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The Love This Way Podcast delivers honest, healing, and transformational conversations about modern relationships, emotional wellness, and self-worth. No gender wars or back and forth, just solid advice to help men and women to find and sustain healthy love. Because love is a journey and you need direction! 

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Nobody talks about the grief that can exist inside a relationship that never ended.

Not all grief comes from breakups.

Sometimes it comes from:
the romance that never came
the effort that slowly faded
the emotional connection that changed
the version of love you thought you were building

And the hardest part is…

many people carry this pain silently because “nothing bad technically happened."

In this episode, we talk about the quiet grief people carry inside relationships, the loneliness of emotional deprivation, and why so many people normalize surviving instead of being deeply loved.

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Motherhood changes women in ways people rarely talk about.

Not just physically.

Emotionally.
Mentally.
Relationally.

A woman can deeply love her children…
and still miss herself.

And that doesn’t make her selfish.
It makes her human.

In this episode, we talk about the identity shift motherhood creates, how relationships silently change after children, and why so many women feel lost inside roles they love.

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It feels like men and women are at war right now…

Everyone has a side.
Everyone has a story.
Everyone has a reason why the other is the problem.

But what if we’re not enemies?

What if we’re just… misunderstood?

Men are carrying pressure they don’t always know how to express.
Women are carrying emotional weight they don’t always feel seen for.

Both are trying.
Both are hurting.
In this episode, we break down how misunderstanding turns into division, and how to finally start seeing each other again.

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You think you know your partner…

But do you know who they are right now?

Or are you still relating to who they used to be?

A lot of relationships don’t break because love disappears.

They break because understanding stops.

People grow.
People change.
People evolve.

And if you’re not paying attention…
you can end up loving a version of your partner that no longer exists.

In this episode, we talk about how couples slowly drift apart when they stop learning each other, and how to reconnect with who your partner is becoming.

Because love isn’t just about knowing someone once.

It’s about choosing to understand them again and again.

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Two people can be in the same relationship…

and have completely different emotional experiences.

One feels loved.
The other feels lonely.

One feels secure.
The other feels uncertain.

One feels stable.
The other feels disconnected.

Same relationship.
Different reality.

Because love isn’t only about what you do

it’s about what your partner actually feels.

In this episode we talk about how couples slowly drift into two completely different relationship realities, and 5 ways to close the gap so both people feel loved, chosen, and emotionally connected.

Because the goal isn’t just to have a relationship that looks stable…

It’s to have a relationship that feels good to both people living inside it.

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Some people are in committed relationships… healthy relationships… loving relationships…

…and still feel unsure.

They were chosen.

And yet the questions still come:

“Do they really love me?”
“What if they change their mind?”
“What if I’m not enough?”
“What if I lose this?”

Sometimes the problem is the story you’ve been telling yourself about your worth long before this relationship began.

In this episode, we talk about why commitment alone doesn’t always create security — and 5 ways to feel more secure without needing constant reassurance.


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Published 2026-04-05

Do You Even Like Your Spouse?

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Being together doesn’t automatically mean someone feels loved.

Some people are in relationships with partners they don’t tend to… don’t prioritize… don’t speak kindly to… don’t make time for… don’t show interest in… don’t romance anymore.

If your spouse wants time with you…
wants connection…
wants affection…
wants effort…

is the answer always:
“I don’t feel like it”?

Love is continuing to choose the person you already chose.

Because eventually, even the most patient partner can feel the difference between being loved…and being tolerated.

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Almost everyone says they want honest communication.

But what happens when the truth is uncomfortable?

When honesty is met with defensiveness… dismissal… shutdown… or counterattack… people learn something quickly:

Honesty doesn’t feel safe here.

So they start softening the truth.
Avoiding conversations that might create tension.

And slowly, the relationship becomes peaceful… but distant.

In this episode, we talk about the subtle ways couples unintentionally train each other to stop telling the truth — and 5 ways to make honesty feel safe again.

Because you cannot feel fully loved if you are not fully known.

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Published 2026-03-22

Can Your Partner Affect Your Self-Esteem?

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People love to say:
 “No one can affect your self-esteem because it’s called self-esteem.”

But relationships absolutely influence how confident or insecure someone feels over time. Not because they are weak.

Because they are human.

Healthy love should not make you question your worth.

