BIG FACTS FRIDAY - BREADWINNER DOES WHAT THEY WANT?

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Speaker 1: Big Fame and DJ Screen bring you Big Facts, the hottest podcast in the streets. Visit the new website today www dot Big Facts pod dot com. It's going down. We're a first class sounds is d J scream Big Bank Baby James Shot Jones, didn't cast cheesy o g Shante code. Everybody's here for Big Facts Fridays. What's up? Gang? What's up? What's up? Everybody is happening? Everybody good? What we're talking about today? I feel like it's a lot going on and some ship. We need to talk about what we're discussing. Okay, so we're talking about the first thing that we're actually going to talk about today is a topic that's been going around on social media. UM called that black made a quote or a statement basically pretty much saying that if your bitch pays all of the bills and it is the bread winner, then she can cheat whenever the fun she wants to do whatever you want and do whatever the fun she wants to do. So my question to you guys is do you agree or disagree with that statement? I mean, I funk call that black music and all that ship, but that statement I got to disagree with you know what I mean because it's saying that, and why do you disagree with that? Well, it's saying that if you if you are the provider, and it's very important to be the provider, for sure, you know what I'm saying. But in a in a relationship, you can do what the funk you want. So I think that trickles down to everything. I think that trickles down the friendships and everything. It's like, if you're the person with the money, you can treat everybody else like ship. I don't agree with that, And yeah, but go deeper into why you disagree with that, and then I'm gonna tell you why why I agree with your disagreement. It ain't that much deeper. I think that that just sets up Okay, first off, President, it's a bad precedents like call that Black is basically saying that since uh, in his relationship, maybe because he's the bread winner, he can do what the funk you want, right, And he's saying, I just thought it was interested that he like, he didn't finish the statement when he's saying that women can do it, so that means that everybody can do it, right, we're assuming Okay, So my thing but he specifically said cheat in his statement, So she goes along with all the other ship. Yeah, yeah, no, but I know. But what I'm saying is my disagreement with that is is that typically generally a majority of the time, men and women cheat from two different places because because when men cheat sometimes most of the time men cheat because they just want to whatever whatever. But when women, when women cheat or step out on a nigga that they are technically exclusively involved with, it's from a place of hurt, is from a place of feelings, and it's from a place of like this nigga, this other nigga has gotten into her head part of my language. But there are some sluck buckets that they're plenty of with some wet wipes and keep it moving. Yeah, but my thing is what that is, Like, why even be in a relationship if you're not an emotionally attached person? Like that doesn't even make sense. Some people are just emotionally bear like Jada been with Will for how long? She's just not saying she learned how to love like some people just emotions are not a part of their their their DNA makeup. Let's get back to this cheating and doing what the funk you want? What I'm saying is that we have to hear everybody's shot. Should you should you? I'll get ready to telling you should the cheat? No? No, I feel like cause, like I said, it's that's a bad president, because if a woman can cheat because she's a bread winner, then you're saying it's okay for the men that are the bread winners and their family to step out and do whatever, which nobody should be able to cheat if I'm not a cheater, So like, I don't understand what's the point of like cheating with somebody like just leave having your cake and eat it too. No, I mean I get that I don't have I don't have the I don't have enough, and we have to ask a cheater as shot, I'm not a cheating from the boy, how about cheated in the past? Multiple times I played the fifth, you gotta play the fifth. And that's what question. Listen, That had nothing to do what I was about to say. If I'm a cheating or not, We're not gonna talk about myself. We're just gonna talk about in general. Right, I think that basically in my in my head, if you're in a relationship and the man is doing everything and he cheating or whatever, and then if the tape was turned and now you up and ship it works in your relationship? You could cheat. I don't even make that. How does it work in your relationship? What does that mean? What does that even mean? Because you cheat for different reasons, you know, like we're listening, you don't have to. It doesn't mean you cheating on somebody doesn't necessarily have to be sexual, So we're not gonna talk about sexual. You could just cheat on technically you go out that ship? How about that? Don't do nothing that stuff? I can't remember. Oh my god, what's the purpose? What's the purpose of you going out with him? Then? Like the out for what you could be with somebody? That's not right? Listen, you hold on? Can I speak hang out with you? Can the game? Calm it down real quick? Listen. You can't be with somebody and love them dearly and would do whatever the funk they need to be done, and you would when they go bad and sick, you're gonna wipe their ask. You could do all that ship and you could love them, but at that particular time where y'all are in your relationship. Ship just ain't right, so you could make it right. Why would you? I mean some people don't go to help make it right by like further dividing the situation. Making the word doesn't make sense. It's not gonna listen. Let me pour some gas this fire to put it out. People go through ship and get back together and be everything, be straight. I think you're thinking too deep into this. What if somebody did you like that? Did me? Like? What the way that you're talking about doing other people like what? We're together for a very long time and I don't like your hair, so I'm gonna cheat on you somebody do like? That's not anything to do with hair or nothing like that. I mean, he's about the hair, but he's not being literal about the air. But it's just like a minor detail or a minor aspect that you're stepping out for is a complete and total slap in the face to the parson that you're supposed to be committed to. What if you're dude, I don't like to fet you wearing classes that I'm gonna go get my dicks up by somebody else