different experience, which is what this person wrote, that everything will be completely different than your first experience.

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Speaker 1: Well, and that's also true just the way that we're doing it, and like we did a run through me Jess and my mom m yesterday just in case there's an emergency that happens and we have to get to because yes, I was in labor and delivery at the same exact hospital that I gave birth to Ocean, but I was induced, so we kind of had the luxury of like taking our sweet time, like going where we were going. I need everyone to be on their game. God forbid the water breaks, and I am the biggest balls of life, Like I can take no pain. Pussy takes pain. I wish I were a pussy, all right. I'm a set of freaking nuts sack so freaking soft.

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Speaker 6: I'm like, oh pain, no.

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Speaker 1: Why So we did the run through and I'm like, this is gonna be so fun. Just chicks in the house and just like bros and their friends, like, look at this little it's gonna be like Simba, I know, baby, I know. If I just gave the name away, I just had the whole time.

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Speaker 3: That's kind of sick ass name.

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Speaker 1: It's actually going on the list, baby, Simba.

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Speaker 4: You know what's wild that we're talking I just I love this because we're talking about all this now.

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Speaker 3: But you've already had the baby at this point.

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Speaker 1: I know, Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: So we don't know, we don't know if like you had it on the day.

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Speaker 4: We don't know if it was like your water broke or we just sauntered on in there and said, okay, it's time.

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Speaker 1: We have no idea.

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Speaker 4: But the good news about this is when we talked about like this, Yeah, when we pre recorded and I said about my jiu jitsu tournament, I was like, I just hope that, and I said all the things that I hoped and it went.

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Speaker 1: That way, and then you kicked ass.

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Speaker 3: So what do you say? What do you hope?

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Speaker 1: What I hope is that I hope for to be induced. Okay, I hope to walk in, have the epidural, all the things, and have it just be me not experiencing any pain.

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Speaker 4: And it would be September first, and we can say it now because it's September fourth, right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would like a September baby. I would like a Virgo baby. I just feel like we would be good together.

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Speaker 3: So after August twenty second, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I'm good with I'm good with Leo. Men. I'm good with you though, and you're a Leo, but your daughter are different, then I might want to kill you, yes.

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Speaker 4: Very strong like yeah, because as a daughter, we're like we're set in the rules. There's not really much you can do or say, oh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm fucking you shit up. Yeah, that falls in line one hundred percent.

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Speaker 4: But I had a Leo mom and a whatever December twenty second as dad, so I was able to do that as a LEO, like I could set the rules.

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Speaker 3: And they tried, but I was like, no, this is how.

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Speaker 1: Here's what I don't want in motherhood. I want to be Lauren from Utah. Okay, but these two little girls that are coming into the mix, we got Ocean and baby. Let me tell you something. I will become Lalla from Banner Pump Rules real quick on your ass. If you, oh, don't.

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Speaker 5: Fall in line these children, Oh it's gonna be.

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Speaker 4: It's gonna be so fun as the years go on, and I'll be there taking content all the way.

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Speaker 2: I'll be up. If they're menaces to society, no, they're.

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Speaker 1: Gonna be great. They're gonna be great.

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Speaker 4: This person said, it's as humbling as the first, but with an edge of calm and confidence.

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Speaker 1: That's great. Okay, that's excellent. I will take that and manifest that.

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Speaker 4: This person said they are feral. I love my second so much, but she is no limit soldier of chaos. She is a no limit soldier of.

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Speaker 5: Chaos at least child.

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Speaker 1: Literally soldier of chaos? Is it just mirror? All these s? Is starting to sound good? Soldier soldiers? Nice to All the names that I've been wanting have started with an S. So when people ask me, do you have a name, and I'm like, well, if they follow me at all, they're gonna know when if I say no. But I don't lie because I'm like, all the names start with an S. So I'm really lucky. I'm just gonna look at her and that's what I'll name her. Yeah, because Sunset Sunshine now simba soldier. I literally just almost said the name.

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Speaker 4: No, I was gonna say blank, and I was like.

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Speaker 1: What A don't do that?

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Speaker 3: Do you think you'll have announced the name by now?

00:26:48
Speaker 1: We'll see? I really no, it's it's Today's Beyonce's birthday, September fourth. She's gonna it's her day. I need to make sure that it's. Yeah. No, we can't announce.

00:27:02
Speaker 5: Today that she gets her day.

00:27:05
Speaker 1: You just can't. I mean, no one's gonna give a ship it's Beyonce's birthday.

00:27:09
Speaker 3: But it might be three days later.

00:27:11
Speaker 1: It could be, but it's still September fourth.

