Self-Love and Daddy Vibes with Parisa! | Golden Hour

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thanks for joining us today. We're so excited to be back. Another great episode.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, we got a very special guest today, but be sure to check out our latest episodes because we always have so much fun answering the questions, chatting with our Bachelor Nation fans.

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Speaker 1: We do and today, Susan, we have a very special guest. Please welcome from Grant Season Parisa. Welcome to Golden Hour, Paris. How are you good?

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Speaker 3: You guys? Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 2: Every one of you are so beautiful. We have interviewed quite a few and just one gets prettier than the next.

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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, thank you so much. I'm so excited to be here today. And I also want to say congratulations relationship.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Oh I guess that's directed as Susan Parisa. Huh your lips to God dear? Where are you are you? Are you in Michigan? Tell us where in Michigan are you?

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Speaker 3: I'm in Birmingham. It's right outside of Detroit.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So tell us we got to get any questions here?

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Speaker 2: What You've got a ton of things to ask you just tell us what you want to tell us first.

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Speaker 1: And then and then we'll drill you.

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Speaker 3: No perfect, you know. I'm just you have been busy working. I've been trying, you know, to meet somebody.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, oh let's talk about that, Parice. I feel your pain.

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Speaker 2: Expected.

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Speaker 1: That's Susan's moniker.

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Speaker 3: Now when expected, I'm not expecting anything.

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Speaker 1: So well, there you go. So I want to know what made you because people ask us all the time why we applied for Golden Bachelor? Why did you apply? Uh? What made you apply for the show?

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Speaker 3: So it's actually, you know, a really funny story. It was on my birthday.

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Speaker 1: When your birthday? When's your birthday?

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Speaker 3: March twenty first, Happy birthday.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm a March too, And yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Was just not in the best relationship and I yeah, it was on my birthday. Just was not a good birthday with you know, this person. It was just so funny. I just I was on Instagram and I saw an advertisement apply now for the Bachelor, and I'm like, you know what I'm doing it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, birth time, that is exactly what I did. I saw an advertisement on Facebook for Golden baucherl and I went, I could do that. Click. I mean, I just didn't think about it just clicked.

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Speaker 3: I didn't think about it. Yeah, I thought more of it, just like you know what, I'm going to channel all of this negative energy right now in this application and you know, press end and I'm hope you know. And I never thought about it. And then I you're back and I'm like, oh wow, okay.

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Speaker 2: Were you broken up at the time of the location or in the middle of something.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was. It was one of those relationships where I'm like, I will fix him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Ossa, Pisa, it took me sixty years to realize red doesn't change its color.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's just let's just give you that this tidbit right now, Parsa. Here's where you can change on a guy. If you're lucky, you can get him to put his socks in the hamper. If you do not change his character, lack of integrity, none of those things can you ever change in a man ever.

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Speaker 3: Well I know that now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good. So you're ready for the next one. So I want to know if you could describe, like in one word. We always ask this question, what was your experience like on the Bachelor in one word? And then you can expound on it.

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Speaker 3: Hmm. Life changing is two words.

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Speaker 2: It's all right, Well, that's all right, we'll take that.

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Speaker 1: Tell us how how did it change your life?

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Speaker 3: It was definitely nothing I ever can expect, and it was you know, from day one, being a part of such a great group of girls. Everyone was so welcoming and you know, right from the start, like there's our sisterhood and we needed that because none of us had our comfort, you know, our family, our mom's sisters, best friends from at home to help us through this you know, dating journey, and so we definitely like relied on each other. And it was just, yeah, an experience of I guess also too being vulnerable and not only like opening up so quickly you know, during like kind of a fast paced relationship, but also being vulnerable and showing all of that on TV with you know.

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Speaker 2: Did you learn anything about yourself?

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Speaker 3: Yes, you know it was really interesting. I guess throughout the process, I wasn't really aware of how comfortable and open I was, But it was when I got home. You know, you get your phone and you're going back on your socials and I pulled up my social media page and I'm like, wow, you know, it's funny, this girl me on my you know, Instagram, that's not who I am. Like, I you know, was looking back and seeing like what I used to post, how I would post, and like that was what I wanted people to see, Like who I want, you know, that's what on your socials what you want people to see, right, And taking a break from that, living in the moment and just being my true authentic self being accepted. I forgot all about that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's interesting, it is, But don't you feel like social media, we always, I think, at any age, we put the life we want to have out there. We put what we want people to see, and so other people look at and say, oh, I want the life that Parsa has, when really Parisa has the same struggles, right, And so we put out there what we want the world to see, not really necessarily the way our life really.