that don't win, bitch wearing contacts some ship like, come on, I'm not saying that you could be with somebody for a very long time. Let me get I want to hear Cat's quote from off the set. Say that quote again, Please say a lot and proud. I ain't getting something that other police say the quote we get no, say the whole quote. If you're not getting what you need, if you're not getting what you need from that person, then you go somewhere else, somewhere else, Go find somewhere el I'm gonna go slick somewhere else. Listen, because especially if you told them, okay, if you told them that changes the whole ship. Is not cheating. It is cheating. Is technically about no. If I tell you I don't, you're not doing this and I'm gonna get somebody else gonna do it, it's not cheating. How is it not cheating because they didn't say nothing. But okay, so much energy to be partially committed. Like if you're if you're in a situation where okay, this is the understanding that y'all have, that y'all both have, and this is what you guys choose to do and then come back and bring it back in together. Okay, Cool, that's one thing. But if you're doing this like on your own and stepping out on your own and the other person has no clue that fucking you're gonna fucking get your dick. Suck with the bitch with the contacts because she has on glasses. That's like, that's that's dumb. That doesn't even make sense. That's not fair. I'm not talking about that simple. I'm talking about like, if you're in a relationship with Okay, I'm geting an example. If I'm want somebody for like fifteen years, I've been riding with them, we've been going through whatever, we've been dealing with each other, blah blah blah. The person that you're dating at the time pretty much ain't giving you what you need. They're not giving such as like all of a sudden, now this person is super busy with work or whatever. They're not giving that ain't all of a sudden. Listen, they'll make more sense. But I'm just saying, sometimes you in relationships and it's a new business venture or whatever. I'm just hey, all of a sudden, they're not giving you what you need. Like people change for your needs and relationships change. Saying if a nigga got them get a better job and he got to work more out of you're gonna go suck a dick. I never said something basically trying to go provide for you, right, you want, you want the money? Which one you want to see? It can't be. It ain't gonna be both at all. That what I'm saying. So you said you're missing something, You get a new job, get he get a new job. He was driving locally, now they got them driving out of town. But you're mad because you want you want the time, so you gotta go get it for someonelle. And if I'm telling you that it's not even about it's about all that stuff, like none of that ship is right, but that selfish selfish, that's self like, selfish and impatient. Maybe I'm just saying that's what they seemed like. Selfish. People cheat for different reasons. I personally feel like if I'm making bread and I'm the bread, when I'm not saying ima cheat before y'all damn game calmed down. If a if a woman is making bread and she's doing everything she needs to do, she can make decisions just like the man can't. If their relationship was already placed like that that when decisions, she's saying basically, man with cheat maybe if they all the way up and they feel like they're the brayer. Whether she's assuming that some men will cheat so that women should be able to do and that's probably what whatever, But I'm saying, like if your relationship, but see if you got a lot of time, but see the thing thing like what I was saying, what what I'm taking from what I was saying about the whole If she's up, you know, she should be able to do what she wants to do, or she feels like, you know, she has the leeway because she's the provider. If you're going into the relationship with that mind frame, that ship is doomed from the beginning. That were wrong with the generation now that he's being passed around like that because all alone feel like they could do what the niggas do if they niggas. Now, that's what they'd be saying, the women are new niggas. I'm just saying that if you said fifteen years, if you got to that point, right, yeah, you'd have been through it because but then you can go realize the ain't really greener out there. Try nobody going to relearn you and put up with So that is like, I feel like that is the biggest issue with dating nowadays. Like everybody think that you'll acting like you ain't no, but y'all acting like y'all have not cheated. That's what's found right now. I never said it. Ain't saying just what I do that you've never cheated in your life. I don't nobody I've ever been with me because I'm gonna just tell the mother, That's all I'm saying. It's so much easier to just tell the mother what's your point. I can still be like, Jake, you're not doing this and this, and then she'd be like, Okay, I'm gonna try to fix it. You still just because I told her don't mean what I'm patient. That's not fair saying this. After you tell a person, then you if you go and do what you do, that's not cheating. It's still cheating. I don't know. If you tell them you know what I'm saying. No, you know what I'm saying. If you tell them and you say if you don't do this, I'm gonna go get it, you're telling them that's not cheat. That's still cheating. No, it's not. You're telling them leaving to go. Fuck, I don't go out tonight. You get your ship together on going you know where I'm at. That's not cheating. The truth. Cheating is with a lie telling them that you're cheating. You're telling them I'm leaving. It's not I want this, and if you don't do this, I'm gonna leave you and be done with you and go get that. No, they might have accepted that they're false or shortcomings. It's okay to let you go get the ship elsewhere. You told them. You're telling them. If you tell them you ain't me, don't take the food. I'm gonna go to this bitch house against a food. That's still cheating. Okay, well I would try to learn how to cook. But that's an understanding. He just said the tone. It's an understanding. I told you what it was. Now, if the female say you're not fucking chet rubbing rubbing my leg enough, and if you don't rub my legs, I'm gonna get popping up from whatever whatever to run my leg and she tells you that that's not cheating, that don't make no sense. If you're being told the situation. It's not cheating, it's not dishonest. I'm telling you that I'm finning. Don't do this. So let me ask you, if you got to the other men's house to get food, are you going to bring me a plate back? That's