00:27:14
Speaker 6: You're gonna you'll post wait on her birthday so Babyes gets her moment.

00:27:18
Speaker 1: Yeah, baby, it'll be over shadow, shadowy shadow Damn. I do like that one too, kind of like shadow is just mirrors. Veto starting quote, I don't know that's from That's funny.

00:27:34
Speaker 6: No, what we'll say names And if you don't like him Veto, they say names Veto.

00:27:39
Speaker 2: If anybody the name Veto, mir is.

00:27:42
Speaker 1: Veto sounding really great. I like the name Veto, very Italian.

00:27:47
Speaker 3: I like that a lot.

00:27:51
Speaker 4: Okay, you going they will be different in personalities and that is okay.

00:27:56
Speaker 3: Oh that's a good one because they most likely will be.

00:27:59
Speaker 1: They most likely will be. Okay, So can I tell you me? Me and my best friend since birth. She's a Pisces, I'm a Virgo. Granted, those are just our sun signs, and as everyone knows, your rising sign also plays a huge role in your personality. Ocean's double Pisces. But if we're just focusing on the sun sign, myself and my friend, my bff, my soulmate, we are such a good balance with each other, like the perfect balance. And I think That's why I'm so dead set on babys being a virgo, because I love the dynamic between two females one Pisces, one virgo. Yeah, I love that. This person said, can I say one more thing? Please do? Ocean is very like she's here for a good time. I'm here for a good time. I want to enjoy myself. I want to do arts and crafts. You show me a caterpillar that I'm supposed to draw. Fuck that, I'm doing whatever I want with this green paint and quarkscrew, not cork screw, but the white cork just haven't had school. I was like, doesn't look, this is a deconstructive whoever it is. Baby s is giving me money making moves in that she's a goer, a wheeler, a dealer. You can just tell, you know, she's all over the place. Yeah, And I just feel like she's got that type of mentality. So I'm gonna have one kid who's like I want to just live in a box and do like artistic dancing and paint, and then I'm gonna have another one who's like, Ocean, you need to get a job and pay these bills. Like I just see that happening.

00:29:56
Speaker 4: Yeah, I see I see ocean. I see that one hundred percent. I see ocean being like the creative a little more wild, and I see baby s being like well behaved rule follower, almost to the point where you're like, honey, you can mess up. Sometimes you can be a little like, yeah, hang out, be a little wild.

00:30:14
Speaker 1: Ocean's gonna be like, it doesn't matter if I'm broke, mom. I'm passionate about it.

00:30:19
Speaker 2: And I love that about it.

00:30:21
Speaker 1: I know I love that. And babys is going to be the one that says passion doesn't pay bills. Ocean, Yeah, it's just I picture it right now. I think you're right, and ocean is gonna be kind of short. Ocean is my body. I love that growing No, I'm telling you.

00:30:40
Speaker 4: I look at ocean and then I see my baby pictures and I'm like, that is me.

00:30:45
Speaker 1: It makes me thrill. I love that a little dense. I'm so in love.

00:30:53
Speaker 4: I know, Okay, this is this is a very interesting and good one. The possibility, oh may regress and start acting like a baby are acting out for attention.

00:31:01
Speaker 1: Already happened, already happening, yep, but not for attention. She's not doing it for attention. She tells me how the baby's gonna talk, and how she's gonna talk to the baby, and she walks around and goes, mama, mama, mama, mama. And I'm like, okay, but you're a big kid, remember, like you're a big kid. That's how baby Ice is going to talk at first. But we talked to baby because I've always spoken to ocean. Obviously I used cue talk at the beginning, but like as she got older and was alert, I spoke to her like a normal person, you know. Yeah, And I think that that could be a big reason why she will and having older siblings, because I've learned that having older siblings, they tend to grasp vocabulary and they just talk a little bit quicker and a little bit better than most. It's their age. Not saying that most kids their age are dumbasses, they just don't have the older siblings right, right, But I feel like that's why she's she spoke. She speaks the way she does, you know, like she tells my mom, you look phenomenal today.

00:32:20
Speaker 4: No, she has the best vocabulary and she says the words correctly. Yes she does, yeah, And the context and the timing for her comedy.

00:32:30
Speaker 1: Come on, and when I give her ice cream, she goes, this is so delicious. She's so cute.

00:32:37
Speaker 3: I cannot no, she's so cute. This person said, oh, feeling like feeling like a shit mom because you can't spend as much time with Oh.

00:32:48
Speaker 1: I'm struggling with this. I'm very appreciative that someone would open up about that, because that is mom guilt. I feel it. It's finest. We struggle with it all the time, no matter what, whether we have to go and work or there's something that takes time away from our I mean I feel that way when i have to go do something on a day where I'm like, why couldn't this take place on a day that ocean is at the other house?

