The One About I'm Not Happy & I'm Not Paying For It

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Speaker 1: Guys, we're recording on a Friday, and you know what that means.

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Speaker 2: It's Friday, Friday.

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Speaker 3: Down on Friday.

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Speaker 1: Everybody's looking forward to the weekend.

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Speaker 4: Fun part.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we got close, get close?

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Speaker 2: Is it party and party and yeah? Or party and party and fun? Fun fun?

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Speaker 1: Remember she just repeated and she had like a grill full of braces. Fun fun, fun fun.

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Speaker 3: She's like an amazing singer and performer. Now you guys know that, right, Rebecca Black.

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Speaker 1: Wow, I just learned something that she's a.

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Speaker 3: Bad bitch too.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 3: I saw her at that party.

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Speaker 6: You took me to a lot at Tom Tom last year, the one for Euphoria.

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Speaker 1: Rebecca Black was parting.

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Speaker 6: She was there and she I was like, who was that hot chick? And it was Rebecca Black, Rebecca.

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Speaker 1: The front door. Yeah, you know she is pretty fine.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 6: No, she's like with her big dough eyes's.

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Speaker 1: And she's kidding. Jessica, you're on a roll today. She may not have had braces. I think I made that up in the Friday music video. Today's a very special day. It's one that really Lisa Burningham, my mother, you were harder to get in touch with it.

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Speaker 4: Than the president, Well, I feel very welcome today.

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Speaker 3: You're hard to book the fact that your hair is incredible.

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Speaker 4: I know it's kind of a fluke because after yesterday, I don't know.

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Speaker 5: That she thought she was going to go back to Utah.

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Speaker 1: We had a very rough day.

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Speaker 3: Can we hear about it?

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Speaker 1: We were at each other's throats. It caught a little dark, very dark, very dark me sobbing on the couch, us kind of verbally using one another.

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Speaker 4: It's fine, it's ocean picking sides.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't mine, it was not mine. No, she was very upset. For when I say very upset, she was just going, Gigi, is it's okay? Then she wants to sleep in my bed and I'm like, okay, you can sleep in my bed. And I asked her, I go, do love me? And she goes no, and I go, you don't love me? And she goes no, I don't. I go, you don't love your mom? And she goes, mom, I don't love you. I love Gigi. And I go, that goes through and she didn't even care. She just goes I get it, grabs her, grabs her stuffed elephant, walks down the stairs.

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Speaker 4: Did she have perie too?

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Speaker 1: She had Perier and the other and I knew this would happen. She goes into Giju's room and as time passes, I hear the G. I hear the G show it's time for ben. I'm done. I'm done, lay down and she's like, I'm not pay and she's like, you've had one, You're done. I hear the little pitter patter come up the stairs, stuffed animal harrier. Nice sleep with your mom? I go, that depends. Do you love me? She goes, of course I do.

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Speaker 4: She's so sweet.

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Speaker 7: You guys know, she was so cute to me, Like she grabbed my face and said it's gonna be okay.

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Speaker 4: She was the cutest, sweetest thing.

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Speaker 2: And why was she doing that to you?

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Speaker 7: Because we'd had a rough, rough day. I kind of backed into Bradley.

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Speaker 1: The let's talk about it. Let's talk about it first and foremost. I had a melt down because I can't live a normal life. Okay, let's not get offended. I don't need to repeat it yesterday, but now you're here to rebuttals. Keep it light. So there's this box that I've been placed in, right, And what happens in the box is I get to work my ass off, and I get to be a mom.

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Speaker 4: And then I get to stay in the box.

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Speaker 1: I get to stay in the box. What happens in the boxes three things. Hang out with your mom, be a mom, and work your ass off. Right, Okay, nothing outside, Oh I'm sorry. I do get to socialize. So thank god the people I work with are cool because they're the only people I socialize with. Right, Okay, So I'm talking about somebody that I'd like to go and hang out with, and of course it's a big to do. Okay, it was a big to do with the Dawn, it was a big to do with any man I've come in contact with. With Twinkle Toes, it's been a to do because no one trusts my judgment fair enough, but they also don't trust because of your track record. Because of my track record, we're extremely scarred.

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Speaker 4: Guard damaged, name it.

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Speaker 1: And it's all about like we don't know their motive, we don't know their intention. First thing, Lisa asks, did his background check come back yet? I was like, well, I have plans with him very soon, and it takes two weeks minimum to get a worldwide background check back, right, And so it just turned into an explosion. That's where it started. Okay, now we know I need people to be a little bit more delicate with me, you know, make me feel because it is very intense, right, Dealing with my situation is intense. So I get where my mom's coming from. But like, let's try to be delicate and realize that, like my life don't consist of much Like I'm little tired of working my ass off, and I love you, Mom, but like i'd like to see someone other than you, Jessica, and I would. I love you guys.

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Speaker 6: I feel like we love her, you too, Desert, But I feel two ways about this.

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Speaker 3: What were you gonna say, Easton?

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Speaker 2: No, I was just gonna say, but your pickers sucks. Amen, Okay, we just got your back, baby.

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Speaker 6: I do feel like number one so thankful for you too, because obviously, like Lala was telling me this yesterday and I was like, they that's a mom and a brother, Like they're looking out for your best interest.

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Speaker 3: You need that.

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Speaker 6: Number two though, I do feel like your picker has probably improved at the very least, and it's like for me looking on, it's taking out the fun. Like I feel like you get so you'll get so stressed over it, and then you're like, fuck it, I'm not gonna hang out with anyone, and then that makes me sad.

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Speaker 1: But that does happen, yeah, because it's like there's no middle ground. It's like I I can't and I share everything with my family, so it's like, hey, I'm busy Friday. Busy Friday with doing what? And it's like it is a short circuit, like what do you mean busy? And then I have to tell them and then it opens a whole can of worms of like did you background check him? What are his intentions? Have you asked him this? And I'm like, I'm just trying to get some tries.

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Speaker 5: With that you have said, but you have told mother and I and just that everyone you date you will background check?

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Speaker 3: Does this cry but for the first date though, it's a.

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Speaker 2: Better power this one.

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Speaker 1: No? No, no. But I think this stage in life, I'm not but you guys have not men that I have consistently hung out with where I'm like, oh, this is fun. I think I could picture bringing him around my family. They're always background checked. But to think of this stage in my life where it's like, you're not going to be meeting my family. You're not going to be dating me, So why would I spend thousands of dollars background checking you at this stage in the game when my life you there's no place for you, Like I'm literally just looking for you to occupy a tiny piece of my time so that I can look back on my week and think I did something other than be a mom, kick it with my mom and work my ass off.

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Speaker 4: But when do we come to the consensus of it.

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Speaker 1: You're that you are going to be protective of me, but be more delicate in your delivery of trying to protect me, because it because I need that. I need someone to be sensitive with the fact that being me in my personal life is just intense.

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Speaker 3: Very story.

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Speaker 2: We care so much about it.

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Speaker 6: I have a quick, quick, quick question on this, and then we can if Lasca, if law were to go out with girlfriends and go to a bar and she meets this hot guy so hot, and then brings him not back to the house, but they go, let's say, to a local hotel room and make out, not have sex, and then I'm.

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Speaker 3: Just trying to I'm trying to think he makes the middle.

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Speaker 6: So and then she's the best that he he goes, okay, it was great seeing you and she comes home.

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Speaker 3: Would you be happy for her? Would you be like that was insane?

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Speaker 1: You better not fucking lie. Don't fucking lie, Lisa.

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Speaker 4: But I would be happy for you.

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Speaker 1: You would ask me, where'd you meet him? What does he do? I would run back down.

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Speaker 7: And I would because of our conversation that we had yesterday.

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Speaker 5: But before yesterday, Lisa, you're protected by these She can't climb the desk the.

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Speaker 1: Moment. If yesterday wouldn't have happened where we had a breakthrough moment, I love you, mom, she would not have been happy. She would have gone through the logistics and all of the things of we got to run the background check. You cannot see him until we know that he's never been married or isn't married, like what's his financial status as.

