The Whinypaluza Podcast

Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Rebecca likes that she and Seth are complimentary and balance each other out.
• Rebecca is fun and impulsive, while Seth is more serious and measured, but they can dream big together, and approach things in a grounded and practical way.
• They give each other permission to be themselves because they know they will balance each other.
• They may not agree with each other on everything, but they work on understanding where the other is coming from.
• Their differences have influenced each other in a way that makes each of them better after their years together.

Follow Rebecca Greene

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• Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2
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• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5
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Enjoy this special presentation from the first ever Whinypaluza Ultimate Marriage & Parenting Summit!

Kerry Tepedino has made her mark as a top leader in the personal development space for women. Kerry came from a hard background of low self-esteem, not believing in herself, being 45-50 pounds heavier than she is today and desperate for change. She came to a defining moment in her life where she got to decide to continue being unhappy and burned out... or find the freedom that her soul was craving.

Through deep study of personal development, leadership, holistic health, nutrition, Ayurveda, yoga, meditation, and breath work, Kerry created her Sacred Self System, which helped her life go from rock bottom to where she is today... loving a life that she never thought could be possible for her. She has influenced over 150,000 people worldwide in mindset mastery, emotional mastery, loving themselves, and believing that with the proper mentorship, community and strategies... anything is possible.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Kerry Tepedino about 7 tips for mindful parenting!

• Here is what to expect on this week’s show:
• The importance of approaching a learning situation with an open mind
• The power of letting go of certain “stories” and perceptions from your past, so you do not bring them into your present
• Investment in yourself will cause other areas in your life to improve
• Be mindful of what is triggering you- do your own personal development work
• Own Your Mistakes. Apologize when you recognize you are putting your “stuff” on others. Be a role model
• No one is perfect. We all do the best we can in the moment
• Every moment is a choice in how you act. You always have the opportunity to course correct
• Create a learning experience for your child from the difficult moments
• Know that it is ok to take a moment for yourself when you reach your limit. Know your limits.

Links Mentioned:

• Overwhelm Guide https://onethoughtawayproject.com/overwhelm/
• Connect with Kerry:
• Website https://onethoughtawayproject.com/
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kerrytepedino/
• Facebook https://www.facebook.com/whoiskerrytepedino/

Follow Rebecca Greene

• Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/
• Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook
• Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2
• Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5
• TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week! This week, Seth and Rebecca go through the Love Languages card box and ask each other questions relating to their relationship.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• The importance of regular “marriage check ins” with your spouse
• What do you wish you had done before having children?
• Have you ever cried tears of joy?
• What three qualities would you most like to raise your children to embody?
• Where do you see us in 5 years and in 10 years?
• Whose marriage do you most consider to be a model marriage and why?
• Are you an optimist, a pessimist, or a realist?
• What is one quality you wish you had?
• At the end of your life, what is one thing you’d regret not having accomplished or lived?
• How many children would you like to have, or would have wanted?
• Have you ever broken someone’s heart?
• How do you think we could handle disagreements better?
• What’s the most sentimental gift you’ve ever gotten?
• What is the one rule you have for yourself that you will never break?
• What single word would you choose to best describe out partnership?
• What’s one thing you would never change about me?
• In 10 years from now, what do you think you’ll miss the most from the present time?

Follow Rebecca Greene

• Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/
• Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook
• Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2
• Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5
• TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom

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Ariella Shuster, Esq., is a practicing family law attorney on a mission to support people in keeping their dignity and respect intact as they move through separation and divorce. She's a professional life coach, with special expertise in divorce coaching, a mediator, a yoga instructor, a speaker, and mom to a rapidly growing teenage son. Before her roles as a mother and life coach, she was an intrepid world traveler and spent over a decade working in the criminal court system as a public defender in New York City and Seattle, Washington. She remains an avid cook, enthusiastic wine taster, and dabbler in random athletic pursuits. 

Ariella lives in Seattle, and she primarily represents people dedicated to divorcing with dignity through Collaborative or other out-of-court divorce processes. She is also available for legal and life coaching and represents compelling clients who would prefer to divorce amicably but don’t have a partner in peace.

Listen to this eye-opening Whinypaluza episode with Ariella Shuster, Esq.

about a refreshing option for the divorce process, that helps create amicability and dignity for both partners.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• How Ariella went from public defender, to life coach, and back into law as a family attorney who practices coaching for divorcees.
• Sometimes separation is not a bad thing. It is important to not make assumptions about someone else’s separation.
• How a collaborative approach to divorce creates a more peaceful process, creating sustainable households for both partners.
• The traditional divorce model often leaves one or both partners feeling resentful.
• The collaborative divorce approach means collective decision-making that sets the family up for the future.
• Learn how to communicate on a different level, and approach problems with calm.
• Setting (aspirational) high-end goals, as co-parents.
• How coaching can assist in strengthening your position in divorce proceedings.

Connect with Ariella:

• Website https://www.dignifieddivorcelaw.com/
• Divorce With Dignity Book https://www.dignifieddivorcelaw.com/book.html
• Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/
• Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook
• Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2
• Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5
• TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show as Rebecca discusses common marital mistakes, and some sound advice from John Gottman:

• John Gottman’s 4 Horsemen of Divorce: Contempt, Criticism, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. If any of these 4 are not addressed, your relationship will not likely survive.
• Don’t expect your partner to be able to read your mind and know what you really want. Vocalize your wishes and needs!
• Prioritize your marriage. Without a strong marital foundation, all the rest will fall apart. 
• Love your partner the way THEY want to be loved, not the way YOU want to be love. Everyone has their own “love language.”
• Stop letting your hair down- comfort is wonderful, but make sure to show up for your spouse and give them a reason to choose you every day. Tend your marital garden.
• Don’t expect your partner to be you. They are not, nor are you them. Respect that you each have different ideas and ways to do things.
• Stop thinking little things don’t matter. What may seem small to you may not be to your partner. Little things have a way of building up to big things. This goes for the good and the bad.
• Break the marital pattern. Constantly repeating the same mistakes does not bode well. Marriage is a work in progress and growth is vital.
• Stop talking and listen! Don’t let your feelings and thoughts override what your partner is trying to tell you.
• Put yourself in your spouse’s shoes. Having empathy and perspective is vitally important.
• Protect your marriage from outside influences that do not serve it.
• Don’t do things you feel need to be a secret from your spouse.

Follow Rebecca Greene

Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/

Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook

Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2

Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom

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Enjoy this special presentation from the first ever Whinypaluza Ultimate Marriage & Parenting Summit!

Emmalou Penrod is a wife, mother, grandmother, retired schoolteacher, author, and owner of the business, Healing Your Families.

She earned a Bachelor of Science in Elementary Education with an Endorsement in Special Education from Weber State University. She also earned a Master of Arts in Educational Counseling from the University of Phoenix.

Emmalou ended her 24-year career as a teacher at a residential treatment facility for youth at risk. Most of her career was spent as a special education teacher. 

She completed training through the National Guild of Hypnotists in November of 2018 and was certified through them as a Consulting Hypnotist. 

She completed the training offered through HpnoBirthing® International and the certification process to become a Gold Seal HpnoBirthing® Childbirth Educator. She has also completed training in the Simpson Protocol, a client-centered approach to hypnotherapy.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Emmalou Penrod about resolving conflict without contention.

• Here is what to expect on this week’s show:
• The difference between conflict and contention.
• The importance of resolving conflict with respect for one another, rather than contention.
• Being an example of healthy conflict resolution is a valuable tool to give your children.
• Establishing trust early on will enable you to be a mentor further down the road when your children are faced with making their own decisions.
• The value of empathy and collaboration.
• The importance of persistence in creating new patterns.
• Understanding the power of controlling how you respond.

Links Mentioned:

• Get your free ebook https://feelingtriggered.com

Connect with Emmalou:

• Website https://healingyourfamilies.com/
• Email emmalou@healingyourfamilies.com

Follow Rebecca Greene

• Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/
• Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook
• Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2
• Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5
• TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show- are you making any of these common mistakes?

