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After 10 years of marriage, a man is dismayed to admit that he married a jizz-hater. His wife detests the stuff and doesn't want to be anywhere near it. What is the solution? The ever-delightful and intrepid Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to discuss a sex toy that will send you packing. A woman's boyfriend wants to get a $2000 anatomically correct sex doll. The caller, and (as you will hear) Dan Savage are super-squicked. Finally, gather round dear listeners, and hear the story of the neighbor and the négligé. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at and earn “Community Founder” status for life. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to or text savage to 500-500.

A straight man knows he has the dreaded Madonna/Whore Complex. But how can he overcome it? A 47 year-old woman has just started working at a sex toy store, and loves her funky, kinky co-workers. But she's scared to invite them to her wedding for fear that mommy and daddy won't approve. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emily Best, the force behind "F*ck Yes" -a new channel that offers up super-hot shorts showing how consent can be very sexy indeed. We love what they are doing, and you should check it out. And, did you know that Dan has some strong opinions about guns? The usually shy and retiring Dan Savage offers his take on the argument that "if you ban guns only criminals will have guns." This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at and earn “Community Founder” status for life.   Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free ( a $30 value) with free shipping by going to .

A woman gave her husband permission to see an escort when he was out of town. But she didn't give him permission to spend a small fortune on her!! An open-minded straight man has had quite enough with the sexual cavorting that takes place in his gym's hot tub, thank you very much! Is he being homophobic? Should he rat them out? On the Magnum, kids are getting in big trouble for sexting, sending pics and other activities that most teens routinely engage in. Dan speaks with Robby Soave from Reason.com about the need to lawyer up if your kid faces such a threat. How can a woman explain to her newly divorced father that she suspects he's gay, and that it's a-ok with her? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by MVMT Watches: Good looking watches, bracelets, sunglasses and gifts at great prices. Get 15% off today —WITH FREE SHIPPING and FREE RETURNS—by going to ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.

A gay man's boyfriend insists on showering just before sex, every single time. But the caller likes a little funk! How can they reconcile this fundamental difference. Dan's answer is sneaky. Don't be alarmed, but one of this week's questions requires the expertise of a mortician. On the Magnum, Dan enlists New York Times rival columnist Roxane Gay for a Second Opinion on folks who get dumped, and can't deal. Also, hear the tale of the man and his very, very rich employer-  a petty woman who doesn't hesitate snub and insult his girlfriend. 206-201-2720 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at www.aaptiv.com/SAVAGE. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

A woman is worried that a couple she's friends with will ask her and her husband to swing. How can she politely tell them that she and her husband don't roll that way? A man's new boyfriend is so wonderful! Their relationship is beautiful and amazing.  Unfortunately, he is also a homeless, lying meth-head. How can the caller confront his boyfriend with compassion? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Justin Lehmiller about a study looking at cuckolding among gay men. And, a woman's mother's boyfriend invites her to his pool alone, texts her out of nowhere and gives her random gifts of cash. She is loathe to fear the worst about him, but...well, she fears the worst about him. And so does Dan Savage. And so will all of you. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to

A female college student is busy planning her orgy. She wants to make sure the night is comfortable, fun and safe, with minimal awkwardness. Dan Savage, (the Martha Stewart of orgy planning,)  is here to help. A man's good (female) friend is planning to go on a date with one of his acquaintances. What the man knows, and the friend doesn't is that this date is a transman. Should he tip off his friend ahead of time? Or let it unspool in it's own sweet time? Yikes! The robots are making the porn now! Erotic film director, screenwriter and producer Erika Lust is on to raise the alarm about our dystopian porny future. After a lot of seriously GGG effort, a woman has finally learned to enjoy anal sex. The problem is she comes too fast, and then wants that dick OUTTA THERE before her man can get his orgasm. Dan has some power bottom tips to share.   Got real just there didn't it? 206-302-2064 ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at ThredUP,com/SAVAGE This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to Zeel.com and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".

Gather round, and hear two nasty tales of violent, crazy girlfriends. Would you date someone who painted all over your sheets and poured liquor on your clothes? You would? Oh, never mind then. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nicole Mazzeo, founder of Pleasure Pie and creator of  "The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic" a zine for the folks out there who love a naughty surprise on their phones.    And, a phone sex worker wonders how she can handle men who want to engage in emotionally scarring sex chatter. What a world. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage" Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free (a $30 value) with free shipping by going to .

Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman! This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America."  They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy,  and kids sticking things up their butts, among other things. She is a superior human and you should listen to the whole thing. A sub woman has been chatting with a dom. But he lacks experience, and he's maybe too short? How can she end it without offending him? Also, a woman just can't reclaim the inherent sexiness of her breasts after nursing her child. How can she get her boob-pleasure back? And, so, so, so much more. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code: savage.   This episode is brought to you by MVMT Watches: Good looking watches, bracelets, sunglasses and gifts at great prices. Get 15% off today —WITH FREE SHIPPING and FREE RETURNS—by going to

This week is no big deal. Our guest is just Cecile Richards, the PRESIDENT OF PLANNED PARENTHOOD. She graciously joined us to discuss her mighty organization, the battle they do daily to provide sexual health, and to answer a question about a woman's yucky Trump-supportin' mama. If, by some weird fluke you have not yet donated to Planned Parenthood, you are commanded to do so immediately. Also, a woman and her husband don't quite know how to ask a couple they are friendly with if they would like to watch them have sex.   It could be awkward. 206-302-2064.   This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

A man is into being tied up and pegged. But his wife finds it dull, tedious, boring and stultifying. Should he give up on the idea, or find a way to convince his wife that she could have some fun here. Oh no! More S&M trouble! A woman had a great date with a hot dom who dommed her so, so right. But now she feels nothing but shame. How can she clear out all the kink-phobia from her naughty brain? On the Magnum, our resident sex toy reviewer Erika Moen has found a toy to help you DO YOUR KEGELS. Do them now. And, can we accurately gauge how good a parent someone will be based on how they treat a cute, little puppy-dog? 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage.

A woman is facing old school, mild harassment at her law firm, of all places. How can she learn to shut these men down without looking like a Grumpy Gertie? A man is dating a new woman who seems great. But! She reminds him so much of his abusive ex, that he can't even. Should he explain his sudden absence to her? Break up cleanly? Try to make it work? On the Magnum, racial erotics ahoy! It would appear that white men want black men to fuck them. But what of the black man who just wants to get fucked? Dan enlists Marquis- a black man who knows what the hell is going on here. And Dan explains the nature of the sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship to a nervous lady. Don't be nervous. Take a deep breath and call 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. Thanks to Bombfell for supporting Savage Lovecast. Bombfell is an online personal styling service for men that helps find the right clothes for you. Get $25 off your first purchase at .

A woman struggles to advise her friend who is intolerant of her husband watching a little porn. Hear the dark drama of a gay man who made plans to get tied up by a stranger. All hail Luke Burbank! The clever and kindly host of TBTL and Live Wire Radio demeans himself to discuss open relationships, anal sex as revenge, and the rise of the sex robots. How he manages to keep his dignity intact is a bit of a head-scratcher. Also, a woman is burdened with unwanted cuckold fantasies. Should she purge her brain of them, or try to embrace them? 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at http://www.aaptiv.com/SAVAGE.

A woman's 13 year-old brother wants to shave his crotch. And now mom is FREAKING OUT and the whole family is in disarray over the pubes she found in the sink! A straight couple gets recognized in a bar from an online profile they placed together a long time ago. The woman in the couple pretended it wasn't them. Was this a) wrong, b) chicken, c) sex shaming to man who noticed them, or d) all of the above. On the Magnum, Dan chats with feminist writer Vonny Leclerc on how hard men have it now that they aren't allowed to flirt with underlings. And, a woman is terribly nervous about the Prince Albert her husband wants to get. Dan offers gentle reassurance. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by STDTest.com. Visit and get tested today. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free ( a $30 value) with free shipping by going to . Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at .

The kinksters have their "aftercare"- time after a rough sexual encounter to reconnect and comfort each other. But what about after casual vanilla sex? A woman wants to instigate an aftercare revolution for all. Dan gently, patiently explains away some men's rights nonsense to a man incensed at at a fictional "double standard." On the Magnum, a woman who tends to choose abusive men wonders how she can prevent herself from making this mistake over and over again. Dan brings on Lynn Fairweather, domestic violence consultant, speaker, and author of "Stop Signs: Recognizing, Avoiding, and Escaping Abusive Relationships" to help pick this lock. A caller used to be a terrible person with terrible friends. How can she start over? It starts by calling 206-302-2064 This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to

A man is enjoying his new cool girlfriend. The thing is? She isn't an insane lunatic like his other girlfriends. Is this a problem? Oh man. This one's good. Should a woman accept her ex's offer to give his KIDNEY to her desperately ill father? Will there be strings attached? Oh my god? On the Magnum, Dan chats with stand-up comedian Cameron Esposito. And, a woman had some awesome group sex at an Air BnB. The owner gave her a very public negative review. Was she sex-shamed? Should she be more discreet next time? 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove. Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get $30 off your first order by going to . This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to find wines you'll love. Get $20 OFF your first order when you go to .

