KIPS LIVE SHOW Pt. 1: The Group Chat

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Speaker 1: The screams from hervy, they skim and nkles down.

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Speaker 2: A y'all ready to have a good time.

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Speaker 3: How y'all feeling tony? Guys?

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Speaker 2: We have so many surprises in store for you. I just want to thank you all so much for coming.

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Speaker 3: I love y'all. I love it. I see the T shirts. So guys, there's so many different sizes to me. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: I love my girls. I love good girl talk, hey cause you know I love I love talking about Jesus. I also love some deep conversation. I'm gonna say, be your sexual.

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Speaker 3: If y'all didn't know that, you gotta get me here.

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Speaker 2: And then also, I love connecting with y'all. That's the most important part, all right. So tonight we're doing everything.

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Speaker 4: Are y'all ready.

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 2: So we're gonna go and get this show started. So first up, I have some real, wraw, unfiltered girl talk with some of my favorite girlfriends. Are you all ready welcome to the stage? My sisters, pretty.

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Speaker 5: Thee what Jessy, Hey, Hey, hey, hey.

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Speaker 6: And lost this to mea mo day. Hey.

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Speaker 7: Let' that's my best friend.

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Speaker 8: She a rope back.

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Speaker 2: I forgot how long this pony fail was then I done broke my fan?

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Speaker 4: Help me? Lord, who got a fan she can borrow?

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Speaker 3: I know that's right.

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Speaker 4: Look, they all got fans. They don't give it to y'all.

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Speaker 3: Better had him fans. Thank you, though, that take mine, Take mine?

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Speaker 4: What is all right?

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Speaker 3: Ladies? Hi, thank y'all so much for joining me today. I really appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: I know y'all are all busy, and speaking of being busy, I ain't gonna lot of y'all since we put this.

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Speaker 3: Show on sale. My sweeties, cannat test. The Devil has been busy from the day we dropped it. It was something, but we here, we met, and the devil is alive.

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Speaker 2: But I would be lying if I said I have not been stressed out lately, trying to balance everything from putting the show together with my amazing team, so balancing traveling appearances, nurturing relationships, and I recently had to check myself because I realized I'm not nurturing the relationships how I should. Now all of us are very busy, and I just want to ask each of you how are y'all handling?

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Speaker 4: Because I need some tips as we start to help me out.

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Speaker 9: Oh, my gosh, how am I balancing being busy?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 3: First of all, I'm a new.

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Speaker 4: Mom, y'all.

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Speaker 9: Shout out to all the mommy mommy.

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Speaker 2: Yes, how many kids you guys? Sais two?

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Speaker 3: None, two two three? Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 10: So I just had my first child a year ago.

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Speaker 3: It was her birthday last week.

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Speaker 4: Thank you, thank you.

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Speaker 3: So being a mom has.

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Speaker 9: Me extremely busy, extremely extremely busy. But honestly, the balance, the balance that I do in order to just keep my life flowing, Oh my gosh, prioritize, prioritize. Honestly, I wake up in every day and I'm a slave immediately. It's not easy, but I'm very blessed to be doing something because I could be waking up and doing nothing at all. So I try to just shift my perspective from being overwhelmed to be overjoyed with gratitude, to being to being busy at all.

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Speaker 4: Right, that's a blessing.

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Speaker 3: Yes, no, you got a whole devotional out.

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Speaker 2: You're on a cover of Upscale magazine.

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Speaker 3: God is good. Come, God is good. He's worthy to be praised. How are you? How are you balancing it all?

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Speaker 9: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Lord?

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Speaker 1: First of all, I thank God for it all. Thank you so much, Crystal for choosing all of us on this.

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Speaker 4: Stage right now. We think y'all give it up a.

