BONUS: The Definition of Beauty

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Speaker 1: Hi you guys, Balacant, Welcome back to the bonus episode. If you give them all the podcast, I have Jessic Kerr.

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Speaker 2: Hello, good morning, good good morning, a boy mate, a boy and then I have Easton.

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Speaker 1: Did you get a new snap back? Is it a snapback or a fitted? Oh? I got my La Dodger fitted. Man, I'm doing my thing.

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Speaker 3: I think I got a patch on one of the sides.

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Speaker 1: You do World Series twenty twenty stunning.

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Speaker 4: It's new, newish, newish.

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Speaker 3: I buy things and then don't wear them for a while.

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Speaker 1: That's exactly what I do. It's like I'm saving it for when I go do something. But then I realized I'd never go do.

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Speaker 2: Something, and then it wasn't that must be nice. I buy things and wear them immediately because I'm so excited to wear them.

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Speaker 4: So they're like, do that, oh to jiu jitsu? Like I just wear like I just got it.

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Speaker 3: I like your heels.

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Speaker 4: I like your heel.

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Speaker 1: By the way your your legs would be stellar if you could, if you jiu jitsu and in Stiletto's, Oh.

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Speaker 4: You tell everyone you would.

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Speaker 1: If I didn't think about that, I just thought about the epic ass you'd have you thinking.

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Speaker 5: About what do they call it grappling?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, with a girl in a dress and heels.

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Speaker 2: Oh ass out vagina out everything with me out china vagina vagina.

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Speaker 1: That's what Ocean calls it. That's so cute because you have to wash your vagina, mom, And I'm like, yes, you do, and your arm pit and your show does okay. I got a text from a friend that was like, you give Ocean the accent of like a Rugrats character.

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Speaker 4: She does have it. It's so accurate.

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Speaker 1: She does. And like the other day she asked me for a purple otter pop you know, like the frozen things, and she she goes, I want to pupple one mom, And I said you want pupple and she goes, no purple. I'm like, purple, no purple. She totally thinks she's saying it correctly. I have to say the like, as time passes, you become, for me at least more and more obsessed with your kid.

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Speaker 3: You're like Sart becoming a little human.

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Speaker 1: I'm just like, you're the coolest person. You're sitting here talking to me about things that matter. I was watching Kardashians today for background noise, and then it sucked me in and I was like, you know what, I'm going to go and watch like the new season because Roku has like keeping up and it's like all they do is play Kardashians all day long. So it was like season three, episode one where they go camping or something and they go with Adrian Baylone's parents and.

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Speaker 4: I loved Adrian and Rob, but okay, go Chloe.

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Speaker 1: So I was like, I watch and the Ocean was talking about, you know, is this Housewives? I've never seen this before and I was like, it's great, girl. You should feel inspired by these women. Absolute freak Absolutely these are the women.

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Speaker 4: Study these women.

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Speaker 1: They're interesting, kind, very exciting to look at, very esthetically pleasing. The Arctic Ape easton a couple.

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Speaker 3: Well, Kim has one, Kylie has one.

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Speaker 1: Where did you get that Kylie has one? I don't know this is this true? I don't think so I can post me this, please don't. I do not need Marty Singer coming for me. Oh yeah, no, you're have you seen it? I think he's seen it, that's why he's talking about it. Well, allegedly allegedly.

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Speaker 3: Allegedly allegedly, it looks like her allegedly.

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Speaker 5: It's with Ai going around who knows, but it's been on the but it's been out for a good while before Ai was something, so I don't know.

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Speaker 3: But allegedly she's on there.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. There's this. I go through kicks where I'm like, I say this all the time. You don't need to know. You don't have to watch the Kardashians to know what's going on in their life. Like they're just shoved down our throats. And I'm totally fine with it. I find them interesting and aesthetically very pleasing to look at. But there are times where it sucks me in and I'm like, let's watch, let's see. I'm into it.

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Speaker 2: I love it for the how I love it for the homes that I just like it for that. So I feel like you were like or so many people are like, it's not that interesting now, but I'm like, it's interesting in a different way than I watch Bravo stuff for anyway, keep going sorry.

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Speaker 1: I think so too.

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Speaker 4: Like I like the homes. I like to be like, oh wow, look at the yard.

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Speaker 1: I like watching how powerful these women are. Yeah, it's just like wild to me to go from like them driving an r V by Lake to like security camped outside of the homes and getting on private jets to go to Paris for twelve hours and then get back to like it. Just I find it amazing.

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Speaker 2: They also get so much hate and they really don't give up. They don't give a heck at all.

