Will Compton's Daughter Has Near Death Experience + Drinking Your Wife's Breast Milk

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Speaker 1: Hey, guys, welcome to episode three A for the Dads. I am Sherman Young. I'm the co host alongside Will Compton, who's the host of the show. This week. We have some really crazy stories. I won't spoil it here at the top, but Will has maybe one of the craziest stories He's definitely told on for the Dads, but maybe even in Busting History. Make sure you check that out. We go through Dad callins again. Guys, six to oh one the Dads. That is our call in number. You guys have been crushing the call ins. We've had to dump our voicemails on our for the Dad's phone already because you guys are blown up the line. We thank you for that. You guys have been crushing the comments section. We're seeing comments all over the place, whether that's socials rather that is YouTube. A reminder for the credits is when we play dad content. So if you guys want to continue to dm us, any gender reveals, funny dad moments, anything that is fun that you want to share with us is okay for us to post on socials. Make sure to send that in. And last, but not least, guys, huge news. We are moving to a new YouTube channel. So the episodes right now that you're watching are on Busting with the Boys. Next week, it's going to be on before the Dad's YouTube channel. We will be posting all content for the dads from now on on that new channel. We'll make it very easy for you guys. Will is always making fun of the boomers and I get it. But boomers can figure it out quick and we'll make sure we'll hold your hand in the process. We'll be sharing that link of the new channel for you guys, but be on the lookout for that. Make sure you subscribe. We got to bump those numbers up. As Taylor always says on Busting, unsubscribe, re subscribe. It helps us out a lot. If you want some merch like this, we have some new hats, some new bucket hats, and we'll put a link below you guys can scan that QR code. If you want to help the show out that way and support us that way, feel free to hop on on BWTB dot com and get some new bus and merch. This is a really fun episode. It was super long. Hope you guys enjoy. Let's jump into that episode.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to for the Dads. Uh, listen a lot to break down. I've been in Chicago and New York this past week. Right now, it is currently as you're watching this, it's Wednesday, It's Wednesday morning. And again, I know I said in the intro before the dads, the older generation, the baby boomers who don't quite have everything figured out electronically, please make sure you're subscribed to this channel on YouTube, Bust with the Boys.

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Speaker 3: And again we will be kicking off.

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Speaker 2: We will have a channel of our own here in July coming up, so be on the lookout for that. We will be We'll be teeing it up to you, laying it up to you as easily as possible to make the transition, because again I know there are a lot of older dads that listen. And on that note, I will say, being in the airport at UH at Loguardia, there were a couple dads who came up and were just like, hey, man, love the new show.

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Speaker 1: Are you serious?

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Speaker 2: Yes, dude, I'm sitting there. You know, I'm whipping around the little double stroller. Who knows the times they called me? I know, one gentleman caught me in a spot where I'm just trying to make to the bathroom and just try to find are we good? Are we good on audio? Or I'm just trying to find the bathroom. Take a little quick, you know quick dad time out. Got one of the little kiddos with me and he just wanted to come over. He'say, hey, man, don't want anything. I just want to tap you up and just say I love the new show. He was wearing like a dad hat.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Oh, really looked like a baby boomer. So that was that. Fired me up? Yes, dude, fired me up. Fired me up.

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Speaker 1: It's like in his sixties. I don't want to put that on fifties. Yeah, a little just say fifty. He looked good, he looked he looks good.

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Speaker 2: For his age.

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Speaker 1: Come on, he looked good for his age. That's exciting.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but right now, I know you guys said, you guys are listening on Wednesday morning again, get the get the trash cans out to the curb. We are shooting this. It is nine thirty on Sunday.

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Speaker 3: I landed.

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Speaker 2: We had hopes and dreams of shooting this episode at probably four because we have a big week ahead of us. We have a lot of interviews that we're doing for tightening you for busting with the boys. So we needed to get the four of the Dad's pot. In early Razy week, I hit the boys up saying, hey, we're sitting on the tarmac right now. We are delayed a couple hours, so didn't quite make it in. It's bit hell. I'll just I'm just gonna kick it off. It's been hell. Number one. New York is overrated. We had fun, we made memories, we had fun, but I feel like I just got back from another military tour just being with the family. Were we were staying at the Hackston and we were in like a four hundred square foot hotel room where there's like no extra space, there's no closets. Our bags are everywhere. When you have a couple of kiddos, parents out there know this, you'll know this too, but you're each kid kind of has a bag of their own because there's so many things that you have to pack for a seven month old, There's so many things you have to pack for the three year old. Things you have to pack for yourself. Your wife's got every outfit because she was visiting a friend out there in New York. So there's dinners, there's you know, she had stuff for work out there, so she's got a throw outfits that she had, so we had a lot of luggage. It's pretty much laid out, utilizing as much space as possible in this small ass hotel room that was a prison at times, which we can get into. But it's been a long week. It's been a long week. It's been a long weekend. It was fun being at Barstool HQ last week in Chicago, New York. Had some fun moments.

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Speaker 1: Yep, two and O on the Dozen, Yes, two and O on dozen Trivia.

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Speaker 2: We made it to the final four. I'll be out in Boston this Thursday. That'll be live stream on Barstool's YouTube channel. But the Booze Ponies are We're coming where two and oh We're coming.

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Speaker 1: I love me some Dana Bears, Yeah, shameless.

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Speaker 3: Love some Dana Beers.

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Speaker 2: Love fidal Berg, love fiddle Berg, love file Berg. If you haven't checked out Tires, go check out Tire season two. That's no free shout outs to the boy Shane Gillis. But fidal Berg made a little appearance on episode six and crushed it. Crushed it with Vince Vaughan and Gillis. Yeah, yeah, uh, but a lot of good dad stories. I'm glad you guys are tuned in with us, and again, love all the comments.

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Speaker 3: That you guys are leaving. I was kind of just scanning through them.

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Speaker 2: I love that you guys were just like, fuck it, dude, go over an hour if you guys have to, we don't care. I saw I saw one comment. It's like, hey, you guys's hopes of going under an hour are gone.

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Speaker 3: Sherman.

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Speaker 1: He now has a spotlight. I'm the problem.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, she's got the spotlight.

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Speaker 1: There's no way you two are ever going to go under an hour.

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Speaker 2: But that's a good.

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Speaker 1: Thing, not wrong.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good thing. But just scanning through these comments, a Rock eighty six shot out. You really appreciate you boys for featuring me. Shout out. No free shot out for the dads will ensure them. You guys are the goats. Thank you for a solid future dad advice and appreciate recognition for my wife and I was journey. Big hugs, tiny kisses. Again, just a little little warning down at the screen. This is not an expert father show or just a couple of dads just talking shop.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: Here we go Mark Mark Arnett sixty four to seventy seven. Pro tip for Sureham dad of a ten year old girl an eight year old boy. Leave the tag on all the clothes until the day they put them on, so when they outgrow it, before they actually wear it, you can just go swap it out at the store for the next size up. That is a hell of a comment. That's actually a lot. I can crack a cold one too. That's something you can crack a cold one to. No free shout outs to bud Light and on the voicemails. Like we'll get into the call in segments later in this show. But Shirm texted me last week or he messaged me last week saying the voicemail thing filled up. We had to take the line off for a moment. Yeah, because it was like three hundred voicemails, Yes and yeah, we had to shut it down. Get them off into a dropbox file so that way you can reopen up the line. There's already eighty seven more keep calling in. We're gonna I don't know if we're ever going to figure out a way to get everybody's voicemail heard, but we're going to try to integrate maybe more than just one or two. So if you have a motherfucked moment, if you have a crack a cold one too moment, if you have a quote or a theme or something that leaned on recently, or a lesson that you've liked, you can share with us if you just want to vent with us different ways where we might fit them into our segments, other than just a hotline moment where we only share one or two. Because I know there's a lot of great voicemails out there. We would love to get to all of them. It's like a It's a great pop problem to have. It also pained me thinking about all the voicemails coming in because I'm like, damn, I wish we could feature you. Wish you could feature all of them.

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Speaker 1: When you have that many. Chef, we've highlighted a bunch is like our intern for this show. But when you have that many voicemails, this guy's cutting up clips. We got two other interns just fishing through offloading all of these voicemails into dropbox. They're listening to the voicemails as they do that so they can categorize the voicemails. Yeah, it's truly like Santa's Workshop, and the elves are just like doing the damn thing.

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Speaker 3: You say, elves, But we have one and it's Chef.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we have one. And he's having to also be like, hey, if you guys could jump in here, because there's two hundred and seventy of these things cut up, these clips.

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Speaker 2: He's on intern he's on intern brain like, hey, I'm working on the show, working pro maybe possibly for a job. He's trying to do everything possible to make sure this thing's right. Chef, we appreciate you here on a Sunday night, unpaid, here on a Sunday, unpaid, unpaid here on a Sunday night. Shout out the boys. Chef.

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Speaker 1: We did buy him dinner, though, I will say that we bought them down nice good. We got them dinner. What was the other thing we're talking, Oh, voicemails. The streets are saying, and I'll pitch this to you, I'll pitch this to the viewers. But the streets are saying, it could be fun every five episodes if we did a strictly call in episode. That's just an idea. We're not saying it's gonna be officially a thing. Maybe let us know in the comments.

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Speaker 2: If people if we get a I won't say overwhelming, but if we get a solid response and people just put need a call in episode, if they just have that in all caps, yeah we have enough of them. I think that is where you start take into account. Hey, this could be this could be fun.

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Speaker 1: I'm talking like fifty of those.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, fifty be a great number.

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Speaker 1: That's a number where it's like, okay, guaranteed we'll do it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because again, we want this show to be about embracing fatherhood, building community, being all about the badass dads out there just embracing the suck and wanted to be a part of it.

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Speaker 1: And when yes, I had some great if we're going on, just like people comments all that stuff. How to buddy from high school who is a girl dad reach out to me. We talked pretty regularly, but just via text, sent a really nice text about the show that he was loving it, but said he sent it around to a bunch of his dad friends and one of them hit him back like two hours later said just listen about episodes.

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Speaker 2: He's awesome, which got me. I've had guys being like, hey, I'm not even a dad. But it fires me up to be one one day just from listening to the show. So it's like there are people out there watching and listening that aren't even in parenthood right now. And one thing that that's also a great reminder because you said your boy was sharing it with his dads. Whenever we do stand up our next whenever we do stand stand up this channel afore the dads, or whether we have it on both YouTube and audio, no matter what it is, for this show to get a little bit more awareness, this will be. We need the organic growth from the dads out there sharing it in your group chats, letting other dads know.

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Speaker 1: I saw it.

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Speaker 2: As a matter of fact, I don't have the comment pulled up, but when I was scanning, I saw a wife, a gal watching and it was like, hey, I've sent this to all my dad friends. I'm trying to get everybody on board. She's somebody out there out there watching. I'm sorry I can't shout you out and know your name right now, but I saw that comment and that fired me up. So yes, if you're watching and listening, share around with your with your with your little dad, gang with the dad army, with your dad group chats, because that's that's how we're gonna grow the channel.

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Speaker 3: That's how we're gonna get this out there.

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Speaker 1: True, Hey, this is my very last The streets are saying, okay, another rumor that's swirling, and then we can jump into the episode. I would love for just an empty frame to sit somewhere on this set for next month. That's that of the.

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Speaker 2: Month and we got to pick one, and we gotta pick one. That's a lot of pressure. That comes with a lot of pressure.

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Speaker 1: But think about how legendary that will be for that dad when they get selected in their Dad of the month, they're up there for a whole month.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. The problem you run into is like, there's gonna be I would assume a lot of dads that'll be doing whatever. We're like, hey, this is how you get in the running for Dead of the Month. And now guy's been doing it month after month and they don't get in a little bit of resentment builds up, like, boys, are you not seeing the content that I'm pushing your guys's way.

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Speaker 1: But then to that point, I would say, are you doing it for the love of the game? Are you doing it for the trophy?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Because yeah, we're There is no trophy in fatherhood. There is no trophy in fatherhood.

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Speaker 1: And I am not a dad, so that that's some stolen valor saying that, and I do apologize. I'm not dad yet.

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Speaker 2: Hey, by the way, how's how's Jildie being doing.

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Speaker 1: She's doing very well, she texted me since the day's nine. On a Sunday, she texted me a picture of her belly in our third trimester coming any week now, yeah, thirty seven weeks and said we're ready for dadas. And I did not reply to that text. So thoughts and prayers. She's good though, she's doing great. When does a maternity leave start for her? Because I know she's in healthcare, Like, I'm sure she's over the fact of being in the office or she's probably getting there. Yeah, she is grinding, dude. The people on her floor are doing a great job of just kind of surrounding her helping her. But Jill is just to brag about my wife really quick, very pretty, very hard working, very determined, and so no matter how many times they're telling her to sit down, what are you doing, We're giving you the easiest patient on the floor that she is moving and grooving, doing her thing, cannot take no for an answer, So she's kind of her own worst ending me right now?

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Speaker 2: Is she going to work until the time comes?

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Speaker 1: I mean truly, she has three more shifts left.

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Speaker 2: Her shifts are long too, right.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they're like twelve hours, they're like six A to six P. But really it's like five thirty A to like, yeah, seven thirty p. Yeah, she's just a dude. She's a trooper. And it sounds like Charles the same way. I mean, she's got like multiple businesses. She's doing her thing as well.

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Speaker 2: But I uh, I love how you're trying to deflect it and goes go a different direction.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true. And you have told me I need to yeah, stay in it, except yeah, take the ball and yeah yeah except yeah, my wife's a badass.

00:14:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, accept the shout out.

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Speaker 1: Man, she's badass.

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Speaker 3: Should we get into should we get into? Motherfucked?

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Speaker 2: I have I have some stories that I've been holding on my chest. There's one that I haven't even told you about that was wild, not this past weekend, but the weekend before. And I refrained from saying it on Busting with the Boys because I've like, this is a great one to live on for the dads.

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Speaker 1: That's a big moment, dude. We're getting breaking news on FTV.

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Speaker 2: This isn't a positive, This is not a this is a fun This is a learning experience for all of the parents out there that just a snap of the finger, dude, and shit can go sideways quick. And this isn't like a true motherfucked moment, more of like an internalized like how did this happen? But I'm sitting so to paint the scene, It's Saturday afternoon and I'm sitting on the island. I'm sitting at the island and I'm trying to send an email. I'm trying to send an email. So I'm on my iPad and Charles sitting on the couch and she's playing with Scotty. Sorry, Kitchen island, Kitchen Island. I'm sitting at the kitchen island, Rue sitting there eating lunch. We're trying to get her to eat lunch, some chicken fingers before we have some quiet time and before Scotty goes down for her nap because we hadn't eaten all morning or she had ate a little bit. But you know, kids, they want to snack. They want to do all these different things, and you're trying to Hey, you're gonna eat some lunch. You need some real food. So I'm sitting at the kitchen with Rue. Charo is on the couch with Scotti, playing with Scotti. I'm sending this email. Rue's in the middle of eating and I'm telling her, you know, you gotta eat five bites. I'm saying whatever to her, but she's trying to talk to Charro and I don't hear anything. Like again, I'm zoned in on my iPad, trying to get this email out, and she talks to Charro about doing this magic trick, and Charle's like, oh, we can do the magic trick later. And Charles kind of briefing me on what happened after the fact because this bizarre moment happens and I kind of just lose all I kind of lose all senses. Fire departments at the house. Yes, bro, Rue chokes on a coin. She's Charo had been Charlo had done this as Charlie knows this magic trick to where it's either behind your ear or in your hair, or the coin's like on your elbow and it looks like you eat it, you eat it. Oh, but she's done this magic trick before, over and over in front of room because it entertains Rue. So I guess Rue found this euro this euro coin.

