Clean Breaks and Messy Starts with Spencer! | Golden Hour

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Speaker 1: Yeah, settles up with your father?

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: We got some really great questions today that we're gonna do with our special guest, Kathy.

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Speaker 1: You want the honors today? He's so they're all handsome. Fan favorite from gen season of the Batchelor Spencer how are you doing Welcome? Welcome, Hi Spencer, How are y'all?

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Speaker 4: I'm doing better now?

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Speaker 1: But you weren't nervous coming on to talk to us? Oh?

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Speaker 3: Extremely, extremely nervous. Yeah, I'm getting Night one PTSD right now.

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Speaker 1: Okay, wait, wait real quick?

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Speaker 2: Did you get that Night one? Were you like really nervous?

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Speaker 3: No? So Night one? Actually I was very lucky. I was the second one out of our limo, and when the door opened for the first person to leave, I actually saw Jen and I made eye contacts with her and that kind of help.

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Speaker 4: He's everything I was like.

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Speaker 3: And they do such a good job of hiding all the camera's crew anything like that.

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Speaker 4: So it was just a girl standing out from a building and just.

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Speaker 1: A girl looking for a guy. You got this girl.

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Speaker 2: Everybody else entrance right, watched everybody else come. I was one of the last second to the last one to get there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I was number two out, so I was It was really nice that.

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Speaker 4: That, Spencer.

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Speaker 1: How nervous were you?

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Speaker 4: I wasn't nervous initially.

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Speaker 3: I wasn't nervous until we started having a few of our like when I.

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Speaker 4: Was going into one on one conversations.

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Speaker 3: That's why I was like okay, but when it was just introductions meeting someone, I can usually I do pretty good job of filling any dead space if there's ever any on I thrive at first dates.

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Speaker 4: So I was. I was excited for night one and then all.

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Speaker 2: The guys like you were just bonding and getting to know everybody else that was coming.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, that was fun because for.

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Speaker 3: The first few days that you're there, it's just you and you don't really have any contact with anyone, and then you are tossed into limos and you meet all these great guys.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like his season was like our season. Okay, I have a question before we get into anything else. You said, I was reading about you, because you know, I like to read about the people I'm going to talk to. You said something that really stuck out to me. You said, you can't compete for someone's heart. It's not a competitional show because it's a two way street. Tell me how you came to that, Like how that just blew my mind when I read that, because that didn't past relationships. Tell me.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. So, growing up throughout high.

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Speaker 3: School college I played sports, and that's obviously a very competitive space to be in. And when I was younger, I kind of you love the same as I viewed you know, work, sports, anything like that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that you can, if you work.

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Speaker 1: Hard enough, you can get the prize.

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Speaker 4: Got it exactly.

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Speaker 3: And if you put in put in the work, if you do the right things, it just comes. And in my age now of thirty one, having been through a lot of longer term relationships, love is really unique. It's a two way street. There are two parties involved. And you can want someone to love you as much as you can love them, want someone to love you to your heart's extent, but it doesn't mean that they're going to And during my time on the show, there were a lot of people that would reference to oh, this is a competition.

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Speaker 4: This is a competition.

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Speaker 3: And there were aspects of everything that were competitive, right. It was getting one on one time, making sure that you got across parts of you that make yourself who you are to gen and so you could compete to do a lot of those things, But as far as competing to win someone's hard it wasn't a competition.

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Speaker 4: It's love, Snapper, a competition.

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Speaker 1: I love that I love has to happen so great. You also said in that same article, that you approach relationships differently after the show, how I want to tell us, Salat Jane, what changed you coming from that?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and how you.

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Speaker 1: Approach relationships differently.

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Speaker 4: It's kind of too prong, yes, ma'am. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: So going into the show, I was lucky to have been in a relationship that I thought was going to result in marriage, So I knew what was important for me to know about someone and what was important for someone to know about me going into this experience, But I've never been in a relationship where there's a finite amount of time before you have to get from point A to point B. It's always been especially as a man. You date someone and you get engaged when you're ready to get engaged.

