Christmas Traditions For Your Children + Mom vs Wifey Battle For House Supremacy | For The Dads

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Speaker 3: Sickos, Empty Sichos. We are about to get into Santa claud Stock. We're going to talk a little Santa claud Stock. In case there's any little ones in the room next to us that could maybe hear us. We're about to talk Santa.

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Speaker 1: Pop A Team six Welcome to another episode of four the Dads. I hope your trash is taken out. I hope you're sitting around the fire in the evening. I hope you guys are making Christmas cookies with the fam. This is a show for the Dads, by the Dads. My name is will Compton. I got Fat Stafford over here. Sherman Young Hello, Hello, is a father of five month old Scarlett. I am a father of a three year old Rue and a one year old Scottie. We call her scott Zilla. This is a pod for dads, new dads. Maybe you're part of Seemen Team six with Chef Jack where you're young, you're just slinging the lead for fun. We like to call our army as fathers Papa Team six. If you want to et yourself into the fatherhood of Papa Team six, you can go to bwtv dot com. You can buy merch. I'm rocking it all right now, I have some Christmas busting merch. We have Christmas merch for the dads. Have this beanie on top of my head. Sirm's got some stuff that he's rocking. We got for the dad's ads. We got everything for the dads. If you are for the dads, you are in the right spot.

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Speaker 2: I think you like it.

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Speaker 1: The boys, they talk shop, they talk a little noise, They talk about being a father, being a husband. They laugh a lot, they talk about how bad it sucks, how awesome it is, all at the same time.

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Speaker 2: Oh you laugh, we cry, we smile.

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Speaker 3: I'm getting tagged on Twitter. I got guys in my mentions. They're saying, oh, sherman. My wife leaned over to me and said, Hey, when's Santa gonna build that pink jeep?

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Speaker 1: I saw somebody hit us up on Social they were they were out in the garage trying to put that thing together.

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Speaker 2: Face.

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Speaker 3: I said, hey, tell her, Hey, Santa's got a heisman ceremony to watch.

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Speaker 2: He's a big CFP Sickoh hi, I feel that too.

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Speaker 1: One couple of Christmases ago, when Rue was like when Ru was one, my dad got her this Chevy Silforado that she could ride, that she could drive around.

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, hey, Dad, she's one. She can't she can't be in this thing yet. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So I just sat in the garage for like an entire year, and I'm like, well, all right, I'll just pull this thing out of the box and we'll get it.

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Speaker 2: Go and open the box and all the parts are laying there in the box. A bit. I gotta put this thing together.

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Speaker 1: One sells niece or put the tires on wrong A couple of times.

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Speaker 2: That is taking apart.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, whether you're a veteran father in the game, whether you're a new dad where you're an aspiring dad. We look, it's just if we're a couple of dads with chef Jack back there and Derek the funkle of the whole group, we just it's basically like pulling up a chair in the garage, ripping a couple of lollipops, maybe a couple of butt lights, yeah, and just talking noise about our week, the week that we had, and speaking of new dads, I have a couple shoutouts, So there's a few ways to engage with us. We love the community that we build out there on for the dads. Shout out whether you're tuning in right now on YouTube could make sure that you are subscribed to a YouTube channel for the dads. Uh, shout out everybody out there listening on audio. You might be listening on the way to work right now if you're on Apple, Spotify, Google.

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Speaker 2: I have some comments right here.

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Speaker 1: One from Jjsmith on Spotify thirty degrees changing attire good nine degrees in Michigan and under my car replacing my muffler after shoveling and sulting.

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Speaker 5: Good.

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Speaker 1: I get to be a physically, mentally and emotionally capable enough mail to be able to do this and whatever else needs to be done.

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Speaker 2: Good Good.

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Speaker 3: I got for also New Dads a porch on Spotify. We're seeing those Spotify comments. My wife is one of the cryptic one, fellas, But the most important lesson I've learned with her is if she doesn't want to get up and get our boy overnight or in the morning, she'll tap me on the shoulder and ask, hey, do you want to get them?

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Speaker 2: Or me?

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Speaker 3: And fellas, let me tell you about the cold shoulder I got the one and only time I asked her to get him. I learned quick that if she's fine getting them, she's just gonna get up. But if she taps me and asks, buddy, it's dad's turn, No questions asked.

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Speaker 2: I'm being called up. Calling in the left.

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Speaker 1: I love that because that's a pocket there where you have some choices to make. Because sometimes Charle hit me with do you want to go up and get them?

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Speaker 2: And if she tosses me the.

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Speaker 1: Question, I know it's like she's wanting me to go, oh yeah, because if she was fine doing it, she'd already go up there, oh yeah. But every now and then she'll be like, do you do you want to go up and get them? And I'll just be like, I think he'd be a great fit for this moment.

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Speaker 2: You know what.

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Speaker 1: They love the way you do it, I wouldn't deprive the kids of that. Or are you asking me? Or if you're asking me, I'd rather not. I think I'm feel like this's this game. Yeah, if you're letting it be up to me, i'd rather not. I will if you want me to, I'd rather not. I think you're I think you'd be great for this moment right now.

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Speaker 2: And thank you for communicating with me and like asking me beforehand.

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Speaker 1: And by the way, for a shout out here to Charlo Gabriella Sestra on Spotify, laugh my ass off, empty six er here, that's milting six that's our female audience.

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Speaker 2: I am charo. Mommy can't play yet. I have to do X, Y and Z. A subtle hint to my husband to get his ass up, shout out.

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Speaker 3: I saw a lot of those from that video. There are a lot of empty sixers resonating. Mason Cole on Spotify says PT six member with an almost two year old baby girl, Kennedy Boys, I'm on the trenches taking heavy fire. Wife is in her first trimester with our second and feeling like absolute shit. Twenty four to seven, no morning sickness. We're talking all day sickness.

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Speaker 2: Every day.

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Speaker 3: Afterwards, she gets home and basically goes to bed, and I know it's time to put on the ipaint and go to war. Nobody is coming to save me, getting dinner ready, clean up, playtime, bath, in bedtime. But I get to do this. I don't have to GBR wolf emoji GBR Wolf Mason cale Man, I a dog.

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Speaker 1: There's so many times now, Derek, to where I gotta just say in my head, like I get to do this all because Buddy. Over the weekend, I was a little I don't know if you can hear the hear the nasal in my voice, but I was.

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Speaker 2: A little under the weather. Same little under the weather.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I had the kids a couple of times solocust God bless my wife.

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Speaker 2: She went and did some volunteer work at the food shelter. That's awesome for some repackaging, some organizing, some sorting, oh the can sorting stuff. I believe so. I love doing that, I believe so.

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Speaker 1: So she was going for a nice chunk of time on Saturday and I got the two minions, bro and look, Scottie, she's one and she's all over the place. Like I was saying, it, alluding to it last week on the podcast. She's climbing the Christmas tree, She's tearing down ornaments, she's getting in every cabinet. She's got to put everything that is organized, it's got to be on the floor.

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Speaker 2: And God bless her and Rue. She's in this phase as a three year old.

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Speaker 1: And the dad's out there with the toddlers right now. They probably feel my pain, the parents out there with the toddlers.

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Speaker 2: But Rue's just in this phase where everything is look at me.

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Speaker 1: Watch me, dad, look at me, watch this, watch this. I'll beg you and then what did you do? She'll hit a few reps.

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Speaker 2: I'll go over there. I'm like, oh my gosh, that's incredible, sweetheart.

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Speaker 1: And then it's I got go over and try to like just nestle up on the couch or something like, hey, do you want to color? You want to do this? I got her coloring. We went to State Golden on Saturday morning. Oh yeah yeah, and she was busy coloring Christmas trees and ornaments on these worksheets.

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Speaker 2: So I made a heady play. This is a dad hack right here too.

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Speaker 1: If your kids, you're at a restaurant, you go somewhere and they got some stuff for kids where they can color. They can use crowns, make a heady play. If you see them very involved and focused in coloring on this worksheet, go ask them for extra worksheets so you can bring them home.

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Speaker 2: She was fired up to color these Christmas tree ornaments. Yeah, and so I brought like four home.

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, all right, when mom's out, if Ruth's I'm not gonna have her to her. If she already used up her TV coupon, She's gonna have to do things that keep her busy. Yeah, trying to I'm trying to manipulate this to where when Scotty is down for her nap in the middle of the afternoon in that one, two, three, three thirty range, that could be some some father quiet.

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Speaker 2: Time since Mom's gone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So I got the worksheets out and this whole look at me, watch this face that I'm about to get to.

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Speaker 2: I give her the worksheets. She is elated.

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Speaker 1: We got a full box of crowns, and I get her set up because I'm trying to go and watch this documentary that I've been consuming, The Diddy documentary. By the way, way that documentary is being wild binged it wild Wild Dog, and she's going, dude, every thirty seconds, she color an ornament or a flower or a part of the tree. She color one little thing, and I'd have to get up and come look, come look at the ornament. I'm like, oh my gosh, you use blue.

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Speaker 2: And then I go and was like, sit like, sweetheart, folks you know, focus in. I'll come check. Get the whole tree going there, tell me when it come over.

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Speaker 1: Let the heart come here, come here, check this out.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, he's yellow.

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Speaker 1: And I, sweetheart, like, just just color the whole tree and then let me know when you're done, and then I'll come.

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Speaker 2: I'll come check it out.

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Speaker 1: I'm sitting there watching the documentary and she's locked in and she's like dad, Dad. I'm like yes, sweetheart. She's like, will you come sit with me? Yeah, sweetheart, I'll come sit with you. Pause the documentary, go over there and sit with her. I gotta watch her basically the entire time. What color do you think here? Can't use red, can't use blue, can't use orange. Can't you just green?

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Speaker 2: Purple, pink?

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, sweetheart, you gotta be able to mix you gotta be able to repeat some colors. Yeah, yeah, talk her into it. But this phase, man, is I mean it'll beat you down. Yeah, it'll be sure. I'm talking, Hey.

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Speaker 2: Dad, dadd come here, watch me. Watch me and I walk over that what is it sweet? And She'll be like just that, and I'm like, I'll stare at her and I'll say, is that it?

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Speaker 1: It's like yeah, watch and I'm like, oh my god, that's incredible.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna have to practice in the mirror, like twenty different reactions to her stuff.

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Speaker 2: You gotta you gotta expand your bag.

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Speaker 1: Thanks, sweetheart, you gotta what are we looking at?

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Speaker 3: Tell him that's all what you said about the Christmas cookie that she made. When you texted into the group about the Christmas I put.

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Speaker 2: That one out on Twitter, that one out on Twitter, he said the group.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I'll be telling the boys like, hey, man, I'm telling you, I think ru is gonna be She's gonna be smart, bro, Like she is ahead of the game. And I'm like looking at her making this little Christmas cookie and just it's all different colors. It's it's just plumped of plumps, uh, what we try call like mounds of icing in different spots. It's uneven, it's very below average. And I'm looking at this cookie and I'm like, sweetheart. I look over my wife.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, we think she's gonna be smart and she makes a cookie like this.

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Speaker 3: It's that into the group message with the pumpg like Coop and Jared, and both Coop and Jared go, what's wrong with the cookie? And I'm reading this way later after y'all had this conversation Will, it's like she's using all different types of colors. Look, there's three different types of glitter on it. I told her she was grounded.

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Speaker 2: Grounded. He was obvious.

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Speaker 4: Up until now. I thought he was really really proud of it, and I didn't. I was just like, it's no like cookie.

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Speaker 2: Will.

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Speaker 1: Obviously, when we're sitting there doing our Christmas cookies, I'm fired up. But I'm like laughing to myself because I look at her cause she's like, check this one out. I'm just like, Dade, I look, well, we're looking at the sweetheart.

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Speaker 2: That shit is trash. Oh my gosh, I'm.

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Speaker 1: Trying to find true goons there. It is our group chats called true goons. I dropped the picture in and you can put the tweet up two chef, but I dropped the photo of the cookie in there. You like me, man, I'm telling you rue smart as hell for three year old ruse Christmas cookie. Jared laughs and then he goes, I don't even know what's wrong with it. I said that icing game is trash. I said, three colors, three different types of sprinkles, clumpy, and then I just then I randomly put after that she's grounded, and then Jared goes, which, by the way, I looked at Charro and I said that before Jared even sent this message. It's like, sweetheart, what were we doing with yellow icing? Like those are that's not a Christmas color? Like you could have just left the icing white, because you know, you built the food coloring in it to change it up, like we could.

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Speaker 2: Have just done red, green and white.

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Speaker 1: Because I'm sitting here trying to build sand as I'm trying to build all these different things. Now just got yellow sitting there, and Beaman goes, honestly true, also yellow, it's Christmas. I said, yeah, my wife got a verbal lashing for that as well.

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Speaker 2: I was reading those laughing so hard, dude people right out there. What are they talking about right now?

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Speaker 1: Look, it's Sunday night, Sunday night. What time we at It's about nine pm? Oh yeah, after the kids went down talking about I get to Yeah, that's what we were talking about.

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Speaker 3: On Saturday night. My bless my mom's heart. I love my mother, Miss Amy. She listens to every episode of Miss Amy, I Love You. She came in town to uh hang out with me and Jill, help take care of scarlet. Let Jill and I have a little more relaxing time. My mom is very talented artistically. She has her own art company, and she had a gallery for years and at Amy Young Art. And that's uh at Amy Young Art with one why. I always told her that makes it a little complicated, all because it's at Amy Young Art. But there's just one why. So I still want to give her a shout out.

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Speaker 2: Shout out, no shoutout, shout out, no free shout out Miss Amy. I am Young Art.

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Speaker 3: But she's extremely creative. She did a lot of interior design work back in her day. It's about seven pm on a Saturday, and she's like Sherman. Now, I don't want to upset Jill, but I'm looking at y'all's living room and dining room setup, and I really think that, Oh no, we could really rearrange everything. No, I go, oh, she goes, I'm thinking the couches move here, the dining room table moves here. Granted, I'm feeling like shit on Saturday, and I've not communicated this at all to my mom.

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Speaker 2: Or my wife.

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Speaker 3: So now I know it's too late for me to cop out and say, hey, I feel like shit.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know if this is a good.

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Speaker 1: Time cop out? What cop out on? What cop out on? Helping with the redesign?

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Speaker 2: No? No? Oh wow? Oh wait. I wanted to, like, you know, or I be my mother, But if my mom would be over at our.

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Speaker 1: House and pull me aside, me like, hey, I you know, I think we could do a lot of redesign in the living room. God, I just put my hand on her shoulder and be like, hey, Mom, I love you. If you feel confident enough to tell my wife that's what I did, that we need to redesign this house. I'm letting you know right now you're on your own. And when that grenade happens, cause it's gonna be explosive. Yeah, I'm gonna be on my wife's side. But if you want to step into the jungle, yeah, be my guest.

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Speaker 3: So I tell I tell my mom, I say, you know, you're really you're kind of pitching, uh the intern right now, you got you gotta talk to the lady upstairs. I got no say in this situation. But you know, if you sell Jill on it, then uh yeah, you know we could look into it. Thinking around seven pm on a Saturday that you know. And Jill was all but so excited for the redesigned ideas. Loved miss Amy's ideas, and she loved them for real, loved them for real, and we got to cracking, we got to crack.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, bro, when you brought that up, I was like, oh my god, how is this gonna go down?