• Self-Care is selfish. It is NOT selfish, it is NECESSARY. You have to take care of yourself in order to take care of others.
• Thinking you need to entertain your kids around the clock. It is important for them to have downtime and be able to entertain themselves.
• Thinking your children are not listening to you. They hear you and process what you are saying. Not complying does not mean they don’t listen. Learn to be less reactive.
• Telling them instead of showing them. Be a good example and practice what you preach.
• Parenting from a place of reactivity. When you are reactive and upset, your family and kids will tune out. It is ineffective. Pause, regroup, reset, and approach the topic in a calmer place.
• Putting your kids first all the time. Beyond basic needs, you must take care of yourself first, so you are healthy and able to take care of others. You must take care of your marriage, so your kids have a stable foundation. THEN, you take care of your kids.
• Giving THINGS instead of TIME. Stop buying them presents, and gift them with your presence. Your time and attention are far more valuable.
• Nagging and constantly talking about problems with your children. You want your kids to want to come to you to talk about important things, so make sure you have regular conversations, too. Balance it out.
• Feeling guilty about your parenting. Working, stay-at-home, making money, not making money. Stop feeling guilty about what you choose. Be where you are and put energy into what you are doing, and embrace it.
• Doing everything for your children. They need to learn how to do things. Learn to let go of the control and be patient as they learn how to do things well and correctly. Eventually, it will be a benefit to everyone. These are life skills they need.
• Taking your kids’ behavior personally. Their behavior is complex and likely about someone or something else. Take time to listen and understand and give them space.
• Being punitive. Corrective measures are far more effective than punitive measures. Children will be more likely to make better choices if they aren’t always doing things out of fear of punishment. Learning the consequences of their choices and actions is important.
• Trying to parent alone. You need support! Whether it is a spouse, family, or friends, you need to use your resources when you are stretched thin.Parenting is about you. If you think your child will turn out the way you want, and follow the path you lay out for them, you will find yourself very disappointed and frustrated. Parenting is about caring for the child you have, not the child you want to have.

Follow Rebecca Greene

• Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/
• Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook
• Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2
• Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5
• TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom

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Listen to this very special Whinypaluza episode, where Rebecca sits down with her daughter, Ella!

Ella Greene is an actress, singer, dancer, author and 8th grade student. She has performed in stage productions as Annie in Annie, Marty in Madagascar, Candy Man in Willy Wonka, Jane in Descendants, Pinocchio in Shrek, Chip in Beauty and the Beast, the Wicked Witch in the Wizard of Oz, and she is about to play Mabel Washington in her school’s upcoming production of Fame.

Ella has written a few books including the Fastest Raindrop and Super Ella. She co-authored I Remember Heaven with her mom, Rebecca, and Magic of the Castle with her dad, Seth.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Ella Greene about what life is like as Rebecca’s daughter turns 14.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Where would Ella live, if she could live anywhere?
• Ella’s musical theater experience and upcoming plays
• The excitement about starting high school next year, and what makes her nervous
• What Ella likes to do outside of school
• What a teenage girl likes to do over winter break
• If Ella were President, what would she do?
• What makes Ella feel cared for?
• Ella’s dreams and biggest fear
• What makes Ella happy? What makes her angry?
• Places Ella would love to travel to
• Some of Ella’s favorite memories
• What is important to her in life?
• What cheers her up?
• Shows Ella enjoys to watch
• How she feels she has matured in 1 year
• What Ella is looking forward to in the coming year
• Advice for doing well in school

Connect with Ella:

• https://www.ellaraegreene.com/
• Facebook https://www.facebook.com/EllaRaeGreene
• The Fastest Raindrop
• Super Ella
• I Remember Heaven

Follow Rebecca Greene

• Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/
• Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook
• Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2
• Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5
• TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Rebecca’s oldest turned 16 recently, and it has been a bit of a roller coaster.
• Learning how to drive!
• Winter Break activities are very different now- more adult activities.
• Summer plans are filling up already, and more adult activities.
• College planning is already starting.
• Internships, jobs, SAT courses!
• Navigating a milestone age for the first time as a parent.
• Times and topics change, but they will always need you and want to talk to you.
• The NEW Whinypaluza Gets Less Whiny is OUT! Join us for the book club!

Follow Rebecca Greene

• Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/
• Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook
• Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2
• Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5
• TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom

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Irene Fehr, MA, CPCC, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, helps couples make love and sex work in long-term relationships and bring sex and passion into sexless ones. Determined to dispel myths about why sex dies in long-term monogamous relationships that cause heartache and broken dreams, Irene’s views have been featured all around the world in HuffPost, Cosmopolitan, Shape, Refinery29, ScaryMommy, EliteDaily and Bustle. She is no stranger to her clients' issues, having recovered from the all-too-common story of ‘happy marriage turned sexless’ when she lost her libido — all before turning 30.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Irene Fehr about the often-secret subject of loss of intimacy within a relationship and debunking the myths that women have about sex.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• The painful feeling of losing one’s libido and how it impacts all areas of life, including your sense of worth.
• Sexual desire is one of our most primal needs as a species. When this is lost, it affects us in myriad ways. Feeling the connection with it is very powerful.
• Myth 1: Women who are not sexual are broken.
• In the Western world, media and the greater social community would have women believe they are broken if they have a loss in libido.
• As a couple in a long-term relationship, it is necessary to deal with multiple sets of factors when desire is lost.
• Women often feel they need to match the same spontaneous desire that their male partners do. This just isn’t realistic. Women generally have responsive sexual desire.
• Physical engagement and relaxation are precursors to desire and arousal for women.
• Myth 2: Women can do it all, be it all and still have energy and desire for intimacy at the end of the day.
• Despite women’s capabilities to do much, they are only human and have finite energy and patience.
• Instead of pushing to do more, focus on removing things from your daily to-dos so you have room and energy left for intimacy.
• Myth 3: In a long-term relationship, women should want to have sex with the man they love just because they love them.
• There is not a single, automatic reason for wanting to have sex. It is more complex for women.
• Intimacy is created in moments of connection and positive stimuli with your partner.
• Myth 4: Assuming that engaging in obligatory sex will create a desire to engage in sex more.
• Filling the pleasure cup: small, but frequent moments of joy and pleasure throughout the day will add up and create a state in which you feel desire. These moments can be something a small as enjoying a quiet moment, or smelling a flower.
• How you and your partner can better communicate their needs and work together to create more intimacy.

Links Mentioned:

https://www.irenefehr.com/

How To Want Sex Again video series https://www.irenefehr.com/wanting-sex-again

Fee Your Libido program https://feedyourlibidocourse.com/

Connect with Irene:

Twitter https://twitter.com/ignitedwoman

YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCR09-jgEvU89NH9CwoJ2I1Q

LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/irenefehr/

Follow Rebecca Greene

Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/

Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook

Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2

Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• If you’re struggling emotionally, talk to someone…your mom, your best friend, your partner; if you let it sit, your feelings will find a way out.
• When you’re not thinking clearly during an argument, walk away for 20 minutes to clear your head.
• Start using a ‘time-out’ word or hand signal when you need take a break, and have an action plan. 
• Dig underneath the argument to find what is really wrong; are needs not being met, is communication unclear?
• You can’t problem solve when you’re mad.
• Understand what’s important to your partner.
• Know your partner’s love language and ensure they know yours.
• Be aware of what you need and communicate that to your partner.

Follow Rebecca Greene

• Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/
• Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook
• Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2
• Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5
• TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom

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Enjoy this special presentation from the first ever Whinypaluza Ultimate Marriage & Parenting Summit!

Maxine L. Johnson has a long history of leadership roles, both professionally and as an experienced pastor. She’s also a wife and mother, and like many other women, she’s spent a lot of time trying to find the balance between these different parts of her life.

Maxine is an author, co-author, certified life coach and a transformation specialist for women who are ready to take their lives to the next level. She is the CEO and Founder of WIFE Boss Academy, where she helps women who are in a position of power obtain clarity, confidence and influence in both areas. She is passionate about encouraging and inspiring women to be their best selves. Over the years, she has worked with women globally, helping them find positive change.

Maxine has over 19 years’ experience as a Human Resources Professional and 12 years of faith-based service. She is the author of a life-changing guide titled, “Helping A Sister.”

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Maxine Johnson about BOSS MOVES for achieving harmony at home and work.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Why do marriages often suffer when women become successful in their careers?
• When it comes to work and home, instead of trying for balance, try for harmonizing
• It is easy to have an unharmonious and hectic life at home when you are so busy with outside responsibilities
• How do you treat people at home compared to how you treat people in your work. Is it as balanced? Can you engage more at home?
• Learn to listen with intent. Empathetic listening is important. Understand their needs.
• Why do we give more to others than we do to those we love?
• Being vulnerable is powerful. Others will open up more to you.
• Show appreciation and have fun together.