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Speaker 1: You want to know why, I think it's be well, I think they do maybe behind closed doors. I'm sure it's hard because they're still humans, but it's the family, like the safest you could ever feel. They're like experiencing it together. It would be like Easton and my mom and me having multiple other siblings, knowing exactly what the other one is going through, but like we've got memories together since birth, Like you're that thick. So what's the bonus? What's the bonus episode about? Today?

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Speaker 4: Jessica speaking of beauty, speaking of Kardashians.

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Speaker 2: Speaking of stunning to look at No, this is I really loved this. You picked this lot and it is how do you define beauty?

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, I'm interested to see Ethan's take on this.

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Speaker 2: I am interested Ethan's take, I'm interested yours, and I'm interested in mine because I think we're all going to be very different.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well I would love for one of you to go first.

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Speaker 4: Easton, shall you stay or no? I did a lot of people.

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Speaker 1: Write in all this because this one. When you sent me the list of like what bonus topics to choose from, I was like, this one seems interesting and I'm not going to sugarcoat it.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of amazing and different ones. So you're right, it's interesting, lots of different perspectives.

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Speaker 3: What did Taylor say?

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Speaker 1: Who's Taylor your friend? Tap good?

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Speaker 3: What do you say? That is a lid for every pots?

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Speaker 1: The lid for every pot? No, it was Alex.

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Speaker 3: It was a rushing a lid for every pot.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we've we've been talking. I think I gravitated towards this topic because we've been talking a lot about types and who we find attractive, and it started again with Kardashians Landon. We'll talk about it in the Actually, let's talk about it now since it's right on topic. Landon yesterday was talking about he finds Kendall more appealing than Kylie of the Jenner sisters. Easton said he likes a look that's more manufactured.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't, Yeah, I know that sounds.

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Speaker 1: I don't we all can. They're not a natural family, Like that's not a nat like natural beauty. But I'm drawn to that.

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Speaker 3: Look you know why. I'm just drawn to like lips, yeah, lips. Yeah, I don't know why.

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Speaker 4: And if you're like.

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Speaker 1: Different pot oh that he was like, there's the lid for every pot and he was Landing, was like, I like more of an athletic build a more natural body. Easton was like, I like more of a bb L.

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Speaker 4: Great, you know, but that's what's so great. Everyone can have their preference.

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Speaker 1: That's what's so great is your lid. There's a pot for you, but there's.

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Speaker 4: A pot for your lid.

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Speaker 1: I'm hoping and if you're as lucky as like Irena Shake to have lips like that. Do you know who Irene she had a baby with Bradley Cooper.

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Speaker 4: She was Yeah, she's she's stunning.

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Speaker 1: She's Irena Shake. She's Russian and absolutely beyond and her body is amazing. See. I think I have many differences after that, are ready to fit many different pots.

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Speaker 4: I feel like you do too.

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Speaker 2: If we're going just off of physical attributes, is that what you're saying, like physical attributes.

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Speaker 5: Is she taken after Adriana Lima in something because that's who she kind of reminds me of.

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Speaker 1: Well, she does have like she does have that very pretty, like olive skin, like the natural look, the good eyebrows that don't need much work like whatever, like that's that's my type of look.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and she you said her lips are natural.

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Speaker 1: Irena sche Yeah, I don't know, she's always had lips like that.

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Speaker 4: Beautiful, beautiful.

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Speaker 2: I bet, I bet I'd like to find this list once. Who are the top ten that people bring into doctors?

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Speaker 4: I bet she's up there.

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Speaker 1: I bet she's definitely.

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Speaker 4: Up there for sure.

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Speaker 1: Okay for yeah, defining beauty, you got, okay, defining beauty.

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Speaker 5: I'm attracted to looks, But how I define beauty is almost how you treat other people like your server, your mother, your father, the people around you.

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Speaker 3: That's where I find beauty. And how you treat other people, how piecy of you.

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Speaker 4: I totally agree. We all know the hot chick who's stunning, and then we.

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Speaker 2: Meet her and you and everybody, like, I can't be seen with you.

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Speaker 5: I don't want totally dick energy to come to me, so I do, And that isn't PC that.

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Speaker 3: I really I was joking got her, but no, I really do.

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Speaker 5: Like I I have to be attracted visually, but now I have to find beauty in the person, and that's where I find out.

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Speaker 3: How do you treat other people? How do you hold yourself you know totally?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's my Yeah, how do you hold yourself in you know, anxiety riddled rooms, somewhere you're not supposed to be, but you fit. I find beauty in that, Like, how can I just fit in? How can I make it work? Be like cordial with all these people? That's where I find beauty.