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Speaker 2: Missed?

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Speaker 4: We missed like an entire portion of the argument because when you were like and then I was going to miss out on the redesign.

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Speaker 2: I thought there was a whole story about them.

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Speaker 4: At Conflin, I wrote down four title names for the episode about the conflict.

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Speaker 2: Oh there was zero, you tell me there was zero conflict. Zero conflict.

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Speaker 1: Mother in law comes into the house. Hey, I think I don't really like the look at this place. I think we should redesign some stuff. She I approached wifey and wifey Jill, Queen Jill. She was just all on board. It's smooth sailing.

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Speaker 3: Hey, I will say this, as far as the redesigned stuff, she was exactly right, Like she really was exactly right on all And it was more so.

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Speaker 2: So you're calling your wife stupid, not at all.

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Speaker 1: No, no joking, no, no, no, no, I'm just kid.

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Speaker 2: I had flashbacks on my cage waiting for me.

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Speaker 6: What on the f?

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Speaker 2: You know what? My mom was exactly right. That place was a dump. My house looks like.

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Speaker 3: I do have to before and after photos that I'll send to you, chef. But it opened up a ton of space. But dude, I lifted up two chairs, re hung some paintings, and I I was just sitting there on a Saturday, just thinking, late into the.

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Speaker 2: Evening, Oh my gosh, I get to do this. I get to do it.

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Speaker 1: What happened with this sounded like there was some conflict when you were feeling under the weather, and you should have told him.

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Speaker 2: You didn't say anything.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I just had to nut up or shut up, and then I got really lightheaded. And like super pale and like honestly was starting to feel a little dizzy, and I was like, honey, I have to sit down. She was great about it, she was like, hey, let's sit down. It was a huge bummer note or though, because we were going to have a date night that night, and so we're going to move all this furniture around like right before our kind of late night date night.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, I was just feeling like crap. So we miss out on that. That was kind of a dad loss. But I'm feeling a little bit better good getting on the other side of it as well.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but hey, is he good? Good?

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Speaker 1: You know what happened at at our house is you talk about a Willie one Shell story. Your boy got active over the weekend and you know, I'm talking heavy lifting.

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Speaker 2: What were you doing something with?

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Speaker 1: The heat went out, not out, but the upstairs got like north like around eighty plus degrees, so it's really hot upstairs, not downstairs. And we shut the system off, but it was still blowing hot air. So I'm thinking, what the what's going on? Yeah, and so I hit up my boy shot out Robbie, and he's given me all these little instructures go up in the attic.

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Speaker 2: You know, check this, send me the serial number of that. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: He's an h fat guy. Yeah, yeah, he's like, check the breakers. I go to the main breaker circuit and I don't see heat or a C or anything on it. I see like living room, bonus room, bathroom, I see. I shoot him a picture and I'm like, buddy, I don't see I don't see the heat or the AC on this thing. And he's like, you might have to go outside by the unit rune. Are you stay inside, I'm gonna throw the shoes on.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna go outside. What was it behind some bushes too? It was next to a bush. Yeah. I go back there and the AC units running. It's like, man, I'm just kind of do one of them, kind of do one of them.

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Speaker 1: Lean back, and I'm looking at your hat a little bit. Yeah, I think that's the breaker circuit right there. It's open up, wiggle the breaker circuit. Realized there's just a little latch on the side. Open that up.

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Speaker 2: I see.

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Speaker 1: All it says is a C breaker. So so I just I send him a photo. I'm like, so, just flip these off, and he's like, yeah, flip them off. Step back AC. The unit shuts down, and I'm like, all right, I think I gotta went inside. Looked at my wife. I was like, I think we just wait. Now go upstairs. Let's let's turn all the systems off, all systems off, breakers off. It says you can go quick, you can do a quick recep Five to ten minutes. We're gonna wait thirty yeah, because we're gonna make sure this thing, the systems are you know, systems are gonna be a go when we get this thing sparked back up, go upstairs. Hot air is still blowing out after you hit the break, after I hit the breakers, bro. But the people who are true h backers out there, the true Sikos that understand this game, they're probably like, oh, Willie, it was probably just the AC and not the heat one.

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Speaker 2: There's a heat one as well. You have two units, one for heat, one for AC.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I believe. So you can call up Robbie, hey, bro, when heats still coming. Heat, all systems are off, I flip the breakers off. Heat still coming even be hotter? Yeah, will you gotta go. You gotta go up to the attic. There's gonna be a gray box. Sitting there by the unit. Yeah, you'll find it. Open it up. If it says heat, there's your heat one. Get the ladder down from the attic, you know. And I'm feeling like people talking about Willy's once. Ye will is handling business, right, you hit.

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Speaker 2: The peter Pan pees again before you go, sweetart, I'm gonna have to go up in the attic the dramatic click of the ship.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go north of the wall. Where's the tape measure? If I'm not back, you know what. Start feeling around my pockets before I go up there. Let me get a hammer and a tape measure. Flip off the breaker. You don't know what you're gonna need.

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Speaker 3: Just go up there with's like a little thing of dirt and dust and just put it all over yourself.

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Speaker 2: After the breaker, I sit down the ladder.

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Speaker 1: I'm climbing up on the ladder, you know, kind of a kind of a fragile ladder, and I'm like, holding on, sweetheart.

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Speaker 2: You got the kids down there, all you guys. You guys stay downstairs. Don't come up here. This is big boy stuff. Oh whoa, whoa, don't don't come up here. Don't come here.

00:24:53
Speaker 1: I'm looking at the I'm looking at the unit up in the attic, and it's it's it's a big boy. It's got the big silver tubes going out everywhere. And I'm kind of like looking around. Send him a photo of the serial number. We're checking to see if we're cyllinder warranty, because he's like, it might be the masterboard. It's not communicating correctly with the system. Yeah, but you gotta shut it down. Will you got to shut it down?

00:25:12
Speaker 2: Up there?

00:25:13
Speaker 1: I see the great box over there. I kind of prop it open. I see it's just a simple switch. Heat says Heat big written. I'm like, all right, here we go. This is the heat. Like you know, I don't want my wife to know. This ain't some big boy stuff. I'm just I just randomly yo, dad.

00:25:27
Speaker 2: Damn it. It's all good up here, sweetheart. It's all good up here.

00:25:32
Speaker 1: Compton, looky, Yeah, flip it off, system shut down.

00:25:37
Speaker 2: Text Robbie. Hey, I shut it down. He said, all right, now, you just wait. So we waited.

00:25:42
Speaker 1: I'm going around and I close. So we wait like thirty minutes. Kick it back on. But this is when my wife was out volunteering, so I kick it back on. I'm keeping her posted like, Hey, you know, I think I got the system's reset.

00:25:51
Speaker 2: I think we might be good to go. Yeah.

00:25:53
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it starts blowing out hot air again. So we might have like a like a like a masterboard issue. Yeah with the h vacuumit where it's like not it's not uh communicating with the system correctly.

00:26:06
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you can't.

00:26:08
Speaker 3: Hey, I don't want to go too deep into it for any mind, not interested, But I do have a legitimate question. Go ahead, uh, something that my parents did with the heat rising. And you have a lot of open air space in that house. Yeah, do you have floor vents in the upstairs as.

00:26:26
Speaker 1: If no floor vents in the upstairs all ceilings floor vents on the first level.

00:26:30
Speaker 2: Okay, and then ceiling vents on the ceiling events on the top level.

00:26:34
Speaker 3: If it's easy for you, you can close all the ceiling vents.

00:26:37
Speaker 2: Closed them, buddy.

00:26:39
Speaker 1: And that didn't even help. No, that ended up helping because again it was going out hot. So I'm like, you know you're about to have We had like a really cold Sunday, Yeah, but it was still like it was like thirty to fifty on Saturday. And so as we're about to do bedtime and everything else, we're opening the windows until they actually go to bed. But we got the windows open trying to like funnel through and then I'm I'm standing on beds like I got this metal pole and I'm closing the vents in the ceiling. Yeah, I was working. I was working. You crushed its man.

00:27:10
Speaker 2: Hey, that's actually a huge dad hack.

00:27:12
Speaker 3: By the way, we have a very small upstairs, but we closed all our vents during the winter months and just blast that heat downstairs and it filters all up.

00:27:21
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll tell you what.

00:27:23
Speaker 1: Didn't really close the vents in the bonus room where we were good, where we were Chef Jack and I. We were on pup G on Saturday, and I finally had kind of an open weekend. There wasn't really it was just Army Navy on Saturday, so there wasn't a lot of college football, and I felt like I had to stay on top of so it felt like a free night. And I just told my wife, like, once we got the kids down, I'm gonna go get some in with the boys. Man, I'm gonna go upstairs. I'm gonna play some video games. And so I was up there sweating. Oh yeah, because he got he eventually got pretty damn hot in there, and I'm sitting there sweating when we got our chicken dinner on pup G shout out.

00:27:54
Speaker 2: The boys shot out the gooblin.

00:27:55
Speaker 1: Squad shot out the good squad so bad though, for the goom berets out there?

00:27:59
Speaker 3: Can we get a little chef Jack get his thoughts on playing with the boys the other night?

00:28:05
Speaker 2: I was it was good, man.

00:28:07
Speaker 7: I didn't played video games with like a group of friends in a long long time.

00:28:11
Speaker 1: He got called up to the big leagues. Yeah, because you were out, you were you rocking with mom and wifey.

00:28:16
Speaker 7: It was fun. Will had kind of a boomer moment with his headset. Let's took about.

00:28:21
Speaker 2: You think I was? Because I did hear a little somethings on the.

00:28:28
Speaker 1: I have no Boomer moment, man, if said Turtle Beach top of the line, and it wasn't communicating with the discord.

00:28:37
Speaker 2: I couldn't hear the boys.

00:28:38
Speaker 1: If I can tell you all my my side of it is, I'm passing in and out of sleep.

00:28:45
Speaker 3: I'm sweating out some stuff. I'm not really checking my phone other than just kind of surviving through the night. So I wake up the next morning and it seemed like y'all's planned to play was like eight thirty ish, you like nine. And then I just see a string of texts which we could provide to you. Jack of will we can hear you, you can't hear us. Will check check this system. I do the thing where you like scrolled the text to the left and see the timestamps, And it was like an hour and a half affair.

00:29:17
Speaker 2: It seemed like the boys are sitting there hating on me, and I'm just like, hey, we were talking to go. I think it's a will issue and keeps like, yeah, it's definitely Will issue.

00:29:26
Speaker 1: Something about at that age, man age Coop, Coopy, I'm with you.

00:29:36
Speaker 2: I'm on, I ain't just on facetebook. That's incredible. And then Coop with the eight kill game, Yeah, was an a crazy went off. He crushed it. We got a chicken dinner. How did Jack play? The chef check played awesome? Okay, good.

00:29:51
Speaker 1: We got in there with a squad, a dude who was in the Marines when we had a fourth because Cooop got off the marine joined us and he was telling us about how it went down, Like he's like, I like to use the stuff that I used for real, and I'm like, I like to use the stuff that I think I would do for real.

00:30:07
Speaker 3: And you know, that's a really good point. That's a really good point because I think i'd use this him to mutant, you know, if I was. But I was in the ship for real.

00:30:21
Speaker 2: What was user name? But you gotta shout him? What was it? Recon?

00:30:26
Speaker 7: Yeah, recon something recon rob or something like this sting guy.

00:30:29
Speaker 2: But he was cool. Oh yeah.

00:30:31
Speaker 1: But I got on eventually like nine thirty because I you know, I was gone.

00:30:37
Speaker 2: Was it Wednesday early through? Yeah?

00:30:40
Speaker 1: Yeah, I got back like a Thursday afternoon and then Friday we had the double date night, so I met and then straight we streamed on Thursday night. So I missed bedtime on Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday. So my wife's hit me with like, you got double bedtime duty on Saturday and Sunday, just like lah ah loud. She hits me when I'm not around her, like I think I was over here or something, and she's text me, so you got double bedtime duty on Saturday and Sunday, And I'm just laugh out loud.

00:31:05
Speaker 2: Sure, I guess.

00:31:07
Speaker 1: But on Saturday, before I could goon with the fellas, I'm going up there with Scottie at like seven and then I come out when I get Scottie down and Charles down there.

00:31:18
Speaker 2: That's when they was doing.

00:31:19
Speaker 1: The Christmas cookies. We're doing Christmas cookies at like eight o'clock. Like, hey, it's bedtime, bro. But Rue was all fire to do Christmas cookies. I know, it's kind of like a tradition. I know, like in this episode we're gonna be talking about Christmas traditions. Oh yeah, holiday shopping. But we were in the tradition of making Christmas cookies. And then she hits me. He was like, oh, you should have made the dough. Well, I was gone, you should have made the dough. All was gone, Sweeter. I don't know how to make the dough or the whatever the what is it? Yeah, the dough, the cookie dough. It's correct, like the butter and eggs and the flow or whatever.

00:31:50
Speaker 2: I don't know. You got this mixer out.

00:31:53
Speaker 1: I don't know.

00:31:54
Speaker 2: Hey, listen, and I ain't gonna sit there while Ruthe bosses me around on how to make cookies. What the hell is it?

00:32:00
Speaker 3: Kitchen aid, babe, what do you mean it's it's in this cupboard. I've never seen this thing before. Yeah, that kitchen aid could take your hand off if you're not careful.

00:32:09
Speaker 2: Yeah, gotta be careful. That's so.

00:32:11
Speaker 1: Anyway, I'm putting Rue down at like eight thirty nine. I was probably like nine nine thirty when I left the room and ended up joining the boys.

00:32:19
Speaker 2: But there you go.

00:32:20
Speaker 1: Solid weekend, I had a night I finessed. It is Sunday night. I finessed Rue because Rue was like, Mama, you're gonna do better because Charles gone, uh, she was working this morning. So I had the kiddos making breakfast, just being just being an all star.

00:32:35
Speaker 2: Dad dude, Yeah, being a rock star usual.

00:32:37
Speaker 1: Or just crushing it with the kiddos, and the in laws came over for dinner and Charles like, it's bath night for the kids. I'm like, oh, She's like, what was the nose Like nose touched like not it or something like that.

00:32:53
Speaker 2: What's the the nose thing? Those goes? Yeah, yeah, those goes you. And I'm like, yeah, I figured it me. So you said you want me to do? You want me to do bad time for both of them, and you know, double bedtime. I'm logging this in my brain. I'm not saying it out loud. She's hearing me say it out.

00:33:07
Speaker 1: She's hearing me say it out loud, and should listened to this episode right now.

00:33:14
Speaker 2: So I'm in there scrubbing the kids. Don't get the bag clean, you.

00:33:17
Speaker 3: Know, seeing into them and playing with the Yeah, splash, splash, splash.