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Speaker 3: Is, no exactly. And that's when you know, like when I meet people too and I'll tell them more about myself and they're like shocked, and I'd be so I'm like, why are you shocked? And any of that you know from your social media.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I want to know more about your rocks.

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Speaker 3: Oh, thank you for asking.

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Speaker 1: I got a piece of I got a big piece of Fool's gold pirite. If you need it to add to your collection, I got a huge piece. Remember from that, you got quartz? Yes, I got nothing crystal.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I love rocks. I just think they're so beautiful. I'm more like I love the geology behind it. When I was younger, I wanted to be a geologist, and I loved the study of rocks, like rock formations, you know all of that. And I would go mining down south. There's you know, some parts like in Georgia and South Carolina you can literally go digging for like beautiful amethysts and quartz crystals.

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Speaker 1: And did you find them?

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Speaker 2: Did you find for diamonds?

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Speaker 1: That's not the part of the world diamonds grow? Wow?

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Speaker 2: Uh the bugs.

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Speaker 3: So I also love entomologies like study of insects and arachnids. I wish like I always wanted to just be a scientist.

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Speaker 1: When I was Wait, she is a behavior I want this where I want to get to. You're a pediatric behavior analyst. Tell me what that is and can I send my grandchildren to you?

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Speaker 2: Or so?

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Speaker 3: I work in the field of behavior analysis, and basically it's all about behavior change, which is why I thought I could change my acts. So I love.

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Speaker 1: Was your ex eighteen months old?

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Speaker 3: They acted like it?

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Speaker 1: Well, therein lies the problem. Okay, go ahead, Sorry, keep talking.

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Speaker 3: But yes, like in my field, I work specifically with children with autism, and we work on targeting behaviors or skills that we either want to increase see more of. So if it's something to do with you know, communication, or targeting any challenging behaviors that you know disrupt their quality of life, so anything from aggressive behavior, self injurius behaviors.

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Speaker 2: So you do therapy with them to try to change these things.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So I work closely with like speech pathologists and occupational therapists, and we work on just like skill development.

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Speaker 1: And I can't believe. I cannot believe you're saying this. My daughter's uh my my granddaughter's birthday was a couple of days ago, and one of the children invited is three years old and he's autistic. He was diagnosed about two and a half years old. And I was asking the mom exactly, it's exactly what you do. She was saying that they but she didn't call it a pediatric behavior analyst. She called it something else. But she was saying that that it's been the best help because it encourages socialization with other kids. And you know, he's got his particular behavior is at least at the party, he loves to put rocks where water is. So he was lugging rocks, like fifty of them out of my daughter's garden into the pool, the you know, the little children's plastic pool, and and I mean he did it for like an hour. He just kept going back and forth. And she said that they're working on trying to diminish those behaviors and encourage more socially, you know, playing with kids, more social behavior. So I found it fascinating.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, with that exactly, it's you know, well, so that would be our target behavior and then yeah, we will find a replacement that is uh, it has the same function, so he you know, feels he's getting the same feeling that he's getting when he you know, is yeah, those rocks and water. And then we try now to associate that so with social skills. We would want to associate that with peer play and just kind of like, yeah, promoting those social interactions and but yeah, and I love it so much. I love I focus more with like play based therapy, because I want to make it as natural as possible. Yeah, and I feel like that's when a child is most engaged.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't it feel rewarding at the end, like when you're working with children like that? Do you want children?

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Speaker 1: Do you want children?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Wait, I have to say, Susan yet another gorgeous, brilliant. Not only is she gorgeous, I'm lovely. You are absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's articulate. She has a great career. Like what is wrong with these men out there? That was a question?

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Speaker 2: Let me ask you something. Is there anything at all looking back that you would have changed had to do it again? In my life in general, doing the show, in the show, any regrets or any.

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Speaker 3: I never live with regrets because I look at everything as just like a little bit experience, like, oh well, next time, we won't do that.

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Speaker 1: Next time I'll do better, or I'll try to do better. And that's all we can ask you.

