372. How to rediscover your personality

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, I'm Jemma Spake and welcome back to the Psychology of Your Twenties, the podcast where we talk through the biggest changes, moments, and transitions of our twenties and what they mean for our psychology. Hello everybody, Welcome back to the show. Welcome back to the podcast. It is great to have you here for another episode. Today, let's talk about how we are going to get our personalities back. How are we going to reclaim who we are from the forces of scrolling and over consumption and comparison and distraction. I have come to a pretty scary realization over the past month that although I may think I know who I am, I rarely actually act out the hearts myself that I most enjoy or that I pride myself on. And because of that, I'm in this like really aimless, lonely, hollow, kind of distracted place where like, I don't really know who I am anymore. And maybe you've had a similar experience, a similar realization. A lot of who we think we are is just words, you know, our actions don't always reflect it. And if someone was to ask you, you know, how would you describe yourself? How do you spend your days, What are your hobbies, what do you care about? What do you do for fun? A lot of us, you know, we may not like to admit it, but we don't have an answer. We spend so much of our time consuming and scrolling and working that we don't really have a clear or at least an executed idea of the person that we are. This is how that expresses itself. You may not want to acknowledge that this is what's.

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Speaker 2: Happening to you.

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Speaker 1: But if you are feeling detached, if you are feeling an increasing sense of anxiety that you don't know who you are, you aren't where you need to be. If you feel boredom, loneliness just like despondency in your life, if there's like a groundhog day's sense of every day being the same, this may be what's happening. You have lost your personality and I want to talk about how we are going to rediscover it again, using actual psychology, evidence based tools and tips that can let us become our best selves, or at least discover the parts of ourselves, rediscover the parts of ourselves that we really really like. You are not alone in this experience. Trust me and investing in getting your personality back, finding what you care about and what makes you want to strive, I think will mend a lot of like the deep psychological I don't want to say holes, like wounds, psychological deficiencies that so many of us are experiencing on a daily basis. So we are going to run through seven tips for how I've done this, how I've seen other people do this, how they've reconnected with the best parts of themselves that they've maybe lost. I'm really excited for this episode. Without further ado, let's jump into it. So you guys know, one of my favorite quotes of all time comes from Kao Yung. It is that the privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are. That is your mission, even when everything else feels really scary. If you are at least discovering new facets and sides to yourself, you are you're doing something right now. Becoming who you are means kind of understanding who you've been shaped into so far, and then how you want to shape yourself from here on out deliberately or what you want to become. And that is the part that is up to you, And that is the part that requires effort and like a mindset shift. People really assume that your personality is like what you are essentially born with. It's so natural to us that you just you fall into it, you remain in it. You don't have to work on it. It is God given, predetermined, and to some degree that is right. You know, there is a part of us that just seems to like exist without influence. There is our natural temperament which often remains quite stable. Some of us have talents that we were like simply born with and there's like no other explanation for it. But it's also a lot more complex than that. Essentially, personality and our self concept which is basically just a fancy word for how we see ourselves in our mind's eye, it comes down to a few things. Genetics the blueprint is one component. According to a twenty twenty study published in Nature that looked at twins, which is like the highest standard for these kinds of studies, human personality is around forty to sixty percent heritable. Forty to sixty percent of who you are in some way comes down to who your parents are or you know, the DNA that you have inherited forty to sixty percent, though, is like a pretty big margin. Like that's that shows that we don't really have that much of an accurate estimate, because a twenty percent could go this way, could go that way. Is I don't know, not something I want to stake my odds on. I like to sup put the difference. Let's say fifty percent. Fifty percent of who you are is you know, genetics, is your parents is DNA. Another thirty percent has to do with environment, so gender, culture, personal experiences, upbringing, education, country, trauma, those kinds of things. That leaves twenty percent or probably more that is entirely up to you. And that final part, that final twenty percent, acts with great intensity on the remaining eighty percent, and I think it basically determines how all those other factors environment, upbringing, genetics is expressed. So basically what I'm trying to say is that your choice is to do with your personality and how you feel about yourself and how you want your personality to be expressed. That at the end of the day, accounts couldn't end up accounting for one hundred percent of who you actually become, how you go about your personality and your life. Yes, it might not be able to change the past or change your genetic blueprint, but it can change how you approach all those other factors. Maybe the reason you've lost yourself is because up until this point, you've let your personality simply be the byproduct of the things you have no control over and have simply accepted. Now you're at a stage where you're noticing that that's maybe harmful and you don't feel good anymore. But you're also at a stage where you can actually put in the work and you can approach your personality and the parts of you that you feel you've become disconnected from in a very proactive manner. So with all of that in mind, let's get into my number one tip. Number one, go back to a simpler time. I read this amazing idea the other day. You don't lose your personality, You freeze it. Somewhere between childhood and adulthood. You just suddenly, you just suddenly stop doing all the things that you loved. You know, at some stage you played for the last time. At some stage you made up imaginary worlds for the last time. You stopped crafting on the weekends. Remember when you were.