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Speaker 4: Because people tend to lie.

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Speaker 1: So I'm scarred and I don't blame you. I don't blame you at all.

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Speaker 7: But let's what I would like, and let's recap what else happened yesterday.

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Speaker 1: That was okay, just very quickly. The only thing is I love my mom protecting me. I love protecting me. But when they enter a conversation with me. It would be nice to be treated like, oh, she's thirty three years old, very self sufficient and a mom. So let's approach the conversation as such and not like I'm dealing with a sixteen year old who just snuck out of the house and I found a use condom in a car.

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Speaker 2: That's how we feel, right.

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Speaker 1: So then, so that happened.

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Speaker 2: No one gets to touch. That happens. You virgins for the rest of your life.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, pretty much, we are born.

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Speaker 7: Do you remember back in the day, I would always say, nope, not dating, you're not doing anything, You're.

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Speaker 1: Not about you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Well now I'm like, maybe we get hur laid. Start cop blocking me, fucking cock blocking me.

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Speaker 7: No, that's what I lived through for five years.

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Speaker 1: At this point, I'm like, bring him to the house.

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Speaker 2: I don't care. Take your focus off me, Come hang out with me.

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Speaker 5: Lisa, I am to you, you have a hot date someday.

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Speaker 1: Well, it's not a date to lose everybody, it's not a date. Yeah, easton out on the streets, just fucking up, just fucking no. Okay. So then we have this explosive argument and Lisa goes, I'm not talking about this anymore. I'm taking the boxes back to spectrums so we don't get charged. And I'm like, great, fabulous. I'm talking to Bradley. He's doing my hair for VPR interviews. Hold on, where's the camera? Lisa comes in. I hear the door open and slams, and Lisa comes in like this Bradley, and I was like, what's wrong? I backed into your car? I backed into your car? Well, I know that you don't have your car because it's at Easton's, so that means you also backed my car into Bradley Like how bad?

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Speaker 3: How bad?

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Speaker 4: How bad? Well? Marching out, I was pitched.

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Speaker 1: She's already tried to stop slock me and now she's wrecking my car.

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Speaker 2: And she immediately calls me. I'm in Palm.

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Speaker 1: Springs because I needed someone to call me, so I called east and I go, mom, just backed my car into Bradley's car, and Easton immediately goes, okay, she's sixty three. I remember that. And I was like, she talked about the beeper not going off, and I was like, who just relies on the freaking beeper? Like you just like hall ass with I'll just focus on the beaber. Since calming me down.

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Speaker 7: No, I had I been Holly asked, it would have taken this car out. It was barely tapped, but it did dent his fender and it broke your tail light.

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Speaker 1: And I walk out and I'm like this with my hair all fucked up, and I'm on with East and I go, I'm not happy.

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Speaker 2: And she goes, I'm not paying for it, and.

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Speaker 4: I go, no, ship, sure.

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Speaker 1: That what you said?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Do you feel so bold when you say that.

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Speaker 3: You are bold?

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Speaker 6: It's I was so nice that you guys can be in the studio laughing today.

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Speaker 3: What a great family was.

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Speaker 1: Laughing sobby in the fetal position. It was not pleasant at the house last night. You know what, I'm glad Ocean could see things come full circle right. There was resolution always and in the meantime, I always have the resolution.

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Speaker 7: We had East ends pibbles at our house along with Lily mm hmm. And through the turmoil. Obviously, Lauren's up in her room. I'm down in my room. I'm assuming she has the dog.

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Speaker 1: After I sent her, we were like, uh, we were having a lover's quarrel last night. I texted her because my mom told me she doesn't like me reprimanding her like she's a child. And so I was like, okay, whatever, I don't do that. Maybe I have a skewed perception of reality. I don't know. I can only see things from my perspective, right. So I'm up in my bedroom taking a load off, letting her cool down as well, and I send her a text that says I'm sorry, I'll do better, good night, And then she responds and I don't look at it because I'm watching the Uncomfortable the episode. And then she calls me and goes, do you have Nissi in your room? And I said no, and so and I'm like.

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Speaker 4: Are you kidding? Because I've searched the entire house for her.

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Speaker 1: At this point, I said fuck this whole day because it was like we could not catch a break. I'm like, now the dog's gone.

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Speaker 3: Oh where was ns?

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Speaker 1: We left her outside and it was.

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Speaker 4: So no But it was nine thirty at night.

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Speaker 1: It's not like it was late. We go to bed early. It was a little.

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Speaker 4: Cold for a short haired animal, but.

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Speaker 7: She wasn't even by the door trying to come in. She was laying out.

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Speaker 1: It was really cute and she loves.

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Speaker 7: The last home because she's obviously a rescue from Utah Humane She I think was an outdoor dog.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think so, and she kept escaping and they.

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Speaker 3: Just rescues her outdoor.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, forget it. Yeah, she is a purebred American Staffishire Terrier.

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Speaker 3: She said, stunning.

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Speaker 4: Oh she's the best dog.

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Speaker 3: Wait oh, I was like, wait he or she? I thought?

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Speaker 2: Was she?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 2: A pretty lady? He I don't get it, I said, she.

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Speaker 7: Lady was kept saying she's the sweetest dog in the whole world. So anyway, Whatson.

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Speaker 1: For a moment when we first wanted to adopt her because I had Pablo, and Pablo is the sexiest pipple you've ever seen, Like, I'm so sexy, And Easton was like, I want a dog that looks like Pablo. Well, Mom brought NISI home and she had these nipples. She told him to have him come down to the shelter and Easton could not get past the nipples.

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Speaker 2: So I look at this dog and I go her nipples are.

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Speaker 7: Well, you guys, First of all, I bring her out handshaking on the floor.

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Speaker 4: She won't even want remember, and then you noticed her nipples.

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Speaker 5: Well I noticed her, and I was like, I can't have that dog just chafing those nipples on our cards, So you fun.

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Speaker 2: I apologize.

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Speaker 3: I almost did it in for you.

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Speaker 5: But Lisa goes, come here, and she goes just sit in the corner. So I sat in the corner and she walked. At the time, her.

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Speaker 2: Name was Daisy.

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Speaker 5: She walked her and then let her go, and she sprinted to me and then just like curled up in my lap.

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Speaker 2: And then I didn't care about her nipples. You're coming home with me, baby.

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Speaker 1: He's the best cuddle bug.

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Speaker 4: In the almost ever.

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Speaker 5: She like will like I'm bleeding because when I'm cuddling her in bed, if I stop, she'll like scratch and sometimes she'll get my nose and she'll get a good one in there, and so I can't cuddle with her too much.

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Speaker 2: But oh, guys out, she's a cuddle buzz.

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Speaker 1: We changed her name from Daisy to Bernice.

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Speaker 3: Bernice. I was wondering where Nissi came from.

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Speaker 4: Bernie.

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Speaker 1: She looks like a Bernie.

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Speaker 2: I know Dylan Doherty named her.

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Speaker 1: I'm Lisa almost fell. She was clutching her pearls, being like, I cannot have.

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Speaker 2: A dog named Bernie. She was like, what did you hate Findley?

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Speaker 1: I'm like friendly.

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Speaker 3: Finley is on my baby name's list.

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Speaker 2: La.

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Speaker 1: No, that name is so cute. She doesn't look she doesn't look like she looks like a Bernice or a Margaret.

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Speaker 4: She's so cute.

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Speaker 7: And speaking of cute, they are the best watch dogs are They noted that right now.

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Speaker 4: They go toes.

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Speaker 1: They Oh yeah, did you guys leave this?

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Speaker 2: Go in like the front yard too.

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Speaker 7: I didn't because I'm afraid that they might escape from the automatic gate opening closing.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, that our neighbor because it got robbed.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god. We talked about this.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I don't know, did we Yeah, last week, didn't I think we talked about how I'm stacked with a yes, yes, but yeah, the neighbor got robbed. They did not have a DT and let me tell you.