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Speaker 4: Okay, why you treat others like? That's awesome?

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Speaker 5: Ye?

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Speaker 2: Stunning, absolutely stunning answer, absolutely beautiful answer.

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Speaker 1: Off. Okay, so that's like the initial you obviously have actually attracted.

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Speaker 5: I have to be attracted, yeah, visually attracted to you, and then after that, if you're a bitch, I can not be visually attracted to you anymore?

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Speaker 1: Right, turned off really quickly?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay.

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Speaker 5: But there's a lot of girls that like, honestly that I'm not attracted to, but I see them and I'm like, oh damn, now I'm attracted to her.

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Speaker 4: The attitude.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, how they're like going.

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Speaker 5: Around, I'm like, dude, yeah, you're attractive just because the energy you're giving, how you're treating everybody when you go up, you're like, you know, you're lighthearted, just things like that, and I'm like, all right, you're dope. Even though you're not my type, you're very attractive. So I just find beauty in that.

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Speaker 4: Okay, love that.

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Speaker 1: What about you, Joss beauty?

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Speaker 4: Okay, So two answers. First one's quick is kindness. Number one.

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Speaker 2: Kind It's like to say, that's just my number one. If you're not kind, like I've seen so many stunning women stunning men. The second I interact with you, if you're an asshole or rude, immediately, like truly, I am on, like my physical attraction to you.

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Speaker 4: Oh it's like it like goes away. Number one. Number two's humor.

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Speaker 2: Anyone with a good sense of humor is like, I just find so beautiful men and women like it. Just the second I find you have a good sense of humor, it's like attracting attraction level skyrockets.

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Speaker 4: That's like the main thing.

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Speaker 2: The thing I want to say, and I don't know what I would call this, but I'm just gonna like say it. It's like a quick story because I was thinking about that when you pick this. I was talking to my friend Edward yesterday and he was telling me about his aunt. I'm saying her name because I just love her or okay, Gloria Rodriguez. So he was telling me this, and I thought about this when we were doing how do you define beauty? She has had, like I won't say what, I'll just be vague, a very tough year.

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Speaker 4: It got horrifically tough year.

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Speaker 2: And she got brought up because she loves you by the way, loves you love the podcast, but she's had a tough year. And he was telling me about how after all she's been through and who is this? This is my friend Edward's aunt. I know this is random, but it has to do with beauty. So he's telling me about her year and I'm thinking like, oh, I know where this is going.

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Speaker 4: She's like down and out.

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Speaker 2: Whatever, but she's like this beautiful, kind person's who even though she's had a horrific year, she's like her like sweet to her family, cares for people, always doing things for others. And I don't know, I guess it's an unselfishness there's some sort of beauty in that where like you're down and out or you're at your worst and somehow and that's okay. If you're like sad and you have to sit in it and you're depressed, that's okay too. But there's this like beauty I find in people, especially if I know they're really struggling and they just like get up every day and they're still kind.

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Speaker 4: What would you call that?

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Speaker 2: It's just like a lovely I guess, yeah, like an optim or like soldiering through.

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Speaker 4: I don't know what it is.

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Speaker 6: It's like it's it's a strength that someone has strength, but like a strength in a way that's like not just for you, Like you see, you hear about something this woman went through and you're like, even if she gets up every day, that's wonderful, But then she's also kind and cares about people and it's not about her every day, it's about others.

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Speaker 4: I don't know that's beautiful to me. I'm sure there's an easy word for that strength, courage, like everything. So anyway, moving on, I thought, no.

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Speaker 1: I love that story because I think I find beauty in those qualities as well. Yeah, like it's mine with women. I think I have wonderful taste in women.

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Speaker 3: M Like esthetically, right, where are we going on this?

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Speaker 1: Well, because like I'm just talking about where I find beauty and women and where I find beauty like handsomeness and men. So with chicks, like, I definitely have a specific type, right, I prefer like a very I would say that Easton and I have kind of a similar It's I mean, and when I'm talking about type, like, I'm not hooking up with chicks, I'm just saying I can appreciate like, like I love the look of a Kylie Jenner. I love the look of an Olivia Colpo or Jennifer Lopez, Like, I just like that type of beauty. I've never been super into blondes. Yeah, I've hooked up with a blonde before, but like blondes, I'm usually not and I'm not saying that they're not beautiful. I'm strictly talking about what literally grabs me where I'm like, okay, this this woman has like pretty much taken my breath away, right, because I'm very into female beauty. I'm not trying to hook up with you. I don't want to date you, but I find female beauty something where I can really really appreciate. But you're right, it can go away very quickly. I don't know. I'm sure the Diddy stuff has a lot to do with Jennifer Lopez and people not really writing for her. Again, we don't know what she knew, what she didn't know. There's a lot of conspiracy theories.