Connect with Maxine:

• Website - https://maxineljohnson.com/
• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/maxineljohnson/
• Twitter - https://twitter.com/RevMaxi
• https://wifebossacademy.com/

Follow Rebecca Greene

• Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/
• Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook
• Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2
• Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5
• TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom

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Listen to this special Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! This week, there is now blog. Instead, Rebecca sits down with Seth and talks about marriage, and opens up to questions from the live audience.

When it comes to a couple, there is not “the marriage,” but rather, “his marriage” and “her marriage.” There are two different viewpoints. To gain better insight on what your partner thinks your marriage is like, try this exercise with your spouse, by using these prompts:

• This week, I am thankful that you­­­___.
• What did I do this week that made you feel loved and honored?
• Is there anything you need that I have not given to you?
• What attribute do you like best about me, and what attribute would you like me to work on?
• Is there something I used to do that you wish I would re-start?
• Is there anything that I have done recently that hurt you?
• How do you feel about our split of responsibilities?
• What do you want to teach our children about marriage?
• In the next week, what is coming up, and how can I support you in that?
• What is your goal for our marriage in the next year?
• What is the best investment we can make in our marriage next year?
• What did you learn from our marriage his year?

Links mentioned

The Gottman Institute https://www.gottman.com/

Follow Rebecca Greene

Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/

Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook

Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2

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Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5

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Dr. Liz is a licensed clinical psychologist and certified school psychologist. She has worked in the public schools as a member of the Child Study Team as well as the Coordinator of the Child Study Team. During her tenure in private school, she served as the team leader to provide supports to teachers and paraprofessionals, emotional support to parents, and school-based counseling for students as well as behavior management.

While working within the schools, she maintained her private practice work part-time until 2012. Since then, she has expanded the practice to include a team of therapists who have expertise in areas of child, adolescent and young adult therapy, such as play therapy, parent coaching, family therapy, and executive functioning coaching.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Dr. Liz about the key components to creating healthy relationships with your partner and children, as well as yourself.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Finding balance is a goal for everyone, and it is important to know that “balance” looks different for everyone, every day.
• What IS a healthy relationship? Dr. Liz covers the main needs of an individual.
• What are the main goals in parenting?
• How parents can better co-parent, whether they are separated or not.
• What are the different parenting styles and how are they effective and ineffective?
• Becoming parenting allies and showing your children a unified front.
• The importance of non-parenting time with your partner.
• Setting healthy boundaries and expectations with your children and partner.

Connect with Dr. Liz:

Website https://www.psychedconsult.com/

Follow Rebecca Greene

Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/

Book 1  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook

Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2

Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Rebecca hosted a two day Parenting and Marriage Summit with excellent guest experts on, you guessed it: parenting and marriage! If you weren’t able to attend, please be on the lookout for those presentations coming up on the podcast!

This week, Rebecca discusses the lessons learned from her presenters on day 2 of the summit:

• Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster of ImpactParents honed in on complex behaviors in kids and how tools to cope with things like ADHD and anxiety translate well for all children. Things to consider: Is it naughty or neurological? Meet your child where they are at and set them up for success. What motivates your child?
• Rebekah Maddux-El Hakum spoke about marriage and relationships and teaches us to be more intentional with our words. “Never” and “Always” tend to be trigger words for an argument. She also discussed the stages our children go through and how we can’t compare one child to another and expect them to be the same at the same ages.
• Allana Robinson taught us about how the brain works. She dives into thought, reasoning, and executive functioning in kids. Consistency and predictability will lead to a better sense of security in our kids.
• Judy Herman discusses marriage and navigating emotions. Be curious with your partner about how they feel, it pulls you away from being judgmental. Learning to empathize will go a long way. In regards to choosing a partner, we pick, project, and provoke, which relates to your relationship with your parents when you were a child.
• Dr. Laura Froyen teaches us that reframing triggers can create an opportunity to grow and learn. We can “reparent” ourselves and learn things we did not learn as children. Learning coping skills when you are calm will help you when you are in the midst of the conflict.

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Stephanie L. Jones gave a gift every day for 522 days and that journey changed her life. Now she is on a mission to inspire others to give and practice gratitude daily. She hosts an inspiring podcast, Giving Your Best Life. As a TEDx speaker, she loves sharing her message from the stage in schools, colleges, churches, and businesses. Stephanie is a best-selling and award-winning author of the Giving Gal, The Giving Challenge, The Gratitude Challenge, and Thank-You Notes to God. She is a former police officer and has spent the last fifteen years working for Fortune 50 technologies companies, winning the Cisco Humanitarian Award. She lives out her dreams with her hubby, Mike in Indiana. 

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Stephanie L. Jones about the joy of giving and how you can challenge yourself to rethink what giving is and do it every day!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• How Stephanie decided to undertake the “gift a day” challenge
• Looking for opportunities to give. What will bring a smile to someone’s face? What will make an impact?
• Gifts can be anything from a traditional wrapped gift, to your time, or your services, or even something a simple as giving a smile and a “hello.”
• The joys of bringing children into giving and their unique take on what to give
• The Giving High is real- giving boosts your mood, decreases anxiety and depression, and makes you feel more connected
• The energy you give off and the way you interact with others IS a gift
• The Gratitude Challenge
• Journal about what you are thankful for- how can you go deeper than the obvious: house, family, job, health?
• Focus on your strengths when deciding how to give

Connect with Stephanie:

Website http://givinggalbooks.com

Children’s Books http://givinggal.com/books

stephanie@givinggal.com

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Rebecca just hosted her first ever, 2-day Whinypaluza Ultimate Marriage and Parenting Summit!
• Rebecca’s favorite comments from summit participants
• Josephine Atluri taught us the importance of affirmations, meditations, and breathing exercises- especially with our children, and reframing how you talk to yourself
• Dr. Liz Matheis taught us ways to have a healthy relationship with your family, the 4 types of parenting styles, maintaining a strong marriage, and tips for raising teens
• Emmalou Penrod taught us about resolving family conflict by shifting from contention to calm and turning conflicts into respectful conversations with lessons
• Maxine Johnson taught us to treat our family as good or better than we do strangers and friends- your family deserves the best you, and how to bring harmony to your marriage
• Kerry Tepidino taught us 7 tips for mindful parenting, including apologize for the messy, shift from reactive to responsive, and learning from your tough moments

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Enjoy this special presentation from the first ever Whinypaluza Ultimate Marriage & Parenting Summit!

Josephine Atluri is an expert in meditation and mindfulness, helping thousands of people overcome adversity to find joy. A graduate of the University of Chicago, Atluri coupled her consulting background with her passion for total wellness to become certified as a meditation coach and teach corporate mindfulness. Plus, her experience creating her modern-day family of seven children via in vitro fertilization (IVF), international adoption and surrogacy inspires her work as a highly sought-after fertility and parenting mindfulness coach.

Atluri hosts a popular podcast, “Responding to Life: Talking Health, Fertility, & Parenthood,” where she interviews guests on their inspiring responses to life’s challenges. Her parenting mindfulness expertise and fertility advocacy work has been featured in the L.A. Times, Motherly, MindBodyGreen, The Bump, Prevention, Well+Good, and Woman’s Day. She is the author of Mindfulness Journal for Parents, and the forthcoming 5-Minute Mindfulness for Pregnancy: Simple Practices to Feel Calm, Present, and Connected to Your Baby (Spring 2022).

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Josephine Atluri about how mindfulness can enhance the way you interact with others and enrich your life.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Mindfulness is a foundation upon which you build moments of awareness into your day
• Mindfulness is about being aware and curious about what is happening and why
• Awareness will allow you to hone in on your attention to direct it to where it needs to be
• Awareness of your attention will allow you to improve your interactions and activities and how you react to them
• Mindfulness will allow you to understand how you respond to things as they happen
• Being more mindful allows you to be more empathetic when interacting with others
• How the Mindfulness Journal for Parents can enrich your life
• Creating awareness of the inner critic, so you can silence it
• Daily affirmations will help you with daily action items to improve your thinking
• Modeling mindfulness will help your children to be mindful and aware of how they feel
• Mindfulness can allow you to communicate from a place of clarity and calm
• Consciously connecting with your spouse and children
• Cultivating gratitude, joy, and peace
• Real-time practice breathing exercises to calm yourself in any situation

Links Mentioned:

• The Mindfulness Journal for Parents https://www.amazon.com/Mindfulness-Journal-Parents-Practices-Connected/dp/164876469X
• Connect with Josephine:
• Website https://www.jatluri.com/
• Instagram @josephineratluri
• Responding to Life Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/responding-to-life-talking-health-fertility-and/id1497664316

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Big News Week here at Whinypaluza!