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Speaker 4: What, and they don't have big pit bule.

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Speaker 1: Now they do have a d T.

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Speaker 4: And they got a little pitple.

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Speaker 1: Did they get a pit bull? They have a Oh, they did get a pit bull puppy. Pit bull puppies food, pit bull puppies.

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Speaker 3: Pit bull puppies are the cutest puppy.

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Speaker 1: By the way, I'm about to get two more because someone was like, with these three dogs, I think you're good, and I'm like, yeah, but I've heard that even if you have dogs, and they were like, I never say never. Okay, some people are ballsy and they just don't care and they know exactly what to do and how to break in and how to deal with the dogs. But I'm staying stacked, all right, Like, what does fifty cents say? I protect what I've got. I'm in my house with my blade.

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Speaker 3: That's right.

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Speaker 1: I wish a motherfucker would.

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Speaker 3: Wish a motherfucker would.

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Speaker 1: Let's talk about the fact that we live in a new area and Lisa and I found a new nail place. Thank you Jessica for the recommendation.

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Speaker 4: The best really.

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Speaker 3: To go there. Yeah, it's great, they're great.

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Speaker 1: Loved it, so, oh no. I get up to pay and there is this girl who's like sulking.

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Speaker 7: But she was doing that next to me for the last fifteen minutes to the nail tech.

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Speaker 1: Oh well, and what was she saying?

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Speaker 4: It's just not the color. It's in the color I chose and.

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Speaker 1: The nails were done right, Oh yeah, and she kept.

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Speaker 7: Saying about her birthday and you could take it from there. But I got to hear about it for fifteen minutes prior to you listening to it.

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Speaker 1: Oh das so apparently this girl, I don't know what she was doing. Usually they paint the nails. The first coat goes in. Second, after a couple of nails, you could go, you know, this doesn't look like the nail color. So first of all, your fault, your fault. And then she's like sulking to this woman still as we're trying to pay, and she's like, and these are my birthday nails. And I wanted to say, bitch, you're a grown ass woman. No one cares. You're not a birthday nails.

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Speaker 4: Why did she having a birthday shoot or something?

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Speaker 3: Oh god, her birthday shoot? Why didn't she? Did she not want to redo them? Did the lady not want to re what?

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Speaker 1: I just I don't have two hours to It's not going to take a two hours fix the mistake. I guess they were dip because I'll just call. I'll just call. She's like, we won't make you pain. She's like, it's not even about paying for them, it's that it's not the right color. And first of all, and then she's showing the nail color that she wanted. And I'm like, first of all, that's that nail color is ugly. The one you got is ugly, Like, no matter what, you got ugly nails, whether it was the right color or not.

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Speaker 6: And this brings me to nobody gives it we Lala and I talked about this yesterday. Nobody gives a fuck. Nobody gives a fuck about you. Does she really thinks she's going to show up to her birthday. At the worst case scenario, her friends are going to see her nails and go, oh, that's in their head, that's an ugly color and move on with their night.

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Speaker 3: Nobody gives a fuck.

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Speaker 4: I did talk about her nails twice. I wouldn't even care about what color.

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Speaker 3: Was it like a gray or brown?

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Speaker 1: No, it was blue. She wanted, like a metallic blue when these were just like blue nails, and she was going on and on about them, and I literally wanted to tell her there are people dying in the world, right all right, and this is your reaction over some fucking nails.

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Speaker 4: And she made the tech feel horrible.

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Speaker 1: She did, and even the owner was like, she like, did you no, But even without like yeah, she kept checking on us to make sure we were happy. But she was like, did you put an extra coat on this nail? Or did you put an extra coat on her nails? Like how did this happen? And it's like, why are we talking about how this happened? How could the blue nail not be the blue she chose. I'm like, this is not a big deal.

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Speaker 3: And the whining and shut up, shut up, I'm you. I'm shocked you didn't say anything.

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Speaker 4: Lease.

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Speaker 1: I was biting my tongue because I didn't want to make it worse because I was about to go off out.

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Speaker 5: It wasn't want to make an It was.

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Speaker 3: Her birthday, that is what was the big day. You know what.

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Speaker 1: I would have said, you got another one coming next year?

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Speaker 3: I would have said no.

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Speaker 6: I to be honest, I probably would have said this if she was right there, I would have bit my tongue, bit my tongue and then been.

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Speaker 3: Like they're fine.

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Speaker 6: I think they're fine and done that like crazy, I like passive aggressive.

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Speaker 3: Hey, they're fine. We can stop talking about it now, right, they're fine. Kyle does it all the time and it gets scary. Hey you're good, right, you're good.

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Speaker 1: Right, Oh, I'm gonna start doing that be passive aggressive.

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Speaker 7: I'm and you know she wanted to talk about her nails and complain about him.

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Speaker 4: Tell what happened to my chanelle wallet.

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Speaker 1: After Lisa was done talking about how fabulous the treatment was, you know, because it was.

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Speaker 7: I got a sugar scrub, like they offered me everything under the sun.

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Speaker 1: Never do that for me, No one even offers. I look over at Lisa and she's got warm towels, paraffin, wax, sugar scrubs, and I'm like, well.

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Speaker 2: They're trying to get the six inches of dead scale.

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Speaker 4: I appreciate.

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Speaker 3: I allow gloves.

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Speaker 1: They use gloves on me too, They use gloves on everybody. Oh, Lisa, you deserved a having beautiful dinosaic.

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Speaker 7: I don't have beautiful And I realized that.

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Speaker 1: That's what she's gonna say. They work. And the only reason I call them dino feet is because she could kick full steel and goes like this, oh.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, my clouds in my cloud shoes.

00:23:39
Speaker 2: Yeah, your bunions flying out.

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Speaker 7: No, I have a hole in my shoe that I must have hit a nail or something.

00:23:44
Speaker 2: A nail ripped my shoe.

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Speaker 3: And you can't feel that. You don't feel that for you. I want you on my.

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Speaker 2: Site to see what happened to me.

00:23:55
Speaker 1: So then she's getting out raving raving about the treatment and the Chanel. The Chanelle wallet goes straight into the Dino foot water and it was just floating, and I go, we get it out. We like, I'm I give I give the woman the tip and it's like, what noodle? What noodle money?

00:24:21
Speaker 4: Oh No.

00:24:22
Speaker 7: And the one that really got me is I was cleaning out my stuff from Utah and I came across a check from.

00:24:30
Speaker 4: Two thousand, I think, and.

00:24:34
Speaker 3: Eleven should have tried to cash it.

00:24:37
Speaker 7: No, it's Macy's and it's a get. It's sixty five dollars. Yeah, no expiration.

00:24:44
Speaker 4: I've never seen somebody.

00:24:46
Speaker 3: Are you going to use it?

00:24:48
Speaker 4: Hell?

00:24:48
Speaker 3: Yes you are, oh my mat But I.

00:24:51
Speaker 7: Was so worried about That's what I was more worried about that the Chanel than all the the EQ was gonna bleed and it would.

00:24:57
Speaker 2: Be all your sixty dollars.

00:25:00
Speaker 3: I would have given you this, Queen, Lisa, I appreciate the facts.

00:25:04
Speaker 1: I would have rounded up to a hondo for you. Well, don't spend it all, spend it all on one so great tell us about the car crash you went is you said, oh.

00:25:16
Speaker 2: My gosh, all right on my birthday.

00:25:18
Speaker 1: We're talk about your birthday. But we recorded last Monday and birthday. We know that the episode airs Wednesdays, which was your birthday. And I apologize we did not wish you under.

00:25:28
Speaker 2: The radar well because I could have said somebody.

00:25:30
Speaker 1: Happy, happy birthday.

00:25:32
Speaker 2: Yes, baby, thank you, thank you for letting your house. Me and my friends very much enjoyed it.

00:25:39
Speaker 1: Like I said, what's mine is yours. I hope that you had the best.

00:25:42
Speaker 2: Time and for watching my dogs. You guys that loved you.

