(Grand)Mother Knows Best: Nell Fletcher in the sHOT Seat

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Speaker 1: Reality with the King is hosted by me, Carlos King. I'm an executive producer who have produced some of your favorite shows from the Real Housewives in Atlanta, New Jersey and my own creation, The Love and Marriage Franchise and Bell Collective. Every episode we recap reality television from the Real Housewives Franchise to The Bachelor or Selling Sunset, in addition to celebrity guests, whether in the unscripted space or scripted as well.

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Speaker 2: So you know, listen, we have.

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Speaker 1: To talk about what's been going on in the world of reality television.

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Speaker 2: So rain drops.

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Speaker 1: As you know, every Monday night, we have a new segment called Shots Topics.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Claudia, did you have your shot?

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Speaker 3: I can go get one, go get a baby snatched, But when you're my date on Monday, it's up a shot.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So nothing happy.

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Speaker 4: I sure do?

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Speaker 5: Brown and Ready and Carlos got that. You don't even have your shot. You just got that whatever ginger root extract?

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Speaker 4: What is it? It's kind of extract?

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Speaker 6: What cool?

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Speaker 4: What is it?

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 4: You ready?

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Speaker 2: Dustin?

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Speaker 1: Yes, Okay, it's ginger apple limit and cayenne damn.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So you're trying to do like this. That's what that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I got things to do, Okay, I don't.

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Speaker 3: Think any more like that.

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Speaker 7: I'm not really It's not fun drinking unless you're it's going to end in a happy ending.

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Speaker 3: To me. I like the drinker. I'm about to get some.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmmm mmm, Dustin, are you like that too?

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Speaker 4: No, I don't like drunk sex. I want to remember.

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Speaker 3: I love it.

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Speaker 5: I don't remember what it felt like when everything looked like, what was dark, what was light?

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Speaker 4: What was big? So I want to remember broa, the you know the details, the markers. I can be. I can smoke and have sex, but I don't really like being drunk.

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Speaker 2: Do you smoke during sets?

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Speaker 5: No, he smoked before. Somebody you're trying to kill me, burning me smoke.

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Speaker 1: Because for some reasons, that's I can see you doing this in the in the middle of it, taking a break, yeah.

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Speaker 3: Blowing on it. I see them in their face.

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Speaker 8: I definitely see that. Ye take that smoke, take a little break, you know. But no, I need hands free, so I can't be smoke.

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Speaker 3: Well, you drinking smoke, We don't really see you. I didn't really see you faded.

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Speaker 2: Oh you drink or smoke?

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Speaker 3: Nothing at all.

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Speaker 1: Huh No, I just have I have a lot of energy and stamina.

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Speaker 2: Because I work on a lot so and I know how to lift lift, you know, I know how.

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Speaker 3: We just went in there like that. I know that you sometimes you have to.

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Speaker 1: Like go in You gotta like assess the situation, you know, you gotta like nothing gets it.

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Speaker 5: I do and hopefully I get it tonight at all?

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Speaker 3: Do you have someone best over?

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Speaker 4: I have someone? What am I dating somebody? Nah? I'm single?

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Speaker 3: Me too?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Three?

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Speaker 3: Oh we're all single.

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Speaker 4: We're all single? Yeah, child, yeah, think.

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Speaker 3: So Carlos talking.

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Speaker 1: Let's let's let's let's do our shop topics already, yes, top number one chairs, water.

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Speaker 7: No, it's banana flavoring, malbour room.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's go, all right, let's go all right. So first things first, okay, breaking news. The biggest topic of a couple in recent months has been loving hip hop Atlanta Us I mean DC and Yandy.

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Speaker 2: If you watch my.

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Speaker 1: Interview with the Kirkim Rashida, it was the first time that it was talked about whether or not Yandy I mean DC had an open marriage because Kirki Rasheda alluded to it in my interview That interview made its way onto the season of Loving Hip Hop Alanta, which airs every Tuesday, and with DC feels like Kirk keeps talking about his penis and he doesn't understand why a man keeps talking about his penis. So that's when the rumor mills started to arise in the sense of does Yandy and me and DC have an open marriage? After that, Yandy's former best friend who I also think Dustin was the assistant.

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Speaker 5: If I'm not mistaken or some thing, there was some other professional relationship as well.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so Yandy's best friend and somebody who worked for her did a live and a video and started to reveal that Yandy allegedly had a boyfriend had a guy that she was seeing. That conversation and topic also made his way onto Love and Hip hop Alanta. That scaring the season. I mean, DC and Yandy had a sit down conversation. In this conversation, Yandy revealed that she had an emotional affair. What has been rumor based on Yandy's friend was that this person would travel with them, would be in the same hotels, So it is now a topic of discuss I would love to get y'all thoughts on it. You've been following the story, Dustin, what are your thoughts on Yandy's saying that she had an emotional affair, although her friend is saying something differently.

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Speaker 4: I'm glad she was halfway honest.

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Speaker 5: I think Yandy told just enough of the truth to be able to say she took accountability in whatever way she felt was necessary. I'm more focused on the fact that the friend told in the first place. To me, I'm sorry, you can call me old school or whatever, but if we friends and we keep secrets, then I'm gonna keep the secrets even after we fall out. And I don't like it when people have a disagreement, usually something that could be solved easily through communication, and then they want to start running all the things that they kept secret during the whatever time things was good.

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 5: If I was Ma in DC's I would have an issue to take umbrage with that, because you wasn't saying shit until she pitched you off. You were okay with her being deceitful behind my back. So I don't know. That's just what I felt about it. It was a bunch of their business that I did not need to know. I also think it's a note that Yandy quote unquote help men DC's down. While he did that bit right, she stayed loyal, stayed married to him, kept the businesses running, kept the family together. And so there's a part of me that feels like he should have some reverence and respect for that, in addition to the natural respect that you should have if you're in a marriage, whether it's legal or not. So I don't know, my boy. Men DC's kind of dropped the ball on this one. And Yandy, if she cheated, she was wrong too. But yeah, that's where I'm at with a Claudia what you think I.

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Speaker 7: Feel you on that, especially when the way she did hold him down, It's almost like not that she should get a past, but a little more grace because she had the weight of the world on her shoulders while he was in prison. She held it down with much criticism, and that's when there was lots of drama, love and hip hop. She was left holding the bag, like just having to handle everything, and she did. And I mean maybe she who knows what other baggages they have it to you? I mean, you never hear ye any putting him on blasts, you know, and I'm sure that there's been things in their relationship that probably weren't flattering to him, the friend as far as the front that I'm right with you with that bullshit like mad day now you want to tell the world. It kind of makes it difficult for people that have a lot more to lose, celebrities, realities to befriend and have friends that are outside the business, because like it's a little bit unyoked.

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Speaker 3: Yes that's not the word, but you're not equally yoked, if you know it.

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Speaker 7: If this goes left, I'm the one who has everything to lose, and nobody knows you you have everything to gain and I have everything to lose.

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Speaker 3: And then it's like, are you putting extra on it because you know it could hurt you.

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Speaker 7: I had someone that was close to me that was angry about something and the first the first threat.

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Speaker 3: Was I'll expose you to the blogs. And I said, well, expose what?

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Speaker 7: And it became like a whatever, Like I can make things up, you know, like I can.

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Speaker 3: I have access to your life.

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Speaker 7: You know, when someone has access to your life, it gives it a lot of credibility when they say something.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 7: I had a friend that I was really closer before that did this to me? Said first paulmy, you get blaked for everything I do. And then when when mad Day came, was caught trying to go to publicists and plant stories about me. So I feel bad for Yanny because we don't really know how much of it is because of mad Day and an exaggeration, and how much is action too you. I don't really you feel like you can trust those kind of sources to be really accurate. They could put ten on twenty. Maybe it was an emotional affair, but the person's like, well, what if that, I'm gonna say she was like he was clapping cheeks because why were they not believe me? I was right there? And I think that's about even if she was. You know, we got to be able to trust the people that we have around us, and that should transcend when you're mad at me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I agree with that. I agree with that.

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Speaker 1: So listen, just to clear the air based on people wandering the validity of Yandy Emma DC's marriage. So, Yandy im DC did get mad married on television.

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Speaker 2: They signed papers.

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Speaker 1: What Yandy later revealed was that that was pretty much a TV wedding and she did not submit the marriage certificate. However, what happened was after he was released from prison twenty twenty, they are now legally married, although a lot of people, including Rasheeda, are even questioning whether or not their marriage even today is still legal now. One thing that men DC and Yandy did talk about in the episode was the.

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Speaker 2: Fact that I mean d D has been.

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Speaker 1: Revealed that he has been entertaining women the DMS per audio.

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Speaker 2: They talked about you heard me, I've heard you.

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Speaker 1: This is what the married couple were saying to each other, and that was the reason why Yandy said she had this emotional Now, within this emotional affair, there weren't any details whether, like Claudia said, was it intimate, was penetration involved? Wasn't it just conversations? Was it just somebody that they could talk to? What I have been told and I would love to get your thoughts on it, Claudia and Dustin.