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Speaker 1: Crystal, y'all forever. She is such a beautiful soul. But for real, for real, like I mean, I just enjoy what I do and the balance gonna come, you know, And when you just have fun with everything, everything falls into play. So I mean, I don't really stress about the what if it maybe is no more. Only when it's time to make some decisions, I'm worried. But in the midst of it all, I'm just having a good time. So whatever comes with it comes within. I just be prayer for in all things. So I mean, it is what it is. I just go with the flow.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that. Be You just launched an app. You have a podcast as well.

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Speaker 2: It's coming.

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Speaker 3: Okay, the app is coming.

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Speaker 2: You have a podcast, you're doing the comedy shows, You're all over the world and you're traveling. She's doing is it two countries to one country every year this year?

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Speaker 3: One country of life?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's all that's right, So I'm doing it.

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Speaker 1: It's only Mark asked me and Ju. Yeah, to answer your question. First of all, your edges are beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Charnelle, Charnelle, Charlotte, are so.

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Speaker 8: Thick up over here, like, okay, let me brush fine now.

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Speaker 4: I was just talking about this with one of.

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Speaker 1: My best friends, Chakaina, in the back, just saying, she was like, how do you feel? I was like, I feel so good, and I was the lady was touching us up in the back, the makeup lady.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, I don't know her.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, she was great.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, I'm about to cry because I remember sitting in makeup chairs crying because I didn't feel good and I had to go to work, And I'm about to cry now because I feel good and I'm in this makeup chair and i have to go to work. So I said all that to say, this week, man, I've been honed in and she kind of like, what do you think it is? I'm like, I don't know, because I've done everything. I got a chef and changed my diet. Come, I was in the sauna four times a week. I've been doing two with days. So that just goes to tell you and show you all of it matters. All of it matters, from your health to your wellness, to your mindset to your reading to everything.

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Speaker 8: I had Church today, I went to two services.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, all of it matters.

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Speaker 3: I feel good.

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Speaker 1: She kind of was like, what's the mission when you go out there? I was like, to exude joy. Y'all feel this joy, and I'm just so glad to be on a stage where I feel good.

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Speaker 8: But all of it matters.

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Speaker 1: You can't just focus on one area of your life and neglect the other. You gotta go to the gym, if you gotta walk, you gotta watch what you eat.

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Speaker 4: You got. It's all the.

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Speaker 8: Things that add to your joy, your wellness, and your peace.

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Speaker 4: That's so good.

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Speaker 3: I love that to me. The mother of all trades.

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Speaker 4: Y'all make me feel so cool. Smile anyway.

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Speaker 9: No, I'm just honestly, I told myself, you just have to give yourself grace because I'll start out my day with a list of ten things, and if I can get through half of it, I'm like, you know what I did good. I was actually listening to be talk and I looked down and I saw my boot was halfway zipped, and I was like, oh, and then there's that. I mean, you know, just get yourself.

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Speaker 4: Get your clothes on.

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Speaker 9: I mean, honestly, I think when you're you're a mom and a career woman and you're doing all the things, sometimes you get so wound up and wrapped up in every day things and you're like I didn't get to it, or I'm not doing enough, or you get flustered. And I could just give yourself grace because most people aren't doing.

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Speaker 4: Five hundred jobs like us. That's good.

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Speaker 3: And if we're able to be above the ground and.

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Speaker 9: Just walk in our purpose and in God's will, we're doing it.

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Speaker 3: I love that. I love that.

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Speaker 2: So we are all very career driven and we are go getters, and oftentimes when it comes to our love lives, it can take the backseat. I know for me, I'm in a relationship and trying.

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Speaker 11: To you do that.

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Speaker 3: Justin was there.

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Speaker 2: Justin you were there, he said, they really haven't. But yeah, it's like trying to balance everything.

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Speaker 3: And I had to check myself. I had to ask one day, how are you?