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Speaker 2: A kid and you'd be like you know what, Today's the day I learned how to make lemonade, or like today's day that I write a song, Today's the day that I run around the neighborhood with my friends.

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Speaker 1: We don't do that anymore. We just spend seven hours a day on TikTok, consuming other people's lives whilst they perform for us, pretending they have lives of their own. A part of us that used to come alive during those moments, during those times of childhood wondering delight has become frozen by inactivity and a lack of use. But what that means is that doing what your childhood or younger self enjoyed most is probably how you're going to find the missing piece of your personality that you're looking for, the piece that you kind of left in the past. You've got to start doing the things that you used to love doing as a child again as an adult and finding your way back to that joy that you had, and that just like pure interest, so much of who we are is just like so raw and visible when we are children, because because of the very psychological nature of childhood itself, you know, our little minds are open to so much. We have such a natural curiosity. But as children we also follow the path of natural enjoyment with incredible ease because there's less, if not nothing, stopping you from doing that. You know, for example, a child who loves art can make art all weaken and just enjoy it because they don't have to worry about it being good. They don't have to worry hopefully about obligation. Some children do, but hopefully they don't have to worry about getting dinner ready, or you know, how exhausted they are from work or fomo or all the other things they could be doing with their time productivity. You know, a child who loves reading just feels the positive reward of reading without thinking if it's productive, without thinking if other people think it's cool. It's the natural flow of joy that is uninterrupted by adult judgments, uninterrupted by adult frustrations and realism and responsibilities. That is why we probably felt most like ourselves when we were small, and it really reflects a lot of what we know about in a child healing and play and connecting with our younger selves as a path to authenticity in adulthoods So that's where I need you to return. Find an activity you loved as a child, the one you can remember enjoying the most, doing the most, and incorporate it into your daily routine. In fact, literally put it on your to do list at first, you know, the way that you would put personal hygiene, or your fitness routine, or your work priorities on your to do list. You know you are fighting back against some pretty powerful forces here who want to distract you from your personality your phone. Your phone is a literal slot machine in your pocket. Busy schedules, exhaustion, the pressure to work more. You can't fight those forces randomly. You need a plan. You need to make it a priority, to paint a priority to play the piano, to make lego, to go play sports, to craft, make sure it's on your to do list. And if you want to go even smaller and you want to really reconnect with that inner child version of you who felt most pure and like yourself, even just listen to your favorite childhood music on your way to work, or on your commute or when you cook dinner. Music is actually a deeply emotional trigger, and listening to nostalgic music can actually cue a similar mindset to the time you first heard the song therefore really bringing you back to that simpler time and bringing back with it that same attitude, spirit, feeling, sense of authenticity as long as you make it a priority. This brings me to tip number two. Make sure that you are fulfilling one of your core soul needs per day. Soul needs are the spiritual things you do to fill your cup purely by feeling human. It doesn't have to be productive. It's purely by practicing the things that make us unlike anything else on the planet. And when I say spiritual, I don't mean religious. I don't mean prayer. I like that can be part of it for you. I mean the stuff that makes you feel like you literally you have a soul. These include adventure and curiosity that is a soul need. Playfulness and silliness, being seen and kinship, humor and laughter, deep enjoyment or indulgence, you know, really spending extra time making your dinner, feeling the warmth of the sun, spending an extra five minutes in bed, sex or deep physical connection with yourself for others, or and creating something that didn't exist this morning. So those are some of your soul needs. Your soul needs are the things that make you sentient, alive feeling. Specifically, though they make you feel not like a machine. Often we lose our personalities because we do craft our daily lives to reflect that more of a machine and machines they don't have personalities, like AI doesn't have a personality, a truck doesn't have a personality, A lawn mower, a typewriter doesn't have a personality unless we as humans, this anient creatures apply onto them. So how can you expect yourself to have a personality? How can you expect yourself to know who you are if you act like a machine. If your daily life is get up, plug in, commute, water, eat, operate in outproduce, go home, turn off, that's really what like the daily like daily life is trying to push us into becoming, or is incidentally pushing us into becoming, you have to act out against that. There was a recent paper I read about burnout due to monotony, not just excess work, that was so fascinating. You know, we typically think of burnout as just having too much on your plate, having too much going on. Essentially, what this paper was saying that actually making your life too simplistic and having too much routine can be psychologically harmful and can become actually quite exhausting and destructive. Routine can be really protective only up to a point when there is no room for soul. When there is no room for deviation from your routine, that's why we end up losing ourselves. So your soul needs I need you to add them back into your life. I need you to sprinkle them back into your life like your childhood activities. I also will say this is probably the quickest tip of all on this list. Fulfill one soul, need a day for a month, hit any categories as you can, and I promise money back guarantee. Right here you will be feeling honestly brand new. You will be feeling better than ever. You will like. People will notice the difference in you. They will see something shining out of you that they haven't seen for a while, or that you haven't seen or felt for a while either. Okay, we are going to take a short break here before we return for our next three tips, so stay with us. This next strategy is one that I frequently rely on in my own I guess emotional psychological toolbox. I've spoken about it on the podcast before. I just have to mention it again because it is so important for people to know. This is my question for you. Do you ever feel like you are your best self when you are traveling? You are your best self when you are on holiday, and suddenly you have like all of these crazy ideas for projects, businesses, a rebrand. Do you find that, like, you are so much more productive when you study at the library or at your national or