E338-The One Thing You Should NEVER Let Your Dog Do (Everyone Does This)

[SPEAKER_00]: Hello, everybody.
[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome back to the no bad dog's podcast.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're listening to this Hello, and if you're watching this, I'm waving hi to you on Spotify or my second YouTube channel.
[SPEAKER_00]: This is a crucial valuable Life-changing podcast and Context on a very particular topic.
[SPEAKER_00]: I posted a video on my Instagram this week or on social media and Let's just play the clip so you guys can hear and see do not allow your dog to do it.
[SPEAKER_01]: They want on a walk
[SPEAKER_01]: Because if you go for a walk with your dog, and your dog lives on the end of the leash, your dog is skating you along, your dog says, hey, we're going to stop here for 10 minutes and sniff.
[SPEAKER_01]: The problem with that is, is your dog has done whatever they want the entire walk.
[SPEAKER_01]: They control the walk.
[SPEAKER_01]: They make the decisions.
[SPEAKER_01]: It's on their terms.
[SPEAKER_01]: So, as soon as you want your dog to do something, like walk nicely, come back when
[SPEAKER_01]: you got no shot and that's really important make sure fairly heal good this is what you want when you say it and then
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, it's really brick and then you break your dog so now your dog can do what they want That's really important.
[SPEAKER_00]: You have those two things Now after playing that one I don't think a lot of people Listen to a whole thing and the reason why I'm making this video is because there was a lot of people in the comments I think we're really offended by this and I'm not making this video to say hey, don't be offended because I Really just put out information people need to hear not want to hear
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, but I also just want to give context because I do want this to hopefully get into people and really understand.
[SPEAKER_00]: So I think a lot of people, you know, when I said, um, hey, don't let your dog do whatever they want.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think first of all, people feel really bad because they work long hours and their dog doesn't get what they deserve.
[SPEAKER_00]: Or what they need, I should say.
[SPEAKER_00]: And, and I'm, I'm a human being, too.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this happens to me on days where I'm really busy.
[SPEAKER_00]: My dog's get
[SPEAKER_00]: You know one walk when I wanted to have three or in some cases none they get outside But they don't get that walk or they don't get that training.
[SPEAKER_00]: So nobody's perfect and I want to to say that But it's important for you guys to understand as I've into this a little bit Let's just say from the dog's point of view you go out with your dog It doesn't matter if it's a puppy or it's a it's a grown adult dog and you put them on a leash You put them on a flexi and you allow them to do anything that they want.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so the problem with that is
[SPEAKER_00]: There's no problem with allowing your dog to be a dog.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's no problem with giving your dog a break.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's no problem with your dog sniffing, peeing, pooping, and join nature.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what I think all dogs should be doing.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that that's really helpful for them.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's good for everybody, really to be out in nature, and to be a dog and enjoy that.
[SPEAKER_00]: However,
[SPEAKER_00]: The thing, the focus on this topic, guys, is understanding that it shouldn't be the entire walk and slash understanding that if you can't get engagement, this is a huge issue.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm somebody who specializes in...
[SPEAKER_00]: behavior, aggression, lease aggression, lease reactivity, reactivity in general, bite histories, dogs that are really, really struggling either with aggression or fear or anxiety.
[SPEAKER_00]: And in some cases, just the hate crazy puppy who wants to do whatever they want.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the reason why I make these pieces of content is, and it may be too extreme for a lot of people and I understand that, that's the internet, and that's okay.
[SPEAKER_00]: But again, I want this to hit
[SPEAKER_00]: And this is the beauty of this podcast as I get the dive in super deep on these pieces of content and give people context because I think it's going to be very valuable.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so when you, at least up your dog and you go outside.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the second that you walk out the door, they disengage from you and they're an animal.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, they are sniffing, they are searching, they're pulling you this way, they're pulling you that way.
[SPEAKER_00]: Every second of the walk, your dog is making decisions.
[SPEAKER_00]: Every second of the walk, your dog is deciding how this walk is gonna go.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so, here's where the problem lies from somebody who, and again, this may be like, you know, put it for this perspective, maybe you're a doctor, or maybe you're a mechanic, or maybe you're a nutritious, or maybe you're a personal trainer.
[SPEAKER_00]: You may say like, hey,
[SPEAKER_00]: This is all great right now, but at some point in time you're going to have to pay the paper here.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like this is going to be a problem for you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And if it's not, that's great.