00:33:23
Speaker 1: The you don't drink it, yeah yeah, cover your eyes waterboard. All right, let's go get you ready for bed. But I finessed with because we're one of Mushy's my mom, it's your turn to do bedtime tonight, and she's like, will you do my bedtime? She's like, I guess. So that's a good point, rue, Yeah, you know what mama should do bedtime? What if we turned away? We need to flip the switch. We need to start sub tweeting a little bit.

00:33:50
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe we.

00:33:51
Speaker 1: I gotta find a way. Yeah, yeah, I gotta figure out a good way to do that. I gotta figure out a smart way to do that. Speaking of dad losses, I have a pretty severe one.

00:34:00
Speaker 2: Okay. Uh so tomorrow is Monday.

00:34:07
Speaker 3: Jill is actually going with my mom and Scarlet to the airport and they're gonna be flying to Texas.

00:34:15
Speaker 2: She's not gonna be flying back till Thursday.

00:34:18
Speaker 1: So I'm essentially gonna have to hold down the fort from Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday to like midday Thursday. So I guess that's three days without my two girls at home.

00:34:31
Speaker 2: So you're gonna have the house to yourself.

00:34:32
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's okay. I'm already I don't need to like talk about it. I've already processed it.

00:34:40
Speaker 1: So you're telling me, your selfish ass wife, who's gonna take the kiddo, Yeah, the five month old and fly out tomorrow on Monday, Yeah with my mom and be gone, Yeah for three days. Yeah, and you're gonna have the house to yourself.

00:34:58
Speaker 2: Yeah. I know that.

00:35:03
Speaker 1: Y'all were talking about like pubg earlier and stuff, and I was like a part of me was like, shit, that's probably something that I'm gonna have to do this week, because what else am I gonna do?

00:35:15
Speaker 2: Just sit at home, sat on.

00:35:16
Speaker 3: The couch and just kind of like watch, you know, previews of the upcoming college football playoff.

00:35:23
Speaker 1: Nothing pisses me off more than one of my mother wants to take the kids and leave that home alone for days at a time.

00:35:35
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not holding her against it, holding it against her. I know we're talking about like scoreboard stuff. I'm gonna do my best and I like keep score on this. But you know, I hope they have fun. I hope she gets to spend quality time with her friends. And I'm just gonna do my best to try and hold it, hold it down, hold it forth down.

00:35:56
Speaker 2: All by myself at the house.

00:35:58
Speaker 3: I'll probably have to order a peta, probably two medium pizzas from Dominoes.

00:36:03
Speaker 2: You know what you gotta do?

00:36:05
Speaker 1: What when she flies, when she takes off, you let it sit for a couple hours, and then you just shoot her a message. You feel good about taking my kid from me. I hope you're happy. I hope you're happy. Hurt it seventy degrees in Texas right now. I hope you're happy leaving me alone at home for a few days. Yeah, hurted seventy degrees.

00:36:27
Speaker 3: You'll be outside all day, and then I'll be inside because it's freezing here in Nashville.

00:36:32
Speaker 2: I'll be inside.

00:36:33
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to bundle up with some blankets, make a fire, and probably play some video games.

00:36:38
Speaker 2: Oh, this is where we need PT six more than ever.

00:36:41
Speaker 3: Eat some pizza and wings. Maybe we try and get a pet stick out on the sticks with us. Oh my heart goes out for you, bro, Thank.

00:36:51
Speaker 2: You, dude, thank you. What a selfish bitch man all day speaking himself the kids man, You're gonna be begging for him to come home.

00:37:02
Speaker 3: Speaking of selfish bitches, the employees that the daycare sold me out a little belated dad loss from last week with Jilly Bean.

00:37:13
Speaker 1: Was sick and dead, and I took Scarlett all by myself on that last second.

00:37:19
Speaker 2: You know, Oh, I gotta get her.

00:37:21
Speaker 3: Jill lays out an outfit every single day for Scarlet, with a big old.

00:37:25
Speaker 2: Bow, pretty outfit. I didn't have Jilly Bean.

00:37:29
Speaker 3: So the outdit that Dad has laid out was built for speed. It was built for getting to work by eight am. Yep, is a nice little onesie q onesie with some cowboy boots. Did I grab a bow? No, that's not aerodynamic. I grab socks. She doesn't need it. She's wearing a onesie. She doesn't need socks in her cute little gold glittering cowboy boots. And I drop her off at daycare and she had a great day and then they run into Jill like three or four days later and they go, I think Dad picked out the appit on Tuesday. A.

00:38:00
Speaker 2: That's such bullshit.

00:38:02
Speaker 1: When people start commenting on oh, it looks like Dad dressed him today.

00:38:12
Speaker 3: I thought they were on my side. I do all the pickups and drop offs. I'm the I'm the face that they're seeing every single day, and they sold me out like that.

00:38:21
Speaker 2: But what's wrong with the with the onesie and some cowboy boots? Like she looked cute as hell?

00:38:28
Speaker 1: Yeah, like Charle was getting on my ass today, like, oh, Scotty, let's get some clothes on you. It was about four in the afternoon she set out her She set it on her pjs.

00:38:34
Speaker 2: From the night before. Was there any poop or be on him any? Sweetheart?

00:38:38
Speaker 1: It's lazy Sunday. Yeah, And she looks like she's having fun.

00:38:41
Speaker 2: Does she? Is she covered in her own poop? Or oh she's not? Oh? Then she looks pretty good to me. It dude, don't even get me started.

00:38:50
Speaker 6: Bro.

00:38:51
Speaker 1: It's like, I'll put shorts and a T shirt on the room and like, my nannymback looks like Danny dressed through today.

00:38:57
Speaker 2: What does that mean, hey, what if you did, yeah, you know, you don't like shorts and a T shirt?

00:39:03
Speaker 3: What if dad fucked around and picked out an outfit? Yeah you know, Oh, God forbid, I'm a father. Don't let a white boy get hot now.

00:39:11
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, but in all serious, God forbid, Dad's got some motion.

00:39:16
Speaker 2: Shout out, shout out the crystal and uh, miss Angie, because y'all are angels and I love you. Hey, everything I'm saying right now, just.

00:39:26
Speaker 3: Yeah, I need your help. Please don't hate me. That was for a laughs, that was a joke.

00:39:30
Speaker 2: It's sweetheart. We don't think you're selfish. We don't think your selfish at all. With them, the picture is just hilarious.

00:39:34
Speaker 3: So I'll compile some pictures for the pod of outfits of Jill and that has picked out. And then they sent a picture like of Scarlet and her little onesie outfit.

00:39:46
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's brief. The contrast is funny.

00:39:48
Speaker 4: This is dumb, guy brain. Why does Scarlett have clothes she's not allowed to wear? That's a great Derek, you know what I mean, Derek, that's a great question. Dumb, dumb funkl guy brain. But why why would she have an outfit? And boots that you're not allowed to put her in.

00:40:02
Speaker 2: Derek, that's a great question. Hey, why would she have a whole closet? Why would she have.

00:40:08
Speaker 3: An entire closet with outfits that range all the way to like a two year old?

00:40:15
Speaker 2: Why would she have that in five months old?

00:40:17
Speaker 1: And then why do we also buy new outfits like every couple of weeks.

00:40:23
Speaker 2: You know, these are good questions. That's not a dumb question.

00:40:26
Speaker 1: You you asked that question, and my brain is saying, I don't even know if there's an answer. Yeah, Like I'm thinking, yeah, I'm with you.

00:40:36
Speaker 2: I don't.

00:40:37
Speaker 4: Shouldn't all of her outfits be fair game to be put on her body if they fit. I'm genuinely like, I'm not even trying to make a bit like I'm asking, dumb guy.

00:40:46
Speaker 3: Well, she's got to have, Derek, she's got to have her cute morning fit for maybe a picture on the on the chair that will provided us not cheap.

00:40:57
Speaker 1: Yes, and look, if you don't want us suddress the kids in certain clothes, don't have those clothes in the drawer. Yeah, ruse three, so she'll wear three t I thought three team meant three tall and meets three toddler, It sure doesn't.

00:41:13
Speaker 2: I learned that the hard way too.

00:41:15
Speaker 1: And so one day Roue comes out and I got earn some pants. And these pants, the bottoms of them are like midway upper calf. They're like, well, what are you doing? You got earn some two T pants? And so I'm like, okay, I didn't know that. Like they're if they're in the drawer, I'm going to see them as a viable option that I.

00:41:32
Speaker 2: Can put them in.

00:41:33
Speaker 3: God, brother, you were me just two weeks ago before we made the big change, because Scarlett was at the zero to three months, but now she's at the three to six months, but the zero to three months were still in the drawer. That I go off of orders from my five star general jillyban and so if I don't get orders that everything in the right side of the drawer is off limits.

00:41:57
Speaker 2: And now we have migrated to the left side of the chester. You gotta let me know.

00:42:01
Speaker 3: You gotta let me know, because I'm still going into the right drawer and yeah, I'm fighting Scarlet and I'm going, oh, this thing's a little.

00:42:07
Speaker 1: Dight, little snuff. I'm gonna get you some bigger, bigger, out she's growing. Yeah, yeah, there you go, scars Car. I don't know i'd listen.

00:42:16
Speaker 2: I hate warl on that. I agree wholehard.

00:42:19
Speaker 1: Like dads that are trying and doing their absolute best, you can't just it's like Ron Burgundy reading the teleprompter. Well, if it gets in the drawer, it's fair game for us to put on.

00:42:30
Speaker 3: Like do you remember we were doing to put in the lefty thing and I was like, I see the Bobby sitting there, and I'm like, hey, we never used Bobby formula, but I'm just.

00:42:39
Speaker 2: Going with me. Yeah. Yeah.

00:42:40
Speaker 3: Fast forward to two nights ago and Jill's like, hey, can you just make her a little two out, like extra little two ounces. I think she's still hungry. And we usually use the Baby Breza machine, which for any st sixers out there, funkals that is a baby formula dispenser. So it's just this the ultimate dad hack machine. We talked about it in the first couple episodes. You hit make it makes it. What Jill is now asking me is to make just two ounces, which I could have done on the Breza, but I was like, oh, that just means one scoop, put in a bottle heat up the bottle. I can do that pretty easily. And I go to open up the Bobby and Jill goes, oh no, no, no, honey, don't use the Bobby. We never used Bobby. I go, oh, yeah, that's right, that's right, remembering that I made pre made three bottles for daycare of Bobby first Scarlet.

00:43:34
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, my dumbass did not touch the I did that.

00:43:41
Speaker 2: Sorry, of course, we don't use Bobby. Holy shit.

00:43:43
Speaker 1: I just I've been centered with daycare with Bobby bottles.

00:43:49
Speaker 2: For the last week. She's going.

00:43:52
Speaker 3: Scarlet hasn't been drinking her bottles very well at the at the daycare, I've been.

00:44:03
Speaker 2: Using their own formula that just came out. That's breaking news. He're on for the duns.

00:44:10
Speaker 3: Yeah so yeah, Ron Burgundy, Fuck you, candiego. I have some other new Dad in the Trenches comments. We want to get some comments beginning.

00:44:23
Speaker 1: If you're falling along on YouTube, Spotify, do you see the clips on social media?

00:44:28
Speaker 2: Leave comments? We love to read them on the podcast. We sure do.

00:44:31
Speaker 3: I have Marsh rz F nineties on TikTok boys. We are currently in the four to five months trenches with our old our daughter Sonny that's my mom's grandmother name.

00:44:42
Speaker 2: Shout out Sonny.

00:44:43
Speaker 3: I'm talking no sleeping at night, spit up, screaming and crying, only wanting to be held. We lost our dog recently, and I feel as if she knows that she's gone. Dad's struggling through it. She can sense it only once your mom. Being a new dad is a wild ride. My identity changed five months ago, and then changed it again this week. This week, excuse me when I lost my best friend. He's talking about his dog. It's just been dad loss after dad loss after dad loss.

00:45:14
Speaker 2: When do the trenches in?

00:45:16
Speaker 3: I listened to your podcast all the time for words of advice and encouragement, but goddamn, this shit is difficult and I feel as if I'm failing. How do you guys cope with all the change?

00:45:27
Speaker 2: Marsh?

00:45:29
Speaker 3: RZF nineties, I have some advice for him?

00:45:32
Speaker 2: Do you have anything you want to say?

00:45:34
Speaker 1: This is why I would say, Marsh, the losses will keep piling up.

00:45:39
Speaker 2: You are not. The losses will never stop.

00:45:41
Speaker 3: They'll never stop. They'll keep piling up, And you are not failing. You're just working through it. Find those small victories. Hit those small victories. Start small you can't eat the elephant with one big bite. You gotta take little bites. Get those little bites in, get those little victory now. I do have a cheat code for surroy Gate best Friend, because I've lost some dogs in my day. Christmas is the best time for a puppy, dude. And I know you have a four to five month old, and so you're probably thinking, Sherman, what the hell kind of evil are you trying to put on me? You don't have to get a puppy, Get a nice little five or six year old, you know, sheltered dog that needs a nice home this Christmas and find a little Surrey get best friend. I think that's the number one way to go when you're really feeling it with the dog loss. And of course get approved with wifey, but get some shelter dog that's sweet as an angel, just to like have a new dog in there.

00:46:47
Speaker 7: I do see a lot of people say that they get a puppy when they have a child, too, like their first kid, and I think the time's probably a little different. Maybe the puppy before the child, right before, Oh it's not as much chaos. But a lot of people say that a kid agree is up with the dog ends up pretty happy kid.

00:47:03
Speaker 2: That is true.

00:47:04
Speaker 7: That dog is gonna love that that toddler, that is true.

00:47:08
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that would be my advice. Do you have anything.

00:47:13
Speaker 1: Well, Number one, the losses will never stop coming. Yeah, being a parent is very hard work. It will always be very hard work. That's why on this pod we talk about embracing the suck the whole good mantra mentality, the whole you know, flipping your mindset from this is happening to me too. I get to do this. So a lot of my advice would just come would just come down to, like what conversations are you having with yourself on a day to day.

00:47:44
Speaker 2: Basis, Like when you wake up in.

00:47:46
Speaker 1: The morning and you're feeling down or you're feeling a little depressive or already defeated, that is a very that to me is a sign that you need to have a very hard like look in the mirror and conversation with yourself about what's motivating you and like what your why is behind everything. Because again it's like even with fatherhood, even with any area in life like career, anything that goes on in your world that is day to day and it's gonna be habitual. The environment you're around, stress is never going to stress is never gonna stop. So my advice would would be having a very close look, a very close conversation with yourself on what is motivating you because there's a lot to be grateful for. Again, we're gonna talk, and we're gonna laugh, and we're gonna joke about a lot of the suck and the things that are tough about parenthood or being a husband, and what's shitty about work and YadA, YadA, YadA. But no matter what, you at some point you gotta flip your mindset and figure out what motivates you, figure out what you are grateful for. You start with gratitude, your entire mind shift, Your entire mindset will start to shift.

00:48:52
Speaker 2: Yeah. So as simply as I can possibly put it, is.

00:48:56
Speaker 1: Understand the conversations you're having with yourself, Like right when you wake up up in the morning, right when you wake up, when you're doing everything, whether either you work out or you don't work out, or whether you're making breakfast or your your wife needs helps, are doing something like are you kind of down and having like a negative voice in your ear when all of these things are happening. Because if so, that to me is to tell sign that you need.