00:25:45
Speaker 3: How old are you? Thirty two?

00:25:46
Speaker 2: Yeah, one, thirty one?

00:25:48
Speaker 3: Okay, okay.

00:25:50
Speaker 5: So we're driving and we're going to Joshua Tree. So there's like a frontage road and then just hundreds of windmials. So we see this car on the front end road and they're moving and like you can kind of you know when you see like the car.

00:26:07
Speaker 1: Doing hops, like it looks like it's a little out of control.

00:26:09
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, we see the car turn and it just is upside down for like two seconds and it just slams into the dirt.

00:26:19
Speaker 1: Wait, so it like hits something and it was like airborne down like.

00:26:23
Speaker 2: Two seconds like yeah, and then landed on the top.

00:26:26
Speaker 5: On the top and just because I think Joshua Tree and like all of it, like it's soft dirt, like it didn't keep flipping, so it just like slid slid on its hood and so we were like holy shit. So we got off on the next exit and backtrack. She indeed flipped her car and like we're getting out of the car, going what day are we about to have?

00:26:47
Speaker 4: Right?

00:26:48
Speaker 2: Like is she dead? Yeah?

00:26:50
Speaker 5: So like we rush to the car, a door is open, there's needles everywhere.

00:26:56
Speaker 3: No, you got to be careful around after.

00:26:59
Speaker 2: We saw that, Like I feel bad, but like she was bleeding from her forehead.

00:27:04
Speaker 5: Not witnessing this woman now she had a little bit of a the chin, you know what I'm saying.

00:27:10
Speaker 1: But so she's like China, no teeth.

00:27:14
Speaker 2: Well just like like their chin can touch their.

00:27:17
Speaker 6: Nose, that is their teeth, right yeah yeah yeah, smoking crack, that's kind of how you get.

00:27:25
Speaker 1: I just don't think someone who had an insulin needle, they would just like be strewn everything like her.

00:27:32
Speaker 2: Yea doubt, but no looking at her and then her boyfriend same chin, Oh he was he know.

00:27:41
Speaker 5: So we get to the car, we see her. We're about to reach in and help. We see needles. She's bleeding.

00:27:47
Speaker 2: I don't want it. I don't know if I have I'm okay, I'm okay, I'm okay. So we're like, all right, let's get out.

00:27:54
Speaker 5: So I walked to the front of the car to see if there's anything spilling out, anything that could cause a fire.

00:27:59
Speaker 2: And I hear, what's that. I mean, it's probably just cooling. That got like radiator.

00:28:04
Speaker 5: Yeah, but I was like, let's just move just in case because it would have started something. Right.

00:28:08
Speaker 2: Another guy called the police and they started coming.

00:28:11
Speaker 3: She passed that the police were calling.

00:28:13
Speaker 2: Oh I know. She we I wanted to stay, but it was my birthday and I want to go to drugs. She was okay, and she was, oh okay.

00:28:21
Speaker 5: This woman gets out of the car, looks at us and goes, I got to call him.

00:28:25
Speaker 2: I gotta call him.

00:28:26
Speaker 5: We're thinking who we called him? Yeah, but no, she wanted to call her boyfriend. So she just grabs her phone before the cops get there. She walks like three hundred yards before.

00:28:38
Speaker 1: They stop, and that's the woman walking right there.

00:28:42
Speaker 4: And was like, she said I gotta go home. I gotta go home.

00:28:44
Speaker 2: No, she did.

00:28:45
Speaker 5: And then the scene and so what's funny is like the car crash was like here and her home was here, so she was just trying to walk home and I like, it didn't happen.

00:28:56
Speaker 3: God, did they catch her?

00:28:58
Speaker 2: Yeah, they caught her.

00:28:59
Speaker 5: So they ambulance came and then the other like we saw the firefighters and they were like, you saw the needles right to us and we were like, oh yeah. They were like, did you help her? We were like no, they said good, yeah, you.

00:29:11
Speaker 7: Know what, she's lucky she didn't take some other car out. Really no, I know injuries.

00:29:17
Speaker 5: Like to see like a car in the air for that long slam and then for her to get out, like that's adrenaline, but also that's drug drug.

00:29:26
Speaker 7: Yeah, because well it's like when you're drunk, you're very not me but.

00:29:33
Speaker 1: Kind of like when I'm drunk, I'm very.

00:29:38
Speaker 7: Since I don't drink, I've never you were never you could, Lisa, your legs were like this when you were drinking.

00:29:48
Speaker 1: Is that her walking?

00:29:49
Speaker 4: Anyway?

00:29:49
Speaker 3: Back to back to the class, did you have an amazing It was.

00:29:53
Speaker 2: A great birthday.

00:29:54
Speaker 5: We looked up to see but that county has us there. You can't look. They passed a we think that you can't view. But we were going to see if they got her, but we couldn't find.

00:30:04
Speaker 6: Drugs are not good free.

00:30:09
Speaker 2: A whole bunch of stuff. But yeah, she tried to flee the scene.

00:30:12
Speaker 5: But yeah, thank god, I got a couple of photos that I can send you.

00:30:16
Speaker 3: Stop.

00:30:16
Speaker 1: I want to pretty gnarly.

00:30:18
Speaker 3: I want to.

00:30:19
Speaker 2: See Lisa would have Do you want to see that?

00:30:21
Speaker 6: I was going to say, Lisa would have loved to see this, because weren't you on a kick from watching like dash cam videos for a little bit.

00:30:26
Speaker 4: She watched dash cam videos.

00:30:29
Speaker 7: But they're posting things that I do not appreciate, so I followed them.

00:30:39
Speaker 1: No, but she continues to do this thing like I've known that they post asses for months.

00:30:44
Speaker 4: Unfollowed and unfollowed. Where is it keeps?

00:30:48
Speaker 2: I think you just your algorithm just loves ass.

00:30:50
Speaker 4: Yeah.

00:30:51
Speaker 1: She shows it to me again two days ago, and I was like, Mom, I understand. I I know, because she's like, look at what pops?

00:30:58
Speaker 2: Do you understand?

00:30:59
Speaker 5: The more like if you see a video, the more time that you spend on that video, you.

00:31:05
Speaker 4: I am followed I don't know why he posted.

00:31:07
Speaker 2: Right when you see it, go to the next I unfollowed.

00:31:10
Speaker 4: I thought I followed.

00:31:12
Speaker 1: Yeah, so if you're listening dash cam person on Instagram, stop posting.

00:31:17
Speaker 2: Asses and just posting dash can no one.

00:31:21
Speaker 1: Well, I can't imagine. No one's following the you're fine with it.

00:31:26
Speaker 4: The comments.

00:31:27
Speaker 7: I read some of the comments previously. They're like crash page, porn page.

00:31:32
Speaker 2: Like seeing all of these crashes. It's okay to see some ass.

00:31:36
Speaker 4: No, okay, I know, good for you because it was a little more than just.

00:31:44
Speaker 2: What do you mean?

00:31:45
Speaker 1: It was more than I saw that. I know she had a little vagina. No, I swear.

00:31:54
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, have you guys ever seen attraction?

00:31:58
Speaker 3: Are you for real?

00:31:59
Speaker 2: Have you seen it? I've never seen it.

00:32:02
Speaker 1: She was talking about this on Netflix. Do you listen to No, she talked about it promo clip.

00:32:09
Speaker 5: That's why I think I watched it, you know, like subconsciously, That's why it was in the back of mind.

00:32:14
Speaker 6: You not love like looking at the vaginas and penises and tits?

00:32:18
Speaker 2: Do you love it? I enjoyed it?

00:32:20
Speaker 3: No, it's so weird.

00:32:21
Speaker 2: Yeah, we fast forward through it.

00:32:23
Speaker 6: It doesn't not make you feel good about your body, so good about my I feel.

00:32:28
Speaker 5: Great about my body after well, I don't know, I didn't really I almost went into the bedroom and looked at myself naked after it. But I was like, you know what, let's just have a good birthday.