The release of Rebecca’s second book, Whinypaluza Gets Less Whiny

The first ever Whinypaluza Summit!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Whinypaluza Book Club Discussion of Self-Compassion
• When we judge ourselves, it affects our attitude and relationships
• Treat yourself the way you would treat a friend
• The three components of self-compassion: Self-Kindness, Common Humanity, Mindfulness
• Practice makes perfect. Building new habits means working at it every day- this means it takes time to learn to be kind to yourself
• Compassion is related to your connection to humanity
• Having a community of support reminds you to be less harsh on yourself, because we tend to all have the same perceived failings
• Learning to release expectations and go with the flow will lessen the stress of the day
• Be mindful of what is happening in the moment, rather than dwelling on what happened and what is going to happen
• The driving force of self-compassion is love not fear
• Have learning goals rather than performance goals
• Self-compassion leads to confidence and emotional strength
• Get a copy of Rebecca’s latest book on Kindle: Whinypaluza Gets Less Whiny Book
• Get a copy of Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff

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Listen to this unique Whinypaluza episode where Rabbi Alex Lazarus-Klein interviews Rebecca on his radio show, Crossroads Sunday to discuss parenthood and spirituality.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• The importance of having a community of mothers to safely and openly discuss topics and issues in motherhood and provide much needed support.
• Today, it is all too common to feel immense isolation. Connecting in a community is incredibly important and necessary.
• If you are trying to find time to fit in important things- schedule and set due dates.
• The effect you have on others is not always apparent and immediate. Know that you are impacting others and that what you do matters.
• Parenting feels like doing God’s work every day. You can find spirituality in parenting.
• Guilt is universal. Rebecca’s journey of overcoming guilt on her parenting journey has been unexpected and wonderful.
• Focusing on a strong foundation for your children will ensure that they will survive in the world outside the home.
• Providing your children with a religious foundation is beneficial to both you as a parent and to your children.
• The importance of relying upon your religious community and reaching out if you need help and support. Your synagogue or church has a lot or resources to take advantage of.
• Start being easier on yourself and focus on what you do right each day.

Connect with Rabbi Alex:

https://shirshalombuffalo.org/

Twitter https://twitter.com/ShirShalomBflo

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/experiencejewishbuffalo/

Going Above and Beyond https://www.amazon.com/Going-Above-Beyond-Exceeding-Expectations-ebook/dp/B09SVJM469

CROSSROADS RADIO PROGRAM

Co-hosts: Dr Stan Bratton, Rabbi Alex Lazarus-Klein

6:00 AM Sundays WBUF 92.9 FM AND WBLK 93.7

6:30 AM Sunday WJYE 96.1 FM

7:00 AM Sundays WYRK 106.5 FM

You can also access WJYE over the web to hear the program.

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• This month’s Whinypaluza Book Club selection: Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff, PhD
• Overthinking is an all-too-common issue amongst women.
• Give yourself permission to make mistakes and grant yourself the same grace and compassion that you give others.
• Self-criticism is easy when you hold yourself to impossible standards all the time.
• You are a work in progress. Keep this in mind when you make mistakes.
• ANTS: Automatic Negative Thoughts about a Situation (I’m stupid, I suck, I’m terrible, etc.)
• PETS: Positive Empowering Thoughts in a Situation (I’m allowed to make mistakes, it’s ok, I’m learning something from this, etc.)
• Physically beating yourself up is absurd, so why do we think it is ok to beat ourselves up in our thoughts?
• Overthinking is latent protection mechanism from when we had to learn from negative events in order to stay alive.
• Try compartmentalizing your worrying by allowing yourself to do it within a small period of time, like 5 minutes. Then, move on.
• Enlist a team at home when you have too much to do, to help alleviate overthinking the to-do list.
• Focus on what you have control over, rather than the feelings of overwhelm.
• Take steps to move in the direction that will make you feel better.
• Vocalizing what you are thinking can help to ease your mental burden. Find a friend to vent to, or write it down.
• Do not overestimate the value of self-care. The better you take care of yourself, the better you will be able to process and take on the day’s challenges, which means less overthinking.
• Plan for the worst-case scenario. Being prepared will make you feel less anxious.
• Always be learning from your failures, as well as your successes.

Register for the first-ever Whinypaluza Parenting Summit!

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Alison Cooper is the founder of Level Up, Performance Mindset Coaching for young female athletes. She is a passionate advocate for keeping girls in sports through the high school years to build resilience, confidence, and coping skills. Alison runs a 6-week, 1 on 1 program designed to help young athletes develop individualized tools to manage pressure and anxiety, overcome mistakes, deal with perfectionism tendencies, improving self-talk, find intrinsic motivation, set goals, build routines and treat themselves with compassion. Alison has over 15 years of experience as a team and personal coach, facilitator, small business owner, and parent of 3 active kids. She is dedicated to leading a healthy life through fitness, food, and positive psychology; she loves to read, ski, and hike in the mountains. Alison is currently the head coach of a girl's 15U Phoenix Volleyball Team.

Listen to this inspiring Whinypaluza episode with Alison Cooper about the impact that playing sports can have on our kids in all areas of their lives.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• How your kids can benefit from participating in sports
• Participating in sports can enrich other areas in your kids’ lives
• Sports can create a “safe” uncomfortable space in which kids learn to overcome adversity and challenges
• R.U.L.E.R.- steps on recognizing physical cues in yourself and making sense of them
• Teaching kids mindfulness to help them not dwell on problematic things
• Helping our kids to have more self-compassion
• Fostering a positive body image in our children
• What we can do now to help our kids be more successful in sports
• Cautions about motivational tactics- sometimes it can put the child off of what you are trying to get them to do

Links Mentioned:

Permission to Feel: Unlocking The Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive

Connect with Alison:

Website Levelupwithalison.com

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Happy New Year!
• Gaming online with friends is the new normal for kids, this means meeting virtual friends from all over the country.
• What it is like to have a teen who is in a long distance, virtual relationship
• Driving 6 hours to meet the virtual girlfriend IRL
• Saying goodbye was very difficult, and started the new year off on a very sad note
• The Damar Hamlin tragedy
• Going with the flow with the ever-changing Buffalo, NY weather
• Grappling with the emotional and mental stress of parenting teenagers

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Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Concord, MA. Dr. Kriesberg has nearly thirty years of experience in clinical practice and specializes in the treatment of daughters of narcissistic mothers. She also specializes in the treatment of teens and adults with anxiety disorders. Dr. Kriesberg is the President-Elect of the New England Society of Clinical Hypnosis. She has been quoted in national publications for her expertise on narcissism.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg about her work in helping daughters of narcissistic mothers overcome the tendency to be overly self-critical.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• What is Narcissism? What are the different types of narcissistic personalities?
• Narcissistic mothers can set people up for a very critical internal voice
• Stephanie’s mission to help these women change the voices in their head
• Daughters of narcissistic mothers are often made to live the lives their mothers want, regardless of their own wants and needs.
• Covert narcissists need to live vicariously through their daughters.
• Oftentimes these daughters of narcissists feel to blame for the relationship they have with their mothers.
• The critical voice that there is something wrong with them is incessant.
• The process of educating yourself about how narcissists work and think is the first step to overcoming the challenges you face.
• Learning to identify emotions and feelings, and allowing yourself the room to express them is the next step.
• Another skill that needs to be learned is self-compassion.
• Practice speaking kindly to yourself.
• How to do better when YOU become a mother.
• Setting boundaries with your mother and your children.

Links Mentioned:

Book: 

Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve [New Harbinger November 2022]

Connect with Dr. Kriesberg:

Website drstephaniekriesberg.com

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drstephaniekriesberg/

LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-kriesberg-63612598/ 

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• How the Greene Family got through the Buffalo Blizzard of 2022.
• The importance of being thankful and having gratitude even during difficult times.
• How things won’t always go as planned, and that’s okay.
• Buffalo is a town full of great neighbors and helping people.
• Why you should go thank an essential worker.