00:49:16
Speaker 2: To start with yourself.

00:49:18
Speaker 1: Yeah, because right there, that'll that'll begin to once you once you have that little subtle two degrees shift, because that's really all it is. It's it's it's like, you know, life is essentially a bunch of choices going through your head when things are happening to you right yeah, it's like, oh my gosh, woe is me? Life is happening to me the moment you grab hold of that and realize that that's gonna happen no matter what. So once you filter it out through something differently and really check yourself on how you're speaking to yourself or how you are filtering the world and shifted to something, whether it's gratitude or something positive, or you just catch yourself like, you know what, I am being kind of a bitch about this, I am being kind of soft about this. I am kind of looking at this in a way different way than how I should be. If you're listening to this right now and thinking, like, you know, what I do need to I do need to figure out like what type of filter I'm using. If you start there you'll be able to figure out like what you know what, then you'll start to get excited about what then Like okay, like let me start with gratitude. Let me start with what I get to do throughout the day, Like Derek having that having that monologue he had several episodes ago on like Hey, I get to do this. Yes, because the minute that happens is when things will start to shift for you. Yes, because I know it's tough, man, I know that shit's hard, and I'm just I'm just telling you, like, life is never just going to seem easier. You're gonna get a you're gonna get a pay raise of promotion, You're gonna have a moment where you feel good, and that is just as fleeting as a song lyric for a song lyric from any major hit. Like there's gonna be other problems that come the next day or the next week or the next month. You're gonna lose somebody, something's gonna happen to you with the family. Your wife's gonna be pissay, she's gonna be in a mood one day. Your kid, it's not gonna go the way you're gonna you hope it goes at certain times.

00:50:57
Speaker 3: No amount of money, no amount of possessions is going to fix it either, Like you were saying, with the promotions and all that stuff, It's say, I feel like the number one way to get in the mindset of being able to say good yeah after a shitty situation, or being able to say hey, I get to do this is when you are actively trying to better yourself and giving yourself some self love, giving yourself some opportunities to win, but to also grow and develop as a person. I currently am going through that. I've talked about it on the pod of like, bro, I am going through the shit right now, Like this is hard. This is like the last couple of weeks for me. I've been really really shitty, been bad, And I had a conversation and sit down with Jill of like, let's it's not like, oh, things are really shitty. Well what if I got like the biggest promotion ever what this podcasters blew up and we had five point two million views per episode? Like, oh, then I would feel less shitty. No, it's like, Suman, where are some actual things in your life that need to change? Like one, I'm I am not sleeping well I'm on a terrible sleep schedule. I'm not eating well, I'm out of shape, I'm taking in way too much caffeine just to keep afloat during the day, and then that makes me feel even shittier and sleep even worse.

00:52:28
Speaker 2: And it's like Sherman, you have to break.

00:52:30
Speaker 3: This cycle, and it is going to be a hard cycle to break, but you need to lock in for the benefit of your wife and daughter, to be a more present father, to get out of these fonks in stuff. You need good sleep, you need some good energy, So you got to have a better diet. You got to take care of yourself.

00:52:47
Speaker 2: Like that.

00:52:50
Speaker 3: Is like the example I would apply to marsh It's like, find those things in your life that you can better yourself on because then ultimately that is going to make you stronger and able to say good in the in the shitty situations. Does that make sense?

00:53:06
Speaker 2: Yeah?

00:53:06
Speaker 1: Absolutely, that would be absolutely nothing changes. If nothing changes, Yes, And I would say too, you have self love for yourself for a second, but the minute you have a little bit of self self love for yourself, like be fucking hard on yourself.

00:53:17
Speaker 2: Yeah, challenge yourself, your challenges.

00:53:19
Speaker 1: Change isn't going to happen like the moment change happens. And again every area is when you're sick and tired of being sick and tired. Yes, and dude, it for me it's just I I take an approach of just being hard of like just being hard.

00:53:35
Speaker 2: On myself when it does get to that point.

00:53:37
Speaker 1: Yes, it's like, Hey, you don't want to get to a day where it's like, oh, I'm seeing a lot at the end of the tunnel. It's like, no, be the fucking light in the tunnel. And just that's how you approach it. That's just how you approach it the whole Nobody's coming to save you. Like that is to me, the entire mentality about it. Because you might have every reason to justify every feeling in the world that comes through your mind. Yeah, every justification every Hey, you might be right in the situation you're talking about, but no matter what, unless you take full responsibility and accountability, like you know what, all of this shit starts with me, then nothing's going to change and you're gonna continue to be a finger pointer. And I'm not saying marsh is a finger pointer. I'm almost just getting in this this mentality of like you know when those conversations because they're happening and towards the end of the year, like it happens with me all the time, where you talk about, you know, not taking care of yourself, not sleeping, Well, I haven't worked out like a month and a half. You're talking about the caffeine and take on on my ninth or tenth cup of coffee. It's it's fucking nine pm at night.

00:54:30
Speaker 2: That's me.

00:54:31
Speaker 1: I mean there's a part where I'm sitting there looking at my looking at my pale naked body in the mirror, and I'm just like, God, you are a piece of shit. And at some point I just know in my head, dude, will win. Are you going to be sick and tired of being sick and tired about it and wake start waking the fuck up early in the morning and taking care of your business.

00:54:47
Speaker 2: Yeah? So yeah, mars fucking and hey.

00:54:51
Speaker 3: And the self love, like uh, I would say to that, the self love can be the wor working out like the suck, like the stuff that does suck to do, that's hard to do, Like when you are bettering yourself and you're taking those moments of like bettering yourself, that can be.

00:55:11
Speaker 2: The self love.

00:55:12
Speaker 3: So to your point, don't let the self love be like, oh, I you know, I'm great, everything's great. It's these people's fault. Have that self love be more like pouring into yourself for improvement the aka therapy aka going to the gym, aka pouring into positive hobbies, positive people in your life, et cetera. Yeah, yeah, so that was a good point of like, don't let self love distract you.

00:55:39
Speaker 2: I didn't want to.

00:55:40
Speaker 1: No, not at all, Not at all. It's just form my approach. It's more of just the way I get in my own face. It's like, get in your face about it. Picture yourself grabbing you by the throat and putting yourself against the wall and be like, when are you gonna wake the fuck up? Let the heart turn black. Let the heart turn black. Yes, let the heart turn black. The only way, the only way I know how.

00:55:59
Speaker 2: It's a good, good way. It's a good way.

00:56:01
Speaker 3: I've I've come to adopt it, and I'm I enjoy it. Oh, I got some that's sorry.

00:56:07
Speaker 2: Real quick.

00:56:08
Speaker 4: We have a lot of dads that say the word failure a lot, like phone calls and stuff like that, and I would love to hear you guys talk about that for two seconds off that comment because the guy's like, Dude, I don't want to be a failure. I think you guys are a good example that I get having a loss doesn't make you a failure, like preparing for it and coming out of it, because that's what I got from his is him being like, dude, I'm I'm a failure because these things are all happening. Like you guys are a perfect example and continuous to say, it's not about the losses that come your way.

00:56:30
Speaker 2: It's about preparing and what you learn from it. Just the coolest part I thought from the comment.

00:56:34
Speaker 3: Yeah, fail A failure is someone that is failing to act in the moment, like when you when you don't take action, or something needs fixed and we're not taking proactive steps to fix it. I think that is the only definition of like the word failure. Hard things are going to happen all the time. You're going to mess up all the fucking time. You're gonna give your kid Bobby for a week, You're gonna give them the wrong formula. But like that is not like when you have those hiccups or when you are beating yourself up like, you're not a failure. A failure is exactly what Will was saying, quitting and going his fault, his fault, his fault, my job's fault, my wife's fault.

00:57:23
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a failure.

00:57:24
Speaker 1: Taking taking the fail the failing to act and more of like uh I would I would The wrinkle I would say, is the failing to respond because it's all about it's it's it's at the end of the day, it's gonna be all about how you respond in every moment because again we're we're nothing but a makeup of all of our failures, and it's it's surely like, how do we respond in those moments where we didn't show up? Because fatherhood, parenthood, in this area of parenthood that we're talking about is it's not about being perfect, not about looking back and be like, look at all these wins I had. No, it's just it's fining a way to be consistent and show up. Like, even if you do have a bad day or a bat moment, you're never defined by that moment, that bad day, that bad week. It might last a month, but if you if you wake up the next day and go about it, go about it a different way and respond the right way. That to me is where you're going to ultimately start having progress. It's all about progress. It's all about showing up because again it's it's never about chasing perfection. It's about showing up because that's what parenthood is because you're gonna have bad words, like you know, I mess up all the time with how I feel like I talked to Rue every now and then and I'm like, ah, that didn't that didn't come out the way that I thought it would or the way I wanted it to. Like, I'll have another opportunity. I need to figure out the next opportunity seem to come.

00:58:36
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01:01:45
Speaker 1: Keep it switching around to a lighter note. This is Lewis twenty two on YouTube. Imagine the excitement when Chefchack becomes part of PT six one day.

01:02:00
Speaker 2: What way did they just whomes? Yeah? Just imagine the excitement when Chef Chack becomes part of PT six.

01:02:06
Speaker 7: One got me sick? Hopefully not anytime soon. I need to kick some stuff out, I will say.

01:02:15
Speaker 2: I feel like it.

01:02:15
Speaker 7: Goes without saying being on a dad podcast as a twenty four year old, I am excited for that one day. It's super cool. It's cool to watch you guys interact and talk about it and stuff. And I think it's like, I think a lot of guys, some of isn't even talked about a lot is there are a lot of young guys out there that really aspire to be to be dads, and it's not talked about because you're twenty four and it's like, hey, let's go, it's Saturday, let's go, let's go hang out or do stupid shit. Yeah, but it's like, I think there's a lot of dudes out there that it never really gets communicated as much. Where I feel like women you see it all the time. Where women are like, I can't wait to be a mother. I do think there's a very strong contingent of young men out there like myself there, like, hey, when that day comes, it's gonna be a sick, fucking yeah, awesome ride and you aspire for that.

01:02:59
Speaker 2: So it's cool, well said St six. Yeah, that's your captain St six seam and team. He's definitely having a boy first. By the way, you think I'm you should always five daughters. I'm fucked. Hey.

01:03:13
Speaker 1: By the way, here's here's one from a from Josh Josh rabe uh for on YouTube. ET six Dad hack for the Christmas tree problem to piggyback off Chef the train works? Does the train work Chef? Because we got an interesting video from Chef last week.

01:03:29
Speaker 2: Run yeah, let me let me put so I get home.

01:03:34
Speaker 7: This is Wednesday, Wednesday night, and uh, for those listening, I don't know.

01:03:39
Speaker 2: I just moved back to Nashville. I live with my mom and dad.

01:03:41
Speaker 7: Shout out, it's really awesome saving on some money right now.

01:03:45
Speaker 2: But I get in there.

01:03:45
Speaker 7: My mom she listens to every episode and she was laughing and she goes, hey, I listened to the episode. The train doesn't work the train, like we didn't put ornaments on the bottom half of the tree when you're a toddler because you destroyed everything. Oh no, I'll play the I'll play the video right now.

01:04:04
Speaker 2: You did have ornaments down below because because.

01:04:08
Speaker 7: Me grab them, no, and welcome back, welcome back. So to my surprise, that was a great way to start, you know, my Wednesday when I get home, and so I take a little video and send it to the fellas and I'm just sitting there thinking I should have thought that through because my parents, my whole life, told me that I was a fucking menace.

01:04:30
Speaker 2: Yeah, look the only dad hack out there.

01:04:32
Speaker 1: It seems like, don't put ornaments on the bottom half of the tree. I will say, we got I do have scott Zilla in check. She'll go over there. I'll kind of tell her, gentle, because Charles always sitting here like with it, whether she's patting waffle or like, you know, doing something she doesn't want to rip off. She back gentle, gentle, and she'll kind of like look at you and be kind of soft about it. But I've been keeping her, We've been keeping her in pretty good check with the with the ornaments. She hasn't been too too much of a problem to society recently when it comes to the ornaments.

01:05:00
Speaker 3: I got some love this pod comments that we can run through really quick, rip all out of the comments, So go ahead. Tristan Morris R. Seventy nine Underscore on YouTube. Fella has been listening for a while now, but this episode hits a little different. Wife just let me know she's pregnant yesterday and we are ecstatic. Question, how did y'all break the news of pregnancy to your family members? Thanks for all the advice that's gonna come and handy real soon.

01:05:32
Speaker 1: What I did when we were having root for the first time is I went on a Amazon and got the coffee cups that says like Grandma and Grandpa, and then they have like the stats the stats below. It looks like a nutrition a nutrition label on the side of a of.

01:05:46
Speaker 2: A food box. Yeah, we got up little coffee cups. They opened it up, had it.

01:05:51
Speaker 1: And then I want to say, I got a T shirt, like I got these t shirts on Amazon that said like uh something with like uncle or Tarano. So I can't fucking remember, I don't know, but anyway, that's what I did. I got gifts, they opened it up, they saw tears.

01:06:07
Speaker 3: Jill went on a FaceTime rampage when she found out that she was pregnant because she was nervous, and so she faceigned one of her nursing friends of is this a positive pregnancy test? So now that nursing friend knows, she facetimes her cousin. That's basically her sister shout out Megan, who has a child, is this a positive preak? Like does this look positive? Yes, that's posibly Okay, Now cousin knows. Well, now that those two people know, my mom has to know. That's my closest person to face times her mom.

01:06:38
Speaker 2: So by that.

01:06:39
Speaker 3: Time, when Sherman got home and she laid out the pregnancy test, which fun little wrinkled, we weren't able to post our video because I come in and I see the pregnancy tests on the sweater. I yelled out, I fucking told you because I told Jill that we were gonna go one for one and doing the math in my head.

01:06:58
Speaker 2: We went one for once, So fun times there. Yeah, so I just facedign my my mom and dad.

01:07:04
Speaker 1: Yeah, listen, there's no way, there's no perfect there's no perfect way.

01:07:07
Speaker 2: They're going to be ecstatic. They're gonna be ecstatic and shout out Tristan.

01:07:11
Speaker 3: I My next comment is actually about a person that is announcing number three.

01:07:18
Speaker 2: Will and Shurm. I'm a father of two amazing boys.

01:07:21
Speaker 3: Four and two, and my wife and I recently found out that we're expecting our third baby. To add to the anxiety of the whole process, wife, he wants to wait until birth to find out the gender. That means agreeing on two names and not being able to mentally prepare. Would love to hear how you fellas would handle the situation. Sincerely, Nick H from Saint Francis County, Missouri.

01:07:46
Speaker 2: Howltt what he's got a third one? Let's fucking go.

01:07:55
Speaker 1: I'm assuming that was planted to be a that was planned it would be a surprise for all.

01:07:59
Speaker 2: Willie one, Yes, sir, Nick's having number three?

01:08:02
Speaker 1: Yo?

01:08:04
Speaker 2: Is that not crazy?

01:08:05
Speaker 7: Yeah?

01:08:05
Speaker 2: That's awesome, dude. I want to sit here and FaceTime him.

