We All Deserve Love | Golden Hour

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. We're back, We're here, and we're so glad that you've joined us today. Thank you, Kathy.

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Speaker 2: Yes we are And if you haven't listened to our episode from Wednesday, check it out. We had our really dear friend Nancy from The Golden Bachelor.

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Speaker 1: She was awesome. Nancy is always awesome. She is just the kindest, sweetest, pretty person and so pretty.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and she's young, and she's really young. Yet don't rub it ind Susan, I'm telling you, don't rub it in.

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Speaker 1: She's she is. You know, we talked to her a lot.

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Speaker 2: I love how she opened up and shared with us about diabetes, the one tooth thing that she's getting her if.

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Speaker 1: She went, you know what, But here's the thing about Nancy, and she said it. She wears hearing aids. She's talked about that on the show. She has candy, she has cansling, she has she has diabetes, she has some has a tooth that needs to But you know what, none of it gets her down. She is still looking for love. She's still so positive. She doesn't look for reasons not to engage in life. She's always looking to engage. And I love that and she's fun. She's fun to be with.

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Speaker 2: On vacation, we were a blast of three of us. Somebody out there is going to sweep her up.

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Speaker 1: You just wait, wait, can we just go back? We didn't talk about it on the podcast with her. Do you remember when we were leaving Saint Martin, Oh my god, the flood Wait, she was at the back of the car.

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Speaker 2: The poor girl couldn't get a word in edgeways, and people wrote that in too.

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Speaker 1: Nancy got to speak up. She she we were driving, it was pouring rain and flights were being canceled and Nancy is just freaking out thinking. I was laughing because my flight back to Austin was fine, no problem, not delayed. Susan's got a phone in each hand to a flight myself, so me, it was no big deal. A one, Yeah, she's booking. He's like, can't get home. I'm going to be stuck here by myself. It was so it was funny. It really was funny. Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: So today we're answering questions from fans who have written in asking for advice, and like always, we do have some good ones, and don't forget if you have a question for Kathy and I reach out. Go to bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour. You know, it was really interesting Nancy sharing with us. After Daisy sharing about.

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Speaker 1: Her career, yeah, her colient plan, Nancy all of a sudden shared about what's going on with her. And so what I find really interesting in that is she wasn't really comfortable. We knew because we shared a room with her at the mansion, but she wasn't really comfortable sharing with people about having diabetes. And now she's very comfortable, attributed to Daisy. But you know what, Susan, I think the reason she didn't want to share it before was she thought that people people judge her or think there's something wrong with her, or she's not worthy of dating, or she'd be too much trouble today and she is that's crazy because so many people have that issue. And she's OK, it's okay, and she said that, you know, she told us she dated a guy who broke up with her.

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Speaker 2: But the interesting point here is she gave credit to Daisy speaking out. That's what gave her the courage to speak. And you know what that does me all of us, all of us speaking out makes it okay.

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Speaker 1: And also us old dog can learn from young puppies. They always learn. I learned every single day. I'm alive. All right, Well, today we're today, we're moving on and we're going to be answering questions from fans who have written in asking for advice, and like always, we have got some really good ones today. Don't forget if you have a question for Susan and me, please reut go to Bachelor nation dot com slash Golden Hour. Yes, please don't forget to do that.

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Speaker 2: But first, let's get started with today's question of the day.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I think we should have some fun with this one today, Susan, we've talked a lot about meeting men on dating apps, So here's the question. If we could do give a man three things they should absolutely not do so that they could have a first date.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I hope there's men paying attention out there. I know the number one thing. Go well two, give us one first current pictures and don't take them in the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: That's two.

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Speaker 2: That's two, Okay Current, I got more than three. Okay, I've got a couple here too.

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Speaker 1: I like that. Mine is if you're bald, celebrated, enjoy it. Don't wear a baseball cap and then make it worse by turning around awards. Do not, under any circumstances hold up dead fish and a can of beer. Oh god, I know one like that.

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Speaker 2: But going back to if you're being bald, as long as they're showing more than one picture, because a lot of bald men don't want the sun on their head, and they do wear caps a lot. So if they're showing a picture of them doing an activity or what have you, they're going to have that on right as long as there is other pictures showing who you really are.

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Speaker 1: I got it. Okay, guys, listen up. A lot of us like bald men, so don't hide it. I don't know about you, but I think when a guy holds up a dead fish, it's always a big long fish. Are you trying to advertise something that takes skill? Do?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: It does? No? I know it doesn't. I think they're advertising something else when they're whole up. Guys, it's not attractive. Don't do it selfiees in the bathroom. I mean, with just a note. It's gross. They're shape. It's just it's wrong.