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Jessah is a Certified Health and Life Coach who helps women heal their body image and guides them to a sustainable approach to food and freedom so that they can finally feel confident and free in their body.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Jessah Autum about relearning what you know about the rules around diet and exercise to gain freedom in your life and your mind.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Body image struggles are all too common amongst women, sometimes leading to eating disorders.
• Learning how to eat with intuition, relearning what we know about food, and honoring health over food culture.
• Letting go of learned rules of eating, and going back to what your body needs.
• Food Freedom: Release of restrictions around food and finding guiding principles of your internal need of food.
• Reframe a rule into a choice, and state why you are making the choice: put the power in your hands.
• Why do we start having negative feelings around food and how can we teach our children differently?
• Exposing diet culture: teach your children how pervasive and unrealistic it is, so they can avoid internalizing the messaging.
• Teach your children boundaries about the topics they want to talk about. They don’t need to engage in diet and body image conversations.
• What is the subconscious root to diet mentality, and what can we replace it with that serves us better?
• Oftentimes the desires that drive our need to diet are not related to the weight itself. Identifying and addressing the root cause is far more effective.
• Finding healthy exercises that you will consistently do requires finding something you love to do.
• Overcoming the inner critic to achieve freedom of mind.

Connect with Jessa:

• Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/intuitivefoodandbodyfreedom

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• In the ever-growing to-do list for the holidays, it is ok to draw a finish line.
• You CAN opt out of things that bring you additional stress.
• Even with early preparation, we still have last minute things to do. Congratulate yourself for what you were able to achieve early!
• One caveat of early preparation, especially with wrapping gifts, is that you might forget what you have and what each thing is.
• Some people use spreadsheets and account for all the gifts, money spent, etc. Find something that works for you and your organizational level, whether it is a spreadsheet or a journal.
• Pay attention to how you feel. If something brings you stress or guilt, change it. If you feel great doing what you are doing- keep doing it!
• Don’t be afraid to cross things off the list that just don’t work for you.
• Look for innovations or compromises on things you don’t want to let go of doing, but don’t enjoy.

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Rabbi Alex Lazarus-Klein came to Buffalo in the Fall of 2008 to serve as the rabbi of Temple Sinai, now called Congregation Shir Shalom. He brings warmth, creativity, and compassion to the role of synagogue rabbi. A trained chaplain and gifted teacher, he is actively engaged in all aspects of communal life, from helping people with their everyday struggles, to intricate details of synagogue governance.

Rabbi Alex is a respected leader in the Buffalo area, serving on many local boards including the Buffalo Board of Rabbis, the Network of Religious Communities, Jewish Family Services, the Bureau of Jewish Education, the Jewish Community Center, and the Coalition of Economic Justice. He is currently serving as president of the Network of Religious Communities. He is also on the national board of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical Association out of Wyncote, Pennsylvania. He works with leaders of all faiths, to improve the quality of life in Western New York and beyond.

A 2004 graduate of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College he also holds Masters's and Bachelor's Degrees from the Jewish Theological Seminary, as well as a Bachelor’s degree from Columbia University. Before coming to Buffalo, he served as rabbi of Temple B´nai Abraham in Bordentown, New Jersey, and directed the Community Partnership Program for the Jewish Federation of Greater Philadelphia.

He currently resides in Amherst, with his wife Ashirah, and three young children, Jarah, Boaz, and Noam. 

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Rabbi Alex about how he helps guide his congregants through the highs and lows of all the stages of their lives.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• How Alex became a Rabbi and why it is his true calling.
• How Rabbi Alex guides people through the cycles of their lives and how he helps his congregants through stress and hard times.
• Special guidance he gave during covid times, and how he saw amazing things despite the added stress.
• Removing expectations from outsiders drastically reduces your stress when planning special events, like a bar/bat mitzvah.
• How he approaches guiding and supporting couples when they need help connecting and working at their relationship.
• Grief comes in many forms, and Rabbi Alex has helped many people through myriad situations.
• Having his own family, Rabbi Alex can give sage advice for parents.
• How does he manage all the things he does in a day, on top of having a family?
• Rabbi’s Advice: You aren’t here to be superhuman. You are here to be human.
• What resonates most with him about Judaism.
• How can we contribute to creating a world with more acceptance and love.
• Why he wrote a book and how he hopes to help others.
• How to fit your religious commitments into your kids’ busy lives.
• The impact of removing guilt from your life.
• Advice on navigating the ever-present Christmas season, when you are Jewish.

Connect with Rabbi Alex:

https://shirshalombuffalo.org/

Twitter https://twitter.com/ShirShalomBflo

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/experiencejewishbuffalo/

Going Above and Beyond https://www.amazon.com/Going-Above-Beyond-Exceeding-Expectations-ebook/dp/B09SVJM469

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December Sanity for Moms

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• What do you do to cope with stress, especially during the holidays?
• Put the gifting stress into perspective: will the gifts make the holiday special, or will something else be more meaningful?
• All the gifts don’t need to be amazing and perfect. The holiday ISN’T about the gifts.
• Reinforce with your children that the holiday is about the memories more than the gifts.
• You do not need to buy for everyone. Pare it down to people who really impact your life.
• Big family? Draw names and buy for ONE person instead of everyone.
• You don’t have to maintain traditions that don’t work for you. Make a list with your family about what you want to do. Remember: your opinion counts, too.
• It is ok to skip cleaning and chores to fit the holiday business in, but don’t cut out regular, healthy eating and exercise. Make them a priority. Skipping them will make you feel worse, contributing to the stress.
• Build downtime into your day.
• Take time to have gratitude when you find yourself complaining or stressing about things that don’t matter.
• If you want to have children who are less materialistic, set a good example.
• Does grief factor into your seasonal stress? If the holidays trigger anxiety and depression due to grief, find a way to honor the person instead of skipping the holiday entirely, especially if you have others around you who want to celebrate with you.
• Consider baking instead of shopping. Sometimes the gift of homemade treats is a special gift.

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Listen to this very special Whinypaluza episode with Rebecca Greene as she celebrates her 200th podcast episode of Whinypaluza!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• The last 200 episodes have been amazing, and Rebecca can’t wait to bring you more! Let’s review some great moments in our first 2 seasons.
• Ryanne Mellick reminded us that kids don’t have the same skill sets as adults. Remember to have patience with them. There are skills you can utilize to help your kids calm themselves.
• Shana James got us to open up about talking about sex. Encourage healthy conversations with your children and with your partner. Mature honesty is found in having an open and honest conversation with your spouse.
• Julie Emmerson opened up to us about her history of having an eating disorder and being in recovery and what that looks like from the inside. Start small to begin the path forward.
• Special Guest Lillie Greene was a very special conversation as Rebecca’s youngest got to open up about what it is like to be in middle school. Don’t underestimate your kids! They can rise to the challenge.
• Lisa (Miller) Chase gave us insight into being successful in school from the point of view of a seasoned teacher.
• Dana Kay gave us information about changing your child’s diet to treat behavior issues.
• Rachel Bailey inspired us by thinking about the long game of parenting. How do you find inspiration and useful tools to get you through tough times in parenting?
• Dr. Robyne Hanley-Defoe taught us we can do hard things, and so can our kids! Be persistent and trust the process.
• Melissa Stecher helped us to organize not only our homes, but our busy lives by rephrasing “I have to” as “I get to.” She also reminds us we have a team in our family to help us out.
• Wendie Pett taught us that our mind is more powerful than we know. You can even strength train with the power of your mind. Mindset is key, and the body follows.
• Andrea Cairella taught us that when we honor our time and our boundaries, we reclaim our power.
• Josephine Alturi reminded us to start small when learning to build mediation into our day.
• Anne Marie Comaratta helped us to understand the college admissions process, and how an outside person might get your kid to open up.
• Stef Richthammer reminds us to set intentions and teach our kids to problem solve and cope without us all the time.
• Judy Herman opened up to us about her experience with being married to someone with bi-polar disorder. She revealed that you can’t do the work for your significant other. We can support them, but they have to do the work.
• Beth Syverson opened up about her son’s struggles with drug addiction and how she grappled with the ups and downs of helping him in recovery.
• Melinda Jennis talked about the importance of inclusion when it comes to our kids. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.
• Dr. Dana McNeil taught us about the Gottman Method for marital therapy, and “The Four Horsemen to your Marriage.
• Dr. Maggie Vaughn reminded us to take moments to connect with your spouse to maintain a healthy, strong marriage.

If you missed any of these fantastic episodes, go back and listen to them, you won’t want to miss out.

