Screen Time Hacks For Kids + Delivery Room Survival

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Speaker 1: Welcome to for the Dads. Thank you for tuning in on this early Wednesday morning. I hope the trash is taken out. I hope you made yourself some breakfast, packed the little kids backpack. This is a show for the dads, for the dads who are in it, about to be in it, or maybe you're just somebody tuning in wondering what dad life dad culture is all about. This is not a show about giving advice or being experts. We're just a couple of dads trying to pioneer and carry a flag for fatherhood, for dad culture, and just and speak up for our mental load. We have a lot of different segments in this show. We talk about our dad losses, which we get creative and what we call that segment. I'm not saying it at the top of the episode because I assume the YouTube algorithm might penalize us for that. We talk about our dad losses. Well, we crack a cold one too. We dive into fan callings this week. We have a lot of great feedback from episode one. We play a couple fan callings and talk about those lessons that we are leaning into to become better versions in our minds. Of what fatherhood is. But again, and we have a lot of fun. If you are a current dad, if you're a new dad, if you're an old dad just trying to figure your phone out right now, make sure you're subscribed to this channel. Right now, we are on all Busting with the Boys channels. In July, we will be launching our for the Dad's YouTube channel, so be on the lookout for that. We have a lot of merchandise as you can see, for the Dad's hats, hoodie shirts, everything in between. That is at BWTB dot com. Again, Suram, I said that I said that part. Shream. I fucking said that part. And I was rolling on this intro. Uh. Sherman was showing me something on the on the computer and I was thinking to myself, I literally have already said that let's dive into it. Let let's let's take out the trash boys. Come to another episode of four the Dads. This is episode two. I am Will Compton, my co host and producer of the show. Sherman Young is with your boy. You're probably watching on YouTube right now, maybe you're listening, maybe you're in the middle of the night right now listening to us in your ear. Maybe you are taking out the trash reminder. It is trash day. It is Wednesday. So if you're my part, I know in my neck of the woods in Nashville, Tennessee, it is trash day. So I hope you guys are getting the canes out to the curb. Whether it's Thursday day before, get it out there, get it early, get it often. Or maybe you might just be sitting on the couch watching with your wife because you enjoyed episode one so much that you're like, hey, now it's time to get the misses involved. But maybe not, because this is a safe space for the father. So if your wife is watching with you, just let her know, honey, like this is just a pod for the dads, Like this is for our voices. This is our safe space where we can vent. We might bitch a little bit about our wives, and that's okay because that's no matter what. We're coming home because sweetheart, we love you. But all to say, a lot of great feedback last week, bro, the feedback's crazy, the finback's insane. I got a few I want to shout out because I was going through the I was going through the comments.

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Speaker 2: I'm glad you did that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was going through the comments seeing what people had said. But shout out again, Jerry Ferris. He was the one delivering his newborn on the bathroom floor. I saw comments on the YouTube page, but shout out the boy. Shout out the dad, Jerry Ferris. A lot of people enjoying Pizza Friday, the Pizza Friday shout outs getting more. It's good to grow the community on Pizza Friday. We need more dads involved in growing the Pizza Friday community. Aaron Wood, a twenty five year old girl dad, buddy, his buddies don't have kids in this show helps him fill the void. We also had a couple of dads chime in. Jackson who's twenty five chimed in saying the same thing, and even Adam, a forty year old girl dad was saying the same thing. Hey, yeah, maybe his buddies don't have kids. I don't know. Maybe he's not surrounded by some friends and he might just need this show to vent or feel like he's part of the he's part of the trenches.

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Speaker 2: Well yeah, yeah, he's still in the game.

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Speaker 1: Knicks World. His wife is a shout out Knicks World on YouTube and I saw this one in the comments. His wife is twenty six weeks pregnant. Listen to the show, so again, you can be an expecting father like yourself. Sure, you can be a dad who's currently in it you got some young ones, or you can be a father who's got you know, I've seeing some people saying that their kids are now in their twenties, but they just enjoy listening back and hearing all the memories about fatherhood.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that not only the comments, but the dms and the six on one, the dad's hotline. Yeah, man, you were telling me bonkers, how many what.

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Speaker 1: Was that number? Yesterday? It was like seventy four had left voicemails?

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Speaker 2: Yes, uh, and it was even more today. Chef who helps dial everything in on the back end, as far as six on one, the dads are DM socials. Chefs show me the voicemails even today, and I'm seeing those blue dots next to him, which means they're new voicemails on the iPhone. You're just actually have the This is the six on one, the dad's phone, right, that's the phone, right there is the hotline. This is the hotline six on one, the Dad's You guys have I'm doing a great job calling in one of my favorite ones. I kind of want to play. I wish I had selected it now that I think about it, had zero questions, didn't want to say anything except for a happy Father's Day to the boys. Dude, that's all he wanted to say.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because by the time this one drops, a Father's Day will have already happened. Yes, I hope dad's I hope the father's out there got everything they wanted. I hope they got their their feet rubbed. I hope they got to sleep in maybe a little bit, maybe take a nap in the afternoon. I know, if you're listening to this now, I'm going to say that I successfully got to take a nap in the afternoon, because that's one big thing I always enjoy. You have a little bit of free time, get on the big love sack, take a little nap on a Sunday.

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Speaker 2: Is that the love sack that's up in your game? Ram, Yeah, yeah, that thing is. It's gonna cloud.

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Speaker 1: It's comfy. You see. We got a couple facelifts. If I don't know if the cameras are showing it, but we now have a refrigerator or interns at a great job grabbing this refrigerator at an antique shop. We got Shirm's little bean, the photos hanging up on the fridge. We got Rue. She made that little sheep. Clearly, she probably didn't make the sheep. She probably had a little help, but she made the little sheep and the butterfly coloring that you see, that was that was Taylor.

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Speaker 2: Oh really yeah, well well done Taylor.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well done Taylor.

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Speaker 2: That's awesome.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah, I look at that. I'm like, God, we gotta work on color and in between the lines. I've been trying to work with her. God bless her. She loves coloring, She loves doing all. She gets very frustrated if she can't color inside the lines, and she just wants, like dead that you do it, Mama, you do it. You know what I mean. Yeah, she's got to keep practicing. You got to keep trying. But we got a little facelift with the uh, with the studio set up.

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Speaker 2: Got a little face lift. I actually might have my first tip. My mom's an artist. If you go, if you start with Rue on the edges. This is for any dads out there. If you start on the edges and you have them trace inside of that line and practice tracing. That's a good way to get that hand a little steady, and it kind of makes it like nice for them of oh I can do that, because it's kind of hard when they're scratching and blah blah. But hey, try and go with the line first and then fill it in. There's a little game.

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Speaker 1: It's a good Yeah, a little game, good little starting point, good little step one.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what uh dude, what's been going on? Anything? Any new updates before we get into you know, getting motherfucker to crack a cold one getting into our segments. Yeah, dude.

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Speaker 2: The so Jill is starting to officially pack the hospital bag, like the overnight bag. Yeah, And last night I was watching I was watching TV, and I was eating dinner and we have these little dinner set things that we sit and eat because Jill's belly is so big that it's not comfortable for her to really kind of sit at the dinner table. She's kinda kind of sit back while she's eating. And she's on FaceTime with her mom at Lululemon. She's, you know, Mom's take out some bougie suffer Jill. And then I hear does Sherman need anything for the hospital? Does he need any new clothes? And I'm in the background going, no, I work at Bustin where you guys give us free clothes, like like twice a week, three times a week. We need something new. And Joe goes, yes, you do, you do need new? Yeah? Mom, he needs sweatpants, he needs blah blah blah. They're just like buying all this stuff for me. I didn't even see it, but uh, it's great when the girls just like take the reins on the shopping stuff because I'm terrible at it, and whatever they buy me, I smile and just say thank you and I'll wear it.

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Speaker 1: And just packing the overnight bag, oh yeah, all the things, you know, the little wrinkles that go into that because you're just thinking, I mean, what all are they going to have any everything there for us?

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Speaker 2: That was my thought. And then I'm seeing this bag and it looks like we're going to an overnight camp like I went to camp as a kid. And like packing, you pack a trunk and a duffel. We need a true duffel and you gotta have the outfit first.

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Speaker 1: Outfit they're gonna wear when they leave the hospital. Oh yeah, and j Suddy of the outfits. Don't get me started on the outfit. It's not the hospital one coming out. I get that. That's a big moment and everything else. I was with a fellow dad the other weekend and we were at charl had like a bar three event over what's that horse track over on the west side. Ooh uh, Steeplechase. They had an event going on over at Steeplechase. And I take the kids over, and I take the kids over and we're watching her doer thing. Shit. There was like three four hundred people there, and we're just wanting to go see mom and stuff like that. And I'm standing there next to a fellow dad's name. His name is Tom. We'll say his last name, you know, got to protect him on the show. Don't know if his wife's listening right now, of course, of course, so it could be any Tom. And we're standing there and you know, we're kind of just venting, getting some dad stuff off our chest, bitching a little bit, just having a good time bonding over fatherhood, the sucky parts, like some of the sucky parts of it. He was bringing up this detail, and once he brought up he had to he had to have their daughter in a specific outfit coming over to the event. I'm like, buddy, don't you hate when they do stuff like that? Like you're just thinking, all right, I'm gonna get them dressed, then you bring them downstairs, and then all of a sudden, Hey, why didn't you put on the outfit I had laid out? It's like a lot. It seemed a little complicated. I don't want to have to tie the little strings on the back of the neck, like or if it's a dress and I don't know necessarily how to work it. It seems like there's a lot of different things going on with the operation, like what's wrong with your shorts and a T shirt? And then next thing you know, you're in a little you're in a little dust up. You're in a little moment because they want a specific outfit to go to a certain event. I'm not gonna say leaving the hospital again aside from yeah, yeah, but in everyday life, one thing that you're gonna run into is they're gonna want them in certain outfits and some that you're gonna come and you're like, how does this thing function because again, you're gonna have a little girl too, Like you're more privy to what guys where. It's like, hey, shorts and a T shirt. It's gonna work just fine. She's gonna play a lot, Like why does she need a certain outfit? Because now when she's wearing her dresses, she has an expectation of wanting to wear a dress, and it's like, sweetheart, you can't wear a dress every day of your life. You got gymnastics today, we got sprints today. Yeah, yeah, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: And especially if she's getting into sports like soccer and stuff like that, like she'll learn the importance of some shorts or some T shirts over her dress. Now, I don't want to put I don't want to get in trouble with Jill.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Charles, I love you. I love you. I know she listened to last week, she might listen to this week, who knows. But it's always the thing. I almost like, sweetheart will be in the car. I'm like, why do I got to put her in a certain outfit? Or I might just say, hey, my bet on the outfit, you know, kind of massage a little bit. But also why does she gott to wear that outfit?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and what's up with all the buttons on the outfits? That's what I'm getting introduced right now because I'm just seeing, like Scarlet's not here yet, obviously, But the closet is more full than my closet, my like human thirty two year old. I have a job, I have weekend outfits, I have jackets and stuff for the winter. My born child has more clothes inner closet right now, I swear to God. And that might be because Jill has like twenty six first cousins and all these aunts and uncles like and so we're getting.