a whole different conversation. That's a whole different conversations, be a lot of but maybe maybe the person should take the plate back. So this is how the food is supposed to be. As an example, you know what I'm saying, defined cheating, that's not definition of cheating is only moving behind somebody back. I thought it would be like dealing with somebody other defining and or google it. I'm gonna google it. Let her defind was dealing with somebody other than the person you're dealing with. Absolutely nuts, that's not cheating. Cheating is in the same same spectrum with this lying and dishonesty and all exactly, it's behind the back ship oaking do It has two definitions. The first definition is acting dishonestly or unfairly in order to gain an advantage, especially in a game, examination or relationships in the game. Okay, okay um. The second definition is to avoid something undesirable by luck or skill. She cheated death in a spectacular crash. I think I think we're looking at uh not adults, because that's that's cheating in a relationship, hard cheating in a relationship. Okay, it's a Big Facts Friday, Triple w dot Big Facts Pod dot com salute talking about cheating right now, chime in here this at Big Facts Pod. Let us know how you're feeling on that Instagram while J pulls up the actual definition of okay, so let me just let me just rate this off real quick. They're okay. For as long as there have been relationships, there has been infidelity, And for as long as there has been infidelity, romantic partners have squabbled over what exactly counts is cheating? Is watching porn cheating? What about flirting with a coworker even though you know nothing is coming from it? When does the close friendship across the boundary into becoming considered emotional infidelity? How much of the cheating is in the eye of the beholder. If you happen to be in an open relationship, what does cheating look like? That's a good question and reship. There's no one correct way to answer to the question of what counts is cheating because there's no one correct way to behave in a healthy relationship, and there's no one singular relationship but to seek some answers, we spoke with a range of expression. Hold check this upright. Generally, infidelity is considered to be an act involving a third party that violates the standards or boundaries for relationship between two romantic partners. But more more specifically, I would define it as an infidelity as a unilateral decision by one of the romantic partners to become involved with a third party that is motivated by it perceived or real limitation in the romantic partnership with their other partner. If you've got some money right and bank has a stack of money right there, and as y'all understanding that, you can scam off and get a little bit of it, it's not stealing, correct If y'all understanding if you need something I got, you scam something. But if y'all don't have that understanding, then you just assume or you just taking it and then he ain't you know what I'm saying, that's stealing. It's the same ship. If you don't understanding analogy, it's a mutually understanding that this the person goes and for other people and do other ship. I know that I'm at home and I get it and this is the reason why. But if you just go do it and they don't know, and they at home waiting on your ass thinking everything all good. But cheating doesn't always mean sex, right, we're not talking about that. We're talking about the understanding. Anything that you are hiding is cheating if you can't do it, and for that that person, you are cheating whatever, whatever the rule you said your relationship, that's what cheating is. But if y'all don't establish those rules, if it's never stated, she never said no, that's what I said. Some extra puts on the side how we know that's not a rule. And then I always saying I'm gonna sut the funk up a lot of times. If you bring that ship up, you'll be surprised. That's how you know your girl with you'd be surprised. Don't get fit, you'll be surprised. Hey, this is how I feeling. I've been feeling that way too, Damn for real, I already got some like you'll be surprised. But all that sneaking and hid that ship is gonna make it worse, and it just get worse. That's all right. So back to the question. If the woman is the bread winner, she should be able to do what she want to do. They're normally doing what they want to do. But man, that's the winners normally do what they wanted. They still gotta buy by rules, what rules, whatever, the rules set forth in the relationship. Is nig just can't do it because he's the bread winner. He could, he could do that if he were a woman that allows him to do that. If the woman or a man feels like that going into the situation, a relationship or whatever, it's never gonna work. Get with somebody that that's okay with you not having no rules. I can do what the funk I want because I'm the bread winner. I ain't saying that you don't have to here to certain ships to the bread winner for sure, not like respect respect, but whatever, but like no, like that's not cool. I don't agree. I wouldn't dare be with somebody just because they were taking care of me. For the women in the US, like if if the dude he was talking to wasn't a bread winner, could you respect him as a leader of the households. No different day, no straight like it's Steau up. Respect your dude. If he was not the bread winner, could you respect him as a leader of the household, lead your family. No, okay, so let me let me just say this. No no, no, no, no, won't know family if you can't. But I'm not I'm just saying he's not the bread w I say, the girl makes a hunted thousand, he may life cease, but he stills. Yeah, that's the same that's the same amount. Likely, I mean six. You can still pay all the bill. You can still pay all my bills. And I'm thinking, I'm thinking you're saying, just like the nigga woman. No, no, you shouldn't be with don't that's anyway. She just makes more money and he does that thing he needs to do for the house. He could run the house. But he's just like, but it's just like a respect thing, even outside taking the money out of the equation, well, not taking the money out of the equation, because that's definitely a part of it. But it's still like, you gotta respect this nigger as the man. Yeah, because he's the man, Like you're a woman, you're not a man like. So you know what I'm saying, even if you do make more money than him or whatever the case may be, he's still is a man of the house. He better be doing the man money. Turn it over rights to be the money in one house because y'all could be equal and