institutional library rather than the one that you typically study at, Or that you are so much more productive after a hike, after you've been outdoors. These are all leading questions. You're probably gonna say yes. What you are experiencing in this moment is the psychological power of geographical novelty, specifically the power of a new environment. This is somewhat similar to our last tip, but it focuses mainly on like your location. If you want to get your personality back, like you've got to be putting yourself in new environments. There is this fantastic could not recommend enough series of research by the research as David Gonzalez and his team that they conducted between I think it was like late two thousand and two thousand teens, like twenty seventeen twenty eighteen, where they essentially explored the importance of novelty for our memory, for our neural health, and crucially for our personality. And they found that when looking at like thousands of people, literally thousands of people of all ages, all ethnicities or cultures or genders, those who had novel experiences, those who put themselves in new environments, tried new things, tried food, music, movies, were so much happier, and they also had a deeper sense of personal enlightenment and they knew who they were. For example, one twenty seventeen study in particular observed production workers who were given novel tasks once a shift, and they found that afterwards, these people felt better about themselves. They had more gray matter in their brains compared to those who didn't have these novel experiences, who didn't have to solve unfamiliar problems. What that means for you is give yourself new curious challenges, Get into new spaces, get into new environments wherever you can, different routes to work, walk a different way to work every single day, just for fun, studying in a new library, going to a different coffee shop rather than your favorite, Even like watching something new at night instead of the same episode of the Office for like the fifth time in a row, which I'm very much guilty of. You know, the reason this is helpful for getting our personality back is because it ensures that our brains remain plastic and adaptable. Your brain was built for newness. It was built to be challenged and inspired by the world, to taste berries, to experience or to meet new people, to see new types of trees. And when it doesn't get that, I kind of imagine it like turns into like a zoo animal of sorts, like a tiger, you know, pacing up and down, pacing up and down its cage, kind of trapped in by the by the boringness of things. And you will feel the difference in the wiring of your brain. When you make this a priority. Your brain moves from stagnant and bored, like you know, a river with no flow, to like expansive and rushing and curious and fresh. I just think it is like one of the easiest things you could do tomorrow to feel more like yourself, just by like opening your brain up a little bit more to the world. Okay, Tip number four. You will start to see a theme here at this point, have a completely unproductive goal and make it really really random, like totally we totally separate from everything else you're doing in life. You can call it a side quest, a side quest if you will, that will take effort and time, but does not feel exhausting nor productive or like productive in one sense of the world. Let me kind of explain what I mean by this. Let me give you some examples of what I mean by these side quests or these unproductive goals. For example, read five biographies about artists you admire. Memorize all one hundred and ninety six flags, go to every museum in the town city place where you live before the end of the year. Paint a portrait for every single one of your friends by the end of the year. Learn how to make your own clothes. You know, the best example of this is if you've read the book Slash seen the movie Julian Julia, where this woman basically is like, I'm going to cook my way through a Julia Child cookbook in one year. That is a great example. That is an you know, I hate using the word unproductive, but unproductive for her other ambitions, an unproductive goal that still feels nourishing and is difficult. I think the core element of this is that it adds a bit of whimsy and a lack of seriousness back into your life, whilst still asking you to strive in a direction that you normally don't. All of those weird goals I gave you like they are achievable with effort. They also tap into something we've really been discussing this whole episode, which is like a sense of wonder and a humanness and a curiosity that we've probably lost along the way at some point. What is the psychological justification for this? The psychological justification for setting an unproductive goal as a means to reconnect with your personality is that it's diversifying your personality the way people diversify investments. It's ensuring that you have multiple avenues, multiple streams through which you are able to investigate and explore and see yourself. You cannot be defined by one thing, one thing like work or study or your business and think that that's going to deliver your happy life. In our twenties, particularly, you know, there is this major emphasis on being focused, selective, choosing one path to specialize in, whether it's choosing a major choosing a sport, choosing your hobby, choosing a literal career path, and just like being on that until you retire, basically concentrating all your effort on one thing for the next forty to fifty years. You know, even I feel like at times I am guilty of that, because having that focus does bring results. But does it make you feel al if you have nothing else going on in your life? Does it make you feel connected to who you are? Let's be honest, not all the time. We get that laser focus and everything else fades away. And so what happens? What happens when things when that thing isn't satisfying anymore? What happens when you get fired? What happens when you want to change? When the main focus drops off, you're kind of left with like a bit of a wasteland. You're left contemplating who you are, and life feels very narrow because it's almost like there's going to be a weird metaphor. It's almost like you've put these glasses on that narrow your focus, and then you take them off, and you expect your eye to suddenly be able to see what's out on the on the periphery and what's out all around despite not giving it the opportunity to for many, many years. And now that I'm saying it sounds like a stupid analogy, but that's just how I see it in my mind. Of like you're literally blinding yourself to everything else by not giving your eyes, or your vision or your personality the opportunity to explore. That's why I need you to be collecting these side quests. Consider it personality insurance. If the things you typically base your personality on, work, relationships, accolades, praise, passion, if those things fade, they become exhausting. This way, you'll still know who you are, and you'll still be able to connect with the deeper part of you because you're expressing yourself elsewhere in a way that feels meaningful, in a way that doesn't feel tied to anything to do with your career or work or those kind of things of importance. It's just something you're doing and want to give it and want to give a red hot go.