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Speaker 1: And you learn about them, right, yeah, the time.

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Speaker 3: You learn about them, and there's no there's no set deadline. So going into filming it was a really really interesting experience because there's this finite amount of time, and having been in a very serious relationship and engagement before, I knew what I needed to know about someone, what I wanted someone to know about me, And with that time, it forces you to prioritize, Okay, what's most important, what's the least important, because yeah, I want my.

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Speaker 4: Person to know my favorite food or favorite color.

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Speaker 3: But more than that, yeah, more than that, I want them to know the foundational parts that make me the person I am, and I one thing is going to be.

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Speaker 1: Over the long haul, the really important thing. Yeah, your love language. You know. I like that you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I asked the love language question night one.

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Speaker 3: Actually yeah, but yeah, so it kind of I didn't foresee this changing the way I approached relationships outside of a romantic relatetionationship.

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Speaker 4: But with the time that I spent.

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Speaker 3: With the rest of the guys with production, it all kind of just cascaded into other relationships and changed.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 3: The conversations that we're having at the level we were having them wasn't a standard.

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Speaker 4: Hey, I just met you a couple of nights ago.

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Speaker 1: We've got four more minutes. Let's get to know each other.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was and talk fast.

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Speaker 2: Can you share with me that I noticed that you do a journal on gratitude.

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Speaker 4: Yes, ma'am, Okay, tell.

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Speaker 3: Me, I have a five minute journal that I do every morning. That's just things that you're grateful for, things that you would have changed from the day before.

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Speaker 4: Things are.

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Speaker 1: Writing it down, and I'm going to tell you that is I have started. I don't write it down, but I wake up every morning and just sort of review what I'm goingightful for because it really doesn't change your your whole perspective on the upcoming day.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it does, and it changes the way that you kind of react to different situations, I think.

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Speaker 4: And there's just so much I think we have to be grateful for that can get lost and.

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Speaker 2: Bream it to the universe every day just gives you a more.

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Speaker 1: It just does.

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Speaker 4: So it does.

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Speaker 1: Thankful for things that haven't even come yet.

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Speaker 4: That's right exactly.

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Speaker 3: And I think one of the things too that took me a while to really grasp is being thankful for the things you wanted and didn't.

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Speaker 4: Receive, because that's hard. Didn't receive them for a reason.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, And that's that's just it comes down to trusting and just believing that the path your life is going is that way for a reason.

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Speaker 2: Or haven't received them as of yet, that's absolutely right. They still may come.

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Speaker 1: But that it's all in my mind. That's all of the positive. It's having that positive outlook, all right. Have you been on any dates since the show.

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Speaker 4: I've been on one date. Have really?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I haven't really.

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Speaker 1: Did she reach out to you?

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Speaker 3: It was someone I knew before the show actually, and we were just friends acquaintances and we went on one date and it was an awesome date. She doesn't live in Dallas, so that didn't really have a pan out.

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Speaker 1: When did you break off your engagement? How long before you went on the show?

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Speaker 3: Oh that was four years before the show, So that was four four and a half years. Yeah, yeah, so I had dated after that relationship.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, since.

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Speaker 3: The show, it's just kind of been a whirlwind. So I obviously I had my business and when I.

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Speaker 2: Left it do we want to know all about pet?

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Speaker 1: I have two cats? What can you do for me? What do you do?

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Speaker 4: Is it right? Oh?

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 3: So we after the show, a lot of people thought that I was even either a pet photographer or I was painting pets. So unfortunately I'm not that artistically gifted. We have eighty two employees on staff now. They're all artists, and we take photos of people's pets that they submit like your favorite photo, and they use yeah, well they use Adobe illustrators, so it's actually a digital kind of rendering and then we'll put on portraits and blankets and mugs and we're actually about to launch puzzles and stuff.

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Speaker 4: Can I tell you.

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Speaker 1: I gave This wasn't my pet I gave. I didn't clearly didn't think it through. Last year I gave my son in law. My daughter and son Will had their first child seventeen months ago. So for the thank you, so for the Christmas the baby, you know, for babies first Christmas. My son in law loves to play golf, and I ordered golf balls with the baby's face on it. Oh, don't hit the baby. I didn't take it through, and he goes, Kathy, I can't use.