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Speaker 2: And at fifty plus years of age. If you're still living in your mind basement, that's not a good thing to start with.

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Speaker 1: Okay, and the other one, I'm not sure you're going to greet me on this one, Susan. We said top three should have been the top thirty. Please put a shirt on when you take a picture. Please, no towels, I mean the low towls. All right, let's do the opposite. Okay, Okay, okay. What could we help them with with their profile? Talk about the things you love to do and what you're looking for in a partner. Okay, anything else? Oh, there's lots more, But what do you think? I agree with that?

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Speaker 2: And just be honest, be honest, don't lie about your age, be honest. No, I've been known because after sixty I'm going to admit it, after sixty years old. I was sixty one, and all of a sudden, the people they would send you on the site that match with you were like, I'm young at heart, and I know a lot of people are. However, when I go to meet somebody, it's the very first thing out of my mouth. And it was only three years. But now I don't go on dating sites because.

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Speaker 1: I'm sixty seven. Oh my god, so so my kids. This is true. Sorry kids, if you're listening, My kids told me to lie about my age everybody. My daughter Caitlin said, Mom, you're so funny, like they don't look on you act young. But you know what, and we're telling them not to don't lie because you're starting a relationship right with a lie. If you'll lie about that, what I.

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Speaker 2: Mean, if it's a couple of years and you go to meet them, tell the truth right then.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay everyone, if you're listening, I'm sixty years old. That's too big of a lie. Oh now we're exciting. What's too big of a lie?

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Speaker 2: Just have current pictures, full body pictures. People like I've heard a lot of stories, a lot of stories, men and women both that they go and they've chatted with somebody for a few days or weeks online and then they talked on the phone and they go to meet and the person shows up and they look nothing like they did in their heads.

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Speaker 1: Shuts, you know, be real, be real. Can I just say something that guys on a first date do what Joey did on The Bachelor. Listen, listen, show some interest. We don't need to hear everything that happened in your life from the cradle. Ask Sometimes that's nerves.

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Speaker 2: I get that, but always ask about the person sitting next to you. Don't just keep going on and on about your life and what you do and so on. Have you imagine Kathy for either one of us after being on the show. Of course, we're going to have more to say because of our experience, and they're going to ask questions about it. But don't forget to stop, pause and say what about you?

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Speaker 1: Sue me about who was Susan? Yeah, I'm stuck for what you just said thirty seconds ago. We only have a lot to say since being on the show. We always have a lot. You gotta be kidding me. But I learned how to listen. That's true, and listening is so important. All right, let's move on. We've got some great questions today. The first one comes from Chris from Arizona, and she says, Susan and Kathy, my best friend and I are both in committed relationships and still enjoy the frequent girls' night out as you should. As you should, we love to get all dressed up together, take cute picks, drink cocktails and go dancing. Recently, I've noticed that she's been wearing a different style of clothes. She's more covered up and wears less makeup. When I asked her about it, she said that her man told her that she shouldn't get all dressed up for anyone but him. It makes me sad she hasn't been acting like her normal, bubbly self since she started dressing differently. Should I try to encourage her to wear whatever she wants or will I just get myself in between a relationship that I have no place in?

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Speaker 2: Well, I could be off here, but the first thing that comes to mind is that man seems very controlling what I was going to say, and maybe he's got the fear in her that she's doing exactly what he says. On the other hand, was she dreckoning dressing two sexy or two what's too sexy?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. But when you're in a relationship, I just can't. I just can't.

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Speaker 2: She needs to be who she is exact and no man, and I repeat, no man will ever tell you how to dress, how to walk, how to talk, or how to be.

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Speaker 1: You are who you are and he should love you for that. And Carissa, if you're a good friend, you need to explain that to her and tell her and stand by her because they're not me even married, I committed relationship and he's controlling her. Now, what's that going to look like?

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Speaker 2: I noticed that she said she doesn't seem herself. That could be an abusive thing. I would dig a little. If you really care about her, I would dig in and see what's making her tick, what's doing this?

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Speaker 1: I hate to say it, Susan, but it also could be a confidence issue. How many people have we spoken to young women who just say they don't have the confidence.

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Speaker 2: But she was wearing cool clothes and now all of a sudden he says something and she's not.