then she could just hit the licks cell hair so s to take off that. That means she's supposed to just say a man was making more money. Yeah, where you're gonna be the bread woman because I managed the whole situation. A lot of a lot of women like your white go scratch off a lot of tea five million all, I just stretched it we want because we were rich. I mean that's that's like, like Shanta was just saying, that's where our generation that's sucked up at because people like the people that are coming up in our generation don't understand like rolls like back in the day, like when our parents come. But you can't blame the female. No, no no, no, I'm not blame supposed to do what they're doing. The whole situation like a bit. No matter what you got going on, I'm a I'm gonna feel like you superior when you're a bitch the female know when a nigga bitch before? How at that? They look at a different day different, it's a different day different. It's internet ship. Yeah, you're you're supposed to have, You're supposed you're supposed to hand on and soon your roles as a man. And there's a lot of men just ain't doing this a lot more now than ain't doing this. Yeah, yeah, that's totally, that's totally. Yeah, the different man. But it's just like a lot of get their own money, take care of their self, take care of their ship. Different. It's differ, it's different, but it's different. But at the same time, you still supposed to have respect for your man, whatever man you're with. Yeah, if you choose to be with this nigga, if you respect they don't respect that, then don't be If you can shoot a gun, if you can do this, and you can do what you're saying. But niggas ain't up into them shoes to be respected, but are stepping into them shoes to be respected. You still had the women's now to me that they don't respect. I ain't trying to take up for him or nothing, but it's just what they don't went through. There was so many suckers this you gotta think it's five one. So I don't deal with five niggers. Oh y'all, y'all need some suckers when I meet you. That's just how they're looking at it. So if I started doing this ship and you're accepting it, you know what I'm saying, You ain't. You ain't got that spine. So how can I spade it? If I if I tell you, if I go on your phone or whatever the funk, that's disrespectful to you, and you let me do it. I know I got your car, So how to hell? Im? How to hell? I'm gonna look at you as anything if I'm smaller ship, you know what I'm saying, Like it could be anything Like I feel like I can't nobody to tell my wife ship her dad and nobody nigga shut up, and that ain't on no bullshit, that's just on this mine. And I'm pretty sure she feeled it like he gonna nut up when it comes to me, the new d female knowing like you're just gonna let this happen. You're just gonna let that happen, So why would they respect it? Yeah? So how can I Yeah, so at everything, huh, Yeah, I didn't wasting time just trying to figure out. Yeah, I think it's just trying to figured out, just trying to figure out figuring. We got to get back to the basics. With a lot of ships in life and in the world, you gotta get back to the basics. There's a man and there is a woman. Yeah, it's a lot of men. Get back to it. Ever, Yeah, if you meet, if you meet, if you meet somebody that's you're equal, you know what I'm saying. If you meet somebody to be like, Okay, I funt with her, Yeah I fought with him then yeah, But if you meet somebody in the kind of if you're like, she probably just sucking me. He just probably with me because I got my body done it. She just probably because I got money. So you ain't never looking at it. It's not because you already got a filter on when you met the nile. So you don't even know me. That's the whole thing is the motherucker don't even know each other, Like I don't. I met a nigga popping in Niclub and the Whips. That's who I know. That goes back to trust because if you don't trust the person, if you don't trust the person enough from the beginning to be able to let them see the reil you, then it's always going to be a facade the entire time that you guys are trust your phone, you and it's hard to get to know. But I brought something and it's getting somebody on truck what I brought to the game with some fake ship. If I met you already hurt up. This ain't me every day all day. So now I'm trying to live up to this because I see what calls you. You get what I'm saying. This flashes ship will call you. So this is what the relationship built, don't and that's the same ship that's gonna make it crumble. Yeah, this is what is built. So it ain't gonna never be no respect that it might grow into some ship depending on go through some ship and we stay around each other or whatever. But hey, man, if it's all good, it's just all good. So how respect of female is? If I meet a female in the club, I'm gonna be mad at her because she go to the club there or not right, But I can never respect. But I can never respect you as my wife because you's a club he's a party girl. You ge't wanna saying, but I funk with you though, So it's gonna already be a wall up for that. For me, it's gonna already be a wall up for that. Like I can't fully submit to you, You get wanna say, so they don't real woman gonna better respect a man. And when she fully submitted, like whatever he say goes. But but but then, but then I think what we're all saying is that that man. I don't think submittable is the word, but yeah, the man has to make this to be worth submission, worth submission. Yes, yes, that's what I'm saying. That's yeah, like you if you ain't a man, how you But if you're not the fighting nancial bread winner, does that man don't matter? If not this neigg he'll gonna do it no matter the one that is, he gonna do it exactly, no matter about the money. That you're not a real nigga. Everyone, because you're gonna start the woman you can, you can you can have a moment that you had all this time and you've been struggling trying to make it happen. Fun and she around to come up. Anything happened, long suit, anything, she gonna she gonna she's gonna feel like when she gets that money, Damn I finally can help. Yeah, Damn, I finally. Can You know what I'm saying? We straight? Yeah, exactly, We We. That's that's what it asked. That. That's the difference. I'm gonna scaling back a little bit with that WE. That's why I guess I'm so passionate about the cheat team ship. And everybody has their ship, and nobody's perfect. But what I was saying, if if it is we, not saying that it has to be we, If y'all has discussed and came to it's WE ship, then all that ship goes out there. Now if it's just some club