Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Janet responds to a mother who describes her husband and herself as “very healthy, active people.” They have been trying to encourage their almost 5-year-old to pursue physical activities by providing lessons and classes but are frustrated because he loses interest. They are wondering whether to push their agenda or just let it go.

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Janet is joined by Dr. Meghan Owenz and her husband Adam to discuss some of the truths and misconceptions about children and screens. Meghan is a university professor teaching classes on counseling and infant and child development. She and Adam write about the latest research on their website ScreenFreeParenting and present a host of screen-free alternatives to keep children engaged and learning.

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The mother of a 16-month-old is climbing the walls because her daredevil boy insists on climbing the furniture and putting himself “in potentially dangerous situations.” She strives to maintain a respectful, trusting attitude and does not want to continually say ‘no’, but she feels her son is testing and trying to get a reaction out of her.

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The parent of a 22-month-old seeks some clarification for toy-taking situations when her boy is in a public space -- if or when to intervene, and wondering if it’s better to weather the judgmental stares of other parents in favor of her son’s social development.

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A mom is frustrated that her 4-year-old daughter has suddenly decided she’s helpless in the mornings, pretending to be overwhelmed and confused by the most basic tasks. This mom is expecting a new baby and is going to need her daughter’s cooperation when the child arrives.

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A mom is struggling with her 3.5-year-old’s “controlling and oppositional behavior.” She’s trying to find reasonable boundaries to avoid big confrontations over minor issues when her daughter insists on calling the shots.

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A mom describes her daughter as “super easy, independent and happy” at school but emotional and defiant at home. She suspects her child is going through a “development leap” that will pass (she hopes!) but wonders how to handle her behavior in the meantime.

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A mom is confused by her one-year-old’s loud grunts and screeches and isn’t always sure what he needs in these situations.

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Janet responds to a question from a mom whose 15-month-old is constantly taking toys from his peers on the playground. She describes him as “very physical and stronger and taller than most of the other kids.” She’s tried many approaches to moderate his behavior, but none of them have worked. She’s looking for some new strategies.

(Here's the article that Janet and the parent refer to in the podcast: http://www.janetlansbury.com/2011/02/what-to-do-about-a-toddler-toy-taker/)

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Janet weighs in with a concerned mom whose toddler is having trouble sitting and listening in his enrichment class.

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Janet responds to a mother who has avoided using words like ‘no’ and ‘stop’ when interacting with her child, and she’s now concerned that her toddler doesn’t have the social vocabulary to establish her own boundaries.

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Janet responds to a letter from a single parent who describes her relationship with her 4-year-old as close and respectful, yet her daughter’s behavior is exhausting and concerning. This mum is overwhelmed and is desperately seeking advice and hope.

For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books on Amazon and Audible (https://adbl.co/2OBVztZ).

Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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Janet offers advice to a mother of nine-month-old twins. The boy is physically active and social and seeks her engagement. The girl is content to play independently without much interaction or feedback, and the mom is worried that she may not be giving her enough attention.

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Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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A working mom writes that her 3-month-old is not happy when left on the floor to play by himself. He quickly begins “screaming and crying to be saved,” and the situation is causing problems both at home and at the child’s daycare.

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Janet receives a letter from a mom who’s been separated from her husband for six weeks and is about to make the arrangement permanent. She wonders how much, and how best to communicate with her four-year-old about the situation and how to handle the changes in their lives.

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Janet advises a worried mother whose child's behavior seems to have taken a turn for the worse.

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Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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A father is concerned about his 3-year-old’s sensitive reaction to hearing the word ‘no’. He senses that his boy feels punished or that he has done something wrong, so he wonders if there’s something he can adjust in his delivery.

For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible (adbl.co/2OBVztZ).

Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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Janet answers a letter from an expecting mother whose 2.5-year-old daughter has become wantonly defiant, especially during various extracurricular classes, and her antics are leading to some potentially dangerous situations. This mom feels like she’s being baited and wants the testing to stop.

For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible (adbl.co/2OBVztZ).

Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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A mom writes that her toddler’s constant screeching is “driving me crazy!” and is hoping Janet has some advice before she loses her mind.

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A parent writes to Janet about her two-year-old’s habit of biting her playmates when she’s frustrated or angry. The parent has been employing a respectful approach to these situations, which has helped somewhat, but it hasn't completely alleviated the issue.

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A mom asks Janet whether she should put the kibosh on her daughter’s body painting or just accept it as healthy artistic exploration.

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A parent describes her 26-month-old as “too passive” and is confused about how to react when she witnesses other children taking his toys, hitting, or yelling at him.