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Speaker 3: You could say that about everybody at at his party stuff. Denzel Washington was.

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Speaker 4: There, Kardashians.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, but truly. And the reason why I kind of ride hard for people like in those situations is because I can relate to being like I had no idea and other people saying like, how could you not? So maybe that has something to do with Jennifer Lopez getting a lot of hate. There's a lot of tiktoks about how she claims she's Jenny from the Block and she used to wear her hair like this in high school and people are like, no, you did it. No one talks about you at the school. You're not liked. People are going in on her right Again, I don't know. I don't know her at all, but there was a video of her at the met Gala and she looks incredible as always, and someone Salli and Gavarelli. Yes, and she was like so cold and like, how dare you even ask me a question? And she like looked at the girl and then turned her head and that's when she chose to say it. And I was like, that is so just like not hot, not cute, and it turned you off, It turned me off. But at what point do we allow people to also like have a bad day? Like maybe she was like, I don't want to fucking be here.

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Speaker 3: How many times I'm.

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Speaker 1: Going through a lot today and I don't want to talk about this stupid dress. And yes, I feel fortunate to be here, but like I'm hanging on by a thread.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: You know, it's funny you say that, because I did not get that from that clip I watched, and I was like, she answered.

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Speaker 4: It would have been I was like, what would have been rude if they said what do you want?

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Speaker 3: And she went, but did you see everybody else?

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Speaker 5: But did you see everybody else's met gallup voted like, uh usher, all these people who were asked took the time to like walk up and at least talk about it.

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Speaker 4: I bet she answered that though multiple.

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Speaker 5: Times, and she's going up the stairs, which how far did you have to walk to get to the stairs, and how many questions were you asked about what? So I get it, But that's where I'm just like, So it's you literally have to be on point every time if you are in that position for everybody to love you, but not everyone's gonna love you, so fuck it, You're going to have a bad day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're gonna have a bad day.

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Speaker 3: Fucking let them.

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Speaker 1: But if I were to go out on a date with a dude and he was super banging and he was like mean to the hostess or the waiter or like didn't tip what he should be tipping, that would be you just went from like a ten to it two to literally like ground zero. We're done here, Like give me the ick. My mom, Okay, my mom has always said beauty is in the eye of the beholder, right, like whoever you are. I could think someone's super attractive, and my mom for the most part has told me, I like really ugly dude, and I.

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Speaker 3: Like yeah, and they're like you like pretty.

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Speaker 1: Like Easton likes the look that's like rough, like it looks not And when I say rough, I mean like like no, But you know what I mean, I don't know, but like tough.

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Speaker 5: When I like somebody, I like somebody with a background, somebody who's been.

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Speaker 4: History and got some baggage.

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Speaker 3: No, no, like that, just like family things like that. At school, you were bullied, you got through it.

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Speaker 1: You have character, like correct, you.

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Speaker 3: Hold yourself at a high standard.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, just the way like with the for his ex for example, beautiful beautiful girl, he likes attractive looking women.

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Speaker 3: Okay, but I like some lips done. Yes, she she only got her lips done, but she had a booty on it. I like a little slim ways with a booty.

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Speaker 5: I like short girl, like I got a very specific Yeah, I know, it's very cute.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no she was. It like that's I like a skinnyway. It's a little booty.

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Speaker 1: Don't think of you to like a slim ways behind.

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Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie. When we were where did we go yesterday? The beach? I was walking and there were so many girls just sitting and having dinner, and I was like, wow, there's a lot of girls with ass.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there are a lot of girls. The problem is they don't get the credit anymore because unless you have the BBL, it's like.

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Speaker 3: Hey, girls with the natural because we do see it because I think they do.

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Speaker 2: To watch the ass that the girls that do the squat the ass and the let like I recognize it and I'm like, that's hard work.

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Speaker 4: Good for you, right, Yeah, but what.

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Speaker 1: Easton saying, he just likes the chick where it's like, I've been through a lot in my life.

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Speaker 4: I need nothing from you.

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Speaker 3: It's nothing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, history history, like she she she gives me like she gives me attitude when I do this. Well, here's the reason why. You know, I like it.

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Speaker 4: Character.

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Speaker 3: I love that I wanted to slap back at me.

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Speaker 4: She's got a little spicy Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I don't want like a submissive girl.