ships, some bullshit whatever, who cares. Why would you even enter inter into any kind of union relationship or anything without it being a WE understanding? Because everybody she's caught from vulnerability to you know what I'm saying, a lot of people just want to what I want. She were cool, were cool. We can do this together, We travel, we can do this, we can just do sit together. Now that we're now that we're talking about this can we have a discussion about trauma bonds like the nigga like the nigga hold on, I don't know what I mean, but like the niggah who in the car dealer ship? Right, this man just found out that his girl he listened to my ship too, so he probably I ain't gonna call a name, but he just found out the girl twent three oh let the jump. They thirty five thirty sit at his job. Na, he worked one ship, she working ship. But he like I can see it on him, like he kind of want to take her back, you know what I'm saying. He said, he she cheated one time a long time ago when they first got together, because she was saying he didn't give enough time and all this or even like she was kind of right, so he proposed to him right what he tried to fix it. He tried to fix it with and stopping started spending more time with him and said everybody all whatever, and she he came, She came to him and said, like, this is my friend that worked with me, my coworker. You know what I'm saying, Yeah, he said, he went through a phone call or like what's up going on? Na? Liket there ship. But we've been fucking four five months and he likes ship. Just fuck her. But that come with he's actually busting like shot. I said, he's actually busting his ass on this job. He said he played everything at all that Yeah, he said he got a turt and she just that's different everybody that's doing it like that for you. I didn't say he was doing that type of ship. You're saying he got it he end up. I said that. I said, So you're saying, if for nigga got damn going to get a better job and he's gonna quite less time to take care of you. No, no, no, no. In the beginning of this man story made sense in the beginning how she said he was giving her time and attention, and he said, like y'all said, I started giving her time and attention to make the ship right. You understand why she wasn't getting the time and attention because he's trying to work to pay all the fucking bills. So you got to choose one. This ain't no. But at the end of the day, she just that that's what she is. That's what because if this nigga got over that hump made sure that she was straight proposed, gave her time, and this bitch still stepped out. She ain't never stepped Yeah that's different. She ain't never stepped She ain't never stepping in. He committed to that. How that's how the good guys go. So you know what I'm saying. So when coming up like you're seeing this like n't factor got them slay? Been that job. I tried to tell the mother for the slave, he bout that, and you over here doing dick, So they make it hard for niggas to even trust this. Don't even have to be that sexual. It could have just been what I'm saying. No, we're talking about you're talking about doing dick. She doing dick. And if even if he even if he has working, no right, even if at the job working, you still ain't to be cuddled up with no other nigga just cuddled on. That's different. Come on, I feel like she she she want to have a uh see, that's how this ship start. When you trying to that prince cha how y'all friends, Yeah that ain't that. Ain't do with your friend, Like I'm just saying, laid down with you. They got the opportunity, do I think my hommies the fun Yeah, no good, that's crazy like room smoking crap. I don't consider you one of my friends. Kodak. No like my homies. I like the guys that I think are like my like we do each other like brother sisters and ship like that. Man, you pull your pan down and grab that man, Dick start suthing. You think hes gonna say stop that big cap down the hall? I hope, so like that shot, let's be, let's let's be yeah, like, come on, man, damn shot. You can't do this. We're sisters and brothers. Yes, that's be like what the fun is going on here? After you had that Niggs dick in your mouth? Okay, that's how that's crazy. You're saying like all the good guy gets shied on for real though, Yeah you really. I haven't seen two many of trauma stories of the good guys. Man, you gotta find a balance stories. Yeah, man, and that ship. That ship does something to a person mentally bro like just really be scared, walked around real like, and then they take that ship out on everybody out. We got a woman out, dick PTSD mother like you shot. No that don't do that because I don't just be out here sucking dick, eating dicks and cheating on people. What are you spending time? Let's clear that up. Let's clear that up, Clear that up. She ain't not here. I am faithful. Whoa hold on? You're already saying, oh right now, yeah, today you're in here. If he was, you do the wrong ship, you'll step up. No, you just said run the type back, run the type back. We can't. Yeh know what? Yea not the big cap podcast Like I have definitely cheated, but I would last week. No, I haven't cheated in a long time. To cheating ship women, certain women, I'm gonna keep you one time. A little ship can make it want to lose respect for you, oh God, for because they know, like what you don't supposed to go for exactly. I agree with that. A woman knows what you don't supposed to go for, So when you go for it and just keep taking a little notches off your head, I think speaking true like Jade is saying, it's just get the funk on, don't stick around and keep letting it get the fun, because she might actually love you, Thank you, she might actually she's not not doing nothing. I'm not I'm saying saying cheating. I'm saying respect, like just say okay, I got you. Oh, but you know it ultimately leads to devalue yourself. But you're doing it to yourself because you're thinking you trying to be a nice guy, right, I bit you talk about you call if you text me and say I'm drunk, I'm about to pass out, I'm gonna stay in shot house tonight. What if your nigga don't get up and be like bay, I'm on my way to come get you know you ain't men. You don't even answer no more like soon I take that ship. Maybe I feel right ashleep, So now I gotta see when I see you in the morning. You damn but you were tied his head black? The fuck No, I'm screaming like like like you should know, like like you should know better than even send that to try that. Yes, like you should know, like this niggat you don't know you got till you try, you know, But even by that means that this nigga or