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Speaker 2: Actually I had this as a fifth tip, this next one, but I think it may come under this one.

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Speaker 1: So I'm just going to include it here. My fifth tip was going to be such kind of still is to start journaling, specifically, commit to a year of junk journaling. Talk about life changing micro habits, this one is it. I started junk journaling recently after my friend Sally recommended it to me. The most beautiful woman on the planet of this earth, She's just like remarkable. And I had this conversation with her middle of last year where I was like, Sally, like.

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Speaker 2: I don't know who I am anymore. I don't know who I am without my phone. I don't know who I am without work. All I want to do is work or be on my phone, work or be on my phone. I don't find myself interested or interesting anymore. And she was like, you got to get one of these junk journals that everybody on Instagram has been talking about, Like you've got to get just a journal and just collect literal trash. And I was like, Okay, I'll just try it because I trust her opinion. And what I found is that it's basically journaling on easy mode. Love journaling, just like out my feelings onto the page in an unstructured manner. But when I really don't feel like I have the energy for that, this is like the best alternative. You basically just collect junk like receipts, labels, stickers, train tickets, airplane tickets.

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Speaker 1: Whatever it is from your day, from your life. You get a glu stick, you paste it in your journal and you just write small comments about it, and you know how this junk is basically reflecting your kind of life story in a weird way. And it's given me such a sense of Firstly, it's a really important ritual and habit that I do every single night in a systematic way that.

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Speaker 2: Has been grounding.

