The REAL Reason Will Compton Went Bald!!

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Speaker 1: Papa Team six. We're back another episode of four the Dads. You're probably looking at my head right now, wondering what's going on. I'm sure we do have a lot of people who tune in, maybe listen, maybe watch the podcast. I know a lot of pet Sikos are sitting there with their wife right now. Their wife probably has no clue what they're looking at. Their old man, the dad. He might be chuckling to himself because he knows what's going down. Yeah, I lost the bet. I lost the bet Michigan versus Nebraska. Yeah, with my boy Taylwan. He's also my co host. So I'm busting with the boys. I lost the bet.

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Speaker 2: You did.

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Speaker 1: I lost the bet. So that's why you're seeing in the shining bald head right now. Your boy had to go bald. I had to just shave the face. I had to shave the top. This is my first time ever doing this.

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Speaker 2: Very cold.

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Speaker 1: It's a it's a different feel, it's a different vibe. Let me know if you like in the comments. I need some words of affirmation right.

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Speaker 2: Now, and please like it in the comments, because he does look good. Thank you, that does look.

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Speaker 1: Yeah man, this this this show is is for fatherhood, for embracing fatherhood. The suck, the love, everything in between, the ups, and down, ebbs and flows. Your gonna hear stories. You're gonna hear about our wins, losses, as dads, as husbands. Am I missing anything? Sure?

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Speaker 3: Will?

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Speaker 1: Are any new viewers that might be tuning in?

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Speaker 4: Let me see if I can get it without it focusing in is an absolute sick hat. I wore it out both nights this weekend. Got a lot of compliments you did. It's a real runaway hit it is. He looked good at Jill's party. He wore that hat to Jill's party and looked sick.

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Speaker 2: I believe.

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Speaker 2: Oh, let's go.

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Speaker 3: To me?

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Speaker 1: This is this is what fatherhood looks like. You ain't a true.

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Speaker 2: Dad unless you get a shaved dad. Hey, here's the deal. You look tough. I think if there's one thing that could be said where it's not like, oh, Sherman's just being nice to will of like, oh you look good with it shaved well, which I do think you look good. You look tough.

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Speaker 1: This is the a gap. Come.

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Speaker 2: You look like you're in the league again, Like I kind of I'm seeing it again.

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Speaker 1: I had an athletic director shoot me a message saying, that's who told me I look twenty one. I was trying to figure out if somebody text me and told me I looked twenty one at AD. I'm not gonna say which school it was. I'm sure you guys can figure it out. You look twenty one. You got some more eligibility.

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Speaker 2: You do, what do you mind for the viewers throwing on the Teddy Bear hat kind of high up on the head. You look like a first round draft pick when you wear the just like you look like the guy that I probably shouldn't drive here, but I'm not going to regret it when I do.

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Speaker 1: Get the grill going. Got the chains on. The first thing I did. I got up, I got out of bed. When I knew I lost the bed, I'm like, yeah, I got to embraced this ship. Yeah, and I'm kind of excited to get my head shaped in my face shaved.

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Speaker 2: I look right.

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Speaker 1: I looked in my closet, Yeah, and it was no, without question, the black True Classic shirt hats. And then I was like, it was time to bring these chains back out of retirement. They've been sitting, They've been sitting in my bathroom for quite some time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I got the same Christopher necklace with a ceruleum bell etched etch behind it for safety as I travel. Ooh, Charles has been asking me like, when you're gonna put the neckls back on? My God, I just feel like I'm not as much of a necklace guy anymore. But now now with this bald head, you look at a black tea look and the chains are back.

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Speaker 4: It's fitting that we're talking about family while he looks like Ben Diesel.

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Speaker 2: Great calls.

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Speaker 1: I lived my life one quarter mile at a time.

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Speaker 2: Great quote, hashchak.

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Speaker 1: Family doesn't matter if you went by an entire mile winnings winning.

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Speaker 2: Will I almost had you.

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Speaker 1: Have me.

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Speaker 2: You didn't have me.

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Speaker 1: You didn't even have your own car. Come on, go check out faster than furious, Go check out fast shoutouts.

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Speaker 2: Uh, there was one last thing I was gonna say. You wanted to talk briefly about Solidarity Solidarity. You wanted to talk about how speaking of family that we are a family on this show. Yeah, was there anything that you wanted to bring up with that with Solidarity heads or how are you feeling.

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Speaker 1: There is a co host with me on this show that they put in a bed of Nebraska minus twelve and a half, thirteen and a half over the weekend.

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Speaker 2: Thirteen and a half but one hundred.

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Speaker 1: I did have some guys riding with me on the game over the weekend, the Busting Bull, A couple of gentlemen sitting behind the cameras right now, Derek and Chef. So there's a part of me. It's like, am I the only one going to take the bullets here on shaving my head? Or should my for the dad's family? Should my PT six ers? Should the captain? The seaman Team six? The funcal club? What're you laughing about? You too? You too, Buco.

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Speaker 2: I'm laughing because I'm laughing because I'm excited.

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Speaker 1: I truly me is wondering if you guys should be doing this in solidarity with your boy, if we're going to be a family, if we're going to be like this, then I think it's only right. Did you guys do it with me comments? Let me know what you think.

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Speaker 2: I have to be completely honest. This is my take on it. Overwhelmingly excited. If the whole PT six s crew is down to schaef heads, I mean chef chefs.

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Speaker 1: Chef's there, he's he was like that when he first showed up as an intern. He had that thing buzzed down.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, been buzzed for well, actually that was the first time. Can I'm willing to do it? I don't care. Can I go half guard up top here and then a fade on the side.

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Do we have to go full razors?

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Speaker 4: Because it would really help with the girlfriend, convincing her because I told her I was going to grow it out till the summer.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't see why not. I don't see how. I mean, it would obviously mean the world to me if you did what I did. But if you guys are standing in some type of solidarity with me, I would love that. What about you, Derek? You you're kind of new here. You know, you got a nice little head up top.

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Speaker 5: I had already told that after October thirteenth, I'll do whatever you want to my head. That is our engagement photo day where we are sending out wedding. I think that's I think that's safe.

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Speaker 2: That's safe. That's safe. Here's what I say.

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Speaker 5: October fourteenth, we are going to the Jonas Brothers. I will gladly walk into the Jonas Brothers with that haircut. As long as I'm not losing my wonderful fiance, I have no issue.

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Speaker 1: Right bro. So when I lost this bet because Charle was talking to me last week and she was like, are you actually gonna cut your hair? And I was like, I mean, sweetheart, if we lose, I have to. But I'm telling you right now, we're not gonna lose this football game, Taylor's gonna be the one buzzing in his head. We're not losing. This hair is staying. I know you love the hair. Gets what the hair is staying. Because she's like, we got family photos in early October. Oh no, and I'm sweetheart, don't even worry about we ain't losing. We lost. She wanted me to back out of the bet. She wanted me to like, not do it. I'm like, sweetheart, I can't. I gotta be a man of my word here. I gotta I gotta pay my debts. She really was like, we got the family photos, the family. I'm like, you know, it's one set of family photos, family photos by the way, which you know I didn't like set them up, but I put it out there like, hey, we should get some family show on that text. And we got some family photos dialed in, which I'm excited about. But it's like, this is the one group of family, this is one this is one sitting of family photos. And it's able to look back at this family photo like, Daddy, why is your head shaved here? Daddy lost the bet.

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Speaker 2: And your daddy's kind of a fun guy. Isn't a man of his words.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, but yeah true.

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Speaker 2: Hello Taylor. Oh perfect timing, too perfect, But we're.

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Speaker 1: I believe that. I believe that was the nineteen ninety seven Champions or the Michigan Wolverines.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was. Also, you are on camera right here in Taylor. Oh you have a producer camera. People see my hair, Taylor for the first time ever. Round of applause, Tailor.

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I just came in here to took an afternoon too, and realize that you guys are shooting. Big fan of the show, big fan of both of you guys. I think you guys are bringing a unique perspective onto the dads everywhere. A lot of people want to be like, this is what I do as a fault because I'm the best dad ever. No one's the best dat ever. Got to just flip a coin and hope the god it works out for your kid.

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Speaker 1: Luckily, everyone in.

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Speaker 6: Here, for the most parts worked out. And uh, I love that you guys use this as therapy session because we all need it.

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Speaker 1: So I tuned in.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you. So you have seen the multiple breakdowns on the multiple episodes, tears pretty much every.

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Speaker 6: Ye yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with tears. I think you need to normalize dudes weeping on camera.

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Speaker 1: Normalize it. Oh, we are doing it.

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Speaker 2: We are doing it it today, not yet. Go ahead, started up there, but.

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Speaker 1: You didn't come in in a minute, so who knows.

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Speaker 2: You came in perfect timing because we were talking about maybe the whole crew goes in solidarity with Will on the headship.

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Speaker 6: Did you take Michigan or Nebraska?

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Speaker 2: I took Nebraska. He took Nebraska minus thirteen and a half Nebraska. Yeah, you guys should.

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Speaker 6: Honestly, if the guys that work at Busting with the Boys are who they claim to be, everyone who is with Nebraska should do this in solidarity.

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Speaker 1: I don't disagree. I think I'm just cleaned it.

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Speaker 2: I think that's great.

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Speaker 6: Really turns to do a bunch of skitheads and me and Coop is what it would be?

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Speaker 2: Coop and Furda. What's in Ferida?

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Shape his head too though. Okay, Actually, now that I think about Freida did go with Nebraska.

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Speaker 6: I think he you know, I think he said to my face and then probably went up to Will and be like I got that someone.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry. Don't know because he was like he was gonna go Michigan. But then he was like, we're on the same like we GM the fantasy team together.

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Speaker 2: I got Nebraska.

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Speaker 1: He's like, I gotta go with my boy, like I gotta go with my GM. So yeah, we would be everybody except you and Coop.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, and we we be the trend setters, well trend setter, but we joined in.

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Speaker 6: Right, have a full cool segment before the dad It's cool Kids Club, all three k's.

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Speaker 2: You can't do.

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Speaker 1: That bad idea in a brain, No bad ideas, right, no bad idea?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, man, around the wrong show right now? You're no, I can't joke around. Well we joke.

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Speaker 3: We joke.

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Speaker 2: Guys can't joke around. We joke.

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Speaker 6: Okay, I'll tell you this. It's much more fun being a guest on the show. Whatever I want, Yeah, you can gotta say whatever I want. That was it, though, All right, guys, I'm gonna go, uh finish business.

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Speaker 1: Do your think you get that afternoon too?

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Speaker 6: And once again love the show and actually I mean it, I mean it, thank you. And then before I go, would you say The nineteen eighty seven National champions were the Michigan Wolverines, my boy.

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Speaker 2: Round of applause. Taylorwan taylorwan.

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Speaker 3: See.

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Speaker 1: We can get that, we can get the clippers out, I guess, Derek, we can wait until your engagement photos are done. That's fair, chef.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I'll do it. I'll do it too.

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Speaker 3: I mean I just buzz oh yeah, a month ago. So I don't. It's not like I gotta be.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you look good. You look good with the buzzed head than I. I'm in need of a haircut. I think that going in solidarity wise with you, it would feel good. I think if the whole career had it, we kind of looked tough. We looked tough.

