Harnessing Heart and Mind: Yayoi Komiyama's Path to Wellness Beyond the Plate with Neuro-encoding

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to your Thoughts, your Reality with Michael Cole, the podcast that shines a compassionate light on the journey of veterans battling through life's challenges.

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<v Speaker 1>Michael is a dual elite certified neuro encoding specialist in coaching and keynote training presentations dedicated to guiding military veterans as they navigate the intricate pathways of post-deployment life.

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<v Speaker 1>Join him as we delve into the profound realm of neuro encoding science, empowering these.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, hello, hello everyone.

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<v Speaker 2>Today we have a very special guest, yoyoi Komiama.

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<v Speaker 2>I did it.

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<v Speaker 2>She's a dual elite neuro-encoding specialist, icf certified coach, amen Health trainer, maxwell leadership coach, tony Robbins senior leader, transformational coach, founder of Brain to Belly, facebook and TV show.

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<v Speaker 3>So you got quite the list there, yayoi, I didn't realize that until you said it, and I didn't list everything.

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<v Speaker 2>So, yayoi, you know we know each other, obviously.

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<v Speaker 2>So why don't you tell our listeners and viewers a little bit about yourself?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, hi, so I'm Yayoi Komiama.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess my pet project right now is brain to belly.

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<v Speaker 3>I am yes, I am a dual elite neuroencoding specialist, and that's how I know Michael.

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<v Speaker 3>I am a firm believer in neuron coding.

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<v Speaker 3>I believe that is one of the best ways, and the thought is further faster is one of the slogan or one of the themes of neuron coding, and I truly believe that further, faster can be done with neuron coding, and that's why I created Brain to Belly as a way of changing people's relationship with food.

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<v Speaker 3>That's because I myself struggled with my issues with food all my life, most of my life, and I even went through an eating disorder.

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<v Speaker 3>At one point where I was, I binged, I ate a lot and then I purged it by exercising.

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<v Speaker 3>I was called an exercise bulimic, and there is something actually that is in that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, actual term.

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<v Speaker 2>I've never heard that before.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and I really did go to.

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<v Speaker 3>I did go to one of the treatment centers and they treated me for that and you know it's a lot up here and I felt like I wasn't worthy of a lot of things.

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<v Speaker 3>Also, I grew up in two cultures.

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<v Speaker 3>I grew up in Japan and here in the US, so my identity was a little messy.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess it wasn't streamlined, and so I've dealt with some bullying in both countries and then I became the bully myself at one point and all of that kind of combined and food became my friend and my foe and food became my friend and my foe.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's when my relationship with food started to get really lopsided, where it was controlling me.

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<v Speaker 2>So can I ask you thank you for sharing and truly thank you for being vulnerable?

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<v Speaker 2>Right, but that's how we make a difference for people that are listening and people that we care about is by being vulnerable so that they know, hey, that person understands me or, boy, I get what they're saying, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>So that, making that connection.

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<v Speaker 2>So thank you for being vulnerable and telling your story.

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<v Speaker 2>So, with explain, if we can, I've got a lot of questions.

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't joking, I know, I was like okay.

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<v Speaker 2>No, you got this for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>So when you, when you go brain to belly, just explain what that means a little bit Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes.

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<v Speaker 3>So the thinking is that in neuro encoding we always say what we think about is where our well, our beliefs start by our thoughts, right, and our thoughts create our feelings.

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<v Speaker 3>And so think, feel, do and have is what we say in neuroencoding and I truly believe that that is the way with your relationship with food, you think about thoughts about yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>With your relationship with food, you think about thoughts about yourself Like, for instance, in my case, I thought that I wasn't worthy because I was getting bullied all the time and people would tease me about the way I looked.

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<v Speaker 3>So the easiest thing for me was, since I felt I didn't belong, I would start eating and that was my way of comfort and what I also realized that food was comfort, but it was also a way for me to create this armor of fat to protect my heart, so I wouldn't be hurt again.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was kind of like a bad cycle in that way, and I would say I would wear my armor of fat so that people won't attack me and, yes, I would get attention because I was overweight.