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Speaker 1: Right because maybe she's not maybe she's not confident in their.

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Speaker 2: Relationship, telling her bad things like you don't look good in that or once again, abusive relationship.

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Speaker 1: I would check into it. I would definitely Chrissa, you're a nice friend. Chrissa, you are definitely a good friend. And you know what, if you're worried about getting in the relationship in between them, don't don't because sometimes it's hard to hear things. But if believe me, if you're seeing it, she's thinking it.

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Speaker 2: And if you're a really, really true friend and she knows that and she's your friend, she'll understand. Yeah, just be kind and gentle about it, but definitely delivery.

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Speaker 1: It comes down to delivery again, all right.

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Speaker 2: Question number two. Joan from Nevada sent us this. Hi, ladies, I love your podcast so far, Thank you and look forward to listening to it every week. So thank you for being you. I am a sixty five year old woman. I have been divorced for about ten years. I recently started dating a man I met at the gym. He's handsome and kind and really swept me off my feet. We have been seeing each other for about two months. Last week at dinner, I'm a little bit jealous right now, Okay, he mentioned the fact, oh god, that he is still married. He has always referred to his wife as his ex, but he explained to me that they never legally divorced. I'm truthfully not sure how I feel about this. I would never knowingly date a married man. However, I also don't want to stop seeing him at this point.

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Speaker 1: Do you have any advice?

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Speaker 2: Well, yes, I do, because some people don't do the final thing, divorce at first. It takes sometimes years, as long as you don't think he's cheating and they're not actively married in the same household. But I've known people that have gone years and not finished the paperwork, if you will.

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Speaker 1: So, okay, yeah, I'm going to be a little bit tougher on this one. M h. You are dating a married man. I don't care if it's legal. It's not his ex wife, it's his wife. It's his wife now. He may not love her, there may not be any intimacy in their relationship. All of that may be true, but.

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Speaker 2: And he's out on his own I live in his own life where she doesn't really say.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't say. I'm assuming they live separately, But I think she has to think about what does she want because she's in love with him and wants to marry him at some point. She's sixty five, she's been divorced ten years. If she's looking for a permanent relationship, it's not happening unless she's a big of mis.

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Speaker 2: My only concern is you've been seeing him for two months. That's something I would have announced on the first meet. Just no, I am not legally divorced. We have separate lives.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm going to I'm going to come clean here. Honesty, I think is the best. Are you ready. Yeah, the only guy I dated seriously since my husband passed away. I dated him for about ten months. He was legally married, he was getting divorced. They were living in separate homes. They were separated. They clearly were not getting back together. But that's my story. For a long time I dated man. But here's the difference. She said, you know, I don't know how I feel about this. I would never knowing the data married man. I knew the guy I was ditting was married, but he was going through the process of a divorce. That's the difference here. He's not going through it.

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Speaker 2: How do you know he's not going through She just he says, ever legally divorced.

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Speaker 1: So they're not going through a divorce. They've never legally divorced. That's the difference. And if her expectation is a marriage or moving in together or any of those things, that's not going to feel really comfortable when they're legally you know, let me say this to you, darlin, you are not going to be filing a joint tax return with that guy.

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Speaker 2: Not that you want to anyhow, I think, honestly, it's up to you. It's how you feel about it. If he's being honest and sincere and say his I won't call her her ex. His wife on paper has moved on and she might be in a relationship. It could come down to financial reasons. So look into it, don't jump talk about it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah good, All right, let's go with question number three. Martin wrote, Kathy and Susan, I really love your podcast. Thank you, Martin. I love everybody like that. Thank you, Martin. I'm a seventy four year old man living in New Jersey. My neighbor my wife, hey might be single. My wife of more than fifty Oh, my wife of more than fifty years passed away about four months ago after a long battle with breast cancer. Yeah, she was the only woman I had ever been with. Recently, I met a woman at a nearby coffee shop, and I would really like to ask her out. I have three adult children, and at dinner one night, I broached the subject with my two daughters. They were incredibly upset that I would even consider dating this soon after their mom passed. I don't want them to feel that way, but I also want to live my life. Who knows how many good years I have left? How would you handle this situation with your children? Well, I can jump right in because I've had this situation. Well it's only been four month. First of all, Yeah, Martin, condolences, I'm losing your wife. That's really that's tough. I would say that she's only been gone four months and there's nothing wrong in dating her. I'm not sure I would have broached it to my kids this early. I might have just gone out with her for a little bit and then, I honestly do think because I've lived this after if you really are interested in her, you know, down the road, let's call it six eight months, and you really want her to be a part of your life, then it's time to talk to your children. When you say how many good years do you have left? Don't rush into something. Well, you never know how long you have left.