no, not even ticks, not even just fall asleep. Yeah, look, don't sleep. You said that women be lying about that ship bad. I'm just seeing this I felt a niggas ain't going for that, going for you know that ship to a nigga, he let you do it. It's over that one. Shi. You're gonna you know what I'm saying now, you're just gonna start just try and ship. Last night it said if you let a nigga think ship is sweet, he's gonna open up a bakery. Same thing goes for a bit, absolutely straight up gonna catch us in our ship. What nine times out of tender nigga, I gonna catch us in our ship. I'm just being honest. You speak us from experience too. Huh No, I'm not a fucking sing about me. Bro. My wife could have a whole another husband because I don't check ship. Where I'm going to work. I don't know where you're work. I don't know nothing. I'm gonna leaing to yo, stretching right a wrong. You can have a whole another familyst somewhere. Oh God, don't house everything. That's called being secure. Man. Yeah, you've just been not Never admit that ship. You know you have them talk like websh baby, Yeah, I don't want to know nothing killed your whole everything you know? Say then I ain't gonna be to be the negle to see and say I know what the motherfucker ain't going I ain't No, but never So to final question for the whole ship. Though it's fine, it's finding out worse than being told yeah, yeah, right, we won't be out of respect. Man, No, don't tell me. Let me find that so beach we all man, you just don't yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you just find out. I can say, bitch, you trying to tell me that makes you feel like you think I'm a real Yeah, you're gonna tell me and leave my mind the one of what y'all were doing God, rather than tell me by the streets. But damn okay, at least a bit's trapped to be sneaking. Don't feel like you could tell me no bullshit, Broye. That's worse than anything. Yeah, tell me that's the female though, I'm saying, man, if you tell me that, what are you expecting to work that out? You don't introduce some bullshit to the relationship, doesn't work it out because the woman reason the woman, don't call the reasoning behind the ship. If that's your way out, and if you want to get out, I'm gonna just tell you what I've been doing. Cool, tell me like that, but don't hear me. And it's like you crying telling me, I'm just so who should before you did? What the fun? You get what I'm saying, don't do that. I'd rather you got damn. Oh, where did she come to tell you? That ship on up on the rug and ship we try to get past? Hopefully we've been on built so long. So when if it do come out? That ship happened teen years ago? With ship that when you ain't well, I don't know, but bit you come, you just come tell me last night? Well what is she telling you? Because crazy? You had crazy? So she like look bad. I gotta let you know this nig is starting to act crazy. He's starting to find na. Now you you got bad to you on your own. You don't tell me ship that kind of nigga, Like even my neigga know them on even called me and tell me some ship because he's gonna react different. Yeah, fact, I don't facts. Fact you know what I mean, I don't even know how to look at that is real? But certain ship, you know, nigga, No, they can't. I gotta tell you. But like little bit ship. They normal the same way as bit ship on real ship, so they'd be like, man, just don't even tell that. They don't even don't even tell them. I don't even want to heal. I don't need to heal certain ship. That's just how I feel. So if you, if you're telling me you love me, you can't come tell me what you did deceitful to me because I can't do them but walk away from you, you know what I'm saying. So you might well just play your hand all the way out for the rest of your life if it never come out. Ship you did it with so a lot of women do they take it to the ground. They better. I ain't that wrong with that because that I ain't finage it volunteer ship either, not myself, and I don't like this ship is gagn begg ship. But please don't do that. Baby he lying you better say he lying on before he got pictured. That ain't me Kelly. I'm tell you ain't gonna work out how you thinking it is? How How do niggas do that? Can you take your woman? I could not, but you know take you know what I know my situation though I don't take that ship happened and I ain't understand it, but it's because partner knew he was on the way. Worst bullshit. I'm not saying it right. I'm just saying that's that one situation about I could be like two tho, Nigga, that's worse. But that goes back to my whole day that I said, I guess for different reasons. I guess so. And you know that when a woman when the sides of step, she's technically she's gone. She's gone. And Nigga can do all this all day, come back and still be like that. That's not true. We're talking about what I'm talking about that we're talking abou, We're talking about the majority, the majority. It is one thing about me. I'm gonna tell you one thing about me. And cheaters they subject to chance, they subject to grow up. I'mnna keeping one hare is gonna be a horn, it's gonna be a horse. That is not true. I'm keeping it red some type of line bullshit. I know plenty of horns that got married. Just men mature slower than women. That's what they always say. Oh my god, that's what they say that ain't feel like men. Men fucking just me, like I ain't trying to be on the bush. I feel like me and fucking multiple women or trying to deal with multiple women or cheating. It's not the same thing as a woman. Chan I just I've been saying that because at the end of the day, the whole hour that fans shouted, if you can you can funk with two niggas, you're different. I can't do it. You can with different niggas. Ain't thinking about Like when a nigga doing something wrong to a female, if he cheating on the girl, he feels like he cheating on this girl. When a woman she on the nigga, she feels like, I'm replacing this nigga. That's not true, damn facts, unless she's just a hope. When you're in a relationship, a fully committed relationship with the moment I started trying to deal with another niggas, she's trying to replace you, Like yeah, like it's all the way she trying to replace you, Like take a lot. She's just holding on so she has secured this situation over here once she knows for a fact that this ship is solid over here. Yes, yes, it takes a lot for a woman to get that I'm about to set this nigga dick, does it? Yes, it take a lot for a woman in a relationship to be like, you know what, I'm gonna go set this other niggack. It takes a lot for her to say that ship. Yeah, well, don't