00:32:39
Speaker 1: I find the best way to appreciate your birthday is staring at yourself in your birthday suit. The way you came into this world, well, with a few changes.

00:32:47
Speaker 2: Oh what did I get done?

00:32:49
Speaker 4: You grew up? Let's hope you grew up. You grew up, grew up and out and down, and.

00:33:00
Speaker 3: I'm down, up and out and down. That's very true.

00:33:04
Speaker 4: Out.

00:33:05
Speaker 1: I'm done. Mom. I love you, and I hate when we fight. I don't like you devastating.

00:33:16
Speaker 7: We had fun today. We went furniture shopping. We got a bagel. We're gonna go get shades at the shade store.

00:33:22
Speaker 3: This an exciting day.

00:33:26
Speaker 1: Let's talk about Beverly Hills. Did you watch either of you? Easton? Didn't I know because it was his birthday.

00:33:33
Speaker 6: Just i'd get in usually you text me, But I should have looked at the notes.

00:33:37
Speaker 4: I know I watched it.

00:33:38
Speaker 1: You watched it with me. Now you guys, so I am really digging Ston this season. I feel like when she first came onto the show, I've always kind of been into her. I just like the way I like the way that she dresses. I like her little shady judgments on people, like I just dig her, right, But I'm like especially digging her this season. And I think it's because we're seeing aside to her, where like we're seeing a very like human side, right like we saw what and it's a human side, but we're also talking about like it's so fucking bougie, where she's like, I have Merse mrsus ashes, and then she talks about who Merses and he's some like fabulous person that Erica Jane is, like anyone in the dance community knows who Merses. Like it's still very bougie, Like I cannot relate.

00:34:29
Speaker 7: But why do they always throw the ashes out to sea and they always blow they.

00:34:34
Speaker 3: Always blow back, they always blow back.

00:34:36
Speaker 1: What is that?

00:34:37
Speaker 4: I don't know.

00:34:38
Speaker 1: Last week's episode, it happened to the girls again.

00:34:41
Speaker 2: The wind usually wind comes in.

00:34:43
Speaker 1: I know, So why do these people continue to want to just go like this with dust? It's dust, it's.

00:34:49
Speaker 3: Just dust, and it blows back in your face because.

00:34:51
Speaker 1: All we are dust. I want you guys to play that at my funeral, and like I'm gonna have everyone with bags of PSI ashes going like this, swinging, like with someone with a band drum calling her.

00:35:12
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I love it. Love that.

00:35:15
Speaker 7: You know what I love about Sutton too is she's a fellow horse lover, Like I am so.

00:35:19
Speaker 1: Yeah, but she's a horse lover and her horse is like five billion dollars and she's like they're Santo's and her assistants like, that's not Santos. She goes, it looks like him, and then it flashes to what Santo's looks like. It's like literally nothing.

00:35:33
Speaker 4: The other when they were at the crowd, right at the right, the.

00:35:38
Speaker 1: Other horse had no white on it. Her horse had lots of white on it. So I do love that. Yeah, she loves horses, She loves expensive things. Yes, this one comes in.

00:35:49
Speaker 4: And she has a cute boyfriend that she's dated for a couple of times.

00:35:52
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I love that. They go to Surly Goat and they like throw darts. It's very and she brings her ocean spray mixer out of her her Selene bag. Wow, he makes a joke about Selene Dion making purses and laughed. She laughed, which was huge, Like Sutton is all about her labels, right. I remember when Sutton first stepped into the scene and Durit had on this fabulous, like very fitted, boxy like I don't know shoulder patty Fente fente like rionnad not fende yes, and Sutton could not have been more offended at the fact that, like celebrities should not have fashion lines, she has no interest, like she knows what she likes and even though her clothing sometimes am like I personally wouldn't wear, the fact that it's so expensive, I respect it, not me. Easton, you shut your filthy off when it comes to Sutton. So then we're finally opening up Kyle about her relationship with Moe. Mom let me ask you something, because I have not been in a committed relationship. I'm going to pretend like the one and only that I felt like I was in does not exist. And let's just say I have never been in a committed relationship, Okay, especially for twenty seven years. Like Kyle and Mauricio, when you watch, what do you think is happening?

00:37:22
Speaker 7: Because I think they've drifted apart, and I think because his business has gotten so big and he's so not present in their marriage. He's more present and worrying about what the next golf game is in the next city or country that he's going to, and she's feeling a little bit left out.

00:37:41
Speaker 1: And do you think there was cheating involved, you.

00:37:45
Speaker 7: Know, the way that it seems like it's playing out. I think there may have been some infidelities that went on h on top of everything else.

00:37:54
Speaker 4: But I just feel like he's not present.

00:37:56
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he's looking a little heck. And it's not haggard like stress. It's like, oh, you're like going out and partying.

00:38:06
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what it looks like to me.

00:38:08
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like the eyes are a little hazy, glazed right now. Again, could be stress. I'm not saying that that is exactly what he's out doing. I'm just saying from my own experience and how I've looked when I party hardy on a huge budget, right, and he has a very big budget to party hardy on, So I could see why he looks a little haggard.

00:38:33
Speaker 7: Well, you know what else, too is a red flag to me is she's gotten new tattoos and he hasn't even noticed them.

00:38:39
Speaker 3: They're not sleeping together.

00:38:41
Speaker 1: They're definitely not sleeping together.

00:38:46
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're distant.

00:38:48
Speaker 6: Let me ask you a quick question about this, both of you, but more so you least because you've been in you were in a very long relationship. At this point, they've grown apart, right. Do you think there's something in fighting for that relationship?

00:39:01
Speaker 3: We've been together so.

00:39:02
Speaker 6: Long, Go to therapy, do what you got to do to make it work, or it's like you know what, the human experience, some people just grow apart and then it's I don't.

00:39:09
Speaker 1: Know that people are gonna like what my mom has to say about that. Okay, my mom is.

00:39:14
Speaker 4: Old school.

00:39:15
Speaker 7: I think I am old school, and I think you buy for it. But for me, like had my husband cheated on me, I don't think I could have been come back.

00:39:25
Speaker 1: Wait, so, do you believe in therapy like couples therapy?

00:39:29
Speaker 7: You know what, I've never done therapy, and I feel like therapy dredges up a whole lot of other things, Like you have the tip of the iceberg and they go down and the whole thing crumbles.

00:39:40
Speaker 1: So maybe you maybe you believe in therapy, but you are very specific when it comes to the therapist and let's focus on the situation. And I don't want to don't be the therapist where I come in and sit down and you go, well, let's talk about your childhood.

00:39:53
Speaker 4: I don't want to do that.

00:39:55
Speaker 1: Okay, so you do believe here and now you want to hear that's what I'd want. But don't you think it's fair for a therapist to say, how did we get here?

00:40:04
Speaker 4: Absolutely?

00:40:05
Speaker 7: But I don't want him to say it stems from my childhood and this, that and the other and the way I was treated as a child or my parents or whatever. Like, I want the here and now. And I have this relationship with my husband. We're not getting along and I want to fix it.

00:40:19
Speaker 2: How do I do that?

00:40:20
Speaker 6: Okay, I think you'd be surprised. I think I just started restarted therapy again, shout out betterhelp. But it I was like, oh, yeah, I forgot how much I love therapy.

00:40:29
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, therapy is great. And it is all about when someone's like I don't like therapy, I think it's because they had a situation with a certain therapist that just didn't hit. So from my perspective and just because I've lived in this city for a little over a decade. Now, I don't think Mo is a one. I don't think he has been faithful to Kyle. I have heard nothing but incredible things about Kyle. Kyle has been nothing but kind to me every time I've seen her. She raised fantastic children. I think that like her home life and what she did for her family, her husband. I mean, they really came from like a very normal household.

00:41:11
Speaker 4: She's I think she's amazing.

00:41:13
Speaker 1: She's fantastic.

00:41:14
Speaker 7: She has gazillions of dogs like any like no vis well no, But to me, that shows like a true heart. Yeah, you know for her to do that. But I don't like how he kept telling her, you know, we're gonna be empty nesters. What what thirteen?