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Speaker 1: Come on, should we dive into some some engagement shout out some fans. Yes, dude, I had a really cool conversation and I am so sorry that I'm not I'm forgetting his name with this couple I was talking to when we were doing that CBS show on Saturday morning overdone the Haymarket area. Oh yeah, he pulls me aside over by the fence and he's just he's just he's honestly just talking to me about for the dads and how much he loves it and his wife was sitting there and being like, yeah, we tune in every week, and he's just he doesn't even want to talk Husker football. He just wants to talk about how much he loved for the Dads and Papa Team six. And he was getting to a point I said, buddy, look, it's gonna be like we're reading these comments or reading these stories, like you're starting to get water in my eyes by how much you could tell he was wanting just to let me know how much he loved the show and how much it's like influenced them and stuff like that. But it was, uh yeah, because he was talking about how he had lost his job and within a couple of weeks he like he like got a job and then they were due like two weeks later or something like that, so he only had like two weeks of paternity leaving. How hard it was like on them and everything else because Dad, you know, Dad's like going and doing this job and kind of sacrificing the you know, just the stuff that they had to go through, like while he was doing the whole work thing just to like, you know, have a career, like have a job for himself and provide and everything like that, like, hey, he gets a job and then two weeks later is like, hey, you know, do I get some some paternity to leave to where he's not at the job. He felt like he had to go to said job. That's so hard and he's giving me a full breakdown, but it was. It was awesome. We had a few other conversations. BET six is out there and just want to say thank you to everybody who engages with us. I feel like the comments I get about for the dads and pop a Team six, they they warm the heart the most they do. But if you want to be featured on the show we have we do comments. So if you leave comments on YouTube, ideally within the first forty eight hours of dropping, that's when the guys kind of go through the comments and go through everything for the potential next week's show, because we never know when we're going to film the next week's episode with everything else going on in our world. It could be Friday we film it, could be over the weekend, it could be Monday we film it. But to be featured on the show, you can leave comments, whether on social media or on YouTube. We see a lot of YouTube comments that we kind of dive into and then also six to oh one the Dads Are Hotline. You can call and drop a voicemail. We will play it and you'll be featured on the show. But this first one comes to us from Andrew Fox on on YouTube Papa Fox Bet six from Sussex County, Delaware, checking in. Happy father of two beautiful children two and a half year old daughter and month old baby boy. Love the pod, look forward to it every week, shouting out the whole pod. I'm a teacher in a high school across coach of ten years. Do you want do we want merch? You can shoot us some merch. We would love that. Kids are my life. My students and my players are my kids basically, so obviously being a dad is the best thing in the whole world. I love my children and I love the girl dad culture. But been taking some hard times with my daughter as we're transitioning to having another child in house. The tantrums, the fight back, the regressions have really put me in a feeling of being a bad dad while also keeping my emotions in check and showing love to my newborn son. The question is, Will, how did you how did you? How did you doing that how did you doing that when you had How did you do that when you had scott Dilla? How is ru? I think that's how you spelled it, my math, teach your brain. What were some of the things that seem to work or didn't work. Finally, while I've been going through this, the pod has helped reminding me that this too will pass and then everything will be better. Thank you, Andrew appreciate the question, my friend. I would say, we worked for us, and I've I've kind of given a couple of these dad hacks in the past episodes. But one thing that we did coming out of the hospital is introducing Rue to Scottie while Scotty wasn't in Mom's arms, because you know, I was seeing honestly, I was just seeing this stuff on Instagram that when your kid is like walking in to check on mom and they see the newborn in mom's hands, it's like you the first one you are. You are their world, they are your world, and they see you holding a different world and you're introducing them. So one thing we did do was have somebody else holding Scottie when Rue came in to check on mom and see Mom and everything else. Obviously, that's already, that's that's pastor you, but a couple good pieces of it, your dad hacks tips, whatever you want to call them. Is we would get Rue. We got Rue a gift from Scotty and it was like Rue at the time loved Frozen, still loves Frozen, but loved Frozen love on and Elsa. So we gifted her like this like elsa necklace or this like little jewelry set or whatever from Scotty to Rue when we brought Scotty home, like Scotty, has you a gift waiting at home? Another dad hack, I would tell you is something that we tried intentionally and consciously doing because it's very hard when you got two kiddos and your older one, your first one. They want a player. They want to do stuff that do this, or put me down first, or Dad, I want you to hold me. I don't want you to hold Scotty. Is instead of telling Rue Rue, I'm holding Scotty right now, I can't do it, or Rue, I can't do this because I'm doing X, Y and Z with Scottie. I still do that from time to time, but I got to catch myself saying it, and I just instead I'll tell Rue, okay, it can do that, and then I will look at Scotty and say, Scotty, whenever I'm done holding you, I got to pick up your sister, Rue, because the little one, they have no clue what's going on. Yeah, but almost you know, if you're older one, your first one is telling you something and say you can do but you just can't at the moment, or you will later, but you can at the moment instead of like telling them I can't do X, Y and Z because my responsibility is with your younger sister right now. You need to understand that my hands are full and Dad's trying, but I got to tend to your younger sister right now. It would be more so I tell her, yes, I nod my head, we'll be able to do this. Hang on, let me just tell Scotty something really quick. So then I'll tell Scotty whatever I got to do with her and say, but when I'm done, I have to play with your sister. So that way Ru is hearing me say that, then it allows me to then look at Rue say do you hear what I told Scotty? I just said, you know, let me let me change your diaper. Let me get you into your outfit. But the moment I'm done, I'm gonna play. I'm gonna play with Rue and then I'll look at real. But I just give that these couple of minutes, I'll knock it out quick and then we'll start playing. So those are like a couple of little hacks and a couple of little tips. That's the only experience I have. Ruth does get jealous and stuff at times with Scottie, but she Ru's honestly, she's been a pretty good big sister for the most part, and I do feel a lot of it has to do with like making them feel included in the conversation of whatever you're doing responsibility wise. With the younger one, he's just more so look at them, say everything you're going to do to them, while the while the older one hears you that way, they feel part of this solution of the problem solving that's taking place. So that's what i'd say.

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Speaker 2: Those have been two of my favorite dad hacks that you've actually shared on this show. And it was Stephen Shade that gave you the Stephen Jay, Yeah, shout out Stephen Chay. He gave me the gift idea when you were bringing the newborn home, tell the older one.

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Speaker 1: Genius, Yeah, hey, Scotty, got you a gift. When we get home.

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Speaker 2: She's so excited to be your sister.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's so excited to be your sister, and just kind of sets it up for success. Oh. But it's like it's just like little things like that, because it does happen. It does get hard. You're juggling a lot of things when you have multiple kids, and you get caught up, you know, being a little too impatient or maybe you're a little run down from the day and you know, wearing all the different hats being a husband, being you know, employee, being dad, being dad to one, being dad to two, and you kind of like, you know, you get a little frazzled. But that's like a it's like a It's like one thing I will allude to in my brain is okay, if I check the way I'm talking or rue doesn't feel important right now. I try to think of what I've just been doing, and I gotta switch it around. I need to talk to Scotty, say hey, Scotty, whenever I get downe putting you in your credit or give you your bottle. I have to go play with I have to go play with Rue. It's Rue's time. And you know you're sitting there talking a little one there. They have no clue what's being said, but Ru's fired up because you know you're talking about her and letting them know at the same time how important they are in front of a little sister.

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Speaker 2: I love that. I next one that I have is off of TikTok, which we haven't done. A ton of comments off TikTok. I saw Derek pulled a bunch of TikTok comments, which gets me stoked. This is where I'm twenty stew underscore, he says. Fellas dad to dad to a rambunctious eleven month old boy who is hates sitting still even when getting his diaper change. Full of shit good. Also, longtime PT sixer, my son has recently been deployed to every nook and cranny in our house since he is crawling now. Anyways, have the best dad moment the other day as I walked in the door, he crawled to me with the biggest smile. Also, he caught him bobbing his head to Rocky Top, which made me a static gbo, come on, shit h thoroughly enjoy all the pods fellas great advice for future dads, new dads or all dads love that which I also have a similar story a gbobo. I have a similar story with Scarlet. That's one of my krack of cole ones not crawling but smiling.

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Speaker 1: All right, thank you for the comment on TikTok Yes, thank love that TikTok comments.

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Speaker 2: Let's go twenty six alos on TikTok Uh.

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Speaker 1: Brandon Brandon zero nine fifty ripped a fart in my son's room. After asking did you hear that frog? He laughed. My three year old thinks farts are funny. Good love the love the podfellows, keep killing it. Then some more PT six some some engagement here. Nick beck With responds to him. My dad used to call him California Barking Spiders legend. Love seeing the community, love the community talking back and forth with each other, just all dad's trying to help each other out.

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Speaker 2: My dad was a big barking spider guy. He loved that joke, and I never fully got the joke because I was like, I don't know if spider's bark, Like, what's my dad talking about chef shake his head to you like I don't I don't.

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Speaker 1: Know you know.

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Speaker 2: This one comes from Brett Dureau Underscore also on TikTok. How's it going, guys? My my name is Sergeant Brett Dureau and I am currently deployed to the Middle East. Thank you for your service, Brett. However, my wife is back home and is due in October with our first baby, a baby girl. I'm super excited and nervous about this, so I was just wondering what tips you have for a girl dad who hasn't been there through all the appointments due to military service. Also, I plan on surprising her by coming back before our baby is born. What should I do for my wife to help make up for the lost time. You guys are a huge inspiration to me about to become a girl dad, and I can't wait to make my own memories with my daughter. Any tips you could give me would help out a lot. Thank you guys for being awesome motherfuckers and awesome girl dads. Hopefully me being from Iowa doesn't rub you the wrong way, will Winkie face? Anyways, Love you boys, God bless That comes from Brett Dureau, Brett Dureau.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, bro thank you for tapping in, Thank you for leaving a comment. Saran, what do you got, broh advice? I know you got a couple of things advice wise.

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Speaker 2: As far as like making up that time, I feel like it's so different, uh in Brett's case because he's literally serving our country. But I know what he means about, like the a the guilt from absence.

00:26:23
Speaker 1: Yeah, and although I did not experience that with my wife, I felt like the communication, even if I wasn't able to make a baby appointment, the communication before the appointment and after the appointment meant the world to her of even the most minutes stuff.

00:26:41
Speaker 2: Her head has grown eight millimeters. Sureman, Oh my gosh, that's that's incredible, because we were worried about the size of her head, Jill, you know, but like being plugged into those conversations. But I think the best gift that he's gonna give them is like him coming home and surprising them, like those you want to talk about crying on camera. Yeah, yeah, I'll pull those up on YouTube. Just a soldier coming home, a mom or a dad and oh dude, I'm dead me at the time.

00:27:12
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm with you. It always comes back to the communication and just the presence, and then if you can't have the presence, just them knowing that you care to ask about what's going on, because you got to think too as a mom going into these appointments and let's just say it's alone. Like there are things that they're nervous about, there's things that they're learning, and whenever they come out of it and talk to you, they want to know that you're there and you see them and that you you are in it with them, even though you might not actually be with them. So whether it's fears or insecurities or learning something new, it's that same excitement to where you're curious about it and what you got, what you got in that.

00:27:54
Speaker 2: Way, I was worried about the bottom of my water, but I think it is just some liquid IV.

00:27:59
Speaker 1: Yeah, nice nice blood, Thank you, thank you. But yeah, just knowing that you that you're that you're in it with them as much as you can possibly be, because she gets it and I'm sure she asks you how's everything going? Uh there, whether you can share with her or not, but it's just flipping the table and asking her, Hey, how's your day? How are you feeling going into it? Are you feeling excited? They want to know that you're excited all of those different things. That's what it it. That's what it always comes down to. Because for me, if like my wife checks me a lot of times, it's like, I just want to know that you're excited or that you're feeling some of the same same things I'm feeling, versus like staying you know, reserved or unemotional. You know what I'm saying.

00:28:40
Speaker 2: I know exactly what you mean.

00:28:41
Speaker 3: And uh.

00:28:43
Speaker 2: The other question that he had asked was like, what advice do you have as a couple of girl dads for me? I think the only thing that I would say, uh, instead of some advice is just like to get Brett excited? Is I feel like dad's the opportunity is so great rate with being a girl dad, like the opportunity to be a good father to your daughter. But that cheat code of like the relationship of a daughter and her dad is like I'm starting to see it with Scarlet of just like the way that she looks at me and the way she interacts with me and stuff, and like it's just so much fun. It really is. And Brent, You're in for an absolute treat. I know, I'm only barely eleven weeks into, you know, this whole process, but it's like, it's such a cool thing. It's such a beautiful thing. I don't know how to describe it. Even you're a barber. What was his name, Allan Matt Allen? Today?

