What Men Don’t Say: Breaking the Trauma Bond Cycle
Why do so many intelligent, capable people stay trapped in relationships that continue to hurt them?
In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with Steve Barton to explore trauma bonds through the often-overlooked male perspective. Together, they unpack how childhood conditioning, identity, fear, shame, and the need to earn love can keep people locked in unhealthy relationship patterns long after they know they need to leave.
Steve introduces his Game of Ten® framework, explaining how awareness becomes entangled with fear, self-doubt, guilt, and shame, and how healing begins not by finding a different relationship, but by returning to ourselves. The conversation expands beyond romantic relationships into leadership, personal growth, recovery, and the stories we tell ourselves to survive.
If you’ve ever asked yourself:
• Why is it so hard to leave?
• Why do I keep repeating the same patterns?
• What did I learn about love that no longer serves me?
• What did I perform in order to survive?
…this conversation is for you.
Website: www.stevebartoncoaching.com
Website: www.lisalacy.com
Lisa Lacy is a writer, trauma educator, executive advisor, and host of Notes From the Edge, where we explore the conversations we should have been having all along. Her work focuses on high-functioning survival, identity, leadership, recovery, and the hidden performances people develop to navigate difficult environments.
If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need to hear it.
Until next time… stop performing your life, tell the truth about your story, and we’ll meet you back here on the edge.
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Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy
Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival.
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Why do so many intelligent, capable people stay trapped in relationships that continue to hurt them?
In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with Steve Barton to explore trauma bonds through the often-overlooked male perspective. Together, they unpack how childhood conditioning, identity, fear, shame, and the need to earn love can keep people locked in unhealthy relationship patterns long after they know they need to leave.
Steve introduces his Game of Ten® framework, explaining how awareness becomes entangled with fear, self-doubt, guilt, and shame, and how healing begins not by finding a different relationship, but by returning to ourselves. The conversation expands beyond romantic relationships into leadership, personal growth, recovery, and the stories we tell ourselves to survive.
If you’ve ever asked yourself:
• Why is it so hard to leave?
• Why do I keep repeating the same patterns?
• What did I learn about love that no longer serves me?
• What did I perform in order to survive?
…this conversation is for you.
Website: www.stevebartoncoaching.com
Website: www.lisalacy.com
Lisa Lacy is a writer, trauma educator, executive advisor, and host of Notes From the Edge, where we explore the conversations we should have been having all along. Her work focuses on high-functioning survival, identity, leadership, recovery, and the hidden performances people develop to navigate difficult environments.
If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need to hear it.
Until next time… stop performing your life, tell the truth about your story, and we’ll meet you back here on the edge.
Connect with Steve BartonConnect with Lisa Lacy
Notes from the Edge with Lisa Lacy
Human conversations about trauma, identity, recovery, reinvention, relationships, leadership, and the lives we build after survival.
Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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