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Speaker 3: You got to make those mistakes in order to, you know, to know in the future. Yeah, I think the main thing was I definitely I'm I'm not you know, the type to like interject myself into drama ever, but I think towards the end I did mentally, so I you know, I told myself, oh, you know, we're not going to get in on you know, any of that, but mentally I did, and I think that interacted me because now looking back, there were a few times like my one on one moments with Grant, like I wasn't prepared and you have to be prepared because you're only given so much time and use that time wisely. Then it's just like you're.

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Speaker 1: Not able to wait a minute. I want to know, because I kind of agree with you on my season with Gary, but I'm curious, what do you mean you weren't prepared? Like can you give me some specifics?

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Speaker 3: So I feel like every like going in on every group date or you know, during the cocktail hour, you want to be prepared with Okay, I'm you know, going to go grab him to talk. I want to talk about this today and I want to make sure he knows this about me, and I was. I felt very on top of it throughout my whole time there, except that last my last week, and I would ask myself as I'm walking to go grab him, I'd be like, oh, wait, what am I going to tell him.

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Speaker 2: Now, and I start checking guessing, yeah, and.

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Speaker 3: I just wasn't, you know, as prepared, And I felt like, yeah, there was, you know, a couple of times, I just I missed my opportunity to tell him more about me and more about you know, what I'm looking for in my future.

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Speaker 1: So that's the question, what are you looking for? That is right where I was headed? What are you looking for in a partner?

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Speaker 3: So, and that's a great question. I love. So I'm a you know, a woman of reflection and emotional awareness. This year was a huge year for me. I turned thirty and I you know, I'm doing that reflection asking myself. Okay, you know, I'm what do I want and my forever partner? And usually you know those characteristics and you know, all that stays the same, but there was a new thing. Now I'm noticing that I'm like looking for and it's those qualities of like and I use this word as my umbrella term, but I'm now looking for a man that has those daddy.

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Speaker 1: Vibes to be not your daddy, you mean dad? Well, the Oedipus complex is alive and well you mean you mean a daddy for your children?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that makes sense, that makes sense.

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Speaker 3: Like I want to look at you know, you know, the man that I'm with, and like I could hear my future child saying, don't worry, my dad will handle that, or my dad will be there and it will have and you.

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Speaker 1: Know what that is. That is again, so many attributes that you're looking for. I'm looking for, Susan's found, you know, a man that makes us laugh, a man who's honest, a man who's trustworthy, a man who's fun, who makes me laugh, who has high eq all of those things. But the one difference at your age is we don't want children. We're done with that, so we're looking for someone. I would say the correlated corollary topic is we're looking for men that can integrate into our families so we can get to their children. App But you're wise to consider that because that's an important aspect of a partner.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I know, I remember back when people would say, write a list, write a list, like you don't go out in the world with this list, you know you kind of Sometimes chemistry is chemistry, right, So when you came off the show, when we first started chatting today, you've shared that trying to date. Did you go back on social media or dating apps?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And it was just one of those things where I really did. I tried. But I think also too, it's just maybe my that I'm in, you know, like I was born and raised here and I left for a few years, but and then I came back. I think I might just need.

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Speaker 1: To get up come to Austin, Prisa, I will set you up. There so many single guys here in your age group. It's crazy willing.

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Speaker 2: So how about paradise. If you're asked, would you be willing? Oh?

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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, who do you want to see?

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Speaker 3: You know, this is another thing. I am just so superstitious. I feel like I could just I can name someone.

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Speaker 2: And then ruin all chances.

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Speaker 3: And then also too, it's fun to be surprised. I really don't know many like bachelor alum men, and I you know, like, of course I started looking up guys, but then I'm like, you know what, like.

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Speaker 2: I'm not doing this.

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Speaker 1: If you went, what would your strategy be, I'm serious to meet guys to pick what's your strategy? Because if I get to I'm taking your strategy go ahead.

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Speaker 3: So my strategy, I feel like, honestly it's when you live in the moment and you're just having fun. I want to just I think my personality just being playful. It's attracts like you know, you know everyone, everyone wants to be a part of that positivity and you know, absolutely and absolutely I agree, But.

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna are you? I agree with all that, and Susan and I are very positive and we're fun loving and people like to be around us because we laugh a lot more fun. Having said that, when you get there, if you go, there's gonna be from you know, from other seasons, there's gonna be a slew of handsome, twelve pack guys strolling on the beach and new one's coming all the time. So how you know what's your radar? How do you pick out?