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Speaker 2: I'll start with you first.

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Speaker 1: Claudia, I've always been told that when a woman has an emotional affair, it's worse than physical because for a woman, when a woman is emotionally invested in another man, oh baby, forget about the husband. She wants this man, Claudia, what do you have to say about that?

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Speaker 7: It's true, we're not wired the same. Like a man could be totally detached from the person he's having an affair with and just basically get his rocks off and then will ill yuck by I'm going back to my family. A woman, we're a lot harder to do that. It's a lot harder for us. Unless you have an issue like you or you're an inphomaniac or whatever. It's a straight of pork for the most part. You know, if she's having an emotional affair with someone, it's a lot deeper. It's way deeper because it's more cerebral. It's more Have you ever dated someone that's like not your physical type, right, but something about their personality attracts you that attraction Sometimes to me, it's been in my past, like when I dated someone that wasn't easy, Jake, date dropped it fine, like your faith.

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Speaker 2: Dotty, your acts are gorgeous.

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Speaker 7: Sorry I did, yes, but I have dated a couple uglies. But the thing that made me attracted to them, and those connections with somebody argue even stronger because that wasn't based on physical emotionally, I was there for me to overlook my physical and get with that.

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm thinking, what attracts me mentally?

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Speaker 7: It is deeper, it really is, and it's actually you can argue a stronger connection than a physical thing. Yeah, I feel like if she has an emotional connection, that means she feels that she doesn't have a we have a connection. It's like you don't feel like your man is really there for you, or you're not feeling seen at home, so you go get seen by somebody else.

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Speaker 3: And once you have that, it's very easy.

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Speaker 7: Like they say, men fall love, women fall in love on the phone, and men fall love what they see like.

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Speaker 3: You're more visual, we are more like what we think when we hear.

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Speaker 7: So if it's an emotional connection, oh, it's very hard to come back from that because she's probably.

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Speaker 3: Disgusted with in DC's she's probably over it.

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Speaker 7: She's probably told him a thousand times about something that's bothered her and he didn't change it.

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Speaker 3: And then you seek it elsewhere. It doesn't just happen because someone's a great husband.

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Speaker 7: An emotional connection with someone else doesn't happen when you're emotionally fed at home, it just doesn't happen. We don't really do that. I've never had two emotional connections at the same time. If I'm happy with my guy, I'm shutting it down with other men because it's like offensive, but you would even think I'd go there. But if I'm feeling like neglected, the door's wide open. Now someone can come get me. Someone can come get me if I'm not fed at home. And a lot of times men think.

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Speaker 3: I'm holding it down.

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Speaker 7: I'm giving you dick, I'm paying the bills, and they think that's enough. It's not the emotional of the intimacy though. When we're watching the TV on the couch, your hand is always on me, or you're playing in my hair, or you're checking on me during the day, how was your day? Little things like that is what gives us. It's not those big gestures. That's that fake reality TV bullshit. But I bet you she's been lacking. I mean, Medissa, I'm not trying to come for you. I'm just saying I'm assuming maybe she's been feeling like for a long time, I've done this, that this that that for you. All I want is for you to like listen to me and I'm telling a story, stay you know, be in it. Remember when I told you something you know that's what's make real really important to women.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm with Claudia on this. I think that you're one hundred percent right about the emotional quotion being paramount being important.

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Speaker 4: Right.

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Speaker 5: We all remember a couple of seasons back on Loving Hip Hop Atlanta when there was a conversation There was a scene where there was a conversation and man d C's was being asked if he would have did you know, stay down basically if Yandy was the one that had did it bit and had to go do some time in jail or whatever, and he kind of said he didn't know.

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Speaker 4: He didn't just say yes.

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Speaker 5: And after this is post release, right, And I think ever since then, when it comes to the viewership, they have, you know, watched his behavior through a different lens after that, because it was so it was shocking to see him lack appreciation, lack acknowledgment of someone making that kind of sacrifice, a multi year sacrifice like that. So I think from that point on, it's been kind of a decline as far as people believing in their union. When you add in the late reveal of the fact that they were not legally married, which didn't mean nothing to me. I actually completely understood why they would not enter into a legally binding agreement when.

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Speaker 4: He has all those things going on.

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Speaker 5: There could be restitution involved, all that kind of shit, so you protect the assets. That's business sappy. So I understood that. But I also understood why after Yandy had that kind of positioned their relationship as this shield, you know what I'm saying, where he where she defended it against his baby, his other children's pen mothers. We've seen her defend their relationship for so long, so for it to now be revealed as illegitimate in some way, I think people kind of read that as you're lying you understand what I'm saying, as opposed to you're doing something to be smart business wise. And I just think that all those scenes compile together just paint a picture of deceit a little bit when it comes to their union overall. Once you start adding in cheating and emotional cheating and physical cheating, to me, grow up. If you're gonna emotionally cheat, you might as well fuck or get fucked, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: Like either way, you.

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Speaker 5: Might as well want to make it worth your wild if you're wild, if you're gonna do that, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: All that, I sometimes I think.

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Speaker 5: Carlos and Claudia people say they just had an emotional affair to try to retain some space for grace or you know what I'm saying, I didn't go all lan, I just did that.

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Speaker 4: Fuck that, you just as wrong. You might as well bust you know what I'm saying. That's that's that's how I feel so well.

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Speaker 2: It's a lot.

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Speaker 3: Once you have an emotional correction, you start thinking about that trust and.

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Speaker 4: Believe, I ain't going to think about it too long.

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Speaker 7: If I was a betting woman, which I am a betting woman, I would say that men DC lost yancy and he was probably open to an emotional relationship with somebody else. The minute on national television when he was asked if he would do a bit for her and he said no in front of the world, probably lost He probably lost her fully that day, like or it was a very a huge crack, because that is something like the world saw you do it, but what you did, he was not.

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Speaker 3: Willing to do for you what she was willing to do for him, and he said it on TV.

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Speaker 7: He could have lied it because he knows the cameras going on and said baby, of course, and then they could have had their real conversation off him, like I don't know, but saying it on camera is saying it with your chest.

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Speaker 3: And I think she and and think about it. We're just viewers.

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Speaker 7: She got to live it, and then she got to see all of our commentary, our show and twenty other shows commenting making oh, he didn't want to do it for you. And then when you're over it, then the episode airs four months later, whatever it is. Then at the reunion they gotta hear about it again. I bet you she's been checked out on that moment.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, listen, a lot of men aren't Pat poofs right, And and listen when when when Remy did her bid, rain Joss tell me if I got this wrong, although I don't think I do. Remy gave pappoos a pass a whole yes, and rain Jobs tell me if I got that wrong. I don't think I got it wrong because she said it in a song before.

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Speaker 2: But Rain Joss tell me the comments Remy gave Pappoos a.

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Speaker 1: Pass and from my understanding, he never took advantage of it.

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Speaker 2: I think that's a conversation, but Rain Johnson got the wrong or not. So listen.

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Speaker 1: It's when I've watched the scene between Yany and DC. I haven't watched Love and Hip Hopolanta since the Christy and Jim Jones days and Mama Jones. No, no, they're not married yet, but but they're still together but not married. That scene between in DC and Yandy was very different in the sense of their chemistry that I saw years ago. I think, Claudia, you're right and dusn't you're right too.

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Speaker 4: In the sense of.

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Speaker 1: Some My opinion based on watching it is something is checked out, meaning it they both look exhausted, and my heart goes out to them being married.

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Speaker 2: It's not easy.

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Speaker 1: It's not easy, but there's some work that needs to be done if they want to salvage the man rich. Because I don't see chemistry between them anymore. You listen, and I'm gonna change the subject and go to the next topic. Say what you want about Kirki and Rashida. When you look at them today, they have chemistry. You could tell they like each other. Walk Kirki and Rashida when they're together, they act like best friends. They like each other, they're they're they like each other. Now, Grant, do they love each other? Sure, but that beloved ain't ain't ain't ain't enough. Kirk and Rashida like each other, and that's the difference that I saw watching this particular season. So, speaking of liking Dustin and Claudia, Mia b Lyon aka Mia Thornton, formerly of the Royal Housewives of Atomac, is in a relationship with Bobby Valentino.

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Speaker 2: Claudia, I have a legal note, Claudia.

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Speaker 7: Whatever you're gonna say, I think the jobs know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we thank you. Okay, so.

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Speaker 1: Wo shout out to Sunny hostage.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I loved Okay. Anyways, Claudia, be nice.

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Speaker 7: I'm gonna just speak with my eyes when you talk. Go ahead, tell a story.

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Speaker 2: Okay. So, Mia who was married to Gordon and was dating her first love for her high school sweetheart.

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Speaker 6: Name Ink.

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Speaker 1: The Ink dried up and Mia has moved on with Bobby Dalatino, their own.

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Speaker 2: They're on both together, they are dating, doing a lot of posting, and they're now together. So I would like to go with Dustin first so Claudia could get her mind right.

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Speaker 1: So when it comes to Mia dating Bobby Dallatino, Dustin, where you shocked?