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Speaker 2: Because I realized I had been so consumed in everything that I was doing that I hadn't really checked in properly. And I think there's so many times because I'm a creative and when I get I can literally lose myself in creativity and I forget everything else is going on. I'll be up all hours of the night and I'm like, oh, it's four in the morning. I need to go to sleep, you know, because I actually love what I do. Have you guys had any issues with that as well, and trying to balance relationships and nurture and whether it's platonic or romantic or even family relationships. You're looking at me, Oh my gosh, Okay, yes, yes, honestly, you know.

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Speaker 9: And I hate to be that person and just keep talking about my child. But when you have a child and you're in a relationship, it changes things. You know. You might go from I know we sanctify holy people in here on Sunday, when you go from it being every day, two times a day to maybe once a week.

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Speaker 3: Because the baby on your TV she hating on you, he mad at her. It's like it's hard. It really, it's really hard.

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Speaker 9: But I think that you know, you just you just gotta find time. And it's funny that you said that you didn't check on your man, because for me, it's like I.

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Speaker 4: Do so much. I was looking for somebody to check on me, you.

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Speaker 2: Know what I said, Because I'm gonna say it like this.

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Speaker 10: Postpartum is not talked about enough and we.

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Speaker 2: Don't support each other or nothing that And it is hard.

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Speaker 4: It is hard, and it is dark.

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Speaker 3: It is very dark, and you know, you know it's dark.

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Speaker 9: So sometimes just because I might look nice and pretty on the outside doesn't mean that I don't have internal damage going on on the inside.

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Speaker 10: Up, I cook for everybody, I fed everybody, and I realized it's four o'clock. I didn't eat a thing, and nobody even asked me if I ate a thing. Baby on the titvy all day she good, she chunky and fed, and here I am starving, male nourished, losing my ass.

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Speaker 3: It's hard.

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Speaker 4: It's really hard.

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Speaker 9: And I think that it just goes back to your support system, you having them people who really check in on you and be like, hey, listen, I know you're busy. I know you got a lot going on, but like, how are you? What's going on with you? Can I help you do anything? Can you just vent real quick? Just need a call and be like, don't say nothing, just let me run it, you know. But the balance, you just have to make a conscious effort and you just have to anything else that's important in your life and you're intentional about if it's important to you.

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Speaker 4: Got to be intentional about that too.

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Speaker 3: I love it. That's good. That's so good.

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Speaker 4: I'm working to prey for me and I ain't figured it out yet.

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Speaker 9: I'm still trying, but just being intentional with everything that I do along with my relationship.

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Speaker 4: But I also need him to be intentional too.

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Speaker 3: Come on, so it goes both ways.

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Speaker 2: That's so good being And you talk about if you sing it for too much longer, you're gonna be a nun.

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to say, oh, this is help me and my husband balanced.

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Speaker 8: The work life and entrepreneur life with my man. My man, I can't wait. It's coming. Thank you Lord, claim it and you shall receive it.

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Speaker 1: I'd be like, okay, yeah, you know, I just figured it out. But balancing this This came up in therapy. What wasn't really a therapy session. It was a podcast episode with Thema Bryant. Yes, yes, doctor Bryant was on my podcast and she was like, you have to realize that when you go through bad things, we're like, it's not that bad.

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Speaker 4: We all probably do that. It's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad because you've been through worse. No that it's not that bad. It's still bad.

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Speaker 1: Yes, don't diminish the things you're going it's not that bad. It's just a little just lost another friend, No, that's bad. Another betrayal, that's bad. Another jealous spirit that's bad. Another Oh, he just cheated on It's not that. No, that's bad. Don't diminish what you're going through. So I think to balance it all, you have to address it. You know, you have to address it. You have to address the postpartum. Like Jazz said, you have to address I'm not okay. You have to address The only way to fix something is to be honest.

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Speaker 4: Come on, can't brushing under the rug.

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Speaker 1: And I need a minute yet, I want to I want to strangle my friend or my boyfriend or my baby.

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Speaker 9: That's real, that's true, that's real.

