Beers with Brett | Golden Hour

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Speaker 2: Welcome, trying to meet you, guys.

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Speaker 4: We're so happy to me you.

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Speaker 3: I just I just saw all those record albums and if people could see it, they're actually stored on the.

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Speaker 2: Wall on a nice case there. I'm missing a couple back here. I got to tell those I've got a couple of records. I'm just too lazy to put more of those classics.

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Speaker 1: It's like work, you know, really, it is like I want.

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Speaker 2: To come home. I don't want to do more work. You know.

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Speaker 4: I love that.

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Speaker 3: I love that you don't that you have albums, that you have an actual turntable that you play them on.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I coming back. My friend calls me a hipster for doing that, and I but at some point, I just gotta I just got to lean into it. I just say it sounds crispery, you know, on the turn.

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Speaker 1: So did you just start this or has this been annoying going.

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Speaker 2: Two years ago?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just you know, I like, really like music. And then it's nice to kind of I'm not a collector of anything, so now I can collect these and now.

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Speaker 1: You can talk about something too.

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Speaker 4: My son is a collector of music.

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Speaker 3: He's got like, I don't know, two thousand CITs, some ungodly Yeah, he's crazy.

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Speaker 2: Love you realice, how much money you're actually putting into it.

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Speaker 4: I know, I don't put a diamond it.

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Speaker 2: He buys I slowed down big time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Or you paid ten dollars a month and store your music on your phone.

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Speaker 2: Now there you go, and I do that too.

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Speaker 3: Now before we get into anything outside, one of the questions for you, you I don't know where it is, but Susan's from Philly and you're from Pennsylvania.

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Speaker 2: Yep, yep. So I grew up in near Gettysburg, so a really small town, a lot of mountains, a lot of farms, a lot of cows and animals. So I live in Mannheim, which is in Lancaster County, Pennsylvania.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, probably about forty five to fifty minutes from me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's like twenty minutes from Leicester City. So I lived in Lancaster for a little bit, but uh, definitely.

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Speaker 3: And then just one more question. People can't see what you have on an Oriels. Who is is that the Baltimore Orioles?

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Speaker 4: Yes, it is a little different Philadelphia, So how do you explain that's.

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Speaker 2: Pennsylvan where I grew up is like five minutes from the Maryland border. My dad's like.

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Speaker 4: I failed geography.

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Speaker 1: Pittsburgh is Pittsburgh, but the Steelers not A big Steelers fan.

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Speaker 2: An Eagles fan, Ravens. I was happy though for the Eagles up.

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Speaker 1: Yes I have.

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Speaker 2: I have a lot of friends or Eagles fans, and you know the stigma around the Eagles fans. I put that aside. This this playoff, there's scary.

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Speaker 1: It's good and you know they greased the polls, like what is going to fall this time?

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Speaker 2: They try?

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Speaker 3: Okay, other than following your favorite sports teams and collecting albums.

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Speaker 1: Let's go on your wall.

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Speaker 4: Don't s going on your life? Tell us what are you doing? Dating? Living, working? You know, give us the rundown, just hanging out?

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Speaker 2: You know. Working. So I work as a I'm working a little bit of HR and and safety for a mechanical solutions company, Industrial solutions. So we do like anything metal, a lot of well, there's a lot of machine showing.

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Speaker 4: So are you like the Osha person that makes sure my son does that?

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Speaker 2: Really? Yeah? Exactly, Yes, that's what I'm to school for.

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Speaker 4: He does it for a company here in Austin.

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Speaker 2: Oh. He sounds like a good guy.

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Speaker 1: My son's a great because you have the same job, that's.

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Speaker 2: What you have to adore being the safety guy. It's tough out there. You don't get a lot of friends easily that way when you know what to tell you.

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Speaker 1: What's what's different since coming off the show.

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Speaker 2: A little more attention, you know, I'm I like to consider myself a pretty private guy. And now when I go out and it's just it's cool. Though I can't I get's it's fun, especially if I got my friends with me, ye, go out something and seeing people who watch the show, it's like very huge fan bases. I'm sure you got.

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Speaker 4: How long did you stay on the show?

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Speaker 2: A day?

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Speaker 4: How did you feel? When can I even ask that? How did you feel.

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Speaker 2: When I got sent home?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was it was like.