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<v Speaker 3>But then, on the other hand, it felt like I was insulated in a lot of ways.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, absolutely yeah, and with our veterans, I mean, and people again, it's, it's a human condition, right?

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<v Speaker 2>And of course, I'm going to talk about veterans as well.

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<v Speaker 2>As you know, we do bury our emotions.

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<v Speaker 2>We do, you know, go to food, yes, all drugs, those kinds of things to escape what we're dealing with?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, because we feel like we're getting pleasure from that.

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<v Speaker 2>What we're dealing with Because we feel like we're getting pleasure from that, in fact, we're probably just creating more pain, and you know that whole pain, plain pleasure principle that we talked about.

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<v Speaker 2>So so when was it that you made a change?

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<v Speaker 2>What was you know?

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<v Speaker 2>As I always tell everybody, you know you make real change when you find the right leverage.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, on yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so it was years and years of dieting.

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<v Speaker 3>I did all the crazy diets out there.

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<v Speaker 3>Um, I did the original atkins when it first came out.

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<v Speaker 3>I was young.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I was young back then.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't date yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I don't care, the whole world knows.

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<v Speaker 3>At this point, somebody outed me about my age and and I'm like you know what, I don't care anymore.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, she's telling this group of people on Zoom oh, her birthday is this month and this day, and she's gonna be this age.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm like, okay, fine, now everyone knows.

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<v Speaker 3>So I and yes, it was a big birthday, and you know, at that point, I'm like you know what, I don't care, everyone knows already.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you're 60 years old.

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<v Speaker 2>Over now, 60 years old, you're beautiful inside and out.

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<v Speaker 3>Lady, do not sweat it, I'd be telling people everywhere.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm 60 years old.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you, but yeah, so you know.

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<v Speaker 3>So my age is another thing, but that's a different story.

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<v Speaker 3>But my whole life I've been dieting and, you know, trying to figure out, like of course.

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<v Speaker 3>So after a while I learned that, you know, being a certain way, people didn't accept me as well.

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<v Speaker 3>So I wasn't being accepted, even if I was a normal weight, and now even you know, heavy, people weren't accepting me.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was this constant battle with dieting and self image and self love that I didn't like myself, I knew.

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<v Speaker 3>I always thought I wasn't good enough, that people didn't accept me in Japan and people didn't accept me here because I was, you know, like different right their perception of what you should be.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, exactly yeah, because I never fit the mold.

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<v Speaker 3>And in Japan there's a saying that the nail that sticks out gets hammered down, and I was always the nail that stuck out and, knowing this personality, you could tell it was the one that stuck out, right?

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<v Speaker 3>So I just don't know any better.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, and so you know, that's kind of like what happened.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was years and years of dieting and all this and that you know, I went and then I learned that okay, if I didn't eat or if I, you know, ate, and then I purged it with exercise, I could, and then eventually I got to a point where I was like I need help.

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<v Speaker 3>So I did get help for the exercise bulimic part of me.

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<v Speaker 3>And then, of course, you know, you're like, ok, I think, I'm OK and I'm eating regularly, I think, but then it's kind of getting out of control.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I realized, you know, I need help.

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<v Speaker 3>So I went to this very popular wellness place.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if I'm allowed to say it or not, so I'm not, I don't know, but you know, and actually that really helped me because I went there, I did that their program twice before, that right, with different diets and stuff like that, and I did it as a diet.

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<v Speaker 3>So I was on it and then off, on it and off.

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<v Speaker 3>And this time around I said let me approach this differently, let me do this as a way of eating so I can eat like a normal person and live a normal life.

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<v Speaker 3>Because I was at that point where my obsession was food and exercise, food and exercise.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, that's your identity.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that was truly my identity.

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<v Speaker 3>I had no life other than that and everything revolved around that and that was no way to live and I was feeling like I could feel my heart just being crushed and just my identity being crushed and I said I have to get help.