take ship for that. That's what I'm saying. If she's already in the committed relationship and she got at least like this nigga, a lot a dude can gonna get this dick suck about a bit and don't even give a funk about it. You got you got some women that despite you like, do this just for my sanity, That's what I'm talking about. You got some women do that. He got caught up. Yeah, I do some quick ship for my son and fun. I don't understand that either. So it's like out here, what's like, you're like, you're you're you're you're ruining your value evendictive I know, And the nigga me and the nigga no like, I know, that's that's gonna what's gonna weigh on me the fact that I know for myself, Like, I mean, you've got some women out here have sex just like niggas has sex just to have good sex. Sex and sex. Come on, you know, if a motherfucker go out here and do whatever they do, they don't give a funk when they do it. They don't give a funk to they get caught. That's anybody message. That's not saying you were with. Our conversation is not just about us. We speaking in general. We're not you're going all day, you don't give a about that ship. The problem is on the man cup on the man's side. On the man's side, we don't see some ship and you'll be surprised. You'll be looking like but but I'm just gonna stay up. But see that goes back to like again. And I hate to keep talking about this is what he was saying about the men maturing like differently in the women being in a woman being a hole forever. I know too many hoes or hordes or whatever you want to call them that tried to change, try to get married, try to be committed, and they still calling me like, girl, wait, what you're doing tonight? And what the nigga is that? You know what I'm saying? Like they're still they're still hordes. It's in their heart, and then their brain, and then their skin and then their fingers, like there's nothing that they can do about. They try the word statement, I don't think that, and that now that they're married and all that ship and then committed relationships and blah blah blah, they feel trapped because they can't beat themselves. I don't think you could turn a hole into a housewife. That's my opinion. I always say that you can't. If you like hold though, yeah, and you know how you can't like those like I don't give a funk what this whole though? Yeah, but this is my house, that's ther whole. But it ain't the housewife. But you got some nigger that feel like that because I ain't gonna never be ship. You got some nigga feel like that, like I run ahead and have one of these litt good at two shoe old doing this. Ain't I don't heard that too? Here? What the world? I said, What the world? I don't heard that. That's why it is. That's why we put That's why when I feel like, you're never supposed to let your mate figure you out? What that's that's not you out that GM once they figure you out it's over. Gm'm not gonna change the ship just to change it just so you can. That's the gym, the geminia, just how I feel because then could get what it keeps the keep you on your toes. He keeps the momentum to the relationship like, Okay, relationship to me is a postle like once I, once I put the lads piece in, what's left to do? What's she left to do? Okay? If I'm a relationships, say my relationship grown up? Who got them fighting? The a in all time? Stop that? Okay, nigga was cheating ship like I'm gonna stop that now. I'm staying out having another spots stop that. So okay, But it's more ship than I'm doing too than she don't like you get what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, but why can't Okay, I can't just stop and go go told cold Turkey and Bert nigger. Yeah, I might call you a bit still bitch her face and you might be hate that ship. But if I just turning to goddamn overnight turned into nigger, true, I'm keeping it one corrected. Been the same way with her, you know what I'm saying, the same way with her is certain ship she's to say out of the mouth she do. She's saying, you know what I'm saying, I have to look over. But we've grown past. But it's still ship that I don't like that we were trying to repair. Relationship is a is about repair, working progress. You get what it's about repairing each other. So just man, you just fix up. You being fake? They're gonna sin that too. And when there you got no flaw. Yeah, I ain't trying to like tell me, bro, I'll be not know, I'd be tripping something. No, that makes sense, I think. But but you you don't have to. You don't have like my buddy he did that. Jake came on from jail. He just came on from jail. He was a dog when he was out on these streets. Here he got his female with a nice lady that he was messed with before he went to jail. Now he now they back, they back. They went into a serious relationship when he got out. But it's kind of rocky because y'all took the fun out trying to be serious and dedicated and both signed up for something. She won't what she had. She don't want, no, no, no, not na, na, Na, I don't want what she had because what they had one ship at first relationship, they're just friends, you know what I'm saying. She was in the relationship, he was in the relationship. But now they got out. Okay, my relationship, you out yours, let's figure it out together. But now we're taking the friendship ship because we're trying to be so serious on this relationship ship, but you're doing what you know what I'm saying, we're gonna eat with your routine ship. Basically they're wanta saying like figured out me and routine like we could got Damn, she don't know what we were. You don't know. We're gonna ask her to cook, she don't know, we're gonna go to a restaurant. She don't know what. She don't know what her day consists of when she's with me. Yeah, you keep it, You keep it, and and that break in the monotony is what keeps the spark and the fire and the ship going. That's what I mean, because you're always wonder it's a routine, and even I don't like that anyway, No, still but hearing the same way, like show them. But then they say, but they say, if you break the rout we're gonna do. If you break replect, you out forever. If you break routine, you're cheating. That's what they always say in blows and ship. If you break routine. If you break routine, you're cheating. If you don't be at home around the same ship, stay, they say, if you break too many routines, the women're gonna tak you cheating. But if you're doing if your relationship consists of that, if you've been together for what, let's say ten years, if you're doing the same thing year ten that you were doing your fire, something's definitely wrong. The same