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Speaker 1: It's a big coin, a little bit bigger than a quarter.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I don't know if it's bigger than a quarter, but it's up there. Yeah, and Rue apparently finds this coin. I didn't see the coin. And again, mind you, I'm thinking she's just eating lunch, and I'm just trying to get this email off, thinking she's eating, like you know, we do this all we do this every day, and so Ru's trying to get her attention Charles like I'll do it for you later or not right now, I'm playing with Scotty or something. So I guess Rue in her mind is like, I'm going to try to do this magic trick on my own. Who I'm sitting there on my iPad and I hear like choking, gagging, and I stop, and I look over at Rue and her fingers are down her throat and she's like, oh, and buddy, it's not even registering to me that she's choking at the moment. I look over at her, and she puts her fingers in her mouth amp and like gags and I'm like, what are you doing? Thinking that she's just like gagging herself, you know what I mean, like just like being like, oh okay, I found something new. I'm like choking myself from gagging myself. And I'm like, what are you doing? And she starts like panicking like uh uh, and I'm like are you are you choking? And Charl's like, oh my god, she's choking. She's choking. Charlie like sprints over to the island. I like, stand up. I'm in like, what in the fuck is going on? Ruth's choking on this coin? She's like, are you choking a coin? She's like yeah, And I get behind Rue and I start trying to do the heimlik and I'm I'm like, you know, I'm like got it up under a sternum and I'm like trying to go like up with it. Charle's like, are you doing it the right way? I'm like I think so. When I started like trying to jump with her to get this coin out, the coin's not coming out, bro, Yes, it's okay. It's tap being and you've seen.

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Speaker 1: Rue throat hurts listening to you tell the story, buddy.

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Speaker 2: It was so I'm smiling through it at this moment, but this was such a fucking panic. She's choking and Charles like, Charle's like watching it and starts like digging down her throat. She's like, I got it, I got it, I got it. No, he tries to get it up and she's like, I lost it. I lost it. It's down there and Ruth's panicking. I'm panicking and you know, we tried. Charli gets on behind her and try to do the homack. I'm like, what do we do? What do we do? She's like, she's like, call nine one one, Call nine one one. I fucking call nine one one. I'm in a panic. You know. They're taking it slow, like what's your name, what's your address, what's PROHNE number in case we need to call you?

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Speaker 3: What's happening? I'm like, my three year old is choking.

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Speaker 1: She's still currently choking on this coin. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: We're trying to get out of her and it's not coming out.

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Speaker 1: And are they coaching you?

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Speaker 2: Godly, It's hard to remember because it was such a moment of like panic and you don't know what's going on, Charles just jumps into like superhero mode, like yelling all these coaching directions to do it. I'm thinking, I'm doing the Heimlit correctly because I took the CPR class back when I was a lifeguard back in high school. Yeah, and I'm just talking to I'm talking to whoever nine one one on the phone and saying what's going on. They're like, we're sending somebody over to you. As they're sending somebody over to me. That call lasted three minutes. Probably around the two minute mark, Charo is down.

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Speaker 3: Her throat again.

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Speaker 2: She's like, I got it, I got it, and then pulls it out, gets the coin out. As they're driving over to the house and I'm like, coins out. She's fine. She's like is she breathing? And I walk over to the room, I'm like, hey, you know, I'm asking her questions and stuff. She seems like she's gonna be okay. She's just in a panic and she's crying. There's blood everywhere because Charle probably scraped her throat or scraped something inside of her mouth. Because there's blood on my there's blood on my shirt, there's blood on the counter. Yes, bro, Yes, I've been holding that on me for over a Yes, And that was one of those moments where it's like you're internally motherfucking yourself because I was just trying to do something on the iPad and next thing you know, she's gagging and choking.

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Speaker 3: And it happened. It happened quick, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: Yes, if you turn away for one second, you have food set up, you're trying to get something off on the iPad and she's gagging herself and the next thing you know, she's choking on a coin and fire department ambulance comes over, they're running her vitals, they're doing all this stuff. She checks out, Fine, she's all good, but she was choking on a fucking coin. Bro from winning to mimic of magic trick? Can we.

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Speaker 1: Really quick before we jump into this, Can we crack a cold one to Chario saving today?

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Speaker 2: Oh buddy, yeah we can, because Chrall went into superhero mode. Yeah. I was in it. I was in just panic. Like I again, I'm like trying to do the Heimlich. I think I'm doing it right, but nothing, your mind is going everywhere. That was so long ago. When you do the CPR class that you don't know if you're doing it correctly.

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Speaker 1: And bro the fact that she had the wherewithal to just be like, I'm digging this shit out.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, get.

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Speaker 2: I'm getting it because I'm seeing it happen and my eyes are wide open again. I was just like a kid sitting on the fucking sideline thinking like I don't know, you're thinking your kid could die right there. Because then when the fire department everybody comes over and they're kind of breaking it down. They're like, hey, if by any chance this were to happen ever again and she goes unconscious, all you have to do is just hit like the I think it was like thirty CPR, Yeah, CPR compressions presses, whatever it is, give her some marriages to keep oxygen going to her brain. But they're like, if she was unconscious, like, we would have still been able. We would have still been able to save her. With it being a coin, we would have still been able to save her even if she's unconscious. Yeah, So just to put your mind at ease, because you're thinking, if they don't get.

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Speaker 1: Here before her eyes closed, before her.

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Speaker 2: Eyes closed, like she would die. That's what's happening. That's what I'm thinking of my mind. I'm assuming Charles and the same exact thing.

00:23:01
Speaker 1: Also, we are not experts and do not take any Yeah this is not yeah yeah yeah, but while I asked this question, this is my personal question too.

00:23:09
Speaker 3: Will.

00:23:09
Speaker 1: This is not for the listeners to take in as advice. Aren't you supposed to do like the two finger the three finger thing with toddlers and not like the full hand compression.

00:23:21
Speaker 3: So Chef Jack is saying, yes, take his advice.

00:23:25
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can take no.

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Speaker 2: I think with like rue her being three, you would still go like on on the front. It feels like, uh, it feels scotty. You'd be flipping her back and forth, patting on the back and patting on the front. Yeah. For the compressions, I think, yeah, you do like fingers or whatever. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah dude, that was so long ago, but I was trying to I was trying to like remember, like as I'm just like doing the hoimelock and everything else.

00:23:58
Speaker 1: But it was ar will Okay. Also that brings that reminds me and I'm gonna go buy one.

00:24:05
Speaker 3: Go take a CPR class.

00:24:06
Speaker 1: Hey one, go take a CPR class. You can get them for free. At your local county hospital. Don't quote me on that, but do I'm almost positive that's a thing. If Chef Jack can google that, I'm almost positive that's a thing. Secondly, these choking like kid rescuer things, it's those little like it's like a mask and you do the suction is really bad radio, but yeah, you put it on like it's a mask and it has this little almost like a ball pumper thing on the bottom. And I've been seeing videos on the internet that make me want to go buy that thing tomorrow. I know you have a kid in the world.

00:24:50
Speaker 3: Yeah, that would be smart to do.

00:24:52
Speaker 1: But oh my god, buddy, it was terrifying. It was terrifying round of.

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Speaker 2: The yeah, yeah, dude. She flew into action, bro, And I'm sitting there like, how did this happen so quick? You know what I mean? Because I was the one like sitting by her. Oh yeah, And again I looked over like I heard the I heard the choke in the gag and I look over at her and then she's looking at me and she like does it again? And I'm like, what are you doing? And she just starts kind of panicking, and I'm like, are you all right? And Charles like, oh my god, she's choking. She's choking. Sprints over. I'm like, she's choking. She's like she's got a coin. I'm just thinking a fucking coin. I'm just thinking, what in the hell is happening again, immediately started doing the Heimlich Charles like idly standing by, just like watch out. She's like watch out, move you call.

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Speaker 3: Nine one one. She starts fucking trying to dig down.

00:25:48
Speaker 2: Dude. It was.

00:25:49
Speaker 3: It was terrifying. Dude, Thank god I.

00:25:50
Speaker 1: Do have a nurse for a wife.

00:25:53
Speaker 2: Yeah.

00:25:55
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm gonna pop quizzer when I get home and not tell her this part of the story first. I'd be like, theoretically, yeah, like Scarlet's cheering on it. You know, she gets a coin down there. Where are we doing tess her? Yeah, but hopefully.

00:26:08
Speaker 2: You heimelick until you would Basically what they were kind of telling us is you would you would heim lick and try to get it out up until they go unconscious. When they go unconscious again, you can't like don't panic, and you sit there and do the compressions. You would hit thirty compressions, try to blow get auction to their brain. You're just trying to keep oxygen going until help gets there. Yeah, because they were there within like within five minutes from the call. Damn, we were on the phone. She's like, I got somebody headed your way. And even when I was like, hey, the coin's out, I think she's all good, they're already on their way. So whenever they get there, like they'll choke bottles and make sure everything's clear. And they were saying, it's it's honestly, it's better, like it's a good thing that it was that it was a coin and not food, because food can start breaking down and actually block her throat or where she was breathing. Because since root didn't pass out, they were under the impression that it probably wasn't fully blocking her airways.

00:27:01
Speaker 1: Well, and it's so big it probably got caught up more like in her.

00:27:05
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was like it was like I'm not sure it was like up here, and they're like if it would have got there, like you know, showing her if it would have got down to here. You know, they were just kind of talking to her to have conversation with her. She was just like trum, Yeah, I slept. I mean, you're you're beating yourself up. Just as a parent, because you take your eyes off of it for a minute and something can go sideways like that, and then you know, Charles was Charle was struggling for a while afterwards, and you know, I'm like, you know, maybe we don't teach the magic trick to Scotti.

00:27:47
Speaker 1: Did she laugh?

00:27:49
Speaker 2: She yeah, she knew I was joking, but she's like, yeah, like you're just not you know, Charle's not thinking she was gonna do something like that, No, because the last time I saw charge do that magic trick was a long time ago, and I guess rue she saw the coin and it probably just reminded her of the magic trick. She's like, look, mom, I think like rou was showing her, like, hey mama, do the matrics. She's like, I'm playing with Scotty. I'll do the magic trick with here with you in a little bit. And then she just got a wild hair and was like, yeah, I'm gonna try this magic trick. Ude.

00:28:20
Speaker 1: Thank god she did that, right. I mean, obviously it would have been better if it hadn't happened, but thank god she did it in front of you guys. Thank god y'all were there.

00:28:30
Speaker 2: Dude.

00:28:31
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, doubt, no doubt, I very randomly. This is just a dad tip for people out there. Uh, we were at a family like easter hunt. Somebody had a green pool cover. I was young enough to think that the pool cover was like a putting green because it kind of looked like AstroTurf or whatever. Walked out on it and went underneath, uh the pool cover. My cousin ended up getting help almost drowned. But it was like one of those things where like everybody's easter hunting, like Easter egg hunting, and then all of a sudden they look up and you know, my dad's seeing somebody trying to fish me out. It's crazy, dude, it can just happen.

00:29:14
Speaker 3: It happens.

00:29:15
Speaker 2: And were at our We were at a friends a few weeks ago and we were in the pool in the backyard and Rue was playing on a couple of the noodles And can't like fully swim yet. But she can do like a couple of things, you know what I mean. She can go underwater, she can swim like a couple of strokes or something like that, but she can't handle herself by herself with water. But I'm in the water with all I'm in the water with her and our friends' kids. Yeah, and one came outside and was wearing an outfit and I was complimenting her outfit, and you know, I'm like playing with Rue, but Rue wanted to play on this noodle.

00:29:45
Speaker 3: She's like, no, Dad, let go, and.

00:29:47
Speaker 2: So I'm like, let go, and she kind of does a thing where she like, let's go for a end, goes underwater and then comes back up on the noodle. Yeah, we've been we were playing for we were playing for a long time. There's probably been forty minutes at this point. And then the other one, the sibling, comes out and wants to show me his outfit because I'm complimenting his sister. Oh, well look at this, and I'm like, look over my Oh that's awesome, buddy, and dude. I turn around and Srew was like struggling in the water for a moment.

00:30:12
Speaker 3: I pick her.

00:30:12
Speaker 2: I just pick her up. It wasn't like anything close to her drowning or nothing like that, but just another subtle reminder that you turn your head for like one minute and things could be things could be crazy. Nobody saw either, Like I picked her up and she was like crying for a second, I'm like, hey, sweetheart, like, this is why you know you need to use the noodle, this is why you need to be close to the side, because she was like, you know, she's like trying to get she's like trying to do things more for herself. She's trying to like prove to herself that she can do more without help and things like that. Yeah, and uh but yeah, that was just another like just quick reminder that you can turn your head for a second and something could just go south. It's scary, dude, It's nuts.

00:30:51
Speaker 1: See what in the world while you were telling that. Uh, my throat felt terrible the entire time you were telling that story, and I felt like I had something in my throat. That was the worst story I've heard in a while.

00:31:04
Speaker 2: When the first time when Charles said she had it, I got it.

00:31:07
Speaker 3: I got it.

00:31:07
Speaker 2: I got it. And then she's like, I lost it. I lost it. What's going on?

00:31:13
Speaker 1: Yeah, thirty minutes, Oh got you?

00:31:14
Speaker 2: Yeah?

00:31:15
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well one second and.

00:31:20
Speaker 2: I lost I lost it. Like in my brain, I'm thinking, holy fuck, how are we going to get out of this? Cause again I'm not thinking about like when the fire they were over at the house, being like, oh, she would have we would have still got it out and you guys would have been fine. I'm thinking that was like a life or death moment getting that out before the ambulance.

00:31:39
Speaker 3: Yeah.

00:31:40
Speaker 2: Yeah, what, So what's your mother?

00:31:44
Speaker 1: So what's my mother? Well, I'm glad you asked, well, my motherfucked?

00:31:48
Speaker 2: Is that?

00:31:49
Speaker 1: My wife said? I need to talk with you guys more about college football and less with her.

00:31:54
Speaker 3: She not, she not, she's not a ball fan.

00:31:57
Speaker 1: She's a ball fan.

00:31:58
Speaker 2: But is she a ball fan?

00:32:01
Speaker 1: But when, apparently, when she's hungry in the morning, when.