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Speaker 2: And I do agree with the four months is a little soon, especially to tell your kids. I would keep it between you and that person for quite some time until they're ready.

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Speaker 1: They might never be ready.

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Speaker 2: And you're not replacing the mom, You're just having your significant other, your person to share the latter years of life with I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

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Speaker 1: I really don't.

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Speaker 2: I just don't know that I would celebrate it to my children.

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Speaker 1: That's yeah, I will say, Martin, you do deserve We all deserve love, we all deserve happiness. And I wish you the best with this woman. We both do. But I think you just got to slow your role a little bit. You're seventy four, you don't think.

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Speaker 2: Slow your role. I still think he could meet her and be with her. Just slow how you tell your children?

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Speaker 1: Right? You agree with you? I do, But I also think you, if you're in good health, you know, don't be rushing into anything. Just take your time. I guess that's what I'm saying. Take your time and wait for the right one. If this is the right one, great, But your kids are it's going to take some getting used to.

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Speaker 2: He just wants to ask around. I don't think he's been seeing her yet. Read that I would really like to ask her out. So he asked the kids, Oh, you're right, was okay to ask?

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Speaker 1: Oh? God, Martin, you're a good man, you're a good member. Ask Martin. You do not need to ask your children's permission to do anything. You are a grown ass man.

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Speaker 2: Enjoy it and I hope she's a good lady and we wish you the best. Yes, and if anybody has questions for us, we want to hear them. Please go to bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour. You may even be featured on our podcast. Okay, so Kathy o'millie asks about the Bachelor Golden Hour. Is it a red flag when a man is emotionally unavailable in a relationship? And what have you done in relationships where you feel like you are more in touch with your emotions than your partner? And lastly, how do you support those who can't express themselves as well? Oh that's a lot to me. It is a red flag. I mean, you can't change a person.

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Speaker 1: You can't.

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Speaker 2: Some people are not in touch with their emotions like others are. If they're emotionally unavailable, then I don't believe they're ready for a relationship.

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Speaker 1: You know, they talk about an EQ emotional quotient. If this guy doesn't have the ability to be vulnerable with his emotions, and that's something really important to you, I would say it's more than a red flag. It's a done deal.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm very in touch with my emotions and men don't express it as much as women, I'd say. But bottom line is if he's not able or unavailable.

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Speaker 1: I think it's something they could talk about, right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's it is a red flag. That was our question, And yes, I agree, it's a red flag.

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Speaker 1: I would call it. I would call it a waving red flag. It's jumping up there. This person awesome also asked how do you support those who can't express themselves as well? I think you'd be their friend.

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Speaker 2: And share with them, like, there's nothing wrong with expressing some feeling, like do you feel a certain way about things? Maybe they don't even understand they could have had a life that their family didn't show feelings.

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Speaker 1: You know, Yeah, I think what you said at the top was exactly it. You know, you can only do yourself. You can only worry about yourself. You can change yourself. You can't change other people. You can support them by being their friend and listening. But Millie, you are not going to change someone who is emotionally unavailable into a person who is emotionally available. Okay, Can I squeeze one more in before your last one? Sure?

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Speaker 2: If there's one thing you could change about your Golden Bachelor experience in the mansion. What would you have changed or done differently?

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Speaker 1: Kath? Nothing?

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Speaker 2: Nothing, I would have changed some of the lighting in the bathroom or no, well that's not what they're asking.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I wouldn't. I mean, as we've talked about, I got a lot of press from saying zip. But you know, Teresa and I are friends. I mean, it's just I am who I am. Change anything? Yeah, you and I are who we are and that's why we have such a good time. Okay, on all right? Jason asked, This is gonna be a tough one. Jason asked, Hello, Kathy and Susan. Hi, Jason, Hi, Jason. I am curious about your thoughts on Paula Moury Polly Amory. Polly Amory, my wife and I opened our relationship a few years ago and it's been working really well for us, but we are afraid to tell our parents due to fear of judgment. I would I would love your perspective on it all because you are from our parents generation. Would you be supportive if your kid was in an happy and healthy, open relationship. Thank you for your insight.

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Speaker 2: Some things are left to be private. I don't want to judge you, but no, I would not tell your parents like they're not going to get it.