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Speaker 8: Intrusive thoughts. I'm just saying, no, that's rue. Address it so you can fix it.

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Speaker 3: Don't bury it.

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Speaker 8: And and and then now it's a snowball effect that you blow up and really do it.

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Speaker 3: Oh lord, you have to talk to someone.

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Speaker 8: You talk to somebody.

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Speaker 1: That's the only way to get through is to start walking through it and address it.

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Speaker 3: Come I love that be that's so good. I ask you a different question.

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Speaker 2: When you're dating or looking well, I guess as a woman, you don't look they find you. Come on, now, what are the most important things for you? What's your deal breakers?

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Speaker 4: Ooh my deal breaker? And what's important to me? One thing about it? Two things for show? What's good? Anybody out there on single?

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Speaker 1: But let's be very clear, I am single, but you got to be God fearing for me, like all this, like who the libra is and what the Son has told y'all.

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Speaker 4: Like I don't want to hear about that.

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Speaker 1: I want to hear about what God said, you know, I want to know what he talking about. What's in your spirit man, what's in your inner man? Because your inner man got to talk to me. You know.

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Speaker 4: I'm that girl.

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Speaker 1: But you have to be God fearing. I'm not telling you that you have to be the Pastor's son. You know, we don't got to go down God's re depen ten for every Sunday. Sometimes I know you may be busy, but just make sure you hold on to God's word and it's embedded in you.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 1: Thank God for the foundation that I have, and I want my man to walk in at as well.

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Speaker 4: In that light, the deal breakers are for me is let me see, let me see. Oh Lord, you a liar, you a cheat us, you deceived.

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Speaker 1: I'm braik and I won't lest you've had in my life. So I'm taking the house the house, okay, lord, guys, Oh Lord, I mean, like I said, god fearing man, I mean respectable man.

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Speaker 4: You have to be. You know, I'm Caribbean, so you have to have some miners.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you have to have somebody's yall for walk with some manners, you know. But God fearing is my foundation. There's no offence of us about it. I'm not negotiating what you believe in. You're bet to believe it.

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Speaker 4: He's Christ around me. You know. If a man get to it, you don't have to be perfect. I'm not asking. I'm not asking for you to be perfect.

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Speaker 1: I'm not asking for you to be head to told this and the third you might have a lift in your depth.

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Speaker 4: I might still talk to you man.

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Speaker 8: You might.

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Speaker 1: You might have a little bit of h I might still you know, we can work some things out.

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Speaker 4: I'm not saying that now.

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Speaker 8: But make sure you have something.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not saying that, lomp, because we're gonna have to ask God to fix that.

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Speaker 4: You know, I can't talk to that now. But the deal breakers, for sure. You just can't cheat.

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Speaker 3: That's it.

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Speaker 2: Can't.

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Speaker 4: Don't do that. Okay, I might take him back, but you could take what kind of cheat?

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Speaker 3: What kind of cheat?

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Speaker 4: Okay?

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Speaker 3: My ten kids?

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Speaker 4: Ten kids?

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Speaker 1: Somebody somebody, it's something in it something ten ten kids.

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Speaker 3: That's a deal break.

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Speaker 4: Maybe four over that is a problem. I don't know. Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Samiah, you are married, and a wise man once said a man with no money has a lot of time, and a man with money has no time. When you were deciding on your person, did you choose time or money?

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Speaker 3: Oh that's a great question.

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Speaker 8: Money.

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Speaker 3: Seriously, I'm gonna keep it one hundred.

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Speaker 9: I mean, you know, my mom used to always say, fine, you somebody baby that love you more than you loved him Michael, and I.

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Speaker 4: Used to be like, why would I know?

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Speaker 9: Like, and this is my second goal my first marriage. I was like, you know, just all about just love, but my heart and but he's so and he's so sexy and so handsome. And all the things right, but he was horrible. He was abusive, he didn't, you know, care for my heart, and and he had money. So I said, the next time around, you know, god fearing, it's got to be the center.