00:41:30
Speaker 1: How old is she thirteen or fourteen?

00:41:32
Speaker 4: Like they're not empty nesters?

00:41:34
Speaker 1: Is someone told me she was sixteen? Now you know what, she may be sixteen because London Amber's daughter is fourteen, and I think she's a couple of years older than her. Yeah, Porsha, I think Porscha might be around fifteen or sixteen. But guess what, that's a couple of years from now.

00:41:54
Speaker 4: So let's go gas on.

00:41:56
Speaker 1: Now, they hear, and now I think Kyle puts so much of her time and effort into running kids around, creating a beautiful household, supporting her husband so that he could get to wear where he is. And now it's like, my husband doesn't really need my support anymore. My children don't really need me. And when she said I don't want to accept things that I wouldn't want my daughters to accept, and that was like I got I had chills, and she had tears in her eyes, and it was like, you.

00:42:26
Speaker 4: Know, that's why I think it's more.

00:42:28
Speaker 1: It's more than, so much more than this. Yeah, and life is too short. Absolutely be done. You want to be sleeping or hanging out with the twenty eight year old chick, you know what, go do that, do it well.

00:42:43
Speaker 4: And once a.

00:42:43
Speaker 7: Cheater, I'm sorry that's saying always a cheater, like your trust is gone?

00:42:49
Speaker 4: How do you how do you come back from that?

00:42:52
Speaker 1: Well? You and I are very much the same mom, And for me, I had two hard lines. If you choose to do drugs and if you choose to step out on the relationship, there is no coming back, there's no conversation. I wish you the best. Get away from me because the trust is gone and I can't come back from it. There are women we know who there's been infidelity and they work on it, they get married, they have children, and I'm like, I just could never.

00:43:19
Speaker 6: I know, I actually know of some whose relationship ended up or at least seems like getting stronger. It was a husband and wife and there was infidelity and then they but.

00:43:28
Speaker 3: It just was caused from they grew apart.

00:43:29
Speaker 6: There was infidelity, they decided they wanted to make it work, and then they they like refound each other and then it was like a beautiful but I'm.

00:43:38
Speaker 1: Sure and it was more age. It was more maybe it was an age age or just points in time.

00:43:46
Speaker 6: Maybe it was they got married when they were like eighteen nineteen. That is so young, and then this is like they're in their fifties now.

00:43:54
Speaker 7: See I so did they did they part and then come back at a later day, like years later.

00:44:00
Speaker 4: I don't know if.

00:44:00
Speaker 6: Someone like that too, they separated and then they came back. It's just it's like to me, the older I get, I'm like everyone's human experience.

00:44:08
Speaker 3: I just am like, do what you do, do what.

00:44:11
Speaker 1: You well in this situation, They're not gonna. They're not going to separate and come back together when they're I'm shoving as shit. They might though they might.

00:44:21
Speaker 6: What if they get old and they're like, I want to die with the person I spent most of my life with at like seventy five.

00:44:26
Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know.

00:44:27
Speaker 4: I don't know. It's wild sex strives is gone as seventy five?

00:44:30
Speaker 1: Is it? Though? I heard I don't know if viagra gives you that big I heard that to the fucking stay rock harder, it's get away from me.

00:44:38
Speaker 6: I heard old folks homes are like rampant with sex.

00:44:42
Speaker 3: Oh to volunteer at one?

00:44:44
Speaker 1: Just old skin fucking see, just kind of so much to look forward to. I know, like what even is age? Know, you know, with a little lubrication and a little blue pill, you can do whatever.

00:44:54
Speaker 7: Well, I'm looking at how women and men are looking these days, like they look ye.

00:45:00
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's very true. So did we watch Vanner Pump?

00:45:05
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm excited to get into this one.

00:45:07
Speaker 1: I gotta say, Lisa episode Lisa, I love you, but she doesn't really watch Vanner Pump, so she doesn't know what's happening. Feel free to weigh in from afar okay.

00:45:19
Speaker 6: I was a fan of this episode. I think it's picked up a little. How do you feel?

00:45:23
Speaker 5: I thought it was slow, but I think it's I think it's ramping up for the Tahoe trip.

00:45:28
Speaker 1: I think we're now seeing it was.

00:45:31
Speaker 2: There's structure.

00:45:31
Speaker 1: Now the group doesn't feel as like separate. Yes, it feels like we're somewhat trying, like we're braiding the hair.

00:45:39
Speaker 3: Right.

00:45:40
Speaker 1: The hair was all a mess. Then we separated it into two. Now we've separated it into three, and we're starting the criss and the crossing.

00:45:48
Speaker 3: This is a great comparison.

00:45:50
Speaker 4: Actually, yeah, all right, did you upon it?

00:45:54
Speaker 1: No? I was just thinking of we're in we're in a braid. Fabulous, Braine, fabulous.

00:46:03
Speaker 6: Let's talk about you if you're good with it, you and Lisa.

00:46:07
Speaker 1: I didn't make any notes, so I'm just gonna let you run with this.

00:46:11
Speaker 6: So La La Lisa and Sheena scene. One thing I do want to know, didn't I drop you off at lisa Is that day and get stuck in the driveway?

00:46:19
Speaker 2: Yeah?

00:46:19
Speaker 1: You did.

00:46:21
Speaker 6: That was quite a day and got scared and then Ken watched me as I'm backing with my jeep with my with my bottom bitch ge patron trying not to with my jeep hit. All the expensive cars just lined up on the driveway, and Ken's.

00:46:37
Speaker 4: Just staring at me, and that makes you even more yes.

00:46:41
Speaker 3: And I'm like like, oh, it was bad. I had anxiety that, But.

00:46:45
Speaker 1: Yet you did I did out backing into another car and you didn't even have a beeper.

00:46:49
Speaker 7: I did hear, honest what I was staring at the well, I wish it would. I was staring at the light over the porch and the thin it's too low, too low.

00:47:03
Speaker 2: Did you notice that too.

00:47:06
Speaker 1: It's a good thing you told me this today and not yesterday, because I would have had a field day with you. But of course you wouldn't have said that yesterday because then you would have had to admit some sort of wrongdoing. God forbid.

00:47:20
Speaker 4: But the beepers didn't go off.

00:47:21
Speaker 3: The beepers didn't go off. It's their fault to be quite on.

00:47:24
Speaker 2: You turn them off accident.

00:47:25
Speaker 1: They be Oh no, they beep to just fine. For me today, it's all good.

00:47:31
Speaker 6: So you, Shena and Lisa vander Pomp, I want to ask, so this was like a emotional scene. All three of you cried how'd you feel going into it? Were you expecting that conversation to happen.

00:47:43
Speaker 1: I was not expecting that conversation to be that way at all, because Sandoval hadn't really like unless I was with Arianna, like talking about Tom Sandoval never really came up. So when I was going to link up with Lisa, like, we don't really talk about Tom Sandoval, right, So when she brought his mental health into it, then it was I was feeling like a few things. I was like, I certainly don't want to participate in someone feeling that way he did this. I don't want to be responsible for someone else's mental health. That seems like a huge weight to put on somebody. But I also want to be soft and sensitive. There were a lot of things happening at once because it was still new and fresh, and we hadn't seen this person in a really long time nor spoken about him really, I mean what we talked about him on the podcast, but like in my day to day, it was like he was somewhere and now we're here filming the show and it's very sand of all heavy. So it was bringing back all the emotions of like how poorly he treated me and yes, I went really really heavy in the paint on him. I don't regret that, but I certainly know how to disengage in back off.

00:48:56
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I think it was a ended up being a healthy conversation.

00:49:03
Speaker 3: How do you feel at the How did you feel at the end of it? Do you remember?

00:49:07
Speaker 6: Because you did, you were emotional and like frustrated, but then towards the end you could see the softer side.

00:49:12
Speaker 3: You were crying and you were you know.