00:29:44
Speaker 1: Can hey, can can you turn that on? Can people hear the lawnmowing going on outside? I will get that out of the okay, okay, because that just got super loud. Yeah, Alan's a stud, bro.

00:29:56
Speaker 2: Allan's a stud. And congratulations to Alan. They have a baby girl on the way in October. And it was fun just him saying like, hey, I have a baby boy, but we actually have a baby on the way. It's a girl. And like just the look that he kind of gave me and like dap me up. It's like, I don't know, there's just something cool about being a girl dad.

00:30:19
Speaker 1: So yeah, awesome responsibility, like the new love that you have, like you are your daughter's first love. Go back to episode one and listen to the end of the episode because I kind of do a little written thing on being a girl dad and what it means and I absolutely love it. And then what you'll do is you might not have the capacity yet, but one day you will when your little girl comes. But I would say, when you're wanting advice on, you know, your wife, whether you're away or she's alone, it's almost like, how would you want how would you want your daughter to be treated if she was with somebody who was either overseas in the military or is absent. Like again, sometimes is that's just the that's the that's the hand you that's the hand you're dealt with. Yeah, that's the that's the life that is chosen on on being married to somebody who's at who who with their job and career, is absent a lot of the time. Like you as a girl, dad, how would you want that man to treat your daughter if he was away? And you will find a lot of those answers that way as well, and then you'll kind of know, you know, things to ask, things to feel excited about with your wife, because I feel like that gives you a nice little guiding light when you do finally have your baby girl.

00:31:33
Speaker 2: I love that answer. That's a good answer.

00:31:35
Speaker 1: I've been joking around in the office sometimes with some of the single guys when they're telling stories of like you know, dating and text that they're sending back and forth.

00:31:45
Speaker 2: Then I'll especially for.

00:31:47
Speaker 3: That, that's what you're talking about.

00:31:50
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll go, Hey, that's scarlet you're texting. Keep that in mind. You're so right. Hey, you're so right, dude, So right.

00:31:59
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a that's a that's a Seman Team six member right there.

00:32:03
Speaker 2: He's a he's right there with chef. Yeah, second in command, would you say chef? At least.

00:32:10
Speaker 4: He might be what was the military branch where it's like the the goom berets. Yeah, but like I'm talking about the actual like the Delta Squad guys who are just like they're like black ops.

00:32:21
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah yeah, Furdo might be a goo beret. He might be a goom Beret that's on Semen Team six.

00:32:29
Speaker 2: Yeah.

00:32:30
Speaker 1: Yeah. And for people if you're new tuning in the tiers we have, you're Papa Team six. Those are the fathers. Yep. You might be on Seman Team six currently where you're not a dead yet but you're shooting. You're dropping in Seeman Team six to do you know some night operations. Oh yeah, we also call that buds training breeding until dad status and that's for you.

00:32:53
Speaker 2: Uh uh, pre PT sixers, pre PT sixers, you're trying to actually becoming PT six members.

00:33:00
Speaker 1: That means you're in bud straining.

00:33:01
Speaker 2: Yep.

00:33:02
Speaker 7: Uh.

00:33:02
Speaker 1: You could be a seeming Team sixer where you're just you're playing for the love of the game.

00:33:06
Speaker 2: Milk Team six, Milk Team six. That's the female audience right now, Team six, Team six. Yeah, Dad DG six, which was Daddy Girl six right that We came up with the other episode comment from last week girls.

00:33:21
Speaker 1: Yeah, Daddy Girl six, Okay, Daddy Girl six. You got the gooon berets goom berets. Oh yeah, what did I say? Did I say goom Berets or green Berets?

00:33:31
Speaker 2: You said goomby Okay?

00:33:32
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got the gooners out there. Those are the young bucks. Those are the young bucks. Now, uh this comment, I got a YouTube Chris Deck forty two to forty five Boys Day one, PT six Sixoh love the pod and community being built, uh with for the dads. As a dad amongst a crew of goon Berets, it's been great hearing from the other dads and relating to the absolute battle stories that our parenthood. Thank thank you boys for all you do. Keep it under an hour. We gotta keep it under it, got to keep it under it out. I do have an email here from Dustin Disher, hey fellas new PT sixer to be to be at any moment now to a baby girl. Contractions are happening and likely going to the hospital tonight for delivery. Oh just wanted to say thanks for the pod. It's brought my excitement to be a girl dad to a whole new level. Wednesday's on my way home from work, I listen asap and Wednesday evening I watch it again on YouTube and force feed it to my wife respectfully because she needs to hear it. Thanks again for the great laughs and loving tears. PS. I hope you find a find a way to shift to Canada soon double PS go bills, yours truly Dustin, Dustin, thank you for reaching out. Sure the six er dish or the six or congratulations man, Congrats, congratulations on the new baby girl.

00:34:40
Speaker 2: I got Matt some ten twenty five on YouTube. Pt sikes brutal start to the week. My dog got six Saturday night, Sunday morning. Take them to the vet. Find out it's pretty much nothing they can do, so we have to put them down. Dang dude, I hate that. I have a six year old and a four year old. My six year old was devastated. The four year old doesn't quite understand yet. Took us a couple of days because it was definitely unexpected. Was for sure looking forward to the pod this week. Dang dude, that stinks.

00:35:17
Speaker 1: Yeah.

00:35:17
Speaker 2: I was lucky enough that I was like high school age when we had family pets. But the way it's lining up with Scarlet, Wrigley and Goose are they're a bit older. They're like seven, and I'm like, oh man, she's gonna be like five or six.

00:35:33
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to say Waffles like five or six years old. Yeah. So I'm sure that'll be a.

00:35:42
Speaker 2: That'll be a moment's a that's a hard one, but I think it can be I think that it can be dealt with, like in a really cool way. How you treat it of like, you know, talking through if they're old enough, like talking through what has had happened. You know, dogs they don't live as long and here's why and dah dah da. But you know the great thing is we can get a new dog or we can get it's.

00:36:12
Speaker 1: The new dog. Bro. I remember when I I was like the same age as so my parents. They did the whole get a pet first before having a kid, for the whole responsibility factor. So Conan he was a Rottweiler studer too. I look like a guy who owns a couple of yeah, a couple of me. They are good dogs. Owner.

00:36:37
Speaker 2: It's about the owner. Ain't the dog.

00:36:40
Speaker 1: It ain't the dog. He ain't the marie.

00:36:43
Speaker 2: Aren't they like the number one attack on because they, hey, the owner, they paint.

00:36:48
Speaker 1: In the wrong line. So I was like the same. I was like a year behind Conan, and I was like somebody who you know, I like got into the dog bowl. I hate the dog food. My parents had to like. I hate the dough.

00:37:05
Speaker 2: That's where Scotty got bro.

00:37:07
Speaker 1: Scott ll Man, she's just like her daddy. She's just like her daddy being there at the bowl eating the dog food. They'd have to like set me on the outside of the outside of the gate and stuff, and I'd be crying trying to hang with Conne. I was the only one because Cone he was, you know, little guard dog. Now I growl and you get close to the bowl, but I could just crawl up there and just eat with me.

00:37:26
Speaker 2: He would let you.

00:37:26
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would go and flip the or change the change the channel on the TV, back when you had to go do it on the TV, and my dad would get all piste off and want to tan my ass. And and he saw it to me one time I did it again. He started to approach me, and then Cone and got in the middle of my dad. And now Cephone was growling at my dad. Yeah, just knowing that I was, you know, I was about to get a little licking. Uh huh. So I was close with Conan, and so Cone and Rob Rolers lived around like ten years old. And so we lost connine when I was ten, and my you know, my dad, he was everybody was grieving about it more the loss of Conan, and my parents handled it well. I was very sad, but again, you get a new dog, it's like new life. Yeah, kind of passed the time, but it was it was tough when we lost Cone. Conan was a good boy. Cone was a good boy.

00:38:13
Speaker 2: Pets. Pets are so awesome.

00:38:15
Speaker 1: Pets are awesome. Gosh, and me, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

00:38:26
Speaker 2: Dogs are so awesome. Man, I just want to shout out this is this is such a random story, but my mom just got a dog. His name is Bama. Sorry, chef, Uh.

00:38:39
Speaker 1: That was fuck that dog kid Cho Kid Show kit.

00:38:44
Speaker 2: Cho Kids Show. But just hearing like the cheer my mom's voice of her just calling me and tell me like, oh, you know, Bama was barking loud when like the mailman came up to the door and the mail man made a joke of like, oh, your new dog's a good guard dog, and you know it helps me like feel safe at night. And I just love stuff like that. Dude, dogs are just the best.

00:39:08
Speaker 1: They really are. They really are.

00:39:11
Speaker 2: I got I got a comment here, Okay, I got a couple more. Oh sorry, I just went you go.

00:39:17
Speaker 1: Uh lukuigi l U l u k u. I g I on YouTube PT sixer of three under five. Here mam is letting dad have the weekend, gonna try and catch the Friday Live show. Already signed up for the tailgate. I told her she's on Milk Team six, which I had to explain to her. Cheers to another, Uh, cheers to another will Day, Best Day of the Week, fantastic interview on House Rules as well go big rad dude, shout out. Shout out Lukuigi, shout out Big Red.

00:39:47
Speaker 2: Hey GBR, shout out Laguigi. And when is Will Compton Day? It's around this time of.

00:39:52
Speaker 1: Year, right, September nineteenth, that's my birthday.

00:39:56
Speaker 2: I am so sorry.

00:39:58
Speaker 1: What do you think I did?

00:39:59
Speaker 2: I was thinking of like the Will Compton Museum and all that stuff. That's also September nineteenth. That's the Will Compton Day.

00:40:07
Speaker 1: I guess, oh you're talking about with barstools. Yeah, like the museum. Yeah, is that maybe?

00:40:12
Speaker 2: I don't know.

00:40:12
Speaker 1: I can't remember.

00:40:13
Speaker 2: I need to look that up. I still have that, sure you look that up. I need to look that up. Will Compton Day. We need we need to keep celebrating. We do need to.

00:40:21
Speaker 1: Keep celebrating that. Big opportunities of celebrating Will Compton Day.

00:40:25
Speaker 2: Okay, good, except for the internet. We missed it.

00:40:30
Speaker 1: Missed it.

00:40:32
Speaker 2: That's what I gotta throw love to my guy anyway I can.

00:40:35
Speaker 1: That would have been fun to just that. It would have been fun to celebrate that. Dang it. Just bring it back to the you know.

00:40:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, I got for other reasons outside celebrating myself. Of course, I got Nick Sexton. This one's from TikTok. What's going on? Boys? I really enjoy your show and the way you share your experiences so openly. I'm reaching out because I'd love to hear your advice on something personal. My partner and I are expecting our first baby, and I was wondering how you both felt when your first child was on the way. Uh, were there things that surprised you or advice that you wish you had received at the time. I think it would really help to hear your perspective as I get ready for this big change in my own life. Thanks for taking the time to read this and keep up the amazing work with the podcast. Now you're Nick Sexton, Nick Sexon, thank you, brother.

00:41:28
Speaker 1: I would say you're the closest removed from firstborn. Yeah, do you have things that jump out at you that you wish you had advice on? Because Scarlett is what ten.

00:41:44
Speaker 2: Weeks ten weeks agoing really eleven? We'll call it eleven, Okay.

00:41:50
Speaker 1: Yeah.

00:41:51
Speaker 2: The piece of advice that I would say is that any little thing I know for any listener that's listened to every episode. I am sorry if I sound like a broken record, but I do think This is if I had a book or like a quote that you could quote me on for being a good dad in those first couple of months. All the little things are big things. So if you remember to wash that bottle after you fed, wife will notice that, and wife will appreciate it. If you remember to put the you know you went into the baby's room, because now you have a whole nother load of laundry. You gotta do that. You weren't used to go in there and get the kid's laundry without you know, even telling the wife and go run that laundry. And when she opens up the dryer later that day and sees that the kid's clothes already been you know, washed and dried, she is going to be stoked. Like and I'm giving myself that advice. I fall short in that area all the time. But as far as like how do I want to absolutely kick ass as a dad, it's like all those little things that, uh, I'll do that later, Oh you know, do it right then and there, and do it for both the kid, your wife, but for yourself too. It's gonna make you feel like a part of everything because it's so mom when she's pregnant, like it's it's really just mom and like taking care of mom and how can I help mom? And then once baby's there, it's like, okay, you're up, dad, Like what do you got? And if you step to the plate and you're doing all those little things, your mother in law, dad in law, everybody's gonna be going. He's doing a good job, he's kicking ass. That would be my advice.