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Speaker 2: Ripping a band aid off. So it wasn't it wasn't too bad. I think it happened so quick that it was. Yeah. I mean, you guys knew the experience. It's a little out of the norm. So and definitely like a again, I've never I've flown like twice before going out there, So going across the country and just yeah, you know, and and I don't like to fly now I've gotten over it though, going across the country definitely helped. But and then as soon as it gets sent home right away and I come back and just like all right, let's let's calm down, and I pick up my phone and it's blowing up. Oh yeah. I'm like, oh my god. I thought it would be quiet. I could just kind of continue going on with life. And and then uh. I Actually the first thing I did. I flew into Baltimore. My parents picked me up in the morning and we were like, well, let's go get some lunch and get a beer. It was a Saturday, and I had a fishing rod in my in my back seat and it was stuck to like a weighted vest if you know what I mean, like a running vet, and it was an eighty pound vest. And I was like whatever, I'm just gonna move both of these. And when I moved the vest, they're the fishing hook. It was like a three punt stuck into my leg and sitting there for twenty minutes, like deep in my leg. I mean my parents. I'm yelling at my parents back and forth because there's the poking my leg and eventually got to clicked out and I went to the emergency room. Oh and it stuck inside of my leg I couldn't pull it out. And then it was just when they announced the potential cast. So and especially being from a small town. I'm sitting in the emergency room a couple of days after they announced the cast, and then this girl's just kind of looking at me, the nurse, and I'm like, and my mom said, she looked across, and then people looking at their phones and looking at me. Right, I get back there and she's like, you're the guy that could be any I don't know what you're talking about. I could be You're definitely the guy. And I'm like, who's asking? Right? And thankfully I had a friend who works there, she was a nurse, and she came back. She's like, I told him all to leave you alone.

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Speaker 3: They were talking about, so where do you live now Manheim, Pennsylvania? But I grew up in near Gettysburgh.

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Speaker 4: Okay, okay, and your family where do your parents live?

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Speaker 2: Still in near Gettysburg. She's like the biggest Bachelor Nation fan now, so yeah, she's she's she was at first she wasn't when I told her potentially be going on, she was like and then eventually she like really got deep into it, and.

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Speaker 1: She's like she.

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Speaker 2: Might have. I think she did. She's she's she's a reality TV fan at heart anyway, so.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think she's watch all Right, Well, we're gonna we're gonna.

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Speaker 4: Be asking you some questions.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna dig a little deeper.

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Speaker 3: So bad tor Nation can get to know you better and they can get some of your fabulous advice. But first, the first thing we do is start with a question of the day, Susan, go.

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Speaker 1: For it, and that is, what do you think is the most important thing about yourself to showcase on a first date?

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Speaker 2: HM. For me, it's definitely a sense of humor. And that's always I feel like a cop out when I say that, but it's a big thing for me because I'm always firing off jokes and I think I need someone to laugh at it and you know, to give me some validation there. But I'd say a sense of humor just because it can show how unserious somebody can be, especially in a first date. That's nerves are high on those like you try. I try to go in pretty calm, but if you care about it, you're gonna be nervous anyway. I like anything you care about you're gonna be nervous for.

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Speaker 1: The gift of laughter is the best that makes it more comfortable. Once you get it out, you know, and you laugh together, then it's easy.

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Speaker 2: You get the nerves down. And especially and that you can be unserious in a pretty serious situations too, because life is always going to be super serious no matter what you do, things are going to go wrong. And having the ability to, like, well, I do you have to be angry about stuff all the time, and that.

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Speaker 1: What impresses you on a first date. I'm sorry, Kathy, that's a good question.

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Speaker 2: Oh, probably the same thing, but I mean just someone. I like to see someone who's caring at first you know. That's a big thing for me.

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Speaker 1: Is just someone they're caring though first dates.

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Speaker 2: That's a good question. That's tough.

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Speaker 4: I can't answer that. If they ask questions about you, yeah, that's true.

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Speaker 1: They seem interested.

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Speaker 2: Yes, men have to work on that a little bit, answering que asking questions back. I've been getting good at like putting that them.

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Speaker 3: Let me tell you, yeah, you should, because that's one of our pet peeves.

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Speaker 4: That's yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think the main thing is, like I'm just trying to advertise myself to impress the girl, Hey, that doesn't work. Going to let them do the same thing back a little bit, you.

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Speaker 1: Know, Kathy and I are thinking about doing the business. I'm serious. I wonder how many men would sign up that we could school them on how to take a selfie and what not to do and what to do on a first day, on the first the conversation you always to ask.