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Speaker 2: Were you surprised? Is this on brand for Mia? What are your thoughts on this, on this budding relationship.

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Speaker 5: Well, of the three relationships that I've seen here have since we've been exposed to her life, they've all been shorter than her. So not only do mea be lying Mia b Duckan, you know what I'm saying, I think that's what I think. That's the new Moniker. You know what I'm saying that we have now. Also, they just doing what they're doing. They're just doing what they're doing. They in the discovery phase right now. You know what I'm saying. They just having a good time together. They just having a good time together, having fun on their boat.

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Speaker 4: And that's it.

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Speaker 5: Mia is doing what she did the last time in her relationship with Ink, making it seem like it's so much more intense and serious than what it is. And then in the next van she'll cite the fact that in the first picture she tagged of them, she said were just having fun. So she'll say, oh, I just said were just having fun and then put a thousand on twenty. As we move forward with all of this, Bobbie Valentino just happy to be there because this is good press for him for once. So you know, that's just what they're doing. But shout out to me. I hope she's having fun. I hope she's having a good time.

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Speaker 2: All right, So let's get off to loving match.

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Speaker 9: Bill smart Man, Hey, R Claudia, what are you.

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Speaker 3: Said? Legal? What what about Claudia? It's the legal note.

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Speaker 2: Listen, don't say anything disparaging.

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Speaker 7: Okay, oh everything so expressions and I think Dustin should translate for me.

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Speaker 10: Okay, he translates, Yeah, ok.

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Speaker 2: What do you have to say, sir?

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Speaker 3: We can't legal.

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Speaker 4: Blow down and boats? It is below deck?

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Speaker 7: This that below deck a loot banger. I don't know Titanic ship's going down.

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Speaker 1: This is reality with the King, and I'm Carlos King. Let's get back into the show.

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Speaker 3: You know what. I'm cool with Bobby lost of my song we want to video met him and Benzino.

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Speaker 5: An Anonymous one of my favorite songs. I love Anonymous by Bobby Valentino. That's my shit.

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Speaker 3: He makes dope music.

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Speaker 7: It's just this thing just came out of nowhere, and I just feel like it feels.

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Speaker 3: Like I don't know, I don't know mea like that. I just know that dustin a piggyback off of you.

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Speaker 7: I'm glad Bobby Valentino is getting some good press because he hasn't had a good press in a really long time. Like the last stories we've heard were, you know, running from people, owing money and stuff like that. And he does look they actually I kinda say this, thank you rain drops. They're like they cracking up. They do look really happy together. They do look happy together. I mean don't know what the nature is. I mean, I really happy with some on my best dies as well, you know what I'm saying. But they do look hap together. She's glowing, she got full on professional glam done. He's happy as hell. He's really not aging. So hey, if they love it, they.

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Speaker 3: Like it, then I love it. Oh bit, I love that.

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Speaker 7: For that, maybe they can get on the line of housewives or I don't know, loving hip hop or or zeus zeus Bobby, I love you, per That's all I have to say, right, Okay, Well that that that sums up shot topic.

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Speaker 2: So I do want to get into Columbia.

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Speaker 4: Do you like that?

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Speaker 2: Kwami dot pamo sweat and.

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Speaker 3: I got the sweat like me. I got Bobby Valentino sweat.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I working hard?

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Speaker 5: Me as tall, working hard. That's like doing an inkind press every time. You know what I'm saying? Every time?

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Speaker 3: How tall is Mia? I've never been around mat her.

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Speaker 2: I'm five nine. Don't shavee me? A'll me is taller than me? Don't do it?

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Speaker 7: Okay, see five said she's tall, So she's over. She's at least five nine?

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Speaker 2: Oh she me is like five ten, five eleven. Wow, Okay, me as tall? I met a person as me as a stallion, and Bobby is not.

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Speaker 3: So you're saying me is a stallion and Bobby's a Shetland pony. Me as a little pony, a Shetland pony, the little ones. Okay, so I said a little pony, my little pony. You think Bobby's good in bed? Do you guys get good, big big dick energy from him?

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Speaker 2: I don't look at him that way.

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Speaker 5: I have no I wouldn't even want to be looking at.

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 5: I did not, haven't given I'll tell you my celebrity crush offline. It's yeah, god, yeah, yeah, first initials, k.

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Speaker 4: Damn okay, that is.

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Speaker 3: The damn okay first initial okay?

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Speaker 4: Uh huh?

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Speaker 3: Well sport or.

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Speaker 2: With TV no script it.

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Speaker 4: First name? I know, I know exactly who it is.

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Speaker 2: Okay wait wait wait said.

00:28:40
Speaker 4: The first name is shorter in length than the last name.

00:28:42
Speaker 1: Right, Oh okay, like doctors really dispected to you?

00:28:48
Speaker 4: Hold on and.

00:28:52
Speaker 3: The kofe? He fine, I got a picture with him. He's fine. Kevin Hart? You like him? You do like him?

00:29:01
Speaker 4: Sure?

00:29:01
Speaker 3: Don't you?

00:29:03
Speaker 4: And you like to laugh? Is it? Kevin hurt?

00:29:06
Speaker 3: Kevin Rich, Pat Williams coffee brown with a k?

00:29:15
Speaker 6: Oh?

00:29:16
Speaker 4: Okay?

00:29:16
Speaker 7: Okay, okay, Why am I not in this?

00:29:23
Speaker 2: Don't say skitty?

00:29:24
Speaker 7: You know listen, you have something, you have something that Why am I not getting the message?

00:29:33
Speaker 4: Where?

00:29:34
Speaker 3: Oh be fine, that's got your usual type.

00:29:38
Speaker 2: You said, what I know, I'm trying something new.

00:29:41
Speaker 4: He's fine.

00:29:42
Speaker 3: I would definitely first the ball. Wait wait, wait, first of the ball.

00:29:46
Speaker 5: Wait wait wait, do y'all think I am you look taller in person? Oh, Carlos, you look taller than your professed type in person?

00:29:57
Speaker 2: Yeah?

00:29:57
Speaker 3: They say, Bobby is five three that's what Google says.

00:30:00
Speaker 1: Okay, anyways, I want to move on Bobby, Miss Juicy eighty five three?

00:30:06
Speaker 3: Bobby, what do y'all tell you think? How all do you think?

00:30:11
Speaker 2: Is I think dust in five six?

00:30:14
Speaker 3: Absolutely not.

00:30:16
Speaker 7: I'm leg no actually one thousand sent No.

00:30:23
Speaker 4: I can't even talk. Claudia, you're five what seven?

00:30:28
Speaker 3: I'm a legit five seven and a half. Bobby vent is about five three, five four?

00:30:33
Speaker 4: Thank you five.

00:30:35
Speaker 1: I've met calls in person. He's definitely not short, Thank you, Carlos. But Bobby Valentino word, he's not. Let they say five three is wild? Okay, you can make up for another area. So we want to get into Saturday's episode eleven, marriage himes Belle. Before I bring on my guests, Miss now to join us, I want to talk about the episode in general. A lot happens episode. So the biggest thing though, the biggest thing back that was episode on Saturday.

00:31:15
Speaker 2: So one of the things.

00:31:21
Speaker 7: We did look at colors sweating. Are you crying the sweating? It's sweating?

00:31:25
Speaker 2: Huh we got the sweat crying. I'm crying crying?

00:31:27
Speaker 4: Are you okay? I'm sad?

00:31:35
Speaker 3: Okay? Uh wait, what's up doing Atlanta side of y'all have fun? Did y'all hang out after the gold Drink and.

00:31:41
Speaker 4: Hang out went to V twelve Saturday Night.

00:31:44
Speaker 5: Shout out to Vinnie Watson and his incredible restaurant that he ow was with Kwavo from the Migos.

00:31:49
Speaker 4: We partied in V twelve Saturday Night.

00:31:50
Speaker 5: Cynthia Bailey, you know what I'm saying, Nick Roses, Yeah.

00:31:55
Speaker 4: Yep, yes.

00:31:58
Speaker 1: So what did you guys think about the I do want to talk to more to that. Let's get into the conversation that happened in this episode A love in Marriage Huntsville. One of the things that happens episode was Miss Nell met with her son Lance. First of all, I got so many texts over the weekend about how fine Nel's son Lance is so.

00:32:28
Speaker 2: Lance is Nell's son.

00:32:30
Speaker 1: He used to hang out with Destiny.

00:32:35
Speaker 2: They hung out on the show last season.

00:32:39
Speaker 1: Lance had a baby recently, and Miss Nell in this episode propositioned to her son that she will stay over his house at least two nights a week to help.

00:32:54
Speaker 2: Him with this new baby. Lance has I believe one or two two children.

00:33:00
Speaker 1: Miss miss Nell will correct me if I'm wrong, But Miss Nell wants to help out her her son. Her husband, Chris Fletcher, does not like the idea of his wife being gone two nights a week. What are your thoughts on that, Claudia, could you handle as let's say you were somebody who had a baby, would you be able to be okay with your mother coming over twice a week leaving her husband to help you with the baby?

