The power of colour with Milli Abrams

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Hello, and welcome back to series two of the Why I
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Knit podcast. My name is Dr. Mia Hobbs and I'm a clinical
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psychologist who's passionate about knitting and its benefits
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for our mental wellbeing. Each episode I interview a different
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knitter about why they knit and how it benefits their mental
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health. This week on the podcast, I'm joined by Milli
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Abrams, who is the owner of Tribe Yarns, a yarn shop in
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Richmond, London. Milli has a qualification in Applied Colour
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Psychology so I particularly wanted to ask her more about
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this and about how colour can impact on mental health.
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Unfortunately, there is a crackle on Milli's end of the
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audio, which we were unable to resolve while we were recording.
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However, Milli is such an inspiring and interesting guest
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that I'm sure you'll still really enjoy this interview.
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Hi Milli, welcome to the podcast.
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Hello.
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I always start by asking where your story with
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knitting began.
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Okay, that's a relatively easy one, I guess. I
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was about six or seven years old when I started knitting. My mum
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used to knit and she introduced it to me over a summer holiday
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and I pretty much got addicted straightaway. And I was the sort
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of child that never really sat down. You know, I was always a
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bit ants-in-my-pants, climbing trees and that kind of thing.
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And so I guess it was as much of a surprise to her as it was to
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me that I loved it. And I got obsessed and I ended up blowing
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out all of my playdates with friends outside. I was like,
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"No, I'm at home knitting."  I was determined to get it done.
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Oh wow! So you absolutely went with it straight
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away.
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Yes, straight away. And to begin with, at
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least for the first year, I don't think I could purl at all.
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I could only knit. But I really liked stocking stitch. So I
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would knit a whole line and then I'd give it to my mom to purl
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back. [Laughs] I did eventually get the hang of purling but I
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could only do it then for the next little while standing up at
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the ironing board, for some reason. I was using crappy
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straight needles back then. You know how we had those awful sort
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of Aero needles that weighed a little bit too much, I guess.
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For my little hands they were quite long, with blunt tips. And
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I used to knit way too tight, like really tightly. So I used
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to have to use the ironing board to jam the needle into the
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stitch.
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Oh wow! Yeah, I actually had one of the kids in
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the therapeutic knitting group I've been running say to me,
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"It's really surprising that grannies knit because you need
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so much strength to get this to fit!" . And I thought, "I think
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someone's going slightly wrong here, because I don't feel like
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I'm using muscles to knit, particularly!" [Laughs]
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No! And then back then (that would have been in
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the early 80s) we all knit with crappy acrylic wools, so it was
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really strong.
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Oh yeah, it's hard to break. It's harder than wool.
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Exactly. If I'd have started with a proper wool,
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had I been knitting with the tightness and the strength that
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I was applying to that acrylic, it would have broken right away,
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and I would have realised that it was too tight. But I got away
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with it back then.
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Okay. And what do you think hooked you in? Because it
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sounds like it was a bit of a surprise, if you were quite an
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active kid, that you could sit still and knit?
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Yeah, it was definitely the challenge of it.
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But I did feel it was very calming, the repetitive
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stitches, and there was something about making and
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creating, and then being able to make your own creative choices.
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It was a bit like Lego, where you could sort of go your own
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way with it, and you could spend hours and hours and hours doing
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it and it just felt good. So yeah, I think it was that, and
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then RIGHT away I started knitting colourwork and intarsia
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and that kind of thing, because that was very early 80s.
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That's what I wondered: whether you were
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knitting from patterns or whether you were just kind of
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knitting scarves.
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Both. No, I never did scarves in the beginning. I
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just did lots of patches of things. And then I made stuff
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for dolls, you know, just little things.
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Did you kind of make those up as you went along
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rather than finding a pattern for them?
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A little bit, yeah. So I might have had a
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Yeah, sure. I guess a lot of us learn a lot of how to
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pattern that had a chart for some sort of fair isle motif and
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I would have just used that to make some random little thing
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for a doll or a teddy bear jumper or something. I didn't
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play with teddy bears or anything back then, but I just
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wanted to make little things. And I don't think I had enough
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yarn to make a big sweater. Then eventually my mum took me to
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John Lewis and we picked out a pattern,  and that was the
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patchwork intarsia and fair isle cardigan. It was very
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complicated. But I decided I was going to make that. And then by
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the time I'd finished it, I could barely get it on. Because
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I was such a tight knitter, it was so small. [Laughs] And I
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hadn't appreciated that you had to leave a long enough end to
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darn the ends in. So they'd started to pull out, so I
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superglued them down, which made it really jabby inside. It was
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terrible! It's a horrible little thing. But my mum never knit
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intarsia or colourwork. She just used to do plain knitting and
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maybe a few cables. So she couldn't really advise me on
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that. That was a learning process!
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solve problems in knitting through trial and error.
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Yeah, and back then there wasn't any social
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media or any pressure like that. It's not as though we were
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comparing ourselves to each other. And no-one I knew knit.
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So it was perfectly fine for me to keep making all these
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mistakes and not feel like a total failure. It was just
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learning.
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But I think also now, if you knew what the mistake was
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called, you could search on YouTube as to how to fix it, I
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suppose. Like when I have a plumbing issue that I feel might
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be within my beginner's realm. So you know, a bit like that if
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you were a beginner knitter, whereas that didn't exist.
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No. And I'd definitely say that there is so
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much more help. You could Google everything now, with plumbing
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and everything. And back then I think we did used to do a bit
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more trial and error. It was either that or spend hours and
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hours at the library researching something. We used to just try
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it, didn't we? With lots of things.
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Okay, so did you carry on knitting? So you've
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knit fairly regularly since you were six or seven?
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Yeah, so that would have been 40 years ago.
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But no, I definitely had breaks. So there were the chaotic
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teenage years when I had exams and things, when I just probably
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wouldn't have had time. And yeah, there were times in my
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life where I definitely let it go for maybe two or three years
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at a time. And they were probably the times when I
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shouldn't have let it go and should have made time. You know,
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it's always the way, isn't it, when you feel like you haven't
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got time to meditate, that's when you should be meditating.
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It's the same with knitting. And then I picked it up again, like
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PROPERLY properly, when I was pregnant with Indy. He's 18 now,
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so that was 18 years ago. And knit every morning before I got
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out of bed. I used to get morning sickness, so Darren
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would bring me breakfast in bed every morning and I would sit
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and knit while he was making breakfast.
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Were you knitting for Indy?
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Yeah, I was knitting booties. Lots of
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booties. I had this amazing book of like, I don't know, 100
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bootie patterns, but it had lots of different techniques in it.
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Oh no! Have you gifted them?
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So I was learning something every day with a new knitting
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technique, and I was getting to use different colour yarns and
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different fibres. I had a whole bag of them and just worked my
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way through. I don't know how many booties I made. I must have
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made 30 or 40 pairs of different booties while I was pregnant
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with him, and I made a big patchwork blanket. But then when
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he was born, he had enormous feet and he didn't fit any of
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the booties.
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I gifted all of them and they all fit normal
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babies. Indy had giant feet! And only the giant duck feet fit
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him. [Laughs]
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Aw! I found that I couldn't get booties to stay on
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my children!