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Speaker 2: How do you so if you're attracted to somebody, you'll walk you're okay with.

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Speaker 3: Them? Yeah, oh my goodness, you got to shoot your out nowadays.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you know, sitting do you feel about another girl like in the same person? Would that be I mean, you just did the show that was different than Yeah, I know.

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Speaker 3: It's so different. I if another girl liked the same guy, it would have to you know, I feel like that would just be a conversation, which would be just an easy conversation.

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Speaker 1: It's like, I'm going to give you some good news.

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Speaker 2: Do you want to tell us?

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Speaker 1: I'm going to give you some good news if I go. If I end up going, you don't have to worry about me. I will not be going after the same guys that you would be going after. I just wanted to think I'll support you in your adventure.

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Speaker 3: Same.

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Speaker 2: What did you think of the end of your show? Were you surprised to be picked or did you kind of know? I was really torn with the list too.

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Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I know it was it definitely, I guess. You know, it's hard because when so I wasn't there, you know, during you know, hometowns or you know, the final three all that. It's it's easier when you're there and you have like the inside look throughout, you know, like you can see, you know, the relationship developing, you can see connections. But then you know, since I wasn't there, then of course, yeah, like you know, it's a surprise because the way where I left off, I'm you know, I left off like, okay, these are the relationships that are established. I'm sure it's going to go this way. But I wasn't there to see how things unfolded after Hometown, because so much, you know, changes after you know, just one little thing.

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Speaker 1: So wait, who who? Who were you really good friends with on the show and are you still good friends with them? You know? Tell us, like, I want to hear about the relationships other than in touch with everybody?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, with everybody. I I'm really good. I feel like with all the girls, you know, we try. We've been hanging out as much as possible.

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Speaker 1: We were.

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Speaker 3: Me, Sarafina, Ali, Joe, Kelsy, we were in Miami and then that was before a fr Then we all everyone met up in La Sarah, Fina, Me, Dina and Latia. We're just in Chicago as well, after a far. I think we're all too like in that travel time, you know what.

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Speaker 2: I Yeah, girls trips and just yeah, it's fun.

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Speaker 1: It's fun. It's so fun. Yeah, it's fun to see everybody and and and you know, just catch up and it's do you feel like the relationships are different off the show with the girls.

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Speaker 3: All so much closer now for sure, and a lot of us too. It's you know, when you're always miked up and the cameras are there. I feel like there's always some you know, has everyone's a little bit hesitant to speak up about things. It's just now it's like we're you know nothing, No.

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Speaker 2: You speak freely.

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Speaker 1: All right.

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Speaker 2: So now we're going to get into our advice portion of our episode, and we want you to be a part of this. So people write in question, some give their name, some are anonymous, and we'd like your two cents on it, if you will your advice. Okay, alrighty, We're going to start it off with the question of the day.

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Speaker 1: All right, here we go. All right, what advice do you have for anyone struggling with self love and confidence? What says you? You have some good advice, Pertce.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure, yeah, self love and confidence. My advice is do not seek that reassurance elsewhere. It comes from within.

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Speaker 1: And that's very good, exactly the truth.

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Speaker 3: And my one tip because this was one thing that I did after a really tough breakup. I was living by the phrase romanticize your life. So if you know I'm a single woman, I love alone. I'm going to make myself dinner tonight. I'm going to make the best spread, the best presentation. I don't need someone to be sitting with me eating to you know, make that beautiful.

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Speaker 1: I love that. I love that. And the thing PRI say is I say this all the time, people say, you know, I want to find the perfect man who will love me. I believe that you have to love yourself before you can even think about loving someone else and.

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Speaker 2: Be comfortable in your own skin.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 2: You can't pretend to be somebody else. And that was one of my issues. When I met somebody and got started in a relationship, I would jump into their world and like everything that they liked, and six months down the road, you're like, what about me? What about what I want to do? You forget your own things, you know, because you're excited and it's new. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: What do you think about confidence prices? Do you think confidence? Do you think a woman who exudes confidence confidence is attractive to a guy or how do you feel about that?

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Speaker 3: I think that's attracted to a secure guy, and there's not many of them. Yeah, and I think that's a great way to weave them out too. I mean, if you see a guy who's an issue with how confident and independent you are, then that's just someone that you don't you know?

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Speaker 1: I think it's true.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it is all right. Now it's time to get into our listeners writing questions for today and Farisa. Are you ready to dish out some advice?