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Speaker 1: All these right, all these different outfits.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for sending them. But I'm also looking at the closet. I'm like, holy.

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Speaker 1: Shit, Okay, she's only going to be three months old for thirty days.

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Speaker 2: That's the other thing that And now that she's small, they're like, okay, she's kind of smaller, so she'll actually fit in premi stuff. So honey, we got to actually go to Walmart. We got to buy the premie sizes because she's gonna be a little on the smaller side. And I'm like, okay, so like us going you know, eight months in advance to buy the onesies. Maybe wasn't the smartest decision, but it was so fun to go shopping. But the question I have for you that might get you in trouble. And I'm sorry, okay, but I laughed when I overheard Jill say this. She has a we have an induction date the second of July. She has a hair appointment before the endduction date. Did Charles had a hair appointment before her induction book?

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Speaker 1: I don't think so, Okay, I don't think she did. I mean, buddy, it's a war in there.

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Speaker 2: I'm not ready.

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Speaker 1: I'm even thinking for Jill for what she's going to get hair and makeup done. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: Like, but she's getting her hair done.

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Speaker 1: It's a it's a war in Charle might have. I have no clue. I don't remember with either of them, her like having a hair appointment. Maybe she did, you know what I mean, because then they you know, they want to look, you know, as they're leaving the hospital and everything else. Of course, but it's a war in there, like you know, I hope, I hope the best way I hope it's in you know, I hear my buddies being like, hey, we spent about an hour in the hospital. We were out, and it's like, well, good for you, man. It was forty plus with Charles like it was a it was a war.

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Speaker 2: But my buddy showed me a video of him and his wife headed for their first baby girl. They're headed to the hospital, and so I in that moment, I'm sure I'm gonna be so crazy nervous. Thereah in a red light and he had the thought to pull out his phone and film his wife in the passenger seat and she has the little mirror down and she's doing her makeup in the mirror. That made me laugh so hard.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, look, if they're in and out quick, yeah, you know, maybe that's what Maybe that's all right, Okay, you just gotta prepare. Bring your own pillow, bring your comfy of stuff, bring it in, an extra pillow to put under your knees, because that the couch bit that they got, or just the couch in general, like that's a that's a bit of a battle for the dad's like you're gonna be where you know, you're gonna go through physically too. Yeah, maybe not like them, but you on that couch. That's a one on one game right there.

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Speaker 2: I've heard that. Uh one of my buddies was saying, Pokemon like on the original Game Boys? What got him through on those little soap elements? And I'm thinking to myself.

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Speaker 1: I'm just thinking I've been playing Pokemon like.

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm thinking to myself, get your ass over here, Jill, look at catching this buble sore the charmers. I'm so sorry what you say, nurse? What were you saying? Uh? But I was I was like, what would her mom think if she looked over and I have my game boy with my little Pokemon blues sticking out of the back. Hey, Sherman, do you mind grabbing these things?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, one second, I'm swimming at the bottom of the island trying to get all the unlimited rare candy.

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Speaker 2: Great pool grateful.

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Speaker 1: Oh those were the days, man, they were. Should we dive into our should we dive into our segments? Yes? And again before we do. If you're watching on YouTube right now, please continue to leave comments like it was honestly really cool to see all you guys chiming in telling us about your background, telling us about you guys loving the show. There were some out there that probably you know, had a couple of hateful comments, but we'll just you know, we won't mention those uh but leaf comments. We will be having our own YouTube channel at some point for us on a spot uh Spotify or Apple. We are under all busting with the Boys handles, so you can check us out there. And if you are watching and listening right now, make sure you're subscribed to the Boys. Subscribe to our channel helps us out a lot. And yeah, can I do one more housekeeping thing?

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Speaker 2: Yes, I'll put two graphics right here. We have an email for those that are outside of the United States and can't do six to oh one the Dads over the phone. We have six to oh one the Dads at gmail dot com that they can then write in their questions to you.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so if.

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Speaker 2: You're outside of the United States and you want to ask the Boys a question, feel free to do that in the email. The other one I just went blank, and it had to do with the YouTube channel that will launch in July.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so be on the lookout in July.

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Speaker 2: We've been having a lot of people asking, Hey, I can't find y'all's channel, though I found your podcast, but it's on the bus and channel. Right, always be on the bus and channel.

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Speaker 1: Won't always be on the bus and channel. We'll have our own channel, right, We'll have our own channel. Be able to break out some clips, do fun stuff like that. Yeah. Also bwdtv dot com, we got a lot of killer merch. This hoodie that I'm wearing, these hats that Sherman and I are wearing a lot of fun dad merch on there. Bwtv dot com. Go shop shop to you, drop shop till you drop.

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Speaker 2: First first segment, I had motherfucker pulled up first, but we can go in any order you want.

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Speaker 1: Listen, I'm down for a good motherfucked. It's coming. It's been coming from my daughter. It's been coming from my daughter. Ru Yeah, and it's a it's an ego shot. It's it's her bedtime. She's in the she's three, and she's gotten in this phase to where sometimes she enjoys bedtime with dad dad, but recently it's mom or nothing. And when I say mom or nothing, I'm talking an exorcism style tantrum to where she's shaking, she's making noises I've never heard her make before. When she cries. She's yelling so loud that the next morning she wakes up and she's got like the little Compton rasp from when she's like lost her voice because she gets so upset if Mama doesn't do bedtime. Because my wife and I one of us take Scotty each night, the other takes Rue, and then we just switch back and forth. And obviously Scotty is kind of the easier one. She's sleeping through the night, She goes down very easy, she knocks out, she absolutely yugs her eight ounces of milk come on, and she's out fairly quickly. So you get done her leering. The other ones in the room with Rue like just negotiating their ass off the entire time, to the point where you have to think about waterboarding or if you're gonna get her down for bed. But Rue has been It's like she asks. I walk in the room, and I start to feel uncomfortable because I'm like, man, I hope she is down for dad to put her to sleep tonight, you know what I mean? Yeah? And I walk in and her first question like, hey, you know who did bedtime last night? And I'm like, Mama did bedtime last night, So who's doing bedtime tonight. And I'm like, Dad is doing bedtime tonight, and it's just like her head goes up, bro, and it's it's like she sees it's like she sees like a substitute teacher that she hates, and that substitute teacher takes their job way too seriously. And it's like the energy just leaves the room.

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Speaker 2: And have y'all gotten a reason out of her yet?

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Speaker 1: Like she wants Mama, She wants mama. I need mama, Mama to hug me. And I think it's just because Mama's in the other room with Scotty and a little bit of jealousy kind of sparks up. Okay, but it wears my wife out because she's like, you know, it's not like she's that much easier with Charro because Charles gotta put her down. She wants to do a lot of extra things when Charles's in the room. And because you read her a bedtime story, like you get her in her pjs, you read her a bedtime story, you brush your hair, you brush your teeth, you get her to the bed, then she usually wants you to do something extra. Hey, Dad, that lay next to me, read me another book and then dadda, can you sing to me? Or Hey, I'm getting thirsty, and then you go down and get water and you might bring it back up. Dedad I'm getting hungry. And that's where you draw the line. You're like, no, like, I know, we know what's happening right now. We got to slow it down on pumping brakes. But recently, bro, she's just been going batshit crazy anytime I try to put her down for bed, and it's like it's one of those shots to where it sucks for me because I want to put her down. You've got to have so much patience. It's like you're sitting there and as she's screaming, hyperventilating, spazzing on the floor and you just have to sit there in it because anything I've tried doing it just works her up even more. She doesn't want me to touch her, doesn't want me to do this. Don't look at me, don't I'm not looking at you. Then you catch yourself raising your voice and you kind of just stop, and the moment like freezes and this dog whistle noise is just in your ear and you're like having a moment to where you're just sitting there seeing your toddler just scream on the ground, and you're just thinking, why is this so damn difficult? But that is my my motherfucked moment is from my daughter room because I feel like she's basically cussing me out anytime I try to put her down for bed. Well.

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Speaker 2: I got to see Charroo do a little bit negotiating with her at dad Combine, by the way, Yeah, and I wanted to pick your brain on that strategy to you and kind of if it fits with the bedtime strategy as well of what how are you handling that screaming? Like what is your tactic? Because what I saw Charro do in the pool a jack was fake drowning and the pool Rue was loving that and like save me Jago, and she grabbed the hand and pull him out, and they did it eight hundred times. I mean, Ru could have done that all day. And finally Charles says, hey, three more times and then we gotta go. And Rue very quickly was like, no, mom, We're doing this a million more times. I'm never getting out of the pool. And Charo just stood there quite literally like George Bush with the first pitch brick wall. Not afraid of terrorist. I'm not afraid of terrors and said then how many more times would you like?

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Speaker 3: Ru?

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Speaker 2: And I was like, I looked at Charroo because I was like, I've never really seen a parent do that. I was like, that's kind of cool. Let's see what Reus has and really was like.

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Speaker 1: Five because they can't count that high. No, you can't count that. I wanted you give me a number and we'll hold you to You don't like three? Okay, what can you go up to?

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Speaker 2: What do you want? Yeah, she's a vibe. Chre said that sounds fair to do. Five. Yeah, where did that come from? Is that just?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I mean you're you're like you're playing with things all the time because you're trying to like remain calm and stay patient because you don't want to argue, especially in front of other people. Like that's something that like internally frustrates me. When I hear kind of like, you know, acting up or starting to throw a little bit of a fit or complaining a little too loud, It's like I'll start to get triggered a little bit more than I should because I'm just like, you know, you want your kid to just be on good behavior in front of everybody. Yeah, then you're also reminding yourself they're three, a lot of sensory, a lot of like all their senses are flared up right now. Yeah. Oh, but it's just it's like it's something you just figure out, like you'll do. But I know a bunch of parents do it. Like if I'm trying to get Rude to eat or finish her not even finish her dinner, but get her to eat a few more bites, and you know she's just not going to and you're just like you'll throw out the number three, like, hey, just eat three more bites and you're done, and you can be done. Yeah, Or she'll talk about the cookie. Hey, you're not getting a cookie whatsoever if you don't start eating. But then when it gets to a point, hey three more bites and you can get a piece of a cookie. And she'll be like, how about two more bites? And so I'll just say, you know what, if you take one more bite, I'll let you do two more bites. Do the math. Come on, we're at three. She'll be hellkay, she'll leat a bite, I'll find two more bites and two more bites and you got it. But it's it's it's like you're trying to give them control. It's all you're really trying to do. Like when you're thinking those moments and you just know again you're you're you're negotiating with the terrorists like they have no reason, they have no their brain capacity isn't there to actually have a conversation. They just want to be they want to feel independent, they want to be in control. So if you like say something they're kind of battling against it, you just try to throw it to them, all right, like what are your thoughts? What do you think? And knowing that they can't count that high or on rus wanting to scroll my phone and pick a song, and I'm just like, sweetheart, you can't read, you can't read, You're not gonna pick the right song.

