Lala's Warning to Summer House: Don't Do the Reunion Like I Did

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Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous. It's La La Kent. Welcome to untraditionally, La La, Hello, gorgeous, Welcome back to untraditionally, La La. I mean, the Bravo universe, it just never sleeps. It never sleeps. The moment you think that you're going to get some rest, they hit us with Scamanda. They hit us with Real Housewives of Rhode Island, which is my newest obsession, and I really want to get back to like recapping housewives because I know that if you guys are like me, which I have a feeling, you are just obsessed and you rock through every single city of Real Housewives even when they hit like a little low moment. I mean, we have Real Housewives of Atlanta that's back with familiar faces. And they brought Kay Michelle on you joking me, you guys, I've been bopping to k Michelle for the fucking longest and I'm so excited that I can now post like little Instagram stories with her music attached, and people are gonna fucking know I'm obsessed with her. Go and download Can't Raise a Man by K Michelle. It'll change your whole life. Whenever I deal with a square I'm like up in my car just fucking belting belting that, and obviously, uh, Canice Dillard drive back? I mean, it's just it's all too good. So, as we all know, the Summerhouse kids are heading into a reunion. Now. Obviously when Scamanda happened, everybody waited in. We had Rihanna who unfollowed Amanda, We got the joint statement. It was very much reminding people of the scandal that happen on vander pump Rolfs and what a time to be alive and involved in it. But it's also something that consumes you when you're a part of a cast that's in a scandal like that. The show's airing, it's like the perfect storm. Everybody is on a hundred when it comes to the comments section, So to be the cast, I just keep going back and like putting myself in that position because it's extremely overwhelming, and you know, you're watching the show and you're finding all of what are they called easter eggs as Taylor Swift calls them, and thinking like, oh, it's all making so much sense, but like, do any of us really know the full story? Until Amanda and West tell us and even then you think these two people were capable of doing something like this. Can you even trust what they say? Will they go into the reunion prepped like you know Tom and Raquel were prepped. Will they go into the reunion and we're going to see that Jesse Solomon was kind of the Tom Schwartz of it. Of the scandal, we don't know. What I do know is that through this, there is one piece that's really sitting with me where I'm going. Okay, here is a difference in this scandal. I have seen that Kyle has really put Amanda's mental health on the forefront of his mind. He has made sure and again this is all public stuff. I don't know what he could be texting her behind closed doors, and the wrath that she's getting. I don't even feel comfortable saying that if he is going ham on her and we don't know about it, that she deserves it, because when this happened to our cast something very parallel. I went into the reunion and I was out for blood. Sandoval was never someone who was ever in my corner. He constantly was reminding me of my past and my lives, and he went into that reunion Season ten with that same fucking energy. Raquel had called me a mistress, like I was ready to lose my fucking mind, and I did. You guys saw it. But then what happened was I went so heavy in the paint that I kind of set myself up for failure because then I dipped into my emotional and compassionate side, because everyone knows, you know, living in anger and resentment is not a sustainable lifestyle, but you also forget because it is your real life and we are a part of these friend groups and we are filming a show for your entertainment, but it's still our real lives. It's it's hard to come from that place, like, you know, I need to be cognizant of the audience, and you guys don't want that. Otherwise you're not watching reality. Then we're playing into what the audience wants, and then you don't have a fucking great a television show. But I think my advice to most of the cast would be try your hardest to say exactly what you mean, but know that time changes everything, and the audience is not sympathetic to that, and they look at us like we power on for a show and power off until we're ready to film again. They don't see us when cameras aren't up, and even when cameras are up, they see such a small, a small piece of it that you know, when when cameras go down and you're done filming the reunion and you go back to your real life, your real life, because you're not Kyle, you're not Amanda, you're not Sierra, you're not West and you start thinking about the things that are important to you personally and what you want, and you know, things kind of calm down. The moment cameras pick back up and people see a softer version of you, you run the risk of being put in my position where the audience lightly cancels you. They don't appreciate a change of heart, especially one that happens very quickly in their eyes. The other thing that really really upsets me about this happening is there's something very very magical. And you know, we all love Housewives. It's just an iconic household, name brand franchise. But the hidden gems of Bravo, where the vander Pump rules, the summer houses, the southern charms of Bravo. That's what I think. Because these people have just deep rooted history from the time they were very very young, and it is rare that a new cast member is introduced without super deep history, not just like, oh yeah, I met them at a galla one time and we really connected. No, this is like we used to get wasted together when we first moved to New York. We've been in touch ever since. And then they show a flashback of you know, a party that was happening on Summerhouse, and there's their face, like there's receipts for how close the group is. When something like this happens, this scamanda of it all, you you cannot recover, and in return, the show is just not the same because you don't want to film together, you don't want to be around each other. And that happened with vander pump rules and people can say I'm to blame for that, you know, bottom line is the people that are to blame for that are sand of Aal and Raquel. You know, they shattered the fucking group. I'm not taking fucking responsibility anyone who wants to put that on me, you're giving me a lot of power and a lot of credit, which I actually my ego does enjoy. But Unfortunately, it's just not true. So if the show cannot be repaired and these people cannot go forward with filming a show after the reunion, because I imagine reality TV personalities, it's where we come from a place of logical thinking. We're emotional thinkers and we don't know how to take a step back. If we did, we certainly wouldn't be on the show because who the fuck wants to watch that someone who's got it together and thinks logically when emotions are heightened, Fuck that, I want to see a fucking crash out on the rag, which is what we see. So I know that even me saying these things, we're going to as people who are