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Speaker 1: It's also given me such a sense of self continuity, basically being able to look back and see who I was three weeks ago, who I was a month ago, and hopefully the future of being able to look back and see who I was now and what I've seen. Being my own case study, is that we find our personality through this process because by doing this, by journaling or junk journaling, we add narrative back into our lives. This is a core premise of narrative psychology. We like when something has a story to it that we can reflect on, including our own lives. We love a story. We love when something feels coherent because there is a line that goes all the way through. Journaling in whatever form does that for us. We can coherently draw lines between our thoughts and our experiences. We can observe ourselves in the past and in the present. We see patterns in behaviors, We notice things about who we are because we are the specimen. We are the subject under the microscope, and that just helps us recognize the parts of us that we love that we may be forgetting, that we may be missing dare I say it that we may be avoiding. Basically, journaling is like a mirror. I think that is why it is such a well worn, tested therapy or self help method, because it just lets you see yourself without I guess the frills that we put on for other people with the junk journal like you literally see yourself through garbage like that is as raw and real as it can get. Bonus to this as well, and this is why I started in the first place. It gets you off your fucking phone. If you want to get your personality back, and I know I've said this before, you've got to stop consuming and start creating. There is a very famous saying you are what you eat. You are also the digital content and digital world that you consume. How can you hope to be your own individual, your own unique figure, to have your own personality if you just consume other people's personalities for nourishment. Consumption is like scrolling consumption, being on your phone. It's like feeding your brain artificial stuff all day. Creation is like feeding it organic strawberries and vegetables and like delightful things that actually give it nutrients. One more bonus to this, and I'm sorry that we can move on with the journaling thing, but just to beat this horse dead, I think that it also not just lets you see who you are now, it lets you see yourself in the future. Let me elaborate on this a little bit. In five years time, in twenty five years time, you may be at a similar point as the one you're at now, where you're like, who am I? I don't know who I am? What is my actual personality? And now, because you started journaling, junk journaling, whatever it is, at this point, you will have five, ten, fifteen, twenty five years worth of information to help you reconnect with yourself and remind you what has made you you. My listeners who have been journaling for a little bit for a long time, maybe even their whole lives can confirm this. For me, there are few pleasures as amazing as sitting down with a glass of wine or a tea and reading back your old journals. Every time I move house, I do this. It's the best. I like run away with the day. I like lose hours to just like re examining myself through myself and like reading what I thought about this guy Ralph who I was like had a crush on a year eight, or like this girl Lucinda who was like mean to me in the year five, because it's all there and it's funny, like how I reacted and how I wrote and how I approach those things then is kind of similar to how I act now. And that's really good ratifying in that it's it's nice to see the continuity. So yeah, it's sacred, it's spiritual. It's a gift not just for your current self but for your future self as well. So yeah, totally recommend doing that if you don't feel like yourself right now. Okay, we have to take one more short break here, but then I have two final tips for you, the last one honestly being the one that I would recommend the most out of all of these, so I promise you it's worth it. Stick with us. I will say a lot of these tips so far have been kind of solitary, very like things that we do in like the quiet of our home. But we really know ourselves a lot of the time and see ourselves through others and through their appreciation of us. If you don't know who you are, your friends and family probably do when they love you for it. So you have to start aren't asking them questions about yourself as if you don't know yourself? Questions like Heyley, you know like what song reminds you the most of me? What movie makes you think of me? What was I really like as a child? What is your favorite memory of us together? And why is it so important? What do you think my biggest skill is? What is my biggest weakness that I don't know about? What are some words that you would use to describe me to a stranger? Like almost like all these weird kinds of questions, And it might sound and feel awkward at first, and then it feels really nourishing that there is a version of you that exists and that is stable and other people see it and they love you. This tip works psychologically because of one of the oldest ideas in social psychology. Actually it is Charles Houghton Cooley's idea of the looking glass self. I actually love this idea. I don't know why we don't talk about it more, but he basically says claimed that our identity is partly a reflection. We can gain a lot of self knowledge by appreciating or recognizing how other people see us and their reactions to us essentially help us figure out what behaviors we like and what the kind of person that we want to be through them through their appreciation of us. When you ask people questions like, hey, what song reminds you of me? What was I like as a child? You are accessing what psychologists called reflected appraisals, information about yourself that is stored outside of yourself, that exists outside of the own internal narrative that you have about you, that is quite honestly biased. Research shows these reflected appraisals they play a really powerful role in shaping our self concept, especially during periods of transition or identity uncertainty like our twenties, where we can't really trust ourselves to know ourselves sometimes the memories that we have with other people are like again, it's like a vault of stuff that's stored outside of us that it's like a bank vault of things that we can go to and be like, oh, that's who I was. Thank god I stored that with somebody else who isn't going through this tough time. There's also strong evidence from self verification theory, which was developed in the eighties, that we seek feedback from others to stabilize our sense of identity. So when we do feel unsure, family and friends are often one of the most comforting things in that time because they are able to notice patterns, provide that information back to us and give us a sense of self continuity. Again, an idea that's come up time and time and throughout this episode, the idea that you know there is a beginning and an end to our lives, but also there is a story throughout it all that ties together and makes sense and has us as a main character. So finally, my last actionable insight for this episode, I want you to take all of this and I want you to write out a person I want to be a letter. So I did this the other day because I was feeling as you can probably tell slightly on Moord and I was in a hotel room and I was feeling very inspired by the new year, as we are, and I just sat down and I just wrote five large themes for the person I most wanted to be, not for the next year, just for my life, Like five large paragraphs on like if my character and my best self was siphoned down into five things, what would they be and why is that who I want to be? And I obviously used eye statements like I think one of them was a couple of them were I'm someone who really takes care of myself. That is somebody that I want to be. That is my ideal person I want to be self. I am someone who others find kind and welcoming. Now there's a huge part of my values and the person I want to be. I am someone who is surrounded by friends. And I wrote out, you know, there was a couple more, but I wrote out what that looked like, what that would look like in practice on a day to day basis in my life. So much of what we focused on in this episode is kind of like reclaiming the personality of the past, but finding yourself again. Rediscovering your personality also means thinking about your future ideal self. There is this idea in personality psychology and in some therapy self help circles that if you don't have a representation of how you most want to be, you are not going.