00:32:04
Speaker 2: She's third trimester hungry in the morning, and you're bitching about Baylor, she don't want to hear it.

00:32:10
Speaker 1: When I'm trying to tell her, Hey, here's the deal. Like a lot of people are kind of sleeping on Baylor. They could have a really good season, though, Honey. They're eight and four last year.

00:32:17
Speaker 2: Sweetheart.

00:32:18
Speaker 3: When you look at Baylor's schedule, what do you see?

00:32:21
Speaker 1: And tell me really quick, tell me. Are you more worried about Auburn? Are you more worried about SMU? And I get it, SMU is a ACC school, but they were a playoff team last year.

00:32:30
Speaker 2: Honey, Sherman, get your head out the fucking clouds. We're about to have a baby here in two weeks, and you're talking about Baylor football.

00:32:37
Speaker 1: We're going to the game. I already told you we're going. I would go to the game with you.

00:32:42
Speaker 2: Go talk to your buddies at work.

00:32:44
Speaker 1: No, But she quite literally was like, do you realize where you work? Because I told her. I was like, honey, I just like, I like talking about this stuff. She goes, well, I want to talk about us. I want to talk about our daughter that's about to be here. Maybe you can talk about that at work where you guys talk about sports and stuff. I was like, you know what, God, motherfucked in that situation. But she's right, I need to talk about that stuff.

00:33:08
Speaker 2: You know. But is she You're just trying to include her. I am, here's an interest in my life. She chefs back to She's.

00:33:16
Speaker 1: Like, sure, yeah, he said.

00:33:21
Speaker 2: Women want there are men to talk more, and when they want to talk about their interest, that being football, they're trying to be vulnerable and share something with you.

00:33:28
Speaker 1: This is a moment where I will get going, dude, like I'm talking, I'm not even I'm probably missing turns left and right on the way to Velvet Taco where she wanted to have breakfast. They don't have breakfast tacos. I didn't complain. I took her to Velvet Taco. And I'm probably missing turns left and right. I'm talking about Baylor, and I get it. It's okay. I'm not upset about it, but uh, it does hurt because when she's talking about her shows or she's talking about her stuff, I've been listening.

00:33:57
Speaker 2: Yeah, buddy, this is the space, this is the show to do it all because for you to be as much of a college football fan or a football fan in general as I know you to be, and you just got to the point where you were like you said, she's right, and it's like, hang on a second. You gotta love yourself, bro.

00:34:13
Speaker 1: I don't even think I was talking about Baylor. Was the best part. I don't even know what I was talking about. But I wasn't even talking about Baylor.

00:34:21
Speaker 2: You're trying to share an interest with your wife.

00:34:22
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was just I was just sharing something along the lines of I wish I could remember, but I think I was talking about some SEC team and I was talking about their schedule and like, yeah, it's kind of crazy. Game days always usually following Bama, and you know, I'm going like a million miles an hour, and she's just like, this is the last thing I want to talk about right now. I'm like, honey, I get that, but like you put on.

00:34:48
Speaker 2: Yeah, how many things is she talking about that you don't want to hear about? Yeah?

00:34:51
Speaker 1: And when you eat it, I eat it. When you put on the Damilio Show, the Riality TV Fallen Charlie d'milio and her sister, I sit there, Yeah, for those forty five minutes, sweetheart.

00:35:04
Speaker 2: I do my best to create space. When you want to tell me back about this Onyx and Storm book that you're reading, I'm trying to buy in. It's hard. But ladies, let me tell you. When your man talks to you about college football and the upcoming season and you just tell him, hey, go talk to your boys about this at work, you're just telling us you don't matter right now.

00:35:25
Speaker 1: And you know what the worst part is, because she is a longhorn. I guarantee you if I've been talking about arch Man now, honey, you know that you know they're saying this, and that they're saying sarks really only like a player's coach. If he doesn't have the squad, he can't really get a team there. He's not a numbers guy. Yeah, and she would listen and eat that up all day if I was talking about the Longhorns. If I wasn't talking about her longhorns, that's pretty selfish. Yeah, cut that part out, cut that part out. But yeah, that's my that's my motherfucked it. It doesn't even touch uh will's I feel like yours is motherfucked crack a cold one and potentially dad hack. Don't take us, you know, verbatim on that.

00:36:10
Speaker 2: But yeah, I mean it's all it's all of the things in one survival kit.

00:36:15
Speaker 1: I'm looking it up at.

00:36:16
Speaker 2: Yeah, they like that. The dad hack again for two weeks in a row, coming more so from my wife, jumping action and try to dig that fucking coin out.

00:36:23
Speaker 3: Of their throat.

00:36:24
Speaker 1: Get in there that it doesn't matter.

00:36:26
Speaker 2: Hey, if you see blood.

00:36:27
Speaker 1: You just the eyes closed. It's okay, all right, fine, department's gonna get there.

00:36:33
Speaker 2: Fine. Oh buddy, Yeah that.

00:36:35
Speaker 1: Was dude, you've had it. That was two weeks.

00:36:39
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00:38:38
Speaker 2: My crecit cald one this week is going to go to finding your way back to your teammate. I was wondering if I would tell this story on this show. I kind of vented to the boys about it before the show started. But finding your way back to your teammate in my in this circumstance, In this situation, it's my teammate is my wife. We we were in New York over the weekend. We had a lot of great moments, but we had a couple of down moments. In one of those down moments is we were at each other's throat at like two in the morning on Saturday. I'll preface this, sweetheart, you were right, you were right.

00:39:14
Speaker 3: I was wrong.

00:39:16
Speaker 1: This sounds like a motherfucked as well.

00:39:18
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, but you got to crack a cold one too, because we made we found our way. We both apologized to each other.

00:39:24
Speaker 1: There we go.

00:39:26
Speaker 2: But we had a great night on Saturday where we we got a sitter. We were out in New York. Charo had a work thing earlier in the week and then parlayed into visiting a friend, a really good friend of hers in New York, and we were hanging out with that couple. They have two little ones of their own, like eight years old and five years old, so the five year old was close with Rue. They were great to Rue. They were great with the kids. But on Saturday, we've been doing all the family stuff to where you know, we're all with each other. We're going to dinner, we're doing breakfast. Hey, let's go to the pool, let's do this and that. But on Saturday, it was just it was just the adults. We got a sitter, We went out, we had dinner. There was a little double date. We had dinner up on a rooftop somewhere, and then afterwards, at ten forty five, we went to this speakeasy magic show. It's a really cool setup. You go in, you kind of in this waiting area, like inside of this bar. Guy comes up and grabs you.

00:40:15
Speaker 1: He was like, was there a secret cut?

00:40:18
Speaker 2: Uh? Yeah, but the person who booked it had to do all the secret codes stuff, gotcha Okay, So he grabs sham, takes him over. Hey, you guys are going to the other side. Tell him George sent you go to the other side. It's the cleaners, to where the cleaners is closed. And you walk in and you know, you got the desk sitting up front. You got all these clothes hanging from like dry cleaning and everything else. You say, what the code is, Hey, George sent us, and you take your little coupon. You walk behind. There's like a door behind all the closes. You're like walking through the close and everything else. There's a secret little door. You entered the secret door, and then you're back in this bar area with a little stage and it was a magic show. We had a great time at the magic show, a lot of different magicians. You know, they have about ten minutes at each table and they get up and they do different they do different sets, they do different things.

00:41:03
Speaker 3: It was a great night.

00:41:04
Speaker 2: During that night again double date, we had a sitter for all four kids at my wife's friend's apartment. So Ruin Scott Yeah, ru and Scottie are essentially having a little sleepover at at Susan's. Okay, so they're at Susan's. They have a little movie night, they watch Frozen, they go down to sleep. Rue's having a little sleeping bag sleepover. Scotty's down for the count around seven, seven thirty. She's the easy one to put down. And Rue and and Uh. The two friends, the eight year old and the five year old, they do a little sleepover together in one of their bedrooms. And throughout that night they're alluding to, hey, the kids seem like they're having a great time. They can just stay all night at our house. And Charles's kind of pushing back, Oh, we can go back and we can get them, And in my mind bubbling up is like, hey, if they're offering, and take them up on this offer, and we could just go back to our hotel room or four hundred foot square foot hotel room. We could have the bed to ourselves, we could sleep and we don't have to worry about the kids in.

00:42:10
Speaker 1: That in that moment, are you doing any hints towards Jara of kind of like a hey, no.

00:42:16
Speaker 2: I think I nudge her one time, like, hey, it'd be kind of nice, kind of nice. She's like, hey, sweetheart, there are kids. I feel you, I feel you, but.

00:42:23
Speaker 1: Would be nice.

00:42:25
Speaker 2: And at this point, it's like one one thirty in the morning, and I am absolutely beat. Everybody's kinda beat, and we're finishing out this magic show. And again they're doubling down, doubling down on. Hey, they're already asleep. They can just sleep at our they can just sleep at the apartment, and they you know, we'll just we'll handle them in the morning.

00:42:46
Speaker 3: And I'm thinking it.

00:42:47
Speaker 2: Could be kind of nice, sweetheart, come on, she doesn't want to do it. They they're tripling down.

00:42:53
Speaker 1: I was just about to say, don't tell me they triple down, tripled Then then it's like you you may even be kind of rude. Then it's like, what they don't want their kid, We're not good enough.

00:43:04
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, and then yeah. Then he gets to the point where I'm like, we're uber and back, and I'm thinking to myself, why aren't we getting an uber back to the hotel like they've offered us, Like, why not take them up on this offer, knowing that my man Chris on the other side is probably like, he's probably i'd be nice. You guys can get your kids. You know, he's not saying nothing, No, he's like, yeah, he'll be fine, dam too.

00:43:29
Speaker 1: Or I know my man Chris, He's like, yeah, you guys.

00:43:32
Speaker 2: Get your kids. Get you And I'm thinking, hey, sweet, let's fucking just go back to the hotel room. So we go back, We wake them up. It's two in the morning, we wake up, we wake up Scottie, you know, Charles getting Scottie and the carrier.

00:43:45
Speaker 3: I'm getting rue.

00:43:47
Speaker 2: We get an uber to go back to the hotel, roosting a tantrum the entire time back to hotel. Obviously she's tired, Yeah, all the different things, right, And I'm just sitting there, I'm exhausted, and I'm starting to get in like a bad mood for the fact that we ended up taking the kids back to the hotel. And we're pushing them down. We're going down the hall. We got the stroller going down the hall. And Troll makes a comment, it seems like you're it seems like you're kind of mad, kind of mad at me right now, because I think roommate the comment like that day you frustrated. Oh no, that is not frustrated, that is just tired. And charl goes, it feels like you're kind of mad at me right now. And I'm like, we could have left the kids at the apartment and came back to the hotel. This is basically all I said. Oh so you are mad at me. I'm just saying it would have been nice if we could have just came back to the hotel room and got some sleep with each other. And so I'm, you know, doing this thing when when I get upset, I'm very much like an internal an internal being. A lot of things fester inside. I'm more so suppressed. I suppress. I know my therapist would say, hey, you need to talk about this stuff. I'm a guy that suppresses my emotions when when.

00:44:49
Speaker 1: I've traveled with you for travel shoots, that happens also when you get tired. It seems like yeah, so it was a little double down.

00:44:59
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, we were wipe.

00:45:01
Speaker 2: We were exhausted because you're run around, you're doing some with the kids all day, and nap time there wasn't really a whole much of a nap time because again you're just on the move, you're in a different city. Yes, And then when we're going back to our hotel room, like our hotel room is insanely small, so we're all four on the bed, Scotty's playing. You're trying to get her down, but she doesn't really want to go down, so it's like, all right, we're just gonna eat this nap time. So everyone's essentially just exhausted. And because I was on an earth, now that was a different that was a different day. All these days run together. But you're sleeping in you're sleeping in the bed with your toddler. We don't do we don't normally do that. So it was like, you know, she's adjusting all night long. You're waking up like about eight times because her foot is like on your face and you're like, hey, sweetheart, you got.

00:45:41
Speaker 1: To move over.

00:45:41
Speaker 2: Go bother mom or something apparently like between them and pillow. Yeah, she's in between us. But we were just at that part of the night to where there was not a lot of like, uh, diplomatic resolution. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know what I mean. Yeah, and uh, where we said a few things back and forth to each each other. Okay that I'm not proud of. I know she's not proud of. I escalated the situation because I more so wanted to suppress a maternalize and say no, I don't want to talk about this shit. I want to go to bed and I want to sleep on it. It's like, oh, so you don't want to get you don't want to get this figured out and talk about it tonight. No, I don't want to talk about it tonight. I want to go to sleep. I want to put the kid down. I want to go to sleep. Well, she's like, well, Ru's already asleep, but can't you just help me with Scotty. I still got to do my face routine and brush my teeth and everything else. And I told her, I said, I told you that when we got to the apartment that I had Ru, meaning you have Scotti. So even though Ruth's asleep, that's a win for me. You got to put Scottie down. That was the deal. So, oh, so you're not going to be my teammate. You can't have some perspective on how I've been grinding with the kiddos all week long out here in New York while you were in Chicago. I'm like, oh, so now you want to bring up the scoreboard. Now you want to scoreboard me to death? Make me feel guilty. I wish I could have been out here with you.

00:47:02
Speaker 1: Are you in your pjs while you're having this?

00:47:04
Speaker 2: Just in my short so yeah, I guess I'm in my pj's. I'm like scratching Ru's back, And there's a part of you, there's a part of me after the fact. I wasn't thinking about it in the moment, but after the fact that my I kind of hate that. I was kind of going back and forth with mom, like because Rue was there. I think she was sleeping, But you know, when you're young, it's like you could be fake sleeping and you're listening to mom and dad argue. I don't know if she's old enough to have that figured out yet.

00:47:24
Speaker 1: Well you all doing Uh have you ever seen the other guys?

00:47:28
Speaker 2: Yeah? Of course, which we're fighting.

00:47:31
Speaker 1: You said I that means you have Scotty.

00:47:34
Speaker 2: You No, No, we were not wasn't too high, but we were allowed. We were loud enough. I was loud enough for sure. And I kind of do things where like roll over there, Charles like sitting there like like shaking, like you know, rocking Scotty trying to get her to sleep because she's fussy now. But you got Scottie at that volume with that Yeah, I think I I can't believe remember, oh, no thing. I kind of like roll over and I'm trying to fall asleep and try not to think about all the words that I said because I'm trying to just sleep. She's like, so you don't want to figure this out. No, I don't want to figure this out. I want to go to sleep. Just log us a therapy session. We can talk about this with a therapist. And she's like, we don't have she's not booked for next week. I'm like, well, you better book her because we need to figure out We got to Yeah, we got to talk about this conversation with the therapist. And she's like, oh, it doesn't seem like it's very healthy if we have to use the therapist to talk about this, Like we need to be using. We need to be doing the stuff that she's talked to.

00:48:32
Speaker 1: Us about to help us through. Not to solve every Yeah, yeah, not to solve it.

00:48:38
Speaker 2: The sweethearted is June you don't want to respect mental What is it mental Health Awareness Month?