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Speaker 3: Oh? I'm ready?

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Speaker 2: Okay, this is from anonymous ladies. I found out one of my best friends is the owner of a social media account that's been sending me hate comments for years? What do I do? Here's the story. The other night, my friend group and I were out getting drinks. My phone died, so I asked my best friend Ali if I could use her phone to show everyone at TikTok. So she handed me her phone and went to grab us another round while I looked for the video. Well, so you forgot to switch back to her real profile and yeah, I checked the page's activity to confirm and it really was her. She came back before I could find a video, so I just changed the subject. What do I do now? I don't want to be her friend anymore, obviously, but I really don't want to lose my group over this. How do I navigate this?

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Speaker 1: Thanks?

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Speaker 2: Ladies, Wow, it's better than me that she slept on it. I'd be there.

00:23:27
Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: No, it's always smart to sleep.

00:23:29
Speaker 1: Always smart to think before yes.

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Speaker 3: So my advice I always ask first when someone's asking, you know, advice, I always ask what end result are you looking for? And from there, yeah, you will know how to navigate to get there. So she doesn't want to be her friend anymore, which I'm glad to hear that because that is not a friend. But it is hard because you share the same friend group. So you know, I feel like with that, it's asking yourself questions are you okay? You know, with acknowledging you know this is the situation, bringing it to her attention and just saying like I just this is not what I want in my life.

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Speaker 2: And so I you know, I would you ask her why? Why would you do that to me? You've been sending me hate mail from a fake account?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well wait a minute, wait a minute, wait, but Paris said all that truth is but pric well, you wouldn't address it right then and there, would you? Because I wouldn't.

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Speaker 3: No, because also to the setting, if you want to recognize to the setting, it's like, okay, this is time and place. I don't think we would you know, would be productive for us to like, you know, handle this and I don't think I would get any of the answers that I'd be looking for in this situation right now too. But again it's just asking yourself. You know, what's that result you're looking for? If you really don't want to, you know, break up this friend group, lose these friends, then you would have to ask yourself, are you able to tolerate then her being present? And you know, just you guys are still a friend group. But you have to tell yourself, Okay, this is just someone who I'm.

00:25:05
Speaker 1: The perfect keep them on the periphery. I always say, don't ask someone that. I always say, don't ask a question that you either know the answer to or you don't want the answer to.

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Speaker 2: So nobody else feels like I do right now, like I'm in I put myself in that moment. Yes, she goes off to get drinks. I'm reading it. All your friends are standing around. I'm in shock.

00:25:26
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you're not going to bring it up, Susan right then and there, I hope you will.

00:25:29
Speaker 2: She comes back, I'm going to hold it there and say, do you want to explain this in front of her friends? Oh?

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Speaker 3: Yes, I would, I know you I would, I know you know I will admit that would that would steel good, It would really.

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Speaker 1: But what it gets you the ultimately the result you want. That's always you know, what's the end game? Like you said, so what's it? But you know what this whole conversation brings me when earlier in the in the podcast, we were talking to you about people say they're surprised about when they meet you in comparison to what you put out on social media. What do those people say, because I'd be curious, like this is the kind of thing when people have hidden accounts and such. So tell me what people say that it's surprising about you that I'm.

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Speaker 3: You know, because I'm always posting the glitz and the glamd because you know, don't get me wrong, I love you know, getting dulled up.

00:26:27
Speaker 2: When you're like yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:26:31
Speaker 3: I love that When they see that, that's I think that's all that they view me as is.

00:26:37
Speaker 1: Like, you know, another pretty face, a pretty girl up.

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Speaker 3: Make up, you know, materialistic, superficial. You know, those words are always like thrown in, but I mean, I am, yeah, I think that's only just like the tip of the iceberg of you know, what I want to be shown.

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Speaker 1: Don't you think people who are who are thoughtful, who you know, understand social media would say that's just one aspect of her. I mean, I want to give people credit and say they would see that you're a beautiful, charming person, but you also so many other sides. Maybe I'm wrong, but yeah, so you're saying people will say that you're just this glamour girl. That's how they describe you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think the majority of the feedback i'd get, you know, it's that which is it's fine because I know too, Like you know, the people that are close to me in my circle, it's they know who I am, I know you.

00:27:29
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's I always say that. It's it's I don't care what the bots on social media say. I don't care really what anyone says about me. The people who know me are the ones I care about.

