New Year, New YOU | Golden Hour

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Speaker 1: Welcome back everybody to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks so much for joining us again. We are always excited to be back and having you here. Kat.

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Speaker 2: How's going, Oh my gosh, it is, you know, just rolling through the first week of the new year, loving it. It's been record warm temperatures in Austin, Texas. Who needs the beach when it can be eighty six degrees in Austin, Texas in the first week of January.

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Speaker 1: I do because the blue water is just beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Okay, rub it in, rub it in, Susan, still at the beach, all right, Today, Susan and I are back. We are answering some of your questions. This is one of our favorite things to do. Thanks for writing in. We're so excited to check in with you guys and dish some advice. So I'm going to do the first one. Okay, are you ready to see? How can you go? Chris writes, Hi, Kathy and Susan, I have selected the word strength toocus on for this year. I'm fifty six and I'm really feeling like I need to focus on taking care of my body and making it strong again. Kathy, I've heard you talk about the importance of stretching, and I'm wondering if you have specific stretches and strength training that you do, or if you could share your protocol daily schedule on the podcast. What does working out look like when you're in menopause. I would love to know how you keep in such good shape and stay motivated. Susan, you look great too. I just know you don't like to work out as much as Kathy does. I appreciate any advice you both can provide.

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Speaker 1: Well, Chris, I just want to say one thing I do stretch. That is critical because if you don't, things aren't going to flow. I do.

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Speaker 2: That's true. She's absolutely right, and thank you Chris for your lovely comments about me looking so great. It's a little rough in the beginning of the new year, but we're all getting back into the gym and getting focused on strength and so let me give you a couple of easy tips. Chris. First of all, don't jump. Don't become a weekend warrior. That is, don't jump into the gym and work out for an hour an hour and a half, because what's going to happen is you're going to tear something, hurt something, get so sore that you won't do it again, So start small. I would encourage you to start off walking ten minutes. You don't have to do it marathon pace. Just walk for ten minutes. When you come back from the walk, stretch and let me give you some easy stretches. Lying on the floor, lifting each leg individually into your chest, slowly rolling one leg over onto the other side of your body like making an l if you will bending at the waste and just slowly. Don't be bouncing. Stretching is just that it's not bouncing. It's slowly holding as far as you can and then letting it go. And there are tons of stretching exercises you can get on YouTube. There's some fun of information that you can get. The other thing that I would say to you is strength training. So you're probably obviously, well not obviously, probably in menopause, and we lose strength once we go into menopause, and so weight training, although you didn't ask that, strength training slash weight training is super important. And again I would encourage you, if you have the resources available, get a trainer, work with a trainer two or three times, get him to write out a workout for you. Do that workout for four six weeks, not every day, start out three days a week. That's plenty, and then go after six weeks and get a new workout again. There's so many good ree workouts online and get yourself. You can buy cheap weights at secondhand stories. You don't have to order brand new weights. The weight does not change its weight over time, so you know, look for used weights if that's an issue, and take it slow. That is my best advice. And then keep a journal is always a good thing. What weight you used, how long you did it for, and then just build up slowly. You got anything to add to that, Susan.

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Speaker 1: I do as far as the stretching, when you're flat on your back and you bring your legs up, knees bent, Yeah, press the small of your back into the floor. It's a great back exercise. And it's also strengthening the floor, which is something that I have problems with. Yeah, because your core strength is everything. One of the things I did do and didn't want to brag, but I just downloaded and joined this tai chi and I'm going to start for balance. Yea helps motivate me and it is a little bit of strength.

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Speaker 2: But yes, so Chris. Here, the thing is, as we get older, and I'm a lot older than you are, Chris, we tend to lose balance. That's why people fall and break hips. And so season's right. Core strength also balance balance, So it all goes together. Strength training, balance, core exercises. There's there's a lot you can find.

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Speaker 1: And Kathy, do you agree with this? I worked with a trainer last year for a short time, unfortunately, because I started to travel again. But when I was doing like arm curls, for instance, and your elbows are in, she made me.

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Speaker 3: Goes so slow on the way down and it took so much more time, but it was so much more for their muscle, right, because I used to just want to No, that's not how you do it.