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Speaker 2: I got it.

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Speaker 1: It's just the element of like giving them control in that moment and when they say five, all right, great, five more times and we'll go okay, We'll say, like, hey, how many more minutes if she's watching TV? You know, how many more minutes? You only got you know, one more minute? Then we're gonna turn the TV off. And knowing that she's not gonna like that. All right, how many more minutes? She'd be back three more minutes? Like all right, dad, else, set a time for three more minutes. And then when it goes off, she gets up, she turns off the TV really, or she'll tell me to turn off. All right, dead a you turn it off, and then you turn it off. But it's just like it's like it's just giving them the illusion of control when they're three years old. I don't know how it's gonna work when they're four, five sixty seven. If your parents are watching right now, let me know what I need to look forward to, and maybe some tactics that I can add and the survival kid in the book bag for when those times come. But it's, dude, it's like you just learn a whole new level of patience and just being like, all right, what's a tool? What question can I ask to make them feel like they have control? Right now? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: We we did the old fashioned d Way Lebron meme of on rue with the syrup.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: When I said, well, we can give Scotty some syrup and you said, no, Sky's too young, I said, oh, yeah, that's right. Syrup's only for big girls. And then Rue was like, Hey, I am kind of a big girl. What the fuck do you have anything that makes sense?

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Speaker 1: Do you have any recent motherfucked moments? I know the wife he's getting close, not saying she's agitated and uncomfortable, which he is.

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Speaker 2: I don't have a big one. But yesterday I came home and she was in full effect of like getting the hospital and chef, do you mind cutting the air? It's on issue at all, but it's going to be on the very back behind the bus and it's going to be up against the right wall. Yes, sir, we forgot to cut.

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Speaker 1: The air and cut the air. It's alright, it happens.

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Speaker 2: We may even leave that in the edit a bus because we're authentic here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I came home. She's packing the bags for the hospital stuff. I can tell she's been at it all day. Her mind kind of runs. So she's a nurse. She's aware of like things that can go wrong in pregnancy, and that's one thing that we've been dealing with throughout this pregnancy is she just kind of knows like if she burps and feels weird when she burps, her brain can all of a sudden go oh, that's you know, Carl, Carl's blah blah blah itis, and that means that, you know what I'm sayings just spirals into well, oh my gosh. So she pitdles around the house and does like a lot of hard work to kind of keep her mind busy. I could tell she was in that zone. But I know that one of her lease air things that I do when I get home is just lay on the couch while she's peddling. So I was like, at the least, I will go join her in the nursery lay down on my back because she doesn't want me folding her clothes and Scarlet's clothes, all these cute things like she wants to do that, but I'll go lay on my back in the nursery while she's doing that. And dude, I just what's that smell? Why are your shoes on in here? Like what are you doing? Sherman? Do you not put your head on that? I could just sell that I was in the way, so I quickly took my shoes off, tried to sit there for a while. I have a really bad I'll pass gas and not think about it. So I fared in. That was the last straw. I got kicked out of the nursery. And I could have done a better job. I could have come in there and been more helpful. I was exhausted after work. I was trying to put in like some effort though of like hey, I will be next to you and lay with you and talk with you and make you laugh while you're doing this. But I think I just went about it all wrong.

00:28:08
Speaker 1: Yeah, nothing gives me more anxiety because I'm the same way. I kind of like hitting the couch of laying down. You get home, you just want to you just want to check out for a second. And uh, anytime, especially like after the kids go down and I'll go and I'll be like laying on the couch and then say, Charles, God done, putting done, Ruth. So she'll come down second. In this situation, she'll come down. I might have a show of ours plugged in. Right now, we're watching Stick on Apple TV. Start that. It seems it's fun. I like it a lot. It's a good show. It's a good show. And I'll be down there laying and she'll start pitling, you know what I mean, Like just start cleaning a bunch of stuff up that I didn't know we needed cleaned up. Yeah, And that's what gives me anxiety, because I feel like she just stomps around a little harder, like she's almost and this might not even be true. It might even be in my own head a little harder. She might release a couple sighs to where she knows in her mind, I want him to feel that I'm doing stuff right now and he's just sitting on his ass. That's the anxiety that I get in my head.

00:29:14
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's just hearing tiktoks and memes playing on your iPhone.

00:29:18
Speaker 1: Yeah, Josh Payton breaking down the boys, maybe hear me just give a chuckle. Oh, it's clear.

00:29:26
Speaker 2: Apparently they're for the boys over there.

00:29:28
Speaker 1: Yeah, so what are you doing? They're just checking emails. That's funny. I hear Instagram open right now.

00:29:35
Speaker 2: That Uh yeah, I mean that's that's basically it's not a crazy motherfuck, But it is like I'm starting to realize too, with like a baby on the way, I'm going to have to hit like a three pm or three point thirty coffee something to where like, yeah, I'm not coming home, And my brain is instantly like I just I need to be on the couch for like thirty to forty five minutes just on my phone, not even talk, because that's where I go to every single time. I can tell you it rubs her the wrong way.

00:30:08
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're gonna be you know, just dip. Yeah, that'll blow up when the little one's here.

00:30:14
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I already I already know that. It's a hope.

00:30:17
Speaker 1: I hope you do. Try that a couple of times, just because I want to show for the show. Hey, so, are you gonna get that? You're just doom scrolling?

00:30:31
Speaker 2: Oh they Oh okay, Ohio statement win the Natty this year. Honey, that's crazy.

00:30:36
Speaker 1: I don't.

00:30:36
Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck. What are you talking about? I uh but yeah, that that was my motherfucked me. If we want to throw it to crack a cold one.

00:30:45
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00:30:50
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00:30:55
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00:32:49
Speaker 2: Let's crack a cold one? I cracked mid mid adread. Do you want to take crack a cole on?

00:32:55
Speaker 3: First?

00:32:56
Speaker 1: Sure? Rue had her first ballet camp? Oh yes, so cracking a call. Went to Rue's first ballet camp. It was her first camp to where she's been going. She went for a week long, three hours per day. You drop her off and this is a solo camp, so this is the first time we're dropping her off to go do something without, like without involving us or the nanny or somebody that she's like comfortable with, right, yeah, her grandparents, whatever it is. She's on her own. I feel like it took probably more of a toll on us than it did Rue. I know when Charle first brought it up, I was a little hesitant, like, all right, you know, are we sure we want to do this, and YadA, YadA, YadA, just because I just I don't know, I just think of the the innocent, little three year old, like if I feel like it's all the stuff that parents go through and maybe not, uh, but you're just you think about all the situations where they might feel unsure and nervous or they might get picked on. I don't know, all of these things are just in my head and I just think of my sweet little girl. Yeah, and that makes me sad to think of those situations. So I felt like it was it took a bigger toll on us then it did her. But dude, it's it was awesome. The first day, I know, the drop off was a struggle. She was very nervous. She was very sad. Charle was telling me that. She was like, you know, Mom, I don't want you to go YadA YadA. Yeah, I'm kind of glad that I wasn't exactly there. I got to do it at home and telling her like, hey, go be great, go have fun, like do all this stuff, make friends. You know you're saying all the things, dude, and she went dude. And she went into the class. Charle was leaving Ruthe struggled with that. And then after the class when they went to pick her up, she came running outside and it was like, Mom, I wasn't nervous, I wasn't scared. I did it and all this stuff, and she was just elated, bro. And just to know that she had a great first day, like first experience, Yeah, was just like it warmed the boy's heart.

00:34:51
Speaker 2: Were you were you there on the pickup?

00:34:53
Speaker 1: That was just trying because it was happening when we were here at the shop. Got it like it was going from like U nine to noon. So I got to see her before we left the house, before we departed from the house, and then I just I didn't get to see her until I went home and then I'm asking her all about it, and I'm like, show me this stuff that you were learning, and she's like showing me tough pike straddle and butterfly. And then as she's staying on butterflies, she starts singing Butterfly. She's just like start singing.

00:35:20
Speaker 2: Because there's a song.

00:35:21
Speaker 1: There's a song to help them remember. Yeah, And it was cool, dude, But we went the she went the entire week. She had a little like not recital, but something that at like fifteen minutes they showed the parents on the last day, like all the things that they've been working on, like their jumps and leaves and tippy toes everywhere and animals that they were kind of mimicking and doing stuff with their rolls like rolling forward, tucking their chin. Okay, then they had like a little dance at the end, and it was awesome, man, it was awesome. It's like one of those things where and you know, you'll you'll obviously get there and I'm sure parents are out there probably remembering their first time like dropping their kidd off, but you even though it's like an uncomfortable thing to do, you know, it's like good for them because you're wanting to build like that independence you're wanting to You're wanting them to start building social skills, build some resilience on being uncomfortable, being scared, but then knowing that they are, that they can do it, and then they do do it. I'm not nervous, I wasn't scared and all this stuff, and they start getting more confident in themselves. But that's the that's my crack. A cold one. Rue went to her first like summer camp, ballet camp five days and it was, uh, it was cool.

00:36:34
Speaker 2: Dude, that's sick. I'm in so much trouble with like moments like that of like I wasn't scared, I wasn't nervous. Just like hearing that, I'm like, oh dude, yeah, oh my gosh.

00:36:46
Speaker 1: Because you try to get them as much as you can, like early talking about emotions, because when they're having their breakdown, say you know, what are you feeling? What is this? Why this? You know? And she'd be like, I'm sad, and you know, kind of try to label all their emotions. Someone. She was telling mom that I'm nervous, I don't want you to leave, I'm scared, I'm all this stuff to where as a parent, like I know, if I'm in that situation, I'm just kind of thinking, like this is extremely difficult. I kind of don't want to leave, like let me just kind of stick around. And then you're like, maybe I'll leave when she's not looking, and then you also kind of feel bad or feel guilty that I'm gonna sneak out and then she's gonna look and see in the corner and you're not gonna be there, and then maybe she might get scared even more straight.

00:37:23
Speaker 2: I don't know, but I would feel like a boxing coach, like in the corner with my boxer, Like but like you were describing with Rue before she was leaving and like go be great and stuff like that, like I'm gonna have to hold back in those moments, yeah, because I'm just thinking about that, and I'm like, oh my gosh, Yeah, that's like.

00:37:45
Speaker 1: It's wild when you're just experiencing all like the firsts, you know what I mean, First time they say a word or say dad, dad, first time they walk, first time they tell you I love you, like all of the first It's just it's always a different moment, moment that you're excited about and then when you get past it, you reflect on it makes you sad that they're growing up and all those things in between.

00:38:07
Speaker 2: Dude, how how was she sleeping that week? Were they getting her real tired and she was just coming home and passing.