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<v Speaker 3>So it took me over a year to get to this place.

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<v Speaker 3>I would walk by it every day.

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<v Speaker 3>It was right by the train station I live in New York, so it was right by the train station.

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<v Speaker 3>So I would see it all the time and I would go OK, I'll go, I'll go.

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<v Speaker 3>And I would go up the stairs and try to enter and I couldn't do it, so I would go back.

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<v Speaker 3>So it took me about a year to get there and to actually walk through the doors and sign myself up and start learning.

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<v Speaker 3>And what I did was I approached it in the way of a way of living, so I just did what I thought was eat healthy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, really quick.

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to celebrate you.

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<v Speaker 2>Walk through the doors.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>It took me a lot of courage.

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<v Speaker 3>Believe me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, it takes a lot of courage to ask for help, Truly, yeah, you know, and it's it's people think.

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<v Speaker 2>You know I'm not gonna say people as a human race, a human race when we ask for help, it's a weakness, right, I think you know, especially military.

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<v Speaker 2>You know it's a weakness to ask for help and it's one of the most courageous things, the strongest things you can do, yeah, so congratulations.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you, Thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>So you walked through a door, Yep, and I started working on myself and I decided to work on more of just, you know, eating healthy nutrition, you know, nutrition, thinking about nutrition and how I could do this so that I can live a normal life, whatever normal was at the time.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I just thought everyone else was normal and I was abnormal, so it took me a long time to get there.

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<v Speaker 3>Normal was at the time, you know, I just thought everyone else was normal and I was abnormal, so so it took me a long time to get there.

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<v Speaker 3>But it was about learning about myself too, and I said I'm committed to learning about myself, what my habits are, what's going to work for me, not what's going to work for everyone else.

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<v Speaker 3>Because it was, I wasn't going to do a diet anymore and I said diets don't work.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, and I'm the mentality that diets really don't work.

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<v Speaker 2>I think as soon as you say the word diet, it almost doesn't work unless you've conditioned yourself otherwise, yeah, yeah, and I mean, you know, just the word just makes you feel all icky, right.

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<v Speaker 3>And so I decided that I was going to devise my own thing that's going to work for me, and I set out on really learning a lot about myself, what my habits were.

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<v Speaker 3>I know my personality now that when somebody tells me I can't do something, I'm very rebellious, so I want to do whatever they say I can't do.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm very rebellious, so I want to do whatever they say.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't do so somebody says oh, you can't have chocolate on this diet, or, you know, you can't have sweets.

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<v Speaker 3>I love sweets, that's all I'm going to think about.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm like no, I can have anything I want.

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<v Speaker 3>And and then I said, ok, also listen to my body, start listening to it and honor it for what it is, because you know I abused it so much I was like it's time to kind of like honor it and, you know, respect it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so that's how you really changed your relationship with food.

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<v Speaker 2>Then yes, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's, it's really it's there to to help my body.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not there just to feed me and give me instantaneous pleasure, if you will, and release the, the brain chemicals, saying this is a wonderful thing.

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<v Speaker 2>You, you have found what works for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, it's fantastic.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know I've been down a very similar journey not to the extent you have, but you know, yo-yoed on different weight loss things.

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<v Speaker 2>You know I started doing a keto thing before keto was like keto.

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<v Speaker 2>I did research and was like I'm going to try doing this, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know, eating all the cheeses back then and all that stuff doesn't, you know, doesn't work.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've done that as well until I literally changed the relationship with food.

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<v Speaker 2>You know I can eat things.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm watching my weight to some extent.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not watching a scale every day and you know I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm down that 40 or 50 pounds still.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know exactly, so not weighing myself in multiple weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>But.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm living and I'm enjoying the food.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know I'm eating, you know it's.

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<v Speaker 2>It's really interesting how, when you change your relationship with food, instead of putting on six tablespoons of blue cheese dressing in a jar with all the stuff that's in it and some simple orange juice and maybe a little honey in it is the best dressing you've ever tasted what I know and it's.