01:08:10
Speaker 3: He texted me and he goes, hey, man, what's the plan If if Will doesn't.

01:08:14
Speaker 2: Pick up that, it's me? You know what are you gonna have to jump in there? You know? Spotify? Is that Google? With that one? From? He goes.

01:08:21
Speaker 3: You know that that brain plus CT we don't know. I said, I'll hold his hand and guide it to him. If it didn't click, I was gonna be like, hey, Saint Francis County, will is that.

01:08:34
Speaker 2: Where you laid that one up for me?

01:08:36
Speaker 1: I think you might have said Nick h first and for something. Oh, I did say the name of my boys, name of my best friend.

01:08:43
Speaker 2: I said the text. I said.

01:08:44
Speaker 3: If he doesn't get it, I'm going to be really worried for you. But yes, Nick, Nick's having his third So congrats.

01:08:54
Speaker 1: Congrats Nick and Rachel. Yes absolutely, I'm thinking my head like yeah. Charles brought up waiting, like, hey, I want to say with Scottie. Maybe because we did a fresh transfer to he you don't know the gender through IVF.

01:09:08
Speaker 2: But she was like, do you want to wait until the birth? I'm like, no, no, no, no, we ain't wait to know. I gotta know.

01:09:14
Speaker 3: Really fun story for you guys. My mom and dad decide to do that with me. My mom's gonna hate that I'm telling the story, but I love my mother. Very spiritual gal and God told her she was having twin girls, and so because of that, she then told everybody that she was having twin girls when all fat staff.

01:09:40
Speaker 2: Was bacon in the oven.

01:09:42
Speaker 3: So she is looking people dead in the eyes and saying, I'm having twin girls. All the gifts are coming in. They paint the nursery pink and yellow. Pink and yellow nursery. And then sure enough, she had a follow up dream where an angel came to her because I am the second born and I'm named after my dad, which was very rare. She had an angel come to her in a dream just a couple of nights before I was born and said, it's actually a boy, and you need to honor your husband and name him after your husband. And I was wearing pink onesies in that pink and yellow nursery.

01:10:20
Speaker 2: I beg that angel case aau.

01:10:23
Speaker 1: I see you've been telling everybody you've been getting way too many games.

01:10:26
Speaker 2: Big Man was joking, Big Man's joker. Hey, we need a cute thing.

01:10:33
Speaker 3: Big Man was joking up there, we gotta fix out at dinner when we're praying a little bit.

01:10:37
Speaker 2: I love you, mom. That's a very fun story to tell. Oh that's awesome.

01:10:42
Speaker 3: So yeah, very very surprising. When she came out into the waiting room and said it's a boy. Actually it's not twin girls and his name Sherman. So yes, uh well, let's do one more comment and then we can go into our call.

01:11:00
Speaker 2: We like that. How are we doing on timing? We're good? Oh sorry, well then we'll do crack of Colvin.

01:11:10
Speaker 3: This come from Stephen Stephen karafone four seven one five on YouTube. I love this guy, repeat offender, sicko Steve. Here, you are a sicko. Steve told the wifey I wanted for the dad's merch for Christmas. I come home to a package plastered and busting with the boy's tape. I play dumb like a champ. Next day another box appears. This woman's out here double sickoing me with surprise gifts. Now I gotta sit here for two weeks pretending I'm not thinking about those boxes. Twenty four to seven hashtag wife's a sickle.

01:11:46
Speaker 1: Bro.

01:11:46
Speaker 3: Stephen Karafone is a true PT siko. So wife got him some some merch, got him some merch for crimbis.

01:11:55
Speaker 1: Shout out, joining the PT six father shout out, then shout out joining the p.

01:12:00
Speaker 8: And shout out our merchs being like, hey, can you guys have a package option next year as a gift because their hubbies were bringing the boxes in with busting with the boys tape on it, and so we got a lot of pictures from the wives of their husband holding the box where they're like, well, they know what.

01:12:15
Speaker 4: They're getting this year, So we might have to talk to you about a gift option.

01:12:19
Speaker 2: That's kind that's sneaky. I'll put it under the tree. I don't know what you're getting.

01:12:23
Speaker 3: And maybe a little gift bundle, A gift bundle package would be kind of fun too. Around Christmas comes with the hat a shirt of day measure.

01:12:34
Speaker 2: For the dad's tape measure.

01:12:36
Speaker 3: But just old Willy watch up on there hitting the peter panstairs, Hony, there's it's crazy up here, all right?

01:12:51
Speaker 2: Awesome? Oh read the tweet.

01:12:56
Speaker 3: I got a Willy one shelf tweet special here that I would This might have to be a new segment, Will if that's okay with you.

01:13:04
Speaker 1: You're saying you found a tweet that you read in my voice and it made you chuckle. Yes, may I take man, just take a shot at the dark on which one it might be.

01:13:13
Speaker 3: Before you do, I just want to preface for Ptsikos out there that don't follow Will Compton on Twitter, go ahead and change that.

01:13:23
Speaker 2: It's at underscore Will Compton, And.

01:13:26
Speaker 3: Sometimes he tweets a lot about football, but sometimes he'll put out these tweets where he has a internal dialogue with the internet.

01:13:36
Speaker 2: And Will what you get off to you enjoy him?

01:13:39
Speaker 3: I love him because I read them in your voice and it makes me so happy. What tweet do you think that is this week?

01:13:47
Speaker 2: I think I guess too.

01:13:50
Speaker 3: Let's let will guess first and then you can guess, chef.

01:13:53
Speaker 1: I would say Polar Express. Okay, pure Polar Express, ding ding ding, And I knew whenever I fired that one off, I was like, I bet sure sees this.

01:14:05
Speaker 2: This was tweeted on but you're telling me.

01:14:09
Speaker 3: This was tweeted on December twelfth by Will Compton to the Worldwide Web.

01:14:15
Speaker 2: Polar Express a great movie, But you're telling me a train.

01:14:19
Speaker 1: Pulled up in the middle of the night and conned a bunch of kids to get on board by saying, hey, it was headed to the North Pole. Magic or not? That has to be a felony written all over such a great tweet, dude, It was Pizza Friday. Why it's pizza Friday? Movie night, a nice weekly tradition that we have. We were watching Polar Express. Yeah, great movie. I've seen it before. It's a good movie.

01:14:44
Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

01:14:47
Speaker 1: And I'm sitting there and I'm sitting there watching it this second time through. It was my second or third time seeing the movie. You know, Ruse fired up. We saw last year. But she kind of doesn't remember where I remember. Police says, yeah, but she's enthralled by this movie. Not a lot of words throughout the movie.

01:15:06
Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of just.

01:15:07
Speaker 1: Fascination and imagination, singing and yeah, singing and dancing. And his train comes in the middle of the night, and this kid is just outside in his backyard, not really bundled up, and he stands there and sees Tom Hanks, the the what is it called, the engineer, the train conductor, and he's just like headed to the North Pole, and and the kid just gets on and then you get on. They get on the train, and the car is just a bunch of kids.

01:15:42
Speaker 2: You don't think.

01:15:43
Speaker 1: There's no adults, there's no nothing. It's just hey, you got this golden ticket. We're going up to the North Pole. You get to meet Santa Claus, you get to meet Santa Claus and you're just gone in the middle of the night. That's crazy, that's crazy, It's crazy.

01:15:57
Speaker 2: I know that Will had one eyebrow up, one brown. I looked over my wife. I looked over my wife.

01:16:04
Speaker 1: I said, could you imagine, because you know what, we got the train, we got the railroad basically in the backyard. Could you imagine if Rude just got up in the middle of night, went outside and got on a train because she thought it was headed to the North Pole. Bro I want to watch any fantasy I want to watch any fantasy movie with Will, Like The Goodies and at the end they go, Yo, there's the fucking pirate ships.

01:16:32
Speaker 2: Real, there's a treasure. Imagine if you're looking for Hey it.

01:16:37
Speaker 1: Just to confirm, I went to Google and I was like, is Polar Express is that they want to No?

01:16:44
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no no. I typed in.

01:16:47
Speaker 1: I was like, because I kind of missed, I kind of missed a oh man, a part that I was trying to get confirmed, which was right before that. I'm wondering, is that based on a dream? You know what I mean? Like kid goes asleep and then it's a dream. But then they're telling me like, no, this is just it's just a it's just like magic.

01:17:03
Speaker 2: Hey, magic or not, that's just a fella. Dad comes in and kissed some good night.

01:17:08
Speaker 1: Like it lose to a couple of subtle hints that the train's gonna be coming at midnight. The clock strikes whatever it is, and then the kid just goes outside. But it's not a dream. Yeah, so I think, all right, maybe this is a dream. And I missed that part before I fired this one off. I confirmed that it like wasn't a dream. And the kid just went out in the backyard got on a train because he thought I was going to the North Pole. That's crazy because we're driving. My wife and I were driving to that double date and I'm just like, sweetheart that Pole Express.

01:17:33
Speaker 2: And buddy, he wait. He wakes up at the end of the movie and he goes, was it a dream?

01:17:37
Speaker 1: We just teaching our kids it's okay to go outside in the middle of the night when they're stowing on the ground waiting for a train. Is hey, you guys going to the North Pole? She said, Baby, you know, it's just a movie. Like we ain't gonna.

01:17:49
Speaker 2: Let's go enjoy.

01:17:50
Speaker 3: Let's go enjoy our Saturday our Saturday brunch.

01:17:55
Speaker 2: It's okay, Honie just caught me off guard. Yeah, of course, of course. Crack a cold one. Crack a cold one, guys, Crack a cool one.

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01:19:14
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01:19:24
Speaker 3: Scarlet is rolling over by herself. Oh nice bro, and I have finally caught it on video. Roll the tape how to.

01:19:33
Speaker 2: Roll over crazy booty, butte, thank you? Go on, there you go? Yeah good.

01:19:45
Speaker 9: Josh Corlan.

01:19:52
Speaker 2: Is so good.

01:19:53
Speaker 9: Oh my goodness, Screlet, whoa.

01:20:05
Speaker 2: And welcome back. Let me get the let me get the do it again, Scarlett.

01:20:10
Speaker 1: The original video was minutes. I'm about to go and you kind of push them back over. I hang on, give me a second, let me get the camera ready. There are this arms going like this, and I'm like, come on, we've been going for two minutes. I run out of road, run out of memory on my phone, Scarlett, She's going like this and then dude, my dad voice.

01:20:33
Speaker 3: I was cringing listening to my dad voice. I'll play it really quick if we want, we can react to my dad voice.

01:20:46
Speaker 2: Thank you, go on, there you go?

01:20:49
Speaker 1: Yeah that ain't no ya get over there.

01:20:54
Speaker 2: Oh there we go.

01:21:02
Speaker 9: It was so good.

01:21:03
Speaker 2: Oh my gos scarlet celebration. I love it. What am I doing?

01:21:16
Speaker 3: You got your back? Oh, you got der back in And the first time I don't know if I had touched on this on the pod. The first official flip by herself was unseen because dad As was doing tummy time with her and she was getting so close to flipping over. This was when Jill was I forget Oh, she was working. It was on one of my solo Saturdays and I'm doing tewny times. She won't flip. I'm like, oh, I'm hungry. I gotta make a PB and jay. So she's her playpin's right there by the kitchen, so I'm able to keep an eye on her.

01:21:52
Speaker 2: I go get the bread.

01:21:52
Speaker 3: And the peanut butter and jelly out, and I swear I look into the playpen and she's on her back.

01:21:59
Speaker 2: I was like, you gotta be kidding me, Damn. I just sat there with you for almost thirty minutes.

01:22:05
Speaker 3: And as soon as I get up, and it was because she wanted to see me in the kitchen.

01:22:10
Speaker 1: That was like, what goal flip her back over? Yes, she never did it. I was sitting there like, so then I go stand in the kitchen. I'm like scarch card, Scotch car.

01:22:21
Speaker 2: Look at Dad, Look at Dad, flip over, look at that. She never did it, and now I finally have evidence. I'm not crazy. Look at that. Look at that.

01:22:29
Speaker 1: He ain't shit, man, man, man, you ain't Joe daddy girl. Oh my crack a cold one. Christmas traditions, Yeah, Christmas traditions. My wife, she loves to do what are them calendars called the dure Yeah, the Advent calendars. Yes, or she has these little slots, you know, entire month of December, and she likes to get this throwback camera to where it prints out the little the little photo, whether it's or whatever it is. But every night, some kind of photo, whether it's me and the kiddos or and the kiddos, the kiddos, Yeah, tonight was the was the grandparents Lola and open the kiddos. Yeah, take a picture every night, throw it in the Advent calendar.

01:23:10
Speaker 2: Uh.

01:23:10
Speaker 1: We do Christmas cookies. We're making them. My told that story on Saturday Night. Christmas cookies.

01:23:15
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:23:16
Speaker 1: Obviously pictures with saying now whenever you have, but just overall Christmas traditions.

01:23:20
Speaker 2: That you do as a family.

01:23:23
Speaker 3: I love that putting up, the putting up the trees, and an easy obvious one that was always my favorite because of the tradition of my godparents sending me a custom ornament every single year. Yeah, that's when I got to unbox my newest ornament.

01:23:39
Speaker 2: Bro.

01:23:40
Speaker 1: And you don't appreciate custom ornaments and just in my until you get older, Yes, just the way it is.

01:23:46
Speaker 2: Yeah, well you're like, damn, why you just send me an ornament?

01:23:48
Speaker 1: And I wanted this toy, I wanted you know, this video game, I wanted this or that, you just send me an ornament. But now they're older, Like we still have that nineteen eighty nine Willie see ornament from when I was born.

01:23:58
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, a couple of from back in the.

01:24:00
Speaker 1: Day, the.

01:24:02
Speaker 2: Annual ornaments that Charle and I might have when.

01:24:04
Speaker 1: It was just me, charl and Waffle, the me, Charle, Waffle and Rue and now all of us was Scottie. Yep, there's always an ornament every year, man, that I just appreciate. We did busting ornaments one year. I got a couple of buses hanging There's one hanging on Roue's little tree, one hanging on ours.

01:24:18
Speaker 2: Massive Star Wars fans, so I gotta get the lead, you know, I gotta yield to ornament.

01:24:23
Speaker 3: We got to talk some Star Wars one day. I didn't realize that you were so into it, dude. I love Star warss going though. I'm sorry, but overall, just Christmas traditions. There's just nothing tis the season. There's nothing that just brings life together in the season together like Christmas traditions, like where we.

01:24:40
Speaker 2: Have another like Advent.

01:24:41
Speaker 1: I believe it's an Advent calendar where there's like chocolates inside. So he's got a little you know, she's got to crack one open each night. She's always fired up and sitting right next to her for dinner. Can I open this one? That? You know what fires me up about this Advent calendar. She's kind of got to sitting next to her at dinner, and it reminds me of like, you know, kids these days, they's sitting there in the mornings Like for me, we grew up on the cereal boxes where you're sitting there eating cereal and you'd be looking at the box the entire time because you didn't have the phones, you didn't have everything else going on. But she's all fired up because she's got this advent calendar sitting next to her and there, you know, I'll try to have her spot these animals or it's got all the numbers on us. I'm like fine, thirteen, Like what you know what two numbers are in thirteen? And so she's looking at this box will time just salivating at the opportunity, like hey, you finish your dinner, you get to eat the chocolate. She'll want to pop the chocolate out early because she just want to see is like what it is, whether it's just stocking a deer Santa claus An ornament, what a snowflake. Yeah, she just wants to sitting right there like, okay, I get that if I eat my dinner.