00:38:13
Speaker 1: She doesn't take naps anymore, and now she's she's out of the nap game, which is like, you know, you're trying to implement like quiet time because its not She'll be on all day. You've been around rude, like she's a spark plug, all the personality, a lot of independence, real sassy or build some sass, and she just has like she has so much fun with absolutely everything. She wants to be playing all the time. We have an we have a guest, Hey, how's it going. How are we doing?

00:38:42
Speaker 2: Oh with neutral?

00:38:43
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, that would be on the other side, Yes, sir, sorry for that interruption in our program. We had a we had a delivery man with a delivery man up front. Crack a cold one.

00:38:55
Speaker 2: Crack a cold one. There was one more thing I was gonna say with oh yeah, yeah, we were in the middle the first it's like, oh, it's their first you know, I love you and all that, and it was like her first time going to camp. Do you think you'll do summer camps, like overnight summer camps with her?

00:39:13
Speaker 1: Probably eventually, Okay, I don't think I did. For a long time. It'd be like, you know, it was more just like sport camps and stuff I didn't have. I didn't do any of like those those summer camps where you're like staying overnight or traveling out of state. Charo did. So I feel like she probably will because Charlie experienced that stuff and she's kind of brought it up before. Okay, Uh, that'll be a whole different level. That's gonna be tough on the boy. I feel like, yeah.

00:39:41
Speaker 2: Because I know it'll be tough on me. Yeah, and I don't even have one.

00:39:44
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it'll be difficult. It'll be difficult, but it's like, you know, it's just life, right, Yeah, I gotta learn at some point. Yeah, gotta get them uncomfortable, Gotta get us uncomfortables. Gonna happen too, I truly do.

00:40:01
Speaker 2: I like I think about moments of I mean not to make it about myself, but like TCU Baylor went to triple overtime one year and I was like bawling my eyes out at that football game for not out of sadness, but just out of like the sheer emotion from it. And then Jill's talking about like with me, you're gonna be the best at ever, like at her lit league, you know, games and stuff, and she wants to play soccer like her dad did. And I started tearing up right there. I was like, I'm gonna have to wear sunglasses to these Lily League games. Yeah, just be the piss off looking dad like far away and you're like, man, that guy's looks so mean. But really I'm just over there like fucking love my girl so much. Yeah, oh my god, just crying the whole time.

00:40:44
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, watching her just hit her a little performance at the end of her camp. When I was over there earlier, I just already know. I'm just I'm already like one of those dads I'm watching every kid go. I'm like, you know, Woo's kind of got a little edge on her here, and then you know what it might be hopping all right, do it like the do it like the like the horse of the diraft And they're kind of like they're kind of like moving their arms. R's not moving her arm. We gotta work on that when we get home.

00:41:09
Speaker 2: It will work on that.

00:41:10
Speaker 1: Like, let's see her jump over this little pylon, Like how they're all gonna look jumping over this little matt and you see them all going, you see? All right? And the first thing I want to do whenever it gets done, I want to go right up to the teacher and like, just give it to me straight that she got a shot. She got a shot to go pro.

00:41:23
Speaker 2: What's going on here?

00:41:24
Speaker 1: Let's figure it out now when she's three years old and with ballet, I've heard like Russia's pretty good.

00:41:29
Speaker 2: Like we're gonna be sitting over to Russia. What does this look like next?

00:41:32
Speaker 1: Do you see when you look at rue out there? I have my opinion, but I'll hold it until you go first. But give it to me straight.

00:41:36
Speaker 2: Hey, you go first, coach.

00:41:37
Speaker 1: You see the calves on it, you see the legs on her.

00:41:41
Speaker 2: This will never be during practice. I just want you to know I always come. I'll come to you after it. That's your time. Yeah, I feel like this is our time now after practice.

00:41:48
Speaker 1: She's got good genetics. What'd you get that her moment? I did play a few years in the NFL.

00:41:54
Speaker 2: Oh my god, dude, the videos that you are a post of Reu doing ballet. I love that you can tell you get juiced about it.

00:42:02
Speaker 1: Yeah, you just you love watching them just develop. Yeah, you know what I mean, Like that, they're they're their own little human being, they're their own little person. Yeah, and they're just like doing it, you know what I'm saying.

00:42:13
Speaker 2: Yes, it's fun, it's fun. My crack a cold one. Uh, my crack a cold one is kind of quick too. But it was like a really uh this is like selfishly about me, but it was a really incredible moment of we have the dad Combine this week. All the dads of all the bust and boys, including Will and Taylor's dads all fly in and we compete on like multiple uh dad competitions. It's really lighthearted, it's really fun. But it turns into this like incredibly wholesome day where it's just a bunch of sons getting to hang out with their dads and they're getting paid to do it, which is nuts. My road in production has not been a bumpy one, but it's just hard to make a living and be in full time production if you're not in some of the hotspots of like Atlanta, New York City, LA. So it's just kind of a road less traveled. And my dad was very much in the corporate world, and so it wasn't like I never had my dad's blessing, but it was always kind of like you could tell that dad kind of second guest a lot of decisions that I made.

00:43:34
Speaker 1: Right, You're not going down the road that he went down, because it seems like in your family some things are not like generational to a tea, but it's kind of a structure there. So I'm sure there's that shame or you know, level of security of like, man, he's never said and he's never given me a weird vibe, but it's like, is he kind of disappointed that I'm not like, well.

00:43:55
Speaker 2: I'm sure I'm gonna shift, yeah, And I'm sure on his end that I didn't go of that path. He may be thinking like is it because he doesn't like me that he doesn't want to do this? Like why, like where where did that come from? But he always did see me like as a little kid in the backyard doing I would make little Indiana Jones movies with like all the neighbor kids, or like all my friends would come over and we'd do like sketch comedy stuff and put on YouTube, and so my parents were well aware that this was something that interested me. But you and Taylor gave me an opportunity here full time, an incredible one that brought my wife and I halfway across the nation. It was just a very big move. It was a very big opportunity, and it was really kind of the first time that my dad, like I could really sense like how proud and excited he was. And he pulled Will to the side at the Dad Combine and it was in front of me, and he thanked Will for giving me this opportunity specifically of the show and hearing him him saying like, thank you for giving him a shot, because we've been seeing it since, you know, he was a little kid, and it just means the world that somebody else saw it in him. Uh. And he gave you like a little hug or like a little dap or something, and then uh, you started waxing poetic about me, which you did not have to do, but that feels really good when your boss is saying that to your dad. And it was honestly like a top three Dad moment. It was really cool.

00:45:26
Speaker 1: That's awesome. Man. Yeah. I know when he pulled me aside, it was before everything started and he's like, I just want to say this before everything gets going, and took off his hat and everything. He did give me a yeah conversation about yeah, being proud of you, yeah, and you being with the boys.

00:45:45
Speaker 2: It was just really cool, really selfish crack of coal one, but like, man, it was a really good crack of cold one that was just like, it's.

00:45:51
Speaker 1: About your dad, that's what that's what we're here for. This is before the Dad's podcast, man, because that day was really cool. It's like, uh, I posted about it. But it's essentially we've taken something that we do work related and came up with this event. And it's not like a very uber competitive thing. It's kind of just like a reason for us to have our dads in and hang out with our dads. I know last year there wasn't as many of the dads here, and then you kind of sit back and think about it. You're like, let's get everybody's dad in the shop. If we can here on this date, will fly him in And it's essentially like us kicking in with our dads because we're like, you know, doing competitions like packing coolers, taking out the trash, a little trash relay, a fashion show for True Classic, and you're doing trivia. So you're answering questions about you know, who was your dad's favorite crush growing up or when you know, when did he lose his virginity? When is his birthday, what's his favorite color, what was his first job. They're answering stuff about you on embarrassing moments. You're kind of getting to relive, you know, stuff from your dad's past, stuff from your childhood that they remember that you might not remember. Yeah, and then you're kind of sitting there at the end and now that a few of the dads this is their second year in a row, just to see kind of a rapport or relationship building and knowing like the boys in the shop are all super tight. Now seeing our dads get in the mix and start to become tighter, just know that this is the date every year that we're gonna have a dad combine. It's really cool, man. Jelly Reel said it a long time when we were just talking about busting with the boys, you just talked about it being like a diary of video diary or a video journal that we'll get to look back on one day and listen to our conversations. And this is a dark way of thinking about the dad combine stuff, but thinking so far into the future that one day when our dads are no longer here, because that will be a real thing. We will have these videos in these moments to look back on and see us interacting with them when we're like thirty five, versus like home videos of them us being little and then being a new dad. It's like we have moments throughout our childhood and our adult life to where we'll be able to watch that, you know, with sadness and happiness and everything else. But it's really cool that we'll have all these things and if busting is no more right, yeah, yeah, back on all the relationships that we I had all the funny moments, but the dead combine was a lot of fun.

00:48:04
Speaker 2: It was a ton of fun.

00:48:05
Speaker 1: Yeah.

00:48:05
Speaker 2: The idea of being a grandfather one day by being able to like pull up some of those videos of just like me getting my head buzz for that bet I lost, or like you know, showing.

00:48:17
Speaker 1: Your grandkids showing their friends about stuff.

00:48:21
Speaker 2: Yeah, but yes, that was our crack of cold one. And also just a reminder for the six to oz one of the dad's because we have had a few that I've listened to where they were like I had a good crack a cold one, or I had a really good motherfucked love that if you got a dad hack or a tool kit. Just another reminder. I know we've said that before, like tell us your crack of cold one too. It does not have to be a question. And one of the ones this week, I believe it is a crack of cold one and it is stellar and just.

00:48:57
Speaker 1: Off the whole six one the dads because in O we're all through this and figuring out too. I'm trying to think of the people that call in and you know, they might give it another shot the next week and they might say the same exact story. If there are a bunch of voicemails that we hear that you think could make it on the show, But that's not just the ones that we selected for this show. You can keep them in a row. We can probably keep them in a rollodex. Put the headphones on.

00:49:20
Speaker 2: No, no, you're fine. I was just saying, if like the viewers could hear Chef, because I would love for the viewers to hear that. And if they couldn't hear Chef, that's intern Chef that's been helping us before the dads. He has been compiling all these voicemails. We are taking our job very seriously with the voicemails with the DMS. Chef is a huge part of that and cycles through all those call logs and listens to them and compiles them and Sherman, would this be a good one because we actually surprised Will with the call ins the actual day of recording. Just know, those voicemails are being listen to. Chef's taking his job really seriously, so we thank them for that.

00:50:02
Speaker 1: So keep calling trying to find ways to continue building this community. Yeah. Absolutely, you can already just tell from the comments in the first episode and just the dads who are excited about it and everything else and the messages that we were getting like it's gonna be it's gonna be a lot of fun. And if you've made it this far in the second episode, feel free to share it. Feel free to share with your boy, to share your fellow dad group chats. Feel free to share it pass it around because people might not fully know, you know what I mean. They might be subscribed to the bust and YouTube channel yep, and they might have saw the thumbnail and just think it's like a clip or something.