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<v Speaker 3>It's funny because, yeah, your taste buds change and then you're like I really want to taste food.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to taste the processed stuff, and a part of me feels like my body deserves the good stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I deserve the good stuff and it's also about self-worth and that's coming from here and like I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>I hate to say this, but you know, when I'm like when I was in the office and sometimes I would be like I didn't plan to work overtime or whatever, there are vending machines up there and you know vending machines never have healthy stuff in there.

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<v Speaker 3>It's always chips and, you know, chocolates and whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no apples and bananas, hell no.

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<v Speaker 1>You're good.

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<v Speaker 3>So you know, I'm like okay, and then I'm like, okay, I'll have some chocolate, because I'm stressing out, I want to finish this, I could get home, but I'm hungry.

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<v Speaker 3>So I and the only good chocolate there is like M&Ms, and I hate M&Ms.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I'm like I'm not going to waste my calories or points on M&Ms, right and, but that's the only thing.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm like, okay, fine, I'll have it.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm eating this and I'm like I finished the this and I'm like I finished the bag and I'm like what the blank am I doing?

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<v Speaker 3>Like this is so stupid and so like I've decided that you know I should, what I should do is spend money on good quality chocolate.

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<v Speaker 3>So I started getting good quality chocolate and I would have it with me, and that way, first of all, it's expensive, so I'm not going to eat it.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, just like that, right, m&m's?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, m&m's maybe, but you know it's what you value, it's where your value is.

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<v Speaker 3>And I started valuing what I put in my body.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm like you know what, if I'm gonna spend my calories, my energy on, I'm going to spend it on good chocolate.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'd go to the chocolatier and I'd get my chocolate and savor it and it would be really, really good and I'd enjoy it, and then I wouldn't crave it more either.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's very, very smart, love that.

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<v Speaker 2>So I have found the same, as if you have it in your head, it's like, yeah, that sounds really good.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that sounds really good, that sounds really good and you're focused on it, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yep, do a little, get it out of your system, do it as healthy as you can.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and and I call that a treat meal, not a cheat meal yeah, you know, whether that be a snack or it, be you the.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm cheating on myself, if you will, because that is who you are.

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<v Speaker 2>You know if you do stuff like that, and just I'm treating myself Exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>It changes the thought process.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and I don't like the word, you know, and I don't like it when people say they're cheating on their diet because you're not cheating.

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<v Speaker 3>No, don't say that and don't cheat yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>You're making a different choice.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you're making a better choice for yourself and you're honoring you, and it's really about self-respect and self-love.

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<v Speaker 3>And one of the things I've learned on this journey, and especially through neuroencoding, is to really love myself.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's when the real serenity and the peace came within me is when I was able to start doing the mirror exercise.

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<v Speaker 3>That's one of the principles of neuron coding and at first I was like are you serious?

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<v Speaker 3>Am I supposed to actually look in the mirror and say my name and say I love you?

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm like I can't say that.

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<v Speaker 3>That's icky.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, what's funny is there are so many people that struggle with it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because please explain the exercise.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean basically go ahead please Basically, it's first thing in the morning, if you can, you know when you're at the mirror, look into your eyes, take a deep breath, smile at yourself and say your name and say I love you.

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<v Speaker 3>And it sounds simple.

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<v Speaker 3>And now I can do it without a problem.

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<v Speaker 3>But at the time I was like are you freaking, kidding me?

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<v Speaker 3>I can't say that.

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<v Speaker 3>First of all, I'm going to look in the mirror and smile at myself what the F right?

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<v Speaker 3>And like at first I was like no, no, no, I'm going to look in the mirror and smile at myself what the F right.

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<v Speaker 3>And like at first I was like no, no, no, I can't do this.

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<v Speaker 3>And then, but I was like, okay, if everyone's saying, and my mentor saying, joseph McClendon, my mentor is saying do it, and it does actually work.