01:25:37
Speaker 2: But just Christmas traditions, man, my to throw.

01:25:40
Speaker 3: Onto the traditions talk my parents. I was that kid at school. I don't remember what grade. It was maybe fourth or fifth that my parents had me believe in so hardcore, dude in Santa they were so good.

01:25:56
Speaker 2: Just to give some dad hacks, some tips.

01:25:59
Speaker 3: Dad would get his big old work boots and he would stamp them real hard in the fireplace. He'd build a fire and then he would stamp them on the fireplace, and he would put ash footprints throughout the living room.

01:26:12
Speaker 2: Ever by the tree where the gifts are, that's amazing.

01:26:15
Speaker 3: He would go over to the cookies where the cookies were, and my mom would get the cushions and sit next to the cookies and push the cushions in so it looked like Santa was sitting there drinking and eating the cookies. They even did it for the Easter Bunny. People don't even do that for the Easter Bundy. They'd leave glitter rabbit paus like with glitter around the yard and on our front porch. I'm like, oh, well, they when I found out Santa wasn't real, in full tears, I go, is.

01:26:43
Speaker 2: The Easter Bunny not real either? That's how bad they had me, dude. It was how old? How old were when you found out about Santa Claus? I take fourth grade? Yeah, I was close to that too.

01:26:54
Speaker 1: Like I would look my friends in the eyes and be like, I don't care what you say.

01:26:58
Speaker 2: I swear to God. And you know, when you're a.

01:27:00
Speaker 1: Kid saying I swear to God, Like that's the biggest of the biggest, Yeah, I swear to God, saying Israel, I've seen him with my own eyes. Like when we lived with my grandparents, my grandpa would dress up as Santa Claus and then my mom would wake me up in the middle of the night. I remember this so vividly. She woke me up in the middle of night. My brother and I are like sleeping together on this full sized bed. She wakes me up and she's like, hey, come, look, and she took me to the crack of the door and just had the crack of the door open, and I just see the back of Santa Claus like putting down presents.

01:27:32
Speaker 2: I'm just like, holy shit.

01:27:36
Speaker 1: And from that moment, I would whether you're at the whether I'm at the cafeteria and class, whatever it is, I'd be like, I, guys, I it makes sense what you're saying, but I shit, you, I have seen this man.

01:27:51
Speaker 2: I have seen this man.

01:27:53
Speaker 1: And I'm like, maybe maybe, maybe he doesn't bring all the presents, but I'm just telling you, there's got to be one there at least, no matter what.

01:28:00
Speaker 2: And old Billy two shelves just sitting there dressed as Santa, just laying the presence down, Yeah, laying.

01:28:06
Speaker 1: The presence down, dressing a full Santa suit fir. Yeah, I was about fourth grade as well. Maybe maybe a little bit later.

01:28:13
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't know, but dude, I would go toes with my boys.

01:28:16
Speaker 1: Man for everyone would try and break it to me, and I'm like, I don't believe you.

01:28:20
Speaker 2: Like I get it. I get it.

01:28:22
Speaker 1: Everything you're saying about the optics at night time and everything else, I get it.

01:28:26
Speaker 3: How's he going from Abu Dhabi to Saint Francis, Missouri in the same day.

01:28:31
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're like, you know, they would be tracking him on TV.

01:28:34
Speaker 1: And then my dad we'd always read this story at night before, you know, as Christmas is coming, and if he'd go out, he'd be playing there he isn't. I'm just like, oh my god, it'll just be some star apparently airplanes. Yeah, yeah, it's a different color. Maybe it's got a little orange in the star or something. I'd just be like, man, yeah, I guess that's him.

01:28:57
Speaker 3: And my dad would my dad would go in the backyard when there's an airplane now in the front yard, and Mom would take us out and look, it's him. My dad would be in the backyard going to team with the jingle bells. I mean, bro, they had me also for editing purposes, we can put this at.

01:29:13
Speaker 1: The beginning smart because it's a family show. Is a family a family show.

01:29:17
Speaker 2: Warning is necessary? Yes, did I tell you guys that.

01:29:22
Speaker 7: When my brother was in fifth grade, I was on a family vacation with him my dad, and uh, that's when I decided to tell.

01:29:28
Speaker 2: Him Santa wasn't real. When I ruined the entire vacation, fucking chef man. I was really really proud of that one.

01:29:37
Speaker 3: As a middle schooler, my brother did, if I'm remembering correctly. On my brother was the one that told my parents, need you need to tell Sherman. He's catching flak at school and he's like, he's coming to me about it.

01:29:52
Speaker 2: You need to tell him. It's time.

01:29:56
Speaker 3: I'd get made fun of for having pointy years in elementary school. My mom told me to tell the kids that I was an undercover elf that would go tell Santa who was on the naughty list, and so then making fun of my ears that that's a surefire away to get on the nipty list.

01:30:14
Speaker 2: Did it work?

01:30:17
Speaker 3: This kid has forty years anything Santa's real? What fucking goofball?

01:30:23
Speaker 2: My sweet mother? Yeah, thinkase, she set me up for success.

01:30:29
Speaker 1: I mean you like do like say they have Santa or we had like a picture thing at school one time, and I'm like, this is a bullshit Santa. That ain't anything. There's this reindeer I had, like a mascotthead Ar.

01:30:42
Speaker 2: I'm like, who's in there? You ain't no fucking reindeer?

01:30:47
Speaker 1: Man? Was that?

01:30:48
Speaker 2: Ricky? Ricky?

01:30:50
Speaker 1: I know that ain't Santa Claus. I'm big, I'm big as ship.

01:30:58
Speaker 10: Hey, I want to get one thing. I know you ain't the real thing, So just gumkley I seen the real You got my scratchy voice going the real one. He's around the same size as my daddy. Yeah, you ain't as big as my daddy.

01:31:15
Speaker 2: Did.

01:31:15
Speaker 4: The Nie set a situation where she started to which she watches it, but she had a situation where she goes, hey, mom, why do I gotta tell Sanna what I want again? When I just told him last week what I wanted? Like, why doesn't he remember what I want? And the lines that they danced on to get around that one was basically the whole like, oh, there's a network of people that help Sanna get for it.

01:31:38
Speaker 2: Dada dada. That one wasn't the real one.

01:31:39
Speaker 4: The first one was so he's gonna tell him again, but she just goes, why do I gotta tell him again?

01:31:44
Speaker 2: I was like, ah, oh, she's on to it. Man, It's a tricky dance.

01:31:50
Speaker 1: Christmas traditions, man, Yeah, embrace him because again, as you get like as Paris being older, you're gonna think like, uh, I'm speaking more so to dads because life gets moving, like you might think, oh, we got another year. Like, bro, you're on, We're only going to have so many chances.

01:32:09
Speaker 2: With our little ones. Yeah.

01:32:11
Speaker 1: In traditions, it's like, traditions matter because they slow life. They slow life down like kids grow fast. You know, life is chaos. A lot of the times, our day to day feels just like uh, you know that organized chaos with the Google calendar reminded on it. And traditions they remind you that, hey, this is home. The sense of belonging, the sense of community, just the sense of embracing you know, whether it's gifts and gifts don't even matter. It's just the feeling that you have from having family traditions, from having these Christmas traditions. It's like when Charles wanted to do these few things, these things that we do each night. It just fires me up because this is how we are molding our kids for how they feel when they get older and have a family.

01:32:57
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, Like.

01:32:58
Speaker 1: The big gifts, the expensive gifts like you. I remember when I first got my second genesis. I remember a few different gifts that I got along the way. But it's not the gifts don't matter, it's the feeling you have. Yeah, that what your parents created when you were in these moments.

01:33:12
Speaker 3: It was the letters of My grandmother lived in Florida, and when she got really sick, we do Christmas there. Well, Santa would always leave a note. Jordan Sherman, I almost missed you guys. I was in Texas. You guys were n't there. I said, Hey, they must be at Grandma's in Florida. Yeah, so I went and double checked. Found you guys. Glad we got everything figured out. Love, Saint Nick. Those are the little details. Doesn't have to be some big, grandiose gift. No, it's just the magic of.

01:33:42
Speaker 1: The Yeah, it doesn't have to be big. It can be the same movie you watch every year. Yeah, the same meal, the same dumb joke.

01:33:49
Speaker 2: Jingle, all the way. Dude, such a banger, dude. Yeah, it's the repetition.

01:33:54
Speaker 1: The repetition builds that safety builds, that culture.

01:33:59
Speaker 2: Yep. Because again, it's not gonna be the gifts.

01:34:01
Speaker 1: It's gonna be the feeling that you gave them that they are one day going to pass along. They're one day going to pass along, because man, we're only gonna get what about ten opportunities with our little ones, Like if you're a new dad, or you're in it with the toddler, or you have a six seven, you know, and I would love for parents to chime on, to chime in in the comments that have been through this entire process. Now you have grown kids that are now adults. But I'm thinking to myself, like you get on Instagram, you see all these things like how many summers you have?

01:34:28
Speaker 2: How many opportunities we're gonna have with our little kids?

01:34:31
Speaker 1: And usually the age, the common age that all the dads, that all the people that kind of speak to parent culture they talk about is these ten opportunities. It's like, we're gonna have ten Christmases. And then you know, as they get older, that fourth grade, they're gonna they're gonna it's gonna be about their friends. When you get done with Christmas, they're gonna be ready to get out of the house. Hey Mom, Dad, can I go here? Can I go there? Can I do all these things? Because they're gonna have They're gonna have other things going on externally in their life to where the parents side isn't as cool anymore. You'll still have those foundational tradition traditions, which is why it's embraced them now so that way they know what it's going to be like. They know what that repetition is going to be. Like you're in and you're out. But with our little ones that's here for us right now that we get to enjoy. We're only gonna have about ten of those opportunities. So it's like, embrace those things. Embrace those things because that's the legacy you're gonna leave for them that they're going to carry over when they are parents one day.

01:35:22
Speaker 2: Yes, it's like, dude, every year.

01:35:23
Speaker 1: For me, it's like when I was busting Matt Malone's balls or somebody's balls the other day on the stream when we had the Christmas Story playing on the left, I think I was sitting right next to Jared and I was kind of walking through all these scenes because that is the you're a quote the movie was on mute, and I'm kind of telling him, you know, I'm I'm like mouthing the quotes that are going on right now. Hey, here's what's gonna happen next. Kid's gonna start swinging on them. He's like, oh, crying for me when Wain crying like he's about to jump him right now, start swinging all Mom, it's gonna come watch this. But every year at Christmas, Christmas Story is on T and T twenty four twenty four hours around the clock. Yeah, and my mom just always had the Christmas Story on like that movie to be playing around the clock all day long, like while we were doing Christmas.

01:36:03
Speaker 2: So it something that I remember the feeling of.

01:36:07
Speaker 1: All these traditions that we had, you know what I mean to where you're wanting to carry those things over. So that's like the thing that you're going to leave with them as you build out these traditions.

01:36:15
Speaker 2: With your family.

01:36:16
Speaker 1: And again we're talking about holiday season right now, but this goes for all traditions you have. We do like pizza Friday, movie Day. You know, we're going to do things annually set whatever it is to where they're going to know that we are going to repeat some of these traditions.

01:36:30
Speaker 2: You're in and you're out.

01:36:31
Speaker 1: So it's like things to look forward to as a family because you hope that one day they carry it forward. Yeah, and then that's how they remember mom and dad when mom and dad are no longer around. Yes, so shout out to shout out to Christmas traditions.

01:36:43
Speaker 2: Embrace them.

01:36:43
Speaker 1: And dad's if your wife's sitting there bugging you about doing wanting to do this certain thing all the time, whether it's every day or once a week, whatever it is, dude, embrace it because you don't know how many times we're going to have these these moments, these seasons, like with our kiddos.

01:36:58
Speaker 3: Yes, and shout out, shout out, jingle all the way, shout out Arnold Schwarzenegger. Yeah, his son is actually in the terminal list dark Wolf by the way, No ship.

01:37:13
Speaker 2: It is.

01:37:15
Speaker 1: Who?

01:37:16
Speaker 2: Yeah, Patrick Schwartzengg and White Loatus season four and in White Loadus season four, Patrick, don't want that one is Dark Wolf, the one that just came out.

01:37:25
Speaker 3: That's the prequel. Yeah, that's that's the one, I think. Patrick Schwarzenegger said, he's in Dark Wolf.

01:37:32
Speaker 1: Is that what he's saying, Patrick Schwarzenegger, I don't recognize him, but the terminalism, he's the terminal I was like, not dark Wolf, he's in the original.

01:37:43
Speaker 2: Oh the O G O g's in the og.

01:37:45
Speaker 3: God that scene in jingle all the way putting it together, Arnold Schwartzinger, Jamie, your dad is so proud of you, he loves you.

01:37:54
Speaker 2: Well, he's not here.

01:37:54
Speaker 1: How do you know that, because Jamie, I'm your father, chat packs Old.

01:38:01
Speaker 2: I showed Cat for the first time that movie the other day.

01:38:03
Speaker 4: I didn't realize or remember how crazy the jet back scene was because in my mind it's all could happen.

01:38:08
Speaker 3: And then he sliding around on a jetback due in three sixties above. I'm like, every ship Ultraman? Is that what the guy's name was? Was it Ultraman?

01:38:21
Speaker 1: Oh?

01:38:21
Speaker 2: Great call? Oh it's double time. Let's hit the voicemails six and one.

01:38:28
Speaker 1: The dad's call in for a chance to be featured on the show again, whether it's a dad win, a dad loss calling to check in, give us some game, put us on a dad hack, something to put in the survival kit, whatever, it is call in six and one the dads.

01:38:41
Speaker 2: We will feature you on the show. Let's rip them.

01:38:43
Speaker 3: Shocked that no dads have farted into the voicemail by the way, oh don't don't challenge him saying I'm shocked that we have a god named fart voice faults help on a shelf?

01:38:53
Speaker 2: Out here we go. What's up? Boys?

01:39:00
Speaker 5: This is Kenny from Georgia. Huge fan of the show. I'm a twenty six year old soon to be father of two. Got an almost four year old little boy right now. Ken, the wife and I are expecting the second one coming up here first week of morning. Super fun to be a dad again. Can't wait to dive headed first back into the newborn trenches. I did have a question Christmas time coming up. This is the first year that we have been participating in the elk on the Shelf deal that happens. I'm absolutely on a heater right now. I have fought in. We are producing and it's going well. But I'm starting to get to the point where I'm shooting off the hip and I'm looking for some new ideas. Curious to see are y'all doing the helf thing at your house?

01:39:43
Speaker 2: Is if you are.

01:39:44
Speaker 5: Maybe you got some stories, maybe you got some advice, need some new ideas, looking for some fresh content in the house right now. So appreciate it.

