Why I've Never Dated

I’ve never dated anyone. Never been on a dating site. 

My experiences in the early stages of romance and relationships have always been intense, wild and unmistakable. 

I’ve seen something reposted a few times lately, an idea that people seem to be in awe of, that’s been the story of my life: 

“What’s crazy is that real lovers don’t even do talking stages. All it takes is one good date and suddenly y’all are together every day after that.” 

Yeah. This is how it’s always been for me. I EXPECT big love, big feeling, a whole-hearted, whole-vagina, whole-soul response to someone. 

Nothing less. Why would I waste my time on anything BUT that? 

In this episode:  

• Since I don’t “date” here’s what I do instead
• The morass of modern dating and my advice on how to navigate it 
• Humans vs. superhumans
• Jen Okazaki weighs in (iykyk) 
• When you know you know 
• People who marry for every other reason other than deep passion and what they look like 5, 10, 15 years down the road—I would know because I see them all the time 
• Recognizing soul mates—or at least the people who hold vital learning for you here and now 
• Shakespearean-Romantic-poet-epic-saga-love and nothing less 
• Courage and boldness in love 
• Death by a thousand cuts of cowardice