00:33:32
Speaker 7: Well, I mean he's feeling like he needs help, right, Like I remember saying, he was saying, he feels like it's a lot of it is on him, Like why is the mom not doing enough? If I'm not doing nothing, Yeah, your mom will come over to help, but it's probably very intrusive.

00:33:50
Speaker 3: What's the relationship relationship with the mom though?

00:33:54
Speaker 1: Well, the mother, the child's mother and Lance. There is some legal stuff going on there that we're not allowed to touch. But for the sake of this conversation, they're not in a relationship and they're not together.

00:34:09
Speaker 3: Oh them, No, then there should be no problem with that. They're not together. He needs help. I don't see anything wrong with that. I actually think I actually.

00:34:17
Speaker 7: Was Women do it all the time. If they need help with the baby, they have their mom come help out. And I think that's the blessing of having grandparents or having your parents still around, is to have them help out.

00:34:31
Speaker 3: I think that I would welcome that.

00:34:34
Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree with Claudia one hundred percent.

00:34:36
Speaker 5: And I think as black people, we need to stop this idea that our kids have to do everything the hard way. If you have a child that is working hard and showing up and doing their part, there's nothing wrong with giving them help to get them further along. If right shout out to this comment or Sandy Always Real thirty eight eighty nine, it takes a village. And if Neil is able and more most importantly willing to help her son with her grand baby, then what's the issue?

00:35:05
Speaker 4: And I think that we keep seeing this theme.

00:35:09
Speaker 5: Echoing when it comes to the Fletchers of we're helping, we're helping with help, we're helping, we're helping. But what's wrong with helping if you're willing to and if you've got it. I think a lot of this is I think a lot of this is being played against the commentary from the fans. People have strong feelings about nepotism and about people helping their kids out financially and stuff, and I think it's time out for that. We need to start helping our kids out more. We need to start pushing our kids forward and doing what we can when we can. If we have our work and responsible children that will appreciate the help, we should do that.

00:35:45
Speaker 4: So I just you know, that's how I feel about it.

00:35:48
Speaker 3: Does full company or you shared costody with the mom?

00:35:52
Speaker 5: I don't know what's going on, but because a lot of my questions were going to be about the mother of the baby, but Carlos is saying that there was a legal angle on that that you know, we're avoiding basically a week and.

00:36:05
Speaker 1: You guys, yeah, miss Nell, miss Nell will be able to tell us what she's able to tell us. But based on what the show is showcasing, the mother is in the picture, she's she's in the picture, but in the picture of the TV show. Yeah, And that's just the basis of it. But in terms of whether or not he has s full custody, I do think we could ask.

00:36:32
Speaker 7: Him to know that when she can say yes, I will say this now what I would probably thought I was when I had, you know, a lot of responsibilities on me to work and take care of my baby and my mom wants to come over there and help, but I know my mother is still married and you know, she has responsibilities at home.

00:36:48
Speaker 3: Maybe kind of meet halfway.

00:36:49
Speaker 7: Maybe bringing the baby to the grandma's house to leave her marriage and put a strain over there at her house. I think that's probably what would probably make it more palatable for I mean, who are we with a viewers, but personally, let me drop the baby off instead of like making her leave her house and spend the night or stay with me all the time, because then that can kind of cause some friction.

00:37:10
Speaker 3: Over there at the house, unless you know mister flex wants to time off.

00:37:14
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, no, listen, it's a tough situation. What I will say is this, I agree with the both of you.

00:37:22
Speaker 1: I think if you are blessed enough to have a living mother who did an amazing job raising you. I think if your mother is offering her help voluntarily, that showcases to me what an amazing mom and grandmother you have. And I say take advantage of it, because what you don't want to happen is some scenarios is the wrong person raising your child. I mean, not raising the wrong person babysitting your child. You know, we do live in a world where, like Dustin said, people do feel like, oh, let me have my kid rich I agree to a certain extent, like have them learn on the job, but not to the point where they are visibly struggling, to the point where they're making.

00:38:10
Speaker 2: Bad decisions, because you are super hands off.

00:38:13
Speaker 1: And in my opinion, I think what miss Nell offered to me it is beautiful and one thing that I do want to bring up that a lot of people may not connect the dots. Miss Nell owns and operates a daycare center. So her livelihood for many, many, many, many many many years is taking care of other people's children. So if that's her nine to five, five to nine, and do it all over again, why wouldn't she volunteer to take care of her grandchild, who is somebody that has the same blood running through their veins.

00:38:54
Speaker 2: If she can do it for the people her client tele I personally think is a beautiful thing.

00:39:01
Speaker 5: That's exactly why she can't do it, because she got to listen to them holland ass babies all day at the daycare. She don't want to hear all that Greg Lynn and spitting up and shitting up the back of the diaper, She don't want to deal with all that one so when she leaves that ship at the daycare, she don't want to deal with that no more. Chris don't want to deal with new having an attitude from dealing with them Holland ass babies all day and now all night with this nigga. So you know what I'm saying, that's probably like Chris like, hold on, harpo, we don't need to do this this way.

00:39:28
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. That might be why, But I think we'll find that she helps him though I do.

00:39:34
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and I think two days a week is not bad. I think she would think she's moving in or no shade miss Nell. Worst case if miss Nell said, how about you two moving with me? Yeah, I think that is when things would be more of an issue. And Chris Fletcher like dust instead of You're like my Look, we raise our kids and I ain't trying to start over, know seeing you take care of another, you know baby, So I agree with that.

00:40:05
Speaker 2: Claudia will be back on. She did not get kicked out of the group. She has not.

00:40:11
Speaker 1: Ran away from her luggage, We did not send her phone. She is not kicked out of the group.

00:40:16
Speaker 4: She is a family member.

00:40:21
Speaker 1: We will make sure she's back on okay, So Dustin one of the things that happened in this episode.

00:40:28
Speaker 4: Mm hmm.

00:40:29
Speaker 1: That has some to talk of social media since the preview was posted on Friday. If the inevitable sit down between Miss Neil and Dustin, I'll do the honors of saying her name the way Miss Neil, cass t Shie.

00:40:47
Speaker 4: Scott.

00:40:49
Speaker 11: Scott and Scott Scott Scott and Lettist Scott. I'm asking Lettist Scott. Yeah, that's her name, Scott. That's right, full name, baby. Mm hmmm, that's her name.

00:41:10
Speaker 5: She does it every time. Every time she brings her up, she says her full name, and I die every time.

00:41:16
Speaker 6: Scott.

00:41:16
Speaker 4: I'm happy to sit down with Tricia today because Scott, she's not Scott. Every time. I love it. I love it.

00:41:32
Speaker 7: I have an appointment to up my gee's and it's so frustrating. We all laughing at my Wi Fi while.

00:41:37
Speaker 2: No, no, no good, no, no, no, you just came. You just came on right in time.

00:41:43
Speaker 1: We're gonna talk about this scene between Latitia, Scott and Miss Nell where they said down and had a one on one at a coffee shop that Tisha works out part time because her husband Marceau has not built her office just yet.

00:41:59
Speaker 2: Okay, soh as we all know in last week, Hey Marceau. In last week's episode.

00:42:05
Speaker 1: Well the start of the season, Nell's husband, Chris Fletcher, made a comment that rubbed the Scott's the wrong way. He talked about NDA's and he said that he does not have people sign DA's. That that sounds like some shit the Scotts would do, okay, implying that to Marcel and Maurice. The wives Kimmy and Tsha did I like it and they confronted. Well, Tisha and her Hennessy confronted Chris about.

00:42:39
Speaker 2: It at Tricia's event, Hey Tisha Scott. So at this event, Tisha decided to confront.

00:42:48
Speaker 1: Chris and and inquire about, why are you talking about my husband this way in the sense that having NDAs is something they would do. Now, one thing I know about producing Love and Matriter Tumpsmith for all these years is you do not talk to another woman's husband.

00:43:08
Speaker 2: I've learned that.

00:43:09
Speaker 6: I know.

00:43:10
Speaker 2: That's a big numb noe. Miss Nell decided to push.

00:43:14
Speaker 1: Chris back and step in front until Tsha Scott don't talk to my husband, talk to me. And that's when they had their little one two one two. So this sit down was an opportunity for Nell and Tisha to address it. Unfortunately it did not go that way. Dustin, what were your thoughts on the sit down between Nell and Tisha?

00:43:38
Speaker 4: It was doomed from the start.

00:43:39
Speaker 5: I knew Latitia Scott was ready for war when she put up in the ford instead of the Bends. Normally she'd be driving that Benz truck that they got. She got, they got several nice cars, sports cars, the Bends with the suicide doors, all that shit. When she put up in a ford, I knew Latitia came to get busy. Okay, part right in the front might even been handicapped. She parked right up in the front and pulled up and got to work. Latitia Scott is very comfortable anchoring this cast as a season one, episode one founding member, right, and you can tell because we get to see a totally different, more and much more confident whether you agree with her opinions and stances or not. She's very blatant and honest and upfront with them at this point, and so she came with a level of clarity and a level of intention that it was just bound to be a volcanic eruption of arguing when they said down together, because miss nell was on the exact same shit. I don't think they ever really liked each other ever. I think that they tried to get to know each other and form some sort of cordial working relationship. But when they were at that table, they both was like, all right, now we can finally fucking argue.