01:39:53
Speaker 2: Thank y'all. A couple questions. Kenny, by the way, that was Kenny. Shout out Kenny, Kenny, thank you for calling in. Listen to your boy.

01:40:01
Speaker 1: I was never an ELF on the shelf guy, so I don't even know the rules of ELF on a shelf. I was the type of kid to where since I didn't know what was going on. I got older, my boys were talking about ELF on a shovel man.

01:40:10
Speaker 2: That just sounds gay. Bro, Will let me introduce you. Hey, I'm just being honest. That's young Will. I'm not saying that now. I would love to embrace Yeah, Elf, that's some pushy ship dude. You talk about ELF on What's Gonna Happened? School was essentially just shame Gillis, you're just kind of gay, kind of gay dude. That just sounds weak.

01:40:36
Speaker 1: It's ELF's fucking up your house and your dad hasn't done ship about it.

01:40:40
Speaker 2: That's so that's my first question is what is explain ELF on a ship? Because I don't even know what it is. Charle brought it up this year.

01:40:46
Speaker 1: We know we didn't do it or we didn't get into it. I don't know if we're too late, like if you have time starting on.

01:40:51
Speaker 2: The first a prime example.

01:40:54
Speaker 11: Yes, too late, too late now to do it? You can yeah, okay, you just you buy the elf on the shelf. Perfect example for this right here our studio. If we had our own elf on a shelf, you would have all these feathers scattered all over and you'd have the elf sitting right there, so that the kids go, who made this mess? And then little elf sitting there, Oh my gosh, the elf did it. And he only operates at night when they're sleeping, and he goes around and he does little mischievous things around the house. But he also watches you to make sure that you're being good or else. He'll tell Santa Claus. Yeah, it's kind of a tool that it sounds like a horror movie.

01:41:35
Speaker 2: No, it's great. You can have an elf. Listen, hear this out.

01:41:38
Speaker 7: You can have an elf around, right, and let's say Rue is acting for whatever reason, you'd be like, hey, you know, elf, whatever you name him, he's watching all the time, like if he's gonna repeat every night, whenever you go to sleep. The magic in the elf is that when they go to sleep, the elf reports back to Santa, told him what he saw for that day, and then that's what that's when you move him around the house and so and like you said, Shirt, you can have him do fun stuff, but it's like it's a tool that like you can't touch him or else the magic goes away.

01:42:06
Speaker 2: I did see the.

01:42:07
Speaker 1: Video or this mom like put the chicken bones and you killed him because you touched him.

01:42:12
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:42:14
Speaker 1: The idea that came up for Kenny of just creative stuff.

01:42:19
Speaker 2: I would go nuclear with it.

01:42:21
Speaker 3: I would park the car a little bit in the front yard and just have the elf sitting up there on the steering wheel.

01:42:26
Speaker 2: Who parked the car like that? Who moved my car? Honey? Look at the healthy park my car like that? That's crazy. Yeah, the indre cars stuck there all day because you can't move him. That's true.

01:42:36
Speaker 4: If you get good videos, parents at home, police tag us because we would love to be a part of it. Because the best one I've seen is the kids will get drawn on and the elf will be sitting there with a sharpie and the parents are.

01:42:45
Speaker 2: Like, who why'd you guys draw on your face?

01:42:47
Speaker 4: And the kids like what and goes to the bathroom and they got glasses and like a mustache, and the elf did it with a marker and the parents, Oh, dude, if you do it at home, please tag us.

01:42:56
Speaker 2: I'd love to reshare that. That'd be fun. Is the one with the irons scroll? I can't you this speaking of kitchen? So basically, the elf is just the authority. Yes, yeah, it's a tool. Wait why is the elf calling the shots? And not really?

01:43:09
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no, I'm not I'm just trying to learn this game. So you just have the elf sitting so random.

01:43:16
Speaker 4: I'm gonna tell Santa if you mess up. But the kid can't touch it because then it breaks the whole allure of the elf being a real thing in your house. But parents do it in a way where it's like there was one we got tagged in. It was like a bathtub and there was dirt in it and they did an elf and a shove monster jam and it was all these monster trucks and it was like, oh, look, the elf when you were asleep had a monster truck jam. And it's just cute and fun. But it's for the kids to believe that Santa's watching them all the time so they'd be good. So some sick of parent was like, I don't want my kid fucking around anymore.

01:43:45
Speaker 2: Elf.

01:43:45
Speaker 3: I saw a seaman team sixer with a got a kitchen aid and they put a Barbie doll on the kitchen aid and turned it on slow so it was spinning, and Elf on the shelf was sitting there with some dollar bills in his hands. I was like, what are we doing out on the shelf. It's gone full of il. He's gone full of ill. But it's crazy when people.

01:44:12
Speaker 7: Do so.

01:44:14
Speaker 1: I could have the elf just sitting on rouge dresser. It wakes up in the morning and I could have the elf just sitting there with a knife.

01:44:26
Speaker 2: Yea.

01:44:26
Speaker 1: It wakes up and sees herself and now I'm just next to ru and I'm like, he saw you didn't eat your dinner last night.

01:44:32
Speaker 2: I don't think it's a little extreme. That's hard core. That's a horror movie. You don't have to do it like that. But wait, you could, but you god.

01:44:49
Speaker 3: She just wakes up and goes to the bathroom brush her teeth. He's sitting there with winer fluid in one. Honey, Oh my god, I.

01:45:04
Speaker 1: Get a helf on a shelf. You put a little fifty one jersey on it. That's that's Willy one elf right there. Oh honey, he must have seen you asked me to hey, come look at this a bunch of times. He must not like that. He might he must want me to be able to watch the b dinny dock. I think he wants me to watch the dock.

01:45:23
Speaker 2: Honey.

01:45:24
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm thinking about the Willy one elf. Now, it could be good, just always standing over the elf.

01:45:32
Speaker 2: Take you helf on a shelf. It's just willy one elf standing over it, Willy wan elf on a shelf. Hey, next year could go crazy with willy one elf on a shelf.

01:45:42
Speaker 3: That could go crazy. I would buy one. Wedding pop Quizzes is our second call.

01:45:53
Speaker 6: Sure, will Brook's here from Mississippi. Carle in Dallas See in team sixer right here, and I love it. Getting married in May. Pumped for that. The fiance told me expectations didn't have She wanted to do the planning. I don't have to worry about it. I get some stuff here and there. You know what colored flowers do you like do you like this linen tablecloth? Opinions are all wrong? Yeah, just shake it off, keep going. But you know, getting close to the time, getting around family and friends, everyone's asking how the planning is here. I am just standing there, you know, just noding talking here. It comes out of left field. Quizzes hop pop quizz is talking about where is it at? What's our band name? What's all this this and that? Hey, I know it's in Mississippi. I know it's in May, May sixteenth, Yes, sir, that's pretty much it. Everyone laughing. I'm the I'm the butt of the joke.

01:47:05
Speaker 2: Oh Brooks, I just got to sit there, shake my head.

01:47:09
Speaker 6: Hey, sorry about that. Shure him as you know, winger dog. Here's something that.

01:47:15
Speaker 2: Goes crazy, man, Sir Brooks, shake my head.

01:47:18
Speaker 6: They're laughing at me. This is a different type.

01:47:21
Speaker 8: But good.

01:47:22
Speaker 6: This is what's going to be like from now on. But the joke. But hey, we're gonna keep going. Love y'all, boys, keep moving seeing a team six.

01:47:33
Speaker 2: Out Brooks to quote last week, welcome to the fucking show. Brother Brooks is on his way to becoming a Bill Compton.

01:47:44
Speaker 1: The dad that you just you laugh at, you laugh with we'll get Brooks over there. Look at him.

01:47:54
Speaker 2: He don't know what he don't know how to unlock this door.

01:47:57
Speaker 3: But I'll tell you where Brooks will be on May sixteenth. He'll be in his being one suit, standing right where he needs to stand in order to say I do.

01:48:07
Speaker 2: And do the ring.

01:48:08
Speaker 3: He'll he knows all the main things that he needs to hit everything else.

01:48:15
Speaker 1: You know, people are hitt him with you write your own vowels, and he's like, what are you talking about? We gotta ride our own I thought you just didn't sickness and in health Like, yeah, those are vowels you can say, but are you guys?

01:48:26
Speaker 2: Do you not? When are you doing the wedding dress reveal? Wait?

01:48:29
Speaker 3: What are you like when she walks out for the ceremony? You talking about that?

01:48:35
Speaker 2: Dudes? Do the diaper party?

01:48:38
Speaker 5: Oh?

01:48:38
Speaker 2: Yeah, like a batchelor party?

01:48:39
Speaker 1: No, no, no, diaper like don't don't guys do? Yeah, like a diaper party? Oh for when you're having a baby. Yeah, oh yeah, that's when you're having this.

01:48:46
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, gonna we go. Yeah, you're talking about the wedding shower.

01:48:55
Speaker 6: I believe.

01:48:57
Speaker 2: We have any Make.

01:49:01
Speaker 3: Sure y'all bring the the newboyn diapers too. When you come to the diaper party, it's right after the bachelor party.

01:49:09
Speaker 2: They got sizes on these diapers.

01:49:17
Speaker 3: We're gonna be a shady Oaks country clud t times at this time, y'all be there for the bachelor party. I don't know what the bachelor party gifts are. Apparently I gotta get my bachelor some gifts. But I thought my company was enough.

01:49:30
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, groom the groomsman gifts. Oh yeah, Shakia battle Shaki. Yeah, get some good groomsman gifts.

01:49:36
Speaker 2: Brooks.

01:49:37
Speaker 3: I did, uh some cool buffalo hide leather wallets with like guys, real nice and easy price tag wise, it leans more to the expensive, but it wasn't like terrible.

01:49:50
Speaker 1: I got the boys this uh like whiskey smoker. Oh that's nice for like old fashions.

01:49:56
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's sick. I think Nick is probably the only one who used it. Nick would hit me ou it.

01:50:01
Speaker 1: I just smoked this bourbon bro Nick.

01:50:05
Speaker 3: I really want to meet Nick in person. We can talk about that man off the pod, but I really want to hang out with Nick. God, that's no surprise to me, no surprise.

01:50:16
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, he's the man. He's a purist you get him a gift. He was like diving into all things whiskey. Yea, all things whiskey. I'm trying to think what else, dude. Yeah, there's gonna be so many little things. Hey, if you want to sound smart, dude, just find out like the little things about your uh, your wedding. I would even kind of push for like one big thing of like it's gonna be the guy's thing for us. Jill's mom was like, hey, what if we had a cigar cutter there that was like rolling cigars, Yeah, and cigars.

01:50:47
Speaker 2: I said, absolutely, we should do that.

01:50:49
Speaker 3: So then I like leaned really heavy into that, and I would talk about that when people would bring up the wedding, so I didn't have to answer a lot of questions because I'd be like, Hey, we're gonna have a cigar a cigar cutter there.

01:50:59
Speaker 2: It's gonna be kind of nice.

01:51:01
Speaker 3: And then nobody's really worried about anything else because you just told them the most exciting part of your wedding.

01:51:06
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you won't be involved in a whole lot no, and which is okay.

01:51:11
Speaker 2: All I cared about is we got a couple of apps that I wanted. I wanted.

01:51:14
Speaker 1: I don't even know if we got toasted ravioly, but I was like, I want either toasted Raveolar or Rocky Mountain oysters.

01:51:19
Speaker 2: Get rid a rocky voice. That's right.

01:51:23
Speaker 1: The bull testicles, Yeah, man, they're tasty. Yes, very very we got We got emails here again. If you are international and can, I don't, or you'd rather just write in instead of leave a voicemail six on one of the dad's at gmail dot com and here we go. We got one here from Luke Jones. Shout out Luke and men. After four months of BUDS training, I am now standing by for orders to PET six in June. Good Wifey has been in the trenches with morning sickness.

01:51:53
Speaker 2: Not so good but also good.

01:51:55
Speaker 1: We've tried all traditional approaches, nausea bands, cold raps, brought diet, preggie props, preggie pops. Doesn't help that the military has us living twenty six hours from home, so family support is tough. I fly for a living, so the wife is home alone a lot. She's gonna be one tough Empty six member. We're looking for any intel on things that helped your spouses or things from fellow PT six members. We don't care how weird they are, we will try it. Much love to the boys in the studio. Started listening to the show a couple months ago, and your boy is caught up ps Oli pop. Chris Bapple is the fucking shit Sorry for cussing, and the dark Wolf before terminalists. Recommendation is elite, very respectfully. Luke from North Carolina, Florida, LA, now North Dakota.

01:52:47
Speaker 2: Luke hopping around, hopping around the morning sickness. I don't have I don't have anything.

01:52:56
Speaker 1: I feel like Charle got it for a little bit, but not not too badly. And I could listen, I could be messing that whole thing up. She could be sitting there right now like bullshit, dude, I was You just weren't any help.

01:53:07
Speaker 2: Pregnancy pops are real thing.

01:53:09
Speaker 3: Jill didn't have it too terribly, but she did have some morning sickness. Pregnancy pops are great. But the thing that really helped her. They sell them at Walmart, Target, any any grocery store. It's like these little candies and you can find them in the like pharmacy aisle. But it's like these little pregnancy morning sickness candies that are almost like a Jolly Rancher and those really helped. Jill should throw two of those in at a time, and they taste like candy. Those were the trick, Luke, and that's just for Jill. I don't know if that's gonna solve your empty sixers issues, but hang in there and your empty sixers sounds like an absolute.

01:53:49
Speaker 1: Yeah, we need we need Beat six to sound off in the comments to help our boy.

01:53:52
Speaker 3: Yeah, pepper boy, Luke, that would be huge. I have a comment before the emails that I forgot to read this one up for empty six or boys. I cannot tell you how much I love this podcast. My husband Trevor put me on while I was pregnant with our first child back over the summer, and I was hooked. I love y'all's dynamic and banter. We now have a three and a half month old little boy named Cooper. Coop Cooper shout out Coop, and listening to the pod is a part of my daily routine. I stamp late to pump and listen for thirty minutes at night while I make bottles, clean the kitchen, and mentally prepare for the next day. Keep doing what you're doing.

01:54:30
Speaker 2: Much love for milk Team six. Thanks you go. That came from Sarah Klegan. Shout out, Sarah, Dude, Empty six is showing out, man. They really are they like actually really are.

01:54:40
Speaker 3: It's it's awesome to see. I meant to read that one earlier because that was a really cool one.

01:54:45
Speaker 1: Yeah, I got another one hear from an Empty six er Katie witt Will and surem. I just want to send a quick message for hubby and I maybe we get a shout out on the pod. My husband is currently Seemen Team six and Rounds are literally getting shot this Podcus is both hyped for the next chapter hopefully soon. We've already been using embraced the suck and good in our house and we are fully bought in with team. Just wanted to give you both a huge shout out. You guys truly rock and your podcast means more than you know. Thank you for everything you put out there. Keep doing what you're doing, Andrew and Katie Andrew Katie shout out especially Katie right now from an MPT sixer from the Empty six squad.