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This week: Feeling Inspired Instead of Inadequate

• No matter how much you do well, if you see someone else doing something that you think is better, it can make you feel inadequate. How do we stop feeling this way?
• Instead of complaining, search for tools to be more successful at what you are struggling with?
• The next time you see someone doing something right- say Thank You!
• When you start to feel inadequate, start thinking of all the things you do successfully every day. Write down a list and pull it out when you are feeling bad.
• Feel curious and inspired instead of inadequate. Think about which serves your better.
• Our brain lies to us. Look for evidence, and tell it to be nice to you.
• You never know what is going on in other people’s lives, so you cannot compare yourself to them. Everyone has their own insecurities.
• There is room for everyone to succeed! Don’t feel like someone else’s success detracts from your own.
• Stop comparing yourself to others. Learn to change your reaction when this happens. Comparison is the thief of joy.
• Give yourself compassion!

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Erin’s passion for helping others understand emotions began at a young age and continued to flourish throughout college. A graduate of Bowling Green State University, Erin majored in psychology and minored in communications, with a strong emphasis on research on eating disorders & body image. After completing her master’s degree in Clinical Psychology at West Chester University, Erin has spent her career treating clients in a variety of settings, including residential, PHP, IOP, and outpatient settings for both adolescents and adults. Erin is trained in relational trauma repair (RTR), and attachment-based family therapy (ABFT, level 2), and is a certified therapist & consultant-in-training in eye movement desensitization reprocessing (EMDR). Erin utilizes EMDR as her primary therapy modality, treating individuals struggling with anxiety, depression, relational issues, PTSD, interpersonal trauma, and attachment issues. On a case-by-case basis, Erin utilizes AAT with her border collie/poodle mix, Max. 

Listen to this educational Whinypaluza episode with Erin Ziegelmeyer about EMDR Therapy, and how it differs from talk therapy.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• What is EMDR and how is it different?
• How processing past traumas in a new way can help relieve anxiety and depression.
• EMDR is not limited to traumas, it can be used for any kind of negative thoughts.
• EMDR allows a therapist to help without having to know every detail or story of your past.
• How EMDR can help families and children.
• What is attachment and how does it affect us?
• Using her dog, Max, in therapy to help her patients.

Connect with Erin:

• Willow Space for Trauma Treatment therapy website
• EMDRIA profile
• Google business page
• Linkedin

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Trips Evolve Over the Years

Family trips can be managed mayhem, whether you are driving or flying.

There is always a huge to-do list before you leave.

• What are your pre-vacation prep rituals? How have things evolved for you over the years?
• Packing for kids: when do you let them pack their own things?
• Keeping kids busy and engaged in transit- it is more hands-on when they are younger.
• The gift of GPS: No more “Are we there yet?!”
• Handheld devices are a game-changer. Make sure you have a hotspot!
• Once you get to your destination, say goodbye to your teenagers! It will take a lot of coaxing to get them to interact.
• There is peace that comes with maturity in your kids. A lot of responsibility is taken off your plate so you can relax more.
• Outings and activities can be more enjoyable for the entire family, as your interests evolve.
• Remembering to celebrate growth and independence as your kids get older.

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Alice Fryling is a spiritual director and author. She and her husband worked with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship for over fifty years. Alice has also been actively involved in church ministry and teaching workshops on the Enneagram and Myers Briggs Temperament Inventory. Her books on relationships, spiritual formation, and spiritual direction have sold over half a million copies and are published in over ten languages. She and her husband, Bob, are parents of two daughters and grandparents of two grandsons and two granddaughters. They live in Monument, Colorado. 

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Alice Fryling about the Enneagram Personality Test.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• What is Enneagram?
• What are the 9 types of Enneagram personalities?
• The Perfectionist
• The Caring Nurturer or Helper
• The Successful Achiever
• The Sensitive Creative
• The Wise, Perceptive Observer
• The Loyal and Sensitive to Authority
• The Joyful and Fun-loving
• The Leader & Challenger
• The Easygoing Peacemaker
• Each has its strengths and weaknesses- developing self-awareness is key.
• How accurate are the tests?
• Does your personality type change as you grow older?
• When we are under stress, we often overplay our gifts.
• Understanding the personality type of someone else can help you to engage with them and problem-solve.
• The Enneagram will enrich your marriage, which in turn will enrich your parenting.
• The Enneagram Triads: Head, Heart, and Gut
• What are the gifts and compulsions of each personality type?

Connect with Alice:

• Website www.alicefryling.com
• Mirror For The Soul and Alice’s other books https://www.alicefryling.com/books
• The Road Back to You by Ian Cron http://bit.ly/3tP54eS

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Thanksgiving week is the PERFECT time to flex your gratitude muscle. But why limit yourself to one day a year? We at Whinypaluza are thankful for this community and all the great conversations we have both on the podcast, and on social media. THANK YOU!

Gratitude Is A Superpower

• There are actual scientific studies on the effects of having gratitude.
• What does having gratitude DO for you? You’ll be surprised!
• Voicing your gratitude before you go to bed can actually improve your sleep
• Learn to build gratitude into your day by creating new habits and rituals.
• Make a point to express your gratitude toward loved ones every day.
• Learn to LOOK for things to be grateful for. Gratitude begets more gratitude.
• Look outside of yourself more often and you will find more to be grateful for.
• The Flip Challenge! Having a bad thought or reaction? Flip it! How can you turn it into a positive thought?
• A brain that produces good thoughts and gratitude will help you to be happier.

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Today we flip the script! Rebecca is interviewed by Paige, a college student who asked to interview her for her English assignment. She was told to interview someone about a potential dream job for her. Paige is thinking about going into the field of social work. She had a lot of great questions and we think you will really enjoy the questions she asks!

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Paige Conti about Rebecca’s career in Social Work.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• How Rebecca got her start, and what her training entailed.
• Rebecca has been in social work for 20+ years, what does the future hold?
• What is a typical work week like for Rebecca as a podcaster and blogger?
• How do you handle the intense emotional load that can come with being a social worker when working in the field?
• The role of writing in everything that Rebecca does.
• The influence of social media and technology.
• Rebecca’s favorite book.
• Is there anything Rebecca would change about the first book that she published?
• The journey of a recovering perfectionist! Embracing “good enough.”
• The balance of being open to her audience about her life, while protecting her children’s privacy.
• Rebecca’s advice to anyone looking to pursue a career in social work.

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This week: Self-Compassion

• What is self-compassion?
• We often have more compassion for others than for ourselves. Why is this?
• Why are we so critical of ourselves?
• What are some things we allow to fuel our self-criticism?
• Fortunately, with age, we grow wiser and start to be less critical of ourselves.
• Remember to look for internal validation!
• It is OK to feel your feelings, just remember to not get lost in them.
• Give yourself grace for your mistakes. Obsessing over them does not help.
• Self-compassion takes daily management.
• Self-care and mindfulness are part of self-compassion.
• You are as deserving of love and compassion from yourself as anyone else.

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Dr. Jenn received her PhD in Sociology, specializing in gender role socialization, sexuality, and marriage. She integrates this macro-level lens for understanding human patterns and behavior into her 15-year private practice as a mindful intimacy coach and executive relationship coach. And all of this informs her speaking around the world on mindful intimacy, sexual consent, effective communication, healthy relationships, body image, erotic play, and women’s empowerment.

She has presented two TEDx Talks, is a writer on sex and relationships, and a recurring intimacy expert on the San Diego morning news. Dr. Jenn is also an active philanthropist with Women Give San Diego and the Compassion It nonprofit, was the founder of World Sexual Health Day--San Diego, and was on the executive team for Sex Positive San Diego. Her In the Den with Dr. Jenn educational video series has 1.7 million hits on YouTube, and she is a sex expert in the masturbation documentary, called Sticky: A (Self) Love Story.

Dr. Jenn has collaborated on projects with Planned Parenthood, the Global YPO Spouse/Partner Network, Erica Lust films, and Dr. Ruth’s Sex for Dummies book. She has been interviewed by publications including USA Today, The Washington Post, Cosmo, The Sunday Times (London), Oprah Daily, Men’s Health, Playboy, Marie Claire, Madame Figaro (France), and Shape. She has spoken at Stanford, Syracuse, University of South Carolina, Miami University of Ohio, Lehigh University, UC San Diego, Arkansas Tech, Sharp Hospital, Rancho La Puerta, YPOs, EOs, and many more schools and organizations.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus about achieving healthy sexual empowerment for women.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Dr. Jenn’s passion for creating safe spaces for others to be vulnerable and feel comfortable in their bodies.
• Empowerment means the freedom to make better choices for ourselves.
• Normalizing speaking up for yourself if you are unsatisfied in your intimate relationship.
• Defining “sex positive” to create a healthy sexuality.
• Releasing shame around sexuality.
• How past emotional trauma, or present upsets can physically manifest inside you.
• How do you effect lasting change in habits?