00:49:14
Speaker 1: Well, I feel like that's what was so hard about this season, especially at the beginning, is it's like trying to put your guard down and get rid of what your own personal experiences and see people as people again. It's like there's a huge internal conflict that happens. You're like, I want to be soft and I want to heal, and I want the tools to do those things. But like we're talking about this and I'm angry because this is what I've experienced, and like I don't know how to let it go. And you'll see that internal battle happening a lot for me the entire season, and a lot of times I don't know how to control it. So I kind of like vent and purge and then I just start sobbing because I can't find the middle ground yet.

00:50:00
Speaker 6: Yeah, and you find it you're looking for it in which you can tell for that conversation.

00:50:05
Speaker 1: I like that we had it, and I loved that Lisa brought it to my attention because they're I don't want to put everyone in the same category as my own experience. I don't want that at all. I will live a really sad and isolated life if I do that. And you hear me and my confessionals say, when I thought about Tom Sandoval, I did not think about his mental health because I pictured him as you know what I say. And they don't have feelings. They don't think about stuff like that. They just think about how can I get this to go away? Who can I shut up? Who can I pay off? Like that's where I was thinking. I'm like, that's who Tom Sandival is. And that's not entirely true. Maybe it is. I don't know. All I know is I got to heal a little bit so that people are welcomed into my life at some point. Again, Yeah, that's.

00:50:53
Speaker 3: You said, I wrote.

00:50:54
Speaker 6: I wrote you said a line about I think you were discussing your trauma.

00:50:58
Speaker 3: I thought this was a very beautiful episode for you.

00:51:00
Speaker 6: It's showing us. I don't know how the season goes. I haven't seen any episodes. You're, in my opinion, the most vulnerable I've ever seen you ever on the show period.

00:51:09
Speaker 1: I feel like I have this season, I've been the most truthful and vulnerable, and I've put my guard down to where I don't have this armor on going into every single like my heart is like out there and it was it was It made me very true?

00:51:27
Speaker 2: Are you or emotional?

00:51:28
Speaker 4: Yeah?

00:51:29
Speaker 6: Can we talk about people saying sand of all, I'm seeing a lot of talk online about them saying he's I want to use the right term, not victimizing mental health, but he's basically using the mental health aspect in his favor to get sympathy. I very heavily disagree on this, but I am curious what you think because I see a lot of back and forth online people saying this.

00:51:51
Speaker 3: Isn't right, Sanda fal you shouldn't be doing this.

00:51:53
Speaker 6: We see what you're doing, and other people being like, what do you expect He's been harassed? Like, of course he's going to get to this point.

00:52:01
Speaker 1: I feel like when the scene with Billy, I really really enjoyed Billy Lee in her scene with Sandobal. She and I have had a really rocky road, but I do I respect her and what she's gone through and I can never imagine the road that she's been on. So if there's one thing that I do have for her, it's a tremendous amount of respect and for her to open up about there were times where we thought that we were gonna lose you. You know, we have to remember, like he was being slammed, like he was being talked about at the White House Correspondence dinner. We were talking about him slamming him on the podcast, we were making merch. Bravo blogs were going in on him, like at some point that is going to fuck with you mentally, and he should be allowed to come on the show that he's been a part of for eleven years and say this affected me without other people being the judge and jury on his mental health and it being jeopardized is real or not. You know, let's just say he is victimizing it. He has to live with that, not me. But let's say he's not and something happens and I double down, then I have to live with that, and I'll be damned.

00:53:23
Speaker 6: Absolutely, And I do want to get to that scene where they mention you and Sheena and the podcast in Sandoval, but I let's cut too because this was next the schwartz pool moment. I'm about to make a bold statement he was crushing on you, like he was, like you could tell. I don't know, so did you see it?

00:53:44
Speaker 2: I did.

00:53:44
Speaker 5: But it's like he reminds me of my like a buddy back in Hi Walter Hogan, Yeah, shout out like he's just like he's such a good person. And I think that Tom has been Schwartz has just been hated on.

00:53:57
Speaker 2: As much as he has Sandoval.

00:54:01
Speaker 5: That getting that from Lauren, that conversation that was heartfelt, I think made him feel like he could be happy.

00:54:08
Speaker 2: So I don't think he was crushing. I think he was.

00:54:10
Speaker 5: I think he was happy that he was being heard, somebody was talking to him, with it being not about sand of aal and just working towards something. So I think he was just a place of happiness because that's how we used to get and I think.

00:54:24
Speaker 2: He was just happy to be. I feel like it was before Scandival ever happened, Like that's how feeling. Yeah, and now he.

00:54:33
Speaker 5: Feels right that that conversation I felt like was a big first step for like what we're about to see in Tahoe.

00:54:40
Speaker 2: And I think he's excited. So I think that's what I was getting.

00:54:44
Speaker 1: That's what I that's what I gathered to, Okay, like when yeah, when he was like, you know, I've always thought you're so stunning, but like in a platonic way, and like it's the reason I fell in love with you, you know, I guess friends, And I was like, I know what you mean, Like I'm not thinking that like we're going to like go make babies. That you mean like we're just homies.

00:55:02
Speaker 4: Background check first, I think he'll pass.

00:55:07
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I because he did pay so heavily in Scandival and then also take Scannival out of it. I was coming for him so hard last season. I was calling him a fucking loser, You're a slob. You He was coming for me too. I was rising to the occasion. But I don't care what anyone says on this cast. When you come for me, I will demolish you. So no matter what it is, it's never fair play.

00:55:44
Speaker 4: But she learned.

00:55:46
Speaker 5: For the regular really makes them feel like shit and then just go, I am so sorry, that's exactly right.

00:55:55
Speaker 1: So even though he was coming for me, like it left like a scratch where I then grabbed my grenade launches and my AK forty sevens and just you know, and it wounds people and they carry it with them right where He's like, well, I'm sorry that what I said about your lips, and I'm like, honey, I'm like, I'm the finest bitch walking this planet. All right, all right, all right, all right.

00:56:18
Speaker 2: I like how he brings a plant everywhere.

00:56:20
Speaker 1: I know, fourteen plants or something.

00:56:23
Speaker 3: I died. Ali was like, I don't have to hire a gardener.

00:56:25
Speaker 1: I laughed. She was funny. She was so funny.

00:56:29
Speaker 6: Okay, Reilly quick yeah, you and James the scene with you too. You know what, I thought it was really great because you guys, you're right, you've you'll never you'll probably never have a friendship like James. You guys went through the messiest days together and crazy relationships and now you're on your own journeys and you're adults, and it's just it was beautiful.

00:56:49
Speaker 3: I like, I like the friendship.

00:56:51
Speaker 4: I like the laala James, right, James.

00:56:53
Speaker 6: Yeah, And then the podcast was mentioned shout out Eryl, you know, Sam Sandoval just saying that Sheena and Laala were like basically the leaders of showing everyone how to treat them.

00:57:12
Speaker 1: How do you feel about it, mean, girls, Yeah, just like.

00:57:17
Speaker 2: I don't think.

00:57:17
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sure people were following our lead. I thought Sena was. I didn't. I didn't listen to Sena's podcast, So I can't even speak on the things that she was saying. I can only speak to what I was doing. And I was out here speaking my truth. And there's one thing you will never take from me, and that is my voice. And if I have an opinion, I'm going to vocalize it. And if I say some funny shit and someone out here decides to try and go make merch off of something I said, I'm going to hop on that and say, no, that's mine. I'm making the merch. So yes, I when something happens and I know that the moment is going to pass, I'm going to jump on it and monetize the fuck of it, which is exactly what I did. And I'm sorry if that upset you, but like you went and did this, and I could have fallen back, but like I said send it to Daryl. I made the funny video, Like, you're not taking credit for that. Had this not happened, though, you wouldn't have had that. Well, guess what, I didn't need this to happen, Like this wasn't make Send it to Daryl was not make or break my life. It's a big if you did, but it did happen. You know when people love to live in the what ifs, Well the if don't matter because it did happen. So I capitalized off of it. And yes, I would also be angry if the person who I did not like for a really long time was proven right about who I was and then made a lot of money off of my fuck up. I would also be a little bit bitter. So I'm not upset at him bringing that up. Yeah, and to say that we were the driving force, I think that's giving us way too much credit, way too much.