"Why won't my girlfriend go down on me?!" asks this nice man, who goes down on her plenty. Does she not like it? What? Nancy and Dan wring their hands together about words, and Nancy reveals something truly horrible about herself. On the Magnum, Dan and Google's powerhouse Distinguished Scientist Blaise Agüera y Arcas discuss artificial intelligence, facial recognition software, privacy and other deeply creepy topics. A woman and her husband of 6 years have discovered that they share the same rare kink. But this kink is so kinky that she's being kink-shamed by her kink-phobic best friend. "WHAT IS THIS KINK?" you ask. You'll have to listen to find out. It's really quite something. 206-302-2064 This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . This episode is brought to you by the Netflix original series: Easy. Easy returns for its second season this December on Netflix. Watch Easy Season 2 on Netflix starting December 1st.

A married man is deliciously conflicted as his wife sleeps with women. It turns him on at first, but then jealousy and resentment settle in. How to reconcile? A woman newly broken up with her boyfriend has some recent boudoir photos kicking around. Should she send them to him? On the Magnum, listen in on our live show in Vancouver with Esther Perel, author of "Mating in Captivity." Dan and Esther take long hard look at the history of human relationships and our culture's obsession with monogamy. YOUR DAYS ARE NUMBERED, MONOGAMY. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by , an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get $30 off your first order by going to .

It appears we have reached a cultural moment when we need "The Ten Dick Commandments." Dan chisels a few in the tablet. Gather round the circle listeners, as Dan invokes the serenity prayer to council a woman who is being trolled by her neighbor's WiFi network name. A trans man who has not yet begun his transition, is angry and frustrated that he can't find any gay men who are interested in him. Buck Angel, (a.k.a the Man with a Pussy) swoops in to give much-needed, rational perspective. On the Magnum: Get Thee to a Therapist, Go. A treasure trove of callers who perhaps could use the services of an actual professional.  Or not. Whatever. Hey did you hear? We made 's list of the top 50 podcasts "right now." So there's that. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage" This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.

Fire up a giant J-bone, brothers and sisters cuz it's the WEED EPISODE. With professional marijuana enthusiast David Schmader -author of "Weed: A User's Guide." David joined us in our studio to talk about how marijuana can enhance sex, what strains are the sexiest, what to do if you NEED marijuana to get off, and more. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Bombfell for supporting Savage Lovecast. Bombfell is an online personal styling service for men that helps find the right clothes for you. Get $25 off your first purchase at . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get $30 off your first order by going to . This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".

A woman from the UK wonders why Americans are so quick to commit to each other after just a little bit of sex. Dan's history lesson explains it all. A woman and her husband are into hot-spousing. It's been super-fun and brought them closer together as a couple. But her husband gets racked with guilt each time, and runs to tell his priest ALL ABOUT IT.  What's his damage? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Mayor Betsy Hodges of Minneapolis about being on the vanguard of urban resistance. Keep fightin' Betsy! And, are you into having women burp in your mouth? This guy is... 206-302-2064 This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to Zeel.com and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to Blinkist.com/SAVAGE to start your free trial today.

A married woman is totally accepting of her husband's newfound love of cross-dressing. But! She wishes he wouldn't borrow HER clothes. Dan interviews high powered lawyer Carrie Goldberg about her work prosecuting online harassers, revenge pornography and domestic violence abusers. She is a hero. On the Magnum, how can a woman stop masturbating to thoughts of her ex? Finally, a father worries that his children's idea to go as "gay rights" for Halloween might be...misguided? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get $30 off your first meal by going to .   Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to .