Connect with Dr. Jenn:

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This week: Setting Boundaries

• Different types of women and how they set boundaries
• The importance of having healthy physical and emotional boundaries
• Teaching our kids to have boundaries around their bodies
• Learning to be safe and say “no” is a foundational tool
• The importance of surrounding yourself with people who lift you up.
• Learning to express our feelings with truth, but in a way that doesn’t make others uncomfortable.
• Time is precious- set time boundaries! Say no to the things you don’t want to do.
• Financial boundaries- what is your comfort level on spending without consulting your spouse- is there limit before you need to involve your spouse?
• Work boundaries- do you have specific open-door times?
• How do you practice your boundaries? Start with knowing what you want.
• Where is the line between your comfort zone and your absolute boundary? When is it ok to push yourself outside of your comfort zone?
• The “NO”vember challenge!
• Being assertive is not necessarily impolite
• You are worth having personal boundaries!

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Ryanne Mellick has over 10 years of experience working alongside children, adults, and families to support their individual mental health needs. As a certified yoga instructor, with specialty certification in pediatric mental health yoga, she strives to provide an integrative approach that is person-centered. Through a trauma-informed lens, she uses cognitive behavioral therapy paired with integrative and mindfulness-based practices with her clients and families to ensure an individual and collaborative approach. Her years of experience in various mental health settings have provided her with a great deal of knowledge, training, and expertise that she brings to her work.

Ryanne currently works with children, adolescents, adults, and families in therapy. One of her greatest passions is helping children understand their emotions, feelings, and behaviors. As part of this, she welcomes the chance to walk alongside parents as they navigate their parenting journey. Her goal for her care is to provide a space that is welcoming and therapeutic for all clients and families. 

Ryanne’s areas of interest include Anxiety, Depression, Behavior Dysregulation, Attentional and Impulsivity issues, and Parenting concerns. Ryanne is a pre-licensed therapist in the process of obtaining her license as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC). 

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Ryanne Mellick about skills we can teach our children to help regulate emotions and learn to regain or develop social and emotional skills.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Lagging social and emotional skills in our kids, post-pandemic. Behavior issues are on the rise.
• We all need to learn how to physically be in the presence of other people after being isolated for so long.
• Tackling issues by targeting the most problematic and creating a specialized approach to helping them manage their emotions.
• Remembering that kids do not have the same skill set as adults when interacting with others and coming up against a challenge. Help them to verbalize what is going on in their minds and with how they are feeling.
• Yoga as part of an integrative approach to helping kids regulate their emotions.
• Breathwork is a skill anyone can, and should use to help us calm down and reset.
• Journaling, calming music, or movement can be very effective to calm agitation.
• Tips for calming racing thoughts.
• Remembering that all these coping skills are ones that adults can use, too!
• Working from home has affected many adults with their own social skills and interaction.
• Remember getting back to what was normal before the pandemic will be uncomfortable at first. Many things start with discomfort, but great things come out of seeing it through.

Links Mentioned:

• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/poppyandjadetherapycollective/

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• https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/ryanne-t-mellick-savage-mn/967730

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This week: A Letter To My Kids

We are all familiar with the teenage eye-roll when interacting with our kids and trying to engage them in conversation.

• Have you ever considered writing a letter to your kid? The power of the written word is a very special way to let your kids know how you feel about them.
• Do you know what lessons and skills you want to teach your kids?
• Establishing a good relationship of communication is important. How do you do it?
• Make sure your children know it is ok to make mistakes.
• Leave the option open to call you if they find themselves in a dangerous situation, or if they have made a bad choice.
• Help your kids think about what they are looking for in a partner, when they are ready to start dating.
• What do we say when having “the talk” with our kids, to convey what we need to, without creating a situation where they are afraid to come to you if they need to talk.
• Establishing unconditional love with you kids. Do they know that you love them no matter what?
• Teach your kid good coping skills, and set a good example by showing how you solve problems.
• Feelings are meant to be felt. Help them to know how to feel and manage their feelings.
• Let your kids know to surround themselves with friends who lift them up, rather than pull them down.
• Teach your kids to always be aware and safe!
• Teach your children to master their thoughts and actions.

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Ronda Thorington is a Licensed Professional Counselor with over 20 years of experience providing mental health treatment to children, families, and adults in various roles and settings. She began her career providing case management services to families impacted by HIV/AIDS in Baltimore, Maryland. After returning to her home state of Connecticut she spent several years working as a clinical therapist in a residential treatment facility for youth and then expanded her role to include that of clinical director of the facility’s crisis stabilization program. She currently runs a private practice in northern Connecticut which specializes in the treatment of children and families. Her passion is working with families impacted by life-changing medical diagnoses.

Her most important and fulfilling role is that of a wife and a mom to three beautiful children (now all teenagers) that provide her with endless laughs, a few gray hairs, and with whom life is never dull.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Ronda Thorington about how families can cope with and manage life with a child who has a life-altering medical condition, ad learn to live a new normal with meaning and joy.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• The difference between therapy and coaching.
• Life-changing medical diagnoses create challenges that have few avenues for support in the coaching realm. Parents need help getting out of crisis mode and into living.
• Medical diagnoses can absolutely disrupt your life as a family. Finding a way to work around it and find your new normal requires some creativity and support.
• For those who have newly diagnosed children, remember to take a breath, absorb the knowledge of what is happening and THEN create a plan forward. Give yourself permission to feel whatever emotions you feel.
• How to become an advocate for your child, so they have all the options and solutions that they are entitled to.
• Advocacy means taking charge, understanding your child’s rights, and what your child needs, medically. Don’t be afraid to push and to speak up.
• The parent is the most valuable expert in their child’s treatment. Having this awareness will add confidence in your ability to advocate for your child.
• If you are feeling intimidated or unprepared, bring an advocate along with you to help.
• Approach the school as a partnership, rather than in an adversarial way. Let them know how you can work together and what they can do to have an impact.
• Research your support connections and get involved. Ask your specialists about support groups.
• Feeling overwhelmed and unbuoyed is normal. Coaching can help focus you.
• How parents can work with employers to accommodate their new family needs and time allocation.
• Don’t be afraid to utilize Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA). Even if it is for hours at a time.
• Children who have a life-altering medical condition can feel very isolated in their experience. How can you help them to cope and to normalize their reality.
• It is very normal for a child to feel angry at their illness.
• How to help kids live their lives in their new normal. How do they navigate their social interactions? How do they navigate activities and school?

Links Mentioned:

Register for Ronda’s Workshop, Your Child Has a Life-Changing Medical Condition… Now What? on November 17th, 2022:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/your-child-was-diagnosed-with-a-life-changing-medical-conditionnow-what-tickets-441934486947?aff=ebdsoporgprofile

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Website https://www.rtparentcoach.com/

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This week: Helping Children Deal With Social Stress

• The most important thing you can do to help your kid get through social stress is to be a safe and comforting place to come home to.
• Push your child to join a group or sport or club at school.
• There will always be social stress and conflict, no matter how many friends they have.
• Some groups of friends are inclusive and some are exclusive. Your child needs to decide what kind of group they want to join.
• If your child is in groups and has friends, but you still see issues, look at their social skills.
• Model behavior of how to interact and be inclusive when engaging with others.
• Social skills start in infancy, and go all the way through adulthood. Social skills include in-person interaction, online, and on the phone. Make sure kids know proper etiquette.
• Build confidence in your child by helping them create a good story about themselves that they say to themselves and believe.
• Dealing with conflicts will help them to develop problem solving skills.
• Don’t project your needs and experiences on your children.
• Help your kids to diversify types of friends and where they come from in their daily lives.
• Don’t assume that your child is being inclusive or included. Ask questions.
• Try to be in tune with how their friends interact with your kids.

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This week: Saying Goodbye to Soccer

• What do you do when an activity that once brought your child so much joy no longer does?
• What do you do when you, as a parent, are highly invested in your child’s activities and they no longer want to do it?
• It is difficult to learn to let go of the picture you had in your head, and the direction you thought your child was heading, when they no longer want to do the activity they have been doing for so long.
• It is ok to sit with the information for a day or two before taking steps to make the change.
• Be excited when your child wants to try a lot of different activities! Just because you are good at something does not mean you are passionate about it.
• How you can approach the “what do you want to do when you grow up” conversation.
• Remember to check in with your child often and gauge where they are in enjoyment of what they are participating. Ask if there are things they are interested in trying.
• Remember that change and new challenges are good for personal growth.
• Seeing your child be excited and passionate about something will make you feel great.
• Help your child to make decisions that make them happy, rather than simply to please someone else.