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Speaker 2: So this is my life, right. I have done weight since I was twenty years old, and so I know the proper way to lift a weight. But that's why, Chris, if you can get a trainer just one or two times, it actually will cut out a lot of the mistakes and the chance of you hurting yourself. And you're how do I stay in such good shape? Chris? It's it's it.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't eat, she does do eat.

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Speaker 2: I do eat not like it? Girl, Well that may be. I'm not Italian, but I work. I make a commitment, Chris to work out this morning. I didn't want to work out. We had to sit down and I had other things I had to do. But I got up early so I could go out and did and do my walk. Did I do five miles today?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: I only had time to do four. It's it's the commitment. I'm saying. It's the commitment to getting out and doing something. But you know what I have?

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Speaker 1: You lift Weightskathy? How many times a week?

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Speaker 2: Three times a week? Two to three two three?

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Speaker 1: Every day?

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Speaker 2: I walk? Okay, I walk? I walk. I would say nine days out of ten. So you know, I'll skip a day once in a while. But Chris, let us know. I would love to hear back from you. You know, the computer's your friend, the internet is your friend. Look up some look up some exercises. Take your time, but just commit to doing it ten minutes. You will feel better, you will sleep better. Let us know how it goes for you. And yeah, I'm glad I have someone who wants to get in shape for twenty twenty six.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thanks for writing, and Chris, we wish you the best. Let us know your progress.

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Speaker 2: Yep, perfect, all right.

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Speaker 1: The next one is from anonymous. First, thank you for talking about the stuff that other podcasts don't. My question is about my husband's adult daughter. She is a married mother of four kids under the age of ten and lives out of state. The issue is she calls him all the time with reports of rashes, who ate all their dinner, the weather, and other useless trivia. She also texts hourly with videos and photos of her baking skills, every activity, clips of every sports game where she is screaming in the background, anything you can think of she's doing. This happens constantly when my husband and I are on vacation or at an outing. The contact doubled when we were on a europe trip, ding at dinner, ding at two am. He feels an obligation to text back if he doesn't respond in ten minutes, she calls. I love that they are so close, but I at times feel like she is in our marriage. I have adult children that I am very close to, but I don't feel in need for more than once a day check in. We are both healthy and active, so there is no need for over concern He visits them six to seven times a year, and sometimes I go along. This past year, I have made excuses as to not go because I am starting to feel uncomfortable as their home is a very controlling household. They are over there are over the top rules, schedules and harsh punishments, punishments that make me cringe. Not sure how I bring it up to him or am I being unreasonable? I have been dealing with this for over a year. Well, I feel you're paying.

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Speaker 2: You want to take a stab at it because this is so easy for me.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, yes, I know it is for you, what not for me? I would definitely have to bring it up. I would try to calm myself first and write down the important things so you're not bluttering along and you're starting to sound like a whining complaining. That's one of my things that I do. I go on and on, just get the facts out that doesn't have to be like this and the harsh punishments that make you cringe. I totally get that. I have to bite my tongue sometimes until it bleeds, So I would truly have a conversation with him, and if he's that in love with you, and you are with him and he wants this to work. There is no reason that she would have to do it that many times in a day, especially when you're on holiday.

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Speaker 2: Kathy, I have one word. Usually I'm the one running at the mouth and you. I have one word for you, Anonymous, boundaries. First of all, you are not being unreasonable, not at all. Secondly, all the examples you gave one is worse than next, I think, Susan, I agree on that. That's just horrible. However, if your husband you said that, he feels that he must respond, feels an obligation. I don't care, I don't care where the mother is. He feels an obligation to text back. The question you have to ask him is why, Because they are adult children, and this, to me is beginning. I don't want to sound overly dramatic, Anonymous, but you're not spending time with him. You're not going on the trips to them to see his family, which is okay. I mean that, Tara, you can go once or twice of this six times he goes a year. However, if he's spending more time with his kids than he is with you, that's another issue you need to I would encourage you. Again, I'm not a therapist, but I would encourage you guys to get into therapy because he needs to learn that you are his priority and that he can love his children. But they are adults and they get to live their lives. They doesn't mean that he needs to hear every dot and dash of their lives. So I would encourage you to get some help because clearly if you haven't brought well first of all, Susan's right, bring it up to him first. See if he's what.

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Speaker 1: You're going Yeah, yeah, just say Kathy, I wonder is there not a mom? Maybe she passed, that's why she depends solely on the day. I don't care, But there's a fine line. And what about her husband? The girl's husband. Talk to him, your dad. You don't need to talk to him two times a day.