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Speaker 1: You know. I don't know how I feel about that. I think that if your parents I have a son who's gay and I love him, I don't judge him. I think if your parents are going to judge you, it's only maybe because polyamori is not as accepted a detail. So if you're in a polyamorous relationship and it's working for you, I don't think it's as mainstream as you know, the LGBTQ community or heterosexual community. But I think that that people who judge those kinds of relationships they need to step back. I think you're right maybe keeping it to yourself for your parents.

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Speaker 2: You're afraid to tell your parents, you should be yes, don't tell them?

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Speaker 1: Well when when? Second? What? Whoa? Whoa? Whoa? Whoa? What if? Let's play this one out. Okay, I've got a kid he's in a polyamorous relationship. I don't. But let's say he does, okay, or she and they bring home. Let's let's say, you know, my son brings home, you know, Joe one week and Sam the next week. What do I think, what am I going to think she's a prostitute. I mean, let's just say it for what it is.

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Speaker 2: This I'm taking it for the other week. Right, he's married, they have their own life. They want to share this. They're asking our advice because they're old school life. I'm sorry, it doesn't say their marig's been working. Really, my wife and I opened our relationship a few years all right.

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Speaker 1: So I can't read give me a break. Okay, you know what that I even think more strongly if if you.

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Speaker 2: Want to tell your mom and dad, it's like telling ARMIEMI or pop up or not. Yeah, you know what, keep it at home, honey, enjoy your life. I'm not judging you, but don't tell.

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Speaker 1: So, okay, Susan, we're gonna play this again. Okay, now we know it's his wife. Yes, Okay, the coming to suit, Auntie, Mimi, whatever you go by. We're gonna have a spaghetti dinner. Yeah right, he brings. He brings the wife Julie with him. The next week he wants to bring Susie. He's married. He brings Julie every time. You know what, You're not going to see your kid ever again? Why? Because he can't keep it straight when he's with Julie and when he's with the other one. Look what he's asking.

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Speaker 2: We are afraid to tell our parents due to the fear of judgment. They want our perspective. I'm pretty open minded. You I want just you and your wife. I don't want to know about the other people. That's all he asked. I told, Okay, so you are you? You the one who always says you don't judge.

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Speaker 1: I'm not judging. Oh you're not judging, Kathy. Hear my words. Don't tell me you're judging to me bad.

00:26:17
Speaker 2: Asking my opinion of if he should tell his parents. But he's afraid they're going to judge him. I'm not judging him. Knock yourself out.

00:26:26
Speaker 1: What he's asking what Look read the question together.

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Speaker 2: I am afraid to tell our parents due to fear of judge.

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Speaker 1: And if you don't believe that they would be judged by the parents, you they do believe they'd be judged by their parents, and they're not going to get it. And you just said you wouldn't let them come for dinner. You're judging, admit it. No no, no, no, no no. Would you let your son come with his wife one weekend, his girlfriend the next.

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Speaker 2: Now, then you're judging. Okay, what's not judging. I'm not condemning what they're doing. Hear me, Katy, pay attention.

00:26:58
Speaker 1: Hear me. You do what you do, I'll honor it. I'm not judging. You have a ball.

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Speaker 2: But when it comes to your elderly parents, they don't get this, and I just think some things are better left unsaid.

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Speaker 1: Okay, they don't have to say it. Just show up with her all of a sudden. Kathy's cool, too cool for school. I'm just saying he said that's he said. We're up their generation. I would not want my child to keep something like that from me.

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Speaker 2: So everybody, if you have a question for us, we do want to hear it. Even if we disagree, we agree to disagree. Go to Bachelor Nation dot com slash Golden Hour. You may even be featured on our podcast. Okay, Susan, you know how we love to play games. Yes, okay, we're gonna do one today. It's it's the game that we call moral quandary. Okay, one of us will read a quandary and when we each then we each have to try to guess what the other would do in the situation, you ready, I think?

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Speaker 1: So? Okay, all right, Susan. Yes, you are flying from New York to LA and you have an aisle seat. A mother and her young child are sitting next to you. You can tell the mom is struggling with the fussy toddler, and the woman remarks that her husband is sitting in a few rows back in a middle seat. Susan's gonna be tossing the kid over. But okay, I'm not taking a million. Do you give up your aisle so the family can sit together? No, but I'll have the kid on my lap. I'm like a kid mag that I'll make them happy and stop crying. I'll give them things, I'll help with the kid. That's not what she's asking. Would you give up your seat? Yes?