00:33:18
Speaker 5: You know.

00:33:19
Speaker 1: So now new baby comes into the mix, and not only do I not have oh full time, I've heard the majority of the time, but still, you know, I'm the type of person where I'm like not enough. I'm an all or nothing kind of gal. Yeah, that's why I got a donor. I want all or nothing, just kidding all with my kid, I'll take the middle, but I think that'll be a struggle for me too.

00:33:43
Speaker 4: Yeah, this person the next one underneath, which I'll read also because it kind of goes hand in hand. Involve Ocean and make sure she still gets her quality time too, maybe like which you guys know, I'm not a mom, but like having them make decisions for the baby, like what the baby's gonna wear today or something.

00:34:03
Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel and I'm glad that this person wrote in just to remind me. But with Ocean taking on this role of big sis, I have been drilling it in her that this is also your baby, like this isn't this isn't just mama's Like this is your baby's sister, and you're gonna teach her things and you're gonna dress her, and I think I think we're gonna have a lot of quality time just me and oh and also the three of us, like I'll make sure of it. Yeah.

00:34:39
Speaker 4: Actually, losing all your sleep and body bounce back is harder, but it's easier in some ways.

00:34:47
Speaker 3: How do you feel about that?

00:34:48
Speaker 4: Are you stressing it? Do you stress about the body at all? It's just like it's about to do an incredible miracle. Let it be what it is for now.

00:34:56
Speaker 1: The sleep thing I think about all the time. But honest, right now, I get no sleep, so it's not going to be much of a transition as far as like sleepy. At least I'll have something to do while I'm awake. Right now, I'm like, well, I guess i'll watch Young Sheldon at three am. Right. But the body thing, I think maybe because I've never I've never struggled with my weight. Of course, I've looked at myself and thought, ooh girl, we could like definitely do some squats.

00:35:32
Speaker 5: We could definitely get.

00:35:33
Speaker 1: That thing a little. And I've looked at my tummy at times where I'm like, okay, we could like definitely use some crunches, like that might be something to benefit the bod. But I've never looked at my body and gone like, I'm struggling. I want to lose X amount of pounds. I need to go on a diet. So no, I've had the luxury of mentally not ever going there. Not because I mean, there's plenty of people who are thin, who are banging, who are tough on themselves, and they think that if I lose ten pounds, I'll be happy with my body. I don't really think that way. I'm not worried about losing the baby weight. If it is different than it was with baby, oh, then it is what it is. But I think that also comes with the fact that, like, I don't like men that much. Like who the fuck am I trying to impress? But I just mean the men. I just kid. I actually can I tell you I love men, just not as the father of my children. Ah but I no, no.

00:36:41
Speaker 2: No, no never.

00:36:42
Speaker 3: But you loved your dad.

00:36:43
Speaker 1: I love but they don't make them like that anymore. We're in a different day and age. I love men, like, come one, come all, I want you surrounding me. You're sexy or beautiful. Let's like have commitment ceremonies and have it just be you and me forever. I don't want to have your babies. All good, not a big deal. I do love men, but I think because I'm doing this on my own and I don't really feel like I have anyone to impress, and I just want to create my family unit and make a shit ton of money and build an empire and have a beautiful family structure. I don't think about the body, like I'll get the body in check.

00:37:18
Speaker 2: Yeah.

00:37:18
Speaker 1: Yeah.

00:37:19
Speaker 4: And it's also like I know it's like everyone says it, but it just performed a miracle.

00:37:24
Speaker 3: Give yourself a break. And I'm not even saying.

00:37:25
Speaker 4: To you, just like people are like body bounce back, because some women do. They'll go on socials and be like three weeks postpartum and they're like, you know, tiny or whatever, and it's like everyone's body's different just because.

00:37:36
Speaker 1: Everyone's Yes, everyone's body is completely different. And yeah, sometimes I see trolls on the Internet and I'm like, listen here, motherfucker, I just created an immune system today. What the fuck did you do? I just created a fucking brain.

00:37:47
Speaker 4: You fucking a heart as a heart chamber, a heart chamber, lungs, you bitch.

00:37:54
Speaker 1: Like I'm doing alright, if my ass could use a few squats, I'm gonna take the win for today of like creating a finger. Yeah, let alone ten let alone ten bit No, but I do. I do want women to start focusing on the fact that their body just did X, Y and.

00:38:14
Speaker 4: Z, right, And I'm sure easier said than done, but yeah it is.