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Speaker 2: She is a married mother of four kids. She isn't about I don't care. If there's a mother a step mother.

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Speaker 1: Usually they call the mom for these things.

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Speaker 2: But see the mom this. You could turn this whole question around. It could be the husband writing in that she calls her mom. You see, that's still wrong. It's wrong. It is wrong. You have every right anonymous, to expect that your husband will put you first in his life. That isn't to say he won't chat with his kids occasionally once a day, even send them gifts up. I think you know what he says.

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Speaker 1: Great, and if something exciting is happening and she shoots over the video, okay, great, but it's not every.

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Speaker 2: Day, and it's not more than once a day, and it's not all these things. I think this is something Anonymous that you should try to talk to me about. But I'm guessing you might need to have some counseling here with your husband. And like I said, I'm not a therapist, but because.

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Speaker 1: He might be blind to the fact that you're bothered by it, someone has to bring it to his attention.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 1: The first step.

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Speaker 2: Well, she says she's been dealing with it for every year, but she hasn't said any You haven't said anything, so you know, I think I think you listen, Anonymous. Men are a lot of things clueless. One things that well, they may be clueless, but one thing they are not is mind readers. Helen what's on your mind and then take it from there and see what other steps you might need to take. And let us starting on.

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Speaker 1: Let us know, wish you lucky because I get it.

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Speaker 2: I love you, I love Susan says start softly, I'd be in there ranting. All right, let's move on. But let us know, Anonymous, seriously, we wish the best for you, Elizabeth writes, Hi, Kathy and Susan, you guys give such good advice. Well, thank you, Elizabeth, hoping you have something good for me. I am engaged in getting married soon. I have an engagement ring, but I never wear it because I just don't like wearing jewelry. Well, I'm not even going to read on, Elizabeth, send it to me. I'll be happy to wear it for you. Okay, I don't think that's your question though, all right. I also don't want to feel like I have to wear a wedding ring. It's nothing personal. I just am not a jewelry girl. My fiancee does not have any problem with this, but here we go. But my family and friends seem to think it's weird and disrespectful to marriage. Is it really that big of a deal, what says you, Susan.

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Speaker 1: I mean, first of all, why did you let him waste his money on a diamond? If you don't like jewelry. A simple band would have been good too, write but there's something to be said when you're married, you need I like the idea of wearing a ring.

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Speaker 2: That's you do. I think, okay, it's to.

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Speaker 1: Each his own. If you don't want to, you don't have to.

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Speaker 2: That's where I am. Hey, Susan. And as far as your friends are concerned, Elizabeth and your family, last time I looked, you're marrying him, not your friends or your family. So there's that. But here's what I would say. We all know lots of men and women who wear wedding rings and diamond rings with their wedding rings, who cheat on their husbands, cheat on their wives. So the ring, while it is a symbol of unity and commitment, we all know that it doesn't always turn out that way, right. So I would say, Elizabeth, you seem like a woman who is looking forward to being married and loves the idea of marriage. And I don't hear anything here that you're not sure you want to marry the guy. So as far as I'm concerned, if you are in a committed relationship and you are partners in this marriage, I don't care if you wear a straw wrapped around your finger, a diamond ring, or no ring at all. It's a symbol. It is not the marriage. It is a symbol. If you don't like the symbol, you know, do what I did. Get your hair dyed black. That can be your symbol of marriage.

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Speaker 1: No, Elizabeth, just do one thing for everyone. When you do say your vows, wear the ring. If you don't want to wear it afterwards, you don't have to. I don't care what your family.

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Speaker 2: Why does she have to wear it?

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Speaker 1: It's part of the ceremony count.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't have to be.

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Speaker 1: It's a symbol that they each put on that the wearer.

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Speaker 2: That's that's just Hey, you and I can argue this all day long. There's nothing.

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Speaker 1: You can have your hands tied in the symbol.

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Speaker 2: There's enoughing I do. They can do that. I know you do. But there's no law that says you have to put away ring on for your wedding. You can. You don't have to say anything. You don't have to say you are going to honor and all that. You don't have to do.

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Speaker 1: She's what I got out of it. You need a marriage like he just doesn't like wearing jewelry, but appease everybody for the ceremony. You wear it, people look at it, and when you're done, you're on your own.