[SPEAKER_00]: You may have that unicorn relationship.
[SPEAKER_00]: But what I find with my clients is people want to healthier relationship.
[SPEAKER_00]: They want clarity, and they want their dog to listen.
[SPEAKER_00]: And most importantly, with, again, with my clients, they don't want their dog to be reactive, and they don't want a fearful and anxious dog.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so this is where some of this stems from.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you allow your dog,
[SPEAKER_00]: to make those decisions all day long.
[SPEAKER_00]: What ends up happening is is that little cute puppy that you have, that's doing whatever they want in the walk, they end up becoming a 40 to 80 pound loaf of bread that now, because they want, you've allowed them to do whatever they want when they want on their terms every single walk.
[SPEAKER_00]: And now you don't want to be pulled,
[SPEAKER_00]: Now you call people like me, it's haytops.
[SPEAKER_00]: So this is now more of a behavioral issue of now you're kind of fighting this dog.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're strong, they're powerful, they're big, and you're gaslighting them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because you've told them since day one that they can make decisions, do whatever they want, when they want.
[SPEAKER_00]: And now that they're big and strong, mentally they're not doing anything different.
[SPEAKER_00]: But because they're bigger and they're stronger, you're now getting pulled and now,
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a nuisance.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now it's dangerous.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now it's annoying.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now you don't want to walk your dog, but to the dog, you've allowed them to do all these things.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you're not training.
[SPEAKER_00]: So this is just for my puppy people and my younger dog people.
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not training.
[SPEAKER_00]: the puppy you're training the adult dog, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: So with Burley, my master, which hopefully won't, maybe you guys don't know, but he's a master if he's huge.
[SPEAKER_00]: He's 150 pounds.
[SPEAKER_00]: When he came to me, he was this big.
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't train him as this cute little puppy, although he was cute, I didn't last long.
[SPEAKER_00]: I knew he was going to turn into this rhino.
[SPEAKER_00]: So from day one, I gave him structure, I gave him boundaries, I gave him everything, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: So it's important to understand, I want dogs to have that freedom and I want them to be able to do whatever they want, but there has to be some sort of structure.
[SPEAKER_00]: So a lot of comments I saw on that is,
[SPEAKER_00]: This is BS, I don't want to create my, I don't want my dog to be a robot.
[SPEAKER_00]: Again, I'm not sitting here defending, you know, myself or trying to make a video on, like, this is, I'm not doing that because I tell people what they need to hear not what they want to hear.
[SPEAKER_00]: And frankly, most people who saw that probably just went to the comments and didn't read the whole video or watch the whole video because at the end, I said, then you can give your dog a break.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, I just so many of my clients are wasting so much time, so much money, so much energy, and so much very, very, very, very precious time with their dog when they're doing this.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, for my dogs, if I go out and I say heal, they are right next to me in a perfect heal on a loose leash.
[SPEAKER_00]: When I say break, they can do whatever they want, okay, within reason.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now again, this is not only really bad for your relationship on your leash because your dog is here and they're doing this.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then all of a sudden, okay, I don't want my dog to do anymore.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, whoa, whoa, you're not too late, but boy, I wish you listened to me earlier, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: But the bigger thing, and if you guys have been following me long enough, you know I say the macro, is you're all the way out.
[SPEAKER_00]: Is this as awful for your relationship?
[SPEAKER_00]: most times.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because when you have a dog and you put them on a leash and you say be a dog do what you want disengage.
[SPEAKER_00]: So at no point in time is your dog checking and here's the thing I want to be very clear about.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you have a dog that looks at you and checks in and this doesn't apply to you, you
[SPEAKER_00]: If this is great, please just proceed, but I'm just telling you, these are some issues that I find with so many of my dog owners.
[SPEAKER_00]: Even when I walk on my own neighborhood or when I travel and I see people walking with their dog, their dog is so disinterested in them.
[SPEAKER_00]: So disengaged with them that it really hurts your relationship overall, so for an example my dog is in front of me doing whatever whatever they want they since day one since we've been walking this dog this dog has been making every decision The entire time okay, so now When the dog barks at another dog or the dog is eating poop or the dog starts pulling or the dog won't come back or whatever any time that you want your dog to listen
[SPEAKER_00]: You might have a problem with that, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: Because now your dog is so disengaged.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then I'll take it even a step further.