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Speaker 4: Use remember, so you know what?

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Speaker 3: You could have come up with a really good solution though for wives that don't want their husbands.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but there you go. That's a business in and of itself.

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Speaker 1: You go, how did you get into that? Just from I mean how Yeah?

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Speaker 3: So I have always been pretty entrepreneurial when I was really young, back when I.

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Speaker 4: Was a big Backstreet Boys kid. I don't know if you yeah.

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Speaker 1: We're not that come on, but.

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Speaker 3: I no, no, I'm just saying I don't know if it was your taste and music you.

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Speaker 1: Know boy bands, yeah whatever, boy band.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was the boy band craze.

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Speaker 3: And I remember when my whole family would come over for the holidays, I would host a Battery Boys concert where I would charge for tickets and.

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Speaker 1: Making money off the family.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and they would come into my room, which was our our venue, and I would lift sync Battery Boys with my brothers. So always kind of been entrepreneurial and yeah, yeah, and this was the business that kind of took off. I've always had little side businesses prior.

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Speaker 4: To this one.

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Speaker 1: It was brothers in it with you.

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Speaker 4: They one of.

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Speaker 3: Them works for me, but no, not all of them. So I have three little brothers actually.

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Speaker 1: So you're the oldest in the family.

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Speaker 4: Yes, ma'am.

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Speaker 1: Nice. Wow, all right, good question here. If you were invited to Paradise, would you go?

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Speaker 3: I if I were single?

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Speaker 4: And what do you mean if you were single?

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Speaker 1: Are you not single?

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Speaker 3: I am single right now, So if I was still saying I'm actively actively looking to find my person, like that's the whole reason I'm on the show. That's kind of my north star right now, person starting my family.

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Speaker 4: But if you know, the time rolls around and I am still single and.

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Speaker 3: There are some fantastic women that have been through the franchise. I'm not super familiar with anyone outside of everyone on Joey's season, But.

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Speaker 1: Would you want who? Would you want?

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Speaker 2: The spl There's a lot of good ones on there, don't you we want an answer?

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Speaker 4: There's some there's some great options.

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Speaker 1: I like, look at his eyes are twinkling, Ladies, you gotta get see this guy?

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Speaker 3: You got to get.

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Speaker 4: I would you know?

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Speaker 3: I can think of worse places to find love than a beach in Mexico, So it would be such an awesome opportunity if I had the opportunity to. And like the growth that I left with from the show, It honestly has altered the way that I approach relationships.

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Speaker 2: You just answered next question, what what have you changed your approach?

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Speaker 1: Well, that's what we're talking about. It gets to the bigger topics. Well, yeah, I want to know the biggest lesson you learned.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So I've always been really, really intentional in my relationships. I'm a long term relationship guy. I've been in three relationships now that have been longer than three years. So I'm I'm very much a relationship guy, and luckily I have been in different relationships that have given me a little bit of information into what works for me, what doesn't work for me, And now even more so leaving the show, I'm really dialed in on what I'm looking for in a person.

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Speaker 1: And you learn more about yourself then, right coming off?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, And I learn more about myself what I deal well with, what I don't deal well with, And you know, people are always evolving, but I feel like now in my thirties, I'm pretty solidified in who I am as person, and not a lot is hopefully going to change from here. I feel like I'm pretty set in, well, what is the.

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Speaker 1: What is the top one or two things you're looking for in a woman?

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Speaker 3: So number one and two really really high up. There is someone with a positive outlook on things. I've dated people that have a very morose, negative outlook, and Okay, it's straining.

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Speaker 1: And it's not fun, it's not there's nothing good.

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Speaker 2: You feel like you're always trying to convince them, no, it's not that bad. It's like this is a job.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. And obviously I'm I'm a big problem. I'm in a relationship, very very comfortable with being the rock that someone can lean on, and I'm I'm always there to offer a solution. But I've learned through relationships that sometimes people just won't be able to vent. And with those super negative people, after they vent two, three, four.