00:48:43
Speaker 1: I think it's Pride month? Is it both? Yeah?

00:48:45
Speaker 2: It might be both, It might be better. Yeah, yeah, June teenth, Come on, there's a lot of things going on, of things going on.

00:48:50
Speaker 1: Come on, dude, June's a big month.

00:48:52
Speaker 2: And I like to think I I kind of I hardheaded that argument to where listen, I'm going to sleep.

00:48:59
Speaker 1: I don't want to argue about that.

00:49:00
Speaker 2: I want to talk about this being a dude, being a full on dude, having a low moment as a husband, as a father, and as a man.

00:49:08
Speaker 3: In the next morning, she beats me to an apology.

00:49:10
Speaker 2: She's like, hey, you know, I'm sorry for uh I said some things I didn't mean last time. I am sorry for bringing the schoolboard that makes it. I didn't want it to go there, and I was like, I want to be I did want to. I needed to be the first to apologize because I was being a bit about the entire situation, because I just wanted to, like just go back to the room. We don't got the kids. It's like they offered, we take it up night, me and you. We go back, we sleep, we wake up, we go down and get lattes, like we enjoyed just a nice little morning before a little pool day that we were about to have on Saturday or whenever that was.

00:49:43
Speaker 3: And she's giving me the whole Hey, the kids are.

00:49:45
Speaker 2: Our responsibility, Like, I don't want to put our kids, the responsibility of our kids on my friend when even though she's offering and saying yes, like I know what it takes to, you know, handle a couple of kids, and they would have all four of them doing all their morning routines and they're getting the same amount of that we're getting. Yeah, And she's like it's our kids are our responsibility. I'm thinking of myself like, yes, she's right, but we would have had a little lifeline, we would have had a little anyway, what I'm cracking a cold one too. We ended up finding our way back to each other. We were both apologetic to each other because you know, I was being a pussy. Yeah, well that's why I said. I was like, I'm sorry for being a pussy last night. Like I was really bitching about it and I was taking it out on you, and I'm sorry for that.

00:50:29
Speaker 1: Everyone won in that situation.

00:50:31
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's one of those I was going back and forth on if I wanted to tell that story on here, But then I think, like, that's real life. Yeah, that's a that's like you go at it, and that's a perfect example of an argument over something like trivial when you look back at it now. Yeah, but it was a good moment of like Charro's going off of that philosophy of like the right choice here is the harder one to make to go pick up our kids. Now you say that, I feel even worse because you're one hundred percent right.

00:51:05
Speaker 1: Like, and I live by those words just because Jill's stepdad says religiously, He's like, if you have two options, the right one is usually the harder one to do. And I'm like, all right, God.

00:51:15
Speaker 2: But that doesn't I couldn't see that, so I could not see it in the moment.

00:51:19
Speaker 1: I didn't want to see that in the moment. We always get blinded in moments like that. I do all the time. Yeah, and I'm really bad. I feel like every single wedding I've ever been to, the dad of the bride that like, you know, talks that right before the receptions about the guys. You know, the only advice I'd give you guys is, uh, never go to bed angry. You know, solve it before you go, Like, dude, I know that's what they all say.

00:51:47
Speaker 2: The whole Yeah, don't go to bed angry. I struggle with that because I am just such a being that I almost need a night's sleep and I'll be a lot more clear minded when I wake up, because when I'm in it, I'm just not in I'm just not in the mental space to solve it the way that we actually need to solve it.

00:52:06
Speaker 1: Yes, Jill sounds like very similar to Charro. She wants to do it right then and there and what that entails. And this is nothing against Jill. That it's gonna be a lot of monologuing from Jill, and I need to keep maintain eye contact. I need to show her that I'm listening. But it's also one point thirty in the morning. I want to go to bed. I'm exhausted, and I don't have the brain capacity to fully solve this thing. And it's hard. It's a double edged sword because it's like, Jill, you're not getting the best of me right now. I know you want to solve this right now, but you you're getting a pissed off, upset, tired, and probably hungry sherman right now. Who sucks. That's the worst version of me.

00:52:47
Speaker 2: Yeah.

00:52:47
Speaker 1: So if we did this tomorrow, yeah, with sound minds and a nice sleep and some thought. Yeah, but that's just life, dude.

00:52:57
Speaker 3: They Yeah, can you wake up the next morning?

00:52:59
Speaker 2: You're kind of feeling a little weird, like, you know, I know I need to say something I need to figure out right at the right time. Yes, right to them, we're kind of like, hey, you want to get Scotty in this? Or hey do you want you know, I'm like, hey, what do you want me to get in the what do we need to get in the green backpack for the day?

00:53:13
Speaker 3: Like how long were we gonna plan to be out?

00:53:15
Speaker 2: Like you know, I'm trying to do all the stuff, and you know, it's just sitting in your mind, like we know we have some some words we need to say, like apologizing.

00:53:24
Speaker 1: What was the little quote you said? The hard the hard choice. The hard choice is usually the right one to make. I'm just gonna call my wife. I have a good feeling about this before she picks up.

00:53:38
Speaker 2: I have a good feeling about this.

00:53:41
Speaker 1: It's ten twenty on a Sunday.

00:53:45
Speaker 2: Yeah, I we're in the middle of this episode right now, and I just I feel I felt inclined to call you and tell you that I am once again sorry for the way I acted the other night. That Sureham just hit me with a quote that said the hard choice is usually the right choice to make. And in that moment of in that moment of weakness, I was very much trying to take the easy way out, and I was projecting on you in a way that you did not deserve. And again I said it yesterday, but I was I was being a bitch when I was when we were coming back to the hotel, and I just once again, I want to apologize to you and then say I'm sorry a bit. It's kind of, you know, it's kind of a mix because we're on the show. I was kind of talking about my crack of cold. One was finding your way back to your teammate, Charo.

00:54:32
Speaker 1: I will say this, and I'll just interject here. I do apologize when I said that quote. He grabbed his phone and was like kind of partially halfway listening to what I was talking about. I could tell he was like, I need to call my wife right now. So I don't think this is fully a bit. I think he really did want to call you.

00:54:50
Speaker 2: Thanks, You're welcome. I hope you hope you're enjoying your night. I know it's ten twenty on a Sunday. I will be home soon. But again, I just yeah, I had loser mentality the other night when Surem hit me with that quote on the hard choice is usually the right one, I was like, God, yes, she was. No. No, I believe that because you were kind of giving me the right like I was thinking of from a perspective of more selfishness, on we would have a room to ourselves, your your friends tripled down and offered to have the kids, and that felt like the easiest, most comfortable choice to make. And when ru hit me, or when not Rue, when Suram hit me with that quote, I'm thinking back to it, and you were leaning into I know, but these the kids are our responsibilities. So I'm like, you were choosing the hard choice even though you probably you know you would have loved to have done the same thing as me.

00:55:42
Speaker 4: I don't know what to say, because.

00:55:47
Speaker 3: You could just say I love you and you're the best husband in the world.

00:55:51
Speaker 1: Well, I agree, Okay, let's go.

00:55:56
Speaker 2: I love you, so I'll see you later. I think they went well.

00:56:01
Speaker 1: I think that Hey, I think that was pretty good.

00:56:07
Speaker 2: Yeah, it went pretty good, she said, I.

00:56:09
Speaker 1: Agree with what you said.

00:56:10
Speaker 2: She did.

00:56:11
Speaker 1: Yell you. Yeah, hey, we're you're if like you're in the doghouse right now. I think you're like well out of it, you know what I mean, Like your tails still might be in the doghouse.

00:56:21
Speaker 2: Ol, buddy, out of the doghouse, when I tell you, I put on a heroic performance when we had to sit on the tarmac for ooh, that's all of two and a half hours today when we were flying back from LaGuardia. Yeah yeah, I mean I had Rue all right, had Scotty on my lap. I you know, BASE essentially gave Charles like a two two and a half hour break because I was like, hey, do you want me to hold Scotty? And because I again Charles like carrying Scotty. I'm messing with Rue a lot of the time. But dude, when you're stuck on the tarmac. We were stuck on the runway. We were supposed to fly out at noon. We got on, we got boarded around twelve thirty, and we didn't leave until about three, like take off till about three. Like that. Dude, that's a different kind of Hell. Yeah, that's a different type of Like the kids were good for the most part, Little dad hack out there. If you're flying with your family, always sit by the window. Reason being if there's a blowout or a heavy diaper and your wife's in the aisle, she would usually have to be the one to go to the back.

00:57:25
Speaker 1: After that, photegal. Yeah, it's crazy, it's crazy.

00:57:32
Speaker 2: But you got you got to you got to strategize at some points. I listen, I was I was a one. They were in c but they got to do the family boarding after a But I don't work this hard to you know, just let my A one go to waste on Southwest. Yeah, so I hold down the row that we're gonna be on full flight, not an empty seat, the entire not an empty seat when we were taking off. Yeah yeah, so I'm holding down the row and it's like, you know, I just happen to be on the inside.

00:58:00
Speaker 3: And I was thinking about.

00:58:01
Speaker 2: This whenever we were getting towards the end and Scottie I was seeing kind of a blowout. She had wetness on the outside of that. Oh shit, nice, know, we gotta change it. But matter of fact, Charle changes are right there in the row. I ended up putting Rue on my lap and she just changes Scotty right there in the middle seat. Oh damn, Yeah, Charles scared to get her hands dirty.

00:58:23
Speaker 1: No, that's dial.

00:58:26
Speaker 2: She ain't scared to get her hands dirty. She'll she'll do it in public if she has to.

00:58:34
Speaker 1: I need to train on diaper training. By the way, that is something that I am very like, not nervous about. But I'm like, I want to be a pro. I want to be an Officianado.

00:58:44
Speaker 2: Oh you'll you'll get there. You'll, you'll, you'll you'll learn quick.

00:58:47
Speaker 1: You'll learn quick watching you do it that one time. It's the only barrier you get across. You got to get across is once you realize there they're more durable than you INTI bait.

00:59:00
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you want to be very careful. You think everything hurts them. Like when I was putting clothes on Rue, for I mean really first several months, I'm always like very careful because I don't want to pull a string of a strand of hair, you know what I mean. I don't want her to be uncomfortable as I'm trying to put like a shirt or something over a head. But once you get past kind of that barrier that they're that they're pretty durable, then you'll you'll get rolling.

00:59:23
Speaker 3: Not in a way to where you're throwing them around.

00:59:25
Speaker 2: But I remember when you were you were at the house and I was like, hey, go ahead, like change your diaper or I was having you do something. Oh, just seeing how you were very cautious.

00:59:36
Speaker 1: You were having me practice feeding. Yeah, you have practice feeding.

00:59:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was holding on when I was showing you the diaper. I was showing you you.

00:59:46
Speaker 1: Showed me the diaper change.

00:59:48
Speaker 2: Yeah.

00:59:48
Speaker 1: But then you were like, hey you can feed her like here, you put your elbow up here.

00:59:52
Speaker 2: Yes, you were being super which I completely get. Like I was the same, Like I was the same way.

00:59:57
Speaker 1: I was holding a glass ballerina. Yeah, I was like, what in the world is this? Yeah, You're like not.

01:00:04
Speaker 2: Get her, get her sitting up.

01:00:06
Speaker 1: You gotta push it in just I'm like late, and then Brad doing the bottle during the trailer. Dude, I always think about that, putting the bottle underneath his chin and Scotty just I'm like, oh my god, I was getting so nervous.

01:00:25
Speaker 2: So easy, there you go.

01:00:27
Speaker 1: You're sitting like ten feet back. You're like, what are you doing?

01:00:32
Speaker 2: Just move it. Yeah.

01:00:35
Speaker 1: We ran long again, which is which is totally fine, Which is totally fine. But I was going to kick it too. We had a survival kit and a dad hack. I was gonna hit the what are the odds?

01:00:48
Speaker 3: What was your crack a cold one?

01:00:50
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, crack a cold one will probably.

01:00:53
Speaker 2: Listen, listen. We got enough comments. People don't care.

01:00:55
Speaker 3: If it goes over.

01:00:56
Speaker 1: It's okay.

01:00:57
Speaker 3: If we go, it's okay if it goes over. Until people say, hey, you guys gonna shut the fuck up.

01:01:02
Speaker 2: I think it's all right. I think we gotta go. I think we got enough good feedback. Like in my head, I'm thinking these would be a lot better if they're under an hour. I would love to ideally hit that every episode. Yeah, but no, Like I don't know if I'm in my own head about it. A lot of the times and all the reassuring comments. It's like, hey, we love you guys, taking your time, you guys talking everything else.

01:01:20
Speaker 3: It's kind of like, bro, just rip it.

01:01:22
Speaker 2: Bro.

01:01:22
Speaker 1: Well, if we're coming in with two stories like that off the top, I mean those are bangers. We looked up. We looked up after the choking story, it was thirty five minutes.

01:01:32
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that felt like that.

01:01:34
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was the worst minutes I've ever been through. You're having to listen to that. Yeah, okay, So my crack a cold one.

01:01:41
Speaker 2: Uh.

01:01:41
Speaker 1: Will brought up Daily Dad, and then he also brought up Strong Fathers Strong Daughters. I made it my homework assignment that first week to get both of those books. I have both of those books as well. Some others shout out Papa Sheerm. He listens to the episodes. He actually the one that got on Amazon and said, I heard you wanted these? Do you want these? As like a little gift, let's go. So Papa Shirm hooked it up. I dove into Strong Father's Strong Daughters. I literally have only read the intro. So we got it last night or two days ago. I got it and started reading it last night out loud to Jill. I have only gotten through the intro and then like part of chapter one, but I cannot recommend it more just because the introduction is and I forget the author's name. That's terrible that I forgot her name. Strong Father's Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker, shout out Magneeker. So written by a woman, And essentially in the introduction, she's like, hey, listen, I've been a doctor for like this long I've had to treat She's done some stuff in mental health as well as well as being like a family pressitioner, I think is what she is. She's like, I've had all these daughters come in, all these girls, it's the same thing about their dad, of like, these are the types of qualities that I love in my dad, or somebody that had a terrible relationship with my dad. It's these are the things that I really wanted from my dad. Yeah, And she's basically sitting there in that introduction and just being like, Dad's you are the most important relationship with your daughter no matter what. Don't care who they married, don't care who they date, who their best friend is, if they're best friends with Taylor Swift, does not matter. You are going to be the most important relationship in your daughter's life. Bar Nune. Even with mom and hearing that and reading it aloud, and then Jill like sitting there on the couch, it was fun, dude. I was getting like actually really juiced up of like because I'm hearing you talk about that, I'm hearing Jill every now and then she said this great quote, She's like, the only thing I've ever been worried about you, Sherman, is that our kids are gonna love you more than me. And she was like, and that's the best thing I could ever be worried about. And she's always talking about Scarlet's gonna be a daddy's girl, She's gonna be obsessed with you. You're gonna be her favorite person in the whole world. So like hearing all those things and then reading from this doctor Meg Meeker that wrote this like best selling book, like it is your job to be her needle in life, of like morality, of spiritually, of emotionally, Like you are going to be the driving force in her life. Buckle up, because you play a really important role. And she had a great quote she was like, if you knew how important your role was in your daughter's life, you'd be terrified. And I stopped reading out loud, and I looked at Jill. I said, well, good thing. I'm already scared shitless, so I uh, like, I'm very excited, and so I wanted to crack a cold one to you. I know we already cracked our bud lights, but I'm just oked off of like, and that was only off of one night of reading. I'm gonna get home. I have so much coffee in me it's late at night that I'm gonna have to read The Fall asleep. I know exactly what I'm reading, So shout out to you and uh for that book recommendation, and I'll do like a more succinct breakdown I guess of like each chapter as I go through it.