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No, they didn't all, which is kind of why I made
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them all. Some of them were really good patterns that stayed
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on and the others just were sort of there for photos, I suppose.
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Yeah. Oh, that's amazing. So it's been on and
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off, but mainly on, certainly on for the last 18 years.
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Yeah. So when Indy was born, we then emigrated to
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Canada when he was eight months old. And it was really cold
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there, so I knit lots. And then when he was seven, we moved on
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to the boat to go circumnavigate, and I did knit
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on the boat as well. Probably not as much.... no maybe I did.
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I did, but like different fibres. A lot of silk and cotton
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because it's hot. And then we moved to the Caribbean for five
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years, and I knit there as well, but lots of lace weight blankets
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and that kind of thing.
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Okay. Did you feel like the motivation was less? Or
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is it not really so much about the final product?
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It's never been about the final product for me.
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It''s never ever been about the final product. I for my whole
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life have knit things and then just given them away, almost
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immediately. I don't tend to keep any of my knits for myself.
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Is it more for the process? Because obviously there
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is a joy to giving things to people for the point of giving a
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gift, that is more meaningful, but it sounds also a lot of it's
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about the process for you.
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It's the process. It's completely the process,
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yeah.
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If you were on a desert island with one ball of
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brown yarn that you had to re-knit over and over again,
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you'd be knitting it.
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Absolutely. And I had to do that in the Caribbean
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all the time, because we couldn't get anything shipped to
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us. And it would take months and months. So I would just knit
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something, rip it out, knit it again. I did that all the time.
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So it is very much process.
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Yeah. And does it matter what you knit? As in the
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techniques? Is garter stitch equally valuable to knitting
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lace or cables? Or does it matter?
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I think it depends. It's got to be
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something new for me every time. So I very rarely, I think never,
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make the second sock, because I've made the sock and I don't
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want to make another one. So I almost never make the same thing
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twice, unless I'm changing the technique or changing something
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up about it. I recently knit two Badger & Bloom sweaters where I
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changed the technique quite a lot both times, just to test it
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out.
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And the colour isn't enough of a change?
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No, it's not really. I knit for colour... A
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lot of the time, it's because of the colour I want to hang out
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with, so that will determine what I'm knitting. But it's got
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to be something new that I haven't experienced before. It
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might be that I have to experience a new fibre. Yeah, I
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think it's technique more than anything, though. And it's
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weird, after 40 years of doing lots of knitting and learning
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all the [inaudible], I'm still discovering new techniques all
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the time, which is brilliant. I think that's such a cool thing
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about knitting.
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Yeah, you can't ever run out.
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No, you can't really. And I do knit things
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several times and rip them out, but I've just started a cardigan
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yesterday which I will rip out today and start again, because
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there's a couple of things I thought of during the night that
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I should have done differently. So yeah, I'm fine with ripping
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yes, I do knit specifically for
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gifts, but no, usually I'm knitting something and then I
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think, "Oh, who'd like this? Who would this fit? Who wants it?".
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Okay. I'd love to hear more about colour, because
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I think you said you've got a qualification in colour...
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Applied colour psychology.
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Applied colour psychology. So I'd love to hear
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about that, and your ideas about colour and how it benefits your
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mental wellbeing, being around colour. I like the idea of
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choosing a colour you want to hang out with! Because I think I
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do that with my knitting projects. I have quite a long
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relationship with them because I'm not that fast. [Laughs]
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Colour is very, very important. I didn't know
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anything about... I'm an accountant so it wasn't anything
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that I'd studied in the early days, but I have an Indian
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background so we've always been very experimentative with
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colour, with our saris and things. And approaching my 40s,
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I suppose... late 30s/40s... I got a bit frustrated with how
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sensible people were being around colour and how coy they
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Would you do that historically, as well, when you didn't work in
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were, and how they were embarrassed about using certain
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colours, and that kind of thing. If you walked down the high
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street a couple of years ago, all you'd see was grey, khaki,
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maybe a little bit of mustard. I couldn't buy the colours that I
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wanted from a shop, so I did use knitting to introduce those
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colours into my life. But I also realised a long time ago that
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certain colours do certain things to my mood, and I can use
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that to my advantage. So when I use really, really saturated
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bright colours, they will wake me up, so I can use them in the
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morning to just really get going, or before a meeting to
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get energised, or something like that. Especially during
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meetings. So I knit through all my board meetings and things. I
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would always knit and I'd always pick a bright colour for that
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because it just energised me.
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yarn and knitting?
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Yeah, absolutely.
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And I'm guessing you were the only person doing that!
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Yeah, I was the only person knitting. And it was
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fine. It wasn't fine, right at the beginning when I was a
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junior. I'd get told off. But as I became more senior, I could
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tell people that it actually helped me focus and they all got
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used to it. So I'd sit in a meeting with Branson or whatever
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and I'd always be knitting. But I also conversely couldn't pick
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up those same colours and knit with them right before bed. I
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always knit right before bed, but I can't knit the really
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really bright colours under a fairly bright light because they
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wake me up and they don't allow me to sort of gently ease down
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at the end of the day.
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So you need more than one project on the go for
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different situations.
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Yes. Different for colour but also different for
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"Do I really want to escape into a very challenging pattern with
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lots of charts and things because I need to just not think
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about everything right now? Or do I just want something that is
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in my hands, and TV knitting, so that I can listen to whatever
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I'm listening to?"
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That's a really common theme that has come up
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again and again, and certainly something I relate very strongly
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to. The idea of having to have something complicated to absorb
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yourself in when you need to escape from real life, or
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something that you could knit while you're listening to your
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kids read, that doesn't require any of your brain. And I
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certainly would knit through Zoom meetings and training
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courses, and have never been anything other than the only
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knitter. [Laughs]
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Yeah, it is weird, isn't it? I found when Indy was
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little, you know, when your kids are little and you have to wait
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all the time, you've got to wait for them to finish a sports
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match or whatever, there's just a lot of waiting in life.
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Waiting at the dentist and all these things. And I just found
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that if I always had my knitting, I never really minded
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the wait. Actually, I quite liked the wait. It was a really
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good time for me to just get into my knitting. And I travel a
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lot and airport delays were pleasurable, because I had my
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knitting with me. And it just meant that I could chill out and
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knit, and it didn't matter that the planes was delayed. I don't
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know how people that don't knit cope, I honestly don't! I just
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don't know how they manage to wait for anything.
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I do feel a slight anxiety, I think, if I have to
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do something like that, that I don't have my knitting with me
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because I've had too many things to think about and it's just not
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made it in the bag. But quite often, if I'm going away for a
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weekend and getting a train somewhere... The other weekend,
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I forgot the dress I was planning to wear out in the
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evening, but I had three knitting projects with me.
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[Laughs] Because that was my priority, in my head!
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Definitely.
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I don't know whether you learnt about this in the
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course you did, about whether there are particular colours
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that are more associated with positive or negative mood, or
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whether it's not really like that. Whether different people
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have different...