00:50:33
Speaker 2: And that was that was looking at the analytics. Jeremy had pulled it up for me. That was two of the main ways that people were actually seeing the episode where people were sharing the dads were sharing it, and then the dads were also looking up for the dads on YouTube, which that's usually a really small percentage, but there was a high percentage of our views just from for the dads, which to me that feels like a word of mouth things, so that it's really cool that the dads are doing that. Our next segment, What are the Odds, shout out FanDuel's sportsbook What are the Odds? Just a reminder for you guys. This is where we tell a story of like crazy timing, wild odds, or just kind of those small little moments in life where it's like, man, what are the odds of that? That's so funny? What are the Odds? This week was also at Dad Combine. This features my Dad and also features Mitchell Carsley's dad. Mister Carsley was introducing himself to my dad, and I guess he had overheard Papa Scherm and Bill Compton talking a little bit about guns, and so he holstered that about forty five minutes later.

00:51:45
Speaker 1: Such a dad combo.

00:51:46
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, dude. And by the way, I wish so badly we had had a camera on Bill and Papa shrm talking about their nozzler and then your dad's thirty odd six and just going through Oh.

00:51:59
Speaker 1: Dude, yeah, getting I can't remember right now. I can't remember right office that Bill super nice to meet you. I'm I'm I'm Sherman, Sherman's father.

00:52:07
Speaker 2: They're both cueballs, both cue balls.

00:52:09
Speaker 1: My dad, Oh you get the you get your hair cut at the same spot. I do, you know, just having a wholesome father exchange.

00:52:15
Speaker 2: It was incredible. But yes, mister Carsley, just like perfection, just comes up to my dad and is like, Sherman, nice to meet you. I heard you do a little bit of hunting. My Dad's like, I do, I do a little bit of hunting. How about yourself. I heard the very first part of the conversation, which shout out to Mitch's daddy actually shot a black bear while he was whitetail hunting. He was up in a tree stand hunting some white tail, and there's an overlap in Pennsylvania on a black bear and white tail. He had a black bear come right behind his stand, just right up by the tree, and he did one of these and knocked it with one shot, which so shout out mister Carsley. But he saw on that story well to a bunch of Texans hearing that were like, you shot a bear, Like that's not we don't have those opportunities in Texas, right. I look over forty five minutes later, mister Carsley has his sunglasses up here, he has his readers on the bridge of his nose. My dad has his readers on the bridge of his nose. And my dad's doing this to mister Carsley, and just you see that. Blah blah blah. They have the hear game cameras. They're showing game camera pictures soon.

00:53:28
Speaker 1: Echah.

00:53:28
Speaker 2: They incredible, dude, I mean, you're just like you love to look.

00:53:33
Speaker 1: This one's going to be a big one. Hey come fall time. This one is growing right here.

00:53:37
Speaker 2: This non point we haven't so he came by one time. Yeah, we haven't seen him since.

00:53:42
Speaker 1: I haven't seen him since, and we haven't seen him either.

00:53:44
Speaker 2: He's out there, he's out there, and we're waiting for the rut because he fucking loves the dose. But if they ain't rutting, he ain't come to the feeder.

00:53:51
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's on them doors like wide on rice. Now, I'm telling you.

00:53:54
Speaker 2: But he won't your face till the rut.

00:53:56
Speaker 1: Look at this, you know what. We didn't get him in this camera, but look at this rub on this tree and.

00:54:00
Speaker 2: Wait, hold on, hold on, hold on, wait one second. And they go through like thirty pictures but I can't. They finally get the one picture where it's the you know that back from behind like straight on that they want to show you. Go see how outside the years he is. Yeah, I mean, come on, I.

00:54:18
Speaker 1: Remember that picture I was telling I was telling you about earlier. I couldn't find it. My buddy sent it to me. Check that out.

00:54:24
Speaker 2: We finally got it. Yeah, if that's a twelve I was talking with the drop time, that's that twil But dude, it's just uh, it was phenomenal.

00:54:32
Speaker 1: Accidentally open up another app damn it? How do we get out of it.

00:54:38
Speaker 2: I love seeing dad's photo Shout out Jill's stepdad Cody, because he shows me a lot of game camera player usure Sue. I love seeing his camera roll. There is nothing better than a dad's camera roll.

00:54:52
Speaker 1: Dude.

00:54:52
Speaker 2: You'll just see, like when it's all the little images and they're like scrolling, you see some of the stuff that you takes pictures of or screenshot to be in the mind of a dad.

00:55:02
Speaker 1: To be in the mind of a dad, my dad would just pull out the phone and just start taking pictures of just be standing like right below them or something doing something. I'm like, Dad, what are you doing? Like she's playing on the ground, You're getting photos of her back. I'll just be staying just like taking pictures of it. Dad, Do you want a better shot?

00:55:22
Speaker 2: If you come over here, you can see your face. Why do I need to see your face? I know what that looks like. Yeah, but yeah that's our What are the odds? And then as far as like Survival Kid and Dad Hacks, I feel like laying you drive on those. As far as you having.

00:55:40
Speaker 1: Kids Survival Kit and Dad Hack Survival Kid, I'll say I think they both go hand in hand. For the Dad hack and Survival Kid survival kit. My survival Kid recommendation will be having sticker books. You'll be traveling with a backpack around when you guys go out, maybe you're traveling to a different state. May you're flying on the plane, maybe you're in the car for a long time. Sticker book's a big one. We have animal sticker books, we have space sticker books, we have ocean sticker books. To where it's like the glossy kind of carboard. You open it up, the pages are thick and you have like the stickers, like the glossy stickers that you can put on, you can remove, you can play some around. Rue was having you do it when we were at uh, what was that place? Is the egg spot? Like egg?

00:56:22
Speaker 2: Another broken egg?

00:56:23
Speaker 1: Broken egg? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, another broken egg in Nashurville shut out another broken egg? No free shutouts great breakfast. Yeah. But you bring out the sticker book. When she's busier board or trying to do stuff, or we're trying to get being a conversation, you'll pull out the sticker book. Haveter started doing it? She has you coming over? Where should I put this sticker sticker book?

00:56:39
Speaker 2: Fun too? I can shout it out as well. I actually had a fun time with.

00:56:42
Speaker 1: Yeah, sticker book is a that's a survival kid. That's a little product recommendation because going into the dad hack and this will be shouts to my wife. So this is kind of be like a parahac dad Hack, mom hack whatever. TV coupons because one thing that you battle with when they have exposure, which they're gonna have to the first screen right or they are starting to watch TV. I know Rue had watched Miss Missus Rachel when she was really little, and now she's in the phase to where it's like a trash truck Little Bear, which was a favorite of mind growing up at Bear. Yeah, Rue loves Little Bear right now, so she wants to watch TV. Like anytime I come home, something goes off in the brain to where it's like, all right, we're getting close to TV time because she won't She doesn't watch any TV when the nannies in and we don't do iPads, we don't do screens when we're traveling or anything like, we'll listen to music. She might like listen to headphones or her uncle Brad got her this thing. I forget what it's called, but it like plays stories in the headphones. They could be like stories about Frozen or Mawana.

00:57:43
Speaker 2: That's awesome.

00:57:44
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just like they'll listen to stories. But if they want like activities to do, we'll get out the sticker book. We'll get out different drawing things where she can draw and hit a button and it'll delete it. Because we don't do it. We try not to do a whole lot of screen time. But she gets to watch TV. If you let them watch TV for two long you know, they're sensory, like, you know, their emotions get bigger. It's hard to put them down for bedtime. Yeah, it really worked up because they're just watching on the screen. It's a big time where their brain's developing. They're trying to regulate their emotions. They watch if they have too much screen time, like you know, there's so much researching like data on and everything else. But we do our best not to put a whole lot of screens in front of her. So, my wife, she was watching Little Bear and she likes to watch a Little Bear, And then it got to where she was getting pretty pissed off or agitated when we tell her, hey, you know, it's time to turn the TV off time to start winding down times, start getting ready for bed, or hey, if it's Saturday morning or Sunday morning, we might not we might do like Saturday morning cartoons or Sunday morning cartoons, if we like make pancakes, or make like a breakfast, like a family breakfast. And then it got to where, you know, she'd start to get really fussier mad when she had to turn off the when she had to turn off the TV or pause it, or she wouldn't eat her dinner. You had to like turn off all the screens. And so my wife she made these u this is the this is the parent hack. This is the the dad hack. And she to my wife for this. She made up these TV coupons, or she like cut out construction paper, a little construction paper background, printed out something on the computer, cut it out to where she like taped them on each other to where they have these fun little pictures. But each coupon represents thirty minutes of TV time. To where she'll go up to your walk up to her room. She'll take out a coupon and put it in the can't use the coupon anymore. And she only has like an allotted amount throughout the week, but she'll have windows of thirty minutes to watch TV if she wants to watch TV. Yeah, and that's the hack because it helps it. We turn it into like making it a currency. So she now has the choice. She now has the ability to kind of think about when she wants to use them. It gives her a little bit of control. We were talking about giving them control earlier. It gives them a little bit of responsibility for you start showing them the costs, like, hey, once you run out, these are gone for the week. You might be able to use two in a day. Maybe it's just one in a day, but you get to kind of pick and choose when you use your coupons because once they're gone, they're gone. You don't get any more TV. So again, so point where she wants to use like a second coupon in a day, and you're kind of like trying to talk her out of it. You're like, hey, if you use this coupon now, you will be out for the weekend. Weekends are big, you have a lot of downtime you could be watching TV. Yeah, Saturday morning cartoons might not be Saturday Morning cartoons, So it kind of gives them the freedom to start thinking about like what their choices are, and it gives them predictability to where, hey, they know they have coupons upstairs. So if she comes down and she's like, Dad, I want to watch a Little Bear and I'm like, well, you did you use your coupons, She's like, I already went upstairs and flipped it over to the other side. So TV coupons highly recommend. That's the way we've kind of tried to battle the screen time the screen time game, because it's like once kids start looking at the screen and seeing that all this, you know, all these different things that they can watch on TV, especially now like they don't have to watch commercials. If they get an ad that comes across I want, you know, more Little Bear, and it's like, dude, you got thirty seconds of this ad that just popped on, Like you're gonna have to you have no clue. We had to go We had to fucking look at a TV guide. Yeah, try to predict when our show was gonna be on and watch oh yeah, with all the commercials now they can get it instantly on demand, and so to kind of structure that versus her being like I want to watch TV. We're watching TV. Like, hey, bro, you've been watching TV for like forty five minutes, it's time to turn off the TV. And then they get all pissed off. It's like, bro, I've kind of let you watch TV for a while, Like how do you not get that this is a it gets time to stop watching. So TV coupons is how we've started to play that game. Because again, it's tough. It's hard, especially when you're you know you can do so I feel like it's more of a challenge for parents. Like when you go out to a restaurant, you might see a family sitting there and their kids got to you know, you see them, you have they have a screen or an iPad in front of them, they have headphones on and then the parents are either in dinner or they might be on their phones or whatever. It is. Like charl and I were we've always said like we don't you know, when people may comme up, we don't want to be that family or we don't want to do this and that. Like it's challenging because it gets really hard when you travel or you're on the road or you're out eating at a restaurant. You want them to calm down, but it's I don't know, it's like trying to get them like, hey, it's all good to be bored. Do you want your sticker book? Do you want to you know you want to pull out a book, or do they have something to color with at the restaurant, or let's just listen to this song or listen to this podcast or listen to this book on audio for traveling in the car. So the screen time will be a battle that you'll come across in the future, and there's no right or wrong way. That's just kind of been our preference on how we're going to approach minimizing as much as we can, because I know there are some families that don't do any screen time. You're kind of like, man, I wish we challenge ourselves to do no screen time. Are there some families you see that do do the screen time? You're thinking in those moments of stress or annoyance, you're just like, man, I wish I could just put something in front of him so they just calm down right now. So there's no right or wrong way. Not trying to say you're a bad parent if you do a bunch of screen time. That is just how we approach dealing with screen time with rue.