00:59:01
Speaker 2: I think that way too much.

00:59:03
Speaker 6: A lot of people, Yeah, there was a lot. You didn't make Team Ariana show.

00:59:07
Speaker 2: We were all just in the tsunami of coming at you.

00:59:10
Speaker 4: Yeah.

00:59:10
Speaker 1: No, And let's remember, had he not said certain things to me, and he had been like a good guy to me and Raquela and I would have stayed on a good path, like going to that reunion. It would have been really hard for me to go insane. But you weren't cool to me. You said a lot of messed up stuff, going as far as calling me a mistress, saying that I need to be real with my life, and you don't think I'm gonna have a heyday with this, and it's not so vindicated. I was like, all these years I've been trying to say that you two people, and I've been called a bully and you're a bitch, and you're jealous, and in this moment right now, you have gone above and beyond to prove that I'm right. And you think I'm just gonna sit here quietly, do you know me?

00:59:58
Speaker 2: But at all?

01:00:00
Speaker 1: No, I'm writing the high Oh yeah, we're hump in the high horse, right, I'm getting my rocks off.

01:00:11
Speaker 3: Benchs flucky horse.

01:00:16
Speaker 1: So I understood where he was coming from. Okay, okay, I'd be mad. I would be very mad too, at myself.

01:00:23
Speaker 2: Oh you know, I think that's where he's.

01:00:26
Speaker 1: Mad at himself.

01:00:27
Speaker 6: Okay, himself. Yeah, last, but not Lisa. I just I cried at the James Graham scene. Did you see that, Lise?

01:00:35
Speaker 3: You didn't see it, because I feel like Lisa would have cried, Oh, the James Graham scene. And you can tell he was not expecting that.

01:00:43
Speaker 6: You guys, sometimes they not film, but sometimes they'll be like, oh, you're filming with you.

01:00:48
Speaker 1: Well, I think he thought he was coming in to have Lisa because we had told him, like Lisa talked to us about Sanaval's mental health. Remember at the dinner that he had with Ali and Brock and Sheena. So I think he thought, I'm going to van her pump dogs and Lisa is gonna tell me, like, go to Tahoe, ease up on Sandaval. Instead, Graham comes running down the stairs.

01:01:08
Speaker 3: No, Lisa, you'll cry. I have to watch it.

01:01:11
Speaker 1: He goes, it's Graham and she goes, yes, James, he was rescued and he just loses it.

01:01:20
Speaker 3: It was beautiful.

01:01:22
Speaker 6: It was so beaut right now she's already she was.

01:01:28
Speaker 1: He was like, it was Graham's this was his destiny to work his way back to me.

01:01:33
Speaker 3: Oh beautiful, really sweet, but.

01:01:38
Speaker 1: No, it was such a cute moment.

01:01:40
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm excited for next week, which is Tahoe. I'm stoked to see that is.

01:01:45
Speaker 2: Going to be Like it was slow, but I think that we're going to get into some good stuff now.

01:01:51
Speaker 1: But we knew that it was going to be slow, like the group, like, I know what everyone is probably wanting in theirs. But this the thing that I love about vander Pump Rules is this show is so authentic. We're not casting. There has been a time we had Bask and he was like, we've tried casting for this show, and when you do that, you get season eight. Yeah it does not end well. No, we're all real friends, we all have real feelings for each other, good bad sometimes and we're having to film a television show now where it's like a lot of us don't fuck with each other and a lot of us look at each other with a side eye and like we didn't really. It just brought up a lot of emotions. Whether it was about scan of all your own trust issues, how people handled it, it doesn't matter, Like it's a rebuilding, So just stick with us and like try to understand, like if this were to happen in your friend group, how it would be the film a television show with all of them. Still, Yeah, that was a fun pod Mom I'm so happy.

01:02:57
Speaker 3: Do you want to do ach and realief for no?

01:02:59
Speaker 7: Oh?

01:02:59
Speaker 1: Yeah, you want ache and relief? Easton. Do you want to start us off? Yeah?

01:03:03
Speaker 5: The ache and relief is uh, I don't. Oh my homie came out for my birthday. Taylor app good and.

01:03:09
Speaker 1: So we love tap good.

01:03:11
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:03:11
Speaker 5: My relief of the week was just my birthday, going and spending some time and hanging with friends and just relaxing.

01:03:17
Speaker 2: And then the ache of the relief or the week is I don't. I don't have one. Just when he leaves. Moving a week with you?

01:03:28
Speaker 4: Yeah, all that moving we had to do.

01:03:31
Speaker 1: We've already done a podcast.

01:03:34
Speaker 5: Well it's been a two week move baby.

01:03:38
Speaker 4: Yeah.

01:03:38
Speaker 1: Mom, do you have an ache and relief of the week?

01:03:41
Speaker 7: My ache is backing into Bradley's car, And my relief is that we made up on our way to buying.

01:03:50
Speaker 4: Furniture and ships.

01:03:52
Speaker 3: That's a good one.

01:03:53
Speaker 1: What a Lifey's car.

01:03:58
Speaker 4: I love you that I had a birthday Valentine's birthday.

01:04:02
Speaker 1: Boy, Jessica, I'd go for it. My left Okay.

01:04:04
Speaker 3: My ache was a literal ache.

01:04:06
Speaker 6: I had been having a back pain forever, thinking it was a pulled muscle in jiu jitsu and it so I was like, this is crazy. I finally went to a chiropractor last week. I had gone to the doctor everything. I go to the chiropractor last week, and this is now my relief. He is like, do you know your ribs popped out of place?

01:04:25
Speaker 1: Was likeven have they been uneven?

01:04:28
Speaker 6: They've always been on, even my whole and he was like, it's bad and I've just been jiu jitsuing.

01:04:35
Speaker 3: So anyway, he popped it back in. Most painful thing ever.

01:04:38
Speaker 1: But I was like, oh, Like it was like did it feel so good?

01:04:42
Speaker 6: Not immediately immediately it was sore because the popping in, but I was the next day.

01:04:46
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, I'm a new woman and not for you. It's great now. So there we go.

01:04:51
Speaker 4: I love the chiro.

01:04:52
Speaker 2: I didn't even know you could pop your That.

01:04:56
Speaker 1: Was like sticking out. You can milk anything with nipples.

01:05:00
Speaker 3: I've got nipplescrag, can you.

01:05:05
Speaker 1: My ache of the week is beefing with my mom.

01:05:10
Speaker 2: It's really.

01:05:14
Speaker 1: I would rather be like literally, fighting with my mom is like worse than like beef in with I'd rather have someone be like, hey, your husband of twenty seven years.

01:05:23
Speaker 4: Is cheating on you.

01:05:25
Speaker 1: Beef one day with my mom. My relief is that we are killing it with getting a fabulous, gorgeous furniture for the new house. It's so fucking elevated, and I just feel like a rich bitch. You are a rich bitch falling on a budget, but I looks like a rich bitch.

01:05:50
Speaker 4: Always got a ball on a budget.

01:05:52
Speaker 1: Oh forever. I love a good coupon. Don't believe.

01:05:56
Speaker 4: This sperson was saying, I'll give you thirty off this forty out there.

01:05:59
Speaker 1: We're like, yes, score school president say sale h.

01:06:04
Speaker 3: Buttercup, Oh yeah, shout out, shout out.

01:06:07
Speaker 1: The one over this way is.

01:06:08
Speaker 4: Like with Josh.

01:06:10
Speaker 3: With Josh is.

01:06:11
Speaker 1: Like the Disneyland of furniture. Hello, It's where Jeff Lewis goes on Hollywood facelift. Anyway, you guys, thank you for listening to another episode of We Give Them All a podcast. I love you all so very much and I will catch you next week.