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Speaker 2: You wearing They are so different.

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Speaker 1: A lot of men don't wear wedding bits because of their work where they're.

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Speaker 2: Or they just don't like wearing them.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes they don't.

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Speaker 2: So who cares? You and I are here. We are a first fight of twenty twenty six.

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Speaker 1: This is not a fight.

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Speaker 2: No, you know what I'm saying. Our first disagreement. You do not have to wear a ring at the ceremony, Elizabeth. You don't have to wear the diamond at the ceremony. You don't have to do anything with it. You can keep it and if you have children, see if they want it. Sunday. I believe marriage is not about symbols. Marriage is about partnership and commitment and a ring and a ring is not that. So if you don't want to wear it, don't wear it. It's not a big deal. Don't get married. And if you don't want to, don't have rings, don't do it. If you don't want it, don't do it. Tell however, well, she has the diamond ring. She has the diamond ring. But she does not have a wed. Okay, Susan says, where to the ceremony because Susan performs ceremonies and wants that.

00:19:22
Speaker 1: And then you could put it in a safe and you know.

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Speaker 2: Whatever, it's fine.

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Speaker 1: It's her. I can say, your life, your marriage, your man.

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Speaker 2: And don't let your friends and family tell you what to do. It's your day, it's your marriage, it's your life. And may I also say I wish I had Elizabeth's problem. Hey, would you wait if I called you up? Wait if I called you up and said, Susan, I've got these gorgeous diamond ring from whoever.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to. I don't give it to or have it made into something else. But she doesn't like jewelry at all. But let's reflect for a second on the last three notes that we received. The first one, it's about getting healthy, it's about lits in weight, it's doing good for yourself right.

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Speaker 2: And it's and it is a perfect time for everyone. You and I think about it.

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Speaker 1: I hope ours are.

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Speaker 2: Are thinking how they can make their lives. So I love that Chris wrote in because that shows that people she hopefully symbolizes a lot of people who are thinking about making their lives better. I know you and I are trying to.

00:20:40
Speaker 1: And then the one that's sticking in my crawl is is those kids. That daughter. I want to call her Kathy, Seriously, what.

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Speaker 2: Can you do, Susan? You know me so well.

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Speaker 1: She would just like that and it's over you just boom. I'm not accepting it.

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Speaker 2: I would say to him, forget it, You're not doing this. You're not doing this. You can you can choose.

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Speaker 1: So you would give him an ultimatum.

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Speaker 2: Now at the beginning, I would say, I would start with tiny steps. You're turning your phone off and you're going to tell her you are going to have the conversation. Do you want to be with me? This is a conversation I would have. Do you let's call him John, John? Do you want to be with me? Do you love me? Because I love you and I love our life together. What I don't love is feeling like your daughter and her children are in our marriage. It's excessive. So are you willing to have a conversation with her? Do you think it's excessive? Would be my first question. If he said no, I think it's fine. We're probably not going to make it. If he thinks that's normal, we're done. I mean, seriously, that's my fear.

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Speaker 1: Does he well, then that's normal.

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Speaker 2: Well, but if he does, you're not going to change him. If he doesn't want to change. That's the thing that we Susan pay attention. We don't change people. We accept people for who they are, and we either stick around or we take a high.

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Speaker 1: And what happens is is it okay with you who they are? Of course, you accept anybody for who they are, but when it involves you, yes, are you okay with who they are?

00:22:21
Speaker 2: And I think Anonymous is nervous, maybe that he is okay with her daughter, his daughter contacting her sixty four times a day, and she does. I think that's why she hasn't had the conversation.

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Speaker 1: She said, I'm not sure how I bring it up to him. Well, we're going to tell you a couple of different ways that you're going to bring it up. The first one for me is when you're about to take a trip, whether you're in Europe or you're down the street at a hotel, I don't care where you are, what country you're at, you have that conversation before you leave, Sweetie, let your daughter. No, we're going on holiday, and you will not be answering every single solitary text message. It's too much.

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Speaker 2: I disagree with you because you because of what I said to her earlier. He this is you being control person. He has to not want it. You cannot legislate change.

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Speaker 1: You can't make him not want it. They've got to make some kind of an arrangement.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, this is what I'm saying. She Anonymous cannot legislate and tell her husband. You're going to tell your daughter this, This a B and C. That's why I said the first question Anonymous needs to ask him is are you willing to make a change. I think this is excessive. Are you willing to make changes?