01:05:24
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's I'm only a few chapters in, but it is. It's cool that you say that too, because I feel like a lot of people have DM me saying that they got that, that they got strong Fall Strong sick. People I've talked or have mentioned The Daily Dad. I know I've recommended it before, and a couple of people also were talking about the twelve hours and twelve weeks like a sleep the sleeping method, but a lot of people getting strong father strong daughters, And dude, I'm telling you, whether again you're an expecting father, whether you're somebody that's already doing it and your daughter is young, whether you're older and you have a teenage daughter, Like, there are so many stories that she breaks down on that Yeah, it's like the greatest thing in the world, and you, just as I'm reading it, you already know it's going to be one of the hardest things in the world, especially when they get older and resent you and have all these things where they push back on and they don't listen to you, and you kind of, I would assume, feel like you don't have a great relationship with your daughter. You come across a lot of these stories that you're almost it's like in my head as I'm reading it and I have a three year old, it's like, oh, this is going to be inevitable that you're going to have these like bumps in the road, or these could potentially be long periods of feeling like you're not doing good enough for your daughter. So even if you're a dad right now and you have a teenager, you have somebody who's in their twenties, and you'll read these stories and I'm sure you'll get whether it's flashbacks or even things to look out and prepare for that you're not going to be able to stop just because you feel like you have the best relationship of all time with your daughter, because it seems just from what I'm reading that there are going to be those moments. There's gonna be those phases impossibly like years where it seems like they're far away from you. So it's cool. I think the book is incredible. I think that I would strongly recommend the book to every girl that out there.

01:07:09
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, it's sick. Even when you were just talking about in the teenage years when they started pushing back, she was like, that's when they need you even there most.

01:07:18
Speaker 2: And it's not even something that I feel like you're going to have like a result from. Yeah, it's just going to be knowing that you still have to intentionally, just through your actions, just show that you're being there, because it's it's like them testing you, and they might not even know that they're testing you because they're so they're so hormonal, Yeah, that they might just be resistant to you. But it's like I feel like the book gives you a lot of good perspective to be prepared for or again, you might be in it. You might be in those teenage years to where you just you're able to compartmentalize and understand what's happening, and it gives you some good practical ways to continue to show up even though it probably doesn't feel like you're showing up. Yeah, so the book is the book is incredible so far.

01:08:03
Speaker 1: One last note I would say on the book that was something that caught my attention. And the introduction was she said, and this is for any dad's out there that like maybe you don't have the strongest relationship with your daughter. She had a great quote, and they're saying, this book isn't just for like dad's at the you know, precipice of this relationship. If you're trying to heal or trying to like recover that relationship with your daughter, it is never too late. And that's Meg Meeker's words and not mine, but she says, you know, it's never too late to revitalize that relationship, Like even if you are separated from your daughter right now, like there's still a place in her heart where like she wants dad, she needs dad. So I thought that those were powerful words. I was like, damn, dude.

01:08:47
Speaker 2: Dude, it's it's buckle up. You'll get you'll get teary eyed. Yeah I'm not.

01:08:52
Speaker 1: I mean I didn't last night, but you'll.

01:08:54
Speaker 2: Even get teary eyed over the stories that you kind of just read about. That's like, it's just you know, it's tough.

01:09:01
Speaker 1: There were there were some stuff just at the beginning of chapter one where she was talking about like sex education and stuff for you know, what the kids are learning in school. And this book was written I don't know when, but it sounds like maybe written a ways back, not too far back, but like we have Google, Yeah, we do have Google.

01:09:19
Speaker 2: There's gonna be one story you come up on here pretty soon to where it's like the daughter, something happened to the daughter and she kind of told her dad, and her dad was going off for like a uh.

01:09:32
Speaker 1: Two thousand and six, okay, because.

01:09:34
Speaker 2: Yeah, six, her dad was going out for a tea time, and the daughter was kind of telling her dad and he just made the comment like, oh, boys will be boys, and just that comment right there, and it dives into it dives into that that girl's story and it just I don't know, man, You'll you'll you'll get a lot of perspective, a lot of like, oh shit stuff that you'll just think about like as a man, you know what I mean. Yeah, that if you don't know any better, you get caught up and hearing the whole.

01:10:03
Speaker 1: Boys will be boy's phrase.

01:10:04
Speaker 2: Yeah, And now that it's like you have a daughter and you're you're seeing it from a whole different perspective and a whole different lens, you just realize how truly important like those moments are.

01:10:17
Speaker 3: It's you'll like it.

01:10:19
Speaker 1: Damn, I'm still you'll like it. But that was that was my kracker cole one. And did you already do your crackerle one?

01:10:27
Speaker 2: My cracker hole was finding your way back to your tea. My cracker call one ended in a phone call to the missus, just hey, sweet, I just want you to know, is this a bit? I am on the show? You are calling me out saying that this is a bit. But I do mean every word that I'm saying.

01:10:40
Speaker 1: I was just checking my mis calls because I saw a Jay on there for Jill, but it was actually Jared Beamon, who might be the second most important Jay in my life.

01:10:49
Speaker 2: Yeah, Jared Demon.

01:10:51
Speaker 1: Jared Demon, that's a producer here. We got, we got. You have a what are the odds? I do have a what are the odds? I put Will on the spot earlier. I've warned you multiple times. This has been a recurring issue with me at my past jobs. I do a very poor job of asking for PTO in advance. I feel like this was well in advance, though, But I did put you on the spot in front of chef and I said, Hey, Baylor is playing Auburn for their season opener night game blackout in Waco. Ari bought tickets for it. What are the odds night game blackout Waco? Scarlett is going?

01:11:34
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was so Sran was like, so I got tickets to this game. It's like August twenty ninth, August twenty eight, somewhere around there.

01:11:43
Speaker 3: Yeah.

01:11:43
Speaker 2: Paternity leave, I know, I got it up until football season starts. However, once paternity to leave in what's paternity leave.

01:11:51
Speaker 1: In labor day weekend?

01:11:53
Speaker 2: Yeah? How about some vacation time? What are the changes? I get out of the office and go to the Baylor home opener blackout blackout, I said, I don't see why not.

01:12:06
Speaker 3: I reserve the right to change my mind.

01:12:07
Speaker 1: You one hundred percent do you one hundred percent.

01:12:10
Speaker 2: Don't see why not? I think you are insane. How old Scarlet gonna be eight weeks? Yeah, maybe two months? Yeah, you're taking her to a game? Hell yeah, she's going phones on.

01:12:21
Speaker 1: Hell yeah.

01:12:22
Speaker 3: You know you ain't gonna You're not gonna be at that entire game.

01:12:25
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, No, I'll be in the concourse probably, you know, five minutes in the first quarter, Jill going, Jill's going. Okay, it's a family affair.

01:12:34
Speaker 2: So if it's a full, premeditated, planned out affair, got a hotel room in Waco, there's a chance you might get to be at the entire game. But I would assume eight weeks postpartum, she ain't gonna want to say.

01:12:49
Speaker 1: That whole fucking game.

01:12:50
Speaker 2: She's gonna be at that game. When you guys get in Waco, she's gonna be like, what the fuck are we doing?

01:12:55
Speaker 1: She and to bring it to bring it back to our buck or my motherfucked quit talking about CFP. She's actually very stoked for the sounding yeah right now, So you're saying the what are the odds shout out FanDuel the what are the odds? And what are the odds? Might not even be with your boss. Yeah, no, the what are the odds are? Will we make it through the whole game? Can Scarlett make it through a full ninety those odds?

01:13:23
Speaker 2: Or you're got you got plus fifteen hundred at least? Okay, I can make it through the whole game. I mean I know that this might be a little tam I and you don't even have to share this is she breastfeeding?

01:13:38
Speaker 1: Yeah? I feel so kind of weird as but they have they have the little you know, like kids sections, the little baby sections that you go into in the concourse for like the breastfeeding. The diaper changes could be kind of nice.

01:13:54
Speaker 2: Could be kind of nice. I'm excited to hear how that experience goes. The chef said, we need a dad vlog? Yeah we are. This is for the dads.

01:14:06
Speaker 1: Can I at some point I.

01:14:07
Speaker 2: Would assume we might expand in the vlogs?

01:14:11
Speaker 1: Can I, uh, could we send somebody down to film that blog?

01:14:18
Speaker 2: Possibly potentially if I buy the game ticket for him? Well, I mean that would this this is where it's like the company would Oh okay, we're gonna make a vlog out of it. It's for the brand. Yeah, yeah, you know what I mean. Yeah, you wouldn't have to come out of pocket to Okay, this fun.

01:14:37
Speaker 1: That could be fun or it could be the worst blog ever because it's like yeah, she you know.

01:14:45
Speaker 2: Oh she she's gonna go feed you mind if I.

01:14:48
Speaker 1: Get the camera chef and Jared or in the hotel room we're trying to put her dad. We're like, all right, Jill, you mind if we filmed this? Okay, so Jill, hey for this scene. It's actually to be really good because here's what we're gonna do. But yeah, I guess.

01:15:04
Speaker 2: So.

01:15:04
Speaker 1: One of the odds is will I make it? Will I go to the game? Will we make it through the game? Now that we've talked through this, you'll go to the Yeah you're allowed to go. Yes, Okay, let's now.

01:15:14
Speaker 2: What are the odds is? Will you make it through a full game with the missus, like with with the squad.

01:15:19
Speaker 1: And any any bears out there, any dad bears out If you gotta eat tips at McLain Stadium, I gotta reach out to McLean and see what the.

01:15:32
Speaker 2: Most important thing is that you and Jill are just committed. Yes, dude, you guys are committed. I think you can make it happen. She told me all she wants again, you keep saying, she told me this is a different time frame.

01:15:46
Speaker 1: This is different time frame than eight weeks. But she said the only thing she wants in this world is sushi and alcohol postpartum. Okay, she said, as long as she gets a couple of dogs and a couple old ones, a couple of bud lights before the game, She's gonna be a happy camper. She's a big beer girl, She's a bit a big dog girl. She loves live sporting events. I don't think Jill is the issue. I think I think Scarlet is the issue.

01:16:14
Speaker 2: Again. This is Jill pre momick in a little differently and may maybe maybe maybe she'ld be a road dog and none of that will change.

01:16:24
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and I'll be sober, sure but all day. Yeah, and let her just you babe, you go.

01:16:30
Speaker 2: But it's almost like you like learn different things on the fly because moms are so in tune with everything that's going on that moments of that they find out everything that they put in their body ends up going through.

01:16:43
Speaker 1: If they're breastfeeding. Oh yeah, she wouldn't be able to breastfeed if she's drinking. She's not pumping dump.

01:16:48
Speaker 3: Yeah, the old pump and dump. Yeah.

01:16:50
Speaker 2: Fuck so you never know, you never know, never know, Okay, godspeed.

01:16:56
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a lot. It sounds like we're.

01:16:57
Speaker 2: Shut out, fand shut out baby sweetheart, you said we was doing this like you know what are the Osmo home presented by Fandel We gotta we can't.

01:17:07
Speaker 1: Pump and dump this segment shots going, demons going, They will might even go. I think Will's gonna cub.

01:17:14
Speaker 3: No Huskers play Cincinnati. Oh, come on, Augus, come on.

01:17:17
Speaker 1: Now a Baylor two and a half. By the way, two and a half dogs at home? Night game Blackout be fun game, Be a fun game.

01:17:27
Speaker 2: Uh, Survival Kit dad Hacks, we can rip through these. I see you got a survival Kit one on here. Like again, Survival Kit and dad Hacks kind of run. I feel like they kind of run together because my dad hack is almost my dad hack is a product. I guess I could be survival Kit. I guess my dad hack could have been. And that's not even a dad hack, that's a parent hack. Even the mom's out there listening. You get that window seat on the plane, make the old dog go in the aisle. I'm telling you, that's strat right there, that's some high level strat.

01:17:57
Speaker 1: That's strat. That was a gag crazy after that though, but it's it's a good strat. I love that strat.

01:18:06
Speaker 2: Hein nobody there dads will even Dad's a vibe with this too, But I think there's there's not a dad in the game that times up bathroom breaks quite like myself.

01:18:16
Speaker 1: Yeah, you have said that, you you have Scottie down almost to the tea.

01:18:22
Speaker 2: What are you talking about. I'm talking about bathroom breaks like you use them as like a lifeline. You're talking to hold the kid. You're holding the kid. You've been putting in you know, you've been putting in the holden time. You've been looking over at the wife. She had been Yeah, hey, Scotty, daddy's got to hit the bathroom. You offload them now it's their turn to hold the kid. They're not just going to give the kid back to you when you come back from the bathroom. You'll be going to the bathroom doing your thing, and all of a sudden the time shifted or it's like.

01:18:52
Speaker 1: You can get an extra a couple of minutes. When she tries to hand Scotty back to you, I didn't wash my hands.

01:18:56
Speaker 2: Hold on, yeah, hey, let's let's go up and get bedtime started. I'm gonna run to the bathroom real quick. They'll get bedtime started first. You know what I mean. Yeah, it's just a little subtle It's a little subtle game. Okay, now, just putting out into the universe.

01:19:11
Speaker 1: I have a note section that I'll add bathroom breaks too.

01:19:16
Speaker 2: I'll come up with more situations too, so that this can be like a solid, solid clip in the future.

01:19:22
Speaker 1: I have a for mine. I was just gonna say, I'm looking at my survival kit and my dad Hack and I feel like they should one hundred percent be switched. Now I'm looking at it.

01:19:32
Speaker 2: Let me go ahead and hit the survival kit, my survival kit shout out. This baby product is going to be is called the mom Cozy. What the mom Cozy is is it? It's this deal that you put the water in and it heats it up for you. You charge it, you have it on the go, but it heats it up for you. So if you want to get the water up to one oh five. So that way, when you have the bottle, once you get to the formula phase or the formula stage, or even I guess, yeah, breast milk you could just put you could dump breast milk in it and it'll heat it up for you. So if you're on the go, grab some some room temp, water cold, what doesn't even matter. Throw water in it, hit the button, gets it up to ninety five, one oh five, whatever your desired temperature is.

01:20:15
Speaker 3: Heats it up to it.