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Speaker 3: Some kind of you if you asked me out on a date, which you know would be insane, but let's just play this game for a minute. Actually, if you and I went out on a date and all you did was quote unquote market yourself to me, so I'd be thinking all this guy does is talk about himself.

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Speaker 2: I'm out right yeah, because it seems just self centered.

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Speaker 1: And then and then you school somebody and they ask too many questions and then you're like, whoa, back off?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and whatever you do, Brett, if you're if you're on social media, if you're on dating apps, please please Brett, do not We're going to give you the free advice.

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Speaker 4: I'm not even going to charge you. No dead fish keep.

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Speaker 3: Just do not do not hold a dead fish in one hand. And you're you know, your naked body and even if it was the trophy fish just I know.

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Speaker 2: And it's like because you know, like only the guys will see that and be like hell.

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Speaker 3: Yeah and the guys and the guys guy, and then we're going to have a whole other conversation here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that is what it is.

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Speaker 3: But so you you I read up a little bit on you, and you are a funny guy. The fact that you shaved your eyebrows off when you were a kid, let me just let me assure you they've completely grown back.

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Speaker 4: You have got no problem there.

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Speaker 3: But the the other thing that I somebody asked you about Paradise. So the first question I have to ask you is would you go to Paradise?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I mean at this point, yeah, I mean I'm pretty free. So and and they said, uh, I finally caught up and watched a couple of episodes. Yeah, Beer and swim Trunks.

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Speaker 3: And you said, I you said, Barren swim truck, swim Trunks all you need for Batsman parents. So that's all you need is Barren swim Trunks. Who who do you want to see there?

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Speaker 2: There's so many like I well, if you guys have talked to Hakeem, Yeah, I love if He asked this question all the time. Sometimes he'll call me and just you know, we'll talk about this, and he's big on like putting it out there, and I love that's good for him. And I kind of answered him the one time. It's like, whoever's there, Like I don't want to single anybody out for the reason of, like you know, I just want to let things naturally happen. But there's also from the point of you can't do any wrong if with anybody that goes there.

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Speaker 1: It's about a chemistry though.

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Speaker 2: And and but they're like I was like, if I'm lucky to come off that beach with anybody, I'm thinking I'm doing pretty dang well.

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Speaker 1: So tell me. Have your d MS blown up, like are more forward? I feel?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? They did. They did. They definitely blew up, Like especially after it aired, like it was an influx.

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Speaker 4: Did you go out with any of them?

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Speaker 2: No? Why? It was weird. It was a weird time for me because it's like there was from just calm and normal to having all this attention at one time, and I really didn't know how to handle that. So I'm like, I'm just going to sit back and let things kind of the bullets fly by and figure it out later.

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Speaker 1: We're checking our d ms every day. We got we.

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Speaker 3: Got, we got thirty year olds who wanted to day.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not dating anybody now, No, not at all. Well, so it sounds like paradise would be perfect.

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Speaker 2: Are you pick?

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Speaker 1: Is that one? No?

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Speaker 2: I would say I'm picky, but I think everybody is. But yeah, I'm picking the sense where like, uh, if I try to dial my type down, it's kind of difficult. Like I do have a weakness or a tall brunette woman.

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Speaker 4: I just did well season.

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Speaker 2: Drinking, barking up the right tree. But but I also am like, well sixty three. Oh see, yeah, but all the other guys this season were way taller. There's so many tall guys this season on Gen season yea, yeah, it was awful. I thought I'd be the tall guy. I walk in there and there's like six five.

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Speaker 3: Same with I can tell you Jones season on the Golden Bouts are atte same thing with her.

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Speaker 4: The guys are giants.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy. They're picking some prospects out. It's nice.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, as someone who's five eight, I appreciate the hype.

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Speaker 2: That's a good height. Too.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, drink right.

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Speaker 1: It's awful. It's awful. It's awful. So you used to play football in college?

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Speaker 2: Tell us where'd you go to college? I went to Millersville University in the in the Pennsylvania State Athletic Conference. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: What did you like being in playing football? Did you like that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I loved it, So I did. Athletics was always a big part of me growing up. So I started baseball when I was five, and wrestling and football when I was seven, and just that was always the thing. So my dad was a big football fan.

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Speaker 1: And just do you feel like like people are intimidated by your size? Like you're an athlete, you're a big, strong guy.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes I think so, Like I'll notice if like I'm out at the bar or something with my friends and someone accidentally pours a drink on me or knocks my drink out of my hand and they're like, oh my god, I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 4: Hey, let me get you another beer.