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Speaker 1: Well, yes, yes, of course that you have to have the conversation. But she's going to be a little bit lean yet because she's in love with her husband. She's saying, am I being unreasonable? You're not being unreasonable. You need that conversation like we talked about, and reminder before you go on a trip.

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Speaker 2: But I'm saying I don't think you're hearing me. You're saying Anonymous needs to tell him. I'm saying the no, that's that's controlling his life.

00:24:17
Speaker 1: What tell him that it upsets her? I'm telling him how to do it.

00:24:21
Speaker 2: You said, tell her to tell the daughter.

00:24:24
Speaker 1: Tell the daughter we are going on vacation. You will not be answering that.

00:24:28
Speaker 2: Telling him how to do it, I'm saying. I'm saying, you can't tell a man your partner and have a good outcome if he doesn't want to change it.

00:24:38
Speaker 1: So after their conversation, the beginning conversation that we both agreed.

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Speaker 2: Upon, Yeah, I'm saying, if he isn't willing, I would try therapy. After you approach, after you broach you with him, try a couple's therapy and see if you can get some leeway.

00:24:54
Speaker 1: But this, for me, do you think that would actually do? Kathy?

00:24:58
Speaker 2: Couple start, see if a therapist could get him to see how unrealistic and frankly insane this kind of behavior. I got, I got it. I've got a couple others that I want to go. Susan, do you remember when we did in one of our episodes about anonymous confessions, and we read some of them. We didn't have time to do them. All Right, We've got a few more here. Let's do another round of anonymous all right, and these come from Instagram, So these really happened. Okay. I once dated two people at the same time and accidentally scheduled dates at the same restaurant out on the same night.

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Speaker 1: I cancel both.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I mean that would I mean I've done I've scheduled two dates before, but not at the same restaurant at this on the same night, at the same time like that. Whoever you know, Instagram person, that is an amazing confession. I think you need to get a little black book, bells and chimes on your cell phone do something, because that's like that. That could be deadly right.

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Speaker 1: Have you evergot I couldn't do it.

00:26:19
Speaker 2: No, you've never done. Have you ever had two dates in one day?

00:26:24
Speaker 1: No? Well yes, but two meetings in one day, not dates. Like when I was on social media dating. I would go meet somebody for a cup of coffee or a bless of wine. And I did one in the afternoon one time and one in the evening one time.

00:26:38
Speaker 2: But that yeah, all right, all right? What about this one? I stayed in a relationship way longer than I should have because I liked his dog more than him.

00:26:54
Speaker 1: That's terrible.

00:26:56
Speaker 2: So can I just say a lot of And I've talked to you about this, Susan. They have dogs, and their dogs come before me, which is like, I'm out the door. I don't think I could you stay in a relationship where you liked it because I like the dog well, or the or their daughter or something. You know, you like the kid or the.

00:27:18
Speaker 1: How about I told my friends and family we broke up mutually when I was very much don't.

00:27:27
Speaker 2: I think a lot of people do that, Yeah, to save yourself. I mean I think a lot, but I I you know, you know, in my middle year now, it's usually we me like she feels.

00:27:39
Speaker 1: Something really dumped my ass.

00:27:43
Speaker 2: I think people. I think people the younger day. Wait, younger people are not worried about it. They're gonna say he dumped me. I do. I think for the most part.

00:27:57
Speaker 1: Yeah, I found out my boyfriend and was cheating from his demo transactions with a girl. Huh. You know what you say to that?

00:28:09
Speaker 2: I can say, tell you what I say from that. She was in his phone. She was in his phone. Yes, she was so so to that young lady.

00:28:20
Speaker 1: I would say no sometimes demo, no no, no, no, no, she didn't have to be on his phone. Demo shows unless you hit private. I see all kinds of people paying people. Oh okay, I know that for a fact.

00:28:34
Speaker 2: That's public. All right, how about this one? I google this one? See the people?

00:28:40
Speaker 1: Wait, no, I want to know what would you do with that? If you saw that he was the same girl over and over that well, wait, why would he be giving her money?

00:28:52
Speaker 2: You know what I would do? I would ask him, hey, I saw eighty four transaction transactions for ten ninety five. If you know is it? Was it a cheap date? Or you know? I would ask him what is going on?