01:02:46
Speaker 2: I love that philosophy. And that's actually one thing I've heard been hearing a lot about like entering into your fatherhood is I have a buddy that they were like, we did no screen time, and then now that we're like trying to watch movies with him, like he will not sit down. He's like this is what are we doing?

01:03:03
Speaker 1: Yeah?

01:03:03
Speaker 2: Like why are we watching this? And they're almost like, well, damn, I wish we had kind of introduced movies and TV because like he's constantly just like why can't we just go like kick the ball?

01:03:13
Speaker 1: Right? Yeah? Yeah? And it's like, Buddy, I don't want to go outside around it's a lot outside, like it's just chilling here.

01:03:19
Speaker 2: Or it's you know late at night, like we're kind of winding.

01:03:22
Speaker 1: Yeah, Sun's going down, Sun's going to sleep. For you to go to sleep.

01:03:25
Speaker 2: Yes.

01:03:25
Speaker 1: And it kind of came too from you know, you do pizza Friday and movie night. We'd be watching movies and then she wants to watch Frozen over and over, so it's like, hey, do you want to watch if we have TV on it, it's like you watch a couple of things a little bit because Little Bear will be like, say twenty one minutes long, and they have little segments of like seven minutes on one episode, seven minutes on another inside of like one episode. Yeah, yeah, you're trying to watch something short, but I want to watch Frozen. It's like, bro, you can't watch a movie. You can't watch an hour and a half of a movie.

01:03:51
Speaker 2: That's more. That's more than Yeah. Yeah, yeah, you're gonna need three coupons yeah to watch Frozen. Yeah yeah, So does Pizza Friday not count? Pizza Friday doesn't.

01:04:00
Speaker 1: We won't. We don't count it just because that's like our it's like our time of like showing up as a fan to kind of do like a family, our weekly tradition per week. But she'll get like, I think it's any it it's around like eight nine, ten, I don't know. We give her in a lot of the amount of coupons to where she can't double down on every day. She can double down on a couple of days, but all the rest of the day she has like one coupon that she can use. And you try and talk to her like, hey, you want to save these for the end of the week. You want to say it for the end of the week. She can't go over to in a day, so we're like, you like, build parameters, kind of make it like a currency so they can start figuring out.

01:04:35
Speaker 2: She's in charge of the flipping sibilities. Yeah, yeah, which I feel like y'all are almost kind of setting an opportunity there. I like for her to, oh yeah, hey, flip it back over.

01:04:47
Speaker 1: How'd she get it? Seems like she already used up her coupons? Why does she have one in there? I know I'm ready for that time. I'm ready for that moment right now. She's innocent enough to where she like she like gets the game. It's like her getting out of bed. She doesn't really get out of bed until we come up in room. I know some people hear stories like we got to like tie the door shut so they don't come out of the room down early in the morning. Wi them into our bed. Yeah yeah, uh so we haven't gotten there yet, but it's gonna be like that first time she realizes she can get out of bed and walk down to our room, and then she's like, oh man, I can just leave room in the if I wake up in the middle line, just go down to mom and Dad's bed.

01:05:17
Speaker 2: He yo, waffle, Yeah, where's with me?

01:05:21
Speaker 1: But when my wife made it, I was like, are you sure you want to let her do the flipping because I can see where she just might be like, all right, I only have one left, Like, let me not flip it and see if my parents don't uh huh, they don't catch me. But that's the that's the parent hack, that's the survival kit stick her books, Dad Hack, I love the coupons.

01:05:38
Speaker 2: A bonus dad Hack to that is I had an English teacher in high school that all of the media that he would introduce to his firstborn son was all the media that he grew up on. So like his son's favorite movie at the age of six was like Superman two from like nineteen sixty yeah, and his son hadn't seen anything like outside to that and more modern and stuff. So he's seeing the terrible effects of like nineteen sixty one Hollywood, these practical effects, and he's thinking, how's this dude flying? He how's Superman up in the clouds right now?

01:06:13
Speaker 1: This is crazy and it's too You come across things where when you have like show recommendations for toddlers, because again, we'll get a lot of our stuff, whether it be the algorithm on Instagram or something coming across our face to where there's things that get your senses going so much, to where there's a lot of movement in the show, or a lot of lights, a lot of seeing, a lot of camera angles changing a lot to where it's like, you know, their brain development that's happening, and it's like counter productive for them, Like it's not healthy for them. Oh okay, And you'll see that shows that we grew up on are slow enough, like Little Bear being an example, that are slow enough to where it's kind of like one shot and it's just them like interacting. It's wild. You'll come across all this stuff, yeah, towards like this stuff we grew up on. It will be like, oh, those are better things for their brain to consume because all of the new rage stuff, there's a lot of bound there's a lot of animation, a lot of lights, a lot of flickering, a lot of you know, scenes going from one to another really quick. Yes, which apparently, I guess messes up the brain. I have no clue.

01:07:10
Speaker 2: Now that makes sense.

01:07:11
Speaker 1: Scientist.

01:07:12
Speaker 2: I've seen enough Bluey to know that, like Blue is like super fast paced, and just watching it, I remember like two of the little kid dogs are like yelling at the dad like they're upset that the dad's like telling them it's time to go nine to night. I'm just making up an example, but they're like talking back to dad, and I'm like, well, shit, if I had a little kid, I.

01:07:32
Speaker 1: Don't want them like knowing that this is an option.

01:07:35
Speaker 2: Yeah, like what in the world. Like I think back to like Winnie the Pooh and like e or being grumpy and you're like, oh, well, don't be or because like Rabbit and Pooh are all like E or like cheer up, buddy.

01:07:48
Speaker 1: Yeah. The last list I saw Blue on was like a moderate. It was like a moderate because when rou was on, it was like miss Rachel Blue. You're kind of learning about these shows and everything else because I think Blue is a I think Blue He's awesome, Okay, but yeah, it's interesting like learning about all of that stuff. Like when you have a kid and you're trying to like, you know, you want everybody's trying to do the best that they can, and so you're trying to figure out, like, you know, what would be good for them to watch? What's unhealthy for them to watch? Like, oh, their brains developing? What does that even mean? Yeah?

01:08:19
Speaker 2: What can they even pick up from that? I'm such a sinophile lover of movies that, like, I to myself, I'm like, man, there's so many things I'm gonna want my kid to watch that I'm like, I'm gonna have to wait until they're you know, seventeen, eighteen nineteen or whatever.

01:08:34
Speaker 1: Like, but you want to know a little the show is. We would watch Chaos Theory by Jurassic Park. Oh yes, and it essentially shows the dinosaurs. It shows all the stuff. It shows moments right up to where before the human basically gets killed or a dinosaur gets killed, Like it might be a velociraptor, you know, dropping the nail on a guy's head, but they'll show the voss raptor and the nail will be up and then like as it's gonna go down and kill the guy and you hear the on the background, it'll just shift to a different scene and you'll hear it, but you just won't see it. Yeah, Rue and I were watching that at a pretty young age and My wife was like, are you sure she should be watching this? You know she's gonna you.

01:09:15
Speaker 2: Can double down as a dad.

01:09:16
Speaker 1: I'm thinking, this is your show. I love Jurassic part.

01:09:19
Speaker 2: I like, we gotta be good kid.

01:09:21
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh this is on Disney. This will be a good show.

01:09:24
Speaker 2: Yeah.

01:09:25
Speaker 1: It's like the t Rex bus out there, you know, busts through the gates and like yells, and I'm like looking at roosaction and when she's just kind of like looking at it and not getting too scared, I'm like, all right, you know, yeah, maybe she can handle it, so we it'd be something we would watch with mom not around it first. And then she saw it, she's like she's roupy. I don't know if I like, we're watching this, sweetheart. I mean, she's been watching it. She doesn't get too scared, like she's my dad, dad, Dad. That keeps her safe. She's gonna come across.

01:09:48
Speaker 2: It at some point then, I think, like also, like I watched the movie The Patriot at like nine, I think, so I'm like, oh my gosh, if I was watching The Patriot at nine, I go back and watch that now and I'm like, oh my god.

01:10:01
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, And like I can't wait till we get her into like maybe Star Wars or something, because again we're watching like and again like Blue, but what like Miss Rachel will be on TV or Blue or the really kid shows. You're kind of sitting there. It's like you want to watch it with him, but you got no skin in the game. Like Jurassic Park, Chaosterio, all that stuff. I can I can sit there and watch it with it. Oh yeah, you see that.

01:10:23
Speaker 2: The only thing I was gonna say is we have run long, So I was gonna kick it to the voicemail.

01:10:31
Speaker 4: What's up, guys, big fan of the pod.

01:10:34
Speaker 1: My name is Alex Caputo. I'm from New Jersey.

01:10:37
Speaker 4: I am not currently a dad, but I am actually going through the IVF process and I saw the pod about Will Compton and his wife and it inspired me to get inspired and call and call in to see if you guys had some advice for me. A big fan of the boys, big fan of you guys. I would just love to be featured, just to kind of chat with the boys and see what kind of inspiration I can get from the dads and from you Sherham as well. So again, like I said, shout out, no free shout out, big fan of the boys, big fan of the bus. Love what you guys are doing again.

01:11:17
Speaker 1: My name is Alex Caputo.

01:11:18
Speaker 4: I'm from Jersey, good old Jersey Italian boy here hopefully to become a dad in about a year if this IVF process goes well.

01:11:26
Speaker 3: Love you boys much love.