It should reinforce it.

In this episode we talk about the subtle ways couples unintentionally damage each other’s self-esteem, and how to protect the confidence of the person you love.

Because love should feel safe to be fully yourself.

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This episode is for the men who are tired… but still standing.

The men carrying full loads.
The men solving problems no one else even sees.
The men who feel like everyone depends on them — but no one asks how they’re doing.

Some of you are crying in your cars before you walk into the house.
Some of you are laying awake at night trying to figure out how to hold everything together.

And the world rarely stops long enough to say this:

We see you.

Your effort matters.
Your sacrifice matters.
Your presence in this world matters more than you realize.

Men are often expected to carry the weight quietly.
But today’s episode is a reminder that you are not invisible — and you are not alone.

If you’re a man who’s been pushing forward even when you’re exhausted…

This one is for you.

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Published 2026-03-08

Men Fear Failure. Women Fear Abandonment.

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Some men aren’t afraid of commitment… they’re afraid of failing the woman they love.
 Some women aren’t “too emotional”… they’re afraid of being abandoned by the person they trust most.

Different fears. Same pain. Same misunderstandings.

When you realize that most relationship conflicts aren’t about the surface argument, but about unspoken fear underneath it, everything starts to make sense.

Men fear not being enough.
 Women fear being left behind.

And until both people learn to heal those fears within themselves, they’ll keep accidentally hurting the person they’re trying to love.

In this week’s episode we’re breaking down the hidden fears that drive relationship conflict, and 5 ways to heal fear in yourself before projecting it onto your partner.

Because love doesn’t become healthy when you find the perfect partner.

It becomes healthy when two people stop letting fear run the relationship.

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The love you’re chasing may have never existed.

Not in real life.
Not in healthy relationships.
Not in sustainable partnership.

You weren’t disappointed because they weren’t enough.
You were disappointed because it didn’t match the fantasy.

Real love isn’t cinematic.
It’s consistent.

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Who were you before someone told you to tone it down?

Before you were labeled extra.
Before you learned to shrink to make other people comfortable.
Before love felt like self-editing.

If you don’t know who you are before partnership,
 you will become who someone else is comfortable with.

This episode is for anyone who’s tired of disappearing in relationships.

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You gave them everything.
 Your time. Your energy. Your peace.
 You loved them harder than you ever loved yourself — and called it loyalty.
 But now, you’re tired. You’re empty. You don’t even know who you are outside of keeping someone else happy.

This episode is your reminder that even God doesn’t want you to lose you for love.
Because being completely devoted to someone else while letting yourself down is a miscarriage of justice.
You still need you. 

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This year, I’m not chasing love that costs me myself.
 I’m not begging to be chosen in rooms I outgrew.
 I’m not settling for “almost,” “eventually,” or “when they’re ready.”

This year… I choose me.

The healed me.
 The peaceful me.
 The woman who no longer mistakes chaos for chemistry or survival for strength.

Because the version of me that settled can’t come with me into this next chapter.
 She did her best. She learned the hard way.
 And now, she’s resting — because I’m finally taking it from here.

Here’s to peace that doesn’t need performance.
 To love that doesn’t need convincing.
 And to the kind of self-respect that doesn’t negotiate.

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You can be home for Christmas and still not be at peace.
 Because peace isn’t about proximity — it’s about emotional safety.

Some of you will sit next to people this holiday and feel completely alone.
 Not because you don’t love them…
 but because you can’t reach them anymore.

The truth is, peace is the gift most people never receive —
 because it can’t be wrapped, bought, or faked.
 It’s built with honesty, safety, and love that feels like home.

Listen to: “Home for the Holidays—But Not at Peace: The Loneliness No One Talks About” Because sometimes, pretending everything’s merry is what’s keeping you miserable.

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When you love them the most…
 they might already be too tired to feel it.

Because you can’t break someone’s heart a hundred times
 and expect them to hand it back like nothing happened.

They still care. They still love you.
 But not like before.
 Not with the same eyes,
 not with the same trust.

You waited until they were empty to start pouring.
 And now you’re drowning in the same silence
 you once made them live in.

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You keep calling it love,but it only feels real when someone’s bleeding for it.
You say you “love hard,”but maybe you just consume deep.
Because what you call passion is often hunger,and what you call chemistry is really chaos disguised as connection.
Love was never meant to drain you — it was meant to develop you.If you have to feed on someone to feel alive,that’s not love — that’s survival.