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Speaker 1: I'm really sorry, I'm going and I'm sorry something like you're fine, I'm not going to do anything.

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Speaker 2: It's if I did. Yeah, there's some times there's some intimidation, but.

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Speaker 4: So beer's your a choice I'm hearing.

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Speaker 2: I do enjoy a good beer. But what's your favorite beer? Yeah, a cold one. I think it has to be cold Miller. I've been drinking quite a bit of a million.

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Speaker 3: Oh you're not into the bougie beers, then I don't like the boogie beers either.

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Speaker 2: I don't. I like. I'll get a boogie coffee once in a while, but bi beer, I mean crap beers. Okay, you just can't drink a lot.

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Speaker 1: It hurts a corona with some lime. But I like the little seven ouncers. Oh yeah, stay cold all the way down.

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Speaker 2: And the good line. I like a good line like I like a good U vokuesta to that.

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Speaker 3: I can't now we're talking, okay, so or tequila and soda and lime A wine girl, you know what I'm I've been on tequila for like the last year, but I'm just now going back to vodka again, all right.

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Speaker 2: I like in Minnesota. I don't like foka straight. I don't like tequila straight that much, like whiskey.

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Speaker 1: What is your background? Like your family heritage?

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Speaker 2: Uh, German, Irish and Scottish.

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Speaker 1: And they were just in Scotland.

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Speaker 2: How was it? Oh? They were I was watched.

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Speaker 4: I live in Scotland. It is beautiful.

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Speaker 2: I really want to go Scotland Island.

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Speaker 3: I have to make the news to you, Bratt, you want to go to Scotland. Yeah, you're gonna have to get on an airplane.

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Speaker 1: Oh it's a long place.

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Speaker 2: My brother lives in Germany. He lives in Hamburg.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 2: I actually just talked to him. I talked to him on the weekend and I asked him because he's been there for three years now because his girlfriend is German and she lives over there, so he moved over for and uh. I was like, Hey, how's the German learning going? And he's like, I'm just kind of stopped, you know. He's like he's trying to pick up some but he said they speak so much English over there that he just everywhere. He's not a talker anyway, so he's just just like.

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Speaker 1: And he does he understand it yet?

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think that's what he said. The hardest part is is to understand it instead of speaking it. He can get lay what he wants, but when he hears it back, he's.

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Speaker 1: Just no clue what they're saying.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, so I have to ask you a question Brett.

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Speaker 3: You wouldn't know this, but back in the day, I was a much bigger person than I am now.

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Speaker 4: I was.

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Speaker 3: I pushed the scales like two hundred pounds. I was a big girl. And you are a football player and you're a guy. And but I think Bachelor Nation people were really happy to see the diversity.

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Speaker 4: What is that?

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Speaker 2: What is it?

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Speaker 4: What was the experience like, and what's the response been?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was interesting, you know, but I don't fit the normal mold. I knew that going into it. I even kind of said everybody like, hey, I'm I'm an offensive lineman. And we got a lot of receivers and running back and quarterbacks on the show. You know, my point guards from there with me bitches, right, there's a lot of attention from that. It didn't really bother me though. I mean, I've always been a large guy, so you know, I'm like going to the gym and lifting heavy things that a lot of people can't do. So but yeah, you had a lot of attention for that.

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Speaker 4: But positive I'm hoping though, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: For the most part. Yeah, yeah, I mean there's there's people gonna arguing over whether I'm like a bodybuilder or not. A bodybuilder, a powerlifter or something.

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Speaker 1: Like taking steroids.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, well and uh yeah, some people are arguing over my body type. And I was like, whatever, let them Mark you were talking about you know what?

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Speaker 4: Said? He goes, listen, I don't care. Just pour me a beer. I really can't.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm like. Just give me another beer and I'll be good.

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Speaker 1: He's got such a kind face, he's so sweet.

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Speaker 4: I know you're like a teddy bear.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I keep that a lot, Yeah, try to keep I don't because you have a great smile.

00:19:36
Speaker 3: But you have a great smile and an easy demeanor. That's why thank you. You never know what somebody else's day. Do one nice thing for somebody to say, one nice thing a day, You don't know what kind of day that person's having.

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Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, my dad kind of pushed that into me as a kid, just helping, like make friends with someone you wouldn't normally go out of your way to be friends with. You never know how. You learn a lot from that.

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Speaker 4: All right, let's get into our fan questions for today. Brett.