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Speaker 2: To end up there.

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Speaker 1: Accidentally, the best possible self, the person you most want to be, who you see in the future, has to be something somebody that you can articulate, you can and feel, you can see, you can understand, you can detail in order to therefore claim you know. There is this amazing ted talk very aptly titled your Real Versus Ideal Self that I think you should listen to if you've resonated with this episode, that essentially discusses how this kind of exercise, this who do I Want to be? Exercise helps you bridge the gap between you know who you are in the past and a vision that you most certainly have about your future self that you just you need to bring to the surface in order to become you know. Each one of you has fifteen minutes tonight to try this or fifteen minutes tomorrow to do it, and if you're really feeling detached, listen at most. It can't hurt. You can do this in fifteen minutes. It's going to make you feel better personally. It's so motivating as well. You will feel a wave.

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Speaker 2: Of energy and you will feel like yourself again. What a little cliche, What a little nice way to wrap up the episode. So as we finish up here, it's just a quick summary of what we talked about today. If you're feeling unlike yourself, if you're feeling stuck lost, your personality is something that you have control over.

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Speaker 1: It is something that you can reclaim and change. The best ways to go about this are to number one, revisit your childhood memories and hobbies, fulfill your soul needs, Pursue novel environments, set unproductive goals, start journaling junk journaling in particular, ask the people who know you best, what makes you the best, and write the person I want to be letter. I hope these tips have helped you. Seriously, if you have made it this far, can I just say you are not alone in this. Every day you probably pass multiple people on this feeling something very similar right now. Most of them will never do anything about it. So the fact that you are listening and that you don't want to exist on autopilot is just marvelous and incredible and shows that you have everything that you need to rediscover or just discover for the first time who you are. You know, we all go through times like this, and I think it says a lot about your intrinsic character that you want to change and that you've been able to recognize the state that you're in. So congratulations for making it this far. And if you have made it this far, my request for you is to leave a series of emojis down below if you're listening on Spotify that best encompass your personality as you know it. Whatever emojis come to mind, attract you feel like a representation of you, drop them down below. Consider it a bonus self evaluation exercise, and thank you for listening all the way through. As you have done. Make sure you are following along wherever you are listening, following us on Instagram at that Psychology Podcast. We also have a substack. If you prefer reading or want to revisit this episode using our transcripts, you can join us over there. But until next time, stay safe, be kind, be gentle to yourself.

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Speaker 2: We will talk very very soon.