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Yeah, it's a really, really interesting
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topic. And it's huge and very deep, so it would take hours to
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go over everything. But I guess the main points were... I'm very
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into maths, maths is my background, and there are
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patterns and wavelengths behind each colour and some colours
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harmonise because of the patterns and the waves, and some
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colours don't. So that was one of the things that we learnt a
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lot about. So, you know, I'm good at putting colours together
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and I'm good at avoiding certain colour combinations that are
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horrible. And I know that intuitively somewhat, I guess,
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from practising a lot, but also because of the maths behind the
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colour. So there's that. There's the colours that people should
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and shouldn't wear... well, it's not really a should... it's the
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colours that suit people more than the colours that don't. So
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that was also part of the course. And that has more to do
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with who you are and your personality, as well as your own
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personal colouring, but a lot more to do with your
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personality. And it's broken into four separate groups. So I
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think recently, companies like House of Colour have taken those
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and called them seasons to try and organise that a little bit
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more. And that's fine. They've done it completely wrong in a
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couple of ways, because they've tried to make it equal across
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the seasons, which is not the case right now, but that's a
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whole 'nother topic. So there's that, and then there's also the
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behavioural aspect of how a colour will influence your mood
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and why you might be drawn to it, and why you might not be
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drawn to it at a particular time. So for example, if you had
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an orange dining plate or were sitting in an orange room while
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you were eating, you probably will eat more. You'll over eat.
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It's just influence. It opens up your mind, and abundance and
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that kind of thing. You just tend to over consume with
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orange. Purple tends to be a colour that is for people that
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are feeling a bit less sociable at that particular time, or very
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much more choosy. It's a colour that people are drawn to when
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they're hungover. It's not all shades of purple, but I'm
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generalising just for now. Red, you know, we're very familiar
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with red being a little bit more aggressive, a bit more in your
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face, just open, just much more bold, And then blue is a really
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great one for focusing. Again, not all blues. So when Indy was
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having exams when he was younger and he used to pick up some
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knitting (he doesn't tend to anymore),  then I would have him
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knit with blue yarns as a little break between study sessions,
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because it would keep that part of his brain active but allow
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him to have a little break from studying. So blue was great for
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that. And I will use it. Like I said, if I need to be really
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thinking and thinking spreadsheets and that kind of
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thing, I'll pick up my blue project for a little bit and
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just calm down with that, and then go straight into my
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thinking piece.
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So you're very deliberate about your choices of
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what you're knitting with, to fit the circumstances in your
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life?
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I mean, it just happens now. I think what I'm
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deliberate about is making sure that I've got enough projects at
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hand or around. I don't like to have more than three projects on
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the go, because I am someone that likes to finish. I don't
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tend to have lots of WIPs. I like finishing. But I do have
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three that are intentionally quite different from each other
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because of what they will do for my mental health.
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So that sounds very deliberate in that sense. And I
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think I certainly would relate to that: that the things I'm
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working on have to fit different needs for me. But I don't
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actually think about the colour in that way, which is really
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interesting. And actually, when I spoke to Betsan Corkhill, who
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is an expert in therapeutic knitting, she speaks a lot about
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the idea of using knitting to... rather than it reflecting the
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mood you're in, thinking about the mood you want to move
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yourself into. And that sounds very similar to your ethos.
Milli Abrams:
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Yeah. And also, with the finished garment, when
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you're wearing it... Like I'll use the colours of the garments
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that I'm wearing to convey a certain type of my personality
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in a public setting, or not. So for example, for my whole life I
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was an accountant; I so much was drawn to what people would refer
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to as the winter colours, like cooler colours, and they do suit
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me, your blacks, your whites, your strong reds, peacocks, that
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kind of thing. And I was always really drawn to that. But it
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does make me much less approachable as a person. So
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when I opened the shop, one of the things that I talked to
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Angela about (who's like the guru of colour therapy), she was
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like, "Well, just make sure that you're never in there wearing
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blacks and whites." So this new business of mine was not like
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accounting; I needed to be approachable and soft. And I
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needed to sort of bring out my more autumn aspects. So I wear a
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lot more rich autumnal colours and navies and that kind of
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thing, which also suit me but I wouldn't have dreamt of wearing
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them as an accountant. I didn't want to be that person in that
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setting, whereas I do now. And then conversely, if I'm going to
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something else where I just want a bit more glamour, I'll wear
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black again.
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I wonder whether that was also to do with... I'm
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guessing you were in a more male-dominated environment when
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you were in business? Or maybe needing to convey more power
Milli Abrams:
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Yeah, right in the beginning I was. I mean, I am
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than you do in your yarn shop.
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quite a small woman and I just needed more help with the power
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that I was exuding when I was telling people no, they couldn't
Mia Hobbs:
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Yeah, sure. I wonder whether there are other ways
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have that money or whatever it was.
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that we haven't talked about that you feel knitting is
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beneficial for your mental wellbeing.
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We get loads of people in the shop that will
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come by and say, "Oh, that's lovely. I wish I could do that,
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but I don't have the patience for that." And I am the least
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patient person I've ever met in my life. I'm just not patient,
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I'm not tolerant. And therefore knitting is even more important
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for me than it would be for someone who already is calm and
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zen and patient. So I think when people say that, I'd love the
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people to know... especially men, I think, because they tend
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to be more the ones that are like, "Oh, I don't have time. I
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work." And the other thing I hear is "I don't have time." I
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don't have time, I work crazy hours, but I still find time for
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knitting. I think it's important to have something, especially in
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this day and age when we are just overstimulated all the
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time. If you could have something like meditating or
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colouring in or knitting, that takes you off your device and
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gives you something repetitive and small, and it is about those
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micro movements, that's where the magic is, releasing the good
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hormones. And with knitting that means not knitting on needles
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that are more than about 5mm. There's a sweet spot with a
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knitting needle to keep it micro, to get the maximum
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benefit with your serotonin. Everyone sort of needs that, I
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think, these days. I've actually lived on a desert island.
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And even then you still brought your knitting!
Milli Abrams:
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Yeah, and I would still bring my knitting!
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[Laughs]
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I would too.
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I meditate and I have done lots over the years.
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And that comes and goes a lot more than my knitting does,
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because at the end of the day I feel guilty about sitting down
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and doing nothing. I just have that. I don't know what it is,
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but I do feel guilty about that unless I'm knitting. And then
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somewhere in my head, I know I'm creating and relaxing, and then
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I can really let myself be in it and sit and do it for hours,
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which is really important.
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I suppose I've heard quite often the idea that
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knitting is kind of a substitute for meditation, or a form of
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meditation. And several of the people I've spoken to, and
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certainly I think this is probably true of me, have
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classified themselves as failed meditators, therefore they are
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knitters, and they get a kind of similar thing from it. It sounds
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like you've stuck with your knitting maybe more constantly
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than you have with the meditation.
Milli Abrams:
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Yeah, definitely. I have stuck with knitting a lot
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more. And I think mainly because it doesn't do the same thing for
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me as meditating. Meditating is definitely much more intense.
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But I think it's more the portability and the
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practicality. So I can still do it at a train station and hear
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when my train is coming and not be completely cut off from the
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world. And when I do meditate, I do it to get to a much deeper
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state, and it takes a lot longer, like two or three hours.