A woman has been monogamous with her boyfriend for 5 years.  But she really wants to fuck the Swedish handyman. Should she fuck the Swedish handyman? A white woman and her boyfriend are into the whole Japanese schoolgirl thing. Is this racist? Is it wrong? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Carsie Blanton, creator of a dirty, nasty, filthy card game that sounds really fun. Check it out at www.thefingtruth.com. And, a divorced man finds he keeps dating women who say they are down for casual relationships, but when push comes to shove, they are really playing "the long game." 206-302-2064 This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to find wines you'll love. Get $20 OFF your first order when you go to .

The Kissing Clause: should kissing come standard in a relationship? Dan interviews Angela Robinson, the director of "Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women"- a documentary about the poly, Dom/sub, super-freak creator of the Wonder Woman comics. On the Magnum, a woman's male co-worker is getting pimped out against his will by his boyfriend. Dan brings on sex worker rights activist Mistress Matisse to discuss how to support the lad. And, a man in a 7-year triad, fears he will soon be replaced. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .

Darling? Whatever shall we do at our coming trip to the Bondage Bed & Breakfast? A married woman gets busted by her husband for camming. She doesn't consider it cheating, and it gets her so, so horny. How can she reconcile with her husband and still get her camming rocks off? On the magnum, Dan brings back our regular guest, Erika Moen to go over a HEAVY sex toy you all should add to your arsenal. And, a man's sister is a former prison guard who started dating one of the inmates. He doesn't seem like the best person, and the caller is very worried about what will happens we he gets out. Yikes. This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to to start your free trial today. This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at .

A woman is considering finding herself a sugar daddy to make ends meet. Should she tell her boyfriend? A man has a friendly relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He just doesn't want to see her and her new man splattered all over his social media. Would it be petty to mute her for a while? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eli Finkel, author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage." And, a woman's husband suddenly has a glamorous job with lots of fancy perks! She has been the bread-winner all this time, and feels resentful of all the fun her gets to have. How can she overcome these nasty feelings? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . Thanks to Bombfell for supporting Savage Lovecast. Bombfell is an online personal styling service for men that helps find the right clothes for you. Get $25 off your first purchase at .

This show begins and ends with circumcision. A woman is dating her first uncut man and wonders if Dan has any... tips. Then, at the end of the Magnum, an uncut man who is into "pig play" (that's dick-stank- you're welcome,) wonders if he should get himself an adult circumcision. So there's that to ponder. A high school teacher and her pal wonder why the kids are so into hickeys. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Slate writer Mark Joseph Stern, about the infuriating phenomenon of left wing anti-semitism. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a 10% discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout.

A woman offers proof that sexual harassment is about power. One of her students, a gay man, sexually harasses her regularly. Why would he do this? A fetish too far: A woman's boyfriend can only get off if they are doing play simulating kidnapping, bondage and human trafficking. She broke up with him because she just couldn't go there all the time. But now he feels shamed. Poor baby. Dan welcomes comedian Amy Miller to talk about the inadvisability of fucking comedians. Also, hear the tale of the woman with a dark power. We shall call her The Boner Killer.   She didn't ask for this. 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove. This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .

A couple are dismayed that the condom keeps slipping off when they're doing it doggie style. Dan offers some time-honored tricks. Disability Awareness Consultant Andrew Gurza, schools us all about dating folks with disabilities. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Jesse Bering about penis size and natural selection. Science! And speaking of penises, can you pump that thing up and make it bigger in the same way you can stretch an earlobe? 206-302-2064 Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at  when you use the offer code Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Thrive Market, the new convenient way to get the highest quality, natural, organic groceries delivered to your door. Try it for FREE for 30 days and get an extra 20% off at slash Savage.   This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at .

We start the show with a cavalcade of yucky calls about Nazis! Can a dom command his sub to come? Does this really happen? On the Magnum, Dan answers a bunch of calls from parents of teens with Deb Hauser, President of Advocates for Youth. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to to start your free trial today.

What do you do when your best friend is dating a con man? A woman has been with her boyfriend for a year. He has a key to her apartment, and regularly lets himself in when she isn't there, even though she told him not to. How big of a problem do we have here? On the Magnum, Dan talks to Alexander Cheves who published a controversial article in The Advocate about what place, if any, women have in gay bars. And, a woman's best friend also happens to be her step-mother. (Same age though.) How can the caller counsel her pal on how to improve her sex life...with her father? 206-302-2064   Thanks to RXBAR for supporting Savage LoveCast. RXBAR is a whole food protein bar with no B.S. Get 25% off your first order at and use the promo code SAVAGE. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to .   This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