01:11:29
Speaker 1: Alex man shout out to you. Appreciate you calling in love that you listen to the IVF podcast with my wife and I. If you guys haven't seen that podcast, it's on our bus and channel. My wife and I did it for like a Mother's Day special where we sat down and broke down a lot of the IVF process and kind of the ups and downs of that process because it is a it's an interesting one. It's not an easy one on both the mom and the dad, the wife and the husband, just because you don't know what to prepare for. Your wife goes through a lot of stuff physically. There's a lot of hormonal changes, a lot of injections and hard things that they have to do so that way their body's ready to conceive a child, because pregnancy is a very hard thing to make happen. You realize, like you think in high school you can you knock somebody up, and it's as simple as that. And then when you get married and you go through some rough times, you go through some turbulence with your wife on trying to get pregnant, and then you kind of see why people are a little bit reserved when hey, you asked the question, or you go somewhere you're asking your friends that are newly married or something like hey, when you guys thinking about kids, just because you have no idea what those two could potentially be going through, Like maybe they're having trouble getting pregnant, maybe they're in the middle of an IVF process, and their fingers are crossed that this works out because it's their last effort to try and make something happen because doing it the natural way didn't work, going through a couple other steps they might have tried might not have worked, and they're in this final step of being like, hey, maybe this IVF process of work because it's not the cheapest thing in the world. And you know, I do know of some stories and situations with friends of mine to where my wife and I, you look at our situation, even though it's very hard to go through the IVF process like you look back and you have perspective, and we were all so lucky because it happened in the first round. I have friends of mine, close friends of mine that have went through multiple rounds of IVF to where they've had the the embryos that are frozen and those not might not work out every time they try to implant implant, and then they might run out of those embryos to where they have to do the IVF cycle again, or they might not get they might not get a lot of eggs in their first IVF process to where they might only have one or two and neither of those workouts to where they have to go through the IVF process again. So if I had any advice, dude number one, I wish you guys all the luck and health in the world that this first one goes the way that you guys wanted to, because even then, it's a very hard process, and I just always anchored my emotion to think that something could probably go wrong based on friends that I've had that have had these processes in those IVF those IVF journeys don't work out the first or even second time, or even the third time. There's one buddy of mine that's went through about four or five cycles before they had their first one, and that is very hard in trying on the marriage. It's very hard in trying on the couple. And it's one of those things to where you know, you look for ways to be strong for your wife. Your wife's probably looking for ways to be strong for you and herself. And sometimes it's not about being strong, it's just about reconnecting and finding your way back to each other through communication, empathy, because there's just going to be a lot of stress that that involves stress in IVF, along with all the stress going on in your worlds individually at work, with your friends, your parents, whatever it may.

01:14:55
Speaker 2: Be, scheduling all those appointments around work if they're both working, Yeah.

01:15:00
Speaker 1: Wondering if should I is there somebody to talk to or should I bring it up? I know we kind of don't want to talk about it too much because our fingers are crossed. We want to get a little bit farther down the road before we start to talk about it. Hey, this worked out. You get a few you get a weekend or a trimester or two in you might could you know there could be a miscarriage and then it's yeah, there's it's a lot, man. So my advice would just be again, it's all about staying connected and then when you start to feel like in any part of the process you lose connection, it's just about circling back and reconnecting with your wife. And again, it's a it's a trying time. So uh, I wish you guys luck and health and all of it. Good luck because again, when it does happen, it is uh, you know, it's always a miracle when there's when there's a kid involved, and it works out for the couple and it works out for for everything involved. But Alex appreciate you calling in, bro. I know that was a very long winded response because there's really no right.

01:15:58
Speaker 2: Yes, that's a that's a whole hard one, dude. Yeah, it's a hard one. There's the only thing we did to prep Will this week with the call ins is that we chef and I told them there was an IVF call. Yeah, because that that is kind of a that's a hard question to answer, dude.

01:16:13
Speaker 1: Yeah, because there's you know, at the end of the day, it's going to be trying. Yeah, it's gonna be very hard. And even if it works and everything's going smooth. There's just gonna be those moments you have with your wife And again, listen to that episode with my wife and I we talk about a lot of those low moments and stuff that would go through my head that you feel so much guilt and shame, like I don't even want to bring this up because it doesn't seem like it compares at all to what she's going through. Then you start projecting back and forth on each other. Then you you know, you realize, like you you're not even talking about the right thing anymore. Yeah, so, yeah, there's really not There's really not a right way to go about it. It's one of those things. It's like you just prepare for the worst and when that stuff starts to kick in, it's just reminding yourself, how do I find a way to to reconnect because she might be having a hard time right now. If you the man, if I'm having a hard time right now, how do I communicate that in the way that has, you know, empathy and understands the weight of the current situation going on while just having the big picture in mind. Yeah, that would be what I'd say, bro.

01:17:16
Speaker 2: I think that's a great answer. I cannot I appreciate Alex tossing my name in there to any advice. I can't speak on it from a personal situation other than have had a friend that has faced the same thing. He opened up to me about it, and we just had like one of the more incredible moments of our friendship of just kind of and it was during the time of Jill's pregnancy, so probably a hard conversation for him to have, but just in that moment being able to like hug him and we both are teary eyed and I'm just like, you are going to be the best at ever and I want it so bad for you, and just him being able to open up about that. So if anything, I think you had said the same thing for Alex to just be able to communicate with somebody through that time and then Dad's out there that maybe you have friends that are facing that. I think just when that conversation is presented to you, just being super open to be able to hear your buddy out, hear the fellow future dad out, potential future dad out, and just be.

01:18:28
Speaker 1: There for him. Because one thing, and that's a great point too, because one thing that was surprising for me when we were going through that process. You don't know how much you can necessarily talk about or how much you should talk about it, yeah, you know, respect to how your wife feels, yes, or if it feels like a bad or wrong thing to talk about. And what would surprise me is people that I would bring it up to dads they talked about, oh, we did IVF as well. That's sick to where then you realize that, Okay, you can't start to talk about it a little bit more. You have a friend that you can lean on, because again you have no clue how the journey's going to be, because it can be heavy. As a buddy of mine, they went through one IVF process or their first IVF process, and they were pregnant, and I want to say they had a miscarriage around like week eighteen or nineteen, which was it's devastating. Yeah, you think everything's going smooth because.

01:19:21
Speaker 2: They tell you once you get past week eight you're guting right, right.

01:19:25
Speaker 1: You hear all these different milestones, you feel a little bit more comfortable to talk about it, the sex of the child and everything else, and so you know when the second round's coming in. They're currently pregnant, they're not right. At the eighteen week mark, you just know everybody's like fingers are crossed and you just you kind of put your arm around them and you're just you're hoping for the best, man, because you have no clue how all of it can go, what people are feeling. But yeah, man, definitely having somebody to lean on for sure.

01:19:52
Speaker 2: Absolutely the last thing on Alex, and we'll get to the next call. Alex was our very first voice.

01:19:58
Speaker 3: Man. Hey, fellas, this is Colin. Colin from North Carolina. It's about one ten East coast time. I'm whispering because sometimes the fellas need to hear about a win. Today this evening is the biggest W that I have had in fatherhood in a very long time. Mom's first night out after second baby. We got a two and a half year old all boy Savage and a two month year old all boy Hellion who just is hungry NonStop. Mom decides she's going out. I got this. I think that the boys took one look at mom leaving and they saw it in my eyes. After work, you know what, dad needs a W. We got to get a W in the column for Dad. They rallied and was left with a very strict milk schedule. I read it slightly slightly at my own liberty. The toddler ate his first full meal in weeks. We played baseball outside, the baby slept everything. So as hard as these nights are because we're in the trenches, all the other knights have sucked. But guess what, sometimes you get these giant ws and they're incredible. Keep doing what you're doing, Fellas. We love it, absolutely love it, extremely motivating. Appreciate you.

01:21:59
Speaker 2: Love you guys, calling from North Carolina, Colin.

01:22:05
Speaker 1: I love the energy. I love the juice. You can hear it in your voice. Did he say it was one in the morning.

01:22:13
Speaker 2: One in the morning that he called in, whispering.

01:22:16
Speaker 1: Whispering, keeping the light. I thought, I was like, okay, this is kind of he's low energy right now, like is this a bad vibe? But hearing that W because he's right man. The wife goes out for the first time and you're ready to put on that as on your chest and you're ready to take down everything in the house. We're gonna eat a good meal. Hearing that his kid ate for the first time in weeks, that is a massive W. And you also learn. It's like sometimes the kid whatever, whatever's going on in their brain, it just it might run smoother if it's just you and the kid. Because if you have both parents, you got you know they're working you. They're working you the entire time. And when you're solo and your kid eats that meal all the way through and you're just thinking, you're thinking to yourself, she's gonna come home and ask me, how did how did everything go? Yeah, and you're gonna have that slow pan to where you just look and you're like, I crushed it. I crushed it. Buddy ate his full meal, baby drink all of his bottles, slept through the night. I don't know if he's sleeping through the night yet. What he say two months old?

01:23:25
Speaker 2: Yeah, two months old, but he said but he said.

01:23:27
Speaker 1: Sleeping sleeping, So he's getting. What he's trying to tell you is baby sleeping four hours at a time. Yeah, I'm guessing three four hours at a time. Smooth sleeping to where you fall asleep for a little bit, you might wake up. You have your own little routine going on. But that is a massive w for the dads.

01:23:46
Speaker 2: Because I'm guessing at one am that would be he probably puts it down at six or six thirty, it woke up around twelve or twelve thirty ish possibly, and.

01:23:57
Speaker 1: Say and then he fed, maybe he maybe the the two month old had a bottle at seven, and you're thinking, all right, I'm gonna be ready to go around eleven and they might still be sleeping. Then stretch it out to one o'clock.

01:24:07
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:24:08
Speaker 1: Those are the small winds that you relish in because it is you know you're in it when it's you got the when you got the young one sleeping, schedules off and that first time mom goes out on her own, you want them to go out, But the moment they walk out the door and it closes and the gates are locked, you need your heart to turn black because you don't know what you're about to be in for. And when it goes smooth and when you crush it, and there's something about when you're just on your own and you're by yourself and you know nobody's coming to save you that you just find a new gear, a new level, and you get through the end of the night or into bedtime and you think to yourself, yeah, I can handle my shit. Oh, shut out Colin the call in.

01:24:49
Speaker 2: Bro and an added bonus to con and Alex uh chef is going to reach out to them via six on one the dads. He's gonna get their home address and they're gonna get some free merch for being featured on the show. For the dads, Let's go boys. If your call gets featured on the show. Guys, you're gonna get some lids, maybe a shirt. We haven't fully decided yet, but you will get some free merch. Okay. We have the topic quote or lesson of the week from Will Compton.

01:25:19
Speaker 1: From will come, do you have one?

01:25:21
Speaker 3: I do not?

01:25:23
Speaker 2: Do you?

01:25:24
Speaker 1: I mean last week it was kind of hard to follow up. I feel like I have one. I got a uh and.

01:25:33
Speaker 2: Just really quick, do you want me to have some topic quotes?