00:38:18
Speaker 1: But if you tell yourself that enough, you start to believe it. Yeah, fake it till you make it, Take it till you make it. You know, yeah, day at a time, one day at a time, day at a time. Iow, do you want me to read? It applies in every day?

00:38:31
Speaker 3: It does, yes, last but not least. Things that worked for baby number one won't necessarily work for baby number two.

00:38:41
Speaker 1: But you're more experienced. That's a good point. The vert that freaks my Virgo out because Virgo likes the same.

00:38:48
Speaker 4: You'll be like, why isn't this working, and it just yeah, But that's the other thing of like that may not work, but you'll do.

00:38:54
Speaker 2: You'll figure out what will work.

00:38:56
Speaker 6: And you've probably done something to ocean that will work for baby I work for But you do know what you have to do.

00:39:03
Speaker 2: It just can be a different but you.

00:39:05
Speaker 1: Know, and I've been saving a lot of Instagram reels.

00:39:07
Speaker 3: Have you about like what to do and what works and stuff.

00:39:11
Speaker 1: Yep, all the different cries that like you learn because you're their mom and you know the different cries. But just when you're pregnant, you're like, I'm saving this just in case.

00:39:21
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I'm very excited by now. Congrats on the new baby and the bigger family.

00:39:28
Speaker 1: I know have two kids, wild mom of two, mom of two.

00:39:36
Speaker 3: Wild, Damn, I remember Kim Kardashian posting mom of four or whatever, and I was like, oh, Mama, anything is so hot.

00:39:44
Speaker 4: When you're post a hot photo and it's like mom of whatever, it's like, h amazing hot.

00:39:49
Speaker 5: Yeah.

00:39:49
Speaker 1: Pussy dripping, Yeah, pussy dripping.

00:39:52
Speaker 3: To wrap up this.

00:39:53
Speaker 1: Episode, I think we might be overdoing it. We're getting too excited. Sorry, all right, it can release, it can relieve. Okay.

00:40:11
Speaker 4: It's September fourth for me, which means this weekend is I will be in San Diego for an all women's jiu jitsu weekend called Femvasion.

00:40:22
Speaker 3: I'm very excited, very excited.

00:40:24
Speaker 1: It's going to be fun.

00:40:25
Speaker 4: It's with Donna Gonzales and she's a tenth Planet jiu Jitsu black belt and so she's gonna kill it, which also is exciting because she'll be on the podcast in a couple of weeks when Conna and I have our guests. I can't wait, and so we'll talk about that. Number two is I guess my.

00:40:42
Speaker 3: Ache would be. I haven't decided yet at this point, so we'll see.

00:40:46
Speaker 4: But there's a competition the Sunday of this weekend that I really want to do. But then I would have to miss one of the Fembasian days. So we'll see you, guys. It's just a jiu jitsu.

00:40:57
Speaker 1: Time for you and your cauliflower ear.

00:41:01
Speaker 5: Yeah, I hope.

00:41:02
Speaker 1: It's gone by the time September fourth.

00:41:04
Speaker 3: Actually, it must be, it must it must t.

00:41:07
Speaker 1: T what's going on with you.

00:41:09
Speaker 6: My relief of the week is happy birthday.

00:41:15
Speaker 1: Like my real birthday. Yes, so we did the birthday episode which came out Monday.

00:41:19
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, we did that also. But it's been a great birthdays.

00:41:21
Speaker 1: I've had two birthdays. I've had my own, and I've had and I've given something you've given.

00:41:26
Speaker 5: So that is the that's my relief. Love it and there's no ache.

00:41:30
Speaker 1: How could there be, right, not a happy day?

00:41:33
Speaker 2: Right?

00:41:33
Speaker 5: Well, we'll see when we Yeah, we'll see how much bullshit I.

00:41:37
Speaker 1: May have by the time that's there. My relief, my ache is that I can no longer use I'm pregnant as an excuse to not do ship. You could say that for two months, you could say.

00:41:52
Speaker 5: I just I just know that's going to be.

00:41:54
Speaker 2: I was just about to say something.

00:41:56
Speaker 5: Yeah.

00:41:59
Speaker 1: The relief is the fact that I am a mama of two and I've been wanting this and wishing this, and I made my life happen on my own terms, and that, to me is a beautiful thing. So I'm feeling very proud. We love you.

00:42:14
Speaker 3: The family grows, which means the End of the World crew has gotten bigger. I will be buying us a bunker soon.

00:42:20
Speaker 1: Oh, I love that. Will you buy us a cyber truck as well?

00:42:23
Speaker 5: Yeah?

00:42:25
Speaker 1: You, guys, I love you so so much. Thank you for listening to this episode of the Give Them Lalla podcast, and I will catch you guys next week.