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Speaker 4: Of our lives.

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Speaker 9: And I don't want anybody with kids anymore because the last one had a kid and the.

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Speaker 3: Kid used to cuss me.

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Speaker 4: I'm better than this step mama. I used to be like, man, both of you, the.

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Speaker 3: Child and the cut that she can cuss to.

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Speaker 9: So I was like, this time around, you know, I had to be honest with myself. Like I came from, you know, a household where my mom and dad both lived under the same ruth and I was lucky enough to have both parents there.

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Speaker 4: And I was like, I want something like that.

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Speaker 9: And I was like, well, I shouldn't have to minimize and change up my wish list because there could be somebody out there like that. So I met my husband, and he was not what I thought, you know, I would have as a husband, Like to just keep in a hundred people would come under my page like oh, she got her African. Then they would like tag me in the African starter kid, which was like the Chanel bag and like that ashy.

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Speaker 3: Flip flops shoes and I would be like.

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Speaker 4: Why he's not these?

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Speaker 3: And I mean, and to be honest, he really was.

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Speaker 1: He's amazing, Like he's again it was not what I put on paper, but he was all the other things that I needed. You know, back then, you know, they didn't want me. Now I'm hot, they all on me.

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Speaker 9: He wanted me when I wouldn't ht like when I wasn't you know, I was shaking pump pumps and get that twenty five dollars a game. And you know, I just like he believed in me in moments that I didn't even believe in myself.

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Speaker 3: And I think that's what you need.

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Speaker 9: You need someone that loves you more than what you love them at the moment, because it's gonna shift and there's gonna be seasons in your marriage or relationship where he.

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Speaker 4: Gonna be hot.

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Speaker 9: And I'm like, well hold on now, No, you don't been in a gym and you got your little chest wall you've been, you know, But it really it's important because then when you start dreaming and you want the career and all the things, like right now, I'm able to be here amongst the stage with all these beautiful lations with you.

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Speaker 3: Because he at home with the Charren No.

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Speaker 11: No.

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Speaker 9: A lot of times we say, oh money, well then there's roles in a relationship, but not in this one. He understands like these roles and the things change when it comes down to a successful marriage. As long as you are God fearing, you have your finances in order, because hello, I like nice stuff, and you have that sex, because that is very important. Even you know, you might have to speak on the mic, it's important, and yeah, yeah, it's it's a thing.

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Speaker 4: That's what you said.

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Speaker 9: Because because even when you communicate and they mad at you, if you sing a little song and I'm like, they're gonna be like, you know, okay, I forget. So I just think you just got to keep those things in order, you know, sax, finance, communication, and God.

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Speaker 3: Come on, I love it. I love that.

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Speaker 2: So I think it's safe to say that all of us are really strong in our faith. We've all at some point had conversations about just our faith and how we had to lean on God in certain situations. And I would say recently, I just did a podcast about this and opened up about you're talking about sex about God convicting me on sex.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm with TV. I mean, b I ain't doing it no more. I've been delivered. I promise we're doing what no more? Wait?

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Speaker 8: Wait so you're stilling be see?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Congratulations? Yeah, so thank y'all.

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Speaker 8: Go until marriage.

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Speaker 4: Yes, it goes into yeah because.

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Speaker 3: Don't need next week?

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Speaker 2: Okay, come all low us me this, but does that.

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Speaker 3: Include my talks? That they can include and everything?

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Speaker 2: Honey, I threw my vibrator away.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I was dead serious.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So, like I've been really in my Bible, and like every time I would read it, it seemed like I have on this Bible plan so it gives you like different books to read from, and I feel like every morning it was like sexual morality.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, it was just like jumping out the pair. I'm like, look, which, okay, calm down.