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Speaker 3: We answer fan questions and we want you to join in and give some sage advice. I'm gonna read this question and you're gonna help us dish out the advice. Okay, Okay, here we go. Anonymous asks, O MG, I need your help. A year ago, my best friend finally broke up with her shitty boyfriend that she was with for three years. For context, we're both twenty six now. She still is yet to even remotely move on, and it's finally gotten to a point where I need to seriously step in. I let her grieve the relationship they broke up because he cheated and heal for the first six months. It's one thing to not really want a serious relationship, but she wanted to explore the.

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Speaker 4: Idea of someone else.

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Speaker 3: I'm honestly worried because I don't want her to think about going back to him is even an option. How do I help her get back out there and at least get comfortable with dating and keeping her eyes open. I don't want to rush her, but I feel like if I let her, she'll never get back out there.

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Speaker 1: Wow, and it's way past six months.

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Speaker 4: Do you want us to give her your phone number?

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Speaker 2: I guess so. I mean I as couch her through this. You know, you know, as your friend, you got to be a good friend and yeah, and that is okay, there we go.

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Speaker 4: How old are you brat?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

00:21:32
Speaker 4: How old are you?

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Speaker 2: Brett twenty nine?

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Speaker 4: Oh she's twenty six, let me go her call me all right.

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Speaker 1: No, she's being a good friend by reaching out and help.

00:21:42
Speaker 2: She wants some help. What does she do?

00:21:43
Speaker 1: What would you do?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I think it's very tough. She said they dated for three years.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and then he cheated on her. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a delicate it's a fine line there because you know, it's a delicate situation where you're like, I haven't been in those shoes before, but I've that happen. And first off, can I swear yes, yes, fuss that guy?

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Speaker 1: I say it all the time.

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Speaker 2: And you but you got to tell your friendly fuck him. And but you have to be delicate because there's a three year situation. Relationship's six months. Yeah, I know, but it's like people, Yeah, it's you gotta be tough love, but be comforting after that, you know, like, hey, just lay it all out there. You don't have to be shy about it and just said, look what he did sucks. You can't go back to him because he's just gonna use that again, he already portrayed you once. I don't care if he's changed. He already messed you over once. We got to find something else, because there's better people out there who won't do that to your work more than that, right, I love that.

00:22:48
Speaker 4: I love what you just said.

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Speaker 3: But also I would say to my best friend, I would say, you know, line here and and moping and just feeling horrible, do you realize you're giving away all your power to him? He doesn't deserve it, He doesn't deserve your bright light. That you're letting him extinguish your bread, like, don't let him do that.

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Speaker 1: Like and also anonymous, you're saying I don't want to rush her. You are not rushing her. Six months, six months, plenty of time to mourn. Now it's time to take the first step.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's a hard one. But here, hey, at least go on one shitty date where the guy doesn't ask you any questions and like that, and then you'll be like, all right, now.

00:23:31
Speaker 4: See that's the problem she.

00:23:33
Speaker 3: I'm guessing it's funny you said that, Bratt, because I'm guessing she thought this was her guy.

00:23:39
Speaker 2: There.

00:23:40
Speaker 3: She already had picked out her wedding gown and what style engagement.

00:23:43
Speaker 1: She's crushed.

00:23:44
Speaker 3: She's crushed, and so exactly what you're saying, she's probably exactly saying. That's, oh, you know, I don't want to go back out. Their men are shit. You know, they lie, they cheap, they steal. You know, I don't want a shitty date. That's probably exactly what she's right.

00:23:57
Speaker 2: And that's a weird age too, like twenty three to twenty six. It's like you just left college. You're probably like, well, I got I got my guy now and we're gonna yeah, yeah, but you don't realize it's like twenty six is a great agent there. I'm only three years removed from it, but she was out there.

00:24:14
Speaker 1: She's gonna start loving herself again and not blaming herself. And know how shallow that asshole is.

00:24:23
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, fuck, that guy sent his address and.

00:24:25
Speaker 1: I would just hope that that guy it happens to him.

00:24:29
Speaker 2: They never take him, does it?

00:24:32
Speaker 4: You think it does? Brad?

00:24:33
Speaker 2: I feel like yeah, I mean uh, I feel like, especially because the kind of people you attract doing that kind of stuff, that if someone's openly willing to do that with you, I mean, who knows if I don't.

00:24:44
Speaker 4: I think exactly the opposite.