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<v Speaker 3>So I was like, okay, I'll try it, I'll try it, right.

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<v Speaker 3>And so at first I was like laughing at myself and say you know, I can't do this.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I'm like, ok, I just smiled and I said right, and I'm like, ok, I like you, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>And I started off like that and slowly, slowly, I was able to start saying yeah, I love you.

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<v Speaker 3>I was able to start saying yeah, yoey, I love you.

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<v Speaker 3>And I also imagined saying it to someone I really love or care about being in the reflection, not me.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know, at the time I just started I said let me just do it like I'm pretending I don't have any kids.

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<v Speaker 3>I am a pet mama and I love my baby.

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<v Speaker 3>You know doggy a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>So I pretended I was talking to her, you know, and I said let me just start with that and slowly build up to it and eventually I was able to get to the point where I was able to say it without, you know, cringing or or saying it was silly, because it's not yeah, congratulations for getting there again silly, because it's not yeah, and congratulations for getting there again.

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<v Speaker 2>You know people don't realize little baby steps.

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<v Speaker 2>You make that 2% change of steer, you get on that ship or boat, 2% change and you end up in a whole different destination yeah, in a destination you choose, which is fantastic.

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<v Speaker 2>So I want to just add thank you for sharing that and it's a fantastic exercise.

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<v Speaker 2>It's one of the core components that I have my clients do and I do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I do it all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it's important and it's funny when you're doing it Not funny, ha ha, funny.

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<v Speaker 2>Odd when you first start doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>But once you do it and you look yourself truly in the eyes when you first start doing it, but once you do it and you look yourself truly in the eyes and you feel it in your soul, it changes the game.

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<v Speaker 2>And then the beautiful thing is then you add on to that mirror exercise Things that you're playing with, working with, et cetera.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's a great exercise.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I wanted you to go through it.

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<v Speaker 3>So thank you, appreciate that, no, that's my core.

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<v Speaker 3>I teach that to all of my clients as well, because it starts there and brain to belly actually starts there.

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<v Speaker 3>Because it starts with self-love and it's the most difficult thing to do.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's shocking how many people struggle with it.

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<v Speaker 2>I did it very quickly but clients I have a lot of clients, friends that struggle doing it and you do little baby steps, just like you did.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, just like you did so fantastic, hey.

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<v Speaker 2>so let us talk about your thinking and your belief systems determine who you become.

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<v Speaker 2>Can we talk about that?

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<v Speaker 2>Just for a minute.

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<v Speaker 3>Sure, oh, totally, yeah, your belief systems really do.

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<v Speaker 3>And your thoughts I mean thoughts are powerful things.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, and again I'm going to refer to my mentor and he always says where focus goes is where energy flows.

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<v Speaker 3>So you know, it's really true, and if you think about it, what you focus on is actually what you're seeing and what comes to you.

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<v Speaker 3>So, for instance, if you, let's say, you bought a car, a new car, and it's in your favorite color let's say it was I don't know, for me it's like teal or whatever, right, so I had a teal car, and you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Then you start noticing so many teal cars out there and you're like, oh, I never really noticed that, that's only because you're focusing on that.

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<v Speaker 3>There have always been the same number of cars out there that are the same color.

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<v Speaker 3>You just notice that more.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think it's with everything else, even with food, right, and so your belief systems create who you are.

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<v Speaker 3>So if, like, for instance, when I was younger, I felt that I wasn't good enough, that nobody loved me because I looked a certain way Maybe it was because I was Asian and I lived here, or when I was in Japan and I was tainted by being American right, because I lived here in the US, and but I was.

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<v Speaker 3>I believed that and I believed that I was the nail that stuck out, that needed to be hammered down.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely so.

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<v Speaker 2>So you know, be careful on your thoughts Definitely, Because, good and bad, they affect your BS system, your belief system.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, Really pay attention to those thoughts.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you for sharing that Because they they really do shape your reality.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a reason why that's the name of the podcast, so thank you for sharing that.