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Speaker 1: Times, and you know what, it drains us and they it's like a tornado, you know, they just come through and they take all the energy with them and we're left exhausted and they just go on to the next you know, negative.

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Speaker 3: Telling exactly, and it's always and it's nothing can just be good, and you can't be happy where you are.

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Speaker 4: It's always something else.

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Speaker 3: And then the number two that would be very high up there, as I mentioned, like eighty five ninety percent of the time, I'm so I love being that that rock, that person that you can lean on, that's there that has your back always. But life can kick you and no matter who you are, it'll knock you down. And when I've been in those moments where life has knocked me down, I need to have that partner that can end up there they can stand up and be there for me to lean on. And I've been in relationships where when I get knocked down, everything goes to hell in a handbasket because yeah, exactly exactly.

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Speaker 1: It's nice to have that mutual support. And yes, ma'am, it's a two ways ste it's a two way straight. So Spenser, we're going to ask you.

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Speaker 2: We get a lot of questions and stories and they want some advice.

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Speaker 1: Will you be willing to help us out with some advice?

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Speaker 4: I love that.

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Speaker 1: Yes, all right, we're going to start with question one. As soon as it here it comes all right. Anonymous asks Kathy and Susan. I'm in a big mess and I need your help. So I've been sleeping with my married boss on and off for about six months. I know it's terrible. He has a shitty marriage, and his wife has also been an absolute nightmare to every woman in this office. She even made his pregnant secretary cry at our last holiday party. Here's the problem. I live next to this very sweet old woman. She bakes me cookies for my birthday. I drive and pick up her grocery twice a month. We even sometimes get lunch at one of the nearby restaurants. I've opened up to her a little bit about dating a married man. She's disappointed and always tells me it'll never last, but she does it in a way that feels motherly, not judgy. I couldn't break her heart more so I never told her it was my boss, just a guy that's like eighteen years older than I am, that's rich and married to someone awful. Well, I am so relieved. I never gave her more details. Oh boy, never gave her more details than that, because yesterday I found out she's my boss's mother in law. Sh my god, I knew that's where this was going. Okay. Basically, I was in my friend's car and we saw my us walk into my neighbor's house. I later found out the next time I saw my neighbor that he's her son in law. From what she told me, I guess my boss's wife was getting pissed that they never see her outside of holidays, so they're gonna start coming over a lot more. I haven't spoken to my neighbor since because she's been out of town and still hasn't mentioned and still and I still haven't mentioned it to my boss. What do I do? This is crazy? And all I got to say, you think that's your biggest problem?

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Speaker 4: Right? Holy?

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Speaker 3: I feel like the I feel like the answer is really really glaringly obvious.

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Speaker 1: I love you. I love you, Spencer, I speak it man. Tell us how the world.

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Speaker 4: Cut off everything with this guy? Instantly? Do it?

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Speaker 1: Now? Do you think she enjoys being the other woman? Like? Who wants to be the other There's so many things you don't want to be the other woman? You don't ship? Were you eat? I mean, it's your job, it's so yeah, the next door to his mother in law.

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Speaker 2: You know, I gotta say though, that to me, I anonymous universe telling you, shame on you, anonymous.

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Speaker 1: I got to say, that's what I said. That's the least to your problems. The fact that you are sleeping with you. I don't care what kind of shitty marriage he has. You are not a smart making a smart move now, honey.

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Speaker 3: Also not your place to make that judgment. You don't have insigns in a marriage or relationships.

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Speaker 4: Just to be fair, like.

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Speaker 1: They might go home and have it happy at him. You know, maybe he's just telling her he's got a shitty marriage.

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Speaker 2: She's assuming, and what do we know about that? Do not assume?

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Speaker 1: Do not assume. There's the word ass isnt assume for a reason?

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Speaker 4: Make you and me when you assume?

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Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, I'm glad it was anonymous because I don't even want to call you by name.

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Speaker 1: But that's crazy. You need to rethink. Do you start over? Yep?