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And it has to be silent, and I can't have the family running
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around. I can't do that as often. I can pick up my knitting
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ten times a day and just have a little meditative break with my
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knitting, so I think that's why I do it a lot more. And these
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days, yarns are SO much nicer than they used to be, and
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patterns are just everywhere and so accessible. It's just so much
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easier to find the right project.
Mia Hobbs:
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And in terms of what you're drawn to do you like a
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variety in terms of yarn? Is that also something that floats
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your boat?
Milli Abrams:
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Yeah, massively. So I love the super, super
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rustic Icelandics. Absolutely love those. And then I really
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like my super high end silks and cashmeres. It's important to me
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that I know where the yarns come from, and then I know that it's
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ethically made. And it's important to me that it doesn't
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have plastic in it. But other than that, a wide variety and a
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wide variety of gauges. And I do knit with chunky yarns
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sometimes, usually if it's just because I have to make a short
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sample/I have to bang out a gift really quickly. But my sort of
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sweet spot for a needle is about the 3.75 range, and that will
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give me the max pleasure.
Mia Hobbs:
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I'm the same actually. I've heard a lot of
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people on the podcast who don't like knitting on the smaller
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gauges. And I didn't know whether it was because of that,
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or just the things I wanted to knit recently, that I ended up
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knitting with some larger gauge... I mean larger for me,
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like an Aran weight yarn, so like a 5 maybe or 5.5. I'm quite
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a loose knitter. But my hands don't like it as much. I find
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that I don't get RSI at all if I knitted on 2.25 or 3 or quite
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tiny needles, and knitted with 4-ply. I could do that probably
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forever. Whereas if it gets bigger, even a DK, I think my
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hands struggle a bit more. And they don't love cotton either.
Milli Abrams:
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Yeah, there's no stretch in cotton. Unless you
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get a chain knit. I've recently discovered really great chain
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knits, which is a fairly new thing in the industry, because
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the old chain knits were terrible. But the new chain
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knits that they use cotton for have stretch in them, so if you
Mia Hobbs:
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That's interesting. I was interested in the idea about
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want to knit cotton, get a chain knit. It's brilliant. Okay. But
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the kind of things people say about knitting in the shop,
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yeah, the bigger needles, and it just becomes more of a macro
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movement and you tend to involve a bit more shoulder and elbow
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because you must have a lot of conversations with people who
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and things. It's not something that you can just do with your
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fingertips. Yeah, you need to fight a bit more with the process.
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are new or want to start knitting, and super-experienced
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knitters, about whether they say things about what knitting does
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for them, or what kind of questions they ask you, whether
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they ask for your help with colour?
Milli Abrams:
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Yeah, we get lots of feedback from knitters about
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how, especially during lockdown, it just saved them, for a lot of
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people.
Mia Hobbs:
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Is that more existing knitters, would you say?
Milli Abrams:
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No, both during lockdown actually. And then with
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the experience, I'd say the majority was people that had
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returned to knitting. So they've had the greatest benefit, and
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they've usually not done it for a long time and they did it on
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really old-style needles with old yarn, and everything's moved
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on to such a huge extent that the tools are just 100%
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different to what they used to be, and the yarns. So they've
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had the greatest sort of wow moments. We have lots of people
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who are experiencing grief who turned to knitting. And
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actually, I think there's a lot of doctors that tell people that
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they should try knitting when they're experiencing grief. And
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it seems to really, really help them just sort of metabolise it,
Milli Abrams:
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I guess. What was your... oh, the colours. Yeah, colours is my
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thing, so yes, I do get a lot of...
Mia Hobbs:
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So you enjoy having those conversations with people
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and helping them pick.
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That's my favourite thing to do. And it's
Mia Hobbs:
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It's interesting that for you, you know more about the
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funny how there's so many people who feel really lost with
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colours, or really just don't trust themselves with it. And
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then you can get colours wrong. I feel actually physically
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nauseous when I see some colour combos, and it affects me viscerally.
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kind of mathematical formula of why. Because I think sometimes I
Mia Hobbs:
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probably have looked at a colourwork sweater and thought,
Mia Hobbs:
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"Ooh I'm not sure..." You know, you look on Ravelry and see lots
Mia Hobbs:
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of versions of the same sweater for inspiration, and then think,
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"Ooh, not that one." But I would just feel like it was my spidey
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senses or something. I wouldn't be able to put science on it,
Mia Hobbs:
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but that must be great!
Milli Abrams:
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Yeah, it is great! But there's also... Angela was
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always very "You mustn't put this colour with this colour."
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And yes, there is that, but I also really love to have a
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disrupter in there somewhere, so long as it's the right type of
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disrupter. You don't want something that was lovely and
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energetic, and then had a weird sort of drab colour in there
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that just made it all fall apart. That's not the right
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disrupter. But if you had something that was a whole bunch
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of, say, neutrals with a pastel or something, and then you
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chucked in one disruptive colour that just gave that piece a lot
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of energy, that's my favourite sort of thing to do.
Mia Hobbs:
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Do you know, my mum says that about... she's like,
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"You need one (she'll call it) ugly colour in there, to make
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the others look great." [Laughs] But she's great with colour.
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She's so good and confident from just, I don't know, natural
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ability and being artistic.
Milli Abrams:
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Yeah! And years of practice.
Mia Hobbs:
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Yeah. But she's really good at experimenting and
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seeing what works, and changing it if it doesn't.
Milli Abrams:
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And that's the other thing: you've got to be
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willing to change it if it doesn't work and to make the
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mistakes.  And if you want to get good at it, you've just got
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to keep practising and be open to your own feedback and realise
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when actually no, that's not good.
Mia Hobbs:
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Do you think you've always been so good at ripping
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out? Or tolerant of it? Because I think I've definitely got
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better over time, and now other people are much more traumatised
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watching me do it than I feel about doing it.
Milli Abrams:
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Oh yeah. Darren used to be horrified that I used
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to finish a whole thing and then find one thing at the beginning
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where I would wish I'd stuck a colour in or something, and I'd
Milli Abrams:
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rip it all back. But yeah, I've always been totally fine because
Milli Abrams:
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I'm a process knitter and I don't really care about the
Milli Abrams:
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final knitted thing to own or wear. It's the process. The only
Milli Abrams:
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thing that really traumatises me, I'd say, (if it's trauma) is
Milli Abrams:
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I'm terrible about cutting... you know where it says "break
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yarn". I know that I will very often go back and rip things
Milli Abrams:
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out, so I beat myself up over cutting a yarn where I probably
Milli Abrams:
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shouldn't have cut it, and I should have left it attached to
Mia Hobbs:
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Because the ends are worse, aren't they, for that? If
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the ball because I almost definitely always go back. I
Mia Hobbs:
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don't like ends. I just don't like too many ends. I've knit
Mia Hobbs:
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with silks and cottons so much that ends are a little bit of a
Mia Hobbs:
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trauma to me.
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it was a sheep's wool, we could spit splice it.