00:43:34
Speaker 1: Dude Well said thank you. I don't think anything needs to be atted toe that, but very well said thank you, because you're right, it is. It's all mom. And then like as dads, I would assume it's just like being being a guy, like being a male. It's uh, you know, you think to yourself if you had like I had an awesome mom growing up. So mom did did a lot of stuff for me. Like my dad. He was the one who went to work, commuted an hour, you know, an hour and working back to each day, kind of like the working dad. He worked a lot, he had to work a lot, and so my mom did everything around the house. So growing up and it's three boys, no female energy, you just think mom takes care of everything, like mom always has all the answers. So when I'm be like when I'm a husband and my wife is pregnant everything else, Like there are times where you just think, oh, you know, Charles got this, Like moms just know how to do this stuff. And the truth is they don't either, Like they just you know, they have to figure it out and you don't want them to feel alone in the process. That's the entire game. It's like, that's the entire game. Is like asking those extra questions so that way you're prepared, not being told what to do afterwards. There's a few times when Charle would have to tell me afterwards and it's like, man, why is she on my ass about stuff? Like I'm trying where it's like I need to seek out this type of preparation before I even get in these situations. Yes, where it's like if I am doing the laundry, do I need to dry every article of c or some do I need to be hang drying them? You know mom can get a little chippy, mom can get going, or the women can get going. Hey, you're not You're supposed to hang dry this one, or like cleaning the bottle. It's like I would do the just the short cut of times where I'll just put the hot water in and put the soap in and I just shake it up. I'll just shake it up on there. Hey, sweetheart, Sometimes you do gotta get you gotta twist the top off. You got to pull the rubber part out of the classic can clean the insides because if not, there'll be some there be some residue inside there. And I'm just like, yeah, she's right. I'm literally just taking the shortcut here. But I need to. I need to be the guy that like cleans out the bottle so that way it's just sitting there and then she sees it so they know that the effort is being put forth. But that was well said man.

00:45:41
Speaker 2: Also chicoed and wives, plug your ears if you if you take the nipple out. I've gotten it down to where I can one hand it, where I take the nipple out of the top and both pieces stay in my hand and give a little you know, underneath the water put on the dry which little that act. Jill would be pissed if she heard that. All in here your bucks. I used the brush. I use the brush every time, honey.

00:46:05
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know, Charlie, listen to this, like you never do the do the nipple. She's not wrong, Like it's been just a handful of times where I thought to do it. Yeah, I'll be in there trying to shake an eye. So you're coming around the corner and then I kind of twisted off.

00:46:19
Speaker 2: This brush is awesome that you got it. Brush is incredible. It's crazy.

00:46:23
Speaker 1: But she ain't cover on the corner. She'll be all right. I would still drink it.

00:46:27
Speaker 2: I legitimately love using this brush. Like this is crazy love. I will say, not a dad win, but like those moments of when you're able, when you're doing all those small things and you are operating independently of your wife on uh prep preparing for the baby to go to outside time, getting the diaper bag ready, washing bottles, making bottles, You'll get into a rhythm where like you're like, dude, I do have this to where Jill and I wanted to do a birthday dinner just her and I on Thursday, and the way it worked out, she was like, I have to go get my nails done and then go straight from there to the restaurant. I don't know, Like, can you take Scarlet and meet me at the restaurant? I don't want to do that to you. Do you feel comfortable to do that? I was like, I got it, I got it. I know everything that needs to go in the diaper bag. I'll have the douna I'll do. I got it. And dude rolling up to Blue Sushi and walking in with Scarlet and everybody, oh my gosh, yeah yeah, pull up to the table. And then mom like rolls into the restaurant later and just seeing the smile on her face, I was like, I got this. I got this.

00:47:39
Speaker 1: Yeah, Because I want to say early in the game, it's like you're some sitting there trying to get the diaper bag ready and I'm like, hey, what all do we need to put here? Buddy?

00:47:48
Speaker 2: Well, being on the show helps too. And I mean that like being on the show helps too, of like Jill helping to prep me. But like all the little dad hacks that I've been getting from guys, I've been getting from you, it helps. Dude stacks up.

00:48:03
Speaker 1: Yeah, we got a turtle nineteen xx here new shirt idea. I rode the shockwave this weekend. Might be tricky with copyrights, but might be worth it. Everyone loves an inside joke. Shockwave.

00:48:18
Speaker 2: Hey just the the wolf on top of a rollercoaster, like right at the drop, he's just about to go down the drop and he's in the front car.

00:48:27
Speaker 1: Just would be electric shockwave. This weekend, I got.

00:48:32
Speaker 2: One from Tyler Grosswick four five three six on YouTube. He said, can we get money line per episode that shirm starts to shed a tear? Keep up the great work force? Love that. Hey, the book is gonna you know. Hey, they say Vegas always wins. I don't know.

00:48:49
Speaker 1: You bet the line right now? After these last couple episodes, you're looking at what a minus two fifty on tears.

00:48:56
Speaker 3: That's exactly where I was at.

00:48:57
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you are being kind. You could say minus six hundred. I didn't want to hurt my feelings.

00:49:03
Speaker 1: Mine's two fifty.

00:49:05
Speaker 2: Thank you.

00:49:05
Speaker 1: What are the odds?

00:49:06
Speaker 2: Hey, what are the odds that's come to my fan?

00:49:10
Speaker 1: I have one last one ruler of Latveria BT six here y'all are the best. So I have two boys, two and five year old. My two year old with or my two year old with the last week has randomly become afraid of monkeys. Wife and I don't know where he got it from, but it's taking an extra hour to get him to bed, trying to assure him no monkeys are in the house. Good fuck yes, yesterday. The wife tells me so that I watched Toy Story three. He hadn't seen it yet. Well, near the end he comes running and screaming because there's a mean monkey in the Towards the end of the movie. Good and out of day, she sends a group She sends a text at nap time, and now he's even afraid of nap time. Good love it loud, y'all are awesome, Keep it up.

00:49:58
Speaker 2: I have a hack for this. Go ahead, my parents. I was very afraid of monsters under my bed in my closet. My brother was actually the one that coined this. So shout out, Jordan, aerosol deodorant, something safe to spray. You could do some sunscreen. It's monkey spray, dude, and go spray down everything in the house and take little guy who was a son, right, yeah, yeah, take a little guy with you and just go spray everything down and just be like, it's monkey spray, right right. I love that idea.

00:50:31
Speaker 1: By the way, maybe a lot of fragrance in the house. Maybe wife won't like that idea, but maybe she'll love it. Maybe she'll love it. Another little one would be like stickers that say, like, monkeys are terrified of these stickers. And you put the sticker on the crib, you put it at the door, you put it wherever a little man wants to put it, so that way he knows monkeys are terrified of these stickers. It like keeps them away, it scares them off.

00:50:52
Speaker 2: And a great way to segue your son into fandom of whatever your favorite sports team is. Buy just a bunch of stickers of set sports team. Now we're cooking. Hey, there is nothing that scares a monkey away like a Baylor Bear. You kidding me? AKA corn Husker. You throw this in anywhere. You know what? That inn also stands word no monkeys.

00:51:15
Speaker 1: No monkeys. That's an inn right there, a red one. They're scared of the color red. No monkeys.

00:51:20
Speaker 2: And you just put that everywhere, dude, and then your kid's gonna love Nebraska. Yeah, those are great.

00:51:25
Speaker 1: Those great little Hey, good dad, head, we're good, good at this?

00:51:31
Speaker 2: Okay, n I will fly through these. These are these are my last two. I'll go back to back and if there's.

00:51:37
Speaker 1: Anything you got to keep it under an hour gote got to keep it under an hour, so please.

00:51:41
Speaker 2: kJ underscore Kitchens on YouTube says pt siico you did the PT six echo uh here listen to the pod Since the Days and the gravel Lot with no ac a true Tier one asking how many Matt Neely's would it take to take down Daddy Luan, lifelong time Titan sand boy dad of two years in deploying for second mission do made twenty twenty six? Congratulations DM Sherman last week about his dad loss. He voice messaged me back lost my shit made the wife listen and I've told basically anyone that would listen, I'm obsessed with the show. I'm obsessed with all of you boys. I only live an hour from the shop, so let me know if you want a psycho on the pod. Shout out Willy Ce for operating with the wife. Gone love you all, Pepperinonis ps Wolf emoji Deeke Derek should be the name Big Deep Derek. Should be the name Big Deep Derek. They should be the name. Also send a voice message to kJ as he said, I'm sorry to try to do that more. I love that. I think it's fun, but I had a friend that you actually met that came by the office, Oaks that was close friends with Matt Neely, and that was my message back to him. I said that my friend Oaks is also one of the reasons that I'm here today working for you guys. So I thought that that was a cool little Matt Neely working his way through it.

00:53:10
Speaker 1: Yeah, and for those who are curious about Matt Neely, Matt Neely was one of our first He was our first social media guy, one of the first guys that worked with us on the bus, and he suddenly passed away in that first year in October, and so Matt Neely is huge. There's huge lore around Matt Neely and his super fandom with the Titans and then being very pivotal with busts with the boys, and it's very early stages in our first year. So that's paying homage to Matt Neely. It would take seven Matt Neely's to take down a Taylor to one.

00:53:40
Speaker 2: It would take seven seven. He was pretty he was bigger than me.

00:53:44
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta think, you know, one on each limbit Taylor many one for the head, one for the piece, and then you know that's six and then just seven because Taylor's number seventy seven.

00:53:58
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true, that's true. Last one we got Mason Clay Donaldson, twenty one, new to the PT six squad, but dad of a two and a half year old daughter in a three day old son. Congratulations Mason. Writing this comment as I rock my son at midnight listening to the pod while I let the wifey sleep to get some rest, just wanted to say that this podcast has inspired me to be more intentional and present to both my two year old and my newborn. Good stuff fellas. Look forward to hearing more stories, advice and lessons. Keep it up. PT sixer out.

00:54:33
Speaker 1: Thank you brother, Thank you Mason.

00:54:35
Speaker 2: Yes, I love that we made the trailer with that in mind, like the trailer launch trailer for the show with somebody listening to it in the wee hours of the morning. Yeah, and then you have it right there, I know.

00:54:45
Speaker 1: Thank you, Mason.

00:54:46
Speaker 2: That's so sick.

00:54:47
Speaker 1: Should we get to some crack of cold one Dad losses, sabs and downs, I'm crackle one. My crack of cole one this week goes to Scottie Joe Lee scott Zilla. Scott Zilla, as you all know here, she's standing for like ten seconds at nime bro. Yes, yes, So I was like, what you know, I was watching I was watching the games and I just scanned over and she's just standing up next to me and got her hands in the air looking at me. I was like, ain'ng gona let daddy, Let daddy take a video real quick. Got a little video over I can, I can plug to you guys so you can show it on the screen. But scott Zilla is standing a little bit now.

00:55:22
Speaker 2: Scotty is going to be a problem in the best way. Yeah, she went over under on how many days of her walking?

00:55:32
Speaker 1: I think she walks before she turns one. She's ten months right now. Yeah, I mean you'll learn, it's not like it just happens once he starts standing. Yeah, but I think she'll start walking before she turns one.

00:55:45
Speaker 2: I bet she starts walking. But you said ten months, like on the dot, right, she's ten months.

00:55:51
Speaker 1: She is. She was ten months twelve days ago.

00:55:57
Speaker 2: So here in three weeks, you think she'll be walking probably four four? Yeah, maybe it's tough.