00:44:50
Speaker 4: Let's get it on. And that's what we saw at that table. That's literally what that was.

00:44:54
Speaker 5: So much so that Letitia was determined to remain in control of the dialogue and remain in the driver's.

00:45:00
Speaker 4: Sept so she got up and left. Once she saw that miss Nelle was really on that, she left.

00:45:05
Speaker 5: And so I don't know how they can get to a place where they can talk things out because they're both mad as hell right now, well at least at the time of filming.

00:45:13
Speaker 4: So that's what I thought it was.

00:45:15
Speaker 5: I understood it to I anticipated it rather going down exactly how it went.

00:45:23
Speaker 7: You know, when you like aingraly feeling someone for a while and then something happened to oh here this is my time, this is my kind of like getting that ass for all the stuff that happened like last year or the year before and whenever, we're going to get it all up right now now that it was right to step in front of her husband and to make it woman a woman, But I probably would have probably would have had more success to talk to both of them because he's the one that had You have the issue with what he said about the NBA is the wife didn't say it right, you know, it's the fledger said it. So that's really maybe it's like, hey, you can maybe have addressed it like no disrespect. I want to talk to you and your husband together that I want to talk to your husband behind your back, because that's what we're trying to avoid, right, being disrespectful, having sidebars with people's husbands. Okay, like they do want housewives. But anyways, I think that you know, that was the right She had the right intention starting off. But it just that energy, the energy was there, and you know, when you have the cameras on you, it ain't feeling as broad each other. It ain't gonna end peacefully. You're not gonna get it resolved. You're gonna get an eye checked her or she you didn't check me. It's more about that, It's more about the egos. But again started off right with with like, you know you're gonna talk to me and not my husband. But it needed to be with both of them and maybe would have been calmer.

00:46:32
Speaker 3: Maybe do you think Carlos would have been calmer if well, no, I think.

00:46:35
Speaker 1: I think it's what you two are saying. I think at the end of the day now is still really from the fact that she feels that Tea should disrespected her husband and right by approaching my husband, right, my man, my man, my man.

00:46:52
Speaker 7: Right.

00:46:53
Speaker 2: So that's the energy Nail, in my opinion, had coming in, like you.

00:46:57
Speaker 1: Dispect my husband, and and because you just you disrespect my husband, you disrespected me.

00:47:03
Speaker 2: Right.

00:47:04
Speaker 1: Teacher's coming in feeling like Chris Fletcher disrespected her marriage by telling the world that nda sounds like something that her husband would do.

00:47:14
Speaker 7: Right.

00:47:15
Speaker 1: So in this conversation, a lot of it, like you two pointed out, had to deal with a couple of years of issues when Marcel in Atlanta and there were allegations Marcell was cheating on Teach in Atlanta, Marcel told t in the parking lot, I was there with a friend.

00:47:32
Speaker 2: That friend was Chris Fletcher.

00:47:35
Speaker 1: And then that's when Chris Fletcher said, I was with Marcell but not for a long period of time. We had one meeting and that's when Nel was like your girl, he was with me. We went to the Piccadilly or Home Depot or KFC. I forgot what it was, but it's never Yeah, okay, got the two plus two.

00:47:56
Speaker 2: So the thing is to me, you too, our writing sense up.

00:48:01
Speaker 1: They both came in with that energy rightfully so rightfully so, but it obviously did not go as planned. So without further ado, let's bring on the one we're talking about rain drops. Give it up for the beautiful, the amazing. Her WiFi is better than claudiaus.

00:48:23
Speaker 2: Tonight about it? Give it up y'all for miss nol Fletcher.

00:48:33
Speaker 6: Hello, how y'all doing?

00:48:37
Speaker 3: Hey, welcome? Thank you?

00:48:40
Speaker 1: Okay, So, miss, now, before we get into your storyline this season, we had a segment topic and I want to ask you this.

00:48:49
Speaker 2: You've been very open this season. I'm not this season.

00:48:52
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, you've been very open about something. He'll but ask right when it came to your marriage and the infidelity experience in your marriage, right. On the recent episode of Love the hip Hopaganta, a couple named Yandy and men DC had a conversation and Yandy, the wife, admitted to her husband that she had an emotional affair with another man. So, miss now, I want to ask you this, what is worse in your opinion, the physical affair or an emotional affair?

00:49:31
Speaker 6: Can you hear me?

00:49:32
Speaker 4: You got a fan on her something?

00:49:34
Speaker 2: Neil, Yep, it's.

00:49:38
Speaker 3: Got that on high.

00:49:41
Speaker 6: Give me sick.

00:49:43
Speaker 3: Got the Angelo Oakly fans over there? Way better? Sorry about that.

00:49:52
Speaker 6: I apologize again.

00:49:56
Speaker 1: Yes you could have heard of a wind miss Nell as a married woman men who experienced in fidelity years ago. I do want to ask you what do you think is worse an emotional affair or a physical affair?

00:50:11
Speaker 6: Hmmm, I don't know. They're both terrible with emotional women are very emotional physical Now now you're touching, so I don't like neither one. I would have to say that either one. It's you're kind of putting your marriage in a funky space to even trying to make it work or get back together, especially as a woman, because we are emotional, oh, very emotional creature.

00:51:07
Speaker 3: When you say that, you mean like, do you think it's more meaningful?

00:51:10
Speaker 7: Like I was telling the Fellas earlier, I think women we fall in love with what we hear, and like when we're on the phone listening to your voice and it's like it's it's like, it's not it's less based on looks for us, right, or physicalities. Right, of course, nobody wants to imagine the thought of their man, you know, being intimate with another women. But it's even the fact that you love her, where you care about this person, like you you really like that.

00:51:34
Speaker 6: It's the emotional is actually, Claudia, emotional to me is worse than physical.

00:51:43
Speaker 4: Mm hmm, Okay.

00:51:45
Speaker 3: I know it's hard to pick on, right because you're like, yeah.

00:51:47
Speaker 6: Suck, Yeah, the bow suck. But emotional there's there's feelings involved.

00:51:54
Speaker 4: That's it that can linger on and turn into a longer connection.

00:52:00
Speaker 3: Exactly like longing for the person. You're thinking about them when you're with me and all that.

00:52:05
Speaker 7: And it's hard to come back from Yeah yeah, yeah, but they both suck and they both weren't ask right.

00:52:12
Speaker 6: I wouldn't recommend neither one, of course. You know, physical you touch me and sometime with them is why I'm bound thank you, ma'am. And and they're good and can move on. But if they are emotionally attached to another woman outside of yourself, then that's hard. That's that's a hard feel to swallow. So I would have to say emotional.

00:52:36
Speaker 7: No.

00:52:36
Speaker 2: I I definitely agree with that too.

00:52:39
Speaker 1: So the biggest topic tonight, Miss Now, has a lot to do with you volunteering to stay at your son, Lancen's home for two days to help.

00:52:50
Speaker 2: Him with his newborn baby.

00:52:51
Speaker 1: There's a lot of questions and commentary about this, and I would love for you to address as much as you can, understanding that when it comes to the mother of this child, you know, we want to be able to leave that alone in her privacy. So but as much as you can, can you explain to us just for the records, that we're able to move on with the question. We know that we know that Lance has been married twice.

00:53:17
Speaker 2: Correct, that's correct?

00:53:18
Speaker 1: Okay, So Lance has been married twice. And how many children does Lance have?

00:53:23
Speaker 6: Lance has three beautiful children.

00:53:24
Speaker 2: Three beautiful children. Okay, So when it comes to.

00:53:30
Speaker 1: Your volunteering to help out Lance, explain to us where that comes from. If a lot of people, Miss Now I'm sure you've read the comments. They feel like your son has grown. He had two wives.

00:53:44
Speaker 2: He he if he can, if he can lay down and make one, he should be able to stand up and take care of them on his own without you. How do you feel about that?

00:53:54
Speaker 6: Actually, to a certain extent, I agree with them. Most of the time. Everyone hears me going in on all of my children. With Lance. Let me say this first. He's a hard worker, and that's why I agree to help him. Lance will work from sun up to sundown. Lance is the person that I have to say, hey, Lance, go home, Lance, clock out. Lance. You just can't leave the job and then go fall asleep or get up the next morning and try to do quotes and be back on the job at seven o'clock in the morning. Let's make sure his kids get to school. For two of his kids, he actually have joint custody with the one he has. Now he has temporarily for custody. We're not sure how long it's gonna stay that way. That's the most I can say about that. We have to go back to court here real soon.

00:55:00
Speaker 3: But Lance is a.

00:55:06
Speaker 6: Hands on death. He's very much hands on, And the reason why I said I would go to his house is because if you heard him, he was at my house and correct, Lance has his own home. Lance's owned his own home for about what eight ten years now when he first got his small child. He came here because I'm on the safety plan as well. So I am I'm so involved because I have been placed on the safety plan. He was here in one of the guest rooms. The reason why volunteer to go to his house is he he will get up in the morning and it kind of remind me of when he was a teenager back at home. It's like, oh no, hell, wait a minute, now, we gotta closed doors around here.