01:20:16
Speaker 2: You throw it in the bottle, You put the formula, and you shake it up and you're ready to go. So my survival kit is called it's called the mom Cozy because you'll you'll learn too. It's like if you're gonna go out and you might heat up milk before you go, thinking like, all right, she's gonna eat or here, or she's gonna eat in about twenty to thirty minutes, so we'll be able to have a heated bottle in the car for him, or like there's some backpacks that have like a little insulated insulated sleeve that you might set it in and hope that it lasts for however long you need it. But this little mom cozy is like this little portable heat up like it looks like a little I don't want to say yetti, but it's something. It's something like that to where you put the water in. It's got a little it's got a little battery pack on the bottom that you would charge, plug in and charge. You charge it up, and whenever you turn on, it'll heat up your water to the to the desired temperature.

01:21:09
Speaker 1: This thing looks sick. Yeah, I didn't even know.

01:21:12
Speaker 3: It's a game changer.

01:21:13
Speaker 2: It's a game changer because you could just have in you know, again, you could just have a bottle of water and whenever it's time to eat or time to feed. It could be hours later. But you have this thing, and you might be on the go to where you're not anywhere where you can get some hot water or some warm water, because usually people will heat it up, whether you know, they get hot water in this at the bottle, yeah, in the in the hot water, or they got a little they got a little bottle warmer in the house. This is like one on the go.

01:21:37
Speaker 1: I didn't even realize that you had to heat it up.

01:21:39
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:21:40
Speaker 1: But now, thinking back to one of my favorite movies as a kid baby say out. I don't know if you'll ever saw that one burns himself trying to heat up the bottle the OG's node.

01:21:49
Speaker 2: Then you know, yeah, but I didn't know heat. I didn't know you had to have heat and milk either.

01:21:54
Speaker 1: That's crazy, okay, mom cozy because if you.

01:21:57
Speaker 2: Think about it, when they're feeding on the booth, there didn't add that body temperature milk. It's coming out warm.

01:22:03
Speaker 1: Bro, I've been learning about uh, colostrum, colosstrum. Yeah, dude, I saw some body like.

01:22:15
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, the little yeah, listen to this. So apparently this is my wife giving me this game. But apparently if your kid is like sick or they have a cold or something, the mom their body knows because yeah, the baby's like communicating with the tea like when they latch on, and they're ultimately telling the mom what it needs nutrient wise, and the mom ultimately makes it like when they're breastfeeding. So if they're sick or something, the mom is like formulating something based off the communication between the nipple and the mouth when they connect that hey, my body, the baby needs this right now, so it provides them the nutrients that they need. Even when they're sick.

01:22:58
Speaker 1: It's crazy here looking for aliens. We've been aliens the whole time. That's crazy. Nuts, that's so cool, dude. That is like the human body is so badass. Like the way that everything on Jill's body is just like changing to make this happen is crazy. We were talking about like the swelling and the legs. Yeah, these Jill's gone up like three shoe sizes, and the fact that there is telepathy between the tit and the baby is nuts.

01:23:30
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:23:31
Speaker 1: And then also for any meat heads out there that think that, I swear to God, people like sell colostrum. Jill was telling me this. They they will like syringe it out and they'll they'll freeze it. And then these bodybuilders are like these juice heads.

01:23:50
Speaker 3: One of the best things.

01:23:50
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they're like, oh hey, who gets colossum? Yeah, yeah, he gets a colostrum, bro. Jill told me registered nurse that doesn't that doesn't do the trick for adults. It does have a lot of nutrients in it, but it's not worth all the time of you know, buying some clossrum on the black market. That's what the streets are saying, Are you buying are you buying coloster.

01:24:13
Speaker 2: You're looking at me like I like the supplement clossrum.

01:24:17
Speaker 1: I'm not there is a supplement.

01:24:18
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, colossrum is a big thing on the one. Yeah, you're trying to get jack.

01:24:23
Speaker 1: You want to get some gloss the guys you're one of the guys that you was talking about.

01:24:30
Speaker 2: Jill, Listen, she might be wrong in saying that because it seems to be a lot of research buying clossrum.

01:24:40
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think so, Okay, maybe I'm mixing up two stories. And she was talking about breast milk.

01:24:47
Speaker 2: Yeah, so there are guys like I had an ex neighbor of mine that thinks like boom milk is like the fountain of youth. So he would tell me, he would he would tell me like, hey, he would tell Charles if you got any left over that not gonna use, Like he'll take it.

01:25:01
Speaker 1: He said that to her face.

01:25:02
Speaker 2: Yes.

01:25:04
Speaker 1: What was her reaction to that? Laughter, like nervous laughter, Like.

01:25:09
Speaker 3: Yeah, because we're like friends, you know what I mean?

01:25:10
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but he's like.

01:25:12
Speaker 2: He's dead ass, seriously. But I'll be like, you drink your wife's boot milk and he's like, yes.

01:25:20
Speaker 1: Good for him, dude, was he jacked?

01:25:24
Speaker 2: He's yeah, he's a he's a good looking human being.

01:25:27
Speaker 1: Okay, maybe there is some some science behind it. And Jill's what he says, Oh she has to pump indom. Yeah, and the kids like something like that.

01:25:41
Speaker 2: Oh oh yeah, you're talking about when he comes up to his mom and he's like he's like sucking at the teat and he's like, uh, how old is he? And she's like she's like, uh, what'd you say? Forty eight months?

01:25:53
Speaker 1: Or yeah, oh yeah, she says some ridiculous amount of months that equals up to like seven.

01:25:58
Speaker 2: Yeah, or like seventy two months. He's like so so.

01:26:01
Speaker 1: Three yeah, oh my god, great call out.

01:26:07
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was mixing up the Yeah, there are there are cats out there that drink boot milk. I tasted, Charles. I haven't like drank it, you know what I mean? Like, as I'm gonna use this as a supplement.

01:26:17
Speaker 1: You did it? Is like a bit to be funny.

01:26:19
Speaker 2: Yeah, I did it, Like let me see what this is all about. Yeah yeah, and it really won't that bad.

01:26:24
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try.

01:26:25
Speaker 2: It really won't that bad.

01:26:26
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna sit here and act like I'm not gonna try it. Yeah, but yeah, dude, seeing the colossrum was crazy.

01:26:32
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's just it's different for every woman. It's like Charles having a really hard time on herself because I want to say, with rue, she might have got to about four months. And there are some women who you know, they like freeze their boot milk and they have like months worth of supply. But it just varies for it just varies for everybody. Scotty, she had a little bit more. She's able to do more. Maybe her body was adjusted for the second pregnancy. Yeah, because some women will breastfeed for a long time. I don't even know. I don't even want to say a number, but they'll be able to breastfeed for like a long time, Like I'm talking like a year, over a year, as long long as they can. Yeah.

01:27:07
Speaker 1: Yeah, because they're like back in the olden days when like you would have like a back in the medieval, Back in the medieval, what would they call those the nursing the wet nurse.

01:27:17
Speaker 2: I don't know, we'll say it for this story, the wet nurse.

01:27:21
Speaker 1: I hope I'm not like saying some super non PC but I'm pretty sure that's what Yeah, yeah, yeah, a wet nurse that just like she just always had boot milk gun. Yeah, you didn't have to breastfeed. It was like, you know, put her, put her on nurse.

01:27:37
Speaker 2: Yeah, because there's just so many different variables, one being the mom like the supply that they have, and then another one is like if the kid is like breastfeeds, well, sometimes it won't be coming out fast enough, so they'll be very irritated, and then then you start to switch to the bottle because they're just not getting a lot.

01:27:54
Speaker 3: There's a lot of different things that.

01:27:55
Speaker 2: You'll that you'll experience in the damn in the postpartum life, because that's a that's a real thing that goes down.

01:28:00
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm in a holding pattern right now with this podcast. I'm very excited for Scarlett to be here. Obviously for Scarlett to be here, but I feel like just the amount of stuff that's gonna hit me in week one, I'm gonna.

01:28:12
Speaker 3: Yeah, it'd be some fun. Yeah, it'll be some good story.

01:28:14
Speaker 1: It's gonna be seeing there chuckling as I'm like cross eyed and like, yeah, what the fuck is?

01:28:19
Speaker 2: And you'll have different experiences, you know what. I mean, yeah, well, I'm assuming that you'll probably have like different experiences.

01:28:24
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, for sure.

01:28:25
Speaker 2: That it won't be the exact same thing that I experience. Like everybody, everybody's different, so you just never know, but it will be.

01:28:31
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's gonna be nice.

01:28:32
Speaker 2: The fact that you're you're playing this Waycoat trip, we gate we Scarlet's life. She's gonna go to her first ball game.

01:28:42
Speaker 1: And you think the Bears are gonna lose with Scarlet, there'd be crazy.

01:28:45
Speaker 3: That'd be crazy. That'd be crazy.

01:28:47
Speaker 1: There's no way. Oh yeah, my survival kid and Dad hacks A'll go really quick. We have the baby Breza nice that was give to us. It's kind of like our was that you.

01:29:03
Speaker 3: Get the bottle cleaner one or you got like the Formula one.

01:29:05
Speaker 1: Bottle cleaner one, and that thing is crazy. I got to see it in action. Jill also bought the set where it like holds the bottles and stuff for Yeah, we had it on our what was it called where all your gifts are on the Internet and your loved ones like registry registry. It was on our baby registry, So shout out whoever got that for us. But the Baby Breza is sick, And I'm like, why aren't all dishwashers like this? Now that I think about it, if you just had a smaller dishwasher instead of waiting all for your dishes to just like collect over a long time and put in this dishwasher where it's so big that it's not really like getting everything, why not have like a small concentrated dishwasher like this baby Breza that just gets it dialed and you only put like the cups and plates that you use from dinner in it. But watching that thing work, it was crazy.

01:29:59
Speaker 2: There might be one out there, And now as you said that, if there's not, maybe it's our first product. That'd be six just great manufacture, our first product.

01:30:06
Speaker 1: You just George Foreman style pushing these mini diss and guys, I'm well compted when I'm not podcasting cleaning dishes.

01:30:16
Speaker 2: Uh.

01:30:17
Speaker 1: And then Survival or dad Hack was Goodwill. Goodwill came in Clutch today. It was a Sunday all the city dumps where you can like go legally dump your stuff. We're cleaning out the house because her parents, my parents, they're all going to be coming in next week. Because Jill gets to induced on the second so they're gonna come in on the thirtieth. The moms, I think are gonna be staying with us kind of on and off. Everybody has hotel rooms and airbnbs, but Jill wants the house looking perfect. So we're like purging all this stuff. All the city dumps are closed. I'm like, where the hell can I take all this stuff today to like get it out here, because Jill's like, I want it gone Goodwill. Dude asked zero questions, and I'm sitting there, I'm giving them like two or three chances. Like the couple in New York. I'm like, you sure, like I don't know. I don't know what's in this container. I don't know what I'm about to like dump in here. And they're like, oh, well, that's the miscellaneous bin so you can just it was incredible, dude. It was just a weight off the chest. So Dad Hacks if you know, the missus is ever Anya. It's like, hey, you gotta get this this stuff out of here. Go to good Will.

01:31:30
Speaker 2: Dude.

01:31:30
Speaker 1: They asked zero questions. Love that, but be good to them. Don't give them a bunch of nasty stuff to sift through, which I hope I didn't I look through it enough that it's like, Okay, nothing's gonna you know, piss them off. But yeah, it was a good little dad hack.

01:31:45
Speaker 3: That's it. That is a good dad hack. Should we dive into the to the voicemails.

01:31:48
Speaker 1: Let's dive into the voicemails. Do you want to do a serious one or a funny one? First? H serious? Okay? And the serious is not over serious overly serious? This week it's more so this dad is looking for advice directly from Will Compton. I cannot answer this question.

01:32:10
Speaker 4: Hey, fellas, this is Thomas from Chattanooga. Want to call in and get some advice from the boys about making the jump from one to two kids. My wife's expecting our second in November. We'll have two under two. Just kind of wanted to see what that jump was like and what to expect from it.

01:32:31
Speaker 2: All right, thanks fellas, Thomas from Chattanooga.

01:32:34
Speaker 3: Appreciate you calling in.

01:32:35
Speaker 2: Brother two under two I here is a different animal.

01:32:40
Speaker 3: You know.

01:32:41
Speaker 2: Charl and I we had our we were trying to go for two under two, but we obviously if you listen to the IVF podcast on bus with the Boys around Mother's Day that we dropped it. We had problems getting pregnant with the second one with Scotti, and so Rue was I would say, what was about two and a half when we had so we didn't necessarily have.

01:33:02
Speaker 3: Two under two. I do hear two under two is like a different.

01:33:04
Speaker 2: Animal, because again it's like the first one. They haven't been walking very long. Rue I feel like she's not she's not the most useful, but she's somebody who's aware of like she's wanting to help out. So I feel like that helps. When you have the older one, they're over two years old, you'll be you think you'll be playing man to man because you're not necessarily outnumbered yet. You'll be too two v two in the household, but you're still somewhat playing a bit of zone defense because what the older one needs. The older one's gonna be favoring, whether mom or dad at the time the newborn, you guys are gonna be able to like you already know what to expect out of the second one because you had the first one, So the second one really won't be a problem. Once they get sleeping, it's it's gonna be all about getting them to sleep, getting them in a good rhythm. I would strongly recommend twelve hours by twelve weeks. I forget who the author is, but that's a good book out there for like for like sleep training. It's not too aggressive. It's how to get to the kid to adapt to your life versus the other way around. And that was like a method we went by. So really, the first one's all about getting in that good sleep routine, because that one, again, it's like when they first come out, it's they're eating every three hours. You kind of know what to expect. With that second one. It's going to be the older one that is going to be experiencing new emotions as they age. They're gonna have there used to being the only child. They're no longer the only child. Something that we did with Rue because we were very intentional about how we introduced Scotty into the world with Rue. And I was getting this stuff from like honestly Instagram. But one thing that we did when Scotty was born is when Rue came to the hospital, we had our nanny holding Scottie. We had our nanny holding the newborn. So that way, when Rue walked into the room for your first child, you you and mom are their entire world. So when she's walking into the room to check on Mom, the entire goal was while I was walking room, it's like, Hey, we're gonna go see mom and you can meet your new little sister. So we wanted Rue to see when she walked into the room, Mom not holding the newborn, Mom who Rue saw as her entire world being Mom recovering from having Scotty, the second child. So Rue could walk in, crawl up on the bed with mom, check in on mom. And then we were like, hey, do you want to meet Scotty? Do you want to meet your baby's sister who our nanny was holding. So as a family, we kind of go over and introduce Rue to Scotty. So that way Rue feels like the baby is getting introduced to all of us at the same time getting introduced to our world. That was one thing that we did. The second thing that we did, which Steve and Cha shout out to the boy Stephen Cha for putting me on this and I feel like this isn't like a secret or anything. But when we were taking Scotty home, our second baby home, we were telling Rue as we were driving in the car, Hey, Scotty got you a present when you get home, and we got her like some like ELSA, some little like ELSA jewelry or something from the store. So when Rue got home, Scotto he had a gift for her. We're like, hey, Scotty, got this gift for you and re opened up. I was all excited. So we were very intentional about introducing the second baby into our home with Rue being our oldest. So I would I would recommend a couple of those things. And then it's like how you can immerse your oldest into being helpful with Scottie. You're like, hey, do you want to do you want to show Scotty how we do your bedtime routine? That actually kills two birds with one stone, because you're trying to get you know, it's hard enough to get your your oldest one in the bedtime routine every night consistently. So you're like, hey, do you want to show Scotty how we do bedtime? How we do our routine, And so Rue would be like helping out, we do this, we do that kind of talking to the baby, and in the same breath, Ruth's getting ready for bed. So you're kind of like, you know, you're kind of gaming her up to get ready for bed as well. She obviously you're your oldest doesn't know how to read yet. But we would tell we would have Rue like, hey, what books should we read Scotty for the first time? Which we do here, what we do there? And so we were we were We allowed Rue to be very instrumental into introducing Scotty into our house. So those would be the things that I would tell you. As far as going one to two, you know you'll get mixed reviews. You know you have you'll have the people that are like, oh, you only have one kid, now, wait till you have the second one. But honestly, dude, it's not. It's not that bad. You're already in your own routine of having a kid in the first place, and balancing work, family, being home, all those different things, and helping your wife out. The second one is really not as as difficult when you have to. Obviously, mom's going to be leaning on you to help with the older one a lot more getting ready for bed because she's going to be on a lot more of a routine with the newborn.