Milli Abrams:
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Exactly. I don't mind cutting those. I'm awful at
Milli Abrams:
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having these projects with loads of balls attached because I
Milli Abrams:
00:34:54
refuse to cut anything until it's done. [Laughs]
Mia Hobbs:
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I would love to ask about a significant knitting
Mia Hobbs:
00:35:03
project for you. It could be something that feels significant
Mia Hobbs:
00:35:09
in your journey with knitting or for your life.
Milli Abrams:
00:35:14
That's a good question. I think for a long
Milli Abrams:
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time, it would have been the blanket that I made for Indy
Milli Abrams:
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when I was pregnant. That was very personal to him. But I
Milli Abrams:
00:35:22
couldn't even tell you where that is now. We might have lost
Milli Abrams:
00:35:25
it in the hurricane, I don't know. I make a conscious effort
Milli Abrams:
00:35:30
to not be attached to anything physical, so I try not to get
Milli Abrams:
00:35:36
really, really attached to the actual thing. But in terms of
Milli Abrams:
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the process...
Mia Hobbs:
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Even just the process of being somewhere significant
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at a time in your life while you made it.
Milli Abrams:
00:35:47
Yeah, definitely the pregnancy ones. I mean, I
Milli Abrams:
00:35:54
like some projects where you've designed it yourself. I guess it
Milli Abrams:
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means a lot more than when I'm knitting off another pattern.
Milli Abrams:
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And normally, that's because I've knit it like 7, 8, 9 times
Milli Abrams:
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and ripped it back and knit it again just to get it right. So
Milli Abrams:
00:36:11
you spend a lot of time with it and you're a bit more invested
Milli Abrams:
00:36:13
in those projects. I've never knit anything for Darren so I
Milli Abrams:
00:36:19
can't say that it's anything massively significant that I've
Milli Abrams:
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made for family that they hugely appreciate. I knit a hat for my
Milli Abrams:
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granddad a couple of years ago for Christmas that made him
Milli Abrams:
00:36:28
throw up immediately. It was terrible! A beautiful cashmere
Milli Abrams:
00:36:31
hat but he overheated straightaway because he couldn't
Milli Abrams:
00:36:33
take it off! And then he threw up. So I remember that one!
Mia Hobbs:
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Oh no! Lots of people have spoken about things they've
Mia Hobbs:
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made in significant times, like for example grief has come up
Mia Hobbs:
00:36:46
very often. I think for me, it's often like... I don't know, the
Mia Hobbs:
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first time I needed a sweater and actually made something that
Mia Hobbs:
00:36:56
fitted me. You know, I knitted a lot of non-gauge-determined
Mia Hobbs:
00:37:01
items at the beginning like shawls and maybe a hat but
Mia Hobbs:
00:37:06
they're kind of stretchy and more forgiving than a sweater.
Milli Abrams:
00:37:10
Yeah, I can't even remember the last time I made a
Milli Abrams:
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sweater, or the first time I made a sweater that fit. I don't
Milli Abrams:
00:37:16
think I ever tried to make sweaters that really fit. I
Milli Abrams:
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haven't really tried to do that until I had the shop and I was
Milli Abrams:
00:37:24
leading knit-alongs and things, and I had to teach other people
Milli Abrams:
00:37:29
that wanted to keep their knits for some reason [laughs] how to
Milli Abrams:
00:37:32
make it fit.
Mia Hobbs:
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Have you not kept even sweaters for yourself?
Milli Abrams:
00:37:39
No, I don't keep them. They're all shop samples.
Milli Abrams:
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I get to wear them, so I'll wear them home or they might sit in
Milli Abrams:
00:37:45
my wardrobe for a weekend when I'm at home and then I'll wash
Milli Abrams:
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them and take them back to the shop and they'll be a shop
Milli Abrams:
00:37:49
sample. I don't tend to have my own. Everything really belongs
Milli Abrams:
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to the shop and then I borrow them.
Mia Hobbs:
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So you've got a never-ending stream of new
Mia Hobbs:
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things to wear for a weekend!
Milli Abrams:
00:38:03
I have, yeah! As long as I'm organised enough to
Milli Abrams:
00:38:06
remember to take it home from the shop that night, which is
Milli Abrams:
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great for the shawls and things for some of them are quite
Milli Abrams:
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dressy. So yeah, I've got like a big tickle trunk of possible
Milli Abrams:
00:38:16
knits at the shop that I can borrow whenever I want to. But
Milli Abrams:
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we've recently moved to a boat, and again, I don't have very
Milli Abrams:
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much wardrobe space. So yes, I just use the shop as a wardrobe
Milli Abrams:
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space.
Mia Hobbs:
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Perfect! And you can keep on knitting. You don't have
Mia Hobbs:
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to feel guilty when your wardrobe is full!
Milli Abrams:
00:38:36
Yeah! And in Canada, whenever I knit, I used
Milli Abrams:
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to give all the stuff to my mates and then I'd borrow it
Milli Abrams:
00:38:43
back when I was like, "Oh, I really want the... you know".
Milli Abrams:
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And we all lived fairly close to one another, so I'd just nip by
Milli Abrams:
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and grab that jumper back for whatever reason. And we sort of
Milli Abrams:
00:38:52
just shared all my knits, I suppose. I just never kept them
Milli Abrams:
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at our home. So yeah, I like that about knitting.
Mia Hobbs:
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Does it bother you if people don't... Some people I've
Mia Hobbs:
00:39:04
spoken to have said, "There's certain people I WOULD knit for
Mia Hobbs:
00:39:06
because they kind of get it" like a) how many hours went into
Mia Hobbs:
00:39:10
that; b) how to look after it properly if it's wool or
Mia Hobbs:
00:39:16
something like that, don't just felt it the first time you wash
Mia Hobbs:
00:39:19
it. [Laughs] Does that bother you or will you literally set
Mia Hobbs:
00:39:22
them free into the world and don't think about them again?
Milli Abrams:
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I won't make something for someone that's
Milli Abrams:
00:39:29
asked for something, if they don't know what it is they're
Milli Abrams:
00:39:33
asking for. And people are always asking, and I'll get
Milli Abrams:
00:39:38
messages on Instagram or whatever from friend, "Can you
Milli Abrams:
00:39:42
make my wife one of those or whatever?" And I'll be like,
Milli Abrams:
00:39:45
"No. I mean, I could but it's going to cost you £600. That's
Milli Abrams:
00:39:50
my time."
Mia Hobbs:
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Well, that's cheap! You've not given yourself a
Mia Hobbs:
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decent hourly rate, Milli! [Laughs]
Milli Abrams:
00:39:55
Well, that is cheap! [Laughs]
Mia Hobbs:
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And the yarn!
Milli Abrams:
00:39:58
So no, I don't make stuff for people that don't
Milli Abrams:
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get it. If they really get it and they really want it, then
Milli Abrams:
00:40:03
absolutely, I'll make it for them. And if I know that they're
Milli Abrams:
00:40:06
not going to look after it, and they've asked for it, then they
Milli Abrams:
00:40:09
won't get it. But generally, if it's something that I was making
Milli Abrams:
00:40:12
anyway, and someone's said that they'd quite like it, then they
Milli Abrams:
00:40:16
can have it and there's no questions asked. I will mention
Milli Abrams:
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to them that they shouldn't chuck it in the washing machine
Milli Abrams:
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or they won't be able to wear it very much. But then if it's
Milli Abrams:
00:40:24
theirs, and it's gone, I don't even think about it again I
Milli Abrams:
00:40:27
think. You know, after it's gone, it's gone.