01:25:37
Speaker 1: If one whether you're getting ready to be a father or something you come across. It's kind of like, you know, touch the old boys soul a little bit okay cool? And it could be something small again topic quote or lesson like it could be a quote like I don't have one. I'm not necessarily prepared. I was thinking about it and if I had any type of lesson in it I hate coming off like any of it is is advice, because you're going to get a lot of unsolicited advice. And I want to say the lesson is around that parent guilt or that dad guilt that you might have when you have a newborn or you have a toddler, you have a kid, and there are a lot of things that come your way. I know one thing that I've really learned over the past year that I try to put into practice is the power of no, because there's going to be and a lot of guys, you know, a lot of people don't necessarily have the option of opting out of something with work or opting out of an opportunity that they have to go and chase, because they have to do what they have to do to make sure they take care of everything at home and be that steady rock at home. And I think for me, it was like there's always some like as you're going through this journey of everything and all the opportunities and things that we get to do that busting gets to do, you can say yes to a lot of things because we kind of create our own It's like we get to kind of build out what our future and everything looks like, so there's always opportunities coming our way, and we can say yes to everything, and you get spread so thin that you start to have the guilt when you're traveling or you're doing things that kind of pulls you away from the family. And I know that ways on people, and they're you know, guys kind of put you know the proverbial'll put their arm around you, or they try and tell you things that like, hey, you know that your kids won't remember, or you have all of those little things that they're probably just trying to help you justify whatever your decision is. It's like, you know, before they turn whenever their memory starts, let's just say it's five years old. It's like, hey, they won't remember if you didn't make it to this dance recital or you don't make it to I'm not gonna say, like their first birthday or like a birthday party, or there's something going on where the birthday party might be happening, but you might have a massive opportunity that you're kind of torn between the two. And I've kind of like resisted when I hear people say like, hey, they won't remember X, Y and Z, because the way I've like flipped it in my mind and the way I thought about it. And it's funny because I was talking through this with somebody whenever I was when I was on some vitamins and minerals, and so you know, you're thinking of the entire universe at that point. And what I kind of thought to myself or started to tell myself, is if they don't remember up until again, let's call it five years old. Yeah, and when they grow up, they're not going to remember all of these years, these early years, because you know, how much do we even remember. We don't remember a whole lot, not only flashes or things or moments, or it could be bad moments that you might remember. But I've just kind of thought to myself that the way I flip in my head that if they're not going to remember, we do remember, Like our kids are here. These first years of their life are for us to enjoy, Like it's for us to kind of look at the family we've gotten to create and enjoy these moments of time. Even though they might not remember it, we get to remember it, and they're here, they're on this earth right now for us to spend as much time with them as we can or to enjoy them as much as possible. And that's the approach I've always I've tried exercising and tried to be intentional with when I look at whether it's work opportunities or new opportunities, is is this going to take away from the family time? And if so, like how much of it? How many bedtimes am I willing to miss? How many mornings am I willing to miss? And when you have that boundary for yourself, it helps kind of separate you to where you have you learn that power of no of if it doesn't fit in this schedule, I'm going to say no to it because you want to prioritize and be intentional with wanting to be around because again, they might not remember, but you do remember, and they're here now, especially in them young years man when they probably won't have a whole lot of memory of it, but things that we can capture on video, they're here for us to enjoy. So that would kind of be I guess, my lesson or things that I've kind of thought about when thinking about them being really young and being in a position to where again, we can say yes to a lot of things and we have the opportunity and we're awarded a lot of a lot of new things to do and be on the road a lot or travel a lot, and you make as much money as possible and do all of these things. So it's something that I've tried, like sitting with myself and having certain boundaries to where if it doesn't fit in these priorities and in this timeframe, then I will say no to it with the idea of I need to enjoy them as much as possible right now, because there's going to come a moment to where they're not crawling anymore, they're not stationary anymore. Yeah, you know, I wasn't gonna say not walking. They'll always be walking, but the last time that you'll be picking them up before it they don't want you to pick them up anymore, or you hold their hand, or all these little things that will be in the past. Yeah, And just to add on to it, it's like, if they don't remember up until five, when they're in between five and ten, their foundation to be five and ten is still going to be built on what they were from one to five. You know what I'm saying. Maybe that doesn't make sense, No, it does. But how you show up now is still going to be the pattern or.

01:31:05
Speaker 2: The It's not like the all of a sudden you just become the person that you are at six years old, and it's just right right right, I know exactly what you mean.

01:31:14
Speaker 1: So that would be.

01:31:17
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that lasson. I just with Rue like and Scotty as well. I put together a clip today of Will that like featured a ton of Will's Instagram posts, and in those posts, it was like crazy just seeing like ruin the photograph because I'm like really looking at the footage and making sure it all looks good, and I'm like, man, she's grown fast. Seeing Scotty at the dad combine her hair from when we shot that trailer to now, yeah, is so much longer, and that felt like last week. So it's like and those aren't even my kids. And then also the fact of that was another thought that went through my head while I was putting that video together, is I was like, man, Will is doing a killer job on the social media stuff, just from a selfish standpoint of you being able to go back and see all those pictures and like.

01:32:14
Speaker 1: Dude, we you don't know how many times, like when Mom's out of town and she's like she really struggles if I'm home along with the kids and I have them for like a weekend or having like four or five days whatever it is, Yeah, and she starts to be upset that mom's at home. It's like I can just pull up Instagram. I'll pull up like Charles, like you want to see videos of my mind. We can just go into our reels and kind of like watch old videos and that calm her down and she can see like old memories. But dude, I sometimes it takes a while, but I feel like it is. It's like one of those things that when those moments are happening, it's like, man, I'm glad I like made a video or I made a post about X, Y and Z because you can like scroll back and see a lot of old memories.

01:32:53
Speaker 2: Yes, dude, and at the exact same thing you're saying about the dad combine and just busting in general what jelly Roll said, Like you're just making a photo photo video journal. Yeah, which is so cool, dude, like having a Facebook being like our generation.

01:33:11
Speaker 1: How old are you? I am thirty five?

01:33:13
Speaker 2: Thirty five, okay, so I'm three years younger than you. Having Facebook when we did, Yeah, you were probably like a sophomore in high school or something. Yeah, yeah, I was in seventh grade, I believe, And so like having that is so freaking fun, dude. And again, the thought of being a grandfather and being able to pull up your Facebook and be like look at this, dudeeah like scroll thousand. Yes. A quick lesson for this would be for future dads or guys that are thinking about being a dad. This was a quote from Jill's stepdad that I thought was really great, and he was talking about like my professional career more so than fatherhood. But I think it's a very applicable to future dads that are like, am I ready for this? Can I do this? Will I be a good dad? One, the fact that you're asking yourself that question is a good start. It means you can, So I would say the fact that you're asking that that's a good sign. Second thing i'd say is everything in your life to this point has been getting you ready for something, whatever that next step is, and being able to eternalize all the what is it called When you have done something, you're gaining uh, perspective, perspective, You're gaining what does the wisdom. What does it intern get whenever they work experience experience, You're getting experience. Well done, intern chef. You're gaining experience for all these things throughout your life. So everything that you have gone through throughout your life, all the happy stuff, all the hard stuff, all the challenging stuff as making you the person, the man that you are today. And you can learn from everything that you've gone through, whether it's a mistake, whether it's good things that will help prepare you for what is to come. And with fatherhood to apply that. I know nothing about fatherhood, but as I'm getting closer and closer to July second, the induction date, there are moments where it's like lightning has struck my brain and I remember something that my dad always did, or I remember something that really upset me as a kid, specifically with ru in the pool, when Chara was like sitting there and having that conversation with her and like realizing like, yeah, I probably would have wanted to like talk something out instead of you know, having somebody yell at me or argue with me at that moment. So life is ever changing. There's always going to be things coming at you that you feel like you won't be ready for it, but just be able to use your past as a stepping stool into whatever you're going into. I guess would be my lesson of the week.

01:36:10
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you know, there's a lot of fears and doubt and things on thinking if you can do it or not? Right yes, and whether or not none of us know how. Nobody knows how to be you know, a perfect like a perfect dad. That's that's an impossible expectation to have. And people might feel that way because maybe they had a lot of bad experiences in their childhood or in their life to where they might have had doubt. But I would say a way to use that is you know what, you don't want it to look like, you know what I mean. You know that you don't want to be this person, or maybe one of your parents were this way or your dad was this way, and you feel like it might be generational and it's an opportunity for you. I know people get motivated by breaking generational curses. But you know, even if you don't have all of the best experiences, are the best memories that you're thinking, like how I'm going to do this? Like maybe you have you had a rough one and you know what you don't want it to look like? And that right there is a great starting point on how you don't you know what you don't want it to look like. I love that though. That was good man. Yeah, yeah, good show.

01:37:15
Speaker 2: Great show.

01:37:15
Speaker 1: Yeah. And if they say this one went a little long, very long, chef, Chef will have some editing to do.

01:37:22
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:37:24
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, we've got to get those numbers down. You know how I feel when we go a little too long, even on bus and I cut some of this out.

01:37:32
Speaker 2: What should we aim for?

01:37:34
Speaker 1: No clue? You know? I like to be under the hour mark, you know, I like to be under the hour mark. That might be impossible, and maybe the you know, maybe people be like, no, this is you guys, are this is completely fine? Like I know when I get on and I see it an episode and I know it's like under an hour, like our last one was what was our last one? Fifty minutes? You see fifty? Okay, oh it's under an hour? Yeah, should be easy. I can do that. So that's all. That's all I would That's why.

01:38:00
Speaker 2: That's that's my only note too. But I was so lost in the sauce of conversation that also is like, hey, maybe a good thing. But at the same time, I'm like, oh, man, on the top of our sheet, ETA expected runtime forty five minutes.

01:38:14
Speaker 1: Yeah, so yeah, yeah, got a couple of talkers up here.

01:38:17
Speaker 2: Yeah, we got some talkers. We got something we'll we'll we'll bring it in.

01:38:21
Speaker 1: Yeah.

01:38:21
Speaker 2: Maybe you take motherfucked, I'll take crack a cold one. You'd like, we'll each one do one of the segments. Yeah, yeah, that might be what we need to do.

01:38:31
Speaker 1: Pre production meeting could be good for us, a pre.

01:38:33
Speaker 2: Productive which we didn't didn't do and that's okay, that's okay. It's a very busy week. But we'll get a dial.

01:38:41
Speaker 1: Yeah, get a dial. Shout out to dads Man, thank you guys for joining us, Like subscribe again, leave comments. We love the comments. We'll be engaging with you guys, whether it's on social, here, on YouTube, whatever the case is. Thank you, guys. We appreciate the support. We need to sign off right now. I got just got big hugs, tidy kisses.

01:38:59
Speaker 2: I think that's great. That's a blanket sign off that I think for busting because y'all do it on the locker room too. I think that's a good one.

01:39:05
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, take your trash out. See you guys next week. Oh