00:29:06
Speaker 1: Why would it be ven moing? Why would he be ven moing it?

00:29:10
Speaker 2: Maybe? You know what, It might be completely innocent.

00:29:14
Speaker 1: It might since I've found out he was cheating.

00:29:18
Speaker 2: No, no, no, she's saying because he's sending money. So she's talking. I think this person from Instagram cheating means he's con having contact with the girl. It might be his barber, might be a female. It might be a dog walker. You know who knows. But I would ask you asked me? I would ask all right, this happened this. I've known a lot of people I stayed with someone because we'd already booked a trip together. Yeah, I actually, I've actually I've actually known people who did that, who booked a trip together.

00:30:03
Speaker 1: It was over.

00:30:04
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, so god that that would be a lousy trip. Okay, I've here, go ahead, you have one.

00:30:10
Speaker 1: Yeah. I once broke up with someone and then immediately hooked up with their friend.

00:30:21
Speaker 2: No, well, that's that's bad code. You know, that's just not Yeah, I I I don't think I would be doing that. I'm kindles on that one. I mean, you know what that gets down to, talking about what kind of integrity you have? You know, that's like, that's just bad code.

00:30:44
Speaker 1: What about I told someone I loved them back at of pure panic even though I wasn't in love yet.

00:30:53
Speaker 2: I think that happens a lot too.

00:30:55
Speaker 1: I feel like put on the spot or something.

00:30:59
Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like I think so, I don't know how can I answer. I think that sometimes maybe people are afraid of losing the person before they know whether they want them in their life or not, so they say I'm in love. I don't know. I haven't done it, but I feel sorry for people who get themselves in these fixes. It's hard to get out of. How about this one? I googled. I might have been guilty of this a few times. I googled my date so deeply that I knew his cousin's wedding location before we met, and accidentally let it flip on the date. I've never done that, but I have googled my dates. Oh yes, and find out some very interesting things. I might answer, Oh God, have you ever done that? Have you ever done that? Googled a date?

00:31:55
Speaker 1: I think I've asked you to google somebody before.

00:31:58
Speaker 2: That way, I have to tell you I have a friend. I'm going to be very very secretive here. I have a friend who has admitted I shouldn't say this. Never mind, nobody will, They'll say nobody. Let's just say I have access.

00:32:12
Speaker 1: Okay. I broke up with someone via text and then run into them twenty minutes later. Ah, that sucks.

00:32:24
Speaker 2: Let me think. Let me think.

00:32:29
Speaker 1: That just sucks. You broke up with them via text, Okay, then you run into them.

00:32:35
Speaker 2: Well you know what, you know, that's the dating God saying you should never break up over text. That's what that's saying. Don't break up over text, do it in person, and then when you bump into them, you can say can we just be friends. Okay, wait, let's can you make up for that? Wait, I want to make up one that would be so crazy. I'm going to do that. I'm going to come up with one. I can't do it right now, but I am definitely going to come up with one that I would have put on my Instagram.

00:33:02
Speaker 1: And your best one ever was on your show, Kathy when you said I once slept with another man while my husband was sleeping.

00:33:10
Speaker 2: I didn't say husband, I said partner. Anyway, Yeah, that was That was one of my final moments. All right, all.

00:33:18
Speaker 1: Right, Well that was a lot of fun. And thank you so much to all our listeners. We hope you enjoyed it and got to kick out of it, like.

00:33:25
Speaker 2: You know, I would love you. Gotta go, We gotta go. But I would love to just sit on Instagram and find out some more embarrassing moments for people.

00:33:35
Speaker 1: No, seriously, though, to all our listeners and a lot of you write me and I do appreciate it. I want to know what you think about the woman whose husband's daughter blows his phone up. Seriously, I need a people Paul on this one.

00:33:49
Speaker 2: Let us let me just tell you something. This is gonna this is gonna be in Susan's mind. We're gonna finish this podcast. She's gonna call me and say, can you But I already know where this is going. I told you.

00:34:00
Speaker 1: Everybody agreed.

00:34:02
Speaker 2: That's right. Well, in the meantime, be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new episodes coming out every week and you don't want to miss even one.

00:34:12
Speaker 1: Absolutely not, and make sure they listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to your podcast. And until next time, Kathy and I sign it off.