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Everybody wants to look healed—

but nobody wants to be accountable.


Healing isn’t posting your boundaries.

It’s apologizing when you realize you were the toxic one.

It’s outgrowing your ego, not just your ex.


If you keep calling everyone else the problem,

you might be the common denominator.


This week’s episode:

“The Death of Accountability: Why Everyone Thinks They’re the Healed One.”

Because growth without humility is just pride with better vocabulary.


🎧 Listen now. Reflect later. Heal for real.

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She said, “I don’t owe that woman anything.”
But you do owe yourself integrity — and God accountability.

You can’t destroy someone’s covenant and expect your love life to stay blessed.
 You can’t mock another woman’s heartbreak and think joy will live in your home.

This isn’t karma.
 This is consequence.
 And it’s time we start telling the truth about what it really costs to play with sacred things.

Because love built on betrayal doesn’t last — it haunts.
 And peace can’t exist in stolen spaces.

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Because love is what gives meaning to everything else. It’s what heals, redeems, and holds us together when nothing else can. The truth? The people who live with the fewest regrets are the ones who chose to love — even when it was hard.
We spend our lives chasing money, success, and validation — but when it’s all said and done, none of it matters without love.
Don’t let fear rob you of the one thing that will still matter when everything else fades: love.

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You keep praying for partnership while living like you’re the only one who matters.
Love isn’t a stage for your comfort — it’s a classroom for your growth.
You want covenant but can’t handle compromise. You want loyalty without sacrifice.
God doesn’t bless self-centered love — He blesses hearts that serve.
Before you ask for your person again… ask if you’re ready to love someone besides yourself.

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The moment someone realizes you’ll stay no matter what,
they stop valuing what they once had to earn.

You think you’re showing loyalty —
but what you’re really showing is fear.

Because when you believe you can’t do better,
you start accepting behavior that’s beneath you.

This episode will open your eyes to how desperation kills discernment,
why people stop honoring you when they know you won’t walk away,
and how to love again without losing yourself in the process.

 Tap in.
This one will set you free.

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You’re not asking for too much.
You’re just asking the wrong people.

Loyalty isn’t hard for people who live by values. But if someone has never been taught discipline, integrity, or emotional accountability… how could they possibly offer what they’ve never embodied?

Stop giving VIP treatment to people who don’t even know how to show up right.

This episode is for the ones who keep getting let down by people who were never built to hold them in the first place.

 Listen now. Your clarity starts here.

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Everybody’s chasing happiness…
But happiness is fleeting. Circumstantial. Temporary.
And the truth is—most people aren’t unhappy…
They’re just unfamiliar with peace.

In this episode, I’m teaching you the difference between momentary highs and lasting inner peace—and why chasing happiness will never fill the void inside.

You don’t need more things “happening”...
You need to learn how to be still.
This episode might be the one that resets your entire nervous system.

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If you're the whole package, you're going to attract a little bit of everyone. The question is:
Why do you keep keeping the ones who can't handle you?
This episode is your wake-up call.
It's time to protect your peace, elevate your discernment, and stop confusing attention for love.
Because being desired is not the same as being valued.

Listen now to reclaim your power and stop settling for less than you deserve.

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Published 2025-09-21

The Little Girl Who Got Lost in This World

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Some women weren’t wild—they were wounded.
They weren’t cold—they were covered in pain.
They weren’t broken—they were never poured into.

This episode is for the little girl who got lost in this world.
The one who never got the love she needed… so she started chasing it in all the wrong places.
This is your reminder:
You are not beyond healing.
You are not too far gone.
You just need to be found—by you.

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Published 2025-09-14

Men Aren’t Broken—They’re Starved

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He’s not cold…
He’s carrying frostbite from years of emotional neglect.

Most men don’t need fixing—they need pouring into.
They’ve been asked to give love they’ve never received. To be strong without ever being held.

In this episode, we unpack the emotional starvation so many men carry, and why they’re not broken—they’re starved.

This one is for the little boy inside every grown man still waiting to be seen.

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If you think men owe you money just for spending time with you… you’ve already lost.