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<v Speaker 2>So let's talk about your exciting ventures, if we can, just for a second.

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<v Speaker 2>You have your Brain to Belly Face Group.

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<v Speaker 2>Can we talk about that?

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<v Speaker 2>What's going on in there?

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<v Speaker 2>What's it for?

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<v Speaker 2>Why do you do?

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<v Speaker 2>it and, of course, your tv show, because they kind of you know kind of, yeah, tie in together.

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<v Speaker 3>well, I started the facebook group because, um, I I've always felt that I wanted to help people that are going through the weight issue journey or the self body image, self image journey, because a lot of people struggle with it, and I've worked in the wellness industry for 20 something years, as well as a part time thing for a long time, and I've seen so many people struggling with their doing a diet, learning things as a diet.

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<v Speaker 3>They're either on or off learning thing, thinking that food is either good or bad.

00:25:27.672 --> 00:25:39.692
<v Speaker 3>When it isn't, it's a neutral thing, and so I was like I want a place where people can feel, can be there as themselves, without judgment.

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<v Speaker 3>So I don't, you know, I'm really opposed.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, if you're a bully, forget it.

00:25:44.946 --> 00:25:49.367
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to like, if you're in my group and you start bullying someone, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>Mama bear is going to come out and she's going to say get the blank out of here, right, I'm glad.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't get kicked out Facebook group.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't engage anyone, that you know.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not going to even engage anyone that's going to make nasty comments, I'll just ignore it or I'll delete it.

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<v Speaker 3>But, um, and that's the way I feel about a lot of things in life these days.

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<v Speaker 3>But, um, and I wanted a place where people could come so that they can share their struggles and their triumphs in their relationship with food, because I think a lot of people, just even the general public, we all have some sort of hang up with food.

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<v Speaker 3>You know a lot of people don't want to admit it, which is fine, you know, and but just to be aware, or even just to create that awareness.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why I thought I'd start this group, because, I mean, brain to belly is kind of catchy and it's also like it really focuses on.

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<v Speaker 3>What I really want to say is that your thoughts are really going to control how you feel and what you're going to put in your mouth.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 3>So if you're feeling crappy about yourself and sometimes I do feel crappy about myself and I slide back into that old me and I slide back into that black hole, you know, so you're saying you're human?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I'm totally human, of course.

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<v Speaker 2>But with neuro-encoding the beautiful thing about neuro-encoding everyone is we condition ourselves and we train other people to default back to our best selves.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, with simple, simple hacks, if you will.

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<v Speaker 2>I call them hacks all the time, but simple tricks of the trade, if you will.

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<v Speaker 2>So fantastic, thank you for sharing.

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<v Speaker 2>And, guys, it is a fantastic group.

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<v Speaker 2>So you know, please, please, join.

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<v Speaker 2>So I have a couple of questions, because we've had so much fun here that we kind of went all over the place went past the time um of of other stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, we're fine, we're fine, I, I own the show, we're fine.

00:27:50.598 --> 00:27:55.663
<v Speaker 2>Okay, no, but we just we got on some really good real conversation.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I tell everybody this is very organic, it just happened, you know none of this is is scripted or anything else.

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<v Speaker 2>So question for you, and we'll kind of go through these how do you know, because I think they're important questions how do you know when you have a problem with your food relationship?

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<v Speaker 3>You know, just be honest with yourself, take out all the BS.

00:28:19.775 --> 00:28:23.000
<v Speaker 3>Literally Listen to your heart.

00:28:23.000 --> 00:28:31.579
<v Speaker 3>If you're cringing all the time, if you're feeling like your heart's being restricted, your mind's being restricted, you can't be yourself.

00:28:31.579 --> 00:28:39.712
<v Speaker 3>You have a problem, and even if it's not a big problem, at least be aware of it and do something about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Love it, love it Very good and I agree 100%.

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<v Speaker 2>It's.