00:56:08
Speaker 2: As beginning in now, y'all ain't even.

00:56:11
Speaker 6: Sometime about getting it in. I mean, if you if you used to sleeping with your.

00:56:16
Speaker 4: Ass out, yeah, talk about it. Yeah, you know, get hot and I don't, Yes, I throw it out. Might just want to be laid up. You know what I'm saying. I get it. I get it this a lot.

00:56:30
Speaker 6: Yeah, I forget they hear, you know, because he will keep his baby all night in the room you know, houses being let me say that, so he'll be on the outside of the house. So I'm forgetting that he's here, and he'll just come in boomomo, and I'm like, oh ship, let me try to, you know, throw something back, and it's like this ain't working. Then he want to come in and like hey, y'all this and y'all good, oh dad, and just come right in, Hey mammy, give me the baby. He already got them and got dressed for work. And I'm like, won't wait a minute, you know, Fletcher like good morning Sun, Like okay. So that's why I thought I was doing Fletcher fav work when I agree to say I just go to his house two days, maybe three out of the week so Fletcher can have a break. Hell, I guess he didn't like that, but I was just trying to help out. Because he come in, like I said, hand me the baby. He's already ready to get ready to go out the door. He's talking to his dad about work or some quotes or contracts he has to do, or want his dad to meet him out somewhere on one of the job sites. And I'm like, you know what, it's too early for me to be talking about this, or I just can't come to my room like this. I'm not used to him just being at the house. So maybe I'll go to his house and let me be a person that gets up and put my damn clothes on and go out the door and leave, and I don't have to worry about him just coming in dropping the baby on me early he gets to go out the door.

00:58:13
Speaker 7: That that makes a lot more sense, like what you're saying, because without your explanation, it could seem like you're babying him.

00:58:20
Speaker 3: You're doing too much, you know what I mean.

00:58:21
Speaker 7: And now you citing the fact that he, you know, the the care that he has with the other two kids, and then having temporary full county of this one. Clearly he's not a bad dad. Clearly that means he's a really good dad. And the fact that you see your son working so hard, he's a heart. The fact I love that you said hard worker and you want to give him a break and then you go into his house is more to keep your house peaceful and your comfortability in your house. That makes total sense, Like, Nah, you ain't about to have me having to put down clothes and I'm home and I want to be butt making my man with the fan on right like out Morio house. And but does it feel but well me, Now, do you feel like you bet up on than you can shoot or are you cool with itself?

00:59:05
Speaker 6: I kind of I'm cool with it, but I would be lying if I sit here and said, oh, I didn't bite off more than I should have been. With everything I have going on right now, it is a lot, but I'm willing to do it. I signed up to do it, and I'm gonna do it. That's what you know. Grandma's support, which I think I'm a grandmom. So I'm gonna hang in there and I'm gonna see him through it. Like I said, I signed up for it. I told my husband what was going on, and like he said, sure, you know that's all Grundschild. We're not gonna have her anywhere.

00:59:47
Speaker 4: Else, so right, So that's so what you're saying is Tick.

00:59:53
Speaker 6: Care center and the baby beat somewhere else but in the custody of us.

00:59:58
Speaker 5: So what you're saying is Destiny. So Chris over there taking care of them or Lance, excuse me, taking care of them kids? Good, getting up, going to work every damn day, holding it down. She said, that's a good man, Savannah. That's why Destiny wanted some of that, ain't it. That's what you're saying. She saw his work ethic kind of man he was, and that's why Destiny was like, sign me up. It makes more sense. See, that's why we needed to have this conversation. We getting light shed on everything tonight.

01:00:23
Speaker 6: Now we don't Yeah, well Lance said Desney wants to build a man, so I don't know.

01:00:28
Speaker 4: Oh oh.

01:00:35
Speaker 6: Hey, that's he is still my friend. That's the hard part that I did not want them to get involved to begin with, because when things like this happened and it doesn't work out, I'm in the middle. I'm sad with Din and then I gotta hear her side, I gotta hear his side, and.

01:00:55
Speaker 5: It's like, you know what, this is Angel Godson's side too, right, Oh.

01:01:05
Speaker 4: You know what doesn't a lot of sides. It's a lot of sides.

01:01:09
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm just getting I'm just getting hit and blows from every direction right now, and I'm trying to like hear everybody out.

01:01:17
Speaker 3: And it's over women, really, it's all.

01:01:20
Speaker 6: It's it's a lot people.

01:01:22
Speaker 7: Want to tell everybody just like you don't want to hear it. Just keep me out of it, working out amongst yourselves. I don't want to be the person the founding board for everybody in the middle.

01:01:29
Speaker 6: You know what, Claudia, That's where I'm about it with this ship. I'm like, you know what, I'm tapped out. Fuck it like y'all do what y'all want to do. You're damn grown. You're gonna do what you want to do anyway. You don't damn listen. But every time I said that, I'm crazy as hell, mis now crazy. I'm over the top, I'm loud. I don't listen, No, I listen. I'm tired of they bullshit. This is what I was talking about when I said I didn't need therapy. They ass needed therapy. You know, I'm doing my own business. They want to have all the interests and then they bring it to me and then it gets dropped off on me and I got to listen to all the ship I'm good.

01:02:12
Speaker 1: Well, well, you seem to be good now, but you weren't good when what's the name, Dustin latist Scott?

01:02:20
Speaker 4: You say her whole name every time.

01:02:22
Speaker 5: That's how I knew she had pitched you off like that, because when you're getting them interviews looking beautiful with all your ship on. You know what, I'm saying you sit up there and lettist Scott and see I said down and Lettista Scott said that's all I knew.

01:02:35
Speaker 4: I said, name she hot. We love it, love it.

01:02:42
Speaker 2: You know it's good. It's good, it's good.

01:02:44
Speaker 1: So I want to take you back to the moment where you know, this season it did start off with you seeing that Laticia Scott and Marcel, Kimmy and Maurice they did have issue with your husband making the comment that NDA seems to be like something that their husbands would do, Marcel and Maurice and not necessarily him, and that Tisha was not happy with that comment. I do want to ask you this, Do you understand where they're coming from? Or were you more upset with the fact that t Sha addressed your husband and base what I'm learning about marriage, when a wife has an issue with the husband, the wife should address the white.

01:03:30
Speaker 2: Was that your issue or both?

01:03:32
Speaker 6: Well, actually, let me say this, I understood exactly where they were coming from. I even said to him, what the fuck? Like, Okay, that's the part where when you do not know what you're doing, and you knew with this and you let somebody kind of sidetrack you into catching yourself up in something I can't say, but the conversation that was being had at that time, Yeah, yeah, he didn't. He didn't do a good job in in that conversation in handling his words, and uh, with a pro that he was sitting back with that know how to handle her words.

01:04:24
Speaker 2: So he hooked hisself, honestly.

01:04:28
Speaker 6: But with that said, I'm the one that actually said to Letitia, you can go say something to him, because I cannot really say exactly what what made him say that or what was his motive of saying that. I cannot. I'm not him. Basically, he's if I feel like something is wrong and it's bothering her, then it needs to be addressed. What I did not expect was hard to go over there and just run straight in and go in straight attack mode. And I was trying to hurry up and get over there and like whoa, whoa, no you get get At that point I had changed my mind, like no, get your get your ass, get on back over there, because I did not think she was gonna go over there and go in on him like that. I thought she was gonna go over there and maybe say, hey, Chris, can I talk to you? For a moment. The new guys had already talked, so I thought she was gonna pull him to the side and talk to him or some of that nature. But when I seen her going straight up in his face and hand out, I stepped in and I was like, no, we're not gonna do this, this, this. I didn't expect her to do that.

01:05:52
Speaker 7: So you're okay with having a conversation because you're the one that needed to tell her, like, go ahead and go talk to him, But you didn't, like she said, came in on ten and she need to come in at like a six five.

01:06:00
Speaker 3: She was came in too hot, a little too hot.

01:06:03
Speaker 6: Yeah, she came in very hot, came in very hot. And that's what I did not like.

01:06:08
Speaker 2: But I did.

01:06:09
Speaker 6: I did tell her she could go talk to him. Yeah, I did do that.

01:06:14
Speaker 1: So what what Claudian doesn't picked up on the energy that you both had and your one on one sit down. So when you sat down with her, what was going on where the two of you just did not appear to come to an agreement just based on halving the conversation the first place you brought up the fact that, look, I'm trying to explain to you where all of this came from the Atlanta trip your husband saying that my husband's with him.

01:06:49
Speaker 2: Would you like to clear that up to since you weren't able.

01:06:52
Speaker 1: To get it out if the one on one is now, Yes, Actually what happened was Mar.