00:24:46
Speaker 3: I think I don't know where this is coming from, but I just feel like men who cheat typically have really nice, decent girlfriends and and that's who they pick because they want to be cared for and taken care of, and they then they're gonna cheat on them. It's the bitchy girls who guys don't. I mean, I don't know if I'm right or wrong.

00:25:07
Speaker 2: It just feels might make sense. Yeah, it does seem to happen to the girls.

00:25:12
Speaker 1: Would be like I'm going to flick you like a flying out of here.

00:25:15
Speaker 3: Yeah, the bitchy girls. Would you know? He wouldn't dare do it. He wouldn't dare. So is the lessener to be a bit if you're a girl, I guess.

00:25:24
Speaker 2: So you got to have a little bit of my mom. My mom is very sweet and I love her to death.

00:25:29
Speaker 4: She's got it in her.

00:25:30
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, she's got a little bit. I mean I've seen her when she has to be the top dog, and yeah are women.

00:25:37
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, if you guys would just learn to follow the leader, us being the leaders, right.

00:25:45
Speaker 2: We'll get a fall line and then life will be easier.

00:25:49
Speaker 4: Oh god, alright, all right, all right, we got it all right.

00:25:52
Speaker 1: Now we're gonna play a little game. We're gonna ask some fun questions. And this is so the listeners will really get to know you. What would be the name of your autobiography?

00:26:07
Speaker 2: Dumb luck? I like it?

00:26:10
Speaker 4: Why tell me why?

00:26:12
Speaker 1: You know?

00:26:12
Speaker 2: I just find myself in pretty decent situations here for no good reasons.

00:26:16
Speaker 3: So I think it's a lot of your attitude towards life.

00:26:19
Speaker 2: How it does help, you know? Yeah? So I try to, like I said, give out some kindness, but I get rewarded here and there. Like I just found myself on the Bachelorette when I wasn't even searching for that. So how did you get on that? My best friend so him and his wife watch it religiously, like all all every season, And one day he asked me for a picture and my email, and I he did, he just submitted me and then you know, I completely forgot about it. And then one day, you know, I get a call. I'm like, the hell is this? And then were you mad? No? I just thought I completely forgotten. I was laughing because I'm like, I can't believe that this is.

00:27:01
Speaker 4: You don't regret doing it.

00:27:03
Speaker 2: No, not at all.

00:27:04
Speaker 3: No, All right, who would I think I know the answer to this question. But who is someone that inspires you?

00:27:11
Speaker 2: Uh yeah, probably my parents. Both of them do a good job. But I just looking back, my dad taught me, has taught me, and I make fun of him for a lot of stupid lessons in my life that I think when I was watching football games with him, he would just look over and I was like five to seven, and he would say something it would stick in my brain. Now I've usedless information. So you're talking a lot of good lessons. And my mom taught me you can be kind and still be a bitch Yep, And.

00:27:37
Speaker 4: Wait what, I want to know, what's what's one of the best lessons your dad taught you.

00:27:42
Speaker 2: One of the good ones was just kind of, like like I said earlier, being kind of people because you never know the effect it's going to have, kind of going out of your way to be friends with people maybe that are having a tough time and you know, like maybe someone that would be considered a nerd or a band kid, or maybe they are really into academics or they're just getting bullied a lot. Yeah, you know, being an athletic, so it was in a small school, so I got to rub shoulders with a lot of people. But just I think the biggest thing for me coming off the show was seeing comments from people that I knew and maybe wouldn't consider a friend but acquaintances or rubbed shoulders with and knew them briefly and saying nice things about me. It's like, oh, it made me realize how just being kind to someone in a small moment the first.

00:28:31
Speaker 3: And they don't have to Okay, wait, did you ever get in trouble? Did your dad ever have to like discipline you?

00:28:36
Speaker 4: Your mom?

00:28:37
Speaker 2: I was a dickad when I was a kid. What you didn't give me? Example, didn't clean your eyebrows off?

00:28:45
Speaker 1: So you know, you know did you do that? Oh?

00:28:49
Speaker 2: It was I was in fifth grade and it was the day before picture day, which is oh my god. And uh So we lived in an a frame house in the mountains, so we had one one bathroom and that was my parents. And the night before, like I was like, I just thought, for whatever reason, I had a unibrow and I didn't. But I didn't know how to shave, so I just threw shaving cream all over my forehead and just started going at it, and then I realized I nicked like too far on this side, So then I tried to even it out until I had like made it look really weird, all look bad and and uh.