00:27:39
Speaker 3: People in your life. I mean, like this is like another world. That's right, it it's like that world's gone.

00:27:45
Speaker 1: I'll tell you. When we were on The Golden Bachelor, I miss my phone at all. I never missed it. The only thing I missed was I knew when I got off the show, I had to deal with the thousands of emails that had come in that I had to delete once I got off the show, but I did not miss it because I was in the moment. People got to see the real me, so I loved that. I loved it. Well, Anonymous, you let us know. Here's the long and short of it. I would not bring the other friends into it. Deal with it quietly by yourself. Get a resolution that you can live with and let us know.

00:28:21
Speaker 2: Let us and I wish you luck and I feel for you, honey, that's that's yeah.

00:28:24
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's terrible. It is horrible, but social media sometimes isn't.

00:28:29
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, regardless if you know, if it's a boyfriend that you know betrays your best friend, like the best if your world just.

00:28:37
Speaker 2: Less friends are even worse. I mean that's your best friend, Yeah, for her, and I'm sure it happens a lot.

00:28:45
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, let us know. Okay, So Parisa, you know we've gotten to know you a little better. We want to open the floor to you. Advice for us, questions, anything you want to know about us, or advice you up for us.

00:28:57
Speaker 3: Okay, I have a question sure in this has to do with dating, So like with your approach with dating, how much has it changed compared to you know, when you were, you know, in your twenties, compared to now, Like, how much had that dating world changed?

00:29:16
Speaker 2: Because then we met people outdoors at a social event, a bar, restaurant wherever. Now you have to be on not have to. But most of it comes from dating apps. I married people for a living, and nine times out of ten, the couple that is getting married met online. Yeah, I think the way of the world, I.

00:29:39
Speaker 1: Think there's a I think Susan's right, but I also think Presidrea is a push to meet people more organically. I can say for me, I got married very young. I was twenty when I got married by only ten days and I was married almost forty six years. So she didn't date, so I didn't date it. But I can tell you the way I date now has dramatically changed for me since I came off the show. I mean, I'm I've always been pretty clear about who I am, but I don't you know, people say, oh, give them a couple of days. Yeah I can. I'm pretty good at sussing out pretty quickly, and so I'm out and you know what I have learned. It's almost the opposite for me pretty soon because I didn't date much, so I had a very steep learning curve after my husband died. I'm learning how to date, and so I have learned very quickly. A red flag is a red flag. You never turn them green. You know. A yellow flag is something to pay attention to. It could go either way. I mean those sort of things that we talk about all the time. I've had to learn really quickly.

00:30:51
Speaker 2: And also we look for different things.

00:30:53
Speaker 1: Right, I said, we're not looking for daddy. You know we're not looking I'm looking for I'm looking for a guy who would have kind of fun with, to travel with, to have shared experiences with, to to be part of my family, be part of his. Like Susan, I say it ad nauseam, like this is the last chapter of our lives. I wanted to be the longest, the happiest and the best. Yeah and so yeah, But I do think it dating will change for you as you get older. I it's your dating for you different now than when you were twenty. I'm guessing it is that she knows.

00:31:29
Speaker 2: She's looking for something different like her.

00:31:31
Speaker 1: Well, I know change, but do you still care about uh, you know, the fun, the humor? Would you move for example, would you move.

00:31:38
Speaker 3: Ok No, definitely. I think that was another thing too. You know, a few years ago, I was always telling myself, I'm looking for someone to grow old with. But then I'm like, you know, I think life, I mean, especially during you know, today's climate is so it's just so tough, and you know, there's so much negativity, and it's just I'm now I'm looking for someone I want to stay young with. I want to have fun with and be good. Yeah, like, we don't have to your DMS.

00:32:06
Speaker 2: Blowing up after the show where you're getting all kinds of messages from strange men and no, not.

00:32:14
Speaker 1: Okay.

00:32:15
Speaker 3: I'm thinking I'm like, oh, like, if this doesn't work out, like you know, it might meet someone you know through Instagram and.

00:32:20
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah. Well.

00:32:21
Speaker 1: Susan made a very good point on another podcast for our age. Men are not on social media. They don't know how to DM. They they're not on Instagram. They might be on Facebook and they know how to have the like button. But at your age, everybody's on social media, and that has its good side and it's bad size right, it's good at that At the same time.