00:56:05
Speaker 1: Man Like Ruth did a really good job of like I would stand like I would stand rue like on my body like this, and she could like walk up my chest. I felt like, like early into where she was like trying to walk and everything else, Scotty doesn't really like move her legs and walk ahole lot very sturdy and you've seen her army crawling like you know, I've already made the comparison Michael Parson's on third down, say Crosby. Yeah, yes, some are saying Max Crosby as well. It'll just depend man. You gotta get her legs going. I think when I get home today, it's time to start putting in some work with her little walker because she was walking. She was like standing up against Rue seated at the dinner table and having it and it was kind of moving it, like walking and moving it.

00:56:51
Speaker 2: So woo, I'll get her going. When does the head like they're able to start hold their head up? Because Scarlet's almost there, I feel like, is that like question.

00:57:00
Speaker 1: I want to research that? You want to research that, Like three or four months, her head gets sturdy and you can kind of may maybe toss start tossing up in the air and stuff rolling them around like hey you wrestling dad, ain't y?

00:57:15
Speaker 2: Yeah?

00:57:16
Speaker 3: Six months six months?

00:57:18
Speaker 1: Six months around six months okay, because she's you know, two and some change on months, and like I'm seeing her lifting her head and keeping it up when I'm putting her on my chest. She's keeping this right here. I'm like, oh my god.

00:57:34
Speaker 2: So she's she's she's holding her head pretty sturdy, very sturdy. Could you toss her up? I've done some lifts. I have done some lifts, and you gotta feel it out.

00:57:43
Speaker 1: You gotta like start here and then just kind of go up a little fast and kind of drops down. Well, you know how, I kind of know Scotty, like I go, eh, maybe a little maybe a little too soon, maybe a little too soon to toss.

00:57:54
Speaker 2: You in the air. I brought up the idea of lifting Scarlet, and she goes, you're not tossing her. I said, I lifted her. I'm not tossing it. I'm not pausing it. I'm not pausing. I'm lifting. But Scarlet's old face. When I lift her up, she just starts beaming. Dude, she's smiling. Oh that's why I crack a col one.

00:58:20
Speaker 1: Dude. There's nothing better when they start smiling.

00:58:24
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00:59:55
Speaker 1: Oh that is awesome, bro.

00:59:58
Speaker 2: I mean, look at this kind of went out right there, woo. And I have my boys hat on. That's the best part. I'm wearing the boys hat, dude. And she just loves the changing table and I was going, do you love your dad, ass? Do you love your dad?

01:00:16
Speaker 3: Ass?

01:00:16
Speaker 2: I'm kind of doing this with her hand, and she, you know, I started going up and she's like making little noises and big smile and I'm just my dad was totally silent. I was totally silent. We're both sitting there just like, oh my god. That was incredible. And you knew that it wasn't just like her randomly smiling, like she was looking at me and was like smiling because I was in her face talking to her. It was ah, it was good.

01:00:48
Speaker 1: It was really really that juices me up for you guys, Thank you, because smiling is just the best. And I feel like two. When smiling starts happening, like for the mom, it's such a massive wind because again, these little, these little minions, bro, what's it been ten eleven weeks. Yeah, it's like when they finally start smiling, you're getting something in return. Yep, right, because you're just your entire life is sacrifice for them when they're newborns, to where it's just eat, sleep, it's take, take, take, take, take. Moms in postpartiment feeling all these emotions, all these things are going on in her body. For dads, it's like this, you know, the stress of like being a good dad, being a good husband, all the things, And when the baby starts smiling, it's like instead of it's all the take, take, take, take, take, take, and you're finally getting something in return now, which I feel like it's such a big win as a parent, especially for the moms, especially for the mom.

01:01:43
Speaker 2: Jill's been loving it, and she's been talking to Scarlet way. We both have been talking to Scarlet way. Yeah, And just like in the mornings, how much Scarlet loves the mornings, and when it's both me and Jill over her, when we're both standing over Oh my god, she's looking at both of us and she's got a clean dipe beyond when she's in a clean onesie and you can just see it all in her face and just the biggest. Now she's just a smile machine these last two weeks and a giggle machine, like just making little like I like, she wants to talk so bad, and you're just like, oh, it's crazy, dude, with the they always saw it. You have said this that you're gonna love her more and more and more like as time goes on. Yeah, yeah, the whole wait till this month. Wait, yes, dude, And it's like it truly is crazy. Just how much more? I told Jill, I just said I'm in trouble. I'm in huge trouble. Yeah, because I thought I loved Scarlet and I thought I knew how much I loved her.

01:02:49
Speaker 1: But keep enjoying. Man, My first instinct is like just wait, just wait, but it's just keep keep doing your thing, bro. It just gets it weirdly, just it's better and better. And it's nothing that you're missing out on with me saying that, it's just it just it gets better.

01:03:07
Speaker 2: Well, do you just talking about ru holding this teddy bears and being like I thought I was gonna sleep with you? Like I told that story to Jill, I said, imagine me in that situation, we would be halfway to dairy queen getting some ice cream too. Yeah, and she's sleeping in the bed. Yeah, oh my god.

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01:06:38
Speaker 1: We are back from potty break, and uh, Dad losses Dad.

01:06:43
Speaker 2: But I smell it.

01:06:45
Speaker 1: So when we were on potty break, I was a little little little tooth slip.

01:06:50
Speaker 2: Right before we started recording. He goes, oh, that's a smelly boy. I'm talking and breathing through my mouth. It sounds like you have a dad loss.

01:07:04
Speaker 1: I got a couple. Oh really, a couple dad losses. You know, on last week's episode, it was Charles's gonna come home and I'm going to pass the house test. It's gonna be spotless, X Y and Z. Yes, it was oh no, and this is one that just snucked by me. This isn't U. Yeah, I don't know what to say. It's snucked by me. But we traveled to you know, that night on Wednesday, I flew to New York because we had ESPN the next Yes, I took off at eight thirty. Charle ends up landing at ten coming home. So we're two ships passing and I don't get to see each other. Great song by the way, and you know, it's like you want your wife just to come home to a clean house, so they don't. That way, they don't have to stress about anything going on. They can just unpack their stuff. They can just probably crawl in bed, get ready for bed, go hug the kiddos, because I'm sure I know she was excited to see him. But I get to my hotel probably like twelve thirty in the morning, and then Charles sends me a photo of essential oils just spilled all over her nightstand. With all you it wasn't me, it was Rue. I hate pointing the finger at room. Yeah yeah, but it was her because you know how she stayed with me those she was gone, and uh, there was one night, so the essential oil sat there for like a couple of days. Apparently it was like bubbling up on the wood and got all over her books and photos. Oh no, yeah, but what happened was when Rue was sleeping with me one of those nights, I go upstairs, or I go and get something upstairs, whether it's a sleep machine or I had to get something upstairs and break it back down. Yeah, Rue being in the bedroom when I came back downstairs, she was like, she's just telling me. She was like, dad had the lamp fell and I picked it up and put it back, like it's it's okay. And she must've knocked the lamp over.

01:09:02
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:09:02
Speaker 1: Yeah, But I'm sitting there and I'm just listening to her story and she's like, I knocked the lamp over by I picked it up. It's okay, it's okay. I picked it up. It's not broken. And I look at the lamp and it seems like it's right up in the right spot where it was. I just look and I go, oh, great job, sweetheart, that's awesome. And then I go on to like brush my teeth and get ready for bed. I didn't check the night stand. Yeah, I'm just I look at the lamp. I'm like, yeah, it seems like nothing's wrong with it. And if it fell and she put it back up, like that's low key awesome, like great work, kiddo. So I don't even check the night stand. But apparently it knocked over the essential oils. The essential oil was everywhere on her nightstand, and Chart was like, you just didn't want to check. You didn't just cared to check the other stuff that's sitting on the night stand. If the lamp fell over, I'm like, dude, I was moving and grooving. She kind of told me this story, and I looked at the lamp and it seemed like it was just fine. Reached up and turned it on. It worked, so I was like, oh, great job, give her a pat on the ass, and kept it moving. So that was one dad loss.

01:09:59
Speaker 2: There's also an nothing worse than just getting a picture of said thing, because I've been on that side of it to you. Yeah, you just get to pick Were there any words with it? Was it just a picture?

01:10:10
Speaker 1: It was what happened here?

01:10:11
Speaker 2: Yeah it was.

01:10:12
Speaker 1: I forget what the breakdown was, but yeah, dude, And it bummed me out just because I know the effort I was putting in, and I was exhausted. When I was in New York, I was like, all right, let's try to close my eyes and get some sleepy sepp like four hours for I had to wake up for ESPN the next morning. Yeah, and but yeah, that's one day loss. I have a second one. So when we went to the Husker game last weekend and flew out on Friday, yeah, oh I forget. Oh yeah, it was my birthday. So we went out to Benji's Bagels. We had a great little family morning, and then Charo had to go. She had to go do.

01:10:51
Speaker 2: Something for bar three.

01:10:52
Speaker 1: So I took both the kiddos. I went and dropped ruof at school, and then I went dropped her off at school, and then I had Scotty and I just had to take Scotty home to see Augie, and uh but what I forgot to do? I drove to the airport and then obviously took off. And then I get a couple of texts from Charro like you left the base, left the base, left the base in my truck.

01:11:20
Speaker 2: Oh and you only have one set of keys.

01:11:23
Speaker 1: I did have a spare. And I told her, I'm like, hey, because our our nanny she has a base too, So I think she got linked up with with Augie to get the second yes, because we have we have a base in every car for rue. We only have two bases for Scottie and one's one's with the nanny and one is with Charro.

01:11:44
Speaker 2: Is she doing do? Yes?

01:11:46
Speaker 1: Okay?

01:11:47
Speaker 2: Yes?

01:11:48
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01:12:06
Speaker 2: With the car seat.

01:12:07
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but I left. I didn't get out the car. I didn't get out the base. So charl was rocking without a base until she got linked up with Augie. And then I didn't take the backpack out of the truck. Oh the diaper bag, the diaper bag, the diaper bag, backpack.

01:12:25
Speaker 2: I just did that. If it makes you feel better, I just did that. Last week when Jill came up to the office, the bag was in my car. Yeah, to come up to the office and come grab the diaper bag. Yeah.

01:12:37
Speaker 1: And she told me about She was like, did you also did you happen to put the diaper bag anywhere? Because she couldn't find it, and she's like, you know, not trying to say, hey, did you have the backpack too, but hey, did you happen.

01:12:46
Speaker 2: To She was being sweet Yeah, yeah yeah.

01:12:50
Speaker 1: And I was a god, that's in the truck. That's in the drug too, sweetheart, it's my birthday.

01:12:56
Speaker 2: But I love Hey it's my birthday, and ps I be a prioritize yeah a lot.

01:13:02
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I told her. I was like, I do have a spare if you wanted to drive over to the truck and get all these things.

01:13:10
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:13:10
Speaker 1: Yeah, So another dad loss. She did just fleeting brain man, I know sometimes you used to we just we just don't think.

01:13:19
Speaker 2: Well you I was bragging before about the birthday dinner that I took scarlet tow all by myself. I left the diaper bag in my car that was from the same thing. So with the wind came a loss as well. Yeah, but we got through it, got through it. Charo had very kind words for you on her birthday posts. By the way she did. I don't usually read the captions that say show more, but I was invested. Yeah, I clicked on it. I was like, hey, that's a good read. That's a good like for you. I was like, I bet will that was a good read.

01:13:54
Speaker 1: She's a good little writer too. She is like charl is big. My wife is big on cards, cards, love written word love. Yeah, write on a card. Yeah, Like that's the biggest thing, whether it's birthday, whatever it is. She's a big card person. That to her is like that's like a love language for you.

01:14:16
Speaker 2: Did that kind of spark your interest in writing?

01:14:21
Speaker 3: Guess?

01:14:22
Speaker 1: And no, almost like I know I have to put an effort. Yeah, Like again, whether it's birthday, Like I could not have a gift, but if I have, if I have a handwritten card, that's the moneymaker right there.