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Speaker 2: And finally I just got to the point I was like, all right, God, and I'm in a relationship and just transparently I was having sex. So I was like, this man's got to leave me. You know what I'm saying, Because like you feel like because we have been conditioned, I'm sure we all can have said we've been conditioned that what you don't do another woman will, right.

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Speaker 8: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So we've been like really groomed to like take care of a man and make sure that we know what we're doing, you know. And when we had that conversation, I literally was in my kitchen like crying as we're on the phone, and God was like, you just gotta trust me on this.

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Speaker 3: And I had done this before and the relationship didn't work out.

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Speaker 2: So I was like, well, that didn't work, so I'm gonna go on back to busting wide open.

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Speaker 4: You doing there.

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Speaker 2: I'll just being transient, keeping it real, unafieled all. And then this relationship came and God was convicting me again. I was like, all right, I really have to take this serious. So we got through that and he was like no, he said, we'll just find other ways to be intimate without any sexual Yeah. Yeah, so I we're doing that. And that was December that we like stopped that. And then I was at home. I was at home and God literally said I was sitting in bed and he said that too, and I said, what's you talking about?

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm talking about. And I looked to the nights saying, I said, now you're taking it too far.

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Speaker 2: Lord, he said that too, and so I literally pulled it out that my vibrator out the door, put it in the trash can. And it was the day that my cleaning ladies were coming. And that's when I knew I was serious, because I said on the podcast, I said if I wouldn't, if they didn't.

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Speaker 3: Come that day, I might have pulled that thing back out and watched it one more time.

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Speaker 8: Charge I don't want to waste it, right, don'.

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Speaker 2: You're going away on a hot as listen ninety nine and a half on Dude, that's what they said. I'm trying to make a honey okay, but no, I just want to know, like, has there been any any moments in your life where you, guys, have been tested, your faith has been tested, where God has really like pushed you.

00:25:19
Speaker 3: To your limits. Because that was a limit for me. I said that flesh is hard to fight. Anybody want to time in just like should skip me, skip me, skip me? He hates do that.

00:25:53
Speaker 4: She'd be like, oh my god, I want you to do that. It's like bullet le sister, don't do that.

00:25:57
Speaker 8: I can't imagine me to Heaven said, She's like, I mean she never tells me anything. I'm just saying, I'm like me, what do you be doing? She like, girl, she be showing me how to dance and stuff.

00:26:08
Speaker 4: I'm like, you do not be doing that.

00:26:12
Speaker 1: You know what's so crazy as me and be be talking about like selibacy. It was one year and I told her, like, I haven't had I wasn't having sex in.

00:26:19
Speaker 4: For like four years. Wow, four years.

00:26:22
Speaker 1: No, it's amazing, right, But if some dude came around and you already know how that go, dredhead tattoos, You're like, ooh god, y'all all right? And well, the last time I had sex was I could talk about this was September sixth, So I didn't walk in the New Year with you know, having sex.

00:26:41
Speaker 4: I was and I think, I'm gonna wait, you know, I don't know about the marriage Chris Food.

00:26:47
Speaker 1: I might do that.

00:26:48
Speaker 4: I might. I don't know, God hasn't.

00:26:50
Speaker 8: I just don't.

00:26:50
Speaker 1: Right in this season, I'm just not in a space of talking to anybody. So I am, like I said, I am single. And in this season I.

00:26:56
Speaker 4: Really was just focused.