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This week: You Are Succeeding

• When given a compliment, women often reply with “I’m trying” instead of a simple “thank you” Why?
• How you view yourself and your efforts are often at a conflict with what others see.
• Women are often overly modest when it comes to feeling accomplished.
• We need to shift from deflecting comments to accepting them with grace.
• Change “I try” to “I AM” or “I DO”
• Success is not always some big, end point or destination. Success is little, things all day long.
• What is the definition of a “Good Mother?” What is the definition of a “Good Enough Mother?

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Some say we are outgrowing marriage as a culture. However, the problem that author Shana James regularly sees as a relationship coach—and through her own divorce—is that many of us have not matured enough to create the emotionally-connected, sexually-satisfying relationships we long for. Shana is the creator and host of the Man Alive podcast and has a TEDx Talk, “What 1,000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.” In her latest book, Honest Sex, she uses her Master’s in psychology, DISC, and Positive Intelligence certifications to guide readers. 

As a relationship coach for 20 years, she humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. Shana’s new book, Honest Sex, teaches us what kind of honesty is effective for creating closeness, what sex actually is (rather than what we've been taught), and how to communicate desires and upsets to create more intimacy. 

By examining new ways to sustain connection with a partner, author Shana James illuminates a framework for relationships to start strong and get more intimate and exciting over time.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Shana James about creating trust and honesty in your relationship to increase and improve intimacy with your partner.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• The topic of sex was very taboo for many of us growing up. Education was relegated to safety and reproduction. Having an open conversation about sex can lead to great discomfort for many of us.
• Having an honest and intimate conversation with your partner can be intimidating. Oftentimes more so than talking with a stranger. There is a level of vulnerability that exists with closer relationships.
• Immature honesty is typically based in complaining, shaming, and a closed mind.
• Mature honesty is being open to talk about something, even when you have discomfort around the subject.
• Shana’s expanded definition of what sex actually is: exploration, play, coming together with a person- emotionally, physically and energetically. Don’t limit it to intercourse.
• Focus on the connection and enjoying, rather than the end result. While an orgasm is wonderful, it isn’t the only thing to focus on.
• Avoiding these conversations will lead to stagnancy. Getting through the difficult conversations will get you through the discomfort and lead to a wonderful place.
• Consider having a debriefing conversation after sex. Don’t ask “what didn’t work,” ask what they liked and what they want more of.
• What is intimacy?
• How to become “more alive” both individually, and as a couple.

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This week: Do Moms Enjoy The Holidays?

• Moms tend to be the creators of magic for the holidays for others to enjoy. This often means being too busy to enjoy them.
• Try to be less of a perfectionist- everything WON’T be done. And that is O.K.
• The added stress can lead to hating the holidays. We don’t want that! What can we do differently?
• Remember to look around and take in everyone’s enjoyment. The hard work is worth it! You are creating a lifetime of memories for your family.
• Remember it is a labor of love to build and follow traditions and create special memories.
• It is ok to take a break and create short cuts. Is takeout an option? What is the most important to you?
• Have perspective and gratitude. Stress will be less if you appreciate what you are able to do.
• Set boundaries. What are your limits, and what is good enough?
• Embrace “Good Enough!”
• Ask yourself, “What do I enjoy?” when it comes to creating your holiday to-do list. Skip at least one thing that does not bring you joy.
• Be more mindful of what you say yes to.
• DELEGATE! Involve your family and give them jobs to help you out.
• Create a plan well in advance. Allow yourself time to get things done a bit earlier so you are not rushing and exhausted when company arrives.

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Julie Emerson takes us on her healing journey as she recovers from an eating disorder. From overweight to scary-skinny, and the journey to self-love.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Julie Emerson about her journey and healing from an eating disorder.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• The unhealthy emotional connection to food started as early as when she was 6 years old.
• Binging and late-night eating started at the age of 9. The dieting started at 19.
• People were not vocal about their concerns when she was overweight.
• Dieting became a high that she rode- weight loss was the thrill.
• “Exercise bulimia” was a part of her life- eating too much and immediately doing a lot of cardio.
•  Binging and purging eventually made their way into her life in her 20s.
• The binging and purging lasted for years.
• Binging and purging became a coping mechanism and comfort when confronted with turmoil in her life.
• It is difficult to approach a loved one when they see someone going through an eating disorder. They don’t know what to say or how to approach it.
• Julie’s advice if you see someone struggling is to let them know you are there for them, and they have a place to fall if they get to a really bad place. Asking the simple question, “Is everything o.k.?” can be very impactful.
• It is ok to say you are not ok. It is ok to say you need help. Start with saying it to yourself.
• The road to healing and recovery does not have to start with a major moment. It can be as simple as just making the choice to change and taking it one day at a time.
• Start small. An elaborate plan can often be more than you can handle.
• When you know your triggers, take time to stop and breathe before you act.
• Remember that you don’t need to be everything to everyone all the time. Take time for you. Take care of yourself.
• Overcoming an eating disorder is like overcoming an addiction. The difference is we need food to live. Learning how to be around food and partake in a healthy way is very difficult.
• There is powerful wisdom in the Serenity Prayer.
• The challenge of learning to be comfortable with her body and with food, and being ok with the certainty that she would have to gain weight.
• The journey to healing is a rollercoaster, but hopefully always moving forward.
• Playing games with how and when you eat and using it as something to control is a sign that you have an unhealthy relationship with food. Food is fuel. Learn to listen to your body.
• Educating your children and not creating negativity around food is the foundation to ensuring they don’t develop eating disorders. Create healthy boundaries and teach them how to best fuel their bodies for their personal activity level.
• Create some healthy boundaries with food, but don’t forget to allow yourself or your kids to indulge in junk on occasion. The lure of the forbidden can cause problems down the road.
• Your kids see and hear you, make sure you model healthy behavior.
• If you see a sudden shift in your children, address it immediately and head-on.
• Julie’s advice for anyone struggling with food. Start small. Start now.
• Grant yourself forgiveness and focus on the path forward.

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This week: Time Scarcity Perspective

• There always seems to never be enough time to do all the things you need to do and all the things you want to do. How do we create a sense of more time?
• Evaluate your time and how you view it. Take an inventory of your day and how you spend your time.
• How much time do you spend on regular activities? How can you use this knowledge to change the way you approach and view needing to do these activities?
• How much time do you spend on social media? Your phone? Watching TV? Analyze how you spend your time and change what you spend time on to more important things.
• What do you value most? How can you design your day around those things? How do you find the balance of “want to” and “have to.”
• Create time for the important things! Schedule time with friends! Make dates with your spouse!
• Change the way your talk about your to do list. “I will get so much done in 90 minutes” instead of “I only have 90 minutes to get this done.”
• Remember that in just a few minutes, you really can get things done that matter. Meditate for 5 minutes. Tidy up for 10 minutes. You will be amazed at what you accomplish.
• Shifting your thoughts to “I have plenty of time” will manifest more time.

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Listen to this special Whinypaluza episode with Rebecca’s daughter, Lillie as she talks about her first week of middle school and the changes and adjustments that come with a new school.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• What Lillie loves about middle school in the first week
• More teachers and more classes make for more fun!
• Adjusting to the demands of getting to different classrooms for each class
• Making new friends is a simple as starting conversations
• Tips on overcoming your shyness if you aren’t comfortable talking to new people
• Lillie’s hopes for middle school
• The one thing Lillie says helps her adjust to change so easily- turn it into a challenge!
• Find a buddy who can help you to adjust
• What makes a great teacher in middle school
• Remember to be kind and treat your friends well!
• The exciting thing about turning 10
• Remember: it’s ok to not feel ok.
• Lillie’s outlook on her future, and the joy she finds in helping others to feel good.
• The best and most difficult parts of her first week
• How she would change the world if she could.
• Lillie’s favorite thing to do with her family
• What stresses Lillie out at the end of the day
• Advice from Lillie for elementary school kids, and their parents
• How you can plan to overcome future bumps in the road.
• Use your support system and don’t be afraid to ask for help.

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