01:37:44
Speaker 3: But it's not it's not.

01:37:45
Speaker 2: As bad as I feel like what reviews can be on going one to two.

01:37:50
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm speaking so out of turn. I have no idea, but I almost see it as like as the two get older, like that their relationship starts budding. They're able to start pouring into each other. They're able to kind of entertain each other in types of ways to where almost like the two dog principle.

01:38:12
Speaker 2: I guess, yeah, yeah, Well, it's like once they can start smiling, like anytime Scotty's like smiling at Rue, or because Scotty watches Rue a lot, just play and do all the things and just making the comments Scotty loves you so much, Oh, Scotty loves her big sister, you know, getting them to say it back and forth. So Rue feels very connected to Scotti. And another thing that we would do that I think we learned on Instagram as well. I know for me I did. It was like how you kind of talk to the newborn with the oldest sitting there. So it's like if Rue wants my attention to play, Hey dad, Dad, can we play Hide and Seek? And I know I gotta do something with Scotti before I play with Rue. And I'm trying to be conscious about just telling Rue like Hey, I gotta de feed Scotty. I can't play with you right now. Instead, I would look to Scott and be like, hey, all right, we can play hide and seek. I just got to tell Scotty something that I look at Scotty. Hey, Scotty, when I'm done feeding you, I'm gonna go have to play hide and seek with your sister if that's okay with you. So I'm kind of telling Scotty. I'm kind of saying that in front.

01:39:12
Speaker 1: Of Rue, so Rue knows that, oh.

01:39:15
Speaker 2: Dad's gonna spend time with me, he just has to. He's letting Scotty know he's got to play with me before he plays, yes, dude, versus being like, I can't play with you right now, I'll play with you after I'm done feeding Scotty. Because then in their brain or what I've tried, like learning or gathering, like in their brain it's like, oh, I'm second fiddle to this new trial. So that could build up some resentment like in their brain because I, sweetheart, I can't play with you right now. Let daddy. Daddy will play with you after I'm done doing what I gotta do with Scotty. Instead, I'll look at Scotty and explain what I'm gonna have to do with Rue after I get done executing what I need to execute with the new.

01:39:47
Speaker 1: Dude, that is some serious game.

01:39:49
Speaker 2: You like that?

01:39:50
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, shout out Instagram, man, Yeah.

01:39:52
Speaker 1: Shout out Instagram. That's so sick.

01:39:55
Speaker 2: You're like, listen to the breakdown and you hear the why behind it, and you're like, oh that that that makes a lot of sense, yes, and how it could come off to the child that doesn't know any better. They're just hearing, no, I can't play with you right now. I gotta do this with the newborn. And it's like, well, you know, where's the time for me? You know what I mean? And then I can build up some it can build up whatever the resentment is. Like, really, the only issue we have with the ruined Scotti is if Rus just starting to break down and she sees Mom say holding Scotty like it happened today on the on the flight like Charo had, Scottie had the carrier and she was shrapped to her chest, and ru was just like having a little moments like Mom, I want you to hold me. I don't want you to hold Scotty. Yeah, so then you got to kind of, hey, I'll take the baby so she can hold Rue and stuff like that. But really that's about as much jealousy that we've seen out of Rue. It's more of just like when Ruth's having a moment and see Scotty being held, She's like, I want you to hold me. I don't want you to hold Scotty.

01:40:47
Speaker 1: It's very much the power. Forgot where I heard this or read it, but the power of we, the power of us, like using those types of terminology with like co workers, even if it's a job that only you're gonna be doing, but if you're saying it to your coworker of like yeah, if we do that, yeah, that's gonna work out great. I think that would be the best option for us. It's like integrating we're a team. Yeah, Like you're letting Rue know like, hey, we are playing hide and go seek. That's a given. We just gotta break it to this little thing over here. I love that, dude. Yeah it's been Yeah, it's worked out. It's been a good move for us.

01:41:26
Speaker 2: But that that's what I would That would be my advice on going from one to two.

01:41:30
Speaker 1: Let's go and then we'll be reaching out to Thomas in Chattanooga to get his address and he'll be receiving.

01:41:38
Speaker 2: Did we do a good job following up with our callers from last week? Let's go chef.

01:41:43
Speaker 1: Yeah, so we and yes, our friends that do the merch stuff. We have like a great doc that's all put together. We're gonna be putting people's addresses into it. We also you and I need to write some thank you for those guys as well. That will be included with so huge shout out to Thomas for reaching out. We have another call from Stephen, Stephen Steven. Let's go Stephen. This one might sting for you.

01:42:19
Speaker 5: What's up, boys, This is Stephen. I'm currently living in Warner Robbins of Georgia, originally from the borough. When it comes to kids, let's just talk about the bedtime routine. My kids have had the same bedtime routine since the dawn of time. Seven o'clock, they go lay down eight o'clock. They're usually asleep by then. I feel that when it comes time to put them to bed at seven o'clock, it's not just oh, hey, go to bed, it's seven o'clock.

01:42:51
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no.

01:42:53
Speaker 5: My kids I have to put them to bed, so I have to go in the room. I got to make sure they're steiling fans on. I gotta turn on the curtain lights. I gotta turn on their little box van because we're from the South and we gotta have two fans in our bedroom at all times. I gotta cover them up and kiss them and tell them good night. And all this time, they know they're gonna be thirsty. They know they're gonna want water. Yep, my daughters have a billion water cups. You know they got the o Wallas, they got the Stanley's. Do you think they fill that thing up knowing they want it before bed? Absolutely not. So as I finish the routine, I kiss them and tell them good night, I go to leave the room and I hear can you fill up my a walla? And the rage that fills up inside of me could blow the roof off the building. Because they have known since I started putting them to bed that they were gonna be thirsty. Bedtime routine super important. But I know I'm not the only one out there that gets frustrated by it. And then I just sit here and think, I just cannot wait for them to get older and put themselves to bed, and I cannot wait until they put themselves to bed. I got a twelve year old boy, and I got three daughters, ten year old, eight year old and a three year old. Well that's my story.

01:44:24
Speaker 1: Shout out to the boys.

01:44:26
Speaker 2: Have a good day. Steven from Georgia appreciates you calling in. The first thing I would say, listen, I can tell by your voice. I know you're in it right now. I know you're in it, and you said the words I can't wait until they can put themselves to bed. But I need you just to pause for me, and I need you to understand. All of us dads, all of us parents. I have those thoughts many times throughout the week, and I have to just remind myself that one day, one day, we're going to be old, and all of these kids are going to be out of the house, and we're going to be own, lonely, and we're going to be trying to talk to our wives about the college football sked coming up, and.

01:45:00
Speaker 1: They ain't gonna want to hear it. They're not gonna carry You're.

01:45:02
Speaker 2: Gonna be an empty nester and you're gonna wish that you were back in this moment, hoping that you can put your daughter to bed and she can annoy you by saying, Hey, dadda, can you fill up my what did he call it?

01:45:14
Speaker 3: The the a wala? That can you filla walla?

01:45:18
Speaker 2: You are going to miss that one day and we both know that you're going to And I know as I sit there and say this, you're like, God, damn it. I know he's right because we all go through that shit. We always get so mad when you get him to bed. Hey dad, Dad, I'm hungry all of a sudden. It's like, buddy, rue, that is why you had to eat your dinner. There's no snacking. There's no snacking a night. We got to set a precedent. We got to stand on business. Daddy, Can I listen? I go through the waterface or we're in the waterface, like Dad, that kind of have some water. I'll already kind of have it filled up. But here's here, Here would be some unsolicited advice that I would give you before you enter that war room. Yeah, each night is you lay out the expectation of bedtime and it doesn't always go smooth. It doesn't.

01:46:04
Speaker 3: We know that it doesn't.

01:46:06
Speaker 2: But if you lay out the expectation like, Hey, we're gonna have a good, clean, fun bedtime. We're gonna have a consistent bedtime tonight. There's no problems.

01:46:15
Speaker 1: Does the heart need to turn black for bedtime? Yeah?

01:46:18
Speaker 2: When when when you hear that door click, your heart needs to turn black knowing that you have a mission to accomplish that is bedtime, and you lay out the expectations like, hey, we're gonna get your pjs on. Rush will still wear a pull up. We're gonna get the pullup. We're gonna get the pjs on. That's never That's hasn't necessarily been a problem, unless she wants to go see mom and give her a hug before bed. We're gonna brush your teeth. Dad is gonna brush your hair. I'm gonna start low on the hair, just like you like it. We're not gonna We're gonna try to minimize as many tangles as possible. I know, dads feel me on that. It's kind of a learning curve when you're going through brushing the air. You gotta start low, you gotta start at the bottom.

01:46:59
Speaker 1: That's game.

01:47:01
Speaker 2: We're gonna get your pjs on. We're gonna read two books because what you don't want to get into is you get on a rhythm, you get in, you build some momentum, because dads, I know we're all good storytellers out there when we're hitting, when we're hitting the green eggs and ham, we're hitting the you know, fancy, Nancy, I'm reading Ziggy and the Three Little Pigs right now.

01:47:19
Speaker 3: Yes, they've hadded a fourth pig.

01:47:20
Speaker 1: Hungry hungry caterpillar.

01:47:22
Speaker 2: Hungry hungry caterpillar. You set the precedent with two books. We're gonna read two books. We're gonna brush your teeth, and we're gonna get in bed. And when we get in bed, you better not be thirsty. If you need a drink of water, you're gonna drink it before you get You're gonna drink it before you brush your teeth. Now, when you get to bed, they're still gonna want that water. However, now that you set precedent and you set expectation, you can look at them say, sweetheart, I have a water bottle sitting over there right now. We're not gonna drink this water long because Dad already told you that we're not drinking water once we get in bed. Yeah, now you go get them the water. They take a little sip and be like that one's on the house. Next time, it's gonna cost you. But you got to understand that Dad said we weren't gonna have water. So that way, it just starts to cultivate a behavior to where at least they think twice about getting the water. And if they do get the water, they're gonna keep it short. They're gonna keep it sweet. That would be that would be my advice.

01:48:24
Speaker 1: So don't don't have water living on the nightstand.

01:48:28
Speaker 2: So we started that way, okay, But when I knew she was gonna get me for some water, yeah, I would already have it kind of filled up. Yeah, and I.

01:48:36
Speaker 3: Wouldn't fill it up very much.

01:48:38
Speaker 2: When she's like I need more water, it's like, sweet art, we both know you're gonna wet the bet if you drink more water.

01:48:42
Speaker 3: Yeah, she might throw fin. I might end up getting her more water.

01:48:45
Speaker 2: But what I try to set the expectation on is this is all the water you have. You know when it's gone, it's gone. So you can have your water in the crib. I'll let you keep it in the crib if you want to. But there's only like a little bit of water in there, so she can utilize the water if she wants to. She's trying to stay she's trying to continue to stay up and find new things. When she was younger, it would be she has to tell the stairs a good night, she has to tell the rail good night. Just tell all of her stuffed animals good night. Yep, I gotta go tell this door good night. You got to take them all around the house to say good night to everything. But you realize they're strategizing against you. They're negotiating to stay up longer. It's all about setting expectations right from the jump, and those expectations always they always.

01:49:27
Speaker 3: They won't go according to plan.

01:49:29
Speaker 2: However, you're setting expectations so that way when they get there, listen, I'll get you out of bed. We can go say good night to the world one more time at the window. But whenever we say good night, we're not going anywhere else. We're going in the bed. Okay. You make them say okay, and when they say okay, you get them up. You go over there when they say good night to the world, Where do we go now we go to bed?

01:49:48
Speaker 1: Can I pitch you a plan really quick. Since I have not gone through bedtime routine. Can you tell me if this is a good plan? Yeah, I get daughter, I get Scarlet. I say, hey, Scarlett, we're gonna go get our night night water. It's the only water that we're gonna get before night night.

01:50:04
Speaker 2: This is it.

01:50:05
Speaker 1: Let's go fill it up together. We go fill it up, Scarlett. I know that you want to say nine night to the stairs, to the railing. Let's go ahead and do that. I'm holding her and she's got her water. We're telling night night to all the stuff that we want to do. I'm I'm knocking out all the things that she's wanted to do with her before bet and after we do this, we're going to bed. Let's sell the stuffed animals night night. Let's sell the blah blah blah. Is that too much to like feed into those little things that she's wanting to do? Am I giving her too much of what she wants?

01:50:32
Speaker 2: You won't know until she starts negotiating with you, and then after a few days you're gonna understand what a rhythm is and what is imperative is you don't go one by one, is that you just lay out the plan before it happens. So if it's we're gonna go down and get water, we're gonna say good night to the stuff, or whatever their cadence is.

01:50:52
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, we're.

01:50:53
Speaker 2: Gonna go downstairs and get water. We're gonna say good night to the animals. And when we say good night to the animals, after the last one, we're gonna get bed. Okay. Once they say okay, they might want something else, and they might be crying about something else. You gotta know that you got to give them enough of what they're wanting. But then you implement the expectation of bedtime. After that second or third thing out of their list of five, Hey, you're not getting all five. Here's the three that I'll give you, because you know it's bedtime right now. Here's the two or three that I'll give you. We'll go do those things. But after that second or third one we're now getting, we're gonna get back in bed. Okay. Is that a deal? They'll say? Okay, So then you start hitting the things. Where do we go to next bedtime?

01:51:35
Speaker 1: Two books?