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Speaker 2: See selfish, that's it selfish, not selfish. I don't do middle seats. I had to do one not too long ago, for five and a half hours.

00:28:47
Speaker 1: I was not happy. Can I just tell you, let's be clear, you don't do aisle seats. You do windows so you can put your head against the missile too.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I mean, if it was really really bad and the father was the only one that could do it. Okay, maybe, but normally no, I would just try to give the mom a hand. But let me guess, Kath, you're going to give up the seat a large and go sit in the middle of two people for six hours?

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Speaker 1: Nope, no, not even a little bit. She is just like me. I got to tell you. I was on a flight recently to La. Yeah, two rows back, it's almost I think I wrote this question. There was a mother with her husband sitting a row ahead. Huh, and the kid was screaming, you know, past the kid to the husband. No. No, he was sitting with the older child, she had the younger one. The flat attendant kept coming by and saying, can I get you or anything? I said, yeah, I'm muzzle it.

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Speaker 2: Why not give the child to the father halfway through? I don't give me a break. Why do mothers always.

00:29:51
Speaker 1: Have to do it? I don't know, but I'm not picking up my seat, you know what.

00:29:54
Speaker 2: I do feel sorry for them. I mean, obviously they have to get somewhere and you have to take kids. And whether the child not feeling good or just a fussbucket.

00:30:01
Speaker 1: Great, Susan, Susan, I do anything to any Wait, wait, he'll do anything. Give up your seat. Okay.

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Speaker 2: Kathy, the cashier at Nordstroms is talking on her phone and made you wait about five minutes before ringing you up. When she finally does you realize she doesn't charge you for one of the sweaters you're buying?

00:30:26
Speaker 1: Do you tell her?

00:30:28
Speaker 2: I don't think you'd get as far as letting her ring you up without a comment.

00:30:32
Speaker 1: Who were you talking to? Really? You're making me wait? I don't think so, lady, Okay, but do you think I would tell her she didn't ring up one of the sweaters? Yeah, without a doubt. That's actually happened to making.

00:30:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, because they're going to be responsible for it. It's just like stealing, straight up steal.

00:30:45
Speaker 1: That's exactly what it's a I literally went back to the grocery store once when they didn't charge me for a gallon of milk? How did you even know? Because I looked at my receipt and I went home. Did you ever leave? And underneath the card I had like a case of water or something. I always I always always go back. I don't want I got enough things to have a kilo. I'm going to guess you I would have either walked away within those five minutes that I was waiting, or call me rude. But I would have been nice about excuse me, excuse me.

00:31:14
Speaker 2: But you wouldn't say that's not your boss on the phone, that you should be waiting on me. I have issues about today's people, the younger generation. They're almost rude a lot of people when they're working for you know, I'm sure pennies.

00:31:29
Speaker 1: Wait, are you generalizing that all the younger are not all? No? Absolutely no, don't put words in my mouth. That's not good.

00:31:36
Speaker 2: But if somebody's standing there waiting and you're having a personal phone call for five minutes, five minutes is a lifetime when you're standing there idle, I'm sorry.

00:31:46
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm going to say something. I'm probably gonna say something, but I'm not stealing a sweat and I deal with sweat. Excuse me, babe.

00:31:51
Speaker 2: Not only are you rude and made me wait five minutes, now, you're not even ringing it up.

00:31:55
Speaker 1: Correct? Do I get this on the house. I would make sure they knew they gave it to me. You're two funny, all right, here's the next one. You're a party and a couple hands you their iPhone, to show you pictures of their new house. You scroll too far and see naked pictures of them? Do you say anything? Hell yeah, I'll be like, yeah, checking out, don't you look good? What do you think I would do? Swipe? You think I would just keep triping that you'd say something when you damn right? I would like, look at it. I mean I'd probably hold it up to the party. Look what I found. I would know you if you ever did that to me, then then don't put those kind of pictures on your phone. You put them on Really, a couple has their own do the old fashioned thing. Get a photo album. Oh, for God's thanked up, come up with the time.

00:32:46
Speaker 2: It's called photo vault, a photo this way, somebody can't accidentally see those things.

00:32:52
Speaker 1: You know what, I would say, how embarrassing though, right it would be, you know if it was their kids looking like mom, oh if it were my kids, drop the phone and run all right? All right? So la, So I think, actually, this does it again. These episodes seem to go so fast.

00:33:10
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