Mia Hobbs:
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Do you knit quite fast?
Milli Abrams:
00:40:31
Very fast. Yeah, I'm extremely fast. Recently
Milli Abrams:
00:40:35
we've had people in the shop... Because I've not been on the
Milli Abrams:
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shop floor as much, I've been back in the office or downstairs
Milli Abrams:
00:40:40
in the back or wherever, and I've heard people say (or the
Milli Abrams:
00:40:43
girls have said that another person said) "Does Milli really
Milli Abrams:
00:40:46
knit all those knits or does she have like an army of minions in
Milli Abrams:
00:40:49
the background making the stuff?" I knit all my knits
Milli Abrams:
00:40:52
myself. It's important for me to experience all of the yarn
Milli Abrams:
00:40:55
myself, but I am very fast. And I'm small, so I make the smaller
Milli Abrams:
00:41:01
size [laughs] which really helps!
Mia Hobbs:
00:41:04
But don't you seem from Instagram to have produced
Mia Hobbs:
00:41:07
knits that look great on a whole number of family members as
Mia Hobbs:
00:41:10
well?
Milli Abrams:
00:41:11
The shawls! The shawls fit everyone.
Mia Hobbs:
00:41:14
Are they all shawls? Have I not seen sweaters on Indy
Milli Abrams:
00:41:16
Oh I do do that! I do make my son wear... yeah, I
Milli Abrams:
00:41:16
or...?
Milli Abrams:
00:41:19
mean, they are small for him. He didn't go out wearing them.
Mia Hobbs:
00:41:22
He's very tolerant of it!
Milli Abrams:
00:41:24
Oh he's amazing. He'll do whatever I ask him to
Milli Abrams:
00:41:27
do. He doesn't really care what anyone thinks. He'll just do
Milli Abrams:
00:41:33
whatever he wants. But I will quite often put it on him
Milli Abrams:
00:41:37
because I want to see what the shoulders or the neckline might
Milli Abrams:
00:41:40
look like on a man, or how it'll fit if you haven't got boobs, or
Milli Abrams:
00:41:43
what that colour might look like on someone else, or does a very
Milli Abrams:
00:41:47
soft mohair look alright on a bloke that's got a beard, that
Milli Abrams:
00:41:50
kind of thing. So yeah, I will make the family try... you know,
Milli Abrams:
00:41:54
my dad will try on a lot of my stuff. My dad loves trying
Milli Abrams:
00:41:57
things on for me and he quite often gets them. He's got loads
Milli Abrams:
00:42:00
of my knits in his wardrobe, but I never see him actually wear
Milli Abrams:
00:42:03
them after the first time. So I should really take them back
Milli Abrams:
00:42:05
[laughs] and give them to someone else. But they are
Milli Abrams:
00:42:11
small. I do knit oversize arms. I like really long arms. Maybe
Milli Abrams:
00:42:16
that's why they get away with it.
Mia Hobbs:
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You like to wear them?
Milli Abrams:
00:42:20
I like to wear overly long sleeves.
Mia Hobbs:
00:42:25
I always end with asking: what's the greatest gift
Mia Hobbs:
00:42:28
that knitting has given you for the rest of your life?
Milli Abrams:
00:42:34
It's very important. I think it's probably
Milli Abrams:
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added several years to my life.
Milli Abrams:
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Just in the calming and, you know, not being
Mia Hobbs:
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In what way specifically, do you think?
Mia Hobbs:
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frazzled and stressed and giving myself a stress-induced disease,
Mia Hobbs:
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I think. All that time where people think it's wasted,
Mia Hobbs:
00:42:53
knitting, it's probably not. It's probably adding that much
Mia Hobbs:
00:42:57
time and then some at the end of your life, you know? It's not a
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:01
waste of time. And I think the biggest, biggest gift is that it
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:06
makes me a much easier person to be around and to live with for
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:10
my family, because I'm not totally frazzled all the time if
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:14
I've got my knitting. And they get some downtime from me. I'm
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:19
very A Type. I'm always needing things to do because I can't sit
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:23
still. But it gives them a break to just sit and chill when they
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:28
know that I'm not going to bother them because I'm in my knitting.
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:34
So it does sound like it really has a regulating kind
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:37
of function for you.
Milli Abrams:
00:43:40
Massively. And I notice it very much if I have
Milli Abrams:
00:43:43
not picked up my needles that day or for a couple of days. I
Milli Abrams:
00:43:47
feel like I really need some time, and I'm just going to grab
Milli Abrams:
00:43:49
my needles and just be.
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:51
Yeah. I feel like I can feel it physically as well,
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:54
that I need to kind of have... My grandma used to slightly
Mia Hobbs:
00:43:58
sneakily still smoke and think we didn't know about it.
Mia Hobbs:
00:44:02
[Laughs] It was almost like after she'd eaten her dinner,
Mia Hobbs:
00:44:06
she'd get a bit agitated and feel like she needed to smoke.
Mia Hobbs:
00:44:10
And I've felt exactly the same about my knitting.
Milli Abrams:
00:44:14
Absolutely. There's times where you just
Milli Abrams:
00:44:18
feel a bit antsy and a bit up, and you're just like, "Right,
Milli Abrams:
00:44:21
let's just go sit over there, grab some knitting and just calm
Milli Abrams:
00:44:24
down for a while." So I think that's the greatest, greatest
Milli Abrams:
00:44:28
gift, that you've got a tool that allows you to have instant
Milli Abrams:
00:44:33
stress relief, and you can take it anywhere you go, and it makes
Milli Abrams:
00:44:36
a lot of the more stressful times in your life, like sitting
Milli Abrams:
00:44:39
in traffic (not when you're driving, obviously) or waiting
Milli Abrams:
00:44:42
for something where you can just get more and more riled up. It
Milli Abrams:
00:44:45
makes those times the complete opposite of what they would have
Milli Abrams:
00:44:48
been, which I think is huge. I don't know how people cope! I
Milli Abrams:
00:44:54
don't know how people live that don't have the knitting.
Mia Hobbs:
00:44:57
I did end up doing a lot of waiting for hospital
Mia Hobbs:
00:45:01
appointments a few years ago, sometimes three hours in this
Mia Hobbs:
00:45:06
particular department that I had to go back to a couple of times,
Mia Hobbs:
00:45:08
and everybody else had their phones and they'd by the end run
Mia Hobbs:
00:45:11
out of phone battery. And I was knitting and I thought, "Next
Mia Hobbs:
00:45:15
time I come here, if I have to come back, I'm bringing extra
Mia Hobbs:
00:45:17
yarn and needles!" because there were people who were then
Mia Hobbs:
00:45:20
striking up conversation about my knitting, because I was the
Mia Hobbs:
00:45:22
only one doing anything other than on their phone, which I
Mia Hobbs:
00:45:25
think makes people look unapproachable, I guess, if
Mia Hobbs:
00:45:27
they're looking down at a phone. And they were asking me about
Mia Hobbs:
00:45:30
it. And I felt so lucky!