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Speaker 4: Wow?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the eighteen year difference. Age difference sounds like a Dallas thing. Anonymous might live in Dallas.

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Speaker 1: Oh, she's just Spencer. We got plenty of that in Austin took. Yeah, that's a state thing.

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Speaker 2: Moving on to number two, and this is from Nina, Hi, Kathy, and Susan. I need your help. My boyfriend of four years and I recently broke up. Long story short, It was mutual, but the catalyst was essentially my fault. We have a dog that we adopted together three years ago and he's my absolute world. His name is Nicki, and I just can't picture my life without him. My boyfriend also really really loves this dog, and I know Nicki has been really helping him through this breakup. He's been taking it really hard. I really can't see my helf going without Nikki forever. So how do I go about asking my ex to share Nikki with me? Can I ask now? Or should I wait? The breakup is still really fresh, but I don't want my ex to assume Nikki is his and then have to beg to share him.

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Speaker 1: What should I do? Thank you so much? Love you both. Wait can I I've got the solution before Spencer, I've got and oh wow, it's going to bring you business. Call Spencer, Call Spencer, send him a picture of the dog. Frame on the coffee mugs. Put it on the coffee mugs, Put it on an eight by ten on your wall. Talk to Nikki and okay.

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Speaker 4: Susan, are you looking for another job? We might be hiring.

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Speaker 1: That was Kathy? That was me?

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Speaker 4: Wait wait, I came are really small right now?

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Speaker 1: It was in the studio today we have each other all a big and if that's sort, if you hire me, it's just hop skipping to jump from there.

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Speaker 4: That's perfect.

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Speaker 1: Now what do you think?

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Speaker 4: Tell you it's it is also kind of so, I guess.

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Speaker 3: The one thing that sticks out to me is when she says that it was essentially her fault that they broke up. If you're going if you're going to want yeah, that's what's the freaking dog.

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Speaker 1: No, he's got the dog, he's got the dog. We want visitation rights. So thank god they didn't have kids.

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Speaker 3: I was dating I got my dog with someone that I was dating, and it ended.

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Speaker 4: It ended mutually, but.

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Speaker 3: She ended up saying, hey, she's happier with you, she likes you more, essentially, and she was really really mature and saying that. And I'm grateful for that, because dealing with this would be rough. If you're going to ask the split time, you got to do it now and again.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think by the way, baby, I hate that I ruined your world. And I love Nikki as much as you do, so I'm going to take them every other weekend or But you know.

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Speaker 1: What's hard about passion, guys, here's what's hard about that. The elephant in the room, or in this case, the dog in the room, is that is that he's taking the break up. Really it's difficult for him. So do you really think he wants to see her at his front door? No? No, But she loves the dog too, So how do you fix that? I mean, I love my cats, but I'd get another dog.

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Speaker 2: But she's going to be punished because she ended a relationship and can't.

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Speaker 1: No. I mean, in a perfect world, right, in a perfect world, they would you know, meet at at at you know, McDonald's and share the you know, hand off the dog every week. But I just I think it's really hard when your heart's broken and you have to see that.

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Speaker 2: Best case scenario is give him the dog and go get in that.

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Speaker 1: That's what I said.

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Speaker 3: That would be best case scenario because for her, if she's the one that decided to cut it off, obviously emotions aren't really involved for her anymore. But having been on the side of the party that's kind of caught off guard. That would be really, really rough, especially because he'd probably keep thinking there's still a chance they get back together because they have this.

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Speaker 1: I think the best thing. You broke his heart, and that's okay. You know, that's part of falling in love is you might fall out of love. That's okay. But I think the guy suffering, and I think I hope this woman puts the pain that he's in a little bit ahead of her want and need for the dog.

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Speaker 3: That's preach cavvy. That's why I think too, Yes, all right, Yes, one more.

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Speaker 4: One more.