01:14:33
Speaker 2: Because you have ability I think in writing as well. Thank you like the stuff that you've written for the show. But also like when when you write down your thoughts and stuff, it's very succinct.

01:14:44
Speaker 1: Some barstool blogs in the past. Yeah, ever, once a year, I was good for a blog once a year. And all the time it's like, I want to challenge myself more to write. It's just it's just doing it, man, Yeah, it really is just doing it.

01:14:59
Speaker 2: And it is It's such a lost art for him. I feel like with kids they now in public schools in Texas, cursive is no longer mandatory. Yeah, and that breaks my heart.

01:15:12
Speaker 1: And with chat GPT now writing, she want to get worse yeah or better? I have no you know, charl hates chat gipt for that reason of writing. Yeah, because she just she enjoys, Like she's reading this book. I want to say, it's like an Onyx and Storm or Onyx storm or something like that.

01:15:26
Speaker 2: Yeah, you were talking about this. She's a Charle is a huge reader, huge reader. It's a fantasy.

01:15:31
Speaker 1: Yeah, she can she can run through books, bro, it is crazy. And so she appreciates she appreciates writing, reading, reading, storytelling.

01:15:44
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.

01:15:46
Speaker 1: So also like with her nice little Instagram post, she had a nice little card for me written, the whole thing was covered.

01:15:53
Speaker 2: That's so well done. That's so well done, shout out Chario.

01:15:56
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would you know what you know, like, I don't do it. I want to more but encourage everybody to like journal or write down their stuff. And again this is coming from somebody who tells himself to do it, and I don't do it. I have a I have like a I got a cool little like Charle and I like one of our little inside sayings that we kind of got connected on. And what's the word I'm looking for? Bonded over, bonded over carpe a dm oh the phrase carpe dm seize the day. And when we were over in Italy and we were in Rome and everything like that, you know, I love Stoicism. But there were these like journals, these like diary journals whatever, and like those little gift stores. And there's one like leatherbound one that had carp a dm etched in the front. So I had like gotten that one with the intention to write in it and my thoughts, philosophies, whatever it is, write about the kids, yes, life, and I only have about two pages of it written. That was when we went to Italy, A few years ago. So again I'm encouraging everybody to do it because I think it is. I truly think it's like you'll get to this point. But thinking of all the times back when Ru is little or Scotty being little right now, like Rue still is little, but all the moments I wish I would just have like journaled down and written down because you think you're gonna remember, but you just don't. Yeah, So why I'm huge and like take as many videos and photos as you can. Is there already some things that I'm forgetting about or I got to remember, or if like Scotty's at a certain age, I'm like, man, where was Rue during this time? And I'm just like, God, damn, I will if you would just write this shit down.

01:17:31
Speaker 2: Man, I need to get better at that too. I do have a I have to brag on myself a really good visual and auditory memory with like I often have friends be like, dude, how do you remember that movie line? Like verbatim? Like I'm able to retain stuff very well. But I'm like, if I applied that to my own life of journaling and then being able to like read that stuff, I feel like I would retain stuff even better when it it's like visual retention. You'd be good, you'd be a good little writer.

01:18:05
Speaker 1: Yeah.

01:18:05
Speaker 2: I had a little fun stuff here and there, like little scripts and et cetera. But I need to like write my thoughts down.

01:18:14
Speaker 1: Yeah, I need to do it.

01:18:15
Speaker 2: Write to your kids, write to my kids.

01:18:18
Speaker 1: You want to hear a sad story?

01:18:19
Speaker 2: Yes, okay.

01:18:21
Speaker 1: So my mom wrote a book, wrote in a book. There were three that she had intentions of writing books for. Dude, you're kidding, Like, I guess life. I can't tell you what's in there because I haven't read it yet. My dad finds these books after my mom had passed. Yeah, and I was like going through stuff in the next year, Like my mom passed away in December. It was like December nineteenth, twenty twenty first, like one of those days, and so not that Christmas, but the entire next year. My dad came across something in the fall, like when he was like looking through drawers and everything else, and there were these three there's these three books, and one of them mine was written in. I don't know what's in it, and it wasn't all the way finished. But my mom apparently had written to us like she had intentions of like writing to each of us. I know it's sad, holding back some tears, but the other two weren't written in, which makes me sad. And if Cody and Whyett listened to the show, like, I don't even know if they know, because part of me felt bad that I had one and they didn't have one.

01:19:33
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, yeah, And.

01:19:37
Speaker 1: I haven't read it because part of me is like I'm scared to read it because then in my mind that might be then there's nothing else, you know what I mean. Yeah, that's sad. That's sad story, sad story.

01:19:55
Speaker 2: We gotta have that. Hey, that's sad, that sad story. But this is uh, this is why I would say to that is I would never pressure you to like do anything, but you should one million percent read it, and you do it in your own time, like you find the time that you're ready. But you got to read that, and you're what you're you're not wrong.

01:20:20
Speaker 1: Part of me is because it sits by my bed, so it's like all my night standing next to my bed.

01:20:25
Speaker 2: You have it, Yeah, I have it?

01:20:28
Speaker 1: My dad? What I was gonna say? The next Christmas? The next year, my dad gifted it to me on Christmas, oh wow, And he was like, I came across I came across these journals, these books, and one is for you heavy bro, dude, what oh man? And so it sits on my nightstand and it's like I just don't. Part of me is like I have that excuse to where if I read this, these are the last words and then there's nothing else after that. Like I know, I still have like her words, they're written to me.

01:20:58
Speaker 2: Yeah, And part of me is.

01:21:00
Speaker 1: Just like I just don't have like the the stones or the courage to open it up and start like reading her words.

01:21:07
Speaker 2: Without sounding cheesy like written word is forever. We have books that like people are still being quoted from fair Point thirteenth century, fourteenth century. If anything, I think it will give your mom life by reading those and letting those words live on. That would be my thoughts on it. I I think that's oh man, your mom's a good one, dude, your mom's a legend.

01:21:36
Speaker 1: Bro.

01:21:37
Speaker 2: Damn.

01:21:39
Speaker 1: Yeah, I appreciate those words though. Actually, yeah, that makes a lot of sense. You'll control talk to me about it, but she won't talk, you know. It's more of like I'll be like sweet, I just I can't do it yet I don't want.

01:21:51
Speaker 2: To, and I don't blame her. I have the same thing with Jill's stuff with her dad, Like I just feel like that's a place where I, you know, I let Jill make those decisions.

01:22:06
Speaker 1: So it's just hard. You obviously see the emotion that comes out when I just talk about her. It's like I feel like if I open the book and just start reading words like, I won't even be able to make it, dude, very far. And then I'm like, man, I just don't want to be in that emotional state.

01:22:20
Speaker 2: Yeah, you'll find the right time. Yeah you're right, You're right. But that also that that is like inspiring me to now want to write stuff for Scarlet.

01:22:32
Speaker 1: I know, yeah, because when the moments I do think about I'm like, well, you just got it. You gotta start writing.

01:22:39
Speaker 2: Jill wrote a letter the second time I took her on a date of that like she knew that I was going to be the guy that she married, and she read that she kept h at her purse forever and when I proposed to her or she brought out that letter to read it, dude, I had to pull over, like driving over and proposing to Jill because I was like this, like trying to drive, like written word is so crazy. That's awesome.

01:23:14
Speaker 1: Yeah, I need to do that more. Let's challenge ourselves, Dad's that's a good challenge. It's a good challenge. Everybody's cashing their bets right now.

01:23:26
Speaker 2: What was the lie? I feel like bald guys can't cry either. I'm telling you it's minus six they cry. It should have been minus six hundred. Oh my gosh. We also we gotta get some wigs for Will, sorry, Derek, cause.

01:23:43
Speaker 5: It's the only thing I could ever offer to you guys as a dad hack is I heard it a long time ago. Make a Google driver a Gmail account for your daughters. And so that's where I have a journal for myself. That's a Gmail account that is just my name journal and every big day. So when I was proposing to my fiance, when I was doing these things, I write notes to myself and I don't go back and look. And so if you do want like that small bit of it, I always say, like, one thing I can't wait to do when I have kids is like make them an email account and just write like first day of preschool stuff like that. Just because it's the digital wage and things like that. So that's how I get my writing out.

01:24:16
Speaker 2: Just throwing that up. That's a sick idea.

01:24:19
Speaker 1: That's a great idea.

01:24:21
Speaker 2: That's a dad hack.

01:24:22
Speaker 1: That's a dad hack. Man.

01:24:24
Speaker 2: I am, I have my trenches if we want to go into that second, absolutely, because I don't. I for the first time and for the dad's history, I don't have a dad loss. That's big. I bet we could find one though, if we really wanted to dig for it. Sure, Jill, we have dad lots. In five seconds, you're like, yeah, do you see the toilets heat this morning? There? You gods, but the trenches. Jill's birthday party, it was absolutely incredible. Bill, being pregnant has not had like the opportunities to be as social as she has wanted to be and to like host events and to drink alcohol in like a celebratory way and all those things. And so her thirtieth birthday she did a fantastic job of just ordering like all these little tablecloths and little lanterns to like hang in the trees and twinkle lights. And her stepdad built that a frame I was talking about on last week's episode. We hung all the twinkle lights and it was just like an epic night. Chef pulled through Furda, pulled through Ryan pulled through. Chef looked good in his Teddy Bear hat too. He rocked the Teddy Bear hat at Jill's party and looked like a dude. But the trendiest part of it was doing all that with no family in town and like balancing taking care of Skarlet and setting up for the party. And I just have to kind of give myself a poundment back, but really give Jill a pat on the back, because it was so sick seeing us operate with like Scarlet's crying. Scarlet's crying, put her in the baby Bajor and put her in the front yard, and we're rocking her in the front yard as we're like putting up the tables and I'm hanging the lights. And then now Scarlet's in a good mood and she's looking at all the leaves up in the trees and gone, oh, like ah, you are making noises, and we're like, oh, Scarlett, you like the party, and like everything was just so incredible. The night of the party was incredible. We did have I will keep his name out of it because I have not talked with him about sharing this. But we had a dude at the party that was coming fresh off of a torn laborum surgery and he was talking to chef and uh, while he was talking to chef, his shoulder went out of socket, and I guess like the world closed in on him and he passed out like four or five times, like fully at the front door of our house, like pass out into my arms. Thankfully I was right there and caught him. I was like, oh man, this guy's drunk.

01:27:16
Speaker 3: That's what I thought too, And he didn't see it. It was so weird. He kind of like all of a sudden because he was so sober. Yeah, he was looking at me.

01:27:23
Speaker 4: He goes, do you have all the like out of like that you have a bathroom or something here? Like I was like, oh what, let me sure, And I'm grabbing schirms over by the tragger badass trigger by.

01:27:34
Speaker 1: The way, thank you will shout, oh yeah, shout out. Rectech made some Halpino poppers that was fun amazing.

01:27:43
Speaker 3: Uh yeah, and he just I didn't see him pass out, but he looked.

01:27:46
Speaker 4: I was like, man, this guy hammered and just hiding it.

01:27:50
Speaker 2: It was crazy. I catch him and he's fully limp. He's around your size, not like uh is filled out, but I mean way bigger than me.

01:28:00
Speaker 1: Hey boy.

01:28:01
Speaker 2: Yeah, And so I catch him. I'm like, oh my god, Jared, they would me out of nowhere, like comes up and we're getting them pulled up and dude he like came back to He's like, hey, do you have a bathroom. I'm like, yeah, let's get into the bathroom. Ountain know what's going on. And we get him like five steps into the house and he just again, and that time I like caught him, caught him. We got him on the couch, and thank god, Jill's a nurse and had like eight of her nursing friends there that dude was taken care of. They had they had a steposcope on him, they were checking poles. Everybody at the party like it died for like ten seconds and everybody's like, oh my god. Yeah, But it ended up all being good. He was totally fine. We like we laid him down horizontal and he ended up getting home safe and they diagnosed it with what happened with the shoulder. I guess they popped it back in place for him. It's crazy, but I know, but that whole night, everything about it, with all the little curveball oh and the entire time that that's going on, Scarlet would not go down for the first time in two weeks. She's in her crib the entire time, going like screaming as I'm holding this guy, and so as soon as we get him on the couch, I'm like, I gotta go tend to Scarlett.