01:06:59
Speaker 6: So this was like two years ago. Mars and Fletcher met up in Atlanta, and I was there as well. And I know I was there because I was having the girls done and a lot. We don't like to talk about that type ship, but that doesn't bother me. It is what it is. If I was not there, I would tell you I wasn't there, But I was there. I have receipts showing that I was there. I actually was in our airbnb. Fletcher went out to meet with Mars because Marshall was considering putting a black restaurant in Atlanta, so they went to look at some land and then from there they went out to eat and want to Atlanta Fish Market one of our favorite places, and you know there's two yes, So they went there to eat and everything, and from there Fletcher came back to the Airbnb because he was taking care of me, so I knew I knew where he was. He wasn't even going that long, maybe what two hours talks when Marcel when it aired, and Marshall said, Letitia questioned him, and he paused for a very long time, and then he said, I was with a friend and the suspense of everybody wanting to know, and he says, Chris Fletcher, It's like, what the hell now you look guilty. You make your Fletcher look guilty. The damn phone over here is ringing off the hook, like, what's going on in your household? Did you know your husband was in that. I was there with him. Come down. I'm wrapped up and ship right now. So it's it's it's good, We're good. So for her to bring me up and bring this up and say that my husband keeps putting her husband's name in his mouth, and I was like, no, Mars started all this shit two years ago. He started this. Now, did Fletcher add on to the fire, Yes, with the damn NDA shit he did, you know, I will admit that, but do not make it seem like it's Fletcher Fletcher, Fletcher Fletcher, And that's not true. Marceau has a hand in this shit too, And that's why I was trying to explain to her, and if it was just she was coming at me, I was coming at her. She didn't really want to hear what I had to say. At that point I had to tapped out because I can't hear. We were talking over each other at that point. She was trying to say, well she wanted to say. I was trying to get out what I was trying to say. But I know that she was heated with me, and at that moment, I was heated with her because she had at that point she did had get him. She got in my husband's face, and I didn't expect it to go that way.

01:09:53
Speaker 4: So let's talk about the transparency piecements now.

01:09:56
Speaker 5: I think a lot of people would love for you to clarify exactly the way it means. What you mean when you say that Letitia and Kimmy as well have been less than transparent in their expressions of what's going on in their lives. What is it that you what areas or what things do you feel like they could be more transparent about and in what ways could they be more transparent about those things?

01:10:20
Speaker 6: Okay, for Kimmy to make the statement, you think we don't want to talk about our husband's gene kill. Nobody does. I don't, but I'm not. If it's known and it's out there, of course I'm not gonna sit in the line. I'm not telling them to confront Center about something they say they don't know. Okay, I'm good, you don't have to. What I'm saying is, do not always come to me asking me about my family, what's going on in my family, my husband, my children, my grandchildren. It's always what, hey, now we heard this, or no, you knew about your grand baby or your husband did this. But then when it comes to your husband or your spouse, Uh, what you think or I'm not talking about that, or we're not talking about that. That's not being transparent. Stay the hell out of my business. If your business is off for the table.

01:11:21
Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

01:11:22
Speaker 6: I'm sorry. I say that again, Claudia.

01:11:24
Speaker 7: I was.

01:11:24
Speaker 3: They're the thing that that happens a lot though.

01:11:26
Speaker 7: You know, like everybody want to be in each other's business, but nobody wants to be fully parent and until they're own. But that's kind of like what almost all the reality shows are giving a lot of times. That's why when someone comes along like yourself, that's pretty transparent.

01:11:40
Speaker 3: People rock with that.

01:11:40
Speaker 7: They like that because a lot of people, how are you gonna sign up for a reality show and then you can't talk about things and then you get mad when people go and ask you your question.

01:11:48
Speaker 3: So you know, keep doing what you do.

01:11:51
Speaker 7: That's why they rock with you. But I get the hypocrisy of it all. It's actually annoying right like it is.

01:11:58
Speaker 6: Because I get uh like shut down if I ask a question about them or something of if they're going on, not necessarily in their household that's wrong terminology, but something that's they're dealing with, or something that's been said out in the streets or in you know, social media. If I say something, it's quick to when not talking about that. Even Latcha said at the last episode, and I said, well, you always talk about my family in in my kids, and we do and we will. M okay, then keep that ship across the board. Let's talk about your shit too, That's all I'm saying.

01:12:47
Speaker 1: One of the things that people said miss Now they feel like when it comes to Tisha Marceau that since day one of them being on the show, they have been transparent. People feel like Tsha has addressed people saying her husband had twenty women. They said, Tisha has showed you, guys, her family, Miss Wanda, her uncles and aunties, cousins and all that.

01:13:12
Speaker 2: They feel like Tisha has shown you her issues with the girls. Some people do feel like Tisha has.

01:13:19
Speaker 1: Been transparent and they don't understand why you feel like she hasn't.

01:13:23
Speaker 2: Can you can you touch on that?

01:13:26
Speaker 6: Well? For me, you can't please everybody. Everybody's gonna like who they like, say, depend who they're gonna defend, whether it's Tisha or whether it's me. Hell, they know what the hell real transparent is. Hell, I can show my damn family all them day long. I'm doing that now. And if my mother was alive, I would show her too, So you know it is what it is because I've been coming at about that too. So look, it just seels what it is. Everybody's gonna just decide what they figure, who they're gonna rock with, who they're not gonna rock with, what they like, what transparent is to them, and what transparent is not. So that their definition of transparent, that's them. That's that's their opinion. They have a way to feel the way they feel. I have a way to feel. I can feel the way I feel.

01:14:08
Speaker 7: Miss Now, Can I ask you if you want to put if you care to put a name on it, who's probably the worst at shutting you down? Because I feel a lot of people in the comments responding to you saying you feel shut down, They're like, don't let it happen, like they rock. They don't want you to like feel shut down. So is there one person that she would say of or in particular that does that? Does that the most to you that you feel like is closed? You said closed, and they try to shut or try to shut you down and doesn't want to like give up their information.

01:14:38
Speaker 6: Let sha is the one I argue with the most lat is.

01:14:42
Speaker 3: The one argu the go ahead and say that full name for us?

01:14:48
Speaker 6: As far as Nick Jimmy, we we really don't have nothing. That's there's nothing, miss Now.

01:14:58
Speaker 2: Who do you feel like is the least transparent person on the cast?

01:15:04
Speaker 4: Oh, there's that many to choose from.

01:15:09
Speaker 6: No, you said, I would have to say, well, see I do. I know she had a cancel issue, but.

01:15:24
Speaker 3: That's what I said.

01:15:25
Speaker 6: People identify transparency as different.

01:15:31
Speaker 2: But but I want to I want to ask you about that. So you feel like Kimmy is the least transparent person on the show. Tell me why you feel that way?

01:15:41
Speaker 6: You know what, I don't know. Maybe it's Destiny. Well, I'm trying to think, like when you're talking to the I really don't talk to Kimmy. H. I talked to Destiny, but I know there's a lot she says she can't talk about too. M hm, Trish, just less it all, damn hang out there. So I don't know. Me and Leticia, hey, ide is what it is? It would have to be Destiny okami for me between those two.

01:16:24
Speaker 4: So I have a question for you, miss Nel.

01:16:27
Speaker 5: Part of what fans loved the most about you and Chris's contribution to this cast was your beautiful family.

01:16:33
Speaker 4: Right.

01:16:33
Speaker 5: We were really introduced to you all and seeing the relationships and the complexities of the relationships between you and your adult children, and we were fascinated at seeing that. And one of the most memorable scenes that was you all were really vulnerable and brave to share, was when you all were sitting around that dining that dinner table and having a family conversation and things kind of got heated between your daughter Lexi and the rest of your family. And we know that there's been some some videos made where Lexi kind of shared and expressed her feelings. What do you want to share about how you feel about that? How much you how you because we were introduced to you loving your daughter Lexi, and we saw you all working through some very personal issues on the screen and you were brave to share that with the recent you know, expression of feelings from Lexi. What is it that you want the audience to know about how you and Chris feel about that part of your family and that dynamic. Is there anything that you want to share to the audience.

01:17:31
Speaker 6: Well, for me, Dustin, I would not entertain that. Okay, I did not know there was an issue when Lexi came to the dinner table. I thought we were one big, happy family. Of course, over the years, there's always been Lexi the ones not in the household, even we try to do the most for her when she do come to the household. I had no idea that that was an issue. Actually, when we sat down at that dinner table and things started coming up about me and her mom's past that we had already talked about and we were good. I was just at their house probably three weeks or so before we decided to sit down and have that dinner scene. We were all hanging out there, I wanted to say it stayed at a mom's house for shit eight ten hours. We all had drinks, liquor, having a good time. So you think you know your family and you don't. You think they're over something or you passed something and it's not. You get all these feelings and emotions that come back up that so make you think, Okay, we've gotten past this, we've conquered this, we're family. We locked in and then the damn dinner sing and it's like checkmate, we'll not put y'all ass on blasts and it's like, WHOA, Okay, Well I did not see that coming. Honestly, I was told that we set her up. That's not true. I would never put none of my children on here for a setup. She was never looked at as a bonus child. Anyone who knew me, they knew I had four kids. A lot of people didn't not even know that she was in mine by largical m So.