A seemingly kind man only gets off when his girlfriend is in pain. She noticed this and plays it up to please him. Don't tell him this, but she isn't in pain. She loves it. But what if her acting skills fail? A  woman has started dating a man who travels a lot and has a girlfriend in every city. Should she join his sprawling harem? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Samantha Joel, in a "What You Got?" about the psychology of what make someone finally decide to end a relationship. And, a woman gets cold easily and likes to wear socks during sex. Her lovers tell her to take them off, because...visuals. Dan enlists science to defend this shivering lass.  206-302-2064 Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by - fashionable men's clothing and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at  when you use the offer code Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Thrive Market, the new convenient way to get the highest quality, natural, organic groceries delivered to your door. Try it for FREE for 30 days and get an extra 20% off at . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .

On the opening rant: Coming Out 101. What happens next? A mother's pre-teen daughter wants to wear a leather S&M-style choker. How can mom explain why this might not be a good idea? For both the Magnum and the Micro version we were honored to have Dr. Sarah Pentlicky from Planned Parenthood in the studio to answer some gnarly medical questions. Dental dams? Check. Warty dicks? Check. Surf Shorts? Check. Wait, what? As you would expect, she handled them all with supreme calm, poise and intelligence. That's Planned Parenthood. Did you know that you can give some money to Planned Parenthood?   206-302-2064 This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Society 6 -incredible art printed on phone cases, wall art,  pillows, apparel and more. Go to and enter the code savagelove at checkout to receive 20% off your order. This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting  and enter the promo code savagelove.

If your boyfriend wants you to help him to film women so he can scratch his voyeur itch, is there an ethical way to do this? Hear the sordid tale of the the woman who wants to call Child Protective Services on her own damn boyfriend. On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer and BDSM educator Mollena Williams about "sub space" -what it is, and what it isn't. Also, a woman is getting annoyed that her boyfriend keeps presenting her with highly scripted sex scenarios that probably originated from porn. How can she keep him happy but also fly off-script? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Five Four Club- fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at when you use the offer code Savage.   This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to  to start your free trial today.

A gay man hooked up with a hot guy- great lover. But his micro-penis made the caller wonder if his lover was perhaps a transman. Should he ask him? Does it matter?  A man's ten year-old son has come out as gay. The worried father bemoans his child's fate living on the "margins of society." Dan issues a reality check and a rebuke. It's 2017 dad, not the 1800s. "Margins of Society" indeed... On the Magnum, Jon Ronson, author of "The Psychopath Test" is on to talk about "bespoke pornography" and confirms the maxim: "Everything is a thing." Also, if your boyfriend calls you a monster for learning that you are into hardcore porn, (after SNOOPING ON YOUR PHONE,) can the relationship be salvaged? Should it be? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by : luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to  and enter Savage. Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by - fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at when you use the offer code Savage. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to .

A man's girlfriend won't let him watch Game of Thrones due to all the violence against women. Does she have the right? Should we all be boycotting the show? Salon's Amanda Marcotte is here to weigh in. A lesbian is exploring dom/sub play with her girlfriend. Her girlfriend wants her to talk dirty and tell her to shut up. But our lesbian feels uncomfortable in their small apartment with thin walls. What's a GGG girl to do? On the Magnum, how much fisting is too much fisting? A University of Washington gynecologist is here to help. And, From Frumpy Father to Hot Daddy: A former Mormon has come out, lost a bunch of weight and is finally living a fulfilling life. The hitch? He can't come with other men. Not yet... 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Thrive Market, the new convenient way to get the highest quality, natural, organic groceries delivered to your door. Try it for FREE for 30 days and get an extra 20% off at .   Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .   The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting  and enter the promo code savagelove.

If your Tinder guy can't get it up, should you move on, or give him a chance? A woman is dating a man 13 years her senior. Is this sort of age difference inherently immoral because...Woody Allen? On the Magnum, a deep dive into trans world with Buck Angel (a.k.a. The Man with a Pussy.) He is simply wonderful, and you must listen. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Astroglide O- USDA certified organic dual-purpose massage oil and personal lubricant. Try a free sample at , and indulge in an organic erotic experience. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to  and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.

A gay marine wants to keep his dick locked up in a chastity cage. His problem is...wait. Isn't that first sentence enough for you? A straight man has noticed that ALL of his friends are into feet. Why would this be? On the Magnum we welcome Mistress Matisse, to talk about her new magical lube. Also with Mistress Matisse, how can you explain the beautiful bruises your dom gives you? 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .