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Speaker 1: You know, we've been trying to not cuss as much, but see how we do. I want to say this really quick because even though my mom says you don't like attractive men, I also think that my mom has said that if these men would have like really shown up and acted right, Twinkle Toes, Yeah, like Twinkle Toes she was, Yes, I think she would think differently. But I think it's because of how they treated me in others that she's like, they were ugly. You don't like good looking men. I think she's based on personality, right, Yes, what did our friends say?

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Speaker 4: So many good ones?

00:22:11
Speaker 2: Okay, internal confidence of how you look makeup, no makeup, over or under application.

00:22:19
Speaker 4: Confidence is key.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 5: When you see a girl with no makeup out, yeah, like you're looking at her going like, damn, she stepped out. Most dudes and I know they're like, she stepped out no makeup. She's competing with all of these women. I can only imagine if she put makeup on. Yeah, so I like a girl like that too, Just fuck it, let's go.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I find women sexiest when they have like clean face. I don't like the big fake lash.

00:22:47
Speaker 5: I don't like fake big ones. I like fake lashes, but you don't always need them time, there's a.

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Speaker 4: Time and the place.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, a lots of Like I like a naturally unnatural girl, sorry to cut you.

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Speaker 4: Off, naturally unay. Confidence in your body the way it is now. So I hear that.

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Speaker 2: I've always said confidence is beautiful, of course, and like with women who are like body positivity celebrated. I had a friend who was like, she felt a certain way she was overweight. Her doctor told her she was obi. She said, I want to be healthier. I don't want to celebrate this because I personally want to be healthier and I respect the women who do want to celebrate it. But and she said, but what does frustrate me? So when people say, oh, well, you should be healthier, Like, first off, you don't know. Second, I understand where you're coming from. But she's like, what does frustrate me is people having the attitude toward me, like like they don't know I'm working on myself and my body. Why can't I just like, yes, I know I need to lose weight, but why can't I also just like love and appreciate what I look like now as a work in progress. Like She's like, I need to lose fifty pounds, but why can't I also love? Because it's like, what am I supposed to not be happy with myself and confident until I lose fifty pounds.

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Speaker 4: She's like, I'm trying, but right now, I also.

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Speaker 2: Want to feel good. I also want to feel like you know what, This isn't where I want to be. But I'm going out, I'm looking good, I'm feeling good. And I was like, that's a great point.

00:24:24
Speaker 3: If I agree, Look how you want as long as you're healthy. Whatever your body type.

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Speaker 5: Is, whatever you look like, it doesn't matter your weight, whatever it is, it doesn't matter as long as you are healthy.

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Speaker 1: No, she's saying, what, like, why can't she even though she knows for health purposes, I need to lose x amount of pounds.

00:24:43
Speaker 5: But that's why the doctor looks that because you are healthy, you're just bigger. You're fine, obviously, But that's.

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Speaker 1: Where I'm saying, like she say, But she was saying, but the doctor and she both decided for you to live a healthy life, you have to lose x amount of pounds. Why can she not sell celebrate the way she looks knowing I am going to lose the fifty pounds, but I don't want to sit here and beat myself up. And then once I lose the fifty pounds, I'll celebrate. And you know what, you get into really really murky waters when you start living that way, because once you accomplish that, it will never be an yeah right, And I think that comes with money, It comes with job titles, It comes with so much if you start. And the reason I can say this is because I have to actively that's who I am. By nature? What is I will be happy once this is over. I will be happy once I do this. Guess what, this is over, This is coming gone. And I still look at the next thing like, oh, I'm gonna be so thrilled when this is done. And it's the people around me to say to me, you've got to stop and look around and be.

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Speaker 3: Like, look at your accomplishment, right, be.

00:25:59
Speaker 1: Grateful for or for all of these things.

00:26:01
Speaker 3: You know.

00:26:01
Speaker 1: I used to say, I'll be happy when I get rid of my acne, for example, the acne leaves, well, I'll be happy once I get rid of the freckles, like once these fade, and once.

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Speaker 3: I do some like get rid of your eleven, you get some res.

00:26:16
Speaker 1: I'll be happy once I have my lips done.

00:26:19
Speaker 2: I'll be happy when it is so dangerous because it never comes.

00:26:22
Speaker 4: Usually it never comes momentary.

00:26:24
Speaker 2: It's fleeting, and you're like, I'm happy now that's probably fleeting, right.

00:26:28
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I think that is a bat An internal battle rather than why can't people allow me? It's like hold on though, that's not real life because these people who maybe aren't celebrating you, they say one thing, they move on with their days. Like if you're feeling that you are, that you can't live a certain way. People aren't allowing you to No, no, no. And I can say this because I live this way and have to actively stop myself from living this way. You're not allowing yourself to celebrate where you're at and what you look like right now. No one else cares.