[SPEAKER_00]: And this is where I find, again, this really disconnected, loose-ended, unhealthy relationship.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you have a dog,
[SPEAKER_00]: That goes out, makes every decision, does what they want, okay?
[SPEAKER_00]: Then, when you go, oh, there's another dog, there's another person, there's a car, there's a rabbit or whatever.
[SPEAKER_00]: Or I want to go the other way or I want my dog to come inside, whatever.
[SPEAKER_00]: Then what we need to do is we say, hey, come, they're like, I'm out of here.
[SPEAKER_00]: First of all, who are you?
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm on a sniff mission here, okay?
[SPEAKER_00]: That's the problem.
[SPEAKER_00]: is the dog says, I'm working for motivation.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm working for dopamine.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm working for what drives them.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what we've enabled.
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what we've told them that they can do.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do you?
[SPEAKER_00]: So then we say, hey, come, there's a dog.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, there's a car.
[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, there's a Foxy.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a deer.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a snake.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a rabbit, whatever.
[SPEAKER_00]: Come.
[SPEAKER_00]: And they're like, yeah.
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes your dog will turn around and come.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's great.
[SPEAKER_00]: But then what I find is a lot of people
[SPEAKER_00]: reaching for food to get the dog to come to them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, hold on, it's important to pay your dog when they come to you.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do it every time.
[SPEAKER_00]: However, my behaviors and my recall are predicated off of that, which means I don't need the food for the dog to come.
[SPEAKER_00]: They just get it as an extra bonus.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I know this because I'll do this heel work and I'll do this recall work without food and the dog does it.
[SPEAKER_00]: And just so happens they also get paid because they're doing well.
[SPEAKER_00]: What ends up happening is, is the dog is out, they don't listen, they ignore you, they're just engaged, get out of here, I'm not listening, and it's in a lot of times it's not, I don't want to listen to screw you, it's just because we've allowed them to just be so zoned in on what they're doing, the entire walk, and then we go, hey, it's on the change directions or come back.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're just so hyper-fixated in what they wanna do.
[SPEAKER_00]: And then we go, hey, I got food.
[SPEAKER_00]: Just gonna go, oh, screw, I'll come back for food.
[SPEAKER_00]: They come back, they get a piece of food.
[SPEAKER_00]: Boom, they disengage again.
[SPEAKER_00]: So now you have this, like, I'm paying for friends here.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the dog doesn't stay engaged, the dog doesn't stay with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: And again, I'm not, I don't want you guys to be overwhelmed and I don't want you to feel like you need a robot.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just trying to help you from the mistakes of all the clients that I've worked with with behavioral issues, disconnect bad relationships.
[SPEAKER_00]: They allow their dog to do whatever they want.
[SPEAKER_00]: So then that comes into the house.
[SPEAKER_00]: Somebody comes over the dog, boom, runs the door, jumps on them, because their whole system and how they think is to act, how they feel.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm excited.
[SPEAKER_00]: there's another dog, pull, there's another person, pull, food drops in the ground, that's mine.
[SPEAKER_00]: At no point in time is there a filter, is there a stopper, is there a, uh, there is, this is where problems start to arise.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's why I made that video is I see so many people walk their dogs,
[SPEAKER_00]: and their dogs are making all the decisions every single walk.
[SPEAKER_00]: So you're not really spending time with your dog.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're on autopilot.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're not engaging with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're not working with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: They're not communicating with you.
[SPEAKER_00]: The neighbor next door could just do what you're doing.
[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
[SPEAKER_00]: There's no relationship building there.
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, and so that's what I, that's what I just find is I, I find these people who walk through dogs and the dog, this engages with them the whole time have the most reactive dogs.
[SPEAKER_00]: They have the dogs that don't even look at them.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't, don't, don't look back.
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't care, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And think about it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It makes sense.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not their fault, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: No bad dogs.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not their fault.
[SPEAKER_00]: They go out with, with, for walk with their dog.
[SPEAKER_00]: before they go to work, in between work, after work, whatever, just like I do, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And they say, okay, do what you want, be a dog, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: And they should.
[SPEAKER_00]: But the problem with that is, is if you don't have the foundation and you don't have the ability to say, check in every now and then, oh, there's a car, there's another dog, or just because I want you to, that's going to create issues.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's why I made that post, because
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want people to struggle.
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want people to get to a point where their dog is just so checked out that they get hurt or they get injured, or they're kind of living a facade of what they think their dog knows.