00:29:22
Speaker 4: Did you cry?

00:29:23
Speaker 2: She didn't see me right away. I hit it that night and I went I went to school thinking no one would notice, and everybody was like, what is wrong? What is wrong with your face? I have my hood up. And I remember crying during the day because I were like all my friends were like, what an idiot? What are you doing?

00:29:38
Speaker 3: You do?

00:29:38
Speaker 2: And I came back and I thought I thought my dad would be just pissed at me. He asked, oh, he laughed. I started crying in front of him because he was laughing his ass off at me. He just took me for a walk. We went we went to the park and he was just talking. He was like, buddy will grow back in a couple couple of weeks. And my mom thought it was hilarious and she we've got student ideas then, and she kept it. She hasn't heard. I would definitely love it would.

00:30:05
Speaker 1: Be a big picture in the house.

00:30:07
Speaker 4: I mean, oh, that is so good.

00:30:10
Speaker 1: Okay, what is your idea of a dream vacation.

00:30:15
Speaker 4: Anywhere he doesn't have to get on an airplane teleport.

00:30:19
Speaker 2: I can teleport. How about a boat.

00:30:21
Speaker 1: Do you like cruising?

00:30:23
Speaker 2: I don't know. No, I don't either. I don't like boats either. I like boats on a lake. So me and my friends go to, uh if you're familiar with the Poconos, Yeah, in Pennsylvania, So we go up there once a year. I've got two separate friend groups, so we do that. So those are.

00:30:37
Speaker 1: That's your dream vacation, that's your dream. Yeah, anywhere in the world. You want to go to the mountains and the Boconos in your hometown the same state.

00:30:48
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a simple guy.

00:30:49
Speaker 1: Please get up to New York cat skills.

00:30:51
Speaker 2: I mean, give me a kayak and a beer and I'm in heaven.

00:30:56
Speaker 4: Come to Austin. I've got a two man kayak. I like Austin on kayak with you.

00:31:01
Speaker 2: Great things about Austin, you will go.

00:31:06
Speaker 3: All right, great, great, I grew up here. I didn't grow up here. I grew up in Massachusetts.

00:31:10
Speaker 2: But I like Boston from right outside of Yeah, it was it was very cool.

00:31:17
Speaker 3: Okay, given all the photo music albums on your wall, what was your favorite band of musician when you were in high school?

00:31:25
Speaker 2: High school? Currently? Right now, my favorite band is a band called Camp that is C A A M P. And they're like little Mountain music, a little banjo boy.

00:31:38
Speaker 3: Wait a minute, Okay, did you you're too young? When I was? Do you like jug band music?

00:31:43
Speaker 2: Junk band?

00:31:44
Speaker 3: Jug band? Oh yeah, like Jimmy remember like Jim Queskin. Do you have you ever heard that name Jim Queskin? I was back in my day.

00:31:55
Speaker 1: He was as I like.

00:31:59
Speaker 2: I grew up on Johnny Cash, Johnny Cash and those guys, so I really like John Cash and his It was a good mixture.

00:32:05
Speaker 3: Like you know, who's your modern who's your favorite country modern artist?

00:32:09
Speaker 2: Oh? Pop?

00:32:10
Speaker 1: Country?

00:32:11
Speaker 2: Pop?

00:32:11
Speaker 1: I'm not ill country people aren't into pop.

00:32:15
Speaker 2: I'm not really into pop country. I'm okay with it. It gets the job done, you know, if you're drinking a beer or something. But I do like Luke Combs. If we're talking pop country people compared to that, I look like him, And I don't.

00:32:26
Speaker 3: Think you're better looking than Luke.

00:32:30
Speaker 2: Thank you. I think that's a great though. But just in case it gets back to him. But oh country, there's a guy with the name of Charles Wesley Godwin that I really like.

00:32:40
Speaker 4: Oh, I have to listen to him.

00:32:41
Speaker 2: So he's a West Virginia guys, mountain guy. He's got some good some good music, all right. He got love songs. I'm a sucker for a love song. He's got a good bit of those.

00:32:54
Speaker 1: I almost said hopeless.

00:32:55
Speaker 3: Kathy god Wins his last name yep, yep, okay g O w w g o d w y m yep.

00:33:05
Speaker 2: That's him, got it.

00:33:07
Speaker 1: So I don't know if you had a chance to get close with any of the men on the show. But if you had to pick three guys from your season and you were going to be on a deserted island, who would they be?

00:33:21
Speaker 2: Are we talking for entertainment or survival?