01:19:42
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna I'm not that. Yeah, but stew with everything you have going on, right, that's an.

01:19:50
Speaker 6: Old enough grandchild that I'm sure that still loves us and we cannot see right to this day and this other grandchildren that are smaller that all this has been scripted by.

01:20:02
Speaker 4: I get it, and I wish you are healing with that, miss Now. Thank you for sharing you.

01:20:07
Speaker 7: Miss Now, with everything we have going on right, like you know, you're a mother or your wife, you're a grandmother, You're doing this show, and you have all these people that are using you as a sounding board complaining about each other, right, and you're trying to navigate and balance all that, and then on top of everything else, helping out and being away and being with your son, helping out with the baby, your grandbaby two or three times a week.

01:20:28
Speaker 3: Do you feel stretched? Do you feel like overwhelmed? Do you feel like you have too much on your plate?

01:20:32
Speaker 7: Or is it just like I know, you know, black women are used to just putting on the cape and just figuring it out.

01:20:37
Speaker 3: But do you ever feel like I'm overwhelmed, like I need a break?

01:20:41
Speaker 7: Because it's easy to make it look easy, but I would imagine that's a lot to deal.

01:20:47
Speaker 6: With, it is. It can be very stressful. I have kind of like broken down. I wasn't always in my world, my mother Lord, rest her soul. I wasn't allowed to cry. It was your strong sucking up you.

01:21:19
Speaker 2: Got this.

01:21:22
Speaker 6: This season. Hell, all I did was cry, And I don't know it was because my mom is gone and I'm able to start releasing some things, or because she's gone and I don't have her to run to to say, Hey, I need help here, I need your advice here. How would you handle this? Or as tough as everyone think I am. Yeah, my mother was very tough and she didn't play when it came to those those young men that I'm dealing with now.

01:21:58
Speaker 7: I hope your more as a point of release, not not sadness, but to release because you know, it's not even I think the world expects women, Black women, the heads of their household, the heads of their families, the matriarch, to be teflon, to never show sadness or emotion. That's not weakness, you know what I mean. And it's and you got to put your your mental health first. And it's okay to scream like I don't like. That's what I'm saying. Always people relying on you and complaining to you about each other. That's a lot to you're taking on everybody else's stuff.

01:22:32
Speaker 3: Where's your time? Like, where's your time? Where it's about you? And are you okay?

01:22:38
Speaker 2: Do you need a break?

01:22:39
Speaker 3: Let me give you a break and not like dump all my stuff on you.

01:22:42
Speaker 7: So I hope you So I'm trying to encourage black women to take that damn cape off because we put on ourselves. We take Friday be I'm a strong black woman. No, I'm not saying that anymore, like Nope, I'm weak.

01:22:55
Speaker 3: I need help. I can't do it all anymore because there's nothing wrong with that. Hope you know that, you know.

01:23:02
Speaker 1: Care?

01:23:04
Speaker 5: Yes, that's why we want you to get that closet. Did you get your damn closet in that closet?

01:23:09
Speaker 4: That's what we need to see. We need that closet up and rolling. That's what.

01:23:14
Speaker 6: I did. Not get the closet. It's actually been on the burner.

01:23:21
Speaker 4: Okay, But we rooted team closet. We root for your closet.

01:23:25
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:23:26
Speaker 4: But and and.

01:23:29
Speaker 1: What what what the world will see later on this season because we are we're still filming, believe it or not, is the world will see a lot of what now is going through. We just sort of scratch the surface in terms of what she is going through. But one thing I will say is, uh, miss Nell, you are an amazing addition to this show, you and your husband and your family as well. You know how much I love you. I think you are funny. You me and me and miss Nell have this fake that she yells child at miss Nell yells at me, honey when we see each other child I love it.

01:24:07
Speaker 2: But now, miss Nell, you are a firetracker. You are definitely listen.

01:24:14
Speaker 1: Like I said, you're a great addition to this show. And Claudia you don't know that, but doesn't us. We want to miss Neil on the show for many many years and she was like, I don't want to do it, but she finally said yes a couple of seasons ago, and you are fantastic and I.

01:24:30
Speaker 2: Do want you to you know, listen to Claudia too, because she is right.

01:24:36
Speaker 1: You know, you are a representation of a lot of black mothers who are the sort of the emotional kid of the household to where you are there for every single body and oftentimes you may feel depleted at the end of the day because you gave yourself to everybody. And what I don't want you to do is have any stress added to you because that could cost some health concerns and we all want you to take care of yourself. And like Laudia said, it's okay to ask for help, and it's okay to say I feel weak today. You're not a weak person. You're happy the day of weakness, and it's okay to embrace that and to ask for help. And I want you to ask for help the same way people ask for your health.

01:25:26
Speaker 2: So please take heed to that.

01:25:27
Speaker 3: And it's okay to say no.

01:25:32
Speaker 4: And it's okay to scream. We like it. We actually like itree to do that.

01:25:42
Speaker 6: Sometimes that's done out of love. I do not scream just to be screaming. I do not yell just to be yelling. I usually do it for my compassion of I'm trying to get my want to cross to you, like I need you to hear me. Now. If I'm in a back a boxing match with Latitia Scott, then that's different. Most of the time. You know, everybody said she's loud, She's yelling and streaming. That's how she does well. You know what, guys, I have a lot of children and they are adult children, and that's not always easy. I do not have the perfect family. Okay, yes, thank you. You say they're good looking, they're beautiful, but it's a lot of damn headaches coming with being good looking at beautiful. It's not easy for them. What's white? What's wrong?

01:26:56
Speaker 3: You are every day.

01:27:00
Speaker 6: About? Like, yeah it is, you know. I sit down, even with them as adults, I tell them, this is what you need to do, this is how you need to move. Do not take this for granted. And then they go out there and they fuck up, and it's like, here we go. I told you this ship. You didn't listen. So that's what gets me to know and wright and I go from zero to one hundred because I'll have sat down and had these conversations with them. It's not I don't have just one child and they're not children.

01:27:38
Speaker 3: Like I said, I don't just have two.

01:27:40
Speaker 6: I just don't have three. And then if you throw Lexi in there, that's four and they all have some shit going on or that they do that I don't agree with. I have to take it as it comes. So if that makes me loud and you know, yell the hell, I guess that's just that's just what it is. I'm not all the time, you know, I do you know get korreshed by Fletcher and.

01:28:10
Speaker 4: Like that.

01:28:10
Speaker 6: Of course I didn't get to get thirty one years for nothing, thirty one years this year, so and I.

01:28:18
Speaker 5: Want to around the Lance's house at night. He wanted you home with him so he get correct.

01:28:24
Speaker 6: He likes my leg to be thrown over.

01:28:30
Speaker 7: All.

01:28:33
Speaker 2: Well, don't don't please your man, baby. We love you, miss Now.

01:28:37
Speaker 12: Yes you for coming moving close, just dusting. Hopefully I get it, but I did get something else. I don't know if I could say.

01:28:47
Speaker 2: It, but no you can't.

01:28:50
Speaker 4: Well can I just tell you see you coming up? We'll see it coming up?

01:28:54
Speaker 6: Get it?

01:28:55
Speaker 3: Miss Now. I want to tell you I'm looking at the comments this.

01:28:57
Speaker 7: I hope you go back and watch the show tomorrow or whenever you get time, just so you can see all the love you're getting in the comments.

01:29:05
Speaker 3: People say they want to see a spin off with you and your hobby. They love you, they love your energy.

01:29:09
Speaker 7: And I just want to say your hair is super cute, like I want to try that yourself, super cute.

01:29:14
Speaker 3: I want you to go back to my week girl. Well it's a good ass wig because sometimes you can tell.

01:29:18
Speaker 6: I throw it back and then put it back over and push it up.

01:29:21
Speaker 3: I like that.

01:29:22
Speaker 6: Takes me hairstyle.

01:29:24
Speaker 4: That's that.

01:29:25
Speaker 3: That's that bedroom hair.

01:29:26
Speaker 2: Go go in your bedroom.

01:29:28
Speaker 6: You got their room hair right now, Yeah, but I.

01:29:31
Speaker 3: Ain't got none in my bedroom right now.

01:29:34
Speaker 6: No problem in girl, you wait problem? Are you took you and already kill you? Make it? Know what to do.

01:29:44
Speaker 3: But check out the comments tomorrow because they I want you to see.

01:29:46
Speaker 7: I want you to receive all this love that you're getting in people saying take the cap off and put yourself first.

01:29:51
Speaker 2: Yeah, So take he to that. Miss now, we love you, miss now, thanks for coming.

01:29:55
Speaker 10: On, boob.

01:29:56
Speaker 6: I love y'all too. Thank you so much, callos for having me.

01:29:59
Speaker 2: Thanks for we love you booth.

01:30:05
Speaker 1: Reality with the King is executive produced by me Carlos King, produced by Lizzie Nimitz, and a partnership.

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Speaker 4: With the Lack Effect Network.

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Speaker 1: You can also find us on my YouTube channel at the Carlos King Underscore