01:29:24
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I was.

01:29:25
Speaker 2: In the nursery for like twenty minutes as the party's going on, just being like, come on, girl, like of all nights, I need you to go down, I need you to go down.

01:29:34
Speaker 4: Can I give a quick shout out too, shirm because as someone that was just there, him and Jill both handled themselves really really well. You'd have a ye're aware that Scarlet isn't going down. They have a baby monitor out there on the tables, but they're still like, you know, extremely kind and courteous. It's you know, handling it like pros. I mean, it was very cool to see you guys. Uh. I'm sure that was a lot and internally probably really hectic, but you couldn't see that from the outside. They were amazing hosts of this awesome venue. Sure them on the grill is.

01:30:10
Speaker 2: Dangerous, dangerous Texas boys. Texas boy. I don't know that smoker is a pretty big cheat code. I mean you put that day. I have an app in everything, he said. I don't know, I don't know. People can mess up the smoker. Yeah, yeah, well come on now, there's a little if you're mess If you're messing up with smoker, we need to talk. We need to have a little combo.

01:30:30
Speaker 1: But drug.

01:30:35
Speaker 2: And that's true. It's the Indian, not the Arrow as they say. But yeah, it was fun. It was actually shout out Chef, and shout out Ryan, and shout out Matt. We call him Ferda in this office. Jill said her favorite part of the night was talking to those three guys. And that was my other crack of cold one is. I looked at the party, all the twinkle lights, everything going on, and all Jill's friends are meeting, all of Mitch's friends. Everybody's kind of bonding. And I look over and I see Jill with the drink in her hand, and y'all had drinks in your hands, and they're laughing so hard. For is doing something crazy. He's like acting something out Jill's dying laughing. An hour passed by, truly an hour, and I look back up and Jill was still talking to those three guys and they're still laughing. And the next morning she woke up and she said, I gotta tell you, my favorite part of the party was talking to those she calls them the interns, which y'all aren't interns anymore, but she was like, talking to the interns was They are so much fun. It was just like that life like coming back of like, yeah, being able to like live and be in the moment, but also bouncing the scarlet, taking care of her. It was awesome.

01:31:50
Speaker 1: I love that.

01:31:50
Speaker 2: That was my trenches, y'all. We did watch the bust and Bowl. We did watch the bust and bawl.

01:32:00
Speaker 1: The boys are riding. Yeah, should we get to some callers.

01:32:04
Speaker 2: Let's get to some calls.

01:32:05
Speaker 1: Six one the dads. You want to be featured on the show? Uh call in and leave a voicemail. Can be about absolutely anything. A dad wain and dad lost, something you're learning, something you want to have been about. This is a safe space for dads and we have at or sorry six o one the Dads at gmail dot com for our international listeners. Yes, if you want to shoot an email? Yes, yes, say that one again, six o one the dads at gmail dot com. How many? How many?

01:32:33
Speaker 2: How many we doing this week? Does we got two? Two callers? We'll go quick?

01:32:37
Speaker 1: All right?

01:32:39
Speaker 4: Yeah?

01:32:39
Speaker 7: What's up?

01:32:40
Speaker 1: Well?

01:32:40
Speaker 7: I just wanted to share with you a little story, little answer that I had with my three year old the other day. By the way, I just had another daughter, uh about a month ago, but I also got a three year old the other day.

01:32:52
Speaker 8: I'm working from home on my computer.

01:32:54
Speaker 3: I look over.

01:32:55
Speaker 8: My three year old is riding on the walls with motherfucking whiteboard marker. I fucking a reserve judgment. I wait, she looks over. I mean, my first thought is the ripper anew him? I hold off, so I just ask, hey, why'd you do that? She looks me dead in the fucking eye and says it wasn't me, it was John Cena, John fucking Sina. I didn't know what to say, so I immediately dropped a wrestling promo on how fucking dare you bring up John Blame John Cena, seven time world champ, the franchise. Matter of fact, go to your room. It's rough dude, raising a baby, You're just basically staring.

01:33:40
Speaker 7: At it fucking all day, making sure it's fine and fucking not dead.

01:33:45
Speaker 8: A three year old, it's fucking war. It's fucking war every day, and they need to teach this shit in schools. How is the fucking guy supposed to prepare for this?

01:33:55
Speaker 5: What the fuck?

01:33:57
Speaker 2: The only thing I'll say is, how do we know it wasn't John Cena. You can't see him, you know for a fact. How does a three year old connect those dots to go ultimate Alibi and the man? So funny, John Cena.

01:34:11
Speaker 1: He's not wrong about with the three year old. It is just war verbally at all times. Twenty four to seven. You say one wrong thing to them and they think, you know, they're in their world thinking they're doing whatever it is. They just snap at you, bro, Yeah, like I'm doing this first. I told you I'm doing this first. Okay, take it easy, Jesus Christ.

01:34:33
Speaker 2: We also have to put the real reaction video in this episode to the hair.

01:34:39
Speaker 1: Bro me walking in with the bald head and just her like scared for life, but also still kind of trusting what I'm saying.

01:34:49
Speaker 2: And her voice as you walk in before she sees you in the dada and then as she sees you just total monotone.

01:34:58
Speaker 1: Yeah, your nervous, a very nervous energy.

01:35:02
Speaker 3: Do you like it?

01:35:05
Speaker 2: Yes, silent nod.

01:35:07
Speaker 1: You want to touch it? And she's just like and then kind of.

01:35:10
Speaker 2: Like she was she was, yeah, I'm not sure.

01:35:17
Speaker 1: Oh I did to get her last night because we kind of motivate her with a piece of a cookie for after dinner.

01:35:22
Speaker 2: Oh heck yeah.

01:35:24
Speaker 1: And she was on one not want to eat a hamburger patty. We had burger cut up the burger. She wanted it with the bun, but all she wants to do is eat the bun, not the burger.

01:35:34
Speaker 2: Hey, that's a good call, good call.

01:35:39
Speaker 1: I was like, sweet, I'll get you the bun. We'll get you the bun, but you're eating the burger with it. And she's like, okay, I know. I'm like, well, if you know, then why haven't you already been doing it? And so I'm like tearing off the burger bund and then she eats the burger bund and well, I tear off one piece and I put it on her plate and then I'm the burger bun and she's like I want more. I was like, no, your bun's right there. I want to see how you're gonna do the bun and the burger like you said, like you said you.

01:36:10
Speaker 2: Were gonna do it.

01:36:11
Speaker 1: You do that, I'll give you some more piece of bread. She's like, I don't like the burger. She got. She puts the bread in her my house and starts eating and she's like, I don't like the burger. She starts whining, and I'm like, you know, pissed off. I'm like, you said you're gonna eat the burger, like you gotta eat the burger with the bread. And she's like, I want more bread. I want I want more, I want more of the pun.

01:36:30
Speaker 2: I want the bun.

01:36:32
Speaker 1: And so I'm like, I'm like, fine, i'll give you a bun, but you're eating the burger. So I start turning off the bun and put.

01:36:39
Speaker 2: So my daughter's a liar, now that's what we're doing. And she likes.

01:36:44
Speaker 1: She like picks up the piece of bond and I'm like, you're putting burger on that. He's like, I was like, here, I'll show you how to do it. She starts getting fussy and I like, take the fork and like, get the bun, get the burger with it. I'm like, this is how you eat it, and then she doesn't want to do it, so she just kind of sits there. And it's what I've kind of been doing recently, Like when I was solo with her last week, like this, this was what I was.

01:37:04
Speaker 2: Hitting her with.

01:37:05
Speaker 1: Okay, if you don't want to eat, you don't have to eat. You can go sit on you can go sit on the couch.

01:37:09
Speaker 2: You don't have to eat. And what she would do.

01:37:12
Speaker 1: She didn't do this last night, but what she was starting to do is she might get up and mosy around the couch or whatever, and then she's like that kind of have a cookie. You ain't getting a cookie cookies for CPC Clean Plate Club. You only get a cookie if you're part of the CPC.

01:37:30
Speaker 2: And hold on one second. We have the membership card right here. Let me oh, yeah, you're not on that, as is on it. That as good as a cookie.

01:37:38
Speaker 1: But last night Mom is like it got to a point to where she was starting to eat the burger in the bond. I was fired up by I see, I told you it's good. It's fun to try new things, cause it might taste good. That's Daniel Tiger. Come on, Danny, Come on, Daniel Tiger. And it got to a point where Charles like, uh, you can eat three more bites and you'll be done or something like that. And so she so she eats three bytes and then she like gets off the chair and she runs over to get a cookie. And she was like, uh that I get a cookie. I get a cookie.

01:38:11
Speaker 4: Now.

01:38:11
Speaker 1: I was like, you can't get a cookie. You're not part of the Clean Play Club. So Mama said, three more, three more bites. I'm like, yeah, three more bites and you can be done eating. If you want a cookie. You're eating all this burger.

01:38:21
Speaker 2: That's CPC.

01:38:22
Speaker 1: You're yeah, that's how you get into the Yeah, you gotta be CPC. If you're gonna get a cookie.

01:38:27
Speaker 2: TBC is three bike club that don't get a cookie.

01:38:30
Speaker 1: That don't get no cookie. You can be done eating food. If you are fool and you're done eating food, then have at it. You can be done eating food. And she said, but I want a cookie. I was like, if you said you're full, then how are you gonna have room for a cookie? You can't you're full? You said you you can't eat anymore, and.

01:38:48
Speaker 2: Then her wheels are spinning a house. She's like kind of sitting there looking.

01:38:51
Speaker 1: I'm like, if you listen, you ate your three bytes, that is amazing. You can be done eating for the night. You can be done eating. You can hang out, you can go play, you do what whatever you want. But if you want a cookie, you're eating that plate of food. She goes over, knocks it out. Bro, let's go knocks it out. That's a dad win, Big dad win, Big dad up. And I walked by my wife. You see how Dad I handled that one.

01:39:16
Speaker 2: You're up.

01:39:17
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, I'm gonna go watch. I start breaking it down here, just like you know, psychologically in her mind, it's what I was telling her while you were gone. Sometimes she didn't want to eat any dinner. Sweet, you don't have to eat dinner. I'm not even I feel like you if you put the pressure on the kid, or you start stressing, which happens like again, it happens for me like every day. Yeah yeah, but you start doing that, they just start getting resistive and fighting you about it to where they don't end up eating. You're all done eating food. They haven't eat a bite of their plate and you're kind of just sitting there at the dinner table, like, sweetheart, we need you to start eating. She wants to play, she wants to journal. She's got this journal to where all she basically does is like scribble in between the lines. Thinks she's right, she thinks she's writing something. She's like, right, sweetheart, you gotta start eating.

01:39:57
Speaker 2: I'm finiching my journal. I'll finishing my journal, then I'll eat food.

01:40:02
Speaker 1: I'm like, you ain't even write nothing of something, just finish that line. I saw that journal is gonna be there when you're done eating food.

01:40:11
Speaker 2: We need to and also we're we're good on that, but we are time wise. It is n I'm thirty two.

01:40:18
Speaker 1: I texted clumpetson nine forty five for the okay, perfect for.

01:40:22
Speaker 2: The team meeting. But yeah, that's how.

01:40:24
Speaker 1: That's how that has been handling dinner time for parents out there looking for some techniques, looking for some strategy. Dads, you want to put the wife on some game, because after I executed that, I'm kind of tea I'm kind of telling Charlie like I'm like, in my brain, I think I'm teaching her what to do because I won't buy a nuger. You see how I handled that one. You gave her three bites. You would have gave her a cookie. I know you would have gave her a kikie. No, that ain't how we handle it.

01:40:47
Speaker 2: I would have. I would love to see Will on a whiteboard to just charrow. You see how I did. You see what's going on when we run that so in her brain?