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Speaker 1: Here we go Anonymous ass Kathy and Susan. I'm just going to get right to it. This is so mortifyed for me, but I have to do it. I just moved in with my boyfriend. He lists with three other boys. Well, that's the first problem. Okay, he lives with three other boys that are his best friends. We're going to be staying with him until his lease ends in about three months, and then we're going to move into our own place. Our bathroom is connected to our bedroom. He works from home. I have IBS otherwise irritable bowel syndrome. What the hell do I do? I just can't do it. I'm too nervous. He's right there, He's always right there. I can't go in my office. I can't go in the shared bathroom. This is a nightmare. I didn't even think about this. We're not even close to a decent bathroom in our area that I could escape to. Just a gas station bathroom that's a far walk away. I'm so nervous to be human around him. How do I get over the fear? Please help? Well, I have IBS, So go ahead, Spencer. What do you think?

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm thinking you make a little investment in something called pooper reve It's a I got it.

00:26:54
Speaker 4: Everybody need to make a little investment, and.

00:26:58
Speaker 3: Maybe when you're in there, either watch tiktoks or something with loud audio.

00:27:04
Speaker 1: Or run plush her to see plush plus.

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Speaker 4: There we go.

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Speaker 2: You know what I got to say, Wait a minute, Wait a minute, she's embarrassed in front of her boyfriend if he doesn't know she has like, isn't that something your boyfriend?

00:27:18
Speaker 4: You should probably listen.

00:27:21
Speaker 1: I was very when I was dating my husband. I it was really hard for me. And when it came on, it came on very quickly. It does, and I was embarrassed and I didn't know. So I can only imagine with all these guys, it's you know that, it's not just go and be done. It's painful, it's it's not good. And I but here's my question, anonymous, And I feel your pain, no pun intended. I feel your pain. However, I have to ask why didn't you wait for this until the lease ended in three months?

00:27:58
Speaker 3: Like?

00:27:58
Speaker 1: Why did you make your life so difficult? Forget the ibs? You know what he's going to be up for the roommate who wants to live with four guys? Not I said, the little clean up after these per who cares wait the three months? Go get your You know.

00:28:13
Speaker 4: What I will say. So I've been in I was in a relationship.

00:28:18
Speaker 3: It was like eight months I was dating someone and for the first six months, if i'd ever go stay at her place, she was in an apartment complex with just like she was an apartment room with one one bedroom, one bath.

00:28:31
Speaker 4: If I had to go.

00:28:34
Speaker 3: To go, I would go down to the lobby and say that I forgot something in my car. I'd go down to the lobby bathroom.

00:28:42
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think a lot of people do that.

00:28:45
Speaker 2: I would say, honey, excuse me, it's that time, stay clear.

00:28:53
Speaker 1: It's something that happens. Everybody goes it is, but ibs is I've had it. I know it's like God, I don't so anonymous. I feel sorry for you. I would say, you know, get a hold, get a hotel room for three months, and you know, that's what the hell you did.

00:29:09
Speaker 4: That's what a for.

00:29:14
Speaker 1: And that On that happy note, Spencer, I hate to tell you this, but this is going to do it for our episode with you on wuld you come back? I had so much fun talk.

00:29:26
Speaker 3: I would love to come back, and I can I flip the script on you for one moment, ask a question.

00:29:34
Speaker 1: You know what, Absolutely, it'll be very quick. Take the time we got. We'll just extend that. You know, we'll just block, but we'll just push somebody else off of that's half an hour.

00:29:45
Speaker 4: I'll be quick. I don't know who's next. Tell them I apologize.

00:29:48
Speaker 1: You're good, You're good, You're good.

00:29:50
Speaker 3: I happen to have a woman in my life that I care very very deeply about, who is single after some not great real relationships, excluding the relationship with my father.

00:30:04
Speaker 4: And dad's available.

00:30:06
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, is your father available?

00:30:09
Speaker 4: He's father's remarried. Unfortunately, I would have told you guys that instant.

00:30:14
Speaker 1: Okay, what does this woman have to do with your father? Will be quiet?

00:30:19
Speaker 3: This is this is my mother and she has been looking for her person. She's lost hope a little bit. And there happens to be some fantastic men on a TV show that's airing right now.