00:27:02
Speaker 4: And if they are in their assholes, they don't matter.

00:27:05
Speaker 1: No, they don't matter. That's a tough pill to swallow. Yeah, and you're like, wow, most people's opinions are so insignificant, yet I allow it to affect my day.

00:27:19
Speaker 5: You got to surround yourself with good friends, yeah, to look at you and when you don't feel like confident in the outfit because of this or that, and your friends go, you look fucking great.

00:27:29
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter because you can tell someone they look amazing.

00:27:33
Speaker 5: But when you got great friends, close friends, Like I've put on stuff and like my homies have been like, no, you look great, and I'm like, all right, fuck it, I look like an idiot. But I go out and I feel confident because of my good friends giving me actual You know.

00:27:46
Speaker 1: Wow, what a difference between men and women.

00:27:50
Speaker 4: I could tell someone over and over.

00:27:53
Speaker 3: John agrees, tune in.

00:27:54
Speaker 1: Pretty, Sir John, I'm the same way.

00:27:56
Speaker 5: I wear the most ridiculous clothing, like different colors, everything never even matter, and my friends will like.

00:28:01
Speaker 1: Look great, you look fine, You look ridiculous, but you look great because it's you.

00:28:04
Speaker 3: And as long as someone.

00:28:05
Speaker 5: Can accept that, no matter who talks shit, you look at your homies and they're like, fuck them, you look great, and.

00:28:10
Speaker 1: You're like, yeah, seeing you up. And there will be someone out there who's like, I dig that guy's look. And because because those people are normal, they won't tell you that they dig it. They'll make a mental note, go buy that shit a compliment.

00:28:26
Speaker 5: But also, but that's the thing for a woman like I don't know why women aren't like going out. If you don't love your body, love your body, who cares? Because if I see women who even are bigger and they're in like, I'm like, damn.

00:28:37
Speaker 3: You look good. When you're confident, look good, you're confidence.

00:28:41
Speaker 5: You are bringing up like you're you could have been a five face wise, nothing else, and you are now at ten.

00:28:48
Speaker 3: The way you're holding yourself in the confidence that you have, in.

00:28:50
Speaker 5: The outfit that you have with the body type like, that's the thing if women had confidence. Dudes are really attracted to confidence, good ones at least I don't.

00:28:58
Speaker 4: Know what they're and there's some fake till you make it. I believe in that.

00:29:01
Speaker 5: But yeah, no, I love when women are just like when we were at Coachella and all of them in stagecoach and all these women no matter what size, skinny as hell big, they.

00:29:10
Speaker 3: Were doing whatever, and I was fucking loving it. Weren't you part of my language? No?

00:29:15
Speaker 1: I did love it. That's why I was annoyed at the comment section, like all on like la times, where all these people were like coming out and being celebrated by everybody. At Coachella, by the way, it was like we all look freaking awesome and the music's good, and like do you.

00:29:29
Speaker 4: Want a mushroom?

00:29:30
Speaker 1: It's pretty fun to go to the comment section and these people are like being very unkind, and I'm like, what is wrong with just being like good?

00:29:42
Speaker 4: I'm so happy all.

00:29:43
Speaker 1: These people had fun.

00:29:44
Speaker 4: I hope I can go.

00:29:45
Speaker 3: Back school, right, how about just keep scrolling?

00:29:47
Speaker 4: Yes?

00:29:48
Speaker 1: Anyway, what else are people saying? I feel like we've monopolized I sometimes forget that this is like a communal podcast.

00:29:54
Speaker 3: Love who you are, be confident.

00:29:57
Speaker 1: Are what else is sexy? I pray that one person is like strictly looks.

00:30:02
Speaker 4: There's a lot of lalla with hearts.

00:30:04
Speaker 1: Like I know, that's really sweet and I so needed to hear that. And I hope that people like I need to put it out there that it is not gone. It never goes unnoticed with people that show me love, but specifically this past like, however many weeks or months it has like really meant a lot to me. So thank you for setting hearts or being nice. Yeah, I appreciate it.

00:30:32
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, it's like, uh, the bar is low, so thanks for being kind you guys to a very kind lady. But okay, okay, this is what kind of I was getting at.

00:30:43
Speaker 4: But they are way more eloquent with their words.

00:30:45
Speaker 2: Being selfless in a very selfish world, which is very hard to do. The effort to do so is beauty. I agree, it is a selfish world. Yes, well written, well said. Compassion.