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<v Speaker 3>You know if you're going, oh, I need to do this or I shouldn't do this and I shouldn't eat this, but I'm going to do it anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, be honest with yourself and that's the hard thing to do, but just try it Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 2>So here's the question here, with all of the information and food supplements and diets, how do you know what's real and or I'm going to simplify this what will work for you?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's a really tough question.

00:29:19.412 --> 00:29:30.337
<v Speaker 3>I would say that what works for you is something that is different for each person, because, you know, each person has a different personality.

00:29:30.337 --> 00:29:38.311
<v Speaker 3>One thing that works for me is not necessarily going to work for somebody else Absolutely, and I always say one size doesn't fit all.

00:29:38.311 --> 00:29:43.807
<v Speaker 3>I wish it would, but you know it doesn't and that's why there's so many things out there.

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<v Speaker 3>But I would say nutrition is one thing you really need to learn about, like what are carbohydrates, what are proteins, what is fiber?

00:29:55.936 --> 00:29:58.404
<v Speaker 3>You know five fruits and vegetables.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a reason that everyone says get your five fruits and vegetables in a day, and I keep on repeating this all the time everywhere I go.

00:30:09.415 --> 00:30:18.118
<v Speaker 3>But I read a study that said that only one in 10 Americans have their five fruits and vegetables every day.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, that's sad.

00:30:20.288 --> 00:30:25.673
<v Speaker 3>Wow, that's really sad, and I think it's worse in the UK.

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<v Speaker 3>But they said 10% of the population.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>That's crazy.

00:30:31.229 --> 00:30:36.137
<v Speaker 2>It is my wife when we first got together.

00:30:36.137 --> 00:30:38.012
<v Speaker 2>We've been married almost 20 years now.

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<v Speaker 1>And she loves me.

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<v Speaker 2>So she always used to be like you're so good with your fruits and vegetables, you love vegetables, because I literally that would be the first thing off my plate.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>So to hear that people don't eat them, it's shocking, shocking to me it's sad.

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<v Speaker 3>It's sad and you know a lot of foods well.

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<v Speaker 3>I've also noticed that, like in europe and in asia, um, the fruits and vegetables here don't taste the same as things there.

00:31:17.529 --> 00:31:22.016
<v Speaker 3>I think there are many things that are added here, you know, and it's.

00:31:22.016 --> 00:31:25.201
<v Speaker 3>I understand commercialism and all of that.

00:31:25.201 --> 00:31:34.779
<v Speaker 3>But you know, sometimes try an organic, you know fruit for once and see how it really tastes, because sometimes it does taste different.

00:31:34.779 --> 00:31:37.614
<v Speaker 3>Like even a cucumber tasted different.

00:31:37.614 --> 00:31:40.644
<v Speaker 3>That was like one of my things when I came here to the US.

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<v Speaker 3>I love cucumbers and I love the Japanese cucumbers.

00:31:44.029 --> 00:31:51.671
<v Speaker 3>So I came here and thinking, oh, I want a cucumber and I bought an American cucumber, boy, did it taste different?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's, it's Um, and I've, I've, uh, had family and so on that went to Germany and spent time there and they're like, yeah, the cheeses, the breads, everything is so much different than it is here.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, I totally understand what you're saying, so thank you for sharing that information as well.

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<v Speaker 2>So three quick tips you can reuse whatever you need to do, but three quick tips on how to get veterans and their families kids eating healthy, changing their food habits to better serve themselves.

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<v Speaker 3>I would say well, one thing is definitely get your water in, because a lot of us are always dehydrated and we mistake dehydration for hunger.

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<v Speaker 3>So try to.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, even if it's like no-transcript.

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<v Speaker 3>Look at food labels, you know if there's so many, if, like, the first ingredient is sugar probably not a good idea.

00:33:12.768 --> 00:33:20.669
<v Speaker 3>You know if you could get something that's like and if you can do the fruits and vegetables, please try to do it.