Because here’s the truth:
👉 Most men aren’t well off.
👉 Sleeping with someone doesn’t mean you’re owed their bank account.
👉 Love built on manipulation will never last.

When love becomes a hustle, you don’t just lose the relationship — you lose yourself.

This episode is a wake-up call for anyone who thinks love is about what you can take instead of what you can build.

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Some people don’t actually love you — they love the version of you that’s broken enough to need them.
Your pain gave them purpose. Your wounds gave them control.
But the moment you start to heal, to rise, to live without their permission… they’ll call you “different” like it’s a bad thing.
The truth? They were never in love with you — they were in love with your dependence.
Heal anyway. Rise anyway. Be whole… even if it makes them uncomfortable.

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Just because they came after a prayer doesn’t mean they were the answer to it. Some relationships show up wrapped in your desires, looking like healing—but they’re just disguised distractions. Not everything sent to you is sent by God. And not everyone calling you “mine” was heaven-approved. Today, we’re breaking down how to discern God-sent love from emotional counterfeits, and how to protect yourself from dressing up pain in divine packaging.

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Some people do love you.
But not in a way that honors you.
Not in a way that protects you.
Not in a way that makes you better.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever been confused by the pain love left behind.
Why they “meant well” but still hurt you
Why love is not just a feeling — it’s a skill
 And how to finally stop internalizing someone else’s damage as your worth

Because you were never too much.
You were just loving someone who didn’t know how.

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In this episode of The Love This Way Podcast, we’re calling out the misuse and misunderstanding of the P31 woman by both men and women.

Because if you say you want her—but you’re intimidated by educated, powerful women…
 You’re not ready.

And if you say you are her—but you’re leading with looks and laziness…
 You’re not her.

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They told you giving your body away freely was power.
That it meant you were confident.
Liberated.
In control.

But what if they lied?

In this episode, we break down:
– Why casual sex isn’t as casual as it seems
– How your body stores emotional memory from every encounter
– Why the more people you sleep with, the less it means — and what that does to your soul
– The five steps to reclaim your worth and your peace

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You keep asking for loyalty…
Support…
Consistency…

But have you really created a relationship where that kind of love can exist?

This week’s episode is a gut check. Because some of us are showing up like emotional freeloaders—demanding love we haven’t learned to give.

This one will make you reflect. And if you’re brave enough to listen, it might just change the way you love forever.

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Today we’re talking about something that too many of you are dealing with: If They Only Want the Best of You, They’ll Never Be Able to Handle the Real You. 

Today’s episode is for the ones who are wondering:
 🌀 Was I too boring?
🌀 Did I do too much? Or not enough?
🌀 Why do people only love me when I’m performing peace, but disappear when I finally get honest about my pain?


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Published 2021-07-19

Girl, Do It For The Kids!

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This show is almost a piggy back to the how to "heal your childhood trauma" episode. Only this time, we’re gonna talk about how not to create the trauma for our kids that they’ll need to heal from one day cause  too many  adults are walking around in the aftermath of this reality and passing it down to their own kids.

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Published 2021-06-14

Girl, Who Are You?!

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Today we discuss the truth about the masks that some of us have been wearing. You wonder why you’re so torn and so unhappy most of the time.  Lots of us can’t figure out why self love is hard, today we will talk about it and hopefully rediscover our true selves. Girl, Who are you? 

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Published 2021-05-31

Girl, It's YOU

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This show is all about dealing with our own issues and how to recognize when we are the problem. We’ll discuss what being a toxic person looks like and how to let go of this bad behavior.  It’s not always easy to admit it, and even if you don’t mean to be that person, sometimes, IT’S YOU! 


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Published 2021-01-31

Girl, Heal Your Childhood Trauma

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In this episode, we tackle childhood trauma, the lingering effects it can have on your life, and how to overcome it. Our Host digs deep and reveals her own childhood trauma, and how she overcame it to be the woman she is today. This episode aims to stretch you, help you to move past your tragedy, and to break the generational curse. Ready?! 

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Published 2021-01-11

Girl, Love Yourself

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Because we all struggle with self love and it's not going to get any better until we put in the work and effort it takes to change that. In this episode we discuss what self love is, how it looks when our life is void of self love and, 5 steps we can take today to love ourselves better immediately. 
This show is sponsored by The Girl Cave LA- Grlsinthahood.com @tgclacentral

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