A man is just about to end his Grindr relationship with a dude whose girlfriend knows nothing of his exploits. Should he drop the info on this poor girl before he leaves town? Dan interviews Seth Davidowitz, author of "Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are." Basically, when you look at Google searches, people are just as nasty as can be. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Viro, co-host of the furry relationship advice podcast "Feral Attraction" on furries, bestiality and fetish mis-matches. Also, what is the best way to ask the check-out girl at the CVS if she'll be your unicorn in a three-way? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by : luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to  and enter Savage.   Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by - fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at when you use the offer code Savage.   This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Thrive Market, the new convenient way to get the highest quality, natural, organic groceries delivered to your door. Try it for FREE for 30 days and get an extra 20% off at

Wait. Are public orgasms ok now? A man and his girlfriend observed a woman having one, right there, out on the street, in broad daylight.   A gay man broke one of his rules. His boyfriend is still closeted to his family, and when they come to town, the caller has to clear out. Can this work? Does he have to break up?     On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and editor Michael Hobbes about the particular challenges middle-aged gay men face in dating.   Finally... "Hey there, old friend who I used to know in high school! I'm back in town, and thought we could meet and reconnect, in some sort of low-key way, like maybe you could come with me to get my nipple pierced! What do you mean your girlfriend doesn't like this idea?"   206-302-2064   Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to .   Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .

A woman is engaged to be married. She has been with about 80 lovers, and he has never been with anyone but her. He begs her to tell him all about her adventures to the point of obsession. Why does he wants to hear it all, and does she have to tell him? A man with a roommate feels like he's living with our horrible president: i.e. rich, entitled, lazy and mean. How can he convince this brute's girlfriend that she can do better? On the Magnum, a man wishes LA had the kind of kinky parties that NYC has. Whip smart dominatrix Justine Cross explains how to find the best sex parties and how BEHAVE YOURSELF when you get there. After a painful break up and move-out, a man is dismayed to see his ex-girlfriend's car parked in his apartment complex. Why? Because she's probably FUCKING SOMEONE IN HIS BUILDING. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at . The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove.

A woman wants to try a three-way. But all the posts online are riddled with spelling and grammar errors. (Not sexy!) How can she forge a more classy connection? A woman has been with her fiancé for 5 years. He loves to play with her nipples, but she hates it. And guess what? She has never told him this. Before they wed, how can she confess that she's been grinning and bearing it the whole time? On the Magnum, how drunk does a straight boy have to be before he'll get it on with another guy? An intrepid scientific researcher went into the field to find out. And a lesbian wonders how she can improve her relationship with her father, when he thinks she's possessed by the devil. Tricky. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.

Oh, that nasty chef! A woman works in a restaurant where her manager is having an affair with the married chef. Sometimes the caller has to serve the chef's poor innocent wife. It's so cruel, that all the servers are about to revolt. A married man harbors a cuckolding fantasy. He is certain his wife would never-ever be into it. But would she? Also, we couldn't help but play a couple of Rachel Lark songs, cuz they're so good. And on the Magnum, have you heard of "Hypersomnia?" A woman can't keep herself awake, sometimes at inopportune times, and she worries she'll be taken advantage of. Dan brings on a sleep medicine expert to discuss. Also, a woman who makes a lot of noise during sex, is confused when she gives her boyfriend the best head ever, and he is...perfectly silent. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order by visiting   Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by - fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at when you use the offer code Savage.   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Be sure to check out Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel- the original audio series that takes you inside Esther’s office. .

A straight male weight-lifter likes to shave his chest and pits. His friends are giving him grief about it. How can this sensitive strongman get over the peer pressure and revel in his smooth, lovely body? A gay man's foster son has had a rough life. And now he realizes they are both on Grindr. Awkward? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nathaniel Frank, author of Awakening: How Gays and Lesbians Brought Marriage Equality to America.  And, a woman's sister used to be in an abusive relationship, which she kept hidden. Now she's got a new guy, and guess what? He's a creep! Should the caller speak up? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by : luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to  and enter Savage.