Milli Abrams:
00:45:33
Well, because the other thing that makes you more
Milli Abrams:
00:45:35
approachable, I think, as a knitter and as a social knitter,
Milli Abrams:
00:45:37
if you're someone that has anxiety about social settings
Milli Abrams:
00:45:40
and new people, is that when you've got your knitting you can
Milli Abrams:
00:45:43
have a really good mix of eye contact with people and then an
Milli Abrams:
00:45:47
excuse to break your eye contact in a non-awkward way. So you've
Milli Abrams:
00:45:51
always got your knitting that you can look down at, but you
Milli Abrams:
00:45:53
can also look up and maintain decent eye contact. There's no
Milli Abrams:
00:45:56
pressure or awkward social pressure to keep looking at the
Milli Abrams:
00:46:00
person that you're interacting with. So I think that's also why
Milli Abrams:
00:46:05
a lot of people that have that awkwardness, it's good for them
Milli Abrams:
00:46:10
when they've got their knitting and they feel like they can
Milli Abrams:
00:46:12
approach you more, because you haven't got to be that intense
Milli Abrams:
00:46:15
with them because you're already doing something. And it's not
Milli Abrams:
00:46:18
like, you know, when you're reading a book, you don't want
Milli Abrams:
00:46:19
to approach that person because they've got to be looking at
Milli Abrams:
00:46:21
their book to continue what they're doing. But you can talk
Milli Abrams:
00:46:24
to someone that's knitting.
Mia Hobbs:
00:46:25
And I certainly find my concentration... I have a
Mia Hobbs:
00:46:29
very flighty concentration span, I suppose. Like if I'm sitting
Mia Hobbs:
00:46:33
in a busy waiting room, I wouldn't be able to really focus
Mia Hobbs:
00:46:36
on a book, I don't think, or on a bus. Whereas I totally could
Mia Hobbs:
00:46:39
knit. But I wouldn't have enough focus to just read, I don't
Mia Hobbs:
00:46:45
think.
Milli Abrams:
00:46:47
Yeah, I'm either not into the book enough, and
Milli Abrams:
00:46:50
I'm not focused because I'm concentrating on other stuff and
Milli Abrams:
00:46:53
have to listen for my stop, or I'm so into my book that I'm
Milli Abrams:
00:46:56
going to miss my stop. But when I used to get on my little bus
Milli Abrams:
00:47:04
in the Caribbean, that took me down to a boat, that was fine. I
Milli Abrams:
00:47:07
could read because everyone else on the bus would tell me when it
Milli Abrams:
00:47:12
was time to get off at the next stop! [Laughs] And that's fine.
Milli Abrams:
00:47:16
I used to really get into a book then. But that's...
Mia Hobbs:
00:47:20
That's not going to happen in London. [Laughs]
Milli Abrams:
00:47:25
I mean, I guess you could ask the person next to
Milli Abrams:
00:47:27
you, "Can you just tap me when it's such-and-such stop?" But we
Milli Abrams:
00:47:31
don't do that, do we?
Mia Hobbs:
00:47:32
No, we don't.  We should be more Caribbean in our
Mia Hobbs:
00:47:36
attitude! You wouldn't see the same people every day, that's
Mia Hobbs:
00:47:39
for sure.
Milli Abrams:
00:47:40
No, no.
Mia Hobbs:
00:47:45
Interesting that you said the more senior you got,
Mia Hobbs:
00:47:48
the more possible it felt to knit during meetings to help you
Mia Hobbs:
00:47:53
concentrate. And certainly I've found that as well. But now I
Mia Hobbs:
00:47:57
feel like I have more confidence. And I think it's
Mia Hobbs:
00:47:59
helps that some stuff is over Zoom. I just don't believe
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:03
humans are designed to sit down and do a six hour training
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:06
course and not move!
Milli Abrams:
00:48:08
No! Not at all.
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:08
And I feel like if I knit, it's the perfect level of:
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:12
my hands are busy and my brain is available for concentrating.
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:15
Whereas if I wasn't doing that, I feel like my brain might
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:19
freelance onto something even more distracting, and then
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:23
actually draw my concentration away from what I'm supposed to
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:25
be focusing on.
Milli Abrams:
00:48:27
It's like doodling, isn't it? It's like a
Milli Abrams:
00:48:29
form of doodling. But you end up with an actual 3D possibly
Milli Abrams:
00:48:34
useful thing at the end of it.
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:36
You described yourself as a Type A person. How
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:41
much does having something tangible that you've created add
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:45
to the appeal of knitting? You said you like to finish things.
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:48
Do you get a certain sense of achievement from... I guess lots
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:51
of the things we do are on a screen and you can't really see
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:53
your progress. You've done a day's work, but it's not really
Mia Hobbs:
00:48:57
visible. Whereas with knitting you have a thing you can show
Mia Hobbs:
00:49:01
and feel and touch.
Milli Abrams:
00:49:02
You have a thing, yeah. And there's a beginning
Milli Abrams:
00:49:05
and an end. I think, for me, that's more important than
Milli Abrams:
00:49:08
actually having the thing, because I don't ever really want
Milli Abrams:
00:49:10
the thing. But I like that there's a finite end to a thing
Milli Abrams:
00:49:14
and you can finish an actual project and it's gone. I think,
Milli Abrams:
00:49:18
in my experience with knitting and all the people around me
Milli Abrams:
00:49:20
that knit, it seems to be a more male need, maybe, or more
Milli Abrams:
00:49:28
important from an actual creating point of view and
Milli Abrams:
00:49:32
having a thing that you've sculpted and made. That seems to
Milli Abrams:
00:49:36
make the boys... I've noticed that they have a lot more
Milli Abrams:
00:49:41
satisfaction about having the final piece, about the creation.
Milli Abrams:
00:49:46
I mean, women do too but it's very much more noticeable with
Milli Abrams:
00:49:49
guys - that they've got like a thing that they've made. For me,
Milli Abrams:
00:49:51
it's more the beginning of it. I genuinely get the same pleasure
Milli Abrams:
00:49:56
out of a really great spreadsheet. [Laughs] I love a
Milli Abrams:
00:49:59
spreadsheet! Whenever I've got one that I've 'birthed', and
Milli Abrams:
00:50:03
then it's finished and it's magnificent, then I love that
Milli Abrams:
00:50:05
too. And that's not a tangible thing, so I know that for me it
Milli Abrams:
00:50:10
doesn't have to be something I can hold. But I like that
Milli Abrams:
00:50:13
there's an ending.
Mia Hobbs:
00:50:15
I think one of the things we talk about, like when
Mia Hobbs:
00:50:18
we're using knitting for people who are maybe struggling with
Mia Hobbs:
00:50:21
low mood or something, we talk about having two types of tasks
that are helpful:
00:50:25
something that's intrinsically enjoyable,
that are helpful:
00:50:28
and something that gives you a sense of achievement. So even if
that are helpful:
00:50:30
I tidied my desk or my workspace, that might not be fun
that are helpful:
00:50:33
for me but I could look at it and think, "Oh, well done me. I
that are helpful:
00:50:36
did that." But I guess knitting gives you both, and it's harder
that are helpful:
00:50:42
to deny progress if you can see it and hold it in your hand.