00:32:41
Speaker 3: I feel like it's tough now too, because I think a lot of people rely on that and they hide behind their screen. So now we're in public, no one's coming up to me or anyone.

00:32:50
Speaker 1: I mean, I just well, wait, pray. So what do you do for fun? Because that's another way to organically meet people. How do you get out?

00:32:57
Speaker 3: I love traveling on the weekends as often as I can, going to new cities, you know, trying new restaurants. I'm a huge foodie, so I love trying new.

00:33:08
Speaker 1: Travel by friends that you go with. Yeah, that is some funny. I was going to say, do you travel by yourself? And Susan said, do you travel with a group of friends?

00:33:16
Speaker 3: Were also like having friends in other states is amazing because.

00:33:19
Speaker 2: Then you just try to visit. Yeah, it's great.

00:33:22
Speaker 1: Do you ask your friends to fix you like friends? If you have friends in Georgia, do you ask them to fix you up with guys?

00:33:29
Speaker 3: Yeah, like I'll ask if they know when you want to. And then I just that hasn't worked out either, and then everyone everyone's getting engaged now, and so it's.

00:33:38
Speaker 2: Like that must put a little something in you too. You're like, why not me?

00:33:43
Speaker 1: My daughter said that That's exactly what my daughter said when she was thirty, what's wrong and my daughters as pretty as you are present. She was like, what's wrong with me? You know? And I said, there's nothing.

00:33:52
Speaker 2: Wrong with you. Expect that you met them.

00:33:55
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, well yeah, she met a guy. They were out on a boat on the lake in Austin with a bunch of friends and he was he was, it was his boat and so she chatted with him, and she at first she thought it was sort of pompous. Anyway, they fell in love and they're married and they have a baby. So, but she didn't meet himuntil she was thirty one.

00:34:14
Speaker 2: I think, okay, you have plenty of time.

00:34:18
Speaker 1: Don't rush it.

00:34:19
Speaker 3: And then you rush especially too. It's just like you those things you really you don't want to rush that. That's forever.

00:34:25
Speaker 2: Would you relocate you if you fell in love with somebody that of course?

00:34:29
Speaker 3: My family everyone's all spread out all over.

00:34:31
Speaker 1: Yeah, Where's where's your dream place? What's next for traveling?

00:34:35
Speaker 3: For travel? So I chew Montana on Utah.

00:34:41
Speaker 1: I want to open to both the gorgeous.

00:34:43
Speaker 2: Yeah.

00:34:43
Speaker 3: I want to do a hiking trip, horseback riding, just anything with the outdoors nature.

00:34:48
Speaker 1: Are you scarce?

00:34:50
Speaker 2: Yes?

00:34:50
Speaker 3: I love Yeah, I love.

00:34:52
Speaker 1: Utah's got some great scheme, yes, and so does Montana.

00:34:55
Speaker 2: Actually, well, well you know what, I think you're absolutely stunning. You are will fun. I'm the right person you will.

00:35:02
Speaker 3: Both you ladies as well. I thank you so much, and I hope.

00:35:06
Speaker 2: You go to Paradise.

00:35:08
Speaker 1: Yeah, I hope to paradise.

00:35:12
Speaker 3: Wow. And that would be changing opportunity, you.

00:35:15
Speaker 1: Know, life change, that's right, and you know what, it's an opportunity and you never know what comes from up.

00:35:20
Speaker 2: Don't miss it. You don't want to miss it, all right, guys, believe it or not. That does it for this episode of Bachelor Happy. Thank you so much person for coming and just have good advice and just sharing your life with us. We wish you all.

00:35:38
Speaker 1: We loved having you, We loved getting to chat with you. Parisa. Really you are lovely and intelligent and you are the full package. So thanks for sharing part of your day with us.

00:35:50
Speaker 2: And then thank you for wanting to be a daddy. You know, have a family with a beautiful wife and a child.

00:35:55
Speaker 1: You know where we're celebrating here, Parsa. We're doing it for you a dm or but listen, thank you all for joining us, and please be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour. We have new episodes coming out every week that you don't want to miss.

00:36:09
Speaker 2: And make sure you submit those questions. You can go to bachelornation dot com, slash Golden Hour, or just dm us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour.

00:36:19
Speaker 1: It's a perfect way to do it. And don't forget to DM Parsa because she's a catch. Okay, listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to podcasts. Till next time, have a great week, Joe