A man and a woman used to date, but now they're just friends. The woman got married and doesn't want her rich husband to know that she used to date the caller. Is it because she's embarrassed that the caller doesn't make enough money? From three-way to third wheel...a gay man with a long term boyfriend opened up their relationship to bring on another man. But now the boyfriend is getting closer and closer to the new guy. Do we have a problem here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with our go-to sex toy expert Erica Moen, to discuss "a whole bunch of dildos," a comprehensive round-up of anal lubes, and a toy for women with a misguided name. And, a Jewish woman wonders if it's racist to donate her eggs to a couple that wants a Jewish donor. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by ThredUp, the largest online consignment and re-sale store. Get 40% off your first order when you go to and enter promo code: Savage. The Savage Lovecast sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove.

A couple of ex-Mormons started dating. He broke up with her because she wasn't "nice." But don't worry everybody- he immediately came back to her. Then he broke up with her because he's gay. But it's ok! He changed his mind on that as well and came back to her. Now he isn't sure if he wants to be with her because of her jealousy issues. Ah, true love. A 13 year-old girl came out as gay to her mother, who easily accepts this. But grandma! She's a big ole Christian homophobe. Should the caller out her daughter to her mother? Even if the daughter doesn't want her to? On the Magnum, a man's wife has TMJ, and so can't give oral sex for very long. Dan chats with Dr. Michael Plaut who has written extensively on the subject. And, remember Dan's open rant on "stealthers?" Hear the horrible tale of a stealther in action. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.

A gay man living in Jerusalem wants to get with one of the orthodox guys who are always furtively eyeing him. But how can he make his move? A married man in an open relationship is SO BUSTED when he installs recording devices in his wife's room when she's having a man over. How can he channel his voyeur fetish on a consensual way? Dan sidles right up next to Rachel Bloom, star and creator of "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" to talk about Tinder jerks, anal novices and getting ogled on stage. Some is on the Micro, all is on the Magnum. And, a building manager is faced with the unenviable task of chastising a tenant couple for having ear-splittingly loud sex, AND chastising their neighbor for recording the whole thing. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Seeso, the subscription streaming service that delivers the very best comedy. Sign up for one month free by going to  and entering the promo code Savage. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at . This episode is also brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

A man has been with his lady for one year. She has lost her sex drive, and asks for him to find ways to limit his libido. Should they try counseling? Meditation? Chemical castration? Or maybe there's another option... A gay man and his straight friend used to fool around together when they were children. After a long silence, the straight friend has reemerged with a proposal to resume. It's a small town. There are aren't many gay people. The guy is totally hot. Should the gay man take him up on his offer? On the Magnum, sex and relationship expert Ben Steel welcomes you to his world of cuckolding. He and Dan discuss the alchemical process for turning jealousy into a big horny turn-on. And, a treatise on nipple stimulation. 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at . This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order by visiting .   Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex? On the Magnum, it's our first do-over! Dan realized he cocked up the answer to the woman who would lose bladder control when she gave blow jobs. This time, Dan brings in Dr. Rachel Gelman- an actual pelvic health specialist who knows what the hell she's talking about. She lives in the UK, he in the States. He is her dom, and also her cousin. They are deeply closeted about their relationship to family and friends. So, what's the problem? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by ThredUp, the largest online consignment and re-sale store. Get 40% off your first order when you go to  and enter promo code: Savage. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . The Savage Lovecast sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting  and enter the promo code savagelove.

Gather round, Lovecast listeners. Hear the tale of the pansexual housecleaner and the nasty surprise. Can a giant penis instigate menstrual bleeding? Is there anything a giant penis can't do? Ob/gyn and activist Leah Torres, is here to answer. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Marc Andreyko, creator of Love is Love: the beautiful, heart-rending compilation of comics commemorating the Pulse shootings. If you haven't yet gotten a copy, please do. Dan and Marc chat about the horror of that event as well as the immediate surge of support he encountered in making this important work. And, a grown man's mommy and daddy won't let him share a bed with his girlfriend at the hotel they are paying for. Solutions? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by : luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to  and enter Savage. This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .

A man gets turned on by the sight of his girlfriend smoking. The problem is, she doesn't smoke. We get our monthly sex toy review by the delightful (and knowledgable) Erika Moen. This week: a big ole vibrator called The Doxy. On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Terri Conley in a "What You Got?" about the relative happiness of monogamous vs. non-monogamous couples. And, how to break up with a dumb, religious bigot. Quick answer: Immediately. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by , the subscription streaming service that delivers the very best comedy. Sign up for one month free by going to Seeso.com and entering the promo code Savage. This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order by visiting