Milli Abrams:
00:50:45
Yeah! And a new learned technique. That's hugely
Milli Abrams:
00:50:49
satisfying, when you're learning something a lot of the time, or
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So you're someone who likes the uncharted new
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you're coming across a new colour combo. Do you know, one
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of the really cool things in the shop is when we willl get a
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bunch of customers and someone will put a yarn down on the
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counter that they want, and someone else puts another yarn
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down on the counter, and they happen to be next to each other
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and you just think, "Wow! I never would have put those
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territory, aren't you? In the colour combos, but also in the
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colours together, but wow!" I love that.
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techniques. That's a driver for you.
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The learning, yeah, and I think that's really
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important as well. There's different types of people.
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There's some people that are the perfectionists and they have to
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get it right, and they need the finished article, and that's
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where they derive their sense of achievement and enjoyment. And
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there's others that are process driven, like me, and then
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there's people where we just want to constantly be changing
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and learning and moving and that's who I am. And I  think
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it's really good for... don't they say it's great for
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cognitive function and the ageing brain, if you can keep
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learning and keep introducing new skills and rebuilding in all
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those pathways.
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Yeah! And I guess if you think about your past, you
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didn't get to be... was it CFO?... and work with Richard
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Branson, unless you were a high-achieving, ambitious
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person. And I guess all of that drive is in you somewhere, and
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it's going in your knitting and learning new techniques.
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Yeah, there is that but also, as an accountant,
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I'm the very outside of the box... you know, creative... I'm
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not a creative accountant in the bad sense, but I am an outside
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the box accountant that is driven... I'll look at different
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things with performance, and holistically as a business as a
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whole. So my style of accounting really worked for him in that
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business, and the way that I will lead a team is like that.
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And it is also the way that I approach my knitting. Whereas
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Darren, my husband, is an accountant but he's a much more
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detail-driven in-the-weeds accountant, and he doesn't have
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an interest in knitting things and wouldn't know where to start
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with creating a project or chucking colours together,
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because that's not who he is. Actually it would stress him
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out. I sometimes say, "What do you think of this colour and
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this colour?" and he's just like, "What?! I don't even..."
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But that creativity is a driver for you?
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Yeah, the creativity's a driver for me but
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I recognise that with some people, unless they've got the
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formula and the pattern and it's written out, and the
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predictability of how the colours will work, they'll get
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really stressed out about it. But once that bit is taken care
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of, then they find it equally enjoyable to sit and knit.
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And actually, that's amazing, isn't it? That knitting
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could be a great task for both different types of people with
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very different... cognitive needs, we could call it, I
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suppose. The fact that you can get your needs met in your way,
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being more creative.
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Yeah, so that's very interesting. And that's why
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I think that it's so good at bringing together all the
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different types of people. You don't have to be a particular
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type of person to enjoy knitting; you can pretty much be
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any background and any type and your brain can work in any way.
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You could be someone that has to be predictable and methodical,
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or someone that likes the chaos like I do. Actually, I like the
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chaos but then I really like the order and the maths side of
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knitting. So yeah, it all works.
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You're running Knit Nites, aren't you, at Tribe?
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Yeah. At the minute they're virtual.
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But they were in person for a while, weren't
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they?
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They were.
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Is there anything that surprises you about the
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conversations that come up, that feels different about the kind
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of conversations people have while their knitting, compared
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to if people were in a pub or a restaurant or...?
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I mean, we talk a lot more about yarns and
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patterns and things! [Laughs]
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Yeah sure. I guess many of the people don't know
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each other? Or do they? Before they come?
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Yeah. It's a lot easier to sit in a group when
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you've got your knitting, than say if you're all sat there in a
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circle with nothing but each other! And we get new people all
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the time. Every week we've got at least one new person, and
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that's great. We've all got something that unites us all,
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but we all recognise that we're extremely different. And on our
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virtual Knit Nites we're global. We're all over the world. We've
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got people in Finland and Australia and the States and
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Portugal and from all over the place in different time zones on
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this one call, and that's nice. We're all knitting very
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different things in different colours, and we can all
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appreciate what the other person's making.
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I think that's another thing, you know, you
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were talking about the idea of being able to regulate your eye
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contact when you're knitting. I guess the other thing is you do
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just have an automatic topic of conversation, even with
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non-knitters when they talk to you on a bus or something. It's
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in a way less awkward. They can ask you about your knitting
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or...
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It's like having a cute baby. I mean that's when
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you've always got people that will come and talk to you if
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you've got a cute dog or a baby.
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Yes, this is true. [Laughs]
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It is kind of like that. For ages we were thought
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of as really weird. I was a closet knitter for a very long
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time in my childhood, because it was not cool to be knitting. You
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didn't tell anyone that you did it. But it is cool now! It's
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kind of fine. It's a little bit fringe, but it's fine.
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Yeah, I was certainly... I mean I didn't
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always knit. Sometimes I was doing other things like cross
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stitch, and I don't think I realised how much I needed it
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for my mental wellbeing. But I would always get my revision
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done quite early, and then the night before exams I'd be
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secretly in my bedroom cross stitching. Because obviously, if
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you did that openly, people would be annoyed at you that
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you'd finished revising, but I just get to the point where I'm
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done. Psychologically, I can't cram any more into this brain.
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Now I'm doing something else. But I feel like it almost opened
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a different trapdoor in my mind, that doing something rhythmical
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with my hands allowed the revision to percolate in a way,
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I felt.
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Yeah, definitely. And it was a reward for me as
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well. I'd get a whole bunch of revision done, and then allow
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myself to go knit a few more line, because it was just so
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good. I know some people would reward themselves with cake or a
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cigarette or something, but knitting's a super healthy way
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of rewarding yourself, I guess, with hindsight.
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I relearnt, actually. My mum insisted I learnt when I
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started my doctorate in Clinical Psychology, because she thought
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it was a good thing to do. And it did turn out to be the
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perfect thing for revision breaks. I was knitting a big
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shawl, so they had rows, and you could do a row or two rows, and
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then there's a finite end to your break. And then you go back
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to the books.
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Yeah. You do have to be disciplined enough to say,
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"I'm not going to just do one more row."
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Or when you're knitting in the round, it's even
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harder. [Laughs] The rows are less finite. Well, Milli, it has
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been an absolute pleasure to talk to you. Thank you so much
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for joining me on the podcast. If people want to find out more
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about you or Tribe, how would they find out more?
Milli Abrams:
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Probably through the Tribe Yarns website:
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www.tribeyarns.com. And then I do send out a newsletter, which
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tends to be long and has a lot in it, but I only do that once
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every month or every six weeks. I'm not very good at sending
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that more often than that. So subscribe to the newsletter. And
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follow me on Instagram @tribeyarnslife where there's
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always lots of pictures of me and my family.
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In beautiful Richmond!
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