00:30:57
Speaker 4: This is another one.

00:30:58
Speaker 2: Compassion and for others, regardless if you're the same or not. I think that's oh my god, open mindedness. I didn't even I think that is beautiful.

00:31:08
Speaker 1: I think that's beautiful if you.

00:31:10
Speaker 2: Don't agree, But you can just be in a room with people who all have different opinions and it's peaceful and fun.

00:31:17
Speaker 3: And have an open mind about it.

00:31:19
Speaker 4: Like, oh, I don't agree with that.

00:31:21
Speaker 2: I think that's stupid, but I love that you have your own opinion. How you treat someone. Lots of those someone's overall aura? What is an aura?

00:31:31
Speaker 4: Like an energy?

00:31:33
Speaker 1: Energy?

00:31:34
Speaker 5: And it's crazy because I used to hear the like hippie girls there, or it's blue and.

00:31:42
Speaker 1: Fully it's like colors, right, you can have like the energy.

00:31:46
Speaker 3: That's how I mean. They'll say, they'll.

00:31:50
Speaker 1: Say, like you have a lot of blue around you, and I don't know what it means, but I've had that done. You can do like they take like pictures and the colors so you can actually see and read what it means.

00:32:03
Speaker 4: Yeah.

00:32:04
Speaker 1: But yeah, someone's aura their energy, their vibe. Like I think if you go around someone and they are being kind to you or whatever, but you just kind of get a weird feeling when you're around them and you can't explain why, just don't go around them.

00:32:19
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I really like this one. They said, accepting yourself is true beauty. Only when this happens to you truly shine. And I like it because they didn't put accepting And maybe they didn't mean this, but this is kind of how I read it. They didn't put accepting and loving yourself. They just put accepting yourself. And to me, that's like there are many times in my life even now, where there's so many things I have to work on that I do not love about.

00:32:47
Speaker 4: Myself at all.

00:32:48
Speaker 2: But when I can finally be like, you know what, this is how I am, and I'm working on it, and I've accepted myself and accepted that I need to work on these things and that I have flaws and that I'm an asshole.

00:33:00
Speaker 4: Sometimes I do think that's beautiful.

00:33:02
Speaker 2: I think there's like a beauty in that I don't have to love myself wholeheartedly and be like I'm the best.

00:33:07
Speaker 3: Because I'm not almost like self awareness.

00:33:09
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, yes, but I feel like it's also like circling the drain at times, or like chasing your own tail when you when people are like I'm working on myself, unless you're like a really crappy person, like we are all going to have moments of being a hypocrite we're people. We're all gonna have moments of not being self aware, being dicks. Like, there's never gonna be a time in my life where I'm gonna say I can work on that and just never be a dick again. Right, It's just impossible. Right, we're people. I'm going to do things and then someone else could do the same thing and I could judge them for it, and it's like, Wow, in this moment, I'm not only a hypocrite, I'm not self aware. We're human beings. So I think you also, in eccess yourself, have to say, you know what, like, is this something that I need to work on? No, this is just called a moment, and I'm a person. It's not a proud moment, but it's it is what it is. But if you're someone who's like you beat yourself up at all times, that needs to be worked on.

00:34:16
Speaker 4: Yeah, right, or you're.

00:34:18
Speaker 1: Kind of a dick to people like that should be worked on. But not these moments because you had a bad day. Bad days are going to happen. Can I tell you I watched Inside Out last night with my daughter for the first time. The new One's coming out, The new One's coming out, I'm so grateful that I watched it Easton. It is absolutely adorable.

00:34:36
Speaker 3: It is the different emotions.

00:34:39
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like basically and I love the angry guy.

00:34:42
Speaker 7: It's so who's like that said, we're going that she like loses her mind and like all these and they're like, no, you're touching a core memory that's happy and you're making it sad.

00:34:55
Speaker 1: I think accepting the fact that we're human beings and this constant and I think this is what kind of gets to me when I do when I'm filming a show or whatever, and I'm just having like an abbody experience these past few months where I'm like, I'm kind of sick of like the tit for tat and keeping track of like what you did and how mine's different, and like psychoanalyzing why you may have done that or you psychoanalyzing me. I just want everyone to be like, you know what, let's just like be people and like do the best we fucking cat because there's a lot of work. Anything that doesn't have to be worked on, that's not affecting your day to day, don't worry about it. We've got to stop putting so much pressure on ourselves.

00:35:43
Speaker 5: Okay, try to smile and get through the day. Even if I'm having a bad day, I'll try to make somebody's better.