00:33:20.669 --> 00:33:31.815
<v Speaker 3>There are lots of recipes out there for you know that you could get creative with and you know, sometimes just take one.

00:33:31.815 --> 00:33:38.994
<v Speaker 3>You know, maybe with your kids, go to the grocery store, find a fruit or vegetable that looks interesting and try it.

00:33:38.994 --> 00:33:42.976
<v Speaker 3>One fruit, you know, one fruit or vegetable a week or once a month.

00:33:42.976 --> 00:33:47.435
<v Speaker 3>Try experiment with something new and get your whole family involved in it.

00:33:47.585 --> 00:33:49.497
<v Speaker 3>You know that might be a fun project to do.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I love that.

00:33:50.684 --> 00:33:58.398
<v Speaker 2>You know it would be cool to just jumping on that bandwagon is learn about the nutrition in that fruit or that vegetable food.

00:33:58.398 --> 00:34:06.711
<v Speaker 2>You're learning about the macros and all of those different things and fibers and all the things you're talking about would be great as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so excellent, excellent tips.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 2>Appreciate it, appreciate it.

00:34:12.425 --> 00:34:14.030
<v Speaker 3>So how do people get a hold of Yayoi.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yes, well, you can go to my Facebook group.

00:34:17.512 --> 00:34:19.411
<v Speaker 3>That would be the easiest to find.

00:34:19.411 --> 00:34:25.530
<v Speaker 3>I think there's only one brain to belly face book group and you can find me there.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm going to take out my lightsaber chopsticks just because I wanted to show it to everyone, because I'm crazy about it.

00:34:32.672 --> 00:34:34.945
<v Speaker 2>So you know what I was thinking about this earlier.

00:34:34.945 --> 00:34:36.469
<v Speaker 2>But you're talking, I didn't want to interrupt.

00:34:36.469 --> 00:34:48.387
<v Speaker 2>So I'm thinking that you know each one of those lightsabers really is your different thought processes, true Battling each other.

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<v Speaker 3>for good and evil.

00:34:50.632 --> 00:34:52.478
<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes.

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<v Speaker 2>So make sure the good one wins.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, and be good to yourself really.

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<v Speaker 3>And hey, have fun, because life is about having fun and laughing, and these are, you know, help me to keep laughing and having fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Amen, I love it.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, everybody.

00:35:11.085 --> 00:35:13.969
<v Speaker 2>So I just want to remind everybody.

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<v Speaker 2>There is the blue QR code symbol at the top right corner there.

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<v Speaker 2>Scan it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, over there, the top right corner there.

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<v Speaker 2>Scan it.

00:35:29.489 --> 00:35:30.672
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, over there, the top right corner, scan it.

00:35:30.672 --> 00:35:32.719
<v Speaker 2>There's all kinds of veteran resources, books, all kinds of good stuff in there.

00:35:32.719 --> 00:35:33.541
<v Speaker 2>So please check that out.

00:35:33.541 --> 00:35:39.516
<v Speaker 2>And, yayoi, I just you know time is the most precious resource we have as humans.

00:35:39.516 --> 00:35:41.675
<v Speaker 2>Thank you so so much for spending your time with us.

00:35:41.675 --> 00:35:42.222
<v Speaker 2>I so appreciate you.

00:35:42.222 --> 00:35:42.483
<v Speaker 2>Thank you so so much for spending your time with us.

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<v Speaker 2>I so appreciate you.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you for having me.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, it's been fantastic.

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<v Speaker 2>I've enjoyed every minute of it.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody we are out of here.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for joining us on another insightful journey of your Thoughts your Reality podcast with your host, michael Cole.

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<v Speaker 1>We hope the conversation sparked some thoughts that resonate with you.

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<v Speaker 1>To dive deeper into empowering your thoughts and enhancing your reality, visit empowerperformancestrategiescom.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember your thoughts shape your reality, so make them count.

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<v Speaker 1>Until next time, stay inspired and keep creating the reality you desire.

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<v Speaker 1>Catch you on the next episode.