thing, like the same routine. You get up every day. You know what you're gonna eat on Fridays, you know how you're gonna have sex. You know, go get her hair done. You know time we got to go to her parents house, she got to pick up the kids. You gotta go pick up this in the same ship. Eventually, somebody's gonna be like, Okay, I all grew this ship, but I love the funk out of you, But I allgrew this ship. We gotta switch some ship up, or that's what I'm going to like. You get caught up like butted, my man, they got damn dealership, the same old ship. You're going busting your ass for this bitch coming back late at night. Tie, ain't him whatever? She don't want to got a young nick showing picture of your neck with some dread smashing playing meet me, and but just said yeah. He was like, win the lad time, you're the lad night in my car. She won't that. We're going to put on spreadway and folded, folded three and fought to four years old. Ley' get to it now. So bitch, whatever you think you're looking for, I'm doing this ship now, parks daytime, whatever it is, this fun round my way, I'm still this same nigger. We're crazy. You try to do anything, ain't else. I'm telling you, bro, Like they listened to their fun and telling them like yeah girl, and we was bet over the balcony end would do like, oh God, I'm telling you, bro, putting you down. I'm gonna bring that back that somebody that's doing it. Yeah, he got a better who do the same ship, he got a better who do. Yeah, I'll get what I'm saying, relationship genius in them. But I ain't going that, bro, what you you're trying to all the things like like, bro, I can't do that with my girl. She wants to do it. Bro every world, every girl like, don't get it, somebody's gonna do it. Fool you now, Yeah, every girl wants her nigger to go crazy about her like they want. Like, if you tell my nick some crazy ship, he probably killed you. He probably on some other ship, he'll go crazy about you. And when he seen me, he gonna go crazy about me. Like every girl wants to feel that from the person that they're with. Like when he seen me, he don't see nobody else. Like, if you try to tell him some bullshit, he probably gonna beat your grass. Like every girl want to feel that way. And if you make her feel like that nine times out of here, she's not gonna go fuck off. I just feel like, man, you leave room. The room it's open. You're gonna leave room for another motherfucker to make your happy. Yeah that's your your female or your I mean you're gonna leave. I was like, my final words is gonna be it's some women and people whatever that just ain't gonna be happy. Facts. I'm saying you bread win and you win and everything you got to burke in the person to this and that. But you're exhausted doing this ship and they're not happy sexually because you gotta get quickies in because you're trying to god damn bread win. What the fuck? Man? The quickest could be on some freaking dieky ship to where you ain't you can be satisfied. I'm talking about the premise of some people is just never fucking happy in life because they're not happy with themselves. I don't see how you he can't make time for your bitch though I don't know who that time carline? Bitch, pull up it on my lunch break. What are you talking about this nigga tripping? You say he tripping? Tripping? She tripping because she's a hout. Okay, I'm saying he tripping too. If a man don't have time to have sex with his wife, yeah, complaining about now if I ain't, I just ain't funk with you, ain't sunk with you, like I don't you turn me on Bitta talk to you? You know why? But we're cool. But I ain't hearing you. That don't make sense. This ship really forfeit. The relationship really look forfeited. I think I think that going back to another big that big fact that the Big Fast Friday were talking about the person letting themselves go and all that too, that's a big part of it. Yeah, you know, I'm saying maybe the nigg is more infatuated with just working, getting it and bread winning and feeding the cats and just ain't into cause that's where you just wrap her hair up in the hair wrapper and then you're gonna take the hair wrap off of her head and tell her you want her and you love her and you want to suck her. Not something that's gonna and we're there. One thing about it, bro, If you ain't gotta like you just said, you gotta repair each other, you ain't got a woman that you don't give a funk what she looked like, how she looked, how she taste whatever. That ain't your bitch. I feel you a million percent straight up. That ain't your Like you are right, that's that's a solid but but but but but there's some people that's just never fucking happy regards. That's what I'm saying. You can do, You can do all that ship you find something else because it's like me and you're the bread whatever, but you haven't taken me to Venice, Italy, or you haven't taken me to sensor any green ship. I'm not talking about people because because shanty saying kind of ship ain't every time I wanted to go out of town. You you told me to believe, and I wanted to go to Hawaii, like so you got to be more attentivel No, but I'm saying that No, he knew that I wanted to state beliefs. Alright, cool, all this what I'm saying. She didn't want to fly that long and it was my forty so that's why I was at my feelings about it. So you but if she act, don't go to believes go to Hawaii with another nigga, that turns us to something different. You get what I'm saying. I'm saying, Listen, if I if I, if you told me, if you complain, you complain about you want to go to what's name? After I took you, I felt like it was my ungrateful ship. But you didn't turn around and go to Hawaii with a nigger. You get what I'm saying. So it's just like just a complaint, like she still happen about he Believe trip. She just wanted to say it ain't even it ain't even that she was happy about the Beliefe trip. It's about she loves you to the point where even something like that that she felt was a situation where you totally did the opposite of what she wanted to do. It's still not gonna affect y'all's relationship or y'all situation. No, I said that what screen says, just don't be happy. Yeah that's the that's like, that's how much she loved you. Oh this nigga just said, funk what I said. But fuck it, we like together still like some ship like that. I gotta respect that. So not not the creatives now, but that just me next time right right? How her birthday, I'm just said, that's self. It's somebody else's birthday. And but what I also told you, baby, you can go to the waia I paid for you. Just not. 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