00:35:48
Speaker 1: But you know what, that's you and sometimes people can't do that. I can't. If I'm having a bad day, I wear it on my sleeve. I wear it on my face at the world. I don't care. And that's why I have to apologize a lot.

00:36:01
Speaker 5: I was there too, and then I started being nice to other people when I was pissed off. I know, Like then I see them happy and I'm like, oh, maybe it's not that bad.

00:36:09
Speaker 1: Sometimes I force myself to smile when I'm sad.

00:36:13
Speaker 4: I try to do that too, and I look like a crazy person.

00:36:19
Speaker 1: Do you you make me happy? And and so do you dress. I could be having a bad day, and if I see both of you, it makes me happy.

00:36:26
Speaker 4: That makes me happy, and I thank you and I love you.

00:36:29
Speaker 2: When I come around your family, though, I do, and I tell you it's like my family. Anytime I can be a bitch, and then I go around my family and I'm like, Okay, I feel better.

00:36:38
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what it is. It's called when you have your little community. We called it passing the rock. Like after my dad died, it was like one of us would be having the worst day ever and it was just one of those days of burning and like mom would be the pillar of strength. So we just kind of passed the rock to each other.

00:36:54
Speaker 4: And I love that.

00:36:56
Speaker 2: I've literally never heard that, and I love that I'm not tell my family about it. So it's like passing the like you have the rock today and you're gonna have a bad day and we're all going to be here.

00:37:04
Speaker 1: You're the pillar, You're the rock today.

00:37:08
Speaker 4: Oh, the rock is the strength.

00:37:11
Speaker 3: That day. Somebody just grabs it and goes, all right, I'll figure it out, and by the way, the.

00:37:16
Speaker 1: Universe just picks. It's like, you know what, Easton's the strong one today and the girls are going to lose their minds and it's like, well, that's fine because Easton's got the rock.

00:37:24
Speaker 3: And then there was a day where I went and.

00:37:28
Speaker 4: We are the rock. I love that so much.

00:37:31
Speaker 2: I feel like that's happened a little lately with like me and you, where I feel like I work for you, but like sometimes I've shown up to the house and I'm like in a certain mood and you like have the rock and you've like said to me, like, you know, if you ever need anything, and I'm like, so sweet, or your mom or you.

00:37:49
Speaker 1: The moment I turned into an employer where I like, don't care about what people are going through in their personal lives. I'm like, let's make that a priority. We'll recognize it, and how can we structure the dynamic of all of us so that we can all continue doing our jobs properly and that doesn't suffer who can pick up the slack in what areas? But still remember that, like so and so is going through something right now. You know the moment I don't do that anymore, someone better check me well.

00:38:21
Speaker 2: That I mean it comes back to beauty because I will mention this was like a month ago.

00:38:27
Speaker 4: I texted Lalla, I want to mention it on here and I said.

00:38:30
Speaker 2: Especially if you're a boss out there, and I said it was like it was a day before. I said, I'm so sorry, but I have to take a mental health day tomorrow and I did feel really bad about it, and like not without skipping a beat. Not only was she like, of course, take it, like take care of yourself. The entire family was like texting me. The entire team supportive.

00:38:54
Speaker 4: Kind just as a boss.

00:38:57
Speaker 2: It's like I feel like it's very rare or like they'll go okay and then you feel guilty, but it's thank you for that because it's very beautiful and they like came out in droves and it's just.

00:39:07
Speaker 3: Like, thank you for everything you do with of.

00:39:09
Speaker 4: Course, as you know, you feel appreciated in love.

00:39:15
Speaker 1: And we're here to tell you that you are all beautiful.

00:39:20
Speaker 3: And if you're.

00:39:22
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, so that's how we define beauty. Yes. And that was really fun.

00:39:27
Speaker 4: That was so fun. You guys wrote in so many amazing things.

00:39:30
Speaker 2: Sometimes I wish maybe we'll start sharing screenshots or something.

00:39:34
Speaker 1: I think we need to make the bonus episode a little longer. You guys. I love you so much. I hope you go out there and slay the day. It is Monday, and I know that we all go wan, but like just another day to be like, do I need to work on this or is it just a bad day?

00:39:50
Speaker 3: If you're self aware of it, it's just a bad day.

00:39:52
Speaker 1: It's just a bad day. I love you, guys. Reminder, Bonus episodes air every single Monday, and the video on YouTube drop same day. Wednesdays. We have the regular old give them Mala episodes and videos for that on YouTube drop Fridays at ninet am Pacific time. I will catch you guys next week, or I'll catch you on Wednesday.

00:40:11
Speaker 4: To welcome