00:26:57
Speaker 1: Like I said, it took me two years to write my devotional so I really and truly didn't walk in this season with a group chad of friends and all that good stuff. I spoke to like three four people in this season. It was Bi Simone, my hairstylist, makeup ours, my mother, and I just kept at it because I knew I had to sacrifice something and that was one of the ones. Like September sixth was that, And again I was intimate with this this in particular person, so I was like, Okay, we're not even talking to each other, the more we're not dealing with each other. But I could just stop this whole thing. And I haven't had sex since that, So I just was so focused on putting this book out, really posturing my heart really and truly thank y'all, like literally posturing my heart clear on my mind, like I said, I'm not I used to stress about the what ifs and maybes. I used to be depressed. You know what anxiety looks like. I know what nervousness is like, I know what it is to really battle the what ifs and maybes. And I just told myself, I can't do that in this season. If I'm writing day one do one hundred, I have to live by something I can't tell my readers or my listeners that I'm doing this. I'm here, I'm da da da, I'm having like yeah, put it in yeah yeah, like what Nigga way Like it don't go like that, like it don't go like it just don't make since Like of course, I'm a comedian. I'm gonna be funny. I'm gonna be on the table, I'm gonna have a little g string with Boots song. We're gonna dance, We're gonna do all this stuff. But the foundation of what my source is God. Because I remember when I remember when I sit beside this bod y'all watched Jazzy and she was the first one that took me on the road. You feel me, the first person to take me on the road, the first one give it up for Jack, the first one.

00:28:24
Speaker 4: That took me on the road.

00:28:26
Speaker 1: I haven't seen this face since twenty seventeen, eighteen, like face, the face. I haven't seen her since then, and she has been been doing her thing, being a mother, you know, killing it.

00:28:36
Speaker 4: But I haven't told you that. I just love you.

00:28:39
Speaker 1: I love you for stretching Like no, seriously, I can say that because I haven't we haven't spoken you know in a minute. But you were the first one to take me on the road when everyone else did not believe. And you told me get on the road, like you're so funny, you'll be able to do this. And I'm like, Jazz, I'm in Charlotte, I gotta figure it all out.

00:28:58
Speaker 4: I don't know what to do. Just go and do it.

00:29:01
Speaker 1: And there was a lot of haters that are on that tour that year. There was like, oh, she can't do this, she could just host, but you said, nah, my friend could do it, you know, at that time. So I appreciate you for just stretching me and pulling me twenty seventeen to say come on the road.

00:29:14
Speaker 4: And that was my first tour.

00:29:15
Speaker 1: Then wild'n Out came and if you guys know my story, and I said every time I always said I lied to get on Wildin' Out. And Jazz was the one who told me, girl, tell him that DC and Carlos your uncle like he has the email, guess even And so that was her. So every interview I do, I always say, my friend at the time told me to lie on it. Just lying in apple case, just lye in the email and it's a DC. Your cousin, carl Us, your uncle girl, you'll get in and I did you know?

00:29:41
Speaker 4: So I appreciate them. I appreciate that.

00:29:43
Speaker 1: I appreciate that bit bit DoD, like you really helped me in that space. So again, I when my faith has always been rocky, I used to do all on my mother's faith so much because she's such.

00:29:55
Speaker 4: A prayer warrior.

00:29:56
Speaker 1: And I was like, how how you how the doctor just told you that Domini gonna die and sad two hours and you're still going on. That's what the doctors told my brother he had seventy two hours to live. This when I was in Miami, he was not He was on breathing tubes. He had to feed through his stomach. He fell off his motorcycle. And my mama said, okay, well.

00:30:13
Speaker 8: That's what the doctor say.

00:30:15
Speaker 1: But the guy that I serve, Yeah, the guy that I serve said, okay, now I need to go on my fast for seventy two hours.

00:30:22
Speaker 4: And I have a brother to this day, I have a nephew. I have a nephew, so it's in my bloodline.

00:30:30
Speaker 1: And again I had to shapen my heart and get my posture and get my mind right to come into this season to be something else, and I don't. I always say I don't want someone to know me from back then?

00:30:40
Speaker 4: What do I look like now? And I stand tall in my victory?

00:30:43
Speaker 11: Y'all?

00:30:43
Speaker 6: Do I love that?

00:30:44
Speaker 4: Ladies?

00:30:45
Speaker 3: This has been beautiful past. Oh my goodness, so good.