00:33:23
Speaker 4: That's up to you.

00:33:25
Speaker 2: I'm taking Hakim either way, and I know he's gonna watch this. I would do.

00:33:30
Speaker 1: I love hockey, So.

00:33:31
Speaker 2: I'm bringing Hakim.

00:33:33
Speaker 1: But to her spirits up right, yeah, I don't.

00:33:36
Speaker 2: And and maybe to keep me grounded, you know, and just from the fact that he'll out talk me too. But it's entertaining. It's good stuff. He has good points, But I don't know how much he's gonna.

00:33:47
Speaker 3: Help beer though, if you can find a bear.

00:33:52
Speaker 2: Yea, he's got the effort though, I'll give him that, he would try. Man, you know, I think of bringing Spencer. I'm a big Spencer fan. Okay, Spencer's got a good attitude, Spencer's got a good He's got the enthusiasm, He's got the kindness and good kind of heart. But I've also seen him when he's pushed to not being happy, he's able to snap. I mean, yeah, yeah.

00:34:22
Speaker 4: All right, we need one more.

00:34:25
Speaker 2: I'm gonna upset somebody with this. But you know, whatever you do, it's always gonna You could.

00:34:29
Speaker 3: Say, wait, Brett, you could say, just just give me an out here. You could say, you know, I can't really pick a third guy, so instead I'm going to trade one guy for Susan and Cathy.

00:34:41
Speaker 2: I can do that.

00:34:42
Speaker 1: Yeah, You're welcome, but I'm gonna make you get on an airplane, baby, all right.

00:34:49
Speaker 2: You know what. I'm over it. I've gotten over it. The way in was like, the first flight out to l A was kind of I was like, well, I'm gonna die, and and then the way back it was a little easier. And then the second flight out for the tell all that was like, I'm an expert, now I know. There you go.

00:35:06
Speaker 4: It's the same thing.

00:35:07
Speaker 2: I didn't. I didn't drink anything. I didn't eat anything. I didn't use the bathroom. I didn't sleep No, I can't sleep in money, didn't or planes or anything like that.

00:35:17
Speaker 1: I'm okay.

00:35:18
Speaker 3: Well, Well, while Brett is thinking about trains planes and what is it? Trains planes and trains planes, I can't remember. No, there's a line trains planes and well I blew that one. I can't remember, and and and since I blew that one, we're just going to end it here, planes, trains, and automobiles.

00:35:40
Speaker 4: Thank you. I came to me planes, trains, and you've never heard that.

00:35:45
Speaker 2: I forget it.

00:35:46
Speaker 1: Wait before we wrapped up that one more. Okay, I want to know his ideal first date.

00:35:54
Speaker 2: Mmm.

00:35:57
Speaker 4: She has to be upright, she has to be verbal.

00:36:00
Speaker 2: Hmm.

00:36:01
Speaker 1: Do you like the city she wants?

00:36:03
Speaker 4: She wants to drink a beer?

00:36:05
Speaker 2: Yeah, she doesn't have to though, that's okay.

00:36:08
Speaker 4: No, I mean if she's drinking, you'd like a beer?

00:36:10
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah. If i'm I would like a beer definitely. Oh. I'm so bad at the first date thing. I'll be when I get there. It's good. You know, I can just be me and be cool. But planning it is one of the.

00:36:30
Speaker 3: We got to wrap this episode, but you and I are going to get on the fundator.

00:36:33
Speaker 4: And I wonder how to plan. We're going to plan a day cube, Brett. We're gonna make it happen.

00:36:38
Speaker 2: The brewery, maybe some darts. I've learned that I'm okay at darts, so I like that something to you know, like like like that works. Yeah, something to do that you just don't think about you're doing. Just talk at the same time, you know, because when you're just hitting down like it's dinner, that's great, but you're just it's just you don't.

00:36:57
Speaker 1: Have dinner, but it's conversation, you know.

00:37:00
Speaker 4: But you can't be afraid of conversation. You just can't be okay.

00:37:04
Speaker 2: I don't think I'm just I'm going to say something stupid.

00:37:07
Speaker 4: But all right, Well, thanks really thank you, Brett.

00:37:10
Speaker 3: We had not met before, but you are as lovely and funny and kind as we heard you were. So thank you for joining us and dishing out some really great advice.

00:37:17
Speaker 2: Thank you it was good to meet you guys finally.

00:37:20
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00:37:29
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00:37:53
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