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Janet responds to a father whose 2.5-year-old is acting out at home and at school by biting, hitting, and sometimes spitting when she doesn’t get her way. The toddler’s dad says he’s tried a respectful approach to curb her behavior, but it seems to be getting worse.

For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible (https://adbl.co/2OBVztZ).

Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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Janet continues the introduction to RIE parenting she began in her previous podcast by briefly discussing ways parents can foster natural motor development, emotional health, intrinsic motivation, and inner direction. These are basics 4-6 from her article "RIE Parenting Basics - 9 Ways To Put Respect Into Action."

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Janet responds to a frequent reader request to introduce and summarize the RIE parenting approach. She begins in this podcast by discussing the first 3 basics she shared in her article "RIE Parenting Basics - 9 Ways To Put Respect Into Action".

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Janet responds to a mother whose son seems to grasp the concept of using the toilet, but he isn’t cooperating. She’s trying to be patient and understanding but also worried his resistance is becoming entrenched, so she’s looking to Janet for some potty pointers.

For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible (adbl.co/2OBVztZ).

Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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A mother worries about her daughter’s displays of affection toward her friends, who aren’t always appreciative. She’s wondering how to explain the limits of physical love to her huggy daughter.

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A mother of toddler twins is frazzled by her children’s constant conflicts, which often deteriorate into what she describes as hand-to-hand combat. While she makes every effort to be respectful and patient, she’s exhausted by the relentless discord and is wondering how she might diffuse future struggles before they become altercations.

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A nervous mother writes about her daughter’s new compulsion to hit the family dog, even after she’s been asked numerous times to stop. While this mom generally trusts the dog as docile and doesn’t believe her daughter’s intentions are malicious, she worries the dog may have a bad moment and nip the toddler.

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Janet responds to a toddler’s mother who appreciates her child’s ability and willingness to vocalize her feelings, but she doesn’t always appreciate the words she chooses.

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Janet replies to the parent of an active 7-month-old who worries that their otherwise respectful relationship is jeopardized by constant struggles at bedtime that are upsetting to her and her baby.

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Janet engages child development expert Lisa Sunbury (http://regardingbaby.org) in a discussion about one of the most controversial, hot-button parenting topics -- crying. Together they explore responses to crying that are respectful and healing and describe how adjusting our perception of crying can foster our children's psychological health and emotional resilience.

There's more on this topic in Janet's post, "7 Reasons to Calm Down About Babies Crying": http://www.janetlansbury.com/2011/09/7-reasons-to-calm-down-about-babies-crying/

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It’s common for children – toddlers especially – to ask the same question again and again. The behavior can be exhausting and annoying. Perhaps they won’t take “no” for an answer, or they innocently ask, “Why, why, why?” when you’ve answered their question repeatedly. Janet discusses the causes and possible remedies. For more on common parenting issues, please check out this new audio resource -- "Sessions" -- my recorded consultations with parents: SessionsAudio.com

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Janet responds to a note from a mom who says her toddler is actively rejecting her husband's company and attention, a situation which is hurtful to them both. For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible (adbl.co/2OBVztZ). Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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A parent is having difficulty convincing her 10-month-old that pulling mommy’s hair is not a good game, but her son is not getting the message.

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Janet shares an excerpt from her book “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame” where she addresses a mom's frustration with her toddler’s new habit of constantly saying, "No!" For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon: https://amzn.to/3ATFwkb Google Play, Barnes & Noble, and Apple Books.

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A concerned mom realizes she's been interfering in her baby's gross motor development by restricting movement and wonders if there are steps she can take to help get her baby get back on track. For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon: https://amzn.to/3ATFwkb Google Play, Barnes & Noble, and Apple Books. Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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Janet addresses a parent's concerns about feeling “way over my limits with anger and frustration” when dealing with her children’s intense and noisy battles.

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What it really means to connect with kids when we're guiding their behavior, and how to do it with empathy, calm, and respect. I share a complete guide to respectful discipline in my book "No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame," which is available at Amazon, iBooks, B&N, and also (and popular!) on Audible. Also available for download, my audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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In this episode: The interventions we use when children battle over toys or engage in other social struggles are reflective of our perceptions of their abilities, as well as our general attitudes toward learning and ‘struggle’. Do we perceive babies, toddlers and preschoolers as basically capable? Or fragile and needy? Are our children born active, self-directed learners (as child specialist Magda Gerber asserted), or do they need us to manage their development from day one? Should we prevent children from struggling, avoid frustration and disappointment, or are age-appropriate conflicts healthy learning opportunities? My experiences working with infants and toddlers confirm Magda Gerber’s assertions about their competency and the benefits of allowing them to learn through conflict.

For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible.

Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).

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