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I can't say this enough, I'll reiterate, I want dogs to do what they want.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want dogs to have fun on their walks, I want their dogs.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want people to have their dogs to enjoy life and join nature.
[SPEAKER_00]: But if you can't engage with your dog, which most people can't, that's going to be an issue.
[SPEAKER_00]: And for the people who have like unicorn dogs, God bless, keep doing, Lakota is one of those dogs.
[SPEAKER_00]: I have one.
[SPEAKER_00]: Lolo is, Lakota is my black, her, her, that shepherd who's laying over here on her bed.
[SPEAKER_00]: She's a dog that,
[SPEAKER_00]: I bled her off leash, we can walk past three or four dogs, and she doesn't even look at him.
[SPEAKER_00]: She's so neutral.
[SPEAKER_00]: All she cares about is work.
[SPEAKER_00]: She's in front of us.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I tell her to come, she comes.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I tell her to heal, she heals.
[SPEAKER_00]: If I tell her to down and sit and stay, she'll do all of that just because I set it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Because our relationship is tight, Berlin's complete opposite, but I made that post, and I was reading some of the comments,
[SPEAKER_00]: And you know, I very rarely will make content off of what comments because again, a lot of these people probably don't follow me.
[SPEAKER_00]: They didn't read the whole video and I was really surprised.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, wow, people are missing the mark here.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I wanted to clarify because it made me sad that people were assuming that.
[SPEAKER_00]: your dog never can do what they want and and he's important for the real people who want to learn more or who are engaged with what I'm doing that I clarify because it's important for you guys to know
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, really what I was saying.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, anyway, don't allow your dog to do whatever they want.
[SPEAKER_00]: When they want, for every single walk, for every single turn, for every single road, for every single door that you go through, because it will, and it has,
[SPEAKER_00]: creates problems, disconnect, disobedient, relationship issues, anxiety, fear, aggression, reactivity.
[SPEAKER_00]: It can amplify all of these things.
[SPEAKER_00]: If your dog doesn't know you exist on the end of the leash, doesn't need you to be on the end of the leash, doesn't care that you're on the end of the leash.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you allow your dog to do whatever they want, when they want every single walk, you will likely run into issues for the reasons we are talking about and going over
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I hope that this was helpful, I hope that this clarifies, and if it doesn't pertain to you or you don't believe in it, there's also no problem with that either.
[SPEAKER_00]: I just have made a living off of giving content back to people like, hey, man, you know, like my Kickstarter course.
[SPEAKER_00]: When we were making my Kickstarter course, it was originally, and I tell this story all the time, but it was originally a puppy course.
[SPEAKER_00]: We had a puppy, and I was like, here's everything that puppies need to be successful.
[SPEAKER_00]: Halfway through the course, I looked at my then videoographer, Abby, and I said, I like all one off.
[SPEAKER_00]: I said, this is actually every single thing that my reactivity, my leash reactive, and my aggressive dogs don't have.
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's why we rebranded it as like the kickstarter course because no matter where you're at in life, if you have a puppy or if you have an adult dog or you have a reactive dog, if you have a friendly dog, if you have a therapy dog, like this course is like the basic principles that everybody needs to start with.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's you know, that's important.
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, you know, we're going through it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like this foundation and this check in, we want dogs to enjoy life and be free and be animals and be wild.
[SPEAKER_00]: But it's also weird, you just like with kids, right?
[SPEAKER_00]: But it's also very important to make sure we have that, I'm still here.
[SPEAKER_00]: And when I ask you to do something, you really need to do it.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's because it's for your benefits, for your safety.
[SPEAKER_00]: 99% of people do not have that.
[SPEAKER_00]: That is an issue.
[SPEAKER_00]: small scale worst case scenario actually best case scenario you're dog probably pulls you around and won't listen to what you say most people deal with that they get lucky if they're dog listens or they need an Italian deli to get their dog listen worst case scenario is your dog becomes fearful aggressive reactive insecure and all that stuff so just make sure that we have balance
[SPEAKER_00]: Make sure your dog cares about you.
[SPEAKER_00]: Make sure your dog checks in.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I hope that this was helpful.
[SPEAKER_00]: If it was, leave me a comment and Spotify or on YouTube.
[SPEAKER_00]: And thank you guys for listening, and we'll talk to you on the next episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: Peace.