01:51:36
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a two book guy. I'm a two book guy. She'll get me up to three four every now, and then sometimes you got to negotiate too. It'll be like you might get two books and it's like I want I want one more book, and they're not wanting to go brush your teeth. Like hey, sweetheart, here's what we can do. Let's brush your teeth. We'll get you in bed and I'll read you one more book. They might not want. They might want the book on the couch. So again, you gotta it's gonna be instinct, it's gonna be in the moment, but you're gonna have to give to get some It's all about places. It's all about setting the expectation. That's all I say. It's about setting the expectation, laying out the expectation and getting them to say, okay, getting them to think like, okay, that is a good deal.

01:52:17
Speaker 3: That's I can get those couple of things.

01:52:19
Speaker 1: Okay, I feel comfortable with that.

01:52:21
Speaker 2: Yeah, you'll rocket.

01:52:23
Speaker 1: I'm definitely like, just from the relationship of Jill and I with our dogs, like I know that I'm gonna have to be the disciplinarian, the one that's kind of you know, setting that line and as our miss missus Meek or doctor Meek is telling me and strong father's shock daughters like, I'm gonna be driving the boat.

01:52:43
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:52:44
Speaker 1: So I'm I'm already just from my poor performance with Ru and her sticker book of giving her exactly what you wanted in the in the moment and given JJ here in the office exactly what he wanted in the moment. I'm just like, man, I gotta with Scar, I gotta lock in. Yeah, my heart has to turn black at some point. Yeah yeah, And dadas is gonna have to step up and say no, no, no, no, no, no.

01:53:10
Speaker 2: It's gonna go. You gotta know when you realize what they want, you got to think in your mind, I'm gonna give them what they want, but you have to follow it up with what your expectation is going to be after that and then get them to say okay, and then when it happens, then then they know what do we do next?

01:53:26
Speaker 1: We get in bed, are you ever doing story times?

01:53:29
Speaker 2: Like?

01:53:29
Speaker 1: Are you ever making stuff up? I feel like you'd be.

01:53:31
Speaker 2: Good at that. Uh. I will if I get the light off and I'm laying next to her because she loves when dadad lays next to her in bed at night, So I'll like lay down by her crib because you know, the low back. I'm not trying to like stand up the entire time or sit sometimes they get so I'll be like laying down on a pillow next to her crib. If she wants another story, I'll just bet how about Dadad tells you a story, and then I'll just I'll just riff on something and tell her a story, usually like something it's like a sports moment that happened back in my that happened back in the day, oh yeah, of myself, and I'll just make up a different character.

01:54:04
Speaker 1: Dude, I can't believe or I can't wait until she becomes like aware of your playing background. That's gonna be fun.

01:54:12
Speaker 2: No, it'll be interesting because it won't mean shit to him. No, it'll mean shit when it's cool.

01:54:16
Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah, like elementary time. Yeah, uh huh yeah yeah.

01:54:19
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's yeah, I'll riff and do some story time. I love reading the children's books because I love like doing different voices, like she loves she would be on a kick of like Beauty and the Beast, changing beasts voice, like changing all the voices. I love doing that kind of stuff.

01:54:33
Speaker 1: Oh dude, shout out Brett Burford that he was our neighbor. He would sometimes he and his wife would babysit while my dad and mom like went out to dinner, and he would read us the o G. Harry Potters, which miss Amy was not a fan of.

01:54:47
Speaker 2: My mom.

01:54:48
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think she knew that he was reading us Harry Potter, but he would get into that hagrid voice and get into that dumble Doore voice. Heah, I still remember that. I'm thirty two years old and I still just dine laughing wizard.

01:55:02
Speaker 2: Oh, stuff up.

01:55:05
Speaker 1: We have our topic quote.

01:55:07
Speaker 2: Or yes, dude, so mine is going to come from let me find it. Mine is going to come from The Daily Dad by Ryan Holiday. This book right here highly recommend great one to half just on the dinner table if you're eating every night, just a little breakup session, like, hey, you want Data to read something out of his book. She'll say yes, and then we'll read something out of The Daily Dad. Three hundred and sixty six Meditations on Parenting, Love, and Raising Great Kids by Ryan Holiday, a number one New York Times best selling author of the Obstacle is The Way in the Daily Stoic Big in the Stoicism love Ryan Holiday's books, So we rock the Daily Dad for dinner time.

01:55:46
Speaker 1: Shout out, going to one hundred and ten percent. I see they went one day extra of a three hundred and sixty.

01:55:52
Speaker 3: Yeah right, yeah, yeah, I can appreciate that.

01:55:54
Speaker 2: Yeah. But also it's a flex, like what are you trying to just make an extra day?

01:55:59
Speaker 1: Come all right, come on?

01:56:03
Speaker 2: This this is one for man, I'm stuck between two. This one's called just go to bed. So this is for dads out there, and this is great for us because we love staying up and playing pubg. A lot of career guys out there, a lot of working dads, a lot of working moms that stay up late and sacrifice or sleep to stay up late doing whatever they're doing. In our case, sometimes I'll stay up late playing a video game or just doom scrolling.

01:56:29
Speaker 1: Because this is is he about to tell us not to do that?

01:56:32
Speaker 2: Uh, he's not about to tell you not today. I'll read it to you. I'll read it to you. Okay. Here's a quote from Arthur Choppenhauer. Sleep is the interest we have to pay on the capitol, which is called in at death. The higher the interest rate and the more regularly it is paid. The further the date of redemption is postponed. All right here it is. You know your kids are a mess when they don't sleep. That's why you follow the bedtime ritual religiously. You know that kids get into trouble at night if left to their own devices. That's why your teenager has a curfew that you enforce with an iron fist. And yet here you are up late again, mindlessly watching TV. Here you are tired in the morning again because you were uplate on your phone. You could have gone to bed. You knew you should have gone to bed, but you didn't. Who suffers your kids do because you're grouchy, because you don't have the energy, because you're behind, because maybe they even sense that you're a hypocrite. If you want to be a better parent, start going to bed earlier, Give yourself a bedtime that you honor and respect and enforce, value sleep. Take care of yourself and everyone else will benefit.

01:57:43
Speaker 1: That hits home. Dude, we do stay up. We are we are too really bad.

01:57:49
Speaker 2: Yeah, we can be a couple times, definitely, those couple nights a week that will stay up playing the video game doesn't mean I'm gonna stop playing yeah, just means that this is a great reminder that even when you do stay up late, you're just aware that we are doing it to ourselves. That almost makes I'll versus stand up late your grouch. You're kind of pissing a moment everybody you're making it. You're just in a bad mood because you stayed up late, you feel bad about yourself for doing it, and you're just more so projecting on everybody else. Something like this right here just makes me aware that I am doing it to myself, so be aware and be intentional of it the next day. To know, like if you if I am going off the rock or a little bit, that it's only because I did it to myself the night before. I that.

01:58:37
Speaker 1: Just inspired me as far as Pubgen nights go, because now I know the cost, and it's.

01:58:44
Speaker 3: A cost that we will continue to pay.

01:58:45
Speaker 1: It is a cost, Like they know that we got to be accountabilly buddies the next day, truly, which I feel like we already kind of do at the office those those next days, Like I pumped into my veins, I'm like, I know what I did, yeah, and I'm but I gotta show up this next day. And kick ass. But I do love that message, just because as far as work goes, I obviously don't have a kid yet, but as far as work goes, do when I'm getting that sleep, it's crazy how much better I'm operating and so applying that to like, you know, being able to have those conversations with my kids and my wife and be more there, be more present. Yeah, that's a that's a good learning Listen. Did you have another one?

01:59:32
Speaker 3: It's a good little reminder. I did have two.

01:59:33
Speaker 2: I might as well just read the second one says right here. This one's called it's good that you worry about this, a quote from Michael Ian Black. One great thing about having kids is that they force you into an active practice of love, whether you're ready for it or not. The question hits you in a soft place. It hits you when you least expect it, and yet it's there constantly. Am I a good parent? Am I screwing this up? Your own parents will try to reassure you that every parent thinks this way, except that's not true. There are, in fact two types of parents who never think that. There are parents who are so convinced that they're the center of the universe, that they never question themselves, never wonder what they're doing wrong. Then there are parents who don't even care enough to ask, although they are very different. In the end, these two types of parents are the same. They are not good parents. But you the type who is always checking in and wondering am I doing enough? Who actually cares about whether you're doing a good job or not. You are, by definition, a good parent because you are thinking about your kids first, not yourself. It's proof that you care, that you have self awareness, that you're always trying to improve, that you would stop to evaluate your own performance, that it would bother you to give anything less than the full measure of your devotion is all the evidence you need to reach a positive conclusion. So if you feel that negative thought, that doubt come up today, be reassured. It means that you're putting them first, and it means that you're doing a good job. I like that a lot. Yeah, solid one for solid one for parents. The it kind of sucks to read there where he just says they're not good parents, because I'm sure it's, like, you know, I feel like every parent kind of thinks are wonders that they're doing a good job or not?

02:01:20
Speaker 1: Of course, yes, everybody thinks about anything in their life, not just parenting of like am I a good friend? Am I a good husband? Am I a good employee?

02:01:30
Speaker 2: Yeah? I guess it's like a good m reminder or shift in perspective of asking yourself like have I checked in with the wife? Have I checked in with my wife? Have I checked in with my kids? Have I checked in with myself? To kind of measure performance whatever that performance is. I don't think there is like a measuring stick for it. Yeah, but if you're at least like conscious of it enough to think like so, because we don't know what our blind spots are unless we ask people in our close circle, you know what I mean?

02:01:59
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know exactly what. But you man, it's something that I'm already starting to think about with like the everything that's coming up, and like the next three weeks for me are about to be a whirlwind. It's about to be crazy. Yeah, And I'm already starting to think to myself about like still trying to prioritize Jill even though Scarlet is going to be in the picture, and like that's going to be our main focus no matter what. But with postpartum depression and all the things that you hear of like hey, is is Jill? Like am I doing enough for Scarlet? But I am I also doing enough to support Jill? And is Jill okay in this moment?

02:02:37
Speaker 2: You know?

02:02:38
Speaker 1: It's I feel like it's one of those things that like the like we were talking about last week, when you ask yourself you're like, man, I hope I'm going to be a good dad. It's like the fact that you're asking yourself that, or that you're wanting that, that's already a good sign.

02:02:52
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's And if you're somebody out there thinking of because I, like you said about like just you know, making sure Jill's all right, if Jill's good, being on the same page with Jill, it's like essentially asking your wife those questions like you know, hey, am I doing enough? What do you need from me right now? Or am I operating how you would assumed if you could give me a performance evaluation right now? And some of those questions are some of those thoughts might be like scared to have with your wife, Like if you're a dad right now listening thinking to yourself like maybe I haven't checked in with myself recently, or I haven't checked in with my wife, and it could be like a frightening thing because you might know what the answer is. You almost just have to you almost have to lean in and still seek those answers that you might not be excited to hear. Because it's one thing that we talk about all the time is like conflict delayed is conflict multiplied.

02:03:46
Speaker 1: Yeah, And so.

02:03:47
Speaker 2: If you don't seek out those answers and rip that band aid off and kind of hear something that you might not be ready to hear, it would be just to open that door. It would be like, yeah, open that door and face it and have those conversations, because that's you know, right, like anytime like I might not be doing something well enough, or when charl and I are laying in bed and it's just as simple as like you know, hey, what do you.

02:04:10
Speaker 1: Need out of me this week?

02:04:11
Speaker 2: Where it's like we should know that answer, but it's almost allowing the space for that conversation to happen and them to even say it.

02:04:19
Speaker 1: Out loud, or the fact that you're even asking yeah, yeah, yeah, or like I feel like I fell short here and you're seeking feedback whatever that might be.

02:04:30
Speaker 2: It's like all those conversations are important.

02:04:32
Speaker 1: I I one hundred percent have not checked in with Jill like that. I'm trying to remember the last time that I've done that.

02:04:40
Speaker 2: I really, yeah, and me intentionally, I don't. I'm not thinking of the last time I actually did that charing and I will do as you know, a couple's therapies. So I feel like that stuff comes out when we're sitting down talking about it, and sometimes you're.

02:04:52
Speaker 3: Just not you're not privy or you're not aware.

02:04:55
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, oh snap, I didn't know that you know this was happening or this was in your mind. And I can do a better job of seeking out whether it's that information, her feelings in a certain situation.

02:05:09
Speaker 1: But yeah, dude, which I gotta get that dialed into what couple therapy. That's another thing that Jill and I did pre mariital.

02:05:19
Speaker 3: Yeah, the premarital counseling.

02:05:20
Speaker 1: Yeah, prepping for and it was awesome, dude, And I like we every I feel like every two weeks we're like, we gotta get that counselor thing set up. We got it, you know with the therapists and national Yeah, I'll ask well, I heard that he does couples.

02:05:35
Speaker 2: You know, Yeah, we love doing it. There are times where I'm not necessarily sure we're going to talk about going into it because I'm like, i feel like everything's been going pretty smooth, and I'm not one of those types who likes to just sit in like what we're feeling in every moment. Yeah, you know what I mean. You know, I'm like a guy's guy, I guess when it comes to that. But I do enjoy I do have a different perspective on therapy since doing it and going to it, because I do feel like we get a lot out of it because you have a third party perspective that has zero bias toward either of our lives, Yes, helping us kind of talk through what our differences might be, and they're there to kind of help you zoom out and see it for what it is, and you like learn a different skill set of communication and like what your triggers are and you you come to find out you get some stuff off your chest that you might have been feeling and you didn't necessarily know that you were feeling. So I was really shaky on it at first. At times, I'm not like the biggest fan of going in and talking about all the emotions and the feelings of everything. It's like, hey, we know we have to do. Why sit in this for an hour of our time? But every time we leave a session, we always feel like.

02:06:41
Speaker 1: A lot better one hundred percent. We always feel a lot better one hundred percent. That got me stoked.

02:06:49
Speaker 2: That got me.

02:06:51
Speaker 1: Wanting to I know Jill's going to be asleep when I get home tonight, but.

02:06:55
Speaker 2: It's fucking eleven thirty at night.

02:06:56
Speaker 1: Oh.

02:06:58
Speaker 3: I hope you guys have enjoyed it. We went a little longer than.

02:07:00
Speaker 2: Even last week, but you guys said, hey, fucking just let it rip, don't cut it short. Yeah, we like the longer ones. Hopefully you guys do. Hopefully you guys enjoyed this one. Shut out all the dads, man, shout out everybody tune in, whether your mom or dad, somebody just interested in parenting. Are you guys just like listen to me and sure and talk about stuff like this. We appreciate it, man.

02:07:20
Speaker 1: We appreciate it. Shout out the guy that say he sits on a tractor and he said make it three hours. Yeah, the chapter all, yeah, did you see that one?

02:07:27
Speaker 3: No, I did not see that one, but I am laughing like I did hear that one.

02:07:31
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yea yeah all right for the dads, that's fucking take out the trash boys. Come on, yeah that was.

02:07:41
Speaker 1: Was that on purpose? No, I just flipped that's tune a round. That's great, SOD. Tell my wife a probably ten thirty