00:30:33
Speaker 2: She should fill out that application, get on itself.

00:30:38
Speaker 1: How old is your mom? She is fifty six right now, so that's a little young for the show. But I will give you some advice that you're well.

00:30:47
Speaker 4: You did this for.

00:30:48
Speaker 1: My advice is tell your mom to get up, get out, join some clubs, learn how to play tennis, learn how to kayak, you know, learn join group to do stuff, because if you put yourself in situations where saying she's sitting at home, No, she's looking for love. I'm saying love does not come and knock on your door. And so if she will get out and do things. The thing is, you meet people when you're doing things you love, and you meet someone who has the same interest, you have a much better shot at having a good date.

00:31:23
Speaker 2: And coming from her right side here, the right side of the brain. If there's someone in particular that she's interested in from this show, send a little note in his messages. You know it's called the m Yeah. Yeah, she just energuced yourself, you know, something nice.

00:31:40
Speaker 3: And with the unfortunate track record that's taking place, I think she's almost given up hope.

00:31:47
Speaker 4: So I might have to take as into my own heath.

00:31:49
Speaker 1: You know what, Tell you to know who it is you write them, Tell her to read, tell her tell her to reach out, tell her to come to Austin. I'll take her to coffee. I'll teach her or d M Joan and have joan.

00:32:00
Speaker 4: There you go, there you go. How long is your moment single?

00:32:05
Speaker 3: She has been single now for a little over three years, and she was in a ten year relationship.

00:32:11
Speaker 1: He sucks. That's hard.

00:32:13
Speaker 4: Yeah, that one. That one was that guy stuck.

00:32:17
Speaker 1: But I love that you're looking out for your mom. I really really.

00:32:23
Speaker 4: Does she live in down She is in Dallas, yes, ma'am.

00:32:26
Speaker 1: Wow cool. Well, I would say, I don't know. She active? Does she do a lot of stuff?

00:32:31
Speaker 4: Yes?

00:32:31
Speaker 3: Yeah, she and she has friends that keep her really active to which is good, you know.

00:32:38
Speaker 1: I mean, look how busy we are. We don't again, it's it's it's keeping a positive attitude, like we were talking about earlier. She just you know, get up every day and and put it out there that you're happy in. Life's good and who knows what it'll come.

00:32:51
Speaker 2: Killing me not to ask who it is.

00:32:56
Speaker 1: Oh, is there somebody on the show? There is someone on the show she's interested in.

00:33:02
Speaker 4: I know that.

00:33:03
Speaker 3: So she has been watching the show and she said that there are men on the show that she's interested in.

00:33:08
Speaker 2: Yeah, do a little do a little work for her, honey. Yeah, you know, if she just waits a couple more years, she can apply and be on it.

00:33:15
Speaker 4: I just wanted to know if you guys had it.

00:33:17
Speaker 3: Seems like you had a fantastic experience, and we did and this has been such a pleasure, and thank you our pleasure.

00:33:26
Speaker 1: We're going to have you back again. Trust me, I would love to you you.

00:33:30
Speaker 4: Let me know when, and maybe I just need to drive down to Austin.

00:33:32
Speaker 1: You knows, hey, Spencer, let me know, let me lie in, let me know you play golf. We like to play golf.

00:33:38
Speaker 4: You go, Oh my gosh, you guys would want me at golf. I'm not that talent.

00:33:42
Speaker 1: Well that would make us feel really good. So you're invited.

00:33:45
Speaker 3: Perfect, Okay, just give me like a six wing handicap and we're good.

00:33:52
Speaker 1: Oh, who's counting scores? By the way, I have a foot weedge? You know what that is?

00:33:58
Speaker 4: What's a foot edge?

00:34:00
Speaker 1: Who you want to go?

00:34:01
Speaker 4: I like that I can do that.

00:34:03
Speaker 1: That I can do, I'll probably break a toe or something.

00:34:08
Speaker 2: Thank you so much, and thank you everybody for listening today.

00:34:12
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00:34:35
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00:34:52
Speaker 1: Until next time, have a great week for now,