242: How Do I Get My Kids to Like Each Other?

How do you get your kids to like each other… or at least stop fighting all the time?

If you’re parenting tweens and teens, sibling conflict can feel endless. One moment they’re laughing together, the next they’re at each other’s throats. You want them to grow up valuing each other, but the daily bickering (and your role in it) can leave you wondering: Am I making things WORSE?

In this episode of “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens,” psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan dig into the complex world of sibling relationships. With warmth, humor, and research-backed insight, they unpack why siblings pull away in adolescence, how parents can support their bond without forcing closeness, and what really matters in the long run.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why siblings often distance themselves during the tween and teen years

- How comparisons and “fairness” struggles can fuel conflict

- When parents should step in—and when to step back

- Why forced apologies backfire (and what to do instead)

- Practical ways to build connection through one-on-one time and family experiences

- Why taking the long view helps parents worry less about today’s fights

Sibling relationships are complicated, but you don’t have to navigate them alone. Dr. Lisa offers strategies that are both realistic and compassionate, helping you set the stage for healthier family dynamics now and stronger sibling bonds later.

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