01:40:57
Speaker 1: If I just tell her she doesn't want to eat any of her food, I just homly, all right, Hey, you don't eat, that's fine. You ain't getting no snacks. You ain't getting nothing else, No juice, no snacks, no TV coupon, no cookie, no nothing. If you want to be done eating, you don't have to eat. We can go get ready for bed.

01:41:13
Speaker 2: She has to think she's in control, Chara. We gotta let her make the mistake and learn from it. Yeah, and that's how we're gonna do it. Right here. Let me show you out.

01:41:21
Speaker 1: Yeah, Oh you want to go to bed hungry, Go ahead, I promise you do your thing. You don't eat food that we worked, that we worked on. We've had a hard day. We want to just have some love and support here at the dinner table tonight and you don't want to respect that.

01:41:33
Speaker 2: Go ahead, go do your thing. Oh you just want bread. See how you're Tommy feels tomorrow morning.

01:41:37
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's just see bread. Yeah, go ahead, eat whatever you want, sweetheart, do your thing. Oh you want a cookie. That's funny. Now you're in my world. Now you had control. You just gave it back to me. Yeah yeah, yeah, you want that cookie. Come eat this plate of food, sweetheart? Oh my god, she though.

01:41:58
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we are we're we are short on time. We're coming up to an hour, so we can kick it to our topic. Quote or lesson of the week.

01:42:08
Speaker 1: Do you have one?

01:42:09
Speaker 2: I have a quote of the week.

01:42:10
Speaker 1: I have a quote as well.

01:42:12
Speaker 2: Okay, sick, do you wanna I can go? I can go.

01:42:16
Speaker 1: Rock paper scissors, rock paper scissors, rock paper scissors.

01:42:19
Speaker 2: Shoot, rock paper scissors. Shooe okay, okay, rock paper scissors. Shoot. Ooh, so I got you wanna go first or second? I'll go first? All right? Quote of the week. Oh man, this was really good. Okay. This comes from my dad Loss of like for listeners of the episodes, you know my big dad Loss that featured the airport for somebody that's new. I had maybe the biggest dad loss of all time, like two or three weeks ago, and let's just say I should have been in the doghouse for weeks. Jill is a very forgiving wife and we love her for that. During my crash out, I was saying how I felt very like I felt like I fall short a lot of the time, and that Jill doesn't think that I'm a good dad. Jill's my wife, and she's sitting there reassuring me that she thinks I'm an incredible dad. And then she hit me with this quote, which WiFi listeners, empty six ers out there, hit your hubby with this one. Oh man. She the next day she said, I'm sure. I just want you to know that when you're at work, me and Scarlet we talk about how much we love our dad and how awesome our dad is all the time when you aren't here. That's it. That's the quote. And that melted me. Melted me of just like you might think you're falling short, but like we talk about how awesome you are and how much we love you when you're not around. And I was just like, oh, I just hold onto that when I'm at work and I miss him. That like I have a partner that's sitting there just gassing me.

01:44:07
Speaker 1: Up at home, and it just juicing you up unless you forgot the diaper.

01:44:11
Speaker 2: Bag, unless I forget the But even when I forget the diaper bag, she's sitting there saying, you have the best dad in the world, which I'm just.

01:44:17
Speaker 1: Like, your dad is so awesome. Even he falls short.

01:44:21
Speaker 2: Sometimes, even he falls short, even he leaves the diaper bag in the car. But that that was my quote of the week.

01:44:27
Speaker 1: I love that.

01:44:28
Speaker 2: Think you love that.

01:44:28
Speaker 1: The tears fill the eyes again yet again. You're a good dude. Man.

01:44:32
Speaker 2: Hey, thank you MiG as. Are you minus six hundred? By the way, the odds have to be pushed.

01:44:39
Speaker 1: I think you're in plus odds. You get multiple cries, it's like a it's like.

01:44:44
Speaker 2: Oh sorry, sorry sorry plus six hundred.

01:44:47
Speaker 1: That's like two plus touchdowns.

01:44:48
Speaker 4: Yes, I met plus last year when christ McCaffrey was playing so well that people were like, well, it's mis two hundred for touch it might as well go two tuddies and yeah, twuddies.

01:44:58
Speaker 1: Yeah that is right.

01:45:00
Speaker 2: Wait is it? If there's a big likelihood of it happening, it would be minus six hundred, right, because like the adds.

01:45:11
Speaker 1: Right, but you did it twice.

01:45:13
Speaker 3: Oh I see, so if you.

01:45:14
Speaker 1: Took the first one, hey over under the boys?

01:45:18
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, cryer.

01:45:21
Speaker 1: Anytime the boys cry on the episode, likely very likely that minus six hundred you get them twice, two separate occasions. The odds start, you know, going down.

01:45:31
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay. I do like that.

01:45:33
Speaker 1: Yeah, I do like that. I have a I have a quote as well.

01:45:37
Speaker 2: Let's go.

01:45:38
Speaker 1: One of the greatest things a father can do is to show his children that he, too, is still learning. And a couple of takeaways from that is, uh, it shows them humility over pride. So kids see that dad doesn't have it all figured out and it's okay, and it helps take the pressure off them of being perfect when they see you falling short and you kind of and you kind of explo laning through your shortcomings. I feel like it helps takes pressure off the kids because they see us as the superheroes, right Like anytime a shortcoming happens and you pull from your rolodecks of an experience from the past, and they're kind of like locked in, like oh, Daddy, you cried too, or Daddy, you've gotten booboos too, or you know, Rue came up last night when I was putting Scotty down and was kind of crying and I was low key. When she came in, I was like, damn it, Rue, because I was just getting Scotty to sleep and Ruke opens up the door and she's got like the cry noises going and she's like, Dad, Dad, I'm like, what is this, sweetheart? And she was like I need a hug. I'm like, oh, you want to hug Scotty.

01:46:35
Speaker 2: She's like no. I was like, oh, you need her from dead? Then's what's going on? What's wrong?

01:46:38
Speaker 1: And she's like, uh, I spilled water. She must have spilled a lot of water downstairs. And so I was giving her a hug and let her know it's okay that had spills water all the time. I promise if this is going to be okay, you know what, even Scotty Jojo she gets in Waffle's water bowl every day, spills water everywhere, and that's okay. I'm sure. I don't even know the situation that happened. I'm just saying, I'm sure you're trying to be perfect and try to do something nice and spilled and it's gonna be Okay, so that whole humility over pride perspective. It also teaches that growth is lifelong. They learn that growth doesn't stop, whether it's after school, if they're older, after work, after any big moment in life, that growth is lifelong, that you're always staying curious, you're always trying to figure out ways to get better. And then the third thing is modeling curiosity. Children imitate more than they listen. They see us like seeking wisdom, reading, learning through a failure, struggling of falling short at times, loving on mom like you're modeling this behavior. Because here's something else I found. I came across that it feels like ties the bow on this one, ok. And that every parent should want should remember that one day our kids will follow our example and not our advice. So we can have all of the words the world, We can have all of the great you know, whatever it is one liners, or if they do something wrong and you're kind of telling them what they should be doing, or you're always giving them solutions and not like being in the problem with them, if you're always just talking at them and you're not modeling this behavior, you're not modeling these examples, you know, the words that'll that'll go through one of year out the other. But if they see you modeling this stuff too, that it's okay to not be perfect, that us that we are, we are also still learning in our superhero form, to them that it gives them the courage to do the same, like as they get older, as they grow, like when they're in their own sticky situations. But yeah, that was my quote. I love that was a quote. Dad lesson on it, thoughts on it.

01:48:41
Speaker 2: To apply quickly to my own life. Just in adulthood. There are multiple situations where I think to myself, not a shot in hell my dad would do that, Like when I'm pressed up on a situation of oh, here's the easy way of you could do this, and I just imagine my mom or my dad would be like, no way they would do that. So even to this day, like that you like followed their example or like what that creation of morality or decision making that you have pictured of your parent, Like here at thirty two years old, I'm still sitting there going, no, I'm not gonna do that because there's no way my dad.

01:49:21
Speaker 1: Would do that. Yeah, No, I agree, even on the stuff that the behaviors that we would grow up seeing or witnessing that we wouldn't necessarily want to put into our bag of parenthood. Or if you don't realize you're doing it, Like maybe this is going to be a broken way of trying to explain this, But let's just say subconsciously, you had you saw a bad model of behavior from your parents growing up, right, and then you're then a parent one day and maybe you're not doing the best job, and you might not even realize that you think you are, but everybody's on you, and you're kind of just projecting all this stuff and realistically, like you're just thinking you're modeling, you're subconsciously modeling the behavior that you saw growing up. So where there's some you know, probably some therapy sessions or some things that you need to look like cool see in the mirror to forgive your parents for or to like learn from that, you realize, like you're just modeling that behavior. So I think it goes like both ways, one hundred great examples of how your parents would handle it, and even subconsciously, like when you think you're you know, when you're you're not doing the best, you don't even know that you're not doing the best. But if you actually sit down and sit with yourself, like say you're sitting there with the therapist and then you're coming to grips or you're coming to Jesus about like you know, the way you are being, and you realize it's a lot of a seed that was planted when you were young, a lot of things that you witnessed that wasn't good for you or good for your soul that you're not even aware that it wasn't good for your soul. But you're learning that you've been projecting all this out into the world, and you know that's when the tears come and you start to forgive yourself and all these things start to happen. But again, you're just modeling behavior that you saw growing up. Because a lot of people, majority of people come from not great situations.

01:51:04
Speaker 2: Yeah you know what I mean.

01:51:05
Speaker 1: We all have experiences with our parents at one time or another to where it's like, you know, this is not a behavior you want to have, Like it's the whole saying of like you want to be better than your parents, or your parents they want you to be better than them too. But those generational curses that you think are curses, But really it's just you're just remodeling behavior that you thought you that you thought you had to do, that you witness growing up.

01:51:29
Speaker 2: Yes, which is innate in like most mammals like that, behaving like your parents. Yeah, like that is a it is deep seated in us. Yeah, like that is a normal thing. But to your point, like those things can't be broken, those things can be identified and eliminated from your bag of shortcomings.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Great, example is just a buddy calling in and saying, like when he saw three year old drawing on the wall, and he's like, I wanted to react, and maybe he didn't. Maybe, like you know, but just use that example. If he grew up in a household to where you're correcting bad behavior in a like a verbally negative way, you might not know any different. You think you're parenting the way you know how to parent. Everybody else's so off you need to be harder on your kids when really it's just a three year old riding on the wall. But in that moment, say he was somebody who grew up in a bad model behavior household, he's wanting to react, but maybe in that moment he's intentionally grabbing himself like this is a generational curse that I'm starting to break. This is a three year old scribbling on the wall, Like, let me just ask her, hey, what are you doing?

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Speaker 2: Anditate you with that.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't me, it was John Cen. But it's moments like that. Yeah, you know what I mean that you can just take from an easy example of this could go that way because the parent doesn't know any different. He thinks this is how you have to correct this behavior of drawing on the wall. But really you're scaring them and everything else because they're just a three year old and they have no clue what they're doing. But if you're that dad who like, who's frustrated, But you can just grab yourself in the moment to be like, you know, hopefully you're in a good mood about it, but if not, you grab yourself and intentionally think she doesn't know what she's doing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, where we doing it? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Why you get the markers out right now? That's permanent marker.

01:53:15
Speaker 2: This is called the permanent marker. And this over here that's called the wall.

01:53:18
Speaker 1: Yeah you wanna yeah, yeah, you wanna know what I'm gonna have to make up to fall on the sword for your mother.

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Speaker 2: White board.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, sweet, I didn't have a white board. Like I'm gonna have to make this make sense somehow. What made you think this is a good idea.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I was having fun with the girls. I'll fall on the sword for you. For the love of God, we can't be coloring on the wall.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I hate to cut it, cut a short, but we we do have to wrap up. Yeah, we gotta wrap up. Good soud bald bi great bald brigade, bald but grant bald brigade. That is hard to say. Bald brigade. We dad shaved.

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01:54:23
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01:54:23
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