viewers die for what's about to happen at that reunion. But reunion day is where everything that was done behind the scenes comes to light, and after that you really really struggle to come back from it because the damage is just so far beyond repair. I think we do run the risk of Summer House having another season and then there being a tremendous shakeup. Do I hope that that's not what happens. I hope that this group can handle it differently than maybe our group did, and I don't want anyone to take that as I'm saying that people should have forgiven and forgotten what happened happened, what's meant to be will be for the audience's sake. I'm with you, guys, I am right there. I'm coming from an audience perspective for our sake. I hope that they are all able to come together, have you know, some downtime after the reunion before they pick cameras back up, so that we don't have such a shake up with Summer House that people don't even know what the show is anymore. I want this show to live a very long and healthy life because I enjoy it just like you guys enjoy it. And my biggest hope is that we never have something like this happened to Summerhouse, because that show is just fucking tits. That show's bitchin. I'm I obsessed a bitchin It's tits. I feel like I'm Dad. That's how my dad would talk, like, oh yeah, that's tits, LaRue. Not that anybody on Summerhouse gives one fuck about what I have to say, right, they ain't tune in and be like I need a good advice from la Alah because she thrived during the scandal for a minute I did, though for a minute I thrived, but I set myself up for failure. And I wish. I wish that I could sit here because I used to be of the mindset of like, I have no regrets, because I wouldn't be where I am right now, and I'm like, I have a feeling we would be a lot further had I not done that. At least I can laugh about it. But I have so many regrets, and they're at both ends of the spectrum. My first regret is I wish I wouldn't have gone as hard at the reunion, and I didn't realize that until I was kind of put in hot water with the audience, where I'm like, oh, this is what it feels like. I participated in two other people feeling this way, and it is a very very dark feeling, and I'm experiencing like a grain of sand compared to what I was feeding into with Tom and Raquel. I think there was a way to kind of talk about it and joke around about it without being so I mean, I was posting things about Raquel with fucking fifty cent songs that we're talking about throwing stones when you live in a glasshouse and if you've got a glass jaw, you should watch your mouth because I'll break your face. What the fuck the fuck are you talking about? And then like her saying that she'll be at the reunion I posted, I was like, we can't wait to see Raquel tagged her with like the devil emoji, like you're entering my lair and I'm about to fucking go off. It was just just like, what what are you doing? But that comes with life experience, going oh, I now know how this feels. I probably wouldn't do that again. Now you cut to going into filming the show again and just and we've I feel like I'm talking in circles. You guys have heard me talk about this before, but since we're in the rabbits hole of Scamanda and I've been a part of something like that, you know, my regret was not falling back more and not projecting my own healing process onto someone else. It was difficult, Like you guys know, but you know I am and was back then a grown woman. I certainly knew what projection meant. I certainly knew that I wanted to be handled with care, so I want to handle others with care. And I just aborted mission on everything that I stand for and wanted to do because I just wanted to try something different to hopefully heal myself. And it just wasn't the move. It wasn't the move. And Lindsay Hubbard has not spoken really publicly about what her situation is like with the father of her child. She and I have spoken on occasion, not in depth, but I have to imagine that, you know, being a part of Scamanda, I did see someone sent me something where or I was tagged in it. Someone was hoping that Amanda would come in with the same la la energy to this reunion as I came in to the season ten reunion, and if without saying too much, I think that she has a lot going on in her life. She's got her own world happening. After you have kids, that fucking happens. But I hope she does not come in with la la energy. I don't want that for her, that level of anger that I was feeling. You guys, although I look back and I go that girl was a bad bitch, I don't recognize her much. I don't recognize the lalla that I was at that reunion. Came home from that reunion, everybody who was still getting along, I think when out they went to dinner, and I just came home and I sobbed, and I felt like I had been emotionally robbed. I don't know how else to put it, because again season ten, of course I was angry about what Tom and Raquel had done to my friend, but unfortunately I was also moving in a very in a personal way. I was looking at two people who had made my life very difficult for a long time, and I was always labeled the bully, and I had so much resentment and this their actions validated all of the shit that I had been thinking and saying for years, and finally people were like, oh, yeah, she is a fucking bambe eyed bitch, and it was like I was feeling just validated by that. And that's just like the devil moving right, Like I'm not. I don't want to be that person who holds a grudge and has resentments and then when I'm proven right, thrive off of it. I want to be able to just move through it and be like, Okay, so I was you prove my point and move on not feel a sense of pride in that. So my hope for all of us is that it's going to be a very entertaining reunion, which I know that it will be. I just hope they move differently than we did, because you move the way we did, and the show ends. And it's not that opportunities will not come to these people anymore. I mean, I think from what I've been told, you guys know, my algorithm on socials, which is where I consume most of my news, is all about how to straighten my spine, fix my posture, a few healthy snacks that I save and will never make. So I have heard that Sierra is obviously doing well in booking gigs. So no one is going to be like deprived of opportunity should the show end. Right, we were all fine, well maybe not all of us, but most of us, but still there's nothing like filming a TV show. There was nothing like filming Van or Pump Rules, and I don't want that to end for them, and I certainly don't want it to end for us. So there's my long winded conversation to myself with you guys, and I can't wait for it to come out. Once it comes out, though, we're gonna talk about it. We're gonna talk about it. We'll start recapping on the bonus because some shit has happened with the bonus. So I'm back. I'm back, baby. I'm sure I'll be able to let you guys know why at some point in time, right all right, I love you guys. I'm gonna catch you on Monday for another bonus of Untraditionally La La Wednesday for a regular old episode and reminder that an Unlikely Affair drops on Thursday Nights Friday Mornings with my bff Amber Childers. You guys, I love you.