00:30:50
Speaker 2: So I am introducing a new girls talk game before we close out this segment of the show.

00:30:56
Speaker 4: I want to play it with y'all.

00:30:57
Speaker 2: Are y'all?

00:30:57
Speaker 9: Damn?

00:30:58
Speaker 4: Okay, that's doing it?

00:30:58
Speaker 3: All right, let's do it. So there's cards next to you.

00:31:03
Speaker 2: These little carns DC your You got your cards, so I'll.

00:31:06
Speaker 3: Go first, all right?

00:31:07
Speaker 11: Oh lord?

00:31:08
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I ain't got my phone on me, but it says send a voice note to someone saying I had a dream about you last night and let them wonder.

00:31:18
Speaker 11: Yeah, phone, and you got to say you in that voice.

00:31:29
Speaker 3: I had to.

00:31:31
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, Look at people, I'm sorry.

00:31:37
Speaker 2: Okay, So let somebody else go so we can keep it going and then we'll get busy.

00:31:40
Speaker 4: Mind say, so you're going to be I was talking?

00:31:44
Speaker 8: Okay, okay, okay.

00:31:46
Speaker 4: Have you ever stopped an X or their new boot on social media? Be honest? Yes, I did yesterday. Yesterday yesterday.

00:32:00
Speaker 3: That's good. Okay.

00:32:01
Speaker 8: So I'm ready already because I'm really excited about this one.

00:32:04
Speaker 4: So I'm handing my phone. It's already on my DMS.

00:32:06
Speaker 8: This says, let the group pick someone for you to send a flirty DM to peak. It's like peak of celebrity.

00:32:18
Speaker 3: Hold on that now, I know did you?

00:32:20
Speaker 4: Who did you say? I'm not gonna tell you. You said to the phone, okay, saying no, you no, you gotta say that loud?

00:32:32
Speaker 6: Who is it?

00:32:33
Speaker 4: I wanted to be somebody knew it fresh?

00:32:35
Speaker 11: What if?

00:32:36
Speaker 4: What if you go to it in the DM? Already lived somebody? I don't they already been talking like somebody. I'm trying to bag somebody, do javana excel.

00:32:44
Speaker 3: Wait, they already got a message together. I'm looking at the phone.

00:32:47
Speaker 11: On my eye.

00:32:47
Speaker 4: They already got a message in there together.

00:32:49
Speaker 2: She's saying, and her wait and her bubbles already big that she already said something to him.

00:32:54
Speaker 3: They had already said something. We all want to know.

00:33:00
Speaker 4: What's the first stem?

00:33:01
Speaker 8: The baby talking about hate?

00:33:02
Speaker 4: Bo I still like you, thank God for I'm like Sandy, okay, ask here what you got?

00:33:19
Speaker 3: Okay?

00:33:19
Speaker 2: I don't know which one y'all want me to do, let's tick one cause we run a long time, So go ahead and pick one.

00:33:25
Speaker 9: Okay, I'll just do the band question Alexia Timothy, Hey, best friend, you in here?

00:33:31
Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, I see I'm trying to look out for you.

00:33:36
Speaker 9: Wrot, how do you move past the heartache of what you thought was a genuine friendship but an actuality was jealousy.

00:33:42
Speaker 4: Rearing his ugly head. Take us there, come on, take us now? What God has.

00:33:56
Speaker 11: Come on?

00:33:58
Speaker 4: Come on?

00:34:01
Speaker 3: What God has.

00:34:05
Speaker 4: It is for me?

00:34:10
Speaker 8: I know with that.

00:34:15
Speaker 3: That he will bring me out.

00:34:20
Speaker 2: What God.

00:34:23
Speaker 4: It is for me.

00:34:27
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the perfect answer, babies. That's good, ladies. I love y'all. You got so much guys. You guys, stay till we have so much more in store for y'all. DJ Mars take us away.

00:34:43
Speaker 4: Hey, let's go, Let's go.