01:55:27
Speaker 3: Absolute sick of Katie Andrew enjoy shockwave brother, y'all, Just keep on keep on shoe.

01:55:33
Speaker 2: Yeah, look, keep on shooting, bro. You are as the man. You get drained, you know what I mean.

01:55:41
Speaker 1: Make sure you're eating a lot of stuff and make sure you stay hydrated. Man, make sure you drink a lot of water, eat a lot of chicken and steak.

01:55:48
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:55:49
Speaker 1: And when the women are on, they're'll wake me up and about let you know they honey is time.

01:55:56
Speaker 2: Yeah, get your six flag, get your flash bat. We go rah go ra des shock wave two loops on it, two loops.

01:56:06
Speaker 3: This one comes from Aaron swandle Hey Boys new listener as of last month, but party pt six for four and a half years. We've got a four and a half year old girl and almost two year old boy. Just wanted to share a little reminder that we're all out here embracing the suck together. Today was dot dot dot A lot started with the morning meeting before daycare drop off whatever, normal chaos, but the real storm came later. My wife and I only have one car, so I pick her up from work, then we get the kids from daycare like usual. Side note, we also have an eight year old dog, and because we apparently hate peace, we added a three month old puppy two weeks ago.

01:56:46
Speaker 2: Aaron. We get home at four pm.

01:56:49
Speaker 3: My wife has to leave at four fifteen to get our daughter to dance. We let the dogs out in they're buzzing. I'm unloading the kids lunchboxes and one is completely destroyed.

01:56:59
Speaker 2: Good.

01:56:59
Speaker 3: I'm trying to order a new one on my phone while my wife is changing our son's massive diaper situation. This guy's in the trenchets. My daughter's dancing around me, singing, clinging to my arm while I'm trying to buy this lunchbox. My wife comes out hands me the dirty diaper. I toss it in the trash and immediately notice it kind of splattered.

01:57:21
Speaker 2: Interesting.

01:57:22
Speaker 3: I look up and the puppy is licking something off the hardwood. It is, in fact the shit. Then I see it on the rug.

01:57:29
Speaker 2: Good. Then I look at the puppy again, also shit all over. Good.

01:57:34
Speaker 3: I run her up stairs for a fast bath before my wife has to leave. From downstairs, I hear the other dog has shit on them too. Honey, good, send them up. I bathe them. Both dogs, look down and realize I have shit on my pants.

01:57:48
Speaker 2: Good. It's now four point fifteen.

01:57:50
Speaker 3: I come downstairs with the dogs and my wife is washing our daughter's hair in the kitchen sink, because yes, she also had shit in her hair.

01:57:58
Speaker 2: Good. Only thing that got.

01:58:00
Speaker 3: Me through was your show, especially Shirm's story about the dog locked in the nursery. I felt so seen anyway, appreciate what you guys do. You seriously make me feel less alone in this dad journey.

01:58:12
Speaker 2: Much love.

01:58:13
Speaker 1: I love the storytelling too. Nothing gets me going great these people send it in. Their stories are good.

01:58:19
Speaker 3: Yeah, I got one more. I'll go speed to her on it uh via email, KiB says what's up? Will and Shurm and the boys Pt. Six are here to an awesome nine year old steps On and a two year old boy who I can only assume has CTE from his wild stunts. Just wanted to say what you guys have done. Creating this community of support honestly and showing the fun and less than ideal moments of fatherhood has helped me more than.

01:58:45
Speaker 2: You can ever imagine.

01:58:47
Speaker 3: Every week I look forward to listening in and getting a break from reality with a laugh and some dad advice. Me and my amazing wife decided it was time to head back to buds and have one last kid. We found out out in mid November that she was pregnant, and last week have the first ultrasound. Let's boys, I feel like I have been dropped into a war zone. As the radiology tech gave us the news that my wife is pregnant with twins. The only reaction I could get out was just laughter. That turned into thousand yard stare as I realized we are not prepared for twins at all. Now I need a little advice in parentheses, probably a lot of advice, but we'll stick with just one. I think I'm most worried about me and my wife. You being caught up in everyday chaos that comes with four kids and three of them being under the age of three. How do you guys manage to make time for each other and prioritize date nights or just one on one time in the chaos? Any tips or things you guys do to keep the flame alive while in the trenches of newborn and toddler phases. Much love for what you guys have created in the community that you've grown. Gonna keep this one anonymous as we he won't be announcing until sometime January, so let's just make a note that blank that last email wants to remain anonymous. Yeah, oh, twins twins, I said while I was reading the email too.

02:00:18
Speaker 2: If I got the.

02:00:19
Speaker 1: News of twins, fear would just take over my body. I don't see how parents twins do it. Like Roan from Barstow.

02:00:27
Speaker 3: I was about to say, you know, who is somebody that I really want to have a conversation with and talk with is Round Dude.

02:00:33
Speaker 1: We should get Roan on that acause Anytime Great was their first shot out. It was twins. All he knows is twins. So that's basically what he says, is like, I don't know what I don't know, Like my first experience is twins, so I don't know any other life.

02:00:47
Speaker 2: Like yeah, it seems difficult and hard, but.

02:00:49
Speaker 1: I'm just thinking, dude, no one like again, you have Scotty five months like imagine twins.

02:00:54
Speaker 2: Bro.

02:00:55
Speaker 3: It was great look into what Ron is going through with twins.

02:01:00
Speaker 2: At the Super Bowl.

02:01:01
Speaker 3: We have the pleasure of having dinner with him in New Orleans and that was super Yeah. And while we're sitting there, I happen to be sitting next to him during the meal and Will says, hey, both of you all are having kids.

02:01:14
Speaker 2: Blah, blah.

02:01:15
Speaker 3: Well that just hits it off. We start talking about all the shit we're going through and we're laughing. We're talking about, oh, why I'm doing this, I'm dealing with this blah blah blah, and at the end of it with perfect comedic time, comedic time, and he just goes Srman, think about everything that you just said though, and multiply that by two.

02:01:32
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, oh shit.

02:01:36
Speaker 1: I could not imagine dude, the double well, not like the double bedtimes, but like say you get one down and the others still awake, you know what I mean, Like you finally get one down and you're.

02:01:44
Speaker 2: Just like, you're gonna wake up your brother, You're gonna wake up your sister.

02:01:47
Speaker 3: Yes, I was thinking about those solo saturdays I do.

02:01:51
Speaker 2: Jill and I were laughing.

02:01:52
Speaker 3: I was like, could you even imagine me with twins on one of those solo saturdays, Like one you.

02:01:58
Speaker 1: Know, no one's sleeping, well, the other one's not. But the other one that's not is always waking up the one who you are assuming is sleeping well. Yes, Oh man, God bless you bro, God good luck out there.

02:02:12
Speaker 2: Luck out.

02:02:13
Speaker 3: I don't have any advice for Jacob other than recruit an army.

02:02:17
Speaker 1: Dude, recruit an army, get the get the in laws. Yeah, he takes a village the twins. When I get three hunder.

02:02:26
Speaker 3: Three, dude, he's a sick Oh, he's gone through it. He knows what he's doing. But twins is gonna take an army. Yeah, you got call in. I'm calling the goon berets by God, like, I'll take any Hell, if you can hold a baby, you're a part of the army, come join.

02:02:42
Speaker 2: This is one where you're having them conversations with God. You know what I mean.

02:02:46
Speaker 1: Because he's got the steps on, he's got the one that's how old two or three two?

02:02:51
Speaker 2: It's two years old.

02:02:52
Speaker 1: So he understands the suck of like raising, like embracing the suck of raising that first. Yeah, getting through sleep training, whatever it is, getting them to sleep through the night, the tantrums. He's in the thick of it right now with two year olds and their tantrums.

02:03:05
Speaker 3: That nine year old step son is about to become his best friend.

02:03:09
Speaker 1: Yeah, he knows the world of one of raising one. Now he's sitting there thinking, how in the fuck am I going to do it with two.

02:03:17
Speaker 3: Nine year old step son is a part of the army. Now, yeah, you just looking welcome to the ranks.

02:03:22
Speaker 2: Brother, Why did you have to do this to me? Hey, you're pretty funny. I'll give you that here, you're a funny dude. But yeah, that he was.

02:03:33
Speaker 1: Asking though, prioritizing the relationship, prioritizing wife, which we do talk about that often. Erry, It's it's truly just it's just intentional prioritizing with the wife. Because your relationship with your wife, as far as that fun flare all of that stuff where it's it's you two against the world. That is like that priority basically falls down to the bottom because you're both in You're both in your brain sacrificing everything for everything else to function. You to be work, whether the kids, whether it be I'm worn out on this, like you're all prioritizing each other while you're trying to handle your own business. That we always forget to prioritize the relationship, the marriage.

02:04:12
Speaker 3: And speaking on this is the perfect episode because you had brought up traditions. I really really like I have to set a tradition of a date night with Jill, and I really want to make that happen whereas in the books, this is date night.

02:04:29
Speaker 2: We we have date night.

02:04:31
Speaker 3: You if you don't do it and don't set it on a schedule and make it a priority. As Willie one chef says, it ain't gonna happen.

02:04:38
Speaker 2: It ain't gonna happen.

02:04:39
Speaker 3: And by god, we have to do it. And I think that's probably the move for anybody, including myself.

02:04:46
Speaker 2: You have to you have to do hearing you.

02:04:49
Speaker 1: Talk and it's like my boy who is earlier in the episode, is it ah, what was his name?

02:04:55
Speaker 2: I'm blinkoln on his name. He's not doing well. Yeah, yes, Like you just have to.

02:05:02
Speaker 1: Take yourself by the throat, put yourself against the wall and talking to you sherm and you just say yes, wake.

02:05:08
Speaker 2: The fuck up and do it.

02:05:09
Speaker 1: It's like Tony Robbinson this quote that I would, uh, will I will always think about where it's like you got to turn your shoulds in the must like you just you gotta stop saying we need.

02:05:17
Speaker 2: To do this, we should do this, blah blah blah.

02:05:19
Speaker 1: Just you've got to do it. You've got to prioritize and be intentional or it'll never happen. And it takes both of you to prioritize it because calendars, schedules, kids, work, everything, life goes fast and next thing, you know, like I'm sitting here at the end of the year right now.

02:05:33
Speaker 2: Like, man, I do shit for my New Year's resolutions.

02:05:36
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't wait to reset the clock and say all the things I'm going to do next year. And now I'm in my head thinking I'll be letting myself down again next year. And it's like that conversation right there is where I got to proverbiably perverbably proverbially right there is, right, just got to grab myself by the throat, bro it just will stop fucking talking to yourself, like the stop already planning for the failure that you're just basically putting a quarter in the machine and you're gonna do it again. No, it's got to end. You gotta be sick and tired of being sick and tired about it. Yeah, but yeah, that's I digress.

02:06:14
Speaker 2: I'm you got a lesson.

02:06:16
Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you. It's ten thirty six right now, I'm starting to get sleepy. I'm starting to get sleepy. We got a big Monday tomorrow, same we gotta get ripping. I actually have a This is one from an Instagram that I follow called the Stoics. So this isn't parentid this is this is just to me, something I have bookmark that I feel like plays into a few of the themes we've been talking about tonight. Okay, so the Stoics on Instagram, you create the majority of your misery. Your opinion takes harmless moments and poisons them with fear, insulting, catastrophe. Nothing out there is destroying you. Your own opinion is. You become the enemy inside your own mind, and you feel every blow you delivered to yourself. So just a simple quote from the Stoics with two c's if you want to follow that on Instagram.

02:07:03
Speaker 3: Strong internal dialogue, give a strong internal dialogue.

02:07:08
Speaker 2: It's all internal dialogue.

02:07:10
Speaker 3: Sure, it's all internal dialogue. This one is based around the four hundred meter dash.

02:07:19
Speaker 2: I ran the four hundred meter dash in high school.

02:07:22
Speaker 3: I have a lot of love for track, and I thought it'd be fun to compare the strategy of a four hundred meter dash with fatherhood.

02:07:31
Speaker 2: Okay, with parenting. I'll keep it quick. Some game, give us some game.

02:07:36
Speaker 3: The so recently passed away legendary coach Clyde Hart.

02:07:41
Speaker 2: He coached at Baylor.

02:07:43
Speaker 3: He coached Michael Johnson, Jeremy Warner, Lashawn Merritt, and most decorated track athlete in US history, Alison Felix. Those are basically the four biggest names in the four hundred meter. No guy knows what he's talking about, Coach Hart said, the four hundred isn't about how fast you can run, It's about how slow you can slow down.

02:08:11
Speaker 2: We'll break it down for you.

02:08:13
Speaker 3: The strategy of a four hundred meter is from the zero to the fifty meter mark. You want to have a fast, powerful start, but not go all out sprint to start. How does that work with fatherhood? That's waking up on purpose, not in the panic, getting the kids moving while staying calm, cool and collected, being present, eye contact, jokes, hugs at the door. You are setting the tone for the day, not trying to win the entire day in that moment, but setting the tone for it. Fifty meters to two hundred meter mark, this is the most important phase of the race. This is where you have to run hard and stay loose. Upright, posture, smooth arms, controlled breathing. You should feel fast without forcing it. For fatherhood, that's low walking in at work, being productive, reliable, focused, no unnecessary stress carried from home, having that strong internal dialogue, staying poised in the moment. You're running hard, but you're in control. Two hundred to three hundred meters, that's when you attack the curve and I fucking love did you run track?

02:09:20
Speaker 2: Yeah?

02:09:20
Speaker 1: High school, in middle school, I did my here but not ah not a.

02:09:27
Speaker 2: Lover of track like yourself.

02:09:29
Speaker 1: Yes, my favorite part of the four hundred meter race is attacking the curve.

02:09:34
Speaker 2: Let's attack the fuck.

02:09:35
Speaker 3: It's the two hundred and three hundred mark where you are starting to feel tired. Yeah, it's starting to hit, but you have this curve in this natural inertia that you can lean into and use that pain with the momentum that you already have going into the turn. The race starts to bite at this moment. Focus on maintaining mechanics and not speeding up. How does that apply to fatherhood? Mental shift? You're years before you pick up the kids or before you get home. Take that extra breath in the car, get in the right mindset. If you are not currently in the right mindset, check yourself a little bit, put the phone away. Remember your kids don't need exhausted you. They need present you. They need you to show up three hundred to four hundred meters. That's when you finish strong. That's when you make sure you're still kicking, picking up your knees, and have a good evening at home. If we're going to apply it to fatherhood, asking your kids about their day, asking your wife about their day, being patient even.

02:10:35
Speaker 2: When you're drained.

02:10:36
Speaker 3: Help lead backtime dishes, bedtime, homework, dinner, any of those routines. No quitting mentally just because you're home. And I applied his quote from earlier. It was the four hundred isn't about how fast you can run, it's about how slow you can slow down. And in dad terms, the best dads aren't the loudest or the flashiest, high octane twenty four to seven.

02:11:02
Speaker 2: They're the ones who slow down the least when it gets hard. Well done. That was really good. Thank you, great analogy. Thank you.

02:11:11
Speaker 3: The old proverbial four hundred meter perverbial, as